Date Your Wife

Welcome to the Date Your Wife Podcast, aka the White's weekly therapy session, coming to you for the first time from their new home studio. In this week's personal and up-close conversation from inside their bedroom, the highlights of this episode include details about Closet Sex, Garrett's tendency to go to the extreme, the purpose behind this podcast, and business strategies when it comes to dealing with the haters. *This is an Encore presentation from February 2019* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Closet Sex Danielle's certain she has nailed down the exact time and place of conception of their baby due in July. Knowing her 'window of pregnancy opportunity' was wide open, and determined to take full advantage of it, she seduced Garrett one morning as he was on his way out the door. QUESTION Ladies, when and where was the last time you seduced your husband or partner? Point #2: Rivals & Haters Any successful business is always going to have rivals and haters. When you're new in the game, you take it very seriously and it can be crippling. Garrett: Inside of a relationship, you have to choose you. At the end of the day, if you're in a relationship that's not working out, as hard as it might be, you have to take responsibility for the way your marriage is because of you. QUESTION What has been your experience with the "haters" inside of your personal and business life? Point #3: Compromise Danielle: When there's an end result that I'm looking to get, sometimes I don't look at the steps I need to take in order to get to that end result. A relationship is a sacrifice and compromise on both ends. There were many times Garrett and I told each other to fuck off. No one goes into a relationship wishing it was shitty. QUESTION What is the current state of your marriage? Point #4: They're Going to Talk Shit Garrett: We started down this path of being responsible for our own change as individuals which allowed us to make some very important decisions when it came to business. Part of that process comes from dealing with people who talk shit. In the beginning stage of business, we always believe we're the exception and that there is something we can do that will have people NOT talk shit about us. QUESTION What is your strategy for dealing with people who talk shit about you or your business? Point #5: The Certainty of Collision Garrett: I think you need to fucking punch people because it helps YOU. When I launched my first podcast filled with explicit lyrics in the Christian category, I was like a knife salesman at a waterbed convention. People began attacking Garrett and were out to take him down. Even though he knew he had brought this on himself, he wasn't prepared for the incessant heat he was receiving. As he launched his counter-attack on the haters, it began to weaponize him. QUESTION Where in your world have you taken a stand for something, and because of that, have you have received enormous backlash and persecution? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around this topic: It's your partner that gives you insight and guidance that no one else will give you; it's your partner that gives you a swift kick, and it's hard to receive. Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, have a steamy conversation about seduction. Quote of the Week: "You don't have to go looking for haters. The moment you take a stand of any significance, a war of haters will come to your front fucking door who are there to train you on how to be able to effectively and powerfully collide with other human beings.." —Garrett J White "If you can't take the heat, you're not strong enough to keep going. People who have had enormous amounts of success have figured out how to move on, say fuck you, have tunnel vision, work harder and smarter, and become the best at what they're doing." —Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn't get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There's a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it's actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, "Am I with the wrong person?" QUESTION Is what you're posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It's Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don't even know they're surviving. The belief is, "This is just how it is." If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it's not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of "it's just how it is?" Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don't go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. "What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?" QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It's a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there's another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there's a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other in the beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: "There's a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it's the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work." —Garrett J White "People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now and again if he needs it." —Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. Communication Point #1: Guilt: The Enemy Danielle hates feeling guilty. "I think guilt is the enemy, and that nothing can pull you into a downward spiral faster than guilt. When I feel guilt, I ask myself why I'm feeling this way. Can I fix it? What can I do NOT to feel this?" Women feel all kinds of guilt, whether it be mommy guilt, business guilt, sex guilt, or even food guilt. When she's making decisions, Danielle asks herself if this will set her up to have a shitty day the next day. If so, "I have self-control and self-discipline." QUESTION As a woman, how do you process guilt? Point #2: Attack With the Stack Guilt plagues guys in a massive way and they, too, experience all kinds of guilt inside of marriage, family, and business. If they work long hours to provide for their family, they feel guilty for being away from them so much. And then, if they're away and DON'T produce, they feel guilty about that, with an extra dose of shame and worthlessness thrown in. Garrett deals with guilt by using a powerful tool called the Stack. "I ask myself a series of questions that help me flip my guilt. I do this through an app on my cell phone, Attack with the Stack, where I'm able to deal with and process my thoughts and stories." QUESTION As a man, how do you process guilt? Point #3: The Dream Danielle's recent dream was like a blockbuster adventure, mystery, and horror movie rolled into one. Garrett & Danielle explore it and the possible meanings it could hold, and he reminds her, "You have dreams, and your dreams mean something." Danielle: I think this dream came because I have been anxious about work. This year, I have taken on the role of CEO in addition to being a salon owner, an education director, launching my new ISLA hairline, and having a baby. I've snapped back strong from this baby, and mentally I feel strong, but I think I was scared that it was going to be too overwhelming. I think I was just scared of the unknown. QUESTION Do you or your spouse have dreams that carry timely messages? Point #4: Running From Life During an especially difficult three year period for the White's, Garrett became an ultra-marathon runner, often running up to twenty miles a day. Danielle claims he was running from life. Garrett: Being an ultra-marathon runner was deeply powerful for me. Do you know what it did for me? I learned how to physically hurt for days and days and days on end with no complaint at all. It just fucking hurt. It's almost like you learn how to hurt and be ok with hurting. QUESTION What do you do to run away from your problems? Point #5: Every Mom Has a Different Path Garrett & Danielle have a conversation about the different choices women make today as either working-outside-the-home moms, stay-at-home moms, CEO moms, or a combination of these. Garrett feels that many women are miserable, depressed, and selling themselves short when they are stay-at-home moms, although he fully supports any choice women make. Danielle: I love being a mom. I love everything about it. But I also know I love doing stuff for myself. I think a lot of women pursue things outside of being a mom, but they look at it as a hobby. And I did that in the beginning, but then I was faced with a situation where I didn't know if I was going to stay married." This is what ultimately birthed NBR, DKW Salon, her education company, and the ISLA hairline. QUESTION How do you both feel about the choices you have made up to this point? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about this phrase, "I wish I could just be a stay-at-home mom." Does this trigger you? What does it actually mean to you? Date Night Topic: Who are your super heros? Why? Quote of the Week: "I'll be hurting and suffering in business with so much shit to do, so I'll take a deep breath and say, 'There is no finish line, this will not end quickly, this is going to fucking hurt badly, and… it is what it is." —Garrett J White "I'm super logical, and I flip things because I hate that feeling of guilt. I know if I take the feeling out of it and logically look at something – even if I'm in the wrong – I can understand it, let go, and try to do better." —Danielle K White

* New Episode* The White's are back and on fire in this new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. Inarguably one of their spicier therapy sessions yet, in addition to today's theme of the Karmic Loop, Garrett & Danielle delve into the topics of parenting, fitness, dating, the art of seduction, sex, and have a candid conversation about the loop Garrett has been stuck in for the past two weeks. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. Communication Point #1: The Hamster Wheel When artists inside of Danielle's programs tell her they don't have time to do the work required to make the changes they want to see inside of their business and life, she describes that as being on a hamster wheel. "You say you don't have time and you're extremely tired…but you're not actually going anywhere, you're literally just looping and looping. You can't afford NOT to have time. When people say they don't have enough time, it gives them an excuse not to try something new." QUESTION Where in your world are you making excuses instead of making time? Point #2: False Lift When you're going along in life, and you suddenly get triggered about something, you begin to drift into a series of feelings of anger, blame, guilt, and shame, aka the Pit. Once inside the Pit, you want to fix things, but you're not sure how. You begin thinking, "If only I could go back to how things were before." As you fall and drift down from the peak to the Pit, you find yourself inside a false lift that takes you back to the peak where you were before…but no change has actually taken place, and nothing is ever fixed. QUESTION What area of your life do you continuously have the same arguments over and over and over again? How is that working for you? Point #3: Collision The only way to change this is to identify that you're in the loop. If you find yourself repeating the same arguments over and over again, arguing about the same shit, in the same way, that's a telltale sign you are stuck inside the Karmic Loop or on the never-ending Hamster Wheel. Once you identify that you're in the loop, you've got to collide. The first collision is with yourself, and the second collision is with your spouse. It's about taking responsibility for where you are. QUESTION Inside your relationship, what are you afraid to have a conversation about with your spouse? Point #4: Shut Down Garrett is experiencing a loop where he has shut down sexually. He has the drive and yet lacks the hunt for Danielle. "I will sit and wait for Danielle to jump on me, which she literally does." Garrett feels he created a pattern after years of rejection and trained himself not to go on the hunt. "I don't do the weird thing, I don't go pouty, I just do nothing. It's shut off." QUESTION Identify a loop you currently find yourself in. What is the first step you can take to begin changing that? Point #5: The Stack Using the Warrior tool called the Stack, Garrett takes himself through a series of questions and answers about this loop he currently finds himself in with regards to shutting himself down sexually, even though it is very clear Danielle is "open for business." During the process of asking himself what it is that he wants, he reveals, "I want Garrett to become a sexual hunter again in his marriage like he was in the first year of his marriage. I want Garrett to break the chains of sexual dysfunction in the game he is playing." QUESTION How willing are you to dive deep into questions of self-inquiry? Communication Challenge: Identify one area in your relationship where you have the same argument in the same way over and over and over. Using the art of collision, begin taking steps to move forward. Date Night Topic: Talk about things you like your spouse to do that turn you on. Quote of the Week: "If you don't have a relationship with your spouse, and all your energy is poured into your kids, it's gotta be a pretty depressing day when your kids leave." —Garrett J White "I have to walk by damn near naked and be like, "We're open for business!" —Danielle K White dateyourwife.com, warriorgreens.com becomeaking.com, dkwstyling.com

It's no secret that the Date Your Wife Podcast doubles as a weekly therapy session for married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garret J White. This week during their candid conversation about the topic of parenting, fireworks are ignited as they each take a strong stance for their differing parenting tactics and strategies. *Episode Repeat from July 2018* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…. PARENTING Point #1: Monster Mom, Monster Child Garrett spent this past week in Costa Rica on a surfing vacation, and Danielle and the girls flew to Utah to be with her parents for a few days. That first night deep in the jungle of Costa Rica, Garrett received a frantic and emotional text call from Baily, their eleven-year-old daughter, who was screaming and freaking out about her smashed cell phone. That night, he realized that at the end of the day, he had absolutely no control over what was happening over 3500 miles away in a different country. Danielle: At the same moment Garrett was having that realization, I was having the realization that there was nothing I could do, either. Bailey had flipped her lid and was totally irrational, to the point where anything I said escalated the situation on both sides. I started out calm, and then I got to the point where monster mom came out. I reminded her that she's eleven and is not entitled to a phone, and eventually grabbed her phone and threw it. I suddenly realized that monster mom created monster child. QUESTION What is your parenting strategy when your kids are behaving irrationally? Point #2: To Slap or Not to Slap Garrett: Danielle texted me and asked me what she should have done. I said, slap her, but she said no. "Breaking cell phones is a very expensive habit because every cell phone you break, you inevitably end up getting a new cell phone, and we just end up spending more money. Slap her, it's free, and a quick slap takes care of it all." Danielle: I remember being backhanded by my mom a few times. One time she did it so hard that I flew into the window and got a bloody nose. You want me to slap her, but the repercussions of being a pre-teen and having your mom or dad backhand you across the face cause far more scarring than throwing a cell phone. QUESTION What are your thoughts about slapping? Yes or no? Point #3: Cell Phone Family Plan Danielle: When Baily doesn't have her cell phone with her 24/7, she's more present. She has a tendency to get into her head. She worries about the wrong shit and gets sucked into the vortex. I think there's a lot of good that comes from Social Media, but there have to be boundaries, and there have to be limitations so there isn't this sense of entitlement. Tonight when we get home, we're going to create a cell phone contract with her. Garrett: I think the contract is a very good idea. I just think you need to be very clear about what you're going to put on the contract. You better be ready to enforce it, and you better know what the enforcement of the plan is, otherwise it's just going to be another one of those things that never happen. QUESTION Cell phones and kids – why or why not? Point #4: Different Parents, Different Strategies Garrett: As parents, we have radically different strategies for dealing with our children. I deal with life one way, Danielle deals with life another way. Part of what used to cause a lot of conflict was that we didn't know how to submit to what the other person was passionate about. For example, Danielle said that Baily told her to her face that she's a fucking bitch. I would slap her in the mouth. But Danielle's opposed to that and thinks it's super trashy. In my opinion, if our daughter calls Danielle a fucking bitch, she deserves to be slapped in the face. The end. Danielle's strategy is to ignore and wait until things blow up, then she deals with the chaos from that point on. I like to intercept shit and punch it before it becomes a major issue. This has created a lot of chaos for us as we raise our children because we have totally different strategies. QUESTION What are your parenting strategies? Point #5: Kings, Support Your Queens Garrett: Gentlemen, yes it's your job to lead in the house, but at the same time, your wife spends more time with your children. At the end of the day, although I may have opinions about how things should go on at home, she spends the most time with them and they've figured out their game. One of the worst things you can do is to fuck up their flow, even when it looks like complete insanity from the outside. Just support it. There's a shitload of disrespect in our country with kids in this age group who just don't give a shit. They talk shit to their parents, to adults, and to teachers. I don't necessarily have the answers, but here's what I do know: insid

*NEW EPISODE* The White's are back in the studio with a brand new episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, fresh and on point in the style you have come to love! We learn what has been transpiring in their lives since the arrival of baby Isla, what postpartum life is like, why Danielle feels they should show themselves some grace, why Garrett referred to Danielle as Tom Brady the morning after their Anniversary, and much, much more. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Sex Point #1: The Miracle Nearly all parents can agree that the first few days and weeks of having a new baby in the house is a huge adjustment for everyone. This one investment has made all the difference and is what Garrett refers to as a life preserver. What is it? It's a Snoo. Adds Danielle, "It's a miracle. You zip the baby in so they can't wriggle out of their blanket, and it plays white noise while gently rocking them." QUESTION What gadgets have helped you with your newborn? Point #2: The Meltdown Garrett created the "Don't Be a Dick While Your Wife is Pregnant" challenge which he managed to pull off up until he fumbled on the second-yard line. "She's two weeks postpartum and something inside of me snaps. I am obsessed with sex and I get to this angry place." Danielle: You did the weird thing that makes a woman feel more guilty. Then I had a postpartum meltdown explosion. I was postpartum, mixed with newborn emotions, and my eyes and forehead were weeping in ways they never had. I bawled my eyes out for an hour with a lot of fuck you's in between. QUESTION What did you experience as a couple during the early postpartum days & weeks? Point #3: The Anniversary After their huge blowout, Danielle knew it was time for them to get back on track doing the things that worked for them in their relationship: this podcast, Date Nights, and Sex. She was beginning to feel more like a woman rather than an "Umpa Loompa" as she put on her makeup, pulled up her Spanx, and went out on a date with Garrett. She also realized that they needed to give themselves some grace. Garrett: We got back on track sexually, and then we had what I'm going to call the Quantum Night, Quantum standing for four – the Cuatro night. It's in my favorite files. I can put out imagery and live video footage – an hour of it. That was so amazing. That was the best ever! QUESTION What was it that brought you back on track sexually after the births of your babies? Point #4: The Green Light Does the woman initiate? Do they wait for the guy to initiate? What can she do to signal that the doors are open? What should he NEVER do if he wants to initiate sex? Men, if you're trying to get your wife in the mood and immediately start rubbing or slapping her butt, or go in for the boobs, THAT IS A HUGE TURN OFF! DON'T DO THAT! Instead, come to her and say something like, "Let me rub your shoulders." This works like a charm for most women. QUESTION What are the Red Lights and Green Lights inside of your sex life? Point #5: Sneak Preview Here's a sneak preview into the world of the White's and their respective businesses. Garrett: WARRIOR GREENS – Kitchen-style documentary on the history of Warrior Greens and how they support the conversation of CORE 4 for both men & women. BECOME A KING Series – The seven Pits and Power moves of married businessmen with children. Danielle: Creator of Natural Beaded Rows (NBR), Host of the Big Money Stylist Podcast, Hair Education (NBR & BMS), Hairline (ISLA), Ower of DKW Styling Salon. Go to dkwstying.com to find out more. QUESTION What are you creating in your lives either as a couple or individually? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about what keeps you on track as a couple. Date Night Topic: Come up with some unique-to-you Green Lights. Quote of the Week: "The game was a little rough. My brake pads were completely exhausted, and I was tearing apart my rotors with no brake pads. I didn't realize I had run out of runway. All of my will power and "white-knuckling it" was gone. Something shifted in my brain. The baby's out, the vagina's open for business, why am I still being rejected?" –Garrett J White "You gotta be the bigger person, ladies." –Danielle K White betheman.com, dkwstyling.com

*EPISODE REPEAT FROM OCTOBER 2018* On the heels of a fabulous weekend getaway to New York City, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about the importance of taking time away from their children and their day-to-day responsibilities, and reconnecting with each other as a couple on a deeper level. ______________________________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Sex Point #1: Weekend Getaways At least four times a year, Garrett and Danielle take long weekend trips to reset their relationship. Before Garrett began committing to these getaways, he was unable to see the ROI in them. For ten years, he had a difficult time reconciling spending money on any type of vacation. QUESTION When was the last time you and your spouse went on a weekend getaway? Point #2: Refresh and Unplug In the Strategic Coach program, Dan Sullivan created the Entrepreneur Time System. Inside of that, you have Focus Days, Buffer Days, and Free Days. When you go on weekend getaways, there are a couple of things that have to happen: 1- you must be able to refresh, and 2- you must be able to unplug. QUESTION What do you and your spouse do in order to come away refreshed from these getaways? Point #3: Can't vs Can You'll always find something that can get in the way of taking time away from the kids in order to be with each other: you don't have time, the conditions aren't right, it's either all or nothing. A lot of times, we focus on what we can't do instead of what we can do. If your marriage is in a rough place, it's even easier to justify why you can't do something. QUESTION What excuses can you clear away in order to make room for weekend vacations with your spouse? Point #4: Sexual Distance When Danielle feels like they're in a weird place, she thinks back to the time when they were dating. "What were the behaviors I was doing that I don't do anymore?" Garrett: If you have some distance sexually, it's very easy to get stuck in a routine where you start going through these phases: anticipation, desperation, fuck you, and apathy. QUESTION What are some things you did when you were dating that you're no longer doing? Point #5: Primal Connection If you don't get space away from your current environment, you can't return to the primal nature that actually connected you in the beginning. If you're not connecting regularly, you end up inside of a stale relationship where you're simply partners in the game, sans the lust and the primal connection. QUESTION What are you doing to retain and ignite the primal connection you felt when you first met and dated your spouse? Communication Challenge: Take a walk down memory lane and reminisce about the things you loved doing together when you first met and while you were dating. Date Night Topic: Get your calendars out and plan your weekend getaways for the next 12 months. Quote of the Week: "I'm constantly creating opportunities inside of our relationship to have space away with Danielle." –Garrett J White "Let's hit the reset button before it gets too far into the 'fuck you' mode." –Danielle K White betheman.com, dkwstyling.com

*REPEAT EPISODE FROM NOVEMBER 2018* As highly successful producers, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about their business growth, their goals for the upcoming year, and how they are going to simplify the game moving forward. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Cleaning House Danielle spent a portion of the year stepping outside of her business, watching it explode in growth, but at the same time, realizing she may have stepped out a little too far. The goal of 2019 inside of Wake Up Warrior is to unify the men, tighten up the game, and simplify it. QUESTION What areas of your life can you tighten up as we head into 2019? Point #2: The Money Game During the early years of their marriage, Danielle and Garrett were both working. Garrett was paying the bills and Danielle was stockpiling money. While Danielle's father paid the bills, her mother paid for their lifestyle. Garrett's parents had the agreement that his mom would stay home with the kids, which she wanted, and his father would pay the bills. QUESTION What role did your parents play in the money game when you were growing up? What role do you play? Point #3: Mommy Guilt Many women wonder how they can work because it will take time away from their kids. It's Danielle's belief that working makes women less crazy. Danielle: If you feel like you want to pursue those passions and talents of yours, do it. It's my belief that it makes you a different and a better person. QUESTION As a wife and mother, what would be possible for your life if you began pursuing some of your passions and talents outside of the home? Point #4: Different AND Equal Back in the day, the economic engine of life was the home where both the man and the woman were producers. Upon the arrival of the Industrial Revolution, a rift took place within the fabric of the home. The trend that Garrett sees happening inside of this conversation of money is that women are seeing themselves as a vital piece of the production game, and at the same time, they don't want to do it alone. QUESTION How do you view your roles as producers? Point #5: Power and Stress A lot of men begin to feel inadequate if their wives are working, and it's actually very frightening for them. They are weak men who get threatened by their wives having any kind of power. Garrett's goal and target is to always make 10x more than Danielle. Danielle: Garrett deserves to make ten times the amount I do because I'm not willing to take on that stress. QUESTION As a man, how are your feelings of inadequacy affecting your relationship with your wife? Communication Challenge: Have a discussion about your current roles inside of your marriage. What would you like to change as you move into 2019? Date Night Topic: What are your passions and desires as a couple? What would you like to do together in 2019? Get out your calendars and start making plans. Quote of the Week: "If a woman controls sex AND money, it leaves a guy in a very interesting place. He has to be very confident and certain as a man." —Garrett J White "Maybe I could have been the best damn version of me had I not worked, but In my experience, me working has made our relationship better." —Danielle K White

The topic of money is this week's conversation inside of the Date Your Wife podcast. The unique dynamics inside of a marriage relationship create a very difficult game for many couples when it comes to the sticky topic of money. *EPISODE REPLAY FROM SEP 2018* ________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Catch-22 Back in the day, Danielle hated Garrett because he was working so much. But she didn't hate the business because that's what was paying the bills. "I got to this place where I felt Garrett loved the business more than he loved me." Garrett: Men can control what happens in business more than they can control what happens at home. It's easier to be the King in business than it is to be the King at home. QUESTION Gentlemen, have you lost your crown? What are you going to do to get it back? Point #2: Split in Two Many women who out-produce their husbands are in this space of: How do I deal with my husband who is not being the man? I'm dominating him in business and trying to decide if I should get a divorce. Garrett: When a man allows his wife to split the bills, it splits his power and creates a bit of submission in a weird way. Men, at the primal level, must be okay with the stewardship and responsibility of "I must pay the bills independent of my wife." QUESTION How do you as a couple feel about this? Point #3: Wake-Up Call At one point in their marriage, Danielle hid how much money she was making. She split up her bank accounts to create a safety net for herself because she wasn't sure if their marriage was going to work out. When she got triggered about something, she revealed to Garrett that she had made $30k the previous month which served as a wake-up call in the form of a big two by four straight into his balls. QUESTION Ladies, why do you hide your money from your husband? Point #4: Show Me the Money, Honey There's an artist inside Danielle's Big Money Stylist network who is outproducing her husband in a massive way. "I love my husband and I want to be more sexual, but I'm just not attracted to him." Garrett: This is a sticky situation, and there's not a simple one-cut solution. When Danielle was making more money, her tolerance of behavior by me went down, and her desire to connect with me sexually also went down. QUESTION How is this dynamic affecting your marriage? Point #5: Friday Night Fights A recent fight between Danielle and Garrett would have been the end of their marriage a few years ago. But this time it compelled them and opened them up. Danielle: When your foundation is rocky and an explosion happens, it's hard to build that back up. Now, we can have a fight and come back and talk about it because our foundation is more solid. QUESTION What condition is the foundation of your marriage in? Communication Challenge: Gentlemen, I want you to have a conversation with your wife about the dynamics of money. What is the connection to the attraction for you and the money you're making or the lack of money you're making? If you're a man and not paying the bills, have that conversation with your wife and just see where it takes you. If you can get her to be honest with you, it may be the prompting that you need to ultimately rise. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about what you can do to create a stronger foundation inside of your relationship. What does that look like for both of you? Quote of the Week: "There are very few men on this planet who are actually ok with their wives out-fucking producing them. The girl owns the money card AND the vagina card. She owns the victory, the gina, and the money." –Garrett J White "When you weren't my money, you weren't my honey. When I hold all the control, there's no chemistry." –Danielle K White dkwstyling.com betheman.com

Married co-hosts, Danielle K and Garrett J White, share their experiences as they do their best to navigate their way through this life. This week, the topic of conversation is Communication. *EPISODE REPLAY FROM OCTOBER 2018* Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Communication Point #1: Some Like it Hot Danielle attributes her direct communication to the fact that she's a Taurus. "They're actually sweet people, but if you set them off, you better get out of the fucking way." In marriage, she believes you have to use tact when you communicate with your partner. She usually runs questionable things through the 'dating filter' before she sends them to Garrett: "If we were dating, would I say this?" QUESTION How often do you find yourself running your communication through filters? Point #2: Don't Poke the Bear Garret: Once Danielle is face down in the pillow, and the dog is curled up at her feet, I am now encroaching into the evil lair of insanity. I go about my evening routine knowing that Danielle is in comatose mode. Danielle: Do you want to make love to your whiteboards, or do you want to make love to me? Just give me a little squeeze. If I respond, you're in luck; if I say nothing, you're shit out of luck. QUESTION What non-verbal signals and signs do you give to each other? Point #3: Feeling Wanted Garrett: There was a time I was unable to acknowledge to myself nor have a conversation with Danielle about the fact that sex was important to me. I was always indirect and hoping things would work out instead of directionally speaking to them. It was the same with my businesses. Danielle: I started to understand that in order to get what I wanted, we both had to feel wanted. Girls like and want sex, but I think it's more of being wanted, and having that attention and validation that my man is into me. QUESTION How do you make sure your partner feels wanted by you? Point #4: Direct Communication Garrett: Part of the conversation in our home is that we talk directly with each other, as well as in front of our children. Our kids have very strong opinions about things, and they use very powerful language. I used to steer clear of direct communication in our marriage, particularly on the topic of sex, because I just did not know how to get over my story of feeling rejected and my pain of feeling so. QUESTION In what areas of your life do you have a challenge with direct communication? Point #5: Running Man Garrett: I had given myself permission for a very long time to allow our relationship to be on eggshells, mostly because I literally couldn't commit to much and I was always in a place where I was ready to bail. About two years ago, a shift took place inside of Garrett causing the back door to completely disappear. Danielle noticed huge results after Garrett finally gave himself permission to commit and go all in. QUESTION What level of commitment do you have inside your marriage? Communication Challenge: Inside of your relationship, where are you avoiding direct conversations? How is this impacting your marriage? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about this topic: In order to get what I want, we both have to feel wanted. Quote of the Week: "Commitment itself is the bridge or gateway to actual direct communication. If you're not committed to your marriage, or to the person you're married to, direct communication cannot happen." –Garrett J White "As we set our relationship up for success, it impacts so many other areas of our life, including the example we set for our children." –Danielle K White

Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Parenting Point #1: Morning Chaos Garrett describes their eleven-year-old daughter as a morning psychopath. She sets her alarm to go off up to nine times every morning just so she can wake up and get out of bed. Their seven-year-old daughter is very much into routines. It's almost as if she goes into auto-pilot in the morning and is good to go as long as everything is set up perfectly for her in advance. QUESTION How are your children similar? How are they different? Point #2: Unsolicited Advice Garrett is very committed as a parent to teaching the 'right' thing to his children. He's had people reach out to him offering unsolicited advice about their parenting styles. Danielle: Everybody is super judgy about parenting styles, and at some level, every parent feels like they have fucked up their kids. QUESTION How do you handle unsolicited advice when it comes your way? Point #3: I Love You No Matter What If Danielle had to choose only one thing to teach their children, it would be accountability coupled with love. "If you could embed accountability and love into a kid, I think that would solve the world's problems." Years ago, Garrett began telling his daughters, "I love you, no matter what." No matter what they do or say, he told them he will always love them. QUESTION If, as a parent, you could only teach your children one thing, what would that be? Point #4: Boxes and Checklists Just like in education, there's a box that people try to put their kids into of 'this is what it looks like to be successful." And anything that doesn't fit inside that box, they consider inaccurate or not right. For most parents, they're always trying to get it "right" with their children, so they always feel guilty. And because they never get it 'right' based on a checklist that never ends, they don't focus on the actual belief systems they want to instill in their children. QUESTION How are you keeping your children inside a box? Point #5: Core Beliefs Garrett: You can teach your kids all kinds of tactics, but what are the important mindsets and skillsets that you 'should' teach your children? There are plenty of people who know how to do the dishes, yet are unable to produce in life. I'm convinced that what people actually learn as children and what they take into their adult life is driven by the values and beliefs their parents instill in them, both by what they say and by what they watch their parents do. QUESTION What are the core beliefs that you are brainwashing your kids to believe that are empowering them as people? Communication Challenge: What are the actual belief systems that matter to you, and that you are instilling in your children? What are the beliefs about themselves and the world that you are consciously depositing into them? Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, have a conversation about how you want your children to remember your interaction and love connection as a couple. Quote of the Week: "I was blown away when I got married at how horrifically unprepared I was to be a married man." –Garrett J White "She's not mine to manipulate and control. I'm there to guide and lead her; to show up and do the best I can as a parent." –Danielle K White

Grab some popcorn, folks, and get ready for another off the charts episode of the always spicy and highly entertaining Date Your Wife podcast, featuring the refreshing "tell it like it is" co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White. They're at it once again as they delve into Garrett's self-proclaimed favorite topic of Sex. Danielle calls Garrett out on his creepy strip shows in his weird thong and invites him to become more comfortable with his sexuality, and Garrett says he doesn't want empty sex – aka vaginal masturbation. Fan favorites Quickie Quickie Porn Star and TTF are back in the mix, and there's a new arrival on the scene: Slip 'n Slide. *EPISODE REPLAY FROM MARCH OF 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Sexy Seduction 101 Being sexy is as simple as walking around in a new bra and underwear while casually asking, "Have you seen my toothbrush?" Garrett suggests saving money by skipping the bra and just buying the panties. Sometimes it's a 'top-stays-on-bottom-comes-off' kind of night. Other times, it's an everything comes off, keep the lights on and do a little dancing around kind of night. Most women need a little wining and dining before the main course. Take her there just a little bit and then worry about yourself. QUESTION How have QQPS (Quickie Quickie Porn Star) and TTF (Touch Me-Tell Me-Fuck Me) become game-changers in your marital sex life? Point #2: Sex Therapy Is Not About Sex Throughout their marriage, Danielle had never felt there was a safe space to talk about sex with Garrett, making it awkward for her to even bring up. She found herself starting to believe his story about her that she didn't want to have sex. Sex therapy for the White's yields the single greatest breakthrough for Garrett after Danielle divulges a piece of information that instantly shreds a story he created during his first marriage and brought with him into theirs. Garrett creates a new story which shifts and rocks their world. QUESTION Men: What is your sexual story? Point #3: The Perfect Storm As a 15-year-old Mormon teen who has been raised that sex before marriage is taboo, Garrett divulged to his parents his plan to have sex with his 18-year-old girlfriend after the upcoming Prom. He immediately gets shipped away to live with his grandparents in Utah for a couple of months, and as a result, never has a conversation about it or closure with his girlfriend whom he has been dating for a year and is madly in love with. Garrett dates his first wife under the umbrella that says sexual relations are taboo before marriage. Yet, they fool around and have sexual relations, lie about it to their religious leaders, adding to the guilt and shame created when he was 15. Sex in his marriage with Danielle becomes problematic, as Garrett carries into it this brewing cesspool of guilt, shame, and pain, while Danielle, because of her Mormon upbringing, feels like she has to stifle the sexual feelings that come naturally to her. QUESTION How has your upbringing shaped and influenced your attitude, beliefs, and stories about sex? Point #4: Written in the Stars In her astrological studies, Danielle is validated by her discoveries that, as a Taurus woman, she is very sensual, loves cuddling, and is very happily satisfied with her traditional approach to sex because a good thing never gets old. She's been changing it up with QQPS, which Garrett loves. Communication for Gemini's is huge, and they love to be emotionally stimulated more than anything else. Garrett realized that he had gotten so disrespectful as a husband and exposes the lie that all he wanted was someone to have sex with every day. What has exploded their sex life is their connection to truth. QUESTION What is written in the stars about you individually that resonates with you, that can serve you and your spouse in your marriage? Point #5: Your Story is Your Biggest Problem Garrett: I didn't know what our relationship would be if we weren't always arguing about having sex. Danielle: I was fearful and wondering if we have a new story, does that mean we have a new story with somebody else? There was a lot of action and collision that had to happen, which were really a pursuit of truth underneath the surface of all the lies that we were telling, which came in two forms: the blatant lies we were telling and the stories that we started to believe. Your stories are powerful enough to convert your husband or wife to believe. QUESTION What are the lies that the collision in your marriage is trying to uncover? Communication Challenge: What is your sexual story? Do the investigation on your own about your own story, and then in a conversation with your spouse, share your results with them. Date Night Topic: On your date night, be open to having a

*PODCAST REPLAY* Today we're going to share with you an intense, potent and powerful interview with Danielle at the Warrior Empire event in December 2016. It was the first time Danielle took to the stage where she talked about what it's like to be a woman married to a man living the Warrior's Way. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: When a Wife Fights the Change Her Husband Wants to Make In the beginning, Danielle was completely against how Garrett was showing up. He was going to self-help seminars and making her feel guilty for not going with him. He continued challenging her, which caused her to reevaluate who she was and who she wanted to become. Danielle: Put yourself in your wife's shoes. If she started implementing change, how would you react? People, in general, don't like change because it's scary. From a wife's perspective, you can't overwhelm her, but rather lead by example in the same way you would lead children. QUESTION Gentlemen, what is the way you initiate growth and change in your partner? Point #2: Choosing In There came a time when Danielle had to choose to be all in for herself AND their marriage. Garrett was moving in the direction he was going, and he was committed over time to a specific path. At the same time, they were trying to recover from chaos as a couple. Danielle: I felt that both of us were fighting and neither of us was ready to give up. We were both not necessarily choosing in, but we weren't out and were still very much connected. All it takes is that little piece of connection to rekindle and to rebuild. QUESTION How can you "choose in" to your marriage everyday to keep the flame burning or to rekindle a fading flame? Point #3: Sex and Marriage It's all about give and take. You have to play the role a little bit and let go of your ego. In order to build that sexual chemistry that seems to leave after you get married, think about the feeling you had when you were dating and do what you did back then: you got your car washed, you got a new pair of shoes, you planned the date, you were flirty. How did sex therapy help us? I felt like I could say what I was thinking without worrying about upsetting Garrett. Having a therapist is like having a sounding board where it's immediately less triggering for both sides. That being said, Garrett got triggered at one point during a session and jumped up and did pushups because he was so pissed. QUESTION What do you do to keep the sexual chemistry strong in your relationship? Point #4: Collision Danielle: Whether the wife works or not, when couples grow, the wife goes into this "I can do everything" mode where it seems kind of masculine. It's actually more cold and calculated where we don't come across as very feminine, but instead, we're in focus mode trying to get shit done. Garrett: Gentlemen, the more you encourage your wife to change, the more she will rise in power, and the more collisions are going to take place. As Danielle has risen in power as a creator and a producer, her masculinity has also risen, so there's this collision that exists inside of her. Sometimes the collision we experience is not as lovers or as a couple, but instead as two masculine energies colliding. QUESTION What happens when you collide with your spouse? Point #5: Living the Warrior's Way Danielle: I'm addicted to the high of growing where it makes me feel like comfortable is no longer an option. Progressing as a person is now a high for me. How can I stay where I am when the sky's the limit? Where things were once scary and chaotic in our life and relationship, we're now in a much healthier space. I look at where we are now and the only thing I feel is gratitude, humility, and excitement. If this has happened in the last five years, what's going to happen in the next five years? I get glimpses of the future sometimes and I'm like, "Oh shit, that's so cool!" QUESTION How have you and your spouse changed as a direct result of living the Warrior's Way? Communication Challenge: Take some time to have a conversation around this idea of collision. How can you use this tool to better serve your relationship? Date Night Topic: On your next Date Night, take a trip down memory lane and talk about what you both used to do in the early days of your dating and start implementing those things to rekindle and ignite the flame of sexual chemistry between you. Quote of the Week: "Once men experience Warrior, they become more invested in their children, which produces a new kind of chaos while they figure out how to balance this with their role as a husband, and as a hunter and provider." —Garrett J White "No matter who you're with, you're going to have problems. With Garrett and I, it made more sense to rebuild our relationship th

Being married can be a complete shit show AND amazing... all at the same time! While most marriages end up in sedation, disconnection and/or divorce, Garrett and Danielle have committed to creating something a little bit better than that and a bit more fun. Join them in this week's podcast that doubles as their very own therapy session as they engage in a conversation about the all-important topic of communication. * This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode from May 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Less Roommate, More Spark You can be comfortable with somebody and respect them, and maybe you don't fight, and things are generally good, but there's no spark. Your idea of a night out is coming home from a long day at work, throwing on your sweats and watching Netflix together…and then you wonder what happened to that spark you used to feel. Date Night is one of the ways the sparks continue to fly between Danielle and Garrett. Danielle loves getting all dressed up for Date Night and treats it like an actual date like she did during their pre-marriage days. She inspired Garrett to level up his game from his go-to flannel shirt to his now custom-tailored design jackets. QUESTION When was the last time the two of you dressed up and stepped out on the town together? How did it make you feel? Point #2: Sugar 'n Spice Garrett: Inside the communication game, people sometimes think that it's the spice they're trying to get rid of. When I define spice, I'm talking about arguments, disagreements, giggling, laughing, joking, having fun, getting angry at each other, fighting, battling, debating, having crucial conversations – it's everything! Danielle: There's a lot of spice in our marriage, and we collide a lot with our personalities – both in good ways and in ways where we piss each other off. Spice, for me, is "I fucking hate you," which turns into "I fucking love you." QUESTION How do you keep your marriage fresh and spicy? Point #3: Love Notes Making daily deposits into your family's life is part of living the Warrior's Way, which is part of something called the CORE 4. Men typically don't know how to communicate their feelings and don't send love messages to their wives, which Garrett believes many women would love receiving from their husbands. While Danielle acknowledges the daily texts from Garrett, her love language is found more in spending quality time together with him, like doing these podcasts or going on Date Nights. She sends texts of encouragement when she senses he's having a stressful day, which messages Garrett loves receiving as part of his love language. QUESTION What are your thoughts about giving or receiving love notes? Point #4: Give and Take Garrett: In my world, I had to learn that it was ok to buy my wife shit. It was a very hard thing for me, and I questioned how buying gifts for her made me more valuable as a husband. Danielle: Because I can buy my own things, I felt like I had to submit and let Garrett buy me gifts, which is one of my love languages. I wanted him to be the man, yet at first, I wasn't allowing space for him to do that. QUESTION Why are you stopping your spouse from giving you what you say you want to receive from them? Point #5: Dance With Me Garrett: As you can tell, we're still working on this, which is the ability actually to communicate with and understand the language of our partner. Inside of that, we get to choose to do two things: 1- appreciate the love language they receive in, and 2-learn to give the love language that the people we're married to want to receive. QUESTION What does your daily dance of communication look like? Communication Challenge: Danielle: Garrett needs to be told, "I love you," but my communication style is different. How about you? Is your communication style verbal or silent? What about your spouse's? Do you think one is wrong and one is right? Date Night Topic: For women, what is your husband's love language, and how can you cross the line a little bit for him? For men, how can you cross the line a little bit for your wife? Quote of the Week: "I'm essentially making love to the ocean because she accepts me every morning." —Garrett J White "We'll argue about a topic, and one of us has to reach over to the other side and reciprocate eventually. You have to cross the line in order to make it a little more peaceful in your home." —Danielle K White

Welcome to a brand new episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast! The White's are back after the recent birth of baby Isla, and in classic White style, share stories and details of their birth experience. As a bonus, we get a recommendation from Garrett for his new favorite breakfast burrito and a surprise prediction. Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Change of Plans In the final weeks leading up to baby Isla's birth, Danielle began experiencing some health issues, which ultimately led to an early inducement and delivery. "I always had this intuitive feeling that she would come a little early." Danielle had considered doing a natural birth due to the not so great experiences with epidurals during her previous two births. But with the Pitocin speeding up and magnifying the contractions, she opted for an epidural at the eleventh hour. However, it only reached mid-thigh, which made it possible for Danielle to feel the intense pain and ebb & flow of each contraction. QUESTION What types of births have you and your spouse experienced? Point #2: ISLA Hand-tied Hairline With 48 hours to come up with a name for her new hand-tied hairline, Danielle decided to name it after their daughter, Isla. "Most people think we named the baby after the hairline, but it was the other way around." "It was so ironic that Isla came out with this super amazing hair that's super thick, platinum blonde. It's so cute! She's so teeny and has the full head of hair!" QUESTION Were your babies born with or without hair? Point #3: Skin-to-Skin Garrett is celebrating the fact that he did not pass out as he did with their second baby. "I stood there like a champion holding Danielle's left leg throughout labor. She didn't even know I was in the room, yet there I was holding the left leg amidst the most intense, fierce pushing I have seen from my wife." "Watching my wife naturally go through contractions was a new experience for me, not to mention the experience immediately following the birth. Instead of the nurses whisking Isla away, the doctor held Isla in front of me and said, "Congratulations, dad. kiss her. He then placed Isla on Danielle's bare chest." QUESTION What has changed with the births of each of your babies? Point #4: Grand Production Danielle is recovering really well and has to remind herself to take it easy. "I love the newborn, snuggly phase, but I also love staying busy and active. I'm trying to soak it all in because I know how fast it goes." It's been eight years since their last birth and one of the things Danielle had forgotten about which is causing some frustration is how long it takes to get out of the house with a newborn, and how big of a production it is. QUESTION What is your favorite "baby stage?" Point #5: Another Baby in the Forecast? When asked by Garrett if there was another baby in their future, Danielle replied, "I don't want to commit. Don't get snipped on me or anything, but I can't commit to closing the door AND I can't commit to having another baby either." Garrett: Before Baby Isla came out, Danielle said, "I'm done." But mark my words. By the time Isla is about six years old, Danielle's going to want a secondary friend for Isla. My prediction is, Danielle has another baby at age 40." QUESTION When did you know it was time to have another baby or when it was time to stop? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the different types of birth options available. Date Night Topic: "To have more or not to have more, that is the question." In a twist from a classic Shakespearian line, what are your thoughts about adding family members? How do you come to an agreement? Quote of the Week: "To sit and look at my daughter on my wife's chest was amazing! And getting to kiss her right away was amazing! It was so much more intimate, so much more spiritual, so much more connected than any of the other three children's births." –Garrett J White "I don't commit to a lot because once I do, I'm 120% in; this WILL go down. When I commit, I know I'm going to follow through 100%." —Danielle K White

Communication is the topic in this week's Date Your Wife episode where Danielle and Garrett discuss growth, conflict & collision, and how we all take on different characters and play different roles in our relationships. Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Communication Point #1: Activate the Gremlin Danielle is the owner of DKW Styling Salon and has created a hair extension system called Natural Beaded Rows. She and her team are basking in the afterglow of their most recent three-day convention, where they hosted 350 students eager to learn Danielle's system. Garrett: A comment came in from an associate of ours who was at the convention. "You know, Danielle is like a gremlin – cuddly, nice, sweet, and fun. And when you pour a little water on it and out comes the beast. I watched Danielle speak and train as I have never before seen her. Her Gremlin was activated." QUESTION What causes the Gremlin in you to activate? Point #2: Characters & Roles Garrett: As human beings, we take on many different roles and characters. Inside of marriage, we are required to create and master a diverse number of them. Danielle: In business, a true professional knows when to use each character in the different roles they are required to take on. As women, we have to know when to wear the work hat, when to wear the mom hat, and when to wear the wife and lover hat. QUESTION What are the different characters and roles you take on in your marriage? Point #3: Growing At Different Speeds Danielle: When we lost everything, and Garrett was trying to discover himself, I was always telling him, "just figure it out." He would want to share and connect with me, and when I didn't want to, he felt I wasn't growing. I decided I wasn't going to worry about what Garrett was doing, but instead, work on myself and stay in my own lane. Garrett: We grow at different speeds and at different times. This changes our roles and makes communication difficult. The challenge becomes staying in your own lane. When you're trying to communicate, and you're both in two totally different places, it can be challenging. QUESTION How do you handle growing at different speeds within your marriage? Point #4: Choice vs Force Garrett: I got to the point where my power and my path were going to be about choosing me and choosing the path that I wanted -and inviting Danielle to come along with me. "This is where I'm going. I would like you to come with me, but if you don't want to come, that's okay, I'm still going to go." The more I took that stand, the better our communication became inside of our relationship. Danielle: I felt so much better when it became more about me getting to choose rather than feeling like you were forcing or dragging me. If you go to an event that's all about self-help or self-awareness, you don't want to come home to your spouse and say, "By the way, you're broken, and you should probably come with me and get fixed." QUESTION Are you more likely to force or to encourage choice in your relationships? Point #5: The Control Factor Garrett: I'll have you consider that the worst thing that could ever exist inside of a relationship is where there is no collision in communication. Collision must happen, and inside of that, control must, at times, be surrendered. Danielle: To ultimately get what you want, you have to choose your battles. Sometimes when we're fighting, and realize we're on the same team, we let it go, calm it down, and then revisit that conversation at a later time. QUESTION How do you handle collision in your relationship? Communication Challenge: How do you handle and resolve conflict in your marriage? Date Night Topic: What are you committed to as a couple in the area of growth? Quote of the Week: "When you're growing, and your partner may not be growing at the same speed, you have to stay committed to what you want, move forward, and invite them into the picture." —Garrett J White "Learn how to communicate with your partner in that safe zone." —Danielle K White

In this new and refreshing episode of the "Podcast by the Pool" aka the Date Your Wife podcast, today's topic comes as a result of a recent comment posted in response to a marketing piece on Garrett's social media and sparks an important conversation about taking ownership of where you are in life…no matter where that is. We also get a little pregnancy update as the White's enter the final stretch. To see what Garrett and Danielle are up to professionally, be sure to check out dkwstyling.com or betheman.com. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….Communication Point #1: Own It A recent comment on Garrett's social media prompted today's topic of serving and playing at your level, no matter what it is, and not be ashamed of where you're at, regardless of where that is. You see people with money trying to hide and play humble, and then you have others who don't have things on lockdown but pretend that they do. It's the inability to own where you are at any given time. Garrett: Look at the crazy dynamic of this. In your relationship, you're not where you want to be, so you lie to everyone about where you are, pretending you're something you 're not. Then, you get somewhere that's legit, and you feel weird about being there, so you lie about where you are and try to downplay it. QUESTION Where in your world do you pretend to be something or someone you're not? Point #2: Lambo Be Gone Garrett has had conversations with about five businessmen who have bought a Lamborghini because it's always been something they've wanted. But once they had it, they felt so uncomfortable about what people were saying to them and the attention they were drawing that they ended up selling their car. Garrett: So you get to a place where you've created the success and produced something inside of your world, but then you start apologizing for it. You're at the bottom and trying to up-play; you're at the top and trying to downplay. When the fuck are you going to accept who you are? QUESTION As you look inside your world, where do you tend to make decisions based on other people's opinions about you rather than having confidence in your own choices? Point #3: Just the Facts The White's have experienced both ends of the spectrum, both in their finances and in their marriage. Inside of being at the bottom end of the spectrum, it's difficult to own where you are and to be honest about it. Garrett: Your greatest access to power inside of yourself and inside of marriage is to actually be honest about where you are. But the vast majority of society right now is filled with this idea that you can't be ok with where you are, and that you have to constantly pose yourself to be something that you're not. QUESTION When is the last time you were truly honest about the facts of your life? Point #4: Sexual Desert Garrett: At 43, I'm at a different level. I'm more mature and I've learned to deal with myself in a totally different way than the previous pregnancies. But…I'm getting a little nervous. We've created a new routine that is obviously warranted because of the baby, but I get nervous as a guy. What if it (our sexual life) never comes back? Danielle: Pregnancy and sex are awkward for both the guys and the girls. When you're pregnant, you literally have another human growing inside of you and you're kind of operating at 65% capacity. You're trying to be sexy, but everything is more awkward. I'm not really concerned about the next chapter once I've recovered and healed…and I'm excited to be back to myself again! QUESTION How have you and your spouse handled the 'sexual desert' during pregnancies? Point #5: Taking Risks Garrett: There's a piece inside all of us that has to make a decision, and it's a decision that has to be made every day – several times a day. It's a decision to rise and to build. But most individuals and couples aren't willing to take the risks necessary. You've got to be willing to take a risk. And the first risk you've got to take is being honest with yourself. Danielle: You have to get a little uncomfortable. You have to be willing to change or do something different. And some of those things might not be for you but for your man – and he's going to have to cross the table and do the same thing for you. It might not be something you normally would do but ultimately, it will serve you both and strengthen your relationship. QUESTION When was the last time you took a risk as both an individual and as a couple? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about taking risks and what that looks like for you inside your marriage. Date Night Topic: How to navigate the Sexual Desert during pregnancy is this week's Date Night topic. Bounce ideas off each other and truly get honest with how you each feel. Quote of the Week

Today's conversation with Garrett and Danielle is about the topic of Money and the important role it plays in your relationship. *This is a previously aired episode from April 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Men Must Produce When you make enough money to put your family into abundance, there's a shift in the way that you see yourself as a man and a shift in the way you see your relationship. It also affects the way your wife sees you. Generally, women want to be taken care of. Even if we can produce, we still want our man to 'be the man' and take care of us. A man is sexier to a woman when he's the one producing. QUESTION Does this ring true for you as a couple? Point #2: Money is a Tool Garrett: Inside of our relationships, money sits at the core. It allows you to do so much shit as a couple or it constrains you to do so much shit as a couple. We have friends who celebrate their success and use it as a tool to inspire other people to create more, and then we have other friends who simply hide it all and pretend like they're broke. Danielle: There was a period of about five years where we were experiencing rapid growth and we disconnected ourselves from people. I had surface relationships and felt like I was kind of guarding myself. What I've come to realize now is that I can have relationships with everyone – it's just a matter of me being comfortable with me. QUESTION Are you living in a scarcity mindset while being surrounded by your wealth? Point #3: You Must Leap In 2009 after I had lost everything, I was offered a job from a friend at a very crucial time for me when I didn't have a lot of belief in myself. I was terrified as a husband and as a producer and had lost all confidence in myself. There came a pivotal moment when I realized my life was in the balance and something in my soul said, "You must fucking leap!" Danielle: When we were dating, I saw Garrett for who he was and who he could become. I knew there were great things in store for him. So when I saw him selling out, I was so upset because I knew what he was capable of doing and becoming so much more. QUESTION Where in your life have you settled? Point #4: Don't Settle Garrett: One of the greatest gifts my wife has given to me about money is that she rode my ass about it. My wife helped me see that being driven by the money is not about being driven by the money. As you get better and better at making money as a man inside of marriage, inside of that place it forces you to become a new man. Danielle: I think that people play it safe in life in fear of failure. If I leap and I fall on my face, then there are consequences; but if I just stay in the safe zone, then I can just ride this out forever. If you're listening to this and you're feeling a stab in the heart to take action in your life, do it. QUESTION Where in your life are you feeling the call to take a leap of faith? Point #5: Team Work Garrett: There are a lot of you here who need to rise. Danielle and I work as a team to push each other. There are times she wants to settle into her little comfortable cocoon and then I kick her straight out of the cocoon, I rip it open and throw her off the cliff. And she does the same for me. Danielle: You can produce way more as a couple if you can get on the same page of experiencing more growth together. If you can take those experiences of who you are as a couple and make them work, two is better than one, at least in my experience for us. We push each other in that way. QUESTION What is your dance as a couple in the way you support each other's growth? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation as a couple and allow yourself to collide and dream. Sit down and set a target of a game that you could create together. Who can you become as a couple economically? Who can you become as a producer individually or collectively? What would it require for you to become to pull that off? Date Night Topic: Give yourself some credit for where you are. Challenge yourself on your Date Night to have a conversation about possibility or collision. Either one of these paths will lead you to a new position and possibility inside of your life. Quote of the Week: "My money is a reflection of my ability to produce and create value in the marketplace. So I produce and I create more not for the target of having money, but rather we are in this place of a desire to become more, and inside of that we use money production as a way to accelerate that." —Garrett J White "Be you at every level." —Danielle K White

The White's have a conversation about the last stages of pregnancy and feedback inside of marriage. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Am I Really Waddling That Much? With four weeks to go until the arrival of baby Isla (at the time of this recording), the White's have entered the home stretch…and Danielle's really feeling it. "These last three to four weeks seem like a lifetime and I am literally counting the days." On their recent dinner & movie Date Night, an older man took one look at Danielle and remarked, "Wow! Are you due any day? Don't have the baby in the theater!" She has a few choice words for people who make comments to pregnant ladies when they are obviously close to delivery: fuck off! QUESTION Ladies, what are some of the things people asked you when you were in the pregnancy home stretch? Point #2: Guys Are Clueless When it comes to pregnancy, guys are pretty much clueless and clearly, they don't know what to say when they see a pregnant lady. "I think guys are just trying to say something nice or funny when they make a remark like "don't have the baby in the theatre." Danielle: The only thing you can say to a pregnant girl is, "How are you feeling? Looks great, you're almost there. That's appropriate." Garrett tries to be supportive but he looks at Danielle with concerned eyes, a furrowed brow, and a face that says "Oh, that looks so awful…are you ok?" QUESTION Men, how do you support your wife when she's pregnant? Point #3: Erection in the Desert This pregnancy adventure has opened up the way for the White's to have a conversation about bringing two books to the marketplace with working titles Etiquette For a Pregnant Lady, and What to Expect When You're Expecting – Penis Edition. Garrett: "The more I talk about this topic, the more I believe that this is the window. If I was ever going to do it, it's gotta happen now because I believe this will be our last baby." According to Danielle, Garrett's would be a four-page book. But Garrett begs to differ. QUESTION Ladies, what are some of the things your husband has had to sacrifice during your pregnancies Point #4: Snoogle, Belly Edition During sex, Garrett says he's been sucking in his abs to make room for the baby, something Danielle has been noticing and thinks is really weird. Garrett sees it as "I'm offering support like a Snoogle, belly edition, while you're having sex with me." During the last several weeks of pregnancy, a lot of men think that having sex falls into this weird, awkward, extraterrestrial territory. They're trying not to hurt the baby (even though that is absolutely not possible), and they also want to create a comfortable space for their wives. But it usually backfires. QUESTION How do you and your spouse handle sex during the final few weeks of pregnancy? Point #5: Balls of Steel According to Garrett, a wife is one of the few people in a man's life who can speak to a man in a way that no one else can. "They have all the data and so they can jab straight into a guy's balls. What's gotta happen over time is that your balls have to become steel. She's refining you and getting you to a place of power." Danielle: "My intent is never to go after the jugular or land a straight shot to the balls; it's more out of wanting to help Garrett. Yet a lot of times, I'll be missing all the facts and details and will state my opinion which can come across as a naggy know-it-all or as an attack on Garrett, which isn't my intent." QUESTION What is the state of communication with your spouse? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about feedback inside of your marriage. Date Night Topic: What have been the conditions and results from light bulb moments or major shifts inside of your marriage? Quote of the Week: "Part of the role that your wife plays in your life is the ability to be the "critical bitch." Her job is to criticize and your job is to reframe criticism into a place of hey listen, my wife is simply jabbing at the king to wake the fuck up." —Garrett J White "I think you have to come to this place inside of your marriage where you can take something that is meant to nag or antagonize you, and flip it so it becomes beneficial rather than something that will destroy." —Danielle K White

It's never a dull moment with the White's in this week's edgy and spicy Date Your Wife podcast on the topic of Communication, as they delve into the world of Astrology and Natal Charts, revealing startlingly accurate and sometimes surprising traits about each other. At times their entertaining and flirtatious banter delivers jabs akin to a highly competitive sparring match. *This is a previously aired episode from March 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Understanding Trumps Assumption During their recent vacation, Danielle found herself completely submerged in the world of Astrology, studying personality and compatibility traits of both she and Garrett. What has taken Garrett fifteen years to discover about himself, Danielle has been able to figure out in ten minutes while lying on the gorgeous beaches of Maui sipping a Margareta. Danielle: I'm just trying to figure out how we operate, why we do the things we do, and what makes us tick. With communication specifically, that's what triggers people. You can say something that will trigger a person if you don't have an understanding of who they are, where they're coming from, or what their intentions are. QUESTION How does having an understanding of your spouse's modus operandi influence the way you communicate with them? Point #2: Is Your Relationship Account Overdrawn? Garrett has been working late every night and Danielle wants to spend more time with him, which she recently communicated to him. He has been wanting her to communicate her feelings more often to him, but once she did, Garrett flipped it into an argument. A text and audio battle ensued. Garrett: Part of the problem is you don't make any deposits in my account and tell me I'm doing a great job, which is very important for me. I feel like you are starving me. Danielle: I've come to realize that communication is very important to you and that you always need tons of validation, tons of communication, and tons of praise. QUESTION When was the last time you made a deposit in your relationship account? Point #3: Can You Outsource Your Love Language? When our gas tanks are low, we have zero desire to fill up each other's gas tanks. We start to drift and become strangers in the night, and the next thing you know we're talking divorce. This was always our pattern. I was giving her what I wanted to receive instead of what she wanted and needed to receive, and vice versa. Garrett realized when he sends a love note to Danielle, it's because he wants to receive love notes. Danielle: Can I have someone else write love notes to you? Garrett: You want to outsource your love? Ok, you go outsource it and send me a daily gdamn love letter. And I'll outsource a guy to show up and sit on the couch and just sit there while you put your legs on him. QUESTION How has understanding each other's Love Languages improved the way you communicate? Point #4: Respect is Like Peanut Butter Danielle: I think we have a lot of respect for each other and recognize how hard we have worked to get where we are. Even though we might not think the same, we have the same intentions and goals. I've realized I am never going to get you to see the world the way I see it. And I need to just accept that. Garrett: I think we have the same energy and drive. But we definitely don't agree on everything and that's okay. Part of being able to course correct comes down to respect. It's the ability to not have to agree on everything, and the respect is what takes you through, not love. QUESTION Do you feel like you must agree on everything in order to have a healthy, thriving marriage? Why or why not? Point #5: Collision is Inevitable Danielle: My advice for women when you want to share something with your man is to approach him in a way where you can actually have a safe conversation and express your feelings without things going south. Frame the conversation so that it is coming from the heart and not the head, and frame it in a way that you can actually get past your shit. Garrett: Here's my suggestion for the guys: The better you know yourself, the better you can communicate with your wife what you want and what you don't want. QUESTION How do you handle collision? Communication Challenge: Be open to the possibility of doing some research about yourselves in some new places, and then have some fun talking about what you discover. Here are some suggestions for you: astrowow.com, kolbe.com, colorcode.com Date Night Topic: On your Date Night this week, have a conversation about what it is you actually want. Quote of the Week: "I've been studying something called the Natal Chart which is a tool I use within my Soul Purpose Blueprint. What I know about Gemini's is that we run the Universe and we are

A picture-perfect sunset by the sea is the backdrop for this week's Date Your Wife podcast with married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White. We discover why Danielle has stepped away from her salon earlier than anticipated and what that has to do with Garrett overcoming his aversion to needles. The topics of sex during pregnancy, surrogacy, and favoritism are also part of today's conversation. This episode is all about life transitions and how the entire White clan is doing their part to make this transition as smooth and as seamless as possible. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Change of Plans At the time of recording this episode, Danielle is 33 weeks pregnant with seven weeks to go until the arrival of their daughter, Isla. A visit to the ER reveals some news that requires Danielle to alter her plans for the next seven weeks. "I stopped working a little bit earlier than anticipated, and I'm just trying to take it easy. But mentally, it's a little bit torturous. Yesterday, I went to CVS, and I'm literally standing in line chatting with a bunch of eighty-year-olds while I wait for my prescription and look for compression socks." QUESTION Where in your world have new circumstances required you to alter your original plans? Point #2: Letting Go While at the ER, Danielle was on the phone conducting business with her team members finalizing details of a huge event coming up. When her lead trainer caught wind of where Danielle was and what she was doing, her message to Danielle was, "Let go!" Danielle: "There comes a point where your health is involved that puts things into perspective. I need to slow down, I need to let go, and I need to trust that my teams have this. Sometimes in life, we have to understand that people may not always do things as you would, but we have to give them the opportunity to rise." QUESTION Inside your world, where has the 'letting go' opened up your world and given people inside of your life the opportunity to rise? Point #3: Favorites Bailee, the White's twelve-year-old daughter, makes a guest appearance on the show and adds her two-cents when it comes to baby Isla possibly being the "favored" child. "I'm really good with babies, but I already know the main focus is going to be on the baby… and Ruby's gonna have a tantrum about that. You can already tell Isla is the favorite. She has a hair brand named after her and she has her own cool room with everything new." QUESTION What are your experiences with the "favored child syndrome?" Point #4: The Sex Game Garrett brought up the fact that there's not a manual for the guys when it comes to having a pregnant wife. Men have a lot of questions and go through transitions of their own during this time. "The moment this is brought up," Garrett remarks, "you're thrown into the blender of you're a pussy." "What do the guys do when their sex drive is extremely high? What about sex during the third trimester? What does it mean when you're not getting laid? What do you do when the sex game completely disappears? If we do have sex, will I hurt the baby?" According to Danielle, "There's not a guy on the planet who is long enough to poke his baby in the head!" QUESTION How are you and your partner handling this transition from the male's perspective? Point #5: Seasons of Life Garrett: You've got these transitionary moments of up and down and up and down; seasons of one thing, and seasons of another. Things are constantly evolving and changing as a couple, and you've got to be ok with the fact that they're changing. Right now, we're in a big-ass transition. I look at the fruit of what this time gives us, and it's giving us an opportunity to slow down. It's giving us an opportunity to look at things from a different angle, and it's giving us, as a couple, an opportunity to connect in ways we maybe wouldn't normally connect. And, it's giving our family a chance to have a different focus. QUESTION What lessons have your life transitions taught you? What opportunities have they brought into your life? Communication Challenge: Do you have a focus on a vision beyond the transition? Date Night Topic: Consider what transition you're in and have a conversation about it over a bowl of ice cream. Quote of the Week: "As a couple, if you don't stay open in the transition, you're never going to see the window to the next play. It's very easy to close it down and to want to go back to the way things were." —Garrett J White "I'm going to be smarter this time. I'm going to enjoy my kids AND keep my sanity. I'm going to be with them, and I'm also going to allow help to come in to help me transition through this period of my life. As moms, we're human… and we also need our space." —Danielle K White

Get ready for a spicy conversation in this week's brand new episode of the Date Your Wife Podcast with married co-hosts, Garrett J and Danielle K White, who are preparing to enter a new chapter of their life with the arrival of baby Isla in eight weeks. Join them as they candidly discuss the challenges that come with pregnancy and the seasons & chapters the births of each of their children have opened up for them. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Pregnancy Desert The White's are in full-on pregnancy mode as they enter the eight-week countdown for the arrival of baby Isla who is due to arrive mid-July 2019. Danielle has reached the mega uncomfortable stage where some mornings she struggles to roll out of bed, while Garrett admits they're in the pregnancy desert when it comes to sex. "The last eight weeks, I literally transform into some kind of cartoon character. My body starts to retain water and it just gets super ugly. It's rough. QUESTION Describe what life has been like in the home stretch phase of your pregnancies. Point #2: His & Her Sacrifices When a woman is pregnant, the physical sacrifices she makes to carry and birth that baby are both substantial and obvious. The sacrifice men make, not so obvious. But Garrett says the sacrifices are nonetheless all too real and mostly go unnoticed and are not taken seriously. "As a guy, being in the homestretch is a very interesting game. How do I not be a dick and show up in a selfish way, and at the same time, how do I maintain and manage what I'm up to and what I'm about? When our wives are pregnant, we have no leg to stand on. And inside of that, there's some serious stuff that goes on for us." QUESTION What is the "unspoken" shit you go through as a man when your wife is pregnant? Point #3: Roll Me Over Danielle has good days and bad days. Sometimes she barely notices she's pregnant until she goes to get out of bed and feels like a potato bug stuck on its back. "It takes a lot of energy to be pregnant, and I feel like every ounce of energy I give has to be more focused. Even though I'm operating at fifty percent, that fifty percent is pretty damn good because I make sure whatever energy I put out is worth my time." QUESTION Ladies, how is your energy when you're pregnant? How does it affect your everyday routine? Point #4: Suck It Up Phase As a man watching his wife go through pregnancy, Garrett feels super-protective and super supportive, yet he almost feels like they are in a holding pattern …even though they're not. "I feel like, at some point, you and I lose connection through the pregnancy phase… but not in a bad way." "It's almost like we're in a season of war where there are war rules and peace rules. During war, there's a different set of principles. As a husband, I'm trying to stay active in the game and at the same time, support Danielle in whatever ways she needs. We're in the homestretch of the 'suck it up' phase." QUESTION What does your 'suck it up" phase look like? Point #5: Why Do You Stay? Each child's arrival into the White home has brought new life and a new chapter into their lives, and they feel baby Isla will do the same. "Every child has come at a different season in our life – Parker with my first wife, then Bailee right before things were about to fall apart, and then Ruby. Without the birth of Ruby, I don't think we make it." Danielle: I feel like a lot of times, women stay in relationships because of the children, or they use that as their excuse. Really, they just crave security, and that's why they stay. And that's kind of how it was with Ruby. She kept us together. Women want safety and security, no matter what form that comes in. QUESTION When things got tough in your marriage, what part did the children play in keeping you together and weathering the storms? Communication Challenge: Do you think men make sacrifices when their wives are pregnant? Why or why not? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the different seasons and chapters you entered after the births of each of your children. Quote of the Week: "Marriage itself is a game of seasons, and each season demands a different set of skillsets. But the one thing that has to always be there are two people who are showing up and offering as much as they can." —Garrett J White "When you're making a decision, don't come up with excuses. Literally, look where you're at and decide to make a decision that's going to best support you. In supporting yourself, you support others. Not supporting yourself is actually selfish." —Danielle K White

In today's episode, Garrett and Danielle tackle the topic of parenting after just returning from an epic family vacation in Maui. As much as they love spending time together as a family, there's still guilt that comes as they juggle creating & building their business empires with raising and spending quality time with their children. *This is a previously aired episode from February 27, 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Mommy and Daddy Guilt Garrett: I was stuck inside the story that everything I was doing was fucking up my kids and messing with their future. As a businessman this is a real killer because we are so busy with our businesses, how do we deal with the guilt and shame of not showing up as a father in a way that is actually connected or makes you feel good? Danielle felt guilty as a mom, especially when she was a younger mom micromanaging everything and always feeling like she always had to be there for her kids. Many women have a really hard time spending money or time on themselves, which can make going out on dates with their husbands extremely stressful, especially when you have really young kids. QUESTION How has playing the guilt card suffocated your relationship? What are some ways you can begin letting go and freeing yourself of guilt and shame? Point #2: Out of the Mouths of Babes During the podcast, their 11-year-old daughter makes a surprise appearance via telephone, candidly answering questions posed by her parents. When asked about vacations as a family: "I think it's important because you get time off from work and get to spend time with us for a whole week instead of just seeing us after school, after your Date Nights, or in the morning." Danielle has fought hard for the vacations. She sees them as a time to reconnect as a family, create memorable experiences for everyone, and as a way to establish family traditions. QUESTION What are some of your favorite memories of family trips or vacations you have taken? Point #3: Fulfillment Comes From Purpose Garrett and Danielle both have a Purpose beyond each other and a Purpose beyond their parenting. That Purpose fulfills both of them individually, then that individual connection with themselves connects with each other as a couple, and that 'couple love' spreads down into their children. As they are more often on the same page, and more ok with the idea of who they are as individuals, this has opened up the possibility for their children to see a new path for living. At the end of the day, parenting is about role modeling how to live. The one skillset that you should give your children? How to powerfully live the truth of who they are. QUESTION What Purpose have you found for yourselves individually beyond your relationship or children? How can you support each other in living that more fully? Point #4: Make Time For Each Other We have this faulty belief system that says my marriage must come secondary to the raising of my children. We think that somehow the raising of our children will happen with more power from a couple that's disconnected, doesn't love each other, aren't having sex, and are not communicating. While in Maui, about 90% of the couples staying at the Four Seasons were in their late 50s and 60s, completely bored with and disconnected from each other, and questioning if they even wanted to stay together. They had lost themselves inside of the focus on their children. QUESTION What can you begin doing in your marriage to prevent yourselves from becoming a statistic when the kids are grown? Point #5: Date Night is Non-negotiable Danielle wasn't always a passionate advocate of Date Night. Garrett had to fight for what has now become normal inside of their relationship: weekly Date Nights. He cautions men that it's not going to be easy at first – you're going to have a wife that is dealing with all of the guilt and emotions surrounding the stress of leaving the kids with a babysitter, not to mention reconciling the cost of the entire evening. Gentlemen, take charge and make this shit happen! Don't make Date Nights negotiable. Put your crown on, pick up your shield & your sword, and fight for the shit required to put your relationship back on track. A couple of resources to help you with that: care.com and warriorbook.com QUESTION When was your last Date Night? Communication Challenge: Discuss the actions you feel inspired to take after listening to today's podcast. Date Night Topic: 1 – Go on a Date Night to schedule Date Nights. 2 – Have a conversation about the guilt that you may be experiencing individually and as a couple. Quote of the Week: "I would have you consider that the greatest parenting you could offer your children is to demonstrate a great relationship with your par

Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about the three components necessary in order to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage. *This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode from 2018. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: The Mirror in the Closet Danielle has a mirror and bench inside her closet which comes in handy for the "get it done" sex. "It's a good view for us both: He's got his mirror and I've got my shoes," says Danielle. Garrett: It's awesome. Not only is it great sex, but it's also visual content and stimulus for my mind for days. QUESTION How can you spice up your "get it done" sex? Point #2: Date Your Wife Podcast Garrett came to Danielle last year at this time and told her they were going to be doing a weekly podcast called Date Your Wife. At the time of this recording, they are ready to hit their 50th episode which represents at least 25 hours of communication. Garrett: The podcast was a favorable condition that we created with time, energy, and money, and has proven to be the best therapy of all time for us. QUESTION What favorable conditions have you created in order to have better communication with your spouse? Point #3: Lacking Sex? If you're a guy and sex is not happening, it's a guarantee that what is also not happening is communication – direct, intimate communication which is the ability to communicate and connect. If you have not invested time, energy, or money to create those conditions, then you also cannot be entitled to the results that come through sex and connection. QUESTION Where in your relationship are you investing money and energy, but not time? Point #4: Date Night You must create favorable conditions for communication on your dates. If you are always going out with friends and family for your Date Nights, that is not an environment where the two of you are able to have deep, intimate conversation. Garrett enjoys getting together with other couples about once a month, but anything more than is too much, even if they're good friends because it turns into Team Girls and Team Guys instead of the one-on-one time together that they are desiring on their dates. QUESTION What has been your Date Night pattern? Point #5: Time, Energy, and Money If you're going to create communication, you must be willing to create favorable conditions for communication. You're going to have to invest time, energy, and money at some level, whatever it is. Many men will not invest the time and energy, but will invest the money, or will invest the time and energy, but not invest any money. All three components of the Trifecta must be present. QUESTION What portion of the Trifecta are you missing? Communication Challenge: Figure out how you're going to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage. Date Night Topic: What can you add to your sex life to spice up those times when you have the "let's get it done" sex? Quote of the Week: "You must be willing to invest to create favorable conditions for communication to exist." —Garrett J White "Women look to men for safety and security. In reaching for that safety and security you have to look inward and realize that you are part of creating your own safety and security inside of that relationship." —Danielle K White

In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Saving & Investing As Danielle steps back and looks at their amazing businesses and lifestyle, she is curious if there is a way to start putting more money into other areas, like savings, in addition to life insurance. She wonders if she is ignoring signs from their past mistakes, knowing that their current lifestyle is more abundant than ever before. Garrett: My wife has pushed for our life to rise over and over again. At this point, we save more money than we've ever saved in our whole lives. I've also gone from the only place where I would invest is in the business, and have moved into the place of investing in the family. Ask Yourself: How are you doing in the area of savings? Point #2: Obsession The challenge inside of marriage when it comes to the topic of money is this: making money, growing money, keeping money, and leveraging money. Seventeen years ago, after reading the book 'Rich Dad, Poor Dad,' Garrett realized for the first time that he could make money and became obsessed with it. He went back and forth between the hustle mode of making money and the phase of growing money as he built teams and processes which led him to the game of keeping money. Over the past several years he has invested and put strategies into place which have benefited them in massive ways inside their bank accounts and savings vaults. Ask Yourself: Where are you as a couple when it comes to making & keeping money? Point #3: Building a Legacy Danielle: We live an amazing lifestyle. I'm at the point where I want to be able to build a legacy; an empire. If we stopped working ten years from now, I want to know that we could still live our amazing lifestyle for years to come plus help our children if we needed to. My parents live well but they can't stop working. My dad is 69 and is still building custom homes because they have to continue working to maintain their lifestyle. I look at both of our parents and don't want to live like either of them. Ask Yourself: What do you ultimately desire? Point #4: A Team Effort Danielle: Ladies, money is a tough conversation. Whether you're a woman who can take care of herself, or you're the Mom CEO of the family, it's nice to have a guy that takes care of you. I also want to be a part of this team effort and part of the decisions. I don't want to sit on the sidelines and be naive about what's going on. Ask Yourself: How do you handle money decisions in your relationship? Point #5: Maintain Or Increase? Garrett to Danielle: Would you be willing to maintain our current lifestyle even though our businesses are increasing in revenue? We would maintain our current game, and everything else would go pure cash with no expense increase whatsoever in our personal lifestyle over the next five years. We would not change homes or cars and we would just keep the same game. We would put all the money away that you want to put away without having to up the standard, meaning… two bags, not nine. Ask Yourself: What are you willing to do in order to be able to put money away? Communication Challenge: Have some conversations with your spouse about the game of money: making, growing, keeping, and leveraging money. Date Night Topic: If the money were to suddenly stop coming in, how long would you be able to live your current lifestyle without changing anything? Quote of the Week: "This podcast isn't about having all the answers for you but rather a conversation where we're in a place of figuring shit out as we go." -Garrett J. White "When I'm seventy years old, I want us to be working because we're passionate about it and we are choosing to – we have a purpose behind it – not to just pay the fucking bills." -Danielle K. White

In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, co-hosts Garrett J and Danielle K White are coming to you from the 38th-floor inside a corner suite of the Four Seasons in Las Vegas where they are celebrating Danielle's 36th birthday. This week's conversation is about how the unification of your standards with your spouse builds the ultimate standard, and how you can't pull that off unless you have actually connected with your own standard. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…COMMUNICATION Point #1: Standards One of the gifts of being married is that we each come into it with radically different standards for life. We have standards about sexuality, parenting, making money, how we spend our time, etc., based upon our past, how we were raised, and our mindsets. Danielle: I do have a high standard based upon how I was raised but what I also notice is that I'm an extremely experience-based, detailed person which makes me hold things to a different level or standard than most people. QUESTION What are some standards you hold yourself to? Point #2: Tolerance We tolerate what our standards are. Where this ends up in collision is inside of marriage due to the different standards of each spouse. Garrett has a standard of emotional connection, which is leaving people better than when you first meet them, something that comes very natural for him. Danielle, on the other hand, will tolerate almost no communication with other people. QUESTION What are some of the differing standards inside your marriage which have been a source for collision? Point #3: It Takes Two to Tango Garrett: Without my standards for communication, Danielle would have limited her communication. She never would have launched a podcast in the hair industry, nor would have launched her own salon or training company. Danielle: I hold the standard of where we live and what we wear. When I push to get nicer things in life, we push more in business. And when we push more in business, it not only affects our family but it also creates multiple job opportunities for multiple families. QUESTION What have your differing standards created inside of your world? Point #4: Own Your Standards Garrett: We take a stand for each individual to own their identity, where neither one is a doormat or a steamroller but where we both come to terms with who we are. My standards say we do one thing and Danielle's standards say we do another. As you come to own your standards, it allows you to actually embrace the standards of other people. Together, you create this ultimate standard as a couple. You begin to be more committed to each other, and out of that is birthed something deeper than love, which is respect. QUESTION How has owning your individual standards created the ultimate standard inside your marriage? Point #5: Co-creation Garrett: The standards across both sides of co-creation have allowed for Danielle and I to build our brands, our businesses, and our family. The unique side about all of this is there are very few powerful couples taking a stand for marriage that works, which requires you to be clear in your standards. Danielle: I'm realizing that in managing our own empires and managing a marriage – and managing it well – it's kind of unheard of. We each have huge visions for our brands and we're proving that it can be done; that we can have those individual standards but also come together to create more as a couple. QUESTION What have you been able to co-create as a couple that you most likely never would have on your own? Communication Challenge: Where can you push in your relationship to become more together, to grow together, and unite as a couple? Date Night Topic: What can you create as a couple by uniting your individual standards? Quote of the Week: "The mix of standards between a married couple blend together to create the ultimate cocktail of creation." —Garrett J White "I think we push each other in all the right ways. I think that's what a relationship is supposed to be: pushing one another to a healthy place." —Danielle K White

In this week's topic of Money, Garrett and Danielle explore the idea that the best return on investment you can make is that of time and experiences with your spouse and children. They share stories and tips on how to pull this off successfully, no matter what circumstances you may currently find yourself in. *This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Feeling Like An ATM or Piece of Ass? Inside the game of Relationship, money itself is a controlling tool for most men. Men use money to control women, and women use sex to control men. At the end of the day, this seduction loop leaves many men feeling that the only validation they get is when they make the money, leaving them feeling like an ATM machine. The wife can be feeling like she's 'just a piece of ass' and an unpaid slave. Taking care of the home and the children is a full-time job in and of itself, worth a lot more money than many men are giving their wives permission to spend. QUESTION What actions tend to follow when you feel like an ATM or a piece of Ass inside your marriage? Point #2: Unplug and Let Go Women understand that men have worked all day yet want them to unplug from work and just be present with the family when they are home. Men feel like their day never ends. They come home from a long day of work and then are expected to be fully present with their wife and children. Garrett: I want to spend time with you, not the stressed-out version of you that's worrying about cleaning the fucking house right now. I don't want a fucking checklist of things to clean. I want to be with you. QUESTION What do you do that helps you transition from work to home in becoming present with your spouse and children? Point #3: What's Your Story? Garrett: There are going to be guys with stay-at-home wives up in arms about this, saying, "What?! Let me get this shit straight. I'm going to go pay somebody to come into my home to clean and do the laundry? That's the woman's job. She has to do that. That's why she's home!" What if you questioned the story that 'my wife's the one that's supposed to clean and make dinner, and it's the guy's job to mow the lawn.' Who made up these rules anyway? QUESTION What stories are you hanging onto about the different roles of men and women that are hindering your ability to grow together? Point #4: Spend Money to Buy Time Garrett: One of the ways you can use money as a man inside your home and inside of being together as a couple is to use your money in a way that buys the thing for the family that gives them what actually matters: time. There's this transition that comes with being willing to spend money to buy time. Danielle: People get emotionally bogged down over the stupidest shit. No matter what role you play in your family (working mom, stay at home mom, community mom) there are all of these little things that could lift the weight off our shoulders, relieving tension and guilt, and freeing up more time to spend with the family…which is so worth it to me. QUESTION Where in your life could you make some little adjustments that would free up more time to spend together as a couple or as a family? Point #5: Your Family Is An Investment Garrett: Gentlemen, I'm going to have you consider that the greatest rate of return is to make sure that you stay together as a family. One of the ways to pull this off is to create conditions for your wife to actually have more opportunities. Garrett started looking at their marriage like a business where Danielle became an asset inside of this business. He was willing to hire people to come into their home to free up time so that the family could do more things together. QUESTION How are you investing in our family in terms of dollars, time and experiences? Communication Challenge: At the end of the day, if your money doesn't serve you and your marriage and family, then what is the point in having it? Date Night Topic: What are some of the investments you can make regardless of the amount of money you have? How are you going to take some dollars this week to buy some more time for you and your family so that you can have the time and experiences that matter? Quote of the Week: "You tell me where you're going to get a higher rate of return: money in your 401k plan, or money in a babysitter to watch your children while you take your wife out on a date?" —Garrett J White "Guilt is the #1 destructive thing. It's the enemy; it does not serve you. If you find yourself feeling guilty, ask yourself: How can I let go of this guilt? How can I change this story? Find your balance, find out how to let go of the guilt, and more importantly, learn how to create a story that serves you best." —Danielle K White

Amidst the recent announcement from the White's twelve-year-old daughter that she is through with school and no longer wants to attend – with viable and compelling evidence to back up her stance & position – Garrett & Danielle jump into a conversation that explores the idea of schooling vs education as they compare today's world of accessible technology to the period in which they grew up. Also, be sure to listen to find out how you can become part of next week's show. ______________________________________________________________ Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…PARENTING Point #1: PROCRASTINATION As a procrastinator in High School, Danielle was someone who never turned in her homework and was on the verge of not graduating until she was able to pull off some eleventh-hour shenanigans. "I didn't care about doing homework. I didn't see the point of doing it." Now, as an adult, Danielle regrets that "I didn't learn how to learn and instead always found a way around doing the work." She sees herself as very intuitive but sees Garrett as 100% more book-smart than she is. "He likes to read, he can quote all sorts of things, and he is really smart. I've kind of envied that about him." QUESTION What habits and patterns did you have when you were going to school? Did they help or hinder you? Point #2: AT THEIR FINGERTIPS The landscape of today's learning has shifted completely from when Danielle and Garrett attended school. With technology at their fingertips, kids today can learn just about anything, anytime. Garrett: "At their age, our kids are way fucking smarter than we were. They have more data in their brains; more points of reference. And they have access to shit that we didn't. From the time Ruby was four or five years old, she has been asking Siri questions about everything!" QUESTION What do you see as the pros and cons of how you learned in the past compared to how your kids are learning today? Point #3: GENIUS DROP-OUTS Many successful entrepreneurs and creators either dropped out of school or didn't finish school in the traditional sense. These include the creators of IKEA, APPLE, and Facebook. "Pretty much every major tool you use right now was built by a school dropout." Garrett: As I look at what kids study in school, my thought is they might be better off studying Facebook ads, direct-response marketing, and persuasion & influence. When you look inside our families alone, the people with the least amount of education have made the most amount of money. QUESTION What has been your experience with this? Point #4: AN ABUNDANCE OF POSSIBILITIES Garrett: Imagine if, in the next six years, we spent three hours a day focused on turning our daughter into a weaponized speaker, marketer, and salesperson. And on top of that, she had the traditional reading, writing, and math, with the rest of the day filled with singing, art, playing the piano, and participating in team sports. Danielle says she doesn't have any real answers right now but that she does have a lot of questions. "This is a frustrating topic that came up for us on Date Night. I feel like Garrett and I are on both sides of the spectrum. We value learning and we value work, but do we value the traditional ways of school?" QUESTION What are your feelings regarding the abundance of possibilities in education available to your child in today's world? Point #5: OPENING DOORS Danielle: As a parent, we wonder if we're leading our children in the right direction. Does the Universe manifest a path that they should take? Or, are we supposed to assist and open doors for them along the way? Garrett: Part of our job is to open the doors and let them explore different rooms. While there are plenty of doors they're going to open themselves, as a parent, you open the door and watch what your child does. QUESTION What doors are you opening up for your children? What doors were opened up for you? What have been the results? Communication Challenge: Next week's topic is, "Babies: When do you know it's time to have a baby? When do you know it's time to stop having babies?" If you would like to be part of that conversation or have a question/ comment on this, please send an audio clip to [email protected]. We'll throw you in the mix and play your audios on the air. Men, we want to hear from you! Date Night Topic: On your date this week, have a conversation around the different ways you learn. Are you more of an incessant reader and highlighter, or are prone to listening to podcasts and watching videos? Are you a little bit of each? Quote of the Week: "Parker does a great job, not because he's my son but because of who he is. Did I open the door? Sure!" –Garrett J White "Is it personality or path? Is it circumstance or timing? Are we put

Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about momentum in this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast. It has taken many years for the White's to get to a place where they are experiencing momentum in all areas of their life and share with their listening audience through stories and experiences what has brought them to the place where, only a few short years ago, they wondered if they would even make it. *This is an encore presentation of a previously aired episode. ______________________________________________________________ Every week, married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Tipping Point Danielle feels like her business has hit a tipping point, leading her to the conclusion that it's the small things in life that push people forward. She questions why so many people are not consistent with those small things that create momentum, knowing they would ultimately lead them to the outcomes they desire. QUESTION Where in your world have you experienced the momentum of the tipping point? Point #2: Marriage Is a Lifestyle Anything great takes a fucking long time to build. When people see the White's and their success, they begin wanting that in their marriage and become frustrated when it doesn't happen on their timetable. Garrett: The number of years that you were a dumb-ass and caused a lack of momentum or momentum in the wrong or weak direction, is not going to be turned around in two days. The fundamental disciplined habits must be changed and maintained over time. QUESTION How can you demonstrate more patience in your marriage? Point #3: Merry-Go-Round Marriage is like a Merry-Go-Round: It takes great effort to get it moving at first as you grab on with both hands and push hard. Pretty soon you can give it a little push and it keeps going because momentum has kicked in. Inside of marriage, many people kill the momentum by quitting before they hit the tipping point. Others experience momentum but take their eyes off the prize, losing the edge and the momentum they have gained. QUESTION Where is your relationship within this conversation of the Merry-Go-Round? Point #4: Gaining Momentum The fastest way to gain momentum is to start going on dates every single week. Start taking your wife on Date Nights and each day send her notes of love, honor, and appreciation. She's got to know that these are not going to stop. Momentum is built inside of your marriage and business when you build up momentum inside of yourself. Garrett and Danielle are at a point where, when they collide, there is so much momentum, certainty, and power within each of them that neither one of them can stop the other. QUESTION What can you do to start gaining or increasing momentum in your relationship? Point #5: Character and Contrast During sticky phases, you're doing the work yet are becoming more bitter and angry towards one another. These are the times you must shift your energy. Once you have that momentum, do the little things to maintain that momentum. Garrett loves the different characters and looks of Danielle from her formal look in Louis Vuitton's to her ponytail and Lulu pants. Danielle loves Garrett in a suit but finds him especially sexy when he wears a t-shirt and jeans. QUESTION What are the different looks of your partner that take your breath away? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the Flywheel Effect. Date Night Topic: What are some things you can do for each other to gain or maintain momentum within your relationship? Quote of the Week: "Business and marriage fall apart for the same reason: people let go of momentum OR they don't have the courage to keep pushing to even get to the point where momentum can begin." –Garrett J White "Sometimes we want to look at our business and marriage separately, but taking some of those business tactics and applying them to marriage isn't that far off." –Danielle K White

What starts out with fireworks and plenty of sparks between co-hosts and elite dual producers, Garrett J and Danielle K White, segues beautifully into the topic of Gratitude which has the power to change everything. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…COMMUNICATION Point #1: WHAT IS A STACK? A Stack is a series of questions with five variations (Mega, Angry, Happy, Gratitude, Production) that Garrett originally created three years ago to deal with "my fucking rage." These questions alter the way you are experiencing different relationships, events, and triggers in your life. One of the challenges men have is the inability to express emotion and end up suppressing them, which is the way society has taught, trained and educated men to do over the past 100 years. The whole point of the Stack is to allow you to release the energy that you're feeling, whether you're fucking raging, angry, triggered, or happy and get someone to their truth. QUESTION As a man, what has been your experience with sharing your emotions and feelings? Point #2: IMPACT There are five different Stacks which serve different purposes. You've got the Mega and Angry Stack which allow you to release your rage & emotions, followed by the Happy and Gratitude Stacks, and then finally the Production Stack. The Gratitude Stack requires you to deliberately pause and look back and serves as a powerful tool of connection with your spouse and children. As Garrett has shared these with his children as part of the Core 4 game, he has witnessed first-hand the immense impact it has had on them individually and upon their relationship. QUESTION How has expressing gratitude for your spouse and children affected your relationship with them? Point #3: THE GIFT OF GRATITUDE Danielle shares how expressing gratitude gives you a different perspective: "There are going to be times in your life when you feel like you are in a dark place and it's hard to snap out of that. You start to see the world through a negative lens." "If you take a step back and begin appreciating the good moments, it gives you this sense of gratitude and everything begins to change. It puts life in a different perspective." QUESTION What do you notice when you step back and begin seeing life through the lens of gratitude? Point #4: INSPIRED From his Gratitude Stack about Danielle, Garrett received these insights and revelations about their marriage and how he feels about her: "Marital and mutual respect is something that takes a long time to uncover, and once it's found, it's priceless and profound." "I sit and look at my wife while five months pregnant and am just inspired. I'm inspired by what it is to be pregnant and have your body do what it does with a little person inside of you who is growing. But of all the things that hits home the most is that she can make the baby AND also smash the shit out of life." QUESTION What about your spouse inspires you? Point #5: FROM THEN TO NOW Garrett: What makes this pregnancy different from the others is I am grateful for what we've become as a couple. In the past, I isolated myself and didn't know how to deal with the whole pregnancy thing. Danielle: When you look back to how it was eight years ago with our last pregnancy during scary and uncertain times, things are so different this time. We know we're in a good place right now with life and with marriage, and we're excited about the next chapter. QUESTION As you step back and look where you've been compared to where you are now, what has changed? Communication Challenge: Discuss the art of collision and the ability to hold space for your spouse during intense & direct conversations. Date Night Topic: Make Gratitude the topic of your next Date Night. Share examples and stories of gratitude with each other. If you have access to the Gratitude Stack, do a Stack on each other and then share it during your date. *Keep an eye out for the summer release of the Attack With the Stack Series. Quote of the Week: "Gratitude is the ability to look back: here's where we are, here's where we were, and let's be grateful for what is." —Garrett J White "When you're in a space of gratitude, nothing can get you down. Use it as a protective shield for yourself and your family, and to ultimately feel more powerful in life. When I'm in that space, I feel unstoppable." —Danielle K White

Welcome to the Date Your Wife podcast. This episode is dedicated to all the men who feel like they don't have a voice when their wife is pregnant and who don't know what to do with all of their sexual energy. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…SEX Point #1: Stay In Your Corner Garrett: There's a phase inside of this where you're super pumped because you're having a lot of sex but you know the intention is to make a baby. Guys are then thrown into this corner and are put into this little shoebox during pregnancy and during the recovery after pregnancy. "For basically a year, the woman goes to a place of sacrifice," Garrett explains, "but a guy goes to a place of sacrifice, too." (Cue Danielle's emerging laughing in the background) "This is exactly why guys don't get a voice on this because the level of mockery is so intense." QUESTION As a guy, how do you deal with this? Point #2: What to Expect When You're Expecting…Penis Edition There are a lot of guys who cheat during pregnancy because they don't know what to do with all of their sexual energy. There's no shortage of books and information for women, but practically nothing in place to prepare men for what they've just signed up for. Guys want to have sex but generally don't approach this topic with their wives. And there's no blog post, book or podcast addressing this – there's nothing in place to guide a man through the emotional hurricane of pregnancy. QUESTION Guys, what is your experience with this? Point #3: The Dichotomy Garrett: When your wife gets pregnant, all of a sudden there's a rising emotion that comes from the Gods. It's protecting and nurturing. It's a feeling of "I will fuck anyone up who comes close to this. Everyone is now a second-class citizen to the spouse with the baby in the belly." It completely suppresses the sexual drive between the man and the wife that he is curating and protecting. The challenge is, the sexual energy wants away from that environment and is immediately triggered by just about any female that walks the planet that is not pregnant. QUESTION How has this shown up in your marriage during pregnancy? Point #4: The Penis Power Is a Decision Many men stop instigating sex during pregnancy because they're not sure how to deal with the rise of the protecting guardian, the decline of the sexual drive toward their wife, and the triggers outside of their relationship. And some men simply think it's weird to have sex after their wife is six months pregnant. Garrett: I've chosen to channel my sexual energy, although triggered all over the place, towards my beautiful, gorgeous pregnant wife. It's a decision, even though you're under suppression. QUESTION As a man, what are your thoughts about this? Point #5: Society's Advice Garrett understands how bitchy and whiny men can come across on this topic, especially when "we're not the ones who are going to have to push a pumpkin out of our penis after nine months!" Society tells men, "Listen, asshole, you have no leg to stand on. You're not the one whose body's getting jacked and is going to spend twelve to eighteen months in recovery. Shut up pussy and just deal with it." QUESTION What do you think about this? Communication Challenge: Have an open conversation around the challenges and the joys that both women and men face during pregnancy. What can you create together to bring more support and understanding to each other? Date Night Topic: During Date Night, engage in flirtatious banter you know will lead to a window of opportunity of sexual connection when you arrive home. Quote of the Week: "As I look at the ultrasound, I sit back in complete fascination in all of this. It's so crazy that in a mass effort of about three minutes of participation, this thing happens." —Garrett J White "I want the pregnancy perks but I still want to be treated like me. If you know there's a window, make a move on me. Pretend like I'm notpregnant." —Danielle K White

This week's Date Your Wife podcast comes to you via the White's actual Date Night where Garrett and Danielle explore the topics of conflict and avoidance inside their relationship. They reveal patterns and behaviors that did not serve them for years, which could have led to the demise of their marriage were it not for an ultimatum and decision during a huge argument – which ultimately created an opening that changed the trajectory of their marriage. . Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: People Pleaser or Conflict Avoider? Danielle believes women typically aren't people pleasers; they're conflict avoiders. Women are so afraid of confrontation that they always try to make peace. "But ultimately it's not because we're trying to please people," offers Danielle, "it's because we're trying to avoid conflict, which later on actually causes us more harm." QUESTION How does this play out in your marriage? Point #2: On the Hunt As Garrett reflects this topic of conflict, he realizes that "Danielle is a conflict avoider at the highest level. If you go through what has happened with us in the past seventeen years, she has NEVER been a conflict person." "The only way we could ever have a real conversation was if I brought the collision to her, and then inside of it, I would actually hunt her down and force her to have a serious conversation with me." QUESTION Who is typically the "hunter" inside your marriage? Point #3: Hot-Headed When men become hot-headed inside of a conversation, many women refuse to continue on with that conversation, thus making it appear to the men that women are in this place of avoidance. From Danielle's perspective, "Women recognize when a conversation/argument isn't in a logical place and is going nowhere. When Garrett flips his lid, and I feel like I can't reason with him because the conversation is not in a healthy place, I will refuse to continue, knowing that in this state, nothing is going to get solved. QUESTION Who is typically the hot-headed one in your relationship? How does this affect your communication? Point #4: Initiate or Avoid? Garrett admits being more emotional than Danielle, and one who is desires to get into a fight and collide. Speaking to Danielle, "You were never an initiator of any type of hard conversation. Your mode was to just swallow it, ignore it, reframe it in your mind, let it go and move on…and pretend like it never happened. Danielle: I was avoiding confrontation, and was thinking, "Oh, it will go away, it'll quiet down. I also came to this place where I didn't know how to have direct conversations with you. QUESTION Inside conflict within your marriage, who typically avoids, and who typically initiates?" Point #5: Therapy After six years of behaviors and patterns that were not serving the White's, everything came to a head one afternoon during a huge argument in their kitchen where an ultimatum was issued by Garrett: Either we're going to therapy, or we're done. Danielle: Going to therapy, we both had a logical sounding board to hear one another's feelings. It helped me open up and communicate better, and I feel like Garrett was able to go deeper into the story or conflict without hitting his tipping point. QUESTION What has been your experience inside the conversation of therapy? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around the topic of "Avoider or Initiator." Date Night Topic: During Date Night, have a conversation about the possibility of inserting Therapy into your lives. Quote of the Week: "Therapy gave us a better chance to pull off conflict and be in a conversation that would require both of us to own our shit." —Garrett J White "In relationships, I think we argue to be right, not to get what we want. I think we both realized that there's submission in getting what we want which makes us less willing to be right and more willing to get what we want." —Danielle K White

With shots of tequila in their system and amidst the flirtatious back-and-forth bantering that easily doubles as foreplay, the White's jump into another episode of the Date Your Wife podcast with a conversation around Garrett's favorite topic, Sex. For the new listeners, Danielle explains QQP (Quickie, Quickie Pornstar) and they have an honest and revealing discussion about keeping married sex spicy. *This is an encore presentation of a previously recorded episode. ________________________________________________________ Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: If You Don't Mop the Floors, Somebody Else Will Danielle: Many women approach sex with a "let's just get 'er done" attitude. If guys go long enough with only a simple clean up job, they're not going to be satisfied. Garrett: Danielle's sex game in the last six months has gone through the roof. As a woman, she has literally blown my mind. QUESTION Where has mopping the floors in your marriage gotten you? Point #2: Avoiding the Shithole of Married Sex Danielle: Sometimes you have to act the part and play the role during sex. Entertain that idea and have fun with it. Just because you're laying there with your legs spread open doesn't mean that's attractive. When you're married, if you expect to have that chemistry and spark, play the fucking game. QUESTION What is the condition of your sex life? What are the facts? Point #3: Girls Just Want to Have Fun Danielle: I'm happy that my man is fulfilled. When you have fun with sex, your man is feeling fulfilled. It's fun for him and it's fun for you – it goes both ways. Pretend you're dating and ask yourself: How would I act? What would I do? Even after years of marriage, it becomes fun to entertain that thought and go with it. QUESTION Ladies, how do you feel about yourself when you just let yourself go and have fun? Point #4: The Sex Game Garrett: Many men have this faulty understanding of sex. They want to have a sexual connection with their wife and they think that making money and investing in the children will get them that. At the end of the day, she wants sexual connection but she also wants something else – she wants attention. If you give that to her, she will support you in the sex game and it will bring your marriage together. QUESTION What are you expecting from your wife yet at the same time are neglecting to give her? Point #5: Patterns Garrett has this pattern of putting the girls to sleep and engaging in their nighttime routine, while Danielle professes that she's not a very routined mom: "Brush your own teeth, say your own prayers, tuck yourself in." Garrett: There's a lot of dad-guilt that comes when you work a lot. I do spend time with the girls in the mornings but I find I sometimes use them as an excuse to not have to be intimate with Danielle at night. QUESTION What patterns are in need of changing in order for you to make more time with your spouse? Communication Challenge: Gentlemen, if you want your floors more than mopped, what are you doing to create the environment for your wife to want to shine your floors? Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about patterns that you see in your marriage and what you can begin doing today to change a pattern in one area of your life that will benefit your marriage. Quote of the Week: "The moon was out, the doors on our deck were open, and it was "Go Time." –Garrett J White "In a relationship, if you say, "I don't want to [have sex]," it's honestly like starting a new workout. Put in the work now and eventually it gets easier. Before you know it, it's actually kind of fun." –Danielle K White __________________________________________

As a couple-on-the-go, co-hosts Danielle K and Garrett J White, delve into a topic that, at first glance, might appear to be in the oxymoron realm. However, in classic White style, Danielle and Garrett deliver insights and experiences that uncover what might be one of the most important things you will ever do as a married couple: go through your Divine Divorce in order to find your Divine Destiny. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Divine Divorce Leads to Divine Destiny There are times when couples are in the midst of great chaos and find themselves knocking on the door of divorce. Because of this, most couples concur that there comes a point in their relationship where they must choose all in…again. Garrett: Although we didn't get a divorce, there was an emotional separation that took place. We were functionally disconnected, meaning, we were very good at being disconnected. There came a time when the inevitable moment of decision presented itself where we had to make a choice. QUESTION What has been your experience with knocking on the door of divorce? Point #2: Am I With the Wrong Person? The IDEA of a relationship that is in continual bliss and always on fire is evident in the highlight reels that are plastered all over social media, giving others the impression of a fairytale happily-ever-after marriage. This is total bullshit. Garrett: There's a moment of the Divine Divorce where you as a couple begin to drift but it's actually setting up the next chapter of your relationship. Danielle: We kept looping back to the same arguments that never got solved, which had me wondering, "Am I with the wrong person?" QUESTION Is what you're posting on social media a true reflection of the state of your marriage, or is it drenched in hopeful bliss and fantasy? Point #3: It's Just How It Is Garrett: The vast majority of couples that I meet and connect with inside Wake Up Warrior and BMS are operating in very minimal sexual connection, very minimal emotional and spiritual connection, and are surviving. But the challenge is, they don't even know they're surviving. The belief is, "This is just how it is." If you surround yourself with people who have this belief, it's not until something traumatic happens where it begins to expose how shitty things really are. In our marriage when the money disappeared, that is when the chaos of our marriage was exposed. QUESTION Where in your world do you have the belief of "it's just how it is?" Point #4: From Divorce to Divine Divorcement The reality of how people show up in marriage is quite alarming to Garrett. Inside of many relationships he is connected with, he has witnessed many couples where both people are out of shape, they don't go out on dates, there is no seduction or flirting, and they are in the managing and survival mode. Then they get a divorce. "What blows my mind is the transformation that begins taking place AFTER the divorce, where they blossom into this entirely new person. Instead of having to get divorced, what if you could literally go through a Divine Divorcement?" QUESTION If on the verge of divorce, what would be possible inside your marriage if you considered the possibility of creating new patterns while remainging married? Point #5: It's a Choice Garrett: No matter how powerfully connected you feel to who you are and what you have, the next version of your relationship as a couple is impossibly held hostage by the current constraints of what you believe is possible today. No matter what state your marriage is in today, there's another level calling you. And in order to get to that next level, there's a Divine Divorcement upon you. Divine in the sense that God, through the gift of agency, is giving you an opportunity to choose. QUESTION What are some of the limiting beliefs that are holding your marraige hostage? Communication Challenge: How are you choosing to show up in your marriage? What are you choosing to divorce? Without the divorcement and without the decision to do it, nothing is going to change inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Have a conversation about the things that attracted you to each other inthe beginning of your relationship. How those have evolved and changed over time? What are some things you can do now to create new chemistry and excitement inside your relationship? Quote of the Week: "There's a new destiny on the other side of divorce. Divorce is simply choosing to do something different; it's the laying down and putting aside of that which is old and not working, for something that is new and can work." —Garrett J White "People underestimate the small consistencies daily that create a big win in life. Stay committed, be patient, and kick your husband in the ass every now an

Today's conversation inside the Date Your Wife podcast centers around the importance of adding people to your team and features two surprise guests who shed some additional light on this subject. It's never a dull moment with the White's as they navigate the ever-changing waters of marriage, family, and business, aka The Trifecta of Insanity. Every week married couple Danielle K and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Money Point #1: Babysitter, Nanny, or Home Manager? The first addition to team Garrett & Danielle? The important position of a Nanny/Home Manager, whose role is very different from that of a Babysitter. It's vital to get really clear about the roles, compensation, and expectations of each of these BEFORE you add them to your team. In a cameo appearance, Bailey, the White's twelve-year-old, clearly defines the distinction between these roles. "A Nanny/Home Manager is full-time and committed, works a lot, and actually likes the kids. They manage the household, the workers, and run errands for the parents. A Babysitter is like, "I need you to go to bed while I'm watching the Bachelor." QUESTION How would bringing one of these on board change your family's life? Point #2: Does Overcompensation Lead to Entitlement? Whether it's your place of business or home-related, overcompensating can lead to behaviors and feelings of entitlement, something Danielle and Garrett have first-hand experience with. Adds Danielle, "If you overcompensate people, it builds a lot of entitlement. They start creating stories in their mind where they can't see anything else; they start painting you as the bad guy, and collect evidence to back those stories." QUESTION Where have you experienced this as either the one feeling entitled or the one witnessing it? Point #3: House Cleaner When adding a House Cleaner to your team, a couple of key things to consider are 1-trust and 2-being comfortable with leaving a mess and not feeling like you have to clean up BEFORE they arrive. Getting really clear on the role they are going to play is of utmost importance. What do you want them to do? What don't you want them to do? What do you want your Home Manager to delegate to your House Cleaner? It's up to you to communicate clear directions in order for everything to run smoothly. QUESTION How has having a House Cleaner on board improved your life and/or your relationships? Point #4: This is a Man's Job Danielle grew up with a father who was always hands-on when it came to building, repairing, and handling big and small jobs around the house, something she expected Garrett to automatically take on as the "man of the house" after they were married. However, it didn't exactly pan out the way she expected. Garrett decided he would take on the responsibility of caring for their pool to prove to Danielle that he was a "man," but when his plan went sideways within the week and the pool was filled with moss, it was clear that some things are best left to the professionals. QUESTION What do you automatically expect your husband to do because it falls under the category of "that's just what men do?" Point #5: Let Go in Order to Grow Garrett: "As I sit here and look at the unit that has become the idea of family, just like an entrepreneur looks at their business and realizes he cannot do it by himself, that he must let go in order to grow, I'm going to have you consider that inside of your family life it's no different." "As you and your partner become more and more successful inside of the game of business and life, it's actually selfish for you to continue to play the game so small. In order to play bigger, you're going to have to involve more team members." QUESTION If you were to look in your world right now, where is the one place in your life where you could bring someone on the team who could free you up so you could actually do the things that matters? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation around this topic: It's ok to bring people on the team to accelerate your marriage and your family. How do you both feel about this? Date Night Topic: Entertain the idea of creating space inside your team for a Babysitter, Nanny, or Home Manager and get really clear about the details, expectations, and compensation. What would that look like for your family? How would that clear up space for more family time, couple time, or alone time? Quote of the Week: "You cannot build a family without a team. It's difficult, if not impossible to build your marriage and family to ultimately become what you want it to be if you're trying to do it alone." —Garrett J White "To women, let go. Test it out for a couple of months and just what happens. See if it makes an improvement, see what opens up in your relationship with your kids and your spouse. Could you find something else fulfi

During their flight back to Orange County after an amazing Valentine's Day get-away weekend in Cabo San Lucas, the Whites suddenly find themselves headed back to Cabo for an emergency landing. While other passengers are scrambling, angry, and upset, Garrett and Danielle get to work creating new possibilities in the midst of the chaos of their current situation. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Communication Point #1: Arguing With Reality Garrett and Danielle watched as men and women became panicked and angry about the flight. Armed with their demands and frustrations, fellow passengers stormed up the escalator to the Alaskan check-in desk scrambling to be the first in line to yell at the girl behind the counter. Garrett: I spent most of my entire life freaking out about shit that I couldn't control, trying to force things to be different than they actually were. Although I still do this, it's significantly less than I've ever done it before. QUESTION How do you handle the unexpected? Point #2: The Ocean Always Wins As you look at reality, it is what it is. During Garrett's first week of surfing as he was trying to fight the waves, his coach turned to him and said, "The ocean always wins." "You cannot control the ocean, you cannot control the water, and you can't out hustle the waves. The only thing you can do is deal with whatever the ocean is giving you". QUESTION How can you relate this to situations in your life? Point #3: Change Your State It's Danielle's belief that women tend to cause a lot of unneeded stress in their lives, which not only affects them but ends up spilling over into the lives of their spouse and children. Danielle: The more you learn how to change your state, the faster you can do it. Ask yourself: What is the lesson? What is the direction I am supposed to be going? When you look at things with that perspective, so many things start to open up for you. QUESTION What can you begin doing to change your state of being before things get out of hand? Point #4: The Crazy Game of Marriage Garrett: Marriage is crazy. You have two individuals who are evolving human beings; two people who are challenging the way they think, challenging the way they believe, challenging the way they conceive marriage. All of these are constantly moving. We want things to constantly evolve and change because we demand variety in our lives yet on the flip side, we get completely pissed off about the fact that things are constantly evolving and changing. QUESTION What is your experience with this as a couple? Point #5: Let Go & Be Open Garrett: I operated most of my life trying to force things. This situation at the Cabo airport would have been something a number of years ago I would have lost my mind over. Now, it's almost as if the Universe has orchestrated this just for me. Danielle: Whether it happens on purpose or not, you can't fight what is so you might as well enjoy where you're at and see what opens up while being in that space. QUESTION Where in your world have you seen a shift as you have begun letting go? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about the things that drive you crazy about each other yet have turned out to be the other's greatest strengths and assets. Date Night Topic: On your Date Night this week, talk about the Crossroads and Turning Points in your relationship. Quote of the Week: "What I've come to realize is, everything I've wanted Danielle to change has become her greatest asset. Her greatest strengths have become the things that drive me fucking nuts." —Garrett J White "There's a lot of power in letting go. As you let go, it allows you to live life to the fullest. There's a difference between disconnecting and letting go. In letting go, you're still there but you're letting go of the forcing of whatever you're trying to do." —Danielle K White

Welcome to this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast where married business owners, Garrett and Danielle White, have an entertaining and revealing conversation about the "how to's" of navigating the ever-changing waters of parenthood. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…Parenting Point #1: The Trifecta of Insanity Garrett: You can't be a married businessman with children if you don't have children. Dogs, guinea pigs, and fish don't count. We live in a place where people push their dogs around in fucking strollers. To be a married businessman with children means that you have a partner that you are committed to AND you have children. This trifecta of insanity is literally a suicide mission with only two possible outcomes: 1- you win and 2- you lose. QUESTION How are you and your spouse handling the Trifecta of Insanity? Point #2: Once a Mom, Always a Mom Danielle: I don't think you really have perspective until you actually start having kids. Before having kids, we both worked hard during the week and were pretty much homebodies on the weekends. Looking back, I'm thinking we should have done more. Danielle's mother told her that even with all of her children grown, she still worries about them making good decisions. Once you're a mom, you're always a mom. "Oh shit! But then, you never want anything different once you are a mom, and you can't imagine your life without your children." QUESTION How has having children changed your perspective about life? Point #3: The Love of Learning Although a college graduate, Garrett's passion for learning wasn't ignited until he read "Rich Dad, Poor Dad" in 2001 as a PE teacher, opening up an entirely different world to him. "I'm addicted to and obsessed with learning and cannot consume enough!" It wasn't until later in life that Danielle would learn the importance of learning. "You have to have a love for learning, and you have to LEARN to learn. Seeing the person I have become through learning, I wish I would have understood that concept when I was younger." QUESTION When were you bit by the learning bug? What was the turning point for you? Point #4: Consequences & Boundaries In parenting, where do you draw the line? When do you let your children come to their own conclusions in life after suffering the consequences of their own choices, and when do you hold them accountable to certain standards of behavior? As Garrett and Danielle met with their daughter, teachers, and principal, it was clear that implementing a system of accountability going forward would greatly assist their daughter in achieving her musical aspirations. QUESTION Where in your world do you know it's time to set up a system of accountability? Point #5: Just the Facts, Please Garrett: Your kids are not always right. Most of the time as a parent when you try to defend your kids from the consequences of life, what you're doing is defending your own ego and your own self-doubt as a parent. What are the facts? Possibly the greatest gift that you could give your children is to get clear about the facts in front of the other people that matter and involve them in the process of accountability. QUESTION Where in your world is it time to separate the facts from your feelings in order to progress and move forward? Communication Challenge: What is your take on boundaries, consequences, and accountability when it comes to your children? How does it align with your spouse's take? How does it differ? Date Night Topic: While you're out on your date this week, have a conversation about how as parents you can instill the love of learning into your children. Quote of the Week: "It's one thing to build a business and have nothing else to worry about except building that business. It's another thing to build a business and then get married. And then, it's a whole other conundrum to build a business, get married, have multiple babies, raise those babies, and inside of that, make a decision to have another baby." —Garrett J White "Teach your children the importance of learning. If as an adult you want to get ahead in the game or become an overall better human being, life is about learning. If you can teach your children to love to learn, they'll have more success in their life." —Danielle K White

Welcome to the Date Your Wife podcast, aka the White's weekly therapy session, coming to you for the first time from their new home studio. In this week's personal and up close conversation from inside their bedroom, the highlights of this episode include details about Closet Sex, Garrett's tendency to go to the extreme, the purpose behind this podcast, and business strategies when it comes to dealing with the haters.

This week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast comes to you from beautiful Palm Beach, Florida, where the White's are attending Tony Robbin's Business Mastery Event. As they huddle in their bed trying to warm up from the ice-box temperatures they've been experiencing all day, they share stories about how Tony's events have impacted and shifted their personal and business lives in major ways. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast…MONEY Point #1: Hippies & Weird Shit Personal development hasn't always been at the top of Danielle's list of priorities. Up until a few short years ago, she equated it to a bunch of hippies sitting around hugging trees. "Garrett was actually into some weird shit at different times during our marriage. The few personal development events I DID attend with him left me feeling totally creeped out." QUESTION What experiences have you had with personal development events? Point #2: Date With Destiny After viewing Tony Robbin's "I Am Not Your Guru" on Netflix in December of 2016, Danielle began having a change of heart towards self-development. Tony's approach actually made sense to her. "It seemed to be a more logical approach and less weird shit." As fate would have it, Tony's son was attending Warrior Week at about the same time. As if right on cue, the Universe delivered up two tickets to Tony's next event, Date With Destiny, a mere three weeks away. QUESTION Have you or your spouse ever attended Date With Destiny? Point #3: How Big Can You Dream? Danielle's experience at Date With Destiny changed her thinking in a lot of ways. One of the biggest impacts for her was the exercise where they were told to dream big and write down EVERYTHING they wanted. From this one exercise, Garrett and Danielle ended up making some major decisions in their marriage and businesses which resulted in some huge shifts for them that year. QUESTION Where in your world have you experienced a huge shift after hearing or experiencing something? Point #4: Give Yourself Permission Garrett and Danielle had to leave their environment over and over again to get to a place where they could ultimately choose a life that was theirs as a couple and as a family. Garrett: Buying this house, investing in our family, and moving into this home literally shattered an entire box or frame of ideology that surrounded my brain. QUESTION Where in your world do you need to give yourself permission do to something that you know would yield big results or big shifts? Point #5: It's in the Numbers The biggest thing that Danielle is getting out of Business Mastery is confirming what she already suspected: she's got to know her numbers better than she does. Event speaker Keith Cunningham taught, "As a business owner, there is no value in a number; the value is knowing what to do about the numbers that you see." QUESTION What does it mean to you to not only know your numbers but to also know what to do about them? Communication Challenge: Grab your journals and carve out some time to Dream Big. Talk about and write down EVERYTHING you'd like to do within certain time frames, think way outside the box, and hold nothing back. Date Night Topic: Search out events you can attend this year TOGETHER for your individual growth AND for your growth as a couple. Choose one event and put it on your calendar. Make the leap. Your future is worth the investment. Quote of the Week: "The trifecta of insanity: choose to be married, choose to have kids, choose to have a business. You do those three things, and you're either a glutton for punishment, a psychopath, or you want to have the fast train to big fucking results based on the power and the pressure of having to rise." —Garrett J White "It was an "against all odds" situation because of the story we had been telling ourselves. But when we actually put our foot forward and started entertaining the idea, EVERYTHING started to fall into place for us." —Danielle K White

Garrett and Danielle are proponents of dating your spouse at least once a week. They understand that adding young children to the mix can sometimes present a challenge but know that your relationship MUST come first if you want it to last. In this week's episode, the White's share tips for what has worked for them (as well as what hasn't worked for them) in their quest to find babysitters and nannies. Where they ultimately hit the jackpot might actually surprise you. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Routines & Consistency Both Garrett and Danielle feel like this podcast has been so good for their marriage. It's as if the listening audience has become their sounding board and allows them to be better communicators with each other without completely flipping their lids and going off on each other. Danielle: In life, once you get out of your routine it's so easy to lose your momentum. It's in doing the small things consistently that keep us on track to build the large things; it's the small and consistent things in marriage that keep a relationship stable and progressing. QUESTION What are you doing consistently inside of your relationship that is noticeably making a difference in the way you feel about and communciate with each other? Point #2: Baby Talk In the land of pregnancy and babies, when a woman is overdue it is a common understanding that having sex helps induce labor. Danielle's experience with their two previous babies was that within an hour of having sex, the contractions began. Garrett attributes it to his "very aggressive sperm." Danielle's well thought out plans for the gender reveal went sideways as the waves washed out the pink and blue smoke bombs she had carefully buried in the sand. Garrett accidentally reveals the gender of the baby during the podcast. QUESTION Did your gender reveal turn out as planned? Point #3: Family Affair? A lot of times, people think they can only trust their family to watch their kids. Danielle has discovered that having someone other than family might actually be better for you and your kids. From her personal experience, she would rather hire someone to follow her structure and routine instead of having free help from family who want to do their own thing. QUESTION What has been your experience with family watching your children? Point #4: On-Demand Babysitter Gone Awry Garrett wanted to have an on-demand babysitter who was always available. He paid her a salary and got her an apartment close by their home so they would have someone ready to care for the kids whenever he and Danielle wanted to go out. It evolved into a sense of entitlement and a situation where Danielle was having to dance around the babysitter's schedule. Danielle: Finding a babysitter is like building a business. You assume that people you hire will know what to do, but you should never assume. Find someone that you like and then be clear about the outcome you expect while they're there. Always keep them in check. People want to know how to win whether it's a nanny or an employee and will start to retreat when they don't know how to please you. QUESTION Have you set clear outcomes and expectations for your babysitters? Point #5: Care.com: Your Shit is Legit By far the best decision Garrett & Danielle have made when it comes to finding a babysitter or nanny for their children is going through care.com. Garrett advises, "Request your babysitters driven by a dollar value, and when they turn in their application, make sure they send you a video." "You're investing in the guardianship of your children. If you're paying a lot of money, set clear outcomes and expectations. If you look at the overall investment on a monthly basis, you're investing in your marriage. 1-What's your marriage worth? 2-How much are your children worth?" QUESTION Are you being a cheap bastard when it comes to hiring someone to watch your children? Communication Challenge: Have a conversation about Date Night, and the challenges you are currently facing that are stopping you from going out consistently with your spouse. Get clear about what you want from your marriage, and what you can do to begin making Date Night a top priority in your marriage. Date Night Topic: Have a brainstorming session about the things you and your spouse want to do on your Date Nights for the next couple of months. Quote of the Week: "If you care about your marriage and want things to work out, you go on Date Nights. If you care about your communication and sex life, go on Date Nights. To pull that off, you're going to have to go through some trial and error before you find what works for you." —Garrett J White "Whether it's family or someone you pay, there are really no excuses when it comes to creating Date

(This is an encore presentation of a previously published episode of the Date Your Wife podcast.) In this week's episode, Garrett and Danielle discuss the importance of communicating with your spouse. They have not always been on the same page as a couple, and for many years they each wondered if their marriage would survive the incessant fights and battles that had become the status quo and mode of communication in their relationship. Inside of that chaos, they discovered the formula that works for them. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: Communication in Marriage is the Glue Between Sex, Money, and Kids Garrett and Danielle have not always been on the same page as a couple. For many years they each wondered if their marriage would survive the incessant fights and battles that had become the status quo and mode of communication in their relationship. Danielle learned how to confront and listen to her feelings, communicate, stand up for herself and voice what she was feeling to match Garrett's strong personality. Garrett struggled with telling the truth and sharing what he was feeling because he felt unsafe in doing so with Danielle. QUESTION How do you and your spouse communicate with each other? Does it create a safe zone or a war zone? Point #2: The Game of Collision Danielle grew up in a non-communicating and non-hugging family, although she instinctively knew her parents loved her. Garrett's family was very touchy-feely and were encouraged to speak openly and freely about what they were feeling and thinking. Hugs and 'I love you' were the norm. Garrett recalls, "It was a downright hug fest." Garrett wanted to share his 42 gallons of feelings with Danielle, but her tiny thimble couldn't hold that space for him. She wasn't taught how to communicate and was feeling overwhelmed, which caused her to unknowingly push him away to create breathing space for herself. QUESTION What types of communication styles did you and your spouse experience in your families? How has this affected the way you communicate in your marriage? Point #3: Show Up and Pay Attention While dating, Danielle and Garrett could talk for hours and hours. After marriage, the filters came off, the grind of daily life set in, and they eventually found themselves drifting into roommate status. There was no connection and no viable communication. His unspoken message that business came first rang out loud and clear to Danielle. Garrett didn't spend a lot of time seducing Danielle, nor did he pay attention to the needs of his young bride of 20. He was in the work and grind mode which benefited them, yet in the process, he ignored her. He wanted to feel connected to Danielle through sex, touching, and talking – yet that was a complete turn off to her because of their lack of connection and how he wasn't showing up for her. QUESTION How do you show up for your spouse? Point #4: What You Focus On, Expands The loss of their spark, trust, and financial stability, coupled with the demise of their communication, created a very difficult environment for them as a couple. They graduated from not communicating at all to all-out fighting mode in every conversation; they wanted to spend time with other people, rather than with each other. Garrett was receiving emotional fulfillment by having conversations with his female clients and coworkers. During this time in 2010, while pregnant with their second child, Danielle stopped looking to Garrett as the source of her happiness and breadwinner, and instead began looking within herself with newfound courage to speak freely and to take on life – without him, if necessary – which resulted in the birth of her business. That was also the beginning of the turning point in their marriage. QUESTION Where do you put your energy and focus? How is it enhancing or detracting from your relationship? Point #5: A Threesome Will Help You Keep Your Game On Point Upon discovering their different Love Languages, Garrett learns he has been giving Danielle what he wants to receive, rather than what she wants and needs. Couples and individual therapy enabled them to get past the triggers and blowing up stage while keeping them inside the fight and conversation. Garrett shares that therapy and third-party conversations are what saved their marriage. Danielle advises: Be real about your feelings during therapy – even if it means arguing in front of the therapist or spontaneously jumping up and doing burpees and push-ups. QUESTION Are you giving your spouse what you want to receive, or are you giving them what theywant and need? Communication Challenge: Begin discovering your love languages and take action on giving to your spouse what they want and need. Date Night Topic: Engage in the conver

Garrett and Danielle ring in the New Year with news of baby White who is due to join the family in late July. In this first episode of 2019, the White's have a conversation that is all about babies and children, and how much they change the game in all areas of a couple's life. Point #1: New Beginnings Early last year after announcing their pregnancy to a room of three thousand people, Garrett discovered that Danielle had miscarried their baby, a sad and rough experience for them all. After a fun-filled summer of adventure, Danielle realized that if she wanted to have another baby it was "now or never." Even at the young age of 35, she falls into the ill-named category, "Advanced Maternal Age." QUESTION What new beginnings are you currently experiencing? Point #2: Change Is In the Air Both Garrett and Danielle agree that no one can really prepare for and comprehend how much a baby and children change your life. Danielle: Having kids pushes you to do things you didn't think were possible. It fast-tracks you. It brings out this maturity and responsibility and gives you this sense of purpose. QUESTION What changes are you anticipating or experiencing in 2019? Point #3: The Shift Garrett: I don't think a human being can fully grasp the intensity of what it is to be a human being without birthing or raising a human being. It creates a shift. There are a lot of people who are anti-children. What makes that so ironic is, if someone would have had the same thought process as they're having, they wouldn't fucking exist. QUESTION What is the shift you have experienced as a result of having children? Point #4: Legacy When Garrett turned 40, he started thinking about his children and his legacy in a way that he had never before considered. "Not being married and not having children, there's no fucking way I'd work this hard." Both Garrett and Danielle believe that women are a motivating factor when it comes to men working hard and producing and remember Garrett's fierce drive for work when they were dating. QUESTION How does having a wife and children affect your drive to produce? Point #5: Mixed Signals Garrett: When you're pregnant, there's some kind of endorphin that releases from you that fucks with the sexual mojo for a man. There's a shield that blocks my balls. I want to be all over you but I just can't. From a woman's perspective, Danielle understands and appreciates the sensitivity, yet there are times when she doesn't want to be treated like she is pregnant; she wants instead to experience that sexual energy between them. QUESTION How do you handle sexual intimacy during pregnancy? Communication Challenge: Begin the conversation of Legacy and what that looks like inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: Date Nights and Get-a-ways: Grab your calendar and begin brainstorming & planning what you want to do together in 2019. Go outside the box and get adventurous! Quote of the Week: "It's almost like your body is sending some sort of signal to me that's saying, "Thank you, you're not welcome here." —Garrett J White "Having kids pushes you to do things you didn't think were possible. It fast-tracks you. It brings out this maturity and responsibility and gives you this sense of purpose." —Danielle K White

*This week's episode is a special encore presentation of a previously published episode of the Date Your Wife podcast.* This week Garrett and Danielle tackle the topic of money as dual producers. Their marriage was on the verge of divorce when Danielle found motivation to take care of herself as a possible single parent, ultimately leading to the success we see today with her salon, DKW Styling, and in her technique known as Natural Beaded Rows. Point #1: Inside the Pit of Chaos During the time they were knocking on the door of divorce, Garrett was reeling from the market crash and had stopped producing. There's an interesting game that plays out inside of money when the man isn't producing, and together they were trying to figure it all out. During that transition, it really depolarized them as a couple energetically. Danielle realized she could help out financially and began turning her business into something more than a hobby. She wanted to be taken care of and also wanted to have freedom from the guilt of buying nice things for herself, remembering how her mother worked so their family could have nice things beyond their basic needs. QUESTION How have you seen your roles altered inside your marriage when financial challenges have arisen? Point #2: The Fight For the Throne There was this huge shift of power that came about because of money. Garrett went from the king of the castle to the servant of the queen who had her feet on both thrones while simultaneously wearing both the King's crown and the Queen's crown. This is the reality of production: it's not just about the topic of money, it's about the power play of production. Many times when a man loses the ability to produce and provide, and loses trust inside of that relationship, the woman is forced to go into masculine mode in order to produce, which creates this whole different dynamic and challenge. Garrett was under assault and fighting for the throne that Danielle was sitting on. Gentlemen, you're not getting the throne until you prove that you're actually the man. QUESTION Where are you as a couple in this Game of Thrones? Point #3: From Gucci's to Steel Toed Dude Shoes Danielle felt like she was the man in the relationship. If Garrett was trying to control her she'd tell him "you don't have a fucking leg to stand on right now." She was constantly annoyed by him and always trying to pull the rug out from under him which led to a lot of wars. When Garrett started becoming more consistent, Danielle felt that the safety net was back and she could start letting up a little on her intensity of the hustle and grind. As she let up on the gas, Garrett began getting in her face to prove he was more powerful. They started to go to war in a different direction which killed their ability to communicate. QUESTION How have you experienced this dynamic as a couple? Point #4: Selective Cheap Bastard Mode Danielle: Garrett's not big on any holiday. Most people look forward to holidays but he doesn't. My love language is all about the gifts, but his isn't. He'll give a bum $40 and yet forget my birthday or won't do anything for it. I've now figured out a little trick that gets me what I want from Garrett. Garrett: There will be times when Danielle wants to do something financially and I am thinking "this is ridiculous, there's no fucking way, I don't get it." On the flip side, when it comes to rebuilding a salon, I'll turn the switch on and Danielle goes into cheap bastard mode saying, "No!" My justification with money is: if it's an investment, I put the money in. QUESTION What are your 'Cheap Bastard Modes?' What dynamic does that create in your relationship? Point #5: The Collision Inside the Money Game After eight months of not going to battle, they found themselves in the middle of a war zone recently around the topic of business. This reminded Garrett of a 'shit show' they created years back while dining in a quaint little restaurant in Beverly Hills, where they were both losing their minds and Garrett was ready to throw the table across the room. Garrett: It comes down to this: People want to feel validated in their desires with money. I want to feel validated inside my world when it comes to what I want financially, and you want to feel validated that your opinion matters when it comes to what you want financially. QUESTION Do you battle often as a couple? How much of that is 'healthy collision' and how much of it is a down right war zone? Communication Challenge: Begin the conversation of validation and what it looks like for each of you inside of your relationship. Date Night Topic: What is going to be the next stretch for you two as a couple financially that will pull you two forward? For us, it was our new home. What will it be for you? Quote of the Week: The moment I began to see that my family was an investment, I began to see the value in myself even more." —Garrett J White "If you are trying to go to the next level in any area of your life, just

*This is a special encore presentation of a previously published episode of the Date Your Wife podcast.* The White's juggle children, sandwiches and grocery lists in the opening of today's podcast, demonstrating yet again that they are keeping things real and raw. Between the flirting, bantering, sexual innuendos, and Danielle revealing what she really thinks about penises, it's no wonder their's is the only explicitly rated podcast in the category of Parenting and Family, as they are willing to take topics where others are not. Sit back and enjoy today's conversation on the topic of Sex. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Lazy Sex Danielle: It's not like I don't want to put in the effort, but I don't always want to put in the effort. On my laziest days I don't just lay there and do nothing, but there are ways to service your man without getting really into it. Garrett: Does this mean that women are sexually lazy? Servicing your man is important, regardless of what the servicing looks like. A lot of women don't get this. QUESTION When you have sex, even quickie sex, do you experience connection or is it more like vaginal masturbation? Point #2: Tips For Traveling Garrett: When men are traveling, it doesn't matter for 2 days or 2 weeks, they experience an increased sexual drive. It happens even if it's just overnight. There is an increased sexual spike of being gone from their wife in which sexual desire increases. When guys are gone for a bunch of days it is very easy for them to end up in the trap of porn. This is a very big issue for guys. Danielle: If your guy is traveling, I think it's a good idea to have sex the night before they go. Ladies, just get it done. Little things like that will make your relationship better and when he goes out of town he's going to be more focused. I learned the hard way. It's not that big a deal and it's actually a win-win where we both are getting what we want. QUESTION What happens when you follow this formula? What happens when you don't? Point #3: Pouty Mode Garrett went into pouty mode for 10 years because he felt so out of control inside of their relationship when it came to sex. He felt that Danielle held all of the cards and that she didn't give a shit. Danielle: I found that pouty mode super unattractive. As Garrett shifted his energy, it gave me room to breathe. He just stopped asking and didn't bring so much pouty energy to the table. That's when I started changing my story about Quickies and QQP was born. QUESTION What energy is present when pouty mode enters the picture in your relationship? Point #4: Women Are Like Crockpots Garrett: You tell me to warm you up first and then worry about myself. What does that look like? You have guys who don't worry about their wife at all and worry about their own orgasm, then you have guys who are worried about their wife's orgasm – there's even a book called, "She Comes First." Danielle: I don't agree with that and I'm going to tell you why from a girl's perspective. Warm her up first and then worry about yourself. I like to be warmed up, but if I go first, I'm less into you. It's a song and dance, really. We're both at the finish line: if I go first and you come right after me, it's like we cross the finish line together. QUESTION What does your dance look like? Point #5: Hobbies Bring Fulfillment Garrett got to the point where he began relying on his masturbation toy and started drinking more. He went into a place of suppression, where he literally didn't give a shit. At Danielle's suggestion, he took up surfing, which has been an exceptionally good fit for him. Danielle: I suggested he take up surfing because I felt it would be something that he would enjoy. He comes back happy and full of this great energy, plus it gives me more space. He has a mistress called surfing and I'm fine with that mistress. QUESTION What hobbies do you both enjoy that add positive energy and breathing space inside of your relationship? Communication Challenge: Talk about the ways you like being serviced by your spouse – and then go experiment. Date Night Topic: Begin the conversation around this idea of "Warm her up, worry about you." What does that look like inside of your marriage? Quote of the Week: "When you are both on point together and he goes on a trip, apply the simple strategy of having Date Night and sex the night before you go – whether you're fighting or angry or not – if you do this, life is going to be better. Your man's going to go hunt more powerfully, which means that when he's gone he's going to be more productive in business; he's not going to go to porn because he's going to feel connected to you while he's gone." —Garrett J White "If it has been awhile since you have seen him and he comes

In this week's episode of the Date Your Wife podcast, Danielle and Garrett get down to the nitty-gritty details of the behaviors, patterns, and stories both men and women exhibit and live in when it comes to the topic of money. The White's speak boldly and honestly about their experiences as a married couple inside the Game of Money - where men are typically driven by sex, and women by security - and share what they did that led them out of the throes of divorce and into a thriving and expanding relationship. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast.... MONEY Point #1: Safety, Security, and Sex Garrett: We're discussing the fact that men typically use money to control women, and women use sex to control men. But there's this cross-over game specifically on the topic of money where a woman wants a man to produce, and yet inside of that, one of the challenges that happens is that the woman continues to cut the balls off the man as a Producer. Danielle: Money creates safety and security for a woman, even if you're a powerful woman. I'm a very independent person and have always been one to want to take care of myself. Inside of that, I also want to be taken care of. So it's like this double-edged sword. In the end, we want to be taken care of but we can't expect to be taken care of we keep fighting for the throne. It's a balancing game and surrender on both ends. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" Ctxt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] How does this ring true in your relationship? Point #2: No Money, No Trust Danielle: At one point, Garrett wasn't producing, so I decided to put on the man hat and figure it out on my own. When everything got stripped from us, I wasn't feeling connected to Garrett. I didn't know if I really wanted to be married, especially since we didn't have any money. It wasn't like I was trying to cut Garrett's balls off; from a female perspective, I was just trying to survive. "You were the provider, you stripped that, so fuck you, you've lost my trust." Garrett: We're sitting in this situation where I've built something and then I've lost it. I've also lost the trust of my wife. As I'm climbing out of the Pit to create financial results again, what I didn't expect to happen was to be tested by the queen over and over and over. I would speak to the possibility of what I was going to go do and then not do it. She didn't respond with something like "Oh hon, you're amazing." There was no cheerleading, "Hey you got this." Danielle was scorned and had no trust in me. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] When trust has been lost in your marriage, how do you both regain it? Point #3: Preparing for War Garrett: I struggled with this. I interpreted everything she was saying and doing as "She doesn't want me, she doesn't care about me, she doesn't support me." Add to that, our sex life goes to hell in a hen basket. Not only do I have some blue balls going on, now I have bloody blue balls, and I'm having to protect my balls from being cut off every single day. I didn't know how to deal with this. What I didn't know and understand was that she was actually preparing me to go back to war, to go back outside the wall of the destroyed kingdom to rebuild and repair our lives, to pay the bills, to build us out of scarcity and into abundance, and to create. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] Gentlemen, describe how your wife has been preparing you to go back to war. Point #4: Balls of Steel Garrett: When I finally mastered the game of being able to go into collision with my wife, particularly in the conversation of money, there was a shift that took place. I got to this point where my balls became as steel. "Woman, go ahead and hack at those balls because all you'll do is break your knife." At that point, life started to shift and Danielle started to trust. Danielle: I felt like Garrett was taking back the throne. Part of me was resistant, and a part of me was thinking "it's about fucking time." When I started to see that happen, I began backing down and decided I was going to stay in my own lane. There were two years where we just stayed in our own lanes; we weren't at war anymore, and the trust was building on both sides. [mks_pullquote align="left" width="300" size="24" bg_color="#000000" txt_color="#ffffff"]QUESTION[/mks_pullquote] What does collision look like in your marriage? Point #5: Daggers and Triggers Garrett: Gentlemen, stop interpreting your wife's "criticism" as an attack. Stop the process of making your wife out to be the villain and the monster who is attacking you. You have to find a ne

In this week's podcast, Garrett and Danielle are back at it again as they have a conversation about the seduction game and the importance of knowing what your partner needs; otherwise, the sexual victim card gets played. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Seduction and Sex In the conversation of seduction, Danielle shares how seducing Garrett can be as simple as her walking through the room wearing some cute, lace panties or slowly undressing, whereas seeing Garrett confident and in his element is far more seductive and sexy to her than watching him prance around in a thong. Doing your business in private vs doing it with the door wide open proves to be a spicy topic. When playing the game, "Things That Guarantee You Will Not Get Laid," the friend zone, tampons, hairy ass cheeks, and the naggy bitch mode top the list. QUESTION What tops your couple's list of Things That Guarantee You Will Not Get Laid? Point #2: Tracking and Lacking Back when their marriage was a shit show, Danielle thought the only reason Garrett was helping out was to get laid, which was actually true. He felt he had earned sex because of all of the things he was doing for her. She noticed the difference in his energy and attitude when they had sex vs when she withheld sex from him. Garrett found himself in an isolation and desperation game while tracking how much sex they weren't having. As a man who had been successful in breaking the codes in his businesses, Garrett was trying to figure out how to break his wife's code, hoping his gifts to her would result in a blow job for him. Danielle was pissed because he was tracking, Garrett was pissed because his sex life was lacking. QUESTION In what ways is your relationship similar to their "shit show" years? Point #3: The Leverage Game A man tends to leverage money and power to get sex, whereas a woman will leverage sex to get the power she wants. Garrett felt hurt and angry for being rejected sexually, while Danielle continually had her guard up and felt like she was always walking on eggshells. Garrett's constant challenge became: When is my wife going to want me? He began strategizing, which backfired and began killing the attraction between them. Danielle was watching from the sidelines and figured he was a ticking time bomb. QUESTION How are you playing the Leverage Game in your marriage? Point #4: Men: Take the Sexual Victim Card Off the Table Although Danielle and Garrett existed in a space better than war, it wasn't victory – it was a place where he needed to get laid, and she wanted peace in the house. Sex became awkward. When men become more powerful in business, they also become more sexually charged. Being completely consumed with the frustration, anger, fear and doubt around this topic of sex, and constantly being rejected, Garrett became a sexual victim. As a married man 100% committed to his wife, until he could stop the war between he and Danielle, he began neutralizing the playing field by handling his needs himself via a sex tool. QUESTION What space are you existing in as a couple? Point #5: Submit and Surrender While Danielle agreed she was being a bitch about withholding sex, Garrett admits he was being a dick and complete asshole by withholding time and energy from her. He would deliberately set up situations for Danielle to fail so he could feel like he had control. Garrett remembers the day he submitted to the reality that Danielle needed him to show up and give a shit as a husband and as a lover, even if he wasn't getting laid. He was going to direct all of his energy towards her and not hold her hostage anymore. He felt that by giving her space, he would show her that he wanted her as a person, beyond her body, and that he was ALL IN. QUESTION What are the ways you hold your spouse hostage? What behaviors could you let go of that would be a game changer in your relationship? Communication Challenge: Talk about and demonstrate the ways you love seducing and being seduced. Date Night Topic: Do you use Garrett's formula of TTF? Or a different formula? Talk about the formulas that work for you in your marriage. Quote of the Week: "People would look at us as this attractive couple and I was like fuck that! I've got a g*ddamn frozen ice block barbie in a box goin' on. I don't get to touch it – nothing! It's like a doll that I get to look at. I'm like a dog on a leash that's held just past where the hamburger is sitting, and I'm not ever getting it. And if I do take a bite, I get beat with a fuckin' stick." —Garrett J White "You promote me, you talk about me, you say I'm your Queen, so show me! Come over to my side and show me that what you're preaching is true. If you believe in me, if you believe in my business, if you believe in my visio

Garrett and Danielle have a conversation about the three components necessary in order to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….COMMUNICATION Point #1: The Mirror in the Closet Danielle has a mirror and bench inside her closet which comes in handy for the "get it done" sex. "It's a good view for us both: He's got his mirror and I've got my shoes," says Danielle. Garrett: It's awesome. Not only is it great sex, but it's also visual content and stimulus for my mind for days. QUESTION How can you spice up your "get it done" sex? Point #2: Date Your Wife Podcast Garrett came to Danielle last year at this time and told her they were going to be doing a weekly podcast called Date Your Wife. They are ready to hit their 50th episode which represents at least 25 hours of communication. Garrett: The podcast was a favorable condition that we created with time, energy, and money, and has proven to be the best therapy of all time for us. QUESTION What favorable conditions have you created in order to have better communication with your spouse? Point #3: Lacking Sex? If you're a guy and sex is not happening, it's a guarantee that what is also not happening is communication – direct, intimate communication which is the ability to communicate and connect. If you have not invested time, energy, or money to create those conditions, then you also cannot be entitled to the results that come through sex and connection. QUESTION Where in your relationship are you investing money and energy, but not time? Point #4: Date Night You must create favorable conditions for communication on your dates. If you are always going out with friends and family for your Date Nights, that is not an environment where the two of you are able to have deep, intimate conversation. Garrett enjoys getting together with other couples about once a month, but anything more than is too much, even if they're good friends because it turns into Team Girls and Team Guys instead of the one-on-one time together that they are desiring on their dates. QUESTION What has been your Date Night pattern? Point #5: Time, Energy, and Money If you're going to create communication, you must be willing to create favorable conditions for communication. You're going to have to invest time, energy, and money at some level, whatever it is. Many men will not invest the time and energy, but will invest the money, or will invest the time and energy, but not invest any money. All three components of the Trifecta must be present. QUESTION What portion of the Trifecta are you missing? Communication Challenge: Figure out how you're going to create favorable conditions for communication inside your marriage. Date Night Topic: What can you add to your sex life to spice up those times when you have the "let's get it done" sex? Quote of the Week: "You must be willing to invest to create favorable conditions for communication to exist." —Garrett J White "Women look to men for safety and security. In reaching for that safety and security you have to look inward and realize that you are part of creating your own safety and security inside of that relationship." —Danielle K White

Garrett channels his inner DJ for this week's Date Your Wife podcast where he and Danielle talk about some problems they're facing in the parenting department with their once snuggly-cuddly seventh grader, and also share some of the victories they're experiencing with Garrett's nineteen-year-old son. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….PARENTING Point #1: Cell Phone Game Changer Cell phones have changed the game for kids, forcing them to grow up much faster and at the same time, they're NOT growing up. They've gotten really good at being able to communicate via text, but they haven't learned how to commutate face-to-face. Danielle recalls waiting for boys to call her when she was in Junior High. She was nervous and sweating, hoping she wouldn't sound like a dork or stutter. Today, it's a matter of text, erase, edit, and send. QUESTION How has communication changed since you were a teen? Point #2: Bed Time Shenanigans The bed-time routine at the White household can sometimes look more like a shit show, with their seventh grader going into psycho mode while Garrett takes away her cell phone. Unbeknownst to Garrett who is in the middle of a yelling match in one room, Danielle is in another other room consoling their seven-year-old who has a pillow over her ears saying, "I hate this part!" QUESTION What does your bed time routine look like? Point #3: Old School Discipline When their oldest daughter back-talks Danielle, Garrett wonders if her mother would have tolerated that behavior. As a seventh grader, Danielle remembers being backhanded by her mother while they were driving. As an eighth-grader, Garrett found himself wandering the streets of their new city for four hours after his mom kicked him out of the van for fighting with his siblings. That was before cell phones. QUESTION How do your discipline techniques differ from those of your parents? Point #4: Jump Through the Windows Danielle: When kids are little, they operate on your agenda; when they turn into teenagers, you operate on their agenda – that's your window in. In order to gain that connection, I'm constantly looking for my windows. Garrett: We have some traction in her world. The key is being present with what her issues are and what's going on in her world. Perhaps we actually do know what we're doing. QUESTION What can you do to be more aware of those little windows of opportunity to connect with your children? Point #5: Navigating the Parental Waters of Divorce It was only a couple years ago that Garrett's nineteen-year-old son wouldn't talk to him. Today, he is an integral part of the Warrior landscape as he and Garrett forge a new relationship that has recently included bringing Garrett's ex-wife and her family into the picture. A family intervention during the Warrior Woman event in the summer of 2018 proved not only healing but life transforming as Garrett and his ex-wife were able to take radical responsibility, let go of stories, and come to a peaceful place, demonstrating that anything is possible. QUESTION How are navigating the waters of parental divorce? Communication Challenge: Have a discussion about the challenges cell phones have brought into your family. Date Night Topic: How can you better support each other in how you parent? Brainstorm different ideas and strategies and choose one or two to begin implementing. Quote of the Week: "The emotional fortitude of children isn't what it used to be. Kids today are growing up intellectually very quickly, with great articulation and communication, but emotionally they're going backward." —Garrett J White "Because you are so mad and so bitter, and are not dealing with your own shit and your own stories, it is ultimately holding you back." —Danielle K White

As highly successful producers, Danielle and Garrett have a conversation about their business growth, their goals for the upcoming year, and how they are going to simplify the game moving forward. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….MONEY Point #1: Cleaning House Danielle spent a portion of the year stepping outside of her business, watching it explode in growth, but at the same time, she realizes she may have stepped out a little too far. The goal of 2019 inside of Wake Up Warrior is to unify the men, tighten up the game, and simplify it. QUESTION What areas of your life can you tighten up as we head into 2019? Point #2: The Money Game During the early years of their marriage, Danielle and Garrett were both working; Garrett was paying the bills and Danielle was stockpiling money. While Danielle's father paid the bills, her mother paid for their lifestyle. Garrett's parents had the agreement that his mom would stay home with the kids, which she wanted to do, and his father would pay the bills. QUESTION What role did your parents play in the money game when you were growing up? What role do you play? Point #3: Mommy Guilt Many women wonder how they can work because it will take time away from their kids. It's Danielle's belief that working makes women less crazy. Danielle: If you feel like you want to pursue those passions and talents of yours, do it. It's my belief that it makes you a different and better person. QUESTION As a wife and mother, what would be possible for your life if you began pursuing some of your passions and talents outside of the home? Point #4: Different AND Equal Back in the day, the economic engine of life was the home where both the man andthe woman were producers. Upon the arrival of the Industrial Revolution, a rift took place within the fabric of the home. The trend that Garrett sees happening inside of this conversation of money is that women are seeing themselves as a vital piece of the production game, and at the same time, they don't want to do it alone. QUESTION How do you view your roles as producers? Point #5: Power and Stress A lot of men begin to feel inadequate if their wives are working; it's very frightening for them. They are weak men who get threatened by their wives having any kind of power. Garrett's goal and target is to always make 10x more than Danielle. Danielle: Garrett deserves to make ten times the amount I do because I'm not willing to take on that stress. QUESTION As a man, how are your feelings of inadequacy affecting your relationship with your wife? Communication Challenge: Have a discussion about your current roles inside of your marriage. What would you like to change as you move into 2019? Date Night Topic: What are your passions and desires as a couple? What would you like to do together in 2019? Get out your calendars and start making plans. Quote of the Week: "If a woman controls sex AND money, it leaves a guy in a very interesting place. He has to be very confident and certain as a man." —Garrett J White "Maybe I could have been the best damn version of me had I not worked, but In my experience, me working has made our relationship better." —Danielle K White

The White's have a conversation about their nine-day sex drought. Every week married couple Danielle and Garrett J White share insights and perspectives from within their own lives regarding the following topics discussed each month: Week 1: Sex Week 2: Money Week 3: Parenting Week 4: Communication In This Week's Podcast….SEX Point #1: Drought After experiencing a miscarriage earlier this year, Danielle wondered if she and Garrett had lost the fun in their sex life, even though they were both enjoying the 'let's-try-for-another-baby' sex The time change, an increased workload, massive changes within their businesses, and Garrett turning Danielle down for the first time in their 17 year marriage, have all led to their current drought. QUESTION What is contributing to the droughts you're experiencing? Point #2: One For The Team When it's been a while, Garrett tends to go into this retreat mode where he doesn't even try to initiate sex with Danielle. Garrett: When we experienced a drought in the past, I would begin thinking I was in the wrong relationship. Now, I just torch the shit out of people in business. QUESTION Where do you place your energy when you're in a drought? Point #3: The Slip and Drift Garrett: If we're three days into having sex twice a day on vacation, I'm that guy who could use a couple of days of rest. When they're experiencing a drought, Danielle begins to lose that attraction factor, and both she and Garrett begin to feel that loss of attraction. QUESTION What actions do you take to get back that attraction factor? Point #4: Universal Hot-Crazy Matrix Garrett played a video during the show called The Universal Hot-Crazy Matrix. You have your crazy axis and your hot axis. Hot is measured from 0 to 10, and Crazy is measured from 4 to 10. You've got your No-Go Zone, your Fun Zone, your Date Zone, your Wife Zone, and your Unicorn Zone. Garrett: Danielle's a Unicorn: 4 Crazy and 14 Hot. QUESTION Where is your spouse inside this matrix? Point #5: Just F***ing Do It! At about seven days into a drought, most men begin to unplug from their wife. The best thing a couple could do at this point is to just have sex; just fucking do it. During the podcast, Garrett and Danielle venture into a little sex talk foreplay with both committing to ending the drought after the show. QUESTION Where is your favorite place to end the drought? Communication Challenge: What would be possible for your relationship if you were to have a plan in place the next time a drought crops up out of seemingly nowhere? Date Night Topic: Have some fun with this: Universal Hot-Crazy Matrix Quote of the Week: "When I turned you down for the first time in seventeen years and said I'm too tired, I think that hurt you, yet I've heard the same thing from you four thousand times!" —Garrett J White "When I feel a drift, that's usually when I bring out the morning sex weapon. Recognize the drift and correct it, otherwise, no relationship will work out." —Danielle K White