What‘s Your Position?

This week on What’s Your Position, we’re talking erections, testosterone, ancient gods, and a smart cock ring that tracks your nighttime performance. Yes, really. Ashley sits down with Dr. Elliot Justin, ER physician and founder of FirmTech, the company behind the TechRing, to unpack why erections are more than a bedroom issue. They’re a window into men’s health, sleep, blood flow, and confidence. Along the way, we get into real data, real science, and why erectile health might be one of the most ignored early warning systems in the body. We also discuss what's new at FirmTech in the way of women's orgasmic health! This episode takes some delightful, unexpected detours. From testosterone myths to Aphrodite, from quantified pleasure to philosophical musings on masculinity, this conversation zigzags in the best possible way. It’s smart, strange, sexy, occasionally unhinged, and deeply informative. If you like your sex ed with science, sass, and a little “wait… what did he just say?” energy, this one’s for you. Use code WYP15 at check out for 15% off your order! Get Your firm Tech Here!

Hello Humans! Ever wondered how to take sex to the next level in your relationship? Well this episode is pure joy. 💛 I got to sit down with one of my absolute heroes, Dr. Nicole McNichols, and it somehow managed to be deeply insightful, nerdy as hell, laugh-out-loud fun, and genuinely moving all at once. Nicole is the powerhouse behind the largest human sexuality course in Washington state, a brilliant educator who creates spaces where people feel safe asking the questions they’ve been carrying for years. We talk pleasure as health, why so many of us were never taught the foundations of good sex, the myths that just won’t die, and her brilliant Hierarchy of Sexual Needs that honestly should be required learning for all adults. This conversation felt like sitting in the front row of your favorite class with a professor who makes you feel seen, curious, and way less alone. We also dive into her brand-new book, You Could Be Having Better Sex, out February 3rd, which is a science-backed, shame-free, permission-slip-of-a-book about reconnecting with your sexual self and remembering that pleasure isn’t indulgent, it’s essential. This episode is full of love, laughter, honesty, and those “oh wow…that explains so much” moments. Do yourself a favor: listen, grab the book, and go follow her on Instagram @nicolethesexprofessor. You’re going to want more of Nicole in your life.

There was a time when Rae woke up every single day and cried. In the shower. In the car. Before work. After work. Sometimes for no clear reason at all. And then one day… she didn’t. In this deeply honest, brave, and beautiful episode, Rae shares what it was like to get married in her 20s, spend nearly a decade inside a life that slowly stopped fitting, and ultimately make the hardest decision of her life: to leave. We talk about the grief of divorce, the shame society puts on women who choose themselves, and the quiet fear of starting over when you’ve spent so long being someone’s wife. But this isn’t a story about failure. It’s a story about becoming. We talk about strength you don’t know you have until you’re forced to find it. About reclaiming your body, your voice, and your identity. About dating again, rediscovering desire, and learning who you are when you’re no longer shrinking to survive. We talk about the moment you realize the pain isn’t permanent. That the crying doesn’t last forever. Rae’s story is a reminder that divorce is not the end of a life. For many women, it’s the beginning of one. This episode is a swan song. A love letter to anyone who has grieved a marriage, questioned their worth, or wondered if choosing themselves was a mistake. It wasn’t. And Rae is living proof. Listener note: We had some unexpected technical challenges during this recording. I did my absolute best in post-production, but you may notice a few moments where the music or sound effects feel a little wonky. Thank you for your patience — this conversation mattered too much not to share.

Pack your passports and your pleasure maps because this Full Frontal we’re getting worldly. In this episode of What’s Your Position, we talk to “Hugh” and “Chris,” a married pair of digital nomads celebrating 20 years together and over a decade of consensual non-monogamy. From Colombia to Argentina, Thailand to Bali, they’ve explored how different cultures embrace sex, polyamory, and the art of open desire. We dive into their favorite places to live out the lifestyle (spoiler: South America’s got a heat of its own), and why watching each other’s deepest fantasies unfold isn’t jealousy—it’s joy. With nearly 1 in 5 couples reporting some form of non-monogamous experience, CNM isn’t fringe—it’s freedom. Hugh and Chris share how travel stripped away shame, made communication a daily ritual, and deepened their connection far beyond what monogamy ever did. It’s raw, romantic, and just a little bit risqué—proof that love, like a passport, is meant to be stamped often.

Ready to fall in love… scientifically? In this Quickie we dive into the famous 36 Questions That Lead to Love — the psychology-backed intimacy experiment that once made two complete strangers marry six months later. Created in 1997 by Dr. Arthur Aron, these questions have been shown to make people feel closer to someone they just met than the average person feels toward their actual friends. Yes, vulnerability is that powerful… and that sexy. We’ll explore why these questions work, how to use them to deepen your current relationship, and what your answers might reveal about your desires, fears, fantasies, and emotional needs. You’ll even get interactive moments throughout the episode to play along — think flirty eye contact, juicy personal confessions, and a few “oh no, I wasn’t ready to go that deep today” giggles. We ask each other some pretty deep stuff and give our honest answers. Research shows that couples who engage in novel, vulnerable conversations report higher relationship satisfaction and stronger sexual passion, so consider this your invitation to turn your next date night into a science experiment with benefits. Grab a partner, grab a mirror, or just grab some headphones… love is about to get real.

In this Full Frontal with Matt and Corey—two former insiders of Teen Mania, the evangelical youth empire that packed stadiums, preached purity, and operated with the psychological control of a cult. With an estimated 10,000 cults currently active in the U.S. and cult survivors reporting PTSD at rates over ten times higher than the general population, this conversation gets real about how “just a youth group” can become spiritual warfare with a side of sexual repression. Together, they dive into the hype of Acquire the Fire, the brutal discipline of the Honor Academy, and the purity culture rules that taught millions of teens that their bodies were dangerous and desire was demonic. But it’s not all trauma—there’s laughter, liberation, and the sexy, joyful truth of what happens when you finally reclaim your pleasure. This episode is messy, honest, political, hilarious, and deeply human. Come for the cult tea, stay for the healing.

Ever wonder why haunted houses make your heart race and your jeans feel a little tighter? In this episode, we dive headfirst into the science of fear and arousal — where the line between being scared and being turned on gets deliciously blurry. We’ll explore how your amygdala, that tiny almond-shaped part of your brain, lights up when you’re terrified and when you’re turned on. That’s right — your fear response and your sexual excitement run on the same neurochemical fuel: adrenaline, dopamine, and cortisol. We’ll talk about why horror movies on first dates work so well (hint: your body doesn’t always know if you’re turned on from fear or from the hottie next to you). Plus, we’ll get into “benign masochism” — the psychological thrill of choosing to be scared, sweaty, and screaming, knowing deep down that you’re safe. So whether you’re making out in a haunted hayride, screaming through The Conjuring, or just wondering why you love being scared half to death, this episode is your sexy crash course in the chemistry of fear, pleasure, and why your brain loves to flirt with danger.

ChatGPT said: In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we unzip the messy, seductive world of vanity sizing and how it quietly shapes our bodies, brains, and sex lives. From the hourglass worship of the 1940s and 50s to the waif-thin “heroin chic” of the 90s and the Instagram body of today, we walk through the history of women’s clothing sizes in American and European fashion and why a “size 8” means something totally different in every store. We break down how brands use shrinking numbers as a marketing trick, why women’s sizes were never truly standardized, and how all of this mess fuels body dissatisfaction and unrealistic beauty ideals. You’ll hear about the psychology behind that little dopamine hit when you fit into a smaller size, the mental health fallout when the tag goes up, and how feeling “wrong” in your clothes can follow you straight into the bedroom. Most importantly, we reclaim the idea that sexy has never been a number on a tag—it’s confidence, comfort, and the ability to feel good naked in the body you have right now.

On this quickie In this episode of What’s Your Position?, we take a playful, evidence-based tour through the history of sex toys — from sacred ancient objects and carved stone dildos to “respectable” medical massagers, all the way to the Bluetooth-enabled, app-controlled toys in your nightstand today. We unpack the persistent (but largely debunked) myth that Victorian doctors used vibrators to treat “hysteria,” dig into censorship like the Comstock Act and modern laws that still try to police pleasure, and highlight how feminist, queer, and disability communities have reshaped sex toys into tools of autonomy and joy rather than shame. Along the way, we talk about how big this world really is: the global sex toy market is estimated in the tens of billions of dollars, and research suggests that well over half of women — and around half of men — have used a sex toy at least once. From ancient temples to Texas courtrooms to your group chat, this episode shows how the story of sex toys is really the story of who gets to feel good, and who’s been trying to stop them.

Hello Humans! In this awesome, stat filled, research driven quickie we dive into some of the sex research currently shaping our world! From menstrual bloods MAGICAL healing powers to the first time we have had male broth control make it past phase 2, to research on strippers and ovulation! This is an episode for all you sexy nerd lovers. Stay safe, stay kind, and stay sexy 🤓

In our first Full Frontal of Season 6 we talk to our FAVORITE BDSM sex-pert, Sir Rucifer, as he guides us on a kinky journey into gently introducing kink into your everyday routine. HE teaching Husband how to spank and teaches Ashley the "proper positions" (which we will post in our insta!). We also play "Guess That Toy!" where Rucifer gives the audience a sound and the blindfolded hosts and listeners have to guess the BDSM toy being presented! This episode is for anyone wanting to try an easy entry into kink and foreplay in the bedroom.

IN this first episode of Season six we breakdown some amazing stats from Season 5, some listener questions, some great topics we will cover in season 6 and more! The Quickies are quicker and the Full Frontals are fewer! We introduce a new segment called "What's Bringing Your Joy?" Get ready for a sexy, quickie heavy season with your favorite Sex Podcasters! We can't wait to discover new areas of love, life, sex and pleasure!

In this unforgettable Full Frontal of What’s Your Position, we sit down with the incomparable Jessica Lynn—international speaker, educator, and trans rights advocate whose personal story has changed laws, hearts, and minds around the world. With raw vulnerability and unapologetic brilliance, Jessica opens up about her decades-long fight for truth, identity, and justice—including her high-profile custody battle that became a lightning rod in the global conversation around transgender rights. We explore her evolution from a life lived in hiding to one of radical visibility, and how her scientific knowledge, emotional intelligence, and deep compassion have made her one of the most sought-after voices in gender education today. Fewer than 30% of trans adults over 50 say they have strong support systems. Jessica is changing that—one conversation, one courtroom, and one country at a time. This episode is honest, intimate, and full of the kind of truth that lingers long after the mic goes off. Whether you’re questioning, learning, or unlearning, Jessica’s story will move you to think deeper, love harder, and show up louder. Check out her website here: Jessica’s Website

Hello Fellow Humans! For todays Full Frontal, slip into something a little more comfortable and join us for a steamy stroll through the aisles of desire. In this episode, we get intimate with “V,” a fabulous friend and fierce expert from a local California sex shop, as we uncover the surprisingly scandalous history of erotic retail. Did you know the first recorded sex shop opened in London in 1738? That’s right—across the pond, folks were already in the mood for mood lighting and feather ticklers. But when it came to the U.S., things got a little… stiff. Cue the Comstock Laws, those Victorian-era vibe-killers that tried to criminalize anything sexy—including your grandma’s vintage vibrators. We dish on how laws have tried (and failed) to police desire, and “V” dishes on why walking into a real, brick-and-mortar pleasure shop can still offer something the internet never could: human connection, trusted guidance, and a judgment-free zone to explore your deepest curiosities. We spill the tea, and the lube on just how horney Americans are. Did you know we are buying pleasure products by the millions? In fact, the U.S. sex toy market hit over $10.6 billion in 2024. That’s a whole lot of buzz, babes. So grab your lube and get comfy—we’re talking vibrators, vibrancy, and the value of keeping things real in a digital age. This one’s for the lovers, the learners, and everyone in between. 💋

We are re-releasing some super important episodes to make sure you all got an earful the first time around! Be sure to check out our friends at Arya.FYI.com! Is your bedroom getting boring? Need a spice in your sex life? In this Full Frontal we are joined by Arya's own Head of Relationship Research, Nicholas Velotta, to bring attention to this incredible, relationship changing subscription service. Arya is unlike any "date night" box you have ever seen, with constantly changing scenes that are tailor made for you and your partner by your very own "relationship concierge". From tame to tantric, Arya has boxes curated with high-end sex toys, sexy playlists, ideas for getting started, safe words, aftercare and so much more. Nicholas talks to us about how each box is made, how the scenes are created and the statistics they have learned from the couples who have tried and tested Arya from the start. We also discuss Kevin and my first box and take a look at the future of Arya. Wanna try it for yourself? Use code WYP15 for 15% off your first 3 months. This revolutionary relationship rejuvenator has the WYP sexy stamp of approval. Go check out Arya today, and reignite the passion in your romance. To reach Nicholas: TikTok: mindonlove Instagram: mind_on_love website: mindonlove.com Arya contact: Arya's instagram and tiktok: arya.fyi Arya's website: Arya.fyi USE CODE WYP15 AT CHECK OUT FOR 15% OFF!

Welcome to part 3 of Afternoon Delight: Birth Control Chronicles! We’ve talked about the facts, we’ve broken down the methods, but now—it’s time to dive deep into REAL stories from YOU, our incredible listeners. 🫶 Over 10 submissions came through when I asked for your stories, and I was overwhelmed with the willingness to share. We got a wild mix of call-ins, write-ins, and unforgettable stories that give us the inside scoop on everything from vasectomies to IUDs, and beyond. Huge thanks to everyone who took the time to share—you’re the real MVPs! 💖 💥 What’s on the table? 💥 🔪 Vasectomy Stories: We’ve got three different vasectomy journeys, each one as unique as the person who shared it. Whether it was a quick decision, a long contemplation, or a "why didn't I do this sooner?" moment, these stories bring all the feels. 😱🔪💥 💊 The Pill Chronicles: A few listeners walk us through decades of being on the pill—from being a teen to now. Spoiler: It’s not always sunshine and rainbows, but the lessons learned are priceless. 🌈💊 💉 The IUD Experience: Painful insertion? A breeze? Multiple listeners spill their IUD stories, each more different than the last. Did they almost pass out from the pain? Did they keep it in? Let’s just say, it’s a wild ride. 🚨😵‍💫 🌟 And let’s not forget... our amazing Erin is BACK to talk about life off the pill—what's it REALLY like, and did the grass turn out greener? 💡 Did You Know? 💡 🔹 IUDs are over 99% effective and last anywhere from 3 to 10 years—pretty solid for low-maintenance. 🔹 Vasectomies are 99% effective at preventing pregnancy, but remember—reversal rates can drop over time. 🔹 The Pill revolutionized reproductive health in 1960, but it wasn’t until 1972 that all women could legally access it in the U.S. 😳 Thank you a million times to our listeners for sharing these powerful, personal stories. You inspire us and we are SO grateful for you. 💖 This felt like going back to season 1 where the guests were my friends, so thank you for bringing it full circle. 🎧 Tune in for a raw, real, and hilarious episode full of love, laughs, and life-changing insights. We hope you hear your story, feel validated by similar experiences, or hear something that sparks you to take control over your reproductive health. #WhatsYourPosition #BCConfidential #RealTalkReproductiveHealth #ContraceptionChronicles #mybodymychoice #listenerstory

We’re BACK, baby! 💃 If you thought we covered it all in Afternoon Delight Part 1, think again—because birth control comes in many forms, and we’re breaking them all down. Whether you’re popping a pill, slapping on a patch, or letting the ring do its thing, we’ve got the facts, the history, and the stats you need to make the right choice for YOU. Because when it comes to birth control, one size does NOT fit all! 🔥 What’s on the agenda? 🔥 💊 The Pill: ✔️ First hit the market in 1960—and changed everything. ✔️ With perfect use, it’s 99% effective, but typical use brings it down to 93%. 👕 The Patch: ✔️ Releases steady hormones through the skin—set it and forget it (for a week!). ✔️ Can be less effective in people over 198 lbs, so weight may be a factor. 💍 The Ring: ✔️ Insert it once a month—hello, low maintenance! ✔️ Contains a lower dose of hormones than the pill, but just as effective. 💉 The Shot: ✔️ Just 4 shots a year—talk about easy! ✔️ Can take 10 months or longer to regain fertility after stopping. ⚠️ REMEMBER: Not all birth control is created equal, and not all bodies react the same way. What’s perfect for your BFF might not vibe with you—and that’s okay! Your body, your rules, your choice. 🎧 Tune in, get the facts, and take control of your reproductive health like the badass you are! And come back for part 3 where we hear listener stories about experience on birth control! Stay protected. Stay smart. Stay sexy. 😘🔥 #WhatsYourPosition #BirthControlBoss #MyBodyMyChoice #SafeNotSorry #ReproRights #SexEdMatters #ContraceptionConversation

Hello Fellow Humans! Get ready to crank up the fun and kink factor at Backwards Bordelo! Join us for a playful romp through LA’s most outrageous queer kink event, hosted by the fabulous Carter—your guide to everything quirky, sexy, and delightfully subversive. 😘✨ In this episode, we celebrate queer spaces as the ultimate playgrounds for self-expression, creativity, and a little mischief. We’re diving deep into the history of these vibrant havens—from the legendary gay and lesbian bars that lit up our nights to the sizzling alternative events that have taken over when COVID-19 forced many beloved spaces to close. Did you know that nearly 30% of LA’s iconic queer establishments shuttered during the pandemic? 📉 Across the nation, a similar 20% decline has left many feeling the loss of these safe spaces where laughter, love, and liberation once thrived. But hey, out of every challenge comes a fabulous comeback! 💪🏳️‍🌈 Backwards Bordelo is more than just an event—it’s a beacon of creative resistance. Studies have shown that over 70% of queer youth crave safe environments for authentic exploration and self-discovery, and this event is answering that call with a mix of kink, performance art, and unapologetic joy. 🔥💃 Carter brings their signature blend of humor and heart as we explore how celebrating kink in a secure, inclusive setting isn’t just about pushing boundaries—it’s about building community and fostering empowerment. Whether you’re drawn by the jaw-dropping fire dancers, the immersive Shibari, the dancers and knife play, the vibrant stories of resilience, or the need to reclaim spaces that nurture our true selves, this episode promises to be a rollicking good time! 🎭💖 Tune in for a playful yet powerful journey through queer history, sizzling current trends, and a vision of a future where every queer soul has a space to shine. Because when the going gets tough, the tough get kinked—and we’re here to celebrate it all! 🎙️🌈✨ Let's get this party started! 🎉💥

HELLO FELLOW SELF-LOVING HUMANS! Do we have a TREAT for you! After stalking his Instagram for YEARS, pre-ordering a signed copy of his book "DIY: The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation" I had the absolute pleasure of sitting down with the incredible Dr. Eric Sprankle—a sex psychologist, author, and Associate Professor at Mankato State University—who just released his groundbreaking new book on masturbation and sexual health. 🌟 Let me tell you, this episode is a mix of jaw-dropping facts, myth-busting, and even a little horror movie lovefest! 😏🎥 👀 An Amazing Fact About Masturbation: Did you know that regular masturbation can reduce stress, improve sleep, and even boost your immune system? 💤💪 And contrary to the "semen retention" movement, there’s no evidence that holding back ejaculation enhances masculinity or health. In fact, frequent ejaculation may lower the risk of prostate cancer! (Yes, science 🧬 said so.) We also dove deep into: 🔥 Dr. Sprankle’s book: From the stigmas around solo sex to why masturbation is often framed negatively in mainstream conversations, this book is a must-read. His sex-positive perspective is all about embracing pleasure and challenging harmful myths. 🧠 The debate on "masturbation addiction": Is it a real thing or just another way to shame people for normal sexual behavior? Spoiler alert: there’s more shame than science here. ❌ Why semen retention is NOT the move: Dr. Sprankle broke down the pseudoscience behind this trendy myth and reminded us that pleasure doesn’t need to come with guilt or restrictions. 💔 Where’s women’s pleasure in these convos?: We discussed the glaring absence of female masturbation from most discussions—why is society still so uncomfortable with women owning their pleasure? 🙄 🍿 Horror movie geek-out: Dr. Sprankle is a HUGE horror fan, and we had so much fun talking about our favorite scary movies. From the classics to the slashers, you’ll love this lighthearted side of the convo! (Spoiler: We’re both team Hereditary 👻.) This episode is a must-listen for anyone looking to challenge sexual shame, learn from one of the best in the field, and maybe add a few horror movies to their watchlist. I was honored to have Dr. Eric Sprankle on the show—his work is game-changing, his energy is contagious, and his humor is unmatched. 😍 🎧 Listen now wherever you get your podcasts! And let us know: what’s your favorite horror movie? 👇🍿 BUY THE BOOK HERE!!! 👇 👇 👇 DIY The Wonderfully Weird History and Science of Masturbation #SexPositivity #MasturbationMyths #HorrorLovers #SemenRetentionDebunked #WhatsYourPosition

🎙️ EPISODE TITLE: "No Hormones? No Problem! 🔥 Non-Hormonal Birth Control 101" Episode Synopsis: No hormones? No Problem! In this first part of an all new Afternoon Delight series, w break down all forms of non-hormonal options for making love, without making babies love options. We love options and when it comes to birth control, there’s no one-size-fits-all! While hormonal methods work great for many, they’re not the only way to prevent pregnancy. 🔥 What’s on the agenda? 🔥 ✔️ Barrier methods—Condoms, diaphragms, and cervical caps (Do you really know how to use them right? Let’s find out!) 🛑💦 ✔️ Spermicide & Gels—A little extra protection or a sneaky secret weapon? 🏊‍♂️☠️ ✔️ The pull-out method—Does it actually work? We’ve got the stats to settle the debate. 😏🔄 ✔️ Surgical solutions—From vasectomies to tubal ligations, what does permanent birth control really mean? ✂️🚫 No shade to hormones, but if you’re looking for other ways to stay baby-free, we’ve got you covered. We’re busting myths, breaking down effectiveness rates, and giving you the facts—so you can find what works for YOU. Some fun facts about condoms for your brains: 1️⃣ Effectiveness: When used perfectly, condoms are 98% effective at preventing pregnancy. But with typical use (because let’s be real, no one is perfect), effectiveness drops to about 87%. 2️⃣ STI Protection: Condoms are the ONLY birth control method that also protects against sexually transmitted infections (STIs), reducing the risk of HIV transmission by about 80% and significantly lowering the risk of other STIs like chlamydia and gonorrhea. 3️⃣ Breakage & Slippage: About 2% of condoms break or slip off during sex. Using the right size, checking expiration dates, and using water- or silicone-based lube (not oil-based!) can help reduce this risk. Want more condom tips? Tune in to the episode! 🎧🔥 #WrapItBeforeYouTapIt 💋 Smart, sexy, and all about choices—because birth control should fit your life, not the other way around. 🎧 Tune in and let’s talk about keeping it safe, stress-free, and sexy! 😘💖 #WhatsYourPosition #SafeNotSorry #NonHormonalBC #wrapitbeforeyoutapit