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*Episode Replay from September of 2019.* The White's are back and on fire in this new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Inarguably one of their spicier therapy sessions yet, in addition to today's theme of the Karmic Loop, Garrett & Danielle delve into the topics of parenting, fitness, dating, the art of seduction, sex, and have a candid conversation about the loop Garrett has been stuck in for the past two weeks. Click here to watch this episode on YouTube Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. Communication Point #1: The Hamster Wheel When artists inside of Danielle's programs tell her they don't have time to do the work required to make the changes they want to see inside of their business and life, she describes that as being on a hamster wheel. "You say you don't have time and you're extremely tired…but you're not actually going anywhere, you're literally just looping and looping. You can't afford NOT to have time. When people say they don't have enough time, it gives them an excuse not to try something new." QUESTION Where in your world are you making excuses instead of making time? Point #2: False Lift When you're going along in life, and you suddenly get triggered about something, you begin to drift into a series of feelings of anger, blame, guilt, and shame, aka the Pit. Once inside the Pit, you want to fix things, but you're not sure how. You begin thinking, "If only I could go back to how things were before." As you fall and drift down from the peak to the Pit, you find yourself inside a false lift that takes you back to the peak where you were before…but no change has actually taken place, and nothing is ever fixed. QUESTION What area of your life do you continuously have the same arguments over and over and over again? How is that working for you? Point #3: Collision The only way to change this is to identify that you're in the loop. If you find yourself repeating the same arguments over and over again, arguing about the same shit, in the same way, that's a telltale sign you are stuck inside the Karmic Loop or on the never-ending Hamster Wheel. Once you identify that you're in the loop, you've got to collide. The first collision is with yourself, and the second collision is with your spouse. It's about taking responsibility for where you are. QUESTION Inside your relationship, what are you afraid to have a conversation about with your spouse? Point #4: Shut Down Garrett is experiencing a loop where he has shut down sexually. He has the drive and yet lacks the hunt for Danielle. "I will sit and wait for Danielle to jump on me, which she literally does." Garrett feels he created a pattern after years of rejection and trained himself not to go on the hunt. "I don't do the weird thing, I don't go pouty, I just do nothing. It's shut off." QUESTION Identify a loop you currently find yourself in. What is the first step you can take to begin changing that? Point #5: The Stack Using the Warrior tool called the Stack, Garrett takes himself through a series of questions and answers about this loop he currently finds himself in with regards to shutting himself down sexually, even though it is very clear Danielle is "open for business." During the process of asking himself what it is that he wants, he reveals, "I want Garrett to become a sexual hunter again in his marriage like he was in the first year of his marriage. I want Garrett to break the chains of sexual dysfunction in the game he is playing." QUESTION How willing are you to dive deep into questions of self-inquiry? Communication Challenge: Identify one area in your relationship where you have the same argument in the same way over and over and over. Using the art of collision, begin taking steps to move forward. Date Night Topic: Talk about things you like your spouse to do that turn you on. Quote of the Week: "If you don't have a relationship with your spouse, and all your energy is poured into your kids, it's gotta be a pretty depressing day when your kids leave." —Garrett J White "I have to walk by damn near naked and be like, "We're open for business!" —Danielle K White warriorgreens.com dkwstyling.com

*This is a previously aired episode from April 2018. Today's conversation with Garrett and Danielle is about the topic of Money and the important role it plays in your relationship. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Men Must Produce When you make enough money to put your family into abundance, there's a shift in the way that you see yourself as a man and a shift in the way you see your relationship. It also affects the way your wife sees you. Danielle: Generally, women want men to take care of them. Even if we can produce, we still want our man to 'be the man' and take care of us. A man is sexier to a woman when he's the one producing. QUESTION How does this ring true for you as a couple? Point #2: Money is a Tool Garrett: Inside of our relationships, money sits at the core. We have friends who celebrate their success and use money as a tool to inspire other people to create more, and then we have other friends who simply hide it all and pretend like they're broke. Danielle: There was a five year period where we were experiencing rapid growth, and we disconnected ourselves from people. I had surface relationships and felt like I was kind of guarding myself. What I've come to realize now is that I can have relationships with everyone – it's just a matter of me being comfortable with me. QUESTION Are you living in a scarcity or abundant mindset while being surrounded by your wealth? Point #3: You Must Leap Garrett: In 2009, after I had lost everything, I was offered a job from a friend at a very crucial time for me when I didn't have a lot of belief in myself. I was terrified as a husband and as a producer and had lost all confidence in myself. There came a pivotal moment when I realized my life was in the balance, and something in my soul said, "You must fucking leap!" Danielle: When we were dating, I saw Garrett for who he was and who he could become. I knew there were great things in store for him. So when I saw him selling out, I was so upset because I knew that he was capable of doing and becoming so much more. QUESTION Where in your life have you settled? Point #4: Don't Settle Garrett: One of the greatest gifts my wife has given to me about money is that she rode my ass about it. As you get better and better at making money as a man inside of marriage, it forces you to become a new man. Danielle: I think that people play it safe in life in fear of failure. If I leap and I fall on my face, then there are consequences; but if I stay in the safe zone, then I can ride this out forever. If you're listening to this and you're feeling a stab in the heart to take action in your life, do it. QUESTION Where in your life are you feeling the call to take a leap of faith? Point #5: Team Work Garrett: There are a lot of you here who need to rise. Danielle and I work as a team to push each other. There are times she wants to settle into her little comfortable cocoon, and then I kick her straight out of the cocoon, I rip it open and throw her off the cliff. And she does the same for me. Danielle: You can produce way more as a couple if you can get on the same page of experiencing more growth together. If you can take those experiences of who you are as a couple and make them work, two is better than one, at least in my experience for us. We push each other in that way. QUESTION What is your dance as a couple in the way you support each other's growth? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation as a couple, and allow yourself to collide and dream. Sit down and set a target of a game that you could create together. Who can you become as a couple economically? Who can you become as a producer individually or collectively? What would it require for you to become to pull that off? Date Night Topic: Give yourself some credit for where you are. Challenge yourself on your Date-Night to have a conversation about possibility or collision. Either one of these paths will lead you to a new position and possibility inside of your life. Quote of the Week: "My money is a reflection of my ability to produce and create value in the marketplace. So I produce, and I create more not for the target of having money, but rather we are in this place of a desire to become more, and inside of that, we use money production as a way to accelerate that." —Garrett J White "Be you at every level." —Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Cell Phone Game Changer Cell phones have changed the game for kids, forcing kids today to grow up much faster, and at the same time, they're NOT growing up. They've gotten really good at being able to communicate via text, but they haven't learned how to commutate face-to-face. Danielle recalls waiting for boys to call her when she was in Junior High. She was nervous and sweating, hoping she wouldn't sound like a dork or stutter. Today, it's a matter of text, erase, edit, and send. QUESTION How has communication changed since you were a teen? Point #2: Bed Time Shenanigans The bed-time routine at the White household can sometimes look more like a shit show, with their seventh-grader going into psycho mode while Garrett takes away her cell phone. Unbeknownst to Garrett, who is in the middle of a yelling match in one room, Danielle is in another room consoling their seven-year-old who has a pillow over her ears saying, "I hate this part!" QUESTION What does your bedtime routine look like? Point #3: Old School Discipline When their oldest daughter back-talks Danielle, Garrett wonders if her mother would have tolerated that behavior. As a seventh-grader, Danielle remembers being backhanded by her mother while they were driving. As an eighth-grader, Garrett found himself wandering the streets of their new city for four hours after his mom kicked him out of the van for fighting with his siblings. That was before cell phones. QUESTION How do your disciplining methods differ from those of your parents? Point #4: Jump Through the Windows Danielle: When kids are little, they operate on your agenda; when they turn into teenagers, you operate on their agenda – that's your window "in." In order to gain that connection, I'm constantly looking for my windows. Garrett: We have some traction in her world. The key is being present with what her issues are and what's going on in her world. Perhaps we actually do know what we're doing. QUESTION What can you do to be more aware of those little windows of opportunity to connect with your children? Point #5: Navigating the Parental Waters of Divorce It was only a couple years ago that Garrett's nineteen-year-old son wouldn't talk to him. Today, he is an integral part of the Warrior landscape as he and Garrett forge a new relationship that has recently included bringing Garrett's ex-wife and her family into the picture. A family intervention during the Warrior Woman event in the summer of 2018 proved not only healing but life-transforming. Garrett and his ex-wife were able to take radical responsibility, let go of stories, and come to a peaceful place, demonstrating that anything is possible. QUESTION How are you navigating the waters of parental divorce? Communication Challenge: Discuss the challenges cell phones have brought into your family. Date Night Topic: How can you better support each other in how you parent? Brainstorm different ideas and strategies and choose one or two to begin implementing. Quote of the Week: "The emotional fortitude of children isn't what it used to be. Kids today are growing up intellectually very quickly, with great articulation and communication, but emotionally they're going backward." —Garrett J White "Because you are so mad and so bitter, and are not dealing with your own shit and your own stories, it is ultimately holding you back." —Danielle K White

* This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode from May 2018. Being married can be a complete shit show AND amazing… all at the same time! While most marriages end up in sedation, disconnection and/or divorce, Garrett and Danielle have committed to creating something a little bit better than that and a bit more fun. Join them in this week's podcast that doubles as their very own therapy session as they engage in a conversation about the all-important topic of communication. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Less Roommate, More Spark You can be comfortable with somebody and respect them, and maybe you don't fight, and things are generally good, but there's no spark. Your idea of a night out is coming home from a long day at work, throwing on your sweats and watching Netflix together…and then you wonder what happened to that spark you used to feel. Date Night is one of the ways the sparks continue to fly between Danielle and Garrett. Danielle loves getting all dressed up for Date Night and treats it like an actual date like she did during their pre-marriage days. She inspired Garrett to level up his game from his go-to flannel shirt to his now custom-tailored design jackets. QUESTION When was the last time the two of you dressed up and stepped out on the town together? How did it make you feel? Point #2: Sugar & Spice Garrett: Inside the communication game, people sometimes think that it's the spice they're trying to get rid of. When I define spice, I'm talking about arguments, disagreements, giggling, laughing, joking, having fun, getting angry at each other, fighting, battling, debating, having crucial conversations – it's everything! Danielle: There's a lot of spice in our marriage, and we collide a lot with our personalities – both in good ways and in ways where we piss each other off. Spice, for me, is "I fucking hate you," which turns into "I fucking love you." QUESTION How do you keep your marriage fresh and spicy? Point #3: Love Notes Making daily deposits into your family's life is part of living the Warrior's Way, which is part of something called the CORE 4. Men typically don't know how to communicate their feelings and don't send love messages to their wives, which Garrett believes many women would love receiving from their husbands. While Danielle acknowledges the daily texts from Garrett, her love language is found more in spending quality time together with him, like doing these podcasts or going on Date Nights. She sends texts of encouragement when she senses he's having a stressful day, which messages Garrett loves receiving as part of his love language. QUESTION What are your thoughts about giving or receiving love notes? Point #4: Give and Take Garrett: In my world, I had to learn that it was ok to buy my wife shit. It was a very hard thing for me, and I questioned how buying gifts for her made me more valuable as a husband. Danielle: Because I can buy my own things, I felt like I had to submit and let Garrett buy me gifts, which is one of my love languages. I wanted him to be the man, yet at first, I wasn't allowing space for him to do that. QUESTION Why are you stopping your spouse from giving you what you say you want to receive from them? Point #5: Dance With Me Garrett: As you can tell, we're still working on this, which is the ability actually to communicate with and understand the language of our partner. Inside of that, we get to choose to do two things: 1- appreciate the love language they receive in, and 2-learn to give the love language that the people we're married to want to receive. QUESTION What does your daily dance of communication look like? Communication Challenge: Danielle: Garrett needs to be told, "I love you," but my communication style is different. How about you? Is your communication style verbal or silent? What about your spouse's? Do you think one is wrong and one is right? Date Night Topic: For women, what is your husband's love language, and how can you cross the line a little bit for him? For men, how can you cross the line a little bit for your wife? Quote of the Week: "I'm essentially making love to the ocean because she accepts me every morning." —Garrett J White "We'll argue about a topic, and one of us has to reach over to the other side and reciprocate eventually. You have to cross the line in order to make it a little more peaceful in your home." —Danielle K White

*Encore presentation from January 2018* Join co-hosts Danielle and Garrett J White with Week Two of the Date Your Wife Podcast, in which they share two VERY different views of how they were raised with money (or without) and how that has affected their relationship as a married couple. In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Having Expensive Tastes In Which Money Matters Money causes a ton of chaos within marriage, which will make or break the relationship, forcing you to deal with your spouse on a whole new level. Danielle was raised by entrepreneurs that focused on having a home that was up to date and something to have pride in, while to Garrett having a lot of money was unattainable unless you were a doctor with a swimming pool in your backyard, like a kid he remembers from school. QUESTION What kind of background were you raised in that has effected the way in which you approach your outlook on money within marriage? Point #2: The War of Spending Money Danielle spent money because she wanted to experience life, but for Garrett, money was about spending money on business, which he still struggles with, as they throw each other under the bus in how they spend money. According to Danielle is being a selective cheap bastard until her perspective of her role as a Stylist rather than a Hobbyist she was able to change. QUESTION If you could throw your spouse under the bus, what do you think they struggle with when it comes to spending money? Point #3: ATMs and Porn Stars Garrett felt like the only way he had value was if he made money, and therefore when he makes money Danielle should put out for sex any time he wants. Women want to feel safe and secure, so it becomes hard to have sex with him when he's no longer attractive as the Producer, and the man in the relationship doesn't feel like he's providing value to the relationship because of this role as well, in which his balls get cut off mentally. QUESTION What does being a Producer do to bring out the sexual dynamic within marriage? Point #4: Learning from What Didn't Work: The Cancun Contract With the Cancun Contract, it was 3 for 3: 3 Gifts for 3 sex sessions which led to feeling more like they were purchasing prostitution in an attempt to give their marriage a shot at what would work for them based off of their own love languages for 3 weeks, learning that using money as a manipulator didn't work but ended to bigger breakthroughs later on. Garrett learned to invest because he wanted his wife to be happy, looking at money as a tool, not an asset by shifting his wife towards being the asset, showing that Danielle matters to him. QUESTION Where can you invest in your spouse with no strings attached, investing in experiences with your spouse and family? Where do you still need to give yourself permission to receive without guilt? Point #5: I Want You To Want To Hold yourself to a higher standard in order to push your spouse to become more, believing in them more than they believe in themselves. At one point, Garrett made a huge realization that sometimes the man is the ATM, and you need to be OK with it because it shows that she is worth the investment. Danielle is a producer on her own, but she wanted him to want to be a man in seeing the value of investing in her. Now, they have both surrendered and invested in each other. QUESTION How can a woman powerfully support and invest emotionally in her husband to encourage him to become a bigger producer? Date Night Topic: What improvements can be made in regards to the topic of money? Quote of the Week: "I was raised to feel that you could get whatever you wanted in life if you are willing to work, but no one was going to save you. I didn't know that I could want anything more than what I had. I learned that I needed to demonstrate in my marriage that my wife is worth spending money on and worth the investment." —Garrett J White "If you want to be treated like a Queen, you've got to treat your man like a King. Women need to own their part and let go of the guilt when your husband invests in you. Stop getting stuck in the stories that your man isn't fulfilling you, and realize that you may not be fulfilling his needs. If he's putting in effort, take the gifts he's giving you and see how it feels to then harmonize in fulfilling his needs." —Danielle White

*Encore presentation from August 28, 2018.* Garrett and Dannielle discuss the importance of getting away as a couple in this week's episode. ____________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Reconnection Brings Rejuvenation Danielle: I think it's crucial to have time together to reconnect so that when you go back home to the kids, you are rejuvenated. When your relationship is on point, kids notice. They can pick up on the energy between you and your significant other. QUESTION How do you show each other that remembering your anniversary is important to you? Point #2: Mommy Guilt Danielle: Mommy guilt happens to all the moms I talk to. Even though you're excited to get away, and you end up having a great time, there's always this weird anxiety leading up to the vacation. I feel that anxiety never really goes away unless you just push forward. You have to go on these trips and realize that your kids are going to be just fine. QUESTION How do you as a couple deal with two different visions of where to invest your money? Point #3: Hiring Help Garrett: Can you see how your entire world has been held hostage by the fact that the only people you will trust to watch your children are your parents? The entire game from a guy's perspective comes down to you as a man creating space for your wife. One of the big hurdles you're going to have to overcome is getting your wife to be okay with hiring help that is not free, and that is not part of the family. QUESTION How do you and your wife feel about hiring help other than your family" Point #4: Cashing In Chips Danielle: Free help is never free. I feel like there is this debt with the Universe with family. "I watched your kids, so now you have to watch mine." "I brought you dinner, so you have to bring me dinner, too." There's always this unspoken feeling of cashing in of favors with family and close friends. There's no such thing as free help when you go into it with the mindset of, "I will do this for you if you do this for me." QUESTION How often do you use your parents and friends instead of hiring someone? Point #5: What's Important to You? Garrett: Some guys say, " I don't have enough money to get a babysitter!" I say bullshit. You have enough money to put gas in your car, and you'll have enough money to get what you believe is important to you. Space away from the kids creates perspective and power; perspective on your children, perspective on you as a couple, and perspective on your life. QUESTION What are your priorities? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around the topic of Free Help vs Hired Help. Date Night Topic: Talk about the places you would like to go on your quarterly trips together, set the dates, and begin making plans for them. Quote of the Week: "When you move away from working in the family and in the relationship, and start to work on the relationship and on the family by taking trips and date nights away, you gain perspective. And that perspective is your power." —Garrett J White "All you ladies out there, stop trying to be superwoman. It's not serving you. Surrender to the fact that date nights are important and vacations are important, regardless of the anxiety you have surrounding your children. Guess what? You're not the only one that can parent your children. —Danielle K White

*Encore episode from January 2019.* This week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast comes to you from beautiful Palm Beach, Florida, where the White's are attending Tony Robbin's Business Mastery Event. As they huddle in their bed trying to warm up from the ice-box temperatures they've been experiencing all day, they share stories about how Tony's events have impacted and shifted their personal and business lives in major ways. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Hippies & Weird Shit Personal development hasn't always been at the top of Danielle's list of priorities. Up until a few short years ago, she equated it to a bunch of hippies sitting around hugging trees. "Garrett was actually into some weird shit at different times during our marriage. The few personal development events I DID attend with him left me feeling totally creeped out." QUESTION What experiences have you had with personal development events? Point #2: Date With Destiny After viewing Tony Robbin's "I Am Not Your Guru" on Netflix in December of 2016, Danielle began having a change of heart towards self-development. Tony's approach actually made sense to her. "It seemed to be a more logical approach and less weird shit." As fate would have it, Tony's son was attending Warrior Week at about the same time. As if right on cue, the Universe delivered up two tickets to Tony's next event, Date With Destiny, a mere three weeks away. QUESTION Have you or your spouse ever attended Date With Destiny? Point #3: How Big Can You Dream? Danielle's experience at Date With Destiny changed her thinking in a lot of ways. One of the biggest impacts for her was the exercise where they were told to dream big and write down EVERYTHING they wanted. From this one exercise, Garrett and Danielle ended up making some major decisions in their marriage and businesses which resulted in some huge shifts for them that year. QUESTION Where in your world have you experienced a huge shift after hearing or experiencing something? Point #4: Give Yourself Permission Garrett and Danielle had to leave their environment over and over again to get to a place where they could ultimately choose a life that was theirs as a couple and as a family. Garrett: Buying this house, investing in our family, and moving into this home literally shattered an entire box or frame of ideology that surrounded my brain. QUESTION Where in your world do you need to give yourself permission do to something that you know would yield big results or big shifts? Point #5: It's in the Numbers The biggest thing that Danielle is getting out of Business Mastery is confirming what she already suspected: she's got to know her numbers better than she does. Event speaker Keith Cunningham taught," As a business owner, there is no value in a number; the value is knowing what to do about the numbers that you see." QUESTION What does it mean to you to not only know your numbers but to also know what to do about them? Communication Challenge: Grab your journals and carve out some time to Dream Big. Talk about and write down EVERYTHING you'd like to do within certain time frames, think way outside the box, and hold nothing back. Date Night Topic: Search out events you can attend this year TOGETHER for your individual growth AND for your growth as a couple. Choose one event and put it on your calendar. Make the leap. Your future is worth the investment. Quote of the Week: "The trifecta of insanity: choose to be married, choose to have kids, choose to have a business. You do those three things, and you're either a glutton for punishment, a psychopath, or you want to have the fast train to big fucking results based on the power and the pressure of having to rise." —Garrett J White "It was an "against all odds" situation because of the story we had been telling ourselves. But when we actually put our foot forward and started entertaining the idea, EVERYTHING started to fall into place for us." —Danielle K White

*Encore presentation from May 15, 2018* Welcome to this week's steamy episode of the Date Your Wife podcast sponsored by DKW Styling and featuring dual producers inside the game of business, money, and life – Danielle K and Garrett J White – who are keeping it real and raw no matter what level of success they achieve. Although today's topic is one of the tougher topics for many couples to get real about, the Whites break down all barriers and bares all in this week's enlightening, revealing and transparent conversation about sex. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Ass Cheeks 'n Thongs Danielle: We were at Cabo, lots of sex, no kids, drinking gin, and this medium-looking girl walks by with her guy, she's wearing a thong and has a tiny bum – even I noticed. It's when your head followed and you kept following. Usually, you're super respectful. But you kept prolonging that ass. Garrett: You caught me on that one. You do have control over how long you entertain, but you have zero control over the fact that if nine sets of ass cheeks are walking by you, and you're sitting there with your wife whose ass cheeks you love, as a guy in that environment it is a work of art to try to NOT do two things: #1- look, #2- try to not be weird about it when you're with your wife. QUESTION How do you feel about prolongued looks at the opposite sex by your partner? Point #2: Sexual Triggers Danielle: Being turned on by a guy is all about how he carries himself; it's all about his energy and not about the idea of having sex with him. You might get butterflies and think, 'oh he's cute,' but usually you never entertain it until later when it comes up and you wonder why you're so horny. Garrett: As guys, we have a very different challenge because we are constantly being stimulated. You can be at church and a woman walks by wearing a shirt where her nipples are protruding and you can be a super committed loyal man to your wife, and nonetheless, you are sexually triggered. QUESTION What triggers you sexually? Point #3: Finding Your Inner Stripper For years, Garrett wanted Danielle to send him sexy photos of herself, but for a long time, she wasn't about that. She eventually had a boudoir photoshoot that was not only for Garrett, but it also helped her find her inner stripper and channel more of her sexual being. "When I'm learning and growing in life, I'll do things to get out of my comfort zone because it pisses me off that I'm operating in a certain way. Doing the pictures made me nervous but I decided to just do it. It gives you permission to roleplay and it spices things up a little bit." QUESTION What is something you can do this week to step out of your comfort zone in your relationship? Point #4: Reflection in the Mirror Garrett: It's very difficult for a guy to have his thoughts in check if he's not getting laid. As a guy, you are naturally sexually charged and if you and your wife are not having sex for whatever reason – if physical intimacy is not happening – his sexual energy goes even higher, which is what leads a man to go porn and masturbation, which ultimately leads to a bigger problem. Ladies, if you shame and guilt your husband because he's looking at porn, I'd invite you to look in the mirror at how you're showing up. The majority of men are looking at porn because they are not getting their sexual and emotional needs met at home – the relationship sex game is horseshit and not working out. QUESTION Ladies, how are you showing up sexually for your husband? Point #5: Road to Nowhere With consistent porn consumption and masturbation, you will stop putting your sexual energy towards your wife. You deplete all of your sexual energy into the computer and into your cell phone, and through masturbation, you literally push your energy away into the nothing. There's no exchange of energy. Garrett: "Looking at porn and masturbating is a hollow experience. When I would go through these times of looking at porn and masturbating because Danielle and I were not on the same page, I would feel bad, alone and isolated. Turning to porn made it worse because I would start feeling even more resentment towards Danielle." QUESTION Gentlemen, where are you in the porn/masturbation cycle? How are your actions affecting your wife and your relationship? Communication Challenge: Ladies, how can you use sex as a tool and as a connecting piece to restore order in the relationship? Date Night Topic: Do a little role playing on your next Date Night to channel your inner stripper and add a little spice to the mix. Quote of the Week: "Guys, at the end of the day, keep all of that sexual energy in because it forces you to get committed to getting laid. This is what I have noticed for myself. If I keep all the sexual en

*Encore presentation from May of 2019* The conversation about the game of money is this week's topic of the Date Your Wife podcast, a topic which proves to be a spicy one for married co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Saving & Investing As Danielle steps back and looks at their amazing businesses and lifestyle, she is curious if there is a way to start putting more money into other areas, like savings, in addition to life insurance. She wonders if she is ignoring signs from their past mistakes, knowing that their current lifestyle is more abundant than ever before. Garrett: My wife has pushed for our life to rise over and over again. At this point, we save more money than we've ever saved in our whole lives. I've also gone from only investing in the business to investing in the family. QUESTION How are you doing in the area of savings? How long would you be able to sustain your lifestyle if the money stopped coming in tomorrow? Point #2: Obsession The challenge inside of marriage when it comes to the topic of money is this: making money, growing money, keeping money, and leveraging money. Seventeen years ago, after reading the book, 'Rich Dad, Poor Dad,' Garrett realized for the first time that he could make money and became obsessed with it. He went back and forth between the hustle mode of making money and the phase of growing money as he built teams and processes, which led him to the game of keeping money. Over the past several years, he has invested and put strategies into place, which have benefited them in massive ways inside of their bank accounts and savings vaults. QUESTION Where are you as a couple when it comes to making & keeping money? Point #3: Building a Legacy Danielle: We live an amazing lifestyle. I'm at the point where I want to be able to build a legacy, an empire. If we stopped working ten years from now, I want to know that we could still live our amazing lifestyle for years to come plus help our children if we needed to. My parents live well, but they can't stop working. My dad is 69 and is still building custom homes because they have to continue working to maintain their lifestyle. I look at our parents and don't want to live like either of them. QUESTION What do you ultimately desire? Point #4: A Team Effort Danielle: Ladies, money is a tough conversation. Whether you're a woman who can take care of herself, or you're the Mom CEO of the family, it's nice to have a guy that takes care of you. I also want to be a part of this team effort and part of the decisions. I don't want to sit on the sidelines and be naive about what's going on. QUESTION How do you handle money decisions in your relationship? Point #5: Maintain or Increase? Garrett to Danielle: Would you be willing to maintain our current lifestyle even though our businesses are increasing in revenue? We would maintain our current game, and everything else would go pure cash with no expense increase whatsoever in our personal lifestyle over the next five years. We would not change homes or cars, and we would keep the same game. We would put all the money away that you want to put away without having to up the standard, meaning… two bags, not nine. QUESTION What are you willing to do in order to be able to put money away? Communication Challenge: Have some conversations with your spouse about the game of money: making, growing, keeping, and leveraging money. Date Night Topic: If the money were to suddenly stop coming in, how long would you be able to live your current lifestyle without changing anything? Quote of the Week: "This podcast isn't about having all the answers for you but rather a conversation where we're in a place of figuring shit out as we go." —Garrett J White "When I'm seventy years old, I want us to be working because we're passionate about it, and we are choosing to – we have a purpose behind it – not to just pay the fucking bills." —Danielle K White

Point #1: What is a Stack? A Stack is a series of questions with five variations (Mega, Angry, Happy, Gratitude, Production) that Garrett originally created three years ago to deal with "my fucking rage." These questions alter the way you are experiencing different relationships, events, and triggers in your life. One of the challenges men have is the inability to express emotion and end up suppressing those emotions, which is the way society has taught, trained and educated men to do over the past 100 years. The whole point of the Stack is to allow you to release the energy that you're feeling, whether you're fucking raging, angry, triggered, or happy and get someone to their truth. QUESTION As a man, what has been your experience with sharing your emotions and feelings? Point #2: Impact There are five different Stacks which serve different purposes. You've got the Mega and Angry Stack which allow you to release your rage & emotions, followed by the Happy and Gratitude Stacks, and then finally the Production or War Stack.. The Gratitude Stack requires you to deliberately pause and look back and serves as a powerful tool of connection with your spouse and children. As Garrett has shared these with his children as part of the Core 4 game, he has witnessed first-hand the immense impact it has had on them individually and upon their relationship. QUESTION How has expressing gratitude for your spouse and children affected your relationship with them? Point #3: The Gift of Gratitude Danielle shares how expressing gratitude gives you a different perspective."There are going to be times in your life when you feel like you are in a dark place, and it's hard to snap out of that. You start to see the world through a negative lens." "If you take a step back and begin appreciating the good moments, it gives you this sense of gratitude, and everything begins to change. It puts life in a different perspective." QUESTION What do you notice when you step back and begin seeing life through the lens of gratitude? Point #4: INSPIRED From his Gratitude Stack about Danielle, Garrett received insights and revelations about their marriage, and how he feels about her: "Marital and mutual respect is something that takes a long time to uncover, and once it's found, it's priceless and profound." "I sit and look at my wife while five months pregnant and am just inspired. I'm inspired by what it is to be pregnant and have your body do what it does with a little person inside of you who is growing. But of all the things that hits home the most is that she can make the baby AND also smash the shit out of life." QUESTION What about your spouse inspires you? Point #5: From Then to Now Garrett: What makes this pregnancy different from the others is that I am grateful for what we've become as a couple. In the past, I isolated myself and didn't know how to deal with the whole pregnancy thing. Danielle: When you look back to how it was eight years ago with our last pregnancy during scary and uncertain times, things are so different this time. We know we're in a good place right now with life and with marriage, and we're excited about the next chapter. QUESTION As you step back and look where you've been compared to where you are now, what has changed? Communication Challenge: Discuss the art of collision and the ability to hold space for your spouse during intense & direct conversations. Date Night Topic: Make Gratitude the topic of your next Date Night. Share examples and stories of gratitude with each other. If you have access to the Gratitude Stack, do a Stack on each other and then share it during your date. Quote of the Week: "Gratitude is the ability to look back: here's where we are, here's where we were, and let's be grateful for what is." —Garrett J White "When you're in a space of gratitude, nothing can get you down. Use it as a protective shield for yourself and your family, and to ultimately feel more powerful in life. When I'm in that space, I feel unstoppable." —Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: People Pleaser or Conflict Avoider? Danielle believes women typically aren't people-pleasers, they're conflict avoiders. Some women are so afraid of confrontation that they always try to make peace. "But ultimately it's not because we're trying to please people," offers Danielle, "it's because we're trying to avoid conflict, which later on actually causes us more harm." QUESTION How does this play out in your marriage? Point #2: On the Hunt As Garrett reflects this topic of conflict, he realizes that "Danielle is a conflict avoider at the highest level. If you go through what has happened with us in the past seventeen years, she has NEVER been a conflict person." "The only way we could ever have a real conversation was if I brought the collision to her, and then inside of it, I would actually hunt her down and force her to have a serious conversation with me." QUESTION Who is typically the "hunter" inside your marriage? Point #3: Hot-Headed When men become hot-headed inside of a conversation, many women refuse to continue on with that conversation, thus making it appear to the men that women are in this place of avoidance. From Danielle's perspective, "Women recognize when a conversation or argument isn't in a logical place and is going nowhere. When Garrett flips his lid, and I feel like I can't reason with him because the conversation is not in a healthy place, I will refuse to continue, knowing that in this state, nothing is going to get solved. QUESTION Who is typically the hot-headed one in your relationship? How does this affect your communication? Point #4: Initiate or Avoid? Garrett admits being more emotional than Danielle, and one who desires to get into a fight and collide. Speaking to Danielle, "You were never an initiator of any type of hard conversation. Your mode was to just swallow it, ignore it, reframe it in your mind, let it go and move on…and pretend like it never happened." Danielle: I was avoiding confrontation, and was thinking, "Oh, it will go away, it'll quiet down. I also came to this place where I didn't know how to have direct conversations with you. QUESTION Inside conflict within your marriage, who typically avoids, and who typically initiates?" Point #5: Therapy After six years of behaviors and patterns that were not serving the White's, everything came to a head one afternoon during a huge argument in their kitchen where an ultimatum was issued by Garrett: either we're going to therapy, or we're done. Danielle: Going to therapy, we both had a logical sounding board to hear one another's feelings. It helped me open up and communicate better, and I feel like Garrett was able to go deeper into the story or conflict without hitting his tipping point. QUESTION What has been your experience inside the conversation of therapy? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around the topic of "Avoider or Initiator." Date Night Topic: During Date Night, have a conversation about the possibility of inserting Therapy into your lives. Quote of the Week: "Therapy gave us a better chance to pull off conflict and be in a conversation that would require both of us to own our shit." —Garrett J White "In relationships, I think we argue to be right, not to get what we want. I think we both realized that there's submission in getting what we want which makes us less willing to be right and more willing to get what we want." —Danielle K White

In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Danielle and Garrett explore their Dark side and share how embracing both the Dark and the Light has given them the freedom to find harmony inside of their relationship, within themselves, and with humanity. *Encore presentation from October 2018* Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast… Point #1: Jekyll and Hyde Danielle: Everyone is raised to put themselves in a box. As you get comfortable with yourself, you own EVERY side of yourself, including the crazy, but you learn how to manifest the crazy in a productive way. Garrett: Most people cannot accept that there are literally two sides to them. I spent most of my life putting who I was, away – my desires, the anger, the rage, the fire, the questions, and the sexual desire. QUESTION What part of you are you hiding in a box? Point #2: Super Power Danielle: I can't operate as Susan all of the time, so it's literally learning how to cohesively live together with your multiple personalities. It's learning how to be cool with yourself and tapping into this dark, crazy side of you, looking at it as your Superpower. For example, I gotta handle some shit in business, so Dark Susan's coming out. When it's time to be a wife and a lover, Danielle comes out. Garrett: Relationship is the ability for a person to be able to be ALL of themselves in that relationship. My mission for myself and for Danielle was to be able to figure out how to be ALL of ourselves. There's Dark Susan sex, and there's Danielle sex – totally different sex, both are amazing. As we become more adaptable to ourselves, I think our relationship blows up in a big, beautiful way. QUESTION How do you handle ALL of you? How do you use the different parts of you to your advantage? Point #3: Critical Bitch Garrett: Danielle has an aspect to her that I deeply love now but that I hated and loathed for most of our marriage, until the last four to five years. This side is what I considered to be Critical Bitch. Whatever was going on, there was always this chipping away, and for most of our relationship I thought, "Fucking crazy woman." Anything to do with Danielle's dark side was viewed as wrong, broken, over-thinking. What I had viewed as critical, all of a sudden became powerful. She had the ability to see things clearly amidst the chaos, and not be sucked in by emotion. QUESTION What have you previously viewed as wrong or broken in your spouse, but now view as powerful? Point #4: Embrace the Dark AND the Light Garrett: When you start accepting that this is true inside of you – the Diabolical AND the Divine – when you come to terms with and embrace and love both sides of you, you start to love and appreciate humanity and people around you at a level you never could before because you're not fucking hiding anymore. Inside Wake Up Warrior and Big Money Stylist, we lead individuals on this path that accepts the true power of who you are on both extremes: in the Dark AND in the Light, in the Night AND in the Light, so they can ultimately gain the purest sight of being able to see truth. QUESTION What part of you are you suppressing and not embracing? Point #5: Submission vs Sedation Danielle: How do I get to the end result I'm looking for in a particular situation? What are the steps required? It always requires submission at some level. Ultimately, I'm happier and get what I want. That overall feeling is better than retreating and closing down. Sedation can be a sneaky little bastard, and it can come in many forms. Garrett: Most couples don't want to submit, so they sedate. They go to whatever they need to in order to avoid having to collide: they eat, drink, pop pills, ignore, delve into fitness. People go to religion to justify the shitty relationship they're in; that somehow it will be magical when they die. QUESTION Where inside of your relationship are you sedating to avoid collision? Communication Challenge: How has your upbringing affected your ability to embrace both the Darkness and the Light within you? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about your particular Crazy. What is the name of your Dark side? Quote of the Week: "Individually, if you do not come to terms with the fact that you have a brilliant side that is filled with light, and that you have a brilliant side that is filled with Night, that your Crazy offsets your Creator, and that your Creator cannot exist without your Crazy; until you can come to terms with yourself on this, you will never find harmony long-term in a relationship with any other person, specifically with your wife." –Garrett J White "I think people sedate their blessing. They think their blessing is their curse, so they sedate the thing that can actually give them power. What if you looked at these things

Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast, aka the White's weekly therapy session, coming to you for the first time from their new home studio. In this week's personal and up-close conversation from inside their bedroom, the highlights of this episode include details about Closet Sex, Garrett's tendency to go to the extreme, the purpose behind this podcast, and business strategies when it comes to dealing with the haters. *This is an Encore presentation from February 2019* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Closet Sex Danielle's certain she has nailed down the exact time and place of conception of their baby due in July. Knowing her 'window of pregnancy opportunity' was wide open, and determined to take full advantage of it, she seduced Garrett one morning as he was on his way out the door. QUESTION Ladies, when and where was the last time you seduced your husband or partner? Point #2: Rivals & Haters Any successful business is always going to have rivals and haters. When you're new in the game, you take it very seriously and it can be crippling. Garrett: Inside of a relationship, you have to choose you. At the end of the day, if you're in a relationship that's not working out, as hard as it might be, you have to take responsibility for the way your marriage is because of you. QUESTION What has been your experience with the "haters" inside of your personal and business life? Point #3: Compromise Danielle: When there's an end result that I'm looking to get, sometimes I don't look at the steps I need to take in order to get to that end result. A relationship is a sacrifice and compromise on both ends. There were many times Garrett and I told each other to fuck off. No one goes into a relationship wishing it was shitty. QUESTION What is the current state of your marriage? Point #4: They're Going to Talk Shit Garrett: We started down this path of being responsible for our own change as individuals which allowed us to make some very important decisions when it came to business. Part of that process comes from dealing with people who talk shit. In the beginning stage of business, we always believe we're the exception and that there is something we can do that will have people NOT talk shit about us. QUESTION What is your strategy for dealing with people who talk shit about you or your business? Point #5: The Certainty of Collision Garrett: I think you need to fucking punch people because it helps YOU. When I launched my first podcast filled with explicit lyrics in the Christian category, I was like a knife salesman at a waterbed convention. People began attacking Garrett and were out to take him down. Even though he knew he had brought this on himself, he wasn't prepared for the incessant heat he was receiving. As he launched his counter-attack on the haters, it began to weaponize him. QUESTION Where in your world have you taken a stand for something, and because of that, have you have received enormous backlash and persecution? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around this topic: It's your partner that gives you insight and guidance that no one else will give you; it's your partner that gives you a swift kick, and it's hard to receive. Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, have a steamy conversation about seduction. Quote of the Week: "You don't have to go looking for haters. The moment you take a stand of any significance, a war of haters will come to your front fucking door who are there to train you on how to be able to effectively and powerfully collide with other human beings.." —Garrett J White "If you can't take the heat, you're not strong enough to keep going. People who have had enormous amounts of success have figured out how to move on, say fuck you, have tunnel vision, work harder and smarter, and become the best at what they're doing." —Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn't get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There's a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it's actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, "Am I with the wrong person?" QUESTION Is what you're posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It's Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don't even know they're surviving. The belief is, "This is just how it is." If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it's not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of "it's just how it is?" Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don't go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. "What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?" QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It's a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there's another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there's a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other in the beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: "There's a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it's the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work." —Garrett J White "People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now and again if he needs it." —Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. Communication Point #1: Guilt: The Enemy Danielle hates feeling guilty. "I think guilt is the enemy, and that nothing can pull you into a downward spiral faster than guilt. When I feel guilt, I ask myself why I'm feeling this way. Can I fix it? What can I do NOT to feel this?" Women feel all kinds of guilt, whether it be mommy guilt, business guilt, sex guilt, or even food guilt. When she's making decisions, Danielle asks herself if this will set her up to have a shitty day the next day. If so, "I have self-control and self-discipline." QUESTION As a woman, how do you process guilt? Point #2: Attack With the Stack Guilt plagues guys in a massive way and they, too, experience all kinds of guilt inside of marriage, family, and business. If they work long hours to provide for their family, they feel guilty for being away from them so much. And then, if they're away and DON'T produce, they feel guilty about that, with an extra dose of shame and worthlessness thrown in. Garrett deals with guilt by using a powerful tool called the Stack. "I ask myself a series of questions that help me flip my guilt. I do this through an app on my cell phone, Attack with the Stack, where I'm able to deal with and process my thoughts and stories." QUESTION As a man, how do you process guilt? Point #3: The Dream Danielle's recent dream was like a blockbuster adventure, mystery, and horror movie rolled into one. Garrett & Danielle explore it and the possible meanings it could hold, and he reminds her, "You have dreams, and your dreams mean something." Danielle: I think this dream came because I have been anxious about work. This year, I have taken on the role of CEO in addition to being a salon owner, an education director, launching my new ISLA hairline, and having a baby. I've snapped back strong from this baby, and mentally I feel strong, but I think I was scared that it was going to be too overwhelming. I think I was just scared of the unknown. QUESTION Do you or your spouse have dreams that carry timely messages? Point #4: Running From Life During an especially difficult three year period for the White's, Garrett became an ultra-marathon runner, often running up to twenty miles a day. Danielle claims he was running from life. Garrett: Being an ultra-marathon runner was deeply powerful for me. Do you know what it did for me? I learned how to physically hurt for days and days and days on end with no complaint at all. It just fucking hurt. It's almost like you learn how to hurt and be ok with hurting. QUESTION What do you do to run away from your problems? Point #5: Every Mom Has a Different Path Garrett & Danielle have a conversation about the different choices women make today as either working-outside-the-home moms, stay-at-home moms, CEO moms, or a combination of these. Garrett feels that many women are miserable, depressed, and selling themselves short when they are stay-at-home moms, although he fully supports any choice women make. Danielle: I love being a mom. I love everything about it. But I also know I love doing stuff for myself. I think a lot of women pursue things outside of being a mom, but they look at it as a hobby. And I did that in the beginning, but then I was faced with a situation where I didn't know if I was going to stay married." This is what ultimately birthed NBR, DKW Salon, her education company, and the ISLA hairline. QUESTION How do you both feel about the choices you have made up to this point? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about this phrase, "I wish I could just be a stay-at-home mom." Does this trigger you? What does it actually mean to you? Date Night Topic: Who are your super heros? Why? Quote of the Week: "I'll be hurting and suffering in business with so much shit to do, so I'll take a deep breath and say, 'There is no finish line, this will not end quickly, this is going to fucking hurt badly, and… it is what it is." —Garrett J White "I'm super logical, and I flip things because I hate that feeling of guilt. I know if I take the feeling out of it and logically look at something – even if I'm in the wrong – I can understand it, let go, and try to do better." —Danielle K White

* New Episode* The White's are back and on fire in this new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Inarguably one of their spicier therapy sessions yet, in addition to today's theme of the Karmic Loop, Garrett & Danielle delve into the topics of parenting, fitness, dating, the art of seduction, sex, and have a candid conversation about the loop Garrett has been stuck in for the past two weeks. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. Communication Point #1: The Hamster Wheel When artists inside of Danielle's programs tell her they don't have time to do the work required to make the changes they want to see inside of their business and life, she describes that as being on a hamster wheel. "You say you don't have time and you're extremely tired…but you're not actually going anywhere, you're literally just looping and looping. You can't afford NOT to have time. When people say they don't have enough time, it gives them an excuse not to try something new." QUESTION Where in your world are you making excuses instead of making time? Point #2: False Lift When you're going along in life, and you suddenly get triggered about something, you begin to drift into a series of feelings of anger, blame, guilt, and shame, aka the Pit. Once inside the Pit, you want to fix things, but you're not sure how. You begin thinking, "If only I could go back to how things were before." As you fall and drift down from the peak to the Pit, you find yourself inside a false lift that takes you back to the peak where you were before…but no change has actually taken place, and nothing is ever fixed. QUESTION What area of your life do you continuously have the same arguments over and over and over again? How is that working for you? Point #3: Collision The only way to change this is to identify that you're in the loop. If you find yourself repeating the same arguments over and over again, arguing about the same shit, in the same way, that's a telltale sign you are stuck inside the Karmic Loop or on the never-ending Hamster Wheel. Once you identify that you're in the loop, you've got to collide. The first collision is with yourself, and the second collision is with your spouse. It's about taking responsibility for where you are. QUESTION Inside your relationship, what are you afraid to have a conversation about with your spouse? Point #4: Shut Down Garrett is experiencing a loop where he has shut down sexually. He has the drive and yet lacks the hunt for Danielle. "I will sit and wait for Danielle to jump on me, which she literally does." Garrett feels he created a pattern after years of rejection and trained himself not to go on the hunt. "I don't do the weird thing, I don't go pouty, I just do nothing. It's shut off." QUESTION Identify a loop you currently find yourself in. What is the first step you can take to begin changing that? Point #5: The Stack Using the Warrior tool called the Stack, Garrett takes himself through a series of questions and answers about this loop he currently finds himself in with regards to shutting himself down sexually, even though it is very clear Danielle is "open for business." During the process of asking himself what it is that he wants, he reveals, "I want Garrett to become a sexual hunter again in his marriage like he was in the first year of his marriage. I want Garrett to break the chains of sexual dysfunction in the game he is playing." QUESTION How willing are you to dive deep into questions of self-inquiry? Communication Challenge: Identify one area in your relationship where you have the same argument in the same way over and over and over. Using the art of collision, begin taking steps to move forward. Date Night Topic: Talk about things you like your spouse to do that turn you on. Quote of the Week: "If you don't have a relationship with your spouse, and all your energy is poured into your kids, it's gotta be a pretty depressing day when your kids leave." —Garrett J White "I have to walk by damn near naked and be like, "We're open for business!" —Danielle K White dateyourwife.com, warriorgreens.com becomeaking.com, dkwstyling.com

It's no secret that the Date Your Wife Podcast doubles as a weekly therapy session for married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garret J White. This week during their candid conversation about the topic of parenting, fireworks are ignited as they each take a strong stance for their differing parenting tactics and strategies. *Episode Repeat from July 2018* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. PARENTING Point #1: Monster Mom, Monster Child Garrett spent this past week in Costa Rica on a surfing vacation, and Danielle and the girls flew to Utah to be with her parents for a few days. That first night deep in the jungle of Costa Rica, Garrett received a frantic and emotional text call from Baily, their eleven-year-old daughter, who was screaming and freaking out about her smashed cell phone. That night, he realized that at the end of the day, he had absolutely no control over what was happening over 3500 miles away in a different country. Danielle: At the same moment Garrett was having that realization, I was having the realization that there was nothing I could do, either. Bailey had flipped her lid and was totally irrational, to the point where anything I said escalated the situation on both sides. I started out calm, and then I got to the point where monster mom came out. I reminded her that she's eleven and is not entitled to a phone, and eventually grabbed her phone and threw it. I suddenly realized that monster mom created monster child. QUESTION What is your parenting strategy when your kids are behaving irrationally? Point #2: To Slap or Not to Slap Garrett: Danielle texted me and asked me what she should have done. I said, slap her, but she said no. "Breaking cell phones is a very expensive habit because every cell phone you break, you inevitably end up getting a new cell phone, and we just end up spending more money. Slap her, it's free, and a quick slap takes care of it all." Danielle: I remember being backhanded by my mom a few times. One time she did it so hard that I flew into the window and got a bloody nose. You want me to slap her, but the repercussions of being a pre-teen and having your mom or dad backhand you across the face cause far more scarring than throwing a cell phone. QUESTION What are your thoughts about slapping? Yes or no? Point #3: Cell Phone Family Plan Danielle: When Baily doesn't have her cell phone with her 24/7, she's more present. She has a tendency to get into her head. She worries about the wrong shit and gets sucked into the vortex. I think there's a lot of good that comes from Social Media, but there have to be boundaries, and there have to be limitations so there isn't this sense of entitlement. Tonight when we get home, we're going to create a cell phone contract with her. Garrett: I think the contract is a very good idea. I just think you need to be very clear about what you're going to put on the contract. You better be ready to enforce it, and you better know what the enforcement of the plan is, otherwise it's just going to be another one of those things that never happen. QUESTION Cell phones and kids – why or why not? Point #4: Different Parents, Different Strategies Garrett: As parents, we have radically different strategies for dealing with our children. I deal with life one way, Danielle deals with life another way. Part of what used to cause a lot of conflict was that we didn't know how to submit to what the other person was passionate about. For example, Danielle said that Baily told her to her face that she's a fucking bitch. I would slap her in the mouth. But Danielle's opposed to that and thinks it's super trashy. In my opinion, if our daughter calls Danielle a fucking bitch, she deserves to be slapped in the face. The end. Danielle's strategy is to ignore and wait until things blow up, then she deals with the chaos from that point on. I like to intercept shit and punch it before it becomes a major issue. This has created a lot of chaos for us as we raise our children because we have totally different strategies. QUESTION What are your parenting strategies? Point #5: Kings, Support Your Queens Garrett: Gentlemen, yes it's your job to lead in the house, but at the same time, your wife spends more time with your children. At the end of the day, although I may have opinions about how things should go on at home, she spends the most time with them and they've figured out their game. One of the worst things you can do is to fuck up their flow, even when it looks like complete insanity from the outside. Just support it. There's a shitload of disrespect in our country with kids in this age group who just don't give a shit. They talk shit to their parents, to adults, and to teachers. I don't necessarily have the answers, but here's what I do know: insid

*NEW EPISODE* The White's are back in the studio with a brand new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, fresh and on point in the style you have come to love! We learn what has been transpiring in their lives since the arrival of baby Isla, what postpartum life is like, why Danielle feels they should show themselves some grace, why Garrett referred to Danielle as Tom Brady the morning after their Anniversary, and much, much more. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Sex Point #1: The Miracle Nearly all parents can agree that the first few days and weeks of having a new baby in the house is a huge adjustment for everyone. This one investment has made all the difference and is what Garrett refers to as a life preserver. What is it? It's a Snoo. Adds Danielle, "It's a miracle. You zip the baby in so they can't wriggle out of their blanket, and it plays white noise while gently rocking them." QUESTION What gadgets have helped you with your newborn? Point #2: The Meltdown Garrett created the "Don't Be a Dick While Your Wife is Pregnant" challenge which he managed to pull off up until he fumbled on the second-yard line. "She's two weeks postpartum and something inside of me snaps. I am obsessed with sex and I get to this angry place." Danielle: You did the weird thing that makes a woman feel more guilty. Then I had a postpartum meltdown explosion. I was postpartum, mixed with newborn emotions, and my eyes and forehead were weeping in ways they never had. I bawled my eyes out for an hour with a lot of fuck you's in between. QUESTION What did you experience as a couple during the early postpartum days & weeks? Point #3: The Anniversary After their huge blowout, Danielle knew it was time for them to get back on track doing the things that worked for them in their relationship: this podcast, Date Nights, and Sex. She was beginning to feel more like a woman rather than an "Umpa Loompa" as she put on her makeup, pulled up her Spanx, and went out on a date with Garrett. She also realized that they needed to give themselves some grace. Garrett: We got back on track sexually, and then we had what I'm going to call the Quantum Night, Quantum standing for four – the Cuatro night. It's in my favorite files. I can put out imagery and live video footage – an hour of it. That was so amazing. That was the best ever! QUESTION What was it that brought you back on track sexually after the births of your babies? Point #4: The Green Light Does the woman initiate? Do they wait for the guy to initiate? What can she do to signal that the doors are open? What should he NEVER do if he wants to initiate sex? Men, if you're trying to get your wife in the mood and immediately start rubbing or slapping her butt, or go in for the boobs, THAT IS A HUGE TURN OFF! DON'T DO THAT! Instead, come to her and say something like, "Let me rub your shoulders." This works like a charm for most women. QUESTION What are the Red Lights and Green Lights inside of your sex life? Point #5: Sneak Preview Here's a sneak preview into the world of the White's and their respective businesses. Garrett: WARRIOR GREENS – Kitchen-style documentary on the history of Warrior Greens and how they support the conversation of CORE 4 for both men & women. BECOME A KING Series – The seven Pits and Power moves of married businessmen with children. Danielle: Creator of Natural Beaded Rows (NBR), Host of the Big Money Stylist Podcast, Hair Education (NBR & BMS), Hairline (ISLA), Ower of DKW Styling Salon. Go to dkwstying.com to find out more. QUESTION What are you creating in your lives either as a couple or individually? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about what keeps you on track as a couple. Date Night Topic: Come up with some unique-to-you Green Lights. Quote of the Week: "The game was a little rough. My brake pads were completely exhausted, and I was tearing apart my rotors with no brake pads. I didn't realize I had run out of runway. All of my will power and "white-knuckling it" was gone. Something shifted in my brain. The baby's out, the vagina's open for business, why am I still being rejected?" –Garrett J White "You gotta be the bigger person, ladies." –Danielle K White betheman.com, dkwstyling.com

*EPISODE REPEAT FROM OCTOBER 2018* On the heels of a fabulous weekend getaway to New York City, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about the importance of taking time away from their children and their day-to-day responsibilities, and reconnecting with each other as a couple on a deeper level. ______________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Sex Point #1: Weekend Getaways At least four times a year, Garrett and Danielle take long weekend trips to reset their relationship. Before Garrett began committing to these getaways, he was unable to see the ROI in them. For ten years, he had a difficult time reconciling spending money on any type of vacation. QUESTION When was the last time you and your spouse went on a weekend getaway? Point #2: Refresh and Unplug In the Strategic Coach program, Dan Sullivan created the Entrepreneur Time System. Inside of that, you have Focus Days, Buffer Days, and Free Days. When you go on weekend getaways, there are a couple of things that have to happen: 1- you must be able to refresh, and 2- you must be able to unplug. QUESTION What do you and your spouse do in order to come away refreshed from these getaways? Point #3: Can't vs Can You'll always find something that can get in the way of taking time away from the kids in order to be with each other: you don't have time, the conditions aren't right, it's either all or nothing. A lot of times, we focus on what we can't do instead of what we can do. If your marriage is in a rough place, it's even easier to justify why you can't do something. QUESTION What excuses can you clear away in order to make room for weekend vacations with your spouse? Point #4: Sexual Distance When Danielle feels like they're in a weird place, she thinks back to the time when they were dating. "What were the behaviors I was doing that I don't do anymore?" Garrett: If you have some distance sexually, it's very easy to get stuck in a routine where you start going through these phases: anticipation, desperation, fuck you, and apathy. QUESTION What are some things you did when you were dating that you're no longer doing? Point #5: Primal Connection If you don't get space away from your current environment, you can't return to the primal nature that actually connected you in the beginning. If you're not connecting regularly, you end up inside of a stale relationship where you're simply partners in the game, sans the lust and the primal connection. QUESTION What are you doing to retain and ignite the primal connection you felt when you first met and dated your spouse? Communication Challenge: Take a walk down memory lane and reminisce about the things you loved doing together when you first met and while you were dating. Date Night Topic: Get your calendars out and plan your weekend getaways for the next 12 months. Quote of the Week: "I'm constantly creating opportunities inside of our relationship to have space away with Danielle." –Garrett J White "Let's hit the reset button before it gets too far into the 'fuck you' mode." –Danielle K White betheman.com, dkwstyling.com

*REPEAT EPISODE FROM NOVEMBER 2018* As highly successful producers, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about their business growth, their goals for the upcoming year, and how they are going to simplify the game moving forward. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Cleaning House Danielle spent a portion of the year stepping outside of her business, watching it explode in growth, but at the same time, realizing she may have stepped out a little too far. The goal of 2019 inside of Wake Up Warrior is to unify the men, tighten up the game, and simplify it. QUESTION What areas of your life can you tighten up as we head into 2019? Point #2: The Money Game During the early years of their marriage, Danielle and Garrett were both working. Garrett was paying the bills and Danielle was stockpiling money. While Danielle's father paid the bills, her mother paid for their lifestyle. Garrett's parents had the agreement that his mom would stay home with the kids, which she wanted, and his father would pay the bills. QUESTION What role did your parents play in the money game when you were growing up? What role do you play? Point #3: Mommy Guilt Many women wonder how they can work because it will take time away from their kids. It's Danielle's belief that working makes women less crazy. Danielle: If you feel like you want to pursue those passions and talents of yours, do it. It's my belief that it makes you a different and a better person. QUESTION As a wife and mother, what would be possible for your life if you began pursuing some of your passions and talents outside of the home? Point #4: Different AND Equal Back in the day, the economic engine of life was the home where both the man and the woman were producers. Upon the arrival of the Industrial Revolution, a rift took place within the fabric of the home. The trend that Garrett sees happening inside of this conversation of money is that women are seeing themselves as a vital piece of the production game, and at the same time, they don't want to do it alone. QUESTION How do you view your roles as producers? Point #5: Power and Stress A lot of men begin to feel inadequate if their wives are working, and it's actually very frightening for them. They are weak men who get threatened by their wives having any kind of power. Garrett's goal and target is to always make 10x more than Danielle. Danielle: Garrett deserves to make ten times the amount I do because I'm not willing to take on that stress. QUESTION As a man, how are your feelings of inadequacy affecting your relationship with your wife? Communication Challenge: Have a discussion about your current roles inside of your marriage. What would you like to change as you move into 2019? Date Night Topic: What are your passions and desires as a couple? What would you like to do together in 2019? Get out your calendars and start making plans. Quote of the Week: "If a woman controls sex AND money, it leaves a guy in a very interesting place. He has to be very confident and certain as a man." —Garrett J White "Maybe I could have been the best damn version of me had I not worked, but In my experience, me working has made our relationship better." —Danielle K White

The topic of money is this week's conversation inside of the Date Your Wife podcast. The unique dynamics inside of a marriage relationship create a very difficult game for many couples when it comes to the sticky topic of money. *EPISODE REPLAY FROM SEP 2018* ________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Catch-22 Back in the day, Danielle hated Garrett because he was working so much. But she didn't hate the business because that's what was paying the bills. "I got to this place where I felt Garrett loved the business more than he loved me." Garrett: Men can control what happens in business more than they can control what happens at home. It's easier to be the King in business than it is to be the King at home. QUESTION Gentlemen, have you lost your crown? What are you going to do to get it back? Point #2: Split in Two Many women who out-produce their husbands are in this space of: How do I deal with my husband who is not being the man? I'm dominating him in business and trying to decide if I should get a divorce. Garrett: When a man allows his wife to split the bills, it splits his power and creates a bit of submission in a weird way. Men, at the primal level, must be okay with the stewardship and responsibility of "I must pay the bills independent of my wife." QUESTION How do you as a couple feel about this? Point #3: Wake-Up Call At one point in their marriage, Danielle hid how much money she was making. She split up her bank accounts to create a safety net for herself because she wasn't sure if their marriage was going to work out. When she got triggered about something, she revealed to Garrett that she had made $30k the previous month which served as a wake-up call in the form of a big two by four straight into his balls. QUESTION Ladies, why do you hide your money from your husband? Point #4: Show Me the Money, Honey There's an artist inside Danielle's Big Money Stylist network who is outproducing her husband in a massive way. "I love my husband and I want to be more sexual, but I'm just not attracted to him." Garrett: This is a sticky situation, and there's not a simple one-cut solution. When Danielle was making more money, her tolerance of behavior by me went down, and her desire to connect with me sexually also went down. QUESTION How is this dynamic affecting your marriage? Point #5: Friday Night Fights A recent fight between Danielle and Garrett would have been the end of their marriage a few years ago. But this time it compelled them and opened them up. Danielle: When your foundation is rocky and an explosion happens, it's hard to build that back up. Now, we can have a fight and come back and talk about it because our foundation is more solid. QUESTION What condition is the foundation of your marriage in? Communication Challenge: Gentlemen, I want you to have a conversation with your wife about the dynamics of money. What is the connection to the attraction for you and the money you're making or the lack of money you're making? If you're a man and not paying the bills, have that conversation with your wife and just see where it takes you. If you can get her to be honest with you, it may be the prompting that you need to ultimately rise. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about what you can do to create a stronger foundation inside of your relationship. What does that look like for both of you? Quote of the Week: "There are very few men on this planet who are actually ok with their wives out-fucking producing them. The girl owns the money card AND the vagina card. She owns the victory, the gina, and the money." –Garrett J White "When you weren't my money, you weren't my honey. When I hold all the control, there's no chemistry." –Danielle K White dkwstyling.com betheman.com

Married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garrett J White, share their experiences as they do their best to navigate their way through this life. This week, the topic of conversation is Communication. *EPISODE REPLAY FROM OCTOBER 2018* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Communication Point #1: Some Like it Hot Danielle attributes her direct communication to the fact that she's a Taurus. "They're actually sweet people, but if you set them off, you better get out of the fucking way." In marriage, she believes you have to use tact when you communicate with your partner. She usually runs questionable things through the 'dating filter' before she sends them to Garrett: "If we were dating, would I say this?" QUESTION How often do you find yourself running your communication through filters? Point #2: Don't Poke the Bear Garret: Once Danielle is face down in the pillow, and the dog is curled up at her feet, I am now encroaching into the evil lair of insanity. I go about my evening routine knowing that Danielle is in comatose mode. Danielle: Do you want to make love to your whiteboards, or do you want to make love to me? Just give me a little squeeze. If I respond, you're in luck; if I say nothing, you're shit out of luck. QUESTION What non-verbal signals and signs do you give to each other? Point #3: Feeling Wanted Garrett: There was a time I was unable to acknowledge to myself nor have a conversation with Danielle about the fact that sex was important to me. I was always indirect and hoping things would work out instead of directionally speaking to them. It was the same with my businesses. Danielle: I started to understand that in order to get what I wanted, we both had to feel wanted. Girls like and want sex, but I think it's more of being wanted, and having that attention and validation that my man is into me. QUESTION How do you make sure your partner feels wanted by you? Point #4: Direct Communication Garrett: Part of the conversation in our home is that we talk directly with each other, as well as in front of our children. Our kids have very strong opinions about things, and they use very powerful language. I used to steer clear of direct communication in our marriage, particularly on the topic of sex, because I just did not know how to get over my story of feeling rejected and my pain of feeling so. QUESTION In what areas of your life do you have a challenge with direct communication? Point #5: Running Man Garrett: I had given myself permission for a very long time to allow our relationship to be on eggshells, mostly because I literally couldn't commit to much and I was always in a place where I was ready to bail. About two years ago, a shift took place inside of Garrett causing the back door to completely disappear. Danielle noticed huge results after Garrett finally gave himself permission to commit and go all in. QUESTION What level of commitment do you have inside your marriage? Communication Challenge: Inside of your relationship, where are you avoiding direct conversations? How is this impacting your marriage? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about this topic: In order to get what I want, we both have to feel wanted. Quote of the Week: "Commitment itself is the bridge or gateway to actual direct communication. If you're not committed to your marriage, or to the person you're married to, direct communication cannot happen." –Garrett J White "As we set our relationship up for success, it impacts so many other areas of our life, including the example we set for our children." –Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Parenting Point #1: Morning Chaos Garrett describes their eleven-year-old daughter as a morning psychopath. She sets her alarm to go off up to nine times every morning just so she can wake up and get out of bed. Their seven-year-old daughter is very much into routines. It's almost as if she goes into auto-pilot in the morning and is good to go as long as everything is set up perfectly for her in advance. QUESTION How are your children similar? How are they different? Point #2: Unsolicited Advice Garrett is very committed as a parent to teaching the 'right' thing to his children. He's had people reach out to him offering unsolicited advice about their parenting styles. Danielle: Everybody is super judgy about parenting styles, and at some level, every parent feels like they have fucked up their kids. QUESTION How do you handle unsolicited advice when it comes your way? Point #3: I Love You No Matter What If Danielle had to choose only one thing to teach their children, it would be accountability coupled with love. "If you could embed accountability and love into a kid, I think that would solve the world's problems." Years ago, Garrett began telling his daughters, "I love you, no matter what." No matter what they do or say, he told them he will always love them. QUESTION If, as a parent, you could only teach your children one thing, what would that be? Point #4: Boxes and Checklists Just like in education, there's a box that people try to put their kids into of 'this is what it looks like to be successful." And anything that doesn't fit inside that box, they consider inaccurate or not right. For most parents, they're always trying to get it "right" with their children, so they always feel guilty. And because they never get it 'right' based on a checklist that never ends, they don't focus on the actual belief systems they want to instill in their children. QUESTION How are you keeping your children inside a box? Point #5: Core Beliefs Garrett: You can teach your kids all kinds of tactics, but what are the important mindsets and skillsets that you 'should' teach your children? There are plenty of people who know how to do the dishes, yet are unable to produce in life. I'm convinced that what people actually learn as children and what they take into their adult life is driven by the values and beliefs their parents instill in them, both by what they say and by what they watch their parents do. QUESTION What are the core beliefs that you are brainwashing your kids to believe that are empowering them as people? Communication Challenge: What are the actual belief systems that matter to you, and that you are instilling in your children? What are the beliefs about themselves and the world that you are consciously depositing into them? Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, have a conversation about how you want your children to remember your interaction and love connection as a couple. Quote of the Week: "I was blown away when I got married at how horrifically unprepared I was to be a married man." –Garrett J White "She's not mine to manipulate and control. I'm there to guide and lead her; to show up and do the best I can as a parent." –Danielle K White

Grab some popcorn, folks, and get ready for another off the charts episode of the always spicy and highly entertaining Date Your Wife podcast, featuring the refreshing "tell it like it is" co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White. They're at it once again as they delve into Garrett's self-proclaimed favorite topic of Sex. Danielle calls Garrett out on his creepy strip shows in his weird thong and invites him to become more comfortable with his sexuality, and Garrett says he doesn't want empty sex – aka vaginal masturbation. Fan favorites Quickie Quickie Porn Star and TTF are back in the mix, and there's a new arrival on the scene: Slip 'n Slide. *EPISODE REPLAY FROM MARCH OF 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Sexy Seduction 101 Being sexy is as simple as walking around in a new bra and underwear while casually asking, "Have you seen my toothbrush?" Garrett suggests saving money by skipping the bra and just buying the panties. Sometimes it's a 'top-stays-on-bottom-comes-off' kind of night. Other times, it's an everything comes off, keep the lights on and do a little dancing around kind of night. Most women need a little wining and dining before the main course. Take her there just a little bit and then worry about yourself. QUESTION How have QQPS (Quickie Quickie Porn Star) and TTF (Touch Me-Tell Me-Fuck Me) become game-changers in your marital sex life? Point #2: Sex Therapy Is Not About Sex Throughout their marriage, Danielle had never felt there was a safe space to talk about sex with Garrett, making it awkward for her to even bring up. She found herself starting to believe his story about her that she didn't want to have sex. Sex therapy for the White's yields the single greatest breakthrough for Garrett after Danielle divulges a piece of information that instantly shreds a story he created during his first marriage and brought with him into theirs. Garrett creates a new story which shifts and rocks their world. QUESTION Men: What is your sexual story? Point #3: The Perfect Storm As a 15-year-old Mormon teen who has been raised that sex before marriage is taboo, Garrett divulged to his parents his plan to have sex with his 18-year-old girlfriend after the upcoming Prom. He immediately gets shipped away to live with his grandparents in Utah for a couple of months, and as a result, never has a conversation about it or closure with his girlfriend whom he has been dating for a year and is madly in love with. Garrett dates his first wife under the umbrella that says sexual relations are taboo before marriage. Yet, they fool around and have sexual relations, lie about it to their religious leaders, adding to the guilt and shame created when he was 15. Sex in his marriage with Danielle becomes problematic, as Garrett carries into it this brewing cesspool of guilt, shame, and pain, while Danielle, because of her Mormon upbringing, feels like she has to stifle the sexual feelings that come naturally to her. QUESTION How has your upbringing shaped and influenced your attitude, beliefs, and stories about sex? Point #4: Written in the Stars In her astrological studies, Danielle is validated by her discoveries that, as a Taurus woman, she is very sensual, loves cuddling, and is very happily satisfied with her traditional approach to sex because a good thing never gets old. She's been changing it up with QQPS, which Garrett loves. Communication for Gemini's is huge, and they love to be emotionally stimulated more than anything else. Garrett realized that he had gotten so disrespectful as a husband and exposes the lie that all he wanted was someone to have sex with every day. What has exploded their sex life is their connection to truth. QUESTION What is written in the stars about you individually that resonates with you, that can serve you and your spouse in your marriage? Point #5: Your Story is Your Biggest Problem Garrett: I didn't know what our relationship would be if we weren't always arguing about having sex. Danielle: I was fearful and wondering if we have a new story, does that mean we have a new story with somebody else? There was a lot of action and collision that had to happen, which were really a pursuit of truth underneath the surface of all the lies that we were telling, which came in two forms: the blatant lies we were telling and the stories that we started to believe. Your stories are powerful enough to convert your husband or wife to believe. QUESTION What are the lies that the collision in your marriage is trying to uncover? Communication Challenge: What is your sexual story? Do the investigation on your own about your own story, and then in a conversation with your spouse, share your results with them. Date Night Topic: On your date night, be open to having a

*PODCAST REPLAY* Today we're going to share with you an intense, potent and powerful interview with Danielle at the Warrior Empire event in December 2016. It was the first time Danielle took to the stage where she talked about what it's like to be a woman married to a man living the Warrior's Way. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: When a Wife Fights the Change Her Husband Wants to Make In the beginning, Danielle was completely against how Garrett was showing up. He was going to self-help seminars and making her feel guilty for not going with him. He continued challenging her, which caused her to reevaluate who she was and who she wanted to become. Danielle: Put yourself in your wife's shoes. If she started implementing change, how would you react? People, in general, don't like change because it's scary. From a wife's perspective, you can't overwhelm her, but rather lead by example in the same way you would lead children. QUESTION Gentlemen, what is the way you initiate growth and change in your partner? Point #2: Choosing In There came a time when Danielle had to choose to be all in for herself AND their marriage. Garrett was moving in the direction he was going, and he was committed over time to a specific path. At the same time, they were trying to recover from chaos as a couple. Danielle: I felt that both of us were fighting and neither of us was ready to give up. We were both not necessarily choosing in, but we weren't out and were still very much connected. All it takes is that little piece of connection to rekindle and to rebuild. QUESTION How can you "choose in" to your marriage everyday to keep the flame burning or to rekindle a fading flame? Point #3: Sex and Marriage It's all about give and take. You have to play the role a little bit and let go of your ego. In order to build that sexual chemistry that seems to leave after you get married, think about the feeling you had when you were dating and do what you did back then: you got your car washed, you got a new pair of shoes, you planned the date, you were flirty. How did sex therapy help us? I felt like I could say what I was thinking without worrying about upsetting Garrett. Having a therapist is like having a sounding board where it's immediately less triggering for both sides. That being said, Garrett got triggered at one point during a session and jumped up and did pushups because he was so pissed. QUESTION What do you do to keep the sexual chemistry strong in your relationship? Point #4: Collision Danielle: Whether the wife works or not, when couples grow, the wife goes into this "I can do everything" mode where it seems kind of masculine. It's actually more cold and calculated where we don't come across as very feminine, but instead, we're in focus mode trying to get shit done. Garrett: Gentlemen, the more you encourage your wife to change, the more she will rise in power, and the more collisions are going to take place. As Danielle has risen in power as a creator and a producer, her masculinity has also risen, so there's this collision that exists inside of her. Sometimes the collision we experience is not as lovers or as a couple, but instead as two masculine energies colliding. QUESTION What happens when you collide with your spouse? Point #5: Living the Warrior's Way Danielle: I'm addicted to the high of growing where it makes me feel like comfortable is no longer an option. Progressing as a person is now a high for me. How can I stay where I am when the sky's the limit? Where things were once scary and chaotic in our life and relationship, we're now in a much healthier space. I look at where we are now and the only thing I feel is gratitude, humility, and excitement. If this has happened in the last five years, what's going to happen in the next five years? I get glimpses of the future sometimes and I'm like, "Oh shit, that's so cool!" QUESTION How have you and your spouse changed as a direct result of living the Warrior's Way? Communication Challenge: Take some time to have a conversation around this idea of collision. How can you use this tool to better serve your relationship? Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, take a trip down memory lane and talk about what you both used to do in the early days of your dating and start implementing those things to rekindle and ignite the flame of sexual chemistry between you. Quote of the Week: "Once men experience Warrior, they become more invested in their children, which produces a new kind of chaos while they figure out how to balance this with their role as a husband, and as a hunter and provider." —Garrett J White "No matter who you're with, you're going to have problems. With Garrett and I, it made more sense to rebuild our relationship th

Being married can be a complete shit show AND amazing... all at the same time! While most marriages end up in sedation, disconnection and/or divorce, Garrett and Danielle have committed to creating something a little bit better than that and a bit more fun. Join them in this week's podcast that doubles as their very own therapy session as they engage in a conversation about the all-important topic of communication. * This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode from May 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Less Roommate, More Spark You can be comfortable with somebody and respect them, and maybe you don't fight, and things are generally good, but there's no spark. Your idea of a night out is coming home from a long day at work, throwing on your sweats and watching Netflix together…and then you wonder what happened to that spark you used to feel. Date Night is one of the ways the sparks continue to fly between Danielle and Garrett. Danielle loves getting all dressed up for Date Night and treats it like an actual date like she did during their pre-marriage days. She inspired Garrett to level up his game from his go-to flannel shirt to his now custom-tailored design jackets. QUESTION When was the last time the two of you dressed up and stepped out on the town together? How did it make you feel? Point #2: Sugar 'n Spice Garrett: Inside the communication game, people sometimes think that it's the spice they're trying to get rid of. When I define spice, I'm talking about arguments, disagreements, giggling, laughing, joking, having fun, getting angry at each other, fighting, battling, debating, having crucial conversations – it's everything! Danielle: There's a lot of spice in our marriage, and we collide a lot with our personalities – both in good ways and in ways where we piss each other off. Spice, for me, is "I fucking hate you," which turns into "I fucking love you." QUESTION How do you keep your marriage fresh and spicy? Point #3: Love Notes Making daily deposits into your family's life is part of living the Warrior's Way, which is part of something called the CORE 4. Men typically don't know how to communicate their feelings and don't send love messages to their wives, which Garrett believes many women would love receiving from their husbands. While Danielle acknowledges the daily texts from Garrett, her love language is found more in spending quality time together with him, like doing these podcasts or going on Date Nights. She sends texts of encouragement when she senses he's having a stressful day, which messages Garrett loves receiving as part of his love language. QUESTION What are your thoughts about giving or receiving love notes? Point #4: Give and Take Garrett: In my world, I had to learn that it was ok to buy my wife shit. It was a very hard thing for me, and I questioned how buying gifts for her made me more valuable as a husband. Danielle: Because I can buy my own things, I felt like I had to submit and let Garrett buy me gifts, which is one of my love languages. I wanted him to be the man, yet at first, I wasn't allowing space for him to do that. QUESTION Why are you stopping your spouse from giving you what you say you want to receive from them? Point #5: Dance With Me Garrett: As you can tell, we're still working on this, which is the ability actually to communicate with and understand the language of our partner. Inside of that, we get to choose to do two things: 1- appreciate the love language they receive in, and 2-learn to give the love language that the people we're married to want to receive. QUESTION What does your daily dance of communication look like? Communication Challenge: Danielle: Garrett needs to be told, "I love you," but my communication style is different. How about you? Is your communication style verbal or silent? What about your spouse's? Do you think one is wrong and one is right? Date Night Topic: For women, what is your husband's love language, and how can you cross the line a little bit for him? For men, how can you cross the line a little bit for your wife? Quote of the Week: "I'm essentially making love to the ocean because she accepts me every morning." —Garrett J White "We'll argue about a topic, and one of us has to reach over to the other side and reciprocate eventually. You have to cross the line in order to make it a little more peaceful in your home." —Danielle K White

Welcome to a brand new episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast! The White's are back after the recent birth of baby Isla, and in classic White style, share stories and details of their birth experience. As a bonus, we get a recommendation from Garrett for his new favorite breakfast burrito and a surprise prediction. Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Change of Plans In the final weeks leading up to baby Isla's birth, Danielle began experiencing some health issues, which ultimately led to an early inducement and delivery. "I always had this intuitive feeling that she would come a little early." Danielle had considered doing a natural birth due to the not so great experiences with epidurals during her previous two births. But with the Pitocin speeding up and magnifying the contractions, she opted for an epidural at the eleventh hour. However, it only reached mid-thigh, which made it possible for Danielle to feel the intense pain and ebb & flow of each contraction. QUESTION What types of births have you and your spouse experienced? Point #2: ISLA Hand-tied Hairline With 48 hours to come up with a name for her new hand-tied hairline, Danielle decided to name it after their daughter, Isla. "Most people think we named the baby after the hairline, but it was the other way around." "It was so ironic that Isla came out with this super amazing hair that's super thick, platinum blonde. It's so cute! She's so teeny and has the full head of hair!" QUESTION Were your babies born with or without hair? Point #3: Skin-to-Skin Garrett is celebrating the fact that he did not pass out as he did with their second baby. "I stood there like a champion holding Danielle's left leg throughout labor. She didn't even know I was in the room, yet there I was holding the left leg amidst the most intense, fierce pushing I have seen from my wife." "Watching my wife naturally go through contractions was a new experience for me, not to mention the experience immediately following the birth. Instead of the nurses whisking Isla away, the doctor held Isla in front of me and said, "Congratulations, dad. kiss her. He then placed Isla on Danielle's bare chest." QUESTION What has changed with the births of each of your babies? Point #4: Grand Production Danielle is recovering really well and has to remind herself to take it easy. "I love the newborn, snuggly phase, but I also love staying busy and active. I'm trying to soak it all in because I know how fast it goes." It's been eight years since their last birth and one of the things Danielle had forgotten about which is causing some frustration is how long it takes to get out of the house with a newborn, and how big of a production it is. QUESTION What is your favorite "baby stage?" Point #5: Another Baby in the Forecast? When asked by Garrett if there was another baby in their future, Danielle replied, "I don't want to commit. Don't get snipped on me or anything, but I can't commit to closing the door AND I can't commit to having another baby either." Garrett: Before Baby Isla came out, Danielle said, "I'm done." But mark my words. By the time Isla is about six years old, Danielle's going to want a secondary friend for Isla. My prediction is, Danielle has another baby at age 40." QUESTION When did you know it was time to have another baby or when it was time to stop? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the different types of birth options available. Date Night Topic: "To have more or not to have more, that is the question." In a twist from a classic Shakespearian line, what are your thoughts about adding family members? How do you come to an agreement? Quote of the Week: "To sit and look at my daughter on my wife's chest was amazing! And getting to kiss her right away was amazing! It was so much more intimate, so much more spiritual, so much more connected than any of the other three children's births." –Garrett J White "I don't commit to a lot because once I do, I'm 120% in; this WILL go down. When I commit, I know I'm going to follow through 100%." —Danielle K White

Communication is the topic in this week's Date Your Wife episode where Danielle and Garrett discuss growth, conflict & collision, and how we all take on different characters and play different roles in our relationships. Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Communication Point #1: Activate the Gremlin Danielle is the owner of DKW Styling Salon and has created a hair extension system called Natural Beaded Rows. She and her team are basking in the afterglow of their most recent three-day convention, where they hosted 350 students eager to learn Danielle's system. Garrett: A comment came in from an associate of ours who was at the convention. "You know, Danielle is like a gremlin – cuddly, nice, sweet, and fun. And when you pour a little water on it and out comes the beast. I watched Danielle speak and train as I have never before seen her. Her Gremlin was activated." QUESTION What causes the Gremlin in you to activate? Point #2: Characters & Roles Garrett: As human beings, we take on many different roles and characters. Inside of marriage, we are required to create and master a diverse number of them. Danielle: In business, a true professional knows when to use each character in the different roles they are required to take on. As women, we have to know when to wear the work hat, when to wear the mom hat, and when to wear the wife and lover hat. QUESTION What are the different characters and roles you take on in your marriage? Point #3: Growing At Different Speeds Danielle: When we lost everything, and Garrett was trying to discover himself, I was always telling him, "just figure it out." He would want to share and connect with me, and when I didn't want to, he felt I wasn't growing. I decided I wasn't going to worry about what Garrett was doing, but instead, work on myself and stay in my own lane. Garrett: We grow at different speeds and at different times. This changes our roles and makes communication difficult. The challenge becomes staying in your own lane. When you're trying to communicate, and you're both in two totally different places, it can be challenging. QUESTION How do you handle growing at different speeds within your marriage? Point #4: Choice vs Force Garrett: I got to the point where my power and my path were going to be about choosing me and choosing the path that I wanted -and inviting Danielle to come along with me. "This is where I'm going. I would like you to come with me, but if you don't want to come, that's okay, I'm still going to go." The more I took that stand, the better our communication became inside of our relationship. Danielle: I felt so much better when it became more about me getting to choose rather than feeling like you were forcing or dragging me. If you go to an event that's all about self-help or self-awareness, you don't want to come home to your spouse and say, "By the way, you're broken, and you should probably come with me and get fixed." QUESTION Are you more likely to force or to encourage choice in your relationships? Point #5: The Control Factor Garrett: I'll have you consider that the worst thing that could ever exist inside of a relationship is where there is no collision in communication. Collision must happen, and inside of that, control must, at times, be surrendered. Danielle: To ultimately get what you want, you have to choose your battles. Sometimes when we're fighting, and realize we're on the same team, we let it go, calm it down, and then revisit that conversation at a later time. QUESTION How do you handle collision in your relationship? Communication Challenge: How do you handle and resolve conflict in your marriage? Date Night Topic: What are you committed to as a couple in the area of growth? Quote of the Week: "When you're growing, and your partner may not be growing at the same speed, you have to stay committed to what you want, move forward, and invite them into the picture." —Garrett J White "Learn how to communicate with your partner in that safe zone." —Danielle K White

In this new and refreshing episode of the "Podcast by the Pool" aka the Date Your Wife podcast, today's topic comes as a result of a recent comment posted in response to a marketing piece on Garrett's social media and sparks an important conversation about taking ownership of where you are in life…no matter where that is. We also get a little pregnancy update as the White's enter the final stretch. To see what Garrett and Danielle are up to professionally, be sure to check out dkwstyling.com or betheman.com. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Communication Point #1: Own It A recent comment on Garrett's social media prompted today's topic of serving and playing at your level, no matter what it is, and not be ashamed of where you're at, regardless of where that is. You see people with money trying to hide and play humble, and then you have others who don't have things on lockdown but pretend that they do. It's the inability to own where you are at any given time. Garrett: Look at the crazy dynamic of this. In your relationship, you're not where you want to be, so you lie to everyone about where you are, pretending you're something you 're not. Then, you get somewhere that's legit, and you feel weird about being there, so you lie about where you are and try to downplay it. QUESTION Where in your world do you pretend to be something or someone you're not? Point #2: Lambo Be Gone Garrett has had conversations with about five businessmen who have bought a Lamborghini because it's always been something they've wanted. But once they had it, they felt so uncomfortable about what people were saying to them and the attention they were drawing that they ended up selling their car. Garrett: So you get to a place where you've created the success and produced something inside of your world, but then you start apologizing for it. You're at the bottom and trying to up-play; you're at the top and trying to downplay. When the fuck are you going to accept who you are? QUESTION As you look inside your world, where do you tend to make decisions based on other people's opinions about you rather than having confidence in your own choices? Point #3: Just the Facts The White's have experienced both ends of the spectrum, both in their finances and in their marriage. Inside of being at the bottom end of the spectrum, it's difficult to own where you are and to be honest about it. Garrett: Your greatest access to power inside of yourself and inside of marriage is to actually be honest about where you are. But the vast majority of society right now is filled with this idea that you can't be ok with where you are, and that you have to constantly pose yourself to be something that you're not. QUESTION When is the last time you were truly honest about the facts of your life? Point #4: Sexual Desert Garrett: At 43, I'm at a different level. I'm more mature and I've learned to deal with myself in a totally different way than the previous pregnancies. But…I'm getting a little nervous. We've created a new routine that is obviously warranted because of the baby, but I get nervous as a guy. What if it (our sexual life) never comes back? Danielle: Pregnancy and sex are awkward for both the guys and the girls. When you're pregnant, you literally have another human growing inside of you and you're kind of operating at 65% capacity. You're trying to be sexy, but everything is more awkward. I'm not really concerned about the next chapter once I've recovered and healed…and I'm excited to be back to myself again! QUESTION How have you and your spouse handled the 'sexual desert' during pregnancies? Point #5: Taking Risks Garrett: There's a piece inside all of us that has to make a decision, and it's a decision that has to be made every day – several times a day. It's a decision to rise and to build. But most individuals and couples aren't willing to take the risks necessary. You've got to be willing to take a risk. And the first risk you've got to take is being honest with yourself. Danielle: You have to get a little uncomfortable. You have to be willing to change or do something different. And some of those things might not be for you but for your man – and he's going to have to cross the table and do the same thing for you. It might not be something you normally would do but ultimately, it will serve you both and strengthen your relationship. QUESTION When was the last time you took a risk as both an individual and as a couple? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about taking risks and what that looks like for you inside your marriage. Date Night Topic: How to navigate the Sexual Desert during pregnancy is this week's Date Night topic. Bounce ideas off each other and truly get honest with how you each feel. Quote of the Week

Today's conversation with Garrett and Danielle is about the topic of Money and the important role it plays in your relationship. *This is a previously aired episode from April 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Men Must Produce When you make enough money to put your family into abundance, there's a shift in the way that you see yourself as a man and a shift in the way you see your relationship. It also affects the way your wife sees you. Generally, women want to be taken care of. Even if we can produce, we still want our man to 'be the man' and take care of us. A man is sexier to a woman when he's the one producing. QUESTION Does this ring true for you as a couple? Point #2: Money is a Tool Garrett: Inside of our relationships, money sits at the core. It allows you to do so much shit as a couple or it constrains you to do so much shit as a couple. We have friends who celebrate their success and use it as a tool to inspire other people to create more, and then we have other friends who simply hide it all and pretend like they're broke. Danielle: There was a period of about five years where we were experiencing rapid growth and we disconnected ourselves from people. I had surface relationships and felt like I was kind of guarding myself. What I've come to realize now is that I can have relationships with everyone – it's just a matter of me being comfortable with me. QUESTION Are you living in a scarcity mindset while being surrounded by your wealth? Point #3: You Must Leap In 2009 after I had lost everything, I was offered a job from a friend at a very crucial time for me when I didn't have a lot of belief in myself. I was terrified as a husband and as a producer and had lost all confidence in myself. There came a pivotal moment when I realized my life was in the balance and something in my soul said, "You must fucking leap!" Danielle: When we were dating, I saw Garrett for who he was and who he could become. I knew there were great things in store for him. So when I saw him selling out, I was so upset because I knew what he was capable of doing and becoming so much more. QUESTION Where in your life have you settled? Point #4: Don't Settle Garrett: One of the greatest gifts my wife has given to me about money is that she rode my ass about it. My wife helped me see that being driven by the money is not about being driven by the money. As you get better and better at making money as a man inside of marriage, inside of that place it forces you to become a new man. Danielle: I think that people play it safe in life in fear of failure. If I leap and I fall on my face, then there are consequences; but if I just stay in the safe zone, then I can just ride this out forever. If you're listening to this and you're feeling a stab in the heart to take action in your life, do it. QUESTION Where in your life are you feeling the call to take a leap of faith? Point #5: Team Work Garrett: There are a lot of you here who need to rise. Danielle and I work as a team to push each other. There are times she wants to settle into her little comfortable cocoon and then I kick her straight out of the cocoon, I rip it open and throw her off the cliff. And she does the same for me. Danielle: You can produce way more as a couple if you can get on the same page of experiencing more growth together. If you can take those experiences of who you are as a couple and make them work, two is better than one, at least in my experience for us. We push each other in that way. QUESTION What is your dance as a couple in the way you support each other's growth? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation as a couple and allow yourself to collide and dream. Sit down and set a target of a game that you could create together. Who can you become as a couple economically? Who can you become as a producer individually or collectively? What would it require for you to become to pull that off? Date Night Topic: Give yourself some credit for where you are. Challenge yourself on your Date Night to have a conversation about possibility or collision. Either one of these paths will lead you to a new position and possibility inside of your life. Quote of the Week: "My money is a reflection of my ability to produce and create value in the marketplace. So I produce and I create more not for the target of having money, but rather we are in this place of a desire to become more, and inside of that we use money production as a way to accelerate that." —Garrett J White "Be you at every level." —Danielle K White

The White's have a conversation about the last stages of pregnancy and feedback inside of marriage. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Am I Really Waddling That Much? With four weeks to go until the arrival of baby Isla (at the time of this recording), the White's have entered the home stretch…and Danielle's really feeling it. "These last three to four weeks seem like a lifetime and I am literally counting the days." On their recent dinner & movie Date Night, an older man took one look at Danielle and remarked, "Wow! Are you due any day? Don't have the baby in the theater!" She has a few choice words for people who make comments to pregnant ladies when they are obviously close to delivery: fuck off! QUESTION Ladies, what are some of the things people asked you when you were in the pregnancy home stretch? Point #2: Guys Are Clueless When it comes to pregnancy, guys are pretty much clueless and clearly, they don't know what to say when they see a pregnant lady. "I think guys are just trying to say something nice or funny when they make a remark like "don't have the baby in the theatre." Danielle: The only thing you can say to a pregnant girl is, "How are you feeling? Looks great, you're almost there. That's appropriate." Garrett tries to be supportive but he looks at Danielle with concerned eyes, a furrowed brow, and a face that says "Oh, that looks so awful…are you ok?" QUESTION Men, how do you support your wife when she's pregnant? Point #3: Erection in the Desert This pregnancy adventure has opened up the way for the White's to have a conversation about bringing two books to the marketplace with working titles Etiquette For a Pregnant Lady, and What to Expect When You're Expecting – Penis Edition. Garrett: "The more I talk about this topic, the more I believe that this is the window. If I was ever going to do it, it's gotta happen now because I believe this will be our last baby." According to Danielle, Garrett's would be a four-page book. But Garrett begs to differ. QUESTION Ladies, what are some of the things your husband has had to sacrifice during your pregnancies Point #4: Snoogle, Belly Edition During sex, Garrett says he's been sucking in his abs to make room for the baby, something Danielle has been noticing and thinks is really weird. Garrett sees it as "I'm offering support like a Snoogle, belly edition, while you're having sex with me." During the last several weeks of pregnancy, a lot of men think that having sex falls into this weird, awkward, extraterrestrial territory. They're trying not to hurt the baby (even though that is absolutely not possible), and they also want to create a comfortable space for their wives. But it usually backfires. QUESTION How do you and your spouse handle sex during the final few weeks of pregnancy? Point #5: Balls of Steel According to Garrett, a wife is one of the few people in a man's life who can speak to a man in a way that no one else can. "They have all the data and so they can jab straight into a guy's balls. What's gotta happen over time is that your balls have to become steel. She's refining you and getting you to a place of power." Danielle: "My intent is never to go after the jugular or land a straight shot to the balls; it's more out of wanting to help Garrett. Yet a lot of times, I'll be missing all the facts and details and will state my opinion which can come across as a naggy know-it-all or as an attack on Garrett, which isn't my intent." QUESTION What is the state of communication with your spouse? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about feedback inside of your marriage. Date Night Topic: What have been the conditions and results from light bulb moments or major shifts inside of your marriage? Quote of the Week: "Part of the role that your wife plays in your life is the ability to be the "critical bitch." Her job is to criticize and your job is to reframe criticism into a place of hey listen, my wife is simply jabbing at the king to wake the fuck up." —Garrett J White "I think you have to come to this place inside of your marriage where you can take something that is meant to nag or antagonize you, and flip it so it becomes beneficial rather than something that will destroy." —Danielle K White

It's never a dull moment with the White's in this week's edgy and spicy Date Your Wife podcast on the topic of Communication, as they delve into the world of Astrology and Natal Charts, revealing startlingly accurate and sometimes surprising traits about each other. At times their entertaining and flirtatious banter delivers jabs akin to a highly competitive sparring match. *This is a previously aired episode from March 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Understanding Trumps Assumption During their recent vacation, Danielle found herself completely submerged in the world of Astrology, studying personality and compatibility traits of both she and Garrett. What has taken Garrett fifteen years to discover about himself, Danielle has been able to figure out in ten minutes while lying on the gorgeous beaches of Maui sipping a Margareta. Danielle: I'm just trying to figure out how we operate, why we do the things we do, and what makes us tick. With communication specifically, that's what triggers people. You can say something that will trigger a person if you don't have an understanding of who they are, where they're coming from, or what their intentions are. QUESTION How does having an understanding of your spouse's modus operandi influence the way you communicate with them? Point #2: Is Your Relationship Account Overdrawn? Garrett has been working late every night and Danielle wants to spend more time with him, which she recently communicated to him. He has been wanting her to communicate her feelings more often to him, but once she did, Garrett flipped it into an argument. A text and audio battle ensued. Garrett: Part of the problem is you don't make any deposits in my account and tell me I'm doing a great job, which is very important for me. I feel like you are starving me. Danielle: I've come to realize that communication is very important to you and that you always need tons of validation, tons of communication, and tons of praise. QUESTION When was the last time you made a deposit in your relationship account? Point #3: Can You Outsource Your Love Language? When our gas tanks are low, we have zero desire to fill up each other's gas tanks. We start to drift and become strangers in the night, and the next thing you know we're talking divorce. This was always our pattern. I was giving her what I wanted to receive instead of what she wanted and needed to receive, and vice versa. Garrett realized when he sends a love note to Danielle, it's because he wants to receive love notes. Danielle: Can I have someone else write love notes to you? Garrett: You want to outsource your love? Ok, you go outsource it and send me a daily gdamn love letter. And I'll outsource a guy to show up and sit on the couch and just sit there while you put your legs on him. QUESTION How has understanding each other's Love Languages improved the way you communicate? Point #4: Respect is Like Peanut Butter Danielle: I think we have a lot of respect for each other and recognize how hard we have worked to get where we are. Even though we might not think the same, we have the same intentions and goals. I've realized I am never going to get you to see the world the way I see it. And I need to just accept that. Garrett: I think we have the same energy and drive. But we definitely don't agree on everything and that's okay. Part of being able to course correct comes down to respect. It's the ability to not have to agree on everything, and the respect is what takes you through, not love. QUESTION Do you feel like you must agree on everything in order to have a healthy, thriving marriage? Why or why not? Point #5: Collision is Inevitable Danielle: My advice for women when you want to share something with your man is to approach him in a way where you can actually have a safe conversation and express your feelings without things going south. Frame the conversation so that it is coming from the heart and not the head, and frame it in a way that you can actually get past your shit. Garrett: Here's my suggestion for the guys: The better you know yourself, the better you can communicate with your wife what you want and what you don't want. QUESTION How do you handle collision? Communication Challenge: Be open to the possibility of doing some research about yourselves in some new places, and then have some fun talking about what you discover. Here are some suggestions for you: astrowow.com, kolbe.com, colorcode.com Date Night Topic: On your Date Night this week, have a conversation about what it is you actually want. Quote of the Week: "I've been studying something called the Natal Chart which is a tool I use within my Soul Purpose Blueprint. What I know about Gemini's is that we run the Universe and we are

A picture-perfect sunset by the sea is the backdrop for this week's Date Your Wife podcast with married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White. We discover why Danielle has stepped away from her salon earlier than anticipated and what that has to do with Garrett overcoming his aversion to needles. The topics of sex during pregnancy, surrogacy, and favoritism are also part of today's conversation. This episode is all about life transitions and how the entire White clan is doing their part to make this transition as smooth and as seamless as possible. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Change of Plans At the time of recording this episode, Danielle is 33 weeks pregnant with seven weeks to go until the arrival of their daughter, Isla. A visit to the ER reveals some news that requires Danielle to alter her plans for the next seven weeks. "I stopped working a little bit earlier than anticipated, and I'm just trying to take it easy. But mentally, it's a little bit torturous. Yesterday, I went to CVS, and I'm literally standing in line chatting with a bunch of eighty-year-olds while I wait for my prescription and look for compression socks." QUESTION Where in your world have new circumstances required you to alter your original plans? Point #2: Letting Go While at the ER, Danielle was on the phone conducting business with her team members finalizing details of a huge event coming up. When her lead trainer caught wind of where Danielle was and what she was doing, her message to Danielle was, "Let go!" Danielle: "There comes a point where your health is involved that puts things into perspective. I need to slow down, I need to let go, and I need to trust that my teams have this. Sometimes in life, we have to understand that people may not always do things as you would, but we have to give them the opportunity to rise." QUESTION Inside your world, where has the 'letting go' opened up your world and given people inside of your life the opportunity to rise? Point #3: Favorites Bailee, the White's twelve-year-old daughter, makes a guest appearance on the show and adds her two-cents when it comes to baby Isla possibly being the "favored" child. "I'm really good with babies, but I already know the main focus is going to be on the baby… and Ruby's gonna have a tantrum about that. You can already tell Isla is the favorite. She has a hair brand named after her and she has her own cool room with everything new." QUESTION What are your experiences with the "favored child syndrome?" Point #4: The Sex Game Garrett brought up the fact that there's not a manual for the guys when it comes to having a pregnant wife. Men have a lot of questions and go through transitions of their own during this time. "The moment this is brought up," Garrett remarks, "you're thrown into the blender of you're a pussy." "What do the guys do when their sex drive is extremely high? What about sex during the third trimester? What does it mean when you're not getting laid? What do you do when the sex game completely disappears? If we do have sex, will I hurt the baby?" According to Danielle, "There's not a guy on the planet who is long enough to poke his baby in the head!" QUESTION How are you and your partner handling this transition from the male's perspective? Point #5: Seasons of Life Garrett: You've got these transitionary moments of up and down and up and down; seasons of one thing, and seasons of another. Things are constantly evolving and changing as a couple, and you've got to be ok with the fact that they're changing. Right now, we're in a big-ass transition. I look at the fruit of what this time gives us, and it's giving us an opportunity to slow down. It's giving us an opportunity to look at things from a different angle, and it's giving us, as a couple, an opportunity to connect in ways we maybe wouldn't normally connect. And, it's giving our family a chance to have a different focus. QUESTION What lessons have your life transitions taught you? What opportunities have they brought into your life? Communication Challenge: Do you have a focus on a vision beyond the transition? Date Night Topic: Consider what transition you're in and have a conversation about it over a bowl of ice cream. Quote of the Week: "As a couple, if you don't stay open in the transition, you're never going to see the window to the next play. It's very easy to close it down and to want to go back to the way things were." —Garrett J White "I'm going to be smarter this time. I'm going to enjoy my kids AND keep my sanity. I'm going to be with them, and I'm also going to allow help to come in to help me transition through this period of my life. As moms, we're human… and we also need our space." —Danielle K White

Get ready for a spicy conversation in this week's brand new episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast with married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White, who are preparing to enter a new chapter of their life with the arrival of baby Isla in eight weeks. Join them as they candidly discuss the challenges that come with pregnancy and the seasons & chapters the births of each of their children have opened up for them. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Pregnancy Desert The White's are in full-on pregnancy mode as they enter the eight-week countdown for the arrival of baby Isla who is due to arrive mid-July 2019. Danielle has reached the mega uncomfortable stage where some mornings she struggles to roll out of bed, while Garrett admits they're in the pregnancy desert when it comes to sex. "The last eight weeks, I literally transform into some kind of cartoon character. My body starts to retain water and it just gets super ugly. It's rough. QUESTION Describe what life has been like in the home stretch phase of your pregnancies. Point #2: His & Her Sacrifices When a woman is pregnant, the physical sacrifices she makes to carry and birth that baby are both substantial and obvious. The sacrifice men make, not so obvious. But Garrett says the sacrifices are nonetheless all too real and mostly go unnoticed and are not taken seriously. "As a guy, being in the homestretch is a very interesting game. How do I not be a dick and show up in a selfish way, and at the same time, how do I maintain and manage what I'm up to and what I'm about? When our wives are pregnant, we have no leg to stand on. And inside of that, there's some serious stuff that goes on for us." QUESTION What is the "unspoken" shit you go through as a man when your wife is pregnant? Point #3: Roll Me Over Danielle has good days and bad days. Sometimes she barely notices she's pregnant until she goes to get out of bed and feels like a potato bug stuck on its back. "It takes a lot of energy to be pregnant, and I feel like every ounce of energy I give has to be more focused. Even though I'm operating at fifty percent, that fifty percent is pretty damn good because I make sure whatever energy I put out is worth my time." QUESTION Ladies, how is your energy when you're pregnant? How does it affect your everyday routine? Point #4: Suck It Up Phase As a man watching his wife go through pregnancy, Garrett feels super-protective and super supportive, yet he almost feels like they are in a holding pattern …even though they're not. "I feel like, at some point, you and I lose connection through the pregnancy phase… but not in a bad way." "It's almost like we're in a season of war where there are war rules and peace rules. During war, there's a different set of principles. As a husband, I'm trying to stay active in the game and at the same time, support Danielle in whatever ways she needs. We're in the homestretch of the 'suck it up' phase." QUESTION What does your 'suck it up" phase look like? Point #5: Why Do You Stay? Each child's arrival into the White home has brought new life and a new chapter into their lives, and they feel baby Isla will do the same. "Every child has come at a different season in our life – Parker with my first wife, then Bailee right before things were about to fall apart, and then Ruby. Without the birth of Ruby, I don't think we make it." Danielle: I feel like a lot of times, women stay in relationships because of the children, or they use that as their excuse. Really, they just crave security, and that's why they stay. And that's kind of how it was with Ruby. She kept us together. Women want safety and security, no matter what form that comes in. QUESTION When things got tough in your marriage, what part did the children play in keeping you together and weathering the storms? Communication Challenge: Do you think men make sacrifices when their wives are pregnant? Why or why not? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the different seasons and chapters you entered after the births of each of your children. Quote of the Week: "Marriage itself is a game of seasons, and each season demands a different set of skillsets. But the one thing that has to always be there are two people who are showing up and offering as much as they can." —Garrett J White "When you're making a decision, don't come up with excuses. Literally, look where you're at and decide to make a decision that's going to best support you. In supporting yourself, you support others. Not supporting yourself is actually selfish." —Danielle K White

In today's episode, Garrett and Danielle tackle the topic of parenting after just returning from an epic family vacation in Maui. As much as they love spending time together as a family, there's still guilt that comes as they juggle creating & building their business empires with raising and spending quality time with their children. *This is a previously aired episode from February 27, 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Mommy and Daddy Guilt Garrett: I was stuck inside the story that everything I was doing was fucking up my kids and messing with their future. As a businessman this is a real killer because we are so busy with our businesses, how do we deal with the guilt and shame of not showing up as a father in a way that is actually connected or makes you feel good? Danielle felt guilty as a mom, especially when she was a younger mom micromanaging everything and always feeling like she always had to be there for her kids. Many women have a really hard time spending money or time on themselves, which can make going out on dates with their husbands extremely stressful, especially when you have really young kids. QUESTION How has playing the guilt card suffocated your relationship? What are some ways you can begin letting go and freeing yourself of guilt and shame? Point #2: Out of the Mouths of Babes During the podcast, their 11-year-old daughter makes a surprise appearance via telephone, candidly answering questions posed by her parents. When asked about vacations as a family: "I think it's important because you get time off from work and get to spend time with us for a whole week instead of just seeing us after school, after your Date Nights, or in the morning." Danielle has fought hard for the vacations. She sees them as a time to reconnect as a family, create memorable experiences for everyone, and as a way to establish family traditions. QUESTION What are some of your favorite memories of family trips or vacations you have taken? Point #3: Fulfillment Comes From Purpose Garrett and Danielle both have a Purpose beyond each other and a Purpose beyond their parenting. That Purpose fulfills both of them individually, then that individual connection with themselves connects with each other as a couple, and that 'couple love' spreads down into their children. As they are more often on the same page, and more ok with the idea of who they are as individuals, this has opened up the possibility for their children to see a new path for living. At the end of the day, parenting is about role modeling how to live. The one skillset that you should give your children? How to powerfully live the truth of who they are. QUESTION What Purpose have you found for yourselves individually beyond your relationship or children? How can you support each other in living that more fully? Point #4: Make Time For Each Other We have this faulty belief system that says my marriage must come secondary to the raising of my children. We think that somehow the raising of our children will happen with more power from a couple that's disconnected, doesn't love each other, aren't having sex, and are not communicating. While in Maui, about 90% of the couples staying at the Four Seasons were in their late 50s and 60s, completely bored with and disconnected from each other, and questioning if they even wanted to stay together. They had lost themselves inside of the focus on their children. QUESTION What can you begin doing in your marriage to prevent yourselves from becoming a statistic when the kids are grown? Point #5: Date Night is Non-negotiable Danielle wasn't always a passionate advocate of Date Night. Garrett had to fight for what has now become normal inside of their relationship: weekly Date Nights. He cautions men that it's not going to be easy at first – you're going to have a wife that is dealing with all of the guilt and emotions surrounding the stress of leaving the kids with a babysitter, not to mention reconciling the cost of the entire evening. Gentlemen, take charge and make this shit happen! Don't make Date Nights negotiable. Put your crown on, pick up your shield & your sword, and fight for the shit required to put your relationship back on track. A couple of resources to help you with that: care.com and warriorbook.com QUESTION When was your last Date Night? Communication Challenge: Discuss the actions you feel inspired to take after listening to today's podcast. Date Night Topic: 1 – Go on a Date Night to schedule Date Nights. 2 – Have a conversation about the guilt that you may be experiencing individually and as a couple. Quote of the Week: "I would have you consider that the greatest parenting you could offer your children is to demonstrate a great relationship with your par

Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about the three components necessary in order to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage. *This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode from 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: The Mirror in the Closet Danielle has a mirror and bench inside her closet which comes in handy for the "get it done" sex. "It's a good view for us both: He's got his mirror and I've got my shoes," says Danielle. Garrett: It's awesome. Not only is it great sex, but it's also visual content and stimulus for my mind for days. QUESTION How can you spice up your "get it done" sex? Point #2: Date Your Wife Podcast Garrett came to Danielle last year at this time and told her they were going to be doing a weekly podcast called Date Your Wife. At the time of this recording, they are ready to hit their 50th episode which represents at least 25 hours of communication. Garrett: The podcast was a favorable condition that we created with time, energy, and money, and has proven to be the best therapy of all time for us. QUESTION What favorable conditions have you created in order to have better communication with your spouse? Point #3: Lacking Sex? If you're a guy and sex is not happening, it's a guarantee that what is also not happening is communication – direct, intimate communication which is the ability to communicate and connect. If you have not invested time, energy, or money to create those conditions, then you also cannot be entitled to the results that come through sex and connection. QUESTION Where in your relationship are you investing money and energy, but not time? Point #4: Date Night You must create favorable conditions for communication on your dates. If you are always going out with friends and family for your Date Nights, that is not an environment where the two of you are able to have deep, intimate conversation. Garrett enjoys getting together with other couples about once a month, but anything more than is too much, even if they're good friends because it turns into Team Girls and Team Guys instead of the one-on-one time together that they are desiring on their dates. QUESTION What has been your Date Night pattern? Point #5: Time, Energy, and Money If you're going to create communication, you must be willing to create favorable conditions for communication. You're going to have to invest time, energy, and money at some level, whatever it is. Many men will not invest the time and energy, but will invest the money, or will invest the time and energy, but not invest any money. All three components of the Trifecta must be present. QUESTION What portion of the Trifecta are you missing? Communication Challenge: Figure out how you're going to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage. Date Night Topic: What can you add to your sex life to spice up those times when you have the "let's get it done" sex? Quote of the Week: "You must be willing to invest to create favorable conditions for communication to exist." —Garrett J White "Women look to men for safety and security. In reaching for that safety and security you have to look inward and realize that you are part of creating your own safety and security inside of that relationship." —Danielle K White

In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Saving & Investing As Danielle steps back and looks at their amazing businesses and lifestyle, she is curious if there is a way to start putting more money into other areas, like savings, in addition to life insurance. She wonders if she is ignoring signs from their past mistakes, knowing that their current lifestyle is more abundant than ever before. Garrett: My wife has pushed for our life to rise over and over again. At this point, we save more money than we've ever saved in our whole lives. I've also gone from the only place where I would invest is in the business, and have moved into the place of investing in the family. Ask Yourself: How are you doing in the area of savings? Point #2: Obsession The challenge inside of marriage when it comes to the topic of money is this: making money, growing money, keeping money, and leveraging money. Seventeen years ago, after reading the book 'Rich Dad, Poor Dad,' Garrett realized for the first time that he could make money and became obsessed with it. He went back and forth between the hustle mode of making money and the phase of growing money as he built teams and processes which led him to the game of keeping money. Over the past several years he has invested and put strategies into place which have benefited them in massive ways inside their bank accounts and savings vaults. Ask Yourself: Where are you as a couple when it comes to making & keeping money? Point #3: Building a Legacy Danielle: We live an amazing lifestyle. I'm at the point where I want to be able to build a legacy; an empire. If we stopped working ten years from now, I want to know that we could still live our amazing lifestyle for years to come plus help our children if we needed to. My parents live well but they can't stop working. My dad is 69 and is still building custom homes because they have to continue working to maintain their lifestyle. I look at both of our parents and don't want to live like either of them. Ask Yourself: What do you ultimately desire? Point #4: A Team Effort Danielle: Ladies, money is a tough conversation. Whether you're a woman who can take care of herself, or you're the Mom CEO of the family, it's nice to have a guy that takes care of you. I also want to be a part of this team effort and part of the decisions. I don't want to sit on the sidelines and be naive about what's going on. Ask Yourself: How do you handle money decisions in your relationship? Point #5: Maintain Or Increase? Garrett to Danielle: Would you be willing to maintain our current lifestyle even though our businesses are increasing in revenue? We would maintain our current game, and everything else would go pure cash with no expense increase whatsoever in our personal lifestyle over the next five years. We would not change homes or cars and we would just keep the same game. We would put all the money away that you want to put away without having to up the standard, meaning… two bags, not nine. Ask Yourself: What are you willing to do in order to be able to put money away? Communication Challenge: Have some conversations with your spouse about the game of money: making, growing, keeping, and leveraging money. Date Night Topic: If the money were to suddenly stop coming in, how long would you be able to live your current lifestyle without changing anything? Quote of the Week: "This podcast isn't about having all the answers for you but rather a conversation where we're in a place of figuring shit out as we go." -Garrett J. White "When I'm seventy years old, I want us to be working because we're passionate about it and we are choosing to – we have a purpose behind it – not to just pay the fucking bills." -Danielle K. White

In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White are coming to you from the 38th-floor inside a corner suite of the Four Seasons in Las Vegas where they are celebrating Danielle's 36th birthday. This week's conversation is about how the unification of your standards with your spouse builds the ultimate standard, and how you can't pull that off unless you have actually connected with your own standard. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…COMMUNICATION Point #1: Standards One of the gifts of being married is that we each come into it with radically different standards for life. We have standards about sexuality, parenting, making money, how we spend our time, etc., based upon our past, how we were raised, and our mindsets. Danielle: I do have a high standard based upon how I was raised but what I also notice is that I'm an extremely experience-based, detailed person which makes me hold things to a different level or standard than most people. QUESTION What are some standards you hold yourself to? Point #2: Tolerance We tolerate what our standards are. Where this ends up in collision is inside of marriage due to the different standards of each spouse. Garrett has a standard of emotional connection, which is leaving people better than when you first meet them, something that comes very natural for him. Danielle, on the other hand, will tolerate almost no communication with other people. QUESTION What are some of the differing standards inside your marriage which have been a source for collision? Point #3: It Takes Two to Tango Garrett: Without my standards for communication, Danielle would have limited her communication. She never would have launched a podcast in the hair industry, nor would have launched her own salon or training company. Danielle: I hold the standard of where we live and what we wear. When I push to get nicer things in life, we push more in business. And when we push more in business, it not only affects our family but it also creates multiple job opportunities for multiple families. QUESTION What have your differing standards created inside of your world? Point #4: Own Your Standards Garrett: We take a stand for each individual to own their identity, where neither one is a doormat or a steamroller but where we both come to terms with who we are. My standards say we do one thing and Danielle's standards say we do another. As you come to own your standards, it allows you to actually embrace the standards of other people. Together, you create this ultimate standard as a couple. You begin to be more committed to each other, and out of that is birthed something deeper than love, which is respect. QUESTION How has owning your individual standards created the ultimate standard inside your marriage? Point #5: Co-creation Garrett: The standards across both sides of co-creation have allowed for Danielle and I to build our brands, our businesses, and our family. The unique side about all of this is there are very few powerful couples taking a stand for marriage that works, which requires you to be clear in your standards. Danielle: I'm realizing that in managing our own empires and managing a marriage – and managing it well – it's kind of unheard of. We each have huge visions for our brands and we're proving that it can be done; that we can have those individual standards but also come together to create more as a couple. QUESTION What have you been able to co-create as a couple that you most likely never would have on your own? Communication Challenge: Where can you push in your relationship to become more together, to grow together, and unite as a couple? Date Night Topic: What can you create as a couple by uniting your individual standards? Quote of the Week: "The mix of standards between a married couple blend together to create the ultimate cocktail of creation." —Garrett J White "I think we push each other in all the right ways. I think that's what a relationship is supposed to be: pushing one another to a healthy place." —Danielle K White

In this week's topic of Money, Garrett and Danielle explore the idea that the best return on investment you can make is that of time and experiences with your spouse and children. They share stories and tips on how to pull this off successfully, no matter what circumstances you may currently find yourself in. *This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Feeling Like An ATM or Piece of Ass? Inside the game of Relationship, money itself is a controlling tool for most men. Men use money to control women, and women use sex to control men. At the end of the day, this seduction loop leaves many men feeling that the only validation they get is when they make the money, leaving them feeling like an ATM machine. The wife can be feeling like she's 'just a piece of ass' and an unpaid slave. Taking care of the home and the children is a full-time job in and of itself, worth a lot more money than many men are giving their wives permission to spend. QUESTION What actions tend to follow when you feel like an ATM or a piece of Ass inside your marriage? Point #2: Unplug and Let Go Women understand that men have worked all day yet want them to unplug from work and just be present with the family when they are home. Men feel like their day never ends. They come home from a long day of work and then are expected to be fully present with their wife and children. Garrett: I want to spend time with you, not the stressed-out version of you that's worrying about cleaning the fucking house right now. I don't want a fucking checklist of things to clean. I want to be with you. QUESTION What do you do that helps you transition from work to home in becoming present with your spouse and children? Point #3: What's Your Story? Garrett: There are going to be guys with stay-at-home wives up in arms about this, saying, "What?! Let me get this shit straight. I'm going to go pay somebody to come into my home to clean and do the laundry? That's the woman's job. She has to do that. That's why she's home!" What if you questioned the story that 'my wife's the one that's supposed to clean and make dinner, and it's the guy's job to mow the lawn.' Who made up these rules anyway? QUESTION What stories are you hanging onto about the different roles of men and women that are hindering your ability to grow together? Point #4: Spend Money to Buy Time Garrett: One of the ways you can use money as a man inside your home and inside of being together as a couple is to use your money in a way that buys the thing for the family that gives them what actually matters: time. There's this transition that comes with being willing to spend money to buy time. Danielle: People get emotionally bogged down over the stupidest shit. No matter what role you play in your family (working mom, stay at home mom, community mom) there are all of these little things that could lift the weight off our shoulders, relieving tension and guilt, and freeing up more time to spend with the family…which is so worth it to me. QUESTION Where in your life could you make some little adjustments that would free up more time to spend together as a couple or as a family? Point #5: Your Family Is An Investment Garrett: Gentlemen, I'm going to have you consider that the greatest rate of return is to make sure that you stay together as a family. One of the ways to pull this off is to create conditions for your wife to actually have more opportunities. Garrett started looking at their marriage like a business where Danielle became an asset inside of this business. He was willing to hire people to come into their home to free up time so that the family could do more things together. QUESTION How are you investing in our family in terms of dollars, time and experiences? Communication Challenge: At the end of the day, if your money doesn't serve you and your marriage and family, then what is the point in having it? Date Night Topic: What are some of the investments you can make regardless of the amount of money you have? How are you going to take some dollars this week to buy some more time for you and your family so that you can have the time and experiences that matter? Quote of the Week: "You tell me where you're going to get a higher rate of return: money in your 401k plan, or money in a babysitter to watch your children while you take your wife out on a date?" —Garrett J White "Guilt is the #1 destructive thing. It's the enemy; it does not serve you. If you find yourself feeling guilty, ask yourself: How can I let go of this guilt? How can I change this story? Find your balance, find out how to let go of the guilt, and more importantly, learn how to create a story that serves you best." —Danielle K White

Amidst the recent announcement from the White's twelve-year-old daughter that she is through with school and no longer wants to attend – with viable and compelling evidence to back up her stance & position – Garrett & Danielle jump into a conversation that explores the idea of schooling vs education as they compare today's world of accessible technology to the period in which they grew up. Also, be sure to listen to find out how you can become part of next week's show. ______________________________________________________________ Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…PARENTING Point #1: PROCRASTINATION As a procrastinator in High School, Danielle was someone who never turned in her homework and was on the verge of not graduating until she was able to pull off some eleventh-hour shenanigans. "I didn't care about doing homework. I didn't see the point of doing it." Now, as an adult, Danielle regrets that "I didn't learn how to learn and instead always found a way around doing the work." She sees herself as very intuitive but sees Garrett as 100% more book-smart than she is. "He likes to read, he can quote all sorts of things, and he is really smart. I've kind of envied that about him." QUESTION What habits and patterns did you have when you were going to school? Did they help or hinder you? Point #2: AT THEIR FINGERTIPS The landscape of today's learning has shifted completely from when Danielle and Garrett attended school. With technology at their fingertips, kids today can learn just about anything, anytime. Garrett: "At their age, our kids are way fucking smarter than we were. They have more data in their brains; more points of reference. And they have access to shit that we didn't. From the time Ruby was four or five years old, she has been asking Siri questions about everything!" QUESTION What do you see as the pros and cons of how you learned in the past compared to how your kids are learning today? Point #3: GENIUS DROP-OUTS Many successful entrepreneurs and creators either dropped out of school or didn't finish school in the traditional sense. These include the creators of IKEA, APPLE, and Facebook. "Pretty much every major tool you use right now was built by a school dropout." Garrett: As I look at what kids study in school, my thought is they might be better off studying Facebook ads, direct-response marketing, and persuasion & influence. When you look inside our families alone, the people with the least amount of education have made the most amount of money. QUESTION What has been your experience with this? Point #4: AN ABUNDANCE OF POSSIBILITIES Garrett: Imagine if, in the next six years, we spent three hours a day focused on turning our daughter into a weaponized speaker, marketer, and salesperson. And on top of that, she had the traditional reading, writing, and math, with the rest of the day filled with singing, art, playing the piano, and participating in team sports. Danielle says she doesn't have any real answers right now but that she does have a lot of questions. "This is a frustrating topic that came up for us on Date Night. I feel like Garrett and I are on both sides of the spectrum. We value learning and we value work, but do we value the traditional ways of school?" QUESTION What are your feelings regarding the abundance of possibilities in education available to your child in today's world? Point #5: OPENING DOORS Danielle: As a parent, we wonder if we're leading our children in the right direction. Does the Universe manifest a path that they should take? Or, are we supposed to assist and open doors for them along the way? Garrett: Part of our job is to open the doors and let them explore different rooms. While there are plenty of doors they're going to open themselves, as a parent, you open the door and watch what your child does. QUESTION What doors are you opening up for your children? What doors were opened up for you? What have been the results? Communication Challenge: Next week's topic is, "Babies: When do you know it's time to have a baby? When do you know it's time to stop having babies?" If you would like to be part of that conversation or have a question/ comment on this, please send an audio clip to [email protected]. We'll throw you in the mix and play your audios on the air. Men, we want to hear from you! Date Night Topic: On your date this week, have a conversation around the different ways you learn. Are you more of an incessant reader and highlighter, or are prone to listening to podcasts and watching videos? Are you a little bit of each? Quote of the Week: "Parker does a great job, not because he's my son but because of who he is. Did I open the door? Sure!" –Garrett J White "Is it personality or path? Is it circumstance or timing? Are we put

Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about momentum in this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. It has taken many years for the White's to get to a place where they are experiencing momentum in all areas of their life and share with their listening audience through stories and experiences what has brought them to the place where, only a few short years ago, they wondered if they would even make it. *This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode. ______________________________________________________________ Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Tipping Point Danielle feels like her business has hit a tipping point, leading her to the conclusion that it's the small things in life that push people forward. She questions why so many people are not consistent with those small things that create momentum, knowing they would ultimately lead them to the outcomes they desire. QUESTION Where in your world have you experienced the momentum of the tipping point? Point #2: Marriage Is a Lifestyle Anything great takes a fucking long time to build. When people see the White's and their success, they begin wanting that in their marriage and become frustrated when it doesn't happen on their timetable. Garrett: The number of years that you were a dumb-ass and caused a lack of momentum or momentum in the wrong or weak direction, is not going to be turned around in two days. The fundamental disciplined habits must be changed and maintained over time. QUESTION How can you demonstrate more patience in your marriage? Point #3: Merry-Go-Round Marriage is like a Merry-Go-Round: It takes great effort to get it moving at first as you grab on with both hands and push hard. Pretty soon you can give it a little push and it keeps going because momentum has kicked in. Inside of marriage, many people kill the momentum by quitting before they hit the tipping point. Others experience momentum but take their eyes off the prize, losing the edge and the momentum they have gained. QUESTION Where is your relationship within this conversation of the Merry-Go-Round? Point #4: Gaining Momentum The fastest way to gain momentum is to start going on dates every single week. Start taking your wife on Date Nights and each day send her notes of love, honor, and appreciation. She's got to know that these are not going to stop. Momentum is built inside of your marriage and business when you build up momentum inside of yourself. Garrett and Danielle are at a point where, when they collide, there is so much momentum, certainty, and power within each of them that neither one of them can stop the other. QUESTION What can you do to start gaining or increasing momentum in your relationship? Point #5: Character and Contrast During sticky phases, you're doing the work yet are becoming more bitter and angry towards one another. These are the times you must shift your energy. Once you have that momentum, do the little things to maintain that momentum. Garrett loves the different characters and looks of Danielle from her formal look in Louis Vuitton's to her ponytail and Lulu pants. Danielle loves Garrett in a suit but finds him especially sexy when he wears a t-shirt and jeans. QUESTION What are the different looks of your partner that take your breath away? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the Flywheel Effect. Date Night Topic: What are some things you can do for each other to gain or maintain momentum within your relationship? Quote of the Week: "Business and marriage fall apart for the same reason: people let go of momentum OR they don't have the courage to keep pushing to even get to the point where momentum can begin." –Garrett J White "Sometimes we want to look at our business and marriage separately, but taking some of those business tactics and applying them to marriage isn't that far off." –Danielle K White

What starts out with fireworks and plenty of sparks between co-hosts and elite dual producers, Garrett J and Danielle K White, segues beautifully into the topic of Gratitude which has the power to change everything. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…COMMUNICATION Point #1: WHAT IS A STACK? A Stack is a series of questions with five variations (Mega, Angry, Happy, Gratitude, Production) that Garrett originally created three years ago to deal with "my fucking rage." These questions alter the way you are experiencing different relationships, events, and triggers in your life. One of the challenges men have is the inability to express emotion and end up suppressing them, which is the way society has taught, trained and educated men to do over the past 100 years. The whole point of the Stack is to allow you to release the energy that you're feeling, whether you're fucking raging, angry, triggered, or happy and get someone to their truth. QUESTION As a man, what has been your experience with sharing your emotions and feelings? Point #2: IMPACT There are five different Stacks which serve different purposes. You've got the Mega and Angry Stack which allow you to release your rage & emotions, followed by the Happy and Gratitude Stacks, and then finally the Production Stack. The Gratitude Stack requires you to deliberately pause and look back and serves as a powerful tool of connection with your spouse and children. As Garrett has shared these with his children as part of the Core 4 game, he has witnessed first-hand the immense impact it has had on them individually and upon their relationship. QUESTION How has expressing gratitude for your spouse and children affected your relationship with them? Point #3: THE GIFT OF GRATITUDE Danielle shares how expressing gratitude gives you a different perspective: "There are going to be times in your life when you feel like you are in a dark place and it's hard to snap out of that. You start to see the world through a negative lens." "If you take a step back and begin appreciating the good moments, it gives you this sense of gratitude and everything begins to change. It puts life in a different perspective." QUESTION What do you notice when you step back and begin seeing life through the lens of gratitude? Point #4: INSPIRED From his Gratitude Stack about Danielle, Garrett received these insights and revelations about their marriage and how he feels about her: "Marital and mutual respect is something that takes a long time to uncover, and once it's found, it's priceless and profound." "I sit and look at my wife while five months pregnant and am just inspired. I'm inspired by what it is to be pregnant and have your body do what it does with a little person inside of you who is growing. But of all the things that hits home the most is that she can make the baby AND also smash the shit out of life." QUESTION What about your spouse inspires you? Point #5: FROM THEN TO NOW Garrett: What makes this pregnancy different from the others is I am grateful for what we've become as a couple. In the past, I isolated myself and didn't know how to deal with the whole pregnancy thing. Danielle: When you look back to how it was eight years ago with our last pregnancy during scary and uncertain times, things are so different this time. We know we're in a good place right now with life and with marriage, and we're excited about the next chapter. QUESTION As you step back and look where you've been compared to where you are now, what has changed? Communication Challenge: Discuss the art of collision and the ability to hold space for your spouse during intense & direct conversations. Date Night Topic: Make Gratitude the topic of your next Date Night. Share examples and stories of gratitude with each other. If you have access to the Gratitude Stack, do a Stack on each other and then share it during your date. *Keep an eye out for the summer release of the Attack With the Stack Series. Quote of the Week: "Gratitude is the ability to look back: here's where we are, here's where we were, and let's be grateful for what is." —Garrett J White "When you're in a space of gratitude, nothing can get you down. Use it as a protective shield for yourself and your family, and to ultimately feel more powerful in life. When I'm in that space, I feel unstoppable." —Danielle K White

Welcome to the Date Your Wife podcast. This episode is dedicated to all the men who feel like they don't have a voice when their wife is pregnant and who don't know what to do with all of their sexual energy. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…SEX Point #1: Stay In Your Corner Garrett: There's a phase inside of this where you're super pumped because you're having a lot of sex but you know the intention is to make a baby. Guys are then thrown into this corner and are put into this little shoebox during pregnancy and during the recovery after pregnancy. "For basically a year, the woman goes to a place of sacrifice," Garrett explains, "but a guy goes to a place of sacrifice, too." (Cue Danielle's emerging laughing in the background) "This is exactly why guys don't get a voice on this because the level of mockery is so intense." QUESTION As a guy, how do you deal with this? Point #2: What to Expect When You're Expecting…Penis Edition There are a lot of guys who cheat during pregnancy because they don't know what to do with all of their sexual energy. There's no shortage of books and information for women, but practically nothing in place to prepare men for what they've just signed up for. Guys want to have sex but generally don't approach this topic with their wives. And there's no blog post, book or podcast addressing this – there's nothing in place to guide a man through the emotional hurricane of pregnancy. QUESTION Guys, what is your experience with this? Point #3: The Dichotomy Garrett: When your wife gets pregnant, all of a sudden there's a rising emotion that comes from the Gods. It's protecting and nurturing. It's a feeling of "I will fuck anyone up who comes close to this. Everyone is now a second-class citizen to the spouse with the baby in the belly." It completely suppresses the sexual drive between the man and the wife that he is curating and protecting. The challenge is, the sexual energy wants away from that environment and is immediately triggered by just about any female that walks the planet that is not pregnant. QUESTION How has this shown up in your marriage during pregnancy? Point #4: The Penis Power Is a Decision Many men stop instigating sex during pregnancy because they're not sure how to deal with the rise of the protecting guardian, the decline of the sexual drive toward their wife, and the triggers outside of their relationship. And some men simply think it's weird to have sex after their wife is six months pregnant. Garrett: I've chosen to channel my sexual energy, although triggered all over the place, towards my beautiful, gorgeous pregnant wife. It's a decision, even though you're under suppression. QUESTION As a man, what are your thoughts about this? Point #5: Society's Advice Garrett understands how bitchy and whiny men can come across on this topic, especially when "we're not the ones who are going to have to push a pumpkin out of our penis after nine months!" Society tells men, "Listen, asshole, you have no leg to stand on. You're not the one whose body's getting jacked and is going to spend twelve to eighteen months in recovery. Shut up pussy and just deal with it." QUESTION What do you think about this? Communication Challenge: Have an open conversation around the challenges and the joys that both women and men face during pregnancy. What can you create together to bring more support and understanding to each other? Date Night Topic: During Date Night, engage in flirtatious banter you know will lead to a window of opportunity of sexual connection when you arrive home. Quote of the Week: "As I look at the ultrasound, I sit back in complete fascination in all of this. It's so crazy that in a mass effort of about three minutes of participation, this thing happens." —Garrett J White "I want the pregnancy perks but I still want to be treated like me. If you know there's a window, make a move on me. Pretend like I'm notpregnant." —Danielle K White

This week's Date Your Wife podcast comes to you via the White's actual Date Night where Garrett and Danielle explore the topics of conflict and avoidance inside their relationship. They reveal patterns and behaviors that did not serve them for years, which could have led to the demise of their marriage were it not for an ultimatum and decision during a huge argument – which ultimately created an opening that changed the trajectory of their marriage. . Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: People Pleaser or Conflict Avoider? Danielle believes women typically aren't people pleasers; they're conflict avoiders. Women are so afraid of confrontation that they always try to make peace. "But ultimately it's not because we're trying to please people," offers Danielle, "it's because we're trying to avoid conflict, which later on actually causes us more harm." QUESTION How does this play out in your marriage? Point #2: On the Hunt As Garrett reflects this topic of conflict, he realizes that "Danielle is a conflict avoider at the highest level. If you go through what has happened with us in the past seventeen years, she has NEVER been a conflict person." "The only way we could ever have a real conversation was if I brought the collision to her, and then inside of it, I would actually hunt her down and force her to have a serious conversation with me." QUESTION Who is typically the "hunter" inside your marriage? Point #3: Hot-Headed When men become hot-headed inside of a conversation, many women refuse to continue on with that conversation, thus making it appear to the men that women are in this place of avoidance. From Danielle's perspective, "Women recognize when a conversation/argument isn't in a logical place and is going nowhere. When Garrett flips his lid, and I feel like I can't reason with him because the conversation is not in a healthy place, I will refuse to continue, knowing that in this state, nothing is going to get solved. QUESTION Who is typically the hot-headed one in your relationship? How does this affect your communication? Point #4: Initiate or Avoid? Garrett admits being more emotional than Danielle, and one who is desires to get into a fight and collide. Speaking to Danielle, "You were never an initiator of any type of hard conversation. Your mode was to just swallow it, ignore it, reframe it in your mind, let it go and move on…and pretend like it never happened. Danielle: I was avoiding confrontation, and was thinking, "Oh, it will go away, it'll quiet down. I also came to this place where I didn't know how to have direct conversations with you. QUESTION Inside conflict within your marriage, who typically avoids, and who typically initiates?" Point #5: Therapy After six years of behaviors and patterns that were not serving the White's, everything came to a head one afternoon during a huge argument in their kitchen where an ultimatum was issued by Garrett: Either we're going to therapy, or we're done. Danielle: Going to therapy, we both had a logical sounding board to hear one another's feelings. It helped me open up and communicate better, and I feel like Garrett was able to go deeper into the story or conflict without hitting his tipping point. QUESTION What has been your experience inside the conversation of therapy? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around the topic of "Avoider or Initiator." Date Night Topic: During Date Night, have a conversation about the possibility of inserting Therapy into your lives. Quote of the Week: "Therapy gave us a better chance to pull off conflict and be in a conversation that would require both of us to own our shit." —Garrett J White "In relationships, I think we argue to be right, not to get what we want. I think we both realized that there's submission in getting what we want which makes us less willing to be right and more willing to get what we want." —Danielle K White

With shots of tequila in their system and amidst the flirtatious back-and-forth bantering that easily doubles as foreplay, the White's jump into another episode of the Date Your Wife podcast with a conversation around Garrett's favorite topic, Sex. For the new listeners, Danielle explains QQP (Quickie, Quickie Pornstar) and they have an honest and revealing discussion about keeping married sex spicy. *This is an encore presentation of a previously recorded episode. ________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: If You Don't Mop the Floors, Somebody Else Will Danielle: Many women approach sex with a "let's just get 'er done" attitude. If guys go long enough with only a simple clean up job, they're not going to be satisfied. Garrett: Danielle's sex game in the last six months has gone through the roof. As a woman, she has literally blown my mind. QUESTION Where has mopping the floors in your marriage gotten you? Point #2: Avoiding the Shithole of Married Sex Danielle: Sometimes you have to act the part and play the role during sex. Entertain that idea and have fun with it. Just because you're laying there with your legs spread open doesn't mean that's attractive. When you're married, if you expect to have that chemistry and spark, play the fucking game. QUESTION What is the condition of your sex life? What are the facts? Point #3: Girls Just Want to Have Fun Danielle: I'm happy that my man is fulfilled. When you have fun with sex, your man is feeling fulfilled. It's fun for him and it's fun for you – it goes both ways. Pretend you're dating and ask yourself: How would I act? What would I do? Even after years of marriage, it becomes fun to entertain that thought and go with it. QUESTION Ladies, how do you feel about yourself when you just let yourself go and have fun? Point #4: The Sex Game Garrett: Many men have this faulty understanding of sex. They want to have a sexual connection with their wife and they think that making money and investing in the children will get them that. At the end of the day, she wants sexual connection but she also wants something else – she wants attention. If you give that to her, she will support you in the sex game and it will bring your marriage together. QUESTION What are you expecting from your wife yet at the same time are neglecting to give her? Point #5: Patterns Garrett has this pattern of putting the girls to sleep and engaging in their nighttime routine, while Danielle professes that she's not a very routined mom: "Brush your own teeth, say your own prayers, tuck yourself in." Garrett: There's a lot of dad-guilt that comes when you work a lot. I do spend time with the girls in the mornings but I find I sometimes use them as an excuse to not have to be intimate with Danielle at night. QUESTION What patterns are in need of changing in order for you to make more time with your spouse? Communication Challenge: Gentlemen, if you want your floors more than mopped, what are you doing to create the environment for your wife to want to shine your floors? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about patterns that you see in your marriage and what you can begin doing today to change a pattern in one area of your life that will benefit your marriage. Quote of the Week: "The moon was out, the doors on our deck were open, and it was "Go Time." –Garrett J White "In a relationship, if you say, "I don't want to [have sex]," it's honestly like starting a new workout. Put in the work now and eventually it gets easier. Before you know it, it's actually kind of fun." –Danielle K White __________________________________________

As a couple-on-the-go, co-hosts Danielle K and Garrett J White, delve into a topic that, at first glance, might appear to be in the oxymoron realm. However, in classic White style, Danielle and Garrett deliver insights and experiences that uncover what might be one of the most important things you will ever do as a married couple: go through your Divine Divorce in order to find your Divine Destiny. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn't get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There's a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it's actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, "Am I with the wrong person?" QUESTION Is what you're posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It's Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don't even know they're surviving. The belief is, "This is just how it is." If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it's not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of "it's just how it is?" Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don't go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. "What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?" QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It's a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there's another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there's a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other inthe beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: "There's a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it's the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work." —Garrett J White "People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now an

Today's conversation inside the Date Your Wife podcast centers around the importance of adding people to your team and features two surprise guests who shed some additional light on this subject. It's never a dull moment with the White's as they navigate the ever-changing waters of marriage, family, and business, aka The Trifecta of Insanity. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Money Point #1: Babysitter, Nanny, or Home Manager? The first addition to team Garrett & Danielle? The important position of a Nanny/Home Manager, whose role is very different from that of a Babysitter. It's vital to get really clear about the roles, compensation, and expectations of each of these BEFORE you add them to your team. In a cameo appearance, Bailey, the White's twelve-year-old, clearly defines the distinction between these roles. "A Nanny/Home Manager is full-time and committed, works a lot, and actually likes the kids. They manage the household, the workers, and run errands for the parents. A Babysitter is like, "I need you to go to bed while I'm watching the Bachelor." QUESTION How would bringing one of these on board change your family's life? Point #2: Does Overcompensation Lead to Entitlement? Whether it's your place of business or home-related, overcompensating can lead to behaviors and feelings of entitlement, something Danielle and Garrett have first-hand experience with. Adds Danielle, "If you overcompensate people, it builds a lot of entitlement. They start creating stories in their mind where they can't see anything else; they start painting you as the bad guy, and collect evidence to back those stories." QUESTION Where have you experienced this as either the one feeling entitled or the one witnessing it? Point #3: House Cleaner When adding a House Cleaner to your team, a couple of key things to consider are 1-trust and 2-being comfortable with leaving a mess and not feeling like you have to clean up BEFORE they arrive. Getting really clear on the role they are going to play is of utmost importance. What do you want them to do? What don't you want them to do? What do you want your Home Manager to delegate to your House Cleaner? It's up to you to communicate clear directions in order for everything to run smoothly. QUESTION How has having a House Cleaner on board improved your life and/or your relationships? Point #4: This is a Man's Job Danielle grew up with a father who was always hands-on when it came to building, repairing, and handling big and small jobs around the house, something she expected Garrett to automatically take on as the "man of the house" after they were married. However, it didn't exactly pan out the way she expected. Garrett decided he would take on the responsibility of caring for their pool to prove to Danielle that he was a "man," but when his plan went sideways within the week and the pool was filled with moss, it was clear that some things are best left to the professionals. QUESTION What do you automatically expect your husband to do because it falls under the category of "that's just what men do?" Point #5: Let Go in Order to Grow Garrett: "As I sit here and look at the unit that has become the idea of family, just like an entrepreneur looks at their business and realizes he cannot do it by himself, that he must let go in order to grow, I'm going to have you consider that inside of your family life it's no different." "As you and your partner become more and more successful inside of the game of business and life, it's actually selfish for you to continue to play the game so small. In order to play bigger, you're going to have to involve more team members." QUESTION If you were to look in your world right now, where is the one place in your life where you could bring someone on the team who could free you up so you could actually do the things that matters? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around this topic: It's ok to bring people on the team to accelerate your marriage and your family. How do you both feel about this? Date Night Topic: Entertain the idea of creating space inside your team for a Babysitter, Nanny, or Home Manager and get really clear about the details, expectations, and compensation. What would that look like for your family? How would that clear up space for more family time, couple time, or alone time? Quote of the Week: "You cannot build a family without a team. It's difficult, if not impossible to build your marriage and family to ultimately become what you want it to be if you're trying to do it alone." —Garrett J White "To women, let go. Test it out for a couple of months and just what happens. See if it makes an improvement, see what opens up in your relationship with your kids and your spouse. Could you find something else fulfi

During their flight back to Orange County after an amazing Valentine's Day get-away weekend in Cabo San Lucas, the Whites suddenly find themselves headed back to Cabo for an emergency landing. While other passengers are scrambling, angry, and upset, Garrett and Danielle get to work creating new possibilities in the midst of the chaos of their current situation. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Arguing With Reality Garrett and Danielle watched as men and women became panicked and angry about the flight. Armed with their demands and frustrations, fellow passengers stormed up the escalator to the Alaskan check-in desk scrambling to be the first in line to yell at the girl behind the counter. Garrett: I spent most of my entire life freaking out about shit that I couldn't control, trying to force things to be different than they actually were. Although I still do this, it's significantly less than I've ever done it before. QUESTION How do you handle the unexpected? Point #2: The Ocean Always Wins As you look at reality, it is what it is. During Garrett's first week of surfing as he was trying to fight the waves, his coach turned to him and said, "The ocean always wins." "You cannot control the ocean, you cannot control the water, and you can't out hustle the waves. The only thing you can do is deal with whatever the ocean is giving you". QUESTION How can you relate this to situations in your life? Point #3: Change Your State It's Danielle's belief that women tend to cause a lot of unneeded stress in their lives, which not only affects them but ends up spilling over into the lives of their spouse and children. Danielle: The more you learn how to change your state, the faster you can do it. Ask yourself: What is the lesson? What is the direction I am supposed to be going? When you look at things with that perspective, so many things start to open up for you. QUESTION What can you begin doing to change your state of being before things get out of hand? Point #4: The Crazy Game of Marriage Garrett: Marriage is crazy. You have two individuals who are evolving human beings; two people who are challenging the way they think, challenging the way they believe, challenging the way they conceive marriage. All of these are constantly moving. We want things to constantly evolve and change because we demand variety in our lives yet on the flip side, we get completely pissed off about the fact that things are constantly evolving and changing. QUESTION What is your experience with this as a couple? Point #5: Let Go & Be Open Garrett: I operated most of my life trying to force things. This situation at the Cabo airport would have been something a number of years ago I would have lost my mind over. Now, it's almost as if the Universe has orchestrated this just for me. Danielle: Whether it happens on purpose or not, you can't fight what is so you might as well enjoy where you're at and see what opens up while being in that space. QUESTION Where in your world have you seen a shift as you have begun letting go? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the things that drive you crazy about each other yet have turned out to be the other's greatest strengths and assets. Date Night Topic: On your Date Night this week, talk about the Crossroads and Turning Points in your relationship. Quote of the Week: "What I've come to realize is, everything I've wanted Danielle to change has become her greatest asset. Her greatest strengths have become the things that drive me fucking nuts." —Garrett J White "There's a lot of power in letting go. As you let go, it allows you to live life to the fullest. There's a difference between disconnecting and letting go. In letting go, you're still there but you're letting go of the forcing of whatever you're trying to do." —Danielle K White

Welcome to this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast where married business owners, Garrett and Danielle White, have an entertaining and revealing conversation about the "how to's" of navigating the ever-changing waters of parenthood. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Parenting Point #1: The Trifecta of Insanity Garrett: You can't be a married businessman with children if you don't have children. Dogs, guinea pigs, and fish don't count. We live in a place where people push their dogs around in fucking strollers. To be a married businessman with children means that you have a partner that you are committed to AND you have children. This trifecta of insanity is literally a suicide mission with only two possible outcomes: 1- you win and 2- you lose. QUESTION How are you and your spouse handling the Trifecta of Insanity? Point #2: Once a Mom, Always a Mom Danielle: I don't think you really have perspective until you actually start having kids. Before having kids, we both worked hard during the week and were pretty much homebodies on the weekends. Looking back, I'm thinking we should have done more. Danielle's mother told her that even with all of her children grown, she still worries about them making good decisions. Once you're a mom, you're always a mom. "Oh shit! But then, you never want anything different once you are a mom, and you can't imagine your life without your children." QUESTION How has having children changed your perspective about life? Point #3: The Love of Learning Although a college graduate, Garrett's passion for learning wasn't ignited until he read "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" in 2001 as a PE teacher, opening up an entirely different world to him. "I'm addicted to and obsessed with learning and cannot consume enough!" It wasn't until later in life that Danielle would learn the importance of learning. "You have to have a love for learning, and you have to LEARN to learn. Seeing the person I have become through learning, I wish I would have understood that concept when I was younger." QUESTION When were you bit by the learning bug? What was the turning point for you? Point #4: Consequences & Boundaries In parenting, where do you draw the line? When do you let your children come to their own conclusions in life after suffering the consequences of their own choices, and when do you hold them accountable to certain standards of behavior? As Garrett and Danielle met with their daughter, teachers, and principal, it was clear that implementing a system of accountability going forward would greatly assist their daughter in achieving her musical aspirations. QUESTION Where in your world do you know it's time to set up a system of accountability? Point #5: Just the Facts, Please Garrett: Your kids are not always right. Most of the time as a parent when you try to defend your kids from the consequences of life, what you're doing is defending your own ego and your own self-doubt as a parent. What are the facts? Possibly the greatest gift that you could give your children is to get clear about the facts in front of the other people that matter and involve them in the process of accountability. QUESTION Where in your world is it time to separate the facts from your feelings in order to progress and move forward? Communication Challenge: What is your take on boundaries, consequences, and accountability when it comes to your children? How does it align with your spouse's take? How does it differ? Date Night Topic: While you're out on your date this week, have a conversation about how as parents you can instill the love of learning into your children. Quote of the Week: "It's one thing to build a business and have nothing else to worry about except building that business. It's another thing to build a business and then get married. And then, it's a whole other conundrum to build a business, get married, have multiple babies, raise those babies, and inside of that, make a decision to have another baby." —Garrett J White "Teach your children the importance of learning. If as an adult you want to get ahead in the game or become an overall better human being, life is about learning. If you can teach your children to love to learn, they'll have more success in their life." —Danielle K White

Welcome to the Date Your Wife podcast, aka the White's weekly therapy session, coming to you for the first time from their new home studio. In this week's personal and up close conversation from inside their bedroom, the highlights of this episode include details about Closet Sex, Garrett's tendency to go to the extreme, the purpose behind this podcast, and business strategies when it comes to dealing with the haters.