The Connected Life

As humans, we are universally messy. Our actions and reactions are often times in conflict with what we want to do and who we want to be. It can feel much easier to ignore and deny the reality of parts of our lives that don't seem very flattering or socially acceptable, but what if there's something powerful about embracing the truth of our messiness? In this episode, Justin and Abi examine some of the reasons we avoid acknowledging the messy parts of our humanity. They talk about the ways we can experience a life of greater freedom and healing from getting honest with ourselves and others. They explore how embracing and shining a light on their own messiness is transformative for the world around them. If you have areas in your life that you feel disqualify you, this episode will give you the courage to embrace the reality of where you're at while giving you hope to move towards your dreams just as you are!

As time passes, all of us go through stages of change, for the better or worse. In the midst of creating ups and downs for ourselves, being known and understood is foundational to discovering how to thrive. For those that are willing to sacrificially love others, while choosing others that will love them in return, long-term friendship is possible and powerful. In this episode Justin is joined by his friend of almost 20 years, Craig Pickerill. They laugh up a storm as they reminisce about their rocky beginning and explore how powerful it's been to have someone in their corner for so long. They talk about the ways loving one another has impacted them and how time or distance hasn't been a determining factor to choosing each other. Together they investigate the difficulties many people face in letting someone get so close, yet cast hope for how a long-term friendship can impact those brave enough to allow someone to fully know them. If you've had pain in friendships, or are wanting to go deeper in the friendships you have, this episode will help you to heal from what was, be courageous towards and grateful for what is, and give you hope for what could be. You won't want to miss this fun and heartfelt episode!

For most, there's something surreal about a life of success and wealth. Driving our dreams is the idea that when we arrive at a specific destination we'll be fulfilled. The details are different for everyone, but the hope of happiness in the distant future seems to stay the same. But what happens when you arrive and you don't feel satisfied? Bryant Ellis, owner of The Adventure Challenge, joins Justin and Abi to share about his journey to rehab and the inspiration that followed. He opens up about winning Forbes 30 under 30 and the little satisfaction that it brought, much like the wealth, success, and all the big boy toys that he thought would settle his soul. He gives insight into the looming addiction that hid behind his denial, and how finding freedom has been through facing the pain that he'd been ignoring. If your looking for a conversation that will leave you laughing and inspire you to hope for a happiness that's tangible, this episode is a MUST!

Separating ourselves from the nature of love leaves us feeling alone, in a state of fear and abandonment. This disconnection from love drives us to exhibit controlling behavior as we fight for a sense of safety and peace. Unfortunately, any safety or peace we experience through control is an illusion and short lived. In this final episode on faith and emotions, Marcus Miller joins the conversation to tackle the repercussions of our independence from a creator that is unrelenting love. Together they address the destructive nature of control and the joy that comes when we choose to surrender and trust in something much bigger than ourselves. If you're ready to experience a life fully lived, this episode will give you a dose of hope and inspire you to step back and take a deep breath as you realize you've there's a good Papa extremely invested in your story.

In our broken pursuit of feeling valuable, humans have a way of adopting a system of judgment where we can rank one another better than or less than. This hierarchy is based on our personal assessment of what makes something, or someone, good or bad. This arrogant approach to life dehumanizes some, while humanizing others, resulting in disconnected relationships, and a society lacking in compassion and understanding. Marcus and Breanna Miller return for another insightful conversation as the group discusses the common humanity that we all share. They expose the system of hierarchy within the faith institution of Christianity and explore God's approach to humanity's shared suffering. Together they look at how this affects our ability to love ourselves and enjoy the life right in front of us. If you have a value for growing in compassion and understanding for yourself, your loved ones, and the world around you, this conversation is just what you need to rewire the way you think and respond to life in general. Get ready for a deepening of love like you've never experienced!

It's easy to lose the sense of who we are, and what we believe, for the sake of others in order to belong. We can find ourselves more concerned with following cultural systems, and the rules in these systems, than expressing ourselves in authentic ways. Denying the truth of who we are, what we feel, and what we need is at the foundation of codependancy. In this episode, Marcus and Brianna Miller join Abi and Justin to graciously explore the ways codependency affects human institutions, and the people within them. They hone in on faith and expose the ways we justify losing ourselves in religion through the lens of Christianity. Together they examine the ways Jesus related to the world through a sense of self and how his compassion was a direct reflection of his emotional intelligence. Living out of a healthy personal identity begins with finding freedom from the ways we minimize who we are for the world around us. Whether or not you're a person that relates to the institution of Christianity, this episode will give you permission to become who you were made to be! Also, enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most! Class starts March 2nd 2022!

Neighbors can be difficult to love. They vote, believe, and talk differently. Their lifestyles might just contradict our entire value system. Our time with them, however, is limited. But what about the person in the mirror that you spend 24/7 with? If you don't love them well, your neighbor doesn't stand a chance. Marcus Miller joins Abi and Justin as they discuss the hesitancy to love yourself in the faith community. They address the narcissistic selfishness that people fear loving yourself will produce. Together the shatter destructive paradigms as they explore what the Creator's heart is around self-love. If you have a value for growing in love towards the world around you, and living a healthy life, this is an episode perfect for you! Also, enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most! Class starts March 2nd 2022!

Emotions tend to get a bum rap in faith communities. Often times the two are treated as mutually exclusive and emotions have the potential to be seen as enemies of faith. But what if emotions and faith were designed to coexist? In this 5-part series Marcus and Brianna Miller join the Stumvolls. They attempt to tackle the many examples throughout faith that give legitimacy to emotions. They examine God's expression of emotions as well as His grace for them in the human experience. If you've ever been part of a faith institution that looks down on emotions, or simply dismisses them, this series will bring you clarity and give you confidence to embrace your humanity and the many gifts it offers! Also, enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most! Class starts March 2nd 2022! Remember to Rate, Review, Subscribe, and Share!

In a noisy, media-driven world, filled with politics, drama, and plenty of expectations, it's easy to stay focused on anything other than connection to our own heart. But what if it all suddenly stopped and we were forced to embrace a moment of solitude that left us nowhere to run? In this episode Justin returns from a divinely inspired 8-day trek into the Texas desert, where he found himself face to face with feelings he didn't know he had. Justin shares with Abi the struggles he encountered as all the noise quickly faded away and the real wrestle began. Through incredibly authentic transparency, he reveals some of the deepest aches that surfaced as he surrendered to the silence and chose in to connecting with himself. Though scary at times, a purging and liberation emerged from his experience. If you're wanting inspiration and courage to tackle some much needed reconnection to yourself, this is unique story is just what the doctor ordered! Also, enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most! Class starts March 2nd 2022!

Getting confronted is rarely easy. Often times, confrontation can feel like it's coming out of nowhere. Without the proper tools and understanding of how to respond, conversations that are seemingly low stakes can snowball into disaster. But what if you could be prepared for even the worst and messiest confrontations? In this episode, Justin and Abi tackle the task of helping to equip people who are being confronted. They break down multiple steps that will lower the anxiety for anyone on the receiving end of a difficult conversation, while empowering them with clearly defined actions they can take to have the maximum potential for a successful dialogue. If you're wanting to lower the chances of getting caught off guard when a confrontation arises, and looking for ways to feel more in control of yourself, this episode is a MUST. Also, enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most!

Coming face to face with the attacker that left your daughter for dead should bread feelings of hatred and revenge. But what happens when love and compassion echo louder than the scars left on the heart of an entire family? In the final episode of this three part series Steve and his daughter Mariah talk about the redemptive moments that began to unfold with Kimmi on the other side of her brutal attack. They share how the power of love and compassion led the way in Steve's newfound approach to his daughter as she began her healing journey. Steve talks about the detailed account of the attackers court sentencing and reads the family impact statement that left the court, and the attacker, in shock and tears. This episode will leave your life forever impacted as one family shares what it looks like to extend radical love and compassion to the most unlovable. Don't miss one of the most powerful episodes The Connected Life has ever shared! Enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most! Class starts March 2nd 2022!

Without miraculous intervention, tragedies have a way of devastating people beyond repair. Most people would be overcome by hopelessness after being told that the likelihood of their daughter coming out of a permanent vegetive state is next to impossible. But what happens when faith the size of a mustard seed takes root? In part two of this three part series, Steve and his daughter Mariah share their families story of facing insurmountable odds as they come to terms with the tragic reality of their loved one's horrific assault. Through the power of prayer and forgiveness, the family finds themselves experiencing physical and emotionally supernatural healing in the face of something that should have broke them all. Together they reveal the beauty they found in all the pain. A story of healing, tragedy, and redemption, this series will give you hope for the worst circumstances, and reveal radical, miraculous forgiveness and compassion that only comes from connection to an unrelentingly loving Creator. This is one of the most impactful series The Connected Life has done to date and you WON'T want to miss it! Enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most! Class starts March 2nd 2022!

Choosing to get honest with ourselves about the reality of our upbringings can often times feel incredibly difficult. The implication that our families are imperfect means that there is a good probability that healing is necessary. But the invitation is always for an opportunity to experience a life fully lived. In part one of this three part series Justin and Abi sit down with Mariah and her father Steve as they share how Mariah's choice to get honest with herself began the journey of profound healing for the rest of the family. Through tough conversations Steve found himself face to face with his own demons that kept him in years of destructive cycles. Finding grace through a simple yes, Steve not only found love and compassion that started to heal himself and those he loved the most, but he also got equipped for a battle no family should ever be forced to fight. A story of healing, tragedy, and redemption, this series will give you hope for the worst circumstances, and reveal radical, miraculous forgiveness and compassion that only comes from connection to an unrelentingly loving Creator. This is one of the most impactful series The Connected Life has done to date and you WON'T want to miss it! Enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! Be sure to check out www.justinandabi.com to find out how you can experience a life fully lived for yourself and the ones you care about the most! Class starts March 2nd 2022!

Dreaming for life is so often ineffective that most people find themselves hopeless and disappointed, and for good reason. People's approach to dreaming can be haphazard and lofty. But what if you could deliberately set yourself up for successful dreams that crush disappointment and create long-term affects? In the final episode of 2021, Justin and Abi explore the necessity of reviewing our previous year through the lens of celebration and honesty. Looking back on what worked and what didn't is the first step to breeding hope for the next year, while creating vision for what you want to see changed. They discuss how a foundation of humility is at the epicenter of a balanced approach to dreaming for life. They give practical tips on coming up with doable dreams, while fostering vision for bigger things and leave you with everything you need to launch into the life you want in 2022. If there's only one episode you listen to stepping into 2022, make this the one! Happy New Year! Early Bird Enrollment for Living Fully Alive 2022 is happening now! December 27th- December 31st 2021 head to justinandabi.com to join Living Fully Alive. Use the code earlybird2022 at the check out and save $100 Class starts March 2nd 2022!

For most people, Christmas is laced with nostalgia. Moments of goodness reminding us of the beauty and joy of being a child. For some it can be a bit more difficult, but goodness is waiting to be found in our history and created in our future. In this episode Justin and Abi reflect on childhood memories that make this season warm and special. They talk about fun moments and traditions that make them smile while challenging listeners to make the most out of the season right in front of them. If you want to start the New Year off right, you'll want to listen to this episode and get inspired to remember all the good things that makes this holiday so special!

If we're all honest with ourselves, we've all, at some point or another, felt unloveable. In this state of being, it's easy to feel alone, sad, and even hopeless. Life can seemingly deliver us insurmountable odds that leave us feeling down and out. We can feel misunderstood and unworthy of goodness and opportunities. But what if everything can change? What if a hope filled lifestyle is possible? In this episode Justin and Abi dive into the power of Christmas. They explore why this seasonal tradition is so much more than a holiday and how it's a game changer for all of humanity. Together they shine a light on the wholehearted and humble connection God has made with all of us and how this profound act validates the presence of unconditional love that meets you where you're at in your story. If you're ready for some good and hopeful news in this season, you won't want to miss this conversation!

Christmas, like many holidays comes with a mixture of emotions and experiences. For some it can be a sad and difficult time, while for others it be one of the most exciting times of the year. Regardless of your stance on holidays like this one each of us has the power to make it something filled with joy and connection. In this episode, Justin and Abi talk about the true heart of Christmas and they discuss practical ways to make it a fulfilling holiday for you and others around you. They share their own personal stories of spreading Christmas cheer and invite listeners to participate in a really cool give away to help touch people's lives during the holidays. If you want to know how to make the most out of Christmas this episode will do so much more than fill your stocking! Don't miss a chance to be an integral part of spreading love and goodness, listen now!

Self-Care is often misinterpreted as a shallow, selfish, narcissistic romp rooted in endless spa days, trips with your friends, buying a ton of needless material junk, and gorging yourself on sugary delights until type 2 diabetes kicks into overdrive. But is all of that really self-care? In this episode, Justin and Abi tackle the false sense of self-care that has been perpetuated by a disconnected culture. They explore practical ways to live a balanced life of self-care that reconnects you to yourself, others, and the life right in front of you. If self-care seems selfish, doesn't make sense, or never really leaves you feeling more fulfilled, this practical guide to self-care is for you!

At a young age, through nature and nurture, we find ourselves being wired to relate to the world in ways that aren't always freeing. For many of us, we operate out of the extremes of co-dependance or independence. This can leave us believing things about others that isn't true to their feelings. If we're not put in check, this bleeds into our interactions and understandings of the One who created us. In this episode, Abi and Justin explore how our childhoods, and learned ways of relating to life, skew our view of God while defining our interactions with Him. Together they paint a picture of a loving God that may just redefine everything you've ever known about the One that created you. If you're wanting to experience a life of goodness, truly understanding who created you is vital to that desire, making this episode a must!

The emotional health journey can sometimes feel like being trapped on a hamster wheel while the sounds of children chanting, "Are we there yet?!" echo out in the background. But what if emotional health isn't about a destination, as much as a way of life? In this episode Justin and Abi explore 10 signs that point towards a lifestyle of wholeness. Together they lower the stakes on emotional health and invite listeners to have a more compassionate and understanding approach to their journey of wellness. If you're looking for a comprehensive checklist to prove that you're healthy, this podcast isn't for you. But if you're looking for encouragement in your journey of growth and development, this is an episode you won't want to miss!

(Updated Audio) Social media has woven itself into humanity in a way, that since its inception, an entire generation can now say they have never known a life without it. This medium of human interaction has changed the way we relate to ourselves and the people around us, for better and for worse. In a world that seems to live in a virtually curated space the question of our existence, if we aren't plugged into the system, haunts many of us. In this episode Abi and Justin get the honor of chatting with Stephanie, a Gen Z/Millennial baby raised in a world of tech and social media. Awakened to the prison she'd been born into, Stephanie bravely looked inward for answers to why she felt trapped and what she could possibly be missing in the life that existed right in front of her. This tale of self-discovery epitomizes what it is to connect to your heart and the beauty that comes from learning how to be present. Stephanie's decision to disconnect and completely delete her social media life will be shocking and unbelievable to some, while liberating and hope inducing for others. If you're wanting to truly create a connected life, this inspiring story of disconnecting might be the first step necessary to experience the life you've always dreamed of. You won't want to miss this episode!

Each of us has a story. This story is the collection of our experiences that shape our beliefs and decisions. Knowing and understanding our story is the first step to compassion and healing. Each of our stories is vital to humanizing ourselves and the world around us. In this episode Justin and Abi talk about the impact of connecting to their stories and explore the difficulties we all face when we're disconnected from our own stories. Together they shine a light on the hurdles each of has to face in order to get honest with ourselves, while highlighting the tremendous benefits this kind of life creates for the world at large. If you're determined to become a more caring, loving, and whole person, connecting to your story is a necessity! You won't want to miss this episode.

The human soul has basic necessities. When we've been starved long enough of the things we need an inner war ensues as we ravenously gorge to feed the aching hunger within. Only through the nourishment of nurturing love and care can we find the balanced healing we need. In this episode, Justin is joined by fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes. Rachel shares about the physical hunger she experienced through a neglectful childhood that led to an eating disorder. She details her journey of leaving Thailand at 16 and moving to America on her own. She shares how the pain of her childhood, and her disorder, found a way to resolve themselves through intense marriage difficulties and the death of a loved one. If you've ever had problems that felt bigger than you, or operated out of coping mechanisms that didn't best represent you well, Rachel's story will remind you that you're not alone and there's hope no matter what you've been through.

On average, we make 35,000 decisions each day. For some, decisions are seemingly made quick and easy with little thought behind them, leaving a trail a problems resulting from the lack of consideration. For others, decisions feel overwhelming and laced with anxiety, creating paralysis and stagnancy. But what if decision making was a beautiful balance of thoughtful wisdom and trust? In this episode Abi and Justin explore the detriments of each end of this pendulum while addressing the foundational beliefs necessary to healthily approach decision making. They talk about strategies to dismantle the fear that encompasses life decisions while highlighting ways to engage in a sense of self-awareness so as understand how your choices affect the world around you. If you want to feel powerful, purposeful, and deliberate in your decision making this episode is just for you!

Change comes with many unknowns and emotions. For some, change is the perceived savior of their circumstances, while for others, it's the villain of their story. Regardless of what it is to each person, one thing is for sure, it's universally part of the human experience. In this episode Justin is joined by his dear friends Brianna and Marcus Miller. The two of them share about an intense year of transition, how they each responded to the difficulties it brought, and the gifts that change delivered to their doorstep. Together, through a nuanced exploration of change, they compassionately humanize the emotions we all experience when life begins to shift. If you're ready to get the most out of the change that life brings to your doorstep, this episode will be instrumental in your journey!

Faces of people screaming and college campuses littered with safe spaces are often the things that come to mind when someone makes mention of triggers. A sense of some villain offending an innocent onlooker with words or deeds deemed as triggering is the common perception of the subject. But what if triggers were something much more? In this episode Abi and Justin are joined by their assistant Flo. Flo shares her misperceptions around triggers while diving into the empowerment and healing she's found as she's had her perspective so profoundly changed. Through a beautiful moment of vulnerability she lets her guards down and allows the Stumvoll's to dig in deep to explore her history and discover a new truth about herself. This enlightening and tender episode will challenge the way you think and bring healing to your soul. You don't want to miss it!

There's no definitive manual on how to raise children. Often times parents find themselves feeling overwhelmed and out of control. More discipline, or more rewards, is the usual approach to behavioral correction. But what if learning how to regulate your inner world brought a level of resolution to theirs? In this episode Jonny and Pietze share how their road to self-discovery, and finding healing for their triggers, restored the peace and balance in their children's lives. Through self-reflection, Jonny highlights the parallels of his parenting towards his son and his experience as a child with his own parents. In a moment of tenderness he shares his powerful conclusion that forever redirected the course of his relationship with his son. If you're a parent, or wanting to understand more about your own childhood, this episode will change the way you see parenting and equip you to feel capable and confident to face the hardest circumstances head on.

What if resolve and reconnection after years of pain, misunderstandings, and disagreements was possible? What if the relationships that matter the most, yet have been the messiest, could be restored? In this epic finale to our five part series, Jonny and Pietze share about their powerful revelations as Jonny came to the end of himself and exposed his greatest fears. Through serendipity, Jonny explains how his time editing the video for an emotional health course radically enlightened his reality and forever changed the trajectory of his life and marriage. Ending the battle with his circumstances, while accepting them for what they were, thrust Jonny into a season of facing life head on as he began to learn how to make the best out of the cards he was dealt. Through ownership, transparency, and trust, Pietze and Jonny found a way back to their first love, giving hope for anyone else that's been to hell and back. Don't miss this profound and hopeful conclusion that will leave you forever impacted!

Life occasionally has a way of dealing us one blow after another until we're lying face down in a pool of our own blood and tears. No matter how hard we try, changing our outward circumstances is nothing more than a short term bandaid. But there is hope! In part 4 of 5 Pietze and Jonny expose the hardest parts of marriage and highlight their failed attempts at trying to reconcile their difficulties. They reflect on the external chaos that consumed their lives and discuss how they awakened to the reality that a better life was only possible through facing their internal world. If you've ever felt stuck in the trials life hands you, this episode will remind you that you're not alone and there is something you can do about it.

Every great story of fiction has a protagonist and an antagonist, a villain and a hero so to say. But real life isn't quite that cut and dry. Just like a coin, every story has two sides. When each side is examined, often times, black and white suddenly becomes grey. In part three of this five part series, Pietze and Jonny shine a light on their hidden fears that drove so many of their actions. Without any sense of shame they model what it looks like to take ownership for what they co-created while extending grace, compassion, and forgiveness to one another. This episode is a refreshing guide at how to navigate any friendship, relationship, or marriage. You won't want to miss a moment of it!

We all do things to the people we care about the most that we wished we hadn't. Often times we avoid looking back because the past is riddled with blame, shame, regret, and condemnation. But what if a return to our history, with the right perspective, could repair the life right in front of us? In part two of this five part series, Pietze and Jonny dive into the messiness that ensued after getting married. They share about the effects of their coping skills and explore some of the motives behind their actions. Through the clarity that's created by looking back, they acknowledge their mistakes while having compassion on themselves. This riveting series will help you to humanism yourself and the people you care about the most. You won't want to miss an episode!

Getting married and starting a new life together can be brutal for anyone. Navigating how to surrender your life to a partnership of give and take is difficult as it is. But, for an ever growing select few that choose to get married very young, the hurdles could be insurmountable. In this episode Pietze, Abi's best friend, and her husband Jonny join the podcast for this five part series. They shine a spotlight on their teenage romance and the survival tools they used to get through their formative years. Together they touch on Jonny's lifestyle of dissociation and set the stage to understand the long term problems for being ill prepared for married life. This series will make you laugh, cry, and reflect like never before. You don't want to miss out!

The institution of the church has a history of feeling unsafe and judgmental for many people. Like any system, it has humanity's thumbprint of messiness all over it. But sometimes the systems that hurt us, have a gift within to heal us. In this episode, Pietze joins Abi and Justin once again to discuss her return to the institution of the church. They process how Pietze found resolution and examine together what it is to follow a redeeming God we can trust. Through a humble acknowledgment of their own messiness, they invite people to let go of the hierarchy they have that keeps them believing they're better than others. If you need resolution with any kind of institution, this episode is a massive step to getting there.

There comes a time for all of us when everything we know is challenged. Our world is shaken and the foundation that we've stood on for a lifetime begins to crumble below us. In this episode, Pietze joins the crew once again to dive deeper into her story. She opens up about her life shattering season that redefined her relationship with God. Together they investigate the ways she explored her connection to her creator outside of the religious institution and the lasting impact of this vital experience. If you could use a dose of authenticity surrounding faith and self discovery, this episode is just what the doctor ordered!

Religion has a way of stripping individuals of their humanity and demanding perfection through performance. This behavior is detrimental to everyone involved. In this episode Abi's lifelong friend, Pietze, joins Abi and Justin. Pietze shares about her upbringing as a Pastor's kid and the painful affects institutionalized religion had on her family. Together they take a gracious look at the driving force behind people's destructive actions, while humanizing everyone involved. If you've ever felt like you've had to throw out your personality, desires, and voice to become acceptable in the sight of any group, this episode is for you.

Being single is great when you want in to be that way, but when you're looking for a long term commitment, it can start feeling difficult real quick. Though there can be many reasons for long term singleness, not all of it has to be inexplicable. In this episode, Abi and Justin shine a light on some of the mysteries surrounding undesired singleness. Through reflecting on years of investigative work with single clients, they share some of the repetitive reasons they see people inadvertently staying single. Through humor and a non-judgmental approach they give nuggets of wisdom to reflect on and apply to your own unique scenario. If you're wanting to understand yourself or your single friends better, this compassionate conversation is just the thing to bridge the gap!

Fear can be debilitating for anyone, but it's nothing more than the barrier between us and the destiny of who we were created to be. Having it is not the problem but being unwilling to face it is. Unaddressed fears have a way of squelching our creativity and ultimate our vision. But it doesn't have to be that way. In part two of this two-part episode, Justin is joined by business partners and brothers-in-law Robby and Daniel. Justin investigates the fears they've been required to face as young entrepreneurs, husbands, and fathers. They share their journey of developing vision for every facet of life and the sense of exposure that comes with boldly choosing to take control of the helm of their own ship. Through boldness and bravery, these two model what it is to face your fears, cast your net, and trust in a higher power to bring in the catch. If you're wanting to be part of a relatable conversation that will help you feel supported in your process of becoming who you were created to be, this episode won't disappoint!

It's easy for any of us to go through some of life's biggest storms and to feel like it's the beginning of the end, or that there's no way we'll ever recover. However, every great story of adventure has seemingly insurmountable odds set before the sojourner. To the one who refuses to give up, a chest filled with unforeseen treasure awaits. In this episode Justin sits down with long time clients Daniel and Robby to explore their business partnership and the difficulties, including an actual shipwreck, that set the tone and direction for their future. They share how embracing their story, and who they are, has created a multimillion-dollar business out of a string of misfortunes and failures. Through refusing to give up in the face of adversity, these brother in-laws have developed the grit, gratitude, and grace to be successful business leaders, husbands, friends, and fathers. If you want to get inspired, learn how to stay connected to the moment in front of you, and have vision for your future, part one of this two part episode is just for you.

Developing camaraderie amongst men can be as simple as creating a common goal that requires a collective group to band together in order to achieve it. Be it building a house, playing sports, going to war, or taking down the Death Star, a goal is often all that's needed. But building intimate connection is a much grandeur task. In this episode Justin and his close friend Marcus open up about their friendship and share about the foundational building blocks necessary to create a lasting bond. They explore varying phases of vulnerability and the obstacles men often face when attempting to create this essential human experience. Whether you're a man or a woman, this conversation is vital to understanding the human condition and to establishing connection that is heartfelt and full of depth. You won't want to miss it!

Whether we understand it or not, family plays a vital role in experiencing a life of stability and confidence. For many of us, our family of origin can be messy, painful, and sometimes evoke instability. The beauty of life is that family isn't limited to blood relatives. Through graciously unique circumstances we can experience the love and connection we were all designed for. In this episode Justin sits down with his dear friend Katrina to have a conversation six years in the making. They discuss the shockingly abnormal event that would forever bond their lives together. Through care, and brave vulnerability, they forged a family connection that would last a lifetime and redeem circumstances that had yet to happen. If you're wanting vision and inspiration to to help you imagine the unlikely ways your dreams and desires can be fulfilled, this heartwarming story of radical trust is just for you!

It can be easy to find ourselves consumed with regret and paralyzed with pain when we contemplate the dreams and desires that never panned out the way we dreamed they would. Without proper acceptance, we can't properly grieve and move forward. In this second part of a two part episode, Abi further discusses her grief process that gone on as she has accepted she will never birth her own children. She shares about the power of acceptance and how this has led to building momentum towards what her unique story is meant to look like. If you've experienced not having the dreams for your life come into fulfillment the way you expected and are needing a dose of hope and inspiration, this episode is a must!

Most of us have an idea of what we think our life should look like. Our education, job, friends, family, and marriage are just a few aspects that we think have to turn out a certain way. But then they don't, and reality sinks in leaving us to grieve what wasn't or didn't happen. In this episode Abi bares it all in her most vulnerable time of sharing on the podcast as she talks candidly with Justin about her pain of not having children. Together they open up about their decision around children and the grief that followed. If you're looking for a genuine story of humanity that will challenge you to accept what is and leave you feeling like you're not alone in your experience, this episode is for you.

Many people believe that "success" just happens to a select lucky few, or for those that simply keep their head down and work hard. But what if success has ingredients like a cocktail that anyone can make? In this episode, Abi and Justin define their version of success and investigate some of the key ingredients that are fundamental to seeing the dreams of a person's heart become reality. They highlight the truths in tension that govern the journey of success while taking the pressure off of the outcome. If you're looking for clarity to help guide you as you create the life you've always wanted, this is a MUST listen to episode.

In part two of this two part episode, Abi and Justin sit down again with friend and fellow Life Consultant Laura Duncan. Together they take a deep dive into the pain and shame that is the foundation for sexual addiction. Through compassion they shine a light on the subject and reveal how, in our common humanity, we all find ourselves coping in destructive ways, making us all the same. Through Laura's insight into the development of children, she shares practical tips and tools on how to help parents navigate a rather tricky landscape. If you're a human in the 21st Century this is a MUST listen to episode.

In a world culture that has instant access to pornographic material it's realistic that so many people, both men and women, would use, or have addictions to this type of content. For those that are aware of the destructive nature of this content, there's a longing to find freedom from it, but often little understanding as to why they engage it in the first place. In this episode Justin and Abi are joined by their good friend and fellow consultant Laura Duncan. Laura shares about her history of helping men and women discover what the real problem is that leads to unhealthy expressions of sexuality. Together they compassionately explore the many "needs" and emotions individuals have, but don't meet or express, that lead to self-destructive sexual patterns. If you're wanting to understand how you or others are driven down the path of engaging with pornography, this episode starts the process of doing just that!

Are you a turtle or a hailstorm? The way we attach to one another is critical to understanding our behavior and connection in relationship. Through our childhood experiences we learn how to connect and this style of connection affects how we express ourselves in relationships as adults. In this episode Abi, Justin, and their close friend Ruth begin the conversation about attachment styles. Understanding your attachment style is critical to relating healthily to one another. The more you know about how you attach, the more deliberate you can be in creating secure attachments that deepen the bond between you and the people you care about the most. If you want to understand yourself better and create a lifestyle of healthy confrontations, this episode is for you!

House renovations can be daunting. They come with blood, sweat, and tears you didn't know you had the capacity to shed. They're expensive and time consuming, and, for anyone doing it for the first time, there's a learning curve and a lot of unknowns. But in the end, it's worth it. In this episode Justin and Abi discuss the parallels between renovating a home and renovating your heart. They break down personal transformation in a practical way that helps everyone engaging the process feel supported through a better understanding of what to expect and how to go about it in peace and patience. If you're developing and growing in your emotional health, this episode is for you!

The pathway to healing and freedom isn't easy, and it certainly doesn't happen alone. When our process is walked out openly and vulnerably, within community, our bravery has the power to inspire contagious courage in others, while liberating them at the same time. In this episode Abi and Justin share a dramatically powerful healing moment that takes place publicly in the life of former guest Ryan Opfer. Through taking a major risk, Ryan finds himself unintentionally helping others while discovering he's loved and not alone in his process. If you're looking for raw and authentic, it doesn't get any better than this.

Being honest with our family can sometimes feel more scary than any other people in our lives. The people that we care about the deepest are the ones we feel most terrified of being rejected by. But facing the fears we have with our family can be the catalyst to a life fully lived. In this episode Abi and Justin sit down with their dear friend Courtney and her mom Katie. Together they share about the scariest parts of their relationship and the bravery they mustered to tackle the tragic loss that forever changed their lives. Through truth and tragedy this mother-daughter duo found triumph, and so can you! If you're needing hope and inspiration for your life, you won't want to miss this episode!

People oftentimes wonder what the quick fix is to experiencing change in their lives. Although there is no magic pill, there is a fundamental component to the transformation process that gives people a guaranteed boost of momentum, and strength, that is rarely discussed. In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their mutual close friend Ruth Outram. Together they discuss her scientific and practical understanding of personal development through group belonging and community exchanges. Abi and Ruth breakdown their shared experiences of leading groups of people through equipping and empowering individuals to be a resource for one another. If you're wanting to create a fulfilled life, understanding the power of group relationships is a monumental must and this episode is for you!