Think New Thoughts

Have you ever felt discouraged that your life doesn't seem to match the "picture on the box"? In this episode, I'm offering a totally different way to think about your messy, beautiful, imperfect reality. What if it's not a problem that things don't look how you imagined—what if that's exactly how they're supposed to look? Tune in to hear why aiming for joyful IMperfection might be the most freeing goal you've ever set. Schedule a free mini session with me to explore this topic or something else you've heard on the podcast.

Confidence isn't something you're either born with or not—it's something you believe your way into. In this episode, I'm sharing three specific thoughts you can click on and "buy" inside of your mind and feel the shift almost instantly. If you've ever felt paralyzed by fear, self-doubt, or decision drama, these beliefs will help you feel steady, brave, and full of grace for yourself. We'll talk about what confidence really is—and what it definitely isn't. Wanna dive deeper into increasing your confidence? You'll love our recent workshop: Real Confidence--What It Actually Is and How to Make Yours Unshakeable Join the Think New Thoughts Academy for immediate accesss to this workshop (and so much more!) Or, schedule a free mini coaching session with me and I'll help you think new thoughts so you can feel more confident!

Your brain is incredible. It can actually rewire itself to believe new things, form new habits, and create totally new outcomes in your life. Believing something new can feel like bushwhacking through the jungle at first, but if you stick with it, the new road will get easier and easier to drive on. Whether you're stuck in self-doubt, trying to parent differently, or just craving change, you already have what it takes to build a new road. Let's talk about how to start paving it. Schedule a free 1:1 mini session with me and I'll show you how to do this! https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/minisession

Sometimes life stings — literally and figuratively. Whether it's a wasp on your finger, an illness, or the kind of loss that leaves your world in ashes, it's natural to feel like something has gone terribly wrong. But what if it hasn't? In today's episode, I'll show you why "nothing has gone wrong" isn't a dismissive thought, but rather a deeply compassionate way to meet life's hardest moments. If you're feeling overwhelmed by something unexpected, unwanted, or unfair… this one is for you. Schedule a free 1:1 mini session with me and let's talk about this. https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/minisession

Did you know that most of what we feel isn't caused by what's happening—but by what we think about what's happening? In this episode, we're talking about the powerful shift that happens when you realize: It's just a thought. You'll hear real-life coaching examples, learn how to separate facts from your story, and discover how this simple skill can change everything from your emotions to your relationships. If your thoughts have been weighing you down lately, this episode is your reminder that you can think something new. Schedule a free 1:1 mini session with me and I'll show you how to do this! https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/minisession

Is there something you need to get done, or want to accomplish... that you keep putting off until "later?" In this episode, I'm sharing why procrastination is really just your brain trying to avoid an uncomfortable emotion—and how to gently outsmart it. You'll learn how to make things feel smaller, simpler, and more doable—so you can start making progress now, not later. And if you want help applying this to something in your life, grab a free mini session at https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/minisession—I'd love to chat with you!

Feeling overwhelmed? You might think the ultimate solution is to just push yourself to do more, do more, do more. In this episode, I'll show you why overwhelm isn't caused by your to-do list, but by what you believe about it—and how to shift from burnout to peace by sharpening your mental saw. If you've ever felt like there's too much to do and not enough of you to do it, this one's for you.

Your brain is kind of like a toddler—it needs gentle reminders to focus on what's good. In this episode, I'm sharing the idea of "4:8-ing," inspired by Philippians 4:8, and how this small, intentional shift in thinking can change how you experience your relationships, your body, and even yourself. Whether you 4:8 your mate, your kids, or your life, joy starts with what you choose to see. It won't erase your problems—but it will change your perspective. Send me a message on instagram and tell me how your 4:8ing is going!

"Hey, I wrote this manual that lists how I need you to behave so I can be happy. Please follow it exactly. Or else I will be mad." Sound familiar? If you've ever felt trapped by someone else's expectations, this episode is for you. We'll cover 3 ways to respond when someone hands you their manual—including the one that will bring you the most peace (hint: it's not doing the monkey dance). Tune in to find out how to keep your sanity intact! Links: Come to our Think New Thoughts Academy April Workshop to get help applying what you're learning on the podcast: April Workshop: Oops! 4 Signs your Boundary is a Manual in Disguise I'll walk you through some written exercises to help you turn your manuals into boundaries. Only members will get access to the replay and our full workshop vault, but if you come live, you can get get this class for free!Reserve Your Spot Here If you've been enjoying this podcast, could you leave me a review? Thanks so much!

Are you setting a boundary, or actually just trying to control someone else? In this week's episode I share the four mistakes people make when they want to set a boundary but end up with a manual instead (hint: if you're obsessing over someone else's actions or speaking from frustration, you might be in the OOPS zone). But don't worry—I've also got a simple acronym to help you aim for peaceful, empowering boundaries instead. Whether you're navigating tricky family dynamics, wanting to set limits as a parent, or just wanting healthier relationships, this episode will help you step into more clarity and calm. Links: Last chance! Sign up before April 4th to get access to the replay: 3 Hidden Reasons You're Fighting With Your Teen and How to Stop Dive Deeper into Boundaries and Get Your Questions Answered at the Think New Thoughts Academy Workshop on April 8th Reserve Your Spot Here

Do you ever feel stuck in a Monopoly-style jail, waiting for someone else to change so you can finally be happy? You've asked, you've pleaded—but they keep making the same choices, and you're left rolling the dice, hoping for doubles. What if I told you there's a way out that isn't a game of chance and doesn't require any luck? In this week's episode, I'll hand you the ultimate Get Out of Jail Free card so you can actually feel love no matter what anyone else does (or doesn't do). Tune in and set yourself free. If you want help getting out of "jail" as a mom, join me for this free webinar: 3 Hidden Reasons You're Fighting With Your Teenager (and how to stop!) Register Here If you've been enjoying this podcast, could you leave me a review? Thanks so much! Connect with me on Instagram. Send me a DM or leave a comment to share your thoughts about this episode!

Operating manuals for cars or printers or refrigerators can be super useful. But operating manuals for people aren't usually as helpful. When we write up pages and pages of detailed instructions in our minds for how we want other people do things, and then get upset when they don't follow the manuals we wrote, we actually create misery for ourselves in our relationships. Tune in to this week's episode to learn more about manuals--and a different approach that's a lot less frustrating. Join me for a free webinar: 3 Hidden Reasons You're Fighting With Your Teenager (and how to stop!) Register Here If you've been enjoying this podcast, could you leave me a review? Thanks so much! Connect with me on Instagram. Send me a DM or leave a comment to share your thoughts about this episode!

It can be easy to criticize and judge ourselves or others. It requires a little more effort to cultivate compassion, but it's one of the most beautiful, expansive emotions you can feel. Listen in this week as I share practical ways to shift from judgment to compassion, even when it feels hard. Whether you're struggling to show kindness to yourself, a loved one, or even a difficult person in your life, this episode will inspire you to aim for compassion—and give yourself grace when you miss. Resources and Next Steps: If this podcast resonates with you, please leave me a review! (Go to the show and scroll down past the listing of the most recent episodes, and under that there is a pen/paper icon that says "write a review." Tap on that and write a few sentences of what you have found helpful or inspiring. Thanks so much!) Connect with me on Instagram. I'd love to hear your thoughts about this episode! Apply what you're learning on the podcast, go deeper, and get individual help from me inside the Think New Thoughts Academy.

Pain is painful. And life is full of it, right? But did you know that there's a type of pain that is optional? (As in, you can choose whether to experience it or not?). There's clean pain (the inevitable struggles of being human) and dirty pain (the unnecessary suffering we pile on top with our thoughts). Tune in to this week's episode to discover new thoughts that will help you experience pain differently--and maybe even find more joy along the way. If you're enjoying this podcast, leave me a quick review! (Go to the show and scroll down past the listing of the most recent episodes, and under that there is a pen/paper icon that says "write a review." Tap on that and write a few sentences of what you have found helpful or inspiring. Thanks in advance! Connect with Me on Instagram: Send me a DM or drop a comment to share your impressions about this epsiode or ask a question. Think New Thoughts Academy: Get help applying what you're learning on the podcast and go deeper with me inside the Think New Thoughts Academy.

What if your very best life isn't one without negative emotions but rather one that wholeheartedly welcomes both the good and the bad? A lot of times we dream about days filled with only happiness and ease, but don't realize that those feelings wouldn't be as meaningful if we didn't regularly experience their opposites. In this episode, I show you how believing the 50/50 rule and accepting the full emotional spectrum can actually lead to a richer, more joyul life. Citations: Elizabeth Gilbert's Speech to Fear Think New Thoughts Academy: Check out our most recent workshop in the Think New Thoughts Academy, "How To Let Go Of A Grudge." I'll show you how to relax into the uncomfortable and inconvenient realities of life and then move forward: holding on to the lessons, but letting go of the rest. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

Here's the truth: There are gonna be a lot of things in your life that don't turn out the way you would have liked. And sorry to tell you this, but none of the tools I teach will prevent bad things from happening to you, give you the power to control other people, or prevent you from ever making mistakes. What I CAN help you do is decide, when things don't go your way, whether you end up wallowing in an experience or moving through it. Tune in to today's episode to discover the key ingredient that will help you make an emotional lasagna that ends up tasting great, rather than one that is moldy and makes you sick. ;) Think New Thoughts Academy: Check out our most recent workshop in the Think New Thoughts Academy, "How To Let Go Of A Grudge." I'll show you how to layer on acceptance instead of resistance so you can start moving THROUGH your experiences instead of getting stuck wallowing in them. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

Being a human is kind of like being the pilot in an airplane. Your cockpit is lined with switches and dials and buttons, and you are receiving constant input of things that need action or attention. In today's episode, I share 2 strategies that can help you react, but not OVERREACT when you feel urgency about a situation. Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

Our brains are interpreting facts all day long...and sometimes we end up making assumptions or drawing conclusions that aren't actually true. Did you know that you don't have to believe everything your brain tells you? In this episode, I share 2 simple strategies that can help you challenge your brain a little bit when it gets carried away in lots of drama about things that happen in your life. Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

Last week's episode was about noticing and understanding your thoughts, rather than trying to control them. The next step, once you become aware of your thinking, is to give your thought a "product review." In other words, you evaluate whether the thought you are thinking is helping you create what you want in your life, or helping you create what you don't want. Tune in to today's episode to find out how evaluating a thought is not the same as judging yourself for thinking it, and get some concrete examples of how to practice this skill. Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

Some people, when they first start learning about life coaching, they get the idea that what we're trying to do is control our thoughts. We gotta push those negative thoughts away, don't let them in, and just figure out a way to make ourselves think positive. What I teach, what I believe in, is actually not that at all. In this episode, I share two words that describe what I'm aiming to do with my thoughts, and what I help others do with their thoughts when I'm coaching them. Tune into today's episode to learn how you can notice your thoughts and understand your thoughts, rather than trying to control them. Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

My oldest son is about to turn 20. Over the years I have shifted my mindest from being frustrated that my kids have the ability to make choices I wouldn't make, more toward honoring and celebrating their god-given right to decide how they will live their lives and who they want to be. In today's episode I share a piece of my journey in the form of a letter I wrote to my son a few years ago. If you are raising teenagers, or are in any other situation where you find yourself reaching over wanting to control other people ("just do what I want you to do, dang it!")this episode is for you. Links: Free Forgiveness Class I'm teaching a free forgiveness class Friday, January 10th on zoom. It's called "Rewrite Your Story." If you missed the live class, you can sign up and access the replay until January 17th. Sign up here: www.emilyrickscoaching.com/forgiveness Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

Have you ever worn a sweater that was super uncomfortable? That was too tight, or too scratchy, or that you just didn't feel excited to go out in? Thoughts are like sweaters. Some thoughts fit just right, and you'll feel really good when you think them. Other thoughts feel uncomfortable, or downright terrible. Sometimes we buy sweaters for ourselves that we really don't end up liking, or sometimes we wear sweaters that we really don't enjoy wearing, that were given to us by other people. Either way, if you don't like how you feel when you believe a thought, you can stop "wearing" it at any time. Tune in to today's episode to learn more. Links: Free Forgiveness Class I'm teaching a free forgiveness class Friday, January 10th on zoom. It's called "Rewrite Your Story." Learn more and register here: www.emilyrickscoaching.com/forgiveness Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

If you want to set a New Year's Resolution that is guaranteed not to last more than a month, look no further for the ultimate guide--I'll show you exactly how. In this epsiode, I'll teach you how to focus exclusively on the actions you need to take, how to criticize yourself, and and how to maintain rigidity in your plans to ensure that you lose motivation to achieve any goal in a matter of weeks. I bet you can't wait to learn these secrets! Or, if you want to set a long term goal and actually achieve it, I'll share 3 (opposite) tips for how to do that too. If you want a good chuckle and also some ideas for how to inspire yourself to make a positive change in your life this year, this episode is for you. Links: Free Forgiveness Class I'm teaching a free forgiveness class Friday, January 10th on zoom. It's called "Rewrite Your Story." Learn more and register here: www.emilyrickscoaching.com/forgiveness Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. January Workshop: More Than Just the Tip of the Iceberg: How to Leverage Your Thoughts and Emotions to Set and Achieve Goals. In this workshop I'll guide you through some written exercises to help you set a meaningful, purpose driven goal, how to get curious and compassionate with yourself when you fall short along your journey, how to generate the emotions in advance that will fuel you toward what you want to accomplish, and how to invite God into the process. www.emilyrickscoaching.com/join 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

What is your perception of forgiveness? When you think about the idea of forgiving someone who has wronged you, do you feel about as excited as a toddler who is being told it's time to take a nap? If you are carrying around frustration and resentment over things that have happened in the past, you probably have some understandable reasons why you don't want to let go. And you don't have to. But you can. For YOUR sake. Listen in to this episode to find out 3 things forgiveness ISN'T--and how it can set you free. Links: Free Forgiveness Class I'm teaching a free forgiveness class Friday, January 10th on zoom. It's called "Rewrite Your Story." Learn more and register here: www.emilyrickscoaching.com/forgiveness Think New Thoughts Academy: Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast. 100 Thoughts for More Joy Wanna think some new thoughts? Here are 100 of my favorites that you can try out. Be warned, though. Choosing to really, truly believe even one of these thoughts could drastically impact the way you view yourself and others, and might completely change your life. :) https://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/100-thoughts-for-more-joy

Have you ever longed for a project, commitment or event to be over so you can finally get relief from all the stress? A lot of people imagine the relief they will feel when their circumstances are different. But since relief is a feeling, and feelings are created by your thoughts (not your circumstances!), there are certain types of relief that are actually available to you right now, even if your circumstances don't change at all. Listen in to today's episode to hear 3 "real life" examples of how this can be true. Grab my free PDF: 100 Thoughts for More Joy http://www.emilyrickscoaching.com Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast: http://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/join

Your life is like a musical, and you are the director. You get to choose what you shine your mental spotlight on. It's up to you to decide what things you will think about, talk about, post about, complain about, worry about, express gratitude for, or believe in. Who or what do you want to cast as the lead in your musical?? Where do you want to give your focus and attention? Tune into this week's episode to get some inspiring advice from the Apostle Paul that can help you as you direct the musical inside your mind. Grab my free PDF: 100 Thoughts for More Joy http://www.emilyrickscoaching.com Join the Think New Thoughts Academy to get help applying the tools you're learning on the podcast: http://www.emilyrickscoaching.com/join Tommy Newberry's Book, The 4:8 Principle (It's so good!) The 4:8 Principle: The Secret to a Joy-Filled Life

Did you know you can be grateful for things that haven't happened yet? You can't know exactly what the future holds, but if you visualize what you hope for and believe is possible, you can experience a feeling of gratitude now, that will fuel you toward a future that is full of things to be grateful for. Tune into this week's episode to consider a whole new way of looking at what it means to have faith. Grab My Free PDF: 100 Thoughts For More Joy at www.emilyrickscoaching.com

If you're looking to feel frustrated, powerless, and exhausted, I know just the thing! It's called arguing with reality. Most of us do it all day long, and it drains our energy and gets us nowhere. In this episode, I'll share 3 things you can't ever change no matter how hard you try, and show you how to train your brain to focus on what you CAN change. Listen in for a fresh take on what gratitude is...and isn't. Grab My Free PDF: 100 Thoughts For More Joy at www.emilyrickscoaching.com

Did you know that when you feel stressed about the holidays, it's not caused by the gifts, the decorations, or your busy schedule? In this episode, I'll tell you about a sneaky thought (that seems lovely but is actually toxic!) that creates so much stress if you believe it. I'll also share some ideas of what you can choose to believe instead. If you don't feel any stress or anxiety or worry about anything related to the holidays, or if you are super stressed and uptight about a bunch of things but that doesn't bother you at all, you could skip this epiosde. But if you feel some pressure this time of year, and maybe some resentment or dread or frustration as you plan and execute all the festivities, and you'd like to dial that down a little bit, this episode is for you! Grab My Free PDF: 100 Thoughts For More Joy at www.emilyrickscoaching.com

Thoughts create feelings. So what thoughts create anxiety? If you're like most people, you probably feel anxious when you are thinking thoughts that focus on things you worry might happen in the future or emotions you worry you might feel in the future. In this episode, I point out what a lot of people do to try to decrease anxiety that doesn't usually work, and I share a strategy that's only a little bit different, that can help you feel the opposite of anxiety. It might surprise you how simple it is. Grab My Free PDF: 100 Thoughts For More Joy at www.emilyrickscoaching.com

Have you ever regretted a decision you made, or something you said or did? If you're like most people, you've probably longed for the ability to go back in time and fix a mistake you made so you could get out of feeling all that regret. Well, unless you're Marty McFly from Back to the Future, you'll probably never have a time machine to go back and change the past. The good news is, you don't need one. Tune in to this week's episode to find out how the solution to regret is actually in the present. Grab My Free PDF: 100 Thoughts For More Joy at www.emilyrickscoaching.com

Do you sometimes feel sorry for yourself when life doesn't go the way you planned, or when you face challenges, difficulties, or disappointments? If you do, it's totally fine. You can choose to feel sorry for yourself anytime you want to. But, if you don't really like the feeling of self-pity, you can actually choose connection, gratitude, and hope instead--even when you are going through hard things. Tune into this week's episode and I'll show you how. Grab My Free PDF: 100 Thoughts for More Joy www.emilyrickscoaching.com

Do you ever feel like you are on trial? Like every day, you have to somehow prove that you are smart, capable, and good enough... Or depending on the evidence of the day, accept the verdict that you aren't?! Do you put other people on trial, too? If you're tired of trying to prove who measures up and who doesn't, or of trying to play judge, jury, defendant, and prosecutor with yourself and in your relationships, I have good news for you: You don't have to keep doing it. Tune into this week's episode, where I share how you can shift from a focus on "proving" into the joy of IMproving. To dive deeper, join the Think New Thoughts Academy and access the 1 hour workshop: How to Choose Growth in Any Situation www.emilyrickscoaching.com/join Grab my free PDF: 100 Thoughts For More Joy www.emilyrickscoaching.com

If you're like most people, you sometimes end up blaming other people for the negative parts of your life, or you beat YOURSELF up when you make mistakes or fall short. In this episode I'll show you why blame and shame are both tempting, but utimately aren't useful because they both keep you trapped in negative emotion. And did you know that blame and shame aren't your only two options? I'll tell you what I recommend instead, that feels SO much better. Grab my free pdf: 100 Thoughts for More Joy at emilyrickscoaching.com

Something that drives me crazy is to reach into a drawer to get a pen and not have any pens in there. Which is pretty funny, because I also have a habit of using a pen in one room and then wandering into another room without realizing I'm doing it. Tune in to this week's episode to get a few good laughs about what it looks like when we accidentally create results in our lives that we don't want, and learn what you can do about it. Grab my free pdf: 100 Thoughts for More Joy at emilyrickscoaching.com

In this episode I share a life coaching tool that is the foundation of everything I do as a coach. I use this tool with my clients, I use it to coach myself, I use it to create courses, and you can use it to make any changes you want to make in your life. It's called The Model. Tune in to find out what it is and how you can start benefitting from it right away! Grab my free PDF: 100 Thoughts You Can Choose To Think If You Want to Find More Joy in Your Relationships

Do you want to find more joy in your relationships? Would you like to be in the driver's seat of your own emotions, instead of constantly feeling worried or frustrated about what other people do and say? In this episode, I explain how there is a big difference between what happens in your life and the way you choose to interpret what happens. I share how to separate circumstances from thoughts, which is a skill that you'll get better and better at as you practice. The better you get at distinguishing facts from stories, the more leverage you will have over how you feel on a day to day basis--which will make a big difference in the way you treat yourself and others. Download my free PDF: 100 Thoughts You Can Choose To Think if You Want To Find More Joy in Your Relationships

Welcome to the Think New Thoughts Podcast! In this introductory episode, I share the idea that you have the power to choose the thoughts you want to think, and explore 2 truths and a lie about life coaching: The truth that all thoughts are optional, the truth that what we choose to think creates our emotions, and the lie we often believe that what HAPPENS to us determines how we feel. If you've heard about life coaching and want a quick crash course to find out what it's all about, this episode is for you. Download my free PDF: 100 Thoughts You Can Choose To Think if You Want To Find More Joy in Your Relationships