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Key Takeaways Acts of obedience can result in miracles, adventures, and boldness they've experienced as a family. Transparent money management can be the best instruction for kids. What children learn from their parents is more "caught than taught." The importance of being transparent with your children about finances far exceeds putting up a wall and believing it isn't beneficial. It's beneficial for both spouses to be involved in finances. dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Bob Lotich Bob and his wife, Linda, live in Franklin, TN with their three children. Lotich is CEPF® (Certified Educator in Personal Finance), award-winning blogger, and named a top 20 social influencer in personal finance. Author of "Simple Money, Rich Life", Host of SeedTime Money podcast, and creator of the 'Real Money Method' - a quicker and easier alternative to traditional budgeting that has built-in accountability. Key Quotes (Full Transcript of the Conversation Here) THREE DAY MONEY CHALLENGE 3:22 - "...if I look back at our life and a lot of the miracles that have happened, a lot of the crazy things that God has brought us on, adventures that He's led us on, it has been through acts of obedience. When he's invited us to do something to step out into something... It'd be more comfortable to not do that... I want to be someone who is always running in that direction." 04:01 -" I want to raise kids who... just aren't bound up by fear, but have that boldness like David did in the face of whatever the obstacle of challenges." 4:48 - "every time he goes into kids church... they invite one of the kids to pray over the offering. And apparently our son goes up there every single week and asks to pray for the offering." 7:06 - "I talk to people all the time who come up to me and say, my dad said that we don't talk about money in our house... intentionally put a wall up and said, we're not going to talk about this. That seems like such a terrible idea to me, because the truth of the matter is... if we're not getting financial education from our homes, we're not learning it in school... our churches will teach us about giving in and I think a lot of them do a good job on that, but they're not teaching us how to actually manage our money so that we actually have more to give. And so what happens is we have this void of a lack of financial education. And so then what happens is our education and our beliefs about money come from places that... aren't even trying to teach us about it... We're looking at Instagram influencers or learning from credit card companies or all of these places where they may not be explicitly teaching us about money." 9:00- "...just talking through that in earshot of them, because, again, a lot of this is more caught than taught. And so we might as well just let them hear what's going on and let it start rubbing off on them. And I think that's one of the best things that we can do as dads." 15:17 - "... so it was two weeks later after I said yes to God and decided, okay, I'm going to take the rest as a year off. We got a call from the adoption agency... but we actually have a little girl who was born last night down in Alabama... Linda and I prayed for about 30 seconds... all right, let's go get our daughter." 19:59 - "it offends me that if you look at the Forbes 400... the vast majority of the people, that are top of the list, they're not serving the kingdom. It's like, that's why not." 21:40 - John Wesley quote "I earn as much as I can by writing and speaking... I save... And what he meant by that was, I reduce my expenses, I eliminate waste. I just cut out any wasteful, unnecessary spending... I save as much as I can so that I can give as much as I possibly can." 25:34 - "We call it our AUM, or Assets Under Management instead of net worth for two quick reasons. I don't like the term net worth when we're talking about our worth as believers... in light of what Jesus did, there's no number that defines that, whether it's high or low... But the other reason we call it Assets Under Management is that it's a reminder... that everything that we have our house, our cars, the money in our account, our kids... we're managers of all of it. 27:19 - "I felt God said, why don't you just track your giving? And so we created what we call our net given, which is basically just a sheet where we have tracked pretty much everything we've given since we got married." 30:47 - "... What I would say is we started moving forward faster when both of us were in it together, when both of us were aware of what was going on." Conversation Links Bob's Organization: SeedTime Bob's Book - Simple Money, Rich Life Bob's Podcast - The SeedTime Money Podcast Bob's Courses - Real Money Method 3.0 10X Investing The 5 Biggest Money Mistakes Links from dadAWESOME https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a D

Key Takeaways: When the Skoogs were met with resistance preparing for a trip to China, they chose to continue to walk in God's calling for them. How one choice, of going to church to serve, turned into a legacy of leading people to Jesus. The impact that Tim left his kids as he modeled Kingdom prayer and adventure. The five principles/practices that the global church implements. dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Tim and Ryan Skoog Tim and Ryan are a father/son duo who share the love of adventure and legacy. Ryan is President of Venture and Tim is on the Governing Board. Venture is a Global Partner of Father for the Fatherless. Venture is committed and passionate about serving in areas of the world that are the least reached and resourced by partnering with local leaders in those communities to end some of the world's greatest injustices. Conversation Notes 2:04- Tim explaining the impact of his mother in law passing away and why they decided to continue with their trip to China. 5:45 - Tim and Ryan talking about the times they were apprehended by the police and chased by dogs for putting Christian tracts on locals doorsteps.. "those are some of the adventures that... I'll always cherish that with my dad." 8:39 - "The enemy doesn't want dads taking courageous adventures, instilling values in their kids." 08:55 - "... Recognize that when you're heading out like this, expect that there's going to be some resistance, that we have an enemy, and if the enemy can stop you before you get started, he's going to do it." 10:17 - "...He didn't start the gambit by taking us to Mozambique or... a war zone. It started with... let's go serve a church together or... there's a service opportunity in our church or in our community." 11:14 - Ryan talking about having a good role model when it came to his prayer life and the adventures they went on as a family. 13:39 - "The quick origin is that it came out of asking a question, "What if the global church had something to teach the American church on how to follow Jesus?" And instead of us just going and sending, you know, teaching and leadership and all that stuff, what if we sat at their feet and said, "Could you teach us?" 14:21 -Explaining "The Five Principles/Practices" that the global church implements. Every believer praying and in scripture 1-2 hours/day Every believer spending time with the lost on a daily basis Every believer serving in some capacity the poor and the needy around you - Looking for people who are open Every believer is getting together with other believers to study the scriptures and learning a way to obey it Every believer is training someone else to do these principles 16:55 - "And that's part of the the idea on the prayer side is what like every believer in the global church that's practicing this, they're almost every day praying for people that don't know Jesus to come to come to Jesus." 19:46 - "And we try to go for the complex and easy and God wants us to do simple and tough and they can't do it." 20:43 - "...You're capable of passing things on. Capable of having a rich history. Capable of having the next, and the next, and the next follow the Lord." 22:18 - "My dad, his example and faithfulness and....consistency of who he was as a person, I was like I want to be like my dad, and because I wanted to be like him then I wanted to serve Jesus and I wanted to be a good leader and I wanted to be responsible and I wanted to be a good dad myself and all of that. But that first started with, I made his decision that I want to be like my dad, and that was huge. And so I've really tried to take that and say, okay, in all this, I really want my son to want to be like me first." 23:50 - "And it wasn't just one thing that he did, but his consistency over and over and over that that was so impacting and then peppered with adventures. Right. And made it really powerful.... there's a moment there's a season in life for us as dads that the call is one of faithfulness. And it's like hard because you're like, I want to do great things and this and that. And the call is, no, actually do the same thing over and over and be faithful at that thing." Conversation Links Venture dadAWESOME – Episode 77 Global Discipleship Links from dadAWESOME https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"One of the greatest gifts that my parents and then my dad was able to give me was he wanted to expose me early on to the world, to the needs of the world, to the challenges of the world." "....he did that by taking us to some of the most difficult places in the world." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Tim and Ryan Skoog Tim and Ryan are a father/son duo who share the love of adventure and legacy. Ryan is President of Venture and Tim is on the Governing Board. Venture is a Global Partner of Father for the Fatherless. Venture is committed and passionate about serving in areas of the world that are the least reached and resourced by partnering with local leaders in those communities to end some of the worlds greatest injustices. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Fathers for the Fatherless FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS changes lives by exposing men to a cause beyond themselves. They are propelled to challenge themselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. Reminder: Twin Cities registration, FATHER FOR THE FATHERLESS, closes June 30. Conversation Notes 2:54 - "You know, Dad, every every morning I roll out of bed and hit my knees. And it was something that impacted me and something I learned from him and have been doing faithfully ever since. So it's a situation of saying, well, son, take this from me. No, I took this from him." 3:57 - "As I look through my life is that I can say the dad that the man that was my dad was also someone that I would look up to as a hero. Many other people look up to. And so that's just one of the greatest honors." 5:08 - "I really believe that there isn't a real difference between being a leader in business, nonprofit or church. I think that we should approach it the same way." 5:42 - Ryan watching his Dad pray Psalm 91 over their family. 6:19 - Pray first then strategy/meet. 8:24 - Tim on his salvation in Alaska and his Father's salvation. 10:38 - The events of 1979 in Alaska that changed everything.. "first time I really heard the gospel in its entirety, I mean the full gospel if you want to use it as such" 11:34 - Tim's wife rededication her life to Jesus. 12:51 - "But on January 27th, 1979, I raised my hand and became a born again believer." Tim 13:07 - Tim talks about his house burning down and leaving Alaska 14:21 - Ryan explaining the legacy his dad imprinted, not only on their family, but to many people their family has encountered after getting saved "...that day was famous in our family.." 16:14 - Ryan taking Tim, his son, and father in law back to the chapel Tim was saved in and writing and praying blessings over each of them. 17:34 - "And the the idea that you, you know, this is really, really important for your kids to get is that they something happened before them and something will happen after them. Generational and that generational thought is so distant from our current generation. It's it's actually a very unique thing because for thousands of years, children grew up realizing that there's a tradition before them and a legacy to give and and to to combat the current crazy narcissism of the day." 18:43 - "whenever I want to instill a value in our kids, we like to travel somewhere and then have a moment but also have an adventure to seal it in." 20:29 - Tim's wife taking their grand daughters to where she was saved in Louisiana. 23:07 - "One of the greatest gifts that my parents and then my dad was able to give me was he wanted to expose me early on to the world, to the needs of the world, to the challenges of the world." "....he did that by taking us to some of the most difficult places in the world." 23:40 - "He never took us to Disneyland, but but he did take us to a refugee camp in Mozambique and, you know, to different slums around the world and difficult areas." 25:11 - One of the coolest things Tim did as a father was he was willing to do what his kids wanted to do. Even if their ideas where wild. 27:51 - Praying and asking God what it looks like to smuggle Bibles into China and an eagle flies over them right after praying. Conversation Links Venture dadAWESOME - Episode 77 Links from dadAWESOME https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"Servanthood is the way to the top. You will never outgrow serving…the more you have the more you're required to give." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Jason Vallotton Recovering mental health, Cultivating spiritual fathers, and Living with Hope. Jason Vallotton is the pastoral care overseer at Bethel Church in Redding, California and is a sought-after counselor, teacher, and speaker. Previously, he served for 10 years in the Bethel School of Supernatural Ministry as a pastor, counselor, and overseer. Jason and his wife Lauren live in Redding, California, and have 4 wonderful children. Jason's primary passion is for the hearts of men to live fully alive to their calling. In his downtime, Jason can be found hiking in the Trinity Alps, fishing the Sacramento River, or hunting anywhere that wild game can be found! Ministry Shout Out! Crazy Cool Family A family whose mission is to show parents how to connect the relationships in their family to Jesus and each other. Conversation Notes 3:16 – Story of Jason's first son being born when he was 19 years old 5:11 – The gift of patience turning the burden into an opportunity. 5:35 – Having friends and community gives perspective. "But we actually get to multiply our experience the closer we are to our friends because if we walk through a hard time with them, we get to gain the wisdom and the learning and understanding." 6:48 – Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. James 1:2-3 7:49 "Great opportunity comes with every hard season for those who have eyes to see it." – Quote from Winning the War Within by Jason Vallotton 9:17 – You can try and grow through the easy times but there's not as much opportunity to grow in easy times because you're not getting as much feedback. You're not really being stretched. The easy times are a poor indicator of what you're good at and what you're not good at. It's challenging to grow when you're not being tested." There is fruit in hard times. 10:02 – Psalm 126:5 -"Those who sow with tears will reap with songs of joy." Relating this to the story of a farmer making the hard choice between feeding his family the only seed he has and starting a poverty cycle, or choosing to plant the seed and watch his family starve for a season but ultimately breaking the poverty cycle. 11:07 – We're forced into this worldwide [question], "what are you going to do with the challenge you've been given?" 12:07 – Going through a nervous breakdown in 2009. 13:26 – His dad told him, "You're gonna have to decide how your kids are gonna remember you." 14:26 – "I only get to decide what I do when I'm awake." 14:53 – "If I don't check out, but I stay in the game even with my kids and my family, I gain so much more than if I check out for the evening." 15:05 – Quote from Danny Silk – "Kids are gonna pull 60 pounds of energy from you whether you give it to them or whether they take it from you you just get to decide how it happens." 16:07 – "There's an opportunity for people like never before not just to make a difference in history, but to learn how to embrace challenging times with confidence." 16:46 – The inside-out dad life – what were the warning signs before the nervous breakdown? 19:50 – Moral Revolution 20:45 – Everything was good – it was so hard to decide what to put down. 22:02 – "Whether it's hard things or whether it's good things, it has a weight to it. It has a weight value and good stress is still stress." 22:56 – Cultivating spiritual fathers: "If you're going to put someone on your team, make sure they know they are on your team." 25:39 – "My dad told me once, never apologize for favor, just make sure you use the favor well." 26:30 – "What is covenant? You have permission to change my mind and I have permission to change your mind." 27:01 – "Servanthood is the way to the top. You will never outgrow serving…the more you have the more you're required to give." 28:17 – we're building an inheritance for our kids…the relationships that you create today, that you sacrifice for, it's not it's not as fun as people think. It's not easy I can tell you all those relationships that I just mentioned, there's conflict inside of them. We use all of our communication skills and conflict resolution and honor to keep those relationships going." 29:33 – Clint graham david and his mighty men series of books? Linked 30:45 – Attending church for yourself is the lowest level of living for a Christian. 31:12 – His dad told him, "People need what you have. They need what you have, and you need to go to youth group and find someone that needs what you have and give it to them." 34:52 – "Look at what you want your life to be in 10, 20, 30 years and live from now." 35:10 – How to get out of [dark p

"God is very interested and motivated in the initiation of our children. It's what makes Him come alive. He has their best interests in mind. And when I put down my agenda, I got curious. I got responsive. The path that my children have chosen and the God has chosen for them is not what I would have chosen in so many ways, but being a student and being attentive and participating has changed everything." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Morgan Snyder Morgan Snyder is a strategist, entrepreneur, teacher, writer, and speaker. His passion is to both be shaped by and shape the men and women who are shaping the kingdom of God. In 2010, he established BecomeGoodSoil.com, a fellowship of leaders whose global reach offers guidance for the narrow road of becoming the kind of person to whom God can confidently entrust the care of his kingdom. He serves on the executive leadership team of Wild at Heart and Ransomed Heart Ministries, having served alongside John and Stasi Eldredge for more than two decades. Morgan goes off the grid every chance he gets, whether bow hunting in the Colorado wilderness or choosing the adventurous life with his greatest treasures: his wife, Cherie; his son, Joshua; and his daughter, Abigail. Ministry Shout Out Radical Mentoring A mentoring process that equips men to develop authentic relationships and overcome the issues holding them back from living "life to the full." Conversation Notes 2:45 - Talking about his "second great conversion"… "To become a son has changed everything for me…C.S. Lewis said, 'I believe in Christianity like I believe in the sunrise.I believe in it because I see it every day, but it's by the sun I see all things.' ...To become a son is my sunrise. I believe it because I've experienced it to be true. To unlearn God as Father the way I've learned it wrong and to open my heart to receive him as the true Father he intends to be. It's by that I see all things." 4:28 - Growing up in a home without God - winning the "game" of life - having success in many areas, but losing his soul. 5:26 - giving his life to God 6:24 - "God became my father, my pastor, my guide, I entered into a slow and steady process of being initiated as a man and fathered as a son. And so where I find myself now is ...in process of over two decades of making my life about becoming the kind of man in whom God is glad to entrust more and more of the care of his kingdom, becoming more and more honest about what's not yet, about what is under construction. But that used to feel like a weight and now feels like a promise because there's so much hope." 7:28 - His wife is the Chief Life Officer. 9:58 - His wife shared in counseling, "I feel like a bird locked in a cage. And I can't fly"…. That wasn't my heart's intention at all. I dreamed about being a loving husband, but the fruit was I was a broken man, an unhealed boy inside a man that was still driving to get his question answered by achieving. I am loved when I come through. I am loved when I achieve. And now it's just in the name of God, it's just in the name of being a husband. And all the while my strength wasn't actually rescuing the beauty, it wasn't actually fighting for her, it was actually diminishing the glory of her life." 11:29 - "I believe one of the greatest sacred trusts given to me is to champion her calling and allow her to thrive as the Chief Life Officer." 11:47 - Finding the way to the center of your daughter's heart. 12:16 - A birth experience gone wrong 13:27 - "God I agree with your story for my son, and I want to participate with what you have planned for him. I want to participate in initiation and I'll participate in the birth story you have." 13:47 - "God is very interested and motivated in the initiation of our children. It's what makes Him come alive. He has their best interests in mind. And when I put down my agenda, I got curious. I got responsive. The path that my children have chosen and the God has chosen for them is not what I would have chosen in so many ways, but being a student and being attentive and participating has changed everything." 15:00 - Talking about his daughter - "I approach her with a question of 'Holy Spirit would you show me her heart? Who did you make [her] to be? And how do I bring my delight to her and communicate consistently - [you] are loved. And there is nothing you can do or not do and say or not say that will cause me to withdraw my delight. And if I can get that right, then everything else becomes secondary." 18:13 - How do I initiate my son? 19:00 - "Fundamentally, when we can pull back from the trees and see the forest, we offer the sum total of who we've become, we will apprentice our kids for good or for ill into the person we've become." 19:17 - Technology and growing up as an adolescent girl in our current culture. 20:16 - we try

How do I feel about God? Am I satisfied? Comfortable? Cynical? Disappointed? Indifferent? Am I on fire? That torch in my hand will be passed to my children more substantially than any religious education. If I want my children to grow spiritually, I must stay alive." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Mark Foreman Mark Foreman lives in the San Diego area and is the lead pastor of North Coast Calvary Chapel. The question Mark and his wife Jan Foreman are most often asked is: How did you raise your kids? Never Say No takes you on a personal journey to learn first-hand how they raised Jon and Tim of Switchfoot. Mark's been married to Jan, his "best friend and favorite Bible teacher," for over 46 years. Together they love surfing, sailing, travel and especially being with their family. Ministry Shout Out! Wild Sons - A community of men living from a full heart, pursuing a life of passion, adventure and freedom, walking intimately with God on a journey to become the men he created us to be. https://wildsons.com/ Podcast: https://wildsons.com/podcast Conversation Notes 3:15 – "You are the same today as you'll be in five years except for two things the books you read and the people you meet" Charlie "tremendous" Jones 3:53 – Mark introduces himself 5:08 – Bring your kids along for the adventure. Authenticity is an important ingredient. 5:50 – Agreement with their sons that they can all talk about anything they want. All topics are fair game because Jesus touches everything 6:43 – Surfing/Fatherhood comparison 7:38 – We must isolate the different variables of fatherhood and isolate some of them and then work on the variables that you really want to change 8:51 – "If you win 5000 people to Christ and you lose your own son, how does that feel?" 10:22 – The mistake of carrying around the wooden spoon and taking on the rigid disciplinarian role 11:03 – The importance of filling our kids love tanks 11:18 – "Time, Touch and Eye Contact" and the importance of wrestling 12:38 – The importance of listening and letting your kids dream 12:55 – "I Enjoy You" and the power of these words and the wonder it brings to children to hear them 13:15 – The surprising fact that a lot of people don't "like" their children 13:52 – The more time we spend with our kids, the more we enjoy them. We tend to like the things that we invest in 14:18 – It starts with understanding that God enjoys me 16:38 – book The Second Mountain (David Brooks) // We must go through a valley of pain before we can move to the 2nd mountain of serving and living for others 19:11 – Overview of the book Never Say No 20:53 – Process of thinking backwards and working backwards… What are we hoping for when our kids launch from the home at 18 years old? 21:18 – Most parents primary goal is safety. Most are scared to death of their kids getting hurt by the jungle of this world 21:52 – "Raising kids who own the jungle. Raise kids who change the world rather than run from the world" 22:32 – Raising artists. Every kid is raised in the image of God. He's a creator. He's the greatest artist. 23:40 – "Wonder happens when we get closer to God"… Humility and serving others also comes when we get closer to God. 24:24 – Reading books that stir up wonder 26:08 – Am I accidentally cutting the wings of my kids wonder and creativity 26:46 – Book Quote: ""How do I feel about God? Am I satisfied? Comfortable? Cynical? Disappointed? Indifferent? Am I on fire? That torch in my hand will be passed to my children more substantially than any religious education. If I want my children to grow spiritually, I must stay alive." 28:51 – It must be in me before I can hope something is in my kids. 29:10 – Mark's sons seeing him spending time reading his Bible 30:40 – "We are the caretakers of our kids hearts" 32:24 – "We're launching our kids from the moment they're born if we really believe we are raising kids that will change the world" 34:03 – Entire dadAWESOME episode on the book Never Say No with Ross Manders: https://dadawesome.org/episode48/ 34:32 – Slow down 35:42 – Mark's prayer for us fathers. Conversation Links: Never Say No (Mark and Jan Foreman) Switchfoot (his sons band) Mark's church Mark on Twitter Links from dadAWESOME https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"I wanted him in this liminal space. My goal was to irreparably break his heart for the poor of the world so he'd never just be a spoiled, complacent American ever – He'd always be haunted, because those years are so formative… I just wanted to get in there, God's heart for the poor." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Jon Tyson Jon Tyson is a Pastor and Church Planter in New York City. Originally from Adelaide, Australia, Jon moved to the United States twenty years ago with a passion to seek and cultivate renewal in the Western Church. He is the author of Rumors of God, Sacred Roots, A Creative Minority, The Burden is Light, and Beautiful Resistance. For the last 15 years Jon has lived in Manhattan with his family. He serves as the Lead Pastor of Church of the City New York. Ministry Shout Out! Adventures in Missions Adventures in Missions is an interdenominational missions organization that focuses on discipleship. We emphasize prayer and relationships in our work around the world. Since we were established in 1989, we have taken over 115,000 people into the mission field, some for as short as a week and others for as long as a year or longer. We minister year-round through our ministry bases and strategic ministry partnerships. We believe that by giving people the opportunity to step outside their comfort zones and join what God is doing in other cultures and nations, lives are transformed. We seek to disciple as Jesus did; our vision is that God would use us to raise up a generation of radically committed disciples of Jesus Christ. Family Mission Trips: https://www.adventures.org/family-mission-trips/ Conversation Notes 3:42 – Statement from a friend who works at Barna that heavily influenced Jon's life, "The church has basically reached a point of irreversible decline statistically, and by radical discipleship of our children, what would be described as a historic revival the church is beyond human turnaround. So it's going to take an act of God and radical discipleship for our kids." 5:00 – "The summer of covid-19 has probably been the hardest season of my life, but I've seen the greatest answers to prayer in my entire life this summer as well." 5:28 – Thoughts on personal prayer life and for our kids. "Intercessory prayer for the places that we live, having a sense of call to shape a place through prayer, those are sort of the huge passions of my life and I think it's the number one thing most people want to do, but don't know how to do. And it's the thing the enemy attacks the most because it's where all the power and fruit lie." 7:58 – How to coach our kids to pray? Make Jesus as compelling as possible. Also, stewarding your own life of prayer and sharing those answers with your kids. And make prayer fun. "The goal of prayer is to get your kids to love Jesus and I think when you're a kid, making prayer as enjoyable as possible and having consistency over intensity." 8:19 – Dr. David Ireland. Jon Tyson's coach. 8:43 – Thoughts on having a coach, finding a coach, and what Jon has learned from that relationship and how it's changed his life. 11:11 – Reasons to have a coach – "I think everybody needs someone older speaking into what they do. It's it's quite often in midlife…you've got enough success, you've sort of built your own coping mechanisms, tactics… you're kind of like 'I can just keep it going… I've built a life [and] I can probably manage this thing out,' and I was just like I need to get better. The future's changing and as things grow I need to be more agile, so I need to get a different toolkit." 13:25 – How to recognize a mentor? "I think… we all need to know what are we deeply called to, and then we'll know when we have the right person to speak into our lives." 13:44 – The Primal Path: Raising a Son of Consequence 15:19 – Sharing about writing meaningful letters to important people in our life. 15:53 – His son's voluntary expression of gratitude and how it impacted him. 16:48 – Writing a letter to his dad to share with him what he got right. 17:52 – Richard Rohr – "Whatever pain is not transformed is transmitted." "We tend to break our kids in the same place that we are broken because we don't know a way through it." 19:48 The Council of Dads: My Daughters, My Illness, and the Men Who Could Be Me by Bruce Feiler 20:52 – The World Race 20:57 – Sharing about the experience for his son. "I wanted him in this liminal space. My goal was to irreparably break his heart for the poor of the world so he'd never just be a spoiled, complacent American ever – He'd always be haunted, because those years are so formative… I just wanted to get in there, God's heart for the poor." 21:51 – Book: The compound effect. 22:21 – Sharing the story of his son's finishing The Primal Path with a 33 day hike across Spain 23:49 – Parenting through social contrac

"I think that we are called to pour our life into what will be left behind…I'm convinced that what will be left behind is not structures we built, not things we implemented, but just people that we fathered – that's what's going to be left behind." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Banning Liebscher Banning Liebscher was on staff at Bethel Church in Redding, California for eighteen years and founded the ministry Jesus Culture during that time. Banning and his family, along with the Jesus Culture team, relocated to the capital of California where they started a church, Jesus Culture Sacramento. Their vision is to see people encounter God, be empowered in community, and engage their city for revival and transformation. He and his wife, SeaJay, have three children. Ministry Shout Out! Christian Men's Network - https://cmn.men/ Brave Men Podcast Every Child Deserves a Loving Dad - Global Fatherhood Initiative is a human justice mission focused on defeating fatherlessness and stopping child abuse. As a result of sweeping global success, CMN has launched the Global Fatherhood Initiative—a strategic effort focusing on defeating fatherlessness, ending child abuse, and setting men free from sin and Satan. Conversation Notes 3:30 – "I think that we are called to pour our life into what will be left behind…I'm convinced that what will be left behind is not structures we built, not things we implemented, but just people that we fathered – that's what's going to be left behind." 3:51 – "I feel like I am to bring my life to the next generation and lay it down for them and give it to them." 4:44 – Dads being dreamers vs. Dads settling 5:45 – "When I stop dreaming, when I stop allowing my heart to really dream about things that apart from God are impossible, I not longer kind of lean in, I begin to lean back. I don't engage, I disengage. And I would say the greatest thing in the world you could do for your kids is to be a dreamer that's pursuing what God has in your life." 6:17 – "So I think our kids seeing us pursue the dreams that are in our heart is a really critical part of our fathering and discipling of them." 7:02 – "I think what we do comes out of who we are, and that we can't be defined by what we do." 7:14 – We have a call to "be" which is our IDENTITY and we have a call to "do" which is our MISSION. 8:03 – Challenging dads to not settle for anything less than the fullness of God in your life. 10:12 – "As long as you move at the speed of obedience, and as long as you move with the speed of community and covering, then you'll never be off, and even when you are off a little bit there will be grace because your heart is to be in this lane." 12:20 – Banning's new book – The Three Mile Walk:The Courage to Live the Life God Wants for You 12:43 – Family moments during quarantine 14:34 – Dad hacks to stay connected to the kids traveling 15:01 – "My kids are going to sacrifice for who I am and and the call on my life, but they also need to benefit and be blessed from that." 15:54 – "Whatever you do, like what I do to provide for the family has some cost involved, but I also want to make sure that there's blessing involved and that my kids are connected to it..make sure blessing is connected to the sacrifice as well and that it's not just sacrifice, it's not just that dad's gone." 18:07 – A story of trusting God with his kids 20:59 – "At the end of the day, what we know is this: any area of my life that has blessed, any area of my life that has wisdom attached to it, any area of my life that has fruit attached to it, it's because other people have joined me in it." 22:03 – "When I stand before God one day, [He's going to say] I didn't just require your best, I require your best and the best of these people I put around you, so when it comes to father I think the reality is our best ins't good enough – that's really never meant to be good enough. It' snot just my best I'm bringing to the is equation, it's my best and it's the best of…these men that pour into my life, that walk with me, that then allows me to be a good father." 22:46 – "When I allow myself to be isolated, when I allow myself to be independent, when i allow myself to think that I just should be able to do this on my own and I don't need anybody speaking into my life or challenging me or encouraging me, well I just want to say that your best isn't good enough…God didn't set it up that way." 23:09 – "God didn't set it up where…it's just you and nobody else, you just give it your best. He's like, I put a whole family around you and I'm bringing those strengths into your life so that you can accomplish what I've asked you to accomplish and raise these kids." 23:26 – "There's not one area of my life that hasn't been touched by the strength of other and that's why it has a measure of success to it." 23:38 – Th

"If your kids don't see the sabbath day as their favorite day of the week, then you're doing it wrong" dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Jeremy Pryor Jeremy Pryor is a business owner, creative entrepreneur, author, podcaster and a builder of multiple movements with family at the core. We're incredibly thankful for this conversation with Jeremy about his time in Jerusalem, welcoming his children into creative roles in his company and the long term iterating of their family sabbath. This is part 3 of our Creativity Month. Ministry Shout Out! Jon Tyson - Primal Path - https://www.primalpath.co/ The Intentional Father: A Practical Guide to Raise Sons of Courage and Character" Conversation Notes Meeting his wife in Jerusalem (5:55) Jewish dads and the intentionality of men with children (7:10) The life of Abraham and his role as a father (7:25) Asking a dangerous question- is there a connection with Abraham and how he saw family? (8:20) The Bible exclusively sees family through a fatherhood and family lens Abraham saw family as a multigenerational team on mission (9:10) Fatherhood insights from Jerusalem – Encounter, consider it, be influenced, adopt these principles (10:20) Story about Jeremy's daughter joining him on mission with his podcast (11:40) It's ok to sweep your kids into your own quirky obsessions (12:40) >> Strategically propagandizing his kids Superhero movies and the explosion of interest with the mythical (13:20) They read the same 5 passages of scripture each week as a family (14:59) Book Life together by Bonhoeffer Deuteronomy 6 Bible Midrash (15:50) Friday night epic meal to kick off the sabbath (16:00) Friday feast – Iterating on their sabbath for 15 years (16:40) It's a skill to learn how to honor God with the sabbath (17:59) Entering Rest Cleaning up as a team. Make it a dance party (18:35) Sabbath – "if your kids don't see the sabbath day as their favorite day of the week, then you're doing it wrong" (20:20) The sabbath is the Zenith of the week. Make it fun and make it meaningful and give yourself lot's of grace. The goal is for the sabbath to be life giving Goal – for his kids to all want to honor the sabbath when they are grown A mentor told Jeremy that he wasn't connecting with his sons heart (23:20) My bar was not at the right place with regards to what it meant to really have your kids heart at every stage (24:59) Are you partnering really well with your wife in this current season? (27:10) Don't be passive. Be a leader. Be a directive leader. (27:20) Be a strong central presence in the home in the stage of young kids. (28:20) Be a culture setter in the home (28:40) Creativity is within the mandate of Genesis 1 (28:59) God had a creative challenge and he set loose the family (29:50) There in nothing more central to the mandate of the family than being creative (30:40) Thinking about family as an investment with a much longer time horizon (32:20) We are not the center of our story. We're part of a much bigger multigenerational story (32:45) When dads start thinking multigenerational (33:40) Links https://familyteams.com/podcasts/ The Skill of Fatherhood Masterclass https://epipheo.com/ https://familyteams.com/resources/ https://www.1kh.org/ http://www.storyformedlife.org/ Links from dadAWESOME https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"Human beings were not meant to live in isolation and we weren't meant to live in a constant unknown. Learning to let it go (benevolent detachment)… is step one." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook John Eldredge John Eldredge is an author, a counselor, and a teacher. He is also president of Ransomed Heart, a ministry devoted to helping people discover the heart of God, recover their own hearts in God's love, and learn to live in God's Kingdom. John and Stasi live in Colorado Springs and he loves the outdoors passionately. His most recent book, Take Your Life Back provides a refreshingly simple guide to recover your life. By practicing a few wonder­fully simple practices—or what John calls "graces"—you can begin to recover your soul, disentangle from the tragedies of this broken world, and discover the restorative power of beauty. Ministry Shout Out! Morgan Snyder - https://becomegoodsoil.com/about/ Become Good Soil - BECOMING A KING - Morgan Snyder's Becoming a King speaks unabashedly to men, teaching them the life-changing truth about the power that God intends for them to responsibly step into for his Kingdom, while also giving women an honest peek behind the curtain into the lives and hearts of the men they know and love. Podcast Conversation Notes 5:57 – Most recent book: Get your Life Back by John Eldredge – 6:30 – "I had no idea how fast I was running and how little margin I had in my life." 6:56 – There has been a war for our attention that has kept us from giving our attention to our loved ones. 8:00 – "I was noticing assault on us by the world was robbing us of the ability to be present… to anything." 8:54 – Coaching tips for moving into the lifestyle of learning to nourish our souls. 9:37 – The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to Our Brains by Nicholas Carr 11:44 – One Minute Pause App by John Eldredge – A simple mindfulness app (www.pauseapp.com) 13:00 – 1 Peter 5:7 – Cast all your cares upon him because he cares for you. 13:15 – "Human beings were not meant to live in isolation and we weren't meant to live in a constant unknown. Learning to let it go (benevolent detachment)… is step one." 15:15 – Steps to the App: 1) Release. Let it go. 2) Heal our union with God. Our soul is meant to be united with God. It's been assaulted by fear and chaos. 3) Fill me with you, God. 17:27 – Prov 4:23 – Above everything guard your heart because out of your heart flows the wellspring of life. ….. "How your heart's doing affects everything else in your life. If your heart's not doing well, you don't love very well, if your heart's not doing well you don't have a lot of dreams. It is the epicenter." 18:38 – "We are reaping the fruit of a lot of human brokenness generationally….Many kids are growing up either without a dad present, or without a present dad. He might be taken home, but he's so taken out himself." 18:58 – Carl Jung – "The greatest psychological impact of a parent on a child is the unlived life of the parent….. If you're taken out, it's really hard to chase after the hearts of your kids." 19:27 – Parent for behavior vs. Parent for the heart 19:51 – "I am in a world at war. The fight is for the heart. Not only mine but everybody else's." 20:15 – Fathered by God by John Eldredge 20:42 – Gender identity is bestowed by the father. 21:09 – Both the little boy and little girl look to the father to answer their core questions. Boys – Do I have what it takes? Girls – Do you delight in me? Will anyone fight for me? 21: 30 – "God steps in to say, 'Look, I can still Father you. I can take you on the journey of maturation. You need to know you're a beloved son, you need to know that you're a delighted daughter first.'" 22:45 – God takes us through stages to the place where he can entrust us with kingdoms and influence (a family, education, money, etc). Guys blow up their world because inside they stay in adolescence. 23:48 – John Eldredge podcast – Ransomed heart podcast 25:20 – Listening prayer – asking God to Father us in the live moments – "what do I do with this? Help me." 25:53 – A story of a painful moment in parenting. Maintain communication – don't sever lines of communication. You won't get a lot solved in this moment, but you could do a lot of damage. 26:41 – God rescues in the live moment 27:05 – How can we move toward hearing God's voice in that moment? Know that you can (hear his voice). John 10 – My sheep hear my voice. Heb 3 – Today if you hear his voice Rev 3 – Behold I stand at the door and knock, if anyone hears my voice…. 28:15 – Don't try to hear the voice of God for the first time when it's high drama. Start with really small questions when your heart is quiet. 30:00 – If your inner life is locked up, and shut down in fear and hurt, it is harder to hear. God is super merciful and he'll speak anyways, but the [it will be more clear the]

"I think that our best moments as families, our best moments as parents but also kids' best moments, are when we are given the capacity for meaningful action in some way. That is, we have some ability to have something matter that we do, AND we are exposed to meaningful risk – that is, it could go wrong and we could lose something." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Andy Crouch Andy Crouch is partner for theology and culture at Praxis, an organization that works as a creative engine for redemptive entrepreneurship. His writing explores faith, culture, and the image of God in the domains of technology, power, leadership, and the arts. He is the author of five books (plus another with his daughter, Amy Crouch): The Life We're Looking For: Reclaiming Relationship in a Technological World (forthcoming from Convergent in April 2022), The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place, Strong and Weak: Embracing a Life of Love, Risk and True Flourishing, Playing God: Redeeming the Gift of Power, and Culture Making: Recovering Our Creative Calling. Andy serves on the governing boards of Fuller Theological Seminary and InterVarsity Christian Fellowship. He also serves as an advisor to The Repentance Project, The Pelican Project, and Revoice. For more than ten years he was an editor and producer at Christianity Today, including serving as executive editor from 2012 to 2016. He served the John Templeton Foundation in 2017 as senior strategist for communication. His work and writing have been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Time, and several editions of Best Christian Writing and Best Spiritual Writing—and, most importantly, received a shout-out in Lecrae's 2014 single "Non-Fiction." From 1998 to 2003, Andy was the editor-in-chief of re:generation quarterly, a magazine for an emerging generation of culturally creative Christians. For ten years he was a campus minister with InterVarsity Christian Fellowship at Harvard University. He studied classics at Cornell University and received an M.Div. summa cum laude from Boston University School of Theology. A classically trained musician who draws on pop, folk, rock, jazz, and gospel, he has led musical worship for congregations of 5 to 20,000. He lives with his family in Pennsylvania. Ministry Shout Out! Intentional - https://www.intentionalparents.org/ "Intentional exists to equip people throughout the world in their desire to become passionate Jesus followers to pass on who they become through their own life, leadership, marriage, parenting, and family for generations to come" The Intentional Film Series -- For quite some time it has been the dream of the Intentional Parents team to be able to invite anyone and everyone to learn how to raise the next generation of passionate Jesus followers. Though none of us claim to know it all— not even close!— this message has been the heartbeat of Phil and Diane's calling for over four decades. Starting with very little understanding of how to pass a vibrant, compelling faith on to their children, they've now spent the better part of their lives listening, learning, researching, studying, and practicing what they teach in this series. https://www.intentionalparents.org/film-series Show Notes: 2:59 – Introduction to Andy's family 5:03 – What are some of the components that lead to a family that is flourishing? Authority Vulnerability Discussing parenting literature about parenting with a balance of warmth and firmness. 6:54 – The authority and vulnerability paradox. Authority – capacity for meaningful action, the ability to do something and have it really matter in the world. Vulnerability is exposure to meaningful risk. 7:17 – "I think that our best moments as families, our best moments as parents but also kids' best moments, are when we are given the capacity for meaningful action in some way. That is, we have some ability to have something matter that we do, AND we are exposed to meaningful risk – that is, it could go wrong and we could lose something." 9:27 – Discussing the process of writing a book with his daughter. 11:45 – "Before they hit [adolescence], they're transparent in a way [that] we know what they're feeling, we know what they're thinking, and we usually know why. But then there's this important thing that happens in adolescence which is detaching from that transparency, in a way. Hopefully without secrets." 12:20 – Jeff's perspective on the book: (1) Andy continually pointed his daughter back to scripture. (2) It wasn't just about technology, it was about connecting with his daughter's heart. 14:08 – "The reality is tech is about the heart because so much of our relationships now are mediated and…especially as your kids hit adolescence… you really have to pay attention to the way that technology, and really sp

"So you're going to make some sort of mistakes. But fellas, I want you to know for sure you are absolutely dadAWESOME, because I got an awesome dad and I know I'm going to be an awesome dad because I'm a give it my all. Even if we're going the wrong way, I'm going the wrong way all the way, because I'm doing it because I love my kids and they're going to know that." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Michael Jr. Known as one of today's most gifted comedians, Michael Jr. brings laughter and understanding to audiences all over the world. Michael got his start performing at the legendary Comedy & Magic Club in Hermosa Beach: home of Jay Leno and "The Tonight Show." This outstanding performance led to Michael Jr. performing at the "Just for Laughs" comedy festival in Montreal where he became the first comedian to ever appear live via satellite on "The Tonight Show" which catapulted Michael's career. Now, Michael Jr. tours the country using comedy to inspire audiences to activate their purpose and live a life fulfilled. His impactful delivery and versatility has landed him on The Tonight Show, The Late, Late Show, Oprah, Jimmy Kimmel Live, Comedy Central, TedX Talks and a keynote for Fortune 500 companies. Michael has spent a significant portion of his career making laughter commonplace in uncommon places such as homeless shelters and prisons, in addition to empowering his audiences with an appearance in Sony Pictures' feature film War Room as well as a starring roles in Selfie Dad, and MORE THAN FUNNY. On the home front, Michael is happily married. He and his wife are the proud parents of five beautiful children. Ministry Shout Out! VENTURE - https://venture.org/ JUSTICE FOR THE UNREACHED -- We spend our greatest energies to address the world's greatest injustices, including human trafficking, refugee crises, and extreme poverty. We intentionally target areas with less than 2% Gospel Witness, and that receive less than 1% of all Christian Giving. The Global Partner for FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: 4:45 – "I have five kids and I have…five extra kids. And what I mean by that is there's a there's being a dad and there's also being a dad like one, because around us there's always some kids who don't have a father figure in their life at all." 5:55 – "The greatest name I've ever been called is DAD…I just I think there's a lot of guys who are missing out on some great opportunities in life… the cool part is, is even where our dads lack, God completely picks up plus some…" 7:39 – Funny How Life Works book 9:36 – "There's going to be times where things seem rough. You don't know what to do as a dad. You're struggling. But just the fact that you're there, just the fact that you're present is awesome. But in those times when things are getting hard, the key thing to do is to be still and listen to the Father's voice because he is talking to you. And what he wants you to know is that he's right here. He loves you. All you have to do is open your eyes." 11:17 – "Correct but don't reject." 12:43 – "Telling his kids after discipline: "I just do not like disciplining you. But it is a requirement. It's what I'm called to do. Otherwise you won't be prepared for when life tries to discipline you." 16:14- Addressing the "hecklers" in our lives – often our own negative self-talk. "You have to address the heckler and use scripture to chase the heckler away." 17:05 – On stepping out of being amatuer as a dad. The oldest dad in the world gave you this assignment, which means you must be ready for it….He is the greatest dad ever. And he looked at you and said, you know what? You're ready. 17:43 – The impact of his dad apologizing to him. "I remember him apologizing to me and I and I don't know if he was human before that. Like that's when he was most human when he apologized… " 18:11 – Tips for having important, hard conversations with your kids. 20:12 – Quote from Funny How Life Works: "Looking back, I now realize that many of the things I resented or found annoying about my earthly father are the very things that allowed me to open the gifts my Heavenly Father had deposited in me. 23:46 – "So you're going to make some sort of mistakes. But fellas, I want you to know for sure you are absolutely dadAWESOME, because I got an awesome dad and I know I'm going to be an awesome dad because I'm a give it my all. Even if we're going the wrong way, I'm going the wrong way all the way, because I'm doing it because I love my kids and they're going to know that." 24:55 – The way comedy works is there's a set up and there's a punchline. Right? The setup is when a comedian makes you think in one direction. What a punch line is when you change that direction in a way you're not expecting. The results are revelation, fulfillment and joy expressed through laughter. In l

You can't take out a pair of pliers and change wires and go, there you go, I told you, this is how we can fix you. We've got to cultivate what we want, and I think part of us as people looking back at our lives, I think if we don't get over ourselves early enough, then we take up all the energy to fix ourselves and we ignore to sow what we want in our children. It's amazing when the kid starts drifting, and you no longer have the reach and control you think you have. dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Pierre du Plessis Born in Johannesburg, South Africa, Pierre du Plessis and his family relocated in 1999 to pastor The Father's House, a multi-cultural, multi-generational, and multi-site church located in Rochester, NY. Pierre is known for his unique ability to bring the Bible to life using vivid illustrations mixed with humor and practical life application. He is passionate about mentoring & equipping leaders, engaging all generations and encouraging people to experience God. He is married to his best friend and partner in ministry, Marlize and they have two young adult children, Chloe and Caleb. Ministry Shout Out! Harbor Ministries - https://harborministries.com/ GOD IS ALL ABOUT DISRUPTION. So we followed His lead. We set out to wake leaders up and shake them free of crushing expectations, ineffective habits, and treacherous coping mechanisms. It couldn't be another course, conference, or retreat. It had to be a connection. An intimate experience. An ongoing support network. A band of brothers. It had to be a harbor. Since 2009, Harbor Ministries has journeyed with 25+ different RHYTHMinTWENTY or Rogue groups. These leaders come from 40+ different states. These leaders have refused to settle and have rebelled against the idea that impact required them to sacrifice their health, their sanity, their families, or their souls. They are discovering how to live with a rhythm that will allow them to leave a legacy and finish well. And along the way they are impacting hundreds of churches and organizations, and tens of thousands of people. AND THE WAVES THAT ARE CHANGING THE LEADERSHIP NARRATIVE HAVE JUST BEGUN. April 23rd - National Day of SPACE Space Podcast - https://harborministries.com/space/ Show Transcript: On behalf of all our guests, welcome to the show. Thank you so much. This is just a privilege to learn from you. So you're in Rochester, New York, but originally from South Africa, is that correct? That's right. Yes, we've been here now 20 years in Rochester. Two decades and you lead as the lead pastor of The Father's House in Rochester, NY. Will you help our listeners get to know you a little bit, Pastor Pierre, and talk about your wife, your family, your kids, and a little bit of what you're up to for leadership in ministry. Yes, so as you already mentioned, I come from South Africa. Born, and my family, everybody they come from a deep line of ministry. If I say ministry I think to put the context of ministry, it's a Pentecostal, conservative Pentecostal home that deeply loved Jesus and believed in prayer. Those are the good things. So many other things that roll from it, right? But it's all good. When I was about 33, we came to the U.S. It was not a straight narrative, there's so much to it, and I think some of that is learning that getting to where God wants you may take some U-Turns and loops, it's not always a straight line. We came when my kids were still small. I've got two kids. My daughter Chloe is the oldest. She was I think about a year and a half and my son was close to eight months when we came over, Caleb. My wife, Marlize comes from a great house too. South Africa is interesting, because you have so many cultures wrapped together in a very small land space. I come from a very very Afrikaans Dutch family. My wife, same country, she comes from an English family. So, different culture, different vibe. I like the English people, they're just laid back. Coming to her was like coming home for me, it's just the vibe, the culture, her as a person. Coming to Rochester, NY, I came as the creative arts and worship Pastor of a small church here in Rochester. About two years into this, we had the opportunity to start leading the church, and the rest is history. It has been a phenomenal, phenomenal ride, and we are so thankful that God pointed to us and called us over. That's amazing, and I know partially from my Lead Pastor, Pastor Peter Haas, and him talking about you, and even some of the leadership you do globally, even beyond, way beyond Rochester, New York, so thank you for all the areas you're leading in, but let's talk about leadership at home for a second. How old are your kids now? Are they out of the house now? I hope they'll never leave the house. You know, the fun thing is that my kids are, my daughter I think is 24 right now, my son,

"We have to break the spirit, disciple these kids and send them on risky, crazy adventures so that they can get their own stories so they can keep telling the miraculous amazingness of how good and amazing our Father is." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Gary Black Gary and Lisa Black have been married for nearly two decades. Raising their blended family from pre-school to now adults with their own families. When they married, Lisa was a young widow with two young daughters, and Gary lost his first marriage and took full custody of his three small boys. When they married, their sixth treasured child, Noah, was quickly added. In 2013, the tragic suicide of their 19-year-old son Michael Ryan Black threatened to silence the Black's voice through grief and despair, yet only furthered their resolve to fight for those who feel lost and unseen amongst the chaos of a broken world. Their past and future journeys of overcoming the loss of loved ones would turn out to be the gift and calling of their lives together. Together, Gary and Lisa-Marie have not only raised a family, but travel the world to teach, impart and mentor the generation that they have vowed to serve. The Blacks have invested their time, hearts, and lives into thousands of people through their coaching, mentoring, writing, and speaking to the World Race and G42 Leadership Academy. The Blacks believe with passion that we were all born to be loved by our Creator, and impart that message to those who find themselves stuck in religion, shame, and life's challenges. Show Notes: 2:50 - The phrase "Horrible. Wonderful." 2:58 - Richard Roar quote; "pain that is not transformed gets transmitted." 3:27 "I started studying initiation of young men and what that actually looks like because America is the only country that hasn't. And then, you know, reading his (Richard Roar's) book Adam's Return, The Five Promises of Male Initiation 4:35 - "How are you going to hold that? If you're allowing God to transform that pain in you and wound your wounds? You're going to handle a good call, a bad call to say it's not going to throw you off emotionally." 5:15 - Gary's story 15:43 - Gary sharing the story of his son dying 21:38 - Further explanation around anesthetizing and numbing away pain 22:04 - "I challenged him, are you just replacing one numbness to another numbness, something that you could just do so you're not left alone in your thoughts?" 22:45 - "Father. Let this hit my spirit, not my soul." 24:30 "every single morning I've learned to work from rest. I don't need the weekend. I don't need the vacation. I mean, those those things are awesome. But every single one" The BEMA Podcast - https://www.bemadiscipleship.com/ 27:20 "If you can get to that spot and say because He's good and I'm good, I was born to be loved. I wasn't born to be right. I was born to be loved. " 28:08 - The Stages: The lover... the warrior, the sage. The king 29:15 - Four YouTube Videos - A Fatherless Generation Fathering, Mothering, & Parenting | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 1 Who is a teacher and who is a Father | Part 2 Fall out of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 3 How to Break the Curse of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 4 31:17 - The Differences of the BOY verses the MAN 33:19 - Boys look for momentary pleasures and men look for true lasting fulfillment. They build memories. Unpunishable: Ending Our Love Affair with Punishment by Danny Silk 36:52 - "If I'm going to punish my kids and send him to his room, I'm teaching him to be better at me and sit in his anger. No, I'm going to go with him. And after his punishment has been 30 minutes of just what they love, right? If they're young kids, we've just got to shift our thinking as parents that, yes, discipline. But yeah, we love you even more." 37:37 - Malachi 4:5-6 "He will turn the hearts of the parents to their children, and the hearts of the children to their parents; or else I will come and strike the land with total destruction." 41:07 - "We have to break the spirit, disciple these kids and send them on risky, crazy adventures so that they can get their own stories so they can keep telling the miraculous amazingness of how good and amazing our Father is." Video Series: "adding LIFE to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ Links from Gary Black Gary's Website: https://garyandlisablack.com/ World Race: https://www.worldrace.org/ G42 Leadership Academy. https://generation42.org/ Four Video Resources for Fathers: Fathering, Mothering, & Parenting | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 1 Who is a teacher and who is a Father | Part 2 Fall out of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 3 How to Break the Curse of Fatherlessness | Fatherlessness Epidemic Part 4 Links from dadAWESOME https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWES

"the best way that I can be a strong father is to be the the most profound loving husband I can be... Children need to know to the degree that they're able that those two people. Love each other deeply" dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Dick Foth Dick Foth is an author, storyteller, and popular speaker. He holds a master's degree from Wheaton College Graduate School and a doctorate from Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. He and Ruth have invested the last twenty-five years working in the marketplace of business and government to encourage leaders in their personal lives. Dick also serves on the teaching teams of four congregations, including the multi-site National Community Church pastored by Mark Batterson in Washington, D. C. Show Notes: 0:48 - Jump back to Episode 217 - PART 1 of this conversation with Dick Foth 01:21 - FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS spotlight: We ignite your calling by connecting you physically and spiritually with the cause of the fatherless and the heart of the Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS changes lives by exposing men to a cause beyond themselves. They are propelled to challenge themselves, cycling 100 miles, in response to our Heavenly Father's heart for the Fatherless. https://f4f.bike/ 2:59 - Jeff asks about the 3 yr old moment with his daughter Jenny - The Grand Design Move 4:34 - "I watched that that physical action of lifting her arms to be picked up by her father move into the metaphor and the eternal action of lifting her hands to the most high God saying up, daddy" 6:30 - Paraphrasing the Bible for our kids - frame Biblical stories in your own language 7:50 - creating stories and characters and incorporating Biblical lessons and moral lessons 9:10 - Dick explains his friendship and mentorship with Mark Batterson - the term Spiritual Father is Mark's term - divine chemistry 10:28 - "there was chemistry... The Lord put it together, but I think I think both of us are curious. I think both of us are readers... And both of us are adventurers." 11:01 - Mark Batterson wrote: "our Father-Son friendship is not the means to some other mission. Our friendship is the mission." - this article - The Heart of Spiritual Parenting 13:41 - John 13:14 "There is no greater love than to lay down one's life for one's friends. ... Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends" 14:27 - Band of Brothers example of deep sacrificial friendship 16:52 - "We decided we would take a one year self-imposed sabbatical. I was 50 years old. To figure out what to do with the last half". 18:06 - "the challenge with going up the corporate ladder is that you the how you go, the more competitive it gets, the closer you play your cards and you get to the top of the heap and you have a thousand acquaintances and no friends" 19:27 - "Stepping out in faith never changes. If you know where you're going, you don't need to trust God." 22:31 - "the question is: where do they(my kids) come on my priorities and how do I frame my time in order to make them first? 23:39 - "the best way that I can be a strong father is to be the the most profound loving husband I can be... Children need to know to the degree that they're able that those two people. Love each other deeply" 25:00 - Dick closing prayer We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ Links from Dick Foth Dick's Website (book, blog, videos, podcast) - https://www.known.fm/ Known: Finding Deep Friendships in a Shallow World Influence Magazine Article - The Heart of Spiritual Parenting -- Turning meaningful experiences into life-changing adventures Links from dadAWESOME https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"Why is it that people, you give your prime time to people you hardly know? And the kids and I get the leftovers?" dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Dick Foth Dick Foth is an author, storyteller, and popular speaker. He holds a master's degree from Wheaton College Graduate School and a doctorate from Gordon Conwell Theological Seminary. He and Ruth have invested the last twenty-five years working in the marketplace of business and government to encourage leaders in their personal lives. Dick also serves on the teaching teams of four congregations, including the multi-site National Community Church pastored by Mark Batterson in Washington, D. C. Partner Spotlight: Restoration Project - www.restorationproject.net/dadawesome You want to be a good dad. But fathering often feels like a dumpster fire. Especially when you don't know what to do. That's why each month No Regrets dads receive the following resources to fuel their fathering: Experience Blueprints - Practical, plug and play experiences for you to connect with your kids Fathering Tools - These are specific PDF's to give you insight for specific issues (when my kids says I hate you) Private Podcasts - Fuel your fathering with further conversation on that month's blueprint and toolbox resource Show Notes: We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ 2:55 - Dick Foth reflecting on his 80th birthday (the day before the recording) 4:59 - "I think the I think that the the fact that we struggle along the way and learn by our struggles, that's the place people connect with us. People don't connect with my victories. People connect with my suffering" 7:07 - Story about friendships and asking other men to come with him to the hospital as a young pastor 8:29 - Relationship Baseball Dimond concept from (Lyman Coleman) 9:27 - First Base = history giving 11:05 - Second Base = affirmation 12:31 - Third Base = covenant, which is we do stuff together 13:34 - Fourth Base = know your dreams and hold you accountable for your dreams 14:15 - Why is our culture so lonely? (Jeff asks) 15:18 - Importance of the family dinner table 16:30 - PARTNER SPOTLIGHT - Restoration Project No Regrets membership 18:37 - Generational Observations about the state of fatherhood 19:00 - story of Dick's parents divorce 19:30 - powerful story of his father-in-law affirming Dick and offering to come along-side in early marriage. 20:15 - "when my father walked away, my father in law walked in." 21:03 - Observations that Dick is seeing in his son and sons-in-law -- "what I see in our our sons in law sends a lot and our son in terms of attention, paid time invested. They're not perfect. Clearly, I mean, who can be? But they're they're focused in a way I don't think I was." 22:30 - story about Dick's wife leaving him and saying she will never come back 23:30 - Assuming the stance of a LEARNER 23:46 - "I think I learned that I wasn't paying attention. I was paying attention to a lot of other things and people because of my drive to succeed. I think that was part, you know, I say, Well, I want to build a kingdom, but I don't know where build a kingdom and personally succeed, where that line is crossed. I don't know. You know, I think it's I think it's a mishmash, actually." 24:27 - Question from Dick's wife Ruth - "She said, why is it that people, you give your prime time to people you hardly know? And the kids and I get the leftovers?" 25:30 - "I need to reverse my priorities... it's the it's the idea of who, who is the person and or persons in my world who have covenant it with me." 16:30 - PARTNER SPOTLIGHT - Restoration Project No Regrets membership We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ Links from Dick Foth: Dick's Website (book, blog, videos, podcast) - https://www.known.fm/ Known: Finding Deep Friendships in a Shallow World Influence Magazine Article - The Heart of Spiritual Parenting -- Turning meaningful experiences into life-changing adventures Links from dadAWESOME: https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"I just want to pour in... I don't want to be the guy who's over on the couch. Whose mailed it in and thinks that everything's going to be great. I want to be 100 percent in the game. Are they on my calendar or are they on my prayer list? Are they people I'm spending time with? I just want to keep honing..." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Chad Johnson After twenty-eight years of joyful marriage, author Chad Johnson is still pursuing the woman of his dreams, the lovely Jenise. Chad is a successful entrepreneur and business coach to elite-level business owners. He is the founder of TheAchademy.com, co-founder of NewlywedCoaching.com, and MarriageMaximizer.com. Chad is also an entrepreneurial coach with Strategic Coach, helping clients build and strengthen their businesses. Chad and Jenise love their eleven children and five grandchildren. They enjoy traveling with their family and including them in the family business, Farmhouse Candle Shop. You can watch their adventures on their YouTube channel The Big Ski Family. Show Notes: We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ 3:37 - "there's nothing like the heart of a daughter and a daddy in that bond, and I'm just excited for you." 4:07 - 11 children on a family front, the oldest is twenty seven and down to nine years old. Three of our daughters are married and grandbaby number seven is on the way. Proverbs 10:22 - "The blessing of the LORD enriches, and He adds no sorrow to it. King James Bible The blessing of the LORD, it maketh rich, and he addeth no sorrow with it." 5:45 - FIVE things that God has placed in my heart and these five priorities I call them, but I call my giant five. And Jeff, remember to be talking about that to me. So many of us as men, as fathers, as business leaders or ministry leaders or whatever, we're confronted with so many competing things for our attention, for our time, for energy, for our resources, and how do we filter, how do we prioritize? 6:00 – The Giant Five Framework – top priorities 1) Faith – it's foundational 2) Marriage – must be on the same page fighting together 3) Children – Aspire to raise them to be all God created them to be. 4) Heath – being fit, healthy and active 5) Career/Work/Ministry – Using God given Unique Abilities to earn, serve, and bless others 9:55 - Chad discussing worshipping God as a Family 17:00 - Chad explains building a business as a family 20:00 - Mothers Day Gifts - Farmhouse Candle Shop 21:17 - "I've always been a dreamer jobs, and I know I can recognize another one or a mile away. And you're that guy." 100 Dreams: Years ago I wrote down my dream list…marry the perfect woman, have a big family, grow a business, earn a ____ $ a year, travel to Austria, write a book, run an Ironman, memorize the book of James, get my pilot's license, teach the entire family to ski, coach and speak, and many more. Pulling out the list this week I removed, fly my own jet, and added, be the world's best grandpa, and live in a tree house. Next step, pick 3, put on the calendar and get going! 24:12 - "God is so good. When you become a parent, you're one for life... And I see that in the way that I get to pour into my older young people and my married kids. Now I'm on a Zoom call every week with my sons in laws and my older sons that are in their 20s." 24:46 - "I just want to pour in... I don't want to be the guy who's over on the couch. Whose mailed it in and thinks that everything's going to be great. I want to be 100 percent in the game. Are they on my calendar or are they on my prayer list? Are they people I'm spending time with? I just want to keep honing..." 25:26: How to Win a Heart: One Man's Adventure in Finding and Winning His Lifelong Love -- GET THE FREE - Simple Guidelines for Intentional Dating -- this will equip you to navigate your adventurous journey of finding and building a love that glorifies God and delights you for a lifetime. https://howtowinaheart.com/bonus-guide 27:57 - "Chad, where are you? Where are you with the Lord? OK, where are you with your knees? And if if it's not right, want it to be, it's always done me. It's dad. It's always on us. It is night where you want it to be today. If it's not fine, if it's not joyful, if it's not romantic, it's not rich, not real. If you're not close. It's on me, not her. What do I need to do to bring that closeness?" 31:54 - "My daughters are unbelievable? They are rare. They are so precious. They are so precious and so rare because they're not doing it the way the world is doing it. They're listening to what God's word says and the guys who find my daughters... He is bringing men. Godly men who are unbelievable..." 34:00 - Newlywed Coaching 36:49 - "At the end of my life, it's truly about my relationship with God and my relati

"The world is crying out for men and dads who are on fire. That love what they're doing and their giving it their all" dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Chad Johnson After twenty-eight years of joyful marriage, author Chad Johnson is still pursuing the woman of his dreams, the lovely Jenise. Chad is a successful entrepreneur and business coach to elite-level business owners. He is the founder of TheAchademy.com, co-founder of NewlywedCoaching.com, and MarriageMaximizer.com. Chad is also an entrepreneurial coach with Strategic Coach, helping clients build and strengthen their businesses. Chad and Jenise love their eleven children and five grandchildren. They enjoy traveling with their family and including them in the family business, Farmhouse Candle Shop. You can watch their adventures on their YouTube channel The Big Ski Family. Show Notes: We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ 2:54 – Chad introduces his family 3:34 – Imperfect fatherhood – there are no perfect husbands and there are no perfect fathers 4:00 – "Man, it would be awesome to have 10 kids… And you can see what happens when you keep saying one more" 4:40 – This fathering thing never stops… now they keep adding new kids as their kids get married 6:17 – The Big Ski Family – "it would be so fun to have a family entrepreneurial whim" – Global Ambassadors for Family Skiing 9:00 – The Giant Five Framework – top priorities 1) Faith – it's foundational 2) Marriage – must be on the same page fighting together 3) Children – Aspire to raise them to be all God created them to be. 4) Heath – being fit, healthy and active 5) Career/Work/Ministry – Using God given Unique Abilities to earn, serve, and bless others 16:30 – Chad reflecting on his father 18:10 – My dad has always prioritized his relationship with God and my mom. 21:15 – The value of working hard as a family… "Ability to tackle hard things. To not run from a project" 25:10 – "I'm ok stirring the pot. I don't want my kids to have a sterile, safe, protected, isolated environment." 27:01 – Chad reflects on the pain of sexual sin and how it impacted his family. 30:05 – "My young children were at risk when I fell" 31:00 – "You want to talk about ripping your heart out. I knew that I was hurting my wife and I hated it. I despised it. And then I realized that I was brining it into my children's lives somehow" 32:15 – "I was believing the lie that my wife and my children would be better off without me" 33:15 – The driving mission of helping men hear the message of freedom in Christ and the solution that only God can bring. 34:00 – Christ in me the hope of glory 34:40 – I needed power for the right now. Ability to walk in power of the Holy Spirit. 36:20 – Fatherhood, Family, Freedom – they all intersect and if we walk in freedom, our kids get freedom 37:20 – Coaching words for us – "Where there is no vision, the people perish: but he that keepeth the law, happy is he." 38:08 – God made you a masterpiece 39:40 – "The world is crying out for men and dads who are on fire. That love what they're doing and their giving it their all" 40:48 – "Live life like a movie you'd want to watch with your children and grandchildren" 41:01 – Chad's prayer – Jude 24-25 "Now unto him that is able to keep you from falling, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, To the only wise God our Savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen." We just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ Links from Chad Johnson: Chad's Book - How to Win a Heart: One Man's Adventure in Finding and Winning His Lifelong Love NewlywedCoaching.com MarriageMaximizer.com Farmhouse Candle Shop www.StrategicCoach.com (Coaching the world's best Entrepreneurs and Business Owners as an Entrepreneurial Coach) www.TheBigSkiFamily.com (On a mission: Introduce 1 MILLION families to the joy of Skiing together) Instagram (Chad @thegiant5guy) Instagram (@thebigskifamily) Links from dadAWESOME: https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript coming soon

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Robert Lewis Few have had as significant an impact on discipling men in the past forty years than Robert Lewis. As a pastor, speaker, and author, Robert's passion for leading men to grow in biblical manhood led him to produce the Men's Fraternity film series in 1995. This three-year men's curriculum quickly spread into churches, businesses, colleges, and even correctional facilities across the United States and later to over 20 countries. Today, Men's Fraternity and its follow up series, 33, have impacted millions of men worldwide. Author of numerous books including best-selling The Church of Irresistible Influence, Raising a Modern-Day Knight, and Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage, Robert is known for helping men build their lives on practical biblical truth that gets real-life results. Now, in authoring the "BetterMan" curriculum, Robert offers a new way for men, especially younger men, to get their hands around God's timeless design for authentic manhood. Show Notes: :52 - we just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ 5:34 - "When the wedding day came, I was wondering where dad was or dad was at home drunk in bed before the wedding went on without him." 6:20 - "My wife and I just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary together, and what we did for our wedding anniversary is we had all the grandkids. I have 10 of them and our kids come out just to us and we replayed our marriage ceremony." 8:10 - Serial monogamy. Robert explaining how marriage is a series of marriages to the same woman 10:12 - Community - "I got with two other dads this we had seven sons" 10:51 - "We designed ceremonies for sons. We came up with four ceremonies, one that we would do when they became a teenager. 13. One when they got their driver's license at 16 independence. One when they left home. Hopefully for college with total independence from Spain. We have 18 and then one when they graduated from college at twenty one. So that was four ceremonies. And over the next 20 something years we did twenty eight ceremony funds and we are so glad that we did because all seven of us sons are strong believers doing well in all of their forties now." 12:50 - "two things that remain friends... drawing wisdom from them and that season lives and their friendship. And the other thing is staying close to God personally, those two things. And then you have the two essentials 14:07 - "God gave me two men, but we became close together and we both had the same desire to be good at family, good at parenting, good at our marriage." 15:27 - Phases to Knighthood. 16:13 - "what if we raised our boys to be in a culture Knights to their world? 18:44 - Application to moms and daughters 19:36 - Five Essentials to Engage Today's Men - Barna and BetterMan -- "There's no denying that today's men face unique cultural challenges in life, work, and ministry. That's why we partnered with Barna to create a comprehensive resource for pastors, men's ministry leaders, and mentors looking to effectively reach today's men. Filled with eye-opening statistics and thought-provoking insights, this study is catered to empower you as you support men on their journey towards better." 32:07 - "sons are looking for the substance of life, as I hope to prove they hunger for the best things in the absence of these anchors, sons drift. But when loving dads add these into the manhood mix, their sons flourish. They become noble men, gentlemen, men of valor, principled men, knights." 34:37 - Proverb 17:6 says; "Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers...and "glory" word as the implication of weight. And I remember when I read that I thought, that's interesting the weight of sons, which their dads, and all of a sudden I realized what dads give their sons weight, which stabilizes them. You have those inflatable dummies that you can get up in the air." 36:40 - Robert's prayer Episode Links: Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father's Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood BetterMan Barna Study - BetterMan - https://betterman.com/barna-report/ https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"sons are looking for the substance of life, as I hope to prove they hunger for the best things and in the absence of these anchors, sons drift. But when loving dads add these into the manhood mix, their sons flourish. They become noble men, gentlemen, men of valor, principled men, knights. dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Robert Lewis Few have had as significant an impact on discipling men in the past forty years than Robert Lewis. As a pastor, speaker, and author, Robert's passion for leading men to grow in biblical manhood led him to produce the Men's Fraternity film series in 1995. This three-year men's curriculum quickly spread into churches, businesses, colleges, and even correctional facilities across the United States and later to over 20 countries. Today, Men's Fraternity and its follow up series, 33, have impacted millions of men worldwide. Author of numerous books including best-selling The Church of Irresistible Influence, Raising a Modern-Day Knight, and Rocking the Roles: Building a Win-Win Marriage, Robert is known for helping men build their lives on practical biblical truth that gets real-life results. Now, in authoring the "BetterMan" curriculum, Robert offers a new way for men, especially younger men, to get their hands around God's timeless design for authentic manhood. Show Notes: :52 - we just released a free film series. A short video series "Adding Life to the Dad Life" https://dadawesome.org/life/ 5:34 - "When the wedding day came, I was wondering where dad was or dad was at home drunk in bed before the wedding went on without him." 6:20 - "My wife and I just celebrated our 50th wedding anniversary together, and what we did for our wedding anniversary is we had all the grandkids. I have 10 of them and our kids come out just to us and we replayed our marriage ceremony." 8:10 - Serial monogamy. Robert explaining how marriage is a series of marriages to the same woman 10:12 - Community - "I got with two other dads this we had seven sons" 10:51 - "We designed ceremonies for sons. We came up with four ceremonies, one that we would do when they became a teenager. 13. One when they got their driver's license at 16 independence. One when they left home. Hopefully for college with total independence from Spain. We have 18 and then one when they graduated from college at twenty one. So that was four ceremonies. And over the next 20 something years we did twenty eight ceremony funds and we are so glad that we did because all seven of us sons are strong believers doing well in all of their forties now." 12:50 - "two things that remain friends... drawing wisdom from them and that season lives and their friendship. And the other thing is staying close to God personally, those two things. And then you have the two essentials 14:07 - "God gave me two men, but we became close together and we both had the same desire to be good at family, good at parenting, good at our marriage." 15:27 - Phases to Knighthood. 16:13 - "what if we raised our boys to be in a culture Knights to their world? 18:44 - Application to moms and daughters 19:36 - Five Essentials to Engage Today's Men - Barna and BetterMan -- "There's no denying that today's men face unique cultural challenges in life, work, and ministry. That's why we partnered with Barna to create a comprehensive resource for pastors, men's ministry leaders, and mentors looking to effectively reach today's men. Filled with eye-opening statistics and thought-provoking insights, this study is catered to empower you as you support men on their journey towards better." 32:07 - "sons are looking for the substance of life, as I hope to prove they hunger for the best things in the absence of these anchors, sons drift. But when loving dads add these into the manhood mix, their sons flourish. They become noble men, gentlemen, men of valor, principled men, knights." 34:37 - Proverb 17:6 says; "Grandchildren are the crown of the aged, and the glory of children is their fathers...and "glory" word as the implication of weight. And I remember when I read that I thought, that's interesting the weight of sons, which their dads, and all of a sudden I realized what dads give their sons weight, which stabilizes them. You have those inflatable dummies that you can get up in the air." 36:40 - Robert's prayer Episode Links: Raising a Modern-Day Knight: A Father's Role in Guiding His Son to Authentic Manhood BetterMan Barna Study - BetterMan - https://betterman.com/barna-report/ https://dadawesome.org/life/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

And you could do that as an awesome dad to just hover. I think that's the first thing God did over the Earth. He just hovered. Hover over each person your family like, what is kid number one need that I could only uniquely provide them. Because if they need a ride, they could get Uber to provide. They'd give em a ride. But just say, is there something else they uniquely need that only I could provide and then hover over your spouse and hover over a couple of friends for a moment? And did you say, like, what are they uniquely need that only I could provide. dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Bob Goff Bob spent decades as an attorney, trying to figure out how to live a whimsical, impactful life. These days, he calls himself a "recovering lawyer" because after practicing law for 25 years, then becoming the Honorary Consul to Uganda, he gave up his law firm to pursue writing and speaking full time. He's a New York Times bestselling author several times over, runs a popular weekly podcast, and recently turned farmer at The Oaks just outside San Diego, California. Show Notes: Focusing on the context of the moments and seasons with our families helps focus on what is important. 3:45 - It's just like, give context, you're only here, so wanting to be these memories that they're going to drop into a relatively small box of mental pictures they'll have of, of what it felt like to be raised in your family. And so super intentional about that, but curious and always looking for context. 4:55 - Having ideas to surprise his kids - keeping things secret to 8:00 - Living a "no capes" kind of life. 7:50 - So there's some rationale behind living a "no capes" kind of life to not make a big deal about it. If faith is important to somebody listening, then Jesus talked about that. And you know, if you stand on the street corner, make a big deal about it. Yeah, then you get a little golf clap here. But if you just don't, dude go live a no capes kind of life, then you get to talk to Jesus about it forever, which is really a problem for a guy like me who writes books and speaks because I talk about everything, right? And it's not because I'm trying to make people think I'm swell, I just am talking about the thing of the day. And but I realize in doing that, Jesus's words like, you've had your reward. And so I would do a couple of capers that you haven't told anybody about. Just do it because it'd be awesome. 9:37 - Fainting goats and Sweet Maria 10:20 - Jeff Zaugg - Adding a "label that adds life" over our kids and spouses 10:40 - What if we had nicknames for the people we loved? 12:56 - "And you could do that as an awesome dad to just hover. I think that's the first thing God did over the Earth. He just hovered. Hover over each person your family like, what is kid number one need that I could only uniquely provide them. Because if they need a ride, they could get Uber to provide. They'd give em a ride. But just say, is there something else they uniquely need that only I could provide and then hover over your spouse and hover over a couple of friends for a moment? And did you say, like, what are they uniquely need that only I could provide." 14:44 - How Bob managed to stay connected to his daughter attending college in Seattle. 16:43 - Four-part framework for intentional fatherhood -- Sign up at: https://dadawesome.org/life/ 17:52 - The story of the Wake Up Fairy from Love Does for Kids 18:47 - Jeff asks Bob to be the "Wake Up Fairy" for dads 19:19 - A challenge to dads: "Quit your job. Like, literally that's it. I would say nine out of 10 of the people I know, male and female, are in jobs that were great on the day they got them, but they've changed. New Day, New You. And still, there you've changed. And the job didn't. And so I would just say just quit." 21:32 - Story of a pediatric brain surgeon who quit his job. "No, he actually really loves what he does. He just needed to reconnect with his family. And when he got that right, then everything sort of fallen into place." 22:24 - Sometimes we wait for, you know, just all the right things to line up before we make a move. What about make the move and then say, OK, so this is a fixed point. What needs to change and you're going to figure it out. All the things that made you successful in the previous job will make you successful. 22:59 - "That was a stupid economic move, but it was an awesome new creation move, and I think that's where we want to do. Start making some really neat new creation moves... to actually live in it... why not actually live like see yourself in the mirror is like, what is Bob possible? 25:09 - "Constantly saying; "what's possible", not what's familiar, but sometimes the familiar will get in the way of what's actually possible" 28:02 - Bob's stories about what he is learning from his time at San Quentin St

40 new experiences; things I've never done in my life... Instead of moving towards comfort and rhythms and things I've already done before, I am intentionally adding new things because I want to stay curious. I want to be a learner... I want to stay humble. I want to be in this growth mindset. dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Jeff Zaugg Jeff and Michelle Zaugg will celebrate 16 years of marriage this coming July. They currently live in a 37 foot RV with their 4 young daughters. After 10-years of entrepreneurial non-profit ministry leadership, Jeff served as a pastor at Substance Church in the Twin Cities for the past 7 years. In Fall 2020 Jeff took the leap and went full-time fatherhood ministry. He is the founder and lead cheerleader at dadAWESOME & FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS. When he's not wrestling or playing hide and seek with his daughters, you might find Jeff out for a bike ride, making a pour over coffee, sitting by a fire with his wife or challenging some friends to a game of Spikeball. Show Notes: :49 - if you missed the last two weeks episode 211 and 212 Seth Dahl 1:36 - I turned 40 a few days ago and I've actually been off social media for the past 40 days... an anticipation season, trying to narrow my focus, spend time with my family, try to push away some distractions 01:58 - Today as we drop this episode run day 98 of the dadAWESOME RV tour, we're in Orlando, Florida right now and so grateful we are still traveling... 2:28 - "I think in general, as I get older and as most of us dads get a little older, it is easy to play it safe and to coast." 3:01 - STORY about the RIP TIDE -- Byron Bay, Australia 6:31 - "The reason I shared this Riptide story in Byron Bay, Australia, is, I think at the age of 40 at the age... at every single new season, new chapter we can. If we're not careful, we will end up being drawn and we will drift and be pulled in the direction of the world. In the direction of comfort, in the direction of of more is better. In the direction of this is just the direction we get pulled in the next phase. More busyness, more hustle. And I think intentionality requires us to fight against the pull that we're drawn towards." 7:43 - I've decided to take on what I call THE INTENTIONAL FORTY. It's a challenge. The Intentional Forty - https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ 7:53 - "My girls right now this season of my life, they can notice they're old enough now to notice Where's dad's focus? Where where am I running after? What am I? What am I putting extra energy towards? And do they see me coasting and drifting and being drawn in the direction of every other dad? Or do they see a dad who with courage says, I'm going to chart a different course?" 8:53 - "My girls, when they turn 40, are going to know that their dad put emphasis on these four areas, and the intentional 40 just gives a practical reason to get intentional in these four areas." 9:04 - "So 10 of my 40 experiences are going to be with my wife, Michelle" 9:36 - "Ten of these experiences are with my daughters." 11:00 - "The next 10 are with friends, so I've friendships are so important. My girls, when they turn 40, are going to know their dad was intentional with friendships." 11:32 - "the final 10 or with mentors. So I'm going to intentionally. Most of my mentors are kind of in the 50 to 80 years old season of life, and I'm going to pursue them and ask them where you spent a couple of hours do this experience." 12:06 - "I am going to do 40 new experiences, things I've never done in my life and as a 40 year old. Instead of going towards comfort and rhythms and things I've already done before, I am intentionally trying to do new things because I want to stay curious. I want to be a learner, I want to. I want to stay humble. I want to be in this growth mindset." 12:41 - These are four building blocks. These are anchors to what I think are the most important things mentorship, friendship, marriage in my time with my girls. So so I'm doing this intentional 40 challenge. 13:44 - https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ 14:25 -- 1 Peter 4:7-11 TPT "Since we are approaching the end of all things, be intentional, purposeful, and self-controlled so that you can be given to prayer. Above all, constantly echo God's intense love for one another...." 15:23 -- Proverbs 24:3-4 TPT "Wise people are builders — they build families, businesses, communities. And through intelligence and insight their enterprises are established and endure. Because of their skilled leadership, the hearts of people are filled with the treasures of wisdom and the pleasures of spiritual wealth." https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ Episode Links: https://dadawesome.org/intentional/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

"Peace is the atmosphere of heaven... peace is the oxygen of heaven. It's everywhere in heaven. It is just like righteousness, peace and joy are the kingdom of God. It already belongs to us, Jesus said, I give you my peace, I leave you, not as the world gives..." dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Seth Dahl Seth Dahl is a writer and worldwide speaker to adults and children. He is known for his powerful wisdom communicated through a contagious joy and childlikeness. Seth and Lauren love to empower families to build a strong connection that fosters peace and creates a thriving family culture. Seth, Lauren and their three children homestead with a large garden and handful of animals on a small farm in Texas. With over 15 years experience working with children and being a children's pastor, Seth has cultivated a passion to help parents create a thriving family culture at home. Sometimes parenting is overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be! Seth and Lauren love being able to equip people with the practical and spiritual tools they need to create the thriving family culture they've always dreamed of. Show Notes: Part 1 of this conversation with Seth Dahl - https://dadawesome.org/211/ 2:09 - Facebook Messenger for Kids 4:18 - Documentary - The Social Dilemma - https://www.thesocialdilemma.com/ Joshua 1:9 "I've commanded you to be strong and brave. Don't ever be afraid or discouraged! I am the LORD your God, and I will be there to help you wherever you go." 7:37 "I need to take one step at a time... I need to step back from social media and then get a better look..." 15:36 - "I watched those movies so I can intentionally shut the door... I'm not afraid of it. I want them to learn this with me before they're out there learning it on their own...." 16:17 - "I do at the movies. I'm probably going to have to do it. They're just like, I've done it with the knives. You're not going to go play with knives by yourself and hide because you can play with your knives with me and you're you're trusted and you're safe and you've developed it. And I feel totally confident my kid carrying a knife when he's old enough in his pocket and being fine." 17:49 - Peace is the atmosphere of heaven... Bill Jones would say peace is the oxygen of heaven. And so it's, you know, it's everywhere in heaven. It is just like righteousness, peace and joy are the kingdom of God. So it's. It's important it matters." 18:25 - "the world is like, Hey, you can have peace when everything's good and God's like, No, I'm going to give it to you in the middle of the storm so you can not so you can survive the storm so you can change the storm... So the storm can't survive you. Peace is not like the world. So when all the problems are gone, then you have peace. But God is like no. In the middle of all the problems, I will give you peace so you can not just be OK, you can actually do something about it." 19:33 - There is a difference between peacekeeping and peacemaking, right, and sometimes peacekeeping means it's not actual real peace." 20:57 - "We bought this notebook that's called, "people I want to punch in the face"... this doesn't sound very Christian." 22:07 - "We are going to respond in the opposite spirit and we are going to pray for them and I ask him, I say, Do you want to hold on to all that or do you want to let it go? I want to let it go. Do you want those things to start driving the decisions that you make in the way you treat people? Or do you want to be in charge of who the decisions you make and how you change? I want to be in charge. OK, let's let it go. Let's do it. Let's forgive. And so we pray" Episode Links: https://sethdahl.com/ Seth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethdahl/ Raising Spirit-Led Kids: Guiding Kids to Walk Naturally in the Supernatural Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

I'm trying to reawaken something inside you. I'm trying to reawaken something that was lost. And this is who you are and and this is trying to stop it. Keep going. Keep hunting. Do it... dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Seth Dahl Seth Dahl is a writer and worldwide speaker to adults and children. He is known for his powerful wisdom communicated through a contagious joy and childlikeness. Seth and Lauren love to empower families to build a strong connection that fosters peace and creates a thriving family culture. Seth, Lauren and their three children homestead with a large garden and handful of animals on a small farm in Texas. With over 15 years experience working with children and being a children's pastor, Seth has cultivated a passion to help parents create a thriving family culture at home. Sometimes parenting is overwhelming, but it doesn't have to be! Seth and Lauren love being able to equip people with the practical and spiritual tools they need to create the thriving family culture they've always dreamed of. Show Notes: Previous Seth Dahl Interviews on dadAWESOME 137 | Spirit-Filled Parenting, Hearing God's Voice, & Shaping our Kids as Arrows (Seth Dahl) 151 | Raising Spirit-Led Kids Part 2 (Seth Dahl) 5:09 - South Austin State Park for hiking and seeing the Waterfall: McKinney Falls State Park 6:34 - "what am I taking my focus off of?" 7:06 - "I want to get my focus off of all the extra stuff right now" 7:48 - "What's what's the most priceless valuable thing that we have? The presence of God, right? And God is not distracted. God is not unfocused. I think he's far more present to us than we are to him, and we only discover his presence when we become present with him as well" 9:00 - "My focus is on becoming focused on being more present and unfocused on all the extra stuff" 11:43 - "I think we need to push back on this a little bit and we need to go, Hey, let's get outside. Let's let's climb the tree, build a little treehouse platform..." 12:49 "Every time I go hunting, there are so many opportunities for me to receive shame. So, you know, hunting is very connected to being a man, being a provider...." 15:27 - "So on the plane, I'm just like. Here I come, Lord, and I go to him and he's like, look, don't don't throw this out. I'm trying to reawaken something inside you. I'm trying to reawaken something that was lost. And this is who you are and and this is trying to stop it. Keep going. Keep hunting. Do it..." 19:42 - "Kids need to explore dangerous stuff safely." 20:56 - "Why My Kids Will Lead Yours" -- It's a school in Switzerland that allows children to use real knives, real blades. " 21:00 - Seth explains the process of teaching his kids to safely use a knife Episode Links: https://sethdahl.com/ Seth on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/sethdahl/ Raising Spirit-Led Kids: Guiding Kids to Walk Naturally in the Supernatural Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Derick Zwerneman With a life of unique experiences, Derick has served as a husband to 1, father to 3, a firefighter for 25 years, outreach pastor for 9 years, and a network development leader for a disaster relief network for 3 years! He has never met a stranger, and the Joy of the Lord is his strength! His passion is connecting people, and his experiences in emergency services and leading teams. Combining the two is what he does to make connections to further the kingdom of God! Life Quote: "It's Gonna Be Great!" Show Notes: 2:27 - "We are NOT a family that are going to be influenced by our surroundings, we're going to influence our surroundings. And you probably heard over and over again, we're not going to be the thermometer as the thermostat. Not in a way of arrogance, but in a way of we're confident" 3:06 - "If you don't come in with the confidence of knowing that that that you have control over the situation because you have Christ in you." 4:25 - "Looking back, there was a turning point in that which was incredible. And it's, you know, due to an incredible wife, I've got to give her all the credit. You know, as far as like literally throwing a Bible hit me in the back of the head with Psalm 127" 6:19 - "it's those little drops of what you do that your kids are picking up as you walk through life." 9:16 - James 1:2-4 - "Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters,[a] whenever you face trials of many kinds, 3 because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. 4 Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything." 12:25 - "there's things that life are going to. Throw at us as fathers, and we can either take those on our shoulders, let them waist down and just get buried in them, conveying that spirit that hard into our children, right? Or we can take a couple of minutes for a walk in the door. Throw that stuff down, give it to God, say, man, I'm going to. I'm going to pray that this does build endurance and strength in me. But right now I've got a family to lead" 16:22 - The vision of the straight line.and an intersecting squiggly lines that kept coming across that middle line. 25:53 - "You may have a knee jerk reaction to like go to the worldly way of dealing with it. But it was in that moment there was like, OK, God, this is the talk that's got to happen, and dad's the one that gets to do it." Episode Links: Austin Disaster Relief Network: https://adrn.org/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Don Manning 30+ years of parenting experience, 7 kids of all ages... Don is the CFO of a real estate company and serves on the elder board of Valley Creek Church, a church he and Suzanne helped start over 25 years ago. Suzanne has invested her time as a teacher, wife, mom, homemaker, mentor, girl's minister, speaker, writer, and most importantly an encourager to everyone she meets. We have a passion to help families rethink the way they do family-one relationship at a time. Fun Facts On Our Journey Over 40 pets Over 140 teeth lost Over 3,200 sporting events… and counting Over 50 overseas mission trips… and counting Over 44,000 diapers purchased… no more counting! Dallas dadAWESOME Meet-Up Join us at 7:30pm on Thursday, January 27th for the Dallas Area Meet-Up RSVP here Show Notes: 4:55 - "God's ways are crazy. God's ways are different and we really do. What we found in our parenting journey is is that we really did have to do things in a crazy way, really relationally. 5:44 - "...When family works, it's the best thing you'll ever do in your life, but it beats any sort of ever done. It beats anything because you know when you when your kids love Jesus and they love you and they love each other. It really is crazy. Cool. 10:23 - "If you're become a student of your wife instead of her critic, you'll be amazed what you learn about family." 10:36 - "I started seeing relationships being so connection being more important than my instruction." LINK TO FAMILY DASHBOARD - https://crazycoolfamily.com/relationships/ 13:49 - "Other than leading your kids to Jesus, getting your kids to be best friends, hardest thing you'll do as a dad and mom and dad, but it's worth it. And it just it started dripping in just that influence" 16:31 - What I've learned from coming out of my parenting into my own faith is just how to do relationships at a different level. 18:33 - "what we found was, if we build that in our home, we build this culture where relationships can flourish, like a greenhouse, like the plants would. And we found four elements that were super critical to that." 18:50 - "we encourage extravagantly and we correct carefully because most parents flip it and they're more critical and less encouraging. And even they qualify their encouragement..." 21:53 - "when you build that culture, family just works, you know, and we tend to be so concerned about the outside. And I tell parents all the time, it's like if you build it on the inside, well, they're going to face anything on the outside. But because they're ready. I mean, God's with them. And you know, it works." 29:13 -"our example is more important than your instruction" 29:35 - "OK, kids, what do we need to do? What do we need to talk about? They said, You know, what do we do that was helped you? They said all you did was you walk with Jesus and you talked about it. Episode Links: Crazy Cool Family: Rethink the Way You Do Family https://crazycoolfamily.com/ Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Matt Anderson Matt and his wife, Robin, have been leading in local church ministry for almost 25 years. They've served churches in Indiana, Ohio, Oklahoma, and Arizona. Matt and Robin met in college, at Anderson University (Indiana). They love desert living with their three boys: Connor (2001), Calvin (2004), and Charlie (2010). Together, Matt and Robin love traveling to new places, exploring great restaurants, and long walks. Matt loves being outside - hiking, running, and golf. He's a fan of college sports (War Eagle!) and all things SEC even though they live in the southwest. Matt and Robin love being a part of the local church and God's mission to redeem and restore all people through the love of Jesus. Dallas dadAWESOME Meet-Up Join us at 7:30pm on Thursday, January 27th for the Dallas Area Meet-Up RSVP here Show Notes: 2:35 - Andy Stanley Quote: "Relationships are built on small, consistent deposits of time. You can't cram for what's most important. If you want to connect with your kids, you've got to be available consistently, not randomly" 3:18 - When it comes to parenting, you can't get near the end and just cram a bunch in and hope that it sticks. It's more about the long game... these little investments of time over time, which will pay off in the long haul." 4:02 - ... "his goal of parenting and what they kept in their minds was they wanted their kids to come home after they left home. They wanted their kids to have a relationship with them that they could invest over the long haul. 5:36 - "We would go away some summers for three weeks and no distractions out of town. So we're not here where work is calling and the different things are calling. And it was this summer rhythm that our kids grew to love and we grew to love because, I mean, uninterrupted, two to three weeks with your family in a place away from home, away from the normal, I would say that's one of the things I've been most thankful for..." 7:45 - Story of Matt's dad and his grandfather 9:34 - "I grew up without a grandfather on that side, and my dad never knew really the approval of his father that all of us need. I think we all need to know that our our fathers look at us and say, I approve of you. You know, I'm I'm proud of you. I love you. And so my dad intentionally because he didn't get that, did that with us. He he continually. We never we never doubted that our parents loved us." 11:35 - "I think we all grew up in an environment. We all grew up with a certain perspective. And if we're not intentional, we just repeat so many rhythms of our past, including the painful pieces that can can really hurt kids over time" 12:02 - Story of when Matt's parents divorced 13:33 - "For Robin and I, I think we've really said we're going to choose our family. You know, we we choose each other even in the difficult moments. Like I said, her and I are opposites, so we we see things very differently. Our perspective on parenting many times is very, very different. But we remind ourselves we're on the same team. At the end of the day, we've we've chosen each other and we're going to continue to choose each other and we're going to choose our family over just about everything else because we believe this is how God will be honored in our lives, in our kids lives. And so we just choose it. We make a decision to choose our family" 15:32 - "The the way that I was parenting my oldest was destroying our relationship mine and his relationship. And I remember sitting down as a hard conversation. I remember Robin saying to me, You're you're you're going to to ruin your relationship long term with Connor if you don't change some things." 16:06 - "Robin and I made a conscious decision to, in a sense, switch roles that was early high school with him, late middle school, early high school. I step back for more the authoritarian type role, and she stepped into that role and I stepped more into a relational role with him through that season." 17:11 - "I was the one always on him about homework, about tests that were coming up, even about sports, you know, practicing and all of those things. And I intentionally stepped back, disengaged from much of the homework discussion, much of the test discussion, not all of it. Like, I didn't become a hands off dad, but I step back, let her step into that role and I step more into the encouraging, just supportive. Anything I can help you with kind of a role. 18:35 - "my number one thing that I would coach on is what you are modeling is what they're going to repeat..." 21:29 - "kids need to see their dad's emotions. The gentle emotions that the the emotions of pain they need to see their dads cry at times and not in a in a fake way, but they need to see that we're emotional people." 23:59 - Normalizing conversation Message from Matt and

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Show Notes: 0:59 - "As turn the calendar and look to the year 2022, I want to take an episode and set up some worship and a perspective of how big God is and how little our current stresses are..." 2:37 - My Daughters Share a Video Recording to encourage mommy to trust God to Provide 3:10 - Matthew 6:25-27 - "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes?26 Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they?27 Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life[a]? 3:50 - "My daughters helped remind us of this promise. That worry does not help things. Worry is not setting us up for God's best. Worry is trusting in ourselves, and I want to start the year 2020 trusting God" 4:22 - This song is by Sean Curran, and it's called bigger than I thought 4:38 - Guys, our heavenly father is for us. Our Heavenly Father wants to remind us this is not about us figuring out what we can accomplish under our own strength. And there's the bridge to this song talks about I will rest in the father's hands, leave the rest in the father's hands like we don't have to carry it all that we are called to store or touch. We're dads of action DadAWESOME. We're not sitting back and just saying it'll all be OK, whatever. But God does not want us to start 2020 to God does not want us to to lead this fatherhood journey from a place of we're stressed out, we're worried and we're relying on ourselves. Bigger Than I Thought Speak to me When the silence steals my voice You understand me You understand me Come to me In the valley of unknowns You understand me You understand me You understand me, God You understand me So I throw all my cares before You My doubts and fears don't scare You You're bigger than I thought You were You're bigger than I thought So I stop all negotiations With the God of all creation You're bigger than I thought You were You're bigger than I thought You were I believe But help my unbelief You understand me You understand me Help me reach The faith that's underneath You understand me You understand me I will rest In the Father's hands Leave the rest In the Father's hands WRITTEN BY SEAN CURRAN, NATALIE SIMS & ALLEN SWOOPE © 2019 Worship Together Music / sixsteps Songs / Sounds Of Jericho (Admin. at CapitolCMGPublishing.com) / Lead And Yellow Publishing (BMI) (admin. by Round Hill Music) / This Is Swoope's (ASCAP) 10:27 Here's what I think happens when we have a small perspective of God and we have this big perspective of ourselves and the weight that we need to carry. I think we make a mess of things. We make a mess of our lives, of our families... when we put all the weight on our own shoulders. We trust in ourselves 11:00 - Story of my daughter Zara and the mess she makes when she eats 13:56 - "This is my life. God is trying to give me good gifts at a good rate, at a good pace that I can handle for my age and my responsibility level, right? God is trying. He's setting us up with blessings. " 14:23 "I'm not managing stresses. I'm a manager of good gifts, good blessings. That's what I'm managing. It's so easy to complain about what's going on in life. When I am managing God's good gifts that he is, he is trickled into my life and I'm complaining about it. Like, it's so common that we we enter a worry and we make our lives a mess because we don't trust our heavenly father. We don't trust him." 15:06 - 1 Peter 5:1-11 (Advice for Elders and Young Men) 1And now, a word to you who are elders in the churches. I, too, am an elder and a witness to the sufferings of Christ. And I, too, will share in his glory when he is revealed to the whole world. As a fellow elder, I appeal to you: 2Care for the flock that God has entrusted to you. Watch over it willingly, not grudgingly— not for what you will get out of it, but because you are eager to serve God. 3Don't lord it over the people assigned to your care, but lead them by your own good example. 4And when the Great Shepherd appears, you will receive a crown of never-ending glory and honor. 5In the same way, you who are younger must accept the authority of the elders. And all of you, dress yourselves in humility as you relate to one another, for "God opposes the proud but gives grace to the humble."a 6So humble yourselves under the mighty power of God, and at the right time he will lift you up in honor. 7Give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. 8Stay alert! Watch out for your great enemy, the devil. He prowls around like a roaring lion, looking for someone to devour. 9Stand firm against him, and be strong in your faith. Remembe

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Matt Fogle Matt grew up as a wild middle child in rural IL and now lives in AZ with his wife Jen and 4 kids. For over ten years Matt has been a pastor in TX & IL & AZ. He's a spiritual director, pastor, and retreat guide that works with multiple non-profits in the areas of leadership development and spiritual formation. Show Notes: LIVE WITH RHYTHM. LEAVE A LEGACY. FINISH WELL. https://harborministries.com/ Episode 81 | Adjust the Pace, Live with SELF-CONTROL & Hear God's Voice (Tim Bohlke) 3:57 - Matthew, 11, Jesus's invitation in Matthew, 11:28-30 "Are you tired? Worn out? Burned out on religion? Come to me. Get away with me and you'll recover your life. I'll show you how to take a real rest. Walk with me and work with me—watch how I do it. Learn the unforced rhythms of grace. I won't lay anything heavy or ill-fitting on you. Keep company with me and you'll learn to live freely and lightly." 6:00 - "I've been in a radical pursuit of trying to figure out how do I learn not only how do I learn these unforced rhythms, but how do I demonstrate in a way to others that makes them feel like, oh, I could enter into that rhythm of life too" 6:49 - "learn to live or to live freely and lightly or, as most translations say. Take my yoke upon you, you know, because I am gentle and humble in heart. So that's where Eugene Peterson, when he translates the message that we're gentle, unforced, right, unforced rhythms" book mentioned: Gentle and Lowly: The Heart of Christ for Sinners and Sufferers by Dane C. Ortlund 9:00 - "What's God's heart gentle and lowly, humble... And to be a parent like that to enter into a relationship, whatever stage? Or I mean, even if you have a grown kids to constantly be in a posture of gentleness towards them. It doesn't have to go my way." 9:36 - "Maybe God is the primary agent of my kids spiritual formation, not me. And so it's my job to ask good questions and listen and be patient along the journey" 10:22 - speedboat versus sailboat 11:48 - "I love that illustration when it comes to life in rhythm with Jesus is, are we developing a motor boat mentality? By the way, we're living, are we in control or we telling God what direction we want to go and how fast we want to go? You know, specifically with our marriages and with our kids, are we the ones telling God, I want you to do this in my kids life and I want you? I want him to look like this or her to look like that? Or are we hoisting up our sails every day and saying, God, however you want to blow into my sails, however you want to blow into their sails helped me to be a good, like, non anxious cooperative friend" 13:48 - "in small ways and big ways, we can hoist up our sales daily and trust that the wind of God, the spirit of God, is going to blow into our sales and move us in the direction at the pace that he is setting, which is so un-American." 17:16 - Parker Palmer Clearness Committee - short video: https://vimeo.com/139027540 17:24 - "We gathered some friends. So remember there was a handful of friends that didn't have any emotional attachment to our decision. So that's key. Yeah, is find people that just are working for your good and for discernment" 22:01 - "I'm a huge believer in that. Jesus meets everybody in the gospels where they're at and invites them to take the next step from where they're at..." 25:39 - Lazy Dad Games 26:06 - "We learned early on that when we prepare for the morning, the next day, we're teaching our kids how to set intentional things out for the next day. So the next morning is an anxious and hurried right." 26:42 - Imaginative Prayer: A Yearlong Guide for Your Child's Spiritual Formation ( Jared Patrick Boyd ) 27:50 - Winnie the Poo -- "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room in your heart" S2 Episode 5 | Gospel Clarity on Parenting -- Life in Rhythm Podcast https://podcasts.apple.com/lu/podcast/s2-episode-5-gospel-clarity-on-parenting/id1545668466?i=1000535126316 29:02 - "we put these heavy. Things on ourselves that God is not laying on us at all. And we put pressure where there doesn't need to be pressure, we put obligations on it. And honestly, it turns into a pride thing. Not a humble thing" 30:22 - "Proverbs 4:23 that out of the overflow of the heart like, comes everything. So guard your heart above all else for from it flows springs of living order." 30:55 - "if you want your kids to overflow with life, you've got to be connected to living water and you are parched. And it really is nobody else's responsibility. But yours to say no to a lot of good things..." 31:30 - "it's going to take intentionality and it's going to take you guarding your heart above all else. For from it flows living water. And this is meant to be an overflow journey, not one of scarcity, but one where you are being fille

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook Show Notes: 1:35 - "Part of the dad life is you have expectations and you think it's going to be like this and it's like that. And that is the story of Christmas, and that is the story of Joseph. So Jesus earthly father Joseph, he experienced disappointment beyond what we could ever imagine. I wanted to just I wanted to riff on the story of Joseph for just a few minutes" 2:44 - "I want to grow in these areas and be more like Joseph, the father of Jesus. So here's these three fatherhood insights from the life of Joseph" 2:55 - Matthew 1:19 "Mary was pledged to be married to Joseph, but before they came together, she was found to be pregnant through the Holy Spirit. 19Because Joseph her husband was faithful to the law, and yet did not want to expose her to public disgrace, he had in mind to divorce her quietly." 4:35 - So he did not react in the moment. He paused. That's the first fatherhood principle. He paused. Joseph paused. 4:53 - "I have a I have a problem with pausing. Often I react my. My first reaction, guys, is to react in a reactive fatherhood, reactive. In my marriage, being a husband who is reactive in the moment responds with emotion and frustration causes so many problems. And if Joseph could in this kind of setting, if Joseph could pause..." 5:37 - Story - hiking Sabino Canyon in Tucson, AZ 9:20 - Matthew 1:20 "But after he had considered this, an angel of the Lord appeared to him in a dream" 9:42 - He went beyond the pause to a consideration he considered he. He pondered he he thought about what's the right course of action forward" 10:57 - Matthew 1:24 "When Joseph woke up, he did what the angel of the Lord had commanded him and took Mary home as his wife" -- Guys, I think the consideration in the pause are the set up for God revealing direction for us in our fatherhood. That's what happened with Joseph. His pause in his consideration led to the Lord appearing to him in a dream. An angel appeared to him in a dream and gave him clarity, gave him insight that took the devastation and put it back to a place of hope and of I'm a part of a bigger miracle. 12:05 - "What starts is devastation. The woman I'm engaged to, this is Joseph thinking. The woman I'm engaged to, has betrayed my confidence, has broken this pledge has has become pregnant from another man. Instead of that, she. Instead, the pause in the consideration led to Joseph realizing he's right at the center of a miracle." 13:56 - We need these three things these fatherhood principles the pause, the consideration, and we need guidance. We need to follow that guidance, not follow our own insights and strategies, especially when devastation. Don't trust your own. I don't want to trust my own insights and guidance when when it when it when loss or a change of plans caused me to be emotionally reactive. I want to pause. I want to consider and I want to follow God's will lead God's guidance." 14:35 - Joseph had three other miraculous dreams. 15:01 - Joseph actually has a pattern of multiple times hearing angelic, miraculous guidance in his dreams, and I believe it's from a posture of his heart was at a place where he had calmness in the place of devastation. And it's from pausing and considering and following the voice of our heavenly father. 15:24 - God trusted Joseph with his son, Jesus, and got his trust in each of us with these precious kids in my prayer for you" 16:13 - Jeff's Closing Prayer Episode Links: Another Podcast Episode about JOSEPH (Becoming A King - Morgan Snyder) Christmas book - The Indescribable Gift. Blending tradition, biblical story, historical fact, and sanctified imagination, Richard Exley uses words like chisels and scalpels to unveil the heart of the Incarnation. You don't want to miss a chance to add this collection of beautifully imagined eyewitness accounts to your holiday library. Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Zack Curry Zack Curry is the Lead Pastor at Jesus Culture San Diego. Zack experienced a significant move of God in high school that marked his life forever. His passion is to see love released on campuses and see schools transformed by God. For the past 15 years Zack's ministered to high school and college students, raising them up as leaders heading into all areas of society to see cultural transformation. He is passionate about community and family. He believes healthy people and thriving relationships are the true measure of success. He leads from a desire to see lives and cities transformed by an encounter with Jesus. Zack and his wife Melissa delight in their three wonderful daughters. 60-Day Fitness Challenge Join the dadAWESOME MURPH on Saturday, February 12th, 2022 WHY? Winter is an easy time to step back and take it easy. We are challenging dads to get stronger this winter. WHAT? We are launching a 60-day MURPH training plan leading up to Saturday, February 12th, 2022 WHEN? It starts this week and the actual event can be on or around Saturday, February 12th. WHERE? Anywhere. Your basement, gym, playground, RV or wherever you can find open space and a pull-up bar. HOW? We will support you through a SLACK group with a professional athletic trainer creating workout plans and answering your questions. (we will send you an invitation to SLACK after you register) DIFFICULTY LEVEL? You can do a 1/2 MURPH or FULL or add the weight of your kids to make it harder. Here's the standard challenge started specifically to honor Navy Lieutenant Michael Murphy, who was killed in action in Afghanistan on June 28th, 2005: 1 mile run 300 air squats 200 pushups 100 pull-ups 1 mile run KIDS JOINING ME? We are adding a gamification system to encourage you to include your kids in the actual February 12th, 2022 workout challenge. Place them on your back or on your shoulders... Strap on your baby to add some weight for the pull-ups. Invite your kids to run or bike along with you on your two 1-mile runs. JOIN the 60-Day Challenge Show Notes: Episode 83 - https://dadawesome.org/episode83/ 6:21 - "For me, as a father, it's prioritizing that role, this sacred role, privilege of being a father" 7:21 - "This is a sacred call, an honor. And to you have to prioritize it" 8:41 - "one of my indicators and the lights that come on for me is when I get frustrated or angry" 10:56 - "as a dad, I care for my kids deeply and I'm in scenarios where I actually don't know what to do. So I feel out of control. And so then my default is frustration" 18:58 - "We love the concept of adventure. But I think for a lot of us in our own lives, the unknown can paralyze us and keep us where we know we're safe, we have control..." 20:36 - "we could just sit here all day and tell stories of why do we believe God's real? Because we've seen it in our life over and over when we couldn't do it in the big and the small way?" 22:07 - "we want to do it for them or fix it or solve it when you know we can actually help guide them through and say, Hey, OK, is that is that true? Is like, what is God say about that? And then like, Hey, we're like teaching them to bring it to God, invite God and teach them to say, OK, yeah, it is impossible from you can't do it. But what would happen if God helped you like? Then it becomes these, you know, like in the Old Testament, where you have these memorial stones that you build and say, Oh, OK, and you're and you're along their journey teaching them to say, Hey, remember when God did this for you? Not for me? They're watching us. But you're like, Maybe when you did that for you, that's a memorial stone in your journey. Look back..." 23:40 - "one of the values for me with my daughters is to be connected to their heart. So like, so they feel I just want them to always be able to talk to me" 25:22 - "teaching them to dream a little bit bigger, not just settle with, OK, yeah, what? What's the truth? What does God say" 27:06 - "we did this challenge. There were four parts to it. We said, Hey, we want to build a rhythm of adventure, which is like taking care of our soul for us individually and for us, for our kids. We're like, Hey. So it's kind of broken up into a weekly, monthly, quarterly and then yearly." 27:30 - once a week, go on an adventure 27:48 - monthly, go do an overnight or full day type of activity 28:05 - quarterly is like planned, like an adventure that is substantial 28:13 - a once a year epic kind of trip 33:56 - "this is probably my philosophy on parenthood. And, you know, as a dad is just invited to be a part of it. So we just we were outside of a need, you know, for anything healing provision, any of those areas we teach our girls that God is good, that he's powerful, that he you know, he. He's alive and moving like th

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Simon Osamoh Simon Osamoh is a British American, raised in Reading, England. When he emigrated to the States in 2011, he took charge as Head of Counter Terrorism at Mall of America in Minnesota... Born to a Nigerian father and British mother, his parents separated before he was born. Growing up mixed race in white neighborhoods, and without a father he battled validation and his own identity for many years. Simon now coaches young men to never give up, and that adversity can become your greatest gift. He is a nationally known speaker, entrepreneur, author, mindset and podcast coach, and the Host of the Who I Became Podcast where he interviews impactful individuals who share their life stories. Show Notes: https://dadawesome.org/tour/ 4:36 - "I've never met the man that brought into my world. I'm a color of skin for someone I've never met and it just has a lot of questions and challenges. But I've had in my life, but I have never considered myself to be a victim. I sort of move past adversities and sure to come out through part of my my story today." 7:33 - "what I knew I wanted to do when I became a husband and a father is I wanted to try and give my sons what I was missing. But that hasn't come without challenges..." 16:38 - "my son knows because he can always hear me. What he remembers about his games is that my dad was the loudest. My dad was shouting, and it's intentional. The reason why I do that, I scream over every other father there because I want Mason to remember when he's 21, 25, 40, 70, whatever it is, and I'm no longer there. His memory would be, You know what? My dad was the loudest... My dad was the loudest person at my game, and that's the memory, because that's what I never had." 17:55 - "I might not always communicated it because I'm human and I make mistakes. But please never underestimate the significance that you have to me " 20:14 - "I believe in you. And I always knew that if you could walk in the light, but you could achieve greatness" 20:25 - "I started to say to myself, If not me, then who" 21:21 - "I asked myself, if not me, then who? If I'm not going to be that role model for a stranger, then who is, you know, I'm feeling called to make sure people know the best someone they're rooting for them might not always be to give you the answer, but you want to hear. But if not me, then who? And I believe we can all start a lot more in our own lives." 23:41 - "I was seeking validation from a father that never came." 26:36 - "Let's focus on what I can control. I can't control the past, but I can control the future. And there's going to be a time when my sons, as they do now at eight and 11, they're going to ask me questions about my dad and I need to give them some, some answers." 29:57 - "what I try and say to my sons and I would encourage your listeners is to just keep driving forward. Sometimes we set really large goals, but I don't. I just move, you know, one percent. How can I get one percent better each time? And that's what I say to my sons son's." Episode Links: https://www.simonosamoh.com/ FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Tony DiLorenzo Tony DiLorenzo is the Amazon bestselling author of 7 Days of Sex Challenge, Connect Like You Did When You First Met, and other books. Tony believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it's the glue that will keep a marriage together. Listen to his weekly podcast, ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, at OneExtraordinaryMarriage.com, where nothing is off limits when it comes to the many aspects of marriage. Tony has been married to his beautiful wife, Alisa, for 25 years and together they have a son and a daughter. He lives in San Diego, CA Show Notes: https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Episode 201 - PART 1 Book - The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage Emotional Intimacy This Pillar involves a closeness created through sharing each other's feelings, thoughts, and desires. This is both verbal and non-verbal communication. It's more than just, "Can we talk?" Physical Intimacy Think of this Pillar as every type of loving touch. This can be holding hands, a hug, a kiss, or even cuddling. You were designed to be touched. It's answering the question, "How do you like to be touched?" Financial Intimacy This Pillar is the sharing of your financial situation. It's developing a plan for your finances, from how much you spend on date night, to joint accounts, to planning for retirement. This is more than, "We need to talk about the budget..." Spiritual Intimacy Think of this Pillar as religious beliefs and observed religious practices. This can be as simple as praying together, going to church together, or discussing spiritual issues as a couple. This answers the question, "How are we spiritual together?" Recreational Intimacy What you do together at home, or on dates, or just for fun, is what this Pillar is about. It's the plans the two of you make to spend time together, doing things you enjoy. When this is working, you don't sit in the driveway playing the "What do you want to do?" game. Sexual Intimacy This is the Pillar that encompasses everything about your sexual connection with your spouse. This can be romance, initiating, foreplay, and sexual intercourse. There's no two ways about it: Sex is h-e-a-l-t-h-y. But this intimacy goes way beyond, "Hey, wanna have sex?" https://www.ramseysolutions.com/ You Need A Budget: https://www.youneedabudget.com/ 4:10pm - Proverbs 27:23-27 -- Know well the condition of your flocks, and give attention to your herds, for riches do not last forever; and does a crown endure to all generations? Episode Links: The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage https://oneextraordinarymarriage.com/ Tony's Podcast FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team https://dadawesome.org/tour/ Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Tony DiLorenzo Tony DiLorenzo is the Amazon bestselling author of 7 Days of Sex Challenge, Connect Like You Did When You First Met, and other books. Tony believe that the healthy combination of sex, love, and commitment is more than the foundation of a strong marriage… it's the glue that will keep a marriage together. Listen to his weekly podcast, ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, at OneExtraordinaryMarriage.com, where nothing is off limits when it comes to the many aspects of marriage. Tony has been married to his beautiful wife, Alisa, for 25 years and together they have a son and a daughter. He lives in San Diego, CA Show Notes https://dadawesome.org/tour/ 4:57 - Rainbows and Unicorns - "Twenty fourth anniversary. She made a little post and she she just talked about, Hey, it was not all rainbows and unicorns. And she said, Hey, we didn't know how to be married. This is when you started. We didn't know how to communicate with each other. We didn't know how to make our relationship a priority. We didn't know how to juggle being parents and being spouses. We didn't know to be each other's lover and truly in those moments with one another. Basically, she goes on to say, we still don't know. So as the leaders of one extraordinary marriage, she she's she's goes public with it. We still don't know. We're learning, we're growing" 8:38 - "I truly want men around me who I can call at the drop of a hat and or text and just be like, Man, I need some prayer right now. I need somebody to talk to. Can we just go like once a month, just grab a coffee together? And I remember just praying that prayer in and it didn't happen like overnight." 11:07 - Taking that time and reading to them in bed. 13:55 - Walk and talks 15:37 - We schedule sex and that's been a habit we've been doing for 12 years now. Yeah. And that has kept our sexual intimacy on course from all those years. We came to an agreement 12 years ago that we wanted to have sex twice a week, and doing that has really created an ability for us to engage one another when it happens, which is great." 17:44 - We were never taught? Or does it teach us that we never saw it? So we're looking up to those around us mentors, parents, grandparents, whoever, and they never did it. So why would we? The 6 Pillars of Intimacy: The Secret to an Extraordinary Marriage Emotional Intimacy This Pillar involves a closeness created through sharing each other's feelings, thoughts, and desires. This is both verbal and non-verbal communication. It's more than just, "Can we talk?" Physical Intimacy Think of this Pillar as every type of loving touch. This can be holding hands, a hug, a kiss, or even cuddling. You were designed to be touched. It's answering the question, "How do you like to be touched?" Financial Intimacy This Pillar is the sharing of your financial situation. It's developing a plan for your finances, from how much you spend on date night, to joint accounts, to planning for retirement. This is more than, "We need to talk about the budget..." Spiritual Intimacy Think of this Pillar as religious beliefs and observed religious practices. This can be as simple as praying together, going to church together, or discussing spiritual issues as a couple. This answers the question, "How are we spiritual together?" Recreational Intimacy What you do together at home, or on dates, or just for fun, is what this Pillar is about. It's the plans the two of you make to spend time together, doing things you enjoy. When this is working, you don't sit in the driveway playing the "What do you want to do?" game. Sexual Intimacy This is the Pillar that encompasses everything about your sexual connection with your spouse. This can be romance, initiating, foreplay, and sexual intercourse. There's no two ways about it: Sex is h-e-a-l-t-h-y. But this intimacy goes way beyond, "Hey, wanna have sex?" 22:55 - "But as a couple, you look at them together and go, which ones have cracks? Which ones are strong? And how do we continue to strive and go after the extraordinary we desire?" 23:57 - Emotional intimacy, obviously our verbal and nonverbal communication? How are we? How are we engaging our spouse? And so for many, it's just what we get. We get caught up in the day today. As dads, we get caught up in the day to day. Is the provider taking care of the yard? Maybe our toys, maybe wanting to go out to this or do that. But how are we really engaging our spouse? What are we doing on the regular that allows them to know that we're here and not just talk about laundry kid's work? I think that's the big thing, 25:46 - We use the app, the Voxer app, even though we could make a list and wait and talk about. And it's not just punch list of get the groceries or do this is actually lets me hear her tone and hear how is s

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Jeff Zaugg Jeff and Michelle Zaugg celebrated 15 years of marriage last summer. They currently live in a 37 foot RV traveling across the United States with their 4 young daughters. After 10-years of entrepreneurial non-profit ministry leadership, Jeff served as a pastor at Substance Church in the Twin Cities for the past 7 years. In Fall 2020 Jeff took the leap and went full-time fatherhood ministry. He is the founder and lead cheerleader at dadAWESOME & FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS. When he's not wrestling or playing hide and seek with his daughters, you might find Jeff out for a bike ride, making a pour over coffee, sitting by a fire with his wife or challenging some friends to a game of Spikeball. Show Notes: 1:23 - "When I say become dadAWESOME, it's never been about an arrival or I am dadAWESOME. You're not, I'm more dadAWESOME than you are anything like that. It's a journey of focus and intentionality of saying, I'm going to be dadAWESOME for my kids and I'm becoming. It's a never ending journey of becoming that will continue till we reach heaven, because even as a great grandfather, someday I'm still going to be becoming dadAWESOME. And I think focus matters. Focus matters on this journey. 2:28 - "A look BACK. This thing started with an idea of, what if we help encourage intentional fatherhood? 6:03 - A look FORWARD 6:12 - GOALS: Keep cheering on intentional fatherhood. Keep seeking wisdom, both practical ideas and high level perspectives around intentional fatherhood through interviews on the podcast Keep rallying fathers to train together to do a hard thing on behalf of the fatherless Keep growing partnerships with other like hearted organizations so that we can resource dads further with books and retreats and other things that we're not going to do immediately 6:49 - "My prayer is that we would awaken a generation of dads that would realize the fact that they have a Heavenly Father who wants to father them. I believe that many of us dads are living as if we were fatherless, so we're accidentally passing on pain to our kids, were passing on hurts to our kids because all of us have imperfect fathers... none of us are perfect fathers. None of us had perfect fathers, but were accidentally, I believe, living as if we were fatherless. When we have a Heavenly Father who wants to bring freedom and healing so that we can pass on LIFE and we can pass on JOY and PEACE and LOVE to our kids, not pain to our kids. So that's I look forward. I'm more passionate than ever." 8:01 - "My prayer is that every interaction (from dadAWESOME) would just be a nudge in the direction of treasuring the role of being a dad. It is such a gift that we get to be dads. It's such a gift and we've been entrusted these treasures, our kids. And that's my main prayers that any time you interact with dadAWESOME in any way that it would nudge you in that direction of seeing this as a gift from God that we get to be dads." 8:57 - IDEA #1 = "I think God wants me to laugh more often with my kids" 9:52 - Acts 8:8 says. And there was great joy in that city 10:21 - "May your homes be known as a place that there was great joy found in that home where kids think back about all these years and their dad and say there was great joy that just radiated from my dad. His eyes shined as he belly laughed." 10:44 - IDEA #2 = RV Story - the first 48 hours 14:05 - "I want to encourage you guys that stuck does not mean you're outside of God's will. Stuck does not mean you're going to stay stuck. Stuck does not mean that you messed something up. Stuck does not mean that you're inadequate. Stuck does not mean that you're unloved. Stuck does not mean it's easy. It's stuck is a perfect setup for the John 10:10 the thief comes to steal, kill and destroy. He wants to do that in your fatherhood journey your dad life. He wants to steal kill destroys often as possible" 14:48 - "You have a Heavenly Father who is for you and is known. He is famous throughout the history of the world for getting stuck people unstuck." Exodus 14:13 "Moses answered the people, "Do not be afraid. Stand firm and you will see the deliverance the LORD will bring you today." 15:34 - "I'm a dad who has what it takes. I am dadAWESOME. You are dadAWESOME. Do not think that being stuck means that you don't have what it takes because God is fathering you. He's your Heavenly Father and he has gifted you your kids and he's like, Treasure those gifts" 16:08 - A speedboat mentality or a sailboat mentality 18:16 - "When we're feeling stuck, think sailboat, not speedboat. What if the wind is just not blowing? What if this is the time to learn and to be humble and to say, what can I take away from this versus a pointing at all the things that are wrong? What can I experience now that will help me be the dad

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Wayne Francis Wayne Francis leads the New York City location of The Life Church and was the founder and lead pastor of the former Authentic Church, which merged with The Life Church in early 2020. Wayne and his wife, Claudene, have been married for twenty years and have two beautiful teenage daughters, Haleigh and Ryleigh. Show Notes: Coming SOON Episode Links: https://thelifechurch.com/locations/new-york http://leadershipinblackandwhite.com/ FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Seth Barnes Seth Barnes is founder and president of Adventures in Missions, a discipleship and missions ministry that has taken over 125,000 people on mission projects around the world since 1989. The mission of Adventures is to deeply connect people to Jesus and his movement. Their goal is to train 100,000 disciple makers focused on fulfilling the Great Commission. Adventures has ministry training centers around the world that are focused on making that goal a reality. To move toward the fulfillment of the vision, Seth also founded the World Race in 2005. The World Race provides trained teams of young adults the opportunity to engage in 11 international mission contexts in 11 months using an experiential, missional discipleship model. Adventures emphasizes listening prayer, relationships, and servanthood in their work amongst the poor. Both through ministry/training centers and World Race ministry teams, Adventures maintains an active presence in a number of African countries. In addition to overseeing Adventures in Missions, Seth is a speaker, author, and prolific blogger. His blog, Radical Living, can be found at www.sethbarnes.com. Seth is married to Karen. They have five children and seven grandchildren. Seth's books on Amazon Episode 200 Party: Tuesday, January 9th from 8-10pm we are gathering 200 dadAWESOME friends for a couple hours of fun. Spikeball, Cornhole, Music, dadAWESOME Giveaways, Food and some Vision/Mission/Hopes for what's next. We're hosting this party in NE Minneapolis at Ninth Street Soccer and Coffee: 801 SE 9th St, Minneapolis, MN 55414 Here's the RSVP Form: https://forms.gle/R3ApseRfsX49Kuk26 Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Episode 200 Party: https://forms.gle/R3ApseRfsX49Kuk26 Join for dadAWESOME meetups around the south/southwest this winter! 3:19 - Adventures in Missions: The World Race 4:31 - Being a 9 year old with his dad in the Vietnam War 8:20 - YouTube clip from 1988 - pulling kids around on palm tree leaves example - 53 min. mark on this video) 8:40 - The continuum of softness to drivenness. Get feedback. 9:12 - And innovation, not just at work, but also on the playground, so that palm branch, it looked like just, you know, something might have to throw away or it could be this magical ride that they could jump on and pretend it's a horse or something, you know, and that's I always tried to approach the playtime that way, you know, inventing games not just like pulling down a box and opening it and letting somebody else set the rules. 10:44 - "So it's great to be soft when they're, you know, zero to five and they need boundaries, of course. But but you've got to start challenging them and people ask me, you know, when, when can I take my child on mission? Well I used to take them at age four and five on a mission. And man, that really tones down the entitlement, which is a huge issue these days for dads." 13:24 - the importance of challenging entitlement in our kids 13:59 - Somebody needs to be taking them out of entitlement, out of a self-focus, out of this place of just kind of, I don't know, they get to Yale and they're called snowflakes. I mean, we've got to stop this as a as a nation or we're just not going to have a generation to hand any kind of inheritance to" 14:14 - How do we help our kids embrace pain? 14:56 - Know the phase you are in: Ages 0-5 - Identity formation. Ages 6-12 - Body, Soul & Spirit formation. Ages 13-18 - Connection to the world of adults. 1. From 0-5 Identity formation. Main job is loving them & attachment formation. Key activities: Focused attention, touch, eye contact. Play with them & teach them agency (example - me 33 yrs ago playing w/ the kids - 53 min. mark on this video) 2. From 6-12 Body, soul & spirit formation: Main job is mentorship/discipleship. Stay deeply connected w/ them and help them move toward, not away from challenge so that curiosity guides them and kids become lifelong learners. This is where the battle for faith is won or lost. My secret weapon was to take/send them on mission. 3. From 13-18 Connecting to the world of adults. Help them embrace the process of growing, especially by embracing the healthy pain of responsibility & discipline. In this last stage, I watch so many dads absolutely fail. They don't trust their kids and specifically, they don't trust them with what I call "healthy pain" - instead confusing it with the kind of caustic pain that they often have not adequately processed themselves. 15:20 - Piaget and cognitive development 18:01 - "And we've got to lean into the future if we're ever going to raise greatness in our kids." 18:09 - John Tyson's Primal Path - The capstone was The World Race for his son. 21:05 - "We're going to do fun and missions. And, you know, I'm just trying to

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Chris Bruno There is nothing more exciting to me than the intersection of transformation and adventure. This is why I founded Restoration Counseling - a place where we daily engage the power of restoration and epic re-storying. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I specialize in men and masculinity, sexual addiction, trauma and abuse. My experience as a men's therapist and my work with men at Restoration Project provide me a wealth of experience when navigating the landscape of a man's heart. As I work with clients, my focus is on discovering and "reading" the narrative of their lives and guiding them toward the transformation that comes through adventurously and honestly engaging our sorrows AND our glories. This, to me, is what I was created for. Episode 200 Party: Tuesday, January 9th from 8-10pm we are gathering 200 dadAWESOME friends for a couple hours of fun. Spikeball, Cornhole, Music, dadAWESOME Giveaways, Food Trucks and some Vision/Mission/Hopes for what's next. We're hosting this party in NE Minneapolis at Ninth Street Soccer and Coffee: 801 SE 9th St, Minneapolis, MN 55414 Here's the RSVP Form: https://forms.gle/R3ApseRfsX49Kuk26 Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Episode 200 Party: https://forms.gle/R3ApseRfsX49Kuk26 Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to become an intentional dad 1:52 - if you missed last week, hit pause and listen to PART 1 - Episode 196 with Chris Bruno 3:11 - (Jeff Question) - Explore with us how how we could move in the direction of shared experiences versus just intentional friendships moments 3:37 - "You need someone who's willing to ask what we call a deep dive question." 4:13 - "we asked the question 17 years ago today, what was happening in your life, what was going on for you and how did you get there?" 4:26 - "Now it's asking for some information, but really what we want is not just the content of what was happening, but we want the context of what was that like for you and that's the difference between just hanging out with the pals and going to that brother level is what was that like for you? Help me understand what it felt like to walk in your shoes. " 6:15 - (Jeff) I believe that our heavenly father can heal outside of time, back to moments in that healing ripples its way back through time and we experience way more benefits. 6:34 - "God does not heal memories because memories are kind of locked in. He heals stories. Yes, but not a memory doesn't become a story until it is told to another person." 7:41 - "That's where memories are. God wants to go backwards into our lives and heal all of those big T and little team moments in our lives. But we can't do that. We don't do that. Just by remembering to ourselves is where we when I invite you, Jeff, into my story and I have someone witness and be with me in the story and experience with me and empathize with me. What happened in the story? That's where healing actually happens." 10:03 - "Grace actually means that we're given this favor, this delight, this pleasure and nothing can detract from it and nothing can add to it." 11:55 - "there's actually a first story. There's actually a child of delight that still also lives within me. That's older than that's the first that's more original to who. He made me to be. And so as I can unpack and get back around my second, the other things. The second story that I came to believe I can slowly start to reveal come into become the man I was designed to be." 13:10 - "if my brothers know both my second story and my first story, they get to ask me that question. How would you like to engage right now?" 14:30 "Awaken within your child the way that they should go, then when in the future they will not depart from it. So if our task as parents, as fathers is to awaken within our children the glory that God has written there, that original story, that image of God written into their lives as he wants to let the world know who he is through them. If we can awaken that in them, then then I think they they will. Of course, they will still have traumas and tragedies and things that happen to them. Yeah, but the likelihood of them struggling in the ways that many of us have is is far less so." 15:12 "our job as fathers is not to protect our children from pain." 18:57 - "our stories leak, and we might think that we're doing well. We might think that we are the the top of the totem pole as far as killing it at work and killing it at home and killing it everywhere, killing it at church. But are stories, the stories of pain, the stories of struggle, those stories of trauma they will leak?" 19:35 - Start doing this work today because the benefits the family tree changing benefits will be for generations to come." 21:44 - Trauma passes down through gene

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Chris Bruno There is nothing more exciting to me than the intersection of transformation and adventure. This is why I founded Restoration Counseling - a place where we daily engage the power of restoration and epic re-storying. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I specialize in men and masculinity, sexual addiction, trauma and abuse. My experience as a men's therapist and my work with men at Restoration Project provide me a wealth of experience when navigating the landscape of a man's heart. As I work with clients, my focus is on discovering and "reading" the narrative of their lives and guiding them toward the transformation that comes through adventurously and honestly engaging our sorrows AND our glories. This, to me, is what I was created for. Episode 200 Party: Tuesday, January 9th from 8-10pm we are gathering 200 dadAWESOME friends for a couple hours of fun. Spikeball, Cornhole, Music, dadAWESOME Giveaways, Food Trucks and some Vision/Mission/Hopes for what's next. We're hosting this party in NE Minneapolis at Ninth Street Soccer and Coffee: 801 SE 9th St, Minneapolis, MN 55414 Here's the RSVP Form: https://forms.gle/R3ApseRfsX49Kuk26 Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Episode 200 Party: https://forms.gle/R3ApseRfsX49Kuk26 Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to become an intentional dad 6:58 -Parallels from a Rafting Guide to a Father 7:02 - "It's our first time down this river when we're fathering our kids and it's not our first time down the river." 07:14 - "We can still guide our children down the river that we've never been down before because we've been down rivers before." 7:46 - "What I've experienced in the past, my kids won't experience, but they may experience something similar. And that just gives me the freedom to kind of journey down a river and see what comes." 9:02 - "we became the men that we are today because of the men that were with us before and the guidance of the men that we had or the lack of guidance of the men that we didn't have, that that's so impactful for who we became." 9:16 - "the most important person in our lives as far as men goes is our dad. If he was there or if he wasn't there, that's important. And there's a shaping that happens inside of us in his presence, his intentionality, his wisdom, his guidance, just like we were talking about with the raft. All of those things are super important for how we've navigated life." 9:47 - "There are two ways I think that fathers bring destruction into their children's lives. It's either in their absence or in their violence and in his presence, He brings life and he brings words and, you know, attention and affection and intention. But when those you know, whether it's violence or there's absence, there's going to be something significantly kind of shaping in the life in our lives. And the fact is that all of us have that to some degree, because we don't live, we don't live in the Garden of Eden. 10:22 - "all of us have some level of wounding and pain that we've experienced, and therefore we bring that in. So in order for us to be the kinds of dads that we want to be that are dadAWESOME dads, right, that it's not that we muster something up, it's more that we need to read our story and it's more that we need to read our story of where have we come from?" 10:45 - Kurt Thompson says, "the number one variable for children to grow up with the ability to connect in a secure way in relationships, the number one variable for that to happen is the parents investigation of their story" their own story. 12:30 - TEDx talk from Chris Bruno about his childhood - https://www.ted.com/talks/chris_bruno_restory_how_to_live_your_truest_story 14:02 - "There is something beautiful in my parents that just decided we're not going that route. (Special Needs Sister) We're not going that route and we're actually going to keep her at home and we're going to find ways to love on this child and bring her up in the context of our own home." 15:24 - "My horse died and there was something about that experience where I was in the house watching the vet with with the horse outside, they were outside in the corral and I watched my horse collapse and it was in that moment that something inside of me collapsed as well. And I couldn't do anything. I couldn't get out to the horse. My parents had said, Don't go out there, and I was 13 years old." 15:52 - "something inside of me collapsed. And I remember distinctly kind of making a vow inside of my own soul this little 13 year old boy vow of I'm not going to give my heart to another like that again because he had become my companion..." 16:22 - "...And that collapsed inside of me is actually something that I have had to work on pretty hard to to trust God for to move into,

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Tim Olson Tim Olson is an author, teacher, Principal. Pastor, and life coach with forays into audio publishing, radio hosting, and home remodeling. His understanding of father-child relationships was fostered through years of observation and application in education, coaching clients around the world, and working with the National Fathering Ministry in Minnesota and Ukraine. As a business life coach, it was through coaching family business owners that the significant connections between a father and his children (or with his own father) finally gelled into observable patterns that helped form the basis for his coaching and for his book, The Legacy of Absence. Through it all, he's found his way to helping others to discover who they are meant to be and to become that person. He and his wife, Kay, have been married for 54 years and are blessed with three children, six grandchildren, four bonus grandchildren, and four great-grandchildren. They make their home in New Hope, MN. UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to become an intentional dad LINK TO PART 1 of the conversation with Tim Olson timolsonauthor.com 2:18 - Images from the book: present father, the involved father, the passive father and the absent father LINKS to the images: https://dadawesome.org/195/ 2:49 - "You can be present physically and not present emotionally, spiritually and intellectually. And you know, that's actually even worse." Sharing statistics on risk of pathological behavior in children. 6:05 - Story from Ukraine of two fathers that work out of the home - one is absent, and one is still intentional even though not physically close - and the stark difference in the success of the kids 9:06 - Working with inmates, what do they wish they had from their dads? 10:48 - "We've realized that death is not as bad for kids as being abandoned and just just a dad who's overworking is abandonment. We all abandoned our kids. And every kid, every person has been abandoned to some extent, some so little you don't even recognize it. And we don't realize that that's what it is. We just remember the not being chosen part." 11:34 - Describing the reconciliation process 14:21 - "[Dad's role is] to prepare us to face the world on our own. And so he does that primarily by teaching us four things and developing them in us. And those four things are: self-esteem, confidence, maturity and identity. And identity is perhaps the most important because that describes who we are and whose we are.... These are perhaps the most important words that a father can say, I believe: 'You are mine. You belong to me. I love you.' That's identity." 17:17 - "How we deal with the hurt and wounds of our own father's failures, determines our ability to be good fathers and mothers, you know, to our own children. 17:38 - Quoting Richard Rohr - "If we do not transform our pain, we will most assuredly transmit it." 17:56 - In Louis Meade's book, he says to forgive is to set the prisoner free and then discover that the prisoner was me." 26:27 - 4 Things he shared with his kids: 26:32 - "I know that things happened in our relationship that hurt you. I said things and did things that hurt you. Even now, I didn't even know it. And I want you to know that I would never do anything like that on purpose intentionally, but I know it happened. And so I want to ask you to please forgive me for those things." 27:35 - "I am no longer your parent and you are no longer my child. Well, that sounds pretty offensive at first. I said instead, from now on, I am just your father and you are just my son." 29:27 - "It would please me more than anything to continue to be able to speak into your life." 30:15 - "No matter what you do, with your decisions and with your life, good or bad, it will never change how much I love you. That will never change." 33:01 - Quote from Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. "Our lives begin to end the day we become silent about the things that matter." Episode Links: https://timolsonauthor.com/ https://www.dadsfirst.org/ Tim's book - The Legacy Of Absence FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Tim Olson Tim Olson is an author, teacher, Principal. Pastor, and life coach with forays into audio publishing, radio hosting, and home remodeling. His understanding of father-child relationships was fostered through years of observation and application in education, coaching clients around the world, and working with the National Fathering Ministry in Minnesota and Ukraine. As a business life coach, it was through coaching family business owners that the significant connections between a father and his children (or with his own father) finally gelled into observable patterns that helped form the basis for his coaching and for his book, The Legacy of Absence. Through it all, he's found his way to helping others to discover who they are meant to be and to become that person. He and his wife, Kay, have been married for 54 years and are blessed with three children, six grandchildren, four bonus grandchildren, and four great-grandchildren. They make their home in New Hope, MN. UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to become an intentional dad 2:55 - Praying for his grandsons-in-law 4:55 - National Fathering Ministry - https://www.dadsfirst.org/ 6:03 - "Dr. Richard Green, a former superintendent of Minneapolis schools. And he said to us, if the kids come to us for kindergarten and do not have an involved father or an involved grandfather, they are already lost to us" - This conversation was the purpose for working with black urban fathers of preschool children. 6:46 - Working with fathers in Ukraine - starting a fatherhood ministry that has impacted the nation 8:06 - Ukrainian college women drawing where dad sits in the family circle 9:22 - "The father for a time was even taken out of the Russian dictionary. And and if you go back in history and I covered some of this in my book about how that worked with communism and and Marxism, ... they did their best to eliminate the father from the family and the the government was supposed to be the ones who essentially raised the children by way of the mothers...the government was in charge." 12:26 - Malachi 4:5-6 12:46 - Gordon Dalby is a great spokesperson about fathering, and he [share that].... the brokenness in this world between children and fathers reflects the brokenness between humanity and God." 14:16 - "We have to try to find the right path or we become complicit in crimes against it." 19:28 - "One of the things that I heard them say often was, 'you know, my grandfather was like this, my dad was like this, I'm like this, and my kids will be like this, and there's nothing I can do about it. It's just the cards we were dealt.' And I would say to him, You know what? That is a lie right out of the pit of hell, yes, you can change. You may not be able to change how tall you are and the color of your skin or anything like that, but you can change your personality, you can change your character quality, you can change the things you want and don't want to pass on to your kids. You can do that." 20:56 - Story of reconciliation with his own son and not wanting to pass on generational sins 31:30 - "Christ's example shows us as leaders in our areas of strength as dads to come underneath our children and our wives to lift and encourage and to praise and to pray for and to make them who God intended them to be. But you know, the moms, their wives have their areas of strength just as strong and in their job then is in their areas of strength is to come under us as fathers and to pray for us and lift us and encourage us and support us to be the best dads we can be. And so there's this mutual coming under, this mutual submissiveness, and it's the strongest, not the weakest, that submits." Episode Links: https://www.dadsfirst.org/ Tim's book - The Legacy Of Absence FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript Coming Soon!

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Trent Walker Trent and Siobhán are a husband and wife singer-songwriter duo raising their 5 sons on the road full time in a nearly vintage Foretravel motorhome. Their original songs speak of adventure, bravery, reaching out to others and trusting in a God who never fails. Their family motto has become to "live simply, so that others may simply live." Come watch as they cross the nation in search of the joys of life and sharing them with others. If you are interested in having us come and share our song and journey with your church or even a group of friends at your home, please give us a shout. We would love to come and be a blessing wherever we can. UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad Donate to F4F 5:39 - Dallas Willard - A Life Without Lack 6:18 - Why call the channel EVERYDAY Family Adventures? 7:02 - "Life is pretty awesome. So let's start with that basis and know that I don't want my life to be boring. And that's a choice. And so that's an everyday choice. And so we're going to choose quite effectively to make every day an adventure in some way." 7:47 - "I'm going to choose to have hope and look at tomorrow with opportunity. And I think that we as dads have to go before our kids in that in that optimism, especially today when the world is in a hopeless place." 9:03 - Song: Speak: https://youtu.be/PeT8LQOffDs 14:18 - "I mean, that was kind of the faith and the words that needed to come out of our mouth and begin coming out of our mouth during that time when we were really struggling and we were praying every morning, getting on our knees was just this like, I am not going to leave this place until I get the favor of the Lord because I am done with being passive. I'm done with being like, woe is me. I'm going to I'm going to choose to believe in in this God that I've spoken about all my life, but really never took action steps in it." 14:42 - Missions as a family: "Live simply so that others may simply live." AND "To inspire people to find their own adventure in life, something that will bring them joy while bringing others joy as well." 23:34 - "I believe, the more you worship God, the more you get the heart of Christ and the heart of Christ to be around people and love people. And so I believe the more you look at Jesus, the more you fix your eyes on Jesus and the more you're singing about him and glorifying him and maybe getting your eyes off of yourself. Jesus keeps doing this wild thing. You look at him more and he keeps showing you where his heart is and his heart is the love the world." 27:14 - Wanting the heart to grow bigger. Episode Links: www.trentandsiobhan.com YouTube Channel: FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript coming soon :)

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Jackie Bledsoe Jackie Bledsoe is a professional blogger, author, and speaker, but first and foremost a husband and father, who encourages men to better lead and love their families through his blog, JackieBledsoe.com. He's a contributor to All Pro Dad, Babble.com, Good Men Project, and Huffington Post. His work has been featured on Yahoo!, USA Football, MichaelHyatt.com, and more. Jackie, who has been happily married to his wife, Stephana, since June of 2001, lives in Indianapolis, Indiana, with their daughter and two sons. Wild at Heart BASIC in Northern Wisconsin When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday) Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562 What is BASIC? Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area. RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Donate to F4F Happily Married Couples How I Built This and Stayed happily married podcast BOOK: The Seven Rings of Marriage dadAWESOME Nudge - Text 651-370-8618 Wild at Heart Basic Event - Check out link to Register The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People by Steven Covey 4:33 - The biggest rocks related to parenting and marriage 8:02 - heart attack on Thanksgiving 2018 10:35 - Blog post - "what you must teach your daughter before she turns 16" 10:56 - "Preparing your daughter for marriage" blog post 11:32 - Advice: Model what you want to see in your daughter's future husband - model that in how you treat your wife 14:58 - teaching his daughter to manage finances 19:56 - Marriage advice 21:59 - So know that if you're in a hard season right now, just keep the course, stay the course, stay. ...do not grow weary in well doing. But at the proper time You receive a harvest if you do not give up. So that's the word that I give to you dads as well. It can be tough right now, but keep doing things that you know are going to lead to the end that you want in your marriage and your fatherhood and your business, whatever it is, and trust that that harvest will come at some point. Wild at Heart Basic Event - 4 days, 3 nights. Honey Rock camp in WI Episode Links: https://jackiebledsoe.com/ https://happilymarriedcouples.com/ FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Ken Castor After thirty years of next-generation ministry, Dr. Ken is balding in his hairline but still bold in his faith. He is the Family and NextGen Pastor at Wooddale Church. He served as the Professor of Youth Ministry at Crown College for over a decade and in nextgen ministry for two decades before that. Ken is the "Blue Letters Editor" of the Award-winning Jesus-Centered Bible, and has authored numerous discipleship resources like Grow Down and Make a Difference. He's also a nerdy Cubs fan, the founder of NEXT Ministry Conferences, has several Chuck-Taylors, and enjoys living in Minnesota with his brilliantly witty and slightly freezing family. Wild at Heart BASIC in Northern Wisconsin When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday) Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562 What is BASIC? Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area. RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad Donate to F4F Local gold SPONSOR: Accelerate Business Solutions - https://www.xceleratenow.com/ Ken Castor - Family pastor at Wooddale Church - https://wooddale.org/ 3:47 - Unpacking the meaning of resilience in the family. Developing spiritual grit. 8:52 - Wishing he had spent more time preparing the meals together as a family instead of just one parent preparing the meal and rushing to the table. 12:39 - "Every facet of life as a dad, it's hard to give up what I'm good at and let my kid do it not as good." 19:35 - "There are some intentional rhythms I've built into my life so that my kids would know that, hey, my dad's all about Jesus. Like that's been my goal. But I can be as intentional as I want but if in the unintentional moments my kids see a jerk or they see somebody who's living a different lifestyle or who's talking bad about their wife or whatever, it those moments are the ones that actually matter." 22:27 - Discussing the story of the prodigal son with an emphasis on the father. 28:02 - "The measurement of a good father is not based upon the behavior and outcome of the children. The measurement of the good father is, does he reflect God, the father, and the character and the heart that all of his children would be in relationship with him at home." 32:13 - The story of adoption 34:47 - On the season of waiting for fatherhood (waiting for pregnancy, adoption, etc) "That season of preparation is... The principles that you're working on in your heart and your soul and faith in that season of preparation are the same resources that you will turn to as a dad so that that season of waiting. You can't be impatient and do fatherhood well." Wild at Heart Basic Event - 4 days, 3 nights. Honey Rock camp in WI Episode Links: https://kencastor.com/ Books & Resources from Ken Castor FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript https://dadawesome.org/191notes

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Dr. Greg Bourgond As President and Founder of Heart of a Warrior Ministries, Dr. Greg Bourgond, has taught in graduate / post-graduate schools and ministry organizations, and has spoken and preached in many churches and ministry contexts around the world. He is also the author of many award winning books. He has been happily married for 48 years and enjoys time with his grandchildren every chance he gets. His previous experience includes ten years in the defense industry and commercial business, and over twenty years in various ministry positions. He also completed twenty-nine years of active and reserve duty in enlisted and officer ranks in the U.S. Navy. He has received degrees from Chapman University, Bethel Seminary and Nova Southeastern University. He has also completed post graduate work at Harvard University. He has also twice been C.S. Lewis Visiting Scholar-in-Residence at the Kilns in Headington England. Wild at Heart BASIC in Northern Wisconsin When? October 28th through the 31st, 2021 (event ends at 10am Sunday) Where? HoneyRock Camp 8660 Honey Rock Rd, Three Lakes, WI 54562 What is BASIC? Wild at Heart BASIC is Wild at Heart Boot Camp led by John Eldredge and his team through video sessions in your local area. RSVP by signing up here: https://sites.google.com/view/wild-at-heart-basic/home UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad Donate to F4F 3:13 - Heart of a Warrior Ministries Dr. Bourgond's Books 8:05 - "God wires men cause to die for, a challenge to embrace, and loved ones to protect." 10:32 - "Robert Lewis, who coined the definition of authentic manhood, is to reject passivity, accept responsibility, lead courageously and wait on God's reward." 10:55 - David Morrow published the book Why Men Hate to Go to Church. 14:11 - Above all else, guard your heart for from it becomes the wellspring of your life. - Proverbs 4:23 14:55 - "Whatever is stored in your heart will manifest itself in overt behavior that either bring glory and honor to God or dishonor and shame." 16:10 - "What I found out that men have an ability, especially in Western culture, to proclaim a belief system that bears little correlation with how they behave. There's an inconsistency and incongruity and incoherence, but how they behave over time will give you an insight into what they truly believe at the core of their being." 16:42 - "The decisions that we make are always processed through the values we hold, even if we can't articulate them." 22:44 - "It will always be the case in Western culture, nobody really cares what you had to say, until they observe how you live. And if you try to live a life of integrity and honor under God's authority, people ultimately want to hear what you have to say, even if they disagree with you. Why? Because they can't get past a life well lived." 23:01 - "Living intentionally in the same direction over an extended period of time will have a greater impact on your children than anything you could possibly say." 24:21 - "And what I learned over the course of time is that sometimes God called you to be a sage on the stage. In other times, he wants you to be a guide by the side. And I understood that parenting needed to be situational. That you needed to change your leadership style with the confidence and the competence being demonstrated by that child in whatever task you give them." 26:46 - "If your child is a skeptic, simply answer the questions they're asking. If they're cynics, simply question the answers they're giving me." 35:01 - "S = R / E. S stands for either satisfaction or success or significance. R stands for reality and E stands for expectations." 38:04 - "Neil T Anderson who said it's not what you do that determines who you are. It's who you are and Jesus Christ that should determine what you do." 39:15 - "How to determine the purpose God has for your life." 39:01 - "Infinite God has chosen you as his finite creature to implement his redemptive plans for the world." 40:22 - "Every man is given a unique purpose for their life. So it's finding out what that is by tuning your heart to the heart of God. Listening to the still small voice of God in your life, leaning forward to hear it and allowing God's word to transform you and to wash off the world." 41:18 - "The point is, guys, give your life to something that matters. Make a difference. Too many guys are like ships tied to a pier, spend all of their life polishing the brass, making sure the steering m

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Pablo Ceron Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men's ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of WILDSONS, a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people. Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (10) and Lucas (4). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years. UPCOMING FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS 100 Mile Bike Rides — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Link to PART 1 of this interview with Pablo Ceron: https://dadawesome.org/188/ Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Sponsors: Aleph Holdings, Alpha & Omega Wealth Strategies, Substance Church, River Valley Church, Chick-Fil-A Blaine 2:34 - Pablo talks through steps to healing and restoration: (1) Invite Jesus into the place in our hearts where we feel wronged, where life is unfair.... (2) Renounce the lie that life is up to me, that I will need to fight every battle because no one else will do it for me (3) Ask What is the truth? 5:09 - "We have come to believe certain things about God and ourselves and life and then to then to bring those before God himself and to have an encounter with him where the truth is revealed to us and we get to be initiated into living life in the way that results out of that being truth." 17:41 George MacDonald says that the hardest and the gladdest thing is to cry Abba, Daddy to God from a full heart. 15:01 - Describing the meaning of "Sons" in the ministry Wild Sons. 21:50 - "When the student is ready, the teacher appears, when the Son is ready, the Father appears." 24:31 - "Father, I receive you fresh as a father, and I choose to become your son, would you father me?" 24:53 - "And if I can go on this journey and become my father's son again. Then it must be true that my two boys are his his sons, too, and he is more interested in fathering my two boys than I am, and he knows them and has known them before the foundation of the world. So he knows their hearts. He knows what they need. He's orchestrating a journey of initiation so that they can become the men he created them to be. I play a crucial role, and my role is to ask my dad, father, father, 'would you allow me to see my son in the way that you see him? Would you allow me to see what is it at this age in this season that you're doing in his heart, in his life? And what is my role in partnering with you for that?'" 26:45 - Pablo's story of how he begins a journey of initiation from age 10-21 and God told him, "Delight in what he delights in." 28:55 - The raising of my boys is not up to me because life is not up to me. 29:43 - "The invitation is to ask God for a revelation of what he's doing in our children's life. And for us to participate in it, knowing that the outcome is up to it's up to God, we have no control over it." Episode Links: Wild Sons FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Pablo Ceron Pablo has been a speaker, teacher and leader of men's ministry initiatives for over 10 years. He's also the Founder and President of WILDSONS, a non-profit organization dedicated to the restoration of the hearts of God's people. Pablo was born and raised in Colombia and moved to the U.S. in 2,000, where he married his loving wife Juanita. After a long journey through the desert, and into their "promised land", they now live in Colorado with their two wild sons, Mateo (10) and Lucas (4). Pablo has also worked as a Product and Technology leader for over 20 years. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Sponsors: Aleph Holdings, Alpha & Omega Wealth Strategies, Substance Church, River Valley Church, Chick-Fil-A Blaine Prayer Team Sign Up for Aug 28th Ride Volunteer Sign Up Previous episode with Pablo - Episode 98 5:02 - Wild Sons 5:51 - "That has now been almost two decades of this journey with God. And the fruit of that is that we want more people to experience what we have come to experience the goodness of God, the treasures of the kingdom, the blessing of living a life of peace and a life of adventure and freedom and joy. " 9:15 - "There is an expression of Christianity or at least the message that as men we receive is that we need to set aside all our desires and our passions and become a nice guy. Yeah, and that's not at all what I read in scripture. What I read scripture is quite the opposite. Is God inviting men into a wild adventure. " 10:21 - "Adventure by definition implies we we are risking, we're going into into the unknown, into the frontier, into an area where we don't have the answers, where success is not guaranteed, where things could go wrong. And if God doesn't show up, we're doomed. And that's how we come alive, let's do it." 10:49 - (Talking about Wild Sons) "And part of the recovery of their heart is to recognize their need for adventure and and and and how adventure makes a man come come alive. We believe that men shouldn't be tamed, but should be given permission to be themselves and live with passion and live with freedom ." 12:16 - Wild Sons Muster 16:50 - "So for those who are willing to let it all go and go after Jesus, all in. Yeah, they're going to experience life to the fullest. Jesus promises." 27:09 - "Everything that we do is an expression of what we have come to believe at the level of the heart about God, about who we are, about who my wife is, about who my boys are, my children, about the nature of the world." 29:52 - "Ask Jesus, who have you created my child to be? Look for the true identity of the child and speak to their identity, and they will come alive." 31:42 - "When I am in my good days, when I am connected to the Father, the way that I'm learning to parent my sons is by understanding who they truly are and to speak to that." 32:31 - "Even when we are in the darkest places and in the worst of our sin, he's not coming with accusations of shame and guilt. He's coming with love to say, I know you're better than this. You may have chosen wrong, but this is not who you are. Come and act according to who I made you to be." Episode Links: Wild Sons FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Jon Tyson Jon Tyson is a New York City based Pastor and Author. Originally from Adelaide Australia, Jon moved to the United States over two decades ago with a passion to seek and cultivate renewal in the Western Church. He is the author of multiple books including his latest book, The Intentional Father. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Make a DONATION to FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Sponsors: Aleph Holdings, Alpha & Omega Wealth Strategies, Substance Church, River Valley Church The Intentional Father book 4:29 - How the relationship with his kids has changed to building adult friendships with his kids. 5:21 - Weekly family meetings 7:33 - "Raising a son is real work, but we have to get this right, because if we don't teach our sons, the world will. If we don't teach our sons about women pornography will if we don't teach our sons about friendship, they'll live a life of loneliness. If we don't teach our sons about leadership, they'll be followers all their lives. Being a father is not about efficiency. It's about discipleship. Father is not about time management. It's about heart development." 9:37 - "A lot of good involved dads, but an intentional dad that goes that step further to consciously ask who is my kid? What at what time of history did they live in? What am I responsible to sort of give them that's going to tee them up for their future." 10:58 - Minimal manhood and skillful manhood 17:00 - Leaning into the "firsts" and making them intentional moments 17:22 - Quote from Jim Rowan - "Life is not measured by the length of our days, but by the intensity and frequency of beautiful moments ." 17:54 - The Power of Moments book 19:35 - Books/articles he had his son read when he got his first job: Your Money Counts; Total Money Makeover. ESSAY: Why Work by Dorothy Sayers 23:41- Ken Blanchard's One Minute Manager 24:05 - Exponential by Dave Ferguson 24:07 - "It's just the process of how to give away what you have and make sure it shows up in somebody else's life. It takes more time to do that. It takes a lot of time, but when you see the joy of somebody who owns something that's literally gone from your life into their life, they now have a deposit and this deposit can be given to somebody else's life. That, to me, is one of the greatest things you can experience as a dad." 25:16 - "I think this is the key here, because so often our culture is built on charisma and charisma is like that person possesses the magical gifts that none of us have. And therefore, it produces celebrity culture and consumerism. But when you codify the gift and you can show somebody, here's what I'm doing that is working, you then impart it to them and it creates contributors in confidence rather than consumption." 25:59 - Shop Class as Soul-craft 28:15 - "Men need a cause. A cause is bigger than a vision, more expansive than a strategy, and more long lasting than a season. It's larger than a fight." - From The Intentional Father 30:09 - On the power of a cause in men: "I basically want to infuse that a man has strength and that he should utilize it in a great fight. But the difference is it needs to be in the real world as opposed to just accomplishment. And it needs to be for the sake of others. It's never your strength. It's never to oppress others for self gratification. It is always to lift the oppressed for the sake of the other." 30:52 - "And a part of it is to try and help young men realize, don't give you a vigor and your strength to wasted things because you have no idea how you could participate in God's great cause if you channel them for the sake of others." 32:14 - Wisdom on relationships: "The circle of intimacy, the circle of impact in the circle of influence" 33:13 - Most important priorities in 2nd through 5th grade: (1)"maintaining the emotional bond and setting the family culture" (2) "understand the psychological development of what's happening in that age" 40:50 - "I just have a path of intentionality that sets up the odds in your favor. And again, you can't control your son's heart, but you can fight for it. And this is a plan to fight for your son's future. And I believe that when we do that, we activate the heart of God's divine favor comes through our way, the Holy Spirit, gets involved and we're not on our own. And without it, I think you're left to chance and you're left to the world." Episode Links: The Intentional Father book The Primal Path Course FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS M

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Bob Merritt Bob Merritt led Eagle Brook Church for 28 years. He retired in March of 2020 and lives in White Bear, MN with his wife Laurie. He joins us for this 2-Part podcast conversation on fatherhood themes ranging from leadership blindspots to fatherhood insights learned from his dog Blue. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad PART 1 of this conversation with Bob Merritt - Linked Here 2:33 - Dave Merritt speaking about his dad 5:58 - Asking his son, "Where do I screw up?" 7:24 - Jeff asks, "What have you learned about your Heavenly Father from your dog?" 9:37 - Parenting wisdom he sees in his kids 11:38 - Jesus in my weakness. Show yourself strong. It's not about me. I need you. It's a posture of kneeling, actually, as a physical posture of saying this is not about me delivering awesome. This is about me being average in desperate need. 13:03 - I was just driven by this this absolute fear and sense of responsibility that I had to say things to a congregation that were true and helpful and relevant to their lives. And if I failed at that man, what a what a failure. And I just I couldn't allow myself to do that. 16:07 - Sharing a significant parenting moment with his son. 22:01 - Quote from John Maxwell, "There's enormous magic in a tiny word, do. When we tell ourselves I'll do it, we unleash tremendous power. What is the number one catalyst for change? It's action. And if you take action, it will change your life." 23:13 - "I'll tell parents, you might not know what to do. You might say some things wrong, but do not bail. Don't walk away, don't.... ignore the issue. Pay attention to the right time and the right away, but stay in the battle. Don't just pretend there's not an issue. Don't pretend that it's going to fix itself . You might have to give it time to simmer down or whatever, but don't abdicate the responsibility of being a parent to the culture. You're the parent. God put you in that role for a reason and you might not know the exact thing to say or do.... but got to be there. You got to be present." Episode Links: Bob's book "Done With That" Bob on Facebook Eagle Brook Church Final Message from Bob (March 2020) FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript

dadAWESOME We're on a mission to add LIFE to the dad life. We're passionate about helping dads live fully alive as they lead their kids to God's awesomeness. | YouTube | Instagram | Facebook | Twitter Bob Merritt Bob Merritt led Eagle Brook Church for 28 years. He retired in March of 2020 and lives in White Bear, MN with his wife Laurie. He joins us for this 2-Part podcast conversation on fatherhood themes ranging from leadership blindspots to fatherhood insights learned from his dog Blue. FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS —MINNEAPOLIS, MN — August 28th, 2021 — DENVER, CO — September 18th, 2021 — PHILADELPHIA, PA — October 2nd, 2021 — NEW YORK, NY — October 16th, 2021 — PHOENIX, AZ — November 20th, 2021 Register Here: https://f4f.bike/ Show Notes: Text "DAD" to 651-370-8618 to join the dadAWESOME Nudge to becoming an intentional dad 3:44 - Bob's daughter, Meg, shares reflections on her dad. 7:54 - The impact of dads bringing their families to church 11:35 - Deuteronomy 6 - "Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts [parents]. Impress these things on your kids. Talk about them when you sit at home, when you walk along the road, when you lie down, when you get up ..." 12:37 - "So the question I would have for dads: Do you know God's word well enough? Are God's commands on your heart? Because you can't teach your kids what you don't have." 14:28 - "Pain, I think can lead to passion or pain can lead to passivity." - Jeff Zaugg 16:01 - "You know, life is full of pain. We all have it. But what I would say is that God doesn't cause that pain. Right. But God can help you heal from that pain and put you on a better path if you'll be willing to allow him to do that." 17:23 - "Pain is a signal that something's wrong when it comes to life." 21:12 - "So if I've got an anger issue, but I'm not seeing it. Will I have enough humility so. Will I have enough strength, Jeff, to ask somebody, 'Hey, will you help me see some things in my life?' See it's a person of strength who's willing to admit I've got an anger problem or I've got a spending problem. People of weakness, will never admit they have an issue." 25:19 - "You got to be humble enough and self-aware enough to know that we all have flaws and weaknesses, that if we could just get somebody to help us look at that, you know, it could just open the world to us." 28:02 - Deuteronomy 30 - "I've set before you life and death, blessings and curses now choose life so that you and your children may live." Episode Links: Bob's book "Done With That" Bob on Facebook Eagle Brook Church Final Message from Bob (March 2020) FATHERS FOR THE FATHERLESS Make a Donation to dadAWESOME Join the dadAWESOME Prayer Team Conversation Transcript