The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

What if being selfish is one of the best ways to improve your relationship? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I invite Balance & Relationship Advisor, Naketa Ren Thigpen, for a conversation about the best practices to build your relationship which are almost never discussed. Anywhere! Because we dive into what intentional selfishness (yes, it's a thing!) is all about, why achieving balance in your marriage is essential, and the whys and wherefores of sexological bodywork. You don't want to miss this one! We discuss: The concept of selfishness - and how to look at it differently so you can amplify the intimacy in your relationship! Why balance matters so much in your marriage Naketa's work as a Balance & Relationship Advisor helping successful women build stronger families Naketa's advice for high-achieving women who are feeling stuck or not fulfilled in their marriages An introduction to sexological bodywork - how it works & some real-life stories of working with clients And a lot more… Connect with Naketa here: Website: www.thigpro.com Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/asknaketa LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/naketathigpen Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/asknaketa Email: [email protected] If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

After some years of bliss, your relationship is likely to encounter some tough times. Could be due to infertility, financial stress, infidelity, illness, or something else. Regardless of what caused the intense season with your partner, now that it's over you expect everything to be back to a happy normal. But they aren't - things just aren't the same as they were. And you're left wondering why. If your relationship is still suffering from events that are no longer happening - this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast is for you! I'm diving into this relationship phenomenon and giving you the practical steps to get out of this trap - and heal your relationship. In this episode I share: The relationship phenomenon that could be keeping you stuck in disconnection and unhappiness A deep dive into why relationships don't always "bounce back" after a tough time The THREE steps you need so you can heal and evolve this relationship dynamic A special gift for my podcast listeners if you are looking to heal or improve your marriage! And a lot more… The Aligned and Hot Marriage program (use code OURTIME for a special podcast listener price!): https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/aligned-hot-marriage/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

Do you desire the next level of deep connection and growth with your partner? I have 3 words for you: surrender, collaboration & play. In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Marla Mattenson and Julian Colker aka "The Intimacy Experts", join me to share some beautiful advice & wisdom about these three intimate relationship essentials, and so much more! These love, life & business partners share vulnerably about their beautiful union and what it has taken for them to build a business together, grow their intimacy, and express their playfulness in their relationship. We discuss: Their definition of intimacy (and what it takes to achieve it) How Marla made the transition from "mine" to "ours" in her business Julian's journey with anger and his profound transformation How to explore more play in your relationship - and why you would want to! A look at "The Lover's Play Course", their DIY course to start having more fun in your relationship And a lot more… Connect with Marla and Julian here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theintimacyexperts/ Facebook: facebook.com/theintimacyexperts The Lovers Play Course: https://theintimacyexperts.org/play-with-intimacy/ The Intimacy Experts Home Site: https://theintimacyexperts.org If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

Intimacy is a familiar concept, but the word is actually not that well understood. Even though we're not always clear on what intimacy means in our relationships, we can definitely sense when it's present - and when it's not, right? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm diving into the 3 types of intimacy, so you can identify where to put your attention in order to cultivate deeper intimacy in your marriage and in your life - starting now! Because there is a foundation that needs to be built before you enjoy more intimacy in your relationship, and it starts with how you relate to you. I discuss: What intimacy really is - and some practical ways to build and cultivate more of it in your relationship The 3 types of intimacy and why these distinctions are important INTIMACY, my audio course for couples- and how it can help you bust the blocks preventing you from accessing more intimacy Where intimacy really begins (hint: it's not with your partner!) And more! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com INTIMACY www.alexandrastockwell.com/intimacy Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

Are you making sure everyone else's needs and wants are met, but forgetting your own? Feeling disconnected or even hollow inside? Maybe you're struggling to just identify what exactly you want. If you feel a big yes or a small yes to these questions, I assure you that you are not alone. I also assure you that I can help you reconnect with yourself and your vibrancy. Join me today for a story about my client Michelle. I'll take you back to when we first met, how she felt in her life and in her marriage, what she was struggling with and what she was striving for. I will also tell you how she changed all of that in the most delicious ways. Like many women, Michelle was great at taking care of her family, knowing the intimate details of what they liked and what made them happy, while not knowing what she herself wanted–until everything changed! (And it wasn't that hard to shift.) Michelle's story can inspire us all. Listen in for how it inspired me to create something for YOU. In this episode I share: My course DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within and the questions it will help you answer about yourself The simple, intentional practice that allowed Michelle to honor her own experience and begin her journey of accessing what she desires (this can help you too!) Where Michelle is now: how she's experiencing MORE CONNECTION AND MORE PLEASURE now that she knows what she wants Plus a lot more… Ready to explore your own desires? Enroll in Desires: Awaken the WOMAN Within at www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

If you've been around here for any length of time, you've probably heard this from me before - Relationships are the ultimate vehicle for personal growth (it's so true)! In today's episode, I invite a couple on the show who exemplifies this concept in a big way. Derick and Dr. Liz Aquirre have been married for 12 years and have built an intentional, pleasure-filled & collaborative marriage that has transformed each of their lives immensely. Join us as we discuss how they have both grown inside of their relationship, as a result of the other's influence, their passion for growing together as a couple, and the ultimate gift of participating in a truly collaborative marriage. We discuss: Liz and Derick's collaborative marriage & the impact they've had on each other's transformational journey during their 12 years of marriage Motivation by inspiration v. motivation by desperation Some powerful insights on communicating through frustration (we talk about what to focus on instead!) Derick's advice to help men really embrace the role of father and husband The BIGGEST lessons they've learned about themselves as a result of their marriage And a lot more… Connect with Dr. Liz here: www.LizAguirreMD.com https://www.facebook.com/LizAguirreMD/ https://www.instagram.com/lizaguirremd/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

If you want to experience more connection and intimacy in your marriage, you have to know what you want. But, in a society that is so focused on doing, productivity, and achieving goals - it can be hard to connect to your deeper desires, or even find the time to start discovering & exploring your needs. So what can you do to make more room to connect with yourself, know your desires & feel more closeness with your partner? You can shift your focus from "doing" and prioritize an experience of "being." In today's episode, I'm diving into the concept of doing v. being - and why making the shift from doing to being will help you get in touch with your truest desires. As a result, you'll experience more pleasure, joy & gratifying intimacy in your life, and in your relationship. I discuss: Doing v. being - and how understanding this concept will change the game for your relationship! One of the BIGGEST things that gets in the way of having a passionate & intimate marriage A 10-minute practice that has drastically improved my relationship and business (and can do the same for yours!) The KEY to experiencing true intimacy in your marriage And a lot more… Ready to feel more alive, dynamic, and lit up? Check out my course, "DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within" https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Why do so many marriages fail? I know it can seem like a super complicated question. But whether it's poor communication, a dissatisfying sex life, not enough money, or a struggle to work together in parenting - marriages fail because of one BIGGER reason. In today's episode, I'm digging into that reason, the magic formula for building a lasting and intimate marriage, and how you can use it to strengthen your relationship and recommit to more aliveness, vitality & passion with your spouse (and yourself)! I discuss: The BIGGEST reason marriages fail - and how to avoid it! How being disconnected from your desires could be affecting your relationship A very confronting experience I had with naming my own desires The important shift you can make to live a more fulfilled (and orgasmic!) life Some powerful examples of clients of mine who communicated their desires - and were surprised by how well they were received And a lot more… Ready to feel more alive, dynamic, and lit up? Check out my course, "DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within" https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Marriage can be rich and juicy after the first decade. And after the second, the third, the fourth…And the FIFTH! Don't believe me? Get ready to meet Jim & Ruth Sharon, co-creators of a connected & delicious 50+ year marriage. They generously share the beginnings of their love story (which was prompted by an out-of-character moment from Jim!) and the tools and practices they use to sustain their openness to one another to keep the spark of intimacy and eroticism alive in their marriage. Want to have amazing sex & orgasms - into your 70's? Tune in for this juicy relationship wisdom: How it's possible that Ruth is having more rich & pleasurable orgasms at 73! Their view on intimacy inside of their relationship (hint: it's not just sexual) How Jim has seen their relationship as a vehicle for his personal growth Vulnerable shares about the things they've shifted in their marriage to allow for more openness and connection What they consider to be an important secret to their lasting & fulfilling relationship And a lot more Dr. Jim Sharon is a licensed psychologist and a certified life coach; Ruth Sharon, MS is a licensed professional counselor and a certified wellness coach. The Sharons have published six professional books and written chapters in other books, with themes including relationship enhancement, men's and women's development, wellness, yoga, and constructive conflict resolution. Jim and Ruth Sharon have been married for over five decades and have worked together for most of those years! They have raised three children and enjoy being with them and their grandchildren. Please visit www.heartwise.us to learn more and get email updates. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com The Aligned & Hot Marriage program www.alignedhotmarriage.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

This season I've gone into depth about the 6 Keys To An Intimate Marriage that I use in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. If you're just joining us, I highly recommend you go back to Episode 5 and learn more about the keys. Today, I'm going to talk about 4 couples that have taken my course and used the skills they learned and as a result, their marriages are hotter than ever. They were facing problems like: Lack of sex and intimacy Disconnection from the relationship they used to have Feeling unheard and taken for granted Stress from work causing unhealthy coping mechanisms I created this program to serve couples. If you're ready to experience more closeness, more connection, more emotional intimacy, more sensual and erotic intimacy, then this program is for you. Program mentioned: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Today I have a special gift for you. My husband Rodd is here to talk about how we keep our relationship intimate and thriving. We're very busy people and we don't have a ton of extra time for date nights and romantic getaways, but we do know how to prioritize one another and feed our relationship. We know how to let the erotic energy flow and enjoy our emotional connection. We used to spend too much energy on mundane things, and end up compromising and holding back with each other when it mattered. This lead to a buildup of resentment and frustration that would inevitably explode and leave Rodd feeling he had to navigate emotional land mines. Using the 6 Keys to an Intimate Marriage has transformed our relationship to one of closeness and intimacy, mutual support, laughter and fun. The communication in our marriage, companionship, and passion are deeply satisfying and we credit our capacity to Cultivate Curiosity, Embrace Honesty, Be Kind, Choose Happiness, Take Responsibility, and Seek Growth. Program mentioned: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

When children are young, it's fascinating to watch their growth and milestones. It's easy to be excited about watching them learn how to roll over, crawl, talk, walk, and tie their shoes. As we all get older, there's a sameness about us that isn't so exciting. The sixth and final Key to an Intimate Marriage is to "Seek Growth". In your marriage, that means: If you're doing the same things over and over, it gets boring and unfulfilling no matter how wonderful it was the first time. You need to check in with yourself and your partner about what you each know about yourselves and each other that you didn't know 10 years ago, 10 days ago, or even 10 minutes ago. What do you desire now? How has that changed? Be clear and intentional about how you prioritize growth. No matter what happens in your relationship, you can see it through the lens of growth. Ask yourself what you can focus on and what there is to learn, so that whatever you are experiencing will be inspiration for you to grow and evolve. Programs: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

The fifth Key to an Intimate Marriage is "Take Responsibility". That may be a loaded phrase for some, but hear me out. Very often among educated, successful couples, we have this idea that everything should be split 50/50, fair and equal. You may be familiar with the phrases, "it takes two to tango," and "we are both in this together." While those are true in their context, meeting each other halfway isn't the way to a passionate marriage. The only way all aspects of the marriage will be addressed and taken care of is if you take 100% responsibility for the quality of your relationship. Ideally, your partner will take 100% as well, but when you take all the responsibility you won't be waiting around for your partner to do their part and instead will go ahead and improve things. That does NOT mean that you're 100% a caretaker or nurturer. That doesn't mean you do all the work. It may mean taking the initiative to make some plans for yourself to go to the spa, asking your partner for help with household matters, stepping into the hard conversations, or just being responsible for making interactions feel good and respectful. Basically, it means you stop waiting for your spouse to change before bettering yourself and how you show up in your relationship. Programs: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

During my studies in college, I took many philosophy courses and one constant all the way from Ancient Greece to the present was that all human beings seek happiness. Based on what I had seen in my life so far, I didn't really believe that was true. Now, after my decades of work with clients and couples, I agree with the wisdom of that assertion. The problem is that most people don't really know how to get the happiness they seek. In my 6 Keys of an Intimate Marriage, the key of "Choose Happiness" ties in with uncompromising intimacy in that you are honoring the truth that lives within you. Listen for a story about a couple I've worked with and how choosing happiness has improved communication in their marriage, reduced resentment, and made them both feel much better as they worked through the keys. I'd really love to hear what came up for you in this episode. Contact Alexandra and share your thoughts here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

​​The most common relationship advice all over the world is to compromise. If you want a bland, conflict-free companionship, then yes. If you want the spice and spark of an intimate marriage, you need to make your desires known. DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ As women, we are conditioned to disconnect from our desires. When I came to understand the importance of bringing my feelings into my marriage so all of me can be alive in the dynamic I share with my husband, it felt lonely. The problem wasn't that my husband didn't want me to have my desires; the problem was the way I was speaking to him about it. He wanted me to be kind. Learning how to be kind isn't a very simple thing. I have a module in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program on exactly that. Many women have gotten used to speaking with a sting or acidity, and/or wait until the resentment builds up to the boiling point. I'd really love to hear what came up for you in this episode. Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Season 1, Episode 42 "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/uncompromising-intimacy/id1548060690?i=1000536253485 ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

The second key to an intimate marriage is Embrace Honesty. In this episode I won't be addressing the major dishonesties such as infidelity, hidden bank accounts, et cetera. I'm talking about the small resentments that build up over time, knowing that your relationship is pretty good but things could be a lot better. Whenever you answer "how are you?" with "I'm fine," and you're not, it builds a wall between you. By dampening your responses you're training your partner to be less responsive to your subtle signals and less sensitive to what is happening in your soul. In order to share this level of honesty, it takes a lot of bravery, self-awareness, and willingness to express what is happening. I got rid of my resentment "straight jacket" in 2 ways: I learned to clear my resentments, which we cover in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program I learned how to speak up so I wasn't building resentment in the first place. First, you have to embrace honesty with yourself, then the smallest honest communications with your partner will transform so much more than you can imagine. ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

The first key to an intimate marriage is: Cultivate Curiosity. Early in a relationship, it's easy to be curious about everything from scars, favorite foods, wild stories, spirituality and beyond. Then, as a relationship matures, the curiosity fades and you become more comfortable. You already know how they'll order their coffee or how they'll answer a question before you even ask. It's beautiful to be so familiar and to free your energy to focus on other things. The problem is that when we become so comfortable and secure in this way, we end up missing out on the growth that we're each going through. The drop in curiosity leads to being disconnected from one another's internal experiences. Curiosity also helps when you're in the middle of a conflict. If it's intense, the most helpful thing you can do is to stop, take a breath, and ask a curious, open-ended question. Then listen to the answer with an open mind and an open heart. If you're focused on being right, and no longer open to your partner's point of view, it creates disconnection. On the other hand, when you cultivate curiosity, it builds collaboration, creativity, and connection. If you are currently in a phase of disconnection and distance in your relationship and/or having conflict, cultivate curiosity! Ask open-ended questions and then listen generously to the responses. If you're in a strong, solid, connected relationship, it's still essential to cultivate curiosity in order to make your relationship even stronger, and more joyful. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

If you're just joining the podcast now, I recommend going back to the beginning of Season 2 to gain some context for what I'm about to cover in this episode. We have an epidemic of conflict-free, passion-free relationships going on right now. My prescription for an intimate marriage evolved out of my medical training, years of experience coaching other couples, my own anecdotal research, and what I have learned in my own marriage. I have codified it all in the 6 Keys to an Intimate Marriage. They are: Cultivate Curiosity. Embrace Honesty. Be Kind. Choose Happiness. Take Responsibility. Seek Growth. I have seen these 6 keys work in many different kinds of relationships and many different kinds of situations. The results are wonderful! We'll go into more depth with each of the keys in upcoming episodes. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Compromise is by far the most common relationship advice that's given. In order to have a happy marriage you have to be good at compromising, right? Wrong! What really happens when you compromise is that you're holding parts of yourself back from your relationship, and that doesn't bode well. When you stop compromising and bring your entire self into your relationship, when you learn to accept all parts of one another, you will be able to create solutions that you couldn't imagine on your own. Uncompromising intimacy is the opposite of compromise. It's glorious, and it takes intentionality. The main reason to compromise is to avoid conflict, not rock the boat, and not mess with something that's working well. There are many problems with this approach: Eventually, you get so skilled at compromise that you don't even realize you're doing it. You get so used to turning away from what you want, it becomes difficult to find your desires again. Unmet and uncommunicated desires often lead people to turn elsewhere. Uncompromising intimacy is the opposite of compromise. It's glorious, connecting, and it takes intentionality. You're not doing yourself any favors to compromise on your desires. The number 1 way to avoid divorce is to know what you want and know how to ask for it. Do you know what you want? Do you know what you desire within your relationship? Do you know how to bring it up in a way that's respectful of the relationship? If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Do you want to spend more time with your partner, believing it will contribute to you both feeling desire, and feeling desire for one another? Are you feeling numb, disconnected, and lacking the intimacy your marriage once had? Newsflash: going on a fancy vacation, getting new lingerie, getting your hair done, and/or losing a few pounds will NOT fix the problem. Those are short-term, external, temporary adjustments which won't make a big difference. If you want to revive your connection, it's necessary to make changes on the inside. Personal development, self-awareness, noticing when you're being reactive, being more accepting of yourself and your partner–that's what' it takes to create the juicy connection and intimacy you're looking for. What is it that creates happiness in relationships? What do you need to put your attention on in order to experience more happiness? Those are the questions I'm exploring in season 2 of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. Explore them with me by considering for yourself: What are your own thoughts about being happy in your relationship? What are your assumptions about how it works? What have you been telling yourself you need, in order to be happy? Once you identify the stories you've been telling yourself, it's much easier to dismantle them and step into what you really need in order to enjoy your life. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. "Uncompromising Intimacy" the book: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

If you're having trouble in your relationship, it's probably because you believe one of the prominent lies that are commonly accepted as de facto truth. If you're not feeling the sexual chemistry you used to feel, very often people will believe they married the wrong person. More likely, you both just haven't learned how to be with each other through each phase of your relationship. This is a learnable skill! If you're treating your relationship as something transactional, doing something for your partner in the hopes that they'll do something for you, it may work a little in the short term but that is not a long term solution. Are you doing things because you enjoy making your partner happy? Or are you doing things to get your partner to notice you and give you what you want? Stop compromising! If you want a passionate marriage, compromise is not the way to get there. Instead, bring all of who you are (your desires, emotions, thoughts, and feelings) to the relationship and stop diminishing yourself. If things are challenging in your relationship, that doesn't mean you're with the wrong person. It just means it's time to grow, and learn how to be a better spouse to one another. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

It's fitting that I'm launching Season 2 on the day of my 26th wedding anniversary. Part of my celebration is to share with you what an intimate marriage really is. My mission is to change the cultural narrative that long-term relationships are where passions go to dwindle off and die. On the contrary, I want the collective world at large to see that in a long lasting relationship, there is the most tender, gratifying, expansive, vulnerable, delicious intimacy available. When I first got married, I was deeply in love and very happy but on the other hand, I was also convinced we would end up divorced and I mentally prepared myself for that inevitability. I didn't believe that it could be fantastic for the long haul. Now, I absolutely believe that a fantastic relationship is possible, you just need to make a point of creating it. What happens when you create an intimate marriage? You'll be happier You'll have more professional success You'll have the pleasure of being in a partnership where you're both thriving Your children will learn how to create it for themselves We don't know what the future holds, but we're willing to lean in and discover it together. Email me at [email protected] and let me know if this resonates for you! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach

I hope you had a really wonderful Valentine's Day that was special, delicious, and sensual. I hope you were able to use what you learned in Episode 61 to connect with your partner. If it did not go as planned, this episode is for you! A client of mine has a wonderful relationship most of the time, but in February they fight and get on each other's nerves a lot. They've come to dread February because of the pressure to have a "perfect" Valentine's Day to match their wonderful marriage. If you're feeling resentment or disappointment towards your partner, there are a few steps you can take in order to reconnect. Journal, exercise, meditate, find a way to clear the resentment so you can show up neutral and present Focus on what did go well Have a calm, respectful conversation with your partner about what happened Ask what your partner needs for this to be enjoyable, then share yours If you'd like, schedule a Valentine's Day redo using what you've learned Email me at [email protected] and let me know if this resonates for you! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach A Podcast Launch Bestie production

Welcome to Part 2 of our Valentine Bonus Series! In the last episode we talked about setting yourself up for a great day. Now Valentine's Day is here, and I want to talk about how to really enjoy the day, no matter what happens. Plan time to prep yourself. Not just getting dressed, but really relaxing with a hot bath, some meditation or yoga, or even a strip tease for yourself before the date. Look for opportunities to share with more depth, not just focusing on logistics and kids. The best conversations lead to the best sex! Share favorite "frames," snapshots of meaningful moments, even as they're happening. I hope you have a magnificent celebration and get to know yourself and your partner in new ways. I want to hear all about your plan, and how it turns out. Email me at [email protected] and let me know! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach A Podcast Launch Bestie production

Valentine's Day is often painted as a rosy, beautiful, romantic, fairytale time. Sometimes that's true, but often it's much more complicated. Today, I'll share some ways to set yourself up for a Happy Valentine's Day. This is not theoretical- it really will help! Spend some time thinking about what Valentine's Day really means to you. Journal about it if you want. Notice if you are bracing yourself for a disappointing time? Are you fantasizing about a gorgeous romantic evening? Explore all of your dreams, disappointments, and other associations with the holiday. Envision what you want your Valentine's Day to be like. How do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? Get together with your partner and reminisce with each other about Valentine's Days in the past. Keep it light. Then talk together about how you both want to celebrate this year, and plan it together. Don't expect your partner to read your mind! Take the time to create a win-win Valentine's celebration for both of you. You'll be glad you did. I want to hear all about your plan, and how it turns out. Email me at [email protected] and let me know! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

Today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast marks the end of Season 1. As I look back at the richness of the season, it's clear that there is no specific formula for a happy marriage. Each couple that I interviewed shared different things that contribute to their happiness. It's a creative process unique to the individuals involved in terms of how they pursue and cultivate more joy, more pleasure, more connection, and more self-expression in their relationship. Listen as I highlight key moments from Season 1 and look ahead to Season 2! IN THIS EPISODE: [01:15] The rules, or lack thereof, for happy and unhappy families [04:06] Analogy: Teaching someone to fish and creating a fantastic marriage [06:58] Key takeaways from Season 1 couples [08:18] Taking risks in your relationship and tracking relationship goals [11:30] The connection between vulnerability and stress in marriage, and the importance of getting your children's perspective about marriage and family [16:08] Prioritizing your partner's experience and finding success in life and marriage despite the chaos around your [19:42] Reflection and looking forward to Season 2 KEY TAKEAWAYS: There is no specific formula for a happy and growing relationship. It's a creative process and unique to the individuals. It is intrinsically motivated and having a happy family is really a unique achievement. How we handle our money, especially in interacting with our spouse, is heavily influenced by emotional content that may not be completely clear to each other. It may feel obvious to us, but when you actually express it to your partner, it will ease miscommunication and frustration. You can totally love and support your spouse without being interested in the things that they are interested in. Links Mentioned: Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I am joined by Jonathan and Sascha Schlossberg who got married, started a business, and had their first child all at the same time. How do they do it? How do they cultivate a healthy balance between work and family? Is it possible for a relationship to be both disciplined and chaotic? Listen in as this dynamic duo shares insight into what it is like working with your spouse, how they handle disagreements, and what they have learned from their relationship over the years. IN THIS EPISODE: [01:53] Jonathan and Sascha share they have worked together since they met waiting tables, and have had lots of different roles and positions while always working together since. [06:50] How do Sascha and Jonathan balance competition and their relationship? 11:26] Here are a few examples of how Sascha and Jonathan work through disagreements to be on the same page. [17:48] What Sascha and Jonathan have learned about themselves as a result of being married to one another. [21:19] How did 2020 affect Jonathan's way of thinking? How did that affect their relationship? [25:07] How do Sascha and Jonathan manage a business and their relationship while homeschooling four children under the age of seven? [30:18] How to connect with Jonathan and Sascha. KEY TAKEAWAYS: When it comes to growing in a relationship, self-work is just as important as working on your relationship. Who we were, who we are, and who we are becoming are constantly shifting. It is possible to become the greatest version of yourself by doing the work. Learning how you and your partner both communicate is crucial for communication to be healthy and effective. In a long-term relationship, everything that isn't sex is foreplay. How you interact day to day determines the quality of the connection when an intimate moment arises. Links Mentioned: Join Jonathan and Sascha's Facebook group www.group.unconventionallywealthy.co Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO Jonathan and Sascha are a dynamite team. Jonathan's innate ability to connect intimately and powerfully with others as well as Sascha's undying determination and eloquent brand messaging skills make them unbeatable. Together, they homeschool their four kids (with a little bit of help) and are teaching them day by day how to lead unconventionally successful lives. Originally, the couple met as actors waiting tables in Hollywood and they now live in Phoenix, Arizona, USA.

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Ryan and Dr. Carly Crewe about raising twin girls, traveling the world, and managing their full-time family businesses. Carly is a family doctor & MD psychotherapist, author, podcast host and CEO of a virtual mental health clinic for women. Her husband, Ryan, is a stay at home dad and helps support their family businesses. They have been married for 10 years. We discuss how Ryan chose to be a stay at home parent and how Carly's virtual clinic grew seemingly overnight. We discuss how they prioritize their marriage in the midst of busy and full lives, their unique view on education, and their future travel plans. Listen as we talk about marriage, family, and how to navigate conflict with healthy communication. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:50] Introduction of Ryan and Dr. Carly Crewe [04:07] Ryan's decision to be a stay at home dad [06:39] Stay at home dad experience [08:03] Growing Carly's virtual mental health clinic [10:30] Their dynamic with work and travel [12:50] How they prioritize their marriage [17:22] Where to next on their travels [19:07] Carly - What have you learned about yourself from being married? [21:32] Receiving criticism and navigating conflict [23:16] Ryan - What have you learned about yourself from being married? [25:33] Contacting Carly and Ryan KEY TAKEAWAYS: As a stay at home dad, Ryan has been surprised by the stereotypes of how other men view being a stay at home parent as not a full time job. A challenge to being a traveling family is not always having childcare readily available. Carly and Ryan have to rely on each other to watch the twins and alternate when they set aside designated work hours for their family business. Healthy conflict resolution and navigating arguments means staying focused on the issue rather than the person. A significant ritual that Carly and Ryan practice is their strategic life meetings on Sundays. They sit down to look at the upcoming week and prioritize their exercise, nutrition and children's educational activities. Weekly "planning" meetings as partners helps to develop amazing communication skills because it creates a context where you learn to honor and speak up for your own needs, as well as honor the other person's wants and needs. Links Mentioned: Carly's Website - https://carlycrewe.com/ Podcast - https://carlycrewe.com/podcast/ Book - https://carlycrewe.com/yanya-1 Carly's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/carlycrewe/ Family Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/fulltimecrewes/ Websites: carlycrewe.com & eunoiamedical.ca Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO: Carly Crewe, MD is a mom to twin toddlers, modern day nomad and MD Psychotherapist specializing in women's mental health. Dr. Crewe is the CEO and Owner of Eunoia Medical Clinic, an innovative and dynamic virtual clinic that provides comprehensive treatment of mental health disorders in women by an extraordinary team of female family doctors. Ryan Crewe is the Chief Financial Officer of Eunoia Medical and an incredible stay-at-home parent to twin girls. Ryan is a retired power engineer and previous manager who now helps manage the Eunoia Medical Clinic alongside his wife Carly. Carly and Ryan now call a 31 foot RV "home" along with their twin girls and 2 rescue dogs.

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Gail Bruce, a wise, spunky, honest, articulate, vivacious 80 year old woman. She speaks as a friend, a student of life, and a crone as Gail discusses her 50-year marriage to the love of her life and talks about the ways each new decade brought more growth and more depth to their relationship. After a surfing accident left her late husband in a neck brace, paralyzed from the waist down, many things changed and Gail describes in detail the impact it had on their physical connection. Gail is the founder of HipSilver, a curated resource company designed to connect the Silvers, those in her generation, with one another. Listen as we talk about life, love, and how she makes her life more rich and full with each passing year. IN THIS EPISODE: [03:21] Gail talks about how she met her late husband and about their beautiful 50 year marriage [07:47] What is it like being in love after 35 or 40 years of marriage, and how is it different from being in love early in a marriage? [13:00] After a surfing accident left her husband in a neck brace, Gail shares how their emotional and physical relationship changed during the almost 5 year recovery [23:36] The importance of finding all of the ways that there can be physical connection and pleasure within a life long relationship [32:39] Gail talks about founding HipSilver and her plans to grow the resource and show the world that the Silver Age is hip KEY TAKEAWAYS: There is a connection between having a fantastic relationship and our ability and willingness to be more self-expressed and receive more of our partners' full self-expression. Touch, non sexual and sexual alike, is a major part of everybody's life and very crucial to our wellbeing. We suffer when there is a lack of physical touch, like during the pandemic. HipSilver is an online resource that focuses on Gail's generation. It's about new possibilities for a more rich and full life focused on community, information, and curated products. Links Mentioned: https://hipsilver.com/pages/about-hipsilver https://www.linkedin.com/in/gailhbruce/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO Gail Bruce is a woman of experience and some notoriety. Born Gail Hire in Chicago, she was raised on the beaches of California, educated at numerous institutions, and enriched by the exciting experiences of life: sports, cars, modeling, acting, design, marriage, painting, childbirth, non-profit development, and business. All of which contributed to who she is today and how she will move into the future. Gail believes the reason we are born into this time and existence is to move our level of "consciousness" one step further to the next level. Everything is a life lesson; everything is enriching.

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Travia Steward about the many steps she took on her quest to be ready for, and find, her partner. Travia and her wife have been together for 15 years, married for 7 years. We talk about Travia's journey to accepting her sexuality and how she experiences reinvention through her marriage. Travia is a transformation and reinvention coach who helps inspire and empower people to live the highest vision of their lives. Listen to learn about love languages and the tools they use to keep their love alive and grow their relationship. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:50] Introduction of Travia [03:31] Travia shares her journey of finding her wife [07:35] What Travia learned from her marriage [10:53] What she wanted to feel in a relationship [14:00] The power of love languages [18:25] Personal reinvention [21:37] Tools for reinvention [20:20] Initiating check ins [30:47] How to keep feeling in love [35:35] How to connect with Travia KEY TAKEAWAYS: Travia uses her awareness of her partner's love language to successfully express love for her wife, and her wife does the same knowing Travia's love languages are touch and words of affirmation. Being aware of the intentions behind your actions and having a loving intent with your partner will go a long way in showing your partner love. Travia was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2020 and had a double mastectomy. Following the surgery, she became more aligned with her body and was able to reinvent herself in a more authentic form, which made her a better partner because she was no longer hiding. Reinvention is finding a new gear for who you are today, so that you can become the person your goals require you to be. One reinvention tool Travia uses in her marriage is a regular check-in with her wife. They remove distractions and answer a series of vulnerable questions such as asking how well they are meeting each other's needs. It requires honesty, vulnerability, and listening. Links Mentioned: Travia's Podcast Episode with Alexandra: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-74-creating-more-intimacy-in-your-relationship-with/id1514964939?i=1000536608865 www.traviasteward.com/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Alisa DiLorenzo about marriage, intimacy, and the effect of pornography on a marriage. Alisa and her husband, Tony, co-host the #1 rated ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast. They have been married for 25 years and have recently released their latest book, The Six Pillars of Intimacy. Today, we discuss the six forms of intimacy: emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual, and how each one is vital to create a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. Alisa also shares how she and her husband navigated a pornography addiction together and how they now help coach other couples through similar situations. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:50] Introduction to Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo [05:01] Pornography and marriage [11:35] How secrets affect marriage [16:08] The Six Pillars of Intimacy [19:00] Emotional intimacy [20:29] Physical intimacy [24:01] Recreational intimacy [29:03] What Alisa has learned through being married to Tony KEY TAKEAWAYS: Marriages need role models of other healthy and fulfilling marriages. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo are role models for many couples as they encourage others, coaching them with wisdom gained from their mistakes, experiences, and depth of marital knowledge. When a married person is engaging in pornography, it impacts both people. If something is kept a secret within a marriage, it will still impact the entire dynamic in the marriage. The longer a secret is kept, the more damage that will be done. The six pillars of intimacy help create a strong and beautiful marriage that can carry the weight of challenges, because life does still happen to all of us. The pillars create an internal strength that fosters working together as a team. Links Mentioned: oneextraordinarymarriage.com The Six Pillars of Intimacy: https://www.amazon.com/Pillars-Intimacy-Secret-Extraordinary-Marriage/dp/0578991454 instagram.com/oneextraordinarymarriage https://www.facebook.com/groups/oneextraordinarymarriage Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO: As co-host of the top marriage podcast in Apple Podcasts, the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, Alisa DiLorenzo speaks to a worldwide audience about sex, love & commitment, and challenges every listener to make their relationship a priority. Their 6 Pillars of Intimacy have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You'll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by how common sense it is.

Oftentimes, when we ask our spouses for something, it can lead to disappointment, frustration and feeling that your spouse doesn't care about your wants and needs. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm sharing four steps to use to improve communication when asking your partner for what you want, using the example of couples coaching. This is not a method to manipulate your partner. Rather, it's a way to improve communication by respecting your partner's experience while simultaneously establishing the importance of your desires, and ultimately getting what you want. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:48] How to ask for what you want [03:56] Scenarios when a partner is seeking couples coaching [10:30] Step 1: Start with an opt-in [13:18] Step 2: Affirm your marriage [14:48] Step 3: Share areas of improvement within your marriage [16:27] Step 4: Introduce Alexandra and couples coaching [16:51] Tips for how to communicate with your spouse [18:23] Another option for improving communication and your marriage [20:59] Reviewing the four steps plus how these steps can improve other conversations your and your partners have about your life together KEY TAKEAWAYS: Today's episode discusses how to tell your spouse what you want. I specifically talk about how to communicate about couples coaching, but the tips shared can be applied to many other areas in marriage. Start by getting an opt-in, meaning you want your partner to have a choice in starting the conversation. Affirm your spouse and marriage in a genuine way. Share specific things that you enjoy about your spouse and your marriage. Transition to asking how your marriage could be better. Share specific areas that you think need attention or improvement, and ask your spouse if they agree. Share that couples coaching is a good way to create positive change. If your spouse still says no to couples coaching, try asking if they will participate in a 15 minute call with me. Oftentimes, a quick call will show them that I'm not committed to doing things the way you've described. I'm committed to doing things in a way that works for both of you.. Links Mentioned: Desires: Awaken the Woman Within: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl The Aligned and Hot Marriage program: https://www.alignedhotmarriage.com/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Nick and Dr. Elaine Stageberg about how they re-energized their marriage and the ways it has drastically improved their family and business. They own a very successful real estate investment company although they believe that they invest not in just property, but in relationships. Nick and Elaine have learned to invest in each other and that flows over into how they use their business to invest in other people. Together, we talk about the energy within marriage, how they have chosen to put one another's needs above their own, and the positive impact that conflict can have on your relationship. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] Introduction of Nick and Dr. Elaine Stageberg [02:55] What's it like to work with your spouse [04:40] Marriage as a source of energy [08:42] How to energize your marriage [14:38] Being accommodating of your spouse [20:36] How to use conflict to create more energy [27:51] Investing in relationships [33:40] What ways have you grown through marriage KEY TAKEAWAYS: The Stageberg's believe that taking responsibility for your partner's needs and feelings will transform your relationship for the better because you will both be thinking of each other's happiness. Your marriage can and should be a source of energy and light. When you try to avoid conflict or a problem in your marriage, it can be harmful. It's better to lean into the conflict and as there you'll discover a deep reservoir of energy. Links Mentioned: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Bio Nick & Dr. Elaine Stageberg have been married for 10 years and are parents to three amazing children, ages 6, 4, and 18 months, and another baby on the way! After having grown their real estate investments to reach financial freedom, they left their respective careers to jointly run their real estate investment business, Black Swan Real Estate. One of the most common questions they get is "How do you work with your spouse everyday?" They love to share what has worked for them to create a close, vibrant, loving, intimate marriage - which is the ingredient that they consider the ticket to all of their other successes! https://blackswanteam.com/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm talking about how high achieving women can access more joy during the holidays – without all of the stress! Instead of dreading all the tasks associated with this time of year, I want to show you how to have fun and discover new delights in the season, because it is possible! In my new program, "Uncompromising Intimacy--How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays" I'll be sharing how to bring more intentionality, more ease and more meaningful connection during this time of year. Learn more about the program in today's episode, hear an amazing testimonial from a woman who participated last year, and sign up here: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] The stress of the holiday season [06:00] Living with intentionality [08:15] Details about "Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays" www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday [09:42] How do you feel during the holidays [10:18] How to communicate expectations with loved ones [13:00] How to make meaningful memories [13:25] The art of reflection [14:30] Testimonial from a participant in last year's program KEY TAKEAWAYS: Alexandra's coaching program, "Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays" helps women enjoy their holiday through increased intentionality, clarity and communication. Program begins with a bonus call on December 1, 2021. Details at www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday. Along with the joy of the holiday season comes an exceptional amount of stress and pressure for high achieving women who strive to create fun and meaningful experiences for their families. Living with intentionality during the holidays means learning to have balance between serving your family and honoring your own experience. Prioritize what really matters to both you and the people you love. Alexandra's coaching program, "Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During The Holidays" helps women enjoy their holiday through increased intentionality, clarity and communication. We'll start by focusing on how you feel during the holidays, how you felt in prior years, and how you feel anticipating this one. One of the first steps to accessing joy during the holidays is discovering your (often pushed aside) feelings and desires for. When you achieve that clarity you have a much better chance of making those hopes and desires come true. Next we'll talk about how to successfully communicate with loved ones about how you want to do things so they are better for everyone. Instead of just delegating, learn how to collaborate and co-create with your family. This will bring a beautiful new energy to the holidays. Then we'll focus on making meaningful memories. And in the final week of the program, we will learn the art of reflection: ending the holidays by looking back and examining your experiences so as to be ready for next year. Links Mentioned: Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB page: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with the incredible Nneka Chineme Unachukwa, MD, commonly known as Dr. Una. She is a pediatrician, podcast host, entrepreneur coach to physicians all over the world, and CEO and Founder of Ivy League Pediatrics in Lawrenceville, Georgia. On top of all that, she is also a wife of 15 years and mom to four children. In this insightful and encouraging conversation, we discuss delegation within marriage, the distinction between compromise and staying true to yourself, and how marriage is the ultimate personal development program. IN THIS EPISODE: [01:27] Dr. Una is introduced and shares the meaning behind her name [04:57] The heart behind Dr. Una's work and her podcast, EntreMD [07:48] How your decision-making process impacts your intimate relationship [12:36] The importance of delegation [19:07] The difference between compromise and prioritizing when it comes to identity, values, and dreams within relationships [25:47] Dr. Una answers the questions, "What have you learned about yourself as a result of being married to your husband?" [31:14] Information about Dr. Una's Podcast, EntreMD KEY TAKEAWAYS: Communication is key when making important decisions that affect your partner. In order to accomplish more in life and have more time and freedom, you have to leverage the power of people and adopt a lifestyle of delegation within your marriage and your work-life. When we prioritize certain needs or desires in a relationship, the method will not matter as much as the outcome. Bring all of yourself to your relationship. Never try to bury your hopes or dreams in order to avoid conflict. We are the best we can be, the most fun, the happiest, when we are true to who we are, and when we make room for our partner to do the same. Marriage is the best personal development program! Links Mentioned: https://entremd.com https://entremd.com/podcast/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

As parents, we sometimes forget just how much our relationships, especially our relationship with our partner, impacts our children. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I interview my nine-year-old son, Matthew. We have a very frank, unscripted conversation where I ask him questions about our family, his friends, and life in general. He shares some insightful thoughts about how the smallest hint of tension or disagreement between his parents can be upsetting and he offers advice on how he believes parents can help children "have a wonderful time". Buckle up for a really sweet and unique conversation that I'm excited to share with you. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] Introduction and explanation of today's guest [04:55] Alexandra welcomes her son, Matthew to the interview [05:20] What's it like being the youngest child in the family? [06:34] What makes the Stockwell family, the Stockwell family? [07:22] What do you mean by we are the "opposite of divorced?" [10:06] How children perceive parental tension [11:45] What's it like having older siblings? [12:28] Advice for parents: How to help your children have a wonderful childhood [13:08] What have you learned about yourself from being a son and a brother? KEY TAKEAWAYS: It's important to understand that what happens within your marital relationship will have an impact on your children. The more sensitive your child is the more they might perceive the simplest of tensions between you and your partner as a negative experience Matthew shares two important pieces of advice to parents on how to help kids have a wonderful childhood: challenge kids to grow and learn but don't push too hard; and encourage children to connect with others but also let them learn to be content by themselves. Matthew is Alexandra and her husband's 4th and youngest child, age 9 at the time of the interview. In the conversation, Matthew shares openly and honestly about being a member of the Stockwell family and shares insights on how important his parents relationship is for him. Links Mentioned: Intimacy Program: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

How do you feel about scheduled intimacy? Many couples feel it's only necessary for those who lack passion or have marital issues. However, I'm here to tell you that's just not true. We make time for other things we value, like exercise and eating regularly. Why shouldn't we also carve out designated time for intimacy? In this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm talking about the misconceptions surrounding this and the many benefits that couples experience when they priortize sex in this way. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] How do you feel about scheduling sex? [4:48] How to alter your perception of scheduled intimacy [07:57] The anticipation of scheduled intimacy [13:51] Guiding intimate expectations and communication [17:40] The Intimacy Program KEY TAKEAWAYS: There is a misunderstanding that scheduling sex is only for couples that lack passion or are having marital issues - that's not true. When we value things, we schedule it into our lives like exercise or eating regularly. Why shouldn't we priortize sex in the same way? Just like looking forward to dining at a nice restaurant or going out on a date with your partner, scheduling intimacy builds anticipation. Scheduling sex increases intentionality and communication within your relationship, which leads to greater intimacy. Links Mentioned: Intimacy Program: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/intimacy/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 IG business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Dr. Brent Lacey about marriage, money, and more! Professionally, Brent is a gastroenterologist who is passionate about helping physicians succeed with business and personal finances. In his personal life, he and his wife have cultivated a magnificent marriage based on honesty, clarity, and humility. In his words, "Marriage is the ballgame. If you don't get that right, there's no point in having anything else." During our conversation, we talk about how having a healthy, loving relationship will spill over into all facets of your life, how to date your spouse and how to overcome money problems in your marriage. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] Dr. Brent Lacey introduced [01:50] How marriage impacts all facets of life [07:29] Advice from other couples [09:00] Money and marriage [16:00] The power of "Why" in communication [20:00] Marriage and Money Summit information [23:00] Personal growth from marriage [25:00] Dealing with disappointment in marriage KEY TAKEAWAYS: A healthy, loving marriage will spill over into all areas of life Through intentional acts of love in marriage you can keep your relationship from becoming mundane and routine No matter how old you get, you need to date your spouse Letting your spouse know the story and "why" behind decisions and values is really important to healthy communication Honesty, clarity and humility are essential to building a healthy marriage Links Mentioned: thescopeofpractice.com/marriage-and-money/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell. IG business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm exploring Jada Pinkett and Will Smith's marriage and how they have created a dynamic and fulfilling relationship. In looking at their relationship and other couples I have coached, we begin to see how important it is to establish what the foundation is for your marriage and clarify what keeps you and your partner together. Identifying the answers to these basic questions will help your marriage go from just surviving to flourishing! IN THIS EPISODE: [01:00] Alexandra's dream interview; joining Jada and her family at the Red Table Talk. [02:16] Exploring Jada Pinkett and Will Smith's relationship; why does their marriage work? [03:40] What is the foundation for a lasting marriage? [08:42] Will and Jada; what is the perfect way to interact as a couple? [12:22] Alexandra guides a couple she has coached to explore the foundation of their relationship. [17:00] Clarify what keeps you together in your relationship. [17:41] Aligned & Hot Marriage Program Offering. KEY TAKEAWAYS: Every couple should identify what the foundation of their relationship is. Ask yourself and your spouse, what is the perfect way to interact with each other? It is so important to clarify what keeps you together as a couple. Is what you choose something that makes for a juicy relationship? Links Mentioned: Aligned & Hot Marriage Program - www.alignedhotmarriage.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

Today's episode is the exciting start of all of the juicy newness of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. I've invited my husband, Rodd Stockwell, MD, back to the podcast to discuss how we've kept our marriage feeling new and fresh over the last 25 years. We dive into the nature of how desires naturally change over time, overcoming the fear of expressing those desires, and cultivating uncompromising intimacy. While this is one of those conversations that could go on for hours, tune in to hear this bite-sized chunk all about keeping it fresh! IN THIS EPISODE: [03:43] Rodd's response to one of my most asked questions: How does your relationship stay exciting after 25 years of marriage? [06:14] Are things boring in our bedroom? [11:16] Uncompromising intimacy and growing to prioritize our experience. [14:11] Overcoming the fear of expressing desires. [17:21] The importance of how you listen when your partner shares. [20:37] A practical application of open communication about one's feelings and desires. [21:34] The role curiosity plays in continuously arising emotions and desires. KEY TAKEAWAYS: All people change naturally over time and have new desires that arise. It's about honoring what's arising in each other that makes it different and new and fresh. If one person is overriding fear and expressing a desire, then there's somebody listening and how that person listens is incredibly important. It takes courage to take the risk to suggest trying something new. But it begins with not letting the fear win. The thing that keeps a relationship spicy and alive is cultivating uncompromising intimacy. The ability to be aware of how you feel, and develop the ability to express it to your partner, and receive and hear when your partner shares. LINKS MENTIONED Uncompromising Intimacy - Podcast Episode 25 Years of Intimacy, with my Husband Rodd Stockwell - Podcast Episode Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO: Rodd Stockwell, MD is a Pain Management Doctor. He is Alexandra's husband of 25 years. Together they have 4 children ranging in age from 9-25.

It's time for some exciting new changes! In this episode, I'm sharing all of the updates and plans for the podcast. From the name and cover art, to the format of the episodes, I want to make sure that you're up to date with where we're heading next. I'm thrilled to share these changes with you, and I look forward to the next expression and pleasure in this phase of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. Enjoy this next iteration of my podcast relationship as you come along for the ride. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:52] The new podcast name and cover art and the reasons behind them. [02:52] How I view my podcast and listeners through the lens of a relationship. [03:50] Sharing the elements of the next expression of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. [05:39] My plan to incorporate more specific teaching through vignettes. [06:13] The details of how you can celebrate this next phase of the podcast with me on Facebook. KEY TAKEAWAYS: The Marriage Podcast is now The Intimate Marriage Podcast. It is more accurate, juicier, and true. The new cover art is classy, subtle, and sexy. It better reflects what I am all about. Interviews with amazing couples are not going away. I will also interview individuals as well as going deeper in my solo episodes. The celebratory Facebook Party is on October 7th, 2021, at 9 AM PST. For those who attend live, three people will have a chance to win a transformative 30-minute coaching session with me. The recording will be available for replay, so please join the Facebook group even if this date has passed. Links Mentioned: Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group for the celebratory Facebook Party on October 7th at 9 AM PST: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

In anticipation of Josephine's 25th birthday, Alexandra interviews her daughter on the experience of being a child in a family where the parents have an evolving, hot, intimate marriage. They talk about the clarity and internal confidence it has provided Josephine as she herself navigates life and relationships. While there is a lot of juicy content and amazing insights in the episode, it's hearing how Alexandra and Josephine connect and communicate that reveals so much. BIO: Josephine Stockwell is the oldest of four children, a classical musician, and Alexandra's daughter. She loves to cook, cut and style hair, and health/fitness. She brings curiosity, emotional intelligence, creativity, and sunshine wherever she is. Josephine is violist. She is currently in graduate school at Northwestern and a member of the Civic Orchestra of Chicago. Josephine's Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/josephine_stockwell/ Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

In this episode Alexandra goes deep into the details of uncompromising intimacy. She defines compromise and describes the kind of relationship it creates: bland, neutral, comfortable companionship. In contrast, uncompromising intimacy leads to deep emotional connection, dynamic expansion and self-expression, and passion! Listen in for more details and specificity about what this actually looks like in practice, and be sure to read Alexandra's bestselling book on the same topic, called "Uncompromising Intimacy." Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

When two emotionally mature adults build a relationship together, amazing things are possible. Morgan and Rob describe their journey, and what it called forth from each of them as they created the depth, juiciness, and joy they share with one another as they meet life's challenges. Together. We discuss controlling women, acquiescence to "the Feminine", wounding from our relationships with our mothers along with the collision of beliefs about what it takes to have a successful relationship. Through all of that Rob and Morgan continue to find the "yes, and" that becomes possible with deeper listening, open hearts and open minds. BIO: Morgan Kandell is passionate about Functional Medicine, becoming her Limitless Self, self-centering and changing the distorted reality in which we are creating ourselves from within. Robert Kandell is an experienced veteran in many industries. Leaving his corporate job at the height of San Francisco's dotcom explosion, he started his first consulting business in 1999, creating technological solutions for premier financial firms. He then leveraged his business acumen to cofound his first business guiding it from a paper-napkin sketch to an eight-figure international corporation before exiting in 2014. He currently works as a Fractional CFO for several companies. In addition to his business and management skills, Robert is an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer. In 2018, he published his first book, unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them, which is an international best-seller. His work has been featured in the New York Times, Inc, Cosmopolitan, Bustle, The Atlantic, Time, The Huffington Post, and Vice. Book - unHidden: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them: https://amzn.to/3zRsvWi Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Dr. Vanessa Calderon is a passionate and ultra accomplished woman who excels in leadership, medicine, coaching, resiliency and wellness, gender issues, neurodiversity, and so much more. In this episode she talks about burn out—what it is and how to recognize it, as well as what to do to antidote its impact. She also talks about stress and the explicit toll it takes on relationships. We talk about how cultivating your relationship leads to professional success, and how focusing on professional success does not necessarily lead to more fulfilling relationships. This conversation is highly informative and thought provoking, and left both of us with many more questions than answers. BIO: Dr. Vanessa Calderon, MD, MPP is a Latina Life and Leadership Coach and a Board Certified Emergency Medicine Physician. She has over 20 years of leadership experience and is the founder of the Latina Leadership Accelerator, where she uses education, training and coaching to support the personal and professional development of Latinas at all levels of their careers. Dr Calderon is also a resiliency expert and the Wellness and Resiliency Director of a National Multispecialty Physician organization. Dr. Calderon is married and has two young children. Website: vanessacalderonmd.com Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vanessacalderonmd/ Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Both powerful individuals, Dr Peter Kim is an anesthesiologist who has taught hundreds of doctors how to become real estate investors and successful entrepreneurs and Dr Vicki Chan is an ophthalmologist who is a social media influencer providing important education to the public. (Have you seen her Tiktoks???!!!!) They are both frank, service oriented, and inspirational as they describe the way they navigate challenges in their marriage, and how they work on it. BIO: Peter Kim, MD is an obstetric anesthesiologist and the founder of Passive Income MD, a brand dedicated to helping physicians achieve financial freedom through multiple streams of income. They serve their rapidly growing community through a blog, a podcast, online courses, facebook groups, and conferences. Vicki Chan, MD is an ophthalmologist, mother of 2, wife, and social media marketer/educator from Los Angeles, California. Her passions include having fun with her family; using her platform to educate, advocate, and inspire; and exploring all that life has to offer. Financial Freedom through Real Estate Conference: https://pimdcon2021.passiveincomemd.com Website: https://passiveincomemd.com/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/vickichanmd/ Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

In this vulnerable, potent conversation Juliette Karaman-van Shaardenburg and Alex Lee talk with Alexandra about the conundrum of being a highly competent professional and still feeling inadequate in relationship. They also talk about being a juicy, intuitive, empowered woman who wants more, and how a partner can navigate that with ease. Juliette defines trauma and shares the impact of individual trauma on romantic relationships. Juliette Karaman- van Schaardenburg is the founder of the Feel Fully You movement which helps empower women and couples reconnect with themselves. For over 5 years she has trained hundreds of coaches so they are better equipped to handle the trauma their clients may experience through deep knowledge, ease and grace. Her unique Embodied Leadership Method focuses on teaching coaches and change-makers how to become more embodied, empowered and effective. Alex Lee hails from New Zealand, and considers all else irrelevant to this conversation. Upcoming Program: https://juliettee37eff.clickfunnels.com/program-registration5un9769v Website: http://feelfullyyou.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/juliettekaraman Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/juliette.karamanvanschaardenburg Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Dr Sonia Wright and Alexandra talk about the importance of education in creating fantastic relationships and experiencing fulfilling intimacy. As a Midlife Sex Coach for Women, Dr. Wright shares her philosophy and how important it is to train women physicians-for the sake of their patients and for themselves! Dr. Wright also shares many insights about being a person who is a member of multiple cultures, without being fully defined by any of them. She identifies as an immigrant, Jamaican, African-American, American, mother, doctor, sex coach, friend, lover, and so much more. Dr. Sonia Wright is a board-certified radiologist, a trained sexual counselor and a life coach. She received her education from Stanford University, the University of California San Francisco School of Medicine, the Mayo Clinic and the University of Michigan. Dr. Sonia is on a mission to help women embrace their sexuality and end the emotional pain and isolation associated with sexual difficulties. Sexual difficulties can happen and should be addressed without shame and guilt. She believes wholeheartedly that all women deserve to experience pleasurable sexual intimacy. Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/midlifesexcoach Instagram https://www.instagram.com/drsoniawright Website https://soniawrightmd.com https://sonia-wright-md.mykajabi.com/Waitlist-OYSN!CME?fbclid=IwAR2A-mr2QTsTiy6xxY8r6iacr5UHNEMpOItmYwO1TVJ5dIjFqjaRuYZnVWE Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

No--you don't need to forget intimacy while the children are little. Listen in as Alexandra shares the keys to maintaining erotic connection while parenting little ones. Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Longtime teachers and mentors, Satyen and Suzanne Raja share the rich tapestry of their intentional marriage, which is equally infused with love and purpose. In response to Alexandra's probing questions, they share lofty conceptual frameworks, in the moment expansive wisdom, and the concrete ways they navigate day to day challenges in family life and business. This conversation is a beautiful immersion in a way of life that goes far beyond any of the words that are used to describe it. Satyen Raja is both a master teacher and master student with over 40 years of rigorous study and practice in developing higher consciousness. He speaks from the truth of his direct experiences to usher you into a sacred life of embodied love and wisdom for a profoundly enhanced life. He has transformed the lives of over 100,000 students internationally and leads private and group mentorship for top CEO's, high impact individuals and world leaders. His corporate work involves cultural advisory and training executive teams of elite organizations to shift from chaos, overwhelm and struggle into aligned, coherent, high performing teams. Expertly versed in psycho-spiritual, tantric, shamanic and movement-based modalities, Suzanne Raja weaves unique teachings, practices and experiences for women to awaken, embody and express their brilliance. Suzanne has privately coached business leaders, stage performers, CEOs of multinational corporations, high-profile public speakers and noted physicians among others. Her dynamic and heart centered style has her sought after on international stages and exclusive retreats for women. www.warriorsage.com Alexandra's website: www.alexandrastockwell.com Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage