
The Slumflower Hour
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THE HOT GIRLFRIEND
THE PRIDEFUL MAN
WIFEY MATERIAL?
REBELLION
BREAKING UP WITH HIM
THE CHASE
S4 Ep 10SO YOU CRASHED OUT...
ESo you finally let it rip on him...I guess he deserved it! In this rather validating episode, join Chidera as she talks about why crashouts can sometimes be beneficial for you - and why every man deserves the wrath that comes from provoking a bleeding woman! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 9HIS MUSE
EHas a man ever called you his muse? If so, did you know you may be entitled to compensation? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the invisible cost of being a man's muse - and why women deserve money when men use us as their artistic inspiration! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 8YOU DON'T NEED TO SAVE HIM
EHave you found yourself trapped in his sob story? Has that broke man got you going 50/50 as a way to 'ease his load'? Does your desire to save men come from a place of procrastination? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why we need to leave men to figure it out - no matter how much it hurts us to watch them struggle! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 7STAY FOCUSED!
EDoes falling in love tend to have you forgetting yourself? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the reasons we must always prioritise ourselves as women - no matter how much the lovebombing is beginning to work! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 6HIS PROBATION PERIOD...
EShould we bring back the 90 days period of 'waiting'? Should we start making men audition for our affection? Are men better partners when we put them through probation first? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she talks about why it's still important to make him wait - and how you can effectively use his pride and ego to your benefit while he proves his intentions to you! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 5ABOUT BEING A GIRLS GIRL...
EDoes the 'girls girl' really exist? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the complexity of female empowerment, expectations placed on women to like each other within feminism - and enjoy a juicy storytime of a situation where a woman tried to 'steal' a guy she was dating...on national TV! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 4BITTERNESS
EShould women be bitter? Is bitterness an emotion we can alchemise? Should we reclaim the word 'bitter'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses what pushes a woman to become bitter - and why men weaponise the word against us. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
SO YOU WENT THROUGH HIS PHONE...
EShould you go through a man's phone? Is there a silver lining to catching a man cheating? Are you prepared to walk away or would you prefer to punish him? In this short and sweet episode, join Chidera as she discusses her opinion on whether you should look in that man's phone, and why as a woman it's always important to remain a few steps ahead emotionally! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 2SO YOU'RE GOING ON A GIRLS NIGHT OUT...
EIs the club really the place to find love? Should we be charging men to talk to us in the club? How do we keep safe and vigilant in the function? Join Chidera for a funny episode where she discusses the tactics of using your looks, your wit and your discernment to have fun without losing yourself! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S4 Ep 1THE POLITICS OF P*SSY POWER FT. PAMELA BLONDE
EIn the first episode of season 4, we are joined by dominatrix, social campaigner and all-round powerful woman: the one and only Pamela Blonde! Join us for a conversation where we discuss sex work decriminalisation, castration kinks, needle play fetishes, being estranged from our mothers, being vulnerable as a dominant woman and being truly loved in all your layers as a sex worker. Find and support Pamela online via @ServePamela Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 38*SEASON 3 FINALE* WE NEED TO BE MORE MEAN TO MEN!
EIn the FINAL episode of season 3, we are joined by a fellow disobedient woman all the way from Australia! @HorribleMeanBadWoman (real name Sarah) is the much-needed radical voice of female rage, who makes zero effort to spare men in her cultural commentary about patriarchy, male failure and why we should all be a little more horrible, mean and bad to men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 37THE MAN CHILD
EAre you harbouring a man child in your home and calling him a husband? Is your mother-in-law the persistent third wheel in your marriage? Does that man seem to forever be 'unable' to clean up after himself? In this episode, join Chidera as we tackle the curious case of the man child! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 36TRANSPARENCY?
EAre women conflating oversharing with bonding? Does telling men every single thing strengthen the relationship? Is your husband truly being transparent with you? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks all the reasons you need to be less 'transparent' with men - and why honesty constantly being expected of women, is part of the grooming process. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 35SO YOU'VE BEEN DUMPED!
EHas he pulled the rug from under you? Did you see it coming but you tried to tell yourself otherwise? Is it time for you to start being the dumper to see what that power feels like? In this episode, join Chidera as she embraces the so-called 'toxicity' of dumping men first - and why it's important for women to be the villain once in a while... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 34TOXIC FEMININITY
ECan femininity be considered toxic? Should women have bigger egos? Do women have a victim mentality? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the ways that femininity can be used against us, and why women need to see beyond what has been taught to us, in order to identify potentially abusive relationships. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 33WHITE FEMINISM...
EDo white women have a different version of feminism? (Yes) Is feminism serving us or holding us back when it comes to dating men? Are white women enablers of patriarchy? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why Black women and women of colour cannot rely on white feminism...and why there are different socioeconomic ramifications Black women face when we split bills with men. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 32SO YOU KEEP GIVING HIM CHANCES...
EDo you tend to feel bad when a man begs and grovels? Are you against holding grudges? Should we give men more chances? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you of all the reasons men don't deserve more chances, no matter how 'sorry' they are! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 31REJECTION?
EDoes rejection make you spiral? Should women stop being old-fashioned and just make the first move on a man? Should we reject men before they reject us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses the power of rejection - and how women can use it more to our advantage! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 30IS IT TOO LATE?
EIs it too late to find 'the one'? What does it really mean when men call a woman 'expired'? Are men worth longing for? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she reminds you that it is not too late to start living for yourself - and why not finding 'the one' might just be your biggest blessing! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 29DESIRE IS POLITICAL
EHave you ever considered or questioned the politics behind your romantic desires? Is a man's attraction to you political? Do our dating preferences change with our politics? In this episode, join Chidera as she recounts her racist experiences working in the strip club, and what dating politically means to her. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 28MARRIAGE IS S*X WORK
EDo you see marriage for the negotiated contract that it is, or do you see marriage as a purely spiritual union, devoid of any power dynamics or transactions? Does the idea of marriage being compared to s*x work offend you, or do you see the ways women are expected to perform sexual and domestic labour as a 'duty'? Do married women actually benefit from marriage? In a rather contentious and controversial episode, join Chidera as she dives deeper on her perspective that marriage to straight men is the lowest paid form of s*x work. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 27DATING OLDER MEN VS YOUNGER MEN
EWhat's all the hype surrounding dating younger men? Are older men a better option? Should there be an age limit for age gap relationships? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses her preference - and why neither option is necessarily 'easier'. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 26REPEATING THE SAME MISTAKE
EAre you trapped in a redundant loop of making the same mistake? Does your impulsivity betray you? Are you finally ready to leave your destructive life behind? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the pitfalls of repeating the same mistakes women often make - and why feminism might be adding to your problems here. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 25LISTEN TO THIS BEFORE YOU GO ON THAT DATE!
EAre you off to see that man? Do you feel tempted to make it easier for him? Is your gut reliable enough for you to be dating right now? In this episode, join Chidera as she lovingly warns you about what to be vigilant of in this desperate dating market! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 24ABOUT STINGY MEN...
EIs he stingy or does he just not like you? What happens if you have kids with a stingy man? Should we cheat on stingy men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why we should all expect more from men - and why stingy men deserve to be lonely. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 23MISSING HIM?
EDo you miss him? Has the amnesia suddenly hit you and now you can't remember why you cut him off to begin with? Are you tempted to go back? In this episode, join Chidera as she talks through the reasons we end up caving when we think we miss these dudes. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 22BREAKING YOUR HEART FOR YOUR ART?
EWas that horrible relationship worth it because you were able to write some songs about it? Do you believe you have to put yourself through pain in order to feel creative? Did that heartbreak really need to happen or are you using art as an excuse to justify being around men who don't deserve you? In today's episode, join Chidera as she (lovingly) drags the musician girlies! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 21DETACHING WITH DIGNITY
EAre you too easily attached to men? Are we 'manifesting' bad treatment from men by expecting it of them? Is your rejection sensitivity making you unnecessarily empathetic to men? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why healthy detachment from men will save your life. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 20MALE PRIVILEGE
EIs there really such thing as 'terrible husband but a good father'? Should we starve men of sex to solve their entitlement issues? Will men ever become the 'good people' we fantasise about them becoming? In this episode, join Chidera as she normalises hating men back. TRIGGER WARNING: This episode discusses male sexual violence against women Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 19WE NEED TO REJECT MEN MORE OFTEN
EShould we be less approving of men's flirty advances, even if they are being cute? Are we making the male loneliness epidemic harder on men by being less understanding of their sexual needs? And have we explored what might actually happen if we raise the bar for men to meet us? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she justifies why she believes we need to make ourselves more romantically scarce - after all, men are not entitled to our love. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 18BEING THE WOMAN HE CAN AFFORD
EWhat do you stand to lose by being the woman he can afford? Do men appreciate women more when our standards are lower? Or are we just overthinking this whole thing?! In this episode, join Chidera for a rather hilarious and spicy chat. ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 17ATTRACTIVE MEN?
EAre attractive men worth all the hassle? Do good-looking men deserve to be humbled? Is it a safer bet to date an 'ugly' man? In this episode, join Chidera for a rather juicy chat! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 16MALE-CENTRED WOMEN?
EAre desperate women sinking the ship for the rest of us? Can men tell when you're male-centred? Are low-effort dates even worth it in the name of being a 'cool and easy' girl? In this episode, join Chidera as she highlights the dangers of male-centred women...and what we can all do to redirect the focus to ourselves! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 15MEN WILL NEVER CHANGE
EAre you still clinging onto the hope that one day, men will finally be who we want them to be? Is feminism doing what we need it to do? Are YOU brainwashed? The Slumflower explores it all in this episode! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 14ARE YOU PRIME PREY?
EDoes being too empathetic make men see you as pathetic? Could there be a pattern of your behaviour that predatory men are drawn to? Are you prepared for a world where the men you're dating are leaning closer towards red pill ideologies? In this episode, join Chidera as she raises the alarm on how close the predator is in proximity to all of us! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 13HOMEWRECKER?
EDo 'homewreckers' really exist? Would you date your friend's ex? Should you forgive your husband for cheating? Hmmm...in today's episode, join Chidera as she debunks this 'homewrecker' phrase once and for - and shines the light on where it belongs: MARRIED MEN! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 13CASUAL SEX?
EIs sex really casual? This is the question being pondered upon in this episode. Join The Slumflower as she toys with the debate of whether a woman can truly benefit from 'no strings attached' sex! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 12COMMUNICATION IS NOT KEY!
EDo you find yourself having to keep repeating your requests to the man in your life? Do people keep telling you that you need to 'communicate' if you want a healthy relationship (even though the person you're communicating to is not listening)? Have you found yourself feeling fatigued in your relationship? This episode is specifically for the women who are trapped in the communication loop. There's a way out! Join Chidera as she helps you untangle the knots to finally find clarity in handling men who don't listen to you. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 11HOPELESS ROMANTIC?
EAre you a hopeless romantic? Do you believe that love conquers all? Do you live in the hope that one day, you'll fall in love and things will fall into place as they were always meant to? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she debunks the concept of being a 'hopeless romantic', while she exposes the true intentions of men who call themselves that! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 10USE HIM
EDo you feel guilty about using men in a world where men created a system where women will always be commodified? Have you found yourself feeling tongue-tied when wanting to ask a man for help? Should men be of service to us? In this episode, join Chidera as she discusses why we should put these men to work! ;) Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 9HOW TO NOT GET ATTACHED
EDo you struggle with premature attachment to men? Do you fear you'll never stop being a lover girl? Is it really the man you're attached to or are you attached to the idea of being desired? In this episode, join Chidera as she helps you banish the demonic spirit of unnecessary attachment to straight men! Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 8ENERGETIC HARVESTING
EIs that man using you as an ego boost? Is he really 'just shy' or is he waiting for you to chase him? Do men deserve our friendship? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses the ways men steal our energy for their own empowerment... Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 7LOSING HOPE?
EIs your loneliness starting to become obvious? Do you secretly fear that you're not going to find your person? Are you losing hope? It's okay! Let's chill out, take a deep breath and reground ourselves. In this episode, join Chidera as she talks you through your FOMO and debunks your fears. Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
S3 Ep 6THE STRONG WOMAN
EAre you a strong woman who takes pride in being independent? Do you secretly wish you knew how to receive support without 'losing' your strength? Do men praise you for being 'strong'? In this episode, join The Slumflower as she discusses why being strong doesn't mean you have to struggle! Besides, what's the man there for? Join my patreon for access to more revealing episodes, a 65-page guide on whether to keep or leave that guy, as well as answering your dilemma questions! Get my latest book POCKET POWER FROM THE SLUMFLOWER Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices