Conversations with Dr. Jennifer

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed by Sherrae Phelps of the Ten Thousand Hours of Writing project to discuss differences in marriage and how to navigate them. Listen to here more about... - The difficulty of navigating differences, especially religious differences, in marriage. - Self-indulgence vs self-definition. - The paradox and tension of marriage. - How to determine with integrity if a difference is too big for the marriage. - How we choose to navigate difference may matter more than the difference itself.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Shane and Jason of the Sprinkled With Hope podcast to discuss sexuality, intimacy and hope. Listen to hear more about... - A distinction between sex and intimacy - How to develop a capacity for intimacy - A positive strategy to use talking to your children about their sexuality - Advice for newlyweds as they begin their sexual relationship - Hope and encouragement for meaningful love and intimacy in your life

Dr. Finlayson-Fife had a fun and educational conversation with Rosemary Card of the Q.More Podcast where they covered questions we all have about sex. Listen to learn more about... - Integrating your sexuality regardless of what stage of life you are in - The process of self and sexual development - Intimacy and communication - Questions and discussions to help newlyweds navigate their new sexual relationship

Dr. Finlayson Fife joined Geoff Steurer of From Crisis to Connection to discuss reclaiming your sexuality after betrayal in your marriage. Listen to learn more about: - Reclaiming your individual sexuality after betrayal - The development opportunities afforded by crisis in your relationship - How anchoring in one’s sense of self enhances your relationship to your spouse - The courage required to love

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed on the Mormon Land podcast about Natasha Helfer's membership disciplinary hearing due to her public stances on masturbation, same-sex marriage and pornography. They discuss these topics as well as the potential effects of Natasha's hearing on mental health professionals and members alike.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife had an honest and empathetic conversation with Kimberlee & Alisha from The Clarity Call about raising children with special needs and the opportunities for self-definition in the face of a difficult reality.

This is a recording of an instagram live Dr. Finlayson-Fife did with musician, Jenn Blosil. They covered so many wonderful topics in this fun, uplifting conversation including: - The Divine Feminine - Sexual Energy - Sublimation - Modesty - and more!

Barbara Zabawa of the Lemon Spark podcast interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife about the journey that led her to the career she has today. Listen to hear more about: - Experiences in Jennifer’s life that led her to her career - Your ability to change your circumstances - Two types of “sparks” that can lead to growth

In this interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Valerie Hamaker of the Voices About Living podcast to discuss a case study. They cover topics including women's sexual health and how personal freedom impacts sex drive.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joined Julie Winn of The Porn Addict's Wife Podcast to discuss how the marital sexual relationship can be affected when a spouse is viewing pornography.

Lindsey Sanchez of the Beating Around the Book podcast interviewed Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife to discuss sex and intimacy in literature. Listen to learn more about: - What eroticism is, how to engage it, and how it relates to your partnership. - How literature with erotic content can move you out of the mundane of everyday life and into a place of play with your spouse. - How erotic literature can be used to enrich your life and partnership.

Tammy Hill of the Live Your Why podcast interviewed Dr. Finlayson-Fife and discussed sexuality for single individuals. Listen to this episode to learn more about: - Where is the line in regards to chastity? - How to help your children make self-directed choices around their sexuality. - A discussion about normal sexual developmental behavior - Core questions to ask yourself to get clear on your relationship to your sexuality - How to transition into a sexual relationship without guilt or shame when you get married

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners. The topics include: - What subjective and physiological arousal are and how to understand them in yourself. - The importance of play, self-acceptance and acceptance of others as adults. - What is a collaborative alliance and how to do your part in that alliance. - The benefit of giving and receiving in your sexual relationship.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife was interviewed on the From the Mouth of Babes podcast to discuss all things intimacy! Listen to this episode to learn more about... - What true intimacy looks like and the courage it requires. - The importance of managing our own sense of self. - Why honesty is key in intimate relationships. - Managing differences in a marriage. - Asking questions to truly understand your spouse and build intimacy in your marriage. - How to rekindle intimacy and passion in your marriage.

In this podcast episode Don Wotherspoon facilitates a discussion with Dr. Finlayson-Fife, Carol Lynn Pearson and Stephen Carter for the Mormon Matters podcast. They cover multiple topics including beliefs that interfere with intimacy in mormon marriages, the effects of the history of polygamy on modern mormon marriages and how marriage can be an incredible opportunity for development and joy!

In this new podcast episode Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Courtney Anderson, host of The Glow Boss Podcast, to discuss Valentines Day and some easy and concrete ways to spice up your sex life.

In this new podcast episode discussing faith and faith development with Sherrae Phelps, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses the topic of... Transactional Faith and how we grow into a higher understandings of Faith.

Jennifer and her sister Carolyn Bever speak with Monica Packer of the About Progress podcast all about how to develop ourselves without perfectionism getting in the way! Listen to hear more about... - How Carolyn went from only being able to run down the block to qualifying for the Boston Marathon. - What parenting has taught Jennifer about herself and her own problematic perfectionism. - How to overcome fears of failure or discomfort. - The normalcy of perfectionism, the false ideas within it, and how we can transcend it. This is a unique self-development podcast that you don't want to miss!

Are you dealing with betrayal trauma? Today we are reposting a popular podcast in which Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Scabs of Bloom For Women about... -Dishonesty in marriage. -Healing from marital betrayal. -How to move forward after a breach of trust. -What infidelity in marriage can show you about your spouse and yourself. -How you can become stronger in the face of betrayal. -How to rebuild trust.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins colleague Natasha Helfer to discuss Dr. Schnarch's teachings and legacy. They take up -Differentiation theory and Dr. David Schnarch's impact in the field of therapy. -Differentiation and how it's related to strong relationships and a solid sense of self. -How to better manage anxiety within your relationship and family. -Common relational and sexual challenges facing those who have grown up in a religiously conservative culture

In honor of David Schnarch, professional colleague Dr. Dave Jenkins, interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife about -How she came to find Dr. Schnarch's work -Personal growth that has come from her experience as a therapist and coach. -The value of seeking for truth even when it's disorienting. -How her practice has been influenced by Dr. David Schnarch's life and work. -The importance of differentiation in human development and creating peace within oneself and healthy relationships

Talking to your kids about sex is a high anxiety experience for many parents! For LDS families with an LGBTQ child, it can be even more challenging. In this podcast episode, Allison from www.liftandlove.org and Jenie with Jenie Hunter Coaching talk with Dr. Finlayson-Fife about how to raise LGBTQ children and youth with a healthy sense of their sexuality and of their identity as a child of God.

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Monica Tanner of the "On The Brighter Side" podcast talk about entrepreneurism and its impact on relationships. Jennifer and Monica discuss.. -Why it can be difficult to ask for support from a spouse when you have a meaningful ambition. -The challenges that entrepreneurs often confront in their intimate relationships, given the sacrifices and emotional demands of a creative endeavor. -How to maintain your sense of self in the midst of entrepreneurial demands along with the responsibilities of marriage, and parenting, and work. -How to address resentment that emerge in marriage productively.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Dan Purcell of the Get Your Marriage On podcast. They discuss... -The 3 stages of sexual development, and how to bring your marriage to the next level. -The importance of fostering erotic energy in your relationship. -How to go from having sex to deep connection through love-making.

In this conversation with Tony Overbay of the Virtual Couch podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about living with a narcissistic spouse AND the frustrating pursuer-distancer dynamic common to many couples. Here are some of the specific things Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses.... -How to function in a relationship when your spouse has narcissistic traits or tendencies. -Where you are vulnerable when living with or loving someone who won't self-confront or change. -How to make sense of and address the experience of feeling more invested than your spouse. -How to grow in your capacity for an open hearted relationship if you tend to stay arm's length. -Understanding attachment or relational styles (such as being “clingy”, or “walled off” in relationship) and how to grow into a more self-sustaining and relational position.

Jody Moore of the Better Than Happy Podcast interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife on the topic of Spiritual Maturity. They discuss.. -The importance of spiritual maturity and how to achieve it. -How to live life more honestly and in line with your integrity. -The process of approaching obedience with wisdom. -The true meaning of modesty and how to teach it wisely. -How perfectionism is a counterfeit virtue, and what real goodness looks like. -What the fruits of spiritual maturity are.

Jennifer discusses the questions and findings of her research, looking at LDS women and the impact of a patriarchal religious structure on their peace with sexuality and sense of sexual agency. The third and final part of this conversation covers the following topics... -How to stand up for better in a sexless marriage -How to foster desire in marriage -Masturbation in marriage -Erotica and pornography

This 3-part interview was Jennifer's first-EVER (and one of her most-listened-to) podcasts! Jennifer discusses the questions and findings of her research, looking at LDS women and the impact of a patriarchal religious structure on their peace with sexuality and sense of sexual agency.

In this 2012 interview, Dr. Finlayson-Fife is interviewed by Natasha Helfer of the Mormon Mental Health podcast to discuss her dissertation research on LDS women and sexuality.

This podcast episode is for... -Those personally struggling with unwanted pornography use. -The spouse of someone who views pornography. -Anyone seeking to better understand and protect against unhealthy sexual behavior patterns.

In her conversation with Felica Allen of "Find The Magic Podcast", Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses -How women can find authentic pleasure in sexuality. -How to forge meaningful happiness. -How to take deeper responsibility for your life

In this interview Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins @courtneyspatrouve of the The Spa Trouve Podcast to talk about... Developing comfort with one's own sexuality. The importance of communicating honestly with a partner. What to do about painful of uncomfortable sex. And how to increase one's desire for sex.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Find Your Person Podcast to discuss the topic of singles, relationships, and sexuality! She address... -What healthy boundaries during dating look like. -The importance of sexual attraction in dating and marriage choice. -How to "course correct" while dating and recommit to shared goals. -Differences and similarities between male and female sexuality. -How to foster healthy sexuality in a dating relationship while staying true to ideals such as the law of chastity.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Kami Banks of the Beyond Your Comfort Zone Podcast to discuss... How and why to invest in yourself The importance of differentiation and independence in being happy How to self-validate and gain greater confidence in who you are Learning from challenges

In this podcast Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sarah Bauer of the Art of Play to discuss ✔️What your feelings of resentment are trying to tell you ✔️How to foster greater self-respect ✔️How self-development will positively benefit all your relationships ✔️How to tap into your own desires

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Jeff and Sheldon of the Idea Gym podcast to talk about... ✔️ The foundational structure of an intimate marriage. ✔️ How to participate in a marriage where both partners thrive. ✔️ How to come to peace with our desires (both sexual and otherwise). ✔️ The importance of honesty with yourself and within your marriage in creating a peaceful partnership. ✔️ The difference between intimacy and validation. AND MORE!

In this podcast Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Monica Packer of the About Progress podcast to discuss -How to stop hating sex -How to make sense of your negative feelings towards physical intimacy. -The importance of sexual self-development in your personal confidence. -The importance of pleasure in living joyfully.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Andy Proctor of the @morehappylife podcast to discuss… -How parents can better talk to their kids about sexuality and pleasure (without embarrassment). -The gift of human embodiment and sensuality. -How people who experience themselves as addicted to sex can take more control of their choices. -How to think about sexuality as a religious single person in a way that facilitates your well-being.

This episode also includes discussion about... -Why we are often quick to judge others choices when they invalidate our own. -How and why we try to control or manipulate our spouse's beliefs or choices and how to better control ourselves (rather than others). -How to better respect integrity-based decisions, even when they differ from our own.

In this podcast episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks with Bree and Adam of the Better Me with BodyByBree podcast to do a couples' coaching session! During their conversation, Dr. Finlayson-Fife addresses -Differences/imbalances in desire between them -She exposes the implicit meaning frames between them that create resentment and undermine desire -She offers them a new way of thinking about their choices to create a sense of closeness and friendship -How to develop more confidence and courage in the marriage

In this episode, Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Tamara K. Anderson of the “Stories of Hope in Hard Times” podcast to discuss -Self sufficiency -Overcoming self-doubt -Building self-confidence -Finding strength in trails and  -Learning from the imperfections of life.  Jennifer talks about her own experiences with self-doubt and suffering and the lessons she learned about herself, life, and God in the face of these challenging times. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.  www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on September 2, 2020. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins the Marriage On A Tightrope podcast to discuss the topic of mixed faith marriage! Jennifer addresses topics such as ✔️How you can find shared values and spiritual practices when one stops believing. ✔️How you can deal with condescension from family or friends about a spouse's shift in belief. ✔️How each person in the couple can handle the difference in belief maturely or tyrannically. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights.  www.Finlayson-Fife.com This episode was originally aired on August 4, 2020. You can also listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher. The advice offered through Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s Podcast Archive is educational and informational in nature and is provided only as general information.  It is not meant to establish a therapist-patient relationship or offer therapeutic advice, opinion, diagnosis treatment or to establish a standard of care.  Although Dr. Finlayson-Fife is a trained psychotherapist, she is not functioning in the role of a licensed therapist during these sessions, but rather using her training to inform these sessions.  Thus, the content is not intended to replace independent professional judgment.  The content is not intended to solicit clients or patients; and should not be relied upon as medical or psychological advice of any kind or nature whatsoever.  The information provided through the Content should not be used for diagnosing or treating a mental health problem or disease.  The information contained in these communications is not comprehensive and does not include all the potential information regarding the subject matter, but is merely intended to serve as one resource for general and educational purposes.

In this podcast episode Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Mike Frazier with Strong Men, Strong Marriages Podcast to talk about... -Female sexuality and desire. -Why you need to stop being “pathetic” :-) and what to do instead. -How to approach sex with your wife in a way that’s attractive and effective. -How to better take ownership of your own sexuality in a way that will bless your marriage.

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners.

In Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s sixth podcast with About Progress, they discuss the notion of agency and choices and how taking responsibility for our choices impacts our happiness and peace of mind. This episode gives lots of examples of making choices within specific relational realities.

Dan Wotherspoon, host of "Mormon Matters" interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and Natasha Helfer Parker about the messaging around modesty and sexuality and how to teach our sexual values most productively.

Dr. Finlayson-Fife joins Sherrae Phelps to talk about the topic of obedience. They discuss questions such as… -When is it good to yield to the authority of another? -What is the difference between the choice to comply based in moral courage vs. obedience that is dangerous? -What is the risk in valuing obedience as an inherent virtue, and how do we reconcile the value of humility with moral responsibility?

In a conversation with Rhonda Farr of The Intimacy Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about...   False cultural ideas that many men internalize about sexuality. How to manage desire differences and a spouse's refusal without anger or withdrawal. How to approach sexuality when a spouse has experienced sexual trauma. A sneak peek into what will be taught in the Men’s Sexuality course (COMING THIS FALL)! To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a conversation with life coach Heather Frazier of Pivot Parenting Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife talks about... Why we measure ourselves by external things. How to be true to yourself. How to foster integrity and confidence in your children. To learn more about Dr. Finlayson-Fife’s work, visit our Website, check out our Online Course Page, and take a look at our upcoming Events. You can also follow Dr. Finlayson-Fife on Instagram, YouTube, or join her FREE Facebook Group for greater access to her insights. www.Finlayson-Fife.com Listen to this episode on Apple Podcasts, Google Podcasts, Spotify, TuneIn, and Stitcher.

In a conversation with Nate and Angilyn Bagley of the Mormon Marriages Podcast, Dr. Finlayson-Fife answers several questions sent in by listeners.