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SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join memebers who contribute towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

I truly believe that we can create a peaceful world through parenting. Thank you for joining me on that mission and thank you for doing your part. I see you, I recognize you, I honor you! And most of all, I celebrate you. To begin the new year, I bring you a bouquet of inspiration and insight to help you start the year great! To motivate you, and ignite a spark in you to be the best version of yourself so that you can show up authentically in the world and offer the gift of you to your children and loved ones. Wherever you are on the path towards wholeness, I want you to know that you are not alone, and that you have an ally. The podcast, myself and our diverse, global community of like-minded people are behind you. I have put together a mega compilation episode—short clips from almost every episode from the past year. I love the symbolism -it is by looking back, we live forward. As you listen you might notice that I have put them together thematically to the best of my ability and had to dissect just the right clip for the purpose. I had a lot of fun! The year 2022 was one of my favorite years of podcasting in 7 years, and I wanted to remember it. HERE ARE THE FULL EPISODES IN ORDER 336: Trauma and Healing in a Toxic Culture with Dr. Gabor Maté 313: Becoming Your Authentic Self with Dr. Thema Bryant 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-regulation with Mona Delahooke 342: Raising Kids While Doing Your Own Work 316: A Father's Invitation to Love, Honesty and Freedom 306: The Invisible Epidemic of Trauma with Paul Conti, MD 346: How to Heal Your Anxiety for Good with Russell Kennedy 326: Befriending Your Nervous-System with Deb Dana 308: How to Ask For What You Need in a Relationship with Yvette Erasmus 342: Raising Kids While Doing Your Own Work 336: Trauma and Healing in a Toxic Culture with Dr. Gabor Maté 334: The Long-Term Impact of Parental Mental Health on Children Danielle Roubinov, PhD 335: Overcoming Adversity & Thriving Against All Odds with David Ambroz 338: How to Heal Childhood Trauma in Adulthood with Daniel Maté 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-regulation with Mona Delahooke 307: How Mother Loss Shapes Who We Become with Hope Edelman and Judith Rabinor 334: The Long-Term Impact of Parental Mental Health on Children Danielle Roubinov, PhD 306: The Invisible Epidemic of Trauma with Paul Conti, MD 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-regulation with Mona Delahooke 320: How to Practice Self-Compassion with Marissa Knox, Ph.D 304: How to Be an Adult with Julie Lyfcott-Heims 345: Unraveling the Mysteries of Healing with Lissa Rankin, MD 332: The Science of Stuck and Trauma Healing with Britt Frank 309: Why Your Happiness Matters with Ericka Souter 321: How to Be Happier with Tal Ben-Shahar 337: You Are Not a Bad Parent with Carla Naumburg 334: The Long-Term Impact of Parental Mental Health on Children Danielle Roubinov, PhD 306: The Invisible Epidemic of Trauma with Paul Conti, MD 304: How to Be an Adult with Julie Lyfcott-Heims SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 21 exisiting memebers who contribute $121 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Welcome to the final episode of 2022! What a year! In the 7 years of podcasting I think the year 2022 is my FAVORITE. An incredible array of guests, often difficult subjects, shared vulnerability, laughter and tears, heartfelt stories, sweet and warm moments, virtual hugs, insights and wisdom, truths… I will be forever changed by the many wonderful conversations and carry the many valuable lessons that I learnt with me through life. Heartfelt gratitude to all of our wonderful guests!!! And special thanks to you, my dear listener! It is because of you that I'm still here and going strong. In this episode: Rapid-fire Best show/movie I watched Best book I read Songs I enjoyed Best meal I had Place I visited Best purchase I made 22 Powerful Questions to Reflect on 2022 What inspired you this year? This year my biggest challenge was: This year my biggest accomplishment was: Which relationships remained rock-solid? Describe one moment when people you were with made all the difference. How did you feel? What was the most gratifying use of your time this year? What would you like to spend less time on next year? What would you like to spend more time on next year? Was there a moment when you overcame fear or did something outside of your comfort zone? What enabled you to overcome this fear? What made you feel alive this year? What is the most important lesson you learned this year? What did you enjoy the most? What was your favorite moment? How did you have fun? What are you most proud of this year? What did you learn about yourself? What got in the way of your success? What did you do for your physical and mental health? What did you leave unfinished? What advice would you give your last-year self? What has been hard to admit to yourself? Listener voicemails Ranela Zara Mathu Lauren Jen Arijana Top 15 Episodes of 2022! 15. 317: The Anatomy of Anxiety with Ellen Vora, MD 14. 310: The Healing Power of Storytelling 13. 313: Becoming Your Authentic Self with Dr. Thema Bryant 12. 314: The 6 Critical Needs of Children with Anna Seewald 11. 306: The Invisible Epidemic of Trauma with Paul Conti, MD __________________________________________ 10. 312: Unwinding Anxiety with Dr. Jud Brewer 9. 309: Why Your Happiness Matters with Ericka Souter 8. 304: How to Be an Adult with Julie Lyfcott-Heims 7. 307: How Mother Loss Shapes Who We Become with Hope Edelman and Judith Rabinor 6. 310: Why You Can't Pay Attention and How To Think Deeply Again with Johann Hari 5. 303: How to Rock Your Parenting in 2022 with Anna Seewald 4. 305: Breathing and Your Health with Patrick Mckeown 3. 308: How to Ask For What You Need in a Relationship with Yvette Erasmus 2. 336: Trauma and Healing in a Toxic Culture with Dr. Gabor Maté 1. 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-regulation with Mona Delahooke Intentions and goals for 2023+word of the year. SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 210exisiting memebers who contribute towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Allowing oneself to be vulnerable with another person can be exceedingly difficult yet rewarding as it leads to more closeness and intimacy. Can asking another person a structured set of questions really help two people deepen closeness and boost intimacy or fall in love? We are exploring the famous 36 questions to fall in love experiment. The so-called 36 questions to fall in love are a set of questions developed in the 1990s by psychologists Arthur Aron, Ph.D., Elaine Aron, Ph.D., and other researchers to see if two strangers can develop an intimate connection just from asking each other a series of increasingly personal questions. The 36 questions in the study are broken up into three sets, with each set intended to be more probing than the previous one. If you are looking to strengthen your relationship with your spouse, deepen your connection with your friend or romantic partner, reconnect emotionally with someone, fall in love with someone new, boost intimacy and closeness give the 36 questions a try. Remember, vulnerability is not weakness. ABOUT MY CO-HOST Kristy Lauricella is a psychotherapist in private practice in New Jersey. She takes a supportive and collaborative approach with a primary focus on a person's relationships, patterns, and sense of self. Kristy is an experienced hospice and palliative care social worker, birth and postpartum doula, teacher of writing, and professional development facilitator. As a result of her broad background and training and range of experiences, Kristy is able to create a safe space to process seemingly insurmountable challenges. Through their work together, her clients feel more empowered to take action and build authentic relationships that reflect their true values and core beliefs. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The 36 Questions 310: The Healing Power of Storytelling The 300! Epsiode with Kristy Ep. 302: Year iin Review 2021 with Kristy Lauricella Ep. 195: Why We Need to Connect More with Kristy Lauricella The Armenian song that I enjoyed (listen on YouTube) SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 20 exisiting memebers who contribute $98 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Dr. Russell Kennedy, aka "The Anxiety MD" on the origins of anxiety, why it's there, and how you can heal it for good. Dr. Russ is the author of Anxiety Rx where he shows a practical, actionable program for anxiety relief that incorporates a combination of the latest in neuroscience with the grounding wisdom of the body with the ultimate goal of relieving the anxious thoughts of the mind. In this epsiode we discuss: Why trying to get rid of your anxiety and alarm just makes it worse How all anxiety is separation anxiety Growing up with a dad with severe schizophrenia The role of psychedelics in treating anxiety His method GET HIS BOOK Anxiety Rx: A New Prescription for Anxiety Relief from the Doctor Who Created It OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY 312: Unwinding Anxiety with Dr. Jud Brewer 317: The Anatomy of Anxiety with Ellen Vora, MD 322: Why Anxiety Is Good For You Even Though It Feels Bad with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary 326: Befriending Your Nervous-System with Deb Dana 153: Anxiety with Dennis Tirch, Ph.D 290: Alarmed Aloneness with Sarah Payton SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 21 exisiting memebers who contribute $121 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

This is Part 2 of a two part show. We took a deep dive into the topic of chores. In the first part we talked about our feelings about the word-chores, shared our own experiences of growing up doing chores, unpacked the why of assigning chores to kids, started a discussion of ages and development and expectations and answered a listener question. As well as, we talked about the importance of parental attitude, engaging kids seamlessly into the process using playfulness and teaching crucial lessons and life-long skills, like responsibility and helpfulness and imparting our values without control. In this part we continue the discussion of what kids are capable of doing at different ages, we both share how we do chores with our own kiddos, answer some fantastic listener questions, talk about intrinsic and extrinsic motivation, and tell you what we think about paying kids for doing chores. A super-packed, useful and really helpful episode sprinkled with humor and fun. Think of this episode as a masterclass on chores. Read the article we mentioned in this epsiode. OTHER SPECIAL EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE 293: (Special) Sibling Squabbles, Conflicts and Beyond 254: (Special) Anxiety Relief Strategies for You and Your Child 243: (Special) What to Do When Your Kid Uses Bad Words, Name Calling and Swearing 221: (Special) How to Play with Your Kids When You Don't Like Playing 192: (Special) How to Respond When Your Kid is Disrespectful This episode is brought to you by our course ALL ABOUT SIBLINGS. Laura and I taught this class live and the recoding is now available as a self-study course. It covers everything you need to know when it comes handling sibling issues. The ONLY resource you need for raising friends for life and coahcing siblings thrugh their conflicts like a pro. GET IT NOW SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 21 exisiting memebers who contribute $109 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

This is PART 1 of a two part show. With Dr. Laura Froyen, a friend, colleague and frequent co-host of the podcast, we took a deep dive into the topic of kids and chores, shared our own experiences growing up, what we think of the word "chore", how we approach chores in our families, and most importantly answered some of the listener questions. We discussed the "why" of doing chores. We talked about the importance of parental attitude, engaging kids seamlessly into the process and teaching crucial lessons and life-long skills, like responsibility and helpfulness and imparting our values without control. SOME KEY POINTS The power of intrinsic motivation Age, development and age-appropriate expectations Paying kids for chores or not Do chore charts work? And so much more Think of this episode as a masterclass on chores. Read the article we mentioned in this epsiode. OTHER SPECIAL EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE 293: (Special) Sibling Squabbles, Conflicts and Beyond 254: (Special) Anxiety Relief Strategies for You and Your Child 243: (Special) What to Do When Your Kid Uses Bad Words, Name Calling and Swearing 221: (Special) How to Play with Your Kids When You Don't Like Playing 192: (Special) How to Respond When Your Kid is Disrespectful This episode is brought to you by our course ALL ABOUT SIBLINGS. Laura and I taught this class live and the recoding is now available as a self-study course. It covers everything you need to know when it comes handling sibling issues. The ONLY resource you need for raising friends for life and coahcing siblings thrugh their conflicts like a pro. GET IT NOW SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 21 exisiting memebers who contribute $109 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Carla Naumburg, a clinical social worker, mother, and author of five non-fiction books, including her international bestseller, How to Stop Losing Your Sh*t With Your Kids is back to the show. Have you ever thought that you were a bad parent, doing a shitty job, failing your kids or just doubting whther you were doing it "right"? Parents feel that way. And there are real good reasons for that. We talk about that on the show. In addition, Carla shares tangible steps for how to use each to help parents reduce their anxiety, trust their instincts, move past the guilt and become a calmer, more confident parent. Which, in the end, benefits your child as much as you. Great parenting is not the same thing as perfect parenting. Great parenting starts with true self-compassion, the kind that means you don't judge yourself. Harnessing this self-compassion is the key to giving yourself a break and embracing your best qualities as a parent. GET HER NEW BOOK You Are Not a Sh*tty Parent: How to Practice Self-Compassion and Give Yourself a Break SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 21 exisiting memebers who contribute $121 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

ATTENTION: This episode touches on sensitive topics such as poverty, homelessness, parental mental illness and foster care. Listener discretion is advised. For my guest David and his two siblings, their mother's paranoid schizophrenia brought with it poverty, violence, and instability. They traveled through New York and neighboring areas seeking shelter: they found it in train stations, 24-hour diners, anywhere warm and dry. The first 11 years of his life he was homeless, then he was placed in foster care. At first, it felt like salvation but soon proved to be just as unsafe for him. As a gay child, David's coming-off age is fusrther marked by anti-gay abuse at the hands of caregiovers and therpists. David Ambroz is a national poverty and child welfare expert and advocate. He was recognized by President Obama as an American Champion of Change. He currently serves as the Head of Community Engagement (West) for Amazon, coordinating with non-profits and community leaders for social good. Previously he led Corporate Social Responsibility for Walt Disney Television, and served as the President of the Los Angeles City Planning Commission, and as a California Child Welfare Councilmember. SOME KEY POINTS What is home? Where is home? What people get right and get wrong about childhood poverty How to create ground-up change in foster care system How to encourage more educated, middle-class families to foster Effective ways anyone can help improve the lives of foster kids GET HIS BOOK A Place Called Home MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Supernormal by Meg Jay, PhD The Boy Who Was Raised as a Dog by Bruce Perry, MD, PhD David's website Follow him on Instagram Follow him on Twitter SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 21 exisiting memebers who contribute $121 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

In this episode Anna talks about her recent trip (emotional and meaningful) to her home country Armenia with her friend Kristy Lauricella. It's a wide-ranging conversation and some of the key themes include: The power of relationships and receiving love The importance of living with an open heart Welcoming all feelings and staying present with our moment to moment sensory experience The healing power of here and now Geographical locations, places and their energy Memories and stories, what we remember and why we forget certain things What's home? Contemplation on death, dying and the impermanence of things Practicing the skill of non-reactivity, a skill that saves relationships deepen intimacy and fosters authenticity EPISODES WITH KRISTY Ep. 311: The Healing Power of Storytelling Ep. 300: The Big 300th! Ep. 195: Why We Need to Connect More Ep. 273: Coping with Loss SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

A really thought-provoking and important conversation with world-class pediatric surgeon, social scientist, and best-selling author of Thirty Million Words Dr. Dana Suskind about why early childhood years matter, and how society can and should help families meet the developmental needs of their children by providing more robust support for parents during the most critical years for building a bright future. HER BOOKS Thirty Million Words: Building a Child's Brain Parent Nation: Unlocking Every Child's Potential, Fulfilling Society's Promise This year, so far I have read 24 books. If you are curious, here are my top 6 for now. Stolen Focus by Johann Hari The AfterGrief by Hope Edeleman The Anatomy of Anxiety by Ellen Vora Strange Situation bt Bethany Saltman Brain-Body Parenting by Mona Delahooke Parent Nation by Dana Suskind LAST YEAR'S SELECTION 10 Best Self-Help Books of 2022 MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Ep. 317: The Anatomy of Anxiety with Ellen Vora, MD Ep. 318: What Comes After Grief with Hope Edelman Ep. 319: Understanding Attachment with Bethany Saltman Ep. 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-Regulation with Mona Delahooke Ep. 310: Why You Can't Pay Attention and How to Think Deeply Again with Johann Hari SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

(This conversation was originally released in 2019) SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

(This conversation was oringially released in 2019) SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

If parenting was stressful before the pandemic, during the COVID-19 global crisis, ⅔ of parents experienced some level of burnout. The pandemic is not over and stress on parents is not going to magically go away and it is critical that we recognize and find ways to prevent burnout in parents. Kate Gawlik, an Associate Professor of Clinical Nursing at The Ohio State University on how to recognize the signs of parental burnout and how to cope with it. Parental burnout builds in stages, slowly. Phase one -overwhelming exhaustion. Next phase, burned-out parents tend to distance themselves from their kids to preserve their energy. And the third phase is loss of fulfillment. You can take the self-assessment tool provided by Kate to learn more about yourself. Burnout runs on a continuum. A report by The Ohio State University Office of the Chief Wellness Officer and College of Nursing found the stress was simply too much for many working parents to handle, revealing that two-thirds of working parents experienced some level of burnout. The study found an association between burnout and depression, anxiety, alcohol consumption and The research, conducted in 2021 found stress on parents also had consequences for children, as parental burnout was associated with punitive behavior towards their kids – including screaming, criticizing and even physical harm – and increased acting out by their children. MENTIONED IN THIS EPSIODE Ep. 143: How to Be a Happier Parent with KJ De'll Antonia Ep. 144: Mommy Burnout: How to Reclaim Your Life and Raise Healthier Kids Ep. 281: The Power of Self-Regulation with Sarah MacLaughlin Ep. 289: Mind-Body Tools to Develop Stress Resilience with Rebekkah LaDyne Ep. 270: Simple Tools to Feel Great with Rangan Chatterjee, MD SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 22 exisiting memebers who contribute $140 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

How many secrets do you have? Did you know that most peoples' secrets fall into 38 categories? Michael Slepian, the leading expert on the psychology of secrets on what secrets hurt most, the emotional and physical costs to keeping secrets, the 3 dimensions of a secret and sharing your secrets with a special chosen person is helpful. SOME KEY POINTS The difference between secrets and privacy Age and development, can babies keep secrets or when do children's first efforts at keeping secrets emerge? Can people tell if we are keeping a secret? To confess or not to confess, what are the consequences of confiding? Is there a value of sharing our secrets? and does the person whom we chose to share our secret with matter? And so much more GET HIS BOOK The Secret Life of Secrets SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Today's guest —Tracy Dennis-Tiwary, Ph.D strongly believes that we pervasively misunderstand anxiety and presents a new framework for reimagining and reclaiming the confounding emotion as the advantage that it evolved to be. She is a professor of psychology and neuroscience at Hunter College, the City University of New York, where she directs the Emotion Regulation Lab, and is cofounder of the digital therapeutics company Wise Therapeutics. By thinking about anxiety as an unwanted affliction, we do everything in our power to do away with it. But when we accept the discomfort of anxiety and listen to what it's teaching us, we become more creative. Can you view anxiety as a gift and harness it to your advantage? MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Future Tense: Why Anxiety is Good For You (Even Though It Feels Bad) Ep. 317: The Anatomy of Anxiety with Dr. Vora, MD Ep. 312: Unwinding Anxiety with Dr. Jud Brewer How Long Should It Take to Grieve? Psychiatry Has Come Up With an Answer NYT article SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW TO WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Are you kind and loving toward yourself? Do you offer the same care to yourself as you give it to others? How do you talk to yourself when you make a mistake or go through hard times? Do you get caught up in negative self talk? Learn to practice self-compassion with Marissa C. Knox, PhD— a teacher, researcher, and writer currently offering Mindfulness, Compassion, undergraduate and graduate courses at The University of Texas at Austin. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Ep. 119: How You Can Be Kind and Loving Toward Yourself with Kristin Neff, Ph.D Ep. 112: How to cultivate Self-Compassion with Marion Rose The Big 300th Episode with listener particaption g.r.a.c.e. and possibility by Marissa Knox, Ph.D SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

How much do our childhoods, and especially the quality of our first loving bonds, determine who we become and how we love. A truly fascinating and delightful conversation about the science of attachment with a longtime Zen student, author of a phenomenal book Strange Situation: A Mother's Journey into the Science of Attachment Bethany Saltman. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE The Lost Daughter Strange Situation Becoming Attached by Robert Karen, Ph.D Bethany Saltman's wesbite Follow her on Instagram Ep. 315: How to Help Kids with Emotional Self-Regulation with Mona Delahooke, PhD Ep. 267: The Power of Discord Dr. Ed Tronick and Claudia Gold, MD Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Ep. 189: What's Your Attachment Style? with Jenny Rosier, Ph.D Adult Attachment Interivew Protocol SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast HOW WORK WITH ANNA I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Unexpressed grief from the past may be one of the most overlooked public crises of our time. Says my guest, Hope Edelman today-who is a strong voice and influential figure in the bereavement field and her books have helped countless people, especially women, as she wrote about mother loss. And mother loss, doesn't necessarily mean loss by death. There is abandonment, separation, neglect… Her new book is one of the most important books I've encountered one the topic. It's called The AfterGrief: Finding Your Way Along the Long Arc of Loss. As the title suggests, adjusting to loss is a lifelong process but as you'll learn from this conversation-it doesn't have to be a lifelong struggle. The AfterGrief is where we learn to live with a central paradox of bereavement: that a loss can recede in time and yet remain so exquisitely present. MENTIONED IN THIS EPSIODE Ep. 307: How Mother Loss Shapes Who We Become Ep. 290. The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Shaka Senghor, authhor of Letters to the Sons of Society on the power of transformation, father's love, vulnerability and freedom. His first book is a memoir Writing My Wrongs: Life, Death and Redemption in an American Prison, debuted on The New York Times and The Washington Post Best Seller Lists. RESOURCES AND LINKS Follow Shaka on Facebook Follow him on Twitter Follow him on Instagram Watch his TED talk On Conscious Co-Parenting SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

In this solo episode Anna talks about the 6 critical emotional needs of children. She provides an overview with some examples to help you understand your children better; become a better decoder of their behavior, uncover their emotional needs and meet the needs with responsiveness and sensitivity. She goes over her 4 Buckets Framework for understanding challenging behaviors (NEEDS is only one of the categories). In our culture we are always fixated on the behavior itself(we want to stop, correct and get rid of). When we focus on the behavior in isolation (wanting to stop, correct, get rid of etc.) and see the behavior as the problem, we misunderstand children. We miss the mark. So challenging behaviors not only persist but escalate and become more destructive, and intensify. Behavior-based approach is not effective. In no particular order here are the 6 emotional needs: Safety Respect Acceptance Autonomy Significance Connection If you want to learn more and go deeper, get The Why of Challeneging Behaviors and the How-to of Dealing with Them now. SUPPORT THE SHOW, SHOW YOUR LOVE Become a patron on Patreon.com and join 18 exisiting memebers who contribute $92 towards our monthly goal of $500. Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thank you for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Do you suffer from anxiety? We are living through one of the most anxious periods any of us can remember. Dr. Jud Brewer, renowned addiction psychiatrist and neuroscientist explains how to uproot anxiety at its source, using brain-based techniques and small hacks accessible to anyone. He has created a step-by-step program that anyone can use to feel better. He teaches us how to map our brains to discover our triggers, defuse them with the simple but powerful practice of curiosity, and train our brains using mindfulness. LINKS AND RESOURCES Unwinding Anxiety: New Science Shows How to Break the Cycles of Worry and Fear to Heal Your Mind and The Craving Mind book by Dr. Jud Brewer Eat Right Now on the App Store Unwinding Anxiety on the App Store Craving To Quit® SUPPORT THE SHOW Become a patron on Patreon.com Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

We all have a story. Your life story defines who you are. And only you can tell your own story. By sharing it you not only release painful feelings, make sense of what happened to you, gain a new perspective, form a new meaning, but you access a possibility of transforming your life. Whether you share your story orally or in a written form, it has healing power. Do you have an untold story inside that is itching to be shared? Kristy Lauricella and Judy Rabinor on the healing power of writing and sharing your stroy. By revisiting and revising our stories and the meaning we attach to them is how our stories become one of growth as well as hardship. "Meaning is not something we stumble upon. It's something we make. " Hope Edelman Past Episodes with Kristy and Judith Ep. 307: How Mother Loss Shapes Who we Become with Judith Rabinor and Hope Edelman Ep. 300: The Big 300th with Kristy Lauricella Ep. 290: The Complicated Mother-Daguther Realtionship with Judith Rabinor Ep. 195: Why We Need to Connect More with Kristy Lauricella Ep. 273: Coping with Loss with Kristy Lauricella SUPPORT THE SHOW Become a patron on Patreon.com Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" Rate or write a review FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast OUT SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Have you noticed that your ability to pay attention is collapsing? Did you know that in the US teenagers can focus on one task for only sixty-five seconds at a time and office workers average only three minutes? Like so many of us Johann Hari was finding that constantly switching from device to device and tab to tab was a diminishing and depressing way to live. He went on a quest to find out what was happening to our attention and he wrote a phenomenal book called Stolen Focus. He argues in the book that your focus has been stolen by some powerful external forces. Hari found that there are 12 deep causes of this crisis, from the decline of the mind-wandering to rising pollution, all of which have rubbed some of our attention. Hari says that we can reclaim our focus-as individuals and as a society-if we are determined to fight for it. SOME KEY POINTS Why do we need to pay attention to our attention? How childhood is happening behind closed doors and the lack of free unstructured play and movement is affecting kids The myth of multitasking and the switch cost effect Why tech is not the only invader of your attention And why the solutions require both individual and collective approaches And so much more GET HIS BOOKS God Save the Queen? Chasing the Scream: The First and Last Days of the War on Drugs Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression – and the Unexpected Solutions Stolen Focus: Why You Can't Pay Attention and Hhow to think Deeply Again SUPPORT THE SHOW Become a patron on Patreon.com Make a one-time donation in any amount to say "Thank you!" FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast OUT SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting WORK WITH ME I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! All listeners get 10% off on my services. Private Coaching Online courses and classes GET IN TOUCH Comments, questions, feedback, and love notes USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] STAY CONNECTED Instagram Facebook Group-Authentic Parenting Community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Parenting is hard. But being a parent doesn't mean you have to stifle your most basic wants and needs. It doesn't mean it has to consume you to the degree of self-sacrifice and martyrdom and you definitely don't need to lose yourself to be a good parent. Ericka Souter, author of How to Have a Baby and a Life on why being good for our kids has to become synonymous with being good to ourselves. If you are not happy, your children know it, moreover children suffer if the people taking care of them are not taking care of themselves. Mothers who feel depressed are more likely to have children who act out or have other behavioral problems. Researchers say that a mom's satisfaction with her life is more important to a child's social and emotional skills than how much money she has, the amount of time she spends with them, or whether she is working or a stay-at-home mom. SOME KEY POINTS Why you need a village and how to cultivate support for yourself When it comes to friendships quality over quantity The 3 conditions for lasting relationships The surprising truth about sexless marriages and how to have more sex How despite progress, women still bear heavier load than men in balancing work and family How not having a child should be an option too What do women talk about at NotMom Summit Why the parents in US proved to be the most miserable in the world OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY 64: Why You Should Let it Go And Be Happy 72: From Coping to Thriving: How to turn Self-Care into a Way of Life 97: Why You Might Be Feeling Tired, Negative and Overwhelmed 147: What Does Self-Care Really Mean 144: Mommy Burnout BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast OUT SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Warning: This episode contains mature themes and sensitive topics. While I think the conversation is deep, important and rich, it could be triggering for some. Please use your best judgment and assess whether you are in the right state of mind to be exposed to such content at this point in time. Hope Edelman and Dr. Judith Rabinor on how mother loss shapes our identity and impact the way we parent. Losing a parent as a child is always traumatic. And its impact is long-term. Two short sentences but they say a lot. Especially for those of us who have become bereaved by a parental death before the age of 18. SOME KEY POINTS Why we don't like talking about grief How there is no getting over it when it comes to grief How not all loss is traumatic Hitting important life milestones and transitions as a motherless mother such as: Approaching, just turned or passing the age of your mom when she died and your child turning the age you were when your mother died MENTIONED LINKS AND RESOURCES Hope Edelman's website Judith Rabinor's webiste Ep. 290 : The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judith Rabinor, Ph.D GET THE BOOKS Motherles Daughthers Motherless Mothers The AfterGrief The Girl in The RedBoots: Making Peace with My Mother OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE 194: The Dark Side of Motherhood 104: Overcoming Childhood Trauma 67: Not Like My Mother: Breaking Free from the Past 77: Loss, Grief and the Mysterious Meanings of Your Dreams 98: Healing from Trauma 99: Should We Forgive Our Parents? OUR SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit www.athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast OUT SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

We enter into the world with a breath and the process of breathing continues automatically. We don't pay much attention to it unless of course something goes wrong. But the way we breathe has an enormous impact on our health. To quote my guest directly: "Breathing impacts every aspect of health-sleep, digestion, movement, mental well-being, disease and recovery. It's an extraordinary resource with life-changing potential. And it's simple, free and available to everyone." You are about to learn some great information and practical techniques that are key to healthy breathing and healthy living. In today's conversation Patrick McKeown explains the difference between functional and dysfunctional breathing, the effects of dysfunctional breathing on our health, he emphasizes the importance of nasal breathing, the roles and misconceptions about oxygen and CO2, teaches us to breath correctly to get more oxygenation to our brain and cells, for improving focus, concentration, sleep, and ease stress and anxiety, relax the nervous system, overall health and performance. and get this, it turns out breathing for women is different. This is such a rich episode, packed not only with great information but also practical tips that you can apply right away for example how to open a blocked nose. I asked him about mask wearing: is it good, is it bad, what does it do to us, as well and learned interesting things about dry lips, double chin, ADHD and breathing and mouth taping at night for better sleep. GET HIS BOOKS The Breathing Cure The Oxygen Advantage TODAY'S SPONSOR Athletic Greens is offering my listeners a FREE 1 year supply of Vitamin D and 5 free travel packs with your first purchase. Simply visit athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Julie Lythcott-Haims believes in humans and is deeply interested in what gets in our way. Her work encompasses writing, speaking, mentoring, and activism. She is the New York Times bestselling author of the anti-helicopter parenting manifesto How to Raise an Adult which gave rise to a popular TED Talk. Her second book is the critically-acclaimed and award-winning prose poetry memoir Real American, which illustrates her experience as a Black and biracial person in white spaces. A third book, Your Turn: How to Be an Adult, has been called a "groundbreakingly frank" guide to adulthood. GET HER BOOKS How to Raise an Adult Real American How to Be an Adult BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Today's episode is a compilation episode. I have put together short clips from some of your favorite conversations to remind you of what's important in parenting, to give you a boost of inspiration and positivity. in the new year. I created this compilation episode so that you can start the new year with renewed energy and intention, a sense of hope and possibility, unshakable confidence that you are a good parent, courage to look within, a fresh perspective to keep your eyes on the big picture, a trust to be guided with your heart, a commitment to become comfortable with your own discomfort and befriend your emotions, willingness to examine your own patterns and shortcomings and of course a strong practice of self- compassion. You'll hear from Melisa Bernstein, Ned Johnson, Bill Stixrud, Ellen Gottlied, Bridgett Miller, Vanessa Lapointe, Howard Glasser, Laura Froyen and Laney- a thirteen year old girl. I really enjoyed putting this episode together. I hope you enjoy listening! 286: How To Talk to Kids with Bill Stixrud and Ned Johnson 279 Awakening Greatness in Kids with Howard Glasser 284 The Hard Truth about Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb 208 How to Be a Confident Parent with Vanessa LaPointe 275 Don't Fix Yourself, Accept Yourself with Melisa Bernstein 226 Practicing Conscious Parenting with Bridgett Miller 238 The Secret to Getting Kids to Listen and Cooperate with Laura Froyen and Anna Seewald 298 How to Build Closeness with Your Kids BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Hello and welcome to the final episode of the year. I'm joined with my dear friend Kristy Lauricella from episode 300. And today we are going to reflect on the past year: lessons we learned, hardships we went through, challenges we overcame, habits we started, things we enjoyed, how we had fun, as well as we will share the top 10 episodes of the year, the most downloaded and listened to episodes of 2021. And we will reveal our word of the year for 2022. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Here are the two articles by Adam Grant There's a Name for the Blah You're Feeling: It's Called Languishing We're Living Through the 'Boring Apocalypse' My article on remote learning and the pandemic's toll on teen mental health Writing Class info All About Siblings-Two Part Workshop with Laura Froyen (available for purchase now)Use coupon code: authentic25 to save $25. The Sunflower Video Kristy's agenda book Laura Matteson artist and listener website Laura Mattesson on Instagram The 300th Episode Year End Episode of 2020 Year In Review: Powerful Questions To Help You Reflect TOP 10 EPISODES OF 2021 Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel How to Talk to Kids with Ned Johnson and Bill Stixrud When Your Needs Are Not met with Yvette Erasmus The Power of Self-Regulation with Sarah MacLaughlin The Hard Truth about Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb When Kids Don't Listen with Anna Seewald How to Raise Kids Who Aren't A*holes with Melinda Moyer How to Master Difficult Feelings with Joan Rosenberg Simplicity Parenting with Kim John Payne The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judith Rabinor BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Jessica Lahey talks about her own experience with alcohol, the role of genetics and other risk factors, and how parents can "inoculate" their children from a life of substance abuse. Who get addicted and why Genetics and personality traits Epigenetics The role of Adverse Childhood Experiences and trauma Why is it important to delay use? How to talk about it with kids How we can improve prevention GET HER BOOKS The Addiction Inoculation The Gift of Failure BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Welcome to episode 300. What an accomplishment! 6 years! 300 episodes. Hundreds of amazing guests. Global, diverse and phenomenal community! And one passionate host! Thank you from the bottom of my heart for being a listener. It's because of you that I'm here and that the podcast exists. Now let's begin this milestone episode hosted by my lovely friend, former guest of the podcast and a facilitator at our LIVE event Kristy Lauricella. A woman of great depth and a sense of humor. Special thanks to those of you who sent in audio messages. I absolutely loved them and they mean a lot. Here we go! Mentioned in Episode 300 The Upside Of Your Downside with Todd Kashdan, Ph.D Stop Hurting Kids in the Name of Discipline with John Rich, Ph.D The Power of Living with a Wide-Open Heart with Scott Stabile The Complicated Mother-Daughter Relationship with Judy Rabinor, Ph.D Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Peaceful Parenting and the Child's Perspective with Laura Markham, Ph.D MInd-Body Tools to Develop Stress Resilience with Rebekkah LaDyne The Hard Truth About Parenting the Conscious Way with Ellen Gottlieb The Gift of Presence with Caroline Welch Healing Trauma and Restoring Wholeness with Richard Schwartz, Ph.D Don't Fix Yourself, Accept Yourself with Melisa Benstein A Good Apology: 4 Steps to Make Things Right with Molly Howes, Ph.D Forgiveness with Fred Luskin, Ph.D The Power of Discord with Ed Tronick, Ph.D and Glaudia Gold, MD 3 Secrets to Thriving as a Single Dad with Justan Mitchell (Coaching) How to Set Firm LImits with Kindness BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

For the past 25 years Marc Brackett, Ph.D has been researching and writing about emotions and running around the world talking to people about their feelings. Marc Brackett, Ph.D., is the founding director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and a professor in the Child Study Center, Yale School of Medicine at Yale University. "Our emotional state is one of the most important aspects of our lives. It rules everything else. Its influence is pervasive. Yet it is also the thing we steer around most carefully. Our inner lives are uncharted territory even to us, a risky place to explore. Our lives are saturated with emotions-sadness, disappointment, anxiety, irritation, enthusiasm and even tranquility. Sometimes-often-those feelings are inconvenient. The irony, though, is when we ignore our feelings, or suppress them, they only become stronger. " Key poiints: Why emotions matter? (5 key areas) The differnce between emotions and feelings Incidental feelings vs integral Charecterisitics of an emotion scientisit The RULER What's a Mood Meter GET HIS BOOK Permission to Feel: Unlocking the Power of Emotions to Help our Kids, Ourselves, and our Society Thrive OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY LIKE 262:When Your Needs are Not Met 261: How to Master Difficult Feelings 216: Childhood Emotional Neglect 129: How to Listen to Children's Big Feelings 178: Raising Emotionally Healthy Kids Emotion Series from Eps. 148-158 (Anxiety, Anger, Boredom, Fear, on Tears and Crying) BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

A thirteen year old Laney and her mom Julie are here to talk about how they transformed their relationship. They went from fighting daily into a more peaceful, positive and connected place. Julie is an active member of the Authentic Parenting community and has appeared on the podcast before. Julie has made some big strides and major shifts in her parenting. She has been consistently learning and growing. It's pretty amazing how far she has come. Turns out her daughter wanted to come to the podcast and share about their struggles and challenges and transformation. In this episode we talked about: How she navigates puberty, middle school and social media What was it like to be diagnosed with ADHD in the pandemic How she monitors her own screen time after having had a dependent relationship with it The tools she discovered that help her with her anxiety and emotion regulation And finally her sound, down to earth advice to parents everywhere BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

The core struggle for most of us is we want things to be different than they are. How can we free ourselves from unnecessary suffering and experience freedom that is already present in our lives. Ask yourself, what am I feeling right now that I don't want to feel? And is that a problem? Often we look outside ourselves either for problems or solutions. Couples blame one another-you should change so that I won't feel disturbed. By placing the cause of our disturbance outside of ourselves they miss the opportunity to develop a capacity to deal with our own disturbance. What is our tendency? We avoid feeling discomfort. We get wrapped up in stories and interpretations. Our normal way of operating is to relate to our embodied sensation from the perspective of our interpretations. According to my guest-Bruce Tift, the author of Already Free, the more we stay embodied with our moment to moment experience, the more confidence we have that we can work with whatever arises. GET HIS BOOK Already Free: Buddhism Meets Psychotherapy on the Path of Liberation BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

We all have an inner voice and how it manifests differs from person to person. How well do you know your inner voice? Rather than silencing the negative self-talk-the chatter, we need to learn how to harness it. This is the central question of my guest's brand new book Chatter: The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters and How To Harness It. Ethan Kross, Ph.D is an award-winning professor and bestselling author in the University of Michigan's top ranked Psychology Department and its Ross School of Business. He has participated in policy discussion at the White House and has been interviewed on CBS Evening News, Good Morning America, and NPR's Morning Edition. His pioneering research has been featured in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The New Yorker, Harvard Business Review, USA Today, The Economist, The Atlantic, Forbes, and Time. In this interview Ethan reveals the hidden power of our inner voice and shows how we can harness it to live a healthier, more satisfying and more productive life. The good news is we are already equipped with the tools we need to make our inner voice work in our favor. Yes, that inner critic can become your inner coach. Key points: When do we first become aware of our inner voice? How does harmful mental chatter influence people's emotional health and physical health? Does venting emotions reduce harmful mental chatter? And so much more GET HIS BOOK Chatter: The Voice In Our Head, Why It Matters and How To Harness It BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

In this Special Episode, my freind and colleague Laura Froyen and I answer some of listener questions about siblings. Questions range from keeping the older sibling from parenting the younger, parent's worry about bringing home a new sibling, coming up with win-win activities to do when kids have opposite preferences, as well as how to respond when your child says they "hate" their sibling and how to navigate when your kids are so close in age and they compare and want everything to be fair/same? SIGN UP FOR OUR WORKSHOP We will be teaching a LIVE, dynamic two-part workshop to answer all of your sibling questions. All About Siblings Learn more and get your ticket >>>https://www.eventbrite.com/e/182608967337 We are going to dive deep into the key mindset shifts you need to confidently navigate your kids relationships with each other. And you will add critical tools to your toolbox that will help them take ownership of their relationship and start solving their own problems so that you can stop feeling like a referee or hall monitor. The workshop is happening on: October 21st, @11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) November 4th, @ 11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) Find the time in your area. You can get all the details and sign up now at authenticparenting.com/siblings There is a 10% discount for patrons of of the Authentic Parenting podcast. If you are supporting the show on Patreon.com then you will receive a special code. We hope to see you there! You don't want to miss this opportunity to sit down and pick our brains on this complex topic. If you can't make it LIVE, the replays will be sent to you. Get Your Ticket Now See you on the inside! If you have questions, please contact us.

There are so many therapeutic methods and healing modalities available these days. One of them is IFS, or parts work. I have the honor of speaking with the creator of IFS, Dr. Rick Schwartz. He's the creator of Internal Family Systems, IFS, a highly effective evidence-based therapeutic model. It provides a non-pathologizing, optimistic, and empowering perspective and a practical and effective set of techniques for working with individuals, couples, families, and more recently, corporations and classrooms. In this episode we talked about: The myth of the mono mind The goal and the 4 main benefits of IFS It's origin, growth and milestones Then Dr. Schwartz describes the parts and their roles We do a live demo We all have different parts. Think of an inner critic, for example, as one part. They all serve a purpose, even the most destructive ones have protective intentions. Parts are often frozen in past traumas when their extreme rules are needed When they trust it's safe to step out of their roles, they are highly valuable to the system. GET HIS NEW BOOK No bad Parts SIGN UP FOR THE SIBLING WORKSHOP All About Siblings-Two-Part Workshop Join us LIVE for this two-part workshop on: October 21, 12pm Eastern/11am Central November 4, 12pm Eastern/11am Central Learn more and get your ticket >>>https://www.eventbrite.com/e/182608967337 We are going to dive deep into the key mindset shifts you need to confidently navigate your kids relationships with each other. And you will add critical tools to your toolbox that will help them take ownership of their relationship and start solving their own problems so that you can stop feeling like a referee or hall monitor. The workshop is happening on: October 21st, @11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) November 4th, @ 11am Central/12pm Eastern (90 min with Q&A) Find the time in your area. You can get all the details and sign up now at authenticparenting.com/siblings There is a 10% discount for patrons of of the Authentic Parenting podcast. If you are supporting the show on Patreon.com then you will receive a special code. We hope to see you there! You don't want to miss this opportunity to sit down and pick our brains on this complex topic. If you can't make it LIVE, the replays will be sent to you. Get Your Ticket Now See you on the inside! If you have questions, please contact us. BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Did you know that when we name our feelings the activity in the amygdala decreases? My guest Sarah Peyton and I start today's conversation with this topic. She mentions Matthew Liberman's research She talks about the panic-grief circuit of the mammalian brain and explains the phenomenon of alarmed aloneness. Why she prefers the expression alarmed loneliness as opposed to separation anxiety and abandonment Some key points: The signs of alarmed aloneness Unconscious contracts what we make with ourselves and how can we release ourselves from those harmful agreements and live freely, The hippocampus and the amygdala in forming traumatic memories How do we show up for other people who show us that they need accompaniment? Of course our tendency is to offer advice and solutions. We all yearn for accompaniment, attunement, resonance. The difference between empathy and resonance Sarah's first book, Your Resonant Self, includes the foundational neuroscience concepts and client stories that help the reader pave a resonant practice path to self-compassion. Your Resonant Self Workbook builds onto the first book by adding the neuroscience of unconscious contracts, which supports an even deeper movement into self-warmth. GET HER BOOKS Your Resonant Self Your Resonant Self Workbook BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

The mother-daughter relationship is one of the most important—and complicated in the lives of most adult women. Helping my patients understand their mothers has helped me become familiar with parts of myself - and my mother - I might have never known if not for the stories I've heard, says Judith Rabinor, PhD, We don't choose our mothers but as an adult you always have an opportunity to choose new pathways. It's never too late to let go of frustrated expectations and celebrate the connection you might have thought was doomed to disappointment and hurt. Your mother is the most important woman you have ever known. I'd love to suggest some books that I have found helpful: Motherless Daughters: The legacy of loss by Hope Edelman Motherless Mothers: How mother loss shapes the parents we become by Hope Edelman The Emotionally Absent Mother,: How to Recognize and Heal the Invisible Effects of Childhood Emotional Neglect The Drama of the Gifted Child by Alice Miller Mothers Who Can't Love by Susan Forward GET HER BOOK The Girl in The Red Boots: Making Peace with My Mother BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Stress is part of life. When stress becomes too intense, too much and too frequent it overwhelms our nervous system, and awakens stress imprints from our past and we lose the ability to effectively recover from it. And for the past year-and-a-half we have been all pushed to our limits and stress and overwhelm have been ever more present in our lives. With stress activation unhealed and unprocessed, we can go through life almost on autopilot. Listen to this fantastic conversation as Rebekkah LaDyne talks about developing mind-body tools for stress resilience. Key Points: How parenting is an emotional experience and can place tremendous stress on our mind and body, especially if we have trauma history How there is beginning, middle and end to stress and how we often don't allow ourselves to experience the end, and new stresses over lapse causing more overwhelm How we can develop resilience by daily mind-body practices and there is no quick fix Why the key to well-being and resilience lies in befriending our body OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENHOY 194 The Dark Side of Motherhood 281 The Power of Self-Regulation 227 Moving Beyond Trauma with Illene Smith 203: Discovering Wholeness and Healing after Trauma with James Gordon, MD 147: What Does Self-Care Really Mean? 113 Signs of Childhood Trauma in Adults This episode is brought to you by Athletic Greens, the most comprehensive daily nutritional supplement. Check out the special offer for the listeners of the podcast athleticgreens.com/authenticparenting GET HER BOOK Mind-Body Stress Reset by Rebekkah LaDyne BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Have you ever considered looking into astrology for parenting advice or insight? How can learning about your child's horoscope guide you in terms of education, discipline, extracurricular activities, understanding their personality, how to support them, sleep and waking, technology, Briana Saussy, teacher, spiritual counselor, and ritualist says that astrology can give us flexible, playful and more profound information that other schematics and typologies and it can support parents with new insights into their children. What stories do the stars tell about our children? Every person alive is born under a particular snapshot of the celestial relationships occurring at the time of their birth. The picture known as a natal chart offers a powerful tool for inside into your children's strengths, struggles, hopes and dreams. Get her Book Star Child: Joyful Parenting Through Astrology BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Leslie Pirscilla, founder of Latinx Parenting on how reparenting ourselves is important in breaking the cycles of inter generational trauma. We talked about ending the chancla culture-the power over way of raising kids. How forgiveness is possible for ourselves and for others. How non-punitive parenting while not easy but IS possible and any parent can learn to practice it. About Latinx Parenting Latinx Parenting is a bilingual organization rooted in children's rights, social and racial justice and antiracism, the individual and collective practice of nonviolence and reparenting, intergenerational and ancestral healing, and the active decolonization of oppressive practices in our families. OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY 165: Breaking Free from Old Stories 283: The Hard Truth About Parenting The Conscious Way 281: The Power of Self-Regulation 122: Stop Hurting Kids In the Name of Discipline 269: Forgiveness with Fred Luskin DOWNLOAD THIS FREE GUIDE Spanking: 15 Reasons Why Its Wrong BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com

Communication in general is hard. Communication with kids is even harder. What do you say to your kids when you want to motivate them, get them to listen and cooperate without resorting to begging, scolding, lecturing, ordering, and threatening? Authors of the fantastic book The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives Ned Johnson and Dr. William Stixrud are on the show today to talk about their new book: What Do You Say:How to talk to kids to build motivation, stress tolerance and a happy home. OTHER EPISODES YOU MAY ENJOY Ep. 251: How To Raise a Self-Driven Child with Dr. Stixrud Ep. 260: Parenting with Presence with Dr. Dan Siegel Ep. 278.:What Kids Need Most From You with Anna Seewald Ep.238: The Secret to Getting Kids to Listen and Cooperate Ep. 167: (Coaching) How to Curb Back-Talk, Teach Respect and Responsibility without Punishments BECOME A SUPPORTER OF THE SHOW 1. With your support we can continue the production of the podcast uninterruptedly. You can choose a level of support on Patreon.com by becoming a patron. 2. One time donations are also deeply appreciated. Give from the heart now. FULL SHOW NOTES www.authenticparenting.com/podcast ABOUT ME I help overwhelmed, frustrated parents who want to parent differently than their parents, make sense of their early childhood experiences, connect to their authentic self and their children on a deeper level, reduce stress, bring more ease, calm and joy into their lives by yelling less, and practicing non-punitive discipline. WORK WITH ME Listeners of the podcast get 10% on my coaching services. I would be thrilled to support you in your parenting journey! Click here to get started with my Introductory (3 Sessions) Package or REAL Change Package - 6 Private Coaching Sessions-worldwide! :) Court-Ordered Parenting Classes (in person NJ, NY,and PA residents only) YOUR FEEDBACK IS VALUABLE! Do you have a comment, question, or a takeaway about this episode or the podcast in general? USA listeners call 732-763-2576 right now and leave a voicemail. International listeners use the FREE Speak Pipe tool on my website. Add your voice. It matters! Email: [email protected] SUBMIT YOUR PARENTING QUESTIONS TO BE ANSWERED IN THE SHOW: Voicemail: 732-763-2576 Speak Pipe for sending audio messages Email: [email protected] CONNECT WITH ME ON SOCIAL MEDIA Authentic Parenting on Facebook Instagram NEED PARENTING SUPPORT? Join the Authentic Parenting FREE online community Thanks for listening! With gratitude, Anna Seewald, M.Ed, M.Psy Parent Educator, Keynote Speaker, Author www.authenticparenting.com