What‘s Your Position?

This week on What’s Your Position, we’re talking erections, testosterone, ancient gods, and a smart cock ring that tracks your nighttime performance. Yes, really. Ashley sits down with Dr. Elliot Justin, ER physician and founder of FirmTech, the company behind the TechRing, to unpack why erections are more than a bedroom issue. They’re a window into men’s health, sleep, blood flow, and confidence. Along the way, we get into real data, real science, and why erectile health might be one of the most ignored early warning systems in the body. We also discuss what's new at FirmTech in the way of women's orgasmic health! This episode takes some delightful, unexpected detours. From testosterone myths to Aphrodite, from quantified pleasure to philosophical musings on masculinity, this conversation zigzags in the best possible way. It’s smart, strange, sexy, occasionally unhinged, and deeply informative. If you like your sex ed with science, sass, and a little “wait… what did he just say?” energy, this one’s for you. Use code WYP15 at check out for 15% off your order! Get Your firm Tech Here!

Hello Humans! Ever wondered how to take sex to the next level in your relationship? Well this episode is pure joy. 💛 I got to sit down with one of my absolute heroes, Dr. Nicole McNichols, and it somehow managed to be deeply insightful, nerdy as hell, laugh-out-loud fun, and genuinely moving all at once. Nicole is the powerhouse behind the largest human sexuality course in Washington state, a brilliant educator who creates spaces where people feel safe asking the questions they’ve been carrying for years. We talk pleasure as health, why so many of us were never taught the foundations of good sex, the myths that just won’t die, and her brilliant Hierarchy of Sexual Needs that honestly should be required learning for all adults. This conversation felt like sitting in the front row of your favorite class with a professor who makes you feel seen, curious, and way less alone. We also dive into her brand-new book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, out February 3rd, which is a science-backed, shame-free, permission-slip-of-a-book about reconnecting with your sexual self and remembering that pleasure isn’t indulgent, it’s essential. This episode is full of love, laughter, honesty, and those “oh wow…that explains so much” moments. Do yourself a favor: listen, grab the book, and go follow her on Instagram @nicolethesexprofessor. You’re going to want more of Nicole in your life.

There was a time when Rae woke up every single day and cried. In the shower. In the car. Before work. After work. Sometimes for no clear reason at all. And then one day… she didn’t. In this deeply honest, brave, and beautiful episode, Rae shares what it was like to get married in her 20s, spend nearly a decade inside a life that slowly stopped fitting, and ultimately make the hardest decision of her life: to leave. We talk about the grief of divorce, the shame society puts on women who choose themselves, and the quiet fear of starting over when you’ve spent so long being someone’s wife. But this isn’t a story about failure. It’s a story about becoming. We talk about strength you don’t know you have until you’re forced to find it. About reclaiming your body, your voice, and your identity. About dating again, rediscovering desire, and learning who you are when you’re no longer shrinking to survive. We talk about the moment you realize the pain isn’t permanent. That the crying doesn’t last forever. Rae’s story is a reminder that divorce is not the end of a life. For many women, it’s the beginning of one. This episode is a swan song. A love letter to anyone who has grieved a marriage, questioned their worth, or wondered if choosing themselves was a mistake. It wasn’t. And Rae is living proof. Listener note: We had some unexpected technical challenges during this recording. I did my absolute best in post-production, but you may notice a few moments where the music or sound effects feel a little wonky. Thank you for your patience — this conversation mattered too much not to share.

Pack your passports and your pleasure maps because this Full Frontal we’re getting worldly. In this episode of What’s Your Position, we talk to “Hugh” and “Chris,” a married pair of digital nomads celebrating 20 years together and over a decade of consensual non-monogamy. From Colombia to Argentina, Thailand to Bali, they’ve explored how different cultures embrace sex, polyamory, and the art of open desire. We dive into their favorite places to live out the lifestyle (spoiler: South America’s got a heat of its own), and why watching each other’s deepest fantasies unfold isn’t jealousy—it’s joy. With nearly 1 in 5 couples reporting some form of non-monogamous experience, CNM isn’t fringe—it’s freedom. Hugh and Chris share how travel stripped away shame, made communication a daily ritual, and deepened their connection far beyond what monogamy ever did. It’s raw, romantic, and just a little bit risqué—proof that love, like a passport, is meant to be stamped often.

Ready to fall in love… scientifically? In this Quickie we dive into the famous 36 Questions That Lead to Love — the psychology-backed intimacy experiment that once made two complete strangers marry six months later. Created in 1997 by Dr. Arthur Aron, these questions have been shown to make people feel closer to someone they just met than the average person feels toward their actual friends. Yes, vulnerability is that powerful… and that sexy. We’ll explore why these questions work, how to use them to deepen your current relationship, and what your answers might reveal about your desires, fears, fantasies, and emotional needs. You’ll even get interactive moments throughout the episode to play along — think flirty eye contact, juicy personal confessions, and a few “oh no, I wasn’t ready to go that deep today” giggles. We ask each other some pretty deep stuff and give our honest answers. Research shows that couples who engage in novel, vulnerable conversations report higher relationship satisfaction and stronger sexual passion, so consider this your invitation to turn your next date night into a science experiment with benefits. Grab a partner, grab a mirror, or just grab some headphones… love is about to get real.

In this Full Frontal with Matt and Corey—two former insiders of Teen Mania, the evangelical youth empire that packed stadiums, preached purity, and operated with the psychological control of a cult. With an estimated 10,000 cults currently active in the U.S. and cult survivors reporting PTSD at rates over ten times higher than the general population, this conversation gets real about how “just a youth group” can become spiritual warfare with a side of sexual repression. Together, they dive into the hype of Acquire the Fire, the brutal discipline of the Honor Academy, and the purity culture rules that taught millions of teens that their bodies were dangerous and desire was demonic. But it’s not all trauma—there’s laughter, liberation, and the sexy, joyful truth of what happens when you finally reclaim your pleasure. This episode is messy, honest, political, hilarious, and deeply human. Come for the cult tea, stay for the healing.

Ever wonder why haunted houses make your heart race and your jeans feel a little tighter? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the science of fear and arousal — where the line between being scared and being turned on gets deliciously blurry. We’ll explore how your amygdala, that tiny almond-shaped part of your brain, lights up when you’re terrified and when you’re turned on. That’s right — your fear response and your sexual excitement run on the same neurochemical fuel: adrenaline, dopamine, and cortisol. We’ll talk about why horror movies on first dates work so well (hint: your body doesn’t always know if you’re turned on from fear or from the hottie next to you). Plus, we’ll get into “benign masochism” — the psychological thrill of choosing to be scared, sweaty, and screaming, knowing deep down that you’re safe. So whether you’re making out in a haunted hayride, screaming through The Conjuring, or just wondering why you love being scared half to death, this episode is your sexy crash course in the chemistry of fear, pleasure, and why your brain loves to flirt with danger.

ChatGPT said: In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we unzip the messy, seductive world of vanity sizing and how it quietly shapes our bodies, brains, and sex lives. From the hourglass worship of the 1940s and 50s to the waif-thin “heroin chic” of the 90s and the Instagram body of today, we walk through the history of women’s clothing sizes in American and European fashion and why a “size 8” means something totally different in every store. We break down how brands use shrinking numbers as a marketing trick, why women’s sizes were never truly standardized, and how all of this mess fuels body dissatisfaction and unrealistic beauty ideals. You’ll hear about the psychology behind that little dopamine hit when you fit into a smaller size, the mental health fallout when the tag goes up, and how feeling “wrong” in your clothes can follow you straight into the bedroom. Most importantly, we reclaim the idea that sexy has never been a number on a tag—it’s confidence, comfort, and the ability to feel good naked in the body you have right now.

On this quickie In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we take a playful, evidence-based tour through the history of sex toys — from sacred ancient objects and carved stone dildos to “respectable” medical massagers, all the way to the Bluetooth-enabled, app-controlled toys in your nightstand today. We unpack the persistent (but largely debunked) myth that Victorian doctors used vibrators to treat “hysteria,” dig into censorship like the Comstock Act and modern laws that still try to police pleasure, and highlight how feminist, queer, and disability communities have reshaped sex toys into tools of autonomy and joy rather than shame. Along the way, we talk about how big this world really is: the global sex toy market is estimated in the tens of billions of dollars, and research suggests that well over half of women — and around half of men — have used a sex toy at least once. From ancient temples to Texas courtrooms to your group chat, this episode shows how the story of sex toys is really the story of who gets to feel good, and who’s been trying to stop them.

Hello Humans! In this awesome, stat filled, research driven quickie we dive into some of the sex research currently shaping our world! From menstrual bloods MAGICAL healing powers to the first time we have had male broth control make it past phase 2, to research on strippers and ovulation! This is an episode for all you sexy nerd lovers. Stay safe, stay kind, and stay sexy 🤓

In our first Full Frontal of Season 6 we talk to our FAVORITE BDSM sex-pert, Sir Rucifer, as he guides us on a kinky journey into gently introducing kink into your everyday routine. HE teaching Husband how to spank and teaches Ashley the "proper positions" (which we will post in our insta!). We also play "Guess That Toy!" where Rucifer gives the audience a sound and the blindfolded hosts and listeners have to guess the BDSM toy being presented! This episode is for anyone wanting to try an easy entry into kink and foreplay in the bedroom.

IN this first episode of Season six we breakdown some amazing stats from Season 5, some listener questions, some great topics we will cover in season 6 and more! The Quickies are quicker and the Full Frontals are fewer! We introduce a new segment called "What's Bringing Your Joy?" Get ready for a sexy, quickie heavy season with your favorite Sex Podcasters! We can't wait to discover new areas of love, life, sex and pleasure!

In this unforgettable Full Frontal of What’s Your Position, we sit down with the incomparable Jessica Lynn—international speaker, educator, and trans rights advocate whose personal story has changed laws, hearts, and minds around the world. With raw vulnerability and unapologetic brilliance, Jessica opens up about her decades-long fight for truth, identity, and justice—including her high-profile custody battle that became a lightning rod in the global conversation around transgender rights. We explore her evolution from a life lived in hiding to one of radical visibility, and how her scientific knowledge, emotional intelligence, and deep compassion have made her one of the most sought-after voices in gender education today. Fewer than 30% of trans adults over 50 say they have strong support systems. Jessica is changing that—one conversation, one courtroom, and one country at a time. This episode is honest, intimate, and full of the kind of truth that lingers long after the mic goes off. Whether you’re questioning, learning, or unlearning, Jessica’s story will move you to think deeper, love harder, and show up louder. Check out her website here: Jessica’s Website

Hello Fellow Humans! For todays Full Frontal, slip into something a little more comfortable and join us for a steamy stroll through the aisles of desire. In this episode, we get intimate with “V,” a fabulous friend and fierce expert from a local California sex shop, as we uncover the surprisingly scandalous history of erotic retail. Did you know the first recorded sex shop opened in London in 1738? That’s right—across the pond, folks were already in the mood for mood lighting and feather ticklers. But when it came to the U.S., things got a little… stiff. Cue the Comstock Laws, those Victorian-era vibe-killers that tried to criminalize anything sexy—including your grandma’s vintage vibrators. We dish on how laws have tried (and failed) to police desire, and “V” dishes on why walking into a real, brick-and-mortar pleasure shop can still offer something the internet never could: human connection, trusted guidance, and a judgment-free zone to explore your deepest curiosities. We spill the tea, and the lube on just how horney Americans are. Did you know we are buying pleasure products by the millions? In fact, the U.S. sex toy market hit over $10.6 billion in 2024. That’s a whole lot of buzz, babes. So grab your lube and get comfy—we’re talking vibrators, vibrancy, and the value of keeping things real in a digital age. This one’s for the lovers, the learners, and everyone in between. 💋

We are re-releasing some super important episodes to make sure you all got an earful the first time around! Be sure to check out our friends at Arya.FYI.com! Is your bedroom getting boring? Need a spice in your sex life? In this Full Frontal we are joined by Arya's own Head of Relationship Research, Nicholas Velotta, to bring attention to this incredible, relationship changing subscription service. Arya is unlike any "date night" box you have ever seen, with constantly changing scenes that are tailor made for you and your partner by your very own "relationship concierge". From tame to tantric, Arya has boxes curated with high-end sex toys, sexy playlists, ideas for getting started, safe words, aftercare and so much more. Nicholas talks to us about how each box is made, how the scenes are created and the statistics they have learned from the couples who have tried and tested Arya from the start. We also discuss Kevin and my first box and take a look at the future of Arya. Wanna try it for yourself? Use code WYP15 for 15% off your first 3 months. This revolutionary relationship rejuvenator has the WYP sexy stamp of approval. Go check out Arya today, and reignite the passion in your romance. To reach Nicholas: TikTok: mindonlove Instagram: mind_on_love website: mindonlove.com Arya contact: Arya's instagram and tiktok: arya.fyi Arya's website: Arya.fyi USE CODE WYP15 AT CHECK OUT FOR 15% OFF!

Welcome to part 3 of Afternoon Delight: Birth Control Chronicles! We’ve talked about the facts, we’ve broken down the methods, but now—it’s time to dive deep into REAL stories from YOU, our incredible listeners. 🫶 Over 10 submissions came through when I asked for your stories, and I was overwhelmed with the willingness to share. We got a wild mix of call-ins, write-ins, and unforgettable stories that give us the inside scoop on everything from vasectomies to IUDs, and beyond. Huge thanks to everyone who took the time to share—you’re the real MVPs! 💖 💥 What’s on the table? 💥 🔪 Vasectomy Stories: We’ve got three different vasectomy journeys, each one as unique as the person who shared it. Whether it was a quick decision, a long contemplation, or a "why didn't I do this sooner?" moment, these stories bring all the feels. 😱🔪💥 💊 The Pill Chronicles: A few listeners walk us through decades of being on the pill—from being a teen to now. Spoiler: It’s not always sunshine and rainbows, but the lessons learned are priceless. 🌈💊 💉 The IUD Experience: Painful insertion? A breeze? Multiple listeners spill their IUD stories, each more different than the last. Did they almost pass out from the pain? Did they keep it in? Let’s just say, it’s a wild ride. 🚨😵‍💫 🌟 And let’s not forget... our amazing Erin is BACK to talk about life off the pill—what's it REALLY like, and did the grass turn out greener? 💡 Did You Know? 💡 🔹 IUDs are over 99% effective and last anywhere from 3 to 10 years—pretty solid for low-maintenance. 🔹 Vasectomies are 99% effective at preventing pregnancy, but remember—reversal rates can drop over time. 🔹 The Pill revolutionized reproductive health in 1960, but it wasn’t until 1972 that all women could legally access it in the U.S. 😳 Thank you a million times to our listeners for sharing these powerful, personal stories. You inspire us and we are SO grateful for you. 💖 This felt like going back to season 1 where the guests were my friends, so thank you for bringing it full circle. 🎧 Tune in for a raw, real, and hilarious episode full of love, laughs, and life-changing insights. We hope you hear your story, feel validated by similar experiences, or hear something that sparks you to take control over your reproductive health. #WhatsYourPosition #BCConfidential #RealTalkReproductiveHealth #ContraceptionChronicles #mybodymychoice #listenerstory

We’re BACK, baby! 💃 If you thought we covered it all in Afternoon Delight Part 1, think again—because birth control comes in many forms, and we’re breaking them all down. Whether you’re popping a pill, slapping on a patch, or letting the ring do its thing, we’ve got the facts, the history, and the stats you need to make the right choice for YOU. Because when it comes to birth control, one size does NOT fit all! 🔥 What’s on the agenda? 🔥 💊 The Pill: ✔️ First hit the market in 1960—and changed everything. ✔️ With perfect use, it’s 99% effective, but typical use brings it down to 93%. 👕 The Patch: ✔️ Releases steady hormones through the skin—set it and forget it (for a week!). ✔️ Can be less effective in people over 198 lbs, so weight may be a factor. 💍 The Ring: ✔️ Insert it once a month—hello, low maintenance! ✔️ Contains a lower dose of hormones than the pill, but just as effective. 💉 The Shot: ✔️ Just 4 shots a year—talk about easy! ✔️ Can take 10 months or longer to regain fertility after stopping. ⚠️ REMEMBER: Not all birth control is created equal, and not all bodies react the same way. What’s perfect for your BFF might not vibe with you—and that’s okay! Your body, your rules, your choice. 🎧 Tune in, get the facts, and take control of your reproductive health like the badass you are! And come back for part 3 where we hear listener stories about experience on birth control! Stay protected. Stay smart. Stay sexy. 😘🔥 #WhatsYourPosition #BirthControlBoss #MyBodyMyChoice #SafeNotSorry #ReproRights #SexEdMatters #ContraceptionConversation

Hello Fellow Humans! Get ready to crank up the fun and kink factor at Backwards Bordelo! Join us for a playful romp through LA’s most outrageous queer kink event, hosted by the fabulous Carter—your guide to everything quirky, sexy, and delightfully subversive. 😘✨ In this episode, we celebrate queer spaces as the ultimate playgrounds for self-expression, creativity, and a little mischief. We’re diving deep into the history of these vibrant havens—from the legendary gay and lesbian bars that lit up our nights to the sizzling alternative events that have taken over when COVID-19 forced many beloved spaces to close. Did you know that nearly 30% of LA’s iconic queer establishments shuttered during the pandemic? 📉 Across the nation, a similar 20% decline has left many feeling the loss of these safe spaces where laughter, love, and liberation once thrived. But hey, out of every challenge comes a fabulous comeback! 💪🏳️‍🌈 Backwards Bordelo is more than just an event—it’s a beacon of creative resistance. Studies have shown that over 70% of queer youth crave safe environments for authentic exploration and self-discovery, and this event is answering that call with a mix of kink, performance art, and unapologetic joy. 🔥💃 Carter brings their signature blend of humor and heart as we explore how celebrating kink in a secure, inclusive setting isn’t just about pushing boundaries—it’s about building community and fostering empowerment. Whether you’re drawn by the jaw-dropping fire dancers, the immersive Shibari, the dancers and knife play, the vibrant stories of resilience, or the need to reclaim spaces that nurture our true selves, this episode promises to be a rollicking good time! 🎭💖 Tune in for a playful yet powerful journey through queer history, sizzling current trends, and a vision of a future where every queer soul has a space to shine. Because when the going gets tough, the tough get kinked—and we’re here to celebrate it all! 🎙️🌈✨ Let's get this party started! 🎉💥

HELLO FELLOW SELF-LOVING HUMANS! Do we have a TREAT for you! After stalking his Instagram for YEARS, pre-ordering a signed copy of his book "DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation" I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the incredible Dr. Eric Sprankle—a sex psychologist, author, and Associate Professor at Mankato State University—who just released his groundbreaking new book on masturbation and sexual health. 🌟 Let me tell you, this episode is a mix of jaw-dropping facts, myth-busting, and even a little horror movie lovefest! 😏🎥 👀 An Amazing Fact About Masturbation: Did you know that regular masturbation can reduce stress, improve sleep, and even boost your immune system? 💤💪 And contrary to the "semen retention" movement, there’s no evidence that holding back ejaculation enhances masculinity or health. In fact, frequent ejaculation may lower the risk of prostate cancer! (Yes, science 🧬 said so.) We also dove deep into: 🔥 Dr. Sprankle’s book: From the stigmas around solo sex to why masturbation is often framed negatively in mainstream conversations, this book is a must-read. His sex-positive perspective is all about embracing pleasure and challenging harmful myths. 🧠 The debate on "masturbation addiction": Is it a real thing or just another way to shame people for normal sexual behavior? Spoiler alert: there’s more shame than science here. ❌ Why semen retention is NOT the move: Dr. Sprankle broke down the pseudoscience behind this trendy myth and reminded us that pleasure doesn’t need to come with guilt or restrictions. 💔 Where’s women’s pleasure in these convos?: We discussed the glaring absence of female masturbation from most discussions—why is society still so uncomfortable with women owning their pleasure? 🙄 🍿 Horror movie geek-out: Dr. Sprankle is a HUGE horror fan, and we had so much fun talking about our favorite scary movies. From the classics to the slashers, you’ll love this lighthearted side of the convo! (Spoiler: We’re both team Hereditary 👻.) This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to challenge sexual shame, learn from one of the best in the field, and maybe add a few horror movies to their watchlist. I was honored to have Dr. Eric Sprankle on the show—his work is game-changing, his energy is contagious, and his humor is unmatched. 😍 🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts! And let us know: what’s your favorite horror movie? 👇🍿 BUY THE BOOK HERE!!! 👇 👇 👇 DIY The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation #SexPositivity #MasturbationMyths #HorrorLovers #SemenRetentionDebunked #WhatsYourPosition

🎙️ EPISODE TITLE: "No Hormones? No Problem! 🔥 Non-Hormonal Birth Control 101" Episode Synopsis: No hormones? No Problem! In this first part of an all new Afternoon Delight series, w break down all forms of non-hormonal options for making love, without making babies love options. We love options and when it comes to birth control, there’s no one-size-fits-all! While hormonal methods work great for many, they’re not the only way to prevent pregnancy. 🔥 What’s on the agenda? 🔥 ✔️ Barrier methods—Condoms, diaphragms, and cervical caps (Do you really know how to use them right? Let’s find out!) 🛑💦 ✔️ Spermicide & Gels—A little extra protection or a sneaky secret weapon? 🏊‍♂️☠️ ✔️ The pull-out method—Does it actually work? We’ve got the stats to settle the debate. 😏🔄 ✔️ Surgical solutions—From vasectomies to tubal ligations, what does permanent birth control really mean? ✂️🚫 No shade to hormones, but if you’re looking for other ways to stay baby-free, we’ve got you covered. We’re busting myths, breaking down effectiveness rates, and giving you the facts—so you can find what works for YOU. Some fun facts about condoms for your brains: 1️⃣ Effectiveness: When used perfectly, condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But with typical use (because let’s be real, no one is perfect), effectiveness drops to about 87%. 2️⃣ STI Protection: Condoms are the ONLY birth control method that also protects against sexually transmitted infections (STIs), reducing the risk of HIV transmission by about 80% and significantly lowering the risk of other STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea. 3️⃣ Breakage & Slippage: About 2% of condoms break or slip off during sex. Using the right size, checking expiration dates, and using water- or silicone-based lube (not oil-based!) can help reduce this risk. Want more condom tips? Tune in to the episode! 🎧🔥 #WrapItBeforeYouTapIt 💋 Smart, sexy, and all about choices—because birth control should fit your life, not the other way around. 🎧 Tune in and let’s talk about keeping it safe, stress-free, and sexy! 😘💖 #WhatsYourPosition #SafeNotSorry #NonHormonalBC #wrapitbeforeyoutapit

Hello Humans! In this quickie, we discuss all things fellatio and cunnalinugus! We go down on some amazing stats and give you awesome tips for better oral, including positions, topics to discuss with your partners, and ways to ensure everyone feels good! We tell some fun stories about oral sex, play a fun game with oral sex euphemisms, and our stat of the day will blow your mind! We hope you enjoy!

Ever find yourself wondering why men are still expected to pop the question or why dating apps feel like an endless loop of awkward encounters? Is your dating life one bad date away from becoming a monastic retreat? Trust us, you’re not alone. The dating scene is a bit of a rigged game, and we’re here to unpack why! Join us as we chat with Dr. Dave Pincus, who’s ready to debunk the so-called "Courtship Gap." We’ll dissect the pressure men face to conform to outdated dating norms and explore how evolutionary standards and tribe mentality can help us reconnect with the real art of finding your soulmate. Spoiler alert: it involves shaking off societal myths and learning to date like a human being! Did you know that a recent study found that 63% of men feel pressured to act a certain way on dates? And let’s not forget the staggering statistic that only 23% of men feel confident when approaching someone new! So tune in as we delve into courtship rituals, navigate the digital dating jungle, and give you a sneak peek into Dr. Pincus's hopefully groundbreaking book on the courtship gap. Guys, this one’s tailor-made for you—let’s get ready to break some dating barriers and have some fun!

AFTERNOON DELIGHT PART 3! How can we build healthier, happier relationships that withstand the test of time? In this episode, we delve into the groundbreaking research of Dr. John Gottman, a pioneer in understanding what makes relationships thrive. We’ll explore the infamous 'Four Horsemen' of relationship doom: Criticism, Contempt, Defensiveness, and Stonewalling. These behaviors can derail even the strongest bonds, and recognizing them is the first step toward fostering a more secure and loving connection. What sets the Gottman Method apart from traditional couples therapy? Unlike many approaches that focus primarily on past traumas, Gottman's method is rooted in extensive empirical research. He has studied thousands of couples to identify specific, measurable behaviors that predict relationship success. Instead of avoiding conflict, Gottman emphasizes constructive conflict resolution, equipping couples with effective communication skills to navigate disagreements positively. We’ll introduce the Sound Relationship House Theory, a structured framework that outlines essential levels for strengthening relationships, such as building love maps, nurturing fondness, and creating shared goals. This clear roadmap is unique to the Gottman Method, providing couples with actionable steps toward improvement. Did you know that according to Gottman’s research, couples who regularly exhibit the Four Horsemen are 80% more likely to break up? However, couples who practice his techniques experience a 94% success rate in improving their relationship satisfaction! Join us as we share three actionable tips to help you build a stronger foundation: Practice Appreciation – Make it a habit to express gratitude for your partner. Learn to Repair – Develop skills to recognize and address conflicts before they escalate. Foster Emotional Connection – Prioritize meaningful conversations and engage in shared activities. Tune in to discover how understanding and applying Gottman’s principles can transform your relationship into a thriving partnership!

🎄🎙️ Christmas Quickie: The Naughty List Edition! 🎁🔥 Ho, ho, ho, you naughty little elves! In this festive quickie episode of What's Your Position?, we're slipping into something cozy (or maybe barely there) and unwrapping the spiciest holiday facts you didn’t know you needed. ❄️ Winter is Coming... and So Are You 🥵 Did you know science says people have way more sex in the winter? Turns out, those shorter days and longer nights aren't just for Netflix. We'll break down the hormone shifts, seasonal moods, and actual research showing why your bed gets more action when it’s cold outside. 💋 Meet Me Under the Mistletoe 🌿 This innocent-looking holiday plant has a wild history. We’re talking ancient fertility rituals, forbidden kisses, and some very sexy origins. Spoiler: It’s not just about stealing a smooch at the office party. 🎁 Stuff Their Stocking... Literally 🔥 Forget socks and gift cards. We're talking vibrators, lacey little numbers, and gifts that guarantee you'll both be on the nice list this year. We'll give you tips on how to pick the perfect pleasure-packed present for your partner. 📽️ Holiday Rom-Com Smackdown ❤️🎬 We’re ranking our Top Holiday Rom-Coms and serving up juicy facts about these festive flicks: "White Christmas" – Did you know this classic was never intended to become a full-length movie? The iconic Bing Crosby song was actually written for a different film entirely! "The Holiday" – Fun fact: Kate Winslet’s cottage was so cozy, fans tried to rent it… only to find out it’s fake. So grab your eggnog, light a fire (in more ways than one), and let’s get holly, jolly, and hella frisky. 🎧 Tune in, turn on, and let’s sleigh this holiday season. 🔔🔥

Episode Title: Get Intimate with Athena and Arya! Hello Fellow Humans! This week on What's Your Position, we're thrilled to bring you a Full Frontal episode featuring the radiant and sultry Athena! As a product tester, playlist curator, and content creator for the oh-so-spicy Arya subscription box, Athena dives into the ins and outs of her fascinating job. We’re unpacking it all—new boxes like Edge, Adore, and Pose—and why adding a touch of music to your intimate moments is a total game-changer. Athena shares juicy tidbits about why orgasms should be on your daily to-do list (yes, please!), how to cultivate deeper intimacy with your partner, and the research that backs it all up. Did you know that couples who have regular deep conversations report their relationships are 33% more satisfying? Or that vulnerable communication can lead to a 60% improvement in your sex life? But wait, there’s more! We dive into the art of sexting—how it’s not just a spicy addition but a powerful way to stay connected. We also explore how showing intimacy in front of others, like holding hands or sharing loving glances, can translate to even more closeness and passion in the bedroom. And because music makes everything better, we discuss how the right tunes can set the mood, deepen your connection, and enhance your relationship in unexpected ways. With over 15 customizable boxes, personalized quizzes, and a concierge service to spice up your connection, Arya is revolutionizing date nights. Tune in as we explore how Arya takes the guesswork out of intimacy while adding layers of fun, passion, and, let’s be real, orgasms! Don’t forget to snag your Arya box with our exclusive code WYP15 for 15% off your first three months. Head to Arya.Fyi, take the quiz, and start creating unforgettable moments. Come join us for a steamy, insightful, and oh-so-fun episode. Let’s play! Athena created a What's your position Playlist JUST FOR OUR LISTENERS! WYP Sexy Playlist Check out Arya and get your first box here and use our code WYP15 for 15% off your first 3mo! Arya, your erotic concierge for a sexy date night

AFTERNOON DELIGHT PART 2: Ever wonder how your attachment style affects your relationships, from sparks to emotional hiccups? In this episode, we’ll dive into attachment theory and explore the four main attachment styles: Secure, Anxious, Avoidant, and Fearful-Avoidant (also called Disorganized). We’ll break down how each style shapes our behavior, communication, and emotional needs in relationships and why knowing your style can be the ultimate game-changer in building healthier connections. Did you know that studies show about 50% of adults identify as Secure, while 20% report an Anxious attachment style, 25% are Avoidant, and the remaining 5% fall under the Fearful-Avoidant style? Understanding these stats helps us see that everyone has attachment-related tendencies, but it’s possible to grow into a more Secure attachment. We’ll also share practical ways to move toward secure attachment, whether through self-awareness, therapy, or relationship adjustments. By the end, you’ll have actionable tools to make your connections more balanced, fulfilling, and less reactive. Join us as we dig deep into the psychology behind attachment and offer tips for growth and mutual understanding!

WE ARE THANK FUL FOR YOU! Enjoy this bonus episode of WYP for your long weekend of family gatherings! Ever find yourself wondering why men are still expected to pop the question or why dating apps feel like an endless loop of awkward encounters? Is your dating life one bad date away from becoming a monastic retreat? Trust us, you’re not alone. The dating scene is a bit of a rigged game, and we’re here to unpack why! HELLO ANXIOUS HUMANS! Did you know that over 80% of the population will experience an anxiety disorder at some point in their lives? That’s right! Anxiety is basically the overbearing parent of mental health—always hovering, ready to critique your every move! In this quickie, we’re diving deep into how this sneaky little gremlin can throw a wrench in our love lives, sex lives, and relationships like a bad rom-com plot twist. Ever tried to be romantic when your heart feels like it's doing the cha-cha? We’ll talk about the physical sensations that come with anxiety, from that delightful stomach flip that starts as butterflies but quickly turns into a full-blown hornet’s nest. Then there’s the mind game that can turn a sweet date into an internal monologue of “Do I look okay? What if they don’t like my choice of pasta? Am I talking too much?!”—and just when you think you might seal the deal, anxiety decides to crash the party, leaving you feeling more like a deer in headlights than a seductive starlet. But wait—let's get steamy! Did you know that nearly 30% of men report experiencing performance anxiety? Yes, that pressure to perform can turn a night of passion into an episode of “Survivor: Bedroom Edition,” where the stakes are high, and the tension is palpable! We'll explore how anxiety can mess with your mojo, making that path to pleasure feel like running a marathon in stilettos—difficult, wobbly, and downright amusing. Join me as I share my personal rollercoaster of living with anxiety every single day. We'll break down tips to not just survive, but thrive in your relationship while juggling those anxiety-induced challenges. And if you’re the partner of someone wrestling with this beast, I’ve got your back, too! We’ll discuss effective ways to support your loved one—no, you don’t need to don a cape, but maybe bring a little humor and lots of empathy to the table. After all, laughter can be the best aphrodisiac when navigating the murky waters of anxiety. So, buckle up for a fun, sexy, and insightful ride as we navigate the ups and downs of love and anxiety together. Remember, in this wild journey called life, stay safe, stay kind, and—most importantly—stay sexy!

AFTERNOON DELIGHT SERIES: We want to bring you ideas for better relationships. On part one we ask; Are the traditional five love languages still the best way to understand what we need in a relationship? According to recent studies, nearly 80% of couples who engage in each other’s primary love language regularly experience deeper emotional intimacy. In this afternoon delight, we explore the origins of love languages, breaking down Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, Acts of Service, Physical Touch, and Receiving Gifts, while also challenging listeners to consider how their love needs have shifted. Did you know that 65% of couples who understand each other's love languages report higher relationship satisfaction? Yet many feel that new love languages are emerging in today’s digital, fast-paced world. Could yours be ‘Arts and interests’ or ‘intelligence’? We’ll discuss ideas for new love languages that reflect modern needs, shifting norms, and evolving values, helping couples connect on levels beyond the original five. Whether you’re fluent in ‘I love you’ or searching for new ways to express it, this episode has something for everyone ready to rethink love.

Hello Fellow Humans! On this episode we sat down with the captivating Sophia Domina for an in-depth, raw conversation about kink, religion, and empowerment. We dove headfirst into topics some might find shocking—like the juxtaposition of butt plugs and Bibles—and explored the complex ways sexuality and spirituality can intersect. Sophia shared her journey as a dominatrix, revealing how BDSM can be a liberating force for both her and her clients. We talked about religious guilt, sexual freedom, and how embracing your desires can actually lead to personal growth and self-discovery. Did you know that 1 in 6 Americans has dabbled in BDSM? That statistic alone shows how far we've come in normalizing kink, but there’s still a long way to go in shedding shame, especially when it comes to sexuality and religion. **Key Takeaways**: 1. BDSM can be an empowering practice, helping people reclaim control and confront societal shame. 2. There’s often a strong connection between religious guilt and the exploration of sexuality. 3. Setting boundaries and clear communication are crucial in any sexual relationship, especially in kink. 4. Embracing your authentic self—kinks and all—can lead to deeper emotional and personal growth. If you're curious about Sophia's work, make sure to check out her new book and more on her website Sophiadomina.com

Hello spooky Humans! Welcome to our annual Halloween episode! Did you know that in a study done on those with sleep disorders over 18% reported a sexual encounter with an unknown entity? On this years super scary episode we discuss the ghosts that haunt not just our houses, but our dreams too! Incubi and Succubae have been around for centuries and in this quickie we tell you all about their origins, some scary stories from celebrities and regular folk alike and some statistics about these sex demons. Get ready for some fun and freaky facts all about f**king ghosts!

Hello fellow humans Did you know that around 70% of humans consume some type of P*RN in their lifetime? ON today's Full Frontal we speak to Lily, the founder of XO Afterglow, an ethical sex-based media site that offers not just erotic films, but erotic classes or "Edu-p*rn"" as well as blogs about sex and how to videos. Since the majority of teens say they get their sex education from P*RN, we think this episode is imperative for explaining how we can use erotic art and film to better our sex lives and make sure the performer's in the films get paid, recognized and are not exploited! Check out this INCRDIBLE episode, listen to our favorite films on the site, how they make fake c*m and how much P*RN actors get paid! We also have a free trial for you all on XOAfterglow! https://afterglow.ubpages.com/wyp | @xoaftergloww Use code “WYP” for a 7 day free trial! Afterglow is a women-led platform dedicated to inspiring great sex by promoting female pleasure and confidence in fulfilling desires. Their ethical porn, made by women for women, emphasizes consent, fair treatment of performers, and accurate portrayals of sex. Subscribers gain access to guided masturbations, partner exercises, educational content, and a stress-free, secure viewing experience.

On this episode of WYP we look back at the life of a legend, Dr. Ruth. Karola Ruth Siegel on June 4, 1928, in Wiesbaden, Germany, lived a life full of fascinating twists. As a Jewish child fleeing Nazi Germany, she was sent to a Swiss orphanage during WWII. Post-war, she moved to Israel and became a sniper for the Haganah—talk about a dramatic start! In the 1950s, Dr. Ruth moved to the U.S. and took a unique path into sexual health. Her radio show “Sexually Speaking” in the 1980s made her a household name with her no-nonsense, yet warm and funny approach to sex and relationships. She also made big waves at Planned Parenthood, where she championed sexual health education. Even in her 90s, she kept sharing her wisdom through numerous books and television appearances until her passing on June 26, 2023. She is one of our major inspirations and we hope you love her too! “The more we learn about our bodies, the more we understand that sex is a natural part of who we are.”

Hello Humans! In our first Full Frontal of Season 5 we sit down with Ally Iseman, owner and founder of Passport To pleasure; an expansive relationship guide that helps any couple looking to explore the concepts of ethical non-monogamy. She gives us the run down of her journey into this space and her 6 principals to a better relationship (22:00). We also discuss the four phases of Limitless Love (52:00) and how to take a relationship from the curious to the constructive! Ally Iseman is a writer, relationship coach, and non-monogamy educator based in Los Angeles who has been featured in The New York Times, Cosmopolitan, Well+Good, Yahoo!, PureWow, and more. She is a sought after speaker and podcast guest who teaches busy couples on the brink how to build a bulletproof relationship that lasts. Download her free Relationship Ratio workbook to see if your relationship is ready to open up without blowing up!

Hello fellow Humans! We are back for season 5 of What's Your Position and boy oh boy do we have some exciting news! Check out our first episode and learn all about our new logo, and new website! We are featuring mostly in person episodes this season so if you see more "Quickies" that's why! We love that you are still with us on this journey and we thank you all for listening and sharing the information with your friends! CHEERS TO SEASON 5!

In this Full Frontal we are joined by the stars of the Podcast Double Teamed, twin sisters Cami and Niki as they share some of their wildest experiences and deepest fantasies! We talk about our shared love of smut novels and break down your sun sign into what you should be doing in the bedroom. We also discuss topics like golden showers, consensual non-consent and knife play! This kinky episode is jam packed with spicy content and we were so grateful to have this incredible duo on our show! Check out their podcast, Double Teamed wherever you get podcasts! Click here for their website!

Hello Humans! Did you know perimenopause (the start of symptoms of menopause) begin on average in a persons early to mid 40's? Did you know that not all women get hot flashes? Did you know birth control can mitigate some symptoms of menopause/ NEITHER DID WE! In this episode we are joined again by the incredible Dr. Shyama Mathews, OBGYN. We had so many requests for an episode all about Menopause that we could think of no better person to go over the finer details and listener (and host TBH) questions! Menopause is not a topic of conversation in many circles and it is such a shame because anyone with a uterus is going to experience this shift in hormones, desires, lubrication, emotions, weight gain, hair loss and so many other aspects of the end of your menstrual cycle. It is important to get the conversation going and share with friends and loved ones about your experiences! We get to some great questions about onset, genetics, symptoms, medications, hormone replacements and more! Be sure to check out Dr. Shyama on her websites and at Playground Www.helloplayground.com Www.drmathewsgyn.com @drmathewsgyn @helloplayground For a discount at Playground use our code! "YOURPOSITION" for 15% off their first order from Playground. This link will auto-apply the code at checkout as well: https://helloplayground.com/discount/YOURPOSITION

Hello humans! In this Full Frontal we have owner of Sacred Skin, Ciara Fisher, over to the studio to give us a history lesson and free armpit sugaring! We discuss the benefits, stats and go way back to Egypt to understand the longstanding desire to rip out body hair out with hot liquid. We also get our underarms sugared live in the episode (videos on our Instagram!) and we talk about hair removal in general; who does it, how often and why! Check it out!

In this quickie we visit the world of bras, the history of why we allow these torture devices in our lives and the advances in modern technology! We have some titalizing facts for you, some perky stats and some busty claims about bras during WW2! Join us as we stare directly at your ches..eyes...and discuss the brazier in all its glory and pain!

Hello Humans! On this quickie we talk to Erin, a former student of mine who took a pole dancing class as part of her final paper and had it change her life. We discuss how pole dancing came to be, the benefits of it not only physically, but mentally as well and we discuss the amazing humans who engage in this confidence boosting sport! As her former professor, the paper she wrote about her experience in the pole dancing class moved me to tears. And this episode might just get you out of the house and onto the pole! Happy spinning!

Hello Humans! There has been a lot of talk recently about the benefits of weed and sex so we got award winning sex educator and author of The CBD Solution. We discuss so much in this episode including: Cannabis can help address the things that get in the way of pleasure, connection, and intimacy, such as being stuck in your head and disconnected from your body. Using cannabis can enhance sensation, relax muscles, and alleviate pain, making sex more enjoyable. Cannabis can help individuals with trauma history regain sensation in their bodies and experience pleasure. The need to challenge the stigma and taboo surrounding cannabis in the bedroom and promote education and awareness about its potential benefits for sexual experiences. Psychedelics, such as LSD and psilocybin, can alter states of consciousness and enhance sexual experiences, but it is important to approach their use with caution and in a safe and consensual manner. Ashley has presented at mainstream, adult, and cannabis events, including SXSW, American Association of Sexuality Educators Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) Conference, Woodhull Sexual Freedom Summit, Oakland Psychedelic Conference, the Cannabis Nurse Network Conference, and the world-renowned lifestyle resort Hedonism II in Jamaica. Check out her websites: My website: www.CannaSexual.com My online courses: www.elevatedintimacy.com My Instagram: www.instagram.com/cannasexual (Spicy sites): She has an OnlyFans as well just search by using her full name!

On this quickie we dive into all things anus and talk about butt stuff! Oral, toys, lube, positions and, of course, statistics. The butt puns are HEAVY in this bad boi, so maybe listen with headphones 😂 If you have an ass, this episodes for you!

Hello Humans! On this INCREDIBLE Full Frontal we have DR. Shyama Mathews on to discuss everything you wanted to know about PCOS, endometriosis and ways to advocate for yourself and your pain! We dive into topics surrounding finding a good gyno, and her work as a robotics surgeon for numerous types of OBGYN operations (so fricken cool!). We discuss why there has been a push recently for women to get "labiaplasty" and why our society makes women think their labia's need to be a certain shape or size to be "good enough". We also touch upon her work at "Playground" a Women's Wellness website founded by Christina Aguilera. Enjoy 15% off your first order when you use code "YOURPOSITION" at checkout! Enjoy! Click Here For A Discount at Playground! Dr. Mathews Website or reach out to her on Socials: @drmathewsgyn @helloplayground

Hello Humans! In this sexy, sensual full frontal we are joined by Jaqueline Michelle who is a Sensuality Mentor and Sensual Shibari Practitioner based in Miami, FL. She specializes in supporting women in connecting to their bodies, revolutionizing their sexuality and sensuality, and healing from sexual trauma in an empowering and safe way. Her background is in yogic and tantric philosophy and solo conscious kink. We discuss the psychological benefits of bondage and BDSM are explored, including the flow state and enhanced communication skills. Jacqueline shares her experiences in the kink community and the deep connections and revelations that can occur. We dive into solo Shabari and how it can be a journey of self-intimacy and sensuality and Jacqueline shares her expertise in sensuality, tantra, and Shabari. She discusses the importance of tuning into the senses and embracing sensuality in all aspects of life, even in challenging moments. Jacqueline also explores the connection between sensuality and emotions, emphasizing the need to process and be present with one's feelings. She highlights the power of touch and sensation, both in self-pleasure practices and in intimate relationships. Jacqueline shares her personal kinks and the transformative impact her current relationship has had on her personal growth. She also discusses the revolutionary potential of ethical porn and the ways in which sensual tantra and Shabari have positively transformed lives. It is a powerful episode! We hope you enjoy! Check out her website here: Sensuality & Erotic Expression- BDSM + Tantra Foundation

In this Full Frontal, Ashley and guest Freya discusses the challenges in Yoni massage training and the lack of legitimate practitioners in the field. Freya also introduces her coaching services and her podcast, The Labia Lounge. We discuss her experiences in helping clients overcome pleasure issues and the importance of practice and integration. She emphasizes the need for understanding female genitalia and the challenges in exploring it. Freya provides insights on finding legitimate Yoni practitioners and coaching men on female pleasure. She also highlights the topics covered in her podcast and her online course. Takeaways Yoni massage training is challenging and there is a lack of legitimate practitioners in the field. Practice and integration are crucial for clients to overcome pleasure issues. Understanding female genitalia is important for both men and women. Finding legitimate Yoni practitioners can be difficult due to the lack of regulation in the industry. Coaching men on female pleasure helps improve their confidence and communication skills. The Labia Lounge podcast aims to demystify and de-stigmatize topics related to genitals, pleasure, and sexuality. Freya offers an online course that provides a step-by-step roadmap to experiencing more pleasure and intimacy. Frey has offered the WYPEEPS a discount for her online course! Use code 100CLAMSOFF to get $100 off! CLICK HERE TO LEARN ABOUT YOUR LABIA!

In this Full Frontal, Ashley interviews Brenna and Brian, hosts of the Front Porch Swingers podcast, about their experiences and insights into the swinging lifestyle. They discuss misconceptions about swinging, the importance of communication, and the evolution of their own swinging relationship. They also talk about the evolution of their rules and preferences in the lifestyle, including their transition from couple swapping to playing separately. The conversation touches on the stigma and discrimination that still exist within the lifestyle community, particularly towards queer individuals. They also discuss their experiences starting a podcast and becoming coaches in the field of sex and relationships. They also share their favorite aspects of watching their partners experience pleasure and how they reconnect as a couple after playing with others, emphasizing the importance of both sexual and emotional intimacy. Brenna and Brian Front Porch Swingers https://frontporchswingers.com https://sexonyourterms.com

HELLO FELLOW HUMANS! On this Full Frontal we talk with CEO of Promescent about premature ejaculation, erectile dysfunction and his incredible product, Delay Spray, which is an FDA clinically proven product to help people with penises make intimacy last longer. We touch on some social and psychological issues that can affect a person’s ability to get and maintain an erection and tips for helping you last longer in bed. Check out his website below for all their products, including sex toys, lubrication and more! Happy Cumming! Promescent Delay Spray

On this Full Frontal we have Author and Relationship Coach, Courtney Boyer back on to discuss the intricacies of being married in the military. Courtney is married to a physician for the US Army and she coaches a lot of couples who have one or both persons in the military. It is this insight that enables her to give us deep and personal insight into what makes military marriages different than civilian marries. From the basics like distance, missing life moments and intimacy, to deeper things like PTSD, infidelity and secret rules you have to follow as a military relationship. She also gives some amazing tips (both typical and outside of the box) to help individuals who marriages have these aspects of the military in them and are struggling to stay connected. This is an episode I have wanted to do for so long and we are very thankful to have had such an expert in the field chat with us. We at WYP love and appreciate those who serve our country and hope this episode helps you create more lasting, romantic, sexy moments with your spouse! Check out Courtney's Website here: Courtney Boyer Coaching Buy her new book about sexual desire and relationships here: Not Tonight Honey

On this Full Frontal we speak to herpes advocate, educator and wellness specialist, Alexandra Harbushka. She has a Podcast, YouTube show and full wellness website called “Life With Herpes” where she helps others work through struggles and challenges that come with a herpes diagnosis. We discuss her diagnosis, stigma and shame as well as taking control and finding a path forward with health and happiness. Join us for this deeply personal and vulnerable conversation. check out her website here lifewithherpes.com

Hello Lovers. On this quickie we breakdown the very beginnings of this love celebration known as Valentines day. We discuss crazy facts about monies spent, cards sent and the history of Galentines day. We also breakdown the Pagan festival that started it all; Lupercalia and all its bloody, whipping, sexy glory... and how a saint named "Valentine" secretly married young romans to avoid war and became a love martyr. Check it out and make sure you tell someone you love them today. And remember, we love you <3 Check out our newest sponsor, Arya for an all new way to connect with your partner! Get a custom made adventure box that satisfy every desire and deepest fantasy. Go to Arya's Website Here and use code WYP15 at checkout for 15% off you first 3 months!

Hello Humans! On this episode we discuss how to cultivate a healthier relationship with dating by become more mindful in our desire, our drive, our self esteem and creating a space where we are able to date and be successful at it! Dr. Marie Thouin is a dating & relationship coach who helps folks of all backgrounds and orientations create vibrant love lives. Her "mindful dating" framework has helped hundreds turn dating into an adventure of personal growth, freedom, and authentic connection with others. Marie is also a leading scholar on the topic of compersion (positive empathy) in consensually non-monogamous relationships, and celebrates relationship diversity as a foundation of creating an intentional life. You can find Marie at www.LoveInSight-Dating.com(coaching) as well as www.whatiscompersion.com (research). Follow her on Instagram at @love_insight_dating.