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dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Adam Weber Adam is the founder and lead pastor of Embrace, a multi-site church based out of Sioux Falls, South Dakota. Author of Talking With God and Love Has A Name, he also hosts a podcast called The Conversation. Adam still cheers for the Cincinnati Bengals but no longer drives a Rambler. He's married to his wife, Becky, and has four kids: Hudson, Wilson, Grayson, & Anderson. He also has seven chickens, two dogs, & three fish, but what he really wants is a sheep. Conversation Notes: Fathers for the fatherless Embrace Church Adam's books: Talking With God & Love Has A Name 3:30 - Adam Weber's Podcast 4:00 - Sharing about his dad walking through physical hardship with a car accident and financial hardship. 7:05 - Seeing his dad walk through pain with joy. 8:15 - In the eyes of the world you say he's not successful now but in the eyes of God more successful Romans 8:18 these light and momentary trials… 9:25 - To get from A to C you have to get through B. 13:50 - Thoughts on being convicted of treating the most important people in his life like they're the least important. 14:21 Book: Talking with God by Adam Weber 15:53 - Free devotional online: "How to Be Somebody" 17:00 - Setting goals and priorities with his kids 17:40 - Saying yes to our kids even though we don't feel like it. When they've invited us into their life we want to take advantage of that time. 21:00 - Defeating the lie that you need to achieve to earn love. 27:00 - How to pray for your kids 28:00 - Taking time at birthday parties to honor the person and call out something about them. Conversation Links: Fathers for the fatherless Embrace Church Talking With God Love Has A Name Adam Weber's Podcast

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Jeff Kemp Jeff is a quarterback for strengthening teams. After his 11-year career in the NFL, Jeff founded and led the Seattle-based national non-profit Stronger Families, dedicated to helping families thrive. As he speaks and coaches throughout the United States, Jeff combines the best from professional team sports with the best of building strong relationships, team alignment and trust to strengthen the business. Jeff and his wife, Stacy, have been married 35 years and mentor young couples. They have four married sons and love tennis, skiing, and spending time with family. Conversation Notes: 1:54 - Make a donation to support FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 mile bike ride - 100% of funds go directly to Venture Expedition and The Dwelling Place 2:46 - Jeff Kemp - NFL Quarterback 3:26 - Book: Facing the Blitz by Jeff Kemp. Three strategies for turning trials to triumphs 7:30 - Blitz - sudden overwhelming bombardment. Great danger and risk, that you might not be able to block extra defenders, could be an injury, but if the offense is prepared and able to adapt and willing to change, you have opportunity. Chinese symbol for crisis is danger and opportunity together. 8:49 - Jesus turned his own blitz around for victory. Lazarus. Joseph. What the enemy meant for evil, God meant for good. That's a blitz. 10:00 - John 16:33 - NFL version 10:20 - How to get through a blitz: 1) Have a long-term view. 2) Willingness to change. 3) Can't focus on yourself as a victim, focus on blessing others. 11:10 - In the Covid Blitz - 1) Make time to listen to God like never before. 2) Play with your kids. 3) Ask your wife to rate your relationship and ask what you can do to move it closer to a 10. 13:31 - Story of a dad fail. Blitzed by personal convenience and selfishness. 16:50 - Blitz is an opportunity to apologize and 18:11 - Encouragement is a huge part of being a dad. 18:23 - The Gideon principle - Angel showed up and named him what he was going to become before he was that. 20:09 - "His dad found whatever he could and encouraged it. I know that I am a leader today, I am a speaker, I am a vision-caster, I'm an encourager...because of my dad." 20:27 - You can't build your identity around performance. 20:50 - A dad's job is to build a kid's identity on 1) relationship with God, 2) relationship with you 3) their character. 21:29 - On The Gideon Principle: "I'm trying to make sure that it's more about speaking their character and their faith and the security of their relationships both with God and with me, more so than performance...those performance things aren't as important as a dad as the faith, relationships and their character, speaking who they're going to become, not who they are right now." 23:18 - Think long-term. "You're raising this kid because God gave him to you as a gift. And your dad-job is stewardship." 24:41 - "If you act like a steward you'll do a better job than if you're acting like the owner... you're raising this kid so they find their way to the perfect daddy." 26:19 - Think of your kid's heart like a gas tank. 26:50 - Dad ideas: 1) Keep their love tank filled up. "Our job...is to parent their hearts, not just their behavior. And you can correct their behavior but you can blow them away with how much you love them." 2) "They need a GPS for life." 3) Know their identity (Gideon principle) Conversation Links: http://jeffkempteam.com/ Facing the Blitz: Three Strategies for Turning Trials Into Triumphs

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter David Goundry In this episode, David Goundry, originally from NE England, now lives in South Florida with his wife, Louisa (originally from Brazil) and his two teenage kids. Passionate about global missions through OneHope, David discusses raising third-culture kids, traveling as a family, raising teenagers, and helping his kids become friends with anyone. He strives to live life and parent with intentionality, and believes in surrounding himself with mentors. David serves as the Vice President of Eurasia at OneHope. Conversation Notes: 3:43 - David introducing himself 5:31 - OneHope - God's word. Every Child. 8:00 - Bible App for kids 8:54 - Raising third-culture kids and traveling globally as a family. 11:02 - Teaching kids to not fear differences. 12:53 - "The other thing that doesn't cost much, other than your time, is the intentionality of myself and my wife to make sure that we are including the children even at a young age in global conversations. So we are trying to demystify people that are of a different religion. We are trying to demystify those who are of a different tradition. So as much as we can we are trying to, even at a young age, try to explain to them, this is what they do, this is what they believe, and this is why it's wrong and here is what the scriptures say. So the more that they became aware of what people were thinking, doing and believing, as long as we brought in the scriptures alongside that , it allowed them in their young minds to balance .I don't need to agree, but I don't have to fear. I don't have to run away from them. I can still be friends with them." 15:43 - Dad hacks David has picked up from dads in other cultures: From the Middle East - Scripture engagement. "If our children were encouraged to study the word like a muslim child was encouraged to study the Quran, I think we would have a different church. When you look at how much a young muslim can recite and understand and you put that alongside some of the milk-based products and intentionality that we have int he Christian church, it's night and day. The Quran engagement is much greater than scripture engagement in time and hours spent." 17:03 - "Our children are not going to naturally want to read and pick up these things and do this on their own. They need our guidance, they need our input, they need our encouragement" … Studies show there is a massive dropoff in scripture engagement between the ages of 7-11. 18:19 - Dad hacks David has picked up from dads in other cultures - What cultures tell children they are capable of or not capable of. US vs. England. 21:00 - On blending culture US and England with the best of both worlds. "I want to be able to figure out how can I have duty and obligation ingrained in their DNA, which is some of the pros of the English culture, eradicate the negatives of the english culture...and then couple it with the blessing of the American culture which is more pioneering that says you can do this don't doubt yourself, if there's a ceiling go smash it, work your way through it, but then at the same time, don't get so pioneering and so taken away that you leave a carnage in your wake because you're so focused on moving forward." 22:10 - Reflecting on a positive relationship with his dad. 27:34 - David gives advice to teenage dads who have sons who are 'losing their minds' and what to do to insert themselves and help them. "'[his dad told him,] From this moment forward, I am your only friend. From this moment forward, we are doing everything together'….he grounded me from life...and from that moment forward, everything changed." 30:48 - "He could have pushed you towards isolation, like grounding you to isolation, but instead he amped up, he leaned in...filling that void with dad love instead." - Jeff 32:10 - Parenting when kids are older looks different than parenting when kids are younger. "I have to learn in each season of my children's life how to be a parent to them in that season." 35:52 - "I'm going to have to learn how to let go and to advise and be a dad from a distance as they carry on in their own life." 38:10 - Discussion of mentors. Ezra 8 - Sheribiah. A man of great understanding. 40:00 - Putting yourself in a position to be around mentors or potential mentors. "I would look for someone with a different slant because they can give you something that you've never thought about, but say if I'm picking 5 people, only one of them would be cut from a different spiritual cloth, so to speak, in the giftings that God has given them." 43:20 - One parting word: Intentionality. "Because without that, nothing happens, it really doesn't, because that then flows into your time with the Lord. You're intentional with your time with the Lord, you're intentional with your time at church, you're

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter dadNOTES 0:33 - Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel 1:11 - Fathers for the Fatherless - 100-mile bike ride with 70 dads. Aug 29, 2020. 1:55 - Support the vision of Fathers for the Fatherless HERE 2:29 - Episode 128 - Wayne Francis: Zoom Fatigue, Racial Tensions and the Needed Upgrade Jeff's takeaways: We are modeling the type of man we want our daughters to marry, the type of man we want our sons to be best friends with. Speaking words of life over our kids. 4:30 - Episode 129 - Scott Wilson: Calling Out Greatness and Walking Through Grief. Jeff's takeaway: Telling the "story of the day" in a way that intentionally shows our kids how much we love them. 6:18 - Hitting the golden buzzer. 6:55 - Episode 130 - Josh Turner: Getting the Focus Off Ourselves 8:13 - Creating relationships for my girls that would speak words of life and draw out the qualities in them that we want them to have in their life. 9:10 - Being present at home with our kids 9:33 - Episode 131 - Jason Vallotton: Winning the War Within 11:27 - Spiritual Fathers and brotherhood

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Jason Vallotton Recovering mental health, Cultivating spiritual fathers, and Living with Hope. Jason's heart is to see the emotional prosperity increase through pastoring, counseling, teaching and equipping. His insight and wisdom have brought powerful breakthrough to difficult situations for both leaders and families. Jason is on the Core Team of Bethel church and has been on staff for over 15 years. He currently oversees the departments focused on emotional health and pastoral care for the local church including: the local church pastoral care team, the pre-marrieds ministry and the men's ministry. Jason has a vision for a global men's ministry that will "turn the hearts of fathers back to the hearts of sons!" Jason and his father, Kris, are currently developing and hosting men's events across the country to fulfill this call. Jason and his wife Lauren live in Redding, California, and have four wonderful children. In his downtime, Jason can be found hiking in the Trinity Alps, fishing the Sacramento River, or hunting anywhere that wild game can be found! Conversation Notes: 1:08 - Mark 1:11 "And a voice came from heaven: "You are my Son, whom I love; with you I am well pleased." 1:40 - DA Daily. To join simply text "dad" to 77222 3:20 - Story of Jason's first son being born when he was 19 years old 4:48 - The gift of patience turning the burden into an opportunity. 5:22 - Having friends and community gives perspective. "But we actually get to multiply our experience the closer we are to our friends because if we walk through a hard time with them, we get to gain the wisdom and the learning and understanding." 6:32 - Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. James 1:2-3 7:35 "Great opportunity comes with every hard season for those who have eyes to see it." - Quote from Winning the War Within by Jason Vallotton 9:05 - You can try and grow through the easy times but there's not as much opportunity to grow in easy times because you're not getting as much feedback. You're not really being stretched. The easy times are a poor indicator of what you're good at and what you're not good at. It's challenging to grow when you're not being tested." There is fruit in hard times. 9:47 - Psalm 126:5 -"Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy." Relating this to the story of a farmer making the hard choice between feeding his family the only seed he has and starting a poverty cycle, or choosing to plant the seed and watch his family starve for a season but ultimately breaking the poverty cycle. 10:58 - We're forced into this worldwide [question], "what are you going to do with the challenge you've been given?" 11:53 - Going through a nervous breakdown in 2009. 13:11 - His dad told him, "You're gonna have to decide how your kids are gonna remember you." 14:16 - "I only get to decide what I do when I'm awake." 14:41 - "If I don't check out, but I stay in the game even with my kids and my family, I gain so much more than if I check out for the evening." 14:47 - Quote from Danny Silk - "Kids are gonna pull 60 pounds of energy from you whether you give it to them or whether they take it from you you just get to decide how it happens." 15:54 - "There's an opportunity for people like never before not just to make a difference in history, but to learn how to embrace challenging times with confidence." 16:34 - The inside-out dad life - what were the warning signs before the nervous breakdown? 19:30 - Moral Revolution 20:32 - Everything was good - it was so hard to decide what to put down. 21:49 - "Whether it's hard things or whether it's good things, it has a weight to it. It has a weight value and good stress is still stress." 22:35 - Cultivating spiritual fathers: "If you're going to put someone on your team, make sure they know they are on your team." 25:23 - "My dad told me once, never apologize for favor, just make sure you use the favor well." 26:17 - "What is covenant? You have permission to change my mind and I have permission to change your mind." 26:49 - "Servanthood is the way to the top. You will never outgrow serving...the more you have the more you're required to give." 28:05 - we're building an inheritance for our kids...the relationships that you create today, that you sacrifice for, it's not it's not as fun as people think. It's not easy I can tell you all those relationships that I just mentioned, there's conflict inside of them. We use all of our communication skills and conflict resolution and honor to keep those relationships going." 29:10 - Clint graham david and his mighty men series of books? Linked 30:25 - Attending church for yourself is the lowest level of living for a Christi

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Josh Turner In his role with OneHope, Josh shares stories of God's Word transforming lives in the next generation with North American churches. Understanding that each church has a unique call to missions, he works with each to find the intersection between what God has called them to in their local context to how that overlays around the world. Whether it is church planting, evangelism, digital, or a combination thereof, he uses his understanding of OneHope programs to match churches with programs that speak to the heart of their church. With ministry happening in over 100 countries, there is a place for each church in North America to participate in reaching our vision of "God's Word. Every child." Josh is a graduate of Florida State University and for 15 years served the local church as a church pastor and planter. He currently lives in Atlanta with his wife, Becca and two children: Ayden and Riley. Conversation Notes: 2:15 Bible app for kids 6:32 - "It really forced me down some dark times. I tell people I had a lot of dark nights of the soul. So many times people think it's not ok to have those. It's not ok to wrestle." 7:40 - "It is a constant wrestling. There are good days and bad days…...it doesn't matter how much I love Jesus, how much faith I have, when you hand your daughter off for that type of surgery, I was scared, and it's hard. And it's ok for it to be hard…..So many people made us feel crazy….and they want to be encouraging and they want to help but it's almost like they aren't giving you permission to suffer and to struggle." 8:40 - "We've found in those dark, hard places, those are the places where you meet God. And those are the places you come to a new relationship and a deeper relationship with him." 9:40 - "We've just learned those dark nights, they're hard, and you have permission to walk through those and suffer." 10:08 - video clip of his daughter singing not today - 11:08 - Discussing his daughter's faith and focus on others 13:34 - Book: Raising a Modern Day Knight 14:15 - Discussing an idea he had to have all the men in his life write his son letters. 16:00 - Watching his daughter leverage her disability to help other people. 16:28 - Jason laird - interviewing his daughter on FB live on how to walk through suffering - 18:06 -Joy comes from living for others . 18:43 - Quote from Rob Hoskins: "When you're squeezed, what is inside of you comes out." 19:17 - "When we go through hard times or we go through trials or we go through struggles, how am I modeling this for my kids? And not only how am I modeling for my kids, but how are we as a family what we do, still putting the gospel and others forward?" 20:20 - Being proactive in serving other families right now. 20:54 - "I think that there is something that happens in your heart that I can't fully articulate that when you are not focused on yourself, God has a way of caring for you as you care for other people." 22:00 - Disciplines during Covid: Working out, Getting ready in the morning (even working from home), 24:33 - The Dusty Ones by AJ Swoboda - Book about how wandering in the seasons of trial and hardship deepen our faith. 25:00 - setting up routines and rhythms during quarantine. 26:05 - dadAWESOME ideas for Quarantine Youtube Playlist 31:00 - Perspective on parenting a child with special needs. 31:40 - "It is a physical, mental, emotional cost to love her, and I love her very much and she is amazing, but it is a cost to me. And I was praying about that and I felt the holy spirit say to me, 'now you know what it's like for me to love you.'" 36:15 - Speaking to dads in a younger season, what's the kryptonite that can cause pain to a marriage/kids? 37:14 - Realizing how much he gave to ministry that he didn't give to his kids. 38:10 - "If we can figure out as fathers how to not bring work stress and anxiety home and into the family dynamic, I think that is kryptonite." 39:20 - "Don't allow the distractions to take you from the family that needs your attention." Help us spread the word to other dads - include links to all the social Links: One Hope bio and contact information Called Podcast - with Relevant Magazine Josh's Instagram Josh's Daughters Website Josh's daughter fundraiser = "Normal is Overrated"

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally. OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. We're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F202 Scott Wilson Scott Wilson is the Senior Pastor of Oaks Church in the South Dallas area. He is committed to raising up the next generation of leaders through The Oaks School of Leadership, preparing more than 100 students every year for ministry with university credits. Scott is a loving husband and proud father. Scott and his wife, Jenni, have three boys: Dillon, Hunter, and Dakota. Conversation Notes: 3:56 - Paul Hurkman 4:13 - Oaks Church, TX 6:39 - Sharing a difficult moment as a dad. 8:33 - His counselor told him, "You know what, I think right now he's more tethered to you than he is to God. You're his God-line….until you get out of the way God can't be there." 11:13 - "We hurt so much when our kids hurt." How can we with younger kids not create a tether to ourselves? 11:31 - "I want to resolve it for him where everything is fixed but if I do that, he's not going to grow, and it's the angst that causes him to grow." 11:56 - Think about the situation and determine if it's going to be a tricycle accident or a train wreck, and use that to determine how much to intervene. 12:53 - Why he goes to counseling. 15:04 - "I think of a counselor not as a crisis person in my life, but as a growth team member in my life to help me know. I go even when I don't 'need' it." 16:05 - Develop a growth plan to be a great dad. Talk to a mentor a season ahead. Get a counselor in your life. 18:31 - We do not grow to experience, we grow by evaluated experience. 19:21 - What he learned from his dad that he wanted to repeat. 20:06 - A focus on Truth. Being a safe place to ask questions. Being a safe place of security in the midst of challenges in the world. 21:11 - "We need to not be ever surprised by what our kids say where they ever get a feeling that it's beyond dad. We set the tone on that." 22:21 - Telling the story of the day as a way to tell our kids how much we love them. Communicating in a way that they know how much we love them. 26:46 - Tips for grieving the loss of his dad. "Grief is a gift that God has given us to be able to bring healing to us." 27:28 - How counseling helped him with the grieving process. 29:06 - The distance between a good dad and a perfect dad is way greater even than between a good dad and a bad dad. 30:21 - Parenting with Purpose book & FREE Masterclass 31:11 - Being a dad who hits the "golden buzzer" 32:31 - "Sometimes dads aren't even looking. Or they'll look at the deficit they're at now, or the struggle they're in now, but you've gotta look past, you have to look at the person. You've got to let God show you the revelation of who he made them to be. And you've gotta speak that out, call that out. If you're kids became everything you called them to be, what kind of kid would they be, what kind of man would they be, what kind of woman would they be? And that's exactly what you need to be speaking over them and pushing that golden buzzer and believing in them." 35:31- Have a shoulder ministry, not a stage ministry to lift others up. 36:16 - Be a spiritual dad or mom. 37:11 - God picked Elisha and sent Elijah to train him. God picked Joshua and Moses trained him. 37:35 - "What if we could see greatness, pushed that golden buzzer, and those who are leaders, who are younger than us that are around us, [or] those who don't have a dad, and we stepped in." 37:44 - Malachi 4:5 - "See, I will send the prophet Elijah to you before that great and dreadful day of the Lord comes. He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents; or else I will come and strike the land with total destruction." 38:01 - We are living in the most fatherless generation of all time. 38:24 - Being dads who actually believe that "the success of my life is actually going to be determined by the success of yours." 38:47 - "If something is making a generation of dads sick, if something's got a hold, it is self focus. It's looking too much to our own world, our own life." 39:31 - Parentingwithpurposebook.com - 7 keys to raising world changers 40:00 - "You can e

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally. OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. We're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020 Wayne Francis Wayne and Claudene, who he calls "Classy", have been married for 20 years and have two beautiful teenage daughters, Haleigh and Ryleigh. Wayne loves to cycle and takes great pleasure in turning any floor into a dance floor. Wayne and Claudene Francis lead the New York location of The Life Church. Conversation Notes: 1:24 - DA Foundations - 4-Hours of Intentional Fatherhood - We're hosting the 3rd round of DA Foundations and it's a Zoom online cohort on Thursdays (starts a week from tomorrow) from 9-10pm. This is a FREE 4-week group that unpacks the 4 keys to adding LIFE to the dad life. You've got to register and we're asking all the dads who join us to try to attend at least 3 out of the 4 dates... Here's the outline of the content and the RSVP form. Please register by July 7th. 1:50 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS - http://bit.ly/F4F2020 2:45 - DA DAILY - we are focussing the 31 days of July on Dad Wisdom from the 31 chapters of Proverbs. If you want to join us for a daily text, just text "dad" to the number 77222 6:47 - Plants and Pillars message on Father's day - Psalm 144:12 - May our sons flourish... like well-nurtured plants. May our daughters be like graceful pillars… 7:50 - "Great daughters and great sons are not called out, they are carved out,...which means that you're chiseling something over time and your polishing and finessing, so it's a work of art when you're a dad that happens as a process of time." 8:28 - "Asking a question is better than making a statement. Questions shape character more than just statements." 9:05 - How he has chosen to parent differently from his dad, and what he has done the same. 10:46 - Experiencing "reverse intimacy" with his father. 13:21 - Mistake when parenting his daughters 15:45 - Exposing our kids to the pain of the world so that they can develop a heart of empathy. Having conversations about justice with our kids. 16:48 - "I think it's very important right now to give your children the capacity to see beauty and diversity. That their relationships are flourishing from a very young age with kids that are of a different color. That they are getting to see exactly what it looks like to be in a multiplicity of cultural diversity that's going to impact the type of humans they'll be two or three generations down the road." 17:29 - Diversifying books and resources from a young age 18:40 - Talking to his kids about how to react when experiencing micro aggression 19:55 - "The condition of the soul is always at the tip of the tongue." 20:45 - Zoom fatigue analogy for having conversations around race. 23:52 - Discussing injustice. "Your kids will never react to what they don't see you reacting to." 24:41 - "Black fist white knuckles" sermon series. 25:36 - "I'm trying to raise pillars not pillows." 27:04 - "Love doesn't get laryngitis." 28:23- How to be an ally. 29:40 - "You need to be the type of man that you're going to be happy walking your daughter down the aisle to. Because you are the only one that's going to shape that image." 30:35 - "Daughters and sons don't grow in bad soil...am I the type of man that I would want my daughters hanging out with if there was nobody else around?" 31:11 - Wayne's prayer for dads. Links: Plants and Pillars message on Father's day Wayne's Church - The Life Church NY

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally. OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020 Jeff Zaugg Last Sunday was Father's Day and Jeff Zaugg had the privilege of being interviewed by Dr. Kim Kimberling on the Awesome Marriage Podcast. Today, Episode 127 is a repost of that conversation and it's a look at the genesis story of the past 127 weeks of dadAWESOME along with some of the backstory on Jeff Zaugg and what he has learned about fatherhood from nearly 100 dadAWESOME interviews. Jeff and Michelle Zaugg have been married for 19 days shy of 14 years and they have 3 daughters (6, 3 and 1). They live in the Twin Cities in Minnesota and have an 11 year old Goldendoodle named Boomer. Jeff enjoys ultimate frisbee, surfing, slack-lining, waterskiing, basketball, cycling, triathlons, spikeball, family Dairy Queen bike rides, climbing trees, date nights with Michelle, walking to work and taking his girls on daddy daughter dates. Conversation Notes 1:52 - Morgan Snyder on Episode 124 2:08 - Paul Hurckman on Episode 125 2:18 - Banning Liebscher on Episode 126 2:36 - Awesome Marriage Ministry 6:00 - It was pain that led to a deep passion to start dadAWESOME. He didn't want to see kids in pain. 7:46 - How to be a great dad…."Part of [being a great dad] is the realization that our role is important." 8:15 - Deuteronomy 30:19 - "I have set before you life and death blessings and curses so now choose life so that you and your children may live." 8:30 - We get a choice as dads to choose life, to be a life giving dad. "Adding LIFE to the dad life." 9:27 - "The role is bigger than you know and more impactful and your kids will thank you forever by just being that dad that says I'm going to bring life." 11:59 - What are dads this generation doing right? 16:09 - Fathers for the Fatherless Bike Ride 2020 - Turning Father's day into a mission to activate dads to do something hard on behalf of kids without dads. 18:04 - I think if we can ignite fathers around a bigger purpose and calling...our kids see that. 19:31 - Malachi 4:6 - He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the hearts of children to their parents. 21:49 - Heb 12:1-2 - Throwing off our past pain so we can run toward our kids 22:30 - If we let the baggage hold us back, then our kids' eyes don't shine. 23:25 - "Brotherhood is the strength that keeps the hard days from becoming permanent hard days." 24:10 - Isolation and pace of life are the areas that are sucking the life out of the dad life for this generation of dads. 24:54 - "Brotherhood is everything to keep us on the trajectory of God's best for our life." 26:14 - Where do you find brotherhood? 27:20 - Approach friendship from a peer mentor approach 32:07 - Psalm 78:4 - "We will not hide these truths from our children, we will tell the next generation about the glorious deeds of the Lord, about his power and his mighty wonders." 32:40 - "Every single person I've interviewed in their sixties says I wish I would have invested more time." 33:40 - Quoting a mentor: "What you're doing as a dad when you connect with your kids is you're on a treasure hunt for their heart, and part of your job is to reach into their heart, pull out their purpose and show it to them." 36:40 - "My girls know, they can sense,... is there unity, is there peace, is there love between the two most important big people in their life...they can see and they can feel how mom and dad are doing." 40:02 - How do I put my wife first? Going to counseling and prioritizing date nights. "Taking the vulnerable step of going to counseling with her is a way that I put her first... I'm going to take my heart and expose some of the hurts and some of the things I'm feeling that are hard for me to share sometimes." 43:00 - DA Daily Text - text "dad" to 77222 43:20 - July DA Foundations - starting June 9th Episode Links Awesome Marriage A Better Man Podcast

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally. OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020 Banning Liebscher Banning Liebscher is a pastor, speaker, and author. Along with his wife, SeaJay, he founded Jesus Culture, a ministry of worship, conferences, and leadership development. In 2014, they planted Jesus Culture Sacramento, a local church in California with a passion to see people fully engaged in becoming who God has called them to be and to do what God has called them to do. Find out more at jesusculture.com. Banning's passion is to see a generation of revivalists raised up who have encountered the extravagant love of Jesus and have given themselves for worldwide revival. He and his wife have three children, Ellianna, Raya, and Lake. Conversation Notes 3:30 - "I think that we are called to pour our life into what will be left behind...I'm convinced that what will be left behind is not structures we built, not things we implemented, but just people that we fathered - that's what's going to be left behind." 3:51 - "I feel like I am to bring my life to the next generation and lay it down for them and give it to them." 4:44 - Dads being dreamers vs. Dads settling 5:45 - "When I stop dreaming, when I stop allowing my heart to really dream about things that apart from God are impossible, I not longer kind of lean in, I begin to lean back. I don't engage, I disengage. And I would say the greatest thing in the world you could do for your kids is to be a dreamer that's pursuing what God has in your life." 6:17 - "So I think our kids seeing us pursue the dreams that are in our heart is a really critical part of our fathering and discipling of them." 7:02 - "I think what we do comes out of who we are, and that we can't be defined by what we do." 7:14 - We have a call to "be" which is our IDENTITY and we have a call to "do" which is our MISSION. 8:03 - Challenging dads to not settle for anything less than the fullness of God in your life. 10:12 - "As long as you move at the speed of obedience, and as long as you move with the speed of community and covering, then you'll never be off, and even when you are off a little bit there will be grace because your heart is to be in this lane." 12:20 - Banning's new book - The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You 12:43 - Family moments during quarantine 14:34 - Dad hacks to stay connected to the kids traveling 15:01 - "My kids are going to sacrifice for who I am and and the call on my life, but they also need to benefit and be blessed from that." 15:54 - "Whatever you do, like what I do to provide for the family has some cost involved, but I also want to make sure that there's blessing involved and that my kids are connected to it..make sure blessing is connected to the sacrifice as well and that it's not just sacrifice, it's not just that dad's gone." 18:07 - A story of trusting God with his kids 20:59 - "At the end of the day, what we know is this: any area of my life that has blessed, any area of my life that has wisdom attached to it, any area of my life that has fruit attached to it, it's because other people have joined me in it." 22:03 - "When I stand before God one day, [He's going to say] I didn't just require your best, I require your best and the best of these people I put around you, so when it comes to father I think the reality is our best ins't good enough - that's really never meant to be good enough. It' snot just my best I'm bringing to the is equation, it's my best and it's the best of...these men that pour into my life, that walk with me, that then allows me to be a good father." 22:46 - "When I allow myself to be isolated, when I allow myself to be independent, when i allow myself to think that I just should be able to do this on my own and I don't need anybody speaking into my life or challenging me or encouraging me, well I just want to say that your best isn't good enough...God didn't set it up that way." 23:09 - "God didn't set it up where...it's just you and nobody else, you just give it your best. He's like, I put a whole family arou

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally. OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020 Paul Hurckman Paul Hurckman is the Executive Director of Venture, a faith-based justice organization that does "tough things for people in tough places" around the world. Venture allows people to raise money through biking, hiking and running for justice and missions projects like refugee care, human trafficking and extreme poverty. Paul and his wife Candace live in North Minneapolis with their 5 kids. Conversation Notes 6:16 - Paul's family and foster story. 8:28 - Fathers for the Fatherless bike ride http://bit.ly/F4F2020 8:57 - Venture (https://venture.org/) - Justice for the unreached - Four focuses: Human trafficking, refugee crisis, extreme poverty and oppression or persecution specifically around the church and in Christianity. 11:05 - Being dads who lead on the home front in this topic 12:08 - "Can we be dads who have courageous conversations? Because I believe God smiles when he sees dads press into the uneasy." 12:30 - How to explain racism to my 6yr old. 13:11 - Should I talk about this? "that very question is a question of privilege. Now when I say privilege, I'm not being condescending for the listeners. I am a white man and I have both white and black children. My wife is both white and Native American so we have layers that we are always considering in the conversation, but when you say, should I? I don't know if there are many communities where they don't get that option of the ideal time to talk about something." 15:42 - "They know clearly where we stand and they know that it's because the Gospel invites us to something different. I will tell you this my kids don't know if we vote red or blue or donkey or elephant they don't know the names of our congressmen, but they know clearly what we believe about dignity equality equity, and when that isn't happening, that mom and dad are going to try to show up so that's the start of the conversation for us." 17:17 - How do we help our kids help our kids understand God's heart for justice? 18:16 - "One of the problems why our society and our culture and humanity has a problem is we don't have agreed-upon baseline. As Christ followers we have an agreed-upon baseline, and that's the kingdom as we see in scripture. And so as we have been discipling our kids on the kingdom in scripture, it provides access to how we talk about different things. So justice, I know, can be somewhat polarizing. I get it. It feels like it's co-opted by one side or the other side, or by the urban or by the suburban, or by the red or by the blue, or by the donkey or by the elephant, or by the Evangelical or by the Catholic, or by the this or the that, it's not any of those things. When we, as Christ followers, we're like no this a really clear Kingdom principle. It's talked about 2500 times in Scripture. This is not for some people at some places in time or some ministries in the church, but it's for all of us as Christ followers to understand that because of our relationship with Christ, we are intimately linked to his design and that design was never meant to just be us and Jesus." 19:14 - "The church is supposed to do something when there are systemic problems, you can fight me up and down, but theologically it is airtight. This is part of what we're supposed to be doing." 20:20 - Matthew 7:3 - "And why worry about a speck in your friend's eye when you have a log in your own? 21:14 - What encouragement would you have to help keep a dad in learning leading versus passive? 22:30 - "If we would approach conversations of justice and race in that same way [as having a new baby] not because you have a black or a white child, but because scripture clearly invites us and we cannot disciple our kids without helping them understand race. If we can if we can address this in a way that this is not optional, but it's mission-critical to the kingdom, then what I would say is you're gonna make a mistake." 23:24 - Practice being a person of peace. 23:23 - Training our kids to make the changes in the systemic in

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally. OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020 Morgan Snyder Morgan Snyder is a strategist, entrepreneur, teacher, writer, and speaker. His passion is to both be shaped by and shape the men and women who are shaping the kingdom of God. In 2010, he established BecomeGoodSoil.com, a fellowship of leaders whose global reach offers guidance for the narrow road of becoming the kind of person to whom God can confidently entrust the care of his kingdom. He serves on the executive leadership team of Wild at Heart and Ransomed Heart Ministries, having served alongside John and Stasi Eldredge for more than two decades. Morgan goes off the grid every chance he gets, whether bow hunting in the Colorado wilderness or choosing the adventurous life with his greatest treasures: his wife, Cherie; his son, Joshua; and his daughter, Abigail. Conversation Notes 5:47 - Talking about his "second great conversion"… "To become a son has changed everything for me…C.S. Lewis said, 'I believe in Christianity like I believe in the sunrise.I believe in it because I see it every day, but it's by the sun I see all things.' ...To become a son is my sunrise. I believe it because I've experienced it to be true. To unlearn God as Father the way I've learned it wrong and to open my heart to receive him as the true Father he intends to be. It's by that I see all things." 7:26 - Growing up in a home without God - winning the "game" of life - having success in many areas, but losing his soul. 8:30 - giving his life to God 9:27 - "God became my father, my pastor, my guide, I entered into a slow and steady process of being initiated as a man and fathered as a son. And so where I find myself now is ...in process of over two decades of making my life about becoming the kind of man in whom God is glad to entrust more and more of the care of his kingdom, becoming more and more honest about what's not yet, about what is under construction. But that used to feel like a weight and now feels like a promise because there's so much hope." 10:29 - His wife is the Chief Life Officer. 13:11 - His wife shared in counseling, "I feel like a bird locked in a cage. And I can't fly"…. That wasn't my heart's intention at all. I dreamed about being a loving husband, but the fruit was I was a broken man, an unhealed boy inside a man that was still driving to get his question answered by achieving. I am loved when I come through. I am loved when I achieve. And now it's just in the name of God, it's just in the name of being a husband. And all the while my strength wasn't actually rescuing the beauty, it wasn't actually fighting for her, it was actually diminishing the glory of her life." 14:29 - "I believe one of the greatest sacred trusts given to me is to champion her calling and allow her to thrive as the Chief Life Officer." 14:51 - Finding the way to the center of your daughter's heart. 15:51 - A birth experience gone wrong 16:29 - "God I agree with your story for my son, and I want to participate with what you have planned for him. I want to participate in initiation and I'll participate in the birth story you have." 16:56 - "God is very interested and motivated in the initiation of our children. It's what makes Him come alive. He has their best interests in mind. And when I put down my agenda, I got curious. I got responsive. The path that my children have chosen and the God has chosen for them is not what I would have chosen in so many ways, but being a student and being attentive and participating has changed everything." 18:02 - Talking about his daughter - "I approach her with a question of 'Holy Spirit would you show me her heart? Who did you make [her] to be? And how do I bring my delight to her and communicate consistently - [you] are loved. And there is nothing you can do or not do and say or not say that will cause me to withdraw my delight. And if I can get that right, then everything else becomes secondary." 21:11 - How do I initiate my son? 21:59 - "Fundamentally, when we can pull back from the trees and see the fores

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Join a team of 100 dads biking 100 miles and raising $100,000 for the fatherless locally and globally. OUR MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. DATE: Saturday, August 29, 2020 MORE INFO: http://bit.ly/F4F2020 dadAWESOME FOUNDATIONS We're offering a FREE 4-part dadAWESOME Foundations cohort on Thursday nights in June. Join us from 9-10pm on Zoom to unpack the 4 dadAWESOME keys to adding LIFE to the dad life. Please REGISTER by Tuesday, June 2nd. dadNOTES We understand that the dad life is at times a very full life... Often it's easy to miss an episode or forget some of the key action steps from previous dadAWESOME conversations. Episode 123 is a new rapid fire format with the top-3 takeaways from the past three episodes. Conversation Notes 1) One-on-one time with your kids 2) Take a Sabbatical 3) Spiritual Leadership Requires FREEDOM 4) Stop it! 5) Think About Your Wife 6) Laugh Together 7) "Am I doing things that I want my kids to copy?" 8) Losing focus on the most important thing… 9) Slingshot Faithfulness 10) Add more laughter to date nights (my personal take-away) Links Sabbatical Guide from Jeremy Shelton Awesome Marriage Resources from Dr. Kim Kimberling Register for dadAWESOME Foundations FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS DA Daily Text Message - text "dad" to 77222

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Join dadAWESOME Daily – Simply text "dad" to 77222 to begin receiving a daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. Join dadAWESOME FOUNDATIONS >> We're offering a FREE 4-part dadAWESOME Foundations cohort on Thursday nights in June. Join us from 9-10pm on Zoom to unpack the 4 dadAWESOME keys to adding LIFE to the dad life. I am Loved I am Intentional I am Free I Enjoy my kids Adding LIFE to the dad life >> RSVP here Jordan Durso Best known as Marissa Angelique & Isabella's Dad. Jordan is also the Executive Director of The Legacy Center where they are relentless about moving people forward to achieve their ultimate potential. The Legacy Center fights to see individuals change for life and not just for the moment: To live Life on Purpose; To take every step with intention; To help people create a Legacy that their kids will want to copy. Jordan lives in New York city with his three girls. Conversation Notes 5:10 - Legacy Center New York - not just meeting physical needs, but meeting relational and family needs 6:45 - "This is what I want my kids to copy from me." 7:12 - "Is there something I'm doing, God, that I don't want my kids to copy." 7:35 - Being the man that I want my girls to marry 8:20 - The stuff we see us do every day - I see my kids copy that stuff. 9:35 - Being intentional with finances with his kids 11:11 - Focus on now 11:50 - dad fail - losing focus on the most important things in travel and work 14:25 - Story of loss and pain of divorce 18:40 - "I don't believe God makes all things happen but he makes all things good so if I give him my life and I give him my story and my situation I think he can make even this situation good and help people that are going through the same situation." 19:40 - As I was in this stage feeling of being stuck, I felt like I was being stretched, and not in the good sense at first….all my friends... were passing by...God what about me? And I felt like God spoke to me that I was like this slingshot that he was pulling back and he was stretching me and though everything looked like it was going this way and I was going backwards, it was really preparing to launch me, and the farther back I went and the more I got stretched, the farther I'd go, so I just had to say OK and throw my hands up in surrender." 21:18 - How to keep our eyes on what's most important in the stretching seasons. - Make sure you have really good friends to be honest with. Get around guys who are stronger than you. Real brotherhood. 24:04 - Palm trees roots stretch and search deep toward water sources and interlock with other palm trees. Eventually storms will die down. Secure stance, interlock with other people who are going through the same thing sometimes. 26:50 - What are the water sources that would help a dad who is in a storm right now? Accountability, interlocking with others, reading the Bible, reading other great books by people who have also been through hard times. 28:24 - "God did it for him, could God do it for me? Let that question raise up and spark your faith…. Unbelief says some other time, but not now some other place but not here, for somebody else but not me. Faith says anything that he did anywhere else he's willing to do here, anything he did at any other time he's willing to do now, and anything he did for anybody else he'll do for me." Reading other people's stories ignites our faith that God will do it for us too. 29:20 - In the business of helping other people get healthy, and I can only do that if I'm healthy. 31:00 - Dad wisdom time machine advice = date your daughters 31:35 - Create memories with your kids... travel with your kids 32:05 - Put your family first. The other stuff is not that important. 32:45 - Reflections on Jordan's father = spending too much time serving at church and missing many of the special moments with his kids. 35:00 - adding the goal of sitting down for dinner and pausing and connecting as a family. 35:55 - Giving the travel planning to your kids. Ask them to make the plans. 37:20 - Learning your kids love languages and speaking that language to them. 38:30 - Jordan's Prayer Links: Jordan's Instagram The Legacy Center

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Join dadAWESOME Daily – Simply text "dad" to 77222 to begin receiving a daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. Join dadAWESOME FOUNDATIONS >> We're offering a FREE 4-part dadAWESOME Foundations cohort on Thursday nights in June. Join us from 9-10pm on Zoom to unpack the 4 dadAWESOME keys to adding LIFE to the dad life. I am Loved I am Intentional I am Free I Enjoy my kids Adding LIFE to the dad life >> RSVP here Dr. Kim Kimberling Dr. Kim has been a professional counselor for over thirty years. He is President and co-founder of Awesome Marriage. Awesome Marriage reaches thousands of people each month with God's plan for marriage and relationships. Dr. Kim has been married to his lovely wife Nancy for 50 years. Together they have two adult married children and five awesome grandchildren. Dr. Kim's inspiration and passion for marriage began at a young age as he watched his parents live out the true meaning of having an Awesome Marriage centered around God's incredible plan. He is open and honest about the struggles he has experienced in marriage and uses these personal examples to help others. Conversation Notes: 3:48 - Dr. Kim Kimberling introduction 8:18 - What his dad did well. 10:45 - A difficult parenting moment 14:11 - "What I've learned is that if I put God first every day, it's really easy to put her second because God's not going to put anybody else in second place besides her because that was his design and plan. And when we are in sync, we really are good together and we can really see ourselves as a team and we parent well together." 14:35 - "We sometimes don't always value our wife's perspective. Our wives have an insight and a wisdom that we don't have. God gifted them with some things especially relationally that sometimes don't even make sense to us but they are right and they're right on." 16:05 - "When you stick together as a husband and wife, you're going to make good decisions for your kids and I think eventually your kids are going to see that." 16:19 - Dr. Kim's books: Seven secrets to a an Awesome Marriage: Strengthen Your Most Intimate Relationship and 14 Keys to lasting love Bible reading plans. Daily email. 16:55 - Top 2 things he'd tell a dad for how to have an awesome marriage. Stop doing something that doesn't work, and seek God. Intentionally pursue your wife 19:38 - The idea of seeing the big picture. "What do you want their life to be? What do you want to impart to them in these years? And what do you want it to be when they leave? And what do you want it to be when they are adults?" 21:14 - Common patterns he is seeing that cause a dad to have a train wreck - Social media, video games as an escape. 22:46 - "My prayer is each day, what can I do to make Nancy feel like she's loved and how can I come alongside her today, and God always gives me an answer to that." 23:26 - Dr. Kim's instagram 23:40 - One Thing email 24:35 - Looking for opportunities for laughter in our marriage and parenting 25:30 - "There is something in a kid's eyes when you are laughing with them that is really special, you just see it, they just light up, they love that and it bonds them to us and connects us in really special ways. I think it's a gift that God gave us. And a lot of times we don't think about God laughing or Jesus laughing but they do." The dad can be the initiator of laughter 26:30 - "Look at the eyes of your kids, look at the eyes of your wife. Are their eyes shining? And if they're shining there's a good chance that you've brought life into their life." - Jeff 26:49 - dadAWESOME purpose - To add LIFE to the dad life. 27:13 - Practical ideas for how to be a life-giving dad. Look for opportunities to go with them and talk with them - don't expect them to come to you Be available when they want to talk - you need to go into their world. Take advantage of open windows to talk, because if you don't they will quit asking 29:14 - "Don't be hard on yourself. We serve a God that is redemptive, that can bring good out of anything. ....God doesn't want you to punish yourself. God wants you to learn from your mistakes and he makes us aware of them but to realize he's got an answer and you can overcome that. Our kids need to see that we make mistakes and how we handle those mistakes. I think failure becomes failure if you don't let God turn it around. But if you turn it around it becomes an opportunity to teach, to grow for yourself and for your kids and your spouse to see those things." 30:05 - Dr. Kim's Prayer Follow-up Links: Awesome Marria

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Join dadAWESOME Daily – Simply text "dad" to 77222 to begin receiving a daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. Jeremy Shelton Jeremy Shelton is a man on a mission to directly confront sexual sin in the church today. He does so with the belief God is using him to grab hold of those heading toward a slaughter. His new book: UNMUZZLED, exposes the grip of sexual temptation and sin like never before, and is set to be a game-changer for Christians in sexual bondage. He no longer just claims to be a Christian; he's now determined to go out and actually do what a Christ-follower does. He and his wife of eighteen years have five children and live in Texas. Conversation Notes: 4:38 - Asking other dads, "How are you capturing your child's heart?" 5:05 - The enemy is after our children 6:15 - How to connect with your child's heart. Intentionally turn off the job, stress, and be engaged 6:38 - Make a mental switch to turn off my concerns of the world. "Lord am I ready to be a husband and a father?" 7:38 - Man Time with his son. Create a memorable moment. 9:10 - Pursuing his daughters - Daddy Dates. 10:40 - Sharing a dad fail. 13:21 - Where are you choosing to put extra focus now? Time. "I am sacrificing business for time with my family." 16:55 - Why take a "sabbatical day" away to hear from God. 19:00 - I liken a sabbatical to that. I go away every year for my annual sabbatical to hear the Lord on what I'm called to do for that year. It's phenomenal when you get away to hear the Lord. My mentor said, if Jesus had to get away to hear the Father, how much should we?" 24:52 - "God did not design men to struggle with this (sexual sin). He designed us to stay away from it" 25:07 - "Your flesh is flammable. Sexual sin is fire" 25:20 - Proverbs 6:27 "Can a man scoop a flame into his lap and not have his clothes catch on fire? ...Can a man take fire in his bosom, and his garments not be burned?" 25:30 - 1 Corinthians 6:18 "Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a person commits are outside the body, but whoever sins sexually, sins against their own body." ... Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body." Three Steps: Stay Away Flee Escape 27:05 - James 1:15 "Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death." 27:33 - 68% of Christian men are living in sexual sin (Pure Desire Ministries) 28:00 - Prediction that 80% of church going men are looking at pornography monthly 28:30 - Story of being a Wet Match - "Today the church is flooded with wet matches who have a little belief God is actually going to show up in their lives. They sign up for or continue in Christianity as more of a life insurance policy than a personal relationship with God." 31:20 - Story of seeing Muzzles on men - they couldn't cry out to the Lord. They couldn't praise God. 31:90 - Washing ourselves with "cheap grace" or grace without Christ. 32:40 - How many men would say that they are leading their household as the spiritual leader of their home? I think the number would be sickening. They can't. 33:12 - Matthew 12:29 "Or how can someone enter a strong man's house and plunder his goods, unless he first binds the strong man? Then indeed he may plunder his house." 34:10 - A dad stuck in sexual sin can't do anything to help his kids who are stuck in pornography 34:20 - "it takes free people to free people" 34:50 - A dog with a muzzle can't eat, bark or bite 35:00 - Muzzled Men - "A Christian man in sexual sin…is muzzled. This muzzle renders him passive and powerless to participate in the Kingdom of God on this earth. It prevents him from becoming the man, husband, father, and witness he is called to be. This spiritual restraint mutes his connection to God. Worse, it incapacitates him from fulfilling his God-given purpose." Can't Bark - prevents him from becoming the man, husband, father, and witness he is called to be Can't Bite - passive and powerless Can't Eat - his spiritual restraint mutes his connection to God Deuteronomy 30:19 "This day I call the heavens and the earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live" 41:05 - "God will never stop stop chasing you. If you're heading towards destruction, you're following the enemy" 42:40 - Unmuzzled Book 43:12 - Jeremy's prayer Follow-up Links: https://unmuzzledmen.com/ Amazon - buy the book unmuzzled Guide for a Sabbatica

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Join dadAWESOME Daily – Simply text "dad" to 77222 to begin receiving a daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. Jim Burns Jim Burns is the President of HomeWord and the Executive Director of the HomeWord Center for Youth and Family at Azusa Pacific University. Jim speaks to thousands of people around the world each year. He has close to 2 million resources in print in 30 languages. He primarily writes and speaks on the values of HomeWord which are: Strong Marriages Confident Parents Empowered Kids Healthy Leaders. Jim and his wife, Cathy, live in Southern California and have three grown daughters, Christy, Rebecca, and Heidi; two sons-in-law, Steve and Matt; and two grandchildren, James and Charlotte. Conversation Notes 1:00 - DA Foundations 1:50 - 10-Day Mom Awesome Challenge - https://dadawesome.org/momawesome 2:42 - Jim Burns intro - 45 yrs investing in leaders. HomeWord 5:00 - Home Word is the largest parenting ministry in the US. "Strong marriages, confident parents, empowered kids, healthy leaders." 6:20 - Doing Life with Your Adult Children - unsolicited advice is taken as criticism. 8:52 - "Three good things" - On a birthday, say three good things about the person. 9:45 - "Relationships can't all be super serious, sometimes they need to be serious fun." 11:45 - Intentional changes he has made as a dad 12:58 - Being the transitional generation - you either recover or repeat patterns 13:51 - having an affair with his job 19:49 - "Some of the greatest mentors I've ever had are people I've never met" 21:00 - But if we parent too much on circumstance and chance and we don't take a step back and be intentional about it, dads are really intentional when it comes to work, but at home they're just like ok so what are we going to do today. And I'm saying to dads lead, but don't lead in a weird way, lead by being intentional. And so you be the person who is most fun, you be their greatest cheerleader, but at the same time don't be letting your wife do all the discipline and you try to be Disney Land dad because you don't know what to do, or you want to be liked, or your too tired because you had a hard day at work…. 24:05 - "I'm still to this day not a confident parent, but I look back and go wow, some of those decisions we made were good decisions." - comparison with working out. 24:48 - Having intentionality around sexuality. 26:12 - "The more positive, values centered sex education kids receive at home, the less promiscuous they will be and actually the less confused." 29:05 - "When a dad is intentional with his daughter, with his time, not about sex, the questions will come easier." 33:58 - Two areas he would have nudged himself to put more focus when the kids were little: Engage them more spiritually, and appreciate the moments with them. "Kids are leaving the church, but there is a 300% better chance that kids will stay in the church if they have faith conversations in the home." 36:25 - Be intentional about finding mentors - start finding time with people who you respect. Video Interview: https://youtu.be/MCc_sovSJ0g Links: HomeWord Jim's Blog on Marriage and Family Jim's books: Amazon

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Join dadAWESOME Daily - Simply text "dad" to 77222 to begin receiving a daily text message with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. Moses Ehambe After thirteen years of playing professional basketball all over the world, Moses is now the Senior Assistant to Athletic Director at Oral Robert University. Moses and Sarah have 5 kids. Living the DREAM one moment at a time. 🇺🇸 🇨🇳 🇪🇸 🇻🇪 🇩🇪 🇯🇵 🇲🇦 🇶🇦 🇫🇷 🇷🇺 🇺🇸 TeamEhambe 👨🏿‍🦱👩🏽‍🦱👧🏽👧🏽👦🏽🧒🏽👶🏽 Conversation Notes 6:36 - How do you talk to your kids about inner beauty? 7:43 - He has enrolled his son in "Gentleman's University." 8:49 - "What time is it? It's right now. Where are you at? You're right here. What do you have? You only have this moment. We try to take advantage of the present moment with our kids." Be in the moment and present as much as possible with our kids 11:45 - As a dad, it is our job to mimic the qualities Jesus had on earth so our kids can know what God is like "God loves me, God protects me, God thinks I'm special….I mean the world to God. This is the most important part of parenting." 14:00 - We are called to be great because he has placed greatness in us but with placing that greatness in us the greatest loss in life is when something great inside you dies while you are still alive. In order to tap into that greatness and pull it out: trust, obedience and support... Prov. 3:5-6 - Trust in the Lord with all your heart - and he will direct your paths. He will direct your paths in parenting. The greatness that we've been given as parents is just being great parents. How do we do that? We trust in God. 15:15 - Obedience. When God tells us to do things, we need to obey even if we don't understand it. 16:40 - As parents we need support and need to stay lifted and encouraged 17:15 - It's the support system (podcasts, friends from church, communities) that help lift you up and get that head trash out of your mind so that way you can live your best life and be the best parent that God has called you to be. 18:41 - Speaking life. Thinking life. Our words have power. 19:31 - "Control your thoughts, control your words, because they will become who you are and your habits." 19:50 - Gentlemen's university - protect girls emotionally and physically - speak life 21:38 - Having emotional flexibility - whenever negative thoughts come in, don't pay heed to them. Speak three positive things to get that negative trash out of your mind. 24:33 - Chosen tv series 25:15 - Seeing the glass half full in the midst of a pandemic. How can we see the good in what is happening right now? 27:34 - Instagram @mosesehambe 28:14 - Moses' prayer for his kids: "God help us to love each of our children the way that they feel loved" 29:35 - "With us as dads, before we can pour into our kids we need to get filled, before we can pour out we need to be filled as well." Links: Moses on Instagram Oral Roberts University YouTube Clip of Moses Ehambe proposing to Sarah Meyer on Valentines Day at their Homecoming basketball game at Oral Roberts University! Watch and witness their first kiss! (Over 500,000 views) Parents Working From Home - Quarantine Edition | Team Ehambe (Neek Films)

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts John Eldredge John Eldredge is an author, a counselor, and a teacher. He is also president of Ransomed Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own hearts in God's love, and learn to live in God's Kingdom. John and Stasi live in Colorado Springs and he loves the outdoors passionately. His most recent book, Take Your Life Back provides a refreshingly simple guide to recover your life. By practicing a few wonder­fully simple practices—or what John calls "graces"—you can begin to recover your soul, disentangle from the tragedies of this broken world, and discover the restorative power of beauty. Conversation Notes 5:57 - Most recent book: Get your Life Back by John Eldredge - 6:30 - "I had no idea how fast I was running and how little margin I had in my life." 6:56 - There has been a war for our attention that has kept us from giving our attention to our loved ones. 8:00 - "I was noticing assault on us by the world was robbing us of the ability to be present... to anything." 8:54 - Coaching tips for moving into the lifestyle of learning to nourish our souls. 9:37 - The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains by Nicholas Carr 11:44 - One Minute Pause App by John Eldredge - A simple mindfulness app (www.pauseapp.com) 13:00 - 1 Peter 5:7 - Cast all your cares upon him because he cares for you. 13:15 - "Human beings were not meant to live in isolation and we weren't meant to live in a constant unknown. Learning to let it go (benevolent detachment)... is step one." 15:15 - Steps to the App: 1) Release. Let it go. 2) Heal our union with God. Our soul is meant to be united with God. It's been assaulted by fear and chaos. 3) Fill me with you, God. 17:27 - Prov 4:23 - Above everything guard your heart because out of your heart flows the wellspring of life. ….. "How your heart's doing affects everything else in your life. If your heart's not doing well, you don't love very well, if your heart's not doing well you don't have a lot of dreams. It is the epicenter." 18:38 - "We are reaping the fruit of a lot of human brokenness generationally….Many kids are growing up either without a dad present, or without a present dad. He might be taken home, but he's so taken out himself." 18:58 - Carl Jung - "The greatest psychological impact of a parent on a child is the unlived life of the parent….. If you're taken out, it's really hard to chase after the hearts of your kids." 19:27 - Parent for behavior vs. Parent for the heart 19:51 - "I am in a world at war. The fight is for the heart. Not only mine but everybody else's." 20:15 - Fathered by God by John Eldredge 20:42 - Gender identity is bestowed by the father. 21:09 - Both the little boy and little girl look to the father to answer their core questions. Boys - Do I have what it takes? Girls - Do you delight in me? Will anyone fight for me? 21: 30 - "God steps in to say, 'Look, I can still Father you. I can take you on the journey of maturation. You need to know you're a beloved son, you need to know that you're a delighted daughter first.'" 22:45 - God takes us through stages to the place where he can entrust us with kingdoms and influence (a family, education, money, etc). Guys blow up their world because inside they stay in adolescence. 23:48 - John Eldredge podcast - Ransomed heart podcast 25:20 - Listening prayer - asking God to Father us in the live moments - "what do I do with this? Help me." 25:53 - A story of a painful moment in parenting. Maintain communication - don't sever lines of communication. You won't get a lot solved in this moment, but you could do a lot of damage. 26:41 - God rescues in the live moment 27:05 - How can we move toward hearing God's voice in that moment? Know that you can (hear his voice). John 10 - My sheep hear my voice. Heb 3 - Today if you hear his voice Rev 3 - Behold I stand at the door and knock, if anyone hears my voice…. 28:15 - Don't try to hear the voice of God for the first time when it's high drama. Start with really small questions when your heart is quiet. 30:00 - If your inner life is locked up, and shut down in fear and hurt, it is harder to hear. God is super merciful and he'll speak anyways, but the [it will be more clear the] more that we can cultivate the care of the heart and healing of things that need healing in us. 30:54 - "If your soul is dried out like the desert, God is trying to give you himself, he's trying to pour out the love, the mercy, the words, but when the rain storms come in the desert, it can't receive the rain because it's just so baked." 3

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Share a post about @dadawesome on Facebook or Instagram #dadawesome Jon French After over 20 years of ministry in the local church, Jon now leads at Convoy of Hope as the Church Relations Director. He's been married for 15 years Dori and has 3 kids. Episode Notes 6:21 - A recent highlight moment. Kids being able to roll with the punches. 8:30 - 9:08 - "Frenches are Fighters." We learn things in moments that affect us the rest of our lives. 9:40 - How to parent through a rare form of blood cancer. 1.5 yr cancer battle. 10:40 - Getting into the community through kids' sports. 11:25 - "One seed of doubt will give us 10-20x more fear and it can cripple us." 8 months of hardest known chemo treatment, full stem cell transplant, 21 day quarantine. 12:33 - We wanted to fight as a family. Sharing the levity of the situation but also not having them carry the full weight of the situation. 13:20 - "Frenches are Fighters. Frenches never quit." The power of life and death is in the tongue. 13:53 - Kids need to know information. We try to shield or kids from the hurtful stuff but we need to pray and give discernment so we can let them in on the secrets [of our families.] 14:58 - Letting others and our kids into the process of pain makes it not just about us, allows our family and community to fight with us. 15:51 - The church came around and walked with them on this journey. 17:00 - God has seasons. It allows us to help others in the same fight. 18:20 - We all are walking through a situation out of our control. Are we choosing to be fighters? Who is fighting with us? 18:56 - How can dads be the head of our house? Set up connections ahead of time. 19:45 - Having foresight in lift to love others around us, then when crisis hits we can just continue what we're doing. 20:06 - Pastor of 6 kids - how did you get such incredible kids? Every day spending 15 min with each kid. 20:31 - Giving 15 min/day to each kid. "We need to be building those every day small choices, that then lead up so that when the crisis hits we are already prepared." 21:00 - Ask and pray for discernment - where is our family going? What's the core vision for our family and how do we get there? 21:25 - Listening to kids in crisis. They don't need us to fix anything. How are they feeling? 22:00 - "You don't just wake up one day and you're a great dad. You don't just wake up one day and you're living your dream. It's daily choices every day that get you there." 22:35 - "It's time to put my cape on, because these kids need Superman." - kids need a dad to love them and have fun with them. 23:52 - Convoy of Hope - giving generously to the cause of Covid-19 response 24:21 - Feeding 300,000 kids in 14 different countries, empowering women and teaching agriculture. Goal is to give 10 million meals given. 25:25 - Empowering the local church to support their communities 26:00 - Social currency is valuable - sharing Convoy of Hope supports the cause 26:27 - Creating a night-time routine to sleep. Reading a book to help take the focus off himself. 27:10 - "Are you willing to be generous in your time of distress?" - Thinking of others - who can I minister to? 28:15 - Getting our kids to buy in to the process of giving. 29:45 - We don't need false humility. Humility is realizing how God made me and using it to the best of our ability. 30:30 - "Our awesomeness isn't because we're awesome, our awesomeness is because God created us to be awesome." 31:00 - There's no such thing as balance, we have tension. The tighter we have tension, then the more we can balance. Need to have tension to be the most incredible we can be while still giving God the glory. 31:40 - Teaching his daughter to use her artistic gifts to the best of her ability because God gave her those gifts. God created the art so he could point back to him. 31:54 - "Keeping humility is saying 'I know who I am and I know who gave it to me and I'm going to use it to the best of my ability." 32:32 - Pride - "a false view of oneself." 33:20 - False humility can also be pride... We're still not seeing God how he created us 33:25 - "Humility is seeing how God created us and living in that" 33:54 - "I need to be who God created me to be at 100%. Not for me, but so god can get the glory" 34:40 - "Listen, dads. You are awesome. You are their only dad and they think you are the man" 36:13 - Praying promises over our kids 36:25 - "Our prayers and our words are the raw materials that our children build their lives with" Steven Steven Furtick 37:35 - Sticky statements that capture the promises of God over their kid

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Share a post about @dadawesome on Facebook or Instagram #dadawesome Dr. Clarence Shuler Dr. Clarence and Brenda are parents to three young adult daughters (he's the minority in their sorority), author, marriage counselor, speaker, and life & relationship coach. He is the President/CEO of BLR: Building Lasting Relationships. For nearly 35 years, Clarence and Brenda have conducted marriage, discipleship, men's, women's, and single seminars internationally. They are members of FamilyLife Weekend To Remember Marriage Conference Speaker Team. Recently, Clarence was a marriage expert on Oprah Winfrey's Love Goals reality show. Episode Notes 1:00 - PRAYER from 2 Corinthians 12:9 "But he answered me, "My grace is always more than enough for you, and my power finds its full expression through your weakness." So I will celebrate my weaknesses, for when I'm weak I sense more deeply the mighty power of Christ living in me" 2:12 - thanks for sharing dadAWESOME on social media 2:30 - check out the YouTube channel: https://bit.ly/YouTubeDAsubscribe 3:00 - DA Daily - text the word "dad" to the number 33222 3:30 - Jeff's introduction of Dr. Clarence Shuler 4:55 - Dr. Clarence introduces himself (see bio above) 6:06 - Being a dad to three girls 7:20 - "The most important thing any dad can do is spend more time with their kids" 7:30 - "Quality time comes from quantity of time" 8:15 - Be accessible. Keep the door open. 8:45 - Love your kids mother. When kids see a dad love their mother it gives the kids important security 9:22 - Marriage tips 9:30 - "How I treat my wife is a reflection of how I love God" 9:50 - Pray with your wife 9:55 - "That closeness with your wife lets her bloom. She can't be the woman God designed her to be until she feels security from us" 10:25 - Be a servant leader 12:03 - My girls belong to God. I'm just a steward. 12:20 - What we do with our kids impacts our children's children. You're impacting generations 13:52 - Importance of focussing on your kids from birth through 10 years old 14:30 - The value of mentorship 15:00 - Spotting a mentor that he pursued 16:00 - You can get a lot of wisdom from your wife if you're brave enough to ask for it 16:25 - Learning to apologize to your kids 17:12 - The Fatherhood Commission 18:15 - Learning to heal the father wound 18:50 - Writing a letter to your dad... Bringing closure and healing. 20:00 - The video about honoring your father and writing intentional letters: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-wG04x288c 20:30 - The Book "Choose Greatness" 21:00 - I wrote this book because I wanted to spend more time with my mentor and spiritual father 23:00 - This book was written for a 10 year old boy through men in their 20's 24:00 - Steps towards growing a mentor relationship into a spiritual father relationship 24:45 - Older guys really love it when young men come asking for wisdom 25:12 - Go ask that guy... Don't hesitate to acknowledge something you see and ask that mentor for a meeting 26:30 - Time machine advice = spend more time and pray more with your kids 27:25 - You're launching your kids... You can't spend too much time with your kids 28:45 - The importance of dads knowing what their kids are doing on the internet 29:18 - Get someone to mentor you who is a leader 29:39 - Dr. Clarences prayer over all of us Episode Links Choose Greatness: 11 Wise Decisions that Brave Young Men Make Paperback by Gary Chapman & Dr. Clarence Shuler Other books from Dr. Clarence Shuler Building Lasting Relationships

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads by passing along these resources: Subscribe to the dadAWESOME YouTube channel Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Share a post about @dadawesome on Facebook or Instagram #dadawesome Pierre du Plessis Born in Johannesburg, South Africa, Pierre du Plessis and his family relocated in 1999 to pastor The Father's House, a multi-cultural, multi-generational, and multi-site church located in Rochester, NY. Pierre is known for his unique ability to bring the Bible to life using vivid illustrations mixed with humor and practical life application. He is passionate about mentoring & equipping leaders, engaging all generations and encouraging people to experience God. He is married to his best friend and partner in ministry, Marlize and they have two young adult children, Chloe and Caleb. Conversation Transcript About 6 months ago, I met Pastor Pierre down in Dallas, Texas, and now, today we're recording a dadAWESOME conversation. On behalf of all our guests, welcome to the show. Thank you so much. This is just a privilege to learn from you. So you're in Rochester, New York, but originally from South Africa, is that correct? That's right. Yes, we've been here now 20 years in Rochester. Two decades and you lead as the lead pastor of The Father's House in Rochester, NY. Will you help our listeners get to know you a little bit, Pastor Pierre, and talk about your wife, your family, your kids, and a little bit of what you're up to for leadership in ministry. Yes, so as you already mentioned, I come from South Africa. Born, and my family, everybody they come from a deep line of ministry. If I say ministry I think to put the context of ministry, it's a Pentecostal, conservative Pentecostal home that deeply loved Jesus and believed in prayer. Those are the good things. So many other things that roll from it, right? But it's all good. When I was about 33, we came to the U.S. It was not a straight narrative, there's so much to it, and I think some of that is learning that getting to where God wants you may take some U-Turns and loops, it's not always a straight line. We came when my kids were still small. I've got two kids. My daughter Chloe is the oldest. She was I think about a year and a half and my son was close to eight months when we came over, Caleb. My wife, Marlize comes from a great house too. South Africa is interesting, because you have so many cultures wrapped together in a very small land space. I come from a very very Afrikaans Dutch family. My wife, same country, she comes from an English family. So, different culture, different vibe. I like the English people, they're just laid back. Coming to her was like coming home for me, it's just the vibe, the culture, her as a person. Coming to Rochester, NY, I came as the creative arts and worship Pastor of a small church here in Rochester. About two years into this, we had the opportunity to start leading the church, and the rest is history. It has been a phenomenal, phenomenal ride, and we are so thankful that God pointed to us and called us over. That's amazing, and I know partially from my Lead Pastor, Pastor Peter Haas, and him talking about you, and even some of the leadership you do globally, even beyond, way beyond Rochester, New York, so thank you for all the areas you're leading in, but let's talk about leadership at home for a second. How old are your kids now? Are they out of the house now? I hope they'll never leave the house. You know, the fun thing is that my kids are, my daughter I think is 24 right now, my son, almost 22. Right about then I know some of the people are now reverse engineering their ages, I'll go, I'm always off with ages and with stages. They are just amazing, amazing kids, because all kids do not come packaged the same, so I don't think looking at our kids and how they're turning out is always a reflection of how we got it right. I think, when I look at my kids, The Lord was very kind to us because these two young adults are phenomenal human beings, and I know the seed that's been sown over the years has been consistent. They are still living at home. When it was time for them to leave, I said to my wife, "I'm not ready. I'm going to buy a house that they will never want to leave." And I did. I did. But now my son talks about leaving, and I applaud that, because that's what he wants to do. We are a close family, we like each other a lot, we do. That's what we all pray for, that closeness and a love to be together. Now, you mentioned sowing seeds. Just sowing seeds, I think you said consistency. Can you talk about, maybe if you had to prioritize a few areas of sowing seeds, and just consistent fatherhood to us young dads listening, what a

dadAWESOME Today we kickoff SEASON 2 of dadAWESOME. We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. Thanks for helping us reach more dads with our resources. Here's a few ways to help us spread the word: Text a few other dads and encourage them to check out www.dadawesome.org and subscribe to the podcast Leave a rating and review on Apple Podcasts Share a post about @dadawesome on Facebook or Instagram #dadawesome Scott Magdalein Scott Magdalein joins us for a conversation about leaning into time together as a family, living on a boat with young kids, and his son giving him hope to move home and seek healing and forgiveness in a failing marriage. Scott and his wife Erica have three young kids and live in Jacksonville, FL where they lead a ministry focussed on helping couples walk through forgiveness and healing. They love to travel and share their adventures with the world. Conversation Notes: 5:53 - Links to Scott's company ServeHQ and TrainedUp 8:50 - Living on a boat with a young family. Learning patience through living in a small space. 9:40 - Small homes build tight knit families 10:34 - Families values. They lean into time together. 11:12 - The reasons they don't have a TV in their home 11:55 - "Even when things are hard, we try to lean into time together as a family" 13:00 - His boys light up and their eyes shine when they play LEGO's together 14:26 - Scott's philosophy of training and how it impacts their families approach to homeschooling 15:12 - Being intentional about the time spent with kids. Make the time relational and find other ways for information transfer. 17:20 - Dad fail story about spanking his son and accidentally spanking too hard. Causing his son to fear him. 19:30 - Devastating story of marriage pain 22:15 - "I'm about to make a conscious decision to step away from my son. God used my son to get me to move back into the house and he brought forgiveness and he healed our marriage and healed my heart" 23:15 - Fight or Flight 27:00 - Jesus removes our shame. 28:30 - God can replace your pain with joy. 28:45 - "I can handle the pain because I get to spend time with my son" 30:30 - Our Little Family Traveling YouTube Travel channel 32:00 - Travel Tip - Google Flights 33:20 - Travel Tip - Home Exchange 35:00 - Legacy. It's not about building a career or large amounts of money. 35:50 - "It's very difficult to spend quality time with your family and push for career advancement" 36:45 - Spending time with his family is the thin that matters most 39:00 - Scott's wife prayers the closing prayer

Jeff Zaugg unpacks three fatherhood principles in this special bonus episode as we approach the launch of dadAWESOME Season 2. Let's double down on WISDOM, allow pain to fuel PASSION and add LIFE to the dad life. Double Down on WISDOM JOHN ELDREDGE - Ransomed Heart: https://www.ransomedheart.com/podcast Paul Cole Episode - https://dadawesome.org/episode84/ Pain Fuels PASSION Book -- A Grace Disguised: How the Soul Grows Through Loss, By: Jerry Sittser Loss can expand our ability to experience beauty Adding LIFE to the Dad Life Deuteronomy 30:19 "This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you LIFE and DEATH, blessings and curses. Now choose LIFE, so that you and your children may LIVE." John 10:10 God wants you to thrive, not just to survive Deuteronomy 30 What's really important for us to do? Return to God Obey God with all your heart and soul Love God Walk in His ways Keep God's commands and decrees Turn to the Lord Don't turn and bow to other gods. Don't worship other gods Choose life Listen to God's voice Hold fast to God The blessings: God will reveal to us and our children God will restore our fortunes God will have compassion on us God will gather us from the scattered nations God will bring back even the banished God will give us possession of the promise land God will make you prosperous God will make you numerous God will circumcise your hearts to love Him and LIVE God will put curses on your enemies God will make you prosperous in all the work of your hands God will make your prosperous in the fruit of your womb God will make you prosperous in the young of your livestock God will make you prosperous in the crops of your land God will delight in you, just as he delighted in your fathers= You will LIVE You will increase God will bless you in the land you are entering You and your children will LIVE God is your LIFE You will LIVE many years "It is impossible for us to be dadAWESOME for our kids unless we experience dadAWESOME from our Heavenly Father" Matthew 3:17 "And a voice from heaven said, "This is My beloved Son, in whom I am well pleased!"This is my son, whom I love and in whom I am well pleased" Worship - The Blessing The Blessing with Kari Jobe & Cody Carnes | Live From Elevation Ballantyne | Elevation Worship https://youtu.be/Zp6aygmvzM4

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Paul Hurckman and recorded this conversation in August of 2018. Originally released as Episode 38, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS >> June 20th, 2020 MISSION: End fatherlessness globally. Every child with a man they can call father. (Malachi 4:6a "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents") VISION: We ignite a father's calling by connecting him body and soul with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS will change your life by forcing you to look past yourself. On the one weekend when it's easiest to sit home and consume, we're going to push ourselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. GOAL: 100 dads riding 100 miles raising $100,000+ for the fatherless. Registration & more information : Click Here Paul Hurckman Paul and his wife, Candace, have 4 children (2 bigs and 2 littles) and they live in Minneapolis where they love to bike, run and host popsicle extravaganza gatherings for their neighborhood. Paul is the Executive Director at Venture Expeditions. In This Episode: -- Shifting mentality to being an ALL-on-DAD -- What messages do you want regularly communicate to your kids? -- Our truest version of our dreams are birthed in God's design -- Harold and the Purple Crayon - Drawing a better picture for our family and the Kingdom -- Raising kids that will cross the street for the sake of the Gospel -- Becoming less comfortable for the sake of other people -- Shalom - being in right relationship with your maker, with each other, and with creation RESOURCES: -- dadAWESOME Podcast -- The Bible Project -- Book: Wonder -- Book: Big Hair, Don't Care: Other Mentioned Podcasts: - Bart Scharrer Episode 17

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Jonathan McKee and recorded this conversation in February 2019. Originally released as Episodes 59 & 60, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Jonathan McKee With over 20 years youth ministry experience, Jonathan speaks to parents and leaders worldwide. He's the author of over twenty books including the brand new THE TEEN'S GUIDE TO SOCIAL MEDIA & MOBILE DEVICES and IF I HAD A PARENTING DO OVER. Jonathan, his wife, Lori, and their three kids live in California and he resources parents with ongoing resources at TheSource4Parents.com. Conversation Notes The research is clear, parents overwhelmingly look back and say "I wish I had spent more time with my kids" Song: Cats In The Cradle-Harry Chapin The YES Factor – no matter what, if my kids came to me to ask "Hey dad, will you do this?", the answer would be YES. Overreaction is never the answer. Be careful with saying to yourself, "I've got this". James 1:19 – quick to listen and slow to speak and slow to become angry Hit the "Pause Button" and take time before responding. After giving your kid time to cool off, ask them what they think the consequence should be It was me messing up that gave me the insight to do it right the next time "Angry outbursts teach our kids I can't go to mom, she'll freak out or dad isn't safe. Consider the ramifications of that feeling. If mom or dad isn't safe, then who will our kids run to for comfort, for advice and for admiration." The most important thing I tell parents when they begin learning about culture and media is "Don't Freak Out". Boundary Fast >> don't add boundaries, but instead begin the process by working on bonding. We must bond before we can add boundaries The Segue – the dissolve from one thing to another. We must slowly fade back on our boundaries as our kids grow older. Kids need clear boundaries, but those boundaries must pull back as they approach leaving the home and deciding for themselves. We need to look for opportunities for our kids to practice making decisions for themselves. MORE INFO: Free resource from Jonathan McKee: Answering 30 top questions from today's parents Common Sense Media has a study from 2015 >> teenagers average 9 hours per day of media consumption In 2012 Americans crossed the 50% mark for smart phone owners 12-17 year olds… 89% of them have a smart phone We Listen to Music For More Than 4 1/2 Hours A Day, Nielsen Says – more info Adults average 10 hours and 45 minutes per day on media Parents spend more time looking at a screen than talking with their kids or their spouse Anxiety, depression and teen suicide… Mental health is taking a dive and all the studies are saying that smart phones are playing a big part and self-esteem is at an all-time low The more time you spend on your device and especially social media, the more depressed you will be The average kid gets a smartphone at 10.3 years old Instagram and Snapchat only allows kids 13 years old or older (COPA privacy law) Free resource from Jonathan McKee: Answering 30 top questions from today's parents No mater how many parent controls you have, you can't block everything. The best parental control is conversations with your kids Guide for parental controls from Common Sense Media How do we start having conversations and teaching truth in this world of lies? If we teach our kids truth, it's going to equip them when they are exposed to the world's lies. Three Types of Parents: (Alexandra Samuels study with 10,000 parents) Limiter Enablers Media Mentors Jonathan's Featured Books: The Teen's Guide to Social Media & Mobile Devices 21 Tips to Wise Posting in an Insecure World If I Had a Parenting Do-Over: 7 Vital Changes I'd Make

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Carlos Whittaker and recorded this conversation in November 2019. Originally released as Episodes 46 & 47, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Carlos Whittaker Carlos Whittaker is a People's Choice Award winner, a former recording artist signed to a major label, a social media maven, and currently spends the majority of his time writing books and speaking on stages around the world. It really began when the Whittaker's found their family in America's spotlight with appearances on shows like CBS Early Morning, The Today Show and more when their viral video "Single Ladies Devastation" went viral. But for Carlos, his wife Heather and their three children, this viral moment was just a snapshot of the bigger picture. Conversation Notes: This vulnerable conversation explores the power of words, living as a Great Commission reflecting family, the powerful example of his father and finding freedom through identifying lies hidden deep in our hearts. Praying for a double portion of God's wisdom Steeping our decisions in prayer Staying true to who your children are Breaking agreements with the enemy The power of words Jesus never prayed the problem. He always prayed the promise. The natural shifts of parenting seasons Living as a great commission reflecting family If we only look for Jesus in the serious then we're going to miss half of him Medicating behaviors vs. core lies that we're believing as fathers Stop trying to inspire your way out of sin. The only way to find freedom from these behaviors is to get to the root lie in your heart. To disturb and disrupt will be the place we are most awakened Why don't we disturb and disrupt ourselves on purpose so that we can continue to grow and mature. In order to show our kids wonder, we must go backwards and slow things down. The power of a "Pause" – what am I not noticing around me? Look at the life of Jesus – how was he a moment maker? Jesus created moments for people on purpose In order to create moments for other people, we must first receive moments from God Pause, slow down and rest to lower the volume of life How many stories (the amount of data) am I listening to in the first 5-minutes of my day? Massively limit screen time (It's always easier to add more then to take it away) SPIES acronym: Socially Physically Intellectually Emotionally Spiritually Showing our kids more what it looks like to be like Jesus https://carloswhittaker.com/ Moment Maker Kill The Spider Carlos on Facebook Carlos on Instagram Carlos on Twitter

Top 10 Revisited Jeff sat down with Ryan Skoog and recorded this conversation in June 2019. Originally released as Episode 77, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Ryan Skoog Ryan is an entrepreneur, ministry leader, world traveler and adventure dad. He started Fly for Good, Volunteer Card, Yonder Travel Insurance, and the non profit Venture.org which helps people do tough things to help people in tough places around the world. Conversation Notes: 4:20 – Story of the first moments after their son was born 4:50 – "That was our welcome to parenthood. Welcome to getting on your knees and crying out to God in prayer" 5:34 – "I want to stay fighting on my knees like this all of the time for my kids" 6:30 – Story of travel and being exposed to those in need around the world 7:50 – Story of Ryan's dad and mixing love for travel with love for evangelism and serving others 9:25 – The impact of waking up and finding his dad reading his Bible every morning (praying through Psalm 91 over his family) 9:55 – Praying Ephesians chapter 1 and Ephesians chapter 3 over his kids 10:40 – Ryan explaining his career journey and the story of launching Venture 14:15 – the other organizations that Ryan leads: https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/ 16:20 – "As parents, we shouldn't just have experiences where we celebrate together with our kids. We also need experiences where we struggle together. Where we sacrifice together" 17:28 – "Instead of being an amazing leader & a decent dad, I want to be an amazing dad & a decent leader. If I have to make a choice, I want to take the same entrepreneurial type of thinking & intentionality to being a dad as I would to being a leader." 18:30 – "I wanted to be able to create experiences, key moments for my kids surrounded around our families core values" 18:50 – Ryan explains the step by step plan for creating these 1-on-1 moments with his kids Age 6 or 7 — Adventure in the woods. Create a cross. 20:05 – Rock Climbing while learning about character and values. Character anchors us like a rope anchors us 20:40 – Cliff jumping for learning about courage 21:40 – The set-up for the adventure the night before. Burnt edge paper with a note. 24 hour blitz trips. 22:30 – Climbing up a mountain for a sunrise. Holiness and Purity. "It's tough, but it's worth it" 23:50 – Mother/daughter trip to Chicago for tea. 24:35 – Trip to a church in Alaska with Ryan's dad and his son. A prayer moment. A moment about legacy. 25:15 – An adventure when they spend a night on the streets. Learning about compassion. 25:45 – Mission trips to difficult places in third world countries have transformed their kids. Their kids pray every night for these kids without mommy's and daddy's 28:20 – Normalizing in a good way intentional parenting 28:35 – The family dashboard of values and mission and prayers they are praying as a family. 29:30 – Memorizing scripture as a family 30:05 – "We should not, as parents, have a mentality that outsources faith to the church. They should reinforce what we are doing as parents" 30:30 – Every member of their family has a Fruit of the Spirit that they're working to grow in 32:10 – Introducing the focussed Fruit of the Spirit – KINDNESS 34:30 – Story of the early church adopting babies left in the trash – "The church was started on kindness" 35:15 – Inviting our kids to be able to call us as parents out when we are violating the Fruit of the Spirit 37:40 – Catching your kids doing something good and celebrating it 38:40 – Daily prayer focus 39:30 – Having the interviewing questions with our kids. Asking for feedback from them on how we are doing as dads 40:00 – Using code words to express large emotions with a short phrase 40:30 – "If you pray for something for your kids, you will see it start to happen" 41:00 – "God is actively wanting to answer prayers from parents for their kids. It's pretty amazing." 41:55 – Ryan's last words… Add more intentionality to your dad life. 42:50 – We need each other Recommended Books: The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place Hardcover (Andy Crouch) Boundaries with Kids: How Healthy Choices Grow Healthy Children (Henry Cloud and John Town) Boundaries with Teens: When to Say Yes, How to Say No Paperback (John Townsend) The Entitlement Cure: Finding Success in Doing Hard Things the Right Way (John Townsend) Take entrepreneurial business books and apply those principles to being a dad Links: Chosen: A 30 Day Devotional Venture Expeditions https://www.faithventures.com https://www.flyforgood.com/ https://www.volunteercard.com/ https://www.insureyonder.com/

Regi Campbell Regi is a serial entrepreneur who has founded 15 companies and has now devoted this phase of his life to creating a mentoring approach that produces incredible leaders and deep discipleship. Last Summer he was leading his 18th mentoring group and he has now personally invested in 144 men and indirectly, in their marriages and families. Here's a list of 6 things that Regi did every day: I will walk with Jesus every day I will be grateful and live every day to the fullest I will bless my family with words, pictures, and videos I will invest in "my guys" for their good, God's glory – not mine I will not give up and "run out the clock" I will let people love on me! Conversation Notes: 4:40 - "You're just doing what Jesus did... He handpicked a group of men for a season of time and invested in them" 5:25 - "My goal is 5 generations of multiplication. If that happens, more than a million men will have been equipped to manage life better" 6:00 - "The only way to leave a legacy is for Jesus to use you to pour into others who have a hunger to pour into others as well" 6:50 - Regi shares his goal of investing in mentors who mentors others 7:50 - The key to something being sustained is that it must be motivated by selflessness and it must have intentionality 8:50 - Anything you care about should have intentionality 9:15 - The importance of raising kids who are becoming good adults 9:45 - Basic principles of Radical Mentoring 10:50 - Make sure that your kids know that you love them 11:25 - I realized that I have a perfect Heavenly Father who loves me 13:50 - There is always something that you don't know 14:35 - Story about Andy Stanley putting his kids to bed and asking about their heart 15:15 - Be firm, but don't lose track of their heart 16:05 - Make time in the morning to connect one-on-one 16:30 - The importance of sharing with our kids what is going on in our life if we want them to share with us 16:45 - Talking to your kids like they are adults and really connecting with them 17:20 - Be a dad who is in your son or daughters presence 18:25 - Be careful not to exasperate your children Provoke Stir up anger Do not irritate Do not be hard 20:50 - The importance of keeping our kids emotional tanks full 22:00 - The danger of jumping to conclusions 24:45 - The value of a slower pace and limiting activities and a hurried life 26:20 - Sadly we don't have many spiritual mentors and hero's that we want to be like 27:00 - Matthew 28:19-20 The Message (MSG) "Jesus, undeterred, went right ahead and gave his charge: "God authorized and commanded me to commission you: Go out and train everyone you meet, far and near, in this way of life, marking them by baptism in the threefold name: Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. Then instruct them in the practice of all I have commanded you. I'll be with you as you do this, day after day after day, right up to the end of the age." 29:20 - Encouraging dads to be intentional and initiate... lead yourself 29:35 - You get what you glorify. Whatever you glorify, that's what your kids will lean into. 31:00 Story about intentionality and helping his kids find good friendships 34:00 - Curating Your Kids Friends 35:30 - Proverbs 24:3-6 "By wisdom a house is built, and through understanding it is established; through knowledge its rooms are filled with rare and beautiful treasures. The wise prevail through great power, and those who have knowledge muster their strength. Surely you need guidance to wage war, and victory is won through many advisers.through wisdom and knowledge it's filled with treasures" Knowledge is just data Understanding is context Wisdom is taking data and filtering it through context and being wise with decisions Links: Regi's Website Radical Mentoring Mentor Like Jesus and Regi's other books

Top 10 Revisited: Jeff sat down with Jeremy Pryor and recorded this conversation in April 2019. Originally released as Episode 66, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Jeremy Pryor Jeremy Pryor is a business owner, creative entrepreneur, author, podcaster and a builder of multiple movements with family at the core. We're incredibly thankful for this conversation with Jeremy about his time in Jerusalem, welcoming his children into creative roles in his company and the long term iterating of their family sabbath. Conversation Highlights: Meeting his wife in Jerusalem (7:55) Jewish dads and the intentionality of men with children ((9:30) The life of Abraham and his role as a father (9:45) Asking a dangerous question- is there a connection with Abraham and how he saw family? (10:40) The Bible exclusively sees family through a fatherhood and family lens Abraham saw family as a multigenerational team on mission (11:30) Fatherhood insights from Jerusalem – Encounter, consider it, be influenced, adopt these principles (12:00) Story about Jeremy's daughter joining him on mission with his podcast (13:20) It's ok to sweep your kids into your own quirky obsessions (14:20) >> Strategically propagandizing his kids Superhero movies and the explosion of interest with the mythical (15:40) They read the same 5 passages of scripture each week as a family (16:50) Book Life together by Bonhoeffer Deuteronomy 6 Bible Midrash (17:30) Friday night epic meal to kick off the sabbath (18:00) Friday feast – Iterating on their sabbath for 15 years (18:20) It's a skill to learn how to honor God with the sabbath (19:45) Entering Rest Cleaning up as a team. Make it a dance party (20:15) Sabbath – if your kids don't see the sabbath day as their favorite day of the week, then you're doing it wrong" (22:00) The sabbath is the Zenith of the week. Make it fun and make it meaningful and give yourself lot's of grace. The goal is for the sabbath to be life giving Goal – for his kids to all want to honor the sabbath when they are grown A mentor told Jeremy that he wasn't connecting with his sons heart (25:00) My bar was not at the right place with regards to what it meant to really have your kids heart at every stage (26:50) Are you partnering really well with your wife in this current season? (28:50) Don't be passive. Be a leader. Be a directive leader. (29:00) Be a strong central presence in the home in the stage of young kids. (30:00) Be a culture setter in the home (30:20) Creativity is within the mandate of Genesis 1 (30:45) God had a creative challenge and he set loose the family (31:30) There in nothing more central to the mandate of the family than being creative (32:20) Thinking about family as an investment with a much longer time horizon (34:00) We are not the center of our story. We're part of a much bigger multigenerational story (34:45) When dads start thinking multigenerational (35:20) Resources from Jeremy Pryor: https://familyteams.com/podcasts/ The Skill of Fatherhood Masterclass https://epipheo.com/ https://familyteams.com/resources/ https://www.1kh.org/ http://www.storyformedlife.org/

Top 10 Revisited: Jeff sat down with John Wyatt and recorded this conversation in summer 2018. Originally released as Episode 33, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. John Wyatt John Wyatt lives in Jacksonville, FL with his wife Carrie (21 years married) and two teenage daughters (14 & 17). He has been serving for over 10 years at Celebration Church and is currently an Executive Pastor. This incredible conversation explores asking for forgiveness, praying for our kids to hear God's voice, honoring the Lord with our money and the parallels between surfing ocean waves and our role as fathers. Love God, Serve Others, Win Souls & Have Fun When was the last time you apologized to your kids? (Will you forgive me?) How do you know that I love you? It's because I discipline you. Guide your kids to honor God with money Do not miss your kids activities. Cherish every moment. James 4:1-2 What causes fights and quarrels among you? Don't they come from your desires that battle within you? You desire but do not have, so you kill. You covet but you cannot get what you want, so you quarrel and fight. You do not have because you do not ask God. Ephesians 6:1-3 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. "Honor your father and mother"—which is the first commandment with a promise— "so that it may go well with you and that you may enjoy long life on the earth. Recommended Resources: On Becoming Baby Wise: Giving Your Infant the Gift of Nighttime Sleep (Robert Bucknam) Growing Kids God's Way: Reaching the Heart of Your Child With a God-Centered Purpose Good and Angry: Exchanging Frustration for Character in You and Your Kids! (Scott Turansky) Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood (Lisa Damour)

Edrin Williams Edrin Williams joins dadAWESOME for our 3rd segment of our "Best Of" winter throwback series. This episode was originally recorded on Valentines Day of 2019. This conversation challenges us to enjoy the journey and love our kids from a place of being loved by our Heavenly Father. Edrin is the Senior Pastor at The Sanctuary Covenant Church in Minneapolis and with his wife Shanequa they have two beautiful girls, Taylor 9 & Harper 3. Conversation Notes Give the the gift of your presence to your family Step in and enjoy the journey of being a dad Your kids trust you and need you to be a big safe adult who loves them Friday night family night. The power of protecting these moments. We must receive love from our Heavenly Father Remember you're a beloved son of God Invite mentors to speak into your fathering Let your kids enjoy the process (stop over managing and pushing them) Celebrate your wife (cheer her along) Intergenerational Relationships (look ahead, your peers and younger dads) Pursuing mentors and Godly friends to learn and grow in your dad role. If you want to make a difference in this world, one place you can change the world is being present and making a difference in your kids. Asking intentional questions to help our kids think through their choices. It's our job as fathers to care for the souls of our children Let your wife know that supporting your family and your kids is a top priority Dads! Your role is more significant than you realize.

Top 10 Revisited: Jeff sat down with Rick Glewwe and recorded this conversation in summer 2018. Originally released as Episode 32, this conversation is being revisited as part of our Throwback Winter Series. Rick Glewwe: Rick Glewwe joins dadAWESOME with a heart-wrenching message of fighting through "bigger than myself" moments and learning to surrender to God's grace and hope. — Has pain and loss defined your perspective as a dad? — Do you desire a supernatural strength that is beyond your understanding? — Have you worked to build brotherhood that will be with you in the highs and lows? In this interview: — Dealing with pain and loss — We are not home yet — "Bigger than Myself" visions — All Fight, No Flight — If you invest in others, you will never be wanting Rick Glewwe is a father, pastor and leader. His deep commitment to his family inspires many to fight for "bigger than myself" visions, even when pain and loss have tainted our perspective. A Tale of three Kings: A Study in Brokenness by Gene Edwards

Top 10 Revisited: Jeff sat down with Matt Keller and recorded a 2-part conversation in September or 2018. The dadAWESOME Episodes were released in November of 2018 as part of the Inside-Out Dad Life series. This conversation is the best of both episodes revisited. Matt Keller: Matt Keller is a people builder at his core. With more than twenty years in the people business, he is an authority on what it takes to build great teams and a great organization. Matt Keller is a Pastor, Author, Speaker and Leadership Coach. His insight on organizational and personal leadership helps businesses, nonprofits, and churches take their organizations to the next level. Conversation Notes: Leading from a full heart Who you do life with shapes who you become Parenting out of past pain Winning the first hour The 0-6, 6-12, and 12-18 parenting zones Tilling the soil of your heart Your parenting comes where you came from Words create worlds Counselors are not for crazy people Being alert to your excuses Being the dad YOUR specific kids need Questions for Time Alone With God: What am I afraid of? How Close am I to burnout? Where do I feel like I'm winning? Where do I feel like I'm struggling? Where do I feel like I'm out of balance? Am I over hobbying? Am I under hobbying? Am I under resting? How Am I doing with my Sabbath Day? How is my marriage? How's my relationship with God? How Am I doing at sitting in my Heavenly Fathers lap and just receiving from Him? Books Mentioned: Leading on Empty: Refilling Your Tank and Renewing Your Passion (Wayne Cordeiro) God of the Underdogs: When the Odds Are Against You, God Is For You (Matt Keller) The Key To Everything: Unlocking the Life You Dream of Living (Matt Keller)

Overview: Jeff Zaugg prays two impactful prayers over his family and every listener. These are prayers that have deepened his faith and our prayer is that by ending the year 2019 in prayer, we will enter 2020 to new levels of courage, freedom and faith. Prayer #1: Daily Declarations 2:05 - Jeff praying his daily declarations This list of declarations was inspired by Pastor Craig Groeschel's List of Positive Affirmations to Renew Your Mind Here's Jeff's prayer Prayer #2: Kill The Spider Prayer 6:12 - Prayer of Freedom and Protection from Kill the Spider by Carlos Whittaker (Adapted from John Eldridge) Link to the book Kill The Spider Link to John Eldridge resources

Chuck Zaugg: Jeff Zaugg recorded this special episode of dadAWESOME the day after his dad, Chuck went home to Heaven to be with Jesus. Chuck was 67 years old and after a 100-week battle with brain cancer and lung cancer, our prayers were answered and he is now healed completely in Heaven. Chuck loved God, pursued a passionate 43 years of marriage with his wife, Pam, and he lovingly cheered along all four kids and 11 grandkids. Chuck lived with wisdom and he had an amazing ability to have a vision or dream and see it through to completion. This episode of dadAWESOME is a tiny fraction of what could be shared about Chuck Zaugg and we pray it inspires all of us to live life with anticipation and keep our eyes shining with wonder. Episode Notes: 1:00 - My dad, Chuck Zaugg, moving from paradise to PARADISE 1:45 - "When we live live with anticipation, we live life with shiny eyes." 3:10 - We called my dad "Papa" 4:00 - Romans 8 - God's Spirit beckons. There are things to do and places to go! This resurrection life you received from God is not a timid, grave-tending life. It's adventurously expectant, greeting God with a childlike "What's next, Papa?" God's Spirit touches our spirits and confirms who we really are. We know who he is, and we know who we are: Father and children. And we know we are going to get what's coming to us—an unbelievable inheritance! We go through exactly what Christ goes through. If we go through the hard times with him, then we're certainly going to go through the good times with him! That's why I don't think there's any comparison between the present hard times and the coming good times. The created world itself can hardly wait for what's coming next. Everything in creation is being more or less held back. God reins it in until both creation and all the creatures are ready and can be released at the same moment into the glorious times ahead. Meanwhile, the joyful anticipation deepens. 6:05 - Episode 100 talking about launching our kids further and faster than they could go on their own 6:25 - "Just Another Day in Paradise" 7:15 - Living life with anticipation of more of Heaven coming here on earth 7:42 - Here are 10 ways I want to be a dad like my dad: 7:55 - 1. Loved My Mom - he kissed my mom daily. He served my mom. He valued and deeply loved his wife. 8:26 - 2. Family Man - his eyes shined with love for his family… dinners together, sports together, vacations together, play together 8:42 - 3. Integrity - telling the truth and following through on commitments always 8:48 - 4. Dream Chaser - seeing the future and believing in faith that he could move past obstacles to get there 9:46 - 5. Hard Work - the hardest working man I've ever met 9:57 - 6. Excellence - he cared about the little things and he was always proud of his work. 10:05 - 7. Love For Others - he deeply cared about people and his care often led him to serving them 10:31 - 8. Problem Solver - the creative ability to not get stuck and find a way when there seemed like there's no way 10:53 - 9. Generationally Generous - my dad built a family business that will bless his grandkids and beyond. He gave and has continued to give to his kids and his grandkids. 11:15 - 10. Surrounded by Praying Friends - show me your friends and I'll show you your future… story of Jack kneeling in prayer 13:05 - Advice = "Keep reading the book of Proverbs and keep making wise choices" 13:35 - The Wisemen from the Christmas story (Matthew 2) 14:03 - Part 1 - When the star reappeared "they were so ecstatic that they shouted and celebrated with unrestrained joy." ANTICIPATION 14:26 - Part 2 - When they came into the house and saw the young child with Mary, "they were overcome. Falling to the ground at his feet they worshiped him." - EXULTATION 15:00 - Part 3 - After bowing in worship, they made a generous DEMONSTRATION of their faith… their response was to GIVE their resources. "Then they opened their treasure boxes full of gifts and presented him with gold, frankincense, and myrrh." 15:46 - Part 4 - REVELATION >> Clarity from Heaven... = "Afterward they returned to their own country by another route because God had warned them in a dream not to go back to Herod." 18:35 - Ask your Heavenly Father, "What's the revelation you have for me? How can I live with a forward leaning anticipation for what God has next?" 19:00 - Jeff's prayer 20:30 - Worship song, "It Is Well" by Bethel Worship Episode Links: Chuck Zaugg's Caring Bridge Final Post from Pam Zaugg Episode 100 talking about Chuck Zaugg building a launch ramp for Jeff Song - "It Is Well" from Bethel Worship Zaugg Resort website

Thanking The Team: 1. My wife, Michelle – 1000 hours of support. She is momAWESOME 2. My inner circle of friends – Drew, Paul, Mario & Jay 3. Substance Church - Specifically the support from Pastor Peter Haas & Pastor Nate Puccini 4. Wade Branch - audio mixing/mastering 5. Brent Haglund – Podcast Music // Pin Drop Remix 6. Joshua Davis – website (Smart Web Ninja) 7. Artem Anderson – graphics and logo 8. Jake Hanson - writing show notes 9. Tyler Van Eps - writing show notes 10. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Team - Core leaders Tyler Sevlie and Andy Rosenau along with our partner ministry VENTURE We Want Your Feedback: Please take 5-minutes to complete the 100 Week Feedback Survey (making the next 100 weeks more awesome that the first 100 weeks) About Jeff Zaugg: Jeff and his wife Michelle have been married for almost 14 years and they have three amazing daughters (6, 3 and 1). Jeff is the KIDS Pastor at Substance Church and lives in the Twin Cities. Jeff started the dadAWESOME podcast 100 weeks ago. Episode 100 Live Recording Notes: THANK YOU to Chick-Fil-A Northtown for supporting the Episode 100 live recording party. 9:25 - How do you stay intentional about connecting with your kids? Do you have any resources that have helped you be an intentional dad? 10:55 - Episode 1 of dadAWESOME = We Trust God 13:52 - "Am I adding LIFE to my family or taking away LIFE? Does this ambition, commitment, pursuit, hobby, etc. bring LIFE to my family?" 14:14 - "After 100 weeks of dadAWESOME, I'm at a place where I love being a dad more now than I did 100 weeks ago" 15:32 - "The dadAWESOME journey has been an invitation to dads to double down on the dad-life... double the prayer, double the time, double the love, double the intentionality, double the humility, double the focus." 16:03 - Crashing kitchen cabinet story 20:26 - "As dads, we are building launch ramps for our kids. We make choices every day to build intentionally with our words, our time, our resources, our prayers, our energy, our marriage. We are choosing to build launch ramps and that's what intentional dads do. They build launch ramps that shoot their kids further and faster than they could go by themselves. We take what could be average or lame and we make it epic. That's what we do. That is dadAWESOME." 21:33 - My dad built a launch ramp for me. He tripled the height of my sledding hill by building into our family. 22:32 - Apologizing to our kids and reconnecting with their hearts 22:46 - Focus on building our families, instead of minimizing the damage to our family. 23:30 - "We get to choose LIFE or DEATH... We get to offer our kids the painful path through a kitchen floor filled with broken glass or the thrilling ride down a launch ramp." 23:40 - "We can fuel their purpose and launch them into their passions, or we can add pain and heartache because of our selfishness and passivity." 23:50 - Deuteronomy 30:19 "…I have set before you LIFE and DEATH, blessings and curses. Now choose LIFE, so that you and your children may LIVE." 26:12 - "Many of us have been living the Dad-Life without the LIFE" 29:55 - God is bigger than your secrets 30:26 - Our Heavenly Father wants to heal our hurts, fill us with His love and turn us loose to build Launch Ramps. Action Steps: Share Episode 100 on Social - dadawesome.org/promote Give Feedback - 100 Week dadAWESOME Survey Subscribe, Rank & Review dadAWESOME on Apple Podcasts - this is a simple and practical way to help more dads find the dadAWESOME podcast when searching for Christian Dad podcasts. Follow dadAWESOME on Social: Instagram, Facebook, Twitter

Gathering Feedback: As we approach episode 100, we're asking for 5-minutes of your time. Would you please out this FEEDBACK FORM to share your perspective, feedback and ideas to make dadAWESOME better? Thanks so much >> click here to complete the 100-week Feedback Form Pablo Ceron This is PART 2 of a conversation with Pablo. If you missed the first half of the conversation, here's a link to Episode 98. Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men's ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of Wldforce, Inc., a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people. Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (8) and Lucas (3). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years. Conversation Notes: 3:07 - Jeff transitioning into PART 2 of tis conversation with Pablo 4:16 - Living as a son of God. Tending to our hearts. What does this actually look like? 4:30 - "Know that I don't have all of the answers, but I can approach life with question marks and then ask my Heavenly Father to father me" 4:50 - Searching for validation at work 5:40 - "At the core of my identity is my place as a son of God... And He is actively involved in my life" 6:35 - God says, "Yes son. You've have what it takes. You are my son. I'm proud of you. Well done." 7:40 - Practical idea for connecting with God through worship... Worship God in the shower. 8:35 - Self care. Cultivating adventure. 9:15 - Fighting for your children's hearts. Making sure they know they're the apple of their fathers eye. 10:56 - Breaking the lie that there is no time 11:25 - Start small with self care and adventure 11:40 - Tip from a mentor = "Outside Everyday" 12:10 - Seek God in creation for beauty so you don't go looking for beauty elsewhere. 12:45 - Tips for praying to God before entering the house after a day of work 13:15 - Unplug from technology 16:00 - Tribe from Ransomed Heart 17:08 - Pablo explains the heart of WLDFORCE and WLDSONS 17:25 - We're searching for the John 10:10 life to the full 18:05 - We must fight for the hearts of one another Jeremiah 6:16 - "This is what the LORD says: "Stand at the crossroads and look; ask for the ancient paths, ask where the good way is, and walk in it, and you will find rest for your souls. But you said, 'We will not walk in it.' 19:50 - Fight for the hearts of men so that they become the sons of God and discover their true identity. 21:02 - The journey of being a great father starts with being a son. Approach our Heavenly Father and receive his love. 22:00 - Pablo's prayer Episode Links: WLDFORCE - https://wldforce.com/ WLDSONS - https://wldsons.com/ John Eldridge books The Ransomed Heart Podcast

Episode 100 Party Please RSVP here for the Thursday, Dec 5th Episode 100 event: http://bit.ly/DA100party Gathering Feedback: As we approach episode 100, we're asking for 5-minutes of your time. Would you please out this FEEDBACK FORM to share your perspective, feedback and ideas to make dadAWESOME better? Thanks so much >> click here to complete the 100-week Feedback Form Pablo Ceron Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men's ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of Wldforce, Inc., a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people. Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (8) and Lucas (3). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years. Conversation Notes: 4:26 - Pablo introduces himself 5:11 - Pablo tells the story of a recent adventure with his son to a hidden cabin up in the woods 6:25 - Fighting for the heart of his son 7:00 - "The importance of the loving touch of a father... for him (my son) to know that he is the apple of my eye" 7:49 - Pablo's Backstory 7:55 - Pablo's mentor says, "We become what we didn't have" 9:00 - "The man that we become is in great part the result or outcome of the story of our life, the story of the wounds that we have received. How we interpret those wounds and how we learn to self protect so that we don't experience pain and suffering again" 10:40 - The importance of having our hearts come alive in healthy ways 11:15 - The devastation of wrecking his wife's heart 12:15 - The importance of working through issues at the level of the heart 13:10 - Story of his financial crisis 14:00 - The powerful moment of meeting Jim 15:50 - "There is a 250lb gorilla coming after you" 17:00 - Friends reach into us and they can pull the gold out. 18:10 - Understand the impact of the wounds that we have received 20:30 - Book recommendation, "Wild At Heart" by John Eldridge 21:40 - "Ask your Heavenly Father to reveal the man that he created you to be" 22:00 - "Father, what is my true name? What is my true identity in you?" 22:20 - "Because we are the sons of God, we must become the sons of God" - George McDonald 23:08 - Proverbs 4:23 "Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it." 23:20 - The difference between a transactional do's and don'ts religion to a heart faith 25:45 - "There is a battle to fight and I was given permission to be the warrior that God has created me to be" 26:16 - Am I going to the wrong place for what is in my heart? There is a counterfeit that draws our hearts. 28:00 - I am a warrior. How do I discover my warrior heart? 29:05 - ask your wife, "Hon, how is your heart today?" 29:45 - Setting up safe guards vs. looking at the root cause of what's going on in your heart. Episode Links: WLDFORCE - https://wldforce.com/ WLDSONS - https://wldsons.com/ DA 100 PARTY DA Ideas: Reading Psalm 23 and inserting the names of your kids The Lord is _________ shepherd, _____ lack nothing. 2 He makes me lie down in green pastures, he leads me beside quiet waters, 3 he refreshes my soul. He guides me along the right paths for his name's sake. 4 Even though I walk through the darkest valley,[a] I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. 5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies. You anoint my head with oil; my cup overflows. 6 Surely your goodness and love will follow me all the days of my life, and I will dwell in the house of the Lord forever.

Gathering Feedback: As we approach episode 100, we're asking for 5-minutes of your time. Would you please out this FEEDBACK FORM to share your perspective, feedback and ideas to make dadAWESOME better? Thanks so much >> click here to complete the 100-week Feedback Form David Robbins: As 17-year veterans of Cru, David and Meg Robbins have served in a variety of capacities, including team leaders in Pisa, Italy, campus directors at the University of Georgia, national director of Campus Field Ministries in campuses across Alabama, Florida, Georgia and Mississippi, national facilitator launching Cru's Millennials Ministry in NYC, and now President of FamilyLife since 2017. They live in Little Rock, AR with their four children—Ford, Mim, Roe and Mac. Conversation Notes: 3:00 - David introduces himself and his family 3:45 - David explains his job at FamilyLife and their moves as a family around the country 3:50 - Joshua 1:16 "Then they answered Joshua, "Whatever you have commanded us we will do, and wherever you send us we will go." 5:35 - David explains the mission and vision for FamilyLife https://www.familylife.com/weekend-to-remember/ passport to purity 6:20 - "Transformed people end up transforming other homes." 7:45 - The focus on being present with his kids 8:30 - Asking questions to engage your kids hearts and pull something out of your kids 9:12 - "Be present and be ok delighting in the hilarious stories" 9:30 - Asking a 3rd question. Was there anything today that made you angry or upset or emotional? 11:20. The manifesto statement bout fathers from FamilyLife: "...We are committed to turning the hearts of fathers back to their children by emphasizing the importance of their role as "father." We are committed to exhorting every father to model a love for God and His Word, to model love for his wife, and to love his children. (Malachi 4:6; Ephesians 6:4; Colossians 3:20-21; Deuteronomy 6:4-9; 1 Timothy 3:4-5, 5:8)" 12:03 - An absent father does not start with being absent. It starts when passivity starts to take over..." 12:30 - "If we stay stepping in and reject passivity, leading courageously, leading spiritually, the ripple effect is amazing." 14:15 - David talks about his father 16:00 - David explains his tendency for trying to earn love by being an overachiever and win people's approval 18:05 - "The purpose of life is intimacy with God and He values character over competence every time. He values presence over performance all the time. Us encountering His presence." 18:45 - Asking the powerful question, "I would be more satisfied if _______" 20:30 - "God uses us in our weakness. His power is made perfect in our weakness" 20:45 - "If dependance is the goal, then weakness is actually an advantage" Hosea 2 22:30 - David explains his Sabbath 24:20 - Seeing life with eyes of wonder through their three-year-old child 25:40 - David unpacking his not so awesome dad fail 26:50 - Story about trying to keep up appearances and hurting his kids because of his focus on his own reputation 29:06. - David explains his family decision making framework for big decisions 30:20 - Write down a core set of values and put it in a Ziploc bag and pray over it in the shower for a few months. 32:00 - the significant question of "Am I surrendered?" 32:15 - John chapter 15:5. Am I abiding? "I am the vine; you are the branches. If you remain in me and I in you, you will bear much fruit; apart from me you can do nothing." 33:16 - David's prayer: Episode Links: FamilyLife Ministries The Art of Parenting (FREE online course) ​A Weekend To Remember (marriage conference)​ Creating A Family Plan Instructions You're Invited - Episode 100 Party Thursday, December 5th Trampoline Dodgeball and Chick-Fil-A RSVP here

Josh Walters This is the second part of our dadAWESOME interview with Josh Walters... Here's the first half of the conversation. Josh and his wife Katie have six children, AnnaJaye, Abigail, Abel, Asher, Ari, and Anthem (The A-Team). They've been married for 17 years and Josh has been a pastor at Seacoast Church for 10 years. Conversation Notes: 2:35 - Josh talking about tattoos to remind him and his wife about living with multigenerational focus 3:30 - "We are driving this vision. We are not drifting into random grandparent names" 3:40 - "I probably have more vision for grandparent Josh than I do for young professional Josh" 4:20 - The tattoos are a reminder of the endgame. Hopefully someday I get to parent into my kids parenting of their kids. 4:45 - "You can lose vision for 30 years from now. You don't just stumble into a future where your children want to come home and spend time with you. Or want to spend their holidays with you." 6:40 - "I feel like I am constantly learning and reminded of my dad more now with his passing…" 7:20 - "We get to model healthy family and the love of a father and boundaries and fun… And write an alternative story for family" 7:55 - The influence of helping our kids navigate friendships as a dad is probably one our most significant influence on our kids 9:15 - Dad mistake would be getting really angry when his kids didn't take care of their stuff 11:25 - A second dad mistake would be missing moments to lay with his kids and connect with their hearts before bed. 13:10 - Josh explains the mission of Francis and Benedict 13:15 - Marriage tip — for 17 years of marriage his wife was organizing her and her family around Josh's career… This vision was an answer to dreams on their heart before they started having kids. 16:45 - "Don't underestimate what God can do with a dream" 18:00 - Josh praying for all of us dads Episode Links: Parenting Hacks Sermon Instagram Sermon on Grief Francis & Benedict Skirts dadAWESOME Ideas: Thanks Shane Long for the DA idea of capturing and celebrating answered prayers Get a jar and begin collecting answered prayers Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you'd be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: [email protected] Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬

Josh and his wife Katie have six children, AnnaJaye, Abigail, Abel, Asher, Ari, and Anthem (The A-Team). They've been married for 17 years and Josh has been a pastor at Seacoast Church for 10 years. This is the first half of our dadAWESOME conversation where we explore intentional connection before bedtime, creating celebration moments of becoming teenagers and reflections about the generosity of his dad. Conversation Notes: 3:08 - Josh introduces his family 6:13 - Some family highlights for shiny eyed fun moments 8:15 - Josh explains the joy of being a "church family" and their kids loving their local church 9:15 - Parenting Hacks sermon from Josh https://youtu.be/ymx7y1jzOeE 10:22 - One of Josh's biggest dad struggles = "Will you lay down with me?" being asked of him by his kids... Quality connection with each child. 12:15 - That connection question; "Will you lay down with me?" will stopped being asked at around 11 or 12 years old 14:20 - "Do your best to make yourself lay down and connect with your kids at bedtime even when your mind is saying that you need to do dishes and sweep the floor" 15:20 - Connecting with his daughters and giving them more freedom as they turned 13 years old 17:25 - Intentional celebration moment of stepping into a new season from a girl into being a young woman 21:15 - Stories about Josh's dad 23:40 - "My greatest challenge is the giving of my time. Managing it all. The house, the family, life and prioritizing my time" 25:15 - Josh processes the journey of losing his father and processing the loss with his kids 28:15 - "It was very hard and very beautiful having a closer proximity to the final year of his dads life for the grandkids" 28:50 - Having a specific day to remember and celebrate Josh' father 29:20 - Josh' dad was a father and grandfather to a lot more kids and grandkids than just his own family 30:40 - "Death became very close, so the idea of Heaven and eternal life and even just the pain of grief... I think they (my kids) got to experience loss in a way and see parents grieving and pain and stuff that I think the enemy would want to use as a weapon against us later in life... and that's a natural normal part of life that they got to walk through with us and that was just such a special season." Episode Link: Parenting Hacks Sermon DA Idea: Create a unique version of Rock, Paper, Scissors. Recently my 5 yr-old daughter and I made up a version including our baby, our Golden doodle dog and a kitty cat. We call it Boomer, Kitty, Raya and it was a simple fun creation that involved my daughter helping me create the characters and the order of victory. Boomer is bigger and stronger then Kitty. Kitty scares Raya with it's claws. Raya wins Boomers heart. So Boomers beats Kitty, Kitty beats Raya and Raya beats Boomer. Our hand gestures are; all 5 fingers up like a high-5 for Boomer (he has long curly hair that sticks up) Pointer finger and middle finger up like a peace sign for Kitty (like a cats pointy ears) Just the thumb up for Raya (like a baby sucking it's thumb). Boomer, Kitty, Raya, shoot... Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you'd be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: [email protected] Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬

Chad Johnson is a CEO, Entrepreneur, Coach, Speaker, Husband and Father of 11. His family has taken on the role of Global Ski Ambassadors and their vision is to introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of skiing together. This dadAWESOME conversation covers clarifying priorities/values, the benefits of working hard as a family and the life changing freedom that is available to every dad through breaking the chains of sexual sin. Conversation Notes: 2:54 - Chad introduces his family 3:34 - Imperfect fatherhood - there are no perfect husbands and there are no perfect fathers 4:00 - "Man, it would be awesome to have 10 kids... And you can see what happens when you keep saying one more" 4:40 - This fathering thing never stops... now they keep adding new kids as their kids get married 6:17 - The Big Ski Family - "it would be so fun to have a family entrepreneurial whim" - Global Ambassadors for Family Skiing 9:00 - The Giant Five Framework - top priorities 1) Faith - it's foundational 2) Marriage - must be on the same page fighting together 3) Children - Aspire to raise them to be all God created them to be. 4) Heath - being fit, healthy and active 5) Career/Work/Ministry - Using God given Unique Abilities to earn, serve, and bless others 16:30 - Chad reflecting on his father 18:10 - My dad has always prioritized his relationship with God and my mom. 21:15 - The value of working hard as a family... "Ability to tackle hard things. To not run from a project" 25:10 - "I'm ok stirring the pot. I don't want my kids to have a sterile, safe, protected, isolated environment." 27:01 - Chad reflects on the pain of sexual sin and how it impacted his family. 30:05 - "My young children were at risk when I fell" 31:00 - "You want to talk about ripping your heart out. I knew that I was hurting my wife and I hated it. I despised it. And then I realized that I was brining it into my children's lives somehow" 32:15 - "I was believing the lie that my wife and my children would be better off without me" 33:15 - The driving mission of helping men hear the message of freedom in Christ and the solution that only God can bring. 34:00 - Christ in me the hope of glory 34:40 - I needed power for the right now. Ability to walk in power of the Holy Spirit. 36:20 - Fatherhood, Family, Freedom - they all intersect and if we walk in freedom, our kids get freedom 37:00 - Resources - "Sin No More & Sanctification"by Michael Pearl 38:00 - Coaching words for us - "Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." 39:15 - God made you a masterpiece 40:53 - "The world is crying out for men and dads who are on fire. That love what they're doing and their giving it their all" 41:53 - "Live life like a movie you'd want to watch with your children and grandchildren" 42:00 - Chad's prayer - Jude 24-25 "Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen." Episode Links: www.StrategicCoach.com (Coaching the world's best Entrepreneurs and Business Owners as an Entrepreneurial Coach) www.TheBigSkiFamily.com (On a mission: Introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of Skiing together) www.CeramicDecoratingCo.com (Wine Bottle Screen Printing Company Since 1934. Growing our 85 year old, 3rd Generation, family owned and operated, glass bottle/container printing business, as CEO. Focused on the wine industry, CBD Oil, Craft Beverage, and Specialty Food Industries.) Instagram (Chad @thegiant5guy) Instagram (@thebigskifamily) DA Ideas: Andy Dauer's DA idea Helping kids calm down 1) Get down on their level 2) Listen first and validate their feelings. Value them 3) Ask them to look you right on your eyes 4) Take a breath in through their nose and then out through their mouth 5) Blowing out the candles with your fingers 6) Trace their hand taking breaths with each finger - like a roller coaster Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you'd be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: [email protected] Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬

John Burns: This is part 2 of the dadAWESOME conversation with John Burns. (here's the link to part 1 Episode 92) John and his wife Helen pastor Relate Church in Vancouver, Canada and are featured on "Sex, Love and Relationships" on the Hillsong Channel. They have been married for 45 years and have three daughters with eight grandchildren. Episode Notes: 2:22 – John walks us through a not so awesome dad moment 3:05 – His daughters began making excuses to not go on their daddy daughter dates... It was because John was boring them with his questions. 3:35 - He was putting too much pressure on his daughters to answer his questions 4:40 - The mistake of trying to get our kids to act like other kids 5:00 - "I decided that I was going to enjoy my girls just the way they are" 5:09 - "You know honey, you're my hero. When I grow up, I want to be just like you" 5:20 - "You've got to look past the childishness and see the awesomeness in your children and then speak to it. And as you do, it just confirms it in them" 5:58 - Proverbs 13:21 - "A good man leaves an inheritance to his children's children, And the wealth of the sinner is stored up for the righteous." 6:10 - We are way too nearsighted and we need to look further and focus on the generations. 7:00 - The younger generation are hurting. They have information, but they don't have connection and wisdom. 7:30 - The importance of the connection between grandparents and grandchildren 8:25 - The importance of pouring into your kids friends and build bridges to reach your kids 9:15 - Psalm 92:12-14 "The righteous will flourish like a palm tree, they will grow like a cedar of Lebanon; planted in the house of the Lord, they will flourish in the courts of our God. They will still bear fruit in old age, they will stay fresh and green" 9:50 - "Your kids will follow your heart. They wont always follow your ideas, but they will read your heart." 10:15 - The two most important things to do to transfer your faith to your kids: 1) Love God 2) Love your church 10:25 - "When your kids see your heart for God in worship" 11:15 - Church is messy and family is messy. Your kids need to see how you negotiate your life and church. 12:20 - Loving your wife in front of your kids. 13:00 - When kids see their dads love waning for the local church, they will question their love for God 14:13 - Sex is the celebration of love 14:40 - Loving your wife is giving, not receiving 15:30 - Sex is all about giving. Love is not about feelings. 16:20 - The importance of your kids knowing about sex 17:00 - The most important thing in sex and marriage is talk. We must sit down and talk and learn how each other are doing. 17:35 - Intimacy is first emotional. It starts with talk. 18:30 - It's your job as a dad to approach the more difficult areas of marriage. Sex or finances or other areas. 19:25 - Date your wife. Date her often. 19:30 - "Build your wife up and praise her and tell her how amazing she is" 19:45 - Use the word HELP... Ask your wife for help. Take time to listen to her and invite her to help. 21:00 - John's prayer over us dads Conversation Links: John's Church – Relate Sex, Love & Relationships show on the Hillsong Network Book – "Miracle in a Daddy's Hug" DA Ideas: What gets recognized gets repeated You've got to catch your kids doing what you want Be a cheerleader Idea submitted by Stefan Brinkley Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you'd be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: [email protected] Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬

John Burns: John and his wife Helen pastor Relate Church in Vancouver, Canada and are featured on "Sex, Love and Relationships" on the Hillsong Channel. They have been married for 45 years and have three daughters with eight grandchildren. Episode Notes: 3:12 - John introduces himself and his family 5:00 - "As dad, a great place to start is to say I don't know, but I want to know" 5:45 - Top dad advice = Get a calendar 6:25 - Get a real calendar. A paper one. A big one... and on that calendar you need to write the names of the most important things to you. Those things have names. 6:50 - Dating your children is the very top of the list for fathers. 9:34 - Be careful not to make dating your kids just a normal thing Four tips for dating your kids: Make it Special It must be planned Time - It needs to be a portion of your life that you prioritize You must connect 10:20 - The importance of listening and being interested 10:30 - "dads - you have no idea just how important you are" 10:45 - The power of words 11:10 - The intro story from John's book "Miracle in a Daddy's Hug" 12:15 - Hearing his Heavenly Father say, "it's going to be ok" 12:45 - Transferring the miracle of what God had done in John down to his daughter through a hug 13:45 - Keeping on the look out for miracle moments 17:00 - Keep believing for your children. Keep praying and keep believing. 18:15 - The prayers of a parent are powerful 19:24 - John's time machine advice to himself 19:40 - Do more out-of-the-box things with your kids Conversation Links: John's Church - Relate Sex, Love & Relationships show on the Hillsong Network Book - "Miracle in a Daddy's Hug"

Submitting dadAWESOME IDEAS: We are gathering tools, games, strategies, dad hacks and other ideas that need to be shared to help all of us take a step towards awesomeness in our fatherhood. If you'd be willing to share an idea or two, please reach out so we can share them: Call and leave a Voice Message: 612 293-5086‬ Send an email: [email protected] Send us a text: 612 293-5086‬ Aaron Shust: Aaron Shust joins dadAWESOME for a vulnerable conversation fatherhood and trusting God in difficult moments. Aaron is a song writer and worship leader who records songs that magnify the name and nature of God. Nothing To Fear, just released in September 2019 and is Aaron's Ninth full-length album. Aaron lives with his wife Sarah and three boys in Nashville, TN. Conversation Notes: 3:37 - Aaron introduces himself and his family 4:42 - His son experiencing bullying at school 12:20 - Focussing intentionality around rhythms 15:15 - The challenge of transitioning from touring as a musician to being home with his family without a schedule 15:50 - "Lord help me to be flexible" 16:30 - The number one thing is prayer 17:55 - "I am losing this battle Lord and I admit it. I need your Spirit to step in and Supernaturally do what you do" 17:40 - Dad mistakes... being too rigid and inflexible 19:45 - "I need to get down on my knees in front of my boys and say I'm sorry... I want my boys to see their daddy being vulnerable." 20:00 - Marriage tip - say "I was wrong" 20:10 - "Whatever I do is their definition of what a dad does... whatever I do is their definition of a man" 20:45 - "Will you forgive me?" 22:07 - Trusting God in difficult moments - lyrics from "My Savior, My God" "I am not skilled to understand. What God has willed, what God has planned. I only know at his right hand. Stands one who is my Savior" 22:40 - Crying out to God for his son 23:10 - James 5:14 "Is anyone among you sick? Let them call the elders of the church to pray over them and anoint them with oil in the name of the Lord." 23:50 - God healing his youngest son and now he can hear 24:50 - "It's not about the level of faith. It's got to be about God's plan" 26:16 - God has the power to answer your prayers, but sometimes he doesn't and we need to trust that God's plans are good... "We need to trust that God knows what He is doing" 27:10 - Testimony Videos: Nicky's Miracle Story Aaron Shust shares Michael's miracle story Aaron Shust, Testimony, and sings "No One Higher" 27:45 - Nothing To Fear - Hebrews 4:16 - "Let us then approach God's throne of grace with confidence, so that we may receive mercy and find grace to help us in our time of need." 28:20 - "Fear always becomes more prevalent and rises whenever my focus is on myself" 29:08 - "Set your eyes on the Word of God and watch the fear dissipate" 30:00 - Ephesians 6:4 "Fathers, don't exasperate your children, but raise them up with loving discipline and counsel that brings the revelation of our Lord." 30:40 - "If you want to know how our Heavenly Father acts, just read the Fruit of the Spirit. That's His calling card. That's who He is. God is love" 31:00 - Aaron's closing prayer Episode Links: https://www.aaronshust.com DA Ideas: (From Erik Romsaas) 32:40 - Change Up The Environment... Change it up. When it feels like you're stuck as a dad, change the atmosphere and try connecting again.

Follow dadAWESOME: Web dadawesome.org/ Instagram @dadawesome Facebook /dadawesomepodcast Twitter @dadawesomepod dadAWESOME Daily: Simply text "dad" to 33222 to begin receiving an encouraging daily text with prayers, Bible verses, dad tips & other fatherhood inspiration. About Mark Foreman: Mark Foreman lives in the San Diego area and is the lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. The question Mark and his wife Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids? Never Say No takes you on a personal journey to learn first-hand how they raised Jon and Tim of Switchfoot. Mark's been married to Jan, his "best friend and favorite Bible teacher," for over 46 years. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family. Conversation Notes: 3:00 - "You are the same today as you'll be in five years except for two things the books you read and the people you meet" Charlie "tremendous" Jones 3:45 - Mark introduces himself 4:50 - Bring your kids along for the adventure. Authenticity is an important ingredient. 5:40 - Agreement with their sons that they can all talk about anything they want. All topics are fair game because Jesus touches everything 6:30 - Surfing/Fatherhood comparison 7:15 - We must isolate the different variables of fatherhood and isolate some of them and then work on the variables that you really want to change 8:40 - "If you win 5000 people to Christ and you lose your own son, how does that feel?" 9:40 - The mistake of carrying around the wooden spoon and taking on the rigid disciplinarian role 10:50 - The importance of filling our kids love tanks 11:00 - "Time, Touch and Eye Contact" and the importance of wrestling 12:20 - The importance of listening and letting your kids dream 12:35 - "I Enjoy You" and the power of these words and the wonder it brings to children to hear them 12:05 - The surprising fact that a lot of people don't "like" their children 13:45 - The more time we spend with our kids, the more we enjoy them. We tend to like the things that we invest in 14:00 - It starts with understanding that God enjoys me 16:25 - book The Second Mountain (David Brooks) // We must go through a valley of pain before we can move to the 2nd mountain of serving and living for others 19:00 - Overview of the book Never Say No 20:30 - Process of thinking backwards and working backwards... What are we hoping for when our kids launch from the home at 18 years old? 21:10 - Most parents primary goal is safety. Most are scared to death of their kids getting hurt by the jungle of this world 21:40 - "Raising kids who own the jungle. Raise kids who change the world rather than run from the world" 22:25 - Raising artists. Every kid is raised in the image of God. He's a creator. He's the greatest artist. 23:30 - "Wonder happens when we get closer to God"... Humility and serving others also comes when we get closer to God. 24:15 - Reading books that stir up wonder 25:45 - Am I accidentally cutting the wings of my kids wonder and creativity 26:38 - Book Quote: ""How do I feel about God? Am I satisfied? Comfortable? Cynical? Disappointed? Indifferent? Am I on fire? That torch in my hand will be passed to my children more substantially than any religious education. If I want my children to grow spiritually, I must stay alive." 28:40 - It must be in me before I can hope something is in my kids. 29:00 - Mark's sons seeing him spending time reading his Bible 30:30 - "We are the caretakers of our kids hearts" 32:15 - "We're launching our kids from the moment they're born if we really believe we are raising kids that will change the world" 34:00 - Entire dadAWESOME episode on the book Never Say No with Ross Manders: https://dadawesome.org/episode48/ 34:20 - Slow down 35:30 - Mark's prayer for us fathers. Links: Never Say No (Mark and Jan Foreman) Switchfoot (his sons band) Mark's church Mark on Twitter

Terry Lijewski is a business leader, family man, mentor and passionate believer in doing hard things for the benefit of others. He's the Vice President at Scott Equipment Company. Terry loves focussing on investing his energy and resources in others as he follows God's footsteps. He's been married 32 years and is the father of three adult children. Conversations Notes: 3:25 - Terry intro 4:40 - Value of mentors in every season of marriage 6:30 - Scott Equipment Company 8:06 - Fatherhood advice 8:30 - "Be all in on your kids interests and passions" 9:40 - Windshield Time - intentional conversations while on the road 11:05 - Terry sharing dad mistakes 11:30 - Take the vacation and get away to build memories 12:12 - Story of too much focus on house projects and skipping his daughters event 13:22 - Story of the painful cancer battle that his son walked through while in college 16:35 - The gift of people standing together with their family in prayer and support 17:25 - The struggle of being a father and feeling defeated and wanting to be his sons strength. 18:45 - Hosting a Chemo Kick Off Party 19:40 - "If I look back, it's never the mountaintops when I've grown, it's always the valleys" 22:07 - The power of friends in moments of hardship 23:20 - Seeing God's goodness in the struggle 24:09 - Advice for helping friends know how to show support when others are walking through a valley 26:20 - Terry's reflections on his father and the contrast between his dad and the fatherhood journey that Terry wanted to live out. 28:10 - He never heard his dad say "I love you" and still today Terry texts his kids everyday to say "I love you". 29:45 - Terry's encouragement to fathers who feel discouraged 30:00 - "Humble yourself and go ask for forgiveness" 31:20 - "Commitment baby. Ain't no substitute" 31:40 - Just encourage your kids to commit and do their best and see it through 32:10 - Deciding to do hard things on behalf of others Link to Venture Expeditions 32:50 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS June 20, 2020 33:30 - God spoke to me not to just write the check, but to actually go and join what God is doing 35:45 - Terry's parting words... Always bring your kids with you for opportunities to serve… Transferring generosity and compassion to your kids 37:06 - Terry's closing prayer Episode Links: Venture Scott Equipment Company Follow Terry on Instagram

About John Bolin: John Bolin is an entrepreneur and storyteller passionate about encouraging others to use their talent to create opportunities to be remarkable and make an exponential impact. As a speaker and consultant, he works with companies to help them clarify and amplify the stories of their customers. With over twenty years of experience in theater, publishing, and film, John is a trusted voice on faith and culture. Conversation Notes: 3:29 - John introduces himself 4:53 - The elements of "story" weaves into every part of our life 5:05 - Conflict changes people. The process of conflict or tension and then release. 6:00 - The hero of the story meets the Sage or the Guide. The parent is the guide. 7:45 - Stories of pain and difficult times 10:05 - Parenting is a long game. We must learn to embrace the tears and pain. 11:10 - Parenting mistakes 12:10 - Family values. Creativity, Hospitality, Spontaneity, Entrepreneurship, Travel, etc 13:15 - Stories of his kids being entrepreneurial 15:00 - The challenges of 5 kids and the adventure of a long extended month long family trip to Europe 16:35 - Travel tips for family adventures 17:00 - Schedule first what matters most. It took prioritizing. 17:57 - John shares reflections about his father 18:20 - Learn to make what matters to your kids matter to you 20:21 - Time machine advice. Spend more time investing in your kids. Ask more questions. Play more. 21:55 - John shares his top fatherhood resources 22:10 - You must have friends to walk this dad life out with. The Perfect Father (Rob Stennett) Focus on the Family (Jim Daly's podcast) Business Authors: Seth Godin, Jeff Goins, Ryan Holiday, Stephen Pressfield, Michael Hyatt, Tim Ferriss even Gary Vee 25:11 - You are the perfect dad for your kids. God put your kids in your family for a reason. You have everything you need to parent your kids the way god wants you to... You've got what it takes. Don't compare yourself to other dads. 27:20 - You can't lose. We all make mistakes. There is hope. No matter how far you've drifted. 27:50 - Be willing to listen. Don't be afraid. 28:50 - God redeems us. God carries us. 29:30 - We can't live our kids story. We can't take their burdens. All we can do is carry them. 30:00 - John's Prayer Conversation Links: John's website John's books John on Instagram

Leary Gates is a leadership coach, business creative, entrepreneur, bi-vocational leader, podcast host and non-profit leader. Leary's primary interest has been to unearth a person's (or firm's) core value and find creative ways to grow it. He is the founder of BoldPath Life Strategies co-host of the Bold Idea Podcast. He's a husband of 39 years and dad to four kids. Conversation Notes: 2:55 - Leary introduces himself 4:15 - Leary explains his passion to chase bold ideas. "So many ideas, so little time" 5:40 - Put your faith to work. Don't get stuck. 6:30 - "To redeem something is to release it from captivity" 9:01 - "What makes me a strong dad is having a strong marriage" 9:55 - Having a strong relationship with our spouse can give us clarity on our blind spots. Our spouse can see things that we can't see 11:49 - Dad Advice >> The book he would send back to himself - Carol Dweck's Mindset 12:20 - We do not need to prove ourselves to be worthy. It's not about performance, it's about effort. 13:08 - "Understand the impact of shame on your own life and how easy it is to impart it on your kids" 13:25 - Reinventure Me Podcast on Mindset 14:58 - Reflecting on how his dad was an anti role model 15:44 - The need to find other role models when his dad was not able to play that role 17:54 - The commitment to be opposite of what his father was. To connect and pursue his kids. 20:01 - We ask God what He wants to teach us... Asking "pain escape" questions. 20:29 - Maybe God isn't trying to get us to learn anything. Maybe God just wants us to be faithful role models for our kids to see what it's like for their parents to go through a challenging time. 22:12 - Leary explains the benefits of journalling. Creating self-reflection time. It helps him get outside himself by getting his thoughts on the page. 23:00 - The importance of making sure both parents are aligned. It's the child's job to get agreement from both parents. 23:40 - "We are more interested in unity than we are interested in your needs being met" 24:38 - The First Four Minutes - a business principle and a family principle. The first 4-minutes of any interaction sets the tone for the entire interaction. When Leary got home, the first 4-minutes were for him to connect with his wife. 26:00 - The Relationship Test - Blog Post 27:50 - The pursuits that we invest in can either enhance or detract 28:35 - The need for rest. We can't just keep pushing for more and more. 29:39 - Stories of failure as a dad 30:05 - Becoming overly frustrated with his son. Triggering each other into arguments. 31:53 - The honor of being a dad. We can't see this when we're right in the middle of parenting. 32:45 - Just stay with it. Lean into the dad life. Embrace this role as a holy calling. This is a marathon, not a sprint. Take care of yourself. 34:50 - What Leary hopes his kids will say about his life at his funeral someday. That his kids will feel listened to without being judged. The gift of being present and not judging others. 35:56 Leary's prayer Episode Links: www.learygates.com/ Bold Idea Podcast Leary's Book List Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Paperback (Carol S. Dweck)