Why Waiting Too Long for Couples Therapy Can Make Things Worse
This Complex Life · Marie Vakakis
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Show Notes
Many couples only seek therapy when their relationship is already in serious trouble. But by the time they reach out, years of unresolved issues, built-up resentment, and unhealthy patterns can make it harder to repair their connection. So, what happens when couples wait too long to get support, and why is early intervention so important?
Join me Marie Vakakis, a therapist, and mental health and relationships educator and Michelle Janssen as we discuss why couples therapy isn’t just for relationships in crisis, how waiting too long can make healing more difficult, and how seeking support earlier can lead to better outcomes.
Key takeaways
- Couples often wait an average of six years before seeking therapy, allowing issues to worsen.
- Therapy is most effective when couples seek support before problems escalate.
- Unresolved conflicts, resentment, and miscommunication can become deeply ingrained over time.
- Many couples don’t seek therapy due to stigma, fear, or the belief that things will improve on their own.
- Small issues left unaddressed can turn into significant relationship challenges.
- The earlier couples get support, the more tools they have to strengthen their relationship.
- Therapy isn’t about fixing a broken relationship—it’s about learning better ways to connect and communicate.
Resources
- The Gottman Institute’s research on couples therapy effectiveness – www.gottman.com
- Four horseman
- Art and science of love workshops
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https://www.brisbanecouplescounselling.com/
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