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Charles Lee is the Founder and CEO of Ideation, an idea agency that specializes in helping organizations and businesses take their ideas and make them remarkable via creative strategy, branding, design, and marketing. He is also the author of Good Idea. Now What? - a book that guides people in implementing ideas well. Charles regularly speaks around the country on topics such as creative process, idea-making, innovation, branding, new media, and compassionate justice. Conversation Notes 2:44 - Introducing Charles Lee Timed talk format from Charles' Youth Specialties presentation = PechaKucha 4:44 - "My life mission is to reduce the number of people who take their good ideas to the grave." - Charles Lee 5:00 - God designed us and has aspirations for us. We can pursue things that God has birthed in us. 7:36 - Charles on the influence of his family 9:05 - Less about life-balance and more like a fulcrum. Move your attention to where it is needed in specific seasons. 11:12 - Teaching resilience to our kids: modeling stewardship 12:48 - Learnings from painful moments - coming to terms with our limitations 14:46 - Trust God that he has something bigger planned 15:40 - Priorities in Charles' family: continued generosity and the gift of encouraging their kids to engage with adults 16:43 - Parenting mistakes: failing to put ourselves in the position of our kids and increase empathy for them 18:28 - How to reserve creative energy for our family: It's about pace 19:46 - "The way that innovation works is often two or more unrelated concepts intersect. So if I can put [my kids] in environments that they're not familiar with, I'm hoping it will trigger an unexpected connection in their thinking." - Charles Lee 21:01 - Charles summarizes his book Good Idea. Now What? and why he wrote it 22:29 - The Third Eye Principle applied to the dad-life 24:23 - How the concept of limiting/trimming relates to parenting 25:01 - "Don't become a wandering generality. Be a meaningful specific." Zig Ziglar 25:42 - "Since we are finite beings with finite time and resources, we need to prioritize regularly what really matters to us." - Charles Lee 26:01 - "We will always make time for things that we value... If [being a dad] is a priority, then our actions should reflect that commitment." - Charles Lee 26:36 - The importance of writing down our ideas 28:08 - Encouragement for dads 28:47 - "If I will be faithful as I can be… God will still make His path straight for our kids… He loves them far more than I do." - Charles Lee 29:38 - Legacy Question: What Charles hopes his family would say at his celebration of life service 31:01 - Charles' closing prayer Resources Charles' website: https://charlestlee.com "Ignite" timed presentations - http://www.ignitetalks.io Charles' company website: https://theideation.com/ Charles' book: Good Idea. Now What? How to Move Ideas to Execution - http://goodideabook.com

Invitation: We're looking for 9 volunteers to help us create the dadAWESOME Fruit of The Spirit small group curriculum. Would you be interested in volunteering 2 or 3 hours of your time to listen back to a previous week's episode and take notes and gather more resources on your assigned Fruit of the Spirit? Please email [email protected] for more information. This is the second part of our dadAWESOME conversation with Paul Cole. If you missed last week, here's the link to episode 84. Paul Cole is a dedicated champion for raising up successful young leaders, and committed to challenging and helping men be great dads. He's the President of the Christian Men's Network Worldwide and is active in 138 nations, connecting over 86,000 leaders. Paul writes, speaks and travels extensively encouraging and advancing the men's movement around the world. Conversation Notes: 4:55 - Book Point Man by Steve Farrar = "Don't screw up this fatherhood thing" 5:40 - "You are your child's hero. What God the Father is to us, a source of provision, a source of discipline, security, affirmation, value, love" 5:55 - "True discipline doesn't come out of anger, it comes from love" 6:40 - 1 Corinthians 10 gives a picture of God trying to grow up his people 7:20 - "Every great culture is built on the character of it's hero's and the courage of it's warriors" (Isaiah 3:1) 8:25 - Dads need to show their daughters what a real man looks like 8:50 - "The most important thing for you to work on as a dad is YOU and then after working on you, disciple your children" Proverbs 22:6 "Direct your children onto the right path, and when they are older, they will not leave it." 9:30 - Gideon failing as a farther (Judges 8:30-33)... not one of his sons stood up for what was right. 10:50 - "Legacy isn't what you do in life, it's what you put into motion" 12:30 - Story about a failure as a father... His daughter felt like she was an agenda for her dad. He had compartmentalized his life. 14:10 - The importance of just saying yes and being present with your kids... Be careful not to build walls that lower your connection. Top Books for young dads: The Well Played Life & The Boy Crisis & Phil Pringle Podcast Just a Bartender book by Paul Cole 17:30 - "One of the most important things you can do for your kids is to let them see you live your life and invite them into seeing you make choices, decisions and mistakes" 18:55 - "It has to be normative that you can pray together at anytime throughout the day. It does not have to be at special moments" 20:00 - Powerful story of changing the culture of Uganda through men's discipleship 21:00 - "They weren't famous men, they just started. The most important thing about discipling your kids is to start. Don't try to figure it all out, just start" 24:30 - "David reproduced what was in his heart. As a father, you don't just reproduce what's in your hands, you reproduce what's in your heart. Your children may not always listen to you, but they will always imitate you" 25:05 - Spread the word about dadAWESOME - share www.dadawesome.org with other dads 25:35 - Paul's prayer Episode Links: Christian Mens Network Worldwide Paul's website Paul's books

Paul Cole is a dedicated champion for raising up successful young leaders, and committed to challenging and helping men be great dads. He's the President of the Christian Men's Network Worldwide and is active in 138 nations, connecting over 86,000 leaders. Paul writes, speaks and travels extensively encouraging and advancing the men's movement around the world. Conversation Notes: 3:25 - Paul Cole introduces himself 4:30 - "If things aren't based on the Word of God, if we don't have a true north centering us, then we move all over the place" 4:50 - The Global Fatherhood Initiative 5:14 - "If we change the hearts of men, we change the soul of a nation" 5:25 - "We live in a world that seems to be more concerned about the calorie content of our children's lunches than the character content of their hearts" 5:50 - Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." 10:45 - 1 Corinthians 4:15 "Even if you had ten thousand guardians in Christ, you do not have many fathers, for in Christ Jesus I became your father through the gospel." 11:40 - "An instructor tells you what he knows, but a father gives you who he is. A father will teach by example with his life, while an instructor gives you his words. There's a lot of people who will tell you where you've done it wrong, but there's very few who are willing to take the time and effort to help you grow up." 12:05 - "Fatherhood and the spirit of fathering is actually what will undergird a reversal of the trend in our culture away from Christ" 12:43 - Many of the father to child handoffs are not done well. Many people mess this up. 13:20 - "The role of a father is to reach into a child's heart, pull out their future and show it to them... A father says don't let them look down on you because you are young" 14:20 - Paul was setting Timothy up in a generational ministry - 2 Timothy 2:2 14:50 - Jesus spent 30 years preparing for 3 years of ministry 15:50 - All men by nature are selfish 16:15 - "The enemy is always trying to rip men off of their destiny" 17:45 - "The conversion process of following Christ is what changes us from selfishness to giving, to generosity. IT moves us from the negative to the positive." 18:00 - "Fatherlessness is a form of selfishness. And selfishness in it's working out is childishness" 19:30 - The importance of being engaged when you get home from work. "When you walk in the door, you belong to your family" 20:05 - The importance of touch. What did Jesus do for people? He touched them. 20:18 - Let your kids see you love their mom 20:30 - Words have great power Episode Links: Christian Mens Network Worldwide Paul's website Paul's books

Zack Curry is the Executive Pastor at Jesus Culture and he's the host of the Man Camp Podcast. For the past 15 years he has been ministering to students in high school and College. Zack's passion is to see student leaders raised up to go into all areas of society to release the kingdom of God and see cultural transformation. Zack and his wife Melissa have three beautiful little girls Grace, Olivia and Ellie. Conversation Notes: 2:48 - The Man Camp Podcast 3:03 - Zack introducing himself (wife, 3 girls & a male Goldendoodle) 3:40 - Amazing adventure of ministry with Jesus Culture 4:05 - "Our legacy as parents and as a dad is one of the greatest measures of success and what real fruit looks like" 4:20 - The need for a healthy balance of ministry and dad life 5:00 - Zack talks about some recent adventures with his girls 5:10 - "We're raising strong confident women... I don't want my girls to not know who they are or to be looking to a man when they get older to validate them..." 5:40 - The hashtag #dateyourdaughters 6:00 - Using adventure to teach his girls to overcome fear or to be confident 7:20 - "The challenge for us, as dads, is to be disconnected and not present" 8:45 - We grow through hardships 8:50 - The painful moments of his mom battling cancer 11:00 - Story of his daughter wanting to pray for her grandmother 11:50 - We should have faith like a child 12:04 - Moment of weakness when his daughters showed their faith to pray 12:30 - "What we model, what we teach, what we invest in our kids will come out of them." 13:30 - When we sow, we reap what we sow and not just in our life... it's in our kids life. 15:02 - The miracle story of Zack's mom being healed 15:44 - Living fully alive does not mean that we're doing crazy wild adventures 16:30 - Move ourself into dependance. Refuse to coast. 17:45 - Moments of just trying to get through the day. The hard moments. 18:30 - "Our heart matters and we need to live fully alive. And that is not separate from your role as a dad. It's important that you take care of yourself because you're modeling something for them... You've got to have something you're looking forward to. Make sure your heart is alive physically, spiritually and emotionally" 19:20 - Caution about not centering your life around our kids 20:10 - "My goal is to stay connected to my daughters heart. I want to do stuff together and I want her to want me to be part of her world." 21:31 - There is a tendency to isolate as men, but we need other people. We can't do this alone. 22:00 - The importance of brotherhood 23:00 - Make sure you're known. Be known. Share your story. Make sure at least a hand full of other guys know your story. And share your dreams. 24:10 - Do you have something that you're looking forward to? If not, that's a RED FLAG. 24:45 - When was the last time you went on an adventure? Do you have an adventure you're looking forward to now? 26:20 - The power of reminding dads of who they are 27:50 - The areas that Zack is working on in his fatherhood (loosing his patience & not being present with his kids) 29:00 - Missing moments that won't always be there 30:05 - Parenting is not easy. "Being a dad is one of the hardest things I've ever done and the most rewarding thing" 32:00 - Intentional rhythms and focusses Values (Character, Integrity, Love Jesus, Work Ethic, Gratitude) 22:50 - "We want our kids to know their identity, to know Jesus and walk in a confidence through every season" 33:20 - It's taught... It's not just learned. 34:12 - "Are we aware of what's influencing our kids and are we being intentional?" 34:40 - "God want to use our kids now, not just later in life" 35:50 - Planting seeds in our kids that we are confident will come to fruition in the future. We will reap what we sow. 36:32 - Time Machine Advice = Take more time to be present and enjoy the moments 37:23 - John Eldridge book: You Have What It Takes 37:40 - "You have what it takes. Don't compare yourself. There is no one else who can take your place. Just you being in the game is more than many kids have" 39:10 - Zack prays for all of us dads Episode Links: The Man Camp Podcast Jesus Culture Zack's Instagram: John Eldridge Interview

Sam Collier is a speaker and host at Northpoint Ministries (founded by Andy Stanley) as well as the Director of City Strategy for The reThink Group (founded by Reggie Joiner). Sam is also the host of nationally syndicated radio-podcasts "A Greater Story w/ Sam Collier" and "The Countdown w/ Sam Collier". Sam lives in Atlanta, GA with his beautiful wife and daughter! Conversation Notes 2:12 - Introducing Sam Collier 5:23 - Sam's family and summer of his current roles and projects 8:35 - "Sometimes a story can do more for our development and direction than principles." 10:23 - Sam's backstory and the influence of his father 15:40 - Sam shares what is going well in his dad role 17:12 - God's call as a step-dad (Bonus Dad) to honor his daughter's biological father 19:00 - Supporting mom in the discipline acts of parenting 21:40 - Unlocking wonder in our kids 23:30 - The importance of intentionality in parenting 25:08 - With intentionality, something is better than nothing. But if you want to get to that next level, you need to plan. 27:35 - Sam on influence in the dad-life 28:03 - "You are being influenced by something whether you like it or not… Something is influencing you, so you might as well get intentional about it." 28:51 - Introducing 3 key areas of influence Influence of Friends 29:05 - "Our desire to fit in often outweighs our desire to stand out. Therefore, we become what our friend group demands." 30:05 - "God created you for acceptance and community… you will always choose acceptance over being great… let's stop trying to change that principal.. embrace it and rearrange our lives to fit around that." 30:27 - "Who are you hanging around? Every great dad that I have met hangs around great dads." Influence of Leaders 31:40 - "Not every mentor is supposed to mentor me in everything." 32:25 - "You want to control that circle. Hang around great dads as peers because they will rub off on you. Get some older dads… to be your leaders to help mentor you, so you can be everything God has called you to be." Influence of Followers 32:45 - "Followers are the mirror into our souls and into our gifts. They help reflect back on us what God has put in us." 33:12 - Ask your followers and fans what they love about you and then turn that dial up 33:40 - Ask others what our blind-spots are, and use it to examine our parenting 35:27 - Current culture is beginning to realize the importance of parenting too 36:52 - "Only you can raise your kid." 39:23 - "I want to raise the bar and punctuate the idea that parenting and fatherhood is the most important thing you'll do outside of serving God." 39:51 - Sam's closing prayer Resources A Greater Story Podcast & Radio Show Sam's Books: The Essentials & Find Your Voice https://www.samcollier.tv/ Orange Ministry - Orange Leaders Blog

dadAWESOME DAILY: Receive an encouraging daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. The resource is free and the initial test group of dads has LOVED these simple daily fatherhood encouragements. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily. To finish out this summer's Fruit of the Spirit 9-part series, we have Tim Bohlke joining us to discuss the theme of Self-Control. Tim is a husband, a father, a grandfather, a disrupter, and dreamer. He has spent three decades investing in leaders and helping forge a new path that will serve leaders, their families, and their organizations well. As the executive director of a large youth ministry, a pastor, teacher, coach, counselor, and founder of Harbor, Tim has continued to pursue SPACE and seek Thin Places where he can be refreshed and restored. Conversation Notes: 2:15 - Jeff's introduction of Tim 2:40 - Seven city blitz tour for Harbor Ministries 3:24 - Tim introducing his family and ministry 4:00 - Harbor Ministries overview 5:00 - Overview of the RHYTHMinTWENTY and Rogue groups 7:46 - Tim shares his passion for fatherhood 8:20 - "My dad had the ability to invest in significant ways and significant times. He was present" 8:45 - "How can I create key moments with my kids? Create milestones and ceremonies to celebrate the transitions" 9:30 - Specifics around key conversations with his kids 10:30 - the power of combining intentional conversations with fun memory making trips 11:25 - Creating significant memories takes investing resources and time and intentionality 11:40 - Asking multiple people in his kids life to write specific words for his kids at the age of 18 13:20 - Book "Thin Places" 14:05 - "A thin place is a time when Heaven and Earth collide and just for a moment we see God for who He really is and we see life for what it was meant to be" 14:45 - Slow down and embrace moments 15:40 - Story of Tim's trip to Iceland and searching for a specific cliff (Video of the Cliff featured by Sigur Ros) 18:40 - What does being a cliff chaser look like? 18:55 - "God loves risk takers. Men who are willing to step out and do things differently and think differently. Maybe step out of the box. And that sometimes takes a different level of intentionality and resource. It takes stepping off of the treadmill and adjusting the speed of what we are doing and how we are living life. The oppressive work… If we are inviting our kids into Thin Places, we need to invite them into quieting down and listening and slowing down enough in their own lives and turning off the phones long enough and turning off the noise. But first we have to be willing to do that ourselves." 20:10 - We are designed to be on the open waves, but we need to slow down and come into harbor 21:04 - Theme of Self-Control 21:15 - "It's key that we understand this idea of harbor as dads. The idea of bringing people in. Because if we're living constantly in open water, and on mission. If work becomes too much in the context of our lives, we can't survive out there just like a ship. If you don't come into harbor ever, you're worthless. You're dead in the water. Whatever your mission is no matter how important it is. It isn't going to happen. And if we're not modeling this at some level to our kids, they're just going to carry on with what they've seen. We must model for them how to come in and create sabbath and rest and turn off the noise" 21:40 - Modeling rest and sabbath and shutting off the noise for our kids 22:10 - Inviting men to find space… find quiet time to shut off the noise and be still. 23:00 - Self-control… every other Fruit of the Spirit require Self Control 24:00 - Creating the discipline of quiet and rest helps us be prepared and not operate in reactive mode 24:35 - James 1:19 "Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry" 26:00 - Practical guide to taking time for space, silence and listening to God = Look back and look forward 29:06 - "I was starting to take people to a place in their spiritual journey that I was not going myself" 30:10 - Luke 9:33 - deny ourselves and take up our cross and follow him 30:50 - specific challenge: Take 2-hours and slow down and listen for God's voice 31:30 - John 10:10 32:00 - Jeff thanks Tim and encourages the dads to explore Harbor Ministries 32:52 - Tim's last word = take the TWO HOUR CHALLENGE 33:25 - Tim's prayer over every listener Episode Links: Thin Places Harbor Ministries RHYTHMinTWENTY Rogue Episode 51 of dadAWESOME w/ Tim Bohlke Quotes from Thin Places Book: "One of my hopes was to wake up leaders who were coasting, who were settling, or backing away from dangerous pursuits. When the faith of a leader loses its edge, when we doze off and get bored, or forget what it was like to take risks and pursue this mysterious God and all He has for us, everyone loses. We lose. Our families lose, and those we lead lose." "Often it's not the struggles or the hard times that derail leaders, but

Episode 80 continues our nine-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit listed in Galatians 5:22-23. We get to hear from evangelist Matt Brown who reminds us about Gentleness: "The greatest joy we can experience in our life starts with how we treat our family." Matt Brown is an evangelist, author, and founder of Think Eternity, a ministry dedicated to amplifying the gospel every day to millions through podcasts, devotionals, videos, live events and more. Matt and his wife Michelle and their three children live in Minnesota. Conversation Notes 2:30 - Introducing guest Matt Brown 6:45 - How having kids changed Matt's understanding of the LOVE of our Heavenly Father 9:49 - "Part of spiritual maturity is understanding God's love and a deeper and greater way your life and in your walk" 10:03 - "that to me is what fatherhood is… it is a love and depth of love that goes beyond anything you can put into words." 11:13 - Most of our life is playing with Legos, Hot Wheels, and GI Joes… being a dad brings us back into the fun zone 11:45 - Matt reflects on the example of his dad in his life 13:38 - "Our kids aren't going to do what we tell them to do, so much as they do what WE do." 14:52 - "If we work too hard, if we are too driven, if we don't know what's driving us in our motives or in our desire to succeed and do well, sometimes that pace of life can lead to less peace and being more aggressive to people." 16:04 - "No Dad is perfect, but there is something really powerful about being willing to apologize and admit you are wrong, especially as a father… in a leadership role. It means more that way." 18:25 - Jeff talks about how we're not after perfection, but we still are intentional to reflect our perfect Father to future generations 20:33 - Matt's time-machine advice to his past self: enjoy the journey, capture the moments, and take care of yourself. 23:42 - Matt talks about how the fruit of the Spirit applies to dads 24:09 - "The fruit of the Spirit are so simple we almost forget about them, but it is so important as believers that we come back to the basics." 25:04 - "Focus on starting with your own home … because true success is when people who know you the best respect you the most." 25:23 - "The greatest joy we can experience in our life starts with how we treat our family." 25:47 - Matt on gentleness 27:38 - "What is it like to be on the other side of your leadership?" 27:45 - "A lot of times we carry more authority and more weight, and so when we say things that are a little bit intense it comes off as ten times as intense… It is so important to be gentle." 28:08 - "[Gentleness] is one of the things God works in your life when you're truly getting closer to Him… and submit to the Lord. It is not our natural flesh response. It is something the Bible calls us to work towards… not just hope it happens. Work towards being gentle with others starting with our kids." 29:02 - "The way you live you live your life not only affects you, it affects your children and their children and generations to come. You are setting the pace right now with how you're faithful in the little things that has a ripple effect that you won't even realize until eternity." 29:34 - Matt's thoughts on prayer 30:10 - "Only you can pray a father prayer over your children" 30:32 - Themes Matt prays over his children: Be people of the fruit of the Spirit Be people of wisdom Know the joy of knowing the Lord Be humble servants Be generous serving others Spend their life pursuing the Lord 31:20 - "We want to teach our kids truth, but we also want to live it out in front of them (so it is caught more than taught). But there is also some things only prayer can do." 32:28 - Matt's closing prayer Links @evangelistmatt thinke.org Book: Truth Plus Love

Paul Anderson joins dadAWESOME for a chat on the topic of FAITHFULNESS. This is the 7th part of our 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit. Paul Anderson graduated from UCLA and Luther Seminary. He pastored in Southern California for twenty-five years before moving to Minnesota to direct Lutheran Renewal. During his tenure he founded The Master's Institute and the Alliance of Renewal Churches. A young adult community called Communitas met in his home for eleven years. Now a house church gathers there on Sundays. Paul authored five books and enjoys writing his blog. He and Karen have six children and fourteen grandchildren. Conversation Notes: 1:15 - Social Media links for dadAWESOME Instagram: www.instagram.com/dadawesome Facebook: www.facebook.com/dadawesomepodcast/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/dadAWESOMEpod 4:40 - Top dad advice = Intentionality 5:25 - Apologizing to his kids 5:53 - Teaching kids to appreciate being together 6:25 - Question jar for dinner conversations 7:02 - Being intentional about teaching kids to work and to love work 7:30 - Saturday morning work party as a family. Making work fun and adding music and marching to kick off the work together. 9:35 - Paul describes the special moments of celebrating birthdays by affirming and speaking encouraging words over the person. 11:00 - Paul shares about the powerful conversation when he asked his kids how he had failed them as their father. 12:30 - His kids were kind enough to tell him how he had failed. 13:30 - Intentional meeting with his kids to follow-up. Two questions he asked them: What you like about the family What you don't like about the family 14:05 - "You need to find out where you have failed and if you're willing to ask, your kids will tell you" 15:06 - Talking about generations. "It's about generational righteousness" 15:30 - "I pray for my kids grandchildren that don't yet exist. We're in this for the long haul. We're in this for the legacy. We're in this to change the culture. And when you get a legacy and four generations of righteousness there is a greater potential to change the culture" 16:24 - Paul telling a story about faithfulness and his wife's parents and their current role of praying for their great grandchildren. 17:40 - The powerful moments of seeing the fruit of obedience and faithfulness and passion. 18:15 - Seeing gentleness in his parents and then pass that on to our kids 18:40 - Seeing a love for God's word and his church and seeing that passed along to our kids. 19:45 - "I think of faith as believing in God and if faith is the lips of our obedience, faithfulness is the legs. Faithfulness walks out what you believe in your heart." 21:15 - Story of Paul's daughter yanking the flowers up out of the ground one by one. 23:40 - "I'm struck by the faithfulness of God. I'm not struck by my own faithfulness but I'm really really struck by the faithfulness of God" 24:00 - "You'll do what you can, but God will will do what you can't because He is faithful to his promises" Episode Links: Paul Anderson's Blog Paul Anderson's Podcast

This is the sixth part of our summer Fruit of the Spirit series and our guest Tyler Reagin explores the topic of GOODNESS... Tyler was the President of Catalyst, a leadership development organization that exists to unify and equip leaders who love the Church through resources and experiential events. He remains the Brand Ambassador and also runs his own leadership company called The Life Giving CO. (lifegiving.co). Conversation Notes: 4:50 - Becoming a student of leadership. "We are all called to lead. We're all called to steward our influence well" 3:37 - "Help find the uniqueness, that God-given Psalm 139 uniqueness in your kids and start encouraging that out... calling that out" 5:55 - Color Chart personality profile tool https://www.colorcode.com/ 7:40 - Diving into Emotional Intelligence 7:55 - The difference between self-awareness and self-regulation 8:30 - Apologies do not take away consequences 9:30 - Creating layers to our kids' foundations so that they are prepared and not crushed by the storms of life 9:45 - "Leadership isn't easy. It's difficult because it matters. It changes people. It's valuable. And things of value require sacrifice." 10:50 - Story about their family moving and the difficult transition for Tyler's kids 11:30 - When employees or people we lead or our kids are having a difficult time, ask yourself what you have done to lead them to their current behavior 13:35 - When it comes to chores, do what you can to MAKE IT FUN and then watch the results. 14:19 - Calling out adventure in our lives and feeling fullness 15:08 - "This life is full of adventure. This God we serve is full of adventure. How do we show attributes of God through our day to day life? A lot of that for me is showing a God who is fun and plays with us and is full of adventure..." 16:03 - The power of their weekly rhythm of going to church as a family together every Sunday. 16:35 - Be on the lookout for unique opportunities to steal away and create moments as a family 17:30 - Process big life decisions and career decisions with your kids so they can see how you seek God for wisdom and direction 19:00 - John 10:10 - the paradox of Good vs. Strife & Struggle 20:01 - Great leaders give life to people. An outflowing and an overflowing of life. 22:50 - Conversation about legacy. Fighting to give life and care to his boys. 25:40 - Calm is contagious 26:20 - Presenting attractive qualities for his boys (like the Fruit of the Spirit) that they want to emulate when they grow up 27:25 - Leading from your truest self... Be ok with yourself. Don't copy others. 28:30 - it's ok to have flaws. Keep working on your role as dad and don't be afraid to talk about it. 28:50 - "One thing I'm really proud to be is Carrie's husband and their dad... And I'm going to fight for those things" 29:50 - Conversation about the Fruit of the Spirit 30:30 - "When I think of GOODNESS, I think of a depth of love displayed in action" 30:55 - "When I think of my Heavenly Father, I think of someone who wants good things for me" 31:50 - Goodness is a posture. It's a heart condition. It's coming from a place of abundance. Psalm 139:14 "I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well." 32:55 - Connecting God's goodness in creation for our kids to understand. Watch them come alive. 35:15 - Advice for himself back 8 years ago. 36:30 - Tyler's dad loved him unconditionally. His dad said "I love you and you matter." Links: https://www.tylerreagin.com Book: Life-Giving Leader https://lifegiving.co/ https://www.catalystleader.com

Ryan Skoog joins us for the 5th part of our dadAWESOME Fruit of the Spirit series. Ryan is an entrepreneur, ministry leader, world traveler and adventure dad. He started Fly for Good, Volunteer Card, Yonder Travel Insurance, and the non profit Venture.org which helps people do tough things to help people in tough places around the world. Conversation Notes: 4:20 - Story of the first moments after their son was born 4:50 - "That was our welcome to parenthood. Welcome to getting on your knees and crying out to God in prayer" 5:34 - "I want to stay fighting on my knees like this all of the time for my kids" 6:30 - Story of travel and being exposed to those in need around the world 7:50 - Story of Ryan's dad and mixing love for travel with love for evangelism and serving others 9:25 - The impact of waking up and finding his dad reading his Bible every morning (praying through Psalm 91 over his family) 9:55 - Praying Ephesians chapter 1 and Ephesians chapter 3 over his kids 10:40 - Ryan explaining his career journey and the story of launching Venture 14:15 - the other organizations that Ryan leads: https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/ 16:20 - "As parents, we shouldn't just have experiences where we celebrate together with our kids. We also need experiences where we struggle together. Where we sacrifice together" 17:28 - "Instead of being an amazing leader and a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad and a decent leader" 18:30 - "I wanted to be able to create experiences, key moments for my kids surrounded around our families core values" 18:50 - Ryan explains the step by step plan for creating these 1-on-1 moments with his kids Age 6 or 7 -- Adventure in the woods. Create a cross. 20:05 - Rock Climbing while learning about character and values. Character anchors us like a rope anchors us 20:40 - Cliff jumping for learning about courage 21:40 - The set-up for the adventure the night before. Burnt edge paper with a note. 24 hour blitz trips. 22:30 - Climbing up a mountain for a sunrise. Holiness and Purity. "It's tough, but it's worth it" 23:50 - Mother/daughter trip to Chicago for tea. 24:35 - Trip to a church in Alaska with Ryan's dad and his son. A prayer moment. A moment about legacy. 25:15 - An adventure when they spend a night on the streets. Learning about compassion. 25:45 - Mission trips to difficult places in third world countries have transformed their kids. Their kids pray every night for these kids without mommy's and daddy's 28:20 - Normalizing in a good way intentional parenting 28:35 - The family dashboard of values and mission and prayers they are praying as a family. 29:30 - Memorizing scripture as a family 30:05 - "We should not, as parents, have a mentality that outsources faith to the church. They should reinforce what we are doing as parents" 30:30 - Every member of their family has a Fruit of the Spirit that they're working to grow in 32:10 - Introducing the focussed Fruit of the Spirit - KINDNESS 34:30 - Story of the early church adopting babies left in the trash - "The church was started on kindness" 35:15 - Inviting our kids to be able to call us as parents out when we are violating the Fruit of the Spirit 37:40 - Catching your kids doing something good and celebrating it 38:40 - Daily prayer focus 39:30 - Having the interviewing questions with our kids. Asking for feedback from them on how we are doing as dads 40:00 - Using code words to express large emotions with a short phrase 40:30 - "If you pray for something for your kids, you will see it start to happen" 41:00 - "God is actively wanting to answer prayers from parents for their kids. It's pretty amazing." 41:55 - Ryan's last words... Add more intentionality to your dad life. 42:50 - We need each other Recommended Books: The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place Hardcover (Andy Crouch) Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Henry Cloud and John Town) Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No Paperback (John Townsend) The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way (John Townsend) Take entrepreneurial business books and apply those principles to being a dad Links: Chosen: A 30 Day Devotional Venture Expeditions https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/

Regi Campbell joins dadAWESOME for the 4th part of our summer Fruit of the Spirit series. Regi is a serial entrepreneur who has founded 15 companies and has now devoted this phase of his life to creating a mentoring approach that produces incredible leaders and deep discipleship. He is currently leading his 18th mentoring group and has now personally invested in 144 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. Conversation Notes: 4:40 - "You're just doing what Jesus did... He handpicked a group of men for a season of time and invested in them" 5:25 - "My goal is 5 generations of multiplication. If that happens, more than a million men will have been equipped to manage life better" 6:00 - "The only way to leave a legacy is for Jesus to use you to pour into others who have a hunger to pour into others as well" 6:50 - Regi shares his goal of investing in mentors who mentors others 7:50 - The key to something being sustained is that it must be motivated by selflessness and it must have intentionality 8:50 - Anything you care about should have intentionality 9:15 - The importance of raising kids who are becoming good adults 9:45 - Basic principles of Radical Mentoring 10:50 - Make sure that your kids know that you love them 11:25 - I realized that I have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves me 13:50 - There is always something that you don't know 14:35 - Story about Andy Stanley putting his kids to bed and asking about their heart 15:15 - Be firm, but don't lose track of their heart 16:05 - Make time in the morning to connect one-on-one 16:30 - The importance of sharing with our kids what is going on in our life if we want them to share with us 16:45 - Talking to your kids like they are adults and really connecting with them 17:20 - Be a dad who is in your son or daughters presence 18:25 - Be careful not to exasperate your children Provoke Stir up anger Do not irritate Do not be hard 20:50 - The importance of keeping our kids emotional tanks full 22:00 - The danger of jumping to conclusions 24:45 - The value of a slower pace and limiting activities and a hurried life 26:20 - Sadly we don't have many spiritual mentors and hero's that we want to be like 27:00 - Matthew 28:19-20 The Message (MSG) "Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: "God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I'll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age." 29:20 - Encouraging dads to be intentional and initiate... lead yourself 29:35 - You get what you glorify. Whatever you glorify, that's what your kids will lean into. 31:00 Story about intentionality and helping his kids find good friendships 34:00 - Curating Your Kids Friends 35:30 - Proverbs 24:3-6 "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength. Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.through wisdom and knowledge it's filled with treasures" Knowledge is just data Understanding is context Wisdom is taking data and filtering it through context and being wise with decisions Links: Regi's Website Radical Mentoring Mentor Like Jesus and Regi's other books

Joshua Becker joins us for part 3 of our summer 9-part series on the Fruit of the Spirit. Joshua is the founder and editor of Becoming Minimalist, a website dedicated to inspiring others to find more life by owning less. Joshua lives in Peoria, Arizona with his wife, son, and daughter. Conversation Notes: 3:51 - How cleaning out a garage led to exploring minimalism 6:00 - "Not only was everything I owned not making me happy, even worse, everything I owned was taking me away from things that did bring me happiness and purpose and meaning and significance and joy." 6:54 - Possessions have become a big distraction in a lot of people's lives 8:00 - Ideas on how owning less can help us be more effective in our parenting. 9:28 - When we focus less than the things we do not have we have opportunity to appreciate the things that we do have. 10:31 - "It is about aligning our lives around our values as opposed to being distracted by things that do not matter in the long run" 12:05 - More stuff never resolves our discontentment 13:18 - Jesus said, "Take care, and be on your guard against all covetousness, for one's life does not consist in the abundance of his possessions." Luke 12:15 13:40 - Examining our motivations behind work and collecting more stuff 17:12 - How minimalism opened Joshua's eyes to a new passion and approach to orphans and adoption. 18:30 - The Hope Effect 20:30 - Multi-generational influence of Joshua's family 22:50 - "I want to be as engaged and live each day as meaningfully as I possibly can" 23:50 - The big mistake of how much time and energy was invested into chasing the wrong things 24:30 - The mistake of wanting his kids to have the same qualities and attributes as their dad 25:10 - "So much of parenting is being intentional. So much is just studying our children and learning who they are." 27:20 - Joshua describes two types of peace - peace in our circumstances and peace with the life that we're living 28:25 - "We can find peace in how we know that we're doing our best even though our best isn't perfect. I can still find peace in the life that I'm living." 29:33 - "When the world is turning upside-down, when we're in these moments of trial and turmoil, we can know that there is a God who loves me, who is watching out for me, and a God who knows best." 29:56 - "The things that are taking place around me may not bring me happiness; they may not bring me joy; they may be very difficult. But I always have that rock that I fall back upon. I can know that no matter how hard the wind is blowing… I have an anchor, and there is a God who loves me and is taking care of me and is watching over me." 31:41 - Joshua talks about the benefits of fewer toys (both for kids and adults) 32:30 - Research about fewer toys leading to creativity and imagination and problem solving and contentment 35:00 - "Kids who don't learn boundaries become adults who don't define them for themselves." 36:00 - "We overcome envy by focusing on the blessings we have, focusing on our uniqueness and what makes us special, and knowing we're directing our resources on what matters the most. This is where we overcome envy and start to find peace in our lives." 37:06 - "We we find our greatest peace when... we know we're being intentional with our time and our money and our schedule and our space... when we can say I'm doing in this moment what I think God would have me to do... that this is where we find peace in our lives." Resources Top 10 Blog Posts - https://www.becomingminimalist.com/most-popular-posts/ Joshua's Blog - https://www.becomingminimalist.com Joshua's books - Links to purchase at his website: https://www.becomingminimalist.com/books The Minimalist Home: A Room-by-Room Guide to a Decluttered, Refocused Life The More of Less: Finding the Life You Want Under Everything You Own The Hope Effect - http://www.hopeeffect.com - changing orphan care by providing family-based solutions

Ken Coleman joins us for part 2 of our summer 9-part series on the Fruit Of The Spirit. Ken is a career expert, best-selling author of "The Proximity Principle" and national radio host of "The Ken Coleman Show". Pulling from his own personal struggles, missed opportunities and career successes, Coleman helps people discover what they were born to do and provides practical steps to make their dream job a reality. Conversation Notes: (4:55) Living a purposeful life through our work - we were all created to do work that matters (5:24) The Proximity Principle book (5:55) Passions for leadership tie into principles of being a dad (6:30) Taking his kids with him on speaking trips (7:13) We want our kids to see us invite people into our home (6:20) Things he loves to do with his kids (8:08) There is a lot of togetherness. We're a close knit group (8:35) Dad advice - you're going to need to own what you did wrong and say sorry. Many times. This will do more for your relationship with your kids. (8:50) Kids need to see their father ask for forgiveness. (10:30) Painful moment - he thought he was helping his son by pushing him, but was actually pushing him away. (13:29) Small rhythms have big long-term impact - parenting for strengths. (14:15) "Use what you do best to do what you love to do most... That's the sweet spot. That's the calling of God" (14:42) Help our kids be self-aware adults - do you know who you are? (15:15) Psalm 139 - you knit me together in my mothers womb. Talent and passion. (15:35) Help our kids understand their role to the father and their role in this world. (16:18) The power of intentional questions - you'll get more out of them if you ask a question vs tell them. (19:33) Why is joy important for dads and kids? (19:40) Difference between happiness and joy (20:18) Joy comes in the morning (Psalm 30:5) (22:00) Other tools to help kids step into joy: help them understand the journey of faith. (22:50) That moment of pain needs to be put in greater context of the bigger broader story. (24:35) The Proximity Principle - "in order to do what I want to do I've got to be around people that are doing it in places that it is happening" (25:55) In order to be a great dad I need to be around great dads and be in places where great dads are hanging out Ken Coleman Show (28:14) Assess the peers you're hanging out with. (28:50) Don't do dad life alone. Get around other dads who are ahead of you to ask advice. (29:18) Analogy: Training for a race - running with people a little pace ahead helps us to go farther. You don't want to be the fastest guy in the group. dadAWESOME groups Links: The Proximity Principle: The Proven Strategy That Will Lead to a Career You Love One Question: Life-Changing Answers from Today's Leading Voices The Ken Coleman Show Ken's Twitter Ken's Instagram Ken Online Ken's Facebook

This episode kicks off our dadAWESOME 9-part series on the Fruit Of The Spirit as described in Galatians 5:22-23 Paul Van Coller is a phenomenal communicator of God's Word and the pastor of Hope Church in George, South Africa. He is a great storyteller and inspires people to have more faith and risk more for God. His passion is planting churches in all corners of the world. Paul and his wife Marinette have been married for 16 years, have two awesome boys and both have been in active ministry for over 20 years. Before they re-planted Hope Church in George, South Africa in 2012 they were missionaries for 10 years with The Zambia Project which they pioneered and continue to lead. Conversation Notes GIVE to the Fathers for the Fatherless 100 mile ride - webpage here We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to receive DA Daily Texts. (4:41) Paul introduces his family and ministry (5:44) Our mission as a family is to honor God and see God's kingdom grow. (6:03) Cultural differences on fatherhood (7:14) Fun things Paul enjoys doing with his boys (8:12) Illustration of aligning arrows (priorities) in our lives and families (9:50) John 3:30 "He must increase, but I must decrease." (10:38) Understanding our calling as a family (11:34) "We are together in this mission... I can't succeed as a dad or as a person in serving God and fulfilling what I feel God has called me to do unless we all fulfill what God has called us all to do." (12:15) "We're on this journey together. We celebrate the wins. We pray together for various things." (13:05) Paul describes how painful experiences brought him closer to God (13:57) "God is such a big God, and he loves us so much. He is for us. When we come to Him and bring our pain and suffering to Him… surrender it to Him, He is able to patch it all up and do something amazing with it" (14:35) Allow the manure of pain and past mistakes to become the fertilizer for reaping great relationships (15:23) Paul talks about what he learned from a past mistake (15:35) Be adaptive in our leadership and parenting because our kids are continually changing seasons in their lives. (16:30) Beginning conversation about the Fruit of the Spirit of LOVE (17:30) Biblical love is different than our cultures "romantic" love. Biblical love is sacrificial. (17:38) Love puts our families above our own needs and desires. We as men need to be willing to "die" first. (19:00) Find the balance between self-sacrifice and making an idol out of our families (20:05) Don't just pray that God would bless and grow our kids, but also pray to hear from God about our kids. (21:20) Story of coffee and intentionally slowing down (21:54) We need to force ourselves to stop, reflect, process, and get ready for what is coming next. (22:33) "The mistake that I was making, and that I think that many of us make, is that I was rushing from one thing to the next." (23:13) If we take the time to stop with our kids it can leave to some of the best conversations. (23:28) Living lives of love does not happen in a rushed state (24:08) Make sure we are really present with our kids and we're really there in the moment. (24:29) Some people talk best while we're doing something. The conversation starts moving while we do something together. (25:25) Paul's time machine advice to his younger self would be to "Listen more and have more fun." Be intentional about making positive memories. (27:54) "My dream is that they would one day say I showed them what it looked like to radically follow God." (28:00) "Be full of faith, putting God's kingdom above our kingdom, and have fun along the way." (29:06) Parting advice: have fun, don't take yourself too seriously, and admit your mistakes. (30:10) "I pray that you would continue to give us the grace to love as you love us, God." Links: Paul on Instagram Hope Church The Zambia Project

Susie Larson is back for part 5 of Mom Month with the powerful second half of a vulnerable conversation. Susie is a talk show host, national speaker, and author of 16 books. Her passion is to see women everywhere awakened to the value of their soul, the depth of God's love, and the height of their calling in Christ Jesus. In case you missed last week's episode, here's the first half of this interview in Episode 71. Conversation Notes: GIVE to the Fathers for the Fatherless 100 mile ride - webpage here We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to receive DA Daily Texts. (2:14) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily (3:05) "Sadly, once we've secured our eternity, far too many of us live like the rest of the world… When we forget, or become too busy, to tap into the provision and power God has made available to us, we find ourselves weary, rushed, earthbound people who merely react to our circumstances. From the outside looking in, we look like everybody else - tired, overworked, and underjoyed…" (3:54) Are we living to be loved or are we living from love? There's a difference in their eyes, in their level of joy (4:25) Live out of the love of the Father because his love changes everything (4:37) Soren Kierkegaard quote: "You have loved us first, O God... You have loved us first many times and every day and our whole life through. When we wake up in the morning and turn our soul toward You – You are the first – You have loved us first..."(4:50) Ephesians 3:17-19 "so that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith. Then you, being rooted and grounded in love, may have power, together with all the saints, to comprehend the length and width and height and depth of His love, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, that you may be filled with all the fullness of God" (5:05) Three types of yeses: the Sloppy Yes, the Shackled Yes, and the Sacred Yes. (5:13) Sloppy yes - you don't see the value of your life and your calling. You're busy. Sloppy in what you say yes to. Not sustainable, exhausting, not able to bear fruit, and makes you spiritually vulnerable - a dangerous and joyless way to live. (5:18) Shackled yes - fear of man - misusing time, treasurers and talents to manage a persona and other people's opinions. Captivity. Won't bear fruit. (5:59) Proverbs 29:25 "Fear of man will prove to be a snare, but whoever trusts in the LORD is kept safe." (6:05) You may go through a season where you have to be content to be misunderstood and you'll have to say no. (6:28) "You will never accomplish anything of substance as long as man's opinion holds more weight than God's." (6:40) Sacred Yes - living with a single-minded focus and living for an audience of one. (6:52) Psalm 90:12 "Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom." (7:07) "I'm not who I was, I'm not what I do, I'm someone He enjoys." (7:39) Some blind spots for dads (8:40) We have a natural tendency to attach our identity to the things we do (9:15) "You're going to be giving thousands of chances to die to yourself and you should take every one. Because that's where the resurrection power will come." (9:50) The impact generationally of us choosing to die to ourselves (10:50) "In Genesis we read about how Esau gave up his birthright for a bowl of soup. He let himself get so exhausted, so extended, so hungry that he lost sight of the bigger story of his life. He traded his birthright - something that would impact future generations - for a bowl of soup. Soup! Yet that's exactly what we do when we extend ourselves to the point of exhaustion and reduce our choices to options that just get us through the moment… We deprive future generations the blessings God has promised us…" (11:10) How many Heavenly storehouses remain untapped because we're racing around just trying to get through the moment." (12:20) The Lord said to me, "Most of my children are scratching the surface of what I've made available to them." (13:50) Two of three times per year we'd sit down and write out everywhere our time was going (14:25) "When you just go on cruise control or autopilot, you disengage your heart" (15:00) Four boundaries that Susie has set up around her life (16:20) Holy Confidence Humble Dependance Kingdom Passion Calvary Love Please leave a REVIEW of dadAWESOME on Apple Podcasts (linked here) Episode Links: Episode 71 - PART 1 with Susie Larson dadAWESOME Episode 29 (Kevin Larson) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy https://www.susielarson.com/

dadAWESOME Daily: Receive an encouraging daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. The resource is free and the initial test group of dads has LOVED these simple daily fatherhood encouragements. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily ---------------- Susie Larson joins dadAWESOME for part 4 of Mom Month. She is a talk show host, national speaker, and author of 16 books. Susie's passion is to see women everywhere awakened to the value of their soul, the depth of God's love, and the height of their calling in Christ Jesus. Conversation Notes: Taking intentional time to develop friendships. Placing your friends above yourself (2:40) Proverbs 12:26 "The righteous choose their friends carefully, but the way of the wicked leads them astray." (3:25) The benefits of hindsight... seeing the fruit in their family after all they've sown into their boys and seeing the grace of God in the ways they missed it (5:12) "I don't like to say I'm busy because busyness means I'm out of control. I have a full life and I'm careful with my YES." (5:35) The story from her husband Kevin's perspective - listen to dadAWESOME Episode 29 (6:50) You must have an intimate thriving walk with the Lord (7:33) "If you want to walk in the miraculous, you have got to hook up to the power source." (7:55) As a couple - pray together every single day (8:05) You have to grab ahold of your identity in Christ and you have to declare it every single day (8:15) People are misusing their time, treasure and talents to try to prove something that God has already proven and then it's a colossal waste of time (8:25) You've got nothing to prove & all of eternity to live for (8:35) The importance of family meetings (9:40) Let's talk about Christmas. It's about Jesus, not about you. What does entitlement look like? What does gratitude look like? (10:10) She would tell her boys, "You're a Christian first and a teenager second," because we can't be blown by the culture we live in (10:30) "We cannot grow beyond our ability to receive correction." -Francis Frangipane (11:04) You are not your performance, but how you perform matters. You've got to leave places better than you found them. You've got to be a giver and not a taker (11:15) The importance of a family meeting and each person sharing a growth area and a strength area with each other (11:40) Hearing from her son "Mom, you worry too much and dad you work too much" (12:30) Susie talking about her husband Kevin (14:00) Kevin working 2 or 3 jobs and the pain of him working too much (15:00) I want couples to know it's worth it. Work through the hard times and don't give up on your marriage. You'll have the strongest and most enjoyable marriage after the fact. (15:30) Kevin telling Susie, "You're not going to one doctor appointment by yourself." (16:05) Kevin mentors his adult sons and they each have lunch with him every month. (17:20) Susie reflecting on her father (18:49) When you're overcompensating, so often it's coming out of a heartbreak or trauma or fear of some kind (20:45) Susie's dad: "My whole life I've thought I had to earn God's love and at this age, I finally found out that it's free" (21:10) What if we have pain from the relationship with our father? (22:20) God wants to make us whole... Psalm 23:3 "He restores my soul" (22:45) "God goes to the hardest places in our souls and He untangles them so that you're trauma-free" (22:55) "As Christians, we don't have the option to sit in unforgiveness and hold onto bitterness" (23:45) "Pain that is not transformed is transferred" -Dr. Shane Wood Susie reflecting on some mom-mistakes (24:50) The pain and confusion with two of their three sons wandering from the faith (25:10) "Parenting is not a formula that guarantees an outcome" (26:06) God takes our offering and He's not done with us yet (27:05) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy "Sadly, once we've secured our eternity, far too many of us live like the rest of the world… When we forget - or become too busy - to tap into the provision and power God had made available to us, we find ourselves weary, rushed, earthbound people who merely react to our circumstances. From the outside looking in, we look like everybody else - tired, overworked, and underjoyed…" People who have begun living from love vs. living for love (28:40) Episode Links: dadAWESOME Episode 29 (Kevin Larson) Your Sacred Yes: Trading Life-Draining Obligation for Freedom, Passion and Joy https://www.susielarson.com/

BREAKING NEWS: We're now offering a daily dadAWESOME text message with encouragement, prayers, Bible verses, dad tips and other fatherhood inspiration. Simply text "dad" to 33222 to join DA Daily. ---------- This is part three of Mom Month and Kristen Welch joins us for a conversation about chasing dreams, living with gratitude and the dangers of living with ourselves in the center of our own universe. Kristen is a blogger (Wearethatfamily.com), author, podcaster and founder of an incredible nonprofit ministry in Kenya. Conversations Notes: Showing our kids unconditional love (1:35) Romans 5:8 "But God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us." (2:20) Living for my family alone led to a child-centered home (7:35) My husband could see the emptiness in me and he hurt for me (11:00) The trip to Kenya woke me up... I literally woke up from the American Dream that had become a nightmare for me. The cycle in me that there was never enough. (11:40) Story of a young orphan boy in Kenya who in the worlds eyes had nothing (12:50) Why was this boy filled with joy? Why was he smiling when he had nothing (13:50) I have everything because I have Jesus (14:30) A response of doing nothing is still a response (16:18) We must acknowledge what we have done in the past that has led our families to where we are at (17:08) My choices changed. The way I shopped, consumed, lived and served (17:40) It revealed my own entitlement. How much I expected and felt like I deserved (18:00) "I don't want to add Jesus to my life like salt and pepper to a meal. I want him to be the main course!" (18:50) The can't have a child-centered home and a Jesus-centered home at the same time (18:55) Service was not part of who we were. We did not serve others (20:35) "It is really hard to change the direction of a ship [your family]. It does not happen overnight. It is slow and steady and consistent." We began making service a normal part of our lives (21:20) Instead of keeping everything to ourselves, our response was to start Mercy House (21:45) The reason you feel empty is that you're keeping these blessings to yourself (22:10) We simply took small steps towards saying yes everyday (23:30) Moving from a joyless person to a purposeful person (24:15) Where do we have extra to share? Spare seat at the table? Open seat in the vehicle? Room during the holidays? We're sitting on this incredible secret that generosity changes lives... it makes us grateful (25:55) Story of her husband helping her chase her dreams (26:55) My husband was way ahead of me. He was leading our family spiritually. He was asking questions that made me uncomfortable... He was seeing a pattern in me that was unhealthy (28:25) My husband said to me, "What happened to the girl that wanted to change the world?" (29:25) The heart of a husband that wanted to bring out the best in a wife... he didn't want motherhood to kill her dreams (32:20) I said let's do something radical and my husband said, "let's do it" (33:00) "God had to take me all the way to Kenya and wreck my heart so that when I came back I would be on the same page as my husband" (33:30) The real tension of needing her husband to lead in ways that were best for their family (34:00) This life isn't about me or even my family. This life is about the Gospel. We exist to make the Gospel known and glorify God in what we do. (36:30) "Wait for life's sweet spot where your passion and our skills collide with God's timing" (37:30) Be grateful. Gratitude can turn the hardest days into the best days. (38:30) Gratitude is a lifeline in our lives. It truly reminds us of what we have and a global perspective also helps us realize what we have (39:20) Episode Links: Wearethatfamily.com Moving Mountains Podcast Raising Grateful Kids in an Entitled World: How One Family Learned That Saying No Can Lead to Life's Biggest Yes Raising World Changers in a Changing World Mercy House Global

Happy Mother's Day! This conversation is part 2 of our Mom Month and we had the privilege of a double awesome conversation with Renee Burt and Stephanie Gutierrez. We explore the power of a hug, speaking words of life, modeling our Heavenly Father's love and praying for miracles while living with love and thankfulness. Episode 69 Conversation Notes: Living with expectancy and joy (1:52) Romans 8:15 "This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It's adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike "What's next, Papa?" (2:32) My dad not only loved me, but he liked me (4:43) When you know your parents like you, it changes everything... My dad came home from work excited to play with us (5:05) If Jesus would want to be your kids best friend, then why would I as their mother not want to be their best friend (5:50) Love and like your kids (7:22) A dad who prioritized teaching his kids the Bible and not in an oppressive way, but in a life-giving way (7:50) My dad looked at me with such love that it helped give me an understanding of God's love (8:35) He loves to play with his daughters and get into their world, but he also loves to invite his daughters into his world (9:10) Our kids feel so safe in their dads love (9:45) My daughter says that she's not going to settle for a guy to marry unless he's at least as good as her dad (9:45) Speaking positive words over your wife (10:45) You have a huge impact on your wife's parenting. Even if you don't see it, keep affirming (11:25) Seeing a dad who cries over the work of God in his daughters life... The Generation curse was broken (11:50) Every morning they would wake up believing for a miracle... Every day their first look at their daughter was disappointment (13:30) Reading in Romans revealed more of the love of God. The lack of healing in their daughter was not their fault as her parents (14:25) "I didn't have to wait to fully accept her and fully love her until she walked in healing. God loved her right now and right then." (15:00) The shock of learning that her kids were moving away to the mission field in Peru (16:30) God whispered in a soft voice, "I have not forgotten you" (17:25) Sharing her testimony... the raw and vulnerable version (18:10) God's lessons are bigger than ours. He never forgets us (1835) Tell your story and you will impact their story (1820) What is better than that? Seeing God take the pain in your life and turn it around to help someone else (2005) Tell your daughters how beautiful and valuable they are (2034) Every little girl wants to hear that they are beautiful and if they do not hear it from their dad, they will go to others to find it (21:10) Tell your daughter every single way that they are awesome and tell them all the time (21:30) Learn about the love languages of your kids (21:35) Look for ways that you can speak love in ways that are meaningful to your daughter (21:10) The importance of the hug and the embrace of a dad (20:25) The desire for a hug and embrace. We want it from our dads and we wanted from our heavenly father (23:00) You might be speaking love loud and clear, but if it is not the type of love your wife wants, it can be grating for her (23:50) An ideal Mother's Day for Stephanie is not needing to do anything. Acts of service is her love language (24:18) Renee explained that receiving flowers brought back pain from when she was a daughter. Her dad would bring flowers anytime he had an affair. Flowers meant an apology because of her family history (25:10) It really comes down to communication... If you are in doubt, ask your wife. Don't guess (26:10) The wife really needs to tell the husband what she wants. Help a guy out. Make a list of things you would like and give that list to your husband (26:45) Major on the major and minors on the minors. Don't spend too much energy on things that are not a big deal (28:10) Focus on the character and the qualities of your kids heart (28:35) Limited attention span's and being intentional with cell phone usage. When you are with your kids, really be with them (29:45) Work life bleeding over into home life (30:15) The ability to focus and really listen to your kids when your phone is buzzing is very difficult (30:25) Set the phone down and really listen to your kids (29:45) The temptation to let your eyes glaze over and stop really listening to your kids... don't let your mind drift off and go someplace else in your head (31:05) If your kid talks a lot, listen and look for the treasure buried in the long winded conversation (33:10) The importance of finding common ground with your kids. Find a way to connect (35:00) Help each child know individually that they are special (36:05) Find things with each child that are "just us" moments... Special Time (36:40) Take 10 to 15 minutes every day for individual one on one time with each child (37:00) Love Languages Stephany and Danny's Missions Website (Peru):

This is the first part of Mom Month and we're thrilled to take the month of May to gather wisdom from some incredible women. Laurel Bunker is the Dean of Campus Ministries/Campus Pastor at Bethel University in St. Paul, Minnesota. As campus pastor, Laurel serves as the primary preacher in chapel and leads a team that is dedicated to providing transformational ministry opportunities for the Bethel community. She is a member of the President's Executive Leadership Team, providing strategic guidance on issues related to the spiritual formation and personal development of the student body. She also teaches and trains at colleges, churches, and para-church organizations in the areas of leadership, spiritual development, biblical issues in the 21st-century, and more. Laurel and her husband, Joshua, have two daughters. Conversation Notes: Never underestimate the importance of your life and your roll as dad in life and in your children's world (7:15) Culture and the demonic work of Satan are trying to break men (7:50) Having kids gives you a place to be emotional (8:30) What your child wants from you is not perfection. What they want is your time and your love. (8:45) Your computer your phone your hobbies your job and are not as important as your kids (8:50) Love your wife well in front of your kids (9:15) He rarely calls his girls by their name. He calls them beautiful (9:50) Work hard, but don't let your job come before your kids (9:55) I can be strong and beautiful in the eyes of my father and my Heavenly Father (11:10) Get down on your knees when you are talking to your little kids. Your voice is louder and stronger than you are aware of (11:45) Their girls seeing pain through youth ministry and hard tragic events of suicide and teen pregnancy (14:15) Calling their girls into painful moments and processing pain together (14:35) Walking with their girls through pain and trusting the heart of our Heavenly Father and His grace and mercy even when we're not sure (15:50) Pain can be an opportunity to be vulnerable... Don't just shuttle away the emotions (16:50) Take daily things and bring God's word into those moments (20:00) Holman Field Restaurant https://www.holmanstable.com/ Boys, Boundaries and "Bexpectations" (22:35) Using rhythms of daily life to apply the Gospel (23:10) Business creates blinders... when you are consumed with your own vision for what you need to do (24:10) Little girls don't always need superman. They just need daddy to lay on the floor and let them crawl all over him (24:50) Please don't introduce your kids to technology too early (25:25) Guard your hearts in your own sexual lives (25:35) If there's brokenness, find a group of brothers to find freedom with together (25:50) The kingdom of God operating in all it's fullness with men and women working together (28:26) Don't give us. Forgive your dad if you need to. Seek the Lord to find healing so you don't drag all that muck into your relationship with your own kids. (28:50) Links: Bethel Campus Ministries Team: https://www.bethel.edu/christian-formation/staff Facebook

Steve Argue is associate professor of youth, family, and culture at Fuller Theological Seminary and applied research strategist at the Fuller Youth Institute. Steve researches, speaks, and writes regularly on topics surrounding adolescence, emerging adulthood, faith, and spiritual struggle. This is the 4th conversation in our Creativity Month (April 2019). Conversation Notes: 3:05 - We wanted to raise confident females who were comfortable in their own shin. Who knew their own voices. 3:25 - looking at the world differently through our girls eyes 4:05 - keep reminding our kids who they are and whose they are 5:15 - the pain of moving as a family and the impact on their girls 5:55 - my daughter is feeling pain and I can't take this away. 6:00 - it's never too early and never too late to be the best can you can be in this moment 7:45 - early on the assumption is that your kids will always be pursuing you... And then we get lazy as dads and the relationship is changing. We must continue to pursue them. 8:35 - story about the post-it note "They're not going to knock forever" 11:05 - accidentally turning our kids into the identifying patient. 11:40 - what type of father do I need to be today for my kids 12:09 - growing with parenting is a mutual journey of intentional growth for both ourselves and our children that trusts God to change us all 12:50 - FREE chapter of book Growing With and free quiz for dads: https://growingwithbook.com/dadawesome/ 14:10 - "Withing" and Family Warmth >> we need to realize that the relationship is going to change. 15:07 - Relational warmth is more important that teaching. They need to be loved and cared for and seen and relationally present more than anything. 16:05 - never give up... the next day is a new day and we can step closer to our kids and try again. 16:58 - Fatherhood research about the impact of a dad... 17:40 - dads play a really important role... We as dads must be careful in drifting towards passivity 18:12 - looking to an adult figure is how kids learn about what their Heavenly Father is like 18:40 - we need to go for it. Don't hold back in talking about your faith. 19:05 - do something crazy for Jesus and give God credit for it 20:05 - going out for coffee and dad buys and then they talk about serious things 20:30 - "Tell me something you believe about faith that you don't think dad believes" 20:40 - "Tell me something you used to believe that you no longer believe" 22:00 - Learner stage, Explorer stage or a Focuser stage and what type of parenting is needed in each of these stages? 23:10 - Try to say YES more than NO... I think we should respond with YES more often. Why not? 24:02 - We must make room for creativity. A rushed life has no room for creativity. 24:35 - Living filled with WONDER 25:00 - Nobody says, when I'm in my 60's or 70's I'm going to be inflexible and a sour puss. It sneaks up on us. 25:15 - How do we make sure we're infusing wonder in our own lives? 25:27 - How do we show genuine interest in our kids? 25:40 - "If you could describe your day as a dessert, what kind of a day did you have today?" 26:50 - avoid putting all our eggs in one epic basket. Look for the epicness in the little things along the way. 28:40 - You were made to be a dad and your kids need you. Help them find their voice and never give up 29:20 - you're not alone. Seek out another dad to take this fatherhood journey together with. Don't father alone. Episode Links: Free Chapter and Parent Quiz Growing With: Every Parent's Guide to Helping Teenagers and Young Adults Thrive in Their Faith, Family, and Future http://www.stevenargue.com/

Jeremy Pryor is a business owner, creative entrepreneur, author, podcaster and a builder of multiple movements with family at the core. We're incredibly thankful for this conversation with Jeremy about his time in Jerusalem, welcoming his children into creative roles in his company and the long term iterating of their family sabbath. This is part 3 of our Creativity Month. Resources from Jeremy Pryor: https://familyteams.com/podcasts/ The Skill of Fatherhood Masterclass https://epipheo.com/ https://familyteams.com/resources/ https://www.1kh.org/ http://www.storyformedlife.org/ Conversation Highlights with Jeremy Pryor: Meeting his wife in Jerusalem (7:55) Jewish dads and the intentionality of men with children ((9:30) The life of Abraham and his role as a father (9:45) Asking a dangerous question- is there a connection with Abraham and how he saw family? (10:40) The Bible exclusively sees family through a fatherhood and family lens Abraham saw family as a multigenerational team on mission (11:30) Fatherhood insights from Jerusalem - Encounter, consider it, be influenced, adopt these principles (12:00) Story about Jeremy's daughter joining him on mission with his podcast (13:20) It's ok to sweep your kids into your own quirky obsessions (14:20) >> Strategically propagandizing his kids Superhero movies and the explosion of interest with the mythical (15:40) They read the same 5 passages of scripture each week as a family (16:50) Book Life together by Bonhoeffer Deuteronomy 6 Bible Midrash (17:30) Friday night epic meal to kick off the sabbath (18:00) Friday feast - Iterating on their sabbath for 15 years (18:20) It's a skill to learn how to honor God with the sabbath (19:45) Entering Rest Cleaning up as a team. Make it a dance party (20:15) Sabbath - if your kids don't see the sabbath day as their favorite day of the week, then you're doing it wrong" (22:00) The sabbath is the Zenith of the week. Make it fun and make it meaningful and give yourself lot's of grace. The goal is for the sabbath to be life giving Goal - for his kids to all want to honor the sabbath when they are grown A mentor told Jeremy that he wasn't connecting with his sons heart (25:00) My bar was not at the right place with regards to what it meant to really have your kids heart at every stage (26:50) Are you partnering really well with your wife in this current season? (28:50) Don't be passive. Be a leader. Be a directive leader. (29:00) Be a strong central presence in the home in the stage of young kids. (30:00) Be a culture setter in the home (30:20) Creativity is within the mandate of Genesis 1 (30:45) God had a creative challenge and he set loose the family (31:30) There in nothing more central to the mandate of the family than being creative (32:20) Thinking about family as an investment with a much longer time horizon (34:00) We are not the center of our story. We're part of a much bigger multigenerational story (34:45) When dads start thinking multigenerational (35:20)

We're thrilled to have Frank Bealer joining us for part 2 of our Creativity Month. Frank is the Executive Director of Leadership Development at Orange / The reThink Group and CEO of Phase Family Centers. Prior to Orange he was the Family Pastor at Elevation Church in Charlotte North Carolina where he oversaw family ministry at more than a dozen locations. He recently released his first book, "The Myth of Balance". Conversation Highlights: I want to be proud of what I do at work and share that with my kids (7:50) Story of Frank's son flipping his truck and the scary moment of seeing his son broken, scared and crying (10:15) Life 360 app (12:00) Screen time setting for needing approval for downloading apps (14:25) Independent, Christ followers that want to come back and spend time with us (16:30) Creating warm memories... consistent things done over time (17:10) Monopoly for Millennials Board Game Earn opportunities to connect and guide (19:00) The mistake of imposing personal wins on his kids (19:50) When this, then that strategy (24:00) The Myth of Balance book (Amazon link) The planning of their kids perfect Saturday (31:10) How would you plan the perfect day with a $25 budget (32:00) Teaching creativity inside limited constraints (32:20) What if I'm too maxed out for intentionality and creativity? (33:15) The importance of tracking your time and finding pockets of time for connection (34:20) Serving his family with as much passion as he puts towards serving others (35:45) 1 Thessalonians 2:11-12 "For you know that we dealt with each of you as a father deals with his own children, encouraging, comforting and urging you to live lives worthy of God, who calls you into his kingdom and glory." (36:35) Encouraging Comforting Urging Connect with Frank Bealer Frank's website - https://www.helpingleaderswin.com/ The Myth of Balance book (Amazon link) Blog post about Frank joining the Orange Team Family Phase Center

Comedian, speaker and master of creativity Bob Stromberg joins dadAWESOME for part 1 of Creativity Month. For over forty years he has traveled the world performing his very unique and perfect blend of standup, story and shtick. He's the co-author and an original star of the megahit theatrical comedy, Triple Espresso (A Highly Caffeinated Comedy), which has been seen by over two million people from San Diego to the West End of London. Conversation Highlights: A fathers response to hearing a crazy idea from a son... "That's Perfect" (10:50) The importance of knowing your child. Knowing truly who they are. (11:30) The importance of remembering how fast time is moving. Imagine your kids out in the future (14:30) Creative process - remember the GET acronym The first step in the creative process - GRAB (17:45) The second step is to INTERROGATE... Ask questions (18:45) When the thought becomes an idea you can TRANSFORM (19:45) GET = grab, interrogate and transform That's what love does... it opens itself up to pain (20:50) The importance of play (21:00) Get outside and play (22:30) In Search of Greatness (22:50) Kids have a difficult time knowing how to create playful moments on their own (24:20) the creative process explained through kids learning how to play (25:10) We are all born with a capacity to experience creativity and a desire to experience creativity. That's the gift. (25:50) What if a dad feels they're not very creative? (27:10) Dads and moms are over-scheduling their kids (27:30) The definitive biography of Tiger Woods (book) (29:15) More free time for prisoners that for our kids... (25:40) Play is at the basic most fundamental level of creativity (31:15) We don't laugh enough as families (32:20) The difference between success in the world and success as a parent (34:15) You go from having total control to having zero control as a successful parent... you keep giving up more control (35:00) Play is important, but prayer is more important (37:00) We are at war against spiritual forces and the only way to fight is through prayer (38:00) Links for further exploration: Bob Stromberg - website Mastering the Craft of Creativity Free Introductory Video Triple Espresso (link)

We release dadAWESOME episodes every Sunday and since this month (March 2019) has 5 Sundays, this is a special bonus episode. Jeff Zaugg shares his reflections on the previous 4 episodes outlining 5 action steps to put this these insights around Screens, Smartphones and Social Media into action. Expanding beyond the technology theme, Jeff shares three stories about trials, pain and choosing to worship in a season of unanswered prayer. ACTION STEPS from the previous 4 episodes: Hit the "Pause Button" and calm down before responding >> "Angry outbursts teach our kids I can't go to mom, she'll freak out or dad isn't safe. Consider the ramifications of that feeling. If mom or dad isn't safe, then who will our kids run to for comfort, for advice and for admiration." (19:45 mark of episode 59) Walk with your kids and become a "Media Mentor" >> We need to walk with and dialog with our kids be creating a safe atmosphere for conversations (20:30 mark of episode 60) Reframe technology to be a fun family connection vs. a battle mentality that frames technology as hostile >> (16:16 mark of episode 61) Avoid using technology as a negative punishment >> Try to minimize punitive conversations around screen time, social media and smartphones (30:00 mark of episode 61) Trust God to bring darkness to light >> embrace the opportunity to walk along side our kids when they are exposed to something on their screens. (20:43 mark of episode 62) Worshipping God while Walking through Trials: Acts 16:22-26 "The crowd joined in the attack against Paul and Silas, and the magistrates ordered them to be stripped and beaten with rods. After they had been severely flogged, they were thrown into prison, and the jailer was commanded to guard them carefully. When he received these orders, he put them in the inner cell and fastened their feet in the stocks. About midnight Paul and Silas were praying and singing hymns to God, and the other prisoners were listening to them. Suddenly there was such a violent earthquake that the foundations of the prison were shaken. At once all the prison doors flew open, and everyone's chains came loose." James 1:2-5 "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. Trusting God in the Fire: Story of Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego Daniel 3:15 "if you will not worship, you will immediately be cast into the midst of the furnace of blazing fire…and what God is there who can deliver you out of my hands?" As the King was concerned, the only options were to bow or burn; but it didn't ruffle these Hebrew boys because they had a third option: BELIEVE 18 "but even if he does not deliver us from the fire." Hebrews 12:2 "who for the joy set before him endured the cross;" Hillsong song "Another in the Fire" "And should I ever need reminding How good You've been to me. I'll count the joy come every battle. Cause I know that's where You'll be" Another in the Fire (Hillsong United) - Joel Houston and Chris Davenport talk about the story behind Another In The Fire by Hillsong UNITED Here's a link to my dad's Caring Bridge Updates

Jake Sullivan joins us for part 4 of Screens, Smartphones & Social Media. This conversation dives into his family journey of adopting three kids from Ghana, Africa and the beauty found in trusting God's goodness. We discuss the challenges in communication skills that our kids are facing along with the power of living life along side our children. Conversation Highlights: International adoption from Ghana, Africa Acts 1:8 "I want my son to know who he is and where he is from" "Often we don't get to see the blessings and the faithfulness of God until after our obedience" Love is displayed through truth. God loved through truth. Let's love our kids and let's speak truth to our kids. A good coach will see your weaknesses and they'll walk along side you and help you grow. Walk with your kids more intentionally in the areas of sex and God's plan for sex Book: Rethinking Sexuality We are teaching and living life with our kids - bring your kids everywhere with you Deuteronomy 6:6-8 "These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up. Tie them as symbols on your hands and bind them on your foreheads." Intentionally live life together. Don't separate your home life and your work life. God's Goodness. God is good on the mountain top and He is good in the valley. God is the lifter when your head is weary. He makes me strong. I don't want to come across as a legalistic dad taking things from you. Authenticity & Vulnerability through screens, smartphones and Social Media. The God of our universe sees and He knows who you are Do you trust God? That He will bring the darkness to the light? We have a faithful God that wants to see us know him Do I trust the Lord? That the Lord has my kids best interest in mind? Communication - our kids are having a more difficult time communicating The ability to communicate is something that screens are taking away from the next generation. Knowing Gods goodness in the valley and on the mountain. I want my kids to see me go through a valley and never turn from Gods goodness Walk life with your children Don't let your children's sin feel like a reflection of you as their father. Walk with them and love them and don't try to hide your kids sin Powerful story about the Sullivan Family featured in the Star Tribune

Brad Griffin joins dadAWESOME for part 3 of our Screens, Smartphones and Social Media theme. Brad is the Director of the Fuller Youth Institute, where he develops research-based training for youth workers and parents. He recently coauthored Every Parent's Guide to Navigating our Digital World. Conversation Highlights: Don't miss these moments Phase research from Orange - Phase Guides are an 18-part series of concise and interactive journal-style books that simplify what parents need to know about each phase of a kid's life and give them the opportunity to discover more about their children—so they can make the most of every phase. The delicate dance of knowing when to help his daughter and when to just listen and do nothing I can rest when I am older. If it means I am going to sleep a little less to play that game or spend that extra time with my kids now, I'll rest later. We need to ask for help - ask others for help... don't parent alone Let's move beyond treating technology as the enemy Digital natives vs. digital immigrants. The similarities between a school lunch room and the digital world Let's prioritize the relationship and keep the relationship in the center and don't let media get in the center. 10 Things Every Parent Should Know About Gaming Every Parent's Guide to Navigating our Digital World

This is the second part of our technology conversation with Jonathan McKee and we dive deep into current realities and practical action steps. If you missed part 1 of our conversation, here's episode 59. Jonathan McKee is the author of over twenty books and has over 20 years youth ministry experience speaking to parents and leaders worldwide. Free resources at https://thesource4parents.com/ Jonathan's Featured Books: The Teen's Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices 21 Tips to Wise Posting in an Insecure World If I Had a Parenting Do-Over: 7 Vital Changes I'd Make Conversation notes: Common Sense Media has a study from 2015 >> teenagers average 9 hours per day of media consumption In 2012 Americans crossed the 50% mark for smart phone owners 12-17 year olds... 89% of them have a smart phone We Listen to Music For More Than 4 1/2 Hours A Day, Nielsen Says - more info Adults average 10 hours and 45 minutes per day on media Parents spend more time looking at a screen than talking with their kids or their spouse Anxiety, depression and teen suicide... Mental health is taking a dive and all the studies are saying that smart phones are playing a big part and self-esteem is at an all-time low The more time you spend on your device and especially social media, the more depressed you will be The average kid gets a smartphone at 10.3 years old Instagram and Snapchat only allows kids 13 years old or older (COPA privacy law) Free resource from Jonathan McKee: Answering 30 top questions from today's parents No mater how many parent controls you have, you can't block everything. The best parental control is conversations with your kids Guide for parental controls from Common Sense Media How do we start having conversations and teaching truth in this world of lies? If we teach our kids truth, it's going to equip them when they are exposed to the world's lies. Three Types of Parents: (Alexandra Samuels study with 10,000 parents) Limiter Enablers Media Mentors Special thanks to: Sound Engineering:WADE B PRODUCTIONS Episode Music:Brent Haglund

Jonathan McKee joins us to kickoff our Technology month. With over 20 years youth ministry experience, Jonathan speaks to parents and leaders worldwide. He's the author of over twenty books including the brand new THE TEEN'S GUIDE TO SOCIAL MEDIA & MOBILE DEVICES and IF I HAD A PARENTING DO OVER. Jonathan, his wife, Lori, and their three kids live in California and he resources parents with ongoing resources at TheSource4Parents.com. The research is clear, parents overwhelmingly look back and say "I wish I had spent more time with my kids" Song: Cats In The Cradle-Harry Chapin The YES Factor - no matter what, if my kids came to me to ask "Hey dad, will you do this?", the answer would be YES. Overreaction is never the answer. Be careful with saying to yourself, "I've got this". James 1:19 - quick to listen and slow to speak and slow to become angry Hit the "Pause Button" and take time before responding. After giving your kid time to cool off, ask them what they think the consequence should be It was me messing up that gave me the insight to do it right the next time "Angry outbursts teach our kids I can't go to mom, she'll freak out or dad isn't safe. Consider the ramifications of that feeling. If mom or dad isn't safe, then who will our kids run to for comfort, for advice and for admiration." The most important thing I tell parents when they begin learning about culture and media is "Don't Freak Out". Boundary Fast >> don't add boundaries, but instead begin the process by working on bonding. We must bond before we can add boundaries The Segue - the dissolve from one thing to another. We must slowly fade back on our boundaries as our kids grow older. Kids need clear boundaries, but those boundaries must pull back as they approach leaving the home and deciding for themselves. We need to look for opportunities for our kids to practice making decisions for themselves. MORE INFO: Free resource from Jonathan McKee: Answering 30 top questions from today's parents Special thanks to: Sound Engineering:WADE B PRODUCTIONS ([email protected]) Episode Music:Brent Haglund

Mel Ellenwood shares about trusting God while moving their young family to the Czech Republic to be youth ministry missionaries. This conversations builds upon our monthly WISDOM theme while adding a powerful perspective of doing hard things as a family. Mel unpacks the power of humility and asking for forgiveness in the moments of messing up as a father. God takes pleasure in us. God loves us because we are His. Understanding this will transform the way we take pleasure in our kids. Mel and Amy's Josiah Venture Website

Edrin Williams joins dadAWESOME for part 3 of our monthly WISDOM theme. This conversation challenges us to enjoy the journey and love our kids from a place of being loved by our Heavenly Father. Edrin is a pastor at The Sanctuary Covenant Church in Minneapolis and with his wife Shanequa they have two beautiful girls, Taylor 8 & Harper 2. Give the the gift of your presence to your family Step in and enjoy the journey of being a dad Your kids trust you and need you to be a big safe adult who loves them Friday night family night. The power of protecting these moments. We must receive love from our heavenly father Remember you're a beloved son of God Invite mentors to speak into your fathering Let your kids enjoy the process (stop over managing and pushing them) Celebrate your wife (cheer her along) Intergenerational Relationships (look ahead, your peers and younger dads) Pursuing mentors and Godly friends to learn and grow in your dad role. If you want to make a difference in this world, one place you can change the world is being present and making a difference in your kids. Asking intentional questions to help our kids think through their choices. It's our job as fathers to care for the souls of our children Let your wife know that supporting your family and your kids is a top priority Dads! Your role is more significant than you realize. Coffee Recommendation (Twin Cities) - http://cuppajava.com/ Book: Father Factor More info on Edrin: www.sanctuarycov.org https://www.instagram.com/edrinspeaks/

Mark Matlock is back for part 2 of a conversation about Growing in Wisdom. This episode unpacks the seven marks of a wise person and explains how the hero's journey applies to helping our kids find wise influencers. Mark walks us through cultural changes with how we pass down wisdom followed by practical ways we can accelerate wisdom acquisition for our kids. Seven Marks of A Wise Person: Trusts in God Walks in healthy relationships Seeks God's council Speaks carefully Is self-controlled Manages their resources Lives in peace James 1:5 "And if anyone longs to be wise, ask God for wisdom and he will give it! He won't see your lack of wisdom as an opportunity to scold you over your failures but he will overwhelm your failures with his generous grace." Culture expert and veteran youth pastor, Mark Matlock, will help you line your family's story up with God's story in the world around you, helping you raise wise children who have the character, values, and mission that allows them to go out into the real world and live out a real faith. Raising Wise Children explores these themes: Helping your child make decisions The importance of failure Knowing God's story for your family Changing the story your family is in The pursuit of wisdom, and much more God has placed us here to interact with and represent him to the world by engaging with the culture—not retreating from it. Raising Wise Children: Handing Down the Story of Wisdom (Mark Matlock)

Mark Matlock joins dadAWESOME for part 1 of our Growing in Wisdom monthly theme. The conversation explores the benefits of letting our kids fail along with valuable insights around us as dads needing to grow in wisdom before we can lead our kids towards wise choices. How can we accelerate the acquisition of wisdom in our kids? How can we encourage strength and confidence to help our kids stand on their own? Culture expert and veteran youth pastor, Mark Matlock, will help you line your family's story up with God's story in the world around you, helping you raise wise children who have the character, values, and mission that allows them to go out into the real world and live out a real faith. Raising Wise Children explores these themes: • Helping your child make decisions • The importance of failure • Knowing God's story for your family • Changing the story your family is in • The pursuit of wisdom, and much more God has placed us here to interact with and represent him to the world by engaging with the culture—not retreating from it. Raising Wise Children: Handing Down the Story of Wisdom (Mark Matlock)

This is part 4 of Father Family Rhythms and we're outlining five steps to put this month's theme into action. We're joined by Nate Puccini who shares insights into living with daily disciplines to support his family rhythms. FIVE ACTION STEPS: Take a day or a half day - Be intentional about slowing down and listening for the voice of your Heavenly Father. Reflect, Read, Worship, Exercise, Rest, etc. Protect key connection moments - Discover the best daily times for connecting with your kids and protect those time slots for family time. Take a risk for your kids - Be willing to risk our own priorities to make a moment with our kids. Chase a cliff - Throw yourself into serving others and investing in something bigger than yourself. Escape the trap of boredom and being stuck. Is your identity around what you do? Or is it around who you are? - Build rhythms from a place of prioritizing the most important. Follow Nate Puccini: Instagram Another Resource on Father Family Rhythms: Sabbatical Guide (from Kevin Klaas)

Special appreciation to Joshua Davis (website) with Smart Web Ninja, Tyler Van Eps (episode summary writing), Brent Haglund (podcast music) and Brian Roland (sparking the genesis moment of the podcast). Paul Stine joins dadAWESOME for part 3 of Father Family Rhythms. This conversation focusses on critical take-away points from the book Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown. Here's a summary from the book along with a few discussed quotes: Have you ever found yourself stretched too thin? Do you simultaneously feel overworked and underutilized? Are you often busy but not productive? Do you feel like your time is constantly being hijacked by other people's agendas? If you answered yes to any of these, the way out is the Way of the Essentialist. The Way of the Essentialist isn't about getting more done in less time. It's about getting only the right things done. It is not a time management strategy, or a productivity technique. It is a systematic discipline for discerning what is absolutely essential, then eliminating everything that is not, so we can make the highest possible contribution towards the things that really matter. "When we don't purposely and deliberately choose where to focus our energies and time, other people – our bosses, our colleagues, our clients, and even our families – will choose for us, and before long we'll have lost sight of everything that is meaningful and important." "There is an unspoken hierarchy in our society about what is valuable; higher on that hierarchy are career success, fame, and wealth. Lower on the list is family, health, wisdom, and personal fulfillment." Long Form Podcast Resources with Greg McKeown: Greg McKeown — How to Master Essentialism (#355) Two Free Audio Chapters of Essentialism (on the Tim Ferris Podcast) EP 079: ESSENTIALISM: THE KEY TO A LIFE LIVED ON PURPOSE WITH GREG MCKEOWN More Info on Paul Stine: https://www.closesimple.com/ Resources Mentioned: MIOS (Marriage Internal Operating System) from the ministry Imagine Beautiful Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less Greg McKeown

Kevin Klaas joins dadAWESOME for part 2 of Father Family Rhythms. This vulnerable conversation explores trusting God, supporting his wife through a miscarriage and small steps towards new impactful family rhythms. Asking questions instead of lecturing Trusting God for more children Responding in love instead of anger Seeing children as a gift from God 30-mins per day cuddling with a child after dinner Children spell love; "TIME" Family Bible time = read one Proverb per day Begin new rhythms with small consistent steps The power of monthly Sabbatical days to hear God's voice Growing traction and growing an appetite for desired rhythms Deuteronomy 6 and Deuteronomy 11 If you ever walk through the loss of a miscarriage, find brothers to help you know how to support your wife More about Kevin's business Monarch Solutions #dadAWESOMEchallenge We're celebrating the @dadawesome podcast ONE YEAR birthday (episode 52). We're inviting all dads to celebrate by doing the #dadawesomechallenge which is simply this: dads + kids + confetti = a fun memorable moment >> please include @dadawesome and #dadawesomechallenge in your post and tag 2 or 3 other dads to pass along the challenge to others... thanks a ton Pro Tip = clean up your own confetti... don't make momAWESOME clean up the mess 😆 Local Listeners >> Sledding Party (January 19th) After 52 weeks of resourcing Christian dads with a weekly podcast, we've decided to celebrate the ONE YEAR anniversary of dadAWESOME by returning to the recording location of episode #1. The very first episode was recoded at the base of the sledding hill at Freedom Park in New Brighton. Here's The Game Plan: – Dads, kids and moms and friends are all invited – BYOS… bring your own sleds – Family sledding from 10am-11am – Confetti throwing group photo at 11am at the base of the hill – Hot cocoa and coffee will be provided around 11am RSVP here: Facebook Event

Mentor, author and cliff chaser Tim Bohlke joins dadAWESOME to kick off our January theme; Father Family Rhythms. Here's a quote from Tim's book Thin Places: "One of my hopes was to wake up leaders who were coasting, who were settling, or backing away from dangerous pursuits. When the faith of a leader loses its edge, when we doze off and get bored, or forget what it was like to take risks and pursue this mysterious God and all He has for us, everyone loses. We lose. Our families lose, and those we lead lose." Tim's hope is to encourage others to live with rhythm, leave an intentional legacy, and do what it takes to finish the next season of life well. He has experienced the challenging, difficult, and sometimes rough seas of leadership in a lot of different roles. Founder of Harbor Ministries, a non-profit organization that has launched two significant movements: RHYTHMinTWENTY: a three-event, two year journey for leaders 25-35ish ROGUE – a one year leadership journey for guys 40ish and up Book >> Thin Places (Tim Bohlke) Come Sledding With Us >> celebrate ONE YEAR of dadAWESOME After 52 weeks of resourcing Christian dads with a weekly podcast, we've decided to celebrate the ONE YEAR anniversary of dadAWESOME by returning to the recording location of episode #1. The very first episode was recoded at the base of the sledding hill at Freedom Park in New Brighton. Here's The Game Plan: - Dads, kids and moms and friends are all invited - BYOS... bring your own sleds - Family sledding from 10am-11am - Confetti throwing group photo at 11am at the base of the hill - Hot cocoa and coffee will be provided around 11am RSVP here: Facebook Event Here's the link to Episode #1 from the sledding hill

Jeff Zaugg explains the 50-week vision and heart for dadAWESOME >> Live fully alive as we lead our kids to God's awesomeness Why call this podcast dadAWESOME? Who is this podcast for? What is the goal? Why should you take time to listen to this podcast? 1) Live Fully Alive It's obvious when someone is really living John 10:10 "The thief's purpose is to steal and kill and destroy. My purpose is to give them a rich and satisfying life. (FULL and ABUNDANT) James 1:14-15 "Temptation comes from our own desires, which entice us and drag us away.15 These desires give birth to sinful actions. And when sin is allowed to grow, it gives birth to death. Living in wonder vs. wandering 1 Corinthians 9:24-27 "Do you not know that in a race all the runners run, but only one gets the prize? Run in such a way as to get the prize. Everyone who competes in the games goes into strict training. They do it to get a crown that will not last, but we do it to get a crown that will last forever. Therefore I do not run like someone running aimlessly Thriving vs. surviving St. Irenaeus of Lyons "the glory of God is man fully alive." Chariots of Fire > Eric Liddell was a devout Christian who represented Scotland and he said "I believe God made me for a purpose, but He also made me fast. And when I run, I feel His pleasure." 2) Take Leadership at Home (Archeologist) 1 Corinthians 15:58 "Stand firm. Let nothing move you. Always give yourselves fully to the work of the Lord" It's the job of an Archeologist to "Uncover"… to "Discover"… To "Unearth what is already there" Archeologist are not creators. They simply discover what's already there. God has created your children. Enjoy the prayerful exhilarating role of being Archeologists as you uncover and celebrate God's goodness in your children. Celebrate along the way as you discover more and more of the dreams God has placed in them and the passions and desires of their hearts. 3) Point to God's Awesomeness (Tour Guide) Psalms 78:4 "We will not hide these truths from our children; we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the LORD, about his power and his mighty wonders." We as parents NEED TO tell our children about answered prayers, ways God has provided, stories of God's faithfulness Deuteronomy 6 "(5) you must love the LORD your God with all your heart, all your soul, and all your strength. (6) And you must commit yourselves wholeheartedly to these commands I am giving you today. (7) Repeat them again and again to your children. Talk about them when you are at home and when you are away on a journey, when you are lying down and when you are getting up again." Links to Episodes 1 through 10 with the Zaugg Family Values

Competitive obstacle racer, trauma surgeon and father of seven Patei Iyegha joins dadAWESOME to discus 5 ways to put this Moment Maker Dads theme into action. In case you missed the first Patei Iyegha interview on Episode 25, here's the link: https://dadawesome.org/25-patei-iyegha/ FIVE WAYS TO TAKE ACTION: 1. Power of Words- what words are we speaking over our kids? The words we speak are foundational for moments to be made. Action speaks louder than words... ACTION >>ask your wife or a close Christian friend about your words... Do they hear you speaking words of life? 2. Slow Down - experience moments from my Heavenly Father. Creativity flows in moments with time and space and simplicity… ACTION >>take a 20-min walk in silence... Ask God to bring to mind ways you can make fatherhood adjustments. Ask for God to whisper areas to add intentionality. 3. Technology- does my phone and tv and other screens help spark creativity and problem solving and dreaming?What toys and activities will inspire creativity?Do the games, screens and toys lead towards conclusions? Or towards endless possibilities? ACTION >>check your screen time statistics on your phone. 2-hours per day over 18 years is 13,000 hours of extra time with your kids. 4. Sticky Moments - mystery waffles, fried egg Fridays... Family Bible Story Time... Polar Express Christmas Light Adventure. How can I add more regular family moments that my kids will look forward to?Engaging the 5 senses with these moments. ACTION >>create one simple moment for your kids this week 5. Family Values Audit - Family Values - two truth tellers for my values = Time and Money…My calendar reveals my priorities.Look at your finances and where you invest your time and it will reveal what matters most in your lifeWhat words or phrases are central to my family? What do I value?What is my compass? ACTION >>Look back at your calendar for the past 2-weeks. Look at your budget and pray about the % of that time and money that is focussed on you and your needs and your families needs vs. serving others and giving to others. Bonus Step = Read The Power Of Moments (by Chip and Dan Heath) or listen to this podcast about the book by Craig Groeschel

Part 3 of the Moment Maker Dads month features a book conversation with Ross Manders... "Never Say No" takes you on a personal journey to learn first-hand how Mark & Jan Foreman raised Jon and Tim of Switchfoot. They share practical advice for instilling wonder in a media-saturated culture, cultivating specific gifts, and balancing structure with individual choice. Our purpose as parents is the same as our child's: to live creatively beyond ourselves, bringing the love, beauty and nature of God to this world. Let the adventure begin. We are to raise kids with a dream and help them follow and chase after that dream Fostering an environment of courage and pushing our kids forward How much of my time is spent being intentional with my family? Their playbook for family values: Responsibility, persistence, resilience, patience, well rounded Technology is threatening childhood Toys - how do we encourage our kids to play creatively Be in closer contact to people who are hurting Raising up kids that stand out and are different and are agents of change "The calling for all children is to invade the sometimes scary world with the love, truth and goodness of the God that made us" Who do our kids see that we are? If our kids see that we care, they will grow hearts that care. As parents get to pass the torch of our faith' If our faith is mechanical, then our kids will think of faith in the same bucket as topics in school that they're forced to memorize Sticky practices - rhythms of connection moments - mystery waffles or Fried Egg Fridays Making the Bible come alive with a creative interactive piece Use all 5 senses to help the Bible come alive - this will help them remember it\ We become like the people we surround ourselves with I want to help my kids experience an awesome God and let them know that their Heavenly Father delights in them About Ross Manders: Ross and his wife Emily moved from Minnesota to Philadelphia, PA to plant Restoration Church five years ago. They have four amazing kids. Ross' goal is to help as many people as possible know God and love God and in that become more fully human.

This second part of the Moment Maker Dads conversation with Carlos Whittaker explores waking ourselves up to living our life rather than letting life live you. To disturb and disrupt will be the place we are most awakened Why don't we disturb and disrupt ourselves on purpose so that we can continue to grow and mature. In order to show our kids wonder, we must go backwards and slow things down. The power of a "Pause" - what am I not noticing around me? Look at the life of Jesus - how was he a moment maker? Jesus created moments for people on purpose In order to create moments for other people, we must first receive moments from God Pause, slow down and rest to lower the volume of life How many stories (the amount of data) am I listening to in the first 5-minutes of my day? Massively limit screen time (It's always easier to add more then to take it away) SPIES acronym: Socially Physically Intellectually Emotionally Spiritually Showing our kids more what it looks like to be like Jesus https://carloswhittaker.com/ Moment Maker Kill The Spider Carlos on Facebook Carlos on Instagram Carlos on Twitter More about Carlos Whittaker: Carlos Whittaker is a People's Choice Award winner, a former recording artist signed to a major label, a social media maven, and currently spends the majority of his time writing books and speaking on stages around the world. It really began when the Whittaker's found their family in America's spotlight with appearances on shows like CBS Early Morning, The Today Show and more when their viral video "Single Ladies Devastation" went viral. But for Carlos, his wife Heather and their three children, this viral moment was just a snapshot of the bigger picture.

Carlos Whittaker joins dadAWESOME for a 2-part interview to kick off the Moment Maker Dads theme for the month of December. This vulnerable conversation explores the power of words, living as a Great Commission reflecting family, the powerful example of his father and finding freedom through identifying lies hidden deep in our hearts. Praying for a double portion of God's wisdom Steeping our decisions in prayer Staying true to who your children are Breaking agreements with the enemy The power of words Jesus never prayed the problem. He Always prayed the promise. The natural shifts of parenting seasons Living as a great commission reflecting family If we only look for Jesus in the serious then we're going to miss half of him Medicating behaviors vs. core lies that we're believing as fathers Stop trying to inspire your way out of sin. The only way to find freedom from these behaviors is to get to the root lie in your heart. https://carloswhittaker.com/ Moment Maker Kill The Spider Carlos on Facebook Carlos on Instagram Carlos on Twitter Podcast Recommendation: Carey Nieuwhof Leadership Interview with Carlos Whittaker CNLP 161: CARLOS WHITTAKER ON PORN, LOSING HIS FAMILY, HIDDEN SIN AND THE BATTLE BACK More about Carlos Whittaker: Carlos Whittaker is a People's Choice Award winner, a former recording artist signed to a major label, a social media maven, and currently spends the majority of his time writing books and speaking on stages around the world. It really began when the Whittaker's found their family in America's spotlight with appearances on shows like CBS Early Morning, The Today Show and more when their viral video "Single Ladies Devastation" went viral. But for Carlos, his wife Heather and their three children, this viral moment was just a snapshot of the bigger picture.

Drew Shepp joins dadAWESOME to discuss 10 action steps to move past good intentions to intentional living. This is part 4 of the November 2018 4-part Inside-Out Dad Life series. "Good intentions will never take you anywhere you want to go. Only intentional living will get you the things you want in life." -John C. Maxwell Ten Intentional Ways to Step Into This Inside-Out Dad Life: Brotherhood: Do I have men in my life who I've given permission to challenge me and speak into my deeper issues? Here's a PDF called "Church In SPACE" from Pastor Peter Haas on tips on finding brotherhood. Create Space To Listen and Reflect: Prayer retreat, life planning, slowing down to listen for God's voice. MN Multiple Day Retreat Center: Pacem In Terris MN Daytime Prayer House: The Blessing House Self-Awareness - how are you wired? How do you best get recharged? Take a personality test. Know yourself. Myers Briggs Strengths Finder Enneagram Professional Christian Counseling Deeper Learning on the topic of "Freedom & Forgiveness" Freedom Course (Church of the Highlands) Kill The Spider (Carlos Whittaker) Prayer Resolution (Immerse) Deeper Learning on the topic of "Soul Care and Resting in God" Leading On Empty Refilling Your Tank and Renewing Your Passion Paperback (Wayne Cordeiro) "Our soul is like an inner stream of water, which gives strength, direction, and harmony to every other element of our life. When that stream is as it should be, we are constantly refreshed and exuberant in all we do because our soul itself is deeply rooted in the vastness of God and His kingdom." Dallas Willard Deeper Learning on the topic of the "Father's Love" Spiritual Slavery to Sonship (Jack Frost) Pray and Reflect on the topic of Counterfeit Affections: Passions Possessions Position Performance People Places Power 9. Seeking Forgiveness - Who have you closed off your heart to? Who do you need to seek forgiveness from? 10. Thankfulness Experiment - remove social media for 40 days and replace that time with writing 1 thank you letter every day for the 40-days. The Power of Moments: Why Certain Experiences Have Extraordinary Impact (Chip and Dan Heath)

Tyler Sevlie joins dadAWESOME to discuss the monthly Inside-Out Dad Life theme through the book "Spiritual Slavery to Sonship". Find Security, Freedom, and Acceptance by Resting in the Father's Love People are always looking for identity and acceptance. Sadly, the search often leads to wrong places, wrong people, and wrong messages about who they are. These restless journeys ultimately lead us to feeling frustrated, unloved, and unseen. The truth is you are already loved and accepted by your Heavenly Father! Transition from living in Spiritual Slavery to Sonship, as you: experience Father God's love like never before—it stops being theology and becomes transformational encounter. learn how to walk in peace, security, and rest—no matter what circumstances are against you. break free from always feeling guilty, shameful, and condemned. enjoy your spiritual inheritance as you walk in your true identity. Drawing from Jack Frost's adventures as a seafaring boat captain and his everyday experiences with church and family, you will quickly find yourself in this story. Get ready to learn practical truths on how to root out lies about your identity and start living as a beloved child of God! The Seven Counterfeit Affections: Passions Possessions Position Performance People Places Power Purchase Book: Original Version published in 2006 or the Expanded Edition published in 2016 Listen to the audiobook on Audible Outline of the book from Tyler Sevlie: Chapter quotes and notes Article: Slavery to Sonship >> Exposing the Roots of the Spiritual Orphan (Jack and Trisha Frost) Article: From Slavery To Sonship Part 2 (Jack and Trisha Frost) Appendix 1: Chart outlining HEART OF AN ORPHAN & HEART OF SONSHIP

Join Matt Keller for Part 2 as he dives deeper into Inside-Out Dad Life and inspires us to lead and parent from a full and vibrant heart. Are there past pains or labels that you find yourself carrying into your parenting? What excuses are disqualifying your ability to lead your family? What are you afraid of and how close are you to burnout? In this interview: Tilling the soil of your heart Your parenting comes where you came from Words create worlds Counselors are not for crazy people Being alert to your excuses Being the dad YOUR specific kids need Questions for Time Alone With God: What am I afraid of? How Close am I to burnout? Where do I feel like I'm winning? Where do I feel like I'm struggling? Where do I feel like I'm out of balance? Am I over hobbying? Am I under hobbying? Am I under resting? How Am I doing with my Sabbath Day? How is my marriage? How's my relationship with God? How Am I doing at sitting in my Heavenly Fathers lap and just receiving from Him? Books Mentioned: Leading on Empty: Refilling Your Tank and Renewing Your Passion (Wayne Cordeiro) God of the Underdogs: When the Odds Are Against You, God Is For You (Matt Keller) The Key To Everything: Unlocking the Life You Dream of Living (Matt Keller) Matt Keller is a people builder at his core. With more than twenty years in the people business, he is an authority on what it takes to build great teams and a great organization. Matt Keller is a Pastor, Author, Speaker and Leadership Coach. His insight on organizational and personal leadership helps businesses, nonprofits, and churches take their organizations to the next level. Worship Song: Here As In Heaven (Max Nygren & Nick Foulks) - iTunes - Spotify - YouTube

What relationships are you fostering around your family? Do other men have enough access to your parenting to encourage or challenge you? What prayers are you constantly praying over your kids? Join Matt Keller as he inspires dads to lead and parent from a full and vibrant heart. In this interview: Leading from a full heart Examined experience is the best teacher Who you do life with shapes who you become Parenting out of past pain Winning the first hour The 0-6, 6-12, and 12-18 parenting zones Matt Keller is a people builder at his core. With more than twenty years in the people business, he is an authority on what it takes to build great teams and a great organization. Matt Keller is a Pastor, Author, Speaker and Leadership Coach. His insight on organizational and personal leadership helps businesses, nonprofits, and churches take their organizations to the next level. http://dadawesome.org/episode42/ Follow dadAWESOME on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dadawesome/

We're on our second week (here's the link for week 1) of looking back over the past 40 weeks of dadAWESOME. We'll once again highlight six short clips from the fathers that we interviewed. These are the 12 takeaways for this second round of Forty Weeks Of AWESOMENESS: Challenging Our Kids To Do Hard Things (025 Patei Iyegha) Loving People Through Action as a Family (025 Patei Iyegha) In Life People Are Leaders and Followers… Becoming A Leader Gives You a Greater Place of Influence (023 Tim Burt) I'm Not Going to be a Dad That Raises my Kids Between the Commercials (023 Tim Burt) We Are Called to be Faithful, Not Successful (focus on character, not outward appearance) (030 Dave Adamson) Unplug from Technology and Connect as a Family (030 Dave Adamson) When you're Faithful, it Trickles Down to Your Grandkids and You Grandkids Grandkids (024 Shane Long) Tell You Kids Stories that Inspire Courage, Strength and Faith In God (You have Something Better than a 300 foot Robot… you have a Heavenly Father who Created you and Loves You) (024 Shane Long) You're Safe with Me. You're Loved no Matter What. You're Called and Capable. You're Responsible. (028 Jim Jackson) My Surrender & The Peace of God that Transcends Understanding are Very Closely Connected (028 Jim Jackson) Honoring is Not for Your Dad, It's For You. You Reap What You Sow. (022 Peter Haas) Seeing our Kids Become Fully Alive to the Call of God on their Life. (022 Peter Haas)

This week we're looking back over the past 40 weeks of dadAWESOME and highlighting six short clips from the fathers that we interviewed. These are the 12 takeaways for this first edition of Forty Weeks Of AWESOMENESS. 1) The Powerful Voice Of Dad - Speaking Truth, Identity and Value (014 Nick Foulks) 2) Your Kids Real Father Is God - You Are Entrusted To Raise Therm For A Season (014 Nick Foulks) 3) What's Your Kids Job? (014 Nick Foulks) * My Job Is To Protect * My Job Is To Be Kind * My Job Is To Tell The Truth * My Job Is To Listen And Obey The First Time 4) Courageous Love - Let's Be The Fuel Pumps That Fill Others With Love (013 Ross Manders) 5) Never Give Up // Cheer For Each Other // Stay In The Fight (016 Danny Gutierrez) 6) Stay Amazed - with your wife, your kids, your church, you life (019 John Burns) 7) There Are Some "Only You" Roles. Only You Can Be There Daddy. Only You Can Be Her Husband (019 John Burns) 8) Get A Calendar And Put The Most Important Things On It - (and the most important things have NAMES) (019 John Burns) 9) Repeat After Me Truth Statements Of Identity (020 Mario Gonzalez-Mitchell) 10) Instilling Thankfulness Right Before Bedtime With Your Kids (020 Mario Gonzalez-Mitchell) 11) Seeing His Dad Reading His Bible & Praying Early In The Morning (021 Nate Gustafson) 12) Ask More Questions // Help Your Kids Discover Wisdom // Label The Behavior and Not the Child (021 Nate Gustafson)

Eric Iverson joins dadAWESOME for a vulnerable conversation about leading his family in Bible reading, the importance of paying attention to his wife, and the tendency to focus on behavior-change instead of dealing with heart issues. What rhythms can you set up to connect to the heart of your family? Are you facilitating a heart connection with your kids and wife? Are your words building up and bringing life or unintentionally causing destruction and death? In this interview: Navigating transitions as a family Letting God give us a new heart connection Being a servant leader to our wives Prayer themes over our children Ways to help our kids grow in leadership Family rhythms for impact and connection Eric Iverson is the husband (16 yrs) to Judy, father of Hope (13) and Isaiah (10). He serves as the Executive Director at Youth Leadership, a non-profit leader resourcing and training organization that serves leaders and churches around themes of youth and family ministry. Recommended Resources: Jesus the Hero - family devotional (David E. Prince) The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place (Andy Crouch) War of Words: Getting to the Heart of Your Communication Struggles (Paul David Tripp) Strong and Courageous: 365 Daily Devotions for Fathers (Ken Caster and BroadStreet Publishing Team) Shame Interrupted: How God Lifts the Pain of Worthlessness and Rejection (Edward T. Welch)

Paul Hurckman is our first-ever repeat guest on the dadAWESOME Podcast. If you missed his first time joining us, please click here to listen to Episode 15. Paul and his wife, Candace, have 4 children (2 bigs and 2 littles) and they live in Minneapolis where they love to bike, run and host popsicle extravaganza gatherings for their neighborhood. Paul is the Executive Director at Venture Expeditions. In This Episode: -- Shifting mentality to being an ALL-on-DAD -- What messages do you want regularly communicate to your kids? -- Our truest version of our dreams are birthed in God's design -- Harold and the Purple Crayon - Drawing a better picture for our family and the Kingdom -- Raising kids that will cross the street for the sake of the Gospel -- Becoming less comfortable for the sake of other people -- Shalom - being in right relationship with your maker, with each other, and with creation RESOURCES: -- dadAWESOME Podcast -- The Bible Project -- Book: Wonder -- Book: Big Hair, Don't Care: Other Mentioned Podcasts: - Bart Scharrer Episode 17

Introducing our first ever dadAWESOME Book Summary Episode! Fearless Parenting: How to Raise Faithful Kids in a Secular Culture (George Barna & Jimmy Myers)… Jeremy Brookins joins dadAWESOME to share his book summary along with processing how he's working to implement these challenging take-aways in his parenting.