You Make Sense

In this episode, Sarah breaks down the origins of idealization and infatuation, showing how these patterns are rooted in unresolved experiences and protective strategies. She explains why infatuation is not love, but a survival response that pulls you out of your adult self and into fantasy. Sarah shares what it takes to shift these dynamics through reparenting and parts work, so you can move from survival-based patterns into grounded, mutual connection. Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction [00:42] Why you idealize partners and become infatuated [04:28] How your threat detector drives attraction [08:03] The internal dynamics of “pedestal” relationships [11:03] Origins of idealization: fantasizing as a way to escape and self-protect [14:11] What infatuation feels like (and why it’s not love) [22:39] Reparenting, parts work, and accessing “adult you” in relationships [25:51] What healthy love looks like [29:35] Asking yourself what you’re actually looking for [31:15] Other areas where we put people on a pedestal (and learning to love yourself) [34:06] Question 1 - What is limerence in relationships, and why does it happen? [38:03] Question 2 - How do I stay authentic around people I admire without belittling myself? [43:16] Question 3 - What's the difference between narcissism and an avoidant attachment? Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program: Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing: https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook: Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “Our system is essentially saying: If I can be chosen by the best person, or the most perfect person, or the shiniest penny, then maybe that means I’m lovable.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:38] “[Idealization and infatuation] occurs when we've had a younger part of us who wasn't chosen, who was abandoned, or who experienced love from a conditional place.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:54] “Someone who has done their work and is healthy in a relationship—they don't want to be put on a pedestal. Because when you're put on a pedestal, you are not actually seen and known.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:39] “Adult love is not infatuation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:46] “When you actually love from Adult you, you are deeply able to take in the wholeness of that person.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:27]

Perceiving danger when we’re actually safe is one of the most prominent drivers of human suffering and the reason many of us are chronically dysregulated. Sarah will walk you through how to create internal safety by harnessing the power of your nervous system and discharging stored trauma, so the past can finally be resolved. Listen in to discover how to work with your nervous system to begin building the life you want. Episode Highlights: keep them short and to the point [00:00] Introduction [02:04] Experiencing regulation through safety [05:06] How unresolved trauma creates a lack of safety [12:53] Examples of over-coupling and what it means [17:24] Showing your nervous system that it’s safe [21:06] How childhood experiences affect romantic partnerships [26:38] A spiritual view of the freedom regulation brings [32:39] The antidote to lacking internal safety [37:13] Question 1 – When do I know if I should leave an overwhelming work situation? [47:54] Questions 2 – How can I make my home feel safe after a traumatic experience? [59:08] Questions 3 – Is it possible to feel safe during big life upheavals like divorce or betrayal? NOW ENROLLING — Join Sarah’s 10-Week Program: Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Click below to join before the doors close on April 14th.https://bit.ly/sp-yms Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz: Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “The experience of time becomes stunted when we experience those traumatic things, and it’s almost as if that experience is lodged in that moment in time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:46] “Trauma is not a thing of the past, everyone. And overwhelming things aren’t a thing of the past either. They’re a thing of the perpetual present until they are resolved.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:40] “The language of the nervous system is show, not tell.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:47] “Anything that is not resolved from your earliest childhood experiences will be projected onto your adult romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:48]

Sarah walks through the foundations of somatic parts work, including the importance of nervous system regulation, differentiating from our parts, and anchoring into adult self. When we’re able to meet these young parts with empathy, safety, and genuine love, the protective roles you’ve likely carried for years can finally begin to soften. Listen in to discover why falling in love with your parts is a powerful path toward lasting healing. Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction [01:03] Focusing on the root issue, not symptoms [05:35] Tending to your parts without an agenda [12:53] An overview of parts work [16:17] How to differentiate from your parts [18:01] Getting to know your parts and falling in love with them [20:16] Unburdening protective parts from their role [24:30] Self-like parts and why they sound like adult you [29:27] Question 1 - What if I’m too anxious to have children? [34:55] Question 2 - Can I heal my nervous system while playing a new sport? [39:12] Question 3 - Why do physical symptoms return during trauma healing? [44:17] Question 4 - Why can I orgasm alone but not with a partner? RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training: Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a FREE, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience. Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time): https://bit.ly/sp-nssk Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook: Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “If you try to continually treat symptoms without getting to what's underneath it, the symptom will just continue to arise.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:30] “The issue here is not that symptom, it's the protective part of you or the vulnerable part of you, [who] is suffering and struggling and doesn't feel that they are safe.” Sarah Baldwin [0:03:10] “In order to effectively do parts work, you have to be in the driver's seat of your nervous system. Not all the time, but you have to be able to access adult you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:42] “By differentiating from our parts, we can fall in love with them. And that is the foundation of parts work. It doesn't work if you don't fall in love with these versions of you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:17] “Love is the most powerful tool. It's the most powerful weapon that there is, and it is stronger than anything else.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:19] “My deepest wish for you isn't that those symptoms go away. My deepest wish for you is that you fall so deeply in love with these parts, that you set them free and that you see who you are as the parent to them, which is a miraculous, amazing being.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:21] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Join the Waitlist for You Make Sense

In this episode, Sarah explains why we choose partners who poke at what still needs to be resolved. She breaks down how we unknowingly hold each other accountable for pain from the past, why conflict intensifies as love grows, and how to shift from opposing sides to the same team. When you understand what is actually happening in your nervous system, relationship struggles become an invitation to deeper repair and lasting connection. Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction [00:40] What it really means to become a team with our partner [01:53] Why early-stage relationships often feel easier [04:51] How the nervous system begins linking your partner to family [05:49] Ways we hold partners accountable for pain they did not cause [07:11] Relationship conflict is not always a sign that something is wrong [07:57] Why safe, loving relationships can feel threatening [12:55] How we end up on different teams [14:22] Healing the last 20% of unresolved wounds inside partnership [19:24] Why you marry your unfinished business [22:26] From swords of protection to swords of love [28:42] Pausing when triggered and turning toward younger parts [30:59] Advocating for younger parts and inviting your partner into repair [33:45] Question 1 - Is feeling guilt about sharing relationship struggles a trauma response? [43:44] Question 2 - How do I process ending a relationship driven by my protective parts? [54:45] Question 3 - How do I let go of fantasy and reconnect with my spouse? RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training: Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a FREE, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience. Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time): https://bit.ly/sp-nssk Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz: Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on: Email Community bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “Once we've done enough internal healing, we draw in a safe person, and you have to build your capacity for receiving the good.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:11:11] “Neuroscience confirms it for us that we are traveling [in] time anytime we're triggered, and in healing, what we're doing is we're becoming the warrior for the parts of us that are waiting for that resolution.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:17:36] “[Relationships are] supposed to be the fertile ground where together we can heal up the last 20% of both of our wounding. And that is a beautiful love story. That is what love is supposed to be.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:21:43] “The work that we're doing is about looking within, not pointing the finger out. So when I was able to do that, look within, that clued me into all this is hurting part, and without him poking at it, I would never be able to address that part.” — Sarah Baldwin [00:30:10] “What's not talked about enough is what actually happens in relationships. And because it's not talked about enough, we think that there's something very, very wrong; that we're struggling or having a problem in our relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:00:36] “Every unresolved thing from your childhood attachment gets resolved in relationship. So the more that we can see we're not alone and normalize this, the more that we stop avoiding it in our relationships, and we can actually address it.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:00:49] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Join the Waitlist for You Make Sense

This conversation unpacks why relationships feel so exposing, why discomfort isn’t a sign that something is wrong, and how true healing happens first within you. You’ll learn why feeling ‘unknown’ is often a protective strategy, how parts of you get siloed to survive connection, and how the gentle integration of your protective parts creates secure, intimate relationships. Sarah touches on powerful therapeutic tools that will help you to show up as your most authentic self. Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction [02:28] How nature embodies its wholeness [06:06] The feeling of being unknown in relationships [11:32] Why the nervous system silos us [13:05] How our caregivers pass on their unresolved trauma [18:20] The nervous system’s reaction to being contorted by caregivers [21:06] How siloing yourself disconnects you from who you are [23:36] Why romantic relationships are the hardest place to be ‘all of you’ [26:03] What getting into a safe relationship after trauma looks like [30:11] Leaning into the discomfort of growth [33:23] How to integrate your siloed parts in your romantic relationship [37:19] Healing within relationships and the power of interdependence [42:56] Why the healing process is the greatest love story [44:16] Question 1 – Why do I feel safer being myself with friends than with my partner? [50:00] Question 2 – Why do I struggle with rejection in romantic relationships? [55:13] Question 3 – How can I handle difficult and traumatic experiences somatically? Join the 3-Day Expansion Experience: Ready to get unstuck and break through stagnancy? Expansion Experience is packed with tangible, science-backed tools to help you manifest the life you want. Join Sarah for three live mornings of guided calls, somatic exercises, and daily integration worksheets. RSVP now for only $37: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-ee Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook: Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “The really cool thing about the nervous system – [is] that it functions without you having to do much or think about much.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:51] “If I silo myself, what happens is [that] no one gets to know all of me. And that means that if they hurt me or if they abandon me or they choose not to be my partner, it will never feel the same as the excruciating pain of being a baby who’s not chosen.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:19:03] “In many ways, healing is coming back to this beautiful, embodied experience of what it is like to have that child-like wonder and innocence.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:16] “Romantic relationships are the hardest place to be all of you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:53] “If you are with a safe person [who] loves you, they want to see you, they want to see more of you. Because that’s what safe, loving people do.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:38] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode: Join the Waitlist for You Make Sense [YouTube] Join the Waitlist for You Make Sense [Spotify] Join the Waitlist for Nervous System Essentials [YouTube] Join the Waitlist for Nervous System Essentials [Spotify]

Through a grounded, somatic lens, Sarah explores how regulation expands our capacity, why safety must be communicated in a language your nervous system understands, and how slow, tolerable steps retrain your system to tangibly move toward your desires. If you’re ready to stop forcing change and start living the life meant for you, this conversation offers a practical path forward that is backed by science. Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction [00:58] The science of manifestation and rewiring for possibility [02:37] Chronic dysregulation can block manifestation [06:38] Regulation is the key to unlocking the life you desire [10:36] Why you can fantasize safely but struggle to take action [16:07] The hardest thing to step towards is often the thing you want most [21:24] Who is in the driver’s seat of your nervous system? [23:39] Roads of safety, familiarity, and deepest desires [30:29] Why affirmations and vision boards fail without somatic work [32:20] Show, not tell is the language of the nervous system [37:20] Working with your protective parts [38:58] Building capacity through slow, tolerable steps [43:49] Manifestation as incremental nervous system expansion [45:59] Question 1 - Why do I keep attracting unavailable or unsafe partners? [01:00:40] Question 2 - How do I feel safe being seen in my purpose? [01:07:29] Question 3 - Why doesn’t money seem to stick, even when I work hard? Join the 3-Day Expansion Experience: Ready to get unstuck and break through stagnancy? Expansion Experience is packed with tangible, science-backed tools to help you manifest the life you want. Join Sarah for three live mornings of guided calls, somatic exercises, and daily integration worksheets. RSVP now for only $37: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-ee Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook: Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “If you are chronically dysregulated, there is no amount of desire or praying or meditating or positive thinking that's ever going to create the life that you're wanting.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:41] “The things that you want the most in life, the things that you're desiring to manifest the most, usually, are going to be the hardest things to step towards in your life.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:15] “The language of the nervous system is show, not tell, or somatics, you can think ‘the felt sense.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:34:33] “When you are in safety, your nervous system rests. And if a nervous system can work very hard, it most certainly can rest. We just have to show [our nervous system] that it is safe to rest.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:56] “Everything we're talking about is based in science. So, if you want to manifest, you have to use science. And the more that I've done this work, personally and professionally, [I’ve seen] the overlap of science and spirituality. They're best buddies.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:36:43] “You know [that] you're onto something when it's the hardest thing to step towards.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:01:07] “The desire of your soul is meant for you. It's your healing that gets you there.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:06:16]

In this episode, Sarah explains how unhealthy shame forms, why unresolved anger resurfaces in safe relationships, and how we unknowingly build our lives around avoiding what once felt intolerable. She breaks down what it truly means to complete the stress response by building regulation, reconnecting with younger parts, and allowing the body to express the appropriate response it once inhibited. When the stress cycle is resolved, the lie of unworthiness dissolves. What remains is your innate capacity for strength and self-trust. Episode Highlights: [00:00] Introduction [01:16] Shame, anger, and unworthiness [04:57] Protective strategies we use to avoid shame and unworthiness [06:34] How “I am not enough” gets internalized in childhood [11:48] Shame as the internalization of trauma [13:45] Healthy shame versus unhealthy shame [22:52] How unresolved shame distorts your reactions [25:13] Healthy anger versus unhealthy anger [28:17] Why suppressed anger resurfaces in safe relationships [30:27] Key steps to resolving shame [33:53] Completing the incomplete experience [41:42] Question 1 - Why does rage from past assault still feel stuck in my body? [48:13] Question 2 - How do I know when a trauma cycle is truly complete? [52:50] Question 3 - Why does setting boundaries make me feel unloving? [57:00] Question 4 - What is the healthiest way to release anger toward my family? Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program: Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing: https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook: Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on: Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletter Instagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoaching Website — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question: sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes: “We have a primal human need for our caregivers, who brought us into the world, to love us, to choose us, and when they don't, it feels to that child like annihilation. Annihilation is worse than death. It feels like a fragmenting of us in a million pieces.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:04] “Shame is the internalization of what happened to us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:54] “What does the internalization mean? It means I am taking the thing that they are projecting at me, and I am putting it, effectively, inside of my own body.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:19] “The meaning that I make is not that this thing that happens to me is bad, this abuse is bad, or this neglect is bad, or your criticism is bad; [it’s that] I’m bad. That's the meaning that is made from internalization.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:31] “We need to bring regulation to our nervous system. That's always the beginning of everything. Why? Because we have to build our capacity to hold the shame that was once too much for us to hold.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:42] “When we love our parts, we fall in love with them, that lie of unworthiness dissolves, and all that's left is what is actually true, that we are worthy and good and whole.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:01]

She explains how childhood roles such as becoming invisible, emotionally self-reliant, or overly responsible don’t just affect behavior; they shape attraction itself, quietly guiding who we choose and the dynamics we recreate. When these internal blueprints remain unchanged, relationships tend to repeat familiar dynamics rather than support true closeness. This conversation offers a grounded look at why feeling unseen persists in love and what it takes to change the pattern at its root. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:46] Why no single partner can meet every need[04:23] The importance of fullness of relationships beyond romantic partnership[07:46] Childhood experiences as the blueprint for adult relationships[09:01] The nervous system as the driver of attraction and partner selection[10:54] Early relational roles learned to maintain safety within the family system[12:30] How childhood invisibility becomes the script for adult relationships[19:19] Why insight alone does not change relational patterns[21:30] Rewriting the internal blueprint through reparenting younger parts[29:27] What healthy relationships require once healing begins[35:45] Loneliness, grief, and outgrowing familiar relational dynamics[38:39] Question 1 - How does childhood neglect lead to emotional emptiness?[44:55] Question 2 - Why do I keep feeling drawn to partners who are bad for me?[48:53] Question 3 - Why can healing feel lonely as relationships change? Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“We need a variety of people in our lives to feel fully seen and fully known.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:23]“The goal is that, whomever you choose as your life partner, that they have the ability to meet your primary needs, and [that] they want to meet them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:56]“Our childhood experiences lay the blueprint for how we experience romantic relationships and how we show up in them, meaning what we think we have to be or what we have to do in order to be safe in relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:54]“However your caregivers showed up with you, that is going to be the type of person that you pick in romantic relationship, until you do the internal healing work.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:12]“If you're not in the driver's seat of your nervous system, if you haven't done stuff to resolve the past, do you know who's actually picking your relationships? Your nervous system. That threat detector and your parts are picking.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:07]“You are powerful. You are not powerless. – But that young part that is stuck back in that experience, they were powerless, they were a victim. And your job is to travel back to them and give them what they never got. That is really empowering.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:40]“When I say healthy, it doesn't mean your partner's perfect. It doesn't mean that they are getting everything right. It means that they're willing and safe. That's really all we need. Somebody who's willing and safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:57]“In healing, you can't unsee what you see. You can't unknow what you know. And so as you see more the beauty of it, you can't unsee it, meaning you can't go backwards. And that's when grief comes up.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:53:57]“You are transforming when you heal, not into anything new, but you're coming back into who you actually are.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:54:10] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Join the Waitlist for You Make SenseJoin the Waitlist for Nervous System Essentials

She introduces the concept of disconfirming experiences: small, embodied moments that gently teach the nervous system that the past is over and we’re free to embody a more full, expansive life. Through key nervous system tools and somatic principles, Sarah explores how safety is rebuilt and how freedom becomes possible as the body is shown, again and again, that it no longer has to protect in the same ways. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:50] Why healing requires lived experience, not just understanding[06:30] Your nervous system holds the blueprint for how you navigate life[10:25] Unresolved experiences live in the body, not the prefrontal cortex[14:07] Using disconfirming experiences to teach your nervous system safety[22:14] How healing expands your capacity to receive[27:05] Becoming best friends with your autonomic nervous system[33:16] Aligning growth and healing with the season of life you’re in[37:54] How disconfirming experiences differ from exposure therapy[42:16] Question 1 - Why do I still feel dysregulated after years of nervous system work?[45:33] Question 2 - Why am I attracting unsafe or unsupportive partners?[51:46] Question 3 - How do I process trapped energy using somatic practices? Get Started with Nervous System Regulation:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand-new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life. Join the course for only $67: bit.ly/sp-nse Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“All of the hard things we experienced in our lives were not things we read in a book. They were lived experiences. So, do you know what that means? In order to heal the past, we have to have lived experience.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:51]“Only when we are in our state of regulation do we have full access to our prefrontal cortex and reason, logic, and rationalization. So did you know that when you experience hard things or traumatic things, you are not in your ventral vagal complex, or state of regulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:52]“It is not physiologically possible to resolve hard things and traumatic things when we experienced them in our bodies in the first place. We can't resolve them through talking them out.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:12:54]“A disconfirming experience is where we show, not tell, our nervous system and our younger parts, that the things that were once dangerous are safe for us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:38]“Your autonomic nervous system is the best friend you never knew you had. – Because what neuroscience shows us is [that] this nervous system, it has never left your side. It has never stopped working for you. It will do everything in its power to make sure that you stay safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:57] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Join the You Make Sense Waitlist – https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/you-make-sense-waitlist

She goes on to explain the differences between codependency, enmeshment, attunement, and interdependence. Sarah also discusses how fear of conflict can lead to self-abandonment, what it takes to feel safe during moments of disconnection or disagreement, and how to support children through distress in ways that build resilience. Tune in to better understand your relational patterns and learn how reclaiming a sense of self supports healthier, more sustainable relationships. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:23] Today’s topic: how not to lose yourself in a relationship[04:53] How childhood experiences shape our adult lives[08:39] What does it mean to have a codependent part?[11:48] Why your primary needs are essential and how to build capacity for them[15:10] How caretaking can create a false sense of safety[16:58] Signs you might be in a codependent dynamic[19:16] Other protective parts of codependency: the rescuer[22:13] Avoidance can show up in the form of caretaking[23:24] Diffuse boundaries and how they also impact parenting[26:41] The ramifications of and antidote to survival-based relationships[32:13] Characteristics of a healthy relationship[33:51] How to step toward interdependence[39:05] Question 1 - The difference between codependency, enmeshment, and attunement.[49:12] Question 2 - How to overcome the fear of conflict[58:08] Question 3 - Supporting a child through distress or challenging situations Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.Click the link below to download:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“The thing that reminds your nervous system the most of [a] romantic relationship is your earliest childhood experiences. That lays the blueprint, or foundation, or map for how you had to navigate relationships.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:22]“You cannot rescue anybody else. Only they, their adult self, can rescue the younger parts of [themselves].” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:43]“The amount of hard you experience in your childhood relationally is going to be reflected in the amount of hard that needs to get resolved in your romantic partnership.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:35:39]“If you want to avoid burnout, if you want to avoid getting overwhelmed by your client load and the work that you do, it is very important that you are functioning not from a place of codependency but interdependence.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:47:26]

Limiting beliefs are often not representative of who you are today but are self-protective mechanisms that formed as a result of past traumas or experiences. The good news is that it’s absolutely possible to shift this! Sarah will guide you through how to anchor into regulation and your adult self so that you can find more ease, peace, and confidence. Tune in for a somatic approach on how to change unwanted thought patterns. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:11] Origins of limiting beliefs[04:45] The 2 reasons limiting beliefs exist: unresolved trauma and fragmented parts[10:17] The stories your fragmented parts tell you and how they fuel your limiting beliefs[14:00] Why mindset work and traditional therapy alone can’t change your thoughts[15:03] The four states of your autonomic nervous system[20:32] How coming into a state of regulation changes limiting beliefs[24:15] Why you also need to work with your parts to change your thoughts[30:50] Question 1 - Understanding the link between your parts and nervous system[33:51] Question 2 - Why protective parts can block us from success[37:51] Question 3 - The connection between dreaming and your parts Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“Human beings clock something as true if we can feel it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:57]“I cannot believe something to be true if there isn’t the appropriate affect attached to it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:08]“Your autonomic state within your nervous system creates your story or the thoughts that you are having.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:14:33]“When you’re in regulation, this is the fertile ground for creating new neural pathways for what’s actually true [and for] positive thinking.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:01]

Learning how to heal through your living can feel challenging or unfamiliar, especially if we’ve primarily found safety inside therapeutic containers, but it is also a necessary part of fully embodying the life you are here to live. You’ll get tangible tools to step toward your desires, receive abundance without suffering, and find support as you continue to grow. Wherever you are on your healing journey, this episode will show you just how much is possible for you. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:25] Today’s topic: post-traumatic growth[03:45] Why you may struggle to navigate healing through living[11:46] Building your ‘house of healing’[14:59] What to expect as you start to live fully[21:26] Why suffering isn’t necessary to receive abundance[23:59] The importance of having support through healing[25:28] Question 1 - How do I take action once I know my truth?[29:24] Question 2 - Why has it been so challenging to start my business?[35:15] Question 3 - How do I tend to my parts as I take steps in my purpose? Get Started with Nervous System Regulation:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life. Join the course for only $67: bit.ly/sp-nse Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“A lot of our healing comes from our living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:01]“Good things don’t always feel good at first because our nervous system doesn’t know them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:40]“Transforming into anything new means a loss of something else. So, really [take] the time to be with that and not rush the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:06]“The depths of your suffering equate to the depths of aliveness you get to experience in life, and so, the deeper the suffering, when you heal that, the deeper the ecstasy of just breathing is.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:41]“Your learning was in and through [your] suffering, and now your learning is in your living.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:49] Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Join the Waitlist for You Make SenseJoin the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System

Sarah explains how romantic relationships poke at early our attachment wounding the most, often leaving us reacting from old survival patterns rather than responding to what is happening in the present. She introduces the metaphor of the relationship as a battlefield versus a garden, showing how conflict, blame, and shutdown arise when unresolved wounds take the lead, and what becomes possible when both people reorient toward growth, responsibility, and care.This episode invites listeners to see relationships as a shared, living process that can heal the past and support deeper connection when tended with awareness and willingness. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:30] The myth that romantic relationships should feel effortless[05:26] Moving from self-focus to being relationally-focused[07:46] The role of willingness and self-growth in partnerships[09:20] Tending the relationship as a shared garden instead of a battlefield[15:38] How the nervous system projects childhood experiences onto our partner[17:51] Why we are drawn to partners who mirror our unfinished business[22:46] How understanding our parts and reparenting them supports relational repair[27:49] Building empathy by recognizing our partner’s parts and core wounds[31:02] Honoring difference and celebrating stretching[40:23] What becomes possible in relationships when both people are willing[43:15] Question 1 - Differentiating anxiety from truth in romantic relationships[55:59] Question 2 - Working with longing, loneliness, and unmet needs for connection[01:02:14] Question 3 - Learning to approach connection slowly RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you.Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!):http://bit.ly/sp-live-trainingNavigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:Want to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis. Click below to learn more:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“Romantic relationships are where so much of our growth and healing happen, and that means that they aren't just filled with ease, they're filled with work.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:48]“Any garden can be transformed if both people are willing.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:13:33]“We marry our unfinished business, or we get into relationship with our unfinished business.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:28]“We are punishing our partner for everything our caregivers got wrong, and our partner wasn't there for any of it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:26:49]“The only person that can rescue your parts is you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:27:45]“Romantic relationships are supposed to be an invitation into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:39]“Our protective parts won't be open to letting us love again if they don't think that we can hold the aftermath of losing love.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:40]

In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how dysregulation can lead us to feeling behind in life or that we’ve missed our chance to have the relationships, purpose, and community we desire. You’ll learn about your three states of self-protection and why anchoring into regulation is the key to shifting how you experience time. By harnessing the power of your nervous system, it’s possible to move forward with more ease, patience, and empowerment. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:30] Understanding how we orient to time[02:37] Anchoring in regulation helps us perceive what’s actually true[06:30] Time from your sympathetic nervous system[12:35] Time from your dorsal vagal complex[14:24] Time from your blended state of freeze[14:55] Our experience of time when aligned vs. misaligned[21:31] Why we compare ourselves to others[28:55] Connecting to presence and the truth of our unfolding[31:15] Question 1: Muscling through versus getting out of your comfort zone[36:29] Question 2: How to start healing even when you’re in chronic stress[41:13] Question 3: Being patient while you are healing RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you. Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!): http://bit.ly/sp-live-training Download the FREE Workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-yt-workbookhttps://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“Our nervous system is creating our entire experience, including how [we] perceive the movement of time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:01:47]“None of us pick [the] right life when we are choosing from survival.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:08:33]“No one is on the path of life that you are on besides you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:33]“Living happens only in this moment in time, and that means it only happens when we’re in regulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:23:59] Other Links Mentioned in This Episode:https://programs.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/navigating-your-nervous-system

Sarah breaks down how the autonomic nervous system shapes your entire lived experience, using clear metaphors to explain why you may feel blocked from the relationships, purpose, and opportunities you long for. She shares why the nervous system responds to what you show it (somatically), not what you tell it, and how regulation helps create the internal conditions for growth and fulfillment.The episode closes with questions about finding purpose, knowing when to push versus pause, and navigating fear during big transitions. Join Sarah to learn how small, steady capacity-building steps can help you move toward the life you long for with more trust, clarity, and ease. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:11] Why effort and willpower alone aren’t enough[05:03] Your nervous system creates your entire experience[11:29] Healing unresolved experiences is how we create the life we desire[15:04] Why our deepest desires are often an invitation into our healing[20:47] The power of nervous system regulation[25:23] Simple ways to build the capacity in your nervous system[31:00] Using parts work to build trust with your younger parts[0:36:27] The importance of walking, and not sprinting, toward the life you want[0:43:06] Question 1: Tools for how to figure out your purpose[0:56:05] Question 2: Pushing through discomfort versus slowing down[1:03:03] Question 3: Consistent regulation during fear or uncertainty at work Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“No amount of energy, no amount of focus, of pushing, of grinding is going to get us the life we’re desiring. It can work to a degree, but we do reach a point where the fullness of life that we want cannot be found on that treadmill.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:02:46]“What we have to do is we have to learn to speak the language of our nervous system and begin letting it know in a way that it understands that the life we want is actually safe for us.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:16]“Your nervous system does not want to be working so hard. When you are in dysregulation, it is working very hard; it wants to rest. Resting is the doors opening, but it needs to know you're safe.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:29:33]“What we have to do is begin becoming the primary protector of our vulnerable parts.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:04]

She explores the difference between embodied boundaries and self-protective boundaries, which form as a result of unmet needs and misattunement in childhood. You’ll learn how to reconnect with your adult self, identify the protective parts that might be informing the way you set limits, and communicate your needs without reverting to old patterns.Through practical guidance and compassionate teaching, Sarah offers a path back to boundaries that reflect who we are now, not who we once had to be. Tune in to hear how a somatic approach can support healing, authenticity, and deeper connection! Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:10] Why family dynamics pull us back into younger roles[04:48] How early nervous system development shapes regulation[06:50] The importance of honoring a child’s boundaries[11:16] Ways that childhood boundary violations impact adult patterns[15:50] The 3 boundary styles: diffuse, rigid, and embodied[21:45] Learning to anchor in the adult self around family of origin[26:23] Preparing for resistance when shifting long-term dynamics[28:50] Working with protective parts who fear boundary setting[32:34] What to expect from internal and external resistance[37:06] Leading with the adult self when communicating boundaries[39:34] Applying embodied boundaries in family and holiday settings[42:27] Question 1: Staying regulated when younger parts panic[45:54] Question 2: Naming needs in relationships when anxious attachment shows up[51:24] Question 3: Navigating boundaries with unsafe or traumatic family systems Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download the workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“[Setting boundaries] is what allows us to navigate life as our authentic self. And this is also what allows us to navigate life in a way that gets our needs met in a multitude of ways. So it is really vital that we are able to come into this experience.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:10:40]“Even with loving parents, most of them did not know how to parent, and that meant that they didn't realize the imperative nature of honoring and validating your embodied boundary.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:27]“Whatever we need to do that makes it tolerable to set the boundary, that's what we want to focus on.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:29]“The more that you're doing parts work on a regular basis, the more these parts are going to trust you as you begin setting these boundaries. [It’s] really important that we're engaging in that regularly.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:36:55]“[When you’re] re-parenting [your parts], what actually happens is you become the parent they never had. You become their home internally. And now the parts are no longer looking for your caregivers to be their mom and dad.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:54:24]“Accessing our ability to set healthy boundaries is good. It is a gift for everyone. It's an invitation to them into their own healing, and it's not our business whether they take the invitation or not. So how do we do this? As always, one tolerable step at a time.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:58:39]

You’ll learn about the importance of consistency in reparenting your parts, why this process is about relationship-building, and how to find love for the protective parts of you that are often responsible for challenging behaviors or patterns. When you do this work, without having an agenda, it’s possible to feel self-love in a way that lasts and transforms every area of your life. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:12] You can’t “talk” yourself into self-love[05:00] An overview of Parts Work (Internal Family Systems)[12:37] An explanation of how to reparent your younger parts[19:15] The importance of building trust with your parts[21:39] Loving both your vulnerable and protective parts[35:31] The integration process and making your parts whole with you[38:26] Question 1: Deciphering if choices come from truth or trauma[49:33] Question 2: Parts work when you’ve disconnected from memories[56:51] Question 3: The root of being self-critical about our bodies Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will teach you how to regulate your nervous system and get into the driver’s seat of your experience, so that you can move through life with more ease, calm, and presence. Click below to learn more:bit.ly/sp-nseTake Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“We have to fall in love with all parts of ourselves; not just some of the parts of ourselves, all parts of ourselves.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:45]“Whatever part that you’re working [with] is going to need something really different.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:30:49]“We have to teach our parts what love is if they didn’t fully get to receive it.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:33:01]“Everything you feel is a truth to a version of you, it just might not be a truth to adult you.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:56]

Drawing on parts work and nervous system science, she explains how striving, control, burnout, micromanaging, and difficulty slowing down are often signs that old survival strategies are running the show. This episode will give you a tangible path toward embodied leadership, so that you can lead from your most authentic self and build more capacity for rest, joy, and fulfillment. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Introduction[01:05] Tackling the belief that success requires sacrificing a full life[03:10] Signs you are leading from dysregulation[05:59] What embodied, regulated leadership looks like[08:21] Why we might lead from dysregulation and protective parts[12:03] Key protective parts that might be running the show[18:02] How our nervous systems impact those around us[19:43] The power of nervous system regulation in leadership[22:04] Accessing your adult self as the foundation for change[24:15] Inviting protective parts into collaboration[26:52] Practical steps for rest, nourishment, and building capacity[29:52] Question 1: Staying regulated with dysregulated clients[36:00] Question 2: Working with parts that feel undeserving[42:06] Question 3: Understanding triggers around client cancellations Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“If you want the highest level of success as a leader, the state of your nervous system is the most important thing to focus on.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:00:43]“If you find yourself having a really imbalanced life, that is a clue that you're likely leading from dysregulation and protective parts.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:26]“When you're dysregulated, your full brain isn't working, which means you don't have access to [your] highest levels of creativity, critical thinking, and, of course, feeling good in your bodies. So the more regulated you are, the more regulated everybody around you becomes.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:13]“It is our thriving that allows others to thrive.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:39:05]“Every single person, I believe, is a leader in some particular way. – And the more you regulate your nervous system and reparent your parts, the more you lead from your wholeness, the more you help the world heal, and the more, most importantly, you enjoy the process.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:47:42]

She breaks down the core elements of intimacy, including vulnerability, presence, play, touch, and verbal connection, and shows how each one can become inhibited when childhood environments did not allow those needs to be expressed safely. This episode offers a compassionate, practical path forward by reconnecting with the walled-off parts of ourselves, taking small steps toward openness, and learning to differentiate past fears from present-day safety. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Intro[01:30] Intimacy as a primal human need[04:33] Why intimacy feels difficult and is rooted in early attachment[11:25] Siloing ourselves as a way to avoid the pain of being fully seen[17:56] Complaining, withdrawing, or avoiding as protector responses to vulnerability.[23:26] Intimacy is being fully ourselves and deeply witnessed[26:28] Key forms of intimacy and how childhood environments inhibit them[32:12] Your nervous system applies past experiences to adult relationships[34:00] Why we choose partners who mirror or caregiver’s traits[38:57] Reconnecting with walled-off parts to build inner intimacy[42:05] Taking small, tolerable steps toward intimacy with a safe partner[46:12] Seeing a partner’s inhibited intimacy with compassion[47:50] Question 1 - How our protectors misinterpret healthy partners as unsafe[1:00:03] Question 2 - Differentiating adult needs from younger parts seeking reassurance[1:10:46] Question 3 - Healing low sexual desire shaped by past trauma Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program. Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“If someone only gets 25% of me, or a portion of me, and then they choose they don't want me, or they don't want to be in my life, I can tolerate that because they haven't witnessed or experienced all of me.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:11:51]“The result of being siloed is that no one actually ever fully knows you. And one of the primary places that we will silo ourselves, or feel inhibited in being in our fullness, is [in] our romantic relationship.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:39]“Complaining is a form of self-protection.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:18:07]“The thing that we all want, perhaps the most, in a romantic relationship is to be deeply seen.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:36]“We all pick partners that mirror for us the good qualities of our childhood caregivers and also the not-so-good qualities of our childhood caregivers.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:34:02]“Sexual pleasure is simply the embodied practice of intimacy.” — Sarah Baldwin [01:15:40]

Sarah explains how experiences of chaos, misattunement, and trauma leave the nervous system feeling unsafe, and how control becomes a brilliant survival strategy. She delves into the more subtle versions of control that go unnoticed because they look “responsible” on the surface, and what is actually needed to begin relaxing your grip.She also explores how regulating the nervous system and connecting with our adult self changes our relationship to our homes, bodies, partners, work, and timelines, and why true surrender is never about “just let go,” but about having somewhere safe inside to land. Join Sarah for tangible tools to experience your life with more freedom and ease. Episode Highlights:[01:49] Everyday examples of control that often go unnoticed[04:13] Why lacking internal safety puts the nervous system into “autopilot”[06:19] Sarah’s personal story of over-achievement and OCD as forms of control[09:30] The link between controlling our environment and trying to manage internal chaos[12:00] Discover the obvious and subtle ways people try to self-control[14:15] How controlling behaviors show up in relationships[17:50] The ways in which we try to control our purpose[20:01] Tools to help you let go and actually surrender[28:00] Question 1 - Overcoming chaos as a new parent[34:15] Question 2 - Rescuing others as a means of avoidance[37:15] Question 3 - Health anxiety and the nervous system Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.Everyone on the waitlist receives access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlist Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take the FREE Quiz:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“The level of protection that [the nervous system] will do, in terms of controlling, will be dependent on the level of out of control we experience inside.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:06:33]“I cannot let go if I don’t have safety inside, so what we have to do is to create internal safety. We do this through regulation of our nervous system.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:20:39]“Your external world is a representation of your internal world.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:21:24]“We have to show, not tell, our nervous system and our protective parts that it is safe to let go. It is safe to surrender.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:22:37]

Drawing on attachment, parts work, and Polyvagal Theory, Sarah breaks down why romantic relationships often become the most powerful containers for our healing. She explores how conflict, rupture, and repair invite us to meet the last of our unresolved pain, differentiate old wounds from present-day needs, and open with vulnerability rather than protection. With practical guidance on regulation, communication, and navigating tough conversations, she shows how turning toward discomfort can deepen intimacy instead of threatening it.Listen in to learn how to make sense of these patterns and how healthy repair can become a pathway to more ease, authenticity, and connection in your relationships. Episode Highlights:[01:26] How deeper intimacy activates old attachment wounds[05:12] Why unresolved pain arises in our closest relationships[11:00] Romantic relationships are a container for healing and resolution[15:10] Why relationships feel easy at first and harder with closeness[17:12] What happens when conflict triggers a protective part[21:30] What healthy rupture and repair look like in childhood[24:31] Common protective responses like blaming or fawning[26:33] Why repair deepens intimacy and builds ease[30:11] What did rupture represent for you in childhood?[32:51] The ways many of us attempt to repair[36:40] Steps for healthy repair after rupture[42:50] Question 1 - Forgiving ourselves for past relational harm[48:27] Question 2 - The healing process in unsafe environments[53:19] Question 3 - The connection between Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you. Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Download the FREE workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Quotes:“In many ways, one of the biggest purposes of a romantic relationship is so that it can provide the conditions necessary for us to come into our wholeness.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:07:11]“If you're somebody that tends to jump from relationship to relationship, or from friendship to friendship when things get hard, thinking, ‘If I just find a friend who gets me more, if I just find a relationship that is more aligned,’ you’re going to be on that adventure forever.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:16:19]“When we can do this brave thing and go towards this experience of tough conversations and make it different, it brings the most beautiful healing to the past and a deepening of a relationship, and our system begins to see that ‘I can be all of me and still be loved.’” — Sarah Baldwin [0:28:20]“Your needs are not too much. Your partner's needs aren't too much.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:32:38]“You cannot repair when you're in dysregulation.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:38:05]“If we're in disconnection with someone we care about, what do we really want? We want to feel loved by them, and we want to love them.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:40:33]“Ruptures are a natural, normal part of relationships, and the outcome of a relationship has nothing to do with the amount of ruptures that you experience or arguments or fights. ” — Sarah Baldwin [0:41:48]

Real transformation begins not with willpower but with a felt sense of internal safety. Drawing on Polyvagal Theory, Somatic Experiencing, and Parts Work, Sarah shares tangible tools to help you shift from survival mode to genuine ease. Join Sarah to discover how regulation transforms not only your mindset but your entire lived experience, one safe, grounded moment at a time. Episode Highlights:[00:00] The connection between dysregulation and negativity[02:11] Understanding the six states of the nervous system[04:13] Why the nervous system is hardwired for survival[06:26] Neuroception and your orientation to the world[09:58] Your nervous system shapes your thinking[15:14] Working with your parts to find more ease and inner peace[25:44] Somatic tools to begin orienting toward the positive[35:45] Question 1: Understanding what regulation really means.[44:16] Question 2: Why feedback triggers negative responses.[52:34] Question 3: Healing the scarcity mindset surrounding money.Now Enrolling - Join Sarah’s 10-week Program:Enjoying the podcast and want to go even deeper into somatic healing? Sarah’s 10-week program, You Make Sense, will guide you through tangible tools to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Use code YMSPODCAST100 to claim $100 off for a limited time:https://bit.ly/sp-yms Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Take the FREE Quiz for More Somatic Tools:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Submit a Questionsarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“All human beings as a whole are negatively inclined creatures.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:04:14]“The more that we heal, the more our systems see that we are safe, and when it sees it is safe, we naturally begin [to] orient more towards the positive.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:09:28]“When you come into partnership, it is very common that the protective parts that we have, we project onto our partner.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:19:37]“Life is hard enough as it is. So, when we have all this unresolved stuff, like every human on the planet, it just makes life hard, and when we are just responding to what is, life is filled with so much more ease.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:51:08]“It is not biological for anything in nature to want to be meek. It wants to be the full expression of itself. Everything wants that.” — Sarah Baldwin [0:56:06]

You’ll learn why grief isn’t just about death or heartbreak; it’s woven into every transition we experience. Whether it’s aging, changing relationships, or healing from the pain of our childhood, Sarah offers a compassionate roadmap to help you meet your grief with safety, embodiment, and compassion.Episode Highlights[00:00] What grief really is, and why everything in nature experiences it[02:32] Why humans resist grief more than any other species[06:30] Our culture avoids endings and celebrates beginnings[08:22] The link between safety, surrender, and emotional processing[10:46] How grief shows up in everyday transitions (marriage, growth, aging)[17:30] Why unresolved trauma keeps us stuck in survival[25:25] How protective parts keep us from experiencing grief[31:47] Sarah’s story of losing her dog Jerry, and finding love through grief[34:54] Somatic steps to gently access your grief without overwhelm[37:33] How to titrate, pendulate, and discharge emotion safely[41:51] Question 1 - Grieving estrangement from our family of origin[45:37] Question 2 - How do I stop getting overwhelmed by grief?[50:10] Question 3 - The healing process and finding others on this journeyRSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a free, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-nsskSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-nsskConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comFree Quiz:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yms-yt-quizSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizQuotes:“So much of our suffering isn’t about grief itself, it’s about our resistance to grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:01:46]“The bigger the love, the bigger the grief. Great love means great grief.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:32:14]“Grief is aliveness. It is the result of your bravery in living and loving fully.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:34:23]

Do you find yourself using things to cope like doom scrolling, eating late at night, or drinking in excess? If so, you’re not alone. This episode unpacks the science behind why we numb and engage in “bad” habits. Whether it’s excessive social media, food, sex, alcohol, or work, these are all intelligent survival responses to unresolved trauma or pain.You’ll learn how to tell the difference between coping strategies and regulating resources, why you can’t just “stop” addictive behaviors, and the steps to begin bringing regulation to your nervous system. Sarah also shares her personal journey of healing from OCD, over-eating, and workaholism, proving that true freedom comes from befriending — not battling — your nervous system and protective parts.Episode Highlights[00:00] The truth about coping strategies, and why we all use them[02:11] The role trauma plays in our need to numb[03:12] Why shame perpetuates the coping cycle[05:27] How society normalizes certain numbing behaviors[09:29] You can’t just “stop” a coping behavior[10:52] Coping strategies from a Parts Work lens[15:54] Why battling your protective parts never works[21:04] How to replace coping with regulating resources[24:48] Question 1 - Why quitting smoking can feel worse before it feels better[30:24] Question 2 - Why does my addiction cause more dysregulation?[43:28] Question 3 - Am I using coffee to regulate or cope?RSVP for Sarah’s FREE Live Training:Ready to take the next step on your healing journey? Nervous System Starter Kit is a free, 75-minute live training to help you regulate your nervous system, understand your attachment style from a somatic lens, and get into the driver’s seat of your experience.Click below to save your spot (replay available for a limited time):YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-nsskSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-nsskConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comFree Quiz:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yms-yt-quizSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“You can’t battle a protector. They will always win because they love your vulnerable part too much to stop.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:14:14]“Forward doesn’t always look like forward in healing. Sometimes it looks like finally facing what’s been waiting to be held.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:29:47]

In this episode, Sarah breaks down the science of Parts Work and how trauma shapes the different “selves” we embody. You’ll learn why these parts develop, how to begin differentiating between the truth of a part and the truth of your adult self, and the steps necessary to finally resolve old wounds. This episode will empower you to find clarity within, build trust with your younger parts, and come home to the authentic you you’ve always been.Episode Highlights:[01:19 ] Why we feel like different versions of ourselves in different settings[03:40] What “Parts Work” means and how parts develop[06:00] How your nervous system reverts to old protective patterns[09:50] The difference between vulnerable and protective parts[11:10] Examples of protectors: achiever, fawner, caretaker, perfectionist[16:35] Somatic exercise: embodying your adult self[20:30] Recognizing truths from adult self vs. your parts[23:40] How romantic relationships trigger childhood parts[26:30] Why protectors often sabotage love and purpose[30:00] The beauty of becoming your own “internal archeologist”[33:30] How to identify your truth and stop oscillating between versions of self[40:00] The importance of marinating in your truth[43:012] Q&A - How can I learn to trust myself and know my truth?[49:157] Q&A - How do I overcoming abuse and self doubt?[55:501] Q&A - How can I know what is the “real me” and what is the traumatized me?[1:00:008] Q&A - How can I create deep and genuine conversations?Join the 3-day Expansion Experience:Ready to step into a bigger life? If you’re feeling stuck in any area of your life, the key to stepping toward your desires is learning how to work with your nervous system (rather than against it). Sarah is going to show you how to do exactly that inside her 3-day live experience for only $37.Click below to join the first call on October 27 (replays available for a limited time):https://bit.ly/yms-sp-eeDownload Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.Click the link below to download the workbook: https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbookConnect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.comSubmit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcastQuotes:“Anything you think or feel at any given moment is the truth to a part of you, it just might not be the truth to your adult self.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:40:40]“We end up living lives that our protective parts decided are safe for us, not the lives that are actually meant for us.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:47:21]“The life you are here to live is not meant to feel comfortable. It will stretch you, grow you, and invite you into healing.” - Sarah Baldwin [0:48:26]

Your nervous system creates your entire experience. Everything from your thoughts and feelings to your behaviors and perception of self, others, and the world around you are all determined by what’s happening in this self-protective system. In this episode, Sarah will guide you through the fundamentals of nervous system regulation and equip you with tangible somatic tools to help you gain control over your experience.Many traditional models of healing focus only on treating the “symptoms” — like anxiety, depression, stress, fear, burnout, or panic — rather than addressing the root cause. But much of our pain and stuckness is actually a result of unresolved trauma or chronic dysregulation. When you learn how to befriend your nervous system and gently walk it toward safety, it’s possible to feel better, move through the world with more ease, and step toward all that you desire. Episode Highlights:[00:25] Nervous system regulation is the foundation of all healing[02:00] Understanding your Autonomic Nervous System[07:44] What makes regulation so powerful and freeing[10:30] The symptoms of dysregulation[24:28] How we can regulate our nervous systems[29:04] What to expect as you come into regulation[34:35] Question 1: How to resolve anxiety through nervous system regulation[39:37] Question 2: The “expand and contract” experience of healing[42:25] Question 3: Why you might “freeze” or have a startle response[46:33] Question 4: Staying regulated in difficult work environments Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and a personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand new introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, is packed with science-backed tools to help regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease on a daily basis.Click below to join:bit.ly/sp-nse Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

So many of us use food as a strategy to numb, disconnect from our emotions, or even as a companion. So how do we heal this unhealthy relationship with food? Today on You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down how unresolved trauma and a dysregulated nervous system can impact the way you eat, your biological functions, and your overall sense of well-being.You’ll learn why you might have developed a difficult relationship with food, the role diets or restriction play in maintaining control, how intuitive eating can be inhibited by trauma, and more. If you’re ready to reconnect with your body and find more ease around eating, this episode will give you tangible science-backed tools to help you to transform your relationship to food and with yourself. [00:24] Today’s topic: how to have a healthy relationship with food[01:27] Why we develop unhealthy relationships with food[06:09] Food restriction and how it’s used for control[10:53] How being disembodied affects your food intuition[14:41] What food habits create a dysregulated nervous system[18:31] Fueling regulation and building a healthy relationship with food[35:00] Question 1: How blood sugar spikes affect your nervous system[36:45] Question 2: Combatting emotional eating by reparenting your young parts[41:01] Question 3: Anchoring in your adult self when working with younger parts Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Download Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment. Click the link below to download the workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What if the key to living more fully isn’t “fixing” yourself, but learning to meet every part of you with compassion? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how reparenting our younger parts helps us move from fragmentation back into wholeness. She explains the role of vulnerable parts, protective parts, and the adult self, and how trauma can leave those younger parts stuck in the perpetual pain of the past.Sarah shares practical steps for recognizing, differentiating, and building trust with these parts so they no longer run our lives from the shadows. From learning to anchor in your adult self, to showing up consistently for your inner child, to offering both softness and fierce protection, she outlines a tangible process of reparenting that paves the way for more freedom, safety, and authentic self-expression. Episode Highlights:[00:24] The importance of reparenting your younger parts[01:23] How trauma fragments us into vulnerable parts[05:38] The role of protectors in guarding against pain[08:14] Self vs. Self-like parts[11:55] Signs protectors are limiting your life[14:05] Reparenting your parts to end suffering and live fully[17:10] Anchoring in adult you through regulation[20:22] Differentiating Self from younger parts[22:30] Meeting, introducing, and building a relationship with your parts[27:26] Becoming the internal parent and safe home for your parts[31:05] Question 1: What you need to know about the age of your parts[38:12] Question 2: Overcoming resentment and anger after childhood trauma[52:53] Question 3: Why we might struggle with basic self-care Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Sexuality is a completely normal and inherent part of the human experience. However, many of us have learned to disconnect from our bodies, hide from our sexuality, or become oversexualized as a result of trauma or societal messaging. If you’ve struggled to feel fully alive in your sexuality, this episode will give you a tangible, step-by-step guide to help you come back into this embodied experience.You’ll learn two predominant reasons why we struggle with sexual intimacy, how culture and conditioning affect how we show up with others, and how childhood trauma impacts our adult romantic partnerships. Join Sarah for a conversation on pleasure, connection, and safety, and how qualities like embodiment, presence, and openness play a vital role in our sexuality, both with ourselves and with another person. Episode Highlight:[00:25] Human beings are inherently sexual beings[01:25] Sexuality has very little to do with the act of sex itself[02:50] 2 reasons we struggle to have the sexual aliveness we want[04:12] How society affects how we show up in our sexual life[09:10] Why it’s important to resolve trauma[10:50] How childhood trauma impacts adult sexual dynamics[18:00] What healthy sexuality requires of us[24:40] Parenting our parts to connect to our internal value[26:10] How we can begin stepping toward healthy sexuality[31:06] The importance of having agency[32:55] Being present in the natural unfolding[33:30] Ridding ourselves of the idea of it being a performative act[34:50] Sexuality should have an element of play[35:37] Question 1: How to fully explore yourself in moments of intimacy[40:40] Question 2: How to deal with past trauma that comes up during intimate moments[46:43] Question 3: Why we might use our sexuality to gain love Get on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more! Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:YouTube: https://bit.ly/yt-yms-waitlistSpotify/Apple Podcasts: https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlistFREE Workbook: How to Gain Control Over How You FeelEnjoying what you’ve heard so far and want to go deeper into somatic healing? “How to Gain Control Over How You Feel” is a free workbook packed with trauma-informed tools to help you get in the driver's seat of your experience and step toward your desires with more ease.Click below to download:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbook Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

We are all created with the ability to access both our inner masculine and feminine energies. These energies shape how we move through the world, but are not confined to gender or societal expectations. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down the science behind these polarities, how nature reveals that they’re universal and designed for survival, and why we all carry both within us.You’ll learn about what causes us to disconnect from one of these energies, how society distorts them from the moment you’re born, and why you might identify with one more than the other depending on the area of life. Sarah also unpacks how each of these energies plays out in romantic relationships and steps to begin leaning more into your true self. Finally, Rachel joins Sarah to answer questions from listeners that touch on healing protective parts, staying in the present, and joining instead of merging. Episode Highlights:[00:25] The science behind masculine and feminine energy[01:57] How nature teaches us that masculine and feminine energy are not gender specific[08:36] Why we all have both energetic qualities and how we oscillate between them[09:27] What causes us to disconnect from one of these energies[23:00] How to access both of these energetic qualities within ourselves[26:05] Leaning into feminine energy within a romantic relationship[29:17] Leaning into masculine energy within a romantic relationship[38:47] Question 1: Healing protective parts that refuse to let you receive help[52:23] Question 2: The power of orienting yourself to the present moment[1:01:47] Question 3: The concept of joining rather than mergingGet on the Waitlist for Sarah’s 10-Week Program:Ready for tools to heal every area of your life? You Make Sense is a 10-week live program that goes far beyond these weekly podcast episodes to give you powerful somatic exercises and resources to address your nervous system, relationships, younger parts, purpose, boundaries, grief, and more!Click below to get on the waitlist for limited-time reduced pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-yms-waitlist Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Feeling stuck in your life? Not sure where to start with somatic healing? Sarah’s free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck,” will equip you with free tools and personalized guide to better understand your nervous system specific to you.Click below to get started:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quiz Connect with Sarah on:Email Community: bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What if your chronic illness, pain, or fatigue is not random but a reflection of unresolved trauma stored in your body? In this episode, Sarah unpacks the powerful link between trauma, the nervous system, and physical health. Drawing on her own lived experience with autoimmune disease and chronic illness, she explains why time alone does not heal all, how unresolved experiences live on in our bodies, and why nervous system regulation is the most effective medicine.You’ll get tangible somatic tools for how to process unresolved trauma and emotions by doing what’s called “completing the incomplete experience,” along with steps for reconnecting with your body, validating your pain, and restoring safety and resilience to your system. Later in the episode, Sarah is joined by Rachel to answer listener questions about menstrual cycles, fertility struggles, and navigating chronic pain. Tune in for clarity, reassurance, and hope that healing is always possible. Episode Highlights:[0:00:00] The physical symptoms of trauma, chronic illness, and pain[0:01:25] An overview of trauma and how it overwhelms the nervous system[0:03:31] Learn about the process of ‘completing the incomplete experience’[0:08:41] How chronic dysregulation can lead to long-term illness[0:14:40] Sarah shares her story of autoimmune disease[0:18:52] Moment-to-moment psychosomatic symptoms and how they manifest[0:22:52] Anticipatory anxiety, its impacts, and the drivers behind burnout[0:27:16] Find out how recovery time is affected by chronic dysregulation[0:31:01] Practical steps to overcoming chronic pain and illness[0:39:32] Question 1: Why women tend to suffer more from autoimmune conditions[0:53:06] Question 2: How we become disconnected from our bodies and how to fix it[1:05:20] Question 3: Ways to overcome physical pain and discomfort Build a toolbox for regulation inside Nervous System Essentials:Ready to make tangible shifts in your life? Sarah’s brand NEW introductory course, Nervous System Essentials, will equip you with science-backed tools to regulate your nervous system, so that you can experience more freedom and ease in your daily life. And for a limited time, you can join for only $47!bit.ly/sp-nse Connect with Sarah on:Email Community: bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:How to Gain Control Over How You FeelUnderstanding Healthy Aggression and How Unprocessed Anger Becomes Internalized

Have you struggled with where to begin when looking for a therapist? Or maybe you’ve started working with a mental health professional, but you’re worried they might not be the best fit? Finding support is a vital part of healing, but it can often be a confusing or even daunting process. This episode of You Make Sense was created as a trauma-informed guide to help you know what to look for in a therapist or practitioner.Sarah explains the two most important qualities a professional needs to embody in order to support others. You’ll learn what truly sets a practitioner apart, the red flags that signal caution, and the qualities you should look for when selecting someone. Sarah reminds us how deeply complex healing work is and the importance of finding a practitioner who is trauma-trained. If you’re feeling lost when it comes to seeking support, this episode will empower you with the tools and knowledge to find the right person for you. Episode Highlights: keep them short and to the point[00:00] Healing starts with finding the right support[02:08] 2 things that make a practitioner good at what they do[07:33] Red flags to look out for in practitioners[21:23] The concept of energy wells and what it means[23:43] What to look for in a therapist or practitioner[36:55] Question 1: Knowing when you’ve hit your trauma vortex[42:58] Question 2: Tending to your nervous system in parts[47:07] Question 3: Plant medicine in therapeutic work RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you. Click below to save your spot (limited time replays available!):http://bit.ly/sp-live-training Navigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:Wanting to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis. Click below to learn more:bit.ly/sp-nyns Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Romantic love has a way of poking at our deepest wounding. Even when life feels steady elsewhere, intimacy can trigger reactions that don’t feel like our true selves. Sarah explains that this is often the work of our parts — younger versions of ourselves that carry past trauma and coping strategies — and that these parts can show up most strongly in our closest relationships.In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah explores how vulnerable, protective, and self-like parts shape the roles we play with partners, from caretaking to perfectionism. She shares how these patterns are often rooted in childhood experiences and why they can make intimacy feel both desirable and threatening. With somatic insights and practical tools, Sarah shows how to reparent younger parts, anchor into the adult self, and create relationships that feel authentic and safe. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Identifying the parts of us that show up in romantic relationships[01:41] How parts form through overwhelming or traumatic experiences[06:08] Why parts show up most strongly in romantic partnerships[09:51] Three categories of parts: vulnerable, protective, and self-like[10:48] How protective parts protect vulnerable parts[14:23] Self-like parts: how they mimic adult selves and feel rational[17:25] Learning to distinguish your adult self from younger parts[28:19] Tools to anchor into your adult self in relationships[29:50] Exercises to see your partner clearly and take in the good[34:21] The importance of reparenting your parts[34:51] How to repair after conflict and name adult vs. younger needs[37:48] Question 1: Working with caretaker protector parts in relationships[53:15] Question 2: Attraction challenges when seeing your partner’s child parts[01:08:07] Question 3: The role of your nervous system in letting go of long relationships RSVP to Sarah’s FREE Live Training + Q&A Series:Ready to take the next step with nervous system healing? Join Sarah for “Unlock the Life You Desire,” a 2-part somatic healing series to help you experience more joy and aliveness, and step toward the purpose that’s calling you. Click below to save your spot (limited-time replays available!):bit.ly/sp-live-training Navigating Your Nervous System is NOW ENROLLING:Wanting to work with Sarah in a live capacity? The doors are now open to her 6-week live program, Navigating Your Nervous System, designed to help you get into the driver’s seat of your experience and start feeling better on a daily basis. Click below to learn more:bit.ly/sp-nyns Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Have you ever been told you're "too nice" or found yourself saying "I'm fine" even when you're really not? For so many of us, anger can feel scary or wrong, like something we should push down or avoid entirely. But Sarah explains that there's a difference between healthy and unhealthy expressions of anger, and that healthy aggression—your natural ability to protect yourself and speak up when something isn't right—is actually essential for feeling safe and alive in your body.In this episode, Sarah explores why so many of us learned to inhibit this vital, life-force energy, often as a way to survive difficult experiences. If you've ever found yourself being chronically agreeable, struggling to set boundaries, or getting angry about small things while staying silent about the big ones, this episode is for you. You’ll learn gentle, somatic tools to reconnect with this protective energy so that you can access the full spectrum of who you are. Episode Highlights:00:30 Healthy Aggression10:45 Unhealthy Aggression17:23 Different Versions of Unhealthy Aggression21:19 What Happens When We Inhibit Healthy Aggression?24:58 How to Access Healthy Aggression38:06 Question #1 - How Do You Overcome Self-Hatred?47:15 Question #2 - Tending to a Younger Part’s Anger and Resentment56:36 Question #3 - Why Do I Get So Irritated with My Children?01:02:47 Question #4 - Releasing Stored Anger From the Jaw Join My Free Live Training + Q&A Series: Understanding how your nervous system works is the foundation for everything you want in life. If you're ready to start learning how to work with this incredible system inside you, I'm hosting a free live training series to help you expand your capacity for joy and step toward your purpose. RSVP for the two-part series: https://bit.ly/sp-live-training Connect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/ Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Have you ever struggled to build or maintain meaningful friendships, felt isolated despite doing the inner work, or wondered why community can feel so hard to create? In the final episode of the Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah explores one of the most essential yet misunderstood human needs – connection. You’ll learn how your attachment style and nervous system influence your ability to connect, and why experiences of trauma can lead to patterns of fawning, isolation, or forming unhealthy relationships. This episode will also equip you with tangible somatic tools to build your capacity for connection, recognize the types of relationships you desire, and begin cultivating community from a place of authenticity.Join Sarah to discover the power of creating internal safety and belonging to navigate social anxiety, shift inner dialogue, and find your chosen family. Episode Highlights:[00:00] Why community and safe connection are essential[01:46] How trauma impacts creating authentic connection[04:14] Sarah shares her experience of fawning and isolation[06:59] Masking, dysregulation, and misconceptions surrounding anxiety[10:34] What it means to be the ‘different one’ in your family or community[13:18] Attachment styles and how they influence connection[19:18] Examples of secure attachment and healthy connection[21:59] The healing journey and finding your chosen family[25:39] How to cultivate inner belonging and relational authenticity[28:48] Learn how to find and form the right connections for you[32:56] Reciprocity and the evolving nature of relationships[34:57] Question 1: Healing past relational wounds to form friendship and trust[41:14] Question 2: How to find an aligned community and build a chosen family[45:17] Question 3: Why it’s hard to reenter a community after healing Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more. bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System?Summer Somatic Reset: High-Performance Leadership Without Engaging in Hustle CultureSummer Somatic Reset: Healing the Scarcity Wound: A Nervous System Approach toTrauma & FinancesUnderstanding Social Anxiety: Are you Actually an Introvert/Extrovert or Is It Trauma?

Many of us carry deep-seated wounds of scarcity rooted in our early attachment patterns, and without realizing it, we continue to recreate those patterns in our adult lives. In this third episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah delves into the intricate relationship between trauma, finances, and the nervous system.Through the lens of attachment theory and nervous system regulation, Sarah unpacks how anxious, avoidant, and disorganized money attachments develop and how they influence our beliefs about worth, safety, and abundance. Learn how to identify your own patterns, understand the protective role your body has played, and how to begin cultivating a secure, embodied relationship with money.Want to effectively navigate financial anxiety, expand your capacity to receive, and embrace abundance? This is the episode for you! It’s not just a money conversation; it is a pathway to healing, wholeness, and freedom. Episode Highlights:[0:00:00] Today’s focus on money and abundance.[0:01:14] Where struggles around money might originate from.[0:07:49] Attachment theory and how it relates to finances.[0:11:53] How the body protects itself from anxious attachment around money.[0:17:05] Avoidant attachment and how it develops.[0:21:17] Examples of how the body copes with avoidant attachment.[0:23:32] What it looks like to have a disorganized attachment with money.[0:25:50] What a secure relationship with money looks like.[0:31:09] Reasons why people struggle with the concept of abundance.[0:33:00] How to create a healthy relationship with money.[0:41:20] Question 1: Overcoming the body’s conditioning to wealth.[1:00:14] Question 2: The impact of attachment style on relationships.[1:07:10] Question 3: How long will the healing journey take. Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast Links Mentioned in Today’s Episode:Summer Somatic Reset: Are They Wrong For Me? Or Is It My Nervous System?Summer Somatic Reset: High-Performance Leadership Without Engaging in Hustle Culture

In episode two of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah explores how high-performing leaders can shift from leading through scarcity and fear to embodying leadership rooted in safety and abundance. She unpacks the common traits of many high achievers, how the drive to succeed often stems from survival instincts formed in childhood, the toll this can take over time, and how parts work and nervous system regulation can pave the way for sustainable leadership.Through practical somatic tools and real-life examples, Sarah offers a path to more life-giving leadership rooted in nervous system regulation, nourishment, and the steady presence of your adult self. Whether you’re leading a company or your own healing journey, this episode will help you shift from striving to thriving so you can lead without sacrificing your wellbeing! Episode Highlights:[00:00] The journey to life-giving high-performance leadership[01:25] What it looks like to be a high achiever[06:01] How striving protective parts drive high achievers[12:44] What happens when protective parts become problematic[14:17] How constant striving adversely impacts ourselves and others[18:45] Learning to lead from our adult selves, not our younger parts[22:44] How to reparent our younger parts and retrain our nervous systems[25:45] The importance of prioritizing nourishment, even when it’s challenging[32:33] Other focus areas for high achievers, like learning to rely on others[35:26] Why people are drawn to regulated leaders[40:00] Question 1: Feeling in your power and not getting derailed[45:19] Question 2: Starting, running, and sustaining a successful business[50:54] Question 3: Navigating imposter syndrome from a somatic perspective Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live! All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.YouTube — bit.ly/yt-podcast-giveawayApple/Spotify — bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube) — bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify) — bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

In this first episode of the four-part Summer Somatic Reset series, Sarah unpacks one of the most common (and confusing) questions in relationships: Is this person wrong for me, or is it my nervous system? Sarah shares how attachment wounds, protective parts, and nervous system patterns shape our experience of love, and why good things don’t always feel good at first.Through guided practices and personal insights, Sarah invites you to explore how to differentiate between old protective patterns and present-day truth, empowering you to build relational capacity, deepen self-trust, and recognize what truly supports growth and connection. Episode Highlights:[00:00] The truth behind relationship confusion[01:43] Why good things often don’t feel good at first[03:59] Cultural myths that keep us stuck in romantic uncertainty[06:23] How neuroception links past wounding to present experience[10:05] The importance of building capacity inside a relationship[13:06] A guided practice to access your adult self and discern relationship truth[23:19] The mirror effect: How relationships reveal our growth edges[26:12] Recognizing when you’re in a protective part versus your adult self[30:35] What it feels like when a relationship is right (and why it may still feel uncomfortable)[35:23] When is a relationship wrong? Growth, safety, values, and relational polarity[41:59] Understanding boredom as a relational signal[44:49] Question 1: Building capacity and checking in with your truth daily[48:41] Question 2: Breaking patterns by giving your younger parts the love they lacked[51:49] Question 3: Reparenting our parts to build attraction and receive healthy love Enter the Summer Somatic Reset Giveaway:Looking for even more tools to transform your life? For a limited time, you can get a FREE 1-hour group call with Sarah for more resources to regulate your nervous system and a chance to ask her questions live!All you have to do is rate, review, and/or subscribe to claim your spot. Click below to learn more.bit.ly/sp-podcast-giveaway Connect with Sarah on:Email Community (YouTube): bit.ly/yms-yt-newsletterEmail Community (Apple/Spotify): bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram — instagram.com/sarahbcoachingWebsite — sarahbaldwincoaching.com Submit a Question:sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Many of us know what it feels like to be stuck, wanting to move forward in life but somehow unable to. This is often an indication we’re in freeze—one of the most misunderstood forms of nervous system dysregulation. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah breaks down the freeze response: what it is, why it happens, and how it shows up in everything from our relationships to our purpose.Freeze is not laziness or weakness, but a deeply adaptive survival response. Drawing on neuroscience and compassionate insight, Sarah offers powerful somatic tools to gently help you come out of dysregulation and into safety. If you’ve ever felt stuck in a loop of overthinking, avoidance, or self-doubt—this episode will give you a roadmap for stepping toward the life you desire.Episode Highlights:00:00 Intro00:24 Freeze & The Autonomic Nervous System03:25 Chronic Dysregulation Takes A Lot of Energy06:21 Characteristics of Freeze12:50 How We Experience Freeze In Our Relationships17:32 Tools to Heal Your Relationships22:44 How Younger Parts Show Up in Relationships25:08 How We Experience Freeze in Our Purpose 31:01 Coming Closer to Regulation36:30 Question 1 - “Why Can’t I Step Toward Dating?”41:26 Question 2 - “How Do I Get Out of a Deep State of Freeze?”47:06 Question 3 - “Why Am I Dysregulated So Often?”Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.Everyone on the waitlist will receive access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlistConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Our early childhood experiences leave a lasting imprint on how we relate to ourselves, others, and the world around us—often in ways we don’t even realize. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah unpacks how childhood trauma can shape our nervous system, attachment style, and even our health, and why the self-protective patterns we developed early on often leave us feeling stuck in our adult lives.Using neuroscience and real-life examples, Sarah will guide you toward tangible tools to address your nervous system and come to the aid of younger parts. Whether you had loving parents who didn’t always get it right or caregivers who were harmful or dangerous, this episode will help you to heal the past and step toward your future with more ease and empowerment. Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:15 Childhood Shapes Who You Become01:36 How Adverse Childhood Experiences Affect Our Adult Lives07:53 Understanding Adaptive Attachment Styles11:50 The Origin of Our Younger Parts16:03 How Childhood Parts Show Up in Adult Life20:22 Your Nervous System Picks Your Romantic Partners24:02 How Our Deepest Desires Become the Path to Healing31:55 Question 1 - Why Do I Feel More Activation As I Heal?36:25 Question 2 - Are My Struggles with Dating Rooted in the Past?41:11 Question 3 - Why Don’t I Feel Anything About a Past Trauma? Join the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation. If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.Everyone on the waitlist will receive access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlistConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

We all have needs. But what happens when we stop listening to them, or never learned how to in the first place? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us through the heart of relational healing: learning how to get our needs met.With tenderness and clarity, she unpacks how early attachment wounds shape our ability to express, feel, or even recognize our needs, leading many of us into cycles of codependency, hyper-independence, or invisible exhaustion. From the helpers who give too much to the ones who learned to stay small and silent, Sarah explores the nervous system patterns that keep us stuck in survival, disconnected from true intimacy.Through the lens of somatics and parts work, she introduces a compassionate roadmap toward interdependence: a relational experience where we can be fully ourselves and fully connected. It's not about being needy, it’s about being human.Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:15 We All Have Needs03:25 Understanding Codependency08:42 Different Roles of Codependency12:41 Hyper-Independence20:31 Unseen and Unknown22:07 Interdependence26:10 Getting Your Needs Met39:33 Question #1 - How to Reshape the Nervous System48:08 Question #2 - Hypervigilant Younger Parts with Deep Wounding57:15 Question #3 - Loving Inquiry01:04:49 Question #4 - Young Part Bargain Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation! If you’re wanting practical tools and live support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week live program.All waitlisters get access to limited-time reduced pricing. Click the link below to learn more. https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlistConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Burnout doesn’t happen overnight—it’s what happens when we chronically override our nervous system. In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah draws upon both Polyvagal Theory and Parts Work to explain what burnout really is, and how our protective parts often push us to keep going, even when our body is begging us to pause.Packed with tangible somatic tools, this episode will guide you toward healing through small, tolerable steps and simple lifestyle changes. If you’re experiencing burnout, please know you are not broken. This is simply a sign your system is being pushed beyond its limits, and with the right care, it’s absolutely possible to heal.Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:40 Hierarchy of Your Autonomic Nervous System08:55 3 Primary Reasons for Burnout15:47 What We Neglect in Burnout22:07 Chronic Fatigue & Shutdown24:27 The Healing Power of Walking26:33 Building a Supportive Nighttime Routine30:11 Why Lifestyle Change Is Essential38:34 Question #1: How to Find Your Community43:31 Question #2: When Work Becomes Your Whole Life48:47 Question #3: Does Your Reaction Match the Circumstance? Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation! If you’re looking for practical tools and support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week LIVE program.Everyone on the waitlist will receive access to limited-time pricing:https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlistConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Breakups aren’t just hard—they can feel completely disorienting, terrifying, or even impossible. That’s because we’re often not only grieving the end of a relationship as our adult self, we’re also navigating the pain, fear, and longing of our younger parts. In this episode of You Make Sense, we’ll explore why it can feel so difficult to leave or let go, even when we know deep down that a relationship is no longer right for us. Together, we’ll walk through how heartbreak reactivates old wounds, why love can feel confusing or even threatening to our protective parts, and how to begin creating the safety necessary to take our next right step.Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:40 Signs It May Be Time to End a Relationship07:32 How Dysregulation Can Keep You Stuck13:36 How Do I Know If This Relationship Is Right for Me?17:03 Anchoring Into Our Adult Selves26:26 Your Partner Can’t Be a Perfect Parent to Your Parts31:21 Why It's So Hard to Let Go of a Relationship That's Ended35:14 Processing Grief41:11 Question 1 - Healing in the Midst of Grief and Dysregulation46:59 Question 2 - Accessing Healthy Aggression After Betrayal50:57 Question 3 - Why It Can Feel So Hard to LeaveDownload Sarah’s FREE Workbook:Not sure where to get started with somatic healing? Sarah created a FREE trauma-informed workbook called "How To Gain Control Over How You Feel" to help you step toward a life filled with more freedom, ease, and empowerment.Click the link below to download the workbook:https://bit.ly/yms-sp-workbookConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

Do you ever feel like you’ve lost touch with what’s true for you? In this episode of You Make Sense, Sarah gently guides us back to our internal truth—the quiet, steady knowing that lives within the body. She explores why so many of us lose contact with our truth and instead outsource decisions to others. Through powerful stories and somatic insights, she offers a compassionate roadmap for reconnecting with the wisdom that has always been there, waiting to be heard.You’ll learn how to begin distinguishing between intuition and a trauma response, while also getting tangible tools to help guide you back toward your truth based in the present moment. Whether you're questioning a relationship, your career path, or simply wanting to feel more at home in your life and body, this conversation will help you transform confusion into clarity.Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:47 Your Internal Truth and Knowing04:40 2 Reasons We Lose Contact with Our Truth15:31 Distinguishing Between Intuition and A Trauma Response22:45 What’s True in This Moment?25:38 Truth from Adult Self vs. A Younger Part31:09 How to Come Back into Your Embodied Experience36:41 Question #1 - 2 Things to Remember About Intuition51:26 Question #2 - Identifying Your Parts59:13 Question #3 - Is This Job Right For Me?Get on the Waitlist for Navigating Your Nervous System:Living a full, expansive life starts with nervous system regulation! If you’re wanting practical tools and live support on your healing journey, you can now get on the waitlist for my upcoming 6-week live program.All waitlisters get access to limited-time reduced pricing. Click the link below to learn more. https://bit.ly/sp-nyns-waitlistConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast

What if the key to thriving isn’t in pushing harder, but in understanding the ways your nervous system brilliantly learned to protect you? In this episode, we will explore how self-abandonment is an adaptive response many of us found, often in early childhood, to maintain safety, belonging, or connection. Sarah unpacks why this pattern, while protective, can also lead to resentment in our relationships, work, and sense of self. Through the lens of the nervous system and attachment, she shares how chronic giving without receiving can disrupt our internal balance and impact our emotional, physical, and relational well-being. Drawing parallels from nature's rhythm of give-and-receive, Sarah reminds us that honoring our needs isn’t selfish, it’s necessary. When we stop abandoning ourselves, we start making space for deeper connection, creativity, and vitality.Episode Highlights00:00 Intro00:15 What Is Self-Abandonment?03:34 Receiving Is a Natural Part of a Child’s Development06:10 Having Needs is Not a Weakness07:58 How Self-Abandonment Shows Up in Our Adult Life13:15 Long-Term Effects of Self-Abandonment15:37 The “As If” Tool17:24 Identify and Connect with Your Resentment21:02 Communicate Your Needs in a Tolerable Way23:20 How to Stop Abandoning Yourself24:48 Question #1 - Rescuing Others Isn't Your Job28:31 Question #2 - Self-Care and Nourishing Yourself32:01 Question #3 - Getting to Know Your Doer Part Take Sarah’s FREE Quiz:Want more science-backed tools? Take her free quiz, “What’s Keeping You Stuck?” to learn more about your nervous system specific to you. You’ll get a downloadable worksheet and personalized guide to help you feel better in your body and life.https://bit.ly/yms-sp-quizConnect with Sarah on:Email Community - https://bit.ly/yms-sp-newsletterInstagram - https://www.instagram.com/sarahbcoaching/Website - https://www.sarahbaldwincoaching.com/Submit a Question: https://sarahbaldwin1.typeform.com/podcast