The Intimate Marriage Podcast, with Intimacy Coach Alexandra Stockwell, MD

It's the 100th episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast and we discuss why intimacy matters! I am elated to be celebrating this beautiful milestone. In honor of the occasion I invited my own coach, Anne Rose Hart, to join me. We talk about intimacy, why it matters, my zone of genius in serving couples, and the need for this type of work in the world. This is a refreshingly unique episode, as I am the one who is interviewed, on my own podcast! It's such a great way to mark 100 episodes of the show. Also in this episode: Exactly how I define intimacy Why intimacy is a learned skill (including a foray into my teachings!) The importance of growing within your marriage, not just for you as a couple, but for what it creates on a much larger scale in terms of influence and impact My vision and goals for the future of relationships This is a tender and intimate glimpse into what a private conversation looks like between me and my amazing coach and you'll get to hear the beauty of our mutual respect, and the foundation of love that informs our communication. Connect with Anne Rose Hart on her website: https://annerosehart.com/ Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Website | Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, get started with the FREE first chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE Purchase a FULL copy of "Uncompromising Intimacy" HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD Her mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement together, every day. For over two decades, she's been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom—all while maintaining extraordinary professional success! Alexandra Stockwell, MD supports family happiness through facilitating healing and joy for couples.

Although I don't typically focus on religious considerations on The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I was thrilled to have a wonderful conversation with devoted, church-going Christians Teresa and Blair Bass. They set out to make a change in the way their fellow Christians view sex and intimacy by opening a Christian sex toy shop where you can purchase sex toys and other supplies, receive instruction and respectful encouragement. Now this is the place where Christians get their sex toys. The Basses share their story and the many challenges they faced in this unique, courageous, and remarkably honest conversation. You'll hear about: How Blair and Teresa define purity culture and my take on it How purity culture can impact women's relationship to sex How Teresa reacted when Blair presented the idea of opening a Christian sex toy shop How Blair's expertise in supply chain management translates to sex toys How Teresa and Blair navigated the complicated responses of their pastor and other members of their church Get 10% Off From The Romantic Blessings Sex Toy Shop Use this code: IMP10 Stay Connected with Teresa and Blair: Website | Instagram | Blog Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.

Implementing masculine and feminine polarity teachings prohibits the cultivation of uncompromising intimacy, because they place you in a particular role that inhibits the expression who you really are. This is an outdated view on relationships and ultimately undermines the idea that the tension between "masculine" and "feminine" ways of being creates erotic chemistry in a relationship. This usually is understood to mean that having a man embody masculine energy and a woman embody feminine energy (in a heteronormative relationship) will result in a wonderful marriage. It's far more important to focus on your own authenticity and self-expression, rather than taking on a particular gender role. In this episode, I discuss: How masculine and feminine roles have changed over the decades (including examples from my own relatives) Why I believe that masculine and feminine polarity teachings are extremely restrictive My client, Suzanne, who was hesitant to participate in coaching because she was so concerned about giving up who she is in order to fit into a "feminine" role (as she felt she would be losing herself in the process) When masculine and feminine polarity teachings ARE helpful in an intimate marriage Resources referenced in this episode: Uncompromising Intimacy podcast episode Going Beyond the 5 Love Languages podcast episode Download the first chapter of my book, Uncompromising Intimacy Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.

All aspects of our lives contribute to the health of our relationships, including physical health and well-being. The couple I'm speaking with today with Jared and Joni McDonald. Jared is a health coach I have worked with as a client and has made an enormous difference in my life. Jared and Joni are beautiful examples of a couple who focus on physical well-being in a way that enhances their connection and brings them closer together. In this episode, you'll hear: The significant event in my life that triggered me to gain weight The happenstance story of how Jared and Joni met All about Jared and Joni's health journeys and how a mold problem in their home triggered their lifestyle change How focusing on health and wellness enhances Jared and Joni's marriage today How Jared and Joni balance the lack of time of being parents with their physical health routine Learn more at: The Metabolism Reboot Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.

Your complaints can become desires. Oftentimes, however, when I talk to couples about challenges in their relationship, no matter the issue, there is one common theme: one of them wants the other to make a change. When the partner stays the same, they inevitably respond with resentment. This is the cycle that happens no matter what the issue is. Whether it's about sex, parenting, work, or anything else, this is the pattern that plays out. In this episode, you'll hear detailed examples of 3 real-life couples I've worked with: A couple who was fighting constantly A couple who had a non-existent sex life A couple where he was working too much and she felt he needed to be more present in their marriage If you've been looking for an accessible way to work on your marriage and see real results, my brand new Aligned & Hot Marriage LIVE program is for you! Click here for details: www.alexandrastockwell.com/LIVE Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | InstagramIf you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.

More often than not, couples shy away from the idea of group coaching, they think it will mean sharing intimate details in your marriage with strangers. If you're feeling this way, you could be missing out on one of the most powerful ways to grow your relationship while thriving in an inspiring community and having a genuinely fun and productive time: compounded growth in your marriage In this episode, you'll hear: The two most common times when we tend to share intimate details of our relationship with others Why it's beneficial to have other couples present while you coach on your relationship (and oftentimes people's favorite part of group coaching!) How group coaching can improve your marriage Details about my brand new Aligned & Hot Marriage LIVE program If you've been looking for an accessible way to work on your marriage and see real results, my brand new Aligned & Hot Marriage LIVE program is for you! Click here for details: www.alexandrastockwell.com/LIVE Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.

Libido mismatch is a myth. That's right. In my experience working with hundreds of people on relationships and intimacy, drawing the conclusion that one person has a low libido and the other person has a high libido is an oversimplification of a much larger (and much more solvable) issue. Libido mismatch is an easy assumption to make because it is an accurate description of what seems to be happening at the moment. But, it is not an explanation and it is not the root cause of the issue at hand. In this episode, you'll learn: The actual most common reasons why one person wants to have sex less often than the other Lifestyle changes you can make to start to boost your libido Ways in which you can transform the environment around you to increase your or your partner's desire for sex Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.

Communicating about sex with your partner is essential to turn up the heat in your relationship. If you are you are newly dating or they have been married for forty years communication is key. Talking about sex will also create and maintain a long-lasting, happy marriage–one that includes nourishing, erotic, intimate sensuality. In this episode, you'll hear: My own early sexual experience with an older man exemplified how I couldn't communicate and didn't know what I wanted in the bedroom Why talking about sex is so important to the quality of sex you have Clear tips on exactly how to get the conversation about sex going with your partner When to avoid talking about sex Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare. Communication To Turn Up The Heat

When thinking about flirting, it's common to think of initial meetings, picking someone up in a public place, dating, or when getting to know a partner. But flirting is not something that should be restricted to the early stage of a relationship; it should be present through the decades of a long-lasting, intimate marriage! Logan reached out to me on Facebook seeking advice on how to flirt with his wife. He wanted to cultivate genuine connection, playfulness, and spontaneity in his marriage and didn't know where to begin. This episode was recorded live and is a unique episode and a rare opportunity to hear Alexandra coach. In this live coaching call, you'll discover: Logan's initial thoughts on what flirting means to him My specific, step-by-step advice for Logan to bring flirtation into his marriage Logan's own recap of what he learns from our impactful coaching session Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare. Live Coaching: Married Man Wants To Flirt With His Wife

One of the biggest struggles individuals face within a relationship is the experience of losing one's own identity. When a couple goes into business together it can become even more prominent, exacerbated by having very little separation from one another throughout the day. Enter Lee and Lee Cordell. This is a couple who have been together for 17 years, and not only do they share a life and career, they also share the same name. But that hasn't stopped them one bit from maintaining their individual identities while keeping their relationship hot, deeply intimate and juicy. In this episode, you'll hear: How Dr. Lee's own trauma and anxiety shaped her career path What caused the shift in Lee's career that made him be take on a roll in his wife's company Specific ways Lee and Lee respect each other's need for space without taking it personally The surprising story behind how Lee and Lee keep their sexual chemistry alive after so many years together You're about to meet a beautiful couple with a beautiful story who have also managed to build an incredible business that helps other individuals and couples thrive. I loved talking with them so much so this definitely won't be my only conversation with the Lees! Follow Lee and Lee: https://www.institutefortrauma.com/ https://www.instagram.com/becomingtraumainformed/ Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare.

What's the number one biggest concern that people have in the marriage? Boredom in long-lasting relationships. The fear of getting bored spending time with one another, feeling bored with the intimacy in the relationship, or just the overall fear that what was once juicy and dynamic will eventually become stale and flat. It can feel inevitable and unavoidable. Fortunately, that's simply not true. I share the #1 way to avoid boredom in your relationship! In this episode, you'll hear: The ultimate cause of boredom and lack of intimacy in a relationship Ways to prevent boredom in a relationship One of the most effective ways my husband and I keep our marriage feeling juicy and alive Specific tips for how to intentionally prioritize growth in your relationship I know first-hand that boredom in a relationship is definitely avoidable. I know this from my own 26 year marriage, as well as from my many clients who have been married for decades who have learned how to maintain a delicious, juicy connection. Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD

All relationships undergo ups and downs and major changes, especially once you've been together for decades. Doctors Robyn Tiger and Eric Tiger are no strangers to that, having met early in their radiology careers when they quickly noticed how many parallels their lives had. But when the stress of practicing medicine began impacting her emotional and physical well-being, Robyn's career took a turn… In this episode, you'll hear: How Robyn transitioned from her medicine into stress-management coaching for physicians Shifts that Robyn has seen in herself and in her marriage since focusing on stress reduction and becoming a coach Shifts that Robyn sees in her husband, Eric, since he's retired What Robyn and Eric have each learned about themselves as a result of being married to one another Robyn's advice for anyone that is currently trapped by stress Yesterday was Robyn and Eric's 30 year wedding anniversary! It's such an exciting milestone for this beautiful couple so please join me in wishing them a happy anniversary. Follow Robyn and Eric: https://www.stressfreemd.net/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/robyntigermd/ https://www.instagram.com/stressfreemd/ https://www.facebook.com/robyntigermd Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare. From Patient Care to Stress-Free Coaching feat. Dr. Robyn Tiger with Dr. Eric Tiger

My husband and I had a solid, collaborative, and intimate marriage. Our foundation was strong and we could envision what it would be like to go from good to great, and were on our way there… However, suddenly, things started to feel strange to me. I experienced a disconnect in our marriage but couldn't see a single reason why this was happening. The cause, however, had nothing to do with a present-day occurrence; it was something from my husband's past that was creating the disconnect in our marriage. He didn't want it to. He didn't even know it was. Nevertheless, it was definitely happening. In this episode, you'll hear: How I realized what was causing us to become disconnected What happened when I shared the theory with my husband Why challenging times with your spouse may have nothing to do with you A real client example of how past experiences can come up in your present … and much more! I'm hoping today's episode opens your eyes to seeing challenging times with your spouse in a whole new light, and also poses the question to you: do you have feelings coming up that might belong to another time in your life? Subscribe To The Podcast: Apple Podcast | YouTube | Spotify Connect With The Show: Facebook | Facebook Group | Linkedin | Website | Twitter | Instagram If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit: www.alexandrastockwell.com If you're ready for your relationship to feel as good on the inside as it looks on the outside, read this. Get started with a complimentary free chapter from Alexandra's acclaimed bestselling book Uncompromising Intimacy HERE Purchase A Full Copy of Uncompromising Intimacy HERE About Alexandra Stockwell, MD My mission is to change the cultural narrative around long-term relationships from one of ongoing stagnation and compromise to the delectable joy and deep gratification a couple feels while building passion and excitement on a daily basis. For over two decades, I have been guiding men and women to bring pleasure and purpose back into all aspects of life— from the daily grind of running a household to creating ecstatic experiences in the bedroom! I embarked on this journey not only for my patients but for myself and my own relationship. I wanted more for my life and my marriage than logistics, and discussions about childcare. One Way Your Intimate Marriage Of Today Is Impacted By Your Relationships Of The Past

In intimate relationships, we must navigate our differences and often that happens through conflict. But imagine if we allowed these areas of tension to be a source of nourishment and expansion instead? What would become possible for both of you? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I invite Marie-Elizabeth Mali and Patrick Price (former clients of mine and relationship experts themselves) for a discussion on how they have navigated their differences with elegance and intention, in the areas of race, age & money. Join us as they share their profound insights on focusing on "connection over content" to build their rich, intentional, and growth-based relationship. We discuss: Navigating the 3 major areas of difference in their relationship: age, money & race How dating outside their own race has impacted their partnership Code-switching - professionally v. in the relationship A mini-lesson from Patrick on attention in a relationship Transcending their age difference (and which one of them finds this more challenging) Marie-Elizabeth as the financial provider, upper limits & a pivotal moment for Patrick And a lot more… Connect with Marie-Elizabeth, Relationship Alchemist, here: Website: https://relationshipalchemy.com Facebook: https://facebook.com/relationshipalchemymem Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/relationshipalchemyfree Instagram: https://instagram.com/relationshipalchemymem LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/relationshipalchemymem YouTube: https://youtube.com/user/MarieElizabethMali Free gift: Assessment for partnered people: https://lovealchemy.live/assess & Assessment for single people: https://lovealchemy.live/singles If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3HlIGhttps://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

When I became an entrepreneur, integrating my entrepreneur self and my physician self was complicated. I knew how to be either one, but being both didn't come naturally—I felt pulled in opposite directions. But I knew I had to figure out how to be both a physician and a coach. And how to be a wife and an entrepreneur. Bringing our whole multi-passionate selves to something is part of creating successful careers and satisfying relationships! In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I have a wonderful conversation with Dr. Pranay Parikh about bringing all parts of ourselves to a marriage (especially as multi-passionate people). We discuss the way his marriage developed alongside his career as a medical doctor and now, a real estate investor and entrepreneur. Multi-passionate and looking for ways to improve your relationship? This one's for you! We discuss: Dr. Parikh's unconventional journey to medicine Learning how to bring your whole self to your relationship Why Dr. Parikh is actually grateful for a rejection in his career How medicine has played a role in his marriage The dichotomy between safety & security, and freedom & autonomy (and how it could be affecting your relationship) And a lot more… Connect with Dr. Pranay Parikh: www.frommd.com www.ascentequitygroup.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3HlIGhttps://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebookhttps://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

In this episode, Alexandra goes deep into the details of what is meant by "uncompromising intimacy". She defines compromise and describes the kind of relationship it creates: bland, neutral, comfortable companionship. In contrast, uncompromising intimacy leads to deep emotional connection, dynamic expansion, self-expression, and passion! Listen in for more details and what this actually looks like in practice. For more on the topic be sure to read Alexandra's bestselling book called "Uncompromising Intimacy." Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

What if being selfish is one of the best ways to improve your relationship? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I invite Balance & Relationship Advisor, Naketa Ren Thigpen, for a conversation about the best practices to build your relationship which are almost never discussed. Anywhere! Because we dive into what intentional selfishness (yes, it's a thing!) is all about, why achieving balance in your marriage is essential, and the whys and wherefores of sexological bodywork. You don't want to miss this one! We discuss: The concept of selfishness - and how to look at it differently so you can amplify the intimacy in your relationship! Why balance matters so much in your marriage Naketa's work as a Balance & Relationship Advisor helping successful women build stronger families Naketa's advice for high-achieving women who are feeling stuck or not fulfilled in their marriages An introduction to sexological bodywork - how it works & some real-life stories of working with clients And a lot more… Connect with Naketa here: Website: www.thigpro.com Twitter: http://www.twitter.com/asknaketa LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/naketathigpen Instagram: http://www.instagram.com/asknaketa Email: [email protected] If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

After some years of bliss, your relationship is likely to encounter some tough times. Could be due to infertility, financial stress, infidelity, illness, or something else. Regardless of what caused the intense season with your partner, now that it's over you expect everything to be back to a happy normal. But they aren't - things just aren't the same as they were. And you're left wondering why. If your relationship is still suffering from events that are no longer happening - this episode of the Intimate Marriage Podcast is for you! I'm diving into this relationship phenomenon and giving you the practical steps to get out of this trap - and heal your relationship. In this episode I share: The relationship phenomenon that could be keeping you stuck in disconnection and unhappiness A deep dive into why relationships don't always "bounce back" after a tough time The THREE steps you need so you can heal and evolve this relationship dynamic A special gift for my podcast listeners if you are looking to heal or improve your marriage! And a lot more… The Aligned and Hot Marriage program (use code OURTIME for a special podcast listener price!): https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/aligned-hot-marriage/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

Do you desire the next level of deep connection and growth with your partner? I have 3 words for you: surrender, collaboration & play. In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, Marla Mattenson and Julian Colker aka "The Intimacy Experts", join me to share some beautiful advice & wisdom about these three intimate relationship essentials, and so much more! These love, life & business partners share vulnerably about their beautiful union and what it has taken for them to build a business together, grow their intimacy, and express their playfulness in their relationship. We discuss: Their definition of intimacy (and what it takes to achieve it) How Marla made the transition from "mine" to "ours" in her business Julian's journey with anger and his profound transformation How to explore more play in your relationship - and why you would want to! A look at "The Lover's Play Course", their DIY course to start having more fun in your relationship And a lot more… Connect with Marla and Julian here: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theintimacyexperts/ Facebook: facebook.com/theintimacyexperts The Lovers Play Course: https://theintimacyexperts.org/play-with-intimacy/ The Intimacy Experts Home Site: https://theintimacyexperts.org If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

Intimacy is a familiar concept, but the word is actually not that well understood. Even though we're not always clear on what intimacy means in our relationships, we can definitely sense when it's present - and when it's not, right? In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm diving into the 3 types of intimacy, so you can identify where to put your attention in order to cultivate deeper intimacy in your marriage and in your life - starting now! Because there is a foundation that needs to be built before you enjoy more intimacy in your relationship, and it starts with how you relate to you. I discuss: What intimacy really is - and some practical ways to build and cultivate more of it in your relationship The 3 types of intimacy and why these distinctions are important INTIMACY, my audio course for couples- and how it can help you bust the blocks preventing you from accessing more intimacy Where intimacy really begins (hint: it's not with your partner!) And more! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com INTIMACY www.alexandrastockwell.com/intimacy Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

Are you making sure everyone else's needs and wants are met, but forgetting your own? Feeling disconnected or even hollow inside? Maybe you're struggling to just identify what exactly you want. If you feel a big yes or a small yes to these questions, I assure you that you are not alone. I also assure you that I can help you reconnect with yourself and your vibrancy. Join me today for a story about my client Michelle. I'll take you back to when we first met, how she felt in her life and in her marriage, what she was struggling with and what she was striving for. I will also tell you how she changed all of that in the most delicious ways. Like many women, Michelle was great at taking care of her family, knowing the intimate details of what they liked and what made them happy, while not knowing what she herself wanted–until everything changed! (And it wasn't that hard to shift.) Michelle's story can inspire us all. Listen in for how it inspired me to create something for YOU. In this episode I share: My course DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within and the questions it will help you answer about yourself The simple, intentional practice that allowed Michelle to honor her own experience and begin her journey of accessing what she desires (this can help you too!) Where Michelle is now: how she's experiencing MORE CONNECTION AND MORE PLEASURE now that she knows what she wants Plus a lot more… Ready to explore your own desires? Enroll in Desires: Awaken the WOMAN Within at www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

If you've been around here for any length of time, you've probably heard this from me before - Relationships are the ultimate vehicle for personal growth (it's so true)! In today's episode, I invite a couple on the show who exemplifies this concept in a big way. Derick and Dr. Liz Aquirre have been married for 12 years and have built an intentional, pleasure-filled & collaborative marriage that has transformed each of their lives immensely. Join us as we discuss how they have both grown inside of their relationship, as a result of the other's influence, their passion for growing together as a couple, and the ultimate gift of participating in a truly collaborative marriage. We discuss: Liz and Derick's collaborative marriage & the impact they've had on each other's transformational journey during their 12 years of marriage Motivation by inspiration v. motivation by desperation Some powerful insights on communicating through frustration (we talk about what to focus on instead!) Derick's advice to help men really embrace the role of father and husband The BIGGEST lessons they've learned about themselves as a result of their marriage And a lot more… Connect with Dr. Liz here: www.LizAguirreMD.com https://www.facebook.com/LizAguirreMD/ https://www.instagram.com/lizaguirremd/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/alexandrastockwell/

If you want to experience more connection and intimacy in your marriage, you have to know what you want. But, in a society that is so focused on doing, productivity, and achieving goals - it can be hard to connect to your deeper desires, or even find the time to start discovering & exploring your needs. So what can you do to make more room to connect with yourself, know your desires & feel more closeness with your partner? You can shift your focus from "doing" and prioritize an experience of "being." In today's episode, I'm diving into the concept of doing v. being - and why making the shift from doing to being will help you get in touch with your truest desires. As a result, you'll experience more pleasure, joy & gratifying intimacy in your life, and in your relationship. I discuss: Doing v. being - and how understanding this concept will change the game for your relationship! One of the BIGGEST things that gets in the way of having a passionate & intimate marriage A 10-minute practice that has drastically improved my relationship and business (and can do the same for yours!) The KEY to experiencing true intimacy in your marriage And a lot more… Ready to feel more alive, dynamic, and lit up? Check out my course, "DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within" https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Why do so many marriages fail? I know it can seem like a super complicated question. But whether it's poor communication, a dissatisfying sex life, not enough money, or a struggle to work together in parenting - marriages fail because of one BIGGER reason. In today's episode, I'm digging into that reason, the magic formula for building a lasting and intimate marriage, and how you can use it to strengthen your relationship and recommit to more aliveness, vitality & passion with your spouse (and yourself)! I discuss: The BIGGEST reason marriages fail - and how to avoid it! How being disconnected from your desires could be affecting your relationship A very confronting experience I had with naming my own desires The important shift you can make to live a more fulfilled (and orgasmic!) life Some powerful examples of clients of mine who communicated their desires - and were surprised by how well they were received And a lot more… Ready to feel more alive, dynamic, and lit up? Check out my course, "DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN Within" https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Marriage can be rich and juicy after the first decade. And after the second, the third, the fourth…And the FIFTH! Don't believe me? Get ready to meet Jim & Ruth Sharon, co-creators of a connected & delicious 50+ year marriage. They generously share the beginnings of their love story (which was prompted by an out-of-character moment from Jim!) and the tools and practices they use to sustain their openness to one another to keep the spark of intimacy and eroticism alive in their marriage. Want to have amazing sex & orgasms - into your 70's? Tune in for this juicy relationship wisdom: How it's possible that Ruth is having more rich & pleasurable orgasms at 73! Their view on intimacy inside of their relationship (hint: it's not just sexual) How Jim has seen their relationship as a vehicle for his personal growth Vulnerable shares about the things they've shifted in their marriage to allow for more openness and connection What they consider to be an important secret to their lasting & fulfilling relationship And a lot more Dr. Jim Sharon is a licensed psychologist and a certified life coach; Ruth Sharon, MS is a licensed professional counselor and a certified wellness coach. The Sharons have published six professional books and written chapters in other books, with themes including relationship enhancement, men's and women's development, wellness, yoga, and constructive conflict resolution. Jim and Ruth Sharon have been married for over five decades and have worked together for most of those years! They have raised three children and enjoy being with them and their grandchildren. Please visit www.heartwise.us to learn more and get email updates. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com The Aligned & Hot Marriage program www.alignedhotmarriage.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

This season I've gone into depth about the 6 Keys To An Intimate Marriage that I use in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program. If you're just joining us, I highly recommend you go back to Episode 5 and learn more about the keys. Today, I'm going to talk about 4 couples that have taken my course and used the skills they learned and as a result, their marriages are hotter than ever. They were facing problems like: Lack of sex and intimacy Disconnection from the relationship they used to have Feeling unheard and taken for granted Stress from work causing unhealthy coping mechanisms I created this program to serve couples. If you're ready to experience more closeness, more connection, more emotional intimacy, more sensual and erotic intimacy, then this program is for you. Program mentioned: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Today I have a special gift for you. My husband Rodd is here to talk about how we keep our relationship intimate and thriving. We're very busy people and we don't have a ton of extra time for date nights and romantic getaways, but we do know how to prioritize one another and feed our relationship. We know how to let the erotic energy flow and enjoy our emotional connection. We used to spend too much energy on mundane things, and end up compromising and holding back with each other when it mattered. This lead to a buildup of resentment and frustration that would inevitably explode and leave Rodd feeling he had to navigate emotional land mines. Using the 6 Keys to an Intimate Marriage has transformed our relationship to one of closeness and intimacy, mutual support, laughter and fun. The communication in our marriage, companionship, and passion are deeply satisfying and we credit our capacity to Cultivate Curiosity, Embrace Honesty, Be Kind, Choose Happiness, Take Responsibility, and Seek Growth. Program mentioned: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

When children are young, it's fascinating to watch their growth and milestones. It's easy to be excited about watching them learn how to roll over, crawl, talk, walk, and tie their shoes. As we all get older, there's a sameness about us that isn't so exciting. The sixth and final Key to an Intimate Marriage is to "Seek Growth". In your marriage, that means: If you're doing the same things over and over, it gets boring and unfulfilling no matter how wonderful it was the first time. You need to check in with yourself and your partner about what you each know about yourselves and each other that you didn't know 10 years ago, 10 days ago, or even 10 minutes ago. What do you desire now? How has that changed? Be clear and intentional about how you prioritize growth. No matter what happens in your relationship, you can see it through the lens of growth. Ask yourself what you can focus on and what there is to learn, so that whatever you are experiencing will be inspiration for you to grow and evolve. Programs: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

The fifth Key to an Intimate Marriage is "Take Responsibility". That may be a loaded phrase for some, but hear me out. Very often among educated, successful couples, we have this idea that everything should be split 50/50, fair and equal. You may be familiar with the phrases, "it takes two to tango," and "we are both in this together." While those are true in their context, meeting each other halfway isn't the way to a passionate marriage. The only way all aspects of the marriage will be addressed and taken care of is if you take 100% responsibility for the quality of your relationship. Ideally, your partner will take 100% as well, but when you take all the responsibility you won't be waiting around for your partner to do their part and instead will go ahead and improve things. That does NOT mean that you're 100% a caretaker or nurturer. That doesn't mean you do all the work. It may mean taking the initiative to make some plans for yourself to go to the spa, asking your partner for help with household matters, stepping into the hard conversations, or just being responsible for making interactions feel good and respectful. Basically, it means you stop waiting for your spouse to change before bettering yourself and how you show up in your relationship. Programs: ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Facebook page https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Facebook profile https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

During my studies in college, I took many philosophy courses and one constant all the way from Ancient Greece to the present was that all human beings seek happiness. Based on what I had seen in my life so far, I didn't really believe that was true. Now, after my decades of work with clients and couples, I agree with the wisdom of that assertion. The problem is that most people don't really know how to get the happiness they seek. In my 6 Keys of an Intimate Marriage, the key of "Choose Happiness" ties in with uncompromising intimacy in that you are honoring the truth that lives within you. Listen for a story about a couple I've worked with and how choosing happiness has improved communication in their marriage, reduced resentment, and made them both feel much better as they worked through the keys. I'd really love to hear what came up for you in this episode. Contact Alexandra and share your thoughts here: https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

​​The most common relationship advice all over the world is to compromise. If you want a bland, conflict-free companionship, then yes. If you want the spice and spark of an intimate marriage, you need to make your desires known. DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ As women, we are conditioned to disconnect from our desires. When I came to understand the importance of bringing my feelings into my marriage so all of me can be alive in the dynamic I share with my husband, it felt lonely. The problem wasn't that my husband didn't want me to have my desires; the problem was the way I was speaking to him about it. He wanted me to be kind. Learning how to be kind isn't a very simple thing. I have a module in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program on exactly that. Many women have gotten used to speaking with a sting or acidity, and/or wait until the resentment builds up to the boiling point. I'd really love to hear what came up for you in this episode. Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ Season 1, Episode 42 "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/uncompromising-intimacy/id1548060690?i=1000536253485 ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com DESIRES: Awaken the WOMAN within https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ Contact Alexandra https://www.alexandrastockwell.com/contact/ If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit www.alexandrastockwell.com Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

The second key to an intimate marriage is Embrace Honesty. In this episode I won't be addressing the major dishonesties such as infidelity, hidden bank accounts, et cetera. I'm talking about the small resentments that build up over time, knowing that your relationship is pretty good but things could be a lot better. Whenever you answer "how are you?" with "I'm fine," and you're not, it builds a wall between you. By dampening your responses you're training your partner to be less responsive to your subtle signals and less sensitive to what is happening in your soul. In order to share this level of honesty, it takes a lot of bravery, self-awareness, and willingness to express what is happening. I got rid of my resentment "straight jacket" in 2 ways: I learned to clear my resentments, which we cover in my Aligned & Hot Marriage program I learned how to speak up so I wasn't building resentment in the first place. First, you have to embrace honesty with yourself, then the smallest honest communications with your partner will transform so much more than you can imagine. ALIGNED & HOT MARRIAGE www.alignedhotmarriage.com If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

The first key to an intimate marriage is: Cultivate Curiosity. Early in a relationship, it's easy to be curious about everything from scars, favorite foods, wild stories, spirituality and beyond. Then, as a relationship matures, the curiosity fades and you become more comfortable. You already know how they'll order their coffee or how they'll answer a question before you even ask. It's beautiful to be so familiar and to free your energy to focus on other things. The problem is that when we become so comfortable and secure in this way, we end up missing out on the growth that we're each going through. The drop in curiosity leads to being disconnected from one another's internal experiences. Curiosity also helps when you're in the middle of a conflict. If it's intense, the most helpful thing you can do is to stop, take a breath, and ask a curious, open-ended question. Then listen to the answer with an open mind and an open heart. If you're focused on being right, and no longer open to your partner's point of view, it creates disconnection. On the other hand, when you cultivate curiosity, it builds collaboration, creativity, and connection. If you are currently in a phase of disconnection and distance in your relationship and/or having conflict, cultivate curiosity! Ask open-ended questions and then listen generously to the responses. If you're in a strong, solid, connected relationship, it's still essential to cultivate curiosity in order to make your relationship even stronger, and more joyful. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

If you're just joining the podcast now, I recommend going back to the beginning of Season 2 to gain some context for what I'm about to cover in this episode. We have an epidemic of conflict-free, passion-free relationships going on right now. My prescription for an intimate marriage evolved out of my medical training, years of experience coaching other couples, my own anecdotal research, and what I have learned in my own marriage. I have codified it all in the 6 Keys to an Intimate Marriage. They are: Cultivate Curiosity. Embrace Honesty. Be Kind. Choose Happiness. Take Responsibility. Seek Growth. I have seen these 6 keys work in many different kinds of relationships and many different kinds of situations. The results are wonderful! We'll go into more depth with each of the keys in upcoming episodes. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Compromise is by far the most common relationship advice that's given. In order to have a happy marriage you have to be good at compromising, right? Wrong! What really happens when you compromise is that you're holding parts of yourself back from your relationship, and that doesn't bode well. When you stop compromising and bring your entire self into your relationship, when you learn to accept all parts of one another, you will be able to create solutions that you couldn't imagine on your own. Uncompromising intimacy is the opposite of compromise. It's glorious, and it takes intentionality. The main reason to compromise is to avoid conflict, not rock the boat, and not mess with something that's working well. There are many problems with this approach: Eventually, you get so skilled at compromise that you don't even realize you're doing it. You get so used to turning away from what you want, it becomes difficult to find your desires again. Unmet and uncommunicated desires often lead people to turn elsewhere. Uncompromising intimacy is the opposite of compromise. It's glorious, connecting, and it takes intentionality. You're not doing yourself any favors to compromise on your desires. The number 1 way to avoid divorce is to know what you want and know how to ask for it. Do you know what you want? Do you know what you desire within your relationship? Do you know how to bring it up in a way that's respectful of the relationship? If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy" https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

Do you want to spend more time with your partner, believing it will contribute to you both feeling desire, and feeling desire for one another? Are you feeling numb, disconnected, and lacking the intimacy your marriage once had? Newsflash: going on a fancy vacation, getting new lingerie, getting your hair done, and/or losing a few pounds will NOT fix the problem. Those are short-term, external, temporary adjustments which won't make a big difference. If you want to revive your connection, it's necessary to make changes on the inside. Personal development, self-awareness, noticing when you're being reactive, being more accepting of yourself and your partner–that's what' it takes to create the juicy connection and intimacy you're looking for. What is it that creates happiness in relationships? What do you need to put your attention on in order to experience more happiness? Those are the questions I'm exploring in season 2 of The Intimate Marriage Podcast. Explore them with me by considering for yourself: What are your own thoughts about being happy in your relationship? What are your assumptions about how it works? What have you been telling yourself you need, in order to be happy? Once you identify the stories you've been telling yourself, it's much easier to dismantle them and step into what you really need in order to enjoy your life. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. "Uncompromising Intimacy" the book: https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

If you're having trouble in your relationship, it's probably because you believe one of the prominent lies that are commonly accepted as de facto truth. If you're not feeling the sexual chemistry you used to feel, very often people will believe they married the wrong person. More likely, you both just haven't learned how to be with each other through each phase of your relationship. This is a learnable skill! If you're treating your relationship as something transactional, doing something for your partner in the hopes that they'll do something for you, it may work a little in the short term but that is not a long term solution. Are you doing things because you enjoy making your partner happy? Or are you doing things to get your partner to notice you and give you what you want? Stop compromising! If you want a passionate marriage, compromise is not the way to get there. Instead, bring all of who you are (your desires, emotions, thoughts, and feelings) to the relationship and stop diminishing yourself. If things are challenging in your relationship, that doesn't mean you're with the wrong person. It just means it's time to grow, and learn how to be a better spouse to one another. If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage

It's fitting that I'm launching Season 2 on the day of my 26th wedding anniversary. Part of my celebration is to share with you what an intimate marriage really is. My mission is to change the cultural narrative that long-term relationships are where passions go to dwindle off and die. On the contrary, I want the collective world at large to see that in a long lasting relationship, there is the most tender, gratifying, expansive, vulnerable, delicious intimacy available. When I first got married, I was deeply in love and very happy but on the other hand, I was also convinced we would end up divorced and I mentally prepared myself for that inevitability. I didn't believe that it could be fantastic for the long haul. Now, I absolutely believe that a fantastic relationship is possible, you just need to make a point of creating it. What happens when you create an intimate marriage? You'll be happier You'll have more professional success You'll have the pleasure of being in a partnership where you're both thriving Your children will learn how to create it for themselves We don't know what the future holds, but we're willing to lean in and discover it together. Email me at [email protected] and let me know if this resonates for you! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach

I hope you had a really wonderful Valentine's Day that was special, delicious, and sensual. I hope you were able to use what you learned in Episode 61 to connect with your partner. If it did not go as planned, this episode is for you! A client of mine has a wonderful relationship most of the time, but in February they fight and get on each other's nerves a lot. They've come to dread February because of the pressure to have a "perfect" Valentine's Day to match their wonderful marriage. If you're feeling resentment or disappointment towards your partner, there are a few steps you can take in order to reconnect. Journal, exercise, meditate, find a way to clear the resentment so you can show up neutral and present Focus on what did go well Have a calm, respectful conversation with your partner about what happened Ask what your partner needs for this to be enjoyable, then share yours If you'd like, schedule a Valentine's Day redo using what you've learned Email me at [email protected] and let me know if this resonates for you! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach A Podcast Launch Bestie production

Welcome to Part 2 of our Valentine Bonus Series! In the last episode we talked about setting yourself up for a great day. Now Valentine's Day is here, and I want to talk about how to really enjoy the day, no matter what happens. Plan time to prep yourself. Not just getting dressed, but really relaxing with a hot bath, some meditation or yoga, or even a strip tease for yourself before the date. Look for opportunities to share with more depth, not just focusing on logistics and kids. The best conversations lead to the best sex! Share favorite "frames," snapshots of meaningful moments, even as they're happening. I hope you have a magnificent celebration and get to know yourself and your partner in new ways. I want to hear all about your plan, and how it turns out. Email me at [email protected] and let me know! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.facebook.com/alexandrastockwellcoach A Podcast Launch Bestie production

Valentine's Day is often painted as a rosy, beautiful, romantic, fairytale time. Sometimes that's true, but often it's much more complicated. Today, I'll share some ways to set yourself up for a Happy Valentine's Day. This is not theoretical- it really will help! Spend some time thinking about what Valentine's Day really means to you. Journal about it if you want. Notice if you are bracing yourself for a disappointing time? Are you fantasizing about a gorgeous romantic evening? Explore all of your dreams, disappointments, and other associations with the holiday. Envision what you want your Valentine's Day to be like. How do you want to feel? What do you want to experience? Get together with your partner and reminisce with each other about Valentine's Days in the past. Keep it light. Then talk together about how you both want to celebrate this year, and plan it together. Don't expect your partner to read your mind! Take the time to create a win-win Valentine's celebration for both of you. You'll be glad you did. I want to hear all about your plan, and how it turns out. Email me at [email protected] and let me know! If you're ready to create the deliciousness and joy of a growth-oriented, passionate relationship, visit theintimatemarriagepodcast.com to get started. ​​Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Connect with Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business page: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

Today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast marks the end of Season 1. As I look back at the richness of the season, it's clear that there is no specific formula for a happy marriage. Each couple that I interviewed shared different things that contribute to their happiness. It's a creative process unique to the individuals involved in terms of how they pursue and cultivate more joy, more pleasure, more connection, and more self-expression in their relationship. Listen as I highlight key moments from Season 1 and look ahead to Season 2! IN THIS EPISODE: [01:15] The rules, or lack thereof, for happy and unhappy families [04:06] Analogy: Teaching someone to fish and creating a fantastic marriage [06:58] Key takeaways from Season 1 couples [08:18] Taking risks in your relationship and tracking relationship goals [11:30] The connection between vulnerability and stress in marriage, and the importance of getting your children's perspective about marriage and family [16:08] Prioritizing your partner's experience and finding success in life and marriage despite the chaos around your [19:42] Reflection and looking forward to Season 2 KEY TAKEAWAYS: There is no specific formula for a happy and growing relationship. It's a creative process and unique to the individuals. It is intrinsically motivated and having a happy family is really a unique achievement. How we handle our money, especially in interacting with our spouse, is heavily influenced by emotional content that may not be completely clear to each other. It may feel obvious to us, but when you actually express it to your partner, it will ease miscommunication and frustration. You can totally love and support your spouse without being interested in the things that they are interested in. Links Mentioned: Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

In today's episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I am joined by Jonathan and Sascha Schlossberg who got married, started a business, and had their first child all at the same time. How do they do it? How do they cultivate a healthy balance between work and family? Is it possible for a relationship to be both disciplined and chaotic? Listen in as this dynamic duo shares insight into what it is like working with your spouse, how they handle disagreements, and what they have learned from their relationship over the years. IN THIS EPISODE: [01:53] Jonathan and Sascha share they have worked together since they met waiting tables, and have had lots of different roles and positions while always working together since. [06:50] How do Sascha and Jonathan balance competition and their relationship? 11:26] Here are a few examples of how Sascha and Jonathan work through disagreements to be on the same page. [17:48] What Sascha and Jonathan have learned about themselves as a result of being married to one another. [21:19] How did 2020 affect Jonathan's way of thinking? How did that affect their relationship? [25:07] How do Sascha and Jonathan manage a business and their relationship while homeschooling four children under the age of seven? [30:18] How to connect with Jonathan and Sascha. KEY TAKEAWAYS: When it comes to growing in a relationship, self-work is just as important as working on your relationship. Who we were, who we are, and who we are becoming are constantly shifting. It is possible to become the greatest version of yourself by doing the work. Learning how you and your partner both communicate is crucial for communication to be healthy and effective. In a long-term relationship, everything that isn't sex is foreplay. How you interact day to day determines the quality of the connection when an intimate moment arises. Links Mentioned: Join Jonathan and Sascha's Facebook group www.group.unconventionallywealthy.co Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO Jonathan and Sascha are a dynamite team. Jonathan's innate ability to connect intimately and powerfully with others as well as Sascha's undying determination and eloquent brand messaging skills make them unbeatable. Together, they homeschool their four kids (with a little bit of help) and are teaching them day by day how to lead unconventionally successful lives. Originally, the couple met as actors waiting tables in Hollywood and they now live in Phoenix, Arizona, USA.

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Ryan and Dr. Carly Crewe about raising twin girls, traveling the world, and managing their full-time family businesses. Carly is a family doctor & MD psychotherapist, author, podcast host and CEO of a virtual mental health clinic for women. Her husband, Ryan, is a stay at home dad and helps support their family businesses. They have been married for 10 years. We discuss how Ryan chose to be a stay at home parent and how Carly's virtual clinic grew seemingly overnight. We discuss how they prioritize their marriage in the midst of busy and full lives, their unique view on education, and their future travel plans. Listen as we talk about marriage, family, and how to navigate conflict with healthy communication. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:50] Introduction of Ryan and Dr. Carly Crewe [04:07] Ryan's decision to be a stay at home dad [06:39] Stay at home dad experience [08:03] Growing Carly's virtual mental health clinic [10:30] Their dynamic with work and travel [12:50] How they prioritize their marriage [17:22] Where to next on their travels [19:07] Carly - What have you learned about yourself from being married? [21:32] Receiving criticism and navigating conflict [23:16] Ryan - What have you learned about yourself from being married? [25:33] Contacting Carly and Ryan KEY TAKEAWAYS: As a stay at home dad, Ryan has been surprised by the stereotypes of how other men view being a stay at home parent as not a full time job. A challenge to being a traveling family is not always having childcare readily available. Carly and Ryan have to rely on each other to watch the twins and alternate when they set aside designated work hours for their family business. Healthy conflict resolution and navigating arguments means staying focused on the issue rather than the person. A significant ritual that Carly and Ryan practice is their strategic life meetings on Sundays. They sit down to look at the upcoming week and prioritize their exercise, nutrition and children's educational activities. Weekly "planning" meetings as partners helps to develop amazing communication skills because it creates a context where you learn to honor and speak up for your own needs, as well as honor the other person's wants and needs. Links Mentioned: Carly's Website - https://carlycrewe.com/ Podcast - https://carlycrewe.com/podcast/ Book - https://carlycrewe.com/yanya-1 Carly's Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/carlycrewe/ Family Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/fulltimecrewes/ Websites: carlycrewe.com & eunoiamedical.ca Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO: Carly Crewe, MD is a mom to twin toddlers, modern day nomad and MD Psychotherapist specializing in women's mental health. Dr. Crewe is the CEO and Owner of Eunoia Medical Clinic, an innovative and dynamic virtual clinic that provides comprehensive treatment of mental health disorders in women by an extraordinary team of female family doctors. Ryan Crewe is the Chief Financial Officer of Eunoia Medical and an incredible stay-at-home parent to twin girls. Ryan is a retired power engineer and previous manager who now helps manage the Eunoia Medical Clinic alongside his wife Carly. Carly and Ryan now call a 31 foot RV "home" along with their twin girls and 2 rescue dogs.

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Gail Bruce, a wise, spunky, honest, articulate, vivacious 80 year old woman. She speaks as a friend, a student of life, and a crone as Gail discusses her 50-year marriage to the love of her life and talks about the ways each new decade brought more growth and more depth to their relationship. After a surfing accident left her late husband in a neck brace, paralyzed from the waist down, many things changed and Gail describes in detail the impact it had on their physical connection. Gail is the founder of HipSilver, a curated resource company designed to connect the Silvers, those in her generation, with one another. Listen as we talk about life, love, and how she makes her life more rich and full with each passing year. IN THIS EPISODE: [03:21] Gail talks about how she met her late husband and about their beautiful 50 year marriage [07:47] What is it like being in love after 35 or 40 years of marriage, and how is it different from being in love early in a marriage? [13:00] After a surfing accident left her husband in a neck brace, Gail shares how their emotional and physical relationship changed during the almost 5 year recovery [23:36] The importance of finding all of the ways that there can be physical connection and pleasure within a life long relationship [32:39] Gail talks about founding HipSilver and her plans to grow the resource and show the world that the Silver Age is hip KEY TAKEAWAYS: There is a connection between having a fantastic relationship and our ability and willingness to be more self-expressed and receive more of our partners' full self-expression. Touch, non sexual and sexual alike, is a major part of everybody's life and very crucial to our wellbeing. We suffer when there is a lack of physical touch, like during the pandemic. HipSilver is an online resource that focuses on Gail's generation. It's about new possibilities for a more rich and full life focused on community, information, and curated products. Links Mentioned: https://hipsilver.com/pages/about-hipsilver https://www.linkedin.com/in/gailhbruce/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO Gail Bruce is a woman of experience and some notoriety. Born Gail Hire in Chicago, she was raised on the beaches of California, educated at numerous institutions, and enriched by the exciting experiences of life: sports, cars, modeling, acting, design, marriage, painting, childbirth, non-profit development, and business. All of which contributed to who she is today and how she will move into the future. Gail believes the reason we are born into this time and existence is to move our level of "consciousness" one step further to the next level. Everything is a life lesson; everything is enriching.

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I speak with Travia Steward about the many steps she took on her quest to be ready for, and find, her partner. Travia and her wife have been together for 15 years, married for 7 years. We talk about Travia's journey to accepting her sexuality and how she experiences reinvention through her marriage. Travia is a transformation and reinvention coach who helps inspire and empower people to live the highest vision of their lives. Listen to learn about love languages and the tools they use to keep their love alive and grow their relationship. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:50] Introduction of Travia [03:31] Travia shares her journey of finding her wife [07:35] What Travia learned from her marriage [10:53] What she wanted to feel in a relationship [14:00] The power of love languages [18:25] Personal reinvention [21:37] Tools for reinvention [20:20] Initiating check ins [30:47] How to keep feeling in love [35:35] How to connect with Travia KEY TAKEAWAYS: Travia uses her awareness of her partner's love language to successfully express love for her wife, and her wife does the same knowing Travia's love languages are touch and words of affirmation. Being aware of the intentions behind your actions and having a loving intent with your partner will go a long way in showing your partner love. Travia was diagnosed with breast cancer in 2020 and had a double mastectomy. Following the surgery, she became more aligned with her body and was able to reinvent herself in a more authentic form, which made her a better partner because she was no longer hiding. Reinvention is finding a new gear for who you are today, so that you can become the person your goals require you to be. One reinvention tool Travia uses in her marriage is a regular check-in with her wife. They remove distractions and answer a series of vulnerable questions such as asking how well they are meeting each other's needs. It requires honesty, vulnerability, and listening. Links Mentioned: Travia's Podcast Episode with Alexandra: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/ep-74-creating-more-intimacy-in-your-relationship-with/id1514964939?i=1000536608865 www.traviasteward.com/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Alisa DiLorenzo about marriage, intimacy, and the effect of pornography on a marriage. Alisa and her husband, Tony, co-host the #1 rated ONE Extraordinary Marriage Podcast. They have been married for 25 years and have recently released their latest book, The Six Pillars of Intimacy. Today, we discuss the six forms of intimacy: emotional, physical, financial, spiritual, recreational, and sexual, and how each one is vital to create a long-lasting and fulfilling relationship. Alisa also shares how she and her husband navigated a pornography addiction together and how they now help coach other couples through similar situations. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:50] Introduction to Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo [05:01] Pornography and marriage [11:35] How secrets affect marriage [16:08] The Six Pillars of Intimacy [19:00] Emotional intimacy [20:29] Physical intimacy [24:01] Recreational intimacy [29:03] What Alisa has learned through being married to Tony KEY TAKEAWAYS: Marriages need role models of other healthy and fulfilling marriages. Alisa and Tony DiLorenzo are role models for many couples as they encourage others, coaching them with wisdom gained from their mistakes, experiences, and depth of marital knowledge. When a married person is engaging in pornography, it impacts both people. If something is kept a secret within a marriage, it will still impact the entire dynamic in the marriage. The longer a secret is kept, the more damage that will be done. The six pillars of intimacy help create a strong and beautiful marriage that can carry the weight of challenges, because life does still happen to all of us. The pillars create an internal strength that fosters working together as a team. Links Mentioned: oneextraordinarymarriage.com The Six Pillars of Intimacy: https://www.amazon.com/Pillars-Intimacy-Secret-Extraordinary-Marriage/dp/0578991454 instagram.com/oneextraordinarymarriage https://www.facebook.com/groups/oneextraordinarymarriage Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ BIO: As co-host of the top marriage podcast in Apple Podcasts, the ONE Extraordinary Marriage Show, Alisa DiLorenzo speaks to a worldwide audience about sex, love & commitment, and challenges every listener to make their relationship a priority. Their 6 Pillars of Intimacy have transformed countless marriages. Its ideas are simple, practical, and powerful. You'll be inspired to look at your marriage through a new lens and be encouraged by how common sense it is.

Oftentimes, when we ask our spouses for something, it can lead to disappointment, frustration and feeling that your spouse doesn't care about your wants and needs. On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm sharing four steps to use to improve communication when asking your partner for what you want, using the example of couples coaching. This is not a method to manipulate your partner. Rather, it's a way to improve communication by respecting your partner's experience while simultaneously establishing the importance of your desires, and ultimately getting what you want. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:48] How to ask for what you want [03:56] Scenarios when a partner is seeking couples coaching [10:30] Step 1: Start with an opt-in [13:18] Step 2: Affirm your marriage [14:48] Step 3: Share areas of improvement within your marriage [16:27] Step 4: Introduce Alexandra and couples coaching [16:51] Tips for how to communicate with your spouse [18:23] Another option for improving communication and your marriage [20:59] Reviewing the four steps plus how these steps can improve other conversations your and your partners have about your life together KEY TAKEAWAYS: Today's episode discusses how to tell your spouse what you want. I specifically talk about how to communicate about couples coaching, but the tips shared can be applied to many other areas in marriage. Start by getting an opt-in, meaning you want your partner to have a choice in starting the conversation. Affirm your spouse and marriage in a genuine way. Share specific things that you enjoy about your spouse and your marriage. Transition to asking how your marriage could be better. Share specific areas that you think need attention or improvement, and ask your spouse if they agree. Share that couples coaching is a good way to create positive change. If your spouse still says no to couples coaching, try asking if they will participate in a 15 minute call with me. Oftentimes, a quick call will show them that I'm not committed to doing things the way you've described. I'm committed to doing things in a way that works for both of you.. Links Mentioned: Desires: Awaken the Woman Within: https://desires.alexandrastockwell.com/desires/ Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl The Aligned and Hot Marriage program: https://www.alignedhotmarriage.com/ Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm speaking with Nick and Dr. Elaine Stageberg about how they re-energized their marriage and the ways it has drastically improved their family and business. They own a very successful real estate investment company although they believe that they invest not in just property, but in relationships. Nick and Elaine have learned to invest in each other and that flows over into how they use their business to invest in other people. Together, we talk about the energy within marriage, how they have chosen to put one another's needs above their own, and the positive impact that conflict can have on your relationship. IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] Introduction of Nick and Dr. Elaine Stageberg [02:55] What's it like to work with your spouse [04:40] Marriage as a source of energy [08:42] How to energize your marriage [14:38] Being accommodating of your spouse [20:36] How to use conflict to create more energy [27:51] Investing in relationships [33:40] What ways have you grown through marriage KEY TAKEAWAYS: The Stageberg's believe that taking responsibility for your partner's needs and feelings will transform your relationship for the better because you will both be thinking of each other's happiness. Your marriage can and should be a source of energy and light. When you try to avoid conflict or a problem in your marriage, it can be harmful. It's better to lean into the conflict and as there you'll discover a deep reservoir of energy. Links Mentioned: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB business: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ Bio Nick & Dr. Elaine Stageberg have been married for 10 years and are parents to three amazing children, ages 6, 4, and 18 months, and another baby on the way! After having grown their real estate investments to reach financial freedom, they left their respective careers to jointly run their real estate investment business, Black Swan Real Estate. One of the most common questions they get is "How do you work with your spouse everyday?" They love to share what has worked for them to create a close, vibrant, loving, intimate marriage - which is the ingredient that they consider the ticket to all of their other successes! https://blackswanteam.com/

On this episode of The Intimate Marriage Podcast, I'm talking about how high achieving women can access more joy during the holidays – without all of the stress! Instead of dreading all the tasks associated with this time of year, I want to show you how to have fun and discover new delights in the season, because it is possible! In my new program, "Uncompromising Intimacy--How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays" I'll be sharing how to bring more intentionality, more ease and more meaningful connection during this time of year. Learn more about the program in today's episode, hear an amazing testimonial from a woman who participated last year, and sign up here: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday IN THIS EPISODE: [00:46] The stress of the holiday season [06:00] Living with intentionality [08:15] Details about "Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays" www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday [09:42] How do you feel during the holidays [10:18] How to communicate expectations with loved ones [13:00] How to make meaningful memories [13:25] The art of reflection [14:30] Testimonial from a participant in last year's program KEY TAKEAWAYS: Alexandra's coaching program, "Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays" helps women enjoy their holiday through increased intentionality, clarity and communication. Program begins with a bonus call on December 1, 2021. Details at www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday. Along with the joy of the holiday season comes an exceptional amount of stress and pressure for high achieving women who strive to create fun and meaningful experiences for their families. Living with intentionality during the holidays means learning to have balance between serving your family and honoring your own experience. Prioritize what really matters to both you and the people you love. Alexandra's coaching program, "Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During The Holidays" helps women enjoy their holiday through increased intentionality, clarity and communication. We'll start by focusing on how you feel during the holidays, how you felt in prior years, and how you feel anticipating this one. One of the first steps to accessing joy during the holidays is discovering your (often pushed aside) feelings and desires for. When you achieve that clarity you have a much better chance of making those hopes and desires come true. Next we'll talk about how to successfully communicate with loved ones about how you want to do things so they are better for everyone. Instead of just delegating, learn how to collaborate and co-create with your family. This will bring a beautiful new energy to the holidays. Then we'll focus on making meaningful memories. And in the final week of the program, we will learn the art of reflection: ending the holidays by looking back and examining your experiences so as to be ready for next year. Links Mentioned: Uncompromising Intimacy: How High Achieving Women Access Joy During the Holidays: www.alexandrastockwell.com/holiday Read Alexandra's book "Uncompromising Intimacy": https://amzn.to/2ymI3Hl Join THE INTIMATE MARRIAGE Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/hotmarriage Follow Alexandra: IG: @alexandra.stockwell.intimacy - https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/ FB: https://www.facebook.com/alexandra.stockwell.7 FB page: https://www.instagram.com/alexandra.stockwell.intimacy/