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It's Caller Day! If you were at dinner and your date left abruptly, claiming illness, would you read into it? At what point is showing concern too generous? And, is there such a thing as being too young to consider marriage? Does wanting a big wedding—one you'd need to save up for—mean your marital priorities are all wrong?If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We wanted to do something a little different to celebrate New Year's Eve (and the end of 2020!). So today, inspired by Episode 1 (How We Met), we're doing another throwback: we're going back in time to 2014, to what happened after Shandy met, and how (and when) Andy eventually proposed. Watch on to hear his thought process, how he chose the ring (and whether or not Sharleen liked it!), and Andy's "stroke of genius" idea in ensuring the proposal would be a true surprise! If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer more of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 How necessary is compromise in relationships, and where's the line between loving yourself and being too set in your ways? Is it a dealbreaker if your partner doesn't seem to take your biological clock seriously? And is it possible to salvage a new relationship if you had sex "too soon", and at what point is this concern unto itself concerning? Your questions continue to deliver, so come join us in our living room for our unbiased (and brutally honest) answers. If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by married lovebirds Rachel Lindsay and Bryan Abasolo! These two met and got engaged on Rachel's season of The Bachelorette (Season 13) and married in 2019. They are currently bicoastal as Rachel has recently moved to LA for her job as an Extra correspondent, while Bryan remains in their home in Miami, where he maintains his chiropractic practice. They join us from their respective locations to take a walk down memory lane, sharing their first impressions of one another and how those have changed (if at all). We learn how they complement each other, how they "Knew", and of course, the all-important question, how they FIGHT! We also cover every topic in between, from navigating the public eye to useless skills to cat plates (you'll understand when you get there). Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? More Rachel & Bryanhttps://www.instagram.com/therachlindsayhttps://www.instagram.com/thebryanabasolohttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RkaXD4zyR5QIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Today's call is a bit of an anomaly in that the question asked is not the question answered. What starts out as an innocent relationship gripe turns out to be a red herring or sorts, and as Shandy overturns each stone, a greater concern is exposed. When do you know it's over? And how long is too long to hold out for what could be, versus what is? We thought this would be a quick and lighthearted call, but as we learn, not everything is as it seems. If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Thanks to our sponsor - HELLO TUSHY! Visit http://www.hellotushy.com/SHANDY for 10% off and free shipping on your Hello Tushy bidet!Ask and you shall receive! You've been requesting that we talk MONEY for awhile now, and we brought in the very best to help us do it: Bola Sokunbi of Clever Girl Finance! You guys asked great questions and we grilled Bola: Which is better, joint or separate bank accounts? What are the “must” financial conversations you should have before moving in together? Should expenses be split proportionately based on income? And of course... PRENUPS! 😱 Money and finances are treacherous and are one of the leading pitfalls for couples, so hopefully today's conversation sheds some light on this minefield! More Bolahttps://www.instagram.com/clevergirlfinancehttps://www.instagram.com/bolasokunbihttps://www.clevergirlfinance.comIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, ready to answer a whole slew of YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it a bad sign if a guy isn't "obsessed" with you? How do you know your "league", and has online dating rigged the system against women? Is there such a thing as having sex too early, and if so, how soon is too soon? Your questions are wonderfully honest, so gear up for a healthy dose of honesty in return.If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by the hotly requested Lesley Ann Murphy and her fiancé Alex Kavanagh! Lesley is a travel blogger and yoga instructor (who you may remember from Sean Lowe's season of The Bachelor, as well as 2018's Bachelor Winter Games), while Alex is a drone pilot and creative director. This dynamic duo works and travels together constantly, but today they join us (on their original wedding date, postponed due to COVID) from Lesley's parents' house in Little Rock, AR, where they have just moved to from LA. They are also pregnant! We learn the serendipitous story of their meeting, whether or not there were cultural differences to overcome (Alex is Australian!), and what kind of impact working together has on their relationship. (Of course, Sharleen asks if they believe in The One, while Andy asks how they fight!) Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? More Lesley & Alexhttps://www.instagram.com/lesleyannemurphyhttps://www.instagram.com/drone.pilothttps://theroadlestraveled.com/If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's call touches on an interesting moral dilemma that many have likely considered, but far fewer have acted on. As "the other woman", which is more ethical: To tell your ex-lover's girlfriend about his cheating ways, or to stay out of their relationship and let her learn those tough lessons on her own? How far does "Do Unto Others" extend, or is it better to trust in karma? And in playing a role in the indiscretion, does one surrender the right to moral high ground? Shandy definitely wants your take on this one!If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today's episode is the first in our new "Confessions" series! If you could ask a recently divorced man ANYTHING, what would it be? We polled you over on Instagram and you delivered with fantastic questions. Our guest, Dov Davidoff, is a talented comedian, actor, and real estate developer. But most importantly, he's one of Andy's closest friends and was a groomsman in our wedding! He so graciously joins us today to talk the personal struggles of divorce, whether or not he saw it coming, and what he has learned. Open your mind and prepare yourself for brutally honest life lessons... More DovDov's book, Road Dog: https://bit.ly/3jUoJ5Hhttps://www.instagram.com/dovdavidoff https://twitter.com/dovdavidoffhttps://www.dovdavidoff.netIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Q&A time! We're back in the living room, answering YOUR burning questions. 🔥 Is it sketchy if your boyfriend follows his ex's erotic accounts, and how much does it matter whether or not he tells you about it? Do longterm friends-with-benefits relationships ever lead to actual relationships, and what should you do if you find yourself developing real feelings? And how important is sexual exploration before settling down? Your questions are getting REAL and we're here for it! 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♂️ Watch on for the Shandy take...If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! 🎉 Today we're joined by engaged lovebirds Astrid Loch and Kevin Wendt! These two met on Bachelor in Paradise (Season 5) and got engaged a year later, in 2019. They join us from their new house (which is currently undergoing renovations!) to share their first impressions of each other and whether or not TV played a role. We discuss their thoughts on The One, what their (hilarious) peeves are about each other, as well as housework, handbags, and Dominos. (Unrelated: We also learn what happens to Andy's retired V-neck tees.) Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better? Watch on to find out!More Astrid & Kevinhttps://www.instagram.com/astridlochhttps://www.instagram.com/kevin.c.wendthttps://www.instagram.com/thewendtgangIf you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Just how honest should you be in your dating profile? If you never drink, would it hurt your dating chances to share that? And if you're in your mid-20s and have never been in a romantic relationship of any kind, how can you take control of your love life? Today's episode is all about hard truths and tough love. Watch on for the Shandy Take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How familiar are you with the Enneagram? Have you ever considered how your type plays into your relationships? Today we are joined by certified Enneagram coach Stephanie Barron Hall. The Enneagram of Personality, rooted in psychology, is a typology of nine interconnected personality types. With Stephanie's guidance, we learn more about our own types (Sharleen's a 4; Andy's a 5) and how they play a role in our compatibility, how we feel loved, how we communicate, and yes, how we fight. Reflections and confessions lie ahead! More Steph Buy Her Book - https://bit.ly/TheEnnegraminLove InstagramInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/ninetypescoWebsite - https://ninetypes.co/ If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We're back to answering YOUR questions! You guys came at us with some tough topics this time around: Should you and your partner talk about your pasts? What should you do if you and your ex are in the same friend group? Do you only seem to want what you can't have? And after having been on The Bachelor, what was dating in the real world like for Sharleen? Our answers to your burning question lie ahead... Can you handle the truth? If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's Love Fest time! Today we're joined by Vanessa Grimaldi and her then-boyfriend (but now-fiancé!) Josh Wolfe. (Josh proposed 3 days after we recorded this!!) We learn the unique way in which these two got to know each other, how they complement each other, and the hilarious hurdle Josh had to overcome. We also talk housework, Canadian snacks, and Squatty Pottys (#notsponsored.... we wish). Finally, the Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better?? Watch on to find out...If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Vanessa & Joshhttps://www.instagram.com/vanessagrimaldi30https://www.instagram.com/jbrwolfehttps://www.instagram.com/nobetteryouSubscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You've definitely been there: On a date, and the onus feels like it's on you to ask questions and keep the conversation moving. Is your date self-absorbed, or is there more to this? Could you be accidentally contributing to this dynamic? This caller conversation went in a very different direction than expected, but we loved how it brought us (sooner than intended!) to Nervous Energy. We then segue into a couple of our big first date Dos and Don'ts. Do YOU commit any of these early dating crimes??If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can you REALLY be friends with an ex? We're joined by Margie, Andy's ex-fiancée, who conveniently happens to have a PhD in clinical psychology. We go for a stroll down memory lane to learn about their history together. Then we discuss how they came to be friends today and what the key components are to true friendship post-romance. Finally, we get Margie's professional input: What are the biggest mistakes people make when it comes to dating and relationships? Warning: You WILL see yourself in these!If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Today is all about YOUR questions... the broader ones, that is. What are our thoughts on prenups, and do we have one? How should a woman deal with a man who doesn't satisfy her? After our meeting, did Andy go on dates with anyone else, or did he immediately close down the shop? And did Sharleen play it cool? Find out the answers to your burning questions in our first ever Q&A sesh!If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

For our inaugural Love Fest episode, it's only fitting to be joined by dear friends (and engaged couple!) Caila Quinn and Nick Burrello. We dive deep on first impressions (and how those might have changed!), specific traits they value in each other, and relationship hurdles. Andy and Nick also bond over Instagram-husbandry. 😉 PLUS, we have our first ever Dear Shandy Newlyweds Game! Who knows who better??If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Caila & Nickhttps://www.instagram.com/cailaquinnhttps://www.instagram.com/nickburrellohttps://withlovecaila.com/Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandyFollow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can you have a genuine connection but still get played? Is age a factor in the likelihood of a guy being a player? And how old was Andy at his most "player-y"? Our caller's story has a magical start but a confusing end that left her wondering what she could have done differently. Listen on to hear the Shandy take! If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We recorded this on a whim, not sure if it'd ever see the light of day. We weren't sure how best to introduce ourselves and kick off a podcast, but since it's our most frequently asked question, we ultimately decided to recap (and reminisce!) about how we met. Watch on to hear how two diehard skeptics who don't believe in fate, serendipity, or The One, somehow found themselves believing in something (almost). If you have a relationship question, write us at: [email protected] Join us every Thursday for a new episode of Dear Shandy! Subscribe and watch the episodes on YouTube! https://bit.ly/SubscribeDearShandy Follow us!Dear Shandy - https://www.instagram.com/dearshandySharleen Joynt - https://www.instagram.com/sharleenjoyntAndy Levine - https://www.instagram.com/machinelevineSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/dear-shandy/donations Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.