Conversations with Toi

What a week. It was the longest shortest week. However it was full of amazing history. We have a new President and in the first time in history we have a woman, a Black woman, and an Asian American woman in office. For all of the little girls who dream big dreams-its their time to shineCatching up with the week with self care tips and this weeks joys and pitfalls. Learning to apply the lessons of Dr. Martin Luther King's legacy. Honoring him in our actions beyond social media post.Get more with me on the blog www.toitme.orgAlso join me on social media:https://www.instagram.com/toitimebloghttps://www.twitter.com/toitimebloghttps://www.facebook.com/toitimeladiesGrab you a glass of wine and have a great weekend and next week!

So many times we aren't able to see that we have an issue. When we do it's up to us to take personal responsibility for our actions. Let's keep it real, adulting sucks but must be done.Social media round up-y'all knees strong enough for the Buss it challenge? I personally didn't get my Meg Thee Stallion knees for Christmas so that's a NO for me. Also New "IT" couple Lory Harvey and Michael B Jordan-what say you?Remember you can follow on the blog at www.toitime.org

What an entire week?! Welcome 2021 or something like that. We talk about falling and what grace comes from that. Of course with a New Year, everyone is doing all kinds of new diets, fads, or putting in new systems-what about sleep?!We talk about the melee that took place at the Capital-I got thoughtsRemember you can always get more content by following at www.toitime.org

We are only a few days away from 2021. Am I the only one who is scared? Pure craziness of what lie ahead is like the land of the unknown. We discuss Christmas and the stress that unfolded. Therapy has been intense however super necessary.Goal setting in 2021 what does that look like? A quick bonus episode as we prepare for whatever the New Year brings!

You know how crazy 2020 has been what will 2021 bring? I don't know but I hope it is coming in right. Do we burn planners and kill dreams? Nope! We do our part to be the best version of ourselves and adjust as we need to.Also a lookback at the great things that 2020 brought since 2020 had enough negativity in it. Merry Christmas-7 days to go we will be back January 8th with a bonus in between!

As we get closer to the holidays and more and more of us are missing our family I share my memories, tips, etc. to help us get throughMemories are what keeps us close to loved ones present and transitioned!What are your favorite memories that make you smile, angry, or sad? Its okay to feel it all!

Watched Iyanla Vanzant episode with Lisa Raye and I share my thoughts. What is the concept of Proverbs 31 woman is it just to be a stay at home wife or mother? Also holiday traditions and expectations....We extend season 2 to support others during the start of seasonal depression. We talk about therapy and how vital it is to healing.How would you deal with abandonment from your mother?

Who starts Thanksgiving with Therapy? I do. It was helpful and necessary. I don't let any one shame me in needing therapy etc. So if you need it you better get it. We talk about the actual social distant day as well as the weekend plans to shop small, local, and minority owned. Happy Thanksgiving and enjoy the weekend and time

Thanksgiving is being served with a dose of Lockdown 2.0. The way in which we here in Philadelphia will be eating smaller meals as we aren't able to get together with loved ones. We also talk about comedian Mo'Nique who says that the real reason she calls her husband "daddy" is because he is raising herAnxiety Triggered this week and I am not sure if it had to do with the lockdown or just normal feelings all over the place.

I was paying attention long enough to buy toilet paper and not enough to know that a potential lock down is on the full horizon. I have had more panic attacks than a little bitSocial media round up-where do the miserable nap? Somebody grab they Pastor....John Gray out here apololizing (I spelled it correctly) again, Celebrating 6 years of blogging and I talk about staying in my lane.

Are you exhausted with all of the back and forth of the election? The stress of it all is daunting to say the least. Self care is helping not only to feel good but to address the issues that are underlying.Celebrating 6 years of blogging this month. We touch on not comparing yourself to others but being grateful for where Toitimeblog has been to where it is going. www.toitime.orgLastly how do we keep the tempo of our home? Addressing your issues and having a plan in place is key1

As we grow and mature we find ourselves at points where what we once wanted no longer serves us. Would you apologize to the ice-cream truck that there are no more tacos at Taco Bell? No?! Stop apologizing to folks who can't bring us joy or not meant for us!

In a world where self-care has become a multimillion dollar market, can you fail at it? Is working from a full cup more expensive or is it more expensive not to operate at your best capacity. Self care and mental health go together!

As promised I brought in my husband for a little he said/she said candid conversation on all things love and relationships. We talk about surviving Covid-19. We talk all things on relationships and learning about one another

A candid conversation about navigating your mental health. How do you deal when others know about your mental health issues or have used your mental health issues against you...

We are Back for Season 2! We catch up on what's been happening the last two weeks. We talk about comparing ourselves to others. Its an awful way to live. Should I have squared up with ole girl or take the lesson and walk away?

Gaslighting often occurs when we trust individuals to protect the space in our lives.We also remember September 11th may we continue to uphold those in our hearts.Season 1 Finale. We will be back for Season 2 on Friday October 2!

September is Self Improvement Month. We all have so much to get better at in every area. Owning it and being an active participator matters. We deal with relationships and what we attract. No sugar coating-call a spade, a spade.

We all have had times where we have had to work that job that didn't serve us. Although the job market is deplorable right now, leaving a job may not be in your best interest. I talk about the regret I felt not leaving a job sooner. Being loyal to a fault will cause a broader disrespect to yourself.

How to stop and manage guilty feelings of cutting access to others who don't mean us well. We also talk about social media stories of Lil Boosie begging for his Instagram account, Tim Norman murder for hire plot, Kanye being Kanye...

We all have made excuses for our bad behavior one way or another. With that being said we talk about Tommcus Walker, husband of Letoya Luckett-Walker, Selah daughter of Lauryn Hill, and of our course where I have gone wrong in the past. Who should bear the brunt of our bad behavior?

We recap the week. We had a flood to our house this week. Life gets interesting. Home school on the horizon and helping parents through ad prep. Anniversary behavior was on a thousand.

Wedding Anniversary is this weekend and the tidbits learned has been empowering. Tamar is setting the record straight and holding onto to her premise that she wants to get out under the drama of reality television. Checking in-ways to get to the real issue and manage stress

Last episode we talked about mental health but what if they won't receive help? Who is responsible for personal mental help and happiness? Who's in charge? A happy wife is a happy life but what if the wife is just miserable?

In Episode 2 we discuss the real of where I really am. We talk about mirrors in relationships; no entanglements. Also what about one way relationships? Does childhood trauma green light bad behavior?

Failure is inevitable. We learn so much from speaking from the place of failure but not getting stuck. In this first episode we talk about what led me to blog and start a podcast and a few tidbits I learned along the way!