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Setting Boundaries: A Guide to Respecting Yourself and Others

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Hear it Here - adbl.co/3lsqXzM00:00:09 Tip 1: Don’t Make People Repeat Themselves.00:00:44 Tip 2: Don’t Punish People For Their Boundaries.00:02:05 Tip 3: Nonverbal Cues Count, Too.00:03:00 Tip 4: Be Open-minded and Understand That Things Can Change.00:03:33 Tip 5: Forgive Yourself If You Don’t Always Get It Right.How to Respectfully Assert Your Own Boundaries00:04:30 Tip 1: Communicate Clearly, Early, and Often.00:05:32 Tip 2: Do Not Apologize, Explain, or Justify.00:06:25 Tip 3: Take Your Own Boundary Seriously.How to Respect Other People’s BoundariesTip 1: Don’t make people repeat themselves.Tip 2: Don’t punish people for their boundaries.Even if you do feel upset or disappointed because they cannot fulfill a request, for example, understand that that is about you—your feelings about their boundaries are not their problem, and they are not compelled to act in ways to offset that or “make it up to you” some other way.Tip 3: Nonverbal cues count, too.Tip 4: Be open-minded and understand that things can change.Tip 5: Forgive yourself if you don’t always get it right.How to Respectfully Assert Your Own BoundariesGuess what? All the respect and dignity that you are responsible for giving others is something that you yourself are also entitled to! Boundaries are two-way things, and you are perfectly within your rights to know your limits, communicate them, and take action if others don’t respect them.Tip 1: Communicate clearly, early, and often.Tip 2: Do not apologize, explain, or justify.Tip 3: Take your own boundary seriously.#Boundary #Communicate #Communicate #Defending #Dignity #HurtFeelings #Nonverbal #PassiveAggression #Respecting #Responding #UnspokenRules #ValidFeelings #VerbalCommunication #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoaching #UnspokenSocialRulesandEtiquette #PatrickKing #

May 7, 20239 min

Build a Mathematical Mind, Chapter by Chapter

Hear it Here - adbl.co/41AbtdbWould you like to be a proficient mathematician… without using numbers?There is so much more to math than geometry and calculus! It is present in almost every life aspect, from improving your communication skills to how to fit your luggage into your car.Did you always hate math because you couldn’t understand complex formulas?Don’t let a few equations or a bad teacher deter you from building a mathematical mind. Learn the best cognitive tools to revolutionize the way you make sense of problems and persevere in solving them.Boost your critical thinking and analytical skills.Mathematical thinking involves analyzing data, patterns, and relationships and evaluating information and arguments, which can help improve critical thinking skills.Adopt a mathematician’s mindset. Tinker, invent, make educated guesses, describe with precision, and use probability to your advantage.Build a Mathematical Mind – Even If You Think You Can’t Have One is an action manual that will help you sharpen your everyday life skills such as:- improving your logic,- understanding how probability works,- and making estimations.This is a research-backed math manual you'll love to read. It contains examples for faster learning and greater everyday impact.Hone your problem-solving skills and make better decisions.Albert Rutherford is an internationally bestselling author whose writing derives from various sources, such as research, coaching, academic, and real-life experience.Improve your communication skills.Mathematical thinking involves clearly and concisely explaining ideas and solutions, which can improve how you communicate. With enhanced precision, you will have a keen attention to detail and the ability to be accurate in your thinking and talking.Increase your confidence.Developing mathematical thinking skills can increase your confidence and self-esteem, being able to solve difficult problems and understand complex ideas.https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BVCZNJVX/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-340721&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_340721_pd_us#AlbertRutherford #Algebra #AMathematiciansLament #AnalyticalSkills #CognitiveTools #CommunicationSkills #CreativeThinkers #DifficultProblems #Geometry #Lockhart #MathematicalMind #MathematiciansLament #PaulLockhart #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #AlbertRutherfordAlbert Rutherford,Algebra,A Mathematicians Lament,Analytical Skills,Cognitive Tools,Communication Skills,Creative Thinkers,Difficult Problems,Geometry,Lockhart,Mathematical Mind,Mathematicians Lament,Paul Lockhart,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Albert Rutherford

May 1, 202340 min

Build a Mathematical Mind - Even If You Think You Can't Have One: Become a Pattern Detective. Boost Your Critical and Logical Thinking Skills. (Advanced Thinking Skills Book 4) By: Albert Rutherford

Hear it Here - adbl.co/41AbtdbWould you like to be a proficient mathematician… without using numbers?There is so much more to math than geometry and calculus! It is present in almost every life aspect, from improving your communication skills to how to fit your luggage into your car.Did you always hate math because you couldn’t understand complex formulas?Don’t let a few equations or a bad teacher deter you from building a mathematical mind. Learn the best cognitive tools to revolutionize the way you make sense of problems and persevere in solving them.Boost your critical thinking and analytical skills.Mathematical thinking involves analyzing data, patterns, and relationships and evaluating information and arguments, which can help improve critical thinking skills.Adopt a mathematician’s mindset. Tinker, invent, make educated guesses, describe with precision, and use probability to your advantage.Build a Mathematical Mind – Even If You Think You Can’t Have One is an action manual that will help you sharpen your everyday life skills such as:- improving your logic,- understanding how probability works,- and making estimations.This is a research-backed math manual you'll love to read. It contains examples for faster learning and greater everyday impact.Hone your problem-solving skills and make better decisions.Albert Rutherford is an internationally bestselling author whose writing derives from various sources, such as research, coaching, academic, and real-life experience.Improve your communication skills.Mathematical thinking involves clearly and concisely explaining ideas and solutions, which can improve how you communicate. With enhanced precision, you will have a keen attention to detail and the ability to be accurate in your thinking and talking.Increase your confidence.Developing mathematical thinking skills can increase your confidence and self-esteem, being able to solve difficult problems and understand complex ideas.https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BVCZNJVX/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-340721&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_340721_pd_us#AlbertRutherford #Algebra #AMathematiciansLament #AnalyticalSkills #CognitiveTools #CommunicationSkills #CreativeThinkers #DifficultProblems #Geometry #Lockhart #MathematicalMind #MathematiciansLament #PaulLockhart #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #AlbertRutherfordAlbert Rutherford,Algebra,A Mathematicians Lament,Analytical Skills,Cognitive Tools,Communication Skills,Creative Thinkers,Difficult Problems,Geometry,Lockhart,Mathematical Mind,Mathematicians Lament,Paul Lockhart,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Albert Rutherford

Apr 24, 20236 min

Overcome Your Circumstances

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Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3Y6pEVJLet’s take a look at the lives of some of the most successful people in the world who might never have achieved anything if they had allowed their circumstances to define them.Ursula Burns – CEO of Xerox: Raised by a single mother in a New York City housing project, Ursula Burns could have very easily ended up a statistic, but she chose a different route.#AccountabilityPartner #AndrewCarnegie #ArcelorMittal #CarnegieMellonUniversity #CarnegieSteelCorporation #ColonelJamesAnderson #ColumbiaUniversity #DanielWalter #DattoInc #DelVecchio #Excel #KennyTroutt #LesBrown #JPMorgan #KennyTrouttFounder #Lakshmi #LakshmiMittal #LeonardoDelVecchio #LeRoyWashington #LesBrown #LesCalvinBrown #MamieBrown #Mittal #RayBan #Troutt #Ursula #UrsulaBurns #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #HabitsforSuccess #DanielWalter

Apr 20, 202311 min

Deep Work vs Shallow Work

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Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3KWyCB000:00:00 The term deep work was coined by Cal Newport, a computer science professor and best-selling author (clearly someone with high levels of focus), in his book Deep Work.00:02:52 The Western world is so bombarded with high-dopamine distractions that it’s no wonder we are losing our ability to concentrate and put distractions aside for even relatively short periods of time.00:06:47 Planning, Protecting, and Measuring Deep Work.00:09:17 The Deep-Work-to-Shallow-Work Ratio.00:10:41 Deep-Work Philosophies.00:11:49 A famous example of this would be JK Rowling in her efforts to complete the final Harry Potter book.The term deep work was coined by Cal Newport, a computer science professor and best-selling author (clearly someone with high levels of focus), in his book Deep Work.In the book, he highlights two different working methods: deep work and shallow work.Shallow work consists of tasks that take up the majority of our time and energy.They are the tasks that keep us busy and, as Cal Newport puts it, “they keep the lights on."Checking your emails, having meetings, invoicing clients, and making your PowerPoint presentation visually appealing are all examples of shallow work.Are they important?Of course, but they aren’t the difference makers, and they’re not the things that will lead to creation and innovation.This work won’t produce results that will get you a promotion or solve a company-wide problem; it is quite simply just work we must do.Because this type of work is not cognitively demanding, we can balance it quite easily with distractions.

Apr 18, 202316 min

Meditation and Depression

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Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/435nqsxDepression continues to be a major health concern for older adults, making them more socially isolated and unable to retain their cognitive function. Let’s start with how your brain reacts to depression, particularly with its major triggers like experiences of stress and self-doubt. What meditation does is train the brain for sustained focus, and use that focus to fight off any kind of negative thoughts, emotions, or physical sensations. With the sustained practice of meditation, you will be in a better position to ignore any negativity brought about by stress and anxiety and will notice a drop in your stress levels immediately.WHAT MEDITATION ACTUALLY DOESMany may think that meditation pushes stress aside and blocks out negativity. Meditation and breathing exercises can also help you deal with anxiety. Because of the complex nature of depression, you can be led toward dark thoughts while in a depressive state. More often than not, the thought of meditation to combat something like depression may be met with skepticism.HOW TO MEDITATE MINDFULLY Incorporating meditative practices into your daily routine is not that difficult, despite it appearing to be a bit odd in the beginning.#CognitiveFunction #CognitiveTherapy #CyrusBrown #Depression #DepressiveEpisode #HOWTOMEDITATEMINDFULLY #Meditation #MeditationCoach #MeditationTechniques #MeditativePractices #MindfulnessMeditationPractices #MindfulnessPractices #NegativeEmotions #NegativeThoughts #OnsetMeditation #WHATMEDITATIONACTUALLYDOES #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #Low #CyrusBrown

Apr 11, 202320 min

Empower Your Momentum , Chapter by Chapter

Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3K6YLeoIn Empower Your Morning Momentum, you’ll discover how to… Build momentum by taking massive action toward your goals Develop a rapid-action mindset that is programmed to get big results Create a strong sense of urgency to maximize your time Eliminate self-defeating excuses setting you up for failure Crush challenging obstacles preventing you from moving forward Defeat procrastination by overcoming laziness and prioritizing your workEmpower Your Momentum is a practical blueprint forWith simple but effective tactics and strategies, you can now transform your life, work, health, relationships, and goals…by applying the rapid action formula and squeezing every valuable moment from this life to become the most excellent version of yourself.www.audible.com/pd/Empower-Your-Momentum-Audiobook/B0BVCWLR4B# #AnalysisParalysis #ChallengingObstacles #ChallengingSituation #DefinitiveAction #EffectiveTactics #EmpowerYourMomentum #MassiveAction #RapidActionMindset #ScottAllan #MaximizeYourPotentialGetMassiveResults #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #ScottAllan ,Analysis Paralysis,Challenging Obstacles,Challenging Situation,Definitive Action,Effective Tactics,Empower Your Momentum,Massive Action,Rapid Action Mindset,Scott Allan,Maximize Your Potential Get Massive Results,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Scott Allan

Apr 10, 202337 min

Empower Your Momentum: Develop a Rapid Action Mindset to Streamline Your Potential, Get Massive Results, and Stay Disciplined Towards Your Goals! By: Scott Allan

Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3K6YLeoIn Empower Your Momentum, transformational mindset strategist and peak performance trainer Scott Allan delivers a raw and realistic approach to maximizing time and optimizing peak performance strategies.Empower Your Momentum is the no-holds-barred approach to taking massive action to optimize results in your life. This system teaches learners and mindset builders how to take immediate action when confronted with the fear of failure, rejection, and analysis paralysis, in order to build momentum, crush fear and develop greatness.This book will teach you the principles and discipline needed to make massive action the first thing you do in any challenging situation. In this book, I will take you through an unbreakable and proven system for implementing massive action, so you keep moving forward, no matter what the circumstances or situation is. You will learn to bend your environment so you can take control of your massive action moment.In Empower Your Morning Momentum, you’ll discover how to… Build momentum by taking massive action toward your goals Develop a rapid-action mindset that is programmed to get big results Create a strong sense of urgency to maximize your time Eliminate self-defeating excuses setting you up for failure Crush challenging obstacles preventing you from moving forward Defeat procrastination by overcoming laziness and prioritizing your workEmpower Your Momentum is a practical blueprint forWith simple but effective tactics and strategies, you can now transform your life, work, health, relationships, and goals…by applying the rapid action formula and squeezing every valuable moment from this life to become the most excellent version of yourself.www.audible.com/pd/Empower-Your-Momentum-Audiobook/B0BVCWLR4B# #AnalysisParalysis #ChallengingObstacles #ChallengingSituation #DefinitiveAction #EffectiveTactics #EmpowerYourMomentum #MassiveAction #RapidActionMindset #ScottAllan #MaximizeYourPotentialGetMassiveResults #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #ScottAllan ,Analysis Paralysis,Challenging Obstacles,Challenging Situation,Definitive Action,Effective Tactics,Empower Your Momentum,Massive Action,Rapid Action Mindset,Scott Allan,Maximize Your Potential Get Massive Results,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Scott Allan

Apr 3, 20234 min

Unspoken Social Rules & Etiquette, (Un)common Sense, & How to Act By Patrick King, Chapter by Chapter

Hear it Here - adbl.co/3lsqXzMSay please and thank you. Don't stand still in front of a door. Say hi and smile. Don't ask about salary. Is life so complicated? No, but the truth is that these are all unspoken and unwritten social rules. That means you need to learn them. Learn all the social no-nos you've committed your entire life and fix them!Unspoken Social Rules & Etiquette is a guidebook for the modern age. Ever wonder why some people glare at you, or what happened that someone won't return your calls? You probably violated a piece of our society's unwritten and unspoken social rules.This is not a small deal! These are small indicators that will repulse people and prevent them from investing in you. Understand how you can better blend in anywhere, and make a lasting impression.Some of these are obvious, some are not. Learn what you should have learned when you were 5 years old.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you.He is without doubt a uniquely qualified individual to teach you these tactics.Subtle signs to make leave a lasting positive impression on anyone you meet.Etiquette in public spacesSmall talk guidelines on building comfort and avoiding discomfortAn easy framework for introductionsThe golden rule of respect and reciprocityHow to stop giving unsolicited opinionsPersonal space - a user's manualNavigating social misfires and miscues... conflict resolutionFoolproof methods to control how others perceive you.https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BTRHRRGH/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-340251&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_340251_pd_us#Etiquette #PatrickKing #PositiveImpression #UnspokenSocialRules #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoachingEtiquette,Patrick King,Positive Impression,Unspoken Social Rules,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Patrick King,Patrick King Consulting,Social Skills Coaching

Mar 27, 20231h 1m

Unspoken Social Rules & Etiquette, (Un)common Sense, & How to Act (How to be More Likable and Charismatic Book 25) By: Patrick King

Hear it Here - adbl.co/3lsqXzMSay please and thank you. Don't stand still in front of a door. Say hi and smile. Don't ask about salary. Is life so complicated? No, but the truth is that these are all unspoken and unwritten social rules. That means you need to learn them. Learn all the social no-nos you've committed to your entire life and fix them! Unspoken Social Rules & Etiquette is a guidebook for the modern age. Ever wonder why some people glare at you, or what happened that someone won't return your calls? You probably violated a piece of our society's unwritten and unspoken social rules. This is not a small deal! These are small indicators that will repulse people and prevent them from investing in you. Understand how you can better blend in anywhere, and make a lasting impression.Some of these are obvious, some are not. Learn what you should have learned when you were 5 years old.Patrick King is an internationally bestselling author and social skills coach. His writing draws of a variety of sources, from scientific research, academic experience, coaching, and real life experience. He suffered for years as a shy introvert and managed to boil human interaction down to a science - first for himself, and now for you.He is without doubt a uniquely qualified individual to teach you these tactics.Subtle signs to make leave a lasting positive impression on anyone you meet.Etiquette in public spacesSmall talk guidelines on building comfort and avoiding discomfortAn easy framework for introductionsThe golden rule of respect and reciprocityHow to stop giving unsolicited opinionsPersonal space - a user's manualNavigating social misfires and miscues... conflict resolutionFoolproof methods to control how others perceive you.https://www.audible.com/pd/B0BTRHRRGH/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-340251&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_340251_pd_us#Etiquette #PatrickKing #PositiveImpression #UnspokenSocialRules #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PatrickKing #PatrickKingConsulting #SocialSkillsCoachingEtiquette,Patrick King,Positive Impression,Unspoken Social Rules,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Patrick King,Patrick King Consulting,Social Skills Coaching

Mar 20, 20235 min

How to Control Your Fears and Phobias - Systematic Desensitization

Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3XaytgDSystematic desensitization therapy is a type of behavioral therapy used to treat things like anxiety, phobias, OCD, and PTSD.The idea is that people can be conditioned to avoid or be repelled by a certain stimulus, in just the same way that Pavlov’s dogs were conditioned to salivate whenever the bell rang and signaled that food was coming.But if these associations can be conditioned, the theory goes, that means they can also be deconditioned.If you are merely exposing yourself to things that freak you out, you will only reinforce those pathways and become more effective at freaking out!Pick a Relaxation TechniqueConstruct Your Ladder#ControlYourFuture #DesensitizationTherapy #EmotionalTriggers #ExposureLadder #NegativeEmotion #NegativeFeelings #NickTrenton #ProgressiveRelaxation #PTSD #Relaxation #RelaxationProtocol #RelaxationTechnique #Selfawareness #SelfTherapyTechniques #SystematicDesensitization #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #

Mar 16, 202316 min

The Lifelong Learner by Peter Hollins, Chapter by Chapter

Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3KWyCB0 Most of the learning in our lives happens outside of the classroom. This book prepares you for a lifetime of learning.In the classroom, a syllabus is provided and a structure is given. We know what the outcome should be. But in developing yourself and leveling up in any aspect, we are both the teacher and the student. Learn how.Science-backed tips for directing your own learning journey, no matter the pursuit.The Lifelong Learner is about accomplishing your goals. The skill of learning is so valuable in life because without it, you are stuck in place, exactly where you are right now. No growth, no development, and nothing accomplished.This book is how to become a self-sufficient learner that is capable of creating their own syllabus, directing their learning journey, retaining information, and applying it to real-life situations -- all without the pressure of a teacher or tests.Master the key skill that you can use at any age, in any field.Peter Hollins has studied psychology and peak human performance for over a dozen years and is a bestselling author. He has worked with a multitude of individuals to unlock their potential and path towards success. His writing draws on his academic, coaching, and research experience.Outpace others, beat the competition, and get where you want to go in record time. The best way to set learning goals and STICK to them How specific questions can accelerate your learning by 10x How to cram more reading and information absorption into your busy days Understanding personal knowledge management and how it helps your brain make connections Making your own learning syllabus complete with resources Keeping yourself motivated with clever gamification techniqueshttps://www.audible.com/pd/B0BSLWTF12/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-338339&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_338339_pd_us#Bardwick #ComfortZone #Hollins #JudithBardwick #LifelongLearner #PeakHumanPerformance #PersonalManagement #PeterHollins #TheLifelongLearner #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelfBardwick,Comfort Zone,Hollins,Judith Bardwick,Lifelong Learner,Peak Human Performance,Personal Management,Peter Hollins,The Lifelong Learner,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Peter Hollins,The Science of Self

Mar 12, 202337 min

The Lifelong Learner: How to Develop Yourself, Continually Grow, Expand Your Horizons, and Pursue Anything (Learning how to Learn Book 21) By: Peter Hollins

Hear it Here - https://adbl.co/3KWyCB0 Most of the learning in our lives happens outside of the classroom. This book prepares you for a lifetime of learning.In the classroom, a syllabus is provided and a structure is given. We know what the outcome should be. But in developing yourself and leveling up in any aspect, we are both the teacher and the student. Learn how.Science-backed tips for directing your own learning journey, no matter the pursuit.The Lifelong Learner is about accomplishing your goals. The skill of learning is so valuable in life because without it, you are stuck in place, exactly where you are right now. No growth, no development, and nothing accomplished.This book is how to become a self-sufficient learner that is capable of creating their own syllabus, directing their learning journey, retaining information, and applying it to real-life situations -- all without the pressure of a teacher or tests.Master the key skill that you can use at any age, in any field.Peter Hollins has studied psychology and peak human performance for over a dozen years and is a bestselling author. He has worked with a multitude of individuals to unlock their potential and path towards success. His writing draws on his academic, coaching, and research experience.Outpace others, beat the competition, and get where you want to go in record time. The best way to set learning goals and STICK to them How specific questions can accelerate your learning by 10x How to cram more reading and information absorption into your busy days Understanding personal knowledge management and how it helps your brain make connections Making your own learning syllabus complete with resources Keeping yourself motivated with clever gamification techniqueshttps://www.audible.com/pd/B0BSLWTF12/?source_code=AUDFPWS0223189MWU-BK-ACX0-338339&ref=acx_bty_BK_ACX0_338339_pd_us#Bardwick #ComfortZone #Hollins #JudithBardwick #LifelongLearner #PeakHumanPerformance #PersonalManagement #PeterHollins #TheLifelongLearner #RussellNewton #NewtonMG #PeterHollins #TheScienceofSelfBardwick,Comfort Zone,Hollins,Judith Bardwick,Lifelong Learner,Peak Human Performance,Personal Management,Peter Hollins,The Lifelong Learner,Russell Newton,NewtonMG,Peter Hollins,The Science of Self

Mar 5, 20235 min

Top Habits to Be a Better Time Manager

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The bad news is time flies. The good news is you’re the pilot.”— Michael Altshuler00:01:18 Set The Goals Right Away Achieving your goals at the right time is a core part of time management.00:01:45 Prioritize Work When prioritizing work, it is better to list all your tasks and then prioritize them—set reminders about priority tasks and why you have made them your priority.00:02:03 Audit Your Time For Seven Days Straight Auditing and taking accountability is an excellent way to manage time.00:02:39 Start With Your Most Important Task.00:03:08 Avoid Multitasking If you want to get more work done in a lesser time, stop multitasking.00:03:41 Delegate Work Delegating work means handing your workload to someone else and giving them the authority to complete it.00:04:07 Take Regular Breaks Taking small and regular breaks allows us to relieve our stress and tension productively.00:04:39 Schedule Email Response Time Emails are critical and a fast and more convenient way to communicate than phone calls, especially in your professional life.00:05:12 Manage To-Do List Notes A to-do list lists all the tasks you need to carry out in the day or week.Time management is critical to get the most out of your day and remaining productive. Time management is about staying focused, changing your behavior for the better, and devoting attention and effort to each task.

Feb 28, 20237 min

Calm Your Emotions, Chapter by Chapter

Though I wasn’t the best student in school, I was able to develop a close friendship with my high school English teacher, Mr. Locke.I’m not sure why he took an interest in me, but I suppose a convenient narrative is that he’s the reason I ended up as a writer, and I have him to thank for all of it. Unfortunately, that would be false to say, as it’s not remotely what we talked about most of the time.Throughout the whole year, it was enlightening to ask him about the books we were reading for class and what he actually thought about them. The Adventures of Tom Sawyer? Overrated. The Great Gatsby? His favorite of all time. Of Mice and Men? He preferred the movie.However, things got really interesting when the end of the year drew close and he started to open up about the people in my class—my peers. Of course, this was a dream come true for me: an adult willing to gossip with me about my fellow students. Looking back, it was wildly inappropriate for Mr. Locke to engage in such topics with me, but it’s not like the teachers weren’t doing it amongst themselves, anyway.He let me in on a little secret of his: Whenever he had to give negative feedback, he would always make sure to try to build up the individual student a couple days before. He would do this to make sure their self-esteem, at least in the realm of his class, was sufficiently high, such that his negative feedback wouldn’t have as big of an impact. He wanted students to not take things so personally and to be able to separate his comments on their work from them as a person. Too many students in the past had received his feedback in less than ideal ways. He wanted them to hear, “This paper could use work,” not “You need work.”My teenage mind was blown away, and I told him that he was so clever to use “Jedi mind tricks” on his students. He told me there were a few students he would do this on more than others because he felt they had low self-esteem or he knew they were being bullied outside of his class. My adult mind still admires him and thinks that he had tremendous insight into how people worked—especially future adults who were still figuring themselves out and had fragile egos. It wasn’t until much later that I realized he was helping students gain emotional resilience through raising their self-esteem. Self-esteem is an essential component of emotional resilience and is often deemed the immune system of emotions. When it’s high, you can handle what’s thrown your way, and when it’s low, you are more likely to collapse under scrutiny. Mr. Locke had somehow dialed into that and instilled that into his students. Emotional resilience is a trait that is like the background music in a movie. When it’s there, you don’t notice it and it seems that scenes just fit together without a hitch. However, if it’s missing, suddenly words are taken the wrong way, everything feels wrong, and the scene falls apart. In other words, you notice it when you need it, but not when you don’t. Therein lies the conundrum of resilience, emotional stability, and strength in the face of tragedy and despair—how do you get it before you need it, and how do you know if you don’t have it? The ugly truth is that none of us are naturally born with it.

Feb 26, 202325 min

Calm Your Emotions by Nick Trenton

Emotion is not the enemy. We just need to decipher them and learn tools for regulation and resilience.We all get knocked down and face hardships, but we always have the choice to get back up or not. What will your choice be?Learn to train your emotions and tame your reactive brain.Calm Your Emotions is the rare book that understands where you’ve been, the obstacles you’ve overcome, and what you need to make sure you are in full control of your life at all times. This is a stunningly detailed and insightful guide into our emotions, our triggers, and why we act against our own interests so frequently. The key to our emotions is NOT to just “think calm and meditate” or “be mindful and grateful.” This book avoids unhelpful platitudes and gives you real advice, borrowing from all fields, such as psychology, counseling, behavior science, evolutionary biology, and even Buddhism and Stoicism.This book gives you the tools for emotional success and the daily happiness and calm you seek.Don’t let your emotions dictate your decisions and life.Nick Trenton grew up in rural Illinois and is quite literally a farm boy. His best friend growing up was his trusty companion Leonard the dachshund. RIP Leonard. Eventually, he made it off the farm and obtained a BS in Economics, followed by an MA in Behavioral Psychology.Discover your inner strength and calm.•Understand the biological and psychological purposes of emotions.•Find what triggers your deepest and strongest emotions.•Learn how to properly express yourself for greater understanding.•Tools to recognize and regulate in the heat of the moment.•How to activate your “emotional immune system.”This book is the blueprint for what to do when you inevitably get knocked down. The path to what we want is never easy; controlling your emotions gets you from Point A to Point B.

Feb 23, 20235 min