Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Marriage On A Tightrope podcast to discuss the topic of mixed faith marriage! Jennifer addresses topics such as ✔️How you can find shared values and spiritual practices when one stops believing. ✔️How you can deal with condescension from family or friends about a spouse's shift in belief. ✔️How each person in the couple can handle the difference in belief maturely or tyrannically. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.  www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on August 4, 2020. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Mike Frazier with Strong Men, Strong Marriages Podcast to talk about... -Female sexuality and desire. -Why you need to stop being “pathetic” :-) and what to do instead. -How to approach sex with your wife in a way that’s attractive and effective. -How to better take ownership of your own sexuality in a way that will bless your marriage.

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners.

In Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s sixth podcast with About Progress, they discuss the notion of agency and choices and how taking responsibility for our choices impacts our happiness and peace of mind. This episode gives lots of examples of making choices within specific relational realities.

Dan Wotherspoon, host of "Mormon Matters" interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Natasha Helfer Parker about the messaging around modesty and sexuality and how to teach our sexual values most productively.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps to talk about the topic of obedience. They discuss questions such as… -When is it good to yield to the authority of another? -What is the difference between the choice to comply based in moral courage vs. obedience that is dangerous? -What is the risk in valuing obedience as an inherent virtue, and how do we reconcile the value of humility with moral responsibility?

In a conversation with Rhonda Farr of The Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about...   False cultural ideas that many men internalize about sexuality. How to manage desire differences and a spouse's refusal without anger or withdrawal. How to approach sexuality when a spouse has experienced sexual trauma. A sneak peek into what will be taught in the Men’s Sexuality course (COMING THIS FALL)! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a conversation with life coach Heather Frazier of Pivot Parenting Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about... Why we measure ourselves by external things. How to be true to yourself. How to foster integrity and confidence in your children. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners.

In a conversation with clinical psychologist Zac Rhodenizer of The Psychology Of Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about the the psychology of male sexuality.

In a conversation with Makenzie VanWinkle of the "My Audience Is Me" Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about what it looks like to live your life from your highest desires.

In this discussion with Sarah Mendenhall of the Sitting Down With Sarah Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife responds to questions such as… What are the stages that couples go through when facing a faith challenge? Can you arrive at shared values in a mixed-faith relationship? Can you live in two different paradigms of belief and still be friends and good parents? How can you talk to your kids about a parent's faith transition? How can you teach your children shared values when each parent believes differently? How can you find the courage to love in the face of difference? To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In part two of of her discussion with Matt Davis of Steelyard Academy Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the following topics...  Taking greater responsibility for yourself. Finding greater meaning and purpose in your life. How to better measure success and happiness. Understanding sex as a powerful form of communication. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a discussion with Matt Davis of Steelyard Academy Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the following topics...  Understanding the relationship between anxiety and depression and externalized expectations. Claiming your life choices in the face of pressures from others. Understanding resentment and what it can teach you about yourself. Balancing expectations and freedom appropriately to foster self-development in your child. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Dr. Corey Allan from Sexy Marriage Radio to discuss the higher desire wife and the lower desire husband relationship dynamic.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Amy Watson from the Smooth Stones Podcast to discuss intimacy after loss.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson Fife and Preston Pugmire of the Next Level Life Podcast examine emotional maturity, its roots, its effects and how to invest in your own self-development in order to thrive in relationships and business.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cherie Burton to talk about: How women often become disempowered sexually in religious traditions.  How many religious traditions (often unknowingly) contribute to body shaming, inhibit self-expression, and undermine self-development. How women can foster a stronger self in their lives and spiritual practices. How women can foster peace with their sexuality. AND MORE! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins The Betrayed, The Addicted, And The Expert Podcast to talk about: The common relational patterns at the root of addiction and betrayal and how to change these dysfunctional dynamics. How to relate to religious belief to foster courage and integrity rather than fear. What “sex-positive” means in a religious context. How women can integrate their sexuality without being vulnerable to a sexually irresponsible or indulgent spouse. How to understand aspects of sexual compulsivity. AND MORE! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

The importance of intimacy in happiness. Perfectionism and its challenge to openness / intimacy. Understanding shame and guilt.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sara Payne from the The Doctor’s Wife Podcast to talk about resentment.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Cami Hurst from the Sex Therapy 101 Podcast to talk about learning to say no when needed. They talk about topics such as learning to set boundaries and dealing with a spouse’s pornography use.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Cultivate A Good Life Podcast to talk about healthy sexual development. They talk about how to teach your kids about sexuality without shame and fear.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Cultivate A Good Life Podcast to talk about desire. They talk about what desire is, why it matters, and how to identify and develop the desires you have.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins her daughter Jane to talk about her career as a marriage counselor and the things she’s learned along the way. This interview was done for a journalism project for Jane’s 8th grade class. We ask that you please excuse any background noise caused by Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s family and dog.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Women With Fire Podcast to talk about topics such as sexuality, integrity, and teaching our kids about sex and desire.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Stephanie Webb from Eat Confident Co to talk about body image. Dr. Finlayson-Fife offers her perspective on how a woman’s relationship with her body influences her intimate relationship, how to set healthy boundaries in a marriage, and how to empower yourself as an equal partner in your marriage by healing your relationship with your body.  To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on February 5th 2020. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Rich and Celeste from the Marriage Theraoke podcast to talk about how we deal with the dissatisfaction in our marriages and how to more fully CHOOSE our partner every day.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Monica Tanner of On The Brighter Side Podcast. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about setting personal goals and setting goals as a couple. She goes into detail about what collaborative goals look like and common pitfalls/problems that come up when trying to keep new goals, and how to overcome these.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Ray Cox and Ellen Hersam from the Improving Intimacy in Mormon Marriages Facebook group. Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers questions about neediness, using sex to avoid conflict, differences in desire, and advice for newly weds.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Corey Allan from Sexy Marriage Radio to talk about the dynamic of desire differences and the lower desire wife.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Jodi Chaffee from Our Modern Heritage about how to raise kids in an overly sexualized world.

This podcast episode is an audio recording of Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s presentation Sexuality and Singledom: Navigating with Clarity and Integrity. This presentation was recorded in New York City at a singles’ conference called “Of One Body: The State of Mormon Singledom.”

In this episode, Bloom for Women interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife as part of its Love Rice Podcast series. This is a continuation of the discussion that was begun in part 1. The topic of this conversation is "betrayal trauma" and overcoming the impact of infidelity and other forms of dishonesty in intimate relationships.

The Bloom for Women team interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife as part of its Love Rice Podcast series. The topic is "betrayal trauma" and overcoming the impact of infidelity and other forms of dishonesty in intimate relationships.

In an interview for the Love Rice podcast series from Bloom for Women, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about how to belong to others as well as ourselves. She also explains how reconciling these tensions is related to our spiritual development.

In this podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the question: How does one develop a solid sense of self within groups that celebrate "selflessness" as a feminine virtue?

The Mormon Channel Daily interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife on love and how to make your marriage better.

In this episode, Jody Moore interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about women's sexuality and desire, pornography and talking to our kids about sex.

In this interview with Nate Bagley from the Loveumentary, Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife talks about the following topics: how a patriarchal view of sex can be damaging to your relationship, why it's important to take ownership of your own desires and your own sexuality, helpful tips for experiencing orgasm, and how good sex takes lots of practice.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jody Moore for a discussion about how to teach our kids about their sexuality and the law of chastity without inviting shame, with children from infancy through the young adult years.

In this episode, Latter Day Lives Podcast host Sean Rapier interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about her journey discovering worth and strength as a woman in the church. They also talk about the marriage, intimacy and issues facing today’s LDS couples.

In an interview with Rhonda Farr, an LDS sexual intimacy coach, Dr. Finlayson-Fife discusses the importance of developing one’s relationship with one’s own sexuality and desire. Rhonda Farr and Dr. Finlayson-Fife talk about how understanding the parts of yourself that you don't currently love, can actually lead you to find greater confidence. You can also listen to this interview on YouTube.

In this episode, the Marriage Laboratory interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife in an episode focusing on the high desire partner in a sexual relationship.

In this podcast episode, Greg Reynolds from the Marriage Mastery Podcast speaks with Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife about the importance of healthy sexual expression in marriage. They touch on topics such as the differences in male and female sexuality and how to create a happy relationship in which both members can thrive.

In a new "About Progress" Podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Monica Packer about our fruitless efforts to change a loved one, and what productive choices you can make instead!

In this podcast episode, Dan Wotherspoon from Mormon Matters Podcast, Chelsea Fife, Chelsea Strayer, and Dr. Finlayson-Fife discuss Mormonism’s messages about motherhood.

In this first ever LIVE recording of an Ask a Mormon Sex Therapist podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Mormon Marriages team to address the following questions… Question # 1 - “My wife and I are trying to conceive. This is one of the most stressful times of my life, and stress is a major anti-aphrodisiac for me. How do I confront the pressure to perform?” Question # 2 - "My wife has a “fun” sexual past with her high school boyfriends. Before we dated she had shared too many of those experiences with me. I was fine with it, until I woke up to her crying on our wedding night. It triggered a jealousy and resentment where I feel she gave “them” her fun self. I got the Mormon prude and they got the fun girl. I love her, but I feel like she has never chosen me. I get that I’m at fault with the unforgiving heart and mad with jealousy that has built emotional walls. I feel like all our sex has been mercy sex. I don’t even want to have sex with her because that’s what it is. When we become intimate all I can see is her doing “this” with “them.” It makes me regret and feel bitterness that I strived to stay a virgin and be as "clean" as I could. I feel like I have lived life wrong. Since she is a terrific good person and she has the “dirty” past, she is the better more healthy person while I am the bitter/resentful seminary graduate boy. It makes me hate myself that I can’t get over that. I’m over 15 years into this and the cloud just gets darker and bigger. How can I start becoming more intimate with my wife while suffering with this intense jealousy? I just finished your course enhancing sexual intimacy and I am grateful for you and what you are doing. So, thank you and I would love to here your answer knowing it will be painful.” This episode is part two of the two part live podcast recording. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on October 11th 2019.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Natasha Helfer Parker from Mormon Sex Info to discuss the topic of how to best handle a pornography disclosure within a couple system.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins A Thoughtful Faith Podcast to discuss the topic of cognitive dissonance and faith transition.