Awesome Marriage Podcast

In this episode Dr. Kim and Chrstina talk about how to recover from an open marriage. Dr. Kim shares about what an open marriage is, what God says, and how to recover from this kind of sexual baggage. We encourage you to not skip this episode even if that's not your story. We are facing a culture where open marriages may very well become more common and sexual boundaries are being disregarded. Tune it so you can learn and better understand how to help people who may face this. And here is what we know is true: we all have experienced some kind of betrayal sexually in our marriage because every one sins sexually whether it's lust, a look or thought that lasted too long, porn, or flirting, on an outright affair or open marriage. So we can all gain some wisdom from this conversation. *We do want to mention as a disclaimer we do talk about some hard things in this episode. It is not an episode you want to listen to around children. Also, we do briefly mention sexual abuse so we want to give that trigger warning for anyone who has experienced that. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Awesome Sex: God's Design ebook by Dr. Kim You can go on your Journey to Restoration with our Online Affair Recovery Course here. Use the code AWESOMEMARRIAGE for $5 off. Love Making Survey by Christina Dodson Celebration of Sex book by Dr. Douglas Rosenau Show your beautiful bride your love for her, by simply taking the time to lift her up in prayer with the 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Wife resource. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email or text here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina wrap up our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes Series by talking about the #1 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages which is a lack of respect. Do you feel slighted or torn down by your spouse? Do you feel like your dignity is often bruised by how your spouse treats you? Well, we pray this episode can lead you to have some real, honest conversations with your spouse and that it will be the first step towards change for your marriage. Maybe you are thinking - this isn't an issue for you. Don't tune out! A lack of respect is a big issue in many marriages and the most destructive part of this is that most people aren't aware they are being disrespectful. Most people aren't conscious of the fact that they are disrespecting their spouse. There are lots of subtle ways we often treat others with a lack of respect. So tune it to hear how you can grow in this area. Dr. Kim shares practical advice on how to better respect your spouse. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Show your beautiful bride your love for her, by simply taking the time to lift her up in prayer with the 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Wife resource. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email or text here!

In this episode Dr. Kim has long time friend of the podcast, Debra Fileta, back on the show talking about Love In Every Season. Debra Fileta is a Licensed Professional Counselor, national speaker, relationship expert, and author of Choosing Marriage and True Love Dates. She's also the host of the hotline style Love + Relationships Podcast. Her popular relationship advice blog, TrueLoveDates.com, reaches millions of people with the message of healthy relationships. Dr. Kim and Debra discuss her latest book: Love in Every Season: Understanding the Four Stages of Every Healthy Relationship. Just as nature cycles through seasons, relationships rotate through stages that can either make or break your love life. Each season plays an important role in taking a relationship to the next level, and depending on how you navigate each season, your relationship will either flourish and grow or slowly die. So many of you loyal listeners are in a season of transition right now or adjusting to your new season. This is a great conversation and Debra gives us some interesting things to think about and practical advice on how to love well in each season. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Just as nature cycles through seasons so do relationships." - Debra Fileta "Relationships are like plants; if you give too little your relationships will die, but if you give too much your relationships will also die." - Debra Fileta "A lot of people mistake selflessness for passivity." - Debra Fileta "Conflict is the invitation to deeper connection." - Debra Fileta "Compatibility is about our ability to come together in the ways we are different." - Debra Fileta "Persevering through the hard times in marriage is part of God's plan for us and He walks with us through it." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Seasons weren't meant to be stayed in. They are meant to be passed through." - Debra Fileta "Whether or not we feel love we can plant the seeds of love in our marriage which will eventually bear fruit." - Debra Fileta "If I'm only responsible for me and I can't change my spouse, what can I allow God to do in my heart?" - Debra Fileta "When we start getting healthy on our own it automatically moves our relationship in a healthy direction." - Debra Fileta "If you feel stuck in a winter season of your marriage, I invited you to make an appointment with a licensed counselor who can help walk with you through that season and help you find the unhealthy roots that need to be snipped so new growth can happen in your life." - Debra Fileta "Sometimes we get so used to the familiar that we don't realize the familiar isn't healthy." - Debra Fileta "What you see in dating you will see in marriage." - Debra Fileta "Healthy singles makes healthy dating which makes healthy marriages." - Debra Fileta "You need to have people that love you and that love Jesus who are able to speak into your dating relationship and point out things they see in it that might not be healthy." - Debra Fileta "There's no shame in struggling in marriage, it's just about how we allow God to use the struggle for His glory and for our health." - Debra Fileta "How we love God really impacts how we love each other." - Debra Fileta SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Buy Love In Every Season here now! Check out Debra's older episodes: Parent's Responsibility In Dating Foundations of Healthy Dating & The Church's Role Choosing Marriage Check out more great insights by Debra on her podcast. Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #2 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is not listening to your spouse. Hearing is not the same thing as listening. So what does it look like to listen to your spouse well? How can we become better listeners? Dr. Kim shares practical advice on how to avoid this marriage mistake. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "With all the distractions that are out there today, you really have to focus and be intentional about communicating with your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "It feels very lonely when our spouse is not listening to us." - Christina Dodson "I don't think you can have an awesome marriage without having awesome listening skills." - Christina Dodson "I don't think you can multitask and really be listening to someone." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Your spouse should always have a direct line of communication to get to you." - Christina Dodson "Your spouse feels loved and cared for when they know they are heard in your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We can learn how to listen from God, God is the best listener." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

As if parenting wasn't already hard enough, it just got that much harder with the coronavirus. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share practical advice on how to parent through this journey and most importantly how to parent TOGETHER with your spouse through this journey. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Base what you tell your children about the coronavirus on their age and be mindful of any fears or anxieties they have." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The most important thing you can do is to love God and to love your kids, cling to love when you don't know what else to do." - Christina Dodson RESOURCES Use our Coronavirus House Prayer Cards as a free tool to help you pray intentionally during this time. Grab all 3 of our Date Designs for free as our gift to you during this crisis we are in. Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We have been getting a lot of emails and messages from you all saying you are struggling with your marriage during this coronavirus time. So we wanted to take some time to address this topic head on. So if you are feeling stir crazy, anxious, or driving each other crazy we hope this conversation provides some hope and helpful tips on how to get through this time by working together and not turning against each other. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about how to support each other through COVID-19. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Now is the time to have extra empathy for your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "In this time of disruption and uncertainty, you might find yourself falling into bad conflict habits in your marriage." - Christina Dodson "We need to extend grace to our spouse as they are probably experiencing more stress than usual." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Use this time as an opportunity to grow your marriage; communicate well, pray together, do a Bible reading plan together." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Take advantage of the opportunity to support your spouse through this hard time." - Christina Dodson "It's ok to not be ok." - Christina Dodson "We've got to have a safe space in our spouse where we can share our honest thoughts and feelings about COVID-19." - Christina Dodson "Try to find ways to just laugh together, there is nothing better than being able to laugh together." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Try to eat right, sleep well, and exercise regularly." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Grief is anytime that life goes differently than you thought it would. It's ok to grieve during COVID-19." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't feel like you have to fix your spouse's problems, just be there to listen to them. That is an important part of working through grief." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you need some space, make sure you communicate that kindly to your spouse and take some time to be alone." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We don't have a lot of clear answers right now but we can trust that God does." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If your spouse has lost their job, make sure you check in on them emotionally but don't smother them." - Christina Dodson RESOURCES Snag our Coronavirus House Prayer Cards for free here! Grab all 3 of our Date Designs for free as our gift to you during this crisis we are in. Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #3 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is little or no physical intimacy. Can you think of the last time you touched your spouse? How often do the two of you physically touch? How much of that touching means something and provokes intimacy? Do you feel more like roommates than lovers? Than this episode should prove useful to your marriage! If you aren't facing this issue now, it may come in the future. So we pray you glean some wisdom and encouragement from this episode. Dr. Kim gives some practical tips and insight into this issue that so many of us face in our marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Physical intimacy is not always sexual." - Christina Dodson "God designed sex to not only help us procreate but also for enjoyment." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You have to define what a 'normal' amount of times to have sex looks like for you in your marriage. I would encourage that you be intimate at least once a week." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Tender touch has to be non sexual sometimes for us ladies to feel loved." - Christina Dodson "Having non sexual touching in your marriage actually makes your sex life better." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "There is a spiritual aspect to sex that we have as Christians. Don't feel weird about connecting God to sex, He's the one who invented it; he's not a prude!" - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When you're single the Devil tries to keep you in the bed, when you're married the Devil tries to keep you out of the bed." - Christina Dodson "Having a good sex life in marriage is one way to affair-proof your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Your spouse does not define you, God does." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Most of the time it's the husband's initiating sex so I encourage wives to initiate sex every now and then, it will mean a lot to your husband." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the #4 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is always having to be right. You've heard Dr. Kim say it before - when you win a fight with your spouse - you lose! Because your marriage loses. And if your marriage loses; where's the win in that? Winning battles while losing the war is a marriage mistake far too many of us get trapped in when it comes to our marriages. Dr. Kim gives some great insight and direction into this issue. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Someone might want the momentary feeling of knowing they 'won' a fight in their marriage but long haul, no one is winning when one spouse has 'won.'" - Christina Dodson "Nobody wants to be around someone who thinks they're right all the time." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When your spouse feels like they always have to be right it makes you feel inadequate and voiceless." - Christina Dodson "You should never feel like you are voiceless in your marriage." - Christina Dodson "If you have a hard time apologizing, then it's likely you have a hard time being wrong." - Christina Dodson "We need to be able to admit when we are wrong and to be able to tell our spouse when we are sorry." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you are not vulnerable with anyone else in the world, work on being vulnerable with your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We aren't called to be right, we are called to be humble." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Check out our Love Making Survey here to improve your physical intimacy! Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dan & Mikayla Ockey join Dr. Kim to talk about how to handle this financial crisis we are in. Dan & Mikayla (Kay) are founders of Centsei online personal finance courses for couples. They are passionate about helping couples make wise decisions with their money, work together as a team as married couples, and work towards financial freedom. Today share some practical tips on how to navigate these weird financial times many of us are in due to the Coronavirus. Dan & Kay share some encouraging and helpful info in this episode. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "It's more essential to have an emergency fund that covers your family's expenses for six months than ever before." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Now is the time to get your personal finances in order and to have those financial conversations you've been meaning to have with your spouse." - Dan Ockey "Make sure you are on the same page financially before starting a budget with your spouse. If you are not it will be a point of contention." - Kay Ockey "When we have a shared vision of our financial goals as a couple we are more willing to make sacrifices or have understanding on why certain things need to be included in the budget." - Dan Ockey "A budget without a goal is just an empty plan." - Dan Ockey "When you agree on your financial goals as a couple, then your budget is the tool to help get you there." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't give up on your budget. Persevere until it becomes a habit." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Budgeting doesn't have to be difficult anymore." - Dan Ockey "Stick to your budget plan, don't make rash decisions based on fluctuating financial markets." - Dan Ockey "If you weren't prepared and intentional to take advantage of opportunities before this crisis, you're not prepared to take advantage of them now." - Dan Ockey "If you have a financial roadmap then you don't have to be afraid because you know where you are going and you know how you will get there." - Dan Ockey "Avoid the get-rich-quick schemes that are going to start popping up." - Dan Ockey RESOURCES Sign up for Dan & Kay's free weekly email here. Check out The Centsei Financial Courses now! For more great financial insights follow Dan & Kay on Instagram.

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #5 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages, which is not walking the talk. In marriage it's so important to do what you say you're going to do and to keep your promises to your spouse. In this episode Dr. Kim shares how to deal with a spouse that you can't trust to do what they say as well as gives practical advice on how to grow in keeping our promises. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A lot of the biggest issues I see in marriages today develop from a lack of trust or trust having been broken." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We are more in sync with each other and with God when we completely trust our spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You can't have an awesome marriage without trust." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Take time to pray daily for your husband and call upon the One who can create real change in his life with our brand new resource 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband. This tool makes it easy to pray big prayers daily for your husband! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #6 marriage mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages; which is hurtful teasing. If it hurts your spouse, why are you doing it? They discuss the difference between playful teasing and hurtful teasing. They share how to deal with hurtful teasing in your marriage and Dr. Kim gives some practical tips to avoid hurts in our marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You don't get to be the judge of whether or not something is hurtful to your spouse, they do." - Christina Dodson "The right kind of playful teasing can connect you to your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you know your spouse is insecure about something you should not tease them about it." - Christina Dodson "We can't change our spouse, that is God's job." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Hurtful teasing can be something that gradually erodes a relationship." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When you are making fun of your spouse all the time, they realize that they can't be themselves around you." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! Thank you to Harvest House Publishers for sponsoring this episode promoting Love In Every Season. Grab your copy of Love In Every Season today! RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim has two friends of his share their story. Zach and Leanna join Dr. Kim to share about their first year of marriage. Leanna works at Life.Church as a Social Media Specialist and is also a very talented freelance graphic designer. Leanna has recently become our main graphic designer at Awesome Marriage and it's been such a blessing to have her talents on the team. She designs all of our monthly digital resources. Zach is a Marketing Coordinator. This couple had a unique first year of marriage with a lot of lows. They share their story and how God has used the hard things to edify them and strengthen their marriage. We pray their story encourages you! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "It's normal to freak out in a terrible situation, but I let my fear rob me of a lot of joy." - Leanna Romoser "I knew when we were walking through those hard times that God has more in store for us, He does not want us to be miserable." - Leanna Romoser "I know that God is on the side of marriages and I had to make a decision to surrender my marriage to Him and allow God to use our pain for His purpose." - Leanna Romoser "We started to receive true healing when we stopped turning away from each other and started turning towards each other. " - Leanna Romoser "The walls of anger and resentment that I had built up were hindering me from being the person that I wanted to be." - Zach Romoser "It wasn't until I learned how to truly forgive that I was able to grow spiritually and as a husband." - Zach Romoser "You can't speak defeat and expect victory." - Zach Romoser "If you're struggling in your marriage, share that with at least one person who you trust." - Leanna Romoser "After going through all that we went through it feels like our marriage has a passion and a purpose." - Leanna Romoser SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the # 7 Marriage Mistake Dr. Kim sees in marriages. Which is dishonesty. You may not think you are one to be dishonest and lie, but chances are you are less honest than you think you are. Dishonesty is never good for your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim shares red flags to pay attention to and practical ways to grow in truthfulness and openness in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Sometimes we lie in what we say and sometimes we lie in what we don't say." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The more you get comfortable lying to your spouse about small things the easier it will get to lie to your spouse about big things." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Lies build distance whereas truth builds closeness." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Check out the Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide Christina mentions in this episode. Use it to work on your marriage each week! Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Right now we are in our Top 10 Marriage Mistakes series. Over the years Dr. Kim has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. In this series we are breaking down the top ten marriage mistakes he sees. In this episode we share Marriage Mistake #8 which is nasty habits: anything that just plain annoys you that your spouse does. Can you think 1 (or 10!) things that annoys you about your spouse or that your spouse does that bugs you? I bet you can! Well Dr. Kim & Christina talk all about that in this episode and most importantly, they share how to healthily DEAL with those annoying habits. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Small things, with the wrong perspective, can take up big space in our hearts." - Christina Dodson "Work together on the things you can change about each other." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you're annoyed by your spouse's habit, ask God to make it clear whether it's worth saying something to your spouse about it or if it's something you can look past to see the good in your spouse." - Christina Dodson "Do not try to manipulate your spouse out of their annoying habit, that's not going to solve the problem." - Christina Dodson "Be careful to confront your spouse's problem and not confront your spouse." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. In this series we will be breaking down the top ten marriage mistakes he sees. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina discuss Marriage Mistake #9: Being Selfish or Greedy. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "It's really hard to live with someone who wants things to go their way all the time." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Every couple at some point is prone to greed and selfishness because we're sinners." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Selfishness is the root of a lot of other sins that cause issues in marriages." - Christina Dodson "You will not have a good marriage if it is a self-centered marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you want your marriage to be what you dreamed it would be when you said 'I do,' you can't let greediness or selfishness take over." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The more selfish you are, the less you realize it." - Christina Dodson "Don't fight selfishness with selfishness." - Christina Dodson "Ask your spouse, 'How are you perceiving me?' and be prepared to listen and receive what your spouse says." - Christina Dodson "There's value in having a time each week to ask your spouse how they feel like you are treating them, and if there is anything you can be working on as a husband or wife to make your marriage better." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The long term gain from being selfless is worth far more than any short term gains from being selfish." - Christina Dodson "Commit to praying for your spouse everyday for 30 days as a way to learn to be selfless in your marriage." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Today we are kicking off a new series on the podcast: Top 10 Marriage Mistakes. As most of you know, Dr. Kim has been married for 50 years and has been a Marriage Counselor for over 40 years. Over the years he has seen some central mistakes couples make that hurt their marriage. We will be breaking down the top ten. Today is Marriage Mistake #10. Which is Temper Tantrums: Not Fighting Fair. Not fighting fair plays out in a lot of different ways. You may think you fight fair, but after listening to this it might give you some insight you didn't have before about healthy conflict resolution. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "I saw a quote on Facebook that said 'Placing blame in marriage is like saying your side of the ship is sinking;' we're supposed to be one in marriage and placing blame on your spouse is not you operating as one." - Christina Dodson "You can be prone to fighting unfairly in your marriage if you saw your parents do that; we forget that our parent's marriages are our first textbooks on marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Anytime a situation becomes 'win/lose' in your marriage, your marriage is losing." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When you're fighting unfairly it puts your marriage on pause; you can't move forward to connect and grow closer to each other like you should be." - Christina Dodson "If you can only think of negative things about your spouse that should be a huge red flag." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "What we are saying about our spouse in our heads matters so much." - Christina Dodson "If you're unable to get out of the habit of fighting unfairly, going to see a counselor who can give you goals and accountability is hugely beneficial." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Getting a divorce is a lot more expensive than seeing a marriage counselor." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Decide with your spouse what is unhealthy about how you fight and make boundaries that you both will agree to keep." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Standard boundaries that a couple should have in fighting is no yelling, cussing, or insults." - Christina Dodson "If something is important to your spouse, make it important to you." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you don't forgive someone it hurts you more than them." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Brighten your marriage with our new resource 30 Gems of Wisdom For Your Marriage. This digital resource is an 18 page PDF that gives you 30 nuggets of God's wisdom regarding your marriage. Get it today here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Today on the podcast we are celebrating! Because it's episode number 400 and honestly we can't believe it! Everyone on the podcast team is so honored that you loyal listeners tune in each week. This podcast isn't just work to us - it's a true joy. We love hearing the stories from you about how these conversations start real and honest conversations between you and your spouse. That's always been the hope of this podcast, that it wouldn't end here but that this would just be a conversation starter in your marriage and that it would spark conversation and invoke action that would make your marriage awesome. We love journeying along with each of you! THANK YOU for listening! In this episode we are doing an "ask us anything" episode. We polled your questions and we are answering them here! Silly, serious, personal, or about marriage - we are answering it here! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "To me, our podcast is not sparkly, it's just two people who are processing about their marriage and sharing what they've learned." - Christina Dodson "That is Dr. Kim's favorite verse, he loves to talk about being naked and unashamed." - Christina Dodson "I've never had a counseling client who was serious about it and went into counseling with an open mind regret going to counseling." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You will want your inlaws around your kids more if your relationship with your inlaws is good." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you set a boundary, make sure you are willing to follow through with the consequences." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES: In this episode we talk about mother in law issues. Here are a few other podcasts you may find helpful if that's an issue for you: What Do I Owe My In-Laws Ep 331 Dealing With A Monster In Law Ep 332 Ask Dr. Kim: Should my spouse handle all drama with their parents and extended family? Ep 101 My loyalty should be with my family of origin because they raised me Ep 77 Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Do you feel beaten down by your spouse? Does it feel like nothing you do is ever right or good enough for your spouse? Well you certainly aren't alone. It can really wear on a marriage when one spouse is overly critical. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina share about what to do when your spouse is critical. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "If it's not normal for your spouse to be very critical of you, ask yourself what might be going on to make them act that way. " - Christina Dodson "Use Stop, Look, Listen when communicating with your critical spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you're delivering criticism to your spouse, make sure you do it in a loving, grace-filled way that they will hear the heart behind what you're saying." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Give your spouse time to process any criticism that you've given them." - Christina Dodson "If my spouse has something critical that's of value to say to me, I want her to be able to say it." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Before giving your spouse criticism, ask yourself three questions: 'Should it be said? Should it be said by me? Should it be said now?" - Dr. Kim Kimberling "When giving your spouse feedback, don't speak negatively. Speak to the potential that you see in them." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

It's not all that uncommon to experience jealousy when our spouse succeeds OR to not celebrate them well in other ways. Dr. Kim & Christina dive into this topic and give practical advice for how to best handle your spouse's success for the edifying of your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Because you are a team as a married couple, your spouse's success is your success." - Christina Dodson "Ask God to help you celebrate your spouse's successes." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Your spouse's success does not equal your failure." - Christina Dodson "Sometimes we really do appreciate our spouse we just forget to tell them that." - Christina Dodson "We're still a team in our marriage, even if we have different jobs and careers and wins. What happens in our relationship plays a big part in how successful we are." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "As a spouse, your words matter so much more to your spouse than anyone else's." - Christina Dodson "Never stop building up your spouse." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

God loves reconciliation! Praise be to God, there are a number of couples who experience life change after divorce happens and are able to reunite and reconcile their marriage again. But starting a marriage again after the pain of divorce, naturally comes with a set of unique challenges. In this episode Dr. Kim shares some practical tips for walking through this. If you are married and thinking about divorce, we urge you to check out our resource 10 Things To Do Before You Get A Divorce. If you are walking through reconciliation with your spouse, we are praying that God would show up in mighty ways for you as you reunite together. Even if this isn't your story, there is still some wisdom to glean from this episode. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You don't get married just to get a divorce." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Even if you don't reconcile after a divorce you have to forgive each other or you'll carry that burden for a long time," - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You can't drag unforgiveness into your next marriage and expect it to be healthy, you just can't." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you choose to reconcile after divorce and put God first, He will make that happen if you let Him." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The healthiest marriages are when both people are healthy." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "We are all sinners and all have things we need to work on." - Christina Dodson "It takes two to have an awesome marriage." - Christina Dodson "Usually if you're divorced there has been trust broken at some level." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You have to talk about your expectations with your former spouse to make sure you are on the same page." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Seeing a counselor when you're reconciling after divorce can provide invaluable accountability for you and your former spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Make a game plan for re-engaging with other family members as a reconciled couple; it's going to be an adjustment for everyone around you." - Christina Dodson "Give reconciliation time. There is no shortcut to see if a person has changed" - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If you were in an abusive marriage and are seeking to reconcile but your spouse hasn't gotten help for their abusive behavior, their intentions may be good but they are going to fall back into abusive behaviors." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES 10 Things To Do Before You Get A Divorce Tiffany & Micah's podcast Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Last episode we shared about the little things that make a marriage awesome. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about big romantic gestures, because they certainly have their place in marriage! Big romantic gestures can be great for a marriage when they are coupled with the little consistent things. This episode will give you some great ideas for valentines day around the corner and great tips for big anniversaries! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A big romantic gesture can have the effect of supercharging your marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Big romantic gestures are really good for celebrations in your marriage." - Christina Dodson "Big romantic gestures are NOT good for fixing major issues in your marriage; they will NOT do that." - Christina Dodson "Stay within your budget and be creative when planning big romantic gestures." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't compare your big romantic gestures with anyone else; everyone's marriage, budget and spouse is different." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Commit to doing one big, romantic gesture a year." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We love romance and it's easy to think that when your marriage is struggling or needs a boost - some big romantic gestures will fix it. But what makes a marriage awesome is not the big things, more often than not it's the little things. The daily practices, the rhythms and routines we create as habits, the small things done over a consistent period of time that really make the difference in marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about just that - the little things that make a marriage awesome. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Letting our spouse know we're thinking about them when they don't think we're thinking about them makes a difference." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The surprise connection points and planned consistent connection are the little things that really matter." - Christina Dodson "An important little thing is making time to do whatever your spouse loves." - Christina Dodson "Love doesn't have to be a dramatic gesture to be love. It has to be intentional and small daily practices." - Christina Dodson "The little things you do in your marriage are like the foundation of a house; you can't see it but if it begins to break the whole house is in trouble." - Christina Dodson SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Want to talk about sex?! Take our Love Making Survey to open up the way for you and your spouse to work towards better sex and intimacy in marriage! This month's resource is our Love Making Survey and it is designed to help you have a safe, genuine conversation about your sex life with your spouse. This survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The questions are designed to get you thinking about all aspects of your love making and to shed light on ways your sex could be more satisfying. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim has 2 longtime friends of his here to share their story. This couple experienced the devastation of an affair with what looked like no hope for reconciliation - but God. God did something great and redeemed their story. We can't wait for you to be encouraged and challenged by this couple's story. Tune in to hear more! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "No one sets out to destroy their marriage." - Arly "The affair was my solution to a deeper problem: my low self esteem and wrestling with who I was." - Arly "I knew he was struggling with something, I just couldn't get him to open up about what he was struggling with." - Amber "When I found out about his affairs I felt like I was married to a complete stranger, like a didn't know what reality was." - Amber "I wanted to demonstrate to my kids that it's ok to to put up boundaries with people you love who aren't safe." - Amber "I always said, 'If Arly had an affair I would kick his butt to the curb and move on' but when you actually find yourself in that situation and you have three kids and this history, it's not an easy decision to make. I never judge anyone who is reacting from an affair." - Amber "Setting those boundaries can be extremely scary but God will give you the strength and will remind you that you will be ok." - Dr. Kim "The boundaries that Amber set helped me as the unfaithful spouse to wake up and realize how important my family was to me." - Arly "We would not be together today had he not experienced healing and transformation on his own." - Amber "It takes time to restore trust after an affair." - Dr. Kim "Learning to trust him after the affairs was a process." - Amber "He doesn't put me in the position anymore of wondering where he is. He lets me know where he is and what is going on so I am not triggered and don't have to wonder." - Amber "An unfaithful spouse at some point has to believe that their betrayed spouse can handle the truth." - Arly "It's so powerful in our marriage when we realize that God made us different from each other for a reason." - Dr. Kim "We didn't want to keep things a secret from our kids. They knew the truth at a level that was appropriate for their age." - Amber "I think the worst thing we could have done to our kids was to act like nothing was happening; they could feel the tension. Kids are incredibly resilient and this was an opportunity to show them how to suffer well." - Amber "He had to rebuild his relationship with not only me but our kids as well." - Amber "Setting boundaries is the only way to pull someone who is being unfaithful out of their fantasy world." - Arly "The God who was healing my heart after this betrayal looked different than the God who I grew up with." - Amber "Our marriage did not come back together until after we both took care of ourselves individually." - Amber "Her healing process looked totally different from mine." - Arly "There is something very powerful in marriage intensive weekends and times away because you can focus on something specific on your marriage together." - Dr. Kim "We have learned to just enjoy each other's presence and to live in the moment." - Arly "Being intimate after an affair has taken place is awkward and complicated. You have to be patient and you have to stay at the comfort level of the spouse who was betrayed." - Amber "There can be great healing and transformation in this process but you have to go through the dark parts to get to the light." - Arly "I want couples to know just how good life can be on the other side." - Amber SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Affair Recovery (https://www.affairrecovery.com/), Arly attended Basecamp, a retreat affiliated with True North Ministries in Oklahoma: https://truenorth.live/basecamp/, Amber attended a retreat run by Changed Women's Ministries, also in Oklahoma: https://www.changedokc.com/, together they attended a couple's retreat run by Affair Recovery called Hope Rising: https://www.affairrecovery.com/hope-rising Want to talk about sex?! Take our Love Making Survey to open up the way for you and your spouse to work towards better sex and intimacy in marriage! This month's resource is our Love Making Survey and it is designed to help you have a safe, genuine conversation about your sex life with your spouse. This survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The questions are designed

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 9. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 9 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 9, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 9 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 9s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Type 9s are the peacemakers: easy going, non-judgemental, they love harmony with others." - Beth McCord "Type 9s are all able to see the viewpoints from all other personality types." - Beth McCord "Type 9s avoid conflict and tension at all cost." - Beth McCord "Type 9s core fear is being in any kind of conflict, tension or discord." - Beth McCord "Type 9s desire to have inner stability and peace of mind." - Beth McCord "Unhealthy Type 9s merge their needs, desires and wants with those around. They lose themselves just to go with the flow." - Beth McCord "Type 9s just want everyone to be happy." - Beth McCord "Because Type 9s can understand things from different perspectives they make excellent mediators." - Beth McCord "Type 9s long to hear, 'Your presence matters.'" - Beth McCord "Type 9s are excellent listeners." - Beth McCord "Type 9s can struggle with knowing how to talk about their needs and wants in a direct way." - Beth McCord "Type 9s have a hard time saying no because they're afraid of displeasing people." - Beth McCord "If you're married to a Type 9, it's important to let your spouse know that it's ok to say no." - Dr. Kim "It's very painful for a Type 9 to be overlooked." - Beth McCord "It's important for a Type 9 to know how to set healthy boundaries with others so that they're not taken advantage of." - Beth McCord "Approach conflict with a Type 9 with gentleness, responsiveness, and patience. It may take them some time to figure out how they really feel about something." - Beth McCord "Let your Type 9 know the good things that you see in them because they can't see it in themselves." - Beth McCord "Treating a Type 9 like they treat you will go a long way." - Dr. Kim "Ask a Type 9 why they did what they did can help you understand them and can help them verbalize their motivations." - Beth McCord "Type 9s are extremely stubborn, when they don't want to do something, it ain't happening." - Beth McCord "Type 9s are extremely big hearted and they have a place in their heart for everyone." - Beth McCord "Type 9s want everyone to be accepted and loved for who they are." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 8. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 8 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 8, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 8 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 8s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Type 8s are very decisive and have great leadership skills." - Beth McCord "Type 8s move things forward and are powerful change agents in the world." - Beth McCord "Type 8s are very intense, direct, and blunt." - Beth McCord "A Type 8s core fear is to be weak, powerless, harmed, controlled, vulnerable, and left at the mercy of injustice." - Beth McCord "A Type 8s core desire is to protect themselves and those in their inner circle." - Beth McCord "A Type 8s inner circle of people is usually very small." - Beth McCord "Type 8s can be described as a giant snowplow; their directness and intensity can be intimidating to those in the way of where they are trying to go." - Beth McCord "Type 8s are extremely big-hearted and tender but they don't always show it with a tough and blunt exterior." - Beth McCord "Type 8s long to hear 'You will not be betrayed.'" - Beth McCord "Type 8s are the most authentic on the enneagram; what you see is what you get." - Beth McCord "Type 8s want their intensity to be met with intensity; they do not fear conflict." - Beth McCord "Type 8s are confident under pressure, they can say what needs to be said when it needs to be said." - Beth McCord "When Type 8s are not doing well they can be demanding, insensitive and quick to anger." - Beth McCord "Type 8s do not like avoiding problems, they want to tackle them head on." - Beth McCord "Type 8s do not like it when someone is not straightforward or trustworthy." - Beth McCord "Honesty and straightforwardness are so important when you're interacting with a Type 8." - Beth McCord "Type 8s want to know that you have their back and your own back in an argument." - Beth McCord "If you're the spouse of a Type 8, it's important that you never betray or blindside them, so you need to be very careful in who you approach in getting help for your relationship." - Beth McCord "Type 8s want to know that you're able to be vulnerable and open with them." - Beth McCord "When your Type 8 opens up to you emotionally, recognize that that is a big deal." - Beth McCord "Type 8s defensive mechanism is denial." - Beth McCord "Type 8s have no problem putting themselves in harm's way to protect those that are at the mercy of injustice." - Beth McCord "Type 8s tend to know how people are gifted and they know how to put them in positions where they will succeed." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out m

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 7. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 7 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 7, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 7 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 7s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The core fear of a Type 7 is being deprived, trapped in emotional pain, bored, or missing out on something fun." - Beth McCord "The core weakness for a Type 7 is gluttony: the feeling that they have a great emptiness inside and they have an insatiable desire to fill themselves up with experiences and stimulation in hopes of feeling completely satisfied and content." - Beth McCord "Type 7s long to hear, 'You will be taken care of.'" - Beth McCord "Type 7s love rich and deep relationships." - Beth McCord "It can bother a Type 7 when they feel like people don't take them seriously." - Beth McCord "When Type 7s are doing well they speak in a fun, lively, upbeat and optimistic way." - Beth McCord "Type 7s loathe mundane and boring tasks." - Beth McCord "It is difficult for the Type 7s to focus exclusively on serious things." - Beth McCord "Type 7s defense mechanism is reframing; to take whatever is negative and turn it into a positive." - Beth McCord "Because people are so used to the Type 7 being positive and upbeat all the time, it might be hard for the Type 7 to let people know that they are wanting to be serious about something." - Beth McCord "Type 7s have the gift of seeing the positive in a negative situation." - Beth McCord "Type 7s bring a new and fresh outlook to any given situation." - Beth McCord "Type 7s are very resilient people, it's hard to keep a Type 7 down." - Beth McCord "One thing that I saw before I knew about the enneagram was how so many successful couples embraced each other's differences and appreciated learning more about their spouse." - Dr. Kim "Type 7s love to enjoy and share stimulating conversation, laughter, fun, and spontaneous activities whenever possible." - Beth McCord "Realize that Type 7s dislike the mundane and boring so ask them, 'how can we make this fun?'" - Beth McCord "Try to approach conflict with a Type 7 with positivity, ideas, and affirmations." - Beth McCord "Try to resolve conflict with a Type 7 in an interesting way: take a walk, eat at a fun restaurant, etc." - Beth McCord "Type 7s have an optimistic creativity." - Beth McCord "Type 7s can bring joy and positivity to heavy and dark situations that we all need." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's t

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 6. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 6 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 6, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 6 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 6s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Type 6s are reliable, hardworking, dutiful, and very steady people to be around." - Beth McCord "Type 6s can foresee problems that might be coming and they're fiercely loyal to those that they love." - Beth McCord "Type 6s do really well with groups; they want the best for everyone." - Beth McCord "The core fear of a Type 6 is fear itself, being without support or security." - Beth McCord "Type 6s core weakness is anxiety." - Beth McCord "Type 6s are constantly scanning the horizon of life trying to predict and prevent negative outcomes, especially worst case scenarios." - Beth McCord "Type 6s can stay in a constant state of apprehension and worry." - Beth McCord "Type 6s don't have an inner critic, they have an inner committee that is constantly telling them all the outcomes to a situation." - Beth McCord "The core longing of a Type 6 is to hear 'You are safe and secure.'" - Beth McCord "There's a wide range of different types of Type 6s, it's a complex personality type." - Beth McCord "Type 6s have so much good discernment, they just don't trust it." - Beth McCord "A healthy Type 6 has an amazing sense of humor, is witty, and engages in great conversations." - Beth McCord "When a Type 6 is struggling they can be over-reactive, anxious, skeptical, and suspicious." - Beth McCord "Have patience and kindness when communicating with a Type 6 and strive for clarity." - Beth McCord "Know when you're communicating with a Type 6 the more ambiguous and unclear you are the more they fear that something bad is happening." - Beth McCord "Type 6s are always thinking; their mind does not stop." - Beth McCord "Type 6s need time to process and seek advice before making a decision so it can be difficult to put a Type 6 under pressure." - Beth McCord "If a Type 6 sees someone not being genuine or honest, that can really set them off." - Beth McCord "Type 6s can smell someone who is fake from a mile away." - Beth McCord "Being lied to or the possibility of being abandoned will set a Type 6 off." - Beth McCord "Type 6s are immediately going to think of the worst case scenario." - Beth McCord "If you're in a relationship with a Type 6, try to realize that they could spin out at any moment at any time from anything, so the more clarity you can bring to a situation, the better." - Beth McCord "Knowing your personality type and knowing how you best can bring clarity to a conflict situation with a Type 6 is super helpful." - Beth McCord "Listen to your Type 6; don't judge them for their anxiety and fears." - Beth McCord "Type 6s want to know that their spouse is a safe place for them to share their inner fears and anxieties without being judged." - Beth McCord "Type 6s are the glue of society; they are loyal, committed, and keep us together." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combina

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 5. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 5 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 5, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 5 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 5s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The enneagram is a helpful tool but it's just a tool. The Gospel is what drives the transformational process in our lives." - Beth McCord "Type 5s see the world as an overwhelming and intrusive place." - Beth McCord "A Type 5s core fear is of being annihilated, invaded, and being thought of as incapable or ignorant." - Beth McCord "Type 5s desire to have knowledge, insights, to be capable, and to be confident." - Beth McCord "Type 5s core weakness is avarice; holding onto their mental resources and avoiding draining themselves from too much contact with others." - Beth McCord "Type 5s wake up with about 25% of interactive energy (energy needed to interact with people) for the whole day; they need to ration out this energy throughout the day." - Beth McCord "Type 5s usually don't enjoy surprises and intrusions." - Beth McCord "You can come alongside a Type 5 as a spouse by helping them plan out how they use the interactive energy they have." - Beth McCord "It's so important for us to view life through the lens of our spouse so we can have compassion, grace, and empathy towards them." - Beth McCord "A lot of people misunderstand Type 5s because they think they're being cold and detached but they're probably acting that way because they're feeling overwhelmed." - Beth McCord "When a Type 5 is doing well they're going to be very respectful, non-intrusive, very curious and observant; Type 5s are the best observers on the Enneagram." - Beth McCord "When a Type 5 is not doing well they communicate very briefly, and come off as cold and arrogant." - Beth McCord "Type 5s like to know a lot about specialized areas." - Beth McCord "Type 5s want straight forward conversation. They're not usually looking for long, drawn out, emotional dialogue." - Beth McCord "The longer you talk with a Type 5 the more you're draining their interactive energy resources; it's helpful to find out how much energy your Type 5 has and spread out conversations so you're not draining all of their energy in one long conversation." - Beth McCord "Give your Type 5 a warning if you want to talk about something so they have time to process." - Beth McCord "If a Type 5 doesn't feel like they have enough knowledge about something, they're probably going to be silent as they process and think internally." - Beth McCord "Type 5s like to go deep in a conversation, they do not enjoy small talk." - Beth McCord "Type 5s are one of the most misunderstood on the enneagram because they are more secretive and private than the other types." - Beth McCord "Type 5s are very sensitive and emotional people, they just don't always bring it to the forefront and show that to outwardly." - Beth McCord "It can be helpful to go on a walk with a Type 5 because they tend to process and think better when doing a physical activity." - Beth McCord "God gave us marriages as one of the main ways that we can grow in this life." - Dr. Kim "There is no perfect enneagram type combination in a marriage; all are beautiful." - Beth McCord "It can be helpful to plan with your Type 5 what time each day they will have to be on their own and uninterrupted to recharge." - Beth McCord "Type 5s can compartmentalize their lives and only share certain parts of their lives with certain people." - Beth McCord "Type 5s love to mentally take things apart and innovatively put them back together in a new way." - Beth McCo

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 4. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 4 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 4, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 4 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 4s in this episode! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The core fear for a Type 4 is fear of being inadequate, ordinary, or insignificant." - Beth McCord "Type 4s desire to be unique, special, and to present that uniqueness to the world." - Beth McCord "Type 4s feel like there is something tragically missing or flawed about them and others can't love them unless they're whole and complete." - Beth v "Type 4s struggle with envy." - Beth McCord "The core longing of a Type 4 is to hear 'you are loved and seen for the special and unique person that you are.'" - Beth McCord "Type 4s often feel misunderstood and like there's something wrong with them." - Beth McCord "Type 4s are very empathetic and great listeners, especially to those who are suffering." - Beth McCord "Type 4s experience all of the emotions and it's important to them that they know what they are feeling." - Beth McCord "If a Type 4 is struggling, their emotions can overwhelm them like a tsunami. This can lead them to be moody and explosive or cold and detached." - Beth McCord "The melancholy of Type 4s is often called the sweet sadness of the soul." - Beth McCord "Never ask a Type 4 to act like something they're not." - Beth McCord "A lot of Type 4s stay off of social media because it is hard for them to not envy what others have." - Beth McCord "It is very hard for a Type 4s contributions and view points to not be valued." - Beth McCord "When in conflict with a Type 4, do not ask them why they are being so emotional." - Beth McCord "Type 4s want to express themselves, they don't want you to fix the problem unless they ask for that specifically." - Beth McCord "Let your Type 4 express their emotions and process them in a safe environment." - Beth McCord "Don't tell your Type 4 that they're too sensitive or that they're overreacting." - Beth McCord "The message that Type 4s got as a child or were hardwired with is that they are either too much or not enough." - Beth McCord "Whatever a Type 4 thinks another person is feeling they will interpret as actually being true." - Beth McCord "Type 4s can be reactive and withdrawing in conflict." - Beth McCord "Ask your Type 4 to help you understand what they are thinking and feeling." - Beth McCord "We all need to ask clarifying questions of those we love, we can't assume we know what they're thinking and feeling." - Beth McCord "You might not understand exactly what your Type 4 is feeling but you do understand fear and sorrow and that can help you empathize with them." - Beth McCord "Type 4s are self aware, introspective and creative." - Beth McCord "Type 4s find beauty in the fact that God created everyone differently." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resourc

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 3. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 3 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 3, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 3 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 3s in this episode! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The core fear of Type 3's is that they'll be exposed as incompetent, ineffecient, or worthless." - Beth McCord "Type 3's desire to have high status, respect, to be valuable." - Beth McCord "Type 3's deceive themselves into believing that they're only the image that they present to others." - Beth McCord "Type 3's love having checklists and things to accomplish." - Beth McCord "Type 3's feel like they have to do in order to get." - Beth McCord "The core longing for a Type 3 is to hear 'you are loved and valued for simply being you." - Beth McCord "Whenever you hear 'I have to' replace it with 'I get to.'" - Beth McCord "When a Type 3 is doing well they're calm, good communicators, and efficient. When doing well they're irritated, self-promoting, and impatient" - Beth McCord "Type 3's can detach from emotions in order to get things done." - Beth McCord "Communicate with Type 3's that you understand their fear and that you aren't trying to harm their image." - Beth McCord "You don't want to interrupt a Type 3 when they're focused or working." - Beth McCord "Type 3's need a lot of encouragement, affirmation is huge for Type 3's." - Beth McCord "When you're communicating with Type 3's keep things positive and have a plan for going forward." - Beth McCord "It's unrealistic to expect a Type 3 to expose their own emotions." - Beth McCord "Type 3's have pushed aside their feelings and identity in order to become whatever others want them to become." - Beth McCord "Type 3's want to come at conflict with a problem solving approach." - Beth McCord "Type 3's need to learn how to be a human being, not a human doing." - Beth McCord "When Type 3's are no longer focused on their own image and are instead focused on the image of their family, group or community, they can do amazing things for the Kingdom of God." - Beth McCord "Healthy Type 3's can achieve and accomplish so much." - Beth McCord "Type 3's bring inspiring insight and vision." - Beth McCord "Type 3's know how to come alongside people and meet needs." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet ex

We are continuing our Enneagram Series with Beth McCord talking about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 2. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 2 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 2, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 2 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 2s in this episode! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "What Type 2's are longing to hear is that they are wanted and loved." - Beth McCord "Healthy Type 2's are filled with the knowledge that they are loved by God and don't need to seek the affirmation or approval of others to feel fulfilled." - Beth McCord "Type 2's come into any situation with the fear of being rejected." - Beth McCord "Type 2's need to know that it's ok for them to take care of themselves, because that will allow them to better serve others." - Beth McCord "Use the sandwich method when delivering feedback to a Type 2: lots of affirmation and encouragement (the bun), then deliver the feedback in a kind way (the meat), then ending with affirmation and encouragement (the bun)." - Beth McCord "There are helpful ways to communicate with each enneagram type and when we embrace and accept that things will go so much smoother in our relationships." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The way that you want to receive love might be different from how your spouse wants to receive love." - Beth McCord "Be specific when thanking and showing appreciation to a Type 2." - Beth McCord "Recognize that rejection is a huge fear of Type 2's." - Beth McCord "Type 2's are extremely gifted at knowing how to help people." - Beth McCord "In any conflict with a Type 2, it's important to let them know that you know they meant well." - Beth McCord "Type 2's want to be heard and to talk about their own feelings without being given advice." - Beth McCord "To resolve conflict with a Type 2, it is important to be warm, affectionate, and relationally connected to them. If you don't feel like you're able to have that approach then it's helpful to let a Type 2 know that you need time to get there." - Beth McCord "If you need to give your Type 2 feedback, never do that in front of other people." - Beth McCord "If there's one thing to know about a Type 2, it's that they fear rejection more than anything else." - Beth McCord "God has given Type 2's a super power to know what people's needs are, but if their help is not wanted this can cause problems." - Beth McCord "The biggest struggle in being married to a Type 2 is the intrusiveness of a Type 2." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to

In this episode we have Beth McCord joining Dr. Kim to talk about How to Have A Thriving Relationship with an Enneagram 1. For the next several weeks Beth will be breaking down some real, practical tips for being married to each Enneagram number. If you are married to a 1 this is YOUR episode. But even if you aren't married to a 1, we know you will find this episode helpful in learning more about your 1 friends. Part of loving people is knowing people. So use this series as a tool to know your people better, understand them deeper, and love them better. Beth McCord founded 'Your Enneagram Coach' and has been an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher for over 17 years. She is seriously the best of the best so we are so blessed to have her share her time and expertise with us. Having been trained by the best Enneagram experts and pouring hundreds of hours into advanced certifications, Beth is leading the industry in simplifying the deep truths of the Enneagram from a Biblical perspective. Beth does one-on-one coaching, in-person events and workshops and online courses. She also offers training and support for those interested in becoming an Enneagram coach. So make sure you give her a follow on Instagram @yourennegramcoach and check out her website yourennegramcoach.com for more great info. We pray you enjoy learning more about 1s in this episode! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "We try to make Type 1's understand that their inner critic is not the Holy Spirit." - Beth McCord "Type 1's long to hear, 'You are good.' Christ satisfies this longing." - Beth McCord "When Christ comes into a Type 1's life there can be a peace that this person has never experienced before." - Dr. Kim Kimbelring "For Type 1's it's all about ethics, morals, procedures, and things being done the 'right' way." - Beth McCord "Understand that the Type 1 has a harsh, condemning inner critic that is constantly berating them." - Beth McCord "1's value problem solving over emotions, so it's better to wait to approach a Type 1 until your emotions are at a more balanced place." - Beth McCord "It's important to give your Type 1 time and space to process." - Beth McCord "Type 1's have a hard time being spontaneous because it feels irresponsible to them." - Beth McCord -"It can be helpful to ask your Type 1 to rank how loudly their inner critic is berating them on a scale of 1-10 so you know how to approach them." -Beth McCord "Hard as it might be to believe, most of the time Type 1's are offering criticism and correction from a genuinely helpful place." - Beth McCord "If you're married to a Type 1 you have to accept who they are, not discount their inner critic, but learn how to come alongside them and encourage them toward Christ." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "It's not that the inner critic is inherently bad, it's just that when we allow the inner critic to go offcourse and let it misalign with the truth of the Gospel, that is not going to be helpful to the Type 1 or anyone else they are around." - Beth McCord "Encourage a Type 1 when you see them succeeding and doing well in what they are doing." - Beth McCord "The list of things that need to be corrected, improved, and fixed never ends for a Type 1." - Beth McCord "The core weakness of a Type 1, resentment, is actually underlying sorrow." - Beth McCord "Type 1's are striving for perfection when Christ is already perfect for them." - Beth McCord "A healthy Type 1 has to learn to set boundaries for their inner critic." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Type 1's have a gut instinct and wisdom of knowing what is morally right." - Beth McCord "Type 1's are amazingly detail-oriented." - Beth McCord "Type 1's see the world as it is and they want to improve it." - Beth McCord "It's like Type 1's can remember what earth was like before the fall and they want to do everything they can to bring us back to that perfect place." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number wit

This episode is a real treat because we have Beth & Jeff McCord joining Dr. Kim. Beth founded Your Enneagram Coach and is an Enneagram speaker, coach and teacher. Beth & Jeff live outside of Nashville and have been married for 24 years. Combining the gospel and the Enneagram has been instrumental in Beth and Jeff's marriage and parenting. The Enneagram is simply a map for self-discovery and personal growth based on 9 basic personality types. When we come to know what's at the root of our thoughts, feelings and actions, we can stop placing unhealthy and unrealistic expectations on our spouses to "fill us up." Our marriages can be transformed when our eyes are open to the unique ways our spouse was created, allowing us to better love, serve, communicate and resolve conflict. The Enneagram is simply a tool to self discovery and others discovery. And like Dr. Kim is always saying, we need to be "a student of our spouse." The Enneagram is one way to do just that. In this episode Dr. Kim, Beth & Jeff share about how they have used the Enneagram to help create a thriving, gospel-centered marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "When a heart is at rest from the truth of the Gospel, all kinds of fruits come from that." - Jeff McCord "The Enneagram is like a rumble strip on the highway; you can use it to wake yourself up and not fall into the common pitfalls that you have before." - Beth McCord "The Enneagram gives you a way to navigate and understand marriage in a way that you might not have been able to before." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The Enneagram accelerates growth and transformation when you use it correctly." - Beth McCord "We can be assured that God cares about our marriages, maybe even more than we do." -Jeff McCord "The Enneagram is a tool that gives us vocabulary and an organized way to understand our spouse's personality." - Jeff McCord "The Enneagram allows us to speak to each other in one another's personality dialect." - Beth McCord "Using the Enneagram is a great way to become a student of (or study) your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Two people that are the same Enneagram number can look and act radically different depending on their levels of health." - Beth McCord "The Enneagram gives you an opportunity as a married couple to embrace your differences." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "The Enneagram shows us that we all see the world differently." - Beth McCord SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Find everything you need at becomingus.com! Including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination. Beth & Jeff have a 'Becoming Us Course' for each couple type combination. That is 45 courses customized for each couple type combination. They go deeper into the "dance" (relational dynamics) and give you practical resources and insights to help transform your marriage. Buy 'Becoming Us' today! Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Learn more about each type with this FREE SUMMARY! Check out more great insights by Beth on her blog. Discover your Enneagram number with the Discovering You course. Already know your Enneagram Type? Then it's time to take a deeper dive with the Explore You course. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this series we have been dissecting the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the #1 biggest issue in marriages this year which is: infidelity. An affair always rocks a marriage. Some couples are able to ride that rocky storm and see God's grace and redemption in amazing ways. Other couples choose to end a marriage after an affair, and that's okay too! But in this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about why affairs happen and answering the question- can we affair proof a marriage? NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The worst thing we can do is to think that we're not vulnerable to having an affair or being unfaithful in our marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimbelring "A lot of couples don't realize how valuable trust is in their marriage until it's broken." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "If at all possible, try not to be alone with someone of the opposite sex who isn't your spouse." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Don't stay friends with old boyfriends and girlfriends on social media." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the 2nd biggest issue in marriages this year which is: sexual differences, specifically how to deal with libido differences or loss. We are happy to be a safe place where you can learn about sex, find yourself relating with other couples in the stories we share, and most importantly - work hard to have great sex in marriage and enjoy this gift God has given us. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about how to deal with sexual differences in marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "When you're not married Satan tries to keep you in the bed, when you are married Satan tries to keep you out of the bed." - Christina Dodson "Don't start conversations with your spouse about differences in desire and libido when you are frustrated." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Because of our culture we all drag sexual baggage into marriage." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "One of the coolest things about sex in marriage is how it continues to evolve and grow as you learn more about each other." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "You have to be intentional about discussing problems in your sex life, you can't ignore these issues when they come up." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "There's so much more to sex than just the physical act." - Christina Dodson "Your spouse needs to know that they are more important that your sexual relationship." - Dr. Kim Kimberling "Sex is an important part of a marriage but it's not THE most important part of a marriage." Dr. Kim Kimberling "Sex alone isn't enough to hold a marriage together." - Dr. Kim Kimberling SPONSORS Thank you to Groove Life for sponsoring this podcast episode! Groove Life has the Groove ring that is the world's first breathable active ring that is not only super comfortable but functional. Born from need, GROOVE raises the bar on traditional silicone, activewear rings with its flexible material, patent-pending, inner breathable design, and beautiful colors. You can use the code "awesomemarriage" for 15% off your order! RESOURCES You can snag Dr. Kim's ebook on the different types of bonding here: Bonded Together: Understanding God's Plan For Marriage In A World That Doesn't. Do you or your spouse struggle with confidence? You aren't alone if so! Snag our new resource Confidence Busters & Boosters to help cultivate confidence in each other and build up your marriage. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 3rd biggest issue in marriages this year which is: values and beliefs. Our value system and belief system is foundational to all our other opinions and actions in life. So when a couple isn't on the same page, it can naturally cause many issues. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about values and beliefs in marriage and how to cope when you and your spouse aren't on the same page. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "If your spouse doesn't agree with you on something it can be helpful to rate how important something is to you on a 1 to 10 scale to help your spouse understand how important (less important) something is to you." - Christina "Find the hot button topics in your marriage and agree on how to talk about them or agree to disagree with each other if that's healthier for your marriage." - Christina "There are some things in marriage it is absolutely ok to compromise on; one thing you should not do is allow compromise with your spouse to cause you or them to sin." - Christina "If you aren't married yet, be prayerful before going into marriage with someone who's values and beliefs are much different than your own." - Dr. Kim "Pray and ask God for wisdom on how to handle conflict in your marriage in a way that honors Him and honors the vows you made to your spouse, and let Him lead you through it." - Dr. Kim "God will sometimes give you more than you can handle so that you turn to Him for help." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the 4th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: life stages We all go through different life stages. One thing is for sure, life does not stay the same. But will we adjust as life goes on? Or will we not adjust? Our marriage needs to grow and adjust in every new life stage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about how to adjust to life stages and keep your marriage strong over the test of time and life's changes. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "The things you do to connect and have a good marriage will change throughout your marriage." - Dr. Kim "There's value to being and living in the present." - Christina "What does it look like to be fruitful where you are right now in life?" - Christina "As long as you're on this earth God has a plan and a purpose for you and for your marriage." - Dr. Kim "If you talk about it with your spouse then you can plan for it." - Christina "If your marriage isn't growing in each stage of life, that should be a red flag that you need to do something different." - Dr. Kim "Don't let your stage of life define you, you are more than where you are currently at in life." - Christina "If your spouse is struggling with adjusting to a new phase of life, come alongside them and let them grieve the loss of the previous season if they need to." - Dr. Kim "Find a mentor couple who is ahead of you in life to learn from." - Christina "You'll need to learn to say no to different things in different life stages." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about the 5th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: traumatic situations. Because we live in a broken and fallen world, so many couples end up facing traumatic situations. Death of a child, abuse, suicide of someone close to you, assault, a life-changing diagnosis, war, natural disaster, the list goes on. Often times when faced with traumatic situations, naturally, couples struggle to cope and many end up losing their marriage over it. But does a life changing event have to mean the end of your marriage? Dr. Kim has walked alongside countless couples through life-changing events. A traumatic situation does not have to mean the end of your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina share about how to cope with life-altering and traumatic situations in a way that builds up your marriage instead of tearing it down. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A traumatic situation is anytime life goes differently than we thought it would." - Dr. Kim "Your grief might look different from your spouse's grief and that's ok." - Dr. Kim "Nobody can't define what grief looks like for you." - Dr. Kim "Allow your spouse to express whatever emotions they feel when they're grieving." - Dr. Kim "Put God in the middle of your grief." - Dr. Kim "Be present with your spouse when they're grieving, don't put pressure on yourself to say the right thing, your presence alone will help them." - Dr. Kim "Be honest when you're communicating with your spouse about your grief." - Christina "Blaming is not going to heal anything." - Dr. Kim "After a life-altering event you have to find a new normal." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES You can check out Lysa Terkeust's book It's Not Supposed To Be This Way here. You can check out Craig Groschel's book Hope In The Dark here. Check out the devotional Dr. Kim mentioned here: Grieving the Loss of Someone You Love: Daily Meditations to Help You Through the Grieving Process Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

We are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 6th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: stress. So many of us deal with stress on a regular basis. Being stressed out makes it hard to be a good spouse. It's hard to be intentional in your marriage or really even focus on your marriage at all when you are consumed with stress. It's bad for our health and our mental space. Stress piles negative emotions on to our marriage and steals joy. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about what stress does to marriages and how to deal with stress in a healthy way as well as some tips to help you eliminate any unnecessary stress in your life. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "People died of diarrhea back then." - Dr. Kim "Deciding what you can and can't do something about can help you be realistic about what you're stressed about." - Christina "If there is nothing that you can do about something, the best (but not always easiest) thing to do is pray about it and leave it in God's hands." - Dr. Kim "Our emotions are good indicators but they're not good truth tellers." - Christina "Ask your spouse to come alongside you and help you deal with your stress." - Dr. Kim "Take the time to empathize with your spouse when they're stressed." - Dr. Kim "To the moms: the best thing you can do for your kids is to take care of yourself." - Christina "Don't buy into the lie that stress is just the way you are; there's an answer to stress." - Dr. Kim "God gave you a spouse to walk through life with, don't push your spouse away in times of stress, embrace them." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages. We will be breaking them down starting with #8 and working our way towards the #1 marriage issue. In this episode Dr. Kim & Christina talk about the 7th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: boredom. With time, some spouse's become bored with their relationship. Boredom in marriage is a dangerous thing to dwell on and can easily slip into even bigger issues. It also doesn't help that our culture is telling us that monogamy and marriage is boring. But marriage does NOT have to be boring. There are real, practical things you can do to keep boredom at bay and protect your marriage from boredom. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Connection = Zero Boredom in marriage." - Dr. Kim "You don't have to be screaming and yelling and throwing things at each other for you to go to marriage counseling." - Christina "Boredom can happen if we're not intentional about giving to our marriage as much as we're taking from it." - Dr. Kim "Be intentional about having fun with each other, even when life gets busy; remember there's something that got you to the altar in the first place." - Dr. Kim "Find creative questions to ask each other." - Christina "There are going to be times you get bored in your marriage, it's about recognizing when that's happening and committing to reconnecting so you don't stay bored and disconnected." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

For the next few weeks on the podcast we are doing a series on the Top 8 Marriage Issues in 2019. These 8 issues are the top 8 issues that Dr. Kim has seen this year with marriages in the counseling room. We will be breaking them down starting with number 8 and working our way towards the number 1 marriage issue in 2019. Today we are kicking off the series with talking about the 8th biggest issue in marriages this year which is: jealousy. Jealousy puts a real strain on your marriage. When you have jealous feelings it affects you, your spouse, and your marriage. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about this issue and how to deal with it in a healthy way. You may think jealousy isn't a struggle for you, but there are some subtle ways this often plays out that doesn't always get noticed and addressed. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "A lot of times jealousy can be tied to insecurity or discontentment." - Christina "Paul in the Bible is a great example of being content with whatever he had and whatever situation he was in." - Dr. Kim "You can get so consumed with jealousy that you neglect your marriage." - Dr. Kim "Jealousy affects your ability to be present in your marriage." - Christina "If you are willing to be honest with yourself and why you're jealous, these jealous feelings can be an opportunity for God to grow and teach you." - Christina "You have to run your race, you can't run someone else's race." - Christina "If your spouse is struggling with jealousy, it gives you an opportunity to come alongside them and help them work through those feelings." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered? Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You can help your spouse see that they might need to set a boundary with someone by asking them questions." - Dr. Kim "You can encourage your spouse to learn about boundaries but also be willing to walk with them through what that will look like." - Christina "Always offer your thoughts on your spouse's situation as a suggestion, not as a solution to their problem." - Dr. Kim "You might need to set a boundary with someone if you're taking on their consequences." - Christina "If you've never set boundaries before start setting them in safe places first." - Christina "Remember that if someone doesn't respond to the boundaries that you set in a healthy way, you can only control yourself, you can't control how they will react." - Dr. Kim "It sounds silly but role playing setting boundaries with your spouse can be really helpful for them to prepare for those hard conversations." - Christina "Let your spouse know that you are not going to stop loving them if they set a healthy boundary with you." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES As we approach the holidays, it's so important to make time for your spouse. Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Can we implement boundaries with our spouse? Is it loving? Is it Christ-centered? Boundaries in marriage may seem counterintuitive to some, but we believe it should be normal and natural in a marriage. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about boundaries with your spouse: why you need them, examples of what they might be, and how to implement them. If you have never thought about boundaries with your spouse, we hope this conversation is helpful to you and that it provides you with some great talking points that you and your spouse can explore as you work to have a healthier, happier, holier marriage. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Boundaries with your spouse can actually draw you closer together." - Dr. Kim "Having boundaries in your marriage isn't meant to be a punishment, it's meant to be freeing for you and your spouse." - Christina "You can't have true intimacy without boundaries." - Christina "I tell singles that I counsel, you have to show the person you're dating the real you at some point during the dating process." - Dr. Kim "It's unloving and unwise to not set boundaries where they need to be." - Christina "To rescue people from the natural consequences of their behavior is to render them powerless." - Dr. Henry Cloud & John Townsend (from Boundaries book) "It's so important to talk about boundaries in your sexual relationship." - Dr. Kim "Boundaries helps you understand your marriage relationship better." - Dr. Kim "Your spouse's comfortability should matter to you more than what you want for yourself." - Christina "Boundaries are about controlling the only person that you can control: yourself." - Christina "Don't set boundaries to manipulate or control your spouse." - Dr. Kim "If you're in an unhealthy relationship, be prepared for setting boundaries to cause a lot of conflict." - Dr. Kim "A boundary without consequences isn't a boundary at all." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Honoring Intimates for sponsoring this podcast episode! Honoring Intimates is a safe place for believers to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. RESOURCES As we approach the holidays, it's so important to make time for your spouse. Plan to spend some quality time with your sweetie by grabbing our FALLing For You Date Design here! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here!

Everyone has the same amount of time - 24 hours in a day. But so many of us struggle to manage this time well. Some of us say yes to way too many things and then that leaves us burnt out and miserable. Others of us don't use our time wisely enough and don't steward their time well to get done what they need to get done. In the fast paced, hustle glorified, culture that we live in where everyone has access to you all the time it can be really hard to set limits on our time. But if we don't plan well, our time will just pass us by. But if we do plan well and set up healthy boundaries, we can have healthier relationships, a better marriage, and get off the "hustle til you're burnt out" game that way too many of us are playing. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about the importance of setting up time boundaries and how to implement them. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You have to be an example for your kids of what it looks like to prioritize your spouse." - Dr. Kim "You have to manage your time to plan for the future." - Christina "Make sure your schedule reflects your priorities." - Dr. Kim "Make a habit of doing the things that are important to you." - Dr. Kim "When we feel like we're constantly busy we often don't take the time to do things that are going to have long-term benefits on our marriage." - Dr. Kim "There's no shortcut to having time with your spouse; you have to make quality time with them happen." - Dr. Kim "We had to learn to say no, even to good things, if they would get in the way of us spending quality time together and investing in our marriage." - Dr. Kim "Decide as a couple where you want you want to prioritize your time and then build the rest of the things you do in life around that." - Dr. Kim "It's a red flag that you're not doing a good job of prioritizing your marriage if you haven't talked to your wife in so long that you forgot what her name is." - Dr. Kim "Take the time to address red flags in your marriage as soon as you see them; it will save you so much time in the long run." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

What does it look like to honor our marriage, protect our marriage, and still have honoring relationships with our brothers and sisters in Christ? So many couples want to know what is okay and not okay when it comes to friendships with the opposite sex. In this episode, Dr. Kim and Christina share about safe boundaries, why they are important, and how to implement them practically. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Establishing boundaries with the opposite sex is one of the ways we accomplish the goal of having an awesome marriage." - Dr. Kim "Having boundaries in place with the opposite sex protects you and your marriage." - Dr. Kim "Never say you can't be tempted; we are all sinners and can be tempted." - Dr. Kim "Boundaries aren't a lack of freedom; they're ensuring the safety of your marriage." - Christina "You're not going to have a good marriage if you're only thinking about yourself." - Christina "A good thing to ask yourself is, 'Am I ok with my spouse seeing this text or email that I'm sending to someone of the opposite sex?'" - Dr. Kim "It's much easier to ignite a flame that's already been lit than to start a new fire; don't keep in touch with your ex boyfriends and girlfriends." - Christina SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

Well we love it when you guys send it topics you want us to cover! One listener recently suggested we cover what it means to "come alongside your spouse." It's something Dr. Kim says a lot, what does it practically mean? How would Dr. Kim define this method that he so often encourages us to do? In this episode, Dr. Kim goes deep into describing it and defining it for us. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "Coming alongside your spouse is the visual representation of walking in unity together and supporting one another as a married couple." - Christina "Coming alongside your spouse is the manifestation of being on the same team as your spouse." - Dr. Kim "Something is wrong if you're in a marriage and you feel like you're all alone." - Dr. Kim "How you come alongside your spouse might look different from how your spouse comes alongside you; we all receive love and support in different ways." - Dr. Kim "Ask yourself: is what you're doing right now going to help you have an awesome marriage?" - Christina "If it's important to your spouse make it important for you." - Dr. Kim "The worst loneliness is when you're in your house with your spouse and you feel lonely. You're not coming alongside each other in your marriage, you're just coexisting" - Dr. Kim "It's so important to have empathy in a marriage." - Dr. Kim "We may not always understand why our spouse feels the way they do but we can accept that they are feeling that way and come alongside them." - Dr. Kim "How you handle your differences in marriage will either draw you together or tear you apart." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

In this episode Caroline Harries joins Dr. Kim to talk about waiting and how God is good even in the waiting. They talk about infertility, support groups, and how infertility and waiting can affect your marriage. Caroline is an author of a 60-day devotional 'In Due Time' as well as the founder of 'Moms in the Making' faith based infertility support groups. She shares her story and talks open and honestly about her waiting and their marriage in the waiting. Chances are you are waiting on something. Maybe it's a baby, maybe it's a house, a job, a fresh start, or restored relationship. Whatever it is you're waiting on - this conversation is going to encourage you. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "1 in 8 women experience infertility; it's not as rare as you think." - Caroline Harries "We have to make God the focus of our lives, no matter what season of life we're in." - Caroline Harries "In every trial you face you choose to run to or away from God." - Caroline Harries "It's important to not make having a baby an idol or put that in the place of pursuing a relationship with God." - Caroline Harries SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Buy Caroline's Devotional 'In Due Time' here. Join a Moms In The Making Infertility Support Group today. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

The holidays can highlight grief and loss in our life. It's a time that is centered around nostalgia, memories, and family. So it's no surprise that the holidays can bring up a lot of grief for people who have experienced loss. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about grief and how to support each other as a married couple as one or both of you grieve. NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "During the holidays, set aside time to think about the person you've lost. " - Dr. Kim "Don't smother your feelings, take time to grieve your lost loved one." - Dr. Kim "Don't feel like you have to say the perfect thing to your grieving spouse. Just be there for them." - Dr. Kim "The way you deal with grief is by going through it." - Dr. Kim "You can cling to the promises of God found in the Bible when you're grieving." - Christina "Jesus shows us that it's ok to grieve." - Dr. Kim "God can handle your questions and anger." - Christina "Everyone experiences grief differently." - Dr. Kim "Give your spouse lots of grace as they grieve." - Dr. Kim "You can't fix the situation for your spouse but you can walk with them through it." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

The holidays are coming and that excites some of you but stresses others out. The holidays season, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas can put a lot of extras on our calendars and in our budgets. It can be a time where couples fight a lot or expectations aren't met. All of us want to have good holidays with our spouse and family, but often we don't prepare well so that we can execute that well. In this episode Dr. Kim and Christina talk about holiday marital stress and how to prepare for the holidays with your spouse. Tune in to learn how to prepare well for the holidays! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "You have to increase your knowledge and awareness of each other in your marriage." - Christina "Don't wait until the week before a holiday to let family know if you're changing your usual holiday plans." - Dr. Kim "Have your holiday plans set by October to avoid stress later on." - Dr. Kim "Have conversations with your spouse about how to make the holidays less stressful." - Dr. Kim "Make sure there's alone time for just you and your spouse in the holiday plans." - Dr. Kim "Decide what your priorities are for your family for the holidays." - Dr. Kim "Boundaries aren't punitive, they're for saving relationships." - Dr. Kim SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.

What does it mean to be a husband and how can Christian men prepare well to become godly husbands? There are a lot of messages out there today about men and what it looks like to a husband, but what does God say about being a husband? How can modern men prepare to be Godly leaders in their home? In this episode Colby Taylor joins Dr. Kim to talk about that. Colby is a Pastor at Life.Church and good friend of mine. Together Colby and his wife, who you heard from on Tuesday, lead the Engaged Events we put on to help couples prepare for a marriage that's even more beautiful than the wedding. The next Engaged Event in OK is THIS month so be sure to grab tickets on our website before they sell out. Tune in to learn how to prepare to be a husband! NOTEWORTHY QUOTES "There's a lot more sacrificing in being a husband than I ever anticipated." - Colby Taylor "As long as you're married you're always learning things about each other." - Dr. Kim "You can't give yourself to your wife if you don't give yourself to Jesus first." - Colby Taylor "Seek out someone you see as a Godly man and ask them to mentor you." - Dr. Kim "Don't be afraid to be honest and vulnerable about your feelings." - Colby Taylor SPONSORS Thank you to Plant Package for sponsoring this podcast episode! With Plant Package, the prep work of gardening is done for you. Plant Package is delivered straight to your door with easy instructions on how to plant your fun new plant that even someone with a black thumb could execute! Plant Package selects durable seasonal plants, an appropriate and stylish container, sends just the right amount of soil and plant food, and includes instructions for assembly and plant care. The Plants can thrive indoors or outdoors – the choice is yours! Use the code "awesome" to receive a FREE Starter Kit with your order. Starter kits include gardening gloves, a gardening shovel, and farm hand's soap. Simply select "ADD STARTER KIT" and enter the code AWESOME on the payment checkout page. RESOURCES You can snag our FREE Weekly Engaged Check Up Guide to help you practically keep the peace and keep your relationship good during your wedding planning. Register and attend the Engaged Event in Oklahoma. Need help building unity in your marriage? Snag our brand new resource Diary of An Awesome Marriage: The Couple's Unity Building Journal today! This resource is a 23 page PDF, with 9 sections on common areas that marriages. Each section has questions for you to reflect on, pray about, answer, and then discuss with your spouse. Get closer by getting more unified on the things that matter! Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day via email, text, or podcast here! Dr. Kim's new book, 14 Keys to Lasting Love, came out earlier this year. If you haven't ordered your copy yet, what are you waiting for? Order here now.