087: Coaching with Lian: How to Handle Swearing and Hitting

In this episode, Lian joins me for a coaching call to discuss the challenges she’s facing with her four-year-old son.

 

Her son has been using swearing to communicate his frustration and big feelings. Lian also shares how his frustration often escalates from mean words to physical aggression.

 

I give her tips and strategies to help transform her son’s approach and behavior, and we make a plan for Lian and her husband moving forward. Be sure to listen in until the end to hear our check in.

 

We go into:

• [0:50] What to do if your child uses profanity excessively 
• [3:50] How Lian has tried putting limits on this issue so far
• [6:10] Why we can't ignore troubling behavior
• [10:40] What to do if the behavior isn't due to lack of attention
• [12:50] The shame we feel as parents when our kids do something  humiliating 
• [18:10] The 'good' vs. 'bad' parent dichotomy
• [20:45] Why the naughty behavior hasn't crossed over into other areas of Lian's son life
• [23:50] How to handle your kid hitting you
• [30:45] Tips for helping your child empty their emotional backpack
• [36:05] How hard parenting really is on a marriage
• [38:00] Check in with Lian
• [42:15] Tips for empathizing with our kids
• [48:00] Keeping an aggression log
• [56:30] Why we should never ignore a child when they're upset

Resources mentioned in this episode

• FREE How to Stop Yelling Course: www.sarahrosensweet.com/yelling 
• Book coaching or a free consult: www.sarahrosensweet.com/coaching 
• Patreon: www.patreon.com/peacefulparenting 
• Playful Parenting by Larry Cohen: https://amzn.to/3Dj49IY 
• Raising Human Beings by Ross Greene: https://amzn.to/3yvOgg6  

 

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