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The word "why" should be eradicated from our vocabulary for several reasons. First, every time we use the word "why," we instantly put the person we are talking to on the defense. We don't necessarily mean to. It sometimes occurs because we are curious why the other person thinks that way, or why someone did something. The reason we hate hearing the word "why" stems from our childhood. When we were younger, we heard a lot of, "What are you doing? Why are you doing that?," if you were doing something you weren't supposed to. The problem with this is that we probably didn't know it was wrong, and we were immediately thrust into defensive mode. This made us cringe at the word "why" because we associate it with something bad, even though it doesn't always mean that. For example, you might have an employee that does something really well, and you want to know why they did that. However, when you ask your employee why they did that, it immediately puts them into a defensive state. Instead of asking them "why," ask them to tell you about it. They will be much more open to explaining why they did what they did, without being defensive about it. Another example could be a person asking you why you gave your child their name. They might not be asking in a bad way, but it makes us feel like we named them something wrong. The person might actually be thinking that they're name is really cool and wants to know the meaning behind it. However, we don't see it this way when they say the word "why." Providing an environment of psychological safety is the number one way to get someone to open up to you. Instead of feeling defensive about something, they will feel invited to communicate why it happened or what they did. For example, if your child gets a bad grade on a test, our immediate response is "why." This propels them into becoming defensive and coming up with excuses why they got a bad grade. Instead of asking them why, try saying, "tell me about that." This opens the door for communication and lets your child feel comfortable telling you what went wrong. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/friday7/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Jason Harris is a CEO, co-founder, best-selling author, and father of 2 boys. He is the CEO and founder of the company Mekanism, and co-founder of the Creative Alliance. He is also the best-selling author of the book titled The Soulful Art of Persuasion. We see persuasion in our lives every single day. Persuasion is not about facts and argument, it's about your personal character. What persuades people is the person doing the persuading, not the facts themselves. The soulful element of persuasion makes you more inspirational and more persuasive as a person. Another thing we're going to touch on today is how to develop the habits you were not born with, and how you can perfect the ones that you were born with. There are a couple principles in life that we should strive to live by, according to Jason. Number one is "be yourself, everyone else is already taken." This is when you tap into whom you really are and figure out your passions and interests in life. Being yourself is the building block of persuasion, and to pass this notion onto your kids. The second principle is generosity. The whole purpose of this principle is to make that person better off than when you found them. Generosity goes a long way in the art of persuasion, because it shows people that you care. If you show someone that you care, you can easily persuade them. However, the goal is simply to be generous, not always to persuade. If we apply these principles to our lives, we'll find it a lot easier to influence and inspire people. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/326/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Barton Scott is a Chemical Engineer, Nutritionist, and founder of UpgradedFormulas.com. Barton is passionate about helping people combat the stressors of daily life, the toxicity of the modern world, the utter lack of nutrients, and the mineral absorption issues that we all face, and he has made it his mission to reduce suffering by increasing the public's understanding of the human body's interrelationships. Scott started his business, Upgraded Formulas, when he began to have short-term memory loss and brain fogginess. Scott, a Chemical Engineer, had a very sharp mind and was always on top of his game. However, when he started to experience brain fog, he knew something was up. It was after years of reading and research that Barton realized he was deficient in minerals. After performing multiple tests, he discovered a test that actually delivered meaningful results. Barton knew all the supplements he would have to take in order to remedy his problem. However, Barton knew that mineral supplements had trouble dissolving into the body. The purpose of Upgraded Formulas was to upgrade the mineral formulas, so they could better absorb into the body and produce astronomical results. Using his background in Chemical Engineering and nutrition, Barton created mineral supplements that actually worked. The website provides an at-home hair test that you send in to the company, so they can test what minerals you are deficient in, and recommend a product for you. Barton's research and knowledge is astounding and enlightening in our world today. We are so consumed with food, but we don't realize that most of the foods we eat, don't contain the minerals we need for health. Barton's mission is to educate people to understand the purpose of how the food we eat affects our health, and what we can do to fix it. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/friday6/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Carlos Reyes is a husband, father, serial entrepreneur, and owner of 31 businesses. He came to this country illegally as a young boy and watched his mother struggle to take care of him and his 2 siblings. Carlos eventually gained citizenship and quit his corporate job in 2015 after 14 years. Reyes found his passion in real estate and pursued the dream of becoming the owner of a real estate investment company. Carlos' mantra in life is being more intentional with your time in order to get the most out of life. There is an extreme importance in being intentional with your time, family, and moving with a purpose. You can't just say your main priorities are your family, yet you don't intentionally carve out time to spend with them. Children spell love like T-I-M-E. All children want is our time, and they feel the most loved when we give them it. They don't care about how much money we make, or what we buy them. They just want our undivided attention in order to feel important. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/become-more-intentional/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Dan Doromal is a husband, father, and CEO of several businesses. Dan graduated with an Engineering degree; however, his main focus is on creating new businesses and marketing. Dan is a mastermind member of Dad Edge Alliance and shares some of his experiences in this podcast. He is the founder of Everest Ice and Water systems, which created a patent for a one moving part ice vending machine system. Dan has been married to his wife for 10 years, and they have a daughter and a son. Dan stresses the importance of becoming the CEO of your own life, whether it's in your business, your marriage, your children, or even with yourself. It's important to prioritize the things that are important to you when you're trying to live legendary. In this podcast, Dan recalls the lessons he's learned throughout his marriage, the lessons he's learned from his children, and the lessons he's learned through creating several successful businesses. He gives advice to men that are behind him, and how they can best implement the CEO strategy into their lives. He also talks about what he would like to be celebrating at the end of the year, and all that he's accomplished. Dan also talks about how it's important to get on your child's level and see the world through their eyes. It can sometimes change your entire perspective on life. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/become-ceo-of-your-life/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Kevin Gilliland is a husband, father, and author, and licensed clinical psychologist. He is the executive director of Innovation 360, an out-patient counseling service that helps individuals and couples struggling with mental health, relationship issues, and substance abuse. Kevin is the author of Struggle Well. Live Well. - 60 Ways to Navigate Life's Good, Bad, and In-Between. This book is told through the eyes of Kevin and his approach to going through life. The topics in the book range from simple things such as work-life balance, to heavier topics such as mental illness and addiction. Kevin's podcast Struggle Well. Live Well. Worry Less. helps people overcome anxiety, worry, mental health, and how we can treat the things that lead to a worry free life. There is a certain psychology that comes with marriage. Marriage is one of the most rewarding and unique relationships that we will ever have. It's hard to be aware of things we're focused on when we're in it. Sometimes, we are blinded by emotional resentment; we need the other person to give us input on how we perform best and what we need to do to work on things. The great thing about our spouses is that they can act as a mental coach in our lives. They see the things that we can't see because we are unaware of what's happening. They also can give us the potential to unlock our best selves when they give us their outside perspective. This doesn't mean that you need to be their coach or vice versa; this means that you can give them constructive reinforcement for things they can work on or things they are good at in order for them to better themselves. This is important to remember because we don't want to damage the connection we have with our spouses. We want to elevate them, not mentor them. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/psychology-behin…ge-relationships/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Matt Wells is a husband, father, Business Technology Specialist, and creator of the video series Basic Dad Stuff. Matt Wells is currently enrolled in the Mastermind program at the Dad Edge, and is applying those principles to his life today with his video series Basic Dad Stuff. He coined the term from the creator of Basic Dude Stuff, and turned the series into short clips that talk about basic things that dads deal with every day. Through his humor and wit, Matt paints a picture of how fatherhood is meant to be humorous and fun, not a chore. Matt claims his two passions are being a father and helping other men be present and devoted dads. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/intentional-present-father-husband/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Dan Purcell is a husband, father of 6 children, and an entrepreneur. He is the founder of Get Your Marriage On! and CEO of Virgo Dev. Purcell has always been an entrepreneur at heart, and is motivated by creating products people love and creating a positive effect in their lives. Purcell and his wife founded Get Your Marriage On! because they both found a passion in helping couples discover their true potential as spouses. Through this passion, came an app called Intimately Us which helps people discover what makes a passionate marriage really passionate. As married couples, we sometimes fall into this ceiling of intimacy or the "peak" of intimacy in our marriages. We think that this is it in terms of connecting with one another on an intimate level. We're scared to take the next step and ask one another pivotal questions to improve upon our intimacy because we don't want to fall down a few levels. Relationships are always a choice. Once you make your choice, you jump in with both feet. You can't keep the back door open because you're never fully committed to the person you're with. Once you figure out that you're with the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, the back door closes forever. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/level-up-your-marriage/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Eric Franco is a Dad Edge Alliance mastermind member, husband, father, and author of the children's book Introvert Ninja. In the book, he talks about a four-step process consisting of the steps: Honor, Energy, Action, Retrospect (HEAR). The Honor step is about honor who you are as a person, and realizing that it's okay to be an introvert. The Energy step is all about how you spend your energy and how you re-fuel it. The Action step is about the things you need to go do with your energy. Lastly, the Retrospective step is about looking back on what worked and what didn't when you took that action in engaging in a conversation with someone. An example of this would look like a kid who goes to school, sees other kids connecting, and feels upset because they can't do that. They feel like they're less than them, and that there's something wrong with them. However, what these kids don't realize is that they have their own strengths, they just need to learn how to tap into them. The book then goes on to talk about how you first honor your strengths, then find the energy to be able to use those strengths, take action on this energy, and then reassess how it went and what they can do differently. Our lives are full of energy; how we spread it around is our choice. Since 2020, there has been a huge shift in how we spend our time. Before the pandemic, some of us used to focus more on our businesses than we did our families. However, post-pandemic, there's been a shift in mindset where we have begun creating a balance between our work and our families. Creating a business can be something that's really special and makes you come alive. This isn't for the faint of heart; it's time-consuming work that has to be put in, day in and day out. It's even harder when you have to balance a marriage and kids on top of that. It can be done; however, it takes some very intentional goal setting and time-management in order to balance all three. You want to create a legendary marriage and legacy for your children. You also want to create a psychological place of safety where your kids will come and talk to you about anything. We're trying to create trust and memories, all while trying to take care of ourselves. What You'll Learn: [3:13] Eric talks about how walking has brought him joy over the past year. He states that he listens to an audiobook or podcast to wind down, and takes this time to reflect. [6:25] Eric talks about the visions he gets when his thoughts transition from work to family. [11:20] Eric talks about the four-step process in his book about raising introverted kids. [15:00] Eric talks about the feelings he felt growing up introverted and the feelings that parents raising introverts feel. [18:05] Eric talks about the process of dealing with being an introvert. [20:00] Eric talks about the kind of advice he would give him self back when he was unmarried and about to walk down the aisle. [23:05] Eric states how he makes his wife feel seen and heard. He does this by keeping a journal of all the things he's grateful for about her. [27:02] Eric talks about digging deep to find the gratitude to write in his journals. [30:10] Eric talks about the problem with the words "more" and "better" when we try to be intentional in our marriages and relationships with our kids. [31:37] Eric talks about what he's grateful for that's happened during his Mastermind course. He mentions that he is most grateful for the consistency that he's displayed throughout an 8-week period. It's the small steps that compound to great success. [33:38] Eric talks about what his family would be celebrating by the end of the year. [35:49] Eric talks about what life lessons his kids will have learned from him in order for Eric to step into the mentorship role and let his kids take the wheel. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/optimizing-your-life/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Ben Newman is an author, public speaker, and financial advisor coach. He is famous for being the Mental Conditioning Coach for the Alabama Crimson Tide Football Team. Ben helps sales and sports teams around the world and specializes in mental toughness. He helps people build a stronger commitment to their purpose and process by educating them on building mental toughness. Taking ownership when you're wrong is the first step to maturity. It allows you to look past your pride and admit that you messed up and that you want to make it right. Taking ownership also means figuring out what you want to do in or with your life and OWNING it. Finding strength in adversity comes from within. It happens when you're at the end of your rope, when you feel the most hopeless. You have a choice to make. Do you want to give up, or do you want to find your inner strength and push forward? Lastly, taking action. Taking action occurs when you least WANT to. It happens when you're tired, and you don't feel like doing anything, or you can't find the motivation. After taking action, you begin to feel better and wonder what the big fuss was all about. This is the first step to CHANGE. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/finding-your-inner-strength/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Scott Holman is a husband, father, business owner, and founder of the program Stop Clowning Around. Scott's day job is the Director of Sales for national accounts for a very large security company. Scott's organization, Stop Clowning Around, is about developing human beings into a level of mastery. He has also recently taken on two properties that he has flipped for financial investment. Scott's number one asset that he pushes is learning how to view things from someone else's perspective. Perspective drives everything in life, especially our interactions. Everyone has a different set of lenses they see the world through, and we can't change that. You will be much better as a person and as a business leader if you learn to look at things from someone else's perspective. Another thing that Scott practices regularly with his wife and children is communication. Communication is key to healthy marriage, along with being each other's best friend. Communication and time are the key to raising your children to be strong men and women. Being there for your wife and kids, and not telling them how to do things or "fix it" for them is the driving factor in successful relationships. Asking someone a series of questions that will lead them down the path of discovery is much better than fixing the problem for them. Most people don't need us to tell them that we're doing something wrong, they need us to walk the path with them and allow themselves to vocalize it, so they can take the action step at the end. This means, being intentional and allowing yourself to sit and listen, when you'd rather take control of the situation. As men, we are the leaders and masters of 3 areas - ourselves, our families, and our businesses. In order to live legendary, we have to understand that life is always about the journey of mastery. It isn't about the destination of mastery, and never having to learn. We are constantly learning along the journey, and that's how we become legendary! For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/living-your-most-authentic-self/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Vernon Fox III is a retired football player, husband, father, coach, consultant, and international public speaker. Fox played for the San Diego Chargers, Detroit Lions, Washington Redskins, and Denver Broncos. He was awarded MVP for Special Teams He was raised in a strong Christian household where his father was physically and emotionally present in his life. Vernon speaks fondly of his father as a positive role model; he was a faithful and stable figure in Fox's life. When it comes to success, it's really about your mindset that makes you successful, not your skill set. If you have a strong mentality to persevere through hard times, you'll be ten times more successful than the person with just a strong skill set. Mindset requires training and practice, it doesn't just happen overnight. Excuses are justifications for losers; it's you trying to find an escape route. A reason is something that's outside your control. Most people will try to find a way to turn their excuse into a reason, and you can't live life that way. If you own up to what you can control, and you understand what you cannot control, you can separate it from the beginning. When you do this, you end up not living by the excuses. Perseverance is not something you are born with. It's something you learn and adapt to. You have to decide within yourself that you aren't going to quit, no matter what life throws at you. You're going to pick yourself and try again tomorrow. This is how you become successful no matter what your skills are and no matter where you come from. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/mindset-success/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

David Anderson is a husband, father, owner and creative director of Chimaeric Motion Pictures. He has been doing videos since high school, but has professionally been making videos since 2007. He started working for Chimaeric Motion Pictures in 2007, and eventually took over ownership in 2014. "Intelligence is knowing what to do when you don't know what to do." In life, we are sometimes faced with problems and challenges, and we aren't sure what to do. Being prepared is the ultimate tool for overcoming this unknown and making the right decisions. Knowing what you can and can't control allows you to navigate a situation in ways you wouldn't have if you weren't prepared. There are times in our marriages and parenthood where we have to learn things the hard way. Two lessons that can be learned from these relationships are - communication and vulnerability are critical. We try to portray a certain aura of who we are as a human being to the world. In doing that, you tend to put up barriers for how you actually feel, and you don't commit to being vulnerable and 100% honest in the relationship. You shouldn't wear masks in front of them; you should be totally and completely who you are. You have to go through hardships in order to fully appreciate and understand those lessons. It's one thing to read about something, or talk about something, than it is to actually experience it. When you experience it, that's when you actually learn it. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/friday-1/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Greg McKeown is a husband, father, author, public speaker, and leadership and business strategist. He is the author of the books Essentialism and Effortless and the CEO of McKeown Inc. McKeown is a renowned LinkedIn Author for the Harvard Business Review and his writings have appeared in the New York Times, The Huffington Post, Fast Company, Fortune, and Politico. Greg's main purpose is to help people and teams discover what drives success and what doesn't. McKeown thrives off of challenging conventional wisdom and focuses on what you really need in order to be successful. Mistake-free living is not something we should be interested in, either for us or our children. Honesty, humility, and leadership are the key elements that allow us to come back from our mistakes and better ourselves so that we can strengthen our relationships. Our children learn from our actions, so if we make mistakes and recover quickly from them, they learn how to do the same. Greg is a huge proponent of gratitude. He talks about following a complaining statement with a statement of gratitude; this can make a vast difference in mindset. Mindset is the key to going from a chore, to a habit, to a ritual. These three things are how we can achieve a state of effortlessness in our lives. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/effortless/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Dan Johnson is a husband, father, and founder of the website New Paths. During his younger years, Dan was introduced to pornography by a friend. As he got older, the addiction intensified. During his college years, Dan used the internet as a way of accessing porn and felt the guilt and shame of his actions. Before Dan got married, he told his then girlfriend that he was addicted to pornography. After the couple got married, they implemented filters on their devices to prevent him from falling into temptation. Unfortunately, he was unable to resist, and he fell off the wagon again. Once Dan realized that he had to make a change, he joined a peer group to keep him accountable. With any addiction, it can be easy to fall back into temptation and continue the cycle. However, having a sense of community drives you to be better and helps you to understand that you are not alone. With porn especially, comes a great amount of guilt and shame. What Dan has done is implemented a three-step process that helps you recognize those urges, process them, and actively count the reps of your resistance. The action of recognizing the urges, saying them out loud, and then counting each rep that you resisted the urge to watch porn has allowed Dan and many other men to overcome their addiction. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/counting-reps-to-resistance/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Sal Frisella is a husband, father of three children, and the President of 1st Phorm Supplements, which was founded by his brother Andy. He was a Minor League Baseball player who was drafted by the St. Louis Cardinals and played for the Single A New Jersey Cardinals. Sal went from baseball player to selling copiers to medical sales where he worked for Johnson and Johnson as a successful sales agent. After these phases of his life, Sal realized that these jobs were not meant for him. Sal knew that he had to take a chance on himself and live the best possible life ever. Becoming the President of 1stPhorm gave him the best life that he could want. However, Sal's goals weren't always clear. The fear of rejection and fear of the word "no" often held him back during his younger years. Yet, fear didn't stop him from trying. Sal's success in his life can attest to this because even through doubt and others negative opinions, he was able to push through and achieve the life he wanted. Sometimes, we are so afraid of rejection that we live with the regret of not trying at all. Take advantage of every single day and live as if it were your last, or you'll live with regret. The greatest strikeout of life is never stepping up to the plate. What are you going to say about you on your deathbed? For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/embrace-fear/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Shawn Tolleson is a husband, father, former baseball player, public speaker, and entrepreneur. He is the founder of Tolleson Health Advisors which is a company that uses a person's biological process and creates a personalized plan for increasing their productivity and fulfillment. Tolleson was a relief pitcher for the Los Angeles Dodgers and the Texas Rangers. Since his youth, Tolleson was raised to be a hard worker and to fulfill the purpose that God had for his life. When Shawn was in college, he discovered that he wanted to play baseball as a career. He started playing for the Dodgers as a pitcher and fell in love with the game. In 2015, Shawn's father was diagnosed with two forms of Stage 4 cancer. Since his passing, Shawn formed a passion for health and how health can affect one's life. In 2020, he founded Tolleson Health Advisors and has had twenty clients since its launch. One's of Shawn's greatest priorities in his morning routine. He stresses how much a morning routine can affect the whole rest of your day, whether it's done right or wrong. Shawn's mantra is that making small changes in your health can lead to astronomical changes in your life. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/health-is-wealth/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Darryll Stinson is a husband, father, former D1 athlete, motivational speaker, and founder of Second Chance Athletes. At a young age, Darryll had to take care of his younger sisters because his father was fairly absent in his life. Through custody battles and being teased at school, Darryll found sports which then became his identity. After his career in sports ended, Darryll discovered his passion for helping former athletes find their identity after sports. It's very common for athletes to use the sport that they play as a form of identity. However, Darryll is an advocate of identifying oneself with values, morals, or things you're passionate about. After his mentor showed him this technique, he has been able to show others how to do the same. Darryll reminds us that rejection can be used to thrust you into success. No one wants to be rejected, especially men. They even try to go out of their way to be accepted and receive affirmation. However, when we get rejected in life, it always points us in another direction that we never would have thought if we hadn't been rejected. "When you feel that moment of rejection, process that moment and make a better conclusion." Instead of feeling inadequate or like the world is out to get you, recognize that it may be the other person's insecurities that are driving their decision. Once you realize this, you can step back and come to a better conclusion that will leave you feeling content and secure in yourself. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/you-are-more-than-what-you-see/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Titania Jordan and Chris McKenna "What if we cared as much about the safety of our young people in digital spaces as much as we did in physical spaces." - Chris McKenna. The internet world in relatively new realm in which prying eyes can weave their way into our children's lives even more so than in the physical world. We care so much about who our children hang out with, where they're at on the playground, what time they say they'll be home. Yet, when it comes to technology, there are very little rules put into place that will protect them from online predators who have nothing but evil intentions. Chris McKenna, former middle school youth pastor turned business owner, noticed this trend of outdated internet laws for protecting kids and decided to take matters into his own hands. He started the company, Protect Young Eyes, as an online program where parents could ask questions about technology and Chris would educate them on the dangers of the internet. Protect Young Eyes came up with an app as a "pandemic proof" way of presenting this information virtually instead of holding live presentations. Titania Jordan is the Chief Parenting Officer for a tech company called Bark, which is a company that alerts parents when there are signs of any malicious content on a child's phone or device. The app protects against cyberbullying, thoughts of suicide, sexual content, potential drug use, online predation, and more. Bark does this by using artificial intelligence and machine learning to alert you of an issue instead of mirroring everything on your child's phone. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/protecting-young-eyes/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

There are three types of men in this world and each category defines a specific stage of personal growth that each man experiences in their life. The first category is "the victim." The victim is a type of man who blames his shortcomings and faults on outlying factors. For example, a victim might not show affection toward his wife and kids and then blame it on his parents not showing him any affection. This type of man will find proof to justify his actions and faults just to make himself feel better. For example, he may start eating healthy, go off on a food binge, and then blame it on the fact that he has never been able to eat healthy. The "content zombie" is the next stage of personal development. This is the stage where the man recognizes he needs to make a change before his marriage or his relationship with his kids falls apart. He reads all of the podcasts, articles, goes to conferences, gets counseling - the works. The only issue with this stage is that there is no action. The content zombie has acquired all of the information necessary to change his life, yet hasn't taken the action to execute it yet. The last phase of personal development, and the phase that men should spend the largest portion of their time in is the "executor phase." This is the stage where the man has finally begun to take some action and uses accountability to keep him honest. For example, you have begun asking your wife insightful questions about your relationship such as, "What are some things I do that make you feel the most loved?" You not only ask her this question, but you also have an accountability partner that you relay this outcome with so that you can stay on top of the development process. There comes a point in your life when you have to make a choice. You have to decide that if you died today, what kind of legacy would you leave in your wife and children. Would they carry on that legacy into their lives? Would you have made an impact that would carry on through the generations? If you said no to any of these questions, it's time to make a choice. Do you go on living your life? Or, do you make a choice and decide to live legendary? For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/three-types-of-men/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Matthew McConaughey Alright, alright, alright is the famous phrase coined by the illustrious Matthew McConaughey. He is an actor, father, husband, and author. When Matthew was younger, his father instilled in him three principles for life - "Don't say can't," "love, don't hate," "tell the truth, don't lie" and he has carried these principles throughout his life. Matthew McConaughey has acted in over 50 films and is the co-founder of the Just Keep Livin' Foundation alongside his wife, Camila. The two have three children and currently reside in Austin, Texas. Throughout his life, Matthew has learned that putting the energy into your family will produce results far greater than if you go it alone. He recalls his wife saying, "You go, we go" when they were deciding whether or not to have children. Since having three children, Matthew has been cultivating a closeness with his children that leaves a legacy for years to come. In his book Greenlights, Matthew talks about how he wants his life to read like an unfiltered, unedited version of himself. His whole life has been dedicated to this persona of an actor that everyone is familiar with. Leaving a legacy is all about the raw, unedited moments of our lives; the ones where we're not perfect and we do make mistakes. These are the moments that define who we are, not who everyone else thinks we are. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/alright-alright-alright/. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

John Ramstead John Ramstead is a husband, father, entrepreneur, and author of On Purpose, With Purpose. Ramstead knew from a young age that he wanted to be a pilot. However, when he got to college and was enrolled in the ROTC program, he never believed that he had what it took to be a pilot. After an inspiring talk with his father, John decided that he was going to take aviation classes and become a pilot. Throughout his studies, John had a mentor that held him accountable and challenged him to be the best that he could be. Ramstead finished first in his graduating class and got to pick the plane of his choice. After John retired from the Navy, he became an entrepreneur and founded the company Beyond Influence. In 2011, John encountered an accident that would alter the course of his life forever. During a work retreat, John was riding on a horse that bucked him off and sent him straight into a steel pipe, shattering his skull. The doctors told his wife and kids to fill out a living will because he was not going to make it. During his time in the hospital, the Lord spoke to John and told him that he would heal him. From that moment on, John decided to save the relationship with his wife and children and become the husband and father he was meant to be. Marriage is all about skill. You can't just walk in and expect to wing it on the first try; it takes patience, practice, and most importantly - SKILL. Having a healthy relationship with your kids works the same way too. It's not about getting them to be on their best behavior, it's about bringing out the best in them, no matter if it's different than how you imagined. When John was near the end of his life, he discovered that it's not about what you leave for your family, it's about what you leave in them. That is the difference between inheritance and legacy - legacy is forever, inheritance is temporary. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/legacy-is-forever/ ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Ted Shimer Ted Shimer, author of the Freedom Fight, is a 30 year veteran of a National Collegiate Disciplinary Ministry who has helped thousands of young individuals in their pornography addiction. His book The Freedom Fight is also a no-cost internet program that uses the power brain of science to outgrow porn and heal from the addiction. In the early 2000s, Shimer witnessed firsthand what pornography does to not only married couples, but to young adults as well. After the rise of the iPhone, becoming addicted became an even easier feat amongst millions of individuals. Countless studies have been conducted that state the detrimental effects of pornography in relationships, marriages, and even children. Shimer uses a faith-based approach in talking about the effects of porn and how it draws us further and further away from the truth of God's word and His will for our lives. In order to deepen our connection with God, we have to repress those sinful behaviors and replace it with healing behaviors such as an accountability partner or connecting with the Word of God. In our society, men tend to justify porn by stating that it's not as bad as doing drugs or drinking heavily. However, addiction is addiction no matter how you swing it. The impact of pornography on husbands and fathers has been known to cause divorces two to three times greater than if there was no porn involved. There has to be a point where you admit that you have an addiction, then find the right people and resources to help you outgrow the addiction. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/porn-detox. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Ilan Muallem is an actor, director, martial artist, and entrepreneur. Some of his most well known roles are Wesley from "The Walking Dead" and Noah from "The Big Short." Muallem is also a free speech advocate and political activist who actively supports the military and police. Muallem is currently in a 13 year relationship and is a mentor to his girlfriend's three children. During Muallem's childhood, he recalls his father being hard but empathetic towards his horrendous behavior. When Ilan was diagnosed with an auto-immune disease, he notes how his father was right by his side, caring for him. Ilan recalls how it's defining moments like those that lead to your identity. As a father, you realize that 90% of the battle is just being there for your kids. Muallem's father was there for him during the difficult years and it made Ilan realize that although his father wasn't perfect, he always showed up. According to Muallem, the definition of success means always showing up and being consistent, no matter what. Even if you're not a perfect parent, you can still be successful and leave a legacy for your children by just being there for them. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/finding-identity. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Todd Stottlemyre Todd Vernon Stottlemyre is an entrepreneur, business coach, author, and Major League Baseball player. During his youth, Todd watched his father, Mel Stottlemyre, pitch for the New York Yankees. After Todd retired from baseball in 2002, he developed a passion for the stock market and co-founded a hedge fund in 2010. Since 2010, Todd has been co-running this business, writing books, and telling his story to listeners around the world. Managing Your Thoughts and Emotions Today, Todd is a husband, father, and self-made business and life coach who learned how to turn guilt into joy by one simple action - letting go. He shares valuable life lessons as well as emotionally captivating stories that demonstrate how he took control of his emotions and began living his life more intentionally. Todd recalls the guilt he carried with him for 12 years of his life and how he hated the man he saw in the mirror. Through a family loss, emotional baggage, his journey to fame, and the life-changing words of Harvey Dorfman, Todd was able to abolish the guilt he carried with him and live a more intentional, thoughtful life. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to https://gooddadproject.com/manage-thoughts-emotions/. Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at https://www.gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at https://gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube https://gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

In this episode, we have invited Nicky Billou, the host of The Thought Leader Revolution Podcast. He is inspired by achievement and is dedicated to assisting others in achieving outstanding results. But there was a time when Nicky's marriage was in ruins and he didn't even want to live anymore. Today, Nicky talks about the mistakes men make when it comes to marriage and what it means to be masculine today. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/thursday259. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Today, our guest is Chris Gardner, New York Times and Washington Post Best Selling author of the critically acclaimed The Pursuit of Happyness, which has been translated in over 40 languages and became a popular 2006 film starring Will Smith. The book was the story of Chris's life, a way to project onto the world that everyone can do anything, no matter what the obstacles are, no matter what the adversity is, because we all embrace the Power of Choice. That's what this episode is all about! In our conversation with Chris Gardner, we will talk about how we can make powerful pivots in our lives when we are confronted with adversities. We go over how we can show up as more empowered and compassionate fathers than we ever thought possible, even when we're dealing with everyday stress and obstacles in our lives. We also discuss how his upcoming book, Permission to Dream, lays out a blueprint for building a dream-come-true life, even during uncertainty. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/313. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Whether you had plans for your business, career, family, or personal life, COVID has probably derailed it to some point. Today, we talk about pivoting during the pandemic and turning our setbacks into new opportunities. Ben Rector is a singer, songwriter, and record producer. Ben has appeared and performed on various television shows like Jimmy Kimmel Live! Conan, Live with Kelly and Ryan, and others. His songs make appearances on shows like American Idol, Ellen DeGeneres Show, World of Dance, Pretty Little Liars, and Castle. In this episode, Ben talks about his music journey and how he's had to restrategize his plans since the pandemic. He also shares his parenting insights and how he hits his reset button to stay on track. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/thursday258. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

Ron Worley is a business coach, entrepreneur, and the author of "Ditches to Riches: How to Survive Your F&%$ed-Up Life and Create a Kick-Ass Business." Living a life of treachery, drugs, and helplessness, Ron almost succumbed to the abyss of death. Today, Ron is a self-made millionaire, a husband, and a dad. He reveals his chaotic past, personal reflections, pivotal decisions, and life lessons. He also shares how every man needs a woman that will support him throughout it all—in happiness and pain. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/312. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

It takes a special skillset to be a good dad to a daughter. We don't have many shows about raising girls. If you have daughters between ages of five and twenty-five, this show is for you. Today we are grateful to have Dr. Tim Jordan on the show to give us simple, sound advice on raising strong girls. He is the expert on parenting girls, a counselor, and the author of SHE LEADS: A Practical Guide for Raising Girls Who Advocate, Influence, and Lead. Dr. Tim Jordan is going to tell us how we as fathers can best help our daughters become empowered and confident. He also highlights the unique challenges girls face that dads might not be aware of. He also explains how to teach girls to navigate pressure, speak up for themselves, and discover their true gifts. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/thursday257. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

In this episode, we are excited to talk to Brad Lea, the founder of Lightspeed VT, the most advanced interactive training platform on the market. He is a soon-to-be billionaire and the host of the Dropping Bombs podcast. Brad is also the author of the Real Deal and has a new book coming out, The Hard Way. He's also been featured in Forbes, Huffington Post, Inc. Magazine, and is a regular guest on several top-rated podcasts. Brad talks about how he blew it as a father and how he's levelled up as a parent, raising his daughters to be strong, confident women. He tells us how to build confidence and shift our mindsets by accumulating knowledge. He also talks about how to rack up wins to replace old patterns and crush self-sabotage and procrastination once and for all! Brad learned the hard way so we don't have to. Take advantage of the wisdom bombs he drops in this podcast! For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/311. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

It's been about a year since our worlds were drastically changed by the pandemic. Many of us feel discouraged and stressed out. It seems impossible to stay motivated and focused. We lose the momentum we had toward whatever goals we planned to achieve pre-COVID. Today's show is for those who feel frustrated and overwhelmed, for those who struggle with imperfection, impostor syndrome, and self-doubt. It's for those on the brink of giving up. Don't do it. Keep showing up. I will tell you why. When life fights you the most, be ready, because something amazing is heading your way. This is my personal story about the success that I would've never experienced had I given up all those times I wanted to quit. Success is so much closer than you think. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/thursday256. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

This show is explicit, and it will be offensive to some listeners. But the message is important. Today's guest is Wes Watson, and he is not going to sugar-coat his advice. Prepare to hear a lot of f-bombs. Wes Watson is an ex-convict, motivational speaker, and is the founder of personal coaching firm, Watson Fit, which aims to liberate people from mental prisons to help them achieve their health goals and beyond. Today, Wes talks about his journey from penitentiary to personal development. He reveals the mindsets and vices that are keeping us stuck. He also teaches us how to exercise self-discipline, practice constructive self-talk, and commit to behaviors that will transform us into the men, husbands, and fathers we want to become. Are you ready to stop making excuses and start investing in yourself? For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/310. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage

When life gets tough, we tend to take things too seriously. We get discouraged and bitter. We might even lose faith. In this episode, we get a chance to speak with Mirthell Onyx. He has been an ordained minister and marriage and family therapist for over twenty years. Mirthell is also a dad who writes, directs, produces, and acts in his family's viral YouTube channel. There they depict how they rose from "the struggle life" to "the Onyx life" as a self-made, millionaire family utilizing social media as their primary entertainment platform. Also the host of The Onyx Life podcast, Mirthell seeks to inspire and educate families on how to simultaneously build happy homes and financial empires. Today he teaches us how to use the power of humor through hard times and keep the faith to get through anything. For the show notes and exclusive links mentioned in this episode go to gooddadproject.com/thursday255. ———— Join the Free Dad Edge Facebook Group at gooddadproject.com/group. Apply for The Dad Edge Alliance at gooddadproject.com/alliance. Watch this interview on YouTube gooddadproject.com/youtube. Follow us on Instagram at @thedadedge! FREE RESOURCE – 21 Days to an Extraordinary Marriage