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Learning To Read Between The Lines

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Welcome to another episode of our podcast, where we're unlocking the secrets of better communication and personal growth in relationships. We've been on quite the journey ourselves. Back in the day, the smallest things used to set us off, creating a cascade of misunderstandings. But, thanks to therapy and some Enneagram wisdom, we've uncovered a superpower: the ability to tune into each other's vibes and unspoken feelings. Now, when a tricky comment or behavior arises, we handle it with understanding, leaving negative assumptions in the rearview mirror. We've learned to decipher the unsaid, and while we're big on giving the benefit of the doubt, we're not infinitely patient with repeated slip-ups. We're all about growth, and therapy and the Enneagram have been our trusty companions on this journey. Get ready for some game-changing insights – it's time to dive in! 🚀

Oct 2, 202340 min

Vices, Growth, and the Path to Stronger Relationships

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In this episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Garrett J White & Danielle K White delve into the complexities of human behavior and relationships. They explore our tendency to judge others for their habits while admitting to their own vices, from caffeine to alcohol and dietary choices. Throughout, they stress the importance of balance and avoiding guilt in pursuing goals. Beyond vices, they discuss personal growth challenges and the impact of judgment based on individual experiences. Open communication and accountability are key. They reflect on four transformative years, guided by a higher power, believing in unity's societal impact. Open relationships are touched upon, with reservations. The hosts focus on their journey towards honest communication in their relationship, highlighting vulnerability and truth for a strong connection. They discuss sexual relationship evolution, and emphasize avoiding extreme measures like open relationships. Their goal is to empower listeners to improve their relationships through open communication. The episode ends with exciting announcements about upcoming episodes of The Real White House and speaking engagements.

Sep 25, 202348 min

Why Seeing Each Other Isn't Enough

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In this episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Garrett and Danielle White open up about their marriage journey. They explore therapy's pivotal role, the essence of deep connection, and the intriguing dance of sexual desires in a relationship. Danielle's analytical nature helps her understand the enigma of men. Her ability to relate to their perspectives enhances her connection with Garrett and enables honest conversations. Garrett and Danielle introduce the Date Your Wife Experience, a platform for couples to engage in group therapy. It emphasizes the need for active work on the relationship, providing insights from the Wake Up Warrior community. Danielle shares her quest for a deeper connection with Garrett despite achieving milestones. Therapy uncovers the importance of emotional and sexual intimacy. The two discuss the significance of open conversations about sexual desires. They share how it has positively impacted their relationship, emphasizing its importance. Garrett and Danielle's journey emphasizes therapy, honest communication, and addressing sexual desires in nurturing a fulfilling partnership. It's a roadmap for couples seeking connection and passion in their love story.

Sep 18, 202344 min

Exploring the "Toxicity" of the "I Don't Need a Man" Mentality

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In this week's episode, Danielle and Garrett White dive deep into the delicate art of juggling a career while giving your family the attention they deserve. Danielle opens up about her journey of kickstarting her own brand, DKW Styling. Her motivation? To gain independence and a high-quality lifestyle for herself and her children. She shares her belief in the importance of women having independence and purpose outside of their roles as wives and mothers and how pursuing her career and making money has given her a sense of freedom and fulfillment. However, she also acknowledges the value of having a partner who is a strong producer and provider. Garrett adds that men are not naturally built to be house husbands and that the societal shift towards women being more aggressive and masculine can create a clash in relationships. They chat about the importance of maintaining that balance between work and playfulness in a relationship, as well as the impact of societal expectations on gender roles. So, grab your headphones and get ready to be inspired as they drive home the point that it's absolutely crucial to find your own sense of purpose and independence, even if you're playing the traditional roles of a loving partner and devoted parent. It's all about creating a life that's uniquely yours, and these two are here to show you how it's done!

Sep 11, 202349 min

The Importance of Self-Care & Quality Time in Relationships

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Join Danielle and Garrett, on a captivating journey through the streets of Paris in the latest episode of the Date Your Wife podcast! In this episode, they share candid conversations and laughter from their recent 20th-anniversary trip to the City of Love. Buckle up for a ride covering self-care, fashion, and the evolution of their intimate life. From the challenges of maintaining youthful appearances to sipping champagne in Paris, Danielle and Garrett infuse every moment with their wit and charm.

Sep 4, 202352 min

Sedating The Truth: The Dangers of Avoiding Conflict

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Modern relationships are a delicate dance between love, personal growth, and the pursuit of success. In a recent episode of The Date Your Wife podcast, Garrett and Danielle open up about their own journey, offering a candid exploration of marriage, communication, and the dynamics that come with balancing ambition and intimate connection. Honesty is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship, and Garrett and Danielle emphasize its profound importance. Even when it's uncomfortable or may lead to conflict, the two stress the need to be open and transparent with your partner. Sharing your truth, even if it differs from your partner's perspective, fosters trust and deepens the connection. While honesty might be difficult, the couple underscores that it is essential to maintaining a vibrant and sustainable relationship. By prioritizing open communication, embracing vulnerability, and supporting each other's growth, couples can establish a strong foundation upon which to build a fulfilling and enduring relationship. So, whether you're a newlywed or have been together for decades, their wisdom offers guidance on the journey of love, growth, and connection.

Aug 21, 20231h 3m

The Fantasy of Being Swept Off Your Feet

In this episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, hosts Danielle and Garrett dive into the topic of seduction and connection within a relationship. They discuss the common fantasy of being swept off one's feet and the allure of certainty and adventure. They also explore the power dynamics in relationships and the importance of emotional connection. With candid and humorous conversations, they share personal experiences and insights on how to keep the spark alive in a long-term partnership. Join them as they navigate the complexities of seduction, connection, and the ever-evolving dynamics of love and desire. Tune in and allow yourself to be swept away! ____________________ Let's Connect... Wake Up Warrior ➜ https://wakeupwarrior.com/ Education for Hairstylists ➜ https://nbr.education/ Find an NBR Artist Near You! ➜ https://nbr.directory/ Instagram ➜ https://www.instagram.com/garrettjwhite ➜ https://www.instagram.com/daniellekwhite ➜ https://instagram.com/thereal_whitehouse

Aug 7, 202355 min

The Secret to Saving a Struggling Marriage

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Welcome back to another episode of the Date Your Wife podcast! Join Garrett and Danielle White as they take you on a journey into the importance of dating your spouse and its incredible potential to revive struggling marriages. In this emotionally charged installment, Garrett and Danielle fearlessly open up about their personal experiences and the challenges they've faced in their own marriage. They candidly discuss the common obstacles that married couples encounter when trying to prioritize their relationship amidst the chaos of everyday life. From the guilt that arises when seeking outside help to the genuine fear of losing one's sense of self in the union, they bravely delve into the mindset shifts essential for nurturing a thriving marriage. Garrett and Danielle challenge the misconception that investing in your marriage is a financial burden. Instead, they highlight the true value of consistent and intentional efforts to keep the flame of love burning brightly. Join this power couple as they inspire you to challenge societal norms and embark on a journey of rekindling the romance and connection with your partner. Discover how dating your spouse can breathe new life into even the most struggling of marriages. Whether you're newlyweds or have been together for decades, this episode is for you! Tune in as Garrett and Danielle share their personal journey and impart invaluable insights that will transform the way you approach your relationship. Get ready to reignite the spark and strengthen the bond with your beloved.

Jul 31, 202357 min

The Power of Therapy: Healing and Growth in Relationships

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Welcome to the latest episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where we dive deep into the transformative power of therapy and how it can revolutionize your relationship! Join us as we embark on a thrilling exploration of the benefits that therapy brings to couples like us. Therapy is where we find a secure space for reflection and communication beyond the confines of our regular date nights and financial planning meetings. It's like a portal that unlocks hidden doors, revealing the topics we never thought we could discuss. But therapy isn't just about managing conflicts or finding solutions to everyday challenges. It's about diving headfirst into the depths of our emotions and emerging with a newfound understanding of one another. We all know those moments when a conversation starts to escalate into a fiery argument, right? Well, therapy provides us with the tools to express our emotions and engage in conversations without letting anger take control. Now, here's where things get really interesting. Therapy has become our lifeline in the midst of our busy lives. With schedules packed to the brim and demands pulling us in all directions, therapy carves out dedicated time for these essential discussions. But therapy is not just about the therapist's insights; it's also about the power of self-reflection. It's a journey that encourages us to look within ourselves and examine our own behaviors, thoughts, and emotions. As we unravel the layers of our own complexities, we gain a greater understanding of how we show up in our relationship. Therapy has been a game-changer for us, but it wasn't an overnight decision. We started our journey in 2016, but even before that, we had sporadic therapy-like conversations that hinted at the potential power of therapy. Back then, we had never sought professional help, but once we experienced the transformative effects of therapy, there was no turning back.

Jul 17, 20231h 0m

From Taboo to Tantalizing: Unleashing the Power of Sex and Connection

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Welcome to another episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast! Get ready to dive into a topic that will make your hearts race and your cheeks blush—sex and connection in relationships! Danielle & Garrett are here to spice things up and remind us all of the importance of intimacy. The couple has embarked on a personal journey to take their connection to the next level. They've discovered that sex is more than just a physical act—it's a gateway to deepening emotional and spiritual bonds between partners. Who knew that getting frisky could be so enlightening? Now, these two were raised in religious backgrounds where sex was often hush-hush. But guess what? They've managed to break free from any fear or guilt associated with it. They've embraced the freedom and power that comes with exploring their desires and connecting on a whole new level. Talk about turning taboo into tantalizing! For Danielle & Garrett, sex is like a mind-blowing rollercoaster ride of ecstasy and euphoria. It's a moment when they feel utterly open, vulnerable, and connected like never before. It's the ultimate high that leaves them craving more. Sure, they acknowledge that connection can be achieved through deep conversations and other means, but let's be real here—sex offers a whole different level of connection. It's like the secret ingredient that takes your relationship from lukewarm to sizzling hot. Our hosts have a fiery message for you: sexual intimacy should be a priority if both partners. It's a gift from God, designed to be experienced and enjoyed in this lifetime. Danielle & Garrett firmly believe that it's a critical ingredient for a healthy and passionate relationship. Now, we're not suggesting you run wild and forget about everything else. Connection comes in many forms, and communication is vital. But don't shy away from embracing the power of physical intimacy!

Jul 10, 202351 min

Porn to Power

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Get ready as Danielle and Garrett turn up the heat and invite you to join them on this white-hot episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast. Prepare to be scorched by their insights, seduced by their tips, and set ablaze with a passion for fiery communication and red-hot relationships. In this episode, Danielle and Garrett tackle head-on the feedback they've received about their habit of constantly interrupting each other. Sparks fly as they acknowledge the problem and embark on a mission to master their communication skills by fiercely battling the urge to cut each other off. Hold on tight as Danielle and Garrett bare it all, sharing their blistering therapy session experience where they discovered the power of holding space for one another. They reveal their burning desire to ignite a new chapter in their communication, free from the painful scars of the past. Danielle and Garrett are igniting change, fueling their relationship with active listening, scorching vulnerability, and a commitment to each other's growth. But wait, there's an extra dose of spice! The topic of Porn within marriage is brought to the table. They challenge listeners to seize control of their passions, leaving no partner unsatisfied. Get ready for their scorching personal stories of navigating the flames of desire, where they risked it all and gained everything. This is The Date Your Wife Podcast!

Jul 3, 20231h 10m

Learning to Speak Your Truth: Overcoming Conflict Avoidance

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In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Danielle & Garrett tackle some juicy topics about relationships, therapy, and sexuality. They really hammer home the importance of communication and vulnerability. First up, they get real about their own therapy experiences and how it's crucial to go in without expecting to be right. They also chat about how guys often feel like they're the ones causing problems in relationships and why both partners need to take responsibility. They also dive into the wild world of Mormon culture and sex. They spill the beans about waiting until marriage and wearing unsexy PJs and then share how they've become more comfortable and confident in their bodies and started rocking some sexy lingerie in the bedroom. And hey, it's not all rainbows and sunshine. They dish about the challenges that power couples face in their marriages, like the temptation to shut down and trade in their partner, the struggles of navigating the relationship, and even the potential for divorce. Throughout the episode, they stress the importance of being open and honest about your feelings, even if it's awkward or tough. They also talk about using personal content, like pics and videos, for some spicy fun and how crucial it is to recognize when your partner is hurting and be there for them. Overall, this episode is a real eye-opener. It's like having a heart-to-heart chat with your best buds about relationships, therapy, and getting busy. They remind us that communication, vulnerability, and taking ownership are key ingredients for building and maintaining awesome relationships.

Jun 26, 202342 min

The Importance of Emotional Connection in Marriage

Prepare for a captivating episode as Garrett & Danielle dive into the tantalizing realm of sexual transmutation, unveiling its potential to ignite a blazing path to success in all aspects of life. Inspired by Napoleon Hill's groundbreaking work in "Laws of Success," we venture into uncharted territories where the raw power of sexual energy fuels unimaginable productivity, boundless creativity, and unparalleled achievements. Brace yourself for a podcast episode that challenges norms, explores the evolving landscape of infidelity, and unlocks the secrets to profound connection and fulfillment. As we unravel the complex web of intimate relationships, we delve into the phenomenon of cheating. Our hosts boldly illuminate the shifting tides, revealing a truth that pulses with empowerment and independence. No longer confined to the shadows, women have embraced their desires, refusing to settle for anything less than passionate, fulfilling connections. Join us as we dissect the multifaceted motivations behind infidelity, exposing the primal urges that drive men and the emotional yearnings that guide women toward forbidden territories. Through candid discussions and heartfelt revelations, we delve into the transformative power of open communication, understanding, and the pursuit of genuine intimacy. But the revelations don't end there. We embark on a voyage through the uncharted waters of co-parenting, a realm fraught with challenges and unforeseen obstacles. Through personal anecdotes, our hosts share the transformative power of a unified front in raising children, where the strength of their own bond becomes the foundation for effective parenting. Discover the secrets to harmonious co-parenting as we navigate the treacherous storms of stress and drama, emerging victorious with a deeper understanding of ourselves and our children. To truly grasp the essence of thriving relationships, we unlock the art of being present and attentive, offering a tantalizing glimpse into a world of passion and connection. Witness the magic that unfolds when partners dedicate themselves to active engagement, deep listening, and unwavering support. Explore the intricate dance of balancing life's demands while savoring the stolen moments of intimacy that breathe life into our connections. Together, we unravel the power of presence, igniting flames that burn with fervor and purpose. Embark on this intoxicating podcast episode as we shatter barriers, ignite passions, and unlock the secrets to success and profound connection. Prepare for a riveting exploration that transcends the boundaries of societal norms, leaving you inspired to embrace your desires, honor your truth, and forge a path that leads to unabashed fulfillment. Ready to take your business, marriage, and life to the next level? Don't miss out on the opportunity to unlock unlimited power, profits, and purpose. Join Garrett and thousands of other men in the transformative Warrior Challenge. It's time for you to have it all! Get off the sidelines and embark on the Wake Up Warrior Challenge today. Discover the strategies, tools, and mindset shifts that will revolutionize your journey toward success and fulfillment. Don't wait any longer—seize the opportunity and join the challenge now! https://wakeupwarrior.com/

Jun 19, 202345 min

Dancing Through Life's Ups and Downs

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Get ready for an electrifying episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast as Danielle and Garrett take you on a captivating journey toward relationship bliss. Join them as they draw surprising parallels between the sultry moves of salsa dancing and the intricate steps required to navigate life's inevitable ups and downs. In this soul-stirring conversation, the couple fearlessly confronts a recurring challenge: interrupting each other and feeling unheard. Brace yourself for a candid exploration of their personal growth and the transformative power of effective communication. Discover how they unlock the secrets of active listening, understanding triggers, and finding common ground, propelling their relationship to exhilarating heights. But that's not all—prepare to be inspired as Danielle and Garrett dive into the art of empathy. Explore the depths of their hearts as they share how they shattered the barriers of criticism and learned to embrace understanding and patience. Witness the magic that unfolds when two souls commit to supporting and uplifting each other through the stormiest of times. To ignite the fire of passion, they reveal the secrets to setting boundaries and scheduling sacred work conversations. Discover how they navigate the treacherous waters of stress projection, ensuring that their love bubble remains a sanctuary of intimacy and desire. Are you ready to embark on a journey toward relationship mastery? Prepare to unleash the power of effective communication, empathy, and holding the line. Join Danielle and Garrett in this captivating episode as they share their personal triumphs, invaluable insights, and practical strategies to help you create a relationship that sizzles with connection and resilience. Get ready to embrace love's intoxicating dance—tune in now and unlock the secrets to a deeply fulfilling and passionate partnership! Ready to take your business, marriage, and life to the next level? Don't miss out on the opportunity to unlock unlimited power, profits, and purpose. Join Garrett and thousands of other men in the transformative Warrior Challenge. It's time for you to have it all! Get off the sidelines and embark on the Wake Up Warrior Challenge today. Discover the strategies, tools, and mindset shifts that will revolutionize your journey toward success and fulfillment. Don't wait any longer—seize the opportunity and join the challenge now! https://wakeupwarrior.com/

Jun 12, 202339 min

S6 Ep 140The Mormon Bubble: Navigating Taboos Around Sex and Relationships

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Welcome to the latest episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast. Join us as we explore the incredible power of personal development, the importance of effective communication in relationships, and the life-changing Warriors Way. Here are three key takeaways from this episode that you won't want to miss: The Power of Personal Development Discover why personal growth is a vital component for any man seeking to unlock his true potential and make a positive impact on the world. Communication's Role in Building Relationships Explore the fascinating concept that men and women may speak different languages yet share common desires within relationships. Gain insights and practical tips on how to communicate effectively and cultivate chemistry with your partner. The Warriors Way Hear about our personal journey implementing the Warriors Way, which we believe to be divinely inspired. Learn how this system empowers individuals to take control of their lives and foster profound connections in their relationships, ultimately leading to lasting and meaningful marriages. We encourage all men to embrace this discipline and embark on a journey of self-empowerment in their own relationships. If you're looking to make a positive impact in the world and cultivate a deeply fulfilling relationship, this episode is a must-listen. Tune in now to gain valuable insights and be inspired by the extraordinary potential within you. Ready to learn how to unlock 'unlimited' Power, Profits & Purpose in your business, marriage & life? Then it's time you join Garrett and thousands of other men in the Warrior Challenge. It's time for you to have it all! Get Off The Sidelines & Join The Wake Up Warrior Challenge TODAY.

Jun 5, 202352 min

S6 Ep 140Recognizing Strengths: Embracing Diverse Roles and Personal Goals

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Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast! Prepare to embark on a journey of transformation as we explore the power of shifting your mindset and rewriting the stories you tell yourself. In this episode, we reveal personal experiences of applying these game-changing concepts to areas like fitness and relationships. Let go of the pursuit of perfection and embrace the exhilarating rewards of progress. Discover how ingrained patterns and generational narratives hold us back, and learn to flip the script and forge a new path. Open your mind to new perspectives, find common ground, and unlock the door to growth both in yourself and your relationships. But that's not all. We dare to challenge societal expectations that have confined both men and women to predetermined roles. It's time for a paradigm shift. Men, it's your moment to rise as extraordinary partners, fathers, and mentors. Women, unleash your full potential and pursue purpose beyond motherhood. Join us in an equal conversation that defies traditional norms. While society may disproportionately celebrate motherhood and place value solely on income, we recognize the unique strengths of both genders. Embrace diverse roles while pursuing your personal goals, and witness the magic that unfolds. Don't miss out on this episode, where we dive into elevating your standards and becoming the best partner and parent you can be. Together, let's rewrite the narrative and unlock a life of balance and fulfillment.

May 29, 202351 min

S6 Ep 139Igniting the Flames of Growth: Unveiling the Power Within | Date Your Wife | EP 139

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The Date Your Wife Podcast is back! Brace yourself for an exhilarating episode packed with passion and excitement as we dive into our remarkable journey toward growth, accompanied by the challenges we boldly conquered along the way. Within this week's episode, Garrett and Danielle leave you with 3 big takeaways. Unleash the Flame of Growth Indulge in the truth that growth isn't an overnight affair—it's an arduous dance of dedication, commitment, and a fearless embrace of uncomfortable truths, all intertwining in a symphony of personal evolution. The Melody of Intense Listening Discover the secret to unlocking our true purpose and satisfying the deepest desires of our partners and loved ones. Succumb to becoming an irresistible listener, for it is through this intimate act that we ignite the fires of passion, build unbreakable connections, and ascend to the summit of success. The Temptation of Collaboration In this enchanting episode, we reveal the intoxicating power of merging individual paths into a breathtaking ensemble. Immerse yourself in the captivating world of collaborative synergy, where the fusion of strengths and desires entwines us in a dance of achievement, surpassing all previous limits. Get ready to be enticed by this riveting episode, where our journey of growth and collaboration will enthrall your senses. Join us as we transcend boundaries, basking in the intoxicating support of one another, and fearlessly propel ourselves toward the ultimate pinnacle of our deepest desires. The Date Your Wife Podcast is about to ignite your passions like never before. Tune in and unlock the secrets to a life filled with growth, connection, and endless possibilities. Ready to learn how to unlock 'unlimited' Power, Profits & Purpose in your business, marriage & life? Then it's time you join Garrett and thousands of other men in the Warrior Challenge. It's time for you to have it all! Get Off The Sidelines & Join The Wake Up Warrior Challenge TODAY.

May 22, 202335 min

S1 Ep 28Are You Threatened By Your Partner's Success? | Date Your Wife | EP 138

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How can two powerful entreprenuers also co-exist and THRIVE in a romantic relationship? Danielle and Garrett discuss what it's like, both being producers that work together in and out of each others businesses, and how that effects their relationship. They learned over the years that you have to WANT to be in the relationship, and you take action based on want instead of action based on NEED for the other person.

Jan 26, 202331 min

S1 Ep 27Don't Wanna Kiss, Just Wanna Cum | Date Your Wife | EP 137

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How do you even find the TIME as a busy entreprenuer to purposefully connect to your spouse? Garrett and Danielle talk openly about what is/isn't working within their routines and schedules, and the importance of creating space and time for each other. What are you willing to do a sacrifice to create more intentional time with one antoher? "What is your brain classifying as work VS quality time" - Garrett J. White

Jan 19, 202331 min

S1 Ep 26YOU are the PRIZE, now drop the guilt. | Date Your Wife | EP 136

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Do you have a lingering sense of guilt or shame for your success? This episode brings fire and truth, as Garrett and Danielle talk about money in marriage, knowing your worth as an individual and a partner, and breaking through old stories to progress your relationship. PLUS- A lot of couples go out on dates to be social with other couples. Find out why Garrett and Danielle do NOT. "You should never apologize for what you've built in life." - Danielle K White

Jan 12, 20231h 5m

S1 Ep 25It's not a journey, but a DECISION | Date Your Wife | EP 135

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What areas of your life are you playing small and just accepting what is? Is your "accepting" just an excuse to not do the work?? Today's Episode comes with some MAJOR TRUTH BOMBS --> Garrett and Danielle speak on fitness and health; the way these seemingly small choices can make a HUGE impact, and how transformation is the result of DECISIONS, not nessesarily a process. "The decisions you make to level up your self, will influence your partners decision" - Garrett J White "COMMIT for YOU!"- Danielle K White

Dec 8, 202240 min

LET GO or LEAN IN? | Date Your Wife | EP 134

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Are you willing to collide and go to war with your spouse? No seriously- Because if you are not willing to collide and have difficult conversations, you will not be able to expand and grow as a couple. Garrett and Danielle have a confounding conversation revolving around how to let go, lean in, allow your partner to grow individually, and create trust for them to grow with you. You don't want to miss today's FIRE episode!

Dec 1, 202237 min

S1 Ep 23RAW "THERAPY SESSION" - MONEY IN MARRIAGE | Date Your Wife | EP 133

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"We have NEVER been on the same page with money - there's never any closure to it, except "make more money"! Today's episode is REAL + RAW as Danielle and Garrett have what seems like an actual THERAPY session! Where else can you listen to a podcast like this?! The crazy thing is.. this topic is SO relatable (no matter your financial situation). Buckle up...these two don't hold anything back.

Nov 17, 202248 min

S1 Ep 22We Stopped Playing Small | Date Your Wife | EP 132

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Are you waiting around for a miracle to happen? For your relationship to suddenly get better? Your finances to stop stressing you out? Guess what... there is stress at EVERY SINGLE LEVEL. So why not make it WORTH something and produce RESULTS!? Today's podcast dives deep as Garrett and Danielle talk about what it really looks like to be ruthlessly commited to each other, living an abundant life, and how they STOPPED PLAYING SMALL. "Consider the blessing is the FRUIT that comes out of the ROOT of ACTION" - Garrett J White "When you finally let go, it opened up space for me to show up which I knew I could and would do…" - Danielle K White

Nov 10, 202247 min

S1 Ep 21It would've been easier to be broke, working at a sandwich shop | Date Your Wife | EP 131

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What opportunities have you been given within your marriage, and life, that you're not allowing yourself to even see?? No seriously. If you can't see or envision success in your current life circumstance, what makes you think that you'll find success in a different situation? We all have an opportunity within this body and this life and this circumstance we're currently facing. Are you going to choose to be the victim? OR rise toward your highest self?? Danielle and Garrett speak the HARD TRUTH on what it takes to be successful, what FREEDOM actually looks like, and ... is there such thing as travelling TOO MUCH? "If you can't see success in your current lane, you're not going to see success in your next lane because you're just switching lanes because you're bored!" - Danielle K White "What is freedom? Moving away from shit you don't want, courage to move towards the thing you do want" - Garrett J White

Oct 6, 202242 min

S1 Ep 20This is Why We Win | Date Your Wife | EP 130

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How often do you commit to something, but not end up following through or seeing it through? There has to be a DAILY commitment you hold each other and yourselves accountable to, to become better and reach towards your goals. Today's Episode features Garrett and Danielle speaking on parenting, lessons learned from being parents, how sex can be used as a duct tape, and why routines help you win BIG! "Even though it's like a zoo, enjoy this!.. I've been more receptive to having help inside of my home so I can enjoy this next chapter.. I'm so fulfilled." - Danielle K White "Be present and play all in TODAY" - Garrett J White

Sep 22, 202235 min

S1 Ep 19#blessed OR #bigasswork? | Date Your Wife | EP 129

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What are the possibilities? Do you think you're worthy of them? In today's episode, Garrett and Danielle take you on a trip down memory lane as they talk about the growth and EXPANSION. They talk about how marriage takes WORK, and you have to have the intention to SUCCEED ON PURPOSE. "Expansion as an individual is not about arriving at a place, it's about arriving as a being" - Garrett J White "If you want a marriage that's worth it, then it takes work! You're lying to yourself if you think it's going to be easy." - Danielle K White

Sep 8, 202237 min

S1 Ep 18Raw Collision Conversation | Date Your Wife | EP 128

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What controversial conversations are you avoiding within your marriage, business, yourself, and God? Today's VERY RAW and vulnerable episode provides value by exposing the real life drama and difficulties that Garrett and Danielle face. You'll listen in real time as they dissect issues within their household, and talk on how men and women handle conflict differently. "Before I go into a difficult conversation, I think - What is the ultimate outcome I want from this situation?" - Danielle K White "The value is simply in exposing ourselves" - Garrett J White "The hardest part in any relationship is being able to deal with the collisions" - Garrett J White

Sep 1, 202235 min

S1 Ep 17The Cost of NOT making it across the GAP | Date Your Wife | EP 127

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Are you connected but not committed in your relationship? Today's exciting epsiodes recaps on Danielle and Garrett's 19 years of marraige, how to push one another to growth, and the cost of not giving it your all in marriage. Garrett and Danielle talk on Lucrative contracts, "Project Vacuum", and how Aventadors help people get laid... (ha ha ha). "You can't just say you want a certain outcome, but then not be willing to do the work in between!" - Danielle K. White "Do yoy evjer stop to consider you wouldn't be who you are today without your spouse?" - Garrett J. White

Aug 25, 202250 min

S1 Ep 16The Game of Having It All | Date Your Wife | EP 126

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What is it actually costing you by NOT investing in your time, your life, and your spouse? On this episode of Date Your Wife, Garrett and Danielle talk about raising the standard in your life, business, and marriage. From how not to give a compliment, body building, and sending scandalous photos to one another, this epiosde will once again leave you laughing and inspired on how to elevate the game inside your marriage. "There is no miracle cure for your business. There's no other company that's going to step into your business and just magically make your shit work"- Garrett J White "In order to do more together, we had to stop competeing. It has to be more of - I support you, you support me"- Danielle K. White

Aug 4, 202248 min

S1 Ep 15Shattering Boxes | Date Your Wife | EP 125

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What BOXES are you living in that are keeping you stuck inside the same story about your wife and relationships? In this episode of Date Your Wife, Garrett and Danielle share NEVER BEFORE TOLD SECRETS they've been keeping from each other! Where else can you listen to an episode that talks about God, "porno'clock", massages, and trackers all in one hour? Right here, Right now, on Date Your Wife. "I jump from box to box...because I am always shattering the ones I am in...it's all patterns and routines" - Garrett J. White "If you can learn to share your story as your living it, the good, bad, the ugly... you'll never know who you can impact" - Danielle K. White

Jul 28, 202256 min

S1 Ep 14The Accelerator VS the Refiner | Date Your Wife | EP 124

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Navigating parenthood of 5 kids can be..complicated. Throw in two THRIVING businesses (that both started from the ground up), and you've got yourself a party in cancun with the family for 7 days! In this spicy epsiode, Garrett and Danielle recap their family vacation to Cancun, parenting teenagers, their thoughts on religion, and stepping in and out of each others businesses. So, what does the future hold for both Wake Up Warrior, and DKWStyling? Stay tuned to find out. "Guilt should serve as a reminder, not a place that's lived in" - Danielle K. White "I'm an accelerator, you are a refiner" - Garrett J. White

Jul 21, 202256 min

S1 Ep 13Beauty and The Beast | Date Your Wife | EP 123

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Do they really still have that SPARK? Yes, after 19 years of marriage, Danielle still views Garrett as her "person". In today's episode, Danielle and Garrett speak on how they keep the spark alive, the greatest ROI, "TTF", Oreo Sandwhiches, and SO much more. This highly engaging and entertaining episode will have you laughing and crying as they talk about how the little details matter, and exciting life updates (including adding 2 new members to their family). For INFORMATION on CONNECTING with Dr. David Boyd - visit this link https://www.blindspotmedical.com

Jul 1, 202246 min

S1 Ep 12The Next Chapter | Date Your Wife | EP 122

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Get ready to level up in your relationship... AGAIN. Co-Hosts and married couple Garrett J. White and Danielle K. White are BACK from a chaotic and rough chapter of life. Garrett and Danielle give you a life UPDATE, while covering many topics such as homeschooling, their biggest mistake in marriage, how pregnancy effects relationships, and Garrett becoming Batman. Step into this episode to learn what it takes to win and how to let each other win. "When you have moments of weakness, remember where you've been. You've worked too fucking hard for this!" - Danielle K. White "I recognized i was not only undesirable as a man to not only HER, but also undesirable as a man to myself... and that is a scary place to be." - Garrett J. White

Jun 23, 202242 min

S3 Ep 11Agent Provocateur | Date Your Wife | EP 121

"On the heels of a two-day NBR™ training event, Danielle drops truth bombs right and left during this week's fire-filled episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Married co-hosts, Garrett J & Danielle K White, engage in powerful conversations on the topics of mommy guilt, "Danielle the Stripper," what all men want to feel, the benefits of therapy, and the 4 P's that are 100% necessary for a healthy, thriving, and sexually fulfilling marriage relationship." (CLICK HERE to view this episode on YouTube) QUOTES OF THE WEEK "When I felt solid as a producer, a protector, and a provider as a man, it allowed me to step back and recognize how much I was fucking up my provocateur. I wasn't showing up as a provocateur; I was showing up as a pervert and a pussy… not as a man." —Garrett J White "If you're going to have sexy, seductive moments, you have to create those. You create your fantasy; you create your provocateur. That shit doesn't just show up. Your wife's not going to give you a blow job in the kitchen after working ten hours." —Danielle K White FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FITNESS, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite and dkwstyling.com THE MARRIED GAME Keith Yackey guides men to figure out the sex game inside of marriage. marriedgame.com

May 13, 202146 min

S3 Ep 10The Island of Pure Fire | Date Your Wife | EP 120

"This week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast is filled with a smorgasbord of topics, including the top two things that can fuck up a relationship, the one thing guys really love to hear from their woman, the three things women want to receive from their man, the dangers of dancing on the line, and sizzling details of the White's recent Mexico adventure." QUOTES OF THE WEEK "That's probably why Mexico was so great because I actually relished in your power. It turns me on!" —Garrett J White "As I rise in power, you better fucking keep up with me." —Danielle K White DATE NIGHT TOPIC 👉 If you are not dating your spouse, you've got to get off the couch and make it happen. What are you currently holding back on in conversation with your spouse? What are you not talking about that can ultimately brew into you dong and thinking stupid shit? Talk about it! FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

May 6, 202146 min

S3 Ep 9Stop Dancing On The F*cking Line | Date Your Wife | EP 119

QUOTES OF THE WEEK "So… if I cut my hair, shave my face, and put a suit on, all you want to do is get me naked?" —Garrett J White "What do women want? They want to feel safe, secure and have a commitment. That's all they want." —Danielle K White FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

Apr 28, 202117 min

S3 Ep 8Baby, You've Always Been Good | Date Your Wife | Ep 118

"In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Carlos Alvarez Roque leads Danielle and Garrett on an adventure down memory lane where the details of their extraordinary life are revealed. We discover how they went from nine breakups during their dating years to ultimately becoming each other's ride or die, and how they created multi-million dollar empires that are impacting men, women, and families today and for generations to come." QUOTES OF THE WEEK "I was so intimidated because of how beautiful she was and felt so *not* worthy to be with her that I would find a way to be emotionally unstable and then break up with her." –Garrett J White "Now that we have kids, I was thinking, why didn't we have sex all over the house all the time before we had them? We had so much freedom, but we didn't even know!" –Danielle K White FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

Apr 21, 202154 min

S3 Ep 7Sex, Passion & Communication | Date Your Wife | EP 117

"Welcome to a blush-worthy, sizzling, and nugget-filled episode of the Date Your Wife podcast where nothing is off-limits, and the sexual tension is off the charts and at an all-time high between mega-producers and married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White." QUOTES OF THE WEEK "Who are you going to have to become to be able to pull this off where the things that you say you want are normal and natural?" –Garrett J White "I was a cute eighteen-year-old. Everything on paper looked bad and said no, this guy is not for you!" –Danielle K White NON-NEGOTIABLES 1. Get clear about what you want. 2. What are you wiling to sacrifice? 3. Inside of that sacrifice, who must you become to get what you want? FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

Apr 10, 202137 min

S3 Ep 6You Can Look Healthy But Not Be Healthy | Date Your Wife | EP 116

"Do you find yourself judging others about their workout routine, all the while downing gallons of diet coke? What about the picture-perfect couple who, in public, seem to have it all...yet behind the scenes are filing for divorce? This week's episode has some plain talk about health in our bodies and in our marriages, becoming better versions of ourselves, and a conversation about how aligning their lives with God has shifted the Whites' life in the past few months. Welcome to another episode of the Date Your Wife podcast with co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White." "Even as hot and on fire as we are right now as individuals and as a couple, the version of us ten years from now will look at us right now and say, 'You have no idea…'" —Garrett J White "Growing is not just about you. Yes, it's so very fulfilling and rewarding for you; however, you impact and are an example to so many other people by becoming a better version of you." —Danielle K White *To watch this episode, Click Here.

Apr 3, 202140 min

Caught In A Web of Lies | Date Your Wife | EP 115

"In this episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, Garrett and Danielle share how a recent discovery of a tangled web of lies woven by their teenage daughter exposes them as parents. Their conversation leads to possible causes and solutions, as well as realizations about their parenting strategy or lack thereof. The reality is, your kids are always hiding something from you, and it's your job to find out what it is." QUOTES OF THE WEEK "I'm finding out I may be like the good cop, meaning the silent, stoic guy who doesn't yell; he just states the facts and convicts people." –Garrett J White "I realize I gave her too much freedom. That's my fault. And now I'm trying to course-correct to get back on track." —Danielle K White PARENTING CHALLENGE What is your parenting strategy? FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com FASHION, FAME, HAIR & CLOTHES Follow Danielle on Instagram @daniellekwhite.

Mar 25, 202136 min

S4 Ep 4Become A Little Less Sh*tty | Date Your Wife | EP 114

QUOTES OF THE WEEK "I'm thinking we look like a badass Olympic surf team and the rest of the people are thinking, look at that cute gay couple going on their anniversary!" --Garrett J White "If you have the power to stay consistent for a long period of time, you're going to have success." —Danielle K White HIGHLIGHTS How taking trips by yourself helps create your own persona outside of the relationship Connect deeply with your spouse before one or the other leaves on trips or getaways. It's the moments that keep your marriage together. People want short-term instant gratification vs long-term investment. There is no short-term fix. You don't understand the snowball effect of you playing small and settling. Get clear about what vision you want as a couple. What would have to be true, and who would we have to become? What would have to be true about our life for the reality that we saw in the future to become possible? To watch this episode click here: dateyourwifenow.com COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE You take one step forward to being just a little less shitty as a partner by going on Date Night this week. FIVE STAGES OF MARRIAGE divorceyourwife.com THE WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com

Mar 17, 202133 min

S3 Ep 3Tequila, Tithing, & Framing Money Like You Want to Get Laid | Date Your Wife | EP 113

"This week's episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast is about making financial decisions, particularly when it comes to the 'big' ones. This is typically a hot topic for most couples, and the Whites are no exception. Their back-and-forth duel ultimately comes down to learning how to submit to the other's insanity and accepting it as part of the equation." QUOTE OF THE WEEK: "Yes, we are fallible. Yes, we fuck a lot of things up. But the cool this is, we keep winning. Why? Because we keep submitting." --Garrett J White "If I expect a man to show up as a man and be masculine, then I have to show up as a woman… and let him be the man." —Danielle K White COMMUNICATION CHALLENGE: Choose a topic and then ask yourself the question, "How can I pre-frame this in a way that will allow for us to have a rational conversation? THE 5 STAGES OF MARRIAGE: divorceyourwife.com WAKE UP WARRIOR CHALLENGE: This is a challenge for men and women looking for the weapons and tools to having it all across Body, Being, Balance, and Business. wakeupwarriorchallenge.com CLICK HERE TO WATCH THE EPISODE ON YOUTUBE

Mar 10, 202128 min

S3 Ep 2Sex With the Lights On | Date Your Wife | EP 112

Always entertaining and willing to go where most won't, Garrett and Danielle are keeping it real and raw in this week's spicy episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast, where they pull back the curtain on all things sex & relationships. What's the difference between sex and intimate sex? What is vaginal masturbation? How much power do women have with the sex card? How does the Stack fit into all of this? What about Danielle's fitness competition journey? How do you date your spouse? And...what was the last piece of the puzzle that ultimately set their marriage and sex life on fire? Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast! —————— CLICK HERE TO WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE —————— DATE NIGHT CHALLENGE: If you have something you want to do on Date Night, then schedule it. —————— QUOTES OF THE WEEK "You've become the sexual monster that I've wanted to be dominated by; the woman who tells me, 'I conquered you!"'—Garrett J White "When you have sex without intimacy, I'm a personal vibrator."—Garrett J White "If I'm not connecting with you, we'll have sex to have sex. But I hold my emotions and vulnerability, and I don't let myself even enjoy it or have fun."—Danielle K White "I hated the idea of having somebody tell me, "You can spend money on this, but you can't spend money on that." I wanted to keep my independence."—Danielle K White —————— Divorceyourwife.com - Video series that walks you through the 5 Stages of Relationships. Wake Up Warrior Challenge - The Art & Science of Having It All.

Mar 2, 202132 min

S3 Ep 1The 5 Stages of Divorce | Date Your Wife | EP 111

"After a semi-brief hiatus, Garrett J & Danielle K White, dynamic, charismatic, entertaining, and powerful mega-producers, are back! In this highly-anticipated 'welcome back' episode, the couple brings us up to speed about their family life and businesses. They also touch on the five stages of divorce, and what ultimately re-ignited what is now their ride-or-die relationship. Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast." Quote of the Week: "You have to jump the gap, divorce the marriage as you know it as, divorce yourself as the way you see yourself, divorce the game in your family the way it's been…you have to let go. Divorce is mandatory." —Garrett J White "You have to look at what you want the end result to be and then you have to reverse engineer and figure out what those steps are in between to get you what you want." —Danielle K White Click Here to watch this episode on YouTube.

Feb 17, 202134 min

S3 Ep 110Processing Guilt | Date Your Wife | Ep 110

*Repeat from February 2019.* "In today's episode, we learn about Danielle's epic dream that may or may not include Matthew McConaughey; we discover how men and women process guilt (and where that guilt stems from), and how the life-altering seasons of ultramarathon running and Kokoro training profoundly influenced and affected Garrett…and ultimately their marriage." Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. Communication Point #1: Guilt: The Enemy Danielle hates feeling guilty. "I think guilt is the enemy, and that nothing can pull you into a downward spiral faster than guilt. When I feel guilt, I ask myself why I'm feeling this way. Can I fix it? What can I do NOT to feel this?" Women feel all kinds of guilt, whether it be mommy guilt, business guilt, sex guilt, or even food guilt. When she's making decisions, Danielle asks herself if this will set her up to have a shitty day the next day. If so, "I have self-control and self-discipline. QUESTION As a woman, how do you process guilt? Point #2: Attack With the Stack null Guilt plagues guys in a massive way, and they, too, experience all kinds of guilt inside of marriage, family, and business. If they work long hours to provide for their family, they feel guilty for being away from them so much. And then, if they're away and DON'T produce, they feel guilty about that, with an extra dose of shame and worthlessness thrown in. Garrett deals with guilt by using a powerful tool called the Stack. "I ask myself a series of questions that help me flip my guilt. I do this through an app on my cell phone, Attack with the Stack, where I'm able to deal with and process my thoughts and stories." QUESTION As a man, how do you process guilt? Point #3: The Dream Danielle's recent dream was like a blockbuster adventure, mystery, and horror movie rolled into one. Garrett & Danielle explore it and the possible meanings it could hold, and he reminds her, "You have dreams, and your dreams mean something." Danielle: I think this dream came because I have been anxious about work. This year, I have taken on the role of CEO in addition to being a salon owner, an education director, launching my new ISLA hairline, and having a baby. I've snapped back strong from this baby, and mentally I feel strong, but I think I was scared that it was going to be too overwhelming. I think I was just scared of the unknown. QUESTION Do you or your spouse have dreams that carry timely messages? Point #4: Running From Life null During an especially difficult three year period for the White's, Garrett became an ultra-marathon runner, often running up to twenty miles a day. Danielle claims he was running from life. Garrett: Being an ultra-marathon runner was deeply powerful for me. Do you know what it did for me? I learned how to physically hurt for days and days and days on end with no complaint at all. It just fucking hurt. It's almost like you learn how to hurt and be ok with hurting. QUESTION What do you do to run away from your problems? Point #5: Every Mom Has a Different Path Garrett & Danielle have a conversation about the different choices women make today as either working-outside-the-home moms, stay-at-home moms, CEO moms, or a combination of these. Garrett feels that many women are miserable, depressed, and selling themselves short when they are stay-at-home moms, although he fully supports any choice women make. Danielle: I love being a mom. I love everything about it. But I also know I love doing stuff for myself. I think a lot of women pursue things outside of being a mom, but they look at it as a hobby. And I did that in the beginning, but then I was faced with a situation where I didn't know if I was going to stay married. This is what ultimately birthed NBR, DKW Salon, her education company, and the ISLA hairline. QUESTION How do you both feel about the choices you have made up to this point? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about this phrase, "I wish I could just be a stay-at-home mom." Does this trigger you? What does it actually mean to you? Date Night Topic: Who are your superheroes? Why? Quote of the Week: "I'll be hurting and suffering in business with so much shit to do, so I'll take a deep breath and say, 'There is no finish line, this will not end quickly, this is going to fucking hurt badly, and… it is what it is." —Garrett J White "I'm super logical, and I flip things because I hate that feeling of guilt. I know if I take the feeling out of it and logically look at something – even if I'm in the wrong – I can understand it, let go, and try to do better." —Danielle K White

Apr 7, 202031 min

S3 Ep 109Date Night | Date Your Wife | EP 109

Garrett and Danielle are proponents of dating your spouse AT LEAST once a week. They understand that adding young children to the mix can sometimes present a challenge but know that your relationship MUST come first if you want it to last. In this week's episode, the White's share tips for what has worked for them, as well as what hasn't worked for them, in their quest to find babysitters and nannies. Where they ultimately hit the jackpot might actually surprise you. "Encore presentation from January 2019." Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Routines & Consistency Both Garrett and Danielle feel like this podcast has been so good for their marriage. It's as if the listening audience has become their sounding board and allows them to be better communicators with each other without completely flipping their lids and going off on each other. Danielle: In life, once you get out of your routine it's so easy to lose your momentum. It's in doing the small things consistently that keep us on track to build the large things; it's the small and consistent things in marriage that keep a relationship stable and progressing. QUESTION What are you doing consistently inside of your relationship that is noticeably making a difference in the way you feel about and communciate with each other? Point #2: Baby Talk In the land of pregnancy and babies, when a woman is overdue it is a common understanding that having sex helps induce labor. Danielle's experience with their two previous babies was that within an hour of having sex, the contractions began. Garrett attributes it to his "very aggressive sperm." Danielle's well thought out plans for the gender reveal went sideways as the waves washed out the pink and blue smoke bombs she had carefully buried in the sand. Garrett accidentally reveals the gender of the baby during the podcast. QUESTION Did your gender reveal turn out as planned? Point #3: Family Affair? A lot of times, people think they can only trust their family to watch their kids. Danielle has discovered that having someone other than family members might actually be better for you and your kids. From her personal experience, she would rather hire someone to follow her structure and routine instead of having free help from family who want to do their own thing. QUESTION What has been your experience with family members watching your children? Point #4: On-Demand Babysitter Gone Awry Garrett wanted to have an on-demand babysitter who was always available. He paid her a salary and got her an apartment close by their home so they would have someone ready to care for the kids whenever he and Danielle wanted to go out. It evolved into a sense of entitlement and a situation where Danielle was having to dance around the babysitter's schedule. Danielle: Finding a babysitter is like building a business. You assume that people you hire will know what to do, but you should never assume. Find someone that you like and then be clear about the outcome you expect while they're there. Always keep them in check. People want to know how to win whether it's a nanny or an employee and will start to retreat when they don't know how to please you. QUESTION Have you set clear outcomes and expectations for your babysitters? Point #5: "Care.com: Your Shit is Legit" By far the best decision Garrett & Danielle have made when it comes to finding a babysitter or nanny for their children is going through care.com. Garrett advises, "Request your babysitters driven by a dollar value, and when they turn in their application, make sure they send you a video." "You're investing in the guardianship of your children. If you're paying a lot of money, set clear outcomes and expectations. If you look at the overall investment on a monthly basis, you're investing in your marriage. 1-What's your marriage worth? 2-How much are your children worth?" QUESTION Are you being a cheap bastard when it comes to hiring someone to watch your children? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about Date Night, and the challenges you are currently facing that are stopping you from going out consistently with your spouse. Get clear about what you want from your marriage, and what you can do to begin making Date Night a top priority in your marriage. Date Night Topic: Have a brainstorming session about the things you and your spouse want to do on your Date Nights for the next couple of months. Quote of the Week: "If you care about your marriage and want things to work out, go on Date Nights. If you care about your communication and sex life, go on Date Nights. To pull that off, you're going to have to go through some trial and error before you find what works for you." —Garrett J White "Whether it's family or someone you pay, the

Mar 12, 202035 min

S3 Ep 108Below the Surface | Date Your Wife | Ep 108

The dynamic duo of Garrett J and Danielle K White hold nothing back in this week's Date Your Wife podcast where they tackle the topic of Communication while candidly exploring the pros and cons of alcohol use in their marriage, the seemingly magical power women have over men, and how wearing frumpy lulu sweat pants and 40 pounds of excess fat around your midsection sends a clear message to your spouse that you don't give a shit. *This is an encore presentation from April 3, 2018.* The dynamic duo of Garrett J and Danielle K White hold nothing back in this week's Date Your Wife podcast where they tackle the topic of Communication while candidly exploring the pros and cons of alcohol use in their marriage, the seemingly magical power women have over men, and how wearing frumpy lulu sweat pants and 40 pounds of excess fat around your midsection sends a clear message to your spouse that you don't give a shit. *This is an encore presentation from April 3, 2018.* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Deep Communication Is Vital Communication is vital to your sanity and the health of your marriage. At the end of the day, it's about getting to a place where you can have hard conversations. Garrett & Danielle used alcohol to support them down that path. It opened up space where they could go deeper, beyond "surface" conversation. It also created the opportunity for them to experience sexuality with each other, even when they were arguing and fighting, which is a part of what kept them going. QUESTION What tools do you use that help you and your spouse have deeper conversations without setting off fireworks? Point #2: When Alcohol Becomes a Problem In time, alcohol was no longer working for them. Garrett had become less patient and was quick to lose his temper with Danielle and their eldest daughter, causing him to decide to walk away from alcohol (at the time of recording this episode.) Danielle: On Date Nights, drinking was a treat and was fun for us. It allowed us to let go of the day and just relax. After work, I would come home and drink a glass of wine with dinner, but when that one glass turned into two or three, I realized I didn't really want to be that person drinking a glass of wine every night. QUESTION What habits have you taken on in your marriage that are no longer serving you? What would it take for you to make the decision to walk away from them? Point #3: Dress the Part How you dress sends a non-verbal message of energy towards your spouse every single day. Date Night changed everything for Garrett. He was dressing in an old plaid shirt, but when he started dressing up, he knew that he looked good and sexy, which translated into energy and confidence. Danielle: I'm a fan of dressing to feel on point. What energy am I putting off? Like I don't give a shit? Instead of putting on my "mom" outfit, I'm going to throw on some jeans and some cute shoes just to make me feel like I have put myself together for the day. I feel better doing it, and I have a more productive day. QUESTION What changes are you willing to make to your wardrobe to reflect a sexier, more confident you? Point #4: Straight Talk Garrett: There are a lot of women who only dress up once a week on Date Night. I'm not telling you you have to dress up like a princess every single day, all day long. What I am telling you is this: how you dress impacts the energy of what your husband sees when he comes home. If he comes home to the "frumpy sweatpant lulu lady in constant ponytails," there's going to be a lack of attraction. Garrett: A vast majority of the married men that I have met are in worse shape than their wives. Men, your body did not go to the shitshow bringing babies into this world. This is like pushing a pumpkin out of your penis. You're carrying bullshit weight, and your wife's not turned on about it either – not just because of your body, but because you don't feel powerful about the way you look. QUESTION Take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself: Would I be turned on by my appearance? Point #5: Let Me Hear Your Body Talk Garrett: Let's pretend that your body is a witness of your commitment to your wife, that what you've done to your body and how it looks is currently communicating more to your wife about your commitment to your marriage than anything you're trying to tell her. It's not about six-packs, bikini beach bodies, or being super shredded. At the end of the day, you've got to be on point about the way you feel about your body, and inside of that, you have to feel on point about how you package yourself. It's all about energy and what makes you feel confident. QUESTION How do you feel about your body? Communication Challenge: What can you do in the way you are currently presentin

Mar 4, 202046 min

S3 Ep 107The Divine Divorce | Date Your Wife | EP 107

Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn't get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There's a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it's actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, "Am I with the wrong person?" QUESTION Is what you're posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It's Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don't even know they're surviving. The belief is, "This is just how it is." If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it's not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of "it's just how it is?" Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don't go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. "What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?" QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It's a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there's another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there's a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other in the beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: "There's a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it's the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work." —Garrett J White "People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now and again if he needs it." —Danielle K White

Feb 18, 202031 min

S3 Ep 106Toleration & Standards | Date Your Wife | EP 106

Previously Aired on April 30, 2019. In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White are coming to you from the 38th-floor inside a corner suite of the Four Seasons in Las Vegas where they are celebrating Danielle's 36th birthday. This week's conversation is about how the unification of your standards with your spouse builds the ultimate standard, and how you can't pull that off unless you have actually connected with your own standard. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…COMMUNICATION Point #1: Standards One of the gifts of being married is that we each come into it with radically different standards for life. We have standards about sexuality, parenting, making money, how we spend our time, etc., based upon our past, how we were raised, and our mindsets. Danielle: I do have a high standard based upon how I was raised, but what I also notice is that I'm an extremely experience-based, detailed person who makes me hold things to a different level or standard than most people. QUESTION What are some standards you hold yourself to? Point #2: Tolerance We tolerate what our standards are. Where this ends up in collision is inside of marriage due to the different standards of each spouse. Garrett has a standard of emotional connection, which is leaving people better than when you first meet them, something that comes very naturally for him. Danielle, on the other hand, will tolerate almost no communication with other people. QUESTION What are some of the differing standards inside your marriage which have been a source for collision? Point #3: It Takes Two to Tango Garrett: Without my standards for communication, Danielle would have limited her communication. She would never have launched a podcast in the hair industry, nor would she have launched her own salon or training company. Danielle: I hold the standard of where we live and what we wear. When I push to get nicer things in life, we push more in business. And when we push more in business, it not only affects our family, but it also creates multiple job opportunities for multiple families. QUESTION What have your differing standards created inside of your world? Point #4: Own Your Standards Garrett: We take a stand for each individual to own their identity, where neither one is a doormat or a steamroller, but where we both come to terms with who we are. My standards say we do one thing, and Danielle's standards say we do another. As you come to own your standards, it allows you actually to embrace the standards of other people. Together, you create this ultimate standard as a couple. You begin to be more committed to each other, and out of that is birthed something deeper than love, which is respect. QUESTION How has owning your individual standards created the ultimate standard inside your marriage? Point #5: Co-creation Garrett: The standards across both sides of co-creation have allowed for Danielle and I to build our brands, our businesses, and our family. The unique side about all of this is there are very few powerful couples taking a stand for marriage that works, which requires you to be clear in your standards. Danielle: I realize that in managing our own empires and managing a marriage – and managing it well – it's kind of unheard of. We each have huge visions for our brands, and we're proving that it can be done; that we can have those individual standards but also come together to create more as a couple. QUESTION What have you been able to co-create as a couple that you most likely never would have on your own? Communication Challenge: Where can you push in your relationship to become more together, to grow together, and unite as a couple? Date Night Topic: What can you create as a couple by uniting your individual standards? Quote of the Week: "The mix of standards between a married couple blend together to create the ultimate cocktail of creation." —Garrett J White "I think we push each other in all the right ways. I think that's what a relationship is supposed to be: pushing one another to a healthy place." —Danielle K White

Jan 21, 202022 min