The Habit That Stops Self-Doubt Controlling You

<p>Standing on stage with nothing but a microphone, Sara Pascoe knows instantly if she’s succeeded or failed. Comedy doesn’t let you hide, if the joke doesn’t land, the silence tells you.</p><br><p>But what makes Sara remarkable isn’t just her success as a writer, actor, and stand-up. It’s the habit she’s built to handle failure and keep showing up: Unconditional Positive Regard. The belief that your worth isn’t defined by a single mistake, a bad night, or a difficult moment.</p><br><p>In this episode, I share what I learned from Sara about how self-compassion fuels resilience. She shows us why the way we talk to ourselves matters more than the outcome, and how reframing failure can turn doubt into progress.</p><br><p>Together, we explore:</p><p><br></p><ul><li>Why comedians face some of the toughest performance pressure</li><li>How to separate who you are from what you do</li><li>The psychology of Unconditional Positive Regard</li><li>How self-compassion creates lasting confidence</li></ul><p><br></p><p>If you’ve ever been too hard on yourself after falling short, this episode is a reminder that high performance isn’t about being flawless. It’s about having the courage to try again, and the kindness to believe in yourself when you do.</p><br><p>Here is more information on the studies referenced:&nbsp;</p><p><br></p><ol><li><a href="https://psycnet.apa.org/record/1959-00842-001" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">The necessary and sufficient conditions of therapeutic personality change</a>. <em>Journal of Consulting Psychology (</em>Rogers, C. R. 1957)</li><li><a href="https://www.researchgate.net/publication/347089554_The_Relationship_between_Coaching_Behavior_and_Athlete_Burnout_Mediating_Effects_of_Communication_and_the_Coach-Athlete_Relationship" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Perceived Coach Empathy and Athlete Outcomes</a> <em>International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health</em> (2023)</li><li><a href="https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vtDRVuNCkhU" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Alex Shevrin: Unconditional Positive Regard Video</a>, Massachusetts Teachers Association.</li><li><a href="https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/abs/10.1111/1467-8551.12247" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bringing Carl Rogers Back In: Exploring the Power of Positive Regard at Work</a>, British Journal of Management, 2018</li></ol><p><br></p><p>Listen to the full episode with Sara Pascoe: <a href="https://pod.fo/e/2b7c84" rel="noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">https://pod.fo/e/2b7c84</a></p><p><br></p> <hr><p style='color:grey; font-size:0.75em;'> Hosted on Acast. See <a style='color:grey;' target='_blank' rel='noopener noreferrer' href='https://acast.com/privacy'>acast.com/privacy</a> for more information.</p>