Cheating: When Love Lies

This is a classic case of what would you do? What would you do if just two weeks before your wedding you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you confide in a family member or tell a friend? Would you confront the cheating partner or exist in uncertainty? Would you immediately cancel the wedding, or take time to consider your options? Would you even walk down the aisle? This nightmare of a predicament happened to my guest Greyson Ferguson. Greyson is a betrayed partner who went on to write very candidly about his experience. Find out what happens to this totally unsuspecting fiancé, when just days before his wedding he finds out his bride-to-be is having an affair. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is it possible to be a beautiful, accomplished woman in your 30s, and have never once cheated on a partner - not even a secret emotional flirtation? My guest Joanne Nosuchinsky, co-host of the show “Mornin’ with Bill and Joanne” is that woman. Joanne has managed to remain faithful in her relationships even at times when a partner has cheated on her. Conversely, her very good friend and co-host Bill Schulz has slept with “many married women” (his words not mine). I plan on asking Bill how many is many, and why he thinks they all slept with him. Bill says the married women he’s been with “don’t expect very much.” (Umm… what does that mean?) Bill, Joanne and I also play a game that tests their knowledge of modern dating terms and tactics. It’s a show filled with LMAO moments, and some pretty surprising revelations from both Bill and Joanne. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

You can’t stand the sight of your spouse. You feel nothing but contempt for your partner. You’re obsessed with idea that someone who actually deserves you is out there. In your mind, nothing could be worse than living out the rest of your life with the person laying next to you, eating meals with you, vacationing with you, and yes - once or twice a year - having sex with you! So you - like the 75 million plus people on Ashley Madison and other married but dating sites - give yourself permission to have an affair. You’re imagining the incredible sex, affection, and understanding you’re going to get from your affair partner. But what happens when the fantasy falls short, your affair ends miserably, and your spouse finds out you’re cheating? Moreover, what if your affair is brought on, in part, by mania or compulsive tendencies? We’re not talking clinical research or medical advice here, but my guest and I do take a completely unscientific yet imaginative look at the relationship between mania and affairs. Inna Swinton, author of the witty, captivating, and Kirkus lauded novel “The Many Loves of Mila,” joins me to talk about how her protagonist discovers the role mania plays in her infidelity, and if her character’s struggles actually occur in real life. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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We’ve all heard scandalous stories of Christian conservative leaders who commit adultery. They cheat on their spouses with all kinds of secret lovers and hide it from their congregations, communities, neighbors, and friends — then lie about it to the world. We can’t understand how and why these self professed beacons of morality can espouse the virtues of honesty and truth, yet act so deceptively. On this episode we speak to one of these Christian conservatives. She’s not a headliner, but she’s known and respected in the Christian conservative community. Why, why is she having an affair? How does she live with herself? Does she really believe she’s going to get away with it? You’re about to find out …. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Would you go see a psychic to find out if your partner was cheating on you? I would, and I’d want the answer the minute I walked through the door. My guest today, world renown psychic, psychotherapist, lecturer, and best selling author Vincent Genna says “No,” that’s not the right approach when seeking guidance from a psychic. Vincent Genna’s eagerly anticipated new book called “The Secret That’s Holding You Back” is an eye opening, hopeful and optimistic look at how healing yourself from past pain can affect so many outcomes in your life including your career and relationships- it can even affect if your partner will cheat on you! It was a challenge for me to embrace the full scope of Vincent’s assertions about optimism and the laws of attraction, and you’ll hear that in our point counterpoint. However, I have to admit by the time we got to the end of our conversation, I couldn’t help but question myself: can I improve my attitude to help bring out the most positive outcomes in my life- relationships and otherwise? My best friend Suzy is my co-host on this episode. She’s here to weigh in because we are both fascinated by psychic ability, and she was thrilled to join in my conversation with the inimitable Vincent Genna. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My guest Novi Brown stars on the hit series Tyler Perry’s Sistas on BET and on BET Her. She’s also the creator and host of the podcast Conversations & Constellations with Novi Brown. Novi talks about how knowing your astrological chart and understanding astrology overall can possibly help: - predict cheating and betrayal in your future -identify what signs may be more likely to cheat or be faithful -show how the planets affect your love relationships, and -guide you to make better choices about your romantic life While Novi openly says “ I’m a student of life, so please do your own research…” (in other words, use her words to guide you while understanding your own free will) I have to admit, Novi nailed it when she talked about my astrological characteristics and pattens. We had a great time together! Join us in our fun and insightful conversation. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s everyone woman’s biggest nightmare. You find out your best friend is having an affair with your husband. In one fell swoop you loose your partner, and the person you believed was your ride or die bestie. You can’t believe the betrayal. It seems completely inexplicable, or is it? You may never think this situation is justified, but maybe you can comprehend how it can happen although you won’t ever sanction it. Laura (not her real name), my guest to today is a great mom who is killing it in business. She’s pretty and smart, someone you could easily imagine being your best friend. Laura was also that mistress: the woman who had an affair with her best friend’s husband. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can your own mother set you up to live life as a betrayed partner? Fran ( not her real name) my guest today says “yes”. Fran says that her childhood and adolescent years spent under her mother’s roof primed her to become a betrayed partner. Considering 3 out of 4 of Fran’s most recent lovers cheated, I thought her theory about why her mom was to blame was one worth investigating. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine a lavish life with a wealthy husband where you feel secure that you and your children will be taken care of forever. Imagine the thrill of first-class vacations to your family’s luxurious homes in the most exotic places. Imagine your husband spoiling you with expensive jewels and clothes. Imagine all this with a husband you’re only mildly attracted to. On the other hand, what if you’re a single mom, struggling financially to make ends meet - wondering from month to month how you’re going to survive. Would you accept the proverbial man on a white horse coming to rescue you financially and emotionally? Even if that man is married? Even if you don’t love him, or can barely bring yourself to have sex with him? Most women (at least publicly) say they would never find themselves in either circumstance, but given either situation what would you do? Lisa, my guest on this episode experienced not one, but both of these circumstances. Find out what she did to make it through. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you found out your husband was cheating on you, how long would it take for you to serve him, get him out of the house, then fall madly love with another man? When best-selling author Gabrielle Stone found out her husband was cheating on her with a teenager, it only took weeks for her to dissolve her marriage. Gabrielle had zero tolerance for her husband’s lies, cheating and very young paramour. Heartbreaking as it sounds, the outcome was actually a gift to Gabrielle and to all of us because it led her to find love like she’s never known before, and to write the best selling books “Eat, Pray FML” and “The Ridiculous Misadventures Of A Single Girl” that recount her journey from heartbreak to self-discovery. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

How is it that some people always seem to have an unfaithful partner? Time after time they’re cheated on, lied to and betrayed. Often these people appear to have the perfect spouse or doting partner, until the whole facade comes crashing down in a torrent of lies. Then there are those who willingly accept to be the OTHER. In most of their relationships they’re not THE one - they’re mostly the OTHER one. But what if always being #2, the hidden lover, and the side piece was your own damn fault? On this episode my guest Ossiana Tepfenhart and I explore the notion of side piece energy: what is it, how to know if you’ve got it, and how to get rid of it (if you choose to do so). See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if you suspected your partner had a secret lover. You could just feel in your gut. Something in your relationship changed, and you’re convinced your partner is seeing, or even worse, having sex with someone else. Maybe you start snooping and sniffing around to see what this could-be cheater is up to. You might try to get into their phone and their computer, or do some low-key stalking. But what if this lover was right there in plain sight? Maybe your spouse’s secret lover is your best friend, your neighbor, or your cousin. As horrible as that sounds unfortunately it’s not sooooo uncommon. What if your spouse moved their lover right into your OWN house? You think it’s impossible, then you need to hear my guest today! (My guest’s name and voice has been changed to protect her identity) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What would you do if you found out your partner was cheating on you? Would you accept it, deny it, or seek revenge? How would you respond if a sexy someone tried to lure you into an affair? Could you resist or would you even want to? What if seeking out conflIct with your spouse could actually strengthen your relationship and save your marriage from infidelity… My guest Jayson Gaddis, renowned relationship coach, founder of The Relationship School, and author of “Getting To Zero: How To Work Though Conflict In Your High Stakes Relationships” says conflict is the key to a deep and meaningful love partnership. So if you want to hear how conflict is a proven way to nurture your relationship or heal after an affair, put your headphones on and get your dukes up !( Figuratively, of course !) See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this episode we talk about fantasy: erotic fantasy worlds that men create in their minds inspired by scrolling social media. It’s not about an addiction to porn, it’s something else. A whole new world of fantasy that many men are addicted to despite the disastrous impact it has on marriages and partnerships. In my conversation with leading psychologist Dr. Jennifer Guttman we explore a whole new genre of cheating, that prior to social media, just did not exist. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jordan Harbinger, host of "The Jordan Harbinger Show" is one of the biggest names in podcasting and my guest on this episode. He’s interviewed some of the greatest minds and celebrities of our time including: Mark Cuban, Ray Dalio, Malcolm Gladwell, T-Pain, and Matthew McConaughey. But on this episode of Cheating: When Love Lies, Jordan is the one answering the questions —lots of them, about infidelity and cheating. Considering his extensive background as a human dynamics expert, internationally acclaimed self-help guru and respected attorney, Jordan is perfectly positioned to answer questions such as: —How to outmaneuver someone who’s gaslighting you —How to get the truth out of anyone —What to do when you find out you’re being cheated on and lied to —How to get a lover to commit Jordan is witty, smart and super experienced in the relationship space, so not only will you be entertained, but you’ll also hear useful relationship strategies and tactics. Whether you’re a cheater or betrayed partner, you’ll learn from this interview with one of the top names in relationship dynamics and podcasting. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Do most rock legends cheat on tour or is that simply a myth? Is it possible to resist the temptation of men and women who revere you for your talent and star power, then make themselves available to you as intermittent sex partners while you’re on tour? The answer may surprise you. On today’s show I welcome John Malkin, former MTV executive, lead singer of the rock band The Simple Radicals and a self professed rock aficionado. John shares some great stories about rock legends from the 80s, 90s and beyond who’ve cheated big time, and some who haven’t been unfaithful at all. You’ll hear about rock legend Mark Farner from Grand Funk (We're an American Band; Some Kind of Wonderful)— stories John first heard when he interviewed Farner on his podcast “Music and A Brew.” We’ll also hear about Metallica in stories John culled from VH1s “Behind The Music.” In this episode we hear all this more, as we take a look at cheating and fidelity in the world of rock n’ roll. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is cheating ever justified or perhaps your only way out? This episode’s guest, (we’ll call her Bethany) suffered for years in a highly toxic home and relationship. It wasn’t until Bethany’s abusive partner discovered that she was having an affair that Bethany was immediately forced to flee her primary relationship and find solace in her forbidden lover’s arms. Is there ever a world in which cheating is not only right, but the only way to right a wrong? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is it love, or an obsession? What is it when you give and give to someone who not only takes and takes, but abuses your kindness then intentionally seeks to hurt you. I rarely use the word narcissist on Cheating: When Love Lies, but the man that my guest Diane (not her real name) fell in love with and helped get a green card, seems to fit the definition of a narcissist to a tee. This person Diane describes is so incredibly mean and cold hearted. What’s particularly heartbreaking is how long Diane endured her husband’s abuse and neglect. Time after time she trusted him although his lying, cheating ways were not only reprehensible, but at times criminal. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this episode I welcome award winning journalist and one of the founding editors of Bustle, Rachel Krantz. Rachel is the author of “Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy.” The Los Angeles Times, Electric Lit calls “Open” one of the most anticipated books of 2022. In our interview, Rachel shares her very titillating and compelling odyssey into the world of non-monogamy. She talks about sex parties and learning to embrace her bi-sexuality. I was riveted by Rachel’s stories of ecstasy, jealousy, manipulation and betrayal. Even if you’re the most binary, monogamous, marry-or-die type person on the planet — you can’t walk away from this interview without challenging some of your own long held convictions about monogamous relationships. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Growing up in her native Ecuador, my guest Maria Mendoza-Smith lived a privileged upper middle class life filled with nannies, maids, and caregivers. Until age 6, Maria lived with her mother, father and extended family who helped raise her. Unfortunately, Maria’s father was a serial cheater, so when his flagrant sexual exploits became too embarrassing and difficult to tolerate, her mother took extreme measures to end the emotional abuse brought on by the affairs. Some may qualify Maria’s mother’s actions as bold and justified, while others may see how she responded to the cheating as abhorrent. Maria talks with poise and grace about how she resented her mother, longed for her father’s attention, and struggled with lifelong abandonment issues sparked by her father’s affairs. Maria’s capacity to forgive and accept what she calls the “gray area of morality” helped her find peace with both her parents before they passed away, then go on to build trust and devotion in her own marriage of 20 plus years. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s the holidays, so I thought it would be a great time to do our very first Cheating: When Love Lies retrospective. It’s hard to believe we just started this podcast in July, and already there’s been so many provocative stories and insightful thoughts about cheating and affairs. In this episode which is Part 2 of the retrospective, I replay some of the podcast’s best moments where we hear the most shocking and unfathomable statements from both cheaters and betrayed partners. It’s a “best of” episode that will most certainly make you think twice about your loves, your relationships and affairs you may have had or ever contemplated having. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s the holidays, so I thought it would be a great time to do our very first Cheating: When Love Lies retrospective. It’s hard to believe we just started this podcast in July, and already there’s been so many provocative stories and insightful thoughts about cheating and affairs. In this episode which is Part 1 of the retrospective, I replay some of the podcast’s best moments where we hear the most shocking and unfathomable statements from both cheaters and betrayed partners. It’s a “best of” episode that will most certainly make you think twice about your loves, your relationships and affairs you may have had or ever contemplated having. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Gaslighting is a term we often hear, but would you know when and if it was happening to you? ??For those who don’t know what gaslighting is, it’s when someone tries to convince you that something they said or did never occurred. The gaslighter denies the reality of what you know happened, then makes you question yourself and what you know to be true.?? My guest today whom we’ll call Wende (that’s not her real name) was gaslighted throughout her nine year relationship, so she never really knew for sure if her partner cheated on her. I have my own point of view as to whether or not Wende’s partner cheated, but I’ll let you listen and decide what you think was really going on behind all that gaslighting.?? It will amaze you to learn what Wende’s job is. It reminded me that love can sometimes obscure the most obvious of truths. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

I don’t think there’s a person over the age of 40 who doesn’t know, remember or love the mega hit show Entourage. How cool was it to watch that band of bros parading around the studio lot? Dudes walking around in a group has never been as incredibly provocative as it was on that show. My guest Doug Ellin, is the executive producer, director, head writer, and a supporting actor in Entourage. Doug claims, “I’m an open book” as he shares very personal stories about his childhood, his struggles with ADHD, anger issues and the truth about his loves. Doug is vulnerable, honest, direct and downright charming. Doug is the co-host of The Victory (a podcast about Entourage) and he co-hosts the podcast Hollywood Wayz with BRE-Z, the acclaimed rapper and beloved character Coop on the hit series All American. I love the concept behind Hollywood Wayz — it’s an insider look at the best of restaurants, culture and ideas in LA. Check out Hollywood Wayz wherever you find your podcasts, and listen to my very personal interview with Doug about life, love and cheating. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine it was your job to wake up every day and help people find true love. What if every day was about helping peoples’ romantic dreams come true? On this episode I welcome top celebrity matchmaker, relationship expert, and CEO of Exclusive Matchmaking, Susan Trombetti. Susan’s here to tell us how high end, top shelf matchmaking services like hers really work. Susan will share unusual and uncommon cheating stories that she’s been exposed to through her matchmaking business, then she’ll answer the question “What is it that men and women are truly searching for in a partner?” See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Can being cheated on be the best thing that ever happens to you? Brendan Fitzgibbons, comedian and host of the podcast “Spiritual Asshole,” joins me to talk about his transition from needy, codependent, boyfriend to self confident, single guy. With a mix of humor, vulnerability and common sense thinking, Brendan explains how being cheated on took him on a journey that changed his life from sad and directionless to purposeful and full of joy. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Often times we think about how the spouse or betrayed partner will respond to an affair, but there isn’t much discussion about how children are affected by infidelity. I imagine that the impact an affair has on a child depends on the child’s age and how it is that they discover the cheating. On this episode I talk with “Erica” (not her real name) about how her parent’s affair that she discovered more than two decades ago still traumatizes her today. Now a mom in mid-life, Erica’s feelings of anger, resentment, hurt and shame remain palpable, as we discuss how her relationship with her mother was irreparably damaged, and how Erica believes the affair brought shame upon herself and her family. Erica’s testimony is raw, vulnerable and heart wrenching. I have never cried when interviewing one of my guests. This episode was the first time. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Often times I hear people in adulterous relationships say how cheating made them feel younger and more alive again. They tell me about the thrill and titillation of safeguarding a secret union, and how an affair allowed them to engage sexual fantasies they wouldn’t necessarily explore with their own partner. An affair can feel very dreamy and movie-like until the cheater gets caught. Then what happens? How do cheaters face their partners, their families, and their children? In the first half of this episode, I am speaking with a prominent Connecticut matrimonial attorney who shares anecdotes about cheaters who got caught. In the second half, Connecticut based Trevor Crow, an LMFT, MBA, Certified Executive Coach and Certified EFT Therapist shares couples’ dramatic cheating revelations and confessions. Through my guests’ stories and anecdotes, this episode explores the implications of getting caught from both a legal and emotional perspective. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this episode, podcast royalty Adam Carolla shares his perspective on cheating and affairs. We talked about emotional versus physical affairs, what drives people to cheat, and the advice he’d give anyone who’s thinking of having an affair. In true “Adam style” he uses spot on anecdotes and analogies to explain the complexities of cheating. Adam and I even did a little role play as the unhappy couple trying to decide if we should stay in our relationship or kiss each other goodbye! See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Only the most endearing, vulnerable and authentic women can say things like: “ I loved douche bags …they were my kryptonite.” Or, “I thought I would be a prisoner of loving him forever…. I’d be a sad mistress who would never love anyone again.” Bridget Pheatsy, comedian, provocateur, and host of the hit podcast Walk- Ins Welcome is that kind of woman. On this episode Bridget shares her own personal stories of affairs and heartbreak. She describes with complete candor how she weaponized her sexuality to seduce men, and spent years seeking out hurtful relationships with bad guys in response to her abuse and years of addiction. Bridget’s story told by anyone else would be utterly sad and devastating, but true to her nature, Bridget finds both humor and heartbreak in her incredible life journey. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine you’re a Division 1 athlete in your prime. You have everything going for you - a great school, a promising future and you’re dating one of the hottest guys on campus. One day you decide to quit your sport, a sport that’s dominated your life since childhood, and suddenly your life spirals into an emotional disarray of eating disorders, body image issues and low self worth. Then sadly your hottest man on campus boyfriend starts cheating on you. This is what happened to my guest today, Erin Washington. Erin is the host of the hit podcast “Squats and Margaritas.” Erin talks openly about struggles with her weight, bulimia and anorexia. She shares painful stories she’s never told before about how low self esteem and poor body image caused her to passively accept her boyfriend’s lies, gaslighting and affairs. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

My guest this episode is Anne Michaud author of “Why They Stay: Sex Scandals, Deals, and Hidden Agendas of Eight Political Wives" Michaud’s book recounts the stories of powerful political couples whose lives—both personal and public—were transformed by cheating. She explores what motivated each of these women to stand by their unfaithful man and, by consequence, augment his positive perception in the media as a virtuous American brand. Michaud contends that these wives were given little choice other than to publicly support their husbands in the face of affairs and sex scandals: an imperative imposed by political advisors and a moralistic electorate who expect women to appear as supportive and dutiful. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this episode called “Dangerous Liaisons: When Cheating Leads to Tragic Ends,” powerhouse attorney Marilyn B. Chinitz, a partner at Blank Rome joins me to discuss several of her most shocking cases where infidelity led to: exposing the abuses of a morally depraved mother, unmasking a serial pedophile, and solving a brutal murder. Chinitz shares the stories behind these high profile cases as we explore how infidelity can escalate to unthinkable ends. Chinitz and I discuss the extent of emotional, financial and physical risk involved in any adulterous relationship as cheaters expose themselves, their lives and their families’ lives to a secret lover whose true intentions can prove irreparably damaging. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this episode I talk with star radio host and iconic media personality, Mark Simone. Mark is the host of the #1 radio show in New York City from 10 AM - noon every weekday on 710 WOR and nationally on iHeart radio. Also known as Mr. New York, Mark shares titillating and shocking stories of cheating and affairs among New York’s glitterati, the Hollywood elite, international billionaires and music legends. Mark gives us an up close and personal view into the world of high style cheating and affairs. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tom “The Suit” Forst has been touring the world as what one critic calls a “blues ass-kicker” for decades. He’s traveled the world without his wife as a blues musician and before that as “a suit” in the corporate world. Because of this, Tom has an up close and personal view of how tempting cheating and affairs on the road can be. In our talk, Tom gets vulnerable, raw, and very real as he shares anecdotes about life on the road, and reveals how infidelity has at times become a theme in his music. Fans of Tom “The Suit” Forst will also hear snippets from his latest album the “World Of Broken Hearts”. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What should you do when your spouse or partner betrays you not only once but twice, or more? How do you respond when the betrayal is on-going with frequent hook ups, titillating sexts, then the ultimate; rapacious sex romps with a lover? Can you ever truly forgive or truly forget these behaviors? On this episode, I’ll address the notion of forgiveness after an affair in a short fictional story I’ve written and will narrate called “To Forgive Or Not To Forgive: That Is The Dilemma.” After the reading, I’ll host a roundtable discussion with my diverse group of guests Kenny, Melissa, and Sandy who are from different backgrounds and have differing points of view on cheating. My guests will react to the story, and share their own thoughts on infidelity. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Imagine you’re a bride, and your fiancé invites a woman you barely know to your wedding under the guise that they’re “just friends.” He and his “friend” disappear from the reception for almost 2 hours and no one knows where they are. It’s not surprising that shortly after the wedding this bride’s marriage ends. According to John, my guest today, his girlfriend (this former bride and divorcee) became a cheater: an emotional cheater. John claims she was never a truly present and giving partner because everything she went through made her too guarded. John says that instead of nurturing their relationship, his girlfriend poured her affection, cuddles and kisses in another direction. She was so consumed with this “other” that John felt neglected and emotionally cheated on. What’s surprising is that this “other”who stole the couples’ intimacy away was his girlfriend’s … dog? On this episode my guest John and I discuss his unique perspective on emotional cheating. John also tells an incredible story of how a bride was forced to live out a cheating nightmare on her wedding day. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

What if you’re not sexting per se, but sending flirty DMs, texts and pictures to someone you’re really attracted to, but your partner has no idea you’re doing this? What if after yoga you and a hot hottie in the class go for smoothies, but you don’t tell your partner, or admit to yourself that having smoothies with them is the reason you go to yoga in the first place. What if you have full on sex romps with someone other than your partner several times a year without your partner knowing? Are any of or all of these cheating? Are any or all of these relationships?or just hook ups? On this episode, I’ll address all of these questions in a short fictional story I’ve written called “How Many Times A Month Is Enough?” After the reading, I’ll host a roundtable discussion with my guests and friends Justin, John, and Amy, who will react to the story and share their own thoughts on infidelity. Jillian Hamilton on the web: https://www.JillianHamilton.online Follow Jillian and Cheating: When Love Lies on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cheatingwhenlovelies/ See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Does polyamory really make it possible for husbands and wives and committed partners with multiple lovers to have it all? Many say that having an affair makes them feel alive again, but with that exuberance comes deception, duplicity, and deceit. Hiding an affair from your spouse or partner is guilt provoking and burdensome. What if there was a way to maintain the stability of your committed partnership and the passion of your affair. What if you didn’t have to choose between a spouse and lover but could have both in an open, honest and loving relationship that includes …… your children? Is it even possible to have a healthy and open relationship with a spouse (or committed partner) and a lover at the same time? Can you love them both deeply? Can you give both your partner and your lover the attention they deserve, and the intimacy and sexual intensity they need? On this episode I talk with my guests Sarah Levinson, therapist and Dr. Mark Sisti, psychologist talk about polyamory. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Silence is the lethal injection in any relationship. It’s more invective and hurtful than a barrage of expletives and a slamming door. In silence, you deny your partner the surety of knowing where you stand and giving them the option to do something about it. I’ve written a short fictional story called “Answer Me You Son Of A Bitch,” that chronicles the agony of a married woman who is ghosted by her married lover for months and months, until one day fate brings a chance for her to win him back. At the start of the episode I narrate “Answer Me You Son Of A Bitch”, then follow it up with a roundtable discussion with my guests and friends David, Samantha and John, who react to the story and share their own thoughts on infidelity. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

From the outside it appears you have the perfect marriage. You and your spouse seem to have it all - beautiful children, successful careers, a lovely home and many of life’s trappings most people can only dream of. To the outside world you’re the perfect wife, and your husband is loving, doting, generous and supportive. But behind closed doors he’s a completely different man: your husband is mean, insufferably controlling, condescending and a serial cheater. To him, the quality and integrity of your marriage is based on sex, and he insists that you have sex with him exactly when and how he wants it. This is how my guest Lola (not her real name) lived for years in her fake happy marriage. Lola lived this nightmare, until one day she found the courage to leave her husband and take on a shocking new post marriage identity. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A married woman is tortured by the chaos and ever-changing dynamic of her affair with a married man. The woman's lover claims his wife is mean and neglectful and makes his home life miserable These two married cheaters have a deeply emotional affair peppered with intimacy and fantasies, yet soured by episodes of his ghosting, lies and manipulation. The story is a journey from the day they meet through the months of passion and disappointment the woman faces until she comes to the realization of what their relationship truly is This short fictional story is based on true life events. I begin the episode by reading the story, then follow it up with a panel discussion with my guests: Inna Swinton, comedian, lawyer and author of “The Many Lives of Mila”. Ilyssa Panitz, host of “The Divorce Hour with Ilyssa Panitz” on CRN ; reporter and editor of “5 Things You Need to Know to Survive and Thrive During and After a Divorce,” and Director of Content for the NADP. Also joining us is my friend Blake. My guests will react to the story and share their own thoughts about infidelity. If you have a story you’d like to see featured on the show please send it to [email protected] See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We all know this type of guy, the classic philanderer. He’s a married, good looking, successful man with swagger. He has a coterie of hot honeys, both married and single women he claims as lovers. His philandering style is so typical it rings like a cliché. Instead of making assumptions about this classic playboy archetype, I wanted to get into his mind. What drives him to pursue, woo, and ultimately sleep with multiple single and married women: all from the same community, his own community, all at the same time? Some of these women are even the wives of men he knows. Why does he act this way? How does it make him feel? What are his sentiments about the women with whom he’s cavorting? What if a significant number of married men act this way. It was a disturbing thought, but I asked this episode’s guest, a man I’ll call Clarke — all this and more. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A husband is suspected of having an affair with not just 1, but 4 different women- simultaneously! After the wife gets a bizarre and suspicious phone call in the middle of the night, this husband and wife question whether it’s time to divulge long held secrets and face serious issues that threaten their marriage. This short fictional story called “My Husband Confessed To His Affairs, But I Kept Mine A Secret” is based on a true life conflict. I’ll begin the episode by reading the story. After the reading, I’ll moderate a panel discussion with a diverse group of guests named Felicity, Trikies and Ethan, who will react to the story and share their own thoughts about infidelity. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Your marriage is in shambles; riddled with stories of cheating, drugs and alcohol. You and your spouse seek out a professional: someone who’s going to guide you, and help lead your marriage back to solid ground. There are so many mental health care professionals that are heroes and saviors, but what happens when the therapist you and your spouse rely on betrays you? On this episode of Cheating: When Love Lies, find out why it’s critical for every couple to vet their therapist, and find one they can truly trust. See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Affairs are prevalent but rarely talked about relationships. The podcast, Cheating: When Love Lies, is a deep dive into the complex emotions surrounding these secret unions. Creator and host, Jillian Hamilton, delves into this taboo topic and asks the hard questions about affairs: how common are they, who's having them, and why? These questions illicit unexpected answers that reveal both men and women as people actively seeking something - validation, escape, understanding, vengeance, thrill, love, sex, and romance - outside of marriage or committed partnerships. Cheating: When Love Lies resists the condemnation of affairs as uniquely wrong or bad and instead considers their usefulness in learning as much about relationships as we learn about our ourselves. On the podcast, Jillian Hamilton narrates short fictional stories about cheating based on true life events. The narration is followed by a roundtable discussion with everyday people who share their unique perspectives. Jillian also interviews cheaters and betrayed partners. These interviews are raw and real-and at times maddening or heartbreaking. Listen now to Cheating: When Love Lies. Are you ready for the truth? See Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.