The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver

Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, host Lori chats with Michaela Bucchianari, "The Anxious Stepmom." Learn more about Michaela's journey of navigating anxiety, from her professional expertise as a clinical psychologist to her real-life experiences as a stepmom. Listen as Michaela shares how her skills-focused approach transformed her perspective on stepmotherhood, making it an enjoyable part of her life. You'll hear about Lori and Michaela's relatable stories of panic attacks, blending families, and the unexpected challenges that come with stepfamily dynamics. Together, they explore practical tips for managing anxiety, the importance of a supportive network, and the power of shifting your mindset from solving problems to developing skills. Plus, don't miss the unique tools and techniques Michaela uses to stay grounded and resilient, even in the face of public anxiety episodes. In this episode, we discuss: Anxiety Management Blended Family Progression Managing External Pressures Personal Growth in Stepfamily Dynamics Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "As a child of divorce, I thought I knew how stepfamilies run and What I was getting into. Boy was I wrong. I was so frustrated and hated my stepmom life until I found this Nacho parenting. In just a short time, I felt less stressed and there were noticeable changes for the good in our home. I'm only a few weeks in as a member of the academy, I'm so excited to see what the future holds!" ~ J.N.

Welcome to NK Podcast 278. In this episode, titled "Between Two Homes ~ Bradley Craig Part II," we're thrilled to continue our enlightening conversation with Bradley S. Craig, author of "Between 2 Homes." Bradley, a mediator and family dynamics expert, dives deep into the intricacies of co-parenting, our terminology, and the evolving structures of blended families. Lori and Bradley discuss why he prefers the term "period of responsibility" over "period of possession." We unpack the concept of "nesting," explore the roles of step-parents, and examine how nuanced language impacts family relationships. Bradley shares his advocacy for transformative mediation and practical approaches to conflict resolution, emphasizing the importance of consistent parental involvement and respectful communication. Whether you're a parent navigating co-parenting challenges, a mediator seeking new strategies, or interested in family dynamics, this episode offers invaluable insights and practical advice to support healthy, cooperative family environments. So, tune in as we explore the complexities and sensitivities of modern parenting with Bradley S. Craig. In this episode, we discuss: Having a Victim Mentality Terminology Impact Emotional Burden on Children Parentification and Child Development Strategies for High-Conflict Co-Parenting Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "My sister-in-law told me about Nacho at a family reunion. She saw me trying to help the stepkids and the attitudes they gave me, and then the resulting stress it caused me. She simply said, "I heard about this Nacho thing for stepparents. Check it out. It might help you." I am so thankful I did! And I decided to join the Academy because what better way to learn about it. I am still in shock of how this changed our family! Everyone is much more at peace and I'm finally happy after seven years of stepfamily misery!" A.Q.

Welcome to NK Podcast 277, where we dive deep into the complexities of blended families, co-parenting, and everything in between. In today's episode, Lori has the pleasure of speaking with esteemed guest Bradley S Craig, a Licensed Master Social Worker and Certified Family Life Educator, known for his insightful book Between 2 Homes. Today's conversation ranges from the nuanced roles of stepparents to the intricacies of custody modifications, all the way through effective co-parenting techniques and the societal impact of blended family dynamics. This interview was so full of information we had to split it up into two parts! We explore the often misunderstood influence of stepmoms, the implications of custody change requests post-remarriage, and the significance of terminology with terms like "bonus mom" and "nesting." Bradley shares his wisdom on maintaining consistent family dynamics, avoiding common pitfalls in high-conflict co-parenting situations, and adopting a professional mindset for better child welfare. We'll also discuss practical tools like the "Our Family Wizard" app, the pressures societal norms place on stepfamilies, and Bradley's recommendations for effective co-parent communication. This is not just a theoretical discussion; Bradley also brings in his personal experiences and professional insights, making it a must-listen for anyone navigating the challenges of blended families. Stay tuned for a thought-provoking conversation that offers valuable strategies, empathy, and a fresh perspective on stepfamily complexities. Let's dive in! In this episode, we discuss: Stepmom Influence Trust and Boundaries Court System and Legal Procedures Parenting Facilitators Business Mindset in Co-parenting Terms and Perceptions Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I have never seen anyone care so much about helping others. Lori goes above and beyond for her clients. You can tell she and David both do this to truly help others. They are a blessing to the world of stepparents!" ~ K.H.

Welcome to Episode 276 of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this episode, hosts David and Lori discuss some of the complexities of stepfamily dynamics with special guests Will and his stepmom Jo. Jo, who has no biological children and has been in a relationship with Will's father for four years. They explore Will's transition from living with his mother to moving full-time with his father and Jo, discussing how responsibilities and structure have positively impacted his life. Will opens up about the emotional challenges he faced, including dealing with depression and adjusting to new household routines. We'll also delve into Jo's role in Will's life, how cool of a stepmum she is, and the importance of building trust and friendship between stepparents and stepchildren. Jo and Will share a story of being blessed to have each other in their lives. This episode is filled with heartfelt stories, practical advice, and relatable experiences that provide valuable insights into stepfamily relationships. Whether you're part of a stepfamily or just interested in family dynamics, you'll find something meaningful in today's conversation. So sit back, relax, and join us for a candid discussion on navigating life in a blended family! In this episode, we discuss: Adjusting to New Living Arrangements Building Trust and Friendship Influence of a Stepparent: Stepfamily Challenges and Integration Celebrating Milestones Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "As a family court attorney, I have had several of my client's partners, who are stepparents, of course, mention Nacho Parenting over the past several months. Being curious about this method, I decided to look into it. I read the blogs but wanted to know more about these people and what they were teaching people. After reviewing the content, I'm convinced the family court system should mandate a class on the Nacho method!" ~ W.O.

Welcome back to another exciting episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! This is Episode 275, and we have a jam-packed show for you today. I'm your host, David, and as always, I'm joined by the wonderful Lori. We have some thrilling updates and announcements and an insightful conversation about expectations in blended families. We'll kick things off with our upcoming events, starting with a meet and greet in Denver, Colorado. If you're in the area, don't miss this chance to connect with us! Plus, we have a podcast review contest running until the end of September, where you can win a $100 Amazon gift card. And don't forget about the 5th annual Step Family Summit from September 11th to 13th, hosted by Claudette Chenevert, and our very first guided "Change Your Stinking Thinking Challenge." In this episode, Lori and I will be diving deep into the complexities of expectations within blended families—from unspoken assumptions to the importance of clear communication. We'll share our personal experiences, challenges, and the valuable lessons we've learned along the way. And of course, we'll also touch on some lighter moments, like David's ongoing battle with the Amazon delivery driver. So sit back, relax, and join us as we explore the highs and lows of blending families and managing expectations. Let's get into it! In this episode, we discuss: Scope and Importance of Expectations Personal Experiences and Misconceptions Household and Parental Roles Expectations of Family Dynamics Disciplinary Expectations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "My husband and I used to make fun of the Nacho method. We thought it was stupid. The name, the principals behind it, everything. One day we were fighting about his kids and he told me I needed to Nacho. I looked at him like he was crazy. He told me we could join the Academy together and try it for thirty days to see if it helps with the stress in the blend. I agreed to try and I can not explain to you the difference it made in our lives! We are staying in the Academy a while longer to digest more of the content and get more tools to help us. This stepfamily stuff is hard and Lori and David make it a lot less traumatizing." ~ M.M.

Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this enlightening episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into the complexities of blended family dynamics just in time for the holiday season. Tune in as they share insights on upcoming events like the 5th Annual Step Family Summit with Claudette Chenevert and the release of exciting challenges such as the Nacho Guided "Change Your Stinking Thinking" Challenge, and a special opportunity for our podcast listeners. Lori and David discuss navigating family gatherings, the intricacies of gift-giving, and managing expectations within stepfamilies. They share practical tips on handling holiday schedules and ensuring no one feels left out, even in financially tight situations. Plus, they address the emotional challenges children in blended families face and emphasize the importance of equipping them with resilience tools. Don't forget to check out the Nacho Kids Academy for resources to improve your blended family relationships. Join us for an episode packed with valuable advice and heartwarming stories, and remember—life is good when you Nacho! In this episode, we discuss: General Challenges of Holidays in Blended Families Rotating Schedules Gift Giving in Blended Families Grandparents and Fixed Incomes Balancing Fairness and Realistic Expectations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I wish I would have signed up for one-on-one coaching with Lori sooner. I've been going to therapy for years because of the blended challenges. My most recent therapist relocated and only has in-person meetings, so I decided I'd see what the Nacho people had to offer while trying to find a new therapist. In just one hour with Lori, just one, and I learned more than I had learned in two years from my therapist! I'm still in shock! Thank you, Lori, you are the best!" ~ B.A.

Welcome to Episode 273 of the NK Podcast, "Nacho Parenting Really Works!" Today, Lori dives into the fascinating dynamics of blended families with her special guest, Mikel Van Cleve, a certified financial planner with a unique personal story. Mikel opens up about embarking on a whirlwind romance that led to marriage just three months later. We explore their challenges with differing parenting styles, their impact on their children, and the innovative Nacho Parenting technique that transformed their family life. Join us as Michael shares the ups and downs of blending families, including feeling as if he had to choose between his wife and kid and the eventual reconciliation between his wife and daughter. We discuss the importance of modeling healthy relationships for children and the inherent favoritism towards biological kids. In this episode, we discuss: Stepdaughter stepmom relationships Relationships within the blend Biological child goeing to live with the "other" biological parent Choosing between your partner and your kid Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting method for the win. Again! Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I joined the Nacho Academy after reading about it in the Atlantic magazine. My partner and I were about to split up because of the kids. I watched one of the video courses in the Academy and told my partner she had to watch it! I was so excited!! After she watched it, we agreed that we would give this crazy Nacho Parenting a shot. Life is so much better in only two months! We still have much to learn, but we are both hopeful about our relationship and future. We will forever love the creators of Nacho Parenting!" P.E.

Welcome to NK Podcast! In today's episode, we dive deep into the intricate world of blended families with our special guest, Matthew Steiner. As a Christian stepdad who has navigated the complexities of step-parenting and the "Nacho" method, Matthew shares his journey of balancing faith, family dynamics, and the emotional challenges that come with being a stepparent. Matthew opens up about his personal experiences, including the frustrations of not being able to control decisions and timelines related to his stepchildren, and the eventual harmony achieved through improved co-parenting and understanding roles. Join us for an honest and heartfelt conversation that promises to offer valuable insights for any parent or stepparent navigating similar waters. In this episode, we discuss: Realizing the limitations of a stepparent's role. Tensions due to discipline and shared finances. Frustration with lack of control over decisions and timelines related to stepchildren. Household rules and chores expectations. Effective co-parenting Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I am so appreciative of all Lori and David do to help stepfamilies. They treat you like family and honestly care about you and your blend! They changed our lives! Rock on David and Lori and fellow Nachoers!" ~ O.T.

Welcome to another episode of the NK Podcast! Today we're diving into a compelling and deeply personal conversation with an anonymous stepmom, who shares her experience navigating the complex dynamics of blended family life. In this episode, anonymous stepmom discusses her struggle with being overprotective, and the challenges posed by her partner's high-conflict ex. We'll explore how she juggles being a step-parent, dealing with traumatic events, and maintaining her mental health through counseling. Join host Lori as she unpacks the nuances of setting boundaries, dealing with disrespect, and finding balance in a stepfamily after this stepmom's decision to step back from certain responsibilities. This episode promises to shed light on the trials and triumphs of blended families and offers valuable insights into creating harmony amidst chaos. In this episode, we discuss: When to Nacho Adding an Ours kid High-conflict bio-mom Overwhelmed stepmom Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "This method is absolutely amazing! I had worked with other stepfamily coaches about disengaging and it never worked, so I decided to give this a try. Thank goodness I did! This is so much more than disengaging, that's why it didn't work before! Thank you Lori and David for teaching us how to better our blended lives. I will be forever grateful!" ~ G.V.

In this episode, Lori talks with Keri, a stepmom of four years who has one bio kid and two stepkids, well technically one stepkid. The other stepkid is not her partner's biological child and stopped coming for visitation about two years ago. This is her second blended family. Her first blend lasted eight years, and Keri was very involved in her stepdaughter's life. After swearing to never date anyone else with kids, she met her now husband and yep, ended up in another blend. And guess what? This blend isn't the same as her first one! In this episode, we discuss the following: Moving to be with your partner and their kids Being a high school teacher and stepmom Asking your partner to change their visitation schedule Stepparent communicating with partner's ex Super stepmom crashes Finding Nacho! Adding an ours baby to the blend Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "Coming from a blended family, I thought I wouldn't struggle like most stepmoms do. After all, I have had three stepmoms and two stepdads. I had lots of "experience". Little did I know that my world would be turned upside down two years after our marriage. I found the Nacho Academy through a friend who is a therapist and suggested it after telling her I was ready to give up and that I couldn't do this anymore. I was hesitant at first because of some of the negative stuff I heard, but after listening to one of the courses and crying my eyes out, I knew this was my tribe! I knew the negative I had heard about the method was not accurate and this is what I needed. I needed to Nacho and my husband and his kids needed me to Nacho too! It has made a tremendous difference in our blend and I'm excited to continue learning in the Academy from Lori & David." ~ L.G.

In this episode, Lori and David talk to family law attorney Billie Tarascio of Modern Law. Billie supports the Nacho method and discusses some family court issues. In this episode, we discuss the following: Nacho Kids Family court challenges Self-representation Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "My son and his new wife are a blended family. I joined the Academy in hopes of learning things to help them navigate their blend. It was absolutely amazing the amount of content in the Academy! I decided to gift my son and his new wife a year-long membership. They are putting Nacho into place in their home and are so much happier and feel they have hope they didn't have before! Thanks, Lori and David, for all you do!" ~ I.W.

In this episode, Lori and David talk to two of David's kids about them moving back home after the military, Yoo Hoo gate, and how they viewed things as stepkids. In this episode, we discuss the following: Rebounding stepkids Yoo Hoo gate Perception Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I have never been so happy in our blend! This Nacho stuff is awesome! If you are debating on joining the Academy, don't debate any longer, do it today. You will not regret it! It's life-changing!" ~ A.N.

Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast, Episode 267. Today, Lori, David, and our iconic Nacho Intro Lady dive into the challenges of stepfamilies, starting with the important question: "When will my partner love my kid like their own?" Tune in as we explore the common struggles faced by blended families, share real feedback from our latest Nacho Kids Boot Camp Challenge, and address listener questions about step-parenting dynamics, from the usefulness of "nachoing" from day one to managing deep-seated resentments towards stepchildren. Whether you are new to stepfamily life or looking to improve your current situation, this episode offers valuable insights and practical advice. Stick around for some heartfelt tips on navigating your blended family journey with patience, understanding, and a sprinkle of humor. Remember, life is good when you Nacho! In this episode, we discuss the following: Relationship between stepparent and stepkid What if the bio parent doesn't step up What if you hate your stepkid and have zero desire to fix it Should you Nacho from the beginning or wait until things cause stress Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I hated my life. I had no desire to continue my blended relationship. Then, my partner found Nacho Kids while listening to podcast and decided we should join the Academy together. Three months later, our lives are so much better! It was the best decision we ever made. We are creating a happy healthy blended family now thanks to Nacho!" ~ E.R.

In this episode, Lori and David answer questions submitted by followers. These questions are based solely on the question without having any details of the person's dynamics. In this episode, we discuss the following: How do you get a Disneyland parent to stop guilt parenting? How to get your grown up stepkid to allow you to see the grandchildren more? How do you nacho stuff that directly affects you?! Does it get better after they all turn 18? Is blending always this hard? Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I just finished the Nacho Kids Guided Bootcamp. I am shocked at how much I learned in just a few minutes a day! This was a treasure of information that has already started to improve our blend! God Bless you, Lori and David, for everything you do to help stepfamilies. You are your method are amazing!" ~ P.C. - stepdad from Florida

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to Stepdad Sean. Sean has been blending for over two years. His biological kids are no longer at home, and he has three stepsons who all live in the house. Sean has raised his kids and doesn't feel he should have to help raise the stepkids. The stepkids have poor manners and are a bit spoiled. He fights for that parental role because he doesn't understand being a husband without being a parent. In this episode, we discuss the following: Preparing didn't help Adult bio kids and teenage stepkids Not wanting to raise someone else's kids Fighting for control Hugely different parenting styles Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "This Nacho stuff is completely opposite of what everyone told us to do. We were struggling and decided what the heck. We did still love each other and made the decision to give this Nacho thing a try. Three months later, we are ALL happier and in a much better place. Life really is good when you Nacho!" ~ J.B.S.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, speaks with Krista St-Germain about navigating grief as a stepparent. As a widow, stepkid, and stepparent, Krista shares her journey and wisdom. Her stepdad stayed in his lane and her stepmom was a little more authoritative. In this episode, we discuss the following: Supporting a partner when you have different parenting views Secondary losses Five stages of grief Time in relation to grief Respecting previous relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I can't believe how much better our lives are because of Nacho Parenting!" ~ E.V.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, speaks with family law attorney Rachel King. Rachel has been practicing family law for over 10 years. Her parents divorced when she was very young. Rachel shares her story of being a stepkid with us. In this episode, we discuss the following: Bashing the other parent Being forced to call stepmom "mom" Differences in parenting in different homes Parentification Co-parenting Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "As a child of divorce, I thought I would have an easy time being a stepdad. I was so wrong. Being a stepdad is the hardest thing I've ever had to work on. I thought I'd come in and be "dad," which resulted in many fights. I heard about Nacho through a lawyer friend. They recommended I join the Nacho Academy. I'm so glad I listened to them! Through the Nacho Academy, I learned what I did wrong. I worked on repairing my relationship with my stepson, and we are now in a much better place. Thank you, Nacho, for saving our blend!" ~ E.W.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to Anthony J. Mohr. Anthony's father, Gerald Mohr, was a well-known radio actor before slipping to the Hollywood B-list thanks to the advent of television. Accepting the lead in a dying Swedish TV series, he fell for the script girl and divorced Mohr's mother, who went on to meet and marry another divorced person, credit card industry pioneer Stanley Dashew. As his stepfather's career rose and his biological father's eased downward, Anthony tried to find his place. One weekend, he was sailing on his stepfather's fifty-eight-foot catamaran; the next, his Swedish stepmother told him that they were poor. Coming of age in a time when divorce was rare and viewed as shocking, Anthony lived at the edges of what others regard as a dream world, a place where reality and fantasy blend, maps lead to the homes of the stars, and obstacles abound. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being a child of divorce Two different lives Fighting in front of the kids Building bonds Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "As a licensed therapist, a patient mentioned Nacho to me. I was intrigued. I looked into this Nacho method, and I must say it is genius! I am now referring all my stepfamily clients to the Academy!" ~ T.G.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk to Lisa Johnson. Lisa is co-author, along with her partner Chris Barry, of "Been There Got Out." Like Lori and David, Lisa and Chris use their first-hand experience to help others. In this episode, we discuss the following: Toxic relationships High conflict divorce Legal abuse Coercive control Jennifer's Law Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I am a family law attorney. I kept hearing about this Nacho parenting from clients and in the courtroom. I decided to join the Nacho Academy to see what it was all about. Man, this stuff is gold! I'm referring all my clients to the Nacho Academy even if they aren't currently in a blend, they will most likely be in one soon! I love what Lori and David are doing and can't express how much the world needs this!" ~ M.L.B.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to stepmom Tikeetha. Tikeetha has one child, and her partner has two children, one of which is an adult and no longer living at home. Both of their teenage children have lost their other parent. Tikeetha and her partner decided to get married but have not moved in together yet but plan to in the future. In this episode, we discuss the following: Choosing to get married but live sep Having an autistic child in the blend Partner wants family to blend When a bio parent dies Friction between the stepkids Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I have been a member of the Nacho Academy for two years and plan to be a life-long member. The support Lori & David give is worth the membership to me! I know I can get their advice on anything that comes up in our blend, as there are always changes and challenges." ~ J.R.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about struggles blended families often face when it comes to Graduation ceremonies. Unfortunately, most kids are given a limited number of tickets and it can often cause issues within the family, even a nuclear family! But you add the blend… and whew! Hang on! In this episode, we discuss the following: Graduation Tickets One upping your ex Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I joined the Nacho Kids Academy just out of sheer curiosity. I am also a stepfamily coach and wanted to see what Lori had in her Academy. I have to tell you, I am so impressed with the Academy, that I am now referring my clients to take her courses! It helps me because I can focus on stuff outside the Nacho method with them and I get to see the transformation that happens within one month of them joining. Makes my job easier and saves them money!" ~ L.T.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about some of the struggles stepmoms have with Mother's Day. Mother's Day is hard for a lot of people. Whether it be stepmoms, those who could never have children or have lost children, bio moms, or those who don't have good relationships with their bio moms. In this episode, we discuss the following: Stepmom expectations Mother's Day recognition for stepmoms Stepmom's Day but no Stepdad's Day Hallmark Holiday Mental Health Wellness Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I asked my husband to get me a one month subscription to the Nacho Academy for one month so I could do the Bootcamp Challenge. After the first group call, I quickly realized I was going to need more than a one month membership! There is so much great content! I was really surprised at the amount of content and the interaction on the call considering the cost was so low. Thank you David & Lori! See you on the next call!" ~ B.K.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to stepmom Veronica Andrews. Veronica is the author of "Heal Stepmom Burnout". She has been blending for 15 years, has two stepkids, and is child-free by choice. In this episode, we discuss the following: Changes in custody time Losing yourself Finding the balance Stepmom burnout Wanting what is best for the kids Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "My stepkid is 20 years old. Does nothing but lay on the couch playing on their phone all day. It was driving me crazy. Like, really. I lost my composure several times. An attorney recommended Nacho Kids to me. They were friends of my husbands and my husband told them I was going crazy. I joined the Academy and immediately started doing the bootcamp. It wasn't easy and I understand why it's a 30-day course, there's a lot to it. Day 7 I was finally seeing that things could be different. I finished the bootcamp and said what the heck and did the thinking challenge next. I thought the bootcamp was good, but wow! That thinking one is mind blowing! And I definitely know now why Lori says to do the bootcamp first and to do them separately. I've learned through Lori and David's nacho academy that I can choose to be a part of the solution or a part of the problem. I chose to be a part of the solution." ~ R.R.

In this episode, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about stepfamily vacations. If you have ever been on a blended family vacation, you know how stressful they can be! Lori & David talk about challenges and tips to help have a good blended family vacation. In this episode, we discuss the following: Preparing for stepfamily vacations Expectations Separate vacations with kids Separate vacations adults only Length matters Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I love Lori and David! You can tell they truly care about you and your blend. They want you to succeed! They cheer you on and support you through your journey. I've never felt like someone cared about me so much. Their caring made me want to work harder because I felt like I had someone in my corner!" ~ N.W.

In this episode, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk to stepcouple Jenn and Zeb. They have been blending for three years, and married six months. The hardest part of the blend for Zeb is establishing and maintaining stepmom's role within the blend and Jenn's hardest part is figuring out her place and role within the blend. In this episode, we discuss the following: What's the stepparent role Who is responsible for the stepkid Stepkid calling stepmom "Mom" Feeling pushed out of your bio kid's life When the stepkid gets an arrow through his head Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I was skeptical of how much this Academy would benefit me/us. I was willing to put the work in, but my partner was against it. I did the bootcamp and within two weeks, my partner was on board because she could not deny the positive changes that were occurring. We love Nacho!" ~ R.S.

In this episode, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, answer some Nacho questions. You have questions, we have answers! Please note, these are top level answers to questions and in the Nacho Kids Academy Lori and David delve deeper into the questions you may have and provide guidance to help you Nacho properly. In this episode, we discuss the following: Triggers Nasty Stepkids Summertime stepkids Stepparent responsibilities Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "This Nacho stuff is gold! I wish we would have found it sooner. My husband and I decided to join because we were really struggling in our blend. Something had to give. This was the best decision we could have made! We have started healing from our past hurts, and are rebuilding our blended relationships every day! Thank you Dave and Lori! You saved our marriage!" ~ J.F.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to bio dad Chris. Chris has experienced parental alienation with his daughter. Chris shares his story and because of his alienation is working to help other alienated parents. In this episode, we discuss the following: Parental alienation Boundaries Legal issue versus mental health issue Divorced parents and school Psychological abuse Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I had decided to leave my partner. A friend at work was watching the Guilty Parent Syndrome course in the Nacho Academy during our lunch break and I heard something that clicked with me. I asked him what he was listening to and he told me it was one of the video courses in the Nacho Parenting Academy. I immediately signed up and have decided my relationship is worth working for and that I'd rather make things work with my partner than to start over with someone else." ~ M.W.

*** DISCLAIMER *** Mention of attempted suicide in this episode. In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk to stepmom Jo and bio dad Ben! They have been blending for five years and married two. Ben has two bio kids, one of which lives with him full-time and wants Jo to be his mom! Jo pushed for the oldest stepson to come live with them full-time and feels she has emotionally adopted him. Jo and Ben's journey has not been easy, in fact there was a time where Jo attempted suicide. In this episode, we discuss the following: The importance of getting help Stepmom burnout Emotional adoption Setting boundaries with bio mom Having a "golden child" stepkid Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I don't normally write reviews, but I had to because I want others to know there truly is help out there! This Nacho Academy stuff is gold! Even if you aren't in a stepfamily, it teaches you tools you can use in everyday life to help lower your stress. I recommend it for everyone!" ~ L.J.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, and Claudette Chenevert ~ The Stepmom Coach, talk about ruminating. Rumination is something everyone does. It's natural . But is it healthy? In this episode, we discuss the following: Ruminating Setting Boundaries as a stepmom/stepdad… heck, as a person 7 Sins of Memory How to handle rumination if it is affecting you negatively Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: ***** 100+ STARS ***** This Nacho stuff works guys! I was ready to walk away. I was losing my mind. I was grumpy all the time. I was not happy!. One morning on the way to work I was thinking about going ahead and signing the lease on this apartment I had looked at the previous week. But I got this weird feeling, and felt something was telling me to just wait until Monday since it was already late Friday. Walking into work and clocking in, I heard two co-workers talking and one said, "Yeah girl, my therapist told me to join this Nacho Academy" and they started laughing.When I got to my desk, I googled Nacho school. Nothing came up, Then I remembered she said Nacho Academy. I found it and read some of the blogs and testimonials, and I cried. These people were me! So, if people like me were improving their lives with this Nacho thing, I was willing to give it a try. LET ME TELL YOU! By day 15 my partner asked me if I was high because I was so relaxed. I laughed and told him that I was trying to do some self-development stuff. He told me he knew something was up. If this is what da 15 feels like, I can't wait to finish the bootcamp and start the next challenge!"

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to a guest who was on the Nacho podcast before. This guest, the Canadian Stepmom was on episode 109 if you'd like to listen to it prior to this one. We reached out to Canadian Stepmom to get an update from her after a few years. She has three stepsons and four bio sons. Yep, all boys! In this episode, we discuss the following: Having triplets and father is not home 95% of the time Being a boy mom/stepmom Things change with bio mom Sharing Nachoing with bio mom Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Academy Success Story: "I have listened to your podcast for years. I never thought I'd need the Nacho Parenting Academy, but one day I heard a podcast with someone who had been in the academy. I decided to join to see if it would help me with some of the issues I was having. I had just received my tax money and decided to spend $100 of on two months of the Nacho Kids school as an investment to my marriage and myself. The money I saved from drinking alcohol after the first month of being a nacho member was enough for me to buy another month membership! My husband has even said he'd pay for two more months for me for Valentine's Day. This Nacho stuff works!" ~ N.B.

In this episode, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about things she would have done differently in regards to how she reacted when the stepkids angered her. This episode was inspired by one of Lori's stepkids asking her this question recently. In this episode, we discuss the following: Feeling your bio child is bullied by the stepkids Wanting to beat up your stepkid Yoohoo gate Vacations Accuracy of memories Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I hated my life. I actually had thought about ending my life several times. I felt everyone was against me. My husband and I fought all the time, my stepkids hated me, my in-laws hated me. I figured everyone would be better off without me until one day I heard the Nacho Kids Podcast a friend was listening to. I started crying and realized I wasn't alone! Hearing Lori telling another stepmom not to give up and helping her through some of her challenges made me realize I needed help. I joined the Nacho Kids Academy that day during my lunch and I can honestly say it's the best decision I ever made! Thank you Lori for everything you do for stepfamilies!" ~ K.G.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to stepmom Chyna. Chyna has been blending for two years, she has two stepkids and two bio kids. Her partner adopted her bio kids that she brought into the relationship. The hardest part of blending for her is dealing with bio mom. Her best advice is to let it come naturally. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being assaulted by bio mom Differences in stepkid relationships Calling your stepkid your own Court order not allowing stepkid to call stepmom "mom" Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I just joined the Nacho Academy three days ago and have been binge watching the courses. They are helping me so much. I no longer feel like I'm evil for not loving my stepkids as my own and I no longer feel alone! Thank you Lori and David for doing all you do to help people like me!" ~ J.V.

In this episode, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about different fears in a blended family experience. Not only do stepparents experience fears, so do the bio parents, and the kids. In this episode, we discuss the following: Fears of a bio parent in a blended family Fears of a stepparent in a blended family Fears of a bio kid in a blended family Fears of a stepkid in a blended family Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I started the Nacho Academy two months ago. I am not kidding you when I tell you it changed my life! I no longer avoid going home when the stepkids are there. I don't have anxiety days before I know they are coming. My partner and I no longer fight about the kids. Lori and David aren't kidding when they say Life Is Good When You Nacho! It really is!" ~ C.S.

In this episode, Lori and David, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk with one of David's sons, and Lori's stepsons, Ethan. Ethan was a guest on episode 83 a little over three years ago. Listen as they talk about how things have changed in the past few years. In this episode, we discuss the following: Step grandparents Relationships between stepmom and stepkids Different types of love When the stepkid boomerangs Relationships between bio and stepkid Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I felt so alone. I had no one that understood what I was going through until I found Nacho Kids. I listened to the first podcast and immediately joined the Nacho Kids Academy because I knew they were my people! Lori & David really care about other people and it shows. They go above and beyond in their Academy to help you achieve success in Nachoing! ~ K.F.

In this episode, Lori, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks with a stepmom who has been blending for five years. She has two stepkids, three bio kids, and one ours kid. The father of her bio kids passed away a few years ago and that has created new challenges in the blend. In this episode, we discuss the following: Having all the kids, all the time High conflict bio mom Equality in the blend Boundaries Feeling you are giving up control Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I thought this Nacho stuff was a bunch of crap when I heard about it years ago. Who would say their stepkids weren't their kids? Only horrible people! Well, I turned into this person. I didn't turn into a horrible person, but was slapped in the face with the reality that they weren't my kids, I then understood why people Nacho. I didn't need this the first eight years, but then things changed. Thankfully I decided to try to hear what this nacho stuff was about, and joined the Academy. You all will not believe how awesome this stuff is! It is pure gold! It has helped me with the blended challenges, with issues at work and within my relationships with my own biological mother and father! Nacho on my fellow Nacho Tribe! " ~ R.H.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about communication. Specifically what you say versus what you mean and what you hear versus what was said. Communication is vital to every relationship, and it's important to make sure you are clear in what you are saying and that you aren't misunderstanding what is being said. In this episode, we discuss the following: What you say What you don't say What they say What we hear Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "If I could, I'd fly to Lori and David and hug their necks! They are the reason my partner and I are still together. They are the reason we fought for our relationship instead of giving up when things were hard!. They are just awesome! I love them!" ~ S.M.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about wills and estate planning in the blend. Should a stepparent be expected to leave their stepkids something in their will? Should a stepparent be expected to leave their stepkids the same thing they leave their bio kids? What is fair? In this episode, we discuss the following: Expectations of stepparents to put stepkids in their wills. How bio kids would feel if stepkids were put in bio parents will. Does it need to be equal between step and bio kids? Talking to an estate planning attorney. Should you purchase life insurance to just have something to leave your kids/stepkids? Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "My life sucked so bad. I hated waking up every day. I ran across the Nacho Kids podcast and heard about the Academy. I joined immediately. It was the best decision I ever made. I feel like the old me and love myself and my life again. I can't thank Lori and David enough for what they do for stepfamiies." ~ C.N.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk about how stepparents often feel they have no control in their blended home. In this episode, we discuss the following: No control over the stepkids. No control over how your partner parents. No control over the other parent. The ultimate control is letting go of things you can't control, but instead controlling how you let things affect you. Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I recently heard about Nacho Kids from my therapist. She told me to join the Academy and give it 30 days. Boy what a difference taking the Nacho Boot Camp made in our blend! My therapist is even amazed at how things improved so quickly in our blend!" ~ R.H.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, share some Nacho rules with listeners. In this episode, we discuss the following: You can't expect your significant other to parent like you think they should. You can't control what happens at the "other parent's house". You can't discipline them like your own. You can't expect the stepkids to treat you with respect if your significant other doesn't make them. You can't feel guilty for not loving them like your own. Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I would like to start off by saying how blessed I am to have stumbled upon your podcast a couple of months back. You all have not only saved my marriage but also played such an important role in my life as a stepmom and mom of an ours baby." ~ S.A.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, share some Nacho rules with listeners. In this episode, we discuss the following: You can't say anything negative to or about the stepkid. You can't expect more from the stepkid than their own bio parents do. You can't care more about the stepkids than the bio parents do. You can't parent them like your own. You can't expect them to treat you as their parent, because you're not. Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I never thought I would need help with blending. After all, I am a marriage counselor! I'm not supposed to need help. Well, I did. I needed help navigating this blend and am so thankful for Lori and David's Nacho program! Now I can enjoy my blend and not feel like I'm a failure as a marriage counselor.." ~ S.Y.

In this episode, Lori Sims, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to a stepmom who has been blending for seven years. She has two bio kids, whose fathers are not in the picture, and she has four stepkids with three different bio moms. She considers one of the stepkids as her own. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being a stepkid and a stepmom Loving one stepkid as your own When your bio kids other parent is absent When the bio parent remarries quickly Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "This blended family stuff about took me out. It's the hardest thing I've ever had to deal with. Thankfully, I found the Nacho Kids Academy and it gave me the tools to lower my stress and focus on my relationship with my partner." ~ H.W.

** Disclaimer- Accusation Of Abuse ** In this episode, Lori Sims, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to a full-time childless stepmom. This stepmom has been blending for fourteen years, and has three adult stepkids. After one of her stepkids accused her of abuse, stepmom moved out of the home. She did not return to the home until after the stepkid had moved out. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being a childless stepmom Accused of abuse by stepkid Moving out of the blended home Living separately because of the stepkids Never being mom even though bio mom is not in the picture Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I've been on this blended family journey for three years. It is the hardest thing I have ever done. I decided to join this Nacho Academy to see if it would help. Honestly, I didn't have much hope that it would. Boy was I shocked! Within 2 weeks, I noticed a positive change in our blend. Here we are 6 months later and are happier than I ever thought we'd be. It took work, but it was so worth it!" ~ A.K.

** Disclaimer: Mention of alcoholism and miscarriage ** In this episode, Lori Sims, co-founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks to Nick Rothwell. Nick is a stepdad to three stepkids. Nick realized he needed to change the way he interacted with his stepkids in order to have a better blend. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being a stepdad and not a bio dad When the stepkids dad loses visitation Seeing the blend as a family Feeling the need to save your partner and their kids Apologizing Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "It's crazy how this Nacho stuff changed our blend! We are finally happy! Thanks Dave and Lori for all you do to save blended families like ours!" ~ F.R.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talk to Jeanette Soltys a divorce and custody attorney, and also a stepmom! The hardest part of her blend is dealing with what the kids say to their other bio parent and assumptions being made about their home. She works to help couples have a more amicable and less costly divorce and custody agreement. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being a stepmom and a Divorce and custody attorney Co-parenting relationships Differences in parenting Family court systems shortcomings Needing your own space as a stepparent Joint family rules for the blend Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "As a relationship therapist, I had to check out this Nacho thing my clients kept mentioning. I read the stuff online on the website and the Facebook pages and the Facebook group. I decided to be fair about my assessment, so I joined the Academy. I can't tell you how much I learned in the Academy! As a relationship therapist I don't know everything and appreciate this resource for me to help my clients." ~ G.W.

In this episode, Lori and David Sims, founders of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interview Kari Kling. Kari grew up in blended families and shares her story about the differences she experienced in her blends. In this episode, we discuss the following: Having divorced parents when it wasn't the norm Learning to have a stable committed relationship after having divorced parents Not all blends are the same for the stepkid It's not always fair between bio and stepkids Stepkids feel they have no say Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I was miserable and thinking of leaving my wife. I was tired of fighting about the kids. We found the Nacho Method and joined the Academy three months ago, and our lives are so much better! Thank you Nacho!" ~ R.M.

*** DISCLAIMER: Mention of sexual abuse In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews stepmom Terra. Terra has been blending for 10 years, has two stepkids and no biological kids. Although she considers her stepkids her kids, she still uses the Nacho Kids method. Stepparenting isn't easy, as we know, and Terra also had to fight breast cancer! In this episode, we discuss the following: Dealing with a bi-polar bio mom Having breast cancer while blending Importance of having your own space Considering the stepkids your own Stepkids calling you mom Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I was suicidal when I came across the Nacho Kids stuff. I am not kidding when I tell you it saved my life." ~ C.H

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, talks with Alison O'Mahony of Be Step Wise about expectations. We have expectations every day from almost everyone we encounter. Why do we have these expectations? What expectations should we have in the blend? Are these expectations realistic? In this episode, we discuss the following: Feeling different towards kids Can't love people on demand Expectations = Disappointment Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "My life will forever be better because of Lori and David's Nacho Academy!" ~ T.P.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews a stepmom from Pennsylvania. This stepmom has been blending for five years, has four bio kids ages nineteen to thirty, and has four stepkids ages twelve to twenty three. Her kids' bio dad is not in the picture, and her stepkids' bio mom is two-faced. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being ignored by the stepkid Coming to terms you'll always be an outsider as the stepmom Parental Alienation Expectations Boundaries Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "When a licensed therapist with 30+ years experience refers you to the Nacho Academy, it just goes to show you how good this Nacho thing is! It's a game changer!" ~ J.F.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Jason Kreidman with Dad University. Jason struggled with the transition from being single to a married dad with kids. He found himself overwhelmed and stressed out with the increase in responsibilities and demands. He was taking his stress out on his young children and recognized that he needed to change the way he was doing things in order to be a successful father. In this episode, we discuss the following: Being a recovering yeller Taking responsibility for self Empathy Parenting out of guilt Expectations Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "My attorney recommended the Nacho Academy to me. It completely changed how I interacted with my ex and saved me a ton of money in attorney's fees! Thank you Nacho creators!" ~ R. M.

In this episode, Lori Sims, founder of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting, interviews Dr. Tracy Dalgleish. In this episode, we discuss the following: Boundaries Negative relationship cycles Expectations vs reality Wise mind vs reactive mind 4 C's - Curiosity, Compassion, Connection, and Collaboration Nacho Kids Academy Nacho Parenting Success Story: "The Nacho Kids Academy changed my life! " ~ E.P.