Awesome Marriage Podcast

Today we get into the details of how to carry out healthy boundary setting. We continue the series on healthy boundaries by talking about logistics of how to set and carry out the boundaries our marriages need. We'll talk about how to do this conversation well, and what NOT to do when you talk about them. Tune in to hear how to set these well to help you and your marriages to be their healthiest. What do you want to hear more about before we close this series? Let me know! Episode highlights include: Dr. Kim gives several examples of how to make boundaries enforceable Practical dos and don'ts of a boundaries conversation What to do if your spouse doesn't agree to your boundaries or respect them Ways for in-laws to deal with boundaries involving their married kids We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES A helpful companion episode: What is Team Language? | Ep. 501 Our Boundaries Guide walks through the topics we've covered through this series and helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage. Our Conflict Solving Survey & Workbook provides more help to work on healthy and effective conflict resolution together. Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place.

Several types of boundaries can help your marriage be healthy, and today we're talking about boundaries outside of marriage. That means with family, friends, and the opposite sex. We could probably devote an entire episode to each of these categories! We definitely can't cover every possibility, but we can get the conversation started. Episode highlights include: Boundaries with your in laws & adult married children Guidance on setting boundaries with your kids at any age Basic boundaries for co-parenting with an ex Dr. Kim's recommendations for affair prevention boundaries We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place. Get 25 of Dr Kim's best conflict resolution tips in our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet! Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. Our friends Dan & Kay at Centsei can help you set a budget and stick with good financial boundaries. We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.

There are several types of boundaries that you need to have within your marriage. Chances are you already have some. But there may be pain points in your marriage that healthy boundaries can help. Today we cover a lot of ground as we get into the details of some boundaries that may be needed within your marriage to help you, your spouse and your marriage be your healthiest. Episode highlights include: Ways to approach a conversation about free time and hobbies without a fight The most common areas where most couples might need boundaries Signs that you need a boundary in a given area How NOT to do your budget together Plus - Do you have a hobby to answer my question at the end of the episode? I'm so curious - there's bound to be one! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Get 25 of Dr Kim's best conflict resolution tips in our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet! Our new Boundaries Guide helps you decide where and how to start applying this content to your marriage. Our friends Dan & Kay at Centsei can help you set a budget and stick with good financial boundaries. Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place. We talk to a lot of couples who don't know what makes them a great team, so we created Team You & Me: A Guide to Approaching Your Marriage as a Team, to help you be more intentional to tap into all God has for you in the gift of your marriage.

What are the rhythms of your marriage? Whether you know what they are or not, you have rhythms, and they are shaping who you will become as a couple. Today on the podcast Chris and Jenni Graebe join Dr. Kim to talk about five rhythms for a healthy marriage, and how you can work together to get in the groove. Episode highlights include: What are the 5 rhythms? How to talk about issues in your marriage without starting a fight Why speaking life is such an important rhythm, and why it affects more than your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Grab Chris and Jenni's book, The Rhythm of Us to get all the details of today's conversation, how to put them into your marriage, and more! Check out Chris & Jenni's Rhythm of Us Podcast TheRhythmofUs.com Use the Marriage Quiz to discover the #1 rhythm missing in your marriage at marriagequiz.com

Today we're kicking off a series about boundaries in marriage. What they are, what they are not, and why they are essential in a healthy marriage. We get a lot of questions on the topic, and in this series we will share the types of boundaries that can help a marriage, and how to implement them. This series will be full of practical applications and we'd love to answer your questions. Episode highlights include: What can boundaries do for your marriage? What can they NOT do? Dr. Kim's take on an age old example of physical affection at unwelcome times We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet contains 25 of Dr. Kim's best tips to help you fight fair and resolve conflict well Learn all about how to set healthy boundaries for your marriage with our Building Better Boundaries For Your Marriage online course. Dr. Kim covers why and how and gives practical tips and examples to help you put them in place. For more help troubleshooting the conflict in your marriage, our Conflict Solving Survey and Workbook helps evaluate where you are now, see where you want to grow, and learn how to get from here to there. In today's episode we mentioned this: How to Set Boundaries in One-Sided Marriage | Ep. 505. In it we give more biblical context for boundaries. Our 4-day YouVersion plan on Boundaries in Marriage can help you put healthy boundaries into practice.

We're dropping in today to share a brief overview of our upcoming "Boundaries For Your Marriage" series. We get a lot of questions on the topic, and in this series we will share types of boundaries that can help a marriage, and how to implement them. The series will cover: What boundaries are and why they matter for your marriage, boundaries within marriage, boundaries outside of marriage, how to set boundaries, what NOT to do, plus an episode devoted to answering your questions. Please subscribe to our Podcast Email if you have not already, as we provide application questions to help make each episode applicable to you, as well as other bonus content. We pray this series will be helpful to you and your marriage! *Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

It is Valentine's Day! And today we're talking about how to put love in action in your marriage. It's safe to assume you love your spouse - even if they drive you crazy sometimes! But how well do you put your love into action in a way that speaks to them? Showing love to your spouse is not just a once a year thing, so today we're talking about practical ways to do this in your everyday life. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: What does your spouse want you to do with their love language? What if the spouse doesn't respond well? Is there a name for the "love language" of seeing your spouse engage with the kids? Plus an anonymous listener question about why a spouse never says "I love you" *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Our Love Cans can help you learn to put love in action in your marriage! Find out what fills your spouse's love tank so that you can intentionally make deposits of that lovin' feeling! 5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman Make this Valentine's weekend fun and engaging with a lasting impact with the Online Marriage Retreat!

Whether it's illness, aging, or another physical issue, there are some physical obstacles that can prevent couples from enjoying a great sex life together. Today we address several common physical barriers to a great sex life in your marriage, and provide practical ways to address them and enjoy God's gift of sex in your marriage! Episode highlights include: Steps to resolving any physical barriers that impede sex How to deal with physical disabilities or permanent changes Help with your mindset as it relates to physical changes Does sex have to mean intercourse? We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our 4 Week Connection Challenge for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Make this Valentine's weekend special with a lasting impact with the Online Marriage Retreat! Levi & Jennie Lusko podcast episode Celebration of Sex by Douglas Rosenau The Ultimate Guide to Sex and Disability by Miriam Kaufman Quick and Easy Guide to Sex and Disability by A. Andrews

Abuse of any kind is entirely inconsistent with God's plan for marriage, as described in Scripture. Today Dr. David E. Clarke returns to the podcast to debunk reasons that godly women give for staying with their abusive spouse. Dr. Clarke has counseled so many spouses who have been taught that God wants them to remain with an abuser, so today he explains a clear, biblical basis for separation from an ungodly, unrepentant, narcissistic, or dangerous spouse. Listen to learn about confronting the lies that keep you with an abuser. Episode highlights include: Many wives will stay for the kids' sake. Is that good for the kids? How to know if the spouse is truly committed to change Advice for a spouse who stays because they do not have a job or income of their own Differences between addressing normal marital issues and dealing with abuse We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Get Dr. Clarke's book, 20 Lies That Keep You With Your Abuser Find all of Dr. Clarke's books and his many helpful resources at DavidEClarkePhD.com We believe a world full of awesome marriages will change the world! Our Marriage Changers get instant access to each monthly resource we create, and much more. Click to learn more about membership! Scripture references from today's episode: 1 Corinthians 7:15, Matthew 18:15-17, Romans 16:17-18 1 Corinthians 5:9-13 1 Samuel 25 If you are unsafe in your marriage, please contact https://www.thehotline.org/ or 800.799.SAFE

Today Dr. Kim answers the question, "Do Christians have to stay married, no matter what?" We have heard from several listeners who are in difficult, painful and even abusive marriages. Some said their spouse takes advantage of knowing they will continue to stay as a rationale for continuing harmful patterns. This topic is complicated and nuanced, but there are some clear biblical principles about marriage that can help to navigate a response to these painful situations. Listen to learn more. Episode highlights include: Does Scripture support staying with a spouse no matter what Dr. Kim shares why and how he recommends separation Advice to a spouse whose abuser has been enabled by a church or pastor What a loving marriage looks like, just so no one has to wonder! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES We mentioned some Scriptures in the episode that reveal God's heart for the marriage relationship and his standard of love. This is only a very short partial list. Ephesians 5 1 Peter 3 1 Corinthians 13 Colossians 3:12-19 Even in a difficult marriage, there is no place for violence or any kind of abuse. If you are unsafe in your marriage, please contact https://www.thehotline.org/ or 800.799.SAFE Dr. David E Clarke returns to the podcast next week for help dealing with an abuser. For help more helpful content on the topic, please see Dr. Clarke's books: Enough is Enough 20 Lies That Keep You WIth Your Abuser

We are so happy to be back with a new episode of the podcast in the new year! Today we get to hear the story of a real couple whose marriage was restored after infidelity. Adam and Kristi share the complete story of their marriage, and how God worked through their hardest situation to bring redemption. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES If your marriage has been affected by infidelity, our online Affair Recovery Course can help. This course is helpful whether you're just starting the recovery process, or are already in process. Use code: "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" for $5 off. Book: Unashamed By Christine Caine Related episodes: Amber and Arly's Restoration Story The Best Way to Affair Proof Your Marriage | Ep. 516

Statistically, odds are not good for a couple processing grief together. Today Kerry and Chris Shook join Dr. Kim on the podcast. In this powerfully encouraging episode, they share how they handled a painful season of grief losing their grandson, Jude, who lived just one day on earth, and how they were shaped, along with their family, through the loss. Kerry and Chris are pastors and co-authors of The Gift of One Day: How to Find Hope When Life Gets Hard. Episode highlights include: Does grief change us, and what does that look like? Seeing God at work when he doesn't seem to answer our biggest prayers How to handle grief when you grieve differently than your spouse does How thinking about "one day" shapes the grief process We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Kerry and Chris's book The Gift of One Day: How to Find Hope When Life Gets Hard tells the whole story This month's 62 Questions About Sex resource helps you be more intentional and thoughtful about quality and satisfaction in your sex life. Plus it comes with 10 Sexy Bucketlist Challenges, just for fun! Enjoying our monthly resources? Consider becoming a Marriage Changer! Our Marriage Changers get instant access to each new resource we create, plus exclusive bonus content each month! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

The Christmas season is like no other! Today we're sharing some ways we love to celebrate, our favorite traditions, past mistakes and mishaps, and how we have handled some of the challenges of the season. Plus we get to hear from two very special guests – each of our spouses join us for the first time on the podcast! Episode highlights include: Knowing when it's time to let go of certain traditions Dr. Kim's tips to reduce Christmas busyness PLUS Christmas favorites, challenges and memories with Brian Few & Nancy Kimberling! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Our "A Very Married Christmas: Couple's Advent Calendar" is designed to help you slow down and connect through the Christmas season, and is available for a donation of any amount toward our Giving Tuesday campaign! This month's 62 Questions About Sex resource helps you be more intentional and thoughtful about quality and satisfaction in your sex life. Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

Today we're tackling some of the really tough questions that listeners have submitted. We love answering listener questions, and Dr. Kim often answers one at the end of our episodes. This episode is a little different, since these are all questions that warrant more than a quick answer. While there are some hard realities, we also believe that there is hope for every marriage. Wherever your marriage is today, we believe God has hope and redemption for you! Episode highlights include: Tips to talk to a spouse who "never has time" for hard conversations Feeling controlled when a spouse wants to know your whereabouts at all times Severe workload imbalance in the home and with finances Spouse's video game addiction Trusting husband in spite of being surrounded by immodesty We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: This month's 62 Questions About Sex resource helps you be more intentional and thoughtful about quality and satisfaction in your sex life. And it comes with 10 Sexy Bucketlist challenges - just for fun! Browse all our podcast episodes on Communication for more helpful info on this topic! Dr. Kim's One Thing email is delivered each weekday with one practical thing to do that day to grow your marriage. Subscribers also have access to bonus content Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every month's new resource, plus exclusive videos from Dr. Kim and Nancy, and more! Learn more here. Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

Research shows that 69% of marital conflict is never resolved. We either sweep it under the rug, avoid the pain points, or get stuck in a cycle of conflict that may cause pain but not find resolution. Today Dr. Kim talks with special guest Anne Nelson, about the 4-stage process to break the fight cycle and heal your marriage from conflict. Anne is a Christian counselor who helps couples and individuals to find the fully thriving life God has for them. Episode highlights include: Why we get stuck in the conflict cycle and how to get out Some reasons that counseling might not "work" and what to do if that happens to you How to start recognizing and healing unaddressed issues affecting your marriage Specific questions can we use to challenge our assumptions in marriage We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Connect with Anne and see her marriage resources on FullyThriving.com and on Instagram @Fully Thriving. Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

Today Dr. Kim welcomes return guests Levi and Jennie Lusko to the podcast. In this episode, they talk about their new book, The Marriage Devotional, and answer why they wrote a marriage devotional, how that process affected their marriage, the power of scripture in marriage gift God gave us, and much more! Don't miss this deeply encouraging episode! Episode highlights include: Why there is power to going to church in person as a couple What might be going on when you don't get anything out of a sermon or Bible reading Levi and Jennie share how they've personally worked to grow as spouses Some of the unseen purposes of sex in marriage We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: We love Levi and Jennie's new book, The Marriage Devotional. It would also make a great Christmas gift!) Hear more from Levi and Jennie at Fresh Life Church and on their podcast, Hey It's the Luskos. Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

What are some of the major mistakes we hope couples avoid during dating and engagement? Today we're talking all about unrealistic expectations. How can we tell when our expectations are unrealistic, and what can we do to keep them from becoming an issue in our relationships? This one trips up about every couple at some point, so even if you're married, this episode will be helpful to recognize, and deal with our expectations in a healthy and helpful way. Tune in for all the details on how not to let this major mistake wreck your relationship. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage! Episode highlights include: We share several of the common unrealistic expectations we've seen as well as several we've had in our own marriages How to tell if your expectations are realistic or not We give a simple process to work through these together *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Dr. Kim's Preparing For An Awesome Marriage Online Course brings all the information he teaches in his premarital course directly to you! Use code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" FOR 10% off! We also have a FREE "95 Questions To Ask Before You Get Married" resource to help you prepare well for marriage. Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

What are some of the major mistakes we hope couples avoid during dating and engagement? Today we're talking about what it means to focus on the wrong things. What are they, and why are we saying they're wrong? In Dr. Kim's counseling experience, he's seen some things that are just not helpful for engaged couples, so today he's telling us some of the things he sees engaged couples focusing on that aren't helpful to their future marriage. Spoiler alert: No matter where you are today, there is hope! Episode highlights include: What are the "wrong things" he sees couples focus on What's wrong with focusing on them Some of the ways purity in dating impacts married sex We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Dr. Kim's Preparing For An Awesome Marriage Online Course brings all the information he teaches in his premarital course directly to you! Use code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" FOR 10% off! We also have a FREE "95 Questions To Ask Before You Get Married" resource to help you prepare well for marriage. Our House Prayer Cards are a beloved resource we are featuring again this month. These cards give ways to invite God into every room of your house. Learn more here! The Weekly Check In Guide is a simple way to be intentional about checking in on your marriage each week. Grab the resource and get intentional today! Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

What are some of the major mistakes we hope couples avoid during dating and engagement? Today we're looking at a big one: Ignoring red flags. Thankfully, Dr. Kim has counseled so many engaged couples over the years, and has created our Preparing For Marriage online course. So today he sheds light on several common red flags and how to deal with them. Spoiler alert: No matter where you are today, there is hope! Episode highlights include: Do red flags mean you have to call off the engagement? Dr. Kim shares several common red flags he sees in counseling How to address the red flags - before AND after marriage We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Dr. Kim's Preparing For An Awesome Marriage Online Course brings all the information he teaches in his premarital course directly to you! Use code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" FOR 10% off! We also have a FREE "95 Questions To Ask Before You Get Married" resource to help you prepare well for marriage. Our new Conflict Solving Survey is designed to help you approach the conflict conversation in a gentle way that doesn't end in conflict! We think this will help you approach conflict well. The Weekly Check In Guide is a simple way to be intentional about checking in on your marriage each week. Grab the resource and get intentional today! Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

"The storms will hit. It's not a threat, it's just a reality," as Gary Thomas shares with us today. When they do, we want our marriages to be a refuge where we take comfort. In this episode, Gary Thomas tells us how to make sure your marriage is a safe haven for you and your spouse, rather than a source of pain and conflict. His latest book tells real-life stories of marriages that overcame hardship to become a fortress. We believe this is what God wants for each marriage and what he wants for you! Don't miss this encouraging episode! Episode highlights include: The one thing all of the "fortress" couples have in common Getting on the same page when one spouse is checked out How to overcome past wounds to heal our marriage We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Our new Conflict Solving Survey is designed to help you approach the conflict conversation in a gentle way that doesn't end in conflict! We think this will help you approach conflict well. The Weekly Check In Guide is a simple way to be intentional about checking in on your marriage each week. Grab the resource and get intentional today! Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok!

Have you gotten bad marriage advice? We sure have! We've heard so many things that just aren't helpful for marriage, but we didn't always realize it! Trying to follow a harmful piece of marriage will damage your marriage over time. So today we call out bad marriage advice, give ways to prevent yourself from falling prey to it, and help you determine what's good advice, and what's worth tossing out. Episode highlights include: How to tell whether it's good advice or not The downside of getting marriage advice online Plus Dr. Kim answers an listener question about a spouse who refuses to go to church We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Our new Conflict Solving Survey is designed to help you approach the conflict conversation in a gentle way that doesn't end in conflict! We think this will help you approach conflict well. Growing in self-awareness is a gift to yourself, your spouse, and your marriage. That's why we created The Self Check In Guide. Learn more about this helpful resource! If your marriage is really struggling, our Marriage 911 Course was designed as the emergency help you need to get back on track. Check it out today! Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

Men and women tend to view intimacy differently, so it takes intentionality to understand one another well. We want to help the wives out this week by looking at 3 ways to do intimacy his way. How can you build these into marriage? Today's episode will help you bring intimacy from idea into action. Tune in to learn more! Episode highlights include: One fun way to keep the "spark" alive The destructive side effect of disrespect Fun and simple things you can do to get more - and better - connection We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Our new Conflict Solving Survey is designed to help you approach the conflict conversation in a gentle way that doesn't end in conflict! We think this will help you approach conflict well. Check out our Love Making Survey. This resource was designed to help make talking about sex simple - and to bring satisfying results! Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

Men and women typically view intimacy differently, and it takes intentionality to understand one another well. We want to help the husbands out this week by looking at 3 ways to do intimacy her way. This episode is worth repeating since it answers one of the toughest parts of marriage. How can you build these into marriage? Today's episode will help you bring intimacy from idea into action. Tune in to learn more! Episode highlights include: One of the most common complaints we hear from women on this topic Why nonsexual touching is essential for a healthy sex life What emotional intimacy is and how to get it We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Our new Conflict Solving Survey is designed to help you approach the conflict conversation in a gentle way that doesn't end in conflict! We think this will help you approach conflict well. Check out our Love Making Survey. This resource was designed to help make talking about sex simple - and to bring satisfying results! Loving our monthly resources? Marriage Changers get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

Are you part of a blended family? Having a blended family brings unique challenges and that's why we're so thankful for our friends Scott and Vanessa Martindale sharing their wisdom on the topic today! Scott and Vanessa founded Blended Kingdom Families, where they offer practical strategies and Biblical encouragement for blended families. Don't miss this helpful episode! Episode highlights include: Dealing with high-conflict ex-spouse relationships Some practical tools for clear communication Plus, the one big thing you don't want to do, but can make a huge difference! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Check out Scott and Vanessa's book, Blended Kingdom Families. It's out now, and it is SO good! Find more from Blended Kingdom Families, including all of their resources at BlendedKingdomFamilies.com Fixing our mind on what is good, right and true is good for us and great for our marriage! Our 19 Prayers and Affirmations for Your Marriage resource will help you do just that! Our Family Prayer Challenge is designed to help you practically build a family culture around Christ, in the midst of your everyday life! With the Marriage Changers Membership, you get instant access to every months' new resource – and so much more! Learn more here. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's free weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

What did you hope for and dream of when you got married? Is your marriage all you dreamed it would be? For so many, it is not. It's easy to think it might be easier for other couples, but a good marriage takes time, energy, and hard work. There's hope for your marriage no matter where you are today, because as Dr. Kim shares with us, God hasn't given up on any marriage! Episode highlights include: Dr. Kim's pro tip on why he gives couples "homework" Why many of us might stay distracted on purpose How one spouse make a change to the marriage on their own Dr. Kim answers an anonymous question about how to deal with sexual temptation We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Setting our mind on what is good, right and true is good for us and great for our marriage! Our 19 Prayers and Affirmations for Your Marriage resource will help you do just that! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram and Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's free weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

{Editor's Note: Audio was repaired 11/2023.} So much of life is not what happens to us, but how we respond to it. Life is hard and it never seems to go exactly according to our plans. My grandad said that we all have the choice to either get bitter, or get better. And he lived out what it looks like to get better, even in the face of all of life's troubles. Today Dr. Kim shares what ongoing bitterness looks like over time, and how we can avoid becoming grouchy, grumpy, and mean! Episode highlights include: How to know if you're becoming more bitter Practical steps to help you "get better" instead Tips for dealing with the difficult people in your life This week's anonymous listener question leads to a memorable story from one of Dr. Kim and Nancy's recent dates We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. P.S. I misquoted his age in the episode - my grandad lived to 94½ before he went to heaven last year! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Trusting God Through Grief with Special Guest Stacy Henagan | Ep. 462 A Faithful Life and Legacy - with Special Guest Ernstena Parker Wood | Ep. 496 Setting our mind on what is good, right and true is good for us and great for our marriage! Our 19 Prayers and Affirmations for Your Marriage resource will help you do just that! Get a quick daily dose of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email! As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Dr. Kim's free weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

What are the pros and cons of having kids? Can you know if you're really ready? Today Dr. Kim and I discuss how to know and how we each went through that process with our spouse. We share some practical ways to get on the same page with your spouse, as well as some of our favorite parts of being parents. Listen in to learn more! Episode highlights include: How we navigated the transitions from being childless couples to having kids Surprises that couples often face when they become parents Tips to getting on the same page about this This week's anonymous question: Is it okay to use birth control? We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: The Weekly Marriage Check Up Guide You could win a $250 Amazon gift card when you submit a screenshot of your rating and review of the Awesome Marriage Podcast! Use this link to enter! Do you feel like you and your spouse aren't as unified as you'd like? It's time to get on the same page! This Unity Building Journal is designed to help you look at key areas of your marriage and work to get unified. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's free weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

Matt Hammitt had a successful music career as frontman of the Grammy and Dove-award-winning band Sanctus Real, but he knew God was calling him away from his career and toward something else. The wake up call happened when he started realizing he was not the man he intended to be. Today Matt opens up about the process of following God's lead in leading his family well. Tune in for his encouraging story! Episode highlights include: Is it time to 'burn the ships' and change course? When both spouses grieve differently Working through the self-deceptions that keep us stuck We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Resources: Grab Matt's book Lead Me: Finding Courage to Fight for Your Marriage, Children, and Faith The documentary Bowen's Heart is available where movies are streamed Find more about Matt and the Hammitts at MattHammitt.com You could win a $250 Amazon gift card when you submit a screenshot of your rating and review of the Awesome Marriage Podcast! Use this link to enter! Do you feel like you and your spouse aren't as unified as you'd like? It's time to get on the same page! This Unity Building Journal is designed to help you look at key areas of your marriage and work to get unified. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's free weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

Today we're answering listener-submitted questions about our Healthy Self / Healthy Marriage series. We have talked about physical, mental, emotional, and spiritual health, and they all overlap, so we have questions from every area. There are some really tough ones, so we're going to do our best to give clear and helpful answers today, as Dr. Kim shares great biblical counsel for the questions sent in from our listeners. Episode highlights include: Do marriage problems resolve over time? Why some people avoid counseling, even if they know they would benefit from it Does being a Christian mean you have to stay married, no matter how bad it gets? We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!

Mental health impacts every aspect of our life, so it will certainly impact our marriage. I am so thankful for Dr. Kim's deep experience with this topic! In this episode we covered everything from how to know when to work on things ourselves, when to seek help, and effective but practical ways to boost mental health in everyday life. Tune in to learn more. Episode highlights include: How to know when you need professional help Practical everyday tips to boosting your mental health How to help a spouse that is struggling with their mental health, while staying healthy yourself Plus this week's anonymous question about a long-winded spouse We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Make sure you subscribe to Podcast Email so you never miss an episode. When you sign up, we'll send you our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free as a sign up bonus, plus you get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox each week! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Do you feel like you and your spouse aren't as unified as you'd like? It's time to get on the same page! Our Unity Building Journal is designed to help you look at key areas of your marriage and work to get unified. We have created a Self-Check In Guide that is a helpful place to start uncovering what's going on with you and to grow more self-aware. Here's that episode where Carey Nieuwhof and Dave Adamson talk about getting healthy sleep! Follow this link to leave us a rating & review on iTunes on the Apple Podcasts Page. We *so* appreciate your support of the podcast! Ready to level up your marriage? With a Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

The healthiest marriages are between two healthy people. This week we're unpacking why it's so hard to be spiritually healthy without emotional health. The two are linked because a lack of knowing ourselves will seriously hinder our ability to connect with God and others. It's a lot simpler, more accessible, and less touchy-feely than it may sound. Episode highlights include: The connection between emotional and spiritual health The unintended relational effects of unprocessed emotions Tips to grow in emotionally and spiritually health Plus this week's anonymous listener question about an apathetic spouse We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Do you have "healthy self" questions for us? Send them in and we'll answer in a Healthy Self / Healthy Marriage Q & A episode! Emotionally Healthy Discipleship Podcast Our Awesome Marriage YouVersion Plans help you read and apply Scripture The Bible Project is an awesome resource to help you understand the Bible Do you feel like you and your spouse aren't as unified as you'd like? It's time to get on the same page! This Unity Building Journal is designed to help you look at key areas of your marriage and work to get unified. Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Find the link to leave us a rating & review on iTunes on the Apple Podcasts Page. We *so* appreciate your support of the podcast! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's free weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

Today Dr. Kim and I are talking about how physical health impacts a marriage. It turns out we're both passionate about pursuing good stewardship with physical health! Dr. Kim shares some of the struggles he and Nancy have had to deal with and how they worked through them, and I share how going from a mentality of body shame to one of gratitude shifted how I approach physical health. Episode highlights include: Why we need a proper theology about our bodies How physical health impacts our marriage How to start overcoming body shame Plus This week's anonymous listener question is about getting on the same page with your spouse about parenting We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES In Breaking Free From Body Shame Jess Connolly gives sound and effective theology about the body Are you and your spouse as unified as you'd like? It's time to get on the same page! This Unity Building Journal is designed to help you look at key areas of your marriage and work to get unified. Why We Sleep by Matthew Walker Any questions? Send them in and we'll answer in a Healthy Self / Healthy Marriage Q & A episode! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Find the link to leave us a rating & review on iTunes on the Apple Podcasts Page. We *so* appreciate your support of the podcast! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Get bite-sized daily doses of marriage wisdom delivered straight to your inbox with Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email. As a subscriber, you'll also be eligible for some awesome freebies! Dr. Kim's free weekly Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

Is your marriage full of joy, or does it lack some of the qualities you hoped for? It takes more than just love to make a marriage thrive, and today John David Mann and Ana Gabriel Mann, co-authors of The Go Giver Marriage, share why that is. In The Go Giver Marriage, the Manns share five secrets to lasting love that will help you build a marriage in which both spouses truly thrive. Episode highlights include: An effective strategy to break cycles of bickering or criticism Why just one spouse's efforts are enough to affect a marriage Some unexpected benefits of being a "go giver" in marriage We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Learn more about The Go Giver Marriage and order the book HERE! Dr. Kim says that one of the keys to an awesome marriage is being a student of your spouse. Take that advice seriously and study your husband with the Husband Study Challenge! Find the link to leave us a rating & review on iTunes on the Apple Podcasts Page. We *so* appreciate your support of the podcast! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email. Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Check out Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email! The Marriage Multiplier brings you 4 pieces of marriage wisdom in a quick, easy to read email.

We get a lot of questions about how to deal with not being "equally yoked" in marriage, so today Dr. Kim shares tips, encouragement plus some do's and don'ts if you are in this difficult situation. And listen in for a fun new anonymous listener question segment where Dr. Kim drops the mic with his marriage advice for newlyweds! We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Grab the full episode transcript HERE. Dr. Kim says that one of the keys to an awesome marriage is being a student of your spouse. Take that advice seriously and study your husband with the Husband Study Challenge! Find the link to leave us a rating & review on iTunes on the Apple Podcasts Page. We *so* appreciate your support of the podcast! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Dr. Kim highly recommends a quick weekly check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email brings you 4 pieces of practical marriage wisdom in one quick, easy-to-read free weekly email.

When we get married, we are also marrying into our spouse's family. In laws can be a blessing, but that's not always the case. Today we share real life examples of in-law issues and how couples dealt with them, and give you practical steps to deal with the issues that you might be facing. We know in-law issues run the gamut and so this advice is not one-size-fits-all. So if we missed something you want to hear covered, We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Did we miss an important in law issue you want to hear addressed? Email me and let us know! Dr. Kim says that one of the keys to an awesome marriage is being a student of your spouse. Take that advice seriously and study your husband with the Husband Study Challenge! Find the link to leave us a rating & review on iTunes on the Apple Podcasts Page. We *so* appreciate your support of the podcast! Will you take 15 minutes each week to check up on your marriage? Dr. Kim highly recommends a quick weekly check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Check out Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email! The Marriage Multiplier brings you 4 pieces of marriage wisdom in a quick, easy to read email.

We all want to keep our marriage safe from the damaging effects of an affair. There are many tips to doing this, but the one truly essential underlying principle is simpler and more effective than you might think. In today's episode, Dr. Kim shares the top way to prevent an affair, based on his 40 years of experience counseling couples. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode. When you sign up, you will get our "5 Days 5 Ways" Love Languages resource for free! Plus you will get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES If your marriage has been affected by an affair, our online Affair Recovery Course can help. Use code: "AwesomeMarriage" for $5 off. Podcast episodes mentioned today: Oneness Vs. Codependency - What's the Difference? With Debra Fileta | Ep. 511 Amber and Arly's Restoration Story Dr. Kim's recent Dispatch, "What If" Follow Awesome Marriage on Instagram, Facebook and find Dr. Kim on TikTok! Find the link to leave us a rating & review on iTunes on the Apple Podcasts Page. We *so* appreciate your support of the podcast! Will you take 15 minutes each week to check up on your marriage? Dr. Kim highly recommends a quick weekly check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! Ready to level up your marriage? With the Marriage Changers membership yet you get all of our monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like Tshirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Check out Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email! The Marriage Multiplier brings you 4 pieces of marriage wisdom in a quick, easy to read email.

Can you grow your attraction to your spouse, or is it destined to grow stale over time? Today's special guest Kimberley Beam Holmes explains that attraction is a process. Following this process will increase your attraction in marriage, but stopping it will lead to a stagnant and stale attraction. Learn how to follow the attraction process that you can follow at any time in marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Find resources and more of Kimberley's work at MarriageHelper.com Get the Summer Bucketlist Date Design today and start your summer off right, with your spouse by your side! Check out Marriage Helper's Free "How To Get Your Spouse Back" Mini Course When you were first dating I bet you studied your wife intensely. You wanted to know everything about her. All that studying connected you two. It can connect you again with the 18-Day Wife Study Challenge! Dr. Kim recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! When you sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email you will get an email from every weekday with one practical thing to do for your marriage that day! Bonus: We will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

Is it ever okay to feel used in married sex? If you're struggling with feeling this way, don't settle for staying stuck there. We will speak to several different contexts in today's episode. Wherever your marriage is today, we pray you find encouragement, know that you are not alone, and know that God wants you to find health and enjoyment in the sexual relationship in your marriage. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Abusive behavior is never ok. If you're being abused, please get out and get help. If you suspect any emotional or physical abuse is going on in your marriage, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at https://www.thehotline.org or 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) Registration is now open for FaithFULL Online Men's Retreat! Don't miss this chance to learn from like minded men who are seeking to build a life of integrity. We have 10% off for you when you use the code DRKIM10 at checkout! When you were first dating I bet you studied your wife intensely. You wanted to know everything about her. All that studying connected you two. It can connect you again with the 18-Day Wife Study Challenge! Dr. Kim recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! When you sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email you will get an email from every weekday with one practical thing to do for your marriage that day! Bonus: We will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

What are the hard conversations in your marriage? Do you avoid them, argue over them, or (*fingers crossed*) do they go really well?! We're on the last week of our Awesome Marriage Podcast 4-week summer break, and during these weeks off, we will re-share some of our favorite past episodes. We're re-sharing this one to help you have better conversations when it's time to address tough topics. Listen in to learn some great ways to help them go well. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Registration is now open for FaithFULL Online Men's Retreat! Don't miss this chance to learn from like minded men who are seeking to build a life of integrity. We have 10% off for you when you use the code DRKIM10 at checkout! When you were first dating I bet you studied your wife intensely. You wanted to know everything about her. All that studying connected you two. It can connect you again with the 18-Day Wife Study Challenge! Dr. Kim recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! When you sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email you will get an email from every weekday with one practical thing to do for your marriage that day! Bonus: We will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

Apologies are necessary. We are all human and sinful, so we should all be apologizing regularly. But there are definitely right and wrong ways to do this, and most of us can certainly grow in doing apologies well. We're on our Awesome Marriage Podcast summer break, and during these weeks off, we are re-sharing some of our favorite past episodes. These are episodes that you might have missed the first time, or that just deserve a re-listen! Today we're re-airing this episode where Dr. Kim and Christina explain why good apologies matter, and help us learn to do this well. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES The 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar is designed to help you deal with a number of common barriers to great married sex. We've partnered up with the Dating Divas and 21 other sex and marriage experts to give you the 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar. Learn from SAFE, HEALTHY Sex Experts in the privacy of your own home. Registration is now open for FaithFULL Online Men's Retreat! Don't miss this chance to learn from like minded men who are seeking to build a life of integrity. We have 10% off for you when you use the code DRKIM10 at checkout! Dr. Kim recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! When you sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email you will get an email from every weekday with one practical thing to do for your marriage that day! Bonus: We will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

Today's podcast is a great follow up to last week's Worth Repeating episode, "Making Your Spouse Comfortable in The Bedroom." Dr. Kim and Christina go over some typical differences in how men and women approach sex in marriage. But we know that every single couple is unique, with a unique situation. But the focus is on finding ways to work through these differences, and to make them work for you and your marriage. Tune in to learn to better embrace the differences God has designed between you and your spouse. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Our Lovemaking Survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The goal is to be honest and to work together towards better sex in your marriage, no matter how these answers unfold. The 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar is designed to help you deal with a number of common barriers to great married sex. We've partnered up with the Dating Divas and 21 other sex and marriage experts to give you the 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar. Learn from SAFE, HEALTHY Sex Experts in the privacy of your own home. Registration is now open for FaithFULL Online Men's Retreat! Don't miss this chance to learn from like minded men who are seeking to build a life of integrity. Discounted early bird pricing is available through May 31, PLUS we have an additional 10% off for you when you use the code DRKIM10 at checkout! The books mentioned in today's episode: A Celebration of Sex by Dr. Douglas Rosenau The Gift of Sex by Clifford and Joyce Penner Dr. Kim's eBook Awesome Sex In Marriage Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email brings you thoughtful and impactful marriage challenges and helps all in one short email each Wednesday. Sign up here! Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email provides a step to growing your marriage, sent directly to your inbox each weekday. Plus we will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe! Our Marriage Changers get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Use the Spice It Up Sex Challenge challenge as a fun way to connect with your spouse! The goal is to complete all 18 challenges in 30 days!

So many of us don't feel totally comfortable when it comes to sex. But being completely comfortable in the bedroom with your spouse is a gift that keeps on giving! So this week, we're re-airing this episode that originally aired in 2019 to help you face any barriers to enjoying this gift. We're on our Awesome Marriage Podcast break, and during these weeks off, we re-share some of our favorite past episodes. These are episodes that you might have missed the first time, or that just deserve a re-listen! Tune in today to check in on whether you're letting any of these barriers rob the joy and freedom you could be experiencing in the bedroom. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Dr. Kim's eBook Awesome Sex In Marriage The 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar is designed to help you deal with a number of common barriers to great married sex. We've partnered up with the Dating Divas and 21 other sex and marriage experts to give you the 2022 Virtual Sex Seminar. Learn from SAFE, HEALTHY Sex Experts in the privacy of your own home. Dr. Kim's Marriage Multiplier email brings you thoughtful and impactful marriage challenges and helps all in one short email each Wednesday. Sign up here! Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email provides a step to growing your marriage, sent directly to your inbox each weekday. Plus we will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe! Our Marriage Changers get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here! Use the Spice It Up Sex Challenge challenge as a fun way to connect with your spouse! The goal is to complete all 18 challenges in 30 days! Our Lovemaking Survey is a nonthreatening way to evaluate your sex together. The goal is to be honest and to work together towards better sex in your marriage, no matter how these answers unfold.

We know "opposites attract," but once those opposites are married, they also can tend to drive each other crazy! We're on our Awesome Marriage Podcast 4-week summer break, and during these weeks off, we will re-share some of our favorite past episodes. These are episodes that you might have missed the first time, or that just deserve a re-listen! In this week's Worth Repeating, we're sharing the Enneagram and Your Marriage, with special guests Jeff and Beth McCord of Your Enneagram Coach. They explain what the enneagram is, why it's worth talking about and how it can help, even in conflict. They unpack how this tool can facilitate growth, compassion and understanding, point us to the Gospel, and move couples from frustration to thriving together. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Read the episode transcript here. RESOURCES Dr. Kim has an episode with Beth about how to thrive in marriage with each of the 9 types! You can find all 9 episodes here! Find everything you need at becomingus.com including the course for YOUR marriage's Enneagram combination! Beth & Jeff have a "Becoming Us" course for each type combination! Buy "Becoming Us" today! Registration is now open for FaithFULL Online Men's Retreat! Don't miss this chance to learn from like minded men who are seeking to build a life of integrity. Discounted early bird pricing is available through May 31, PLUS we have an additional 10% off for you when you use the code DRKIM10 at checkout! Honoring Intimates is a safe place to learn about marital sex and shop for the highest quality lubricant, lotions, and lingerie items at reasonable prices. There are no inappropriate images on the site and the company uses mannequins to display their lingerie. Use the code "AWESOMEMARRIAGE" to receive 20% off your entire order. You can get some one-on-one coaching with Your Enneagram Coach here. Not sure what your Enneagram Type is? You can take the free assessment here! Also be sure to take the FREE MARRIAGE ASSESSMENT here. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! Sign up to get Dr. Kim's One Thing To Grow Your Marriage Each Day here!

Is it abuse or is it bad behavior? Today Dr. David E Clarke joins Dr. Kim to tackle this tough topic with tough love. Dr. David E. Clarke is a Christian psychologist, speaker, and author who guides people toward healthy lives, marriages, and families through his Bible-based teaching and therapy. In today's episode he explains the difference between abuse and bad behavior, touches on narcissism and gaslighting, and shares an effective, biblical approach for any spouse who is dealing with this situation. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Abusive behavior is never ok. If you're being abused, please get out and get help. If you suspect any emotional or physical abuse is going on in your marriage, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline at https://www.thehotline.org or 1-800-799-SAFE (1-800-799-7233) Dr. Clarke's Book, Enough is Enough, gives more details on how to make the plan work. More info and resources are available on Dr. Clarke's Website If your marriage is safe, but is really struggling right now, our Marriage 911 Course was made for couples just like you

Money tends to be a dreaded issue, but we had a lot of fun talking about it. In this episode we share some helpful keys to handling your finances well. This week we're talking about Dr. Kim's top 5 money tips. We also cover how Dr. Kim handles impulse spending, what to do if you don't want to tithe to your church, and the first step toward seeing money with less stress. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! Read the full episode transcript here. *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES For help getting on track financially, check out the Free Centsai Financial Online Class from our friends Dan and Kay Ockey. Dr. Kim recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! When you sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email you will get an email from every weekday with one practical thing to do for your marriage that day! Bonus: We will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

Today one of our favorite guests returns to share some wisdom on having a healthy marriage. Debra Fileta is a wise and biblical marriage counselor. Today she joins Dr. Kim to talk about how couples can stop hitting the same "tender spots" over and over and break cycles of repetitive tension. Tune in as Debra gives steps that allow either spouse to help the marriage improve. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Debra's book, Are You Really OK? walks you through tending to the areas of health we talked about in today's episode. Our 31 Reasons Why I Love You love notes resource helps you share the loving thoughts you have about your spouse in a fun and easy way. We can too easily let our married sex grow mundane or stale. That's why we created the Spice it Up Sex Challenge. This resource gives you 18 fun and spicy challenges to work toward together to help bring back the fun and passion! Dr. Kim's book, 7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage gives you 7 of his time-tested insights to make your marriage all you want it to be.

Studies say that most couples fight over money. Is that true for you? If so, avoiding these 5 money mistakes will help you to get on the same page, reduce financial stress and tension, and make the most of your money. Are you making any of the five mistakes? If so, there is hope! Listen today to learn five money mistakes couples make and how to get past them. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES For more help getting on track financially, check out the Free Centsai Financial Online Class Our recent podcast episode "What is team language" can help you communicate well to correct any money mistakes you've made! For low budget and free date night ideas, browse our Date Designs Make sure you're following us on Instagram so you never miss the fun tips, reels, date ideas and other things we post! Dr. Kim's book, 7 Secrets to An Awesome Marriage takes you deeper on some of the best ways to make your marriage better Dr. Kim recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! When you sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email you will get an email from every weekday with one practical thing to do for your marriage that day! Bonus: We will send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

Do you need a mentor to help you have healthy perspective as a parent? Well today you've got one! Through Dr. Kim's 40 years as a Christian counselor, he's helped so many families work through these things, plus he and Nancy have valuable wisdom from their experience as parents and grandparents. In this episode, Dr. Kim and I gives tips for healthy parenting perspective and I share some helpful things I've learned through 17 years of parenting. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES It's finally here! Your chance to get 7 awesome resources for one donation! Don't miss it because this bundle deal is only available for two weeks out of the year! Our 100 Questions To Get You On the Same Page workbook is designed to help spouses work through some of the tough issues of parenting in a fun and effective way. Dr. Kim highly recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! Sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email to get an email from Dr. Kim every weekday with one practical thing you can do for your marriage that day! We'll also send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

It's not easy to be a parent, but you can find more peace and joy in parenting if you avoid these nine common pitfalls. In today's episode Dr. Kim and I unpack some of the mistakes we have made or seen that keep parents from enjoying their kids. Tune in to learn about these pitfalls so you can avoid them. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES It's finally here! Your chance to get 7 awesome resources for one donation! Don't miss it because this bundle deal is only available for two weeks out of the year! Our 100 Questions To Get You On the Same Page workbook is designed to help spouses work through some of the tough issues of parenting in a fun and effective way. Dr. Kim highly recommends a weekly marriage check in, and our Weekly Check In Guide makes it easy to do! You will get this resource for free when you sign up for Dr. Kim's weekly Marriage Multiplier email! Sign up for Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email to get an email from Dr. Kim every weekday with one practical thing you can do for your marriage that day! We'll also send you our "Creative Questions To Ask Your Spouse" for free when you subscribe. Do you know about the Marriage Changers membership? As a Marriage Changer you get each of our new monthly resources, plus some other sweet benefits, like t-shirts and exclusive videos with Dr. Kim and Nancy! Learn more here!

Are you ever too helpful in your marriage? Do you find yourself frustrated with the way your spouse responds to you? You may be trying to control your spouse by "helping" even if you don't mean to! Today Laura Doyle from the Empowered Wife Podcast joins Dr. Kim to teach us some empowering ways to shift the culture of our marriage, even if our spouse isn't on board. Tune in to learn some of the "cheat phrases" Laura teaches that can help you shift from controlling tendencies to deeper intimacy. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. PS - Please let me know if you end up with an experience like the story Laura tells about getting the kitchen clean! Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here!