Conversations with Toi

There’s a particular kind of heartbreak that happens when you walk into therapy carrying wounds someone else created, yet the work ahead is yours alone. Healing Without the Apology explores that quiet, complicated space where personal accountability meets unresolved hurt.Each episode dives into what it means to rebuild yourself without closure, to take responsibility for your reactions without excusing someone else’s actions, and to grow even when the words “I’m sorry” never come.Through honest conversations, reflective storytelling, and grounded psychological insight, this podcast guides listeners through the messy, courageous process of reclaiming their power. It’s about learning to stop waiting for someone else to make things right—and choosing to become whole on your own terms.If you’ve ever felt the sting of being left with the emotional bill for someone else’s damage, this space is for you. Healing is still possible, even without the apology you deserved.Follow me on the blog, www.toitime.org and on all socials as Toitimeblog

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, I'm getting real about something far too many of us normalize—survival mode. It’s that constant state of pushing, grinding, and functioning on fumes, where you’re doing everything except actually living. But here’s the truth: survival mode may help you get through a moment, but it was never meant to become your lifestyle.We’ll break down what survival mode really is, the subtle and not-so-subtle ways it shows up in your daily life, and how it quietly steals your joy, peace, and presence. From emotional numbness to over-functioning to feeling disconnected from the things you once loved, we’ll explore the signs that you may be stuck in a cycle you didn’t even realize you were in.Most importantly, I talk about the path out—how to reclaim rest, joy, intention, and the fullness of your life. You deserve more than just “getting by.” You deserve to thrive.If this episode speaks to you, stay connected with me for more conversations on wellness, intentional living, and emotional growth.Follow me on all social platforms @Toitimeblog and visit the blog at www.toitime.org.

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, I'm talking about what it really means to pour from an empty cup — not the cute Instagram version, but the real-life, real-time signs that you’re running on fumes while still trying to show up for everyone else. We’ll break down how to recognize when your cup is drying out, the subtle ways burnout disguises itself as “being strong,” and the emotional toll of constantly giving without replenishing.I’m also sharing practical, grounded ways to pour back into your own cup — not the generic “take a bubble bath” advice, but the internal work, the boundaries, the rest, and the self-honesty required to refill yourself in sustainable ways. You’ll hear real examples from my own life, because if you’ve been here long enough, you know my life stays being the catalyst for these conversations.We’re also getting into what I’m still learning: how to express how I feel without being petty, how to honor my emotions after going no contact with people who drained me, and how to navigate the messy middle between protecting your peace and communicating your truth. Growth isn’t linear, and I’m sharing the lessons as I live them.If you’re tired of pretending you’re okay while running on empty, this episode is for you.Follow me across all social platforms at @toitimeblog, and stay connected on the blog at www.toitime.org.

This week on Conversations with Toi, we’re digging into what it really means to reframe your wellness journey—not from perfection, pressure, or comparison, but from honesty, curiosity, and compassion. Wellness isn’t a straight line, and this episode explores how to pause long enough to ask: What is this moment trying to teach me?We also get into a necessary and layered conversation about therapy, faith spaces, and the narratives that keep people from getting the support they need. From the idea that “therapy is the devil” to the recent story of a therapist walking away from church work, we unpack how stigma, burnout, and unrealistic expectations collide. This is a space for nuance, not judgment.You’ll hear practical ways to:• Reframe your thoughts when you feel stuck or overwhelmed• Identify the trigger beneath the trigger• Understand what your emotions are signaling instead of fighting them• Give yourself permission to grow without guiltIf you’re on a wellness journey that feels messy, complicated, or overdue for a reset, this episode is for you.Follow me across all social platforms at @toitimeblog and stay connected through the blog at www.toitime.org for more conversations on wellness, mental health, and intentional living.

In this inspiring episode of Conversations With Toi, I sit down with the “People’s Bishop,” Bishop Kevin Foreman, for a conversation rooted in faith, wellness, mental health, and everyday common sense. Bishop Freeman opens up about why he embraces the title “The People’s Bishop” and how his mission is grounded in accessibility, authenticity, and serving people where they truly are.We talk about the importance of emotional and spiritual wellness, the need for honest mental health conversations in faith spaces, and how practical wisdom and faith can coexist in a powerful way. This episode is heartfelt, grounded, and full of the kind of insight that stays with you long after listening.Special Offer: Text “BISHOP” to 55498 to receive 10% off any of Bishop Foreman’s books and select items.Connect with Bishop Foreman:Website: https://www.bishopforeman.com/Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/bishopkevinfreemanFacebook: https://www.facebook.com/bishopkevinfreemanYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bishopkevinfreemanTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@bishopkevinfreemanX (Twitter): https://twitter.com/bishopfreemanStay connected with me for more conversations on wellness, intentional living, and real-life growth. Follow me across all platforms @toitimeblog and visit the blog at www.toitime.org.

In this episode of Conversations with Toi, I'm diving into the concept of weaponized incompetence—calling out the ways people use it to dodge responsibilities and how we can set better boundaries. We'll also touch on celebrating Black History Month, sharing clear Valentine's Day wishes with your partner, self-care tips for anyone flying solo, and a quick update on my latest adventures with my Hatch. Plus, I sprinkled in some thoughts on how big cultural moments—like 50 Cent's Super Bowl DoorDash commercial—get us all talking about what really matters in our relationships and our communitiesFollow me on all socials as Toitimeblog and on the blog itself, www.toitime.orgNot to mention make sure you follow my self care journey on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@toitimeblog

This week on Conversations With Toi, we’re talking about what it really looks like to take a bold leap — the kind that shifts your entire life. I’m sharing the lessons I learned moving from a small town to Philadelphia, and how that transition forced me to grow, stretch, and trust myself in new ways.We’re also getting into the truth about fear: how it convinces us to stay still, shrink, or wait for “perfect timing.” Spoiler — that timing rarely comes. Sometimes you have to move and shake somethin’, even when your knees are knocking. This episode is your reminder that discomfort can be the doorway to your next level.If you’re navigating a big decision, craving a fresh start, or trying to push past fear, this conversation is for you.Follow the blog for more intentional living and wellness content: www.toitime.orgConnect with me across all socials: @toitimeblog

In this episode of 'Conversations With Toi,' we're unpacking the idea of 'running a tight program' in relationships. Are we really as in control as we think? We'll also talk about processing grief following the loss of my aunt, and the complexities of navigating a relationship—or the absence of one—with my biological father. And with winter on the way, we're wrapping up with some tips on prepping for the upcoming snowstorm—because a little preparation goes a long way. Tune in, and don't forget to follow along at toitime.org and on social media @toitimeblog

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we’re diving into the non‑traditional ways to check in on the “strong friend”—the one who always shows up, always holds it together, and rarely gets asked how they’re really doing. We’re talking about the subtle check-ins, the intentional gestures, and the everyday ways you can support the people who seem the most unshakeable.This conversation is all about wellness, emotional honesty, and creating space for the people who pour into everyone else. If you’re ready to rethink how you show up for your circle—and yourself—this episode is for you.Internet street segment: Pastors battling comments in the pulpit, sexual assault allegations of Donnie McClurkin, and Love to those who loved Richard Smallwood For more wellness and mental health conversations, make sure you’re following me across all social platforms @toitimeblog and stay connected through the blog at www.toitime.org

In this episode of Conversations With Toi, we're stepping into the new year with intention, clarity, and a commitment to growth. I’m diving into what it really means to leave spaces—and people—better than you found them. This isn’t just a cute saying; it’s a mindset shift that shapes how you move, how you love, and how you show up in every room.We’re also talking about refusing to be anyone’s “build-a-bear”—no more letting people mold you into what works for them while abandoning what works for you. This year is about honoring your boundaries, protecting your peace, and setting goals that reflect who you truly are.If you’re ready to walk into the new year with purpose and a renewed sense of self, this episode is your reminder that you get to choose how you show up and what you leave behind.Follow me on all socials @toitimeblog, and don’t forget to visit www.toitime.org for more conversations on intentional living, wellness, and real-life growth.

In this festive episode of Conversations with Toi, we’re celebrating the holidays and then diving headfirst into how to make 2026 your year of radical self-honesty. Forget the usual resolutions—we’re owning the hiccups that stand in our way and making personal development the main character of our story.......................................If you’re ready to move past surface-level resolutions and start doing the work that truly transforms you, this conversation is for you.Follow me on all socials @toitimeblog and visit the blog at www.toitime.org for more intentional living, wellness, and real-life conversations.

The holidays bring out the cozy traditions—matching pajamas, family photos, and curated moments that flood our timelines. But behind the festive snapshots, not every couple or family fits the picture-perfect mold. In this episode, we unpack the envy and pressure that can come with outward displays of “togetherness,” and why matching spirits matter far more than matching fabrics.I also share my thoughts on the recently released Diddy documentary—why it left me far from disappointed and what it reveals about resilience, reinvention, and truth-telling in the public eye.Finally, we’ll explore the best gifts you can give yourself this season that don’t cost a dime: peace of mind, boundaries, rest, and the joy of being fully present. Because sometimes the most valuable presents are the ones you don’t wrap at all.Follow me on all socials as @toitimeblog and on the blog, www.toitime.org

Welcome back to Conversations with Toi. The holidays can be a season of light, laughter, and togetherness—but they can also bring up feelings of grief, loneliness, and the holiday blues. In this episode, I’m opening up about what it means to be honest with ourselves during this season, how to acknowledge the hard moments, and why embracing simple joys can help us reconnect with what matters most.We’ll talk about:• The reality of holiday blues and how to recognize them• The importance of being honest about your feelings instead of masking them• Navigating grief during a season that often emphasizes cheer• Finding grounding in small, intentional joys that remind us of what truly mattersThis is a conversation about giving yourself permission to feel, while also creating space for gratitude and connection. Because the holidays aren’t about perfection—they’re about presence.The holidays can be complicated. In this week’s episode of Conversations with Toi, I’m diving into the holiday blues, the importance of being honest about your feelings, and how grief shows up during this season. Together, we’ll explore the power of simple joys and why focusing on what matters most can help us navigate the ups and downs of the holidays with authenticity and grace.Follow me on all socials: @toitimeblog Visit my website: www.toitime.org

As Thanksgiving approaches, boundaries matter more than ever. In this heartfelt episode of Conversations with Toi, I dive into the real talk around setting and honoring boundaries—with yourself and with others. Whether you're navigating family dynamics, protecting your peace, or redefining what the holiday means to you, this conversation offers clarity, compassion, and actionable insight.🎙️ What I cover:• Why boundaries are essential for emotional wellness• How to communicate your needs without guilt• Tips for creating space for joy, rest, and reflection• Real-life examples of boundary-setting during the holidaysThis episode is your reminder that you don’t have to sacrifice your well-being for tradition. Tune in, take notes, and walk into the season with intention.Subscribe for more honest conversations on self-care, emotional growth, and living authentically.Follow me on the blog as well as socials as Toitimeblog #ThanksgivingBoundaries #SelfCareSeason #ConversationsWithToi #HolidayWellness #EmotionalGrowth

In this episode, we dive deep into the moments when life shakes our inner stillness—unexpected conflict, emotional overwhelm, or simply too much noise. How do we respond when our peace is disrupted? I share grounded strategies for reclaiming calm, setting boundaries, and honoring your emotional truth without losing yourself. Whether you're navigating a tough season or a tough conversation, this episode offers soulful reminders and practical tools to help you reset, realign, and protect your peace with intention............................Follow me on the blog and on socials:https://www.Instagram.com/Toitimeblog https://www.Facebook.com/toitimeladies https://www.Pinterest.com/toitimeblog