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The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

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127: Stepmom And Bio Mom Are Friends

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Cari Ray! Cari and Lori have actually known each other since they were teenagers when Lori dated Cari's stepbrother. Cari is a bio mom to two boys and a stepmom to two girls! She's been blending for four years and has a great handle on Nachoing! In this episode, we discuss: Learning to pause Different relationships with the "other" parent Being friends with bio mom and how it affects the blend Not responding to high conflict situations Stepkid messes

Nov 5, 20211h 28m

126: Childfree Stepmom Pushed To Love Stepkid

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Whitney. Whitney has been blending for 6 years and has one 14-year-old stepdaughter. She is childfree and loving it! Like many stepmoms, Whitney struggled with not taking things personally, feeling alone in the struggle, and letting go of some of the need for control in the home. In this episode, we discuss: Not taking things personally Being pushed to tell stepkid you love them Feeling rejected by the stepkid Having a dad who is a stepkid Seeing a therapist

Oct 29, 20211h 9m

125: Stepmom On The Crazy Train

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews "Stepmom on the crazy train in southwest Missouri". She's been blending for 7 years, has a 13-year-old stepson, and a 12-year-old bio son. Her stepson has been diagnosed with ADHD, ODD, OCD, anxiety, and PTSD. She and her husband dated briefly 20 years ago and found their way back to each other. She joined the Nacho Kids Academy to help with her blended struggles and has even taught her son how to Nacho! In this episode, we discuss: Desiring to be a nuclear family Wanting to be "Super Stepmom" Dealing with a high conflict bio mom Having a stepkid with mental health challenges Your significant other becoming less attractive because of his lack of parenting

Oct 22, 20211h 13m

124: Stepmom Whose Stepkids Tattle On Her

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Shay. Shay has been blending for 5 years, has two stepkids, three bio kids, and one "ours" kid. The hardest part of the blend for Shay has been the lack of respect from stepkids since the visitation schedule changed. In this episode, we discuss: Visitation schedule changes Summer visitation challenges Stepkids tattling on the stepmom When the bio parent is a "Disney Dad" Not wanting to bond with the stepkids

Oct 15, 20211h 9m

123: Stepdad Who Feels Taken Advantage Of

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, co-founders of Nacho Kids, interview John Burwell. John is a stepdad in his blend of four years. He has two adult bio sons and two stepdaughters, ages 21 and 12. John takes care of his blend financially but is expected to step back from any parenting of his youngest stepdaughter. John is dealing with feeling used, taken advantage of, and not part of the family. In this episode, we discuss: Stepdads struggle too Financially providing for your stepkid only to be told not to parent the stepkid Loyalty binds When bio dad decides to re-enter the picture When bio dad chooses to not help financially

Oct 8, 20211h 12m

122: Stay-at-home Bio Dad To Four Girls Talks About The Blend

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Chris Burcher a stay-at-home dad. Chris is the bio dad in the blend and has been blending for 6 years. He has four daughters, including one of which is an "ours" daughter. Chris understands the challenges his wife has had to deal with being a stepmom. In this episode, we discuss: Being a stay-at-home dad When the kids don't like the new girlfriend/stepmom Adding an "ours" baby to the blend Being stuck in the middle of the wife and bio kids Being accused of not loving the "ours" baby as much as the kids from the first marriage

Oct 1, 20211h 12m

121: Interview With Ron Deal

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview Ron Deal. Ron has a new book out discussing preparing to blend. Nacho Kids, along with Ron, cannot express enough the importance of preparing to blend prior to blending. In this episode, we discuss: Preparing To Blend Lack of counselors and therapists that understand the blend "Coupleness" versus "Famliness" Today isn't representative of every day in the future Lack of blended family support in churches

Sep 24, 20211h 22m

120: Stepmom From Texas ~ Party of 10+

*** Disclaimer: This episode has mention of abuse - physical and drug, and murder. *** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a Texas stepmom! This Texas stepmom has grown children but married a man with kids still at home. She has four bio kids and four stepkids (one of which is not her husband's bio child) ranging in age from 29 to 8 years old. She and her husband also have custody of her niece, and at one point had a foster child too. They've been blending 3-½ years and the best advice she's received is to not judge her significant other for his differences in parenting styles. In this episode, we discuss: Having adult bio kids and stepkids still in the home Having different parenting styles than your significant other Being a stepkid When your bio kid doesn't like your partner When one of your stepkids isn't your partner's biological child

Sep 17, 20211h 9m

119: Tracy Poizner Of The Essential Stepmom & Lori Sims Talk Nacho

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, and Tracy Poizner of the Essential Stepmom sit down for a chat. They entertain us with a little blended family skit about what is not Nachoing. Together, they are proof the blend doesn't have to suck. In this episode, we discuss: Seeing things differently Communication is key in the blended family Examples of NOT Nachoing Blending is not the same for the childless stepmom Stepkid vs Bio kid cup on the counter

Sep 10, 202156 min

118: Interview With Gabby Gast

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Gabby Gast. Gabby has been blending for four years, has a stepson who is nine and two adopted kids from her first marriage, a ten-year-old daughter and an eight-year-old son. Eight months into her current relationship, she was diagnosed with end-stage cystic fibrosis and had to have a lung transplant. The hardest part of the blend for her is how bio mom's toxicity affects stepson's relationships with her and her husband. In this episode, we discuss: Loyalty binds between kids and bio parent Toxic bio mom Having different parenting styles Resentment in the blend A reset in the blend

Sep 3, 20211h 22m

117: Stepmom Who Kicks Butt

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Samantha Seff - MMA fighter. Samantha has been blending for 4-½ years and is a stepmom to two stepkids, ages 18 and 17, who are with them fifty percent of the time. The bio mom is very high-conflict and that is the hardest part of their blend. The best advice she has received is learning when to step back and Nacho! In this episode, we discuss: Dealing with a high-conflict bio mom Feeling unappreciated Being OCD and dealing with stepkids' messes Blended family expectations Date nights

Aug 27, 20211h 26m

116: You Thought Your Bio Mom Was Crazy

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori & David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview step couple EB & Hector who are expecting their first "ours" baby. They have been blending 2.5 years and Hector has two bio kids ages 7 and 6 full-time except every other weekend. When Hector got custody of his kids full-time, EB knew she needed help and joined the Nacho Kids Academy. In this episode, we discuss: Adding an "ours" kid to the blend Custody changes Dealing with a crazy high conflict bio mom Getting help with the blend Being determined to make the blend work

Aug 20, 20211h 14m

115: Claudette Chenevert ~ The Stepmom Coach ~ The 2021 Stepfamily Summit

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews The Stepmom Coach ~ Claudette Chenevert! Claudette has been blending for over 30 years and has been helping stepmoms for over 20 years! In 2020, Claudette released The Stepfamily Summit where stepfamily experts shared their wisdom with stepparents! The 2020 Stepfamily Summit was so successful, she's hosting another one this year! And Nacho Kids is blessed to be a part of this summit as well! In this episode, we discuss: The 2021 Stepfamily Summit Micro-communities Self-care What to expect from the summit Why this summit is so awesome, besides the fact Nacho Kids is a part of it

Aug 13, 20211h 28m

114: Full-time Childless Stepmom Who Nachos Like A Queen

*** DISCLAIMER: This episode includes mention of domestic violence, PTSD, and suicidal thoughts. *** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews childless/childfree stepmom Melissa. Melissa has been blending for five years and has a 21-year-old stepson and a 12-year-old stepdaughter full time. Melissa's husband was in an abusive relationship with his kids' mother. He fought for his kids in court and won full custody two and a half years ago. In this episode, we discuss: Parental Alienation High conflict bio mom Being a childless or childfree stepmom Using the Nacho Kids Method properly ~ Nachoing Child support ~ lack of

Aug 6, 20211h 26m

113: Stepmom To Stepkid With ODD - Oppositional Defiant Disorder

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Rebeccah. Rebeccah is a behavior analyst and stepmom to two stepsons, one of which has ODD - oppositional defiant disorder and the other has ADHD. Rebeccah shares with us information about ODD and how it impacted her blend. In this episode, we discuss: What ODD is Being a childless stepmom When the bio parents don't get their bio kids help Using the Nacho Kids method, "Nachoing" When a stepkid refuses to come for visitation

Jul 30, 20211h 8m

112: Stepkids Attempting & Threatening Suicide Because Of Blended Issues

*** DISCLAIMER: Episode includes discussion of suicide attempts and threats *** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a childless stepmom in Detroit. This stepmom has been blending for 2-½ years and has three stepkids ages 19, 13, and 11. Amongst the three stepkids, one attempted suicide, and two have threatened to. In this episode, we discuss: Parental Alienation The bio parents not getting along When the dynamics change Helping the other bio parent not feel threatened Transition days between homes

Jul 23, 20211h 5m

111: Blended Couple Didn't Think Blending Would Be This Hard

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews blended couple, Jessica and Mark! They have been blending for 4-½ years. Mark has three daughters ages 20, 18, and 16, and together they have a two-year-old son. Jessica was an "ours" child in her blend and thought that experience would make their blend a little "easier". That wasn't the case. In this episode, we discuss: Adding an "ours" kid to the blend Lowering expectations The grieving process of blending Co-parenting with the ex The stepparent telling the bio parent how to parent

Jul 16, 20211h 40m

110: Full-time Stepmom To Three Stepkids With An Absent Bio Mom

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a stepmom with three stepkids and one bio kid. The stepkids' bio mom is absent the majority of the time but does resurface occasionally. Stepmom has been blending for seven years. When bio mom resurfaces, it only causes issues in the blend. In this episode, we discuss: Being a full-time stepmom with an absent bio mom It's not about you Knowing when to step back Food issues in the blend Being a teacher and Nachoing

Jul 9, 20211h 20m

109: Canadian Stepmom's Partner Changed Mind About More Kids As Agreed

*** Trigger warning: Postpartum depression is discussed in this episode *** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a Canadian stepmom who has been blending for 2-½ years with three stepkids and one ours baby. Prior to dating her significant other, she told him if he didn't want two more kids, that was a deal-breaker for her. He agreed; however, after them having one child together he seems to not want another. In this episode, we discuss: Moving away from friends and family Dealing with a high conflict bio mom Significant other changing their mind about more kids Finances Postpartum Depression

Jul 2, 20211h 14m

108: Super Stepmom Gets Overwhemled

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Debora. Debora, who moved to the US from Brazil, has been blending for 16 months and is a stepmom to three stepkids and a mom to two bio kids. In the beginning, the kids got along great! In this episode, we discuss: Not having enough bedrooms for each kid to have their own Having a significant other who is a control freak Having a good relationship with bio mom Stepkid's extracurricular activities Significant other having PTSD - Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

Jun 25, 20211h 7m

107: Stepmom With One Psycho Bio Mom And One Cool Bio Mom

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Silvia. Silvia has been blending for about a year and a half. She has two stepkids from different bio moms and one bio kid. The hardest part of blending for her is the differences in parenting. The best advice she's received about blending is to Nacho! In this episode, we discuss: Having a special needs child Differences in parenting Messy stepkids Guilty Parent Syndrome Nachoing putting more responsibility on the bio parent

Jun 18, 20211h 10m

106: Widowed Couple Has 9 Kids In Their Blend

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, co-founders of Nacho Kids, interview stepmom Kari. Kari and her husband both lost their spouses from previous marriages. Kari has five bio kids and her husband, Andy, has 4 bio kids! Yep, NINE kids total between them!! In this episode, we discuss: Being a widow and remarrying Having mom eyes without the voice Nachoing homework & chores Never having a "break" Moving into an existing home

Jun 11, 20211h 27m

105: Childless Stepmom Nachos Her Stepkids But Her Partner Won't Nacho Her Dogs

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Amy. Amy has been blending for nine years. She is a childless stepmom with two adult stepkids. Amy Nachos her stepkids but her significant other won't Nacho her dogs, which of course are like her kids! In this episode, we discuss: Being a childless stepmom Boundaries and expectations Losing a parent at a young age Having a rocky relationship with a stepparent Stepfamily trips/vacations

Jun 4, 20211h 30m

104: Discussing Parental Paralysis With Tracy Poizner ~ Essential Stepmom

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview Tracy Poizner of the Essential Stepmom. Tracy is a mom and a stepmom. She helps parents and children improve their physical, mental, and emotional well-being. As a parenting strategist, she teaches divorced dads how to raise children to become prosperous adults despite high conflict custody or limited visitation. In this episode, we discuss: Parenting Paralysis Discipline Modeling the values you want your kids and stepkids to have Guilty Parent Syndrome

May 28, 20211h 11m

103: Childless Stepmom To Three Stepdaughters

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a childless stepmom to three stepdaughters. One of her stepdaughters is not biologically her husband's child. This stepmom has been blending for three and a half years and struggles with a high conflict bi-polar bio mom. In this episode, we discuss: Dealing with a high conflict bi-polar bio mom Telling your significant other about the Nacho Kids method Nachoing what causes you stress House rules Nachoing bio mom

May 21, 20211h 11m

102: Stepmom Who Nachos Twin Stepdaughters Differently

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Morgan! Morgan has been blending for five years, married two of those years, has two teenage twin stepdaughters, and two teenage bio sons! She also has a seven-year-old daughter, whom her husband is adopting. The bio father to her seven-year-old daughter was fighting her for custody while he was in the work release program in jail! In this episode, we discuss: The family court system Nachoing one stepchild differently, or more, than another Significant other wanting to adopt one of the bio children Attending functions with the ex When bio mom has no rules

May 14, 20211h 31m

101: Stepmum Who Is Being Investigated Because Of Facebook Posts

*** Disclaimer: This episode may not be suitable for children *** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Lisa, a stepmum from the UK! Lisa has been blending for about three years. She is a bio mom to adult bio kids and has a five-year-old stepdaughter. Her husband expects her to be "mom" to her stepdaughter and this is causing a lot of problems. Lisa, like many stepmoms, uses Facebook groups to talk about her stepmum struggles. Unfortunately, someone anonymously sent screenshots of her Facebook posts to child services and now Lisa is under investigation. In this episode, we discuss: When your significant other wants you to "replace" the bio mom Dealing with a high conflict bio mom Bio mom not getting her kid on her scheduled time Facebook - not a "safe" place Boundaries

May 7, 20211h 30m

100: Another Nacho Kid's Viewpoint

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview David's oldest son, Avery. David always felt Avery was impacted the most, out of all his kids, by his divorce from their mom. When Avery was a teenager, Lori had the fear a lot of stepparents have about their stepkids. The fear of the stepkids never moving out! Avery proved Lori's fears to be wrong when he joined the Air Force! Avery is now married to a lovely young lady and is doing awesome! He is an outstanding young man that David and Lori are very proud of! In this episode, we discuss: The kid's viewpoint of divorce Bouncing back and forth between homes Blended family expectations Blended family realities Lori Nachoing

Apr 30, 20211h 29m

099: Stepmom Who Went Off On The Bio Parents

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Karen. Karen has been blending for five years and has a seven-year-old stepson. She Nachos stepson's bio mom and due to stepson's behavior recently taking a turn for the worse, Karen has had to step back a good bit in her stepmother role and start Nachoing her stepson. In this episode, we discuss: Feeling like you gave your life up for the blend Learning your place in the blend Stepparent role is ever-evolving and changing Nachoing the bio mom Thinking about adding an "ours" kid to the blend

Apr 23, 20211h 14m

098: Inappropriate Touching Between Bio Kid And Stepkid

*** Disclaimer: This episode contains discussions of inappropriate sexual behavior between a bio kid and a stepkid. *** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Jane. Jane has been blending for five years and has three stepkids and three bio kids. Jane admits to being a high-conflict bio mom in the past and feels it hurt her kids' relationships with their dad and stepmom. Jane is currently struggling with the fallout of her bio son and stepdaughter engaging in inappropriate sexual behavior. In this episode, we discuss: Being a high conflict bio mom Dealing with an overstepping bio mom Not being first Pushing relationships in the blend Dealing with inappropriate sexual behavior with bio and stepkid

Apr 16, 20211h 21m

097: Interview With Elise Buie ~ Family Law Attorney

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview Elise Buie ~ Family Law Attorney in Washington state. She is a mom to four and a stepmom to two. Elise says her kids are very different than her husband's kids because her husband's kids were raised by military parents and are very disciplined, and let's just say her's aren't as disciplined. In this episode, we discuss: Family court system issues Differences between how bio kids and stepkids were raised Food fights Post-divorce issues How to co-parent like CEOs

Apr 9, 20211h 15m

096: Stepmom Whose Husband Won't Nacho Her Kids Part 2 ~ Mini-wife Syndrome

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, continues her interview with the Yankee Stepmom. Blending for 4-½ years, having four stepkids and two bio kids - one of which is adopted, the Yankee Stepmom and Lori discuss Mini-Wife Syndrome! In this episode, we discuss: Mini-wife making you feel like the other woman Mini-wife parenting other kids Daddy's girl vs mini-wife syndrome Does bio dad discourage or encourage the mini-wife behavior Touching between mini-wife and bio dad

Apr 2, 20211h 15m

095: Stepmom Whose Husband Won't Nacho Her Bio Kids

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews the Yankee Stepmom. The Yankee Stepmom has been blending for 4-½ years, has four stepkids and two bio kids - one of which is adopted. She learned to Nacho and wishes her husband would do the same. Unfortunately, her husband not nachoing her bio kids has caused a lot of stress in the home and she is thinking it may be best for her adopted son to go live with his bio dad for a year - 14 hours away. In this episode, we discuss: Moving into the house the significant other shared with the ex Bio mom overstepping When your significant other won't Nacho Considering letting your bio child go live with the other bio parent Being put on antidepressants after becoming a stepmom

Mar 26, 20211h 18m

094: Stepmom Whose Counselor Told Her To Back Off

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Holly. Holly and her significant other have been blending for eight years. Holly has a stepdaughter who is 13, a bio daughter who is 10, and two "ours" daughters ages 7 and 1. She and her stepdaughter started getting close which upset the bio mom. When stepdaughter was about 10, she and Holly started having issues, so Holly and her husband went to marriage counseling. The counselor told Holly she needed to back off. In this episode, we discuss: Being a stepkid Relationships between "ours" kids and stepkid When stepkid is an only child at the other home Letting the bio parent handle the discipline Being told you need to step back

Mar 19, 202157 min

093: Stepmom Required To Meet Bio Mom

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview stepmom Kaila. Kaila and her significant other have been blending for about a year. She has a stepson that is 7 years old and a stepdaughter that is 3 years old. Part of the custody agreement between Kaila's significant other and the bio mom was that bio mom would meet Kaila before she met the kids and Kaila had to wait four months before meeting the kids. In this episode, we discuss: Not knowing anything about stepfamilies Realizing you are not their mom Being/feeling second Wanting a child of your own Nachoing

Mar 12, 20211h 28m

092: Blended Couple Who Is Rockin' The Blend

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview blended couple Crystal & Mike. Crystal has no children of her own, and Mike has two kids - a son who is 15 years old and a daughter who is 13 years old. They have been blending for 3 years and have the kids fifty percent of the time. Crystal's hardest part of blending was feeling like she didn't belong in the pre-made family. In this episode, we discuss: Being a stepkid Living close to the bio mom Disney Dad Coming into a ready-made family

Mar 5, 20211h 25m

091: Stepmom Who Nachos Discipline With Her Bonus Kids

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Kayala. Kayala has been blending for three years and has two stepkids - one of which is neurodivergent, two bio kids, and an ours kid. Kayala grew up in a blended family where her dad was kind of pushed out of the picture. She has a good relationship with her stepkids now, but it wasn't always that way. In this episode, we discuss: Being a stepkid Dealing with a high conflict bio mom Gentle parenting Not being one family

Feb 26, 20211h 9m

090: Interview With Mary Lynn Bradshaw ~ The Suburban Urban Mom

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Mary Lynn Bradshaw of The Suburban Urban Mom YouTube channel. When Lori ran across Mary Lynn talking about Nachoing on her channel she thought she was going to hear someone talk about how Nachoing is so bad or wrong information about Nachoing. Surprisingly, Mary Lynn "got it". Lori was shocked! She had to reach out to Mary Lynn and ask her to be a guest! Mary Lynn has been blending for 7 years and is a full-time stepmom. She has one teenage stepdaughter, a teenage bio son, and a 4-year-old ours child. Nacho was a turning point for Mary Lynn and her stepdaughter. In this episode, we discuss: Being a full-time stepmom Nachoing and the Nacho Kids method When your significant other still has a relationship with bio mom's family Gratitude journals Having an ours baby

Feb 18, 20211h 48m

089: A Couple Who Fought To Be A Nuclear Family

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews Aimee & John who have been blending for almost eight years. Aimee has an 11-year-old son, John has a 9-year-old daughter, and they have a 1-½-year-old son together. From the beginning of their marriage and for years they tried to force a nuclear family out of the blend and felt rejected when it backfired. They found the Nacho Kids method and decided to give it a try! In this episode, we discuss: Trying to force the blend Parental alienation The family court system and court orders Coordinating schedules with the kids The Nacho Kids method works

Feb 12, 20211h 18m

088: Interview With Jonnie Jensen ~ Team Super Dad

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, continues their "Month Of Men" with an interview with Jonnie Jensen of Team Super Dad! Jonnie became a stepchild after his mom passed away when Jonnie was 9-years-old and his dad remarried. Jonnie's stepmom didn't come into the blend trying to shape or overly mother him and his brother, she just joined the ride. Of course, some thought it was wrong of her not to try to take over the motherly role since the bio mom had passed away. When Jonnie grew up and got married, he married a lady with a 6-year-old son. The hardest part of being a stepdad for Jonnie was having to be the primary parent when his wife was ill. Jonnie and his wife had two beautiful children before they decided to separate. After several years in the court system, Jonnie finally was able to get 50/50 with his biological kids. Jonnie and his stepson do not have much of a relationship as the stepson felt after Jonnie and his mom split up that it would hurt his mom if he continued to have a relationship with Jonnie. Jonnie started Team Super Dad to help fathers, and those in fatherly roles, discover their true powers and create an epic life. In this episode, we discuss: Being a stepkid after losing your mother Being a stepdad Don't shout, hug it out! Parallel parenting Team Super Dad

Feb 5, 20211h 32m

087: Interview With Matt Larson ~ The Human Improvement Project

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, continues their "Month Of Men" with an interview with Matt Larson of The Human Improvement Project! Matt has a great desire to help children. He worked with the federal government to help get the Adam Walsh Child Protection Act bill passed and more recently helped create the "Happy Child" parenting app! Although Matt is not a stepparent, his advice can be applied to the blend, especially when the Nacho stepparent starts the re-engagement process. And of course, we know many stepparents are also bio parents and can benefit from this interview and his "Happy Child" app. Join us as Matt talks to us about improving our long term well being. In this episode, we discuss: The Human Improvement Project Improving your long term well being Happiness and unhappiness chemicals in our body The 20-second hug Building deep bonds

Jan 29, 20211h 32m

086: Interview With Joel Hawbaker ~ 10CBF Blended Family Podcast

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, continue their "Month Of Men" with an interview with Joel Hawbaker of the 10 CBF Blended Families Podcast. Joel is the bio dad of two beautiful teenage girls who he adores. Joel isn't a stepdad, but he is a stepkid and gives us a great view on being a stepkid of military parents. He lived with his mom full time and went to his dad's every other weekend. Until Joel could drive, his dad still came by and took him and his siblings to school in the mornings because of his mom's work schedule. Joel, like many parents - I'd even venture to say ALL parents- has had a few struggles in parenting and building healthy relationships with his kids. Joel is blessed to have his awesome wife of a little over six years by his side. She has a good relationship with the stepkids and is an amazing stepmom! We hope to interview his lovely wife in the future! In this episode, we discuss: Being a stepkid Differences in the blend When the bio kids want to live with the other parent Co-parenting The Mason jar idea

Jan 22, 20211h 18m

085: Ex-Stepdad Knows His Girlfriend Won't "Love The Stepkid As Her Own"

*** DISCLAIMER: This episode discusses potential child support arrearages and may be sensitive to some. *** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews bio dad Jordan in Nacho Kids' "Month Of Men"! Jordan is from Ontario, Canada, and has been blending for three years. He has a daughter from a previous relationship and an "ours kid" with his girlfriend. In the interview, Lori gets a bit wound up with the subject of the family court system. As Jordan shares his experience with Canada's family court system, it becomes clear the family court system needs an overhaul in more places than just the US. Part of Jordan's family court situation includes his ex taking him back to court for back child support. We understand this can be a sensitive topic for many. In this episode, we discuss: The family court system Child support arrears Not loving the stepkid as your own Dealing with a high conflict bio mom Being denied extra visitation time with, or more access to, your child

Jan 15, 20211h 36m

084: Widower Becomes A Stepdad

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews a stepdad! Michael, who was adopted, became a widower and later became a stepdad. Michael and his wife have been blending for three years. He has three bio kids, one of which is still living at home, and one stepson that lives with them full-time. Like so many stepfamilies, things were ok before the marriage and the first year, then things went south. One of his kids just wanted things back the way they were before Michael got remarried and threatened to leave if Michael didn't leave his new wife. Michael did not cave into his son's demands and explained to him that was not an option. One day his wife told him she wanted to Nacho one of the stepkids and when she started Nachoing, he saw improvements. Michael and his wife have decided they want to have blended family small groups to help other blended families succeed in the blend! In this episode, we discuss: Unrealistic expectations Being a widower and stepmom feeling like she's competing with a ghost Stepkids threatening to leave Guilty parent syndrome How Nachoing helped their blend

Jan 8, 20211h 23m

083: Interview With A Nacho Kid

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview one of David's triplets, Ethan. Ethan talks about how things were before and after Lori started Nachoing. They reminisce about the bad and good times. Lori is very proud of Ethan and the young man he has become, and no, she didn't think he would turn out so awesome! Ethan shares some tips for stepkids and stepparents too. In this episode, we discuss: Stepkid's view before and after Nachoing The good, the bad, and the really ugly Blending between the kids How bio dad helped build the relationship with the stepmom and stepkids Advice to stepkids and stepmoms from a stepkid

Jan 1, 20211h 12m

082: Stepmom Who Says Her Stepkids Are "Her Kids"

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Mallory. Mallory has been blending for 3-½ years. She has three stepkids that are with her and her husband fifty percent of the time. Currently, they have no "ours" kids but are hoping to change that soon! Their hardest part of blending is the high conflict bio mom. Mallory feels bio mom is intrusive during their visitation time. In this episode, we discuss: Being a childless stepmom and wanting kids of your own Stepkids calling stepmom "Mom" Nachoing when needed Bio mom overstepping Bio mom keeping the stepkids from her own bio mom

Dec 25, 20201h 13m

081: Stepmom Whose Husband Lives With His Mom When He Has His Son

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Kelli. Kelli has been blending for 5-½ years and has two stepkids, two bio kids, and one ours kid. She and her husband have an interesting dynamic with their blend. The stepdaughter lives with bio dad's stepmom and sees bio dad one night a week outside of the home. Recently stepson, who has visitation every other week with his bio dad, has been staying with bio dad at bio dad's mother's house during his visitation time with bio dad. The weeks stepson is back with his bio mom, bio dad goes back home to Megan. In this episode, we discuss: Negative impact of changing from every other weekend to 50/50 visitation Sibling promotion of parental alienation Bio parent's fear of losing their kids Stepparent being responsible for distance learning with stepkid Refusing to give up

Dec 18, 20201h 18m

080: Interview With Megan Bottom ~ Broken2Blessed

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori & David, founders of Nacho Kids, interview Megan Bottom with Broken2Blessed. Megan has been blending for 10 years and has three bio kids and three stepkids. As Megan and her now-husband were moving her and Megan's kids to Texas, Megan found out the court did not rule in her favor to take the kids with her to Texas. She left her bio kids with their dad in Nevada and moved to Texas. In hindsight, Megan realizes it was best for her kids to stay with their dad. As a stepmom, Megan, like many stepmoms, made a lot of mistakes with the stepkids over the years. One day, while watching television while she was unemployed, Megan saw an ad on television for Liberty University and decided to become a Christian Counselor and went on to get her Masters in Pastoral Counseling. In this episode, we discuss: Moving away from your bio kids Co-parenting with your significant other's ex Stepmom mistakes Picking your battles Mini-wife syndrome

Dec 11, 20201h 13m

079: Stepkid Who Became A Full-time Stepmom To Five Stepkids

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Jasmine! Jasmine has been blending for three years and is a full-time stepmom to five stepkids! Yes, five! She also has one bio daughter and an "ours" son. Jasmine admits that she herself has been high conflict in the past. Being a stepkid herself, Jasmine tries to see things from the stepkids' perspectives, and also from the bio mom's perspective. As we know blending isn't easy and it hasn't been unicorns and rainbows for Jasmine either. After having a "come to Jesus" meeting with her significant other, they agreed she'd Nacho his teenage son's and let him parent them, and she'd parent the girls, including stepdaughter, and of course the "ours" baby. In this episode, we discuss: Being close in age to your oldest stepkid Being a high conflict stepmom Trying to understand bio moms absence Looking at things from the stepkids' perspectives Being a stepkid that only saw her bio mom during the summer

Dec 4, 20201h 14m

078: Stepmom Who Thought She Knew What She Was Getting Into

In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori, co-founder of Nacho Kids, interviews stepmom Nicole! Nicole has been blending for four years, has twin stepsons, three bio kids, and one "ours" kid. This is Nicole's second blend. The first one was "easy peasy", so of course Nicole thought she knew what she was getting into. Boy, was she wrong! Unlike the bio mom in her first blend, the bio mom in her second blend is very high conflict! Before she knew it, Nicole became so angry and resentful. Thankfully she found the Nacho Kids method and it saved her sanity and totally changed her life! In this episode, we discuss: Differences in blends Parental Alienation Caring more than the bio parent Nachoing is life-changing Expectations of stepkids

Nov 27, 20201h 24m