The Connected Life

For many, the church has been a place of deep wounding rather than healing. Whether you've personally experienced pain or watched destructive behavior unfold, it can feel impossible to stay connected to faith when the place meant to embody love feels anything but safe. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the complexity of church wounds—why they happen, how they impact our sense of self-worth, and what it takes to move forward. They discuss the tension between forgiveness and accountability, the importance of boundaries, and the challenge of not mirroring the same judgment and hurt we've experienced. If you've ever struggled with disillusionment, frustration, or grief over the church, this conversation offers a space to process, reflect, and consider a path toward healing—on your own terms. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Denial is one of the biggest roadblocks to living a full and abundant life—but most of us don't even realize when it's at play. It's not always intentional or malicious; often, it's an unconscious defense against pain, fear, and shame. But what we refuse to see, we can't heal. In this episode, Justin and Abi explore how denial quietly shapes our lives, keeps us disconnected, and prevents us from receiving the care and compassion we need. They break down why we fall into denial, how it impacts our relationships, and the steps to start facing reality with grace. If you've ever felt stuck, disconnected, or overwhelmed by the idea of facing hard truths, this conversation will help you navigate the process piece by piece—with self-compassion and a roadmap for growth. You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Red flags get all the attention—but what about the green flags? We're so quick to call out what to avoid, but do we actually know what to look for in healthy, thriving relationships? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into seven green flags that signal someone is a great person to build connection with—whether it's romantic or platonic. They break down key traits that make relationships fulfilling, how to recognize them in others, and most importantly, how to cultivate these qualities in yourself. If you want to break unhealthy relationship cycles, attract quality connections, and become the kind of person who naturally draws great relationships, this conversation is for you. Listen in as they explore: ✅ The qualities that make someone a great friend or partner ✅ How self-love creates space for deeper connections ✅ Why emotional intelligence and ownership are game changers ✅ The power you have to shape your relationship dynamics You don't just want good relationships—you want great ones. And that starts with knowing what to look for and who to become. Tune in now! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Many have experienced a version of faith that prioritizes performance over authenticity, often leaving little room for emotional honesty or personal healing. In part 2 of this two part series, Justin and Abi continue their deep dive into the intersection of faith and emotional health, tackling the ways in which toxic forgiveness and spiritual bypassing prevent genuine healing. They explore how religious communities sometimes use forgiveness as a way to silence pain rather than restore relationships, and how the misuse of spirituality can dismiss real emotional struggles. They also discuss the urgent need for accountability in faith communities, challenging the harmful patterns that enable toxic behavior to go unchecked. If you've ever felt pressured to "just forgive and move on" without real resolution, or if you've wrestled with the tension between faith and emotional health, this conversation is for you. 🎙️✨ You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We've all had something we've wanted and found ourselves so desperate to obtain it, that we find ourselves compromising out of FOMO. In our anxiety, this ravenous hunger causes us to abandon our values and miss out on what we really want. The regret is real, but it doesn't have to stay that way. In this episode Justin and Abi dig into the desperation trap and the impact of that on experiencing the life you really want. They discuss how desperation causes us to compromise our core values, ignore our intuition, and make destructive decisions out of fear. They also share insights on how to establish peace that will set you up for creating success in the areas that matter most. This episode will help you change the way you think, and liberate you from the FOMO trap! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

For many, institutionalized faith and emotional health often feel like two opposing worlds. This separation between spirituality and emotional intelligence has been a longstanding issue, preventing many from experiencing life to its fullest. But does it have to stay this way? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the essential partnership between faith and emotional health. They explore the lack of free thought in organized religion, the broken theology that hinders emotional healing for many Christians, and the critical role personal autonomy plays in becoming a healthy, empowered individual. They also share how their spiritual journeys led to profound insights into the human condition. If you're looking to cultivate a balanced, whole life grounded in emotional health and a faith source greater than yourself—or if you're seeking healing from wounds caused by organized religion—this episode is for you! 🎙️✨ You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Life can often feel like it's happening to us. We can feel powerless to partners, children, friends, employers, and endless circumstances. We can choose to live like a pinball in a game we have no control over, or we can step out of the chaos and start playing the game with intention. In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the impact of building a healthy lifestyle rooted in self-management. They cover everything from managing your emotions to shaping the vision you have for your life. They also explore ways to feel like you're in the driver's seat—without steamrolling the people you love. If you're ready to reset how you experience life and take ownership of your story, this episode is for you! 🎙️✨ You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife You can listen to us on Apple Podcasts or Spotify Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

It's easy to feel stuck, endlessly looping through the same life cycles, and spinning our wheels. It can seem like we're barely making progress, leaving us exhausted and defeated. But what if mastering one skill could shift the trajectory of our growth forever? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their friend and fellow Life Consultant, Mariah, to explore the transformative power of learning how to receive feedback. They open up about their struggles with shame, the steps they took to get better at receiving feedback—no matter how it was delivered—and how this skill has profoundly impacted their relationships and overall well-being. If your healing journey feels like trudging through mud or you find yourself stuck in unbreakable cycles, this episode is exactly what you need. Don't miss out! The final days to enroll in Reclaiming You are happening now! Last day to register is 1/18/25 Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

At some point, we've all felt like life is happening to us. Losses, betrayals, misunderstandings, and unexpected challenges can leave behind pain and destruction that feels out of our control. The result? A sense of powerlessness as we're left to clean up the mess. But what if we play a bigger role than we realize—and there's more we can do about it than we think? In this episode, Justin and Abi sit down with their friend and fellow Life Consultant, Mariah Hardy, to explore how to reclaim your power, overcome trauma, and take back your life through the practice of personal ownership. Together, they reveal how personal ownership not only builds shame resilience but also breaks the cycles that have held us back for so long. Start 2025 on the right foot and join us for this powerful two-part series. It's time to take charge of your story and create the life you deserve. You won't want to miss it! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

For many, New Year's resolutions are a pact to change areas of our lives, hoping that those changes will make us more worthy and lovable. Pushing ourselves to transform from a place of lacking self-worth in hopes of gaining acceptance is unproductive and defeating in the long run. So, is there a better way to create lasting change? In this episode, Abi and Justin ditch traditional New Year's resolutions and share insights on achieving lasting, tangible transformation. They explore how embracing your inherent value and approaching change from a place of worth—not to earn it—creates momentum and meaningful results. They also highlight the importance of desiring self-love as a foundation for healthy transformation and how this approach drives you to remove obstacles that hinder love, opening yourself up to a lifestyle of wholeness. If you've experienced unsuccessful approaches to shifting your life in the New Year, then this episode will give you hope, clarity, and direction on how to change things up in the year to come! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In this heartfelt episode, Justin and Abi discuss the profound impact grief and suffering have on humanity, exploring how the radical love of God can overcome the despair and hopelessness we all face during overwhelming and painful experiences. Justin shares his personal journey of nearly losing Abi to her illness, revealing how his breaking point became a turning point for hope and freedom. Abi reflects on how her struggles have redefined her understanding of God's love. Together, they offer a fresh perspective on suffering and fondly recount the goodness of a Creator who has remained tangible and faithful throughout their journey. If life has been a bumpy ride for you, this episode offers a new lens—helping you see beyond the suffering to a faithful, loving Creator who willingly steps into the messiest parts of the human condition. AND DON'T MISS OUT! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Chronic physical pain and illness have left many of us searching for answers, forced to navigate life with limiting circumstances. The experience can often feel overwhelming and hopeless. But what if there's a path to resolution that the medical industry hasn't accounted for? In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their friend and Life Consultant, Carly Kolbo, to explore her remarkable journey. After battling a nearly incurable condition and finding no solutions through countless medical avenues, Carly fostered a 90% healing of her symptoms. She shares how she discovered the connection between her symptoms, her brain, her nervous system, and her sense of safety. Through changing her thought patterns and engaging in somatic tracking, she overcame what seemed like an impossible situation. For anyone battling chronic pain or illness, this episode offers a breath of fresh air. If you or someone you know is struggling in this area, this is a must-listen—and a must-share! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We've all had times where we feel like we've been hijacked and our actions don't line up with our values. Many of us have reactions to circumstances that we're not proud of. Maybe it's a sense of lashing out or pulling away that we know doesn't represent us well. Maybe it's an addictive behavior we're suddenly compelled to do. Whatever it may be, we don't have to be victims to these hijackings. In this episode Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to shine a light on how your body can hijack your life. They share how our bodies have been intelligently designed, how they are working for us, and how we can work with them to create a peace, comfort, and safety. If you want to get back into the driver seat of your own life, this episode will give you clarity to better understand your reactions and tools to start changing things now. Don't miss out! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Do you ever dread talking to that "one person" at a social event? We've all been there. And, unknowingly, we've probably been that person at some point. While they didn't teach this in school, learning how to relate to others is essential—and we're here to help! In this episode, Justin and Abi address the social elephants in the room as they discuss seven keys to relating to humans that can drastically help you change how you relate to others. They discuss practical approaches, from how we govern ourselves internally to how we relate externally. Through these foundational keys, they share how you can equip yourself and your community to be a safe and enjoyable place for anyone to connect. If you want to simplify connection and create favor wherever you go, this episode is a MUST! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Few people imagine that their bodies play an instrumental role in the repair process on the journey to emotional wholeness. Most people see the body as a separate entity from everything else. Because of this, they can find themselves unnecessarily bumping into a glass ceiling for years. But what if that could all change? In this episode, Abi and Justin are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to discuss how integrating an understanding of your body and its nervous system can exponentially change how you experience mental and emotional wholeness. They explore the 4f responses, share how connection to your body is crucial to moving through them, and give powerful tips on restoring a sense of safety and peace to your experience of life. If you've found yourself experiencing any of the feelings of anxiety, depression, anger, overwhelm, panic, and many other emotions, this episode is a game changer for the process of creating peace and connection with yourself and others. Don't miss out! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou Now through Cyber Monday SAVE $100 on Reclaiming You at the check out when you use the code: theconnectedlife You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

The secret to creating a fulfilled life often seems like a mystery everyone is searching for. We travel down countless paths, hoping to find something outside ourselves to quench an inner sense of dissatisfaction. But what if the answer we're seeking is as close as the nearest mirror? In this episode, Justin and Abi dive into the power of personal reconciliation. Justin candidly shares his journey of realizing he was his own greatest enemy—and how becoming his own greatest advocate changed everything. Together, they discuss practical steps to repair this relationship and share stories of how their clients' lives transformed when they chose this path. If you listen to only one episode, make it this one. You won't be disappointed! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou Now through Cyber Monday, at the checkout SAVE $100 on Reclaiming You when you use the code: theconnectedlife You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In part two of this powerful series, Abi and Justin unpack what it truly means to feel regulated—and why it matters in every relationship. Discover how partners co-create a shared nervous system that affects everyone involved and get practical, game-changing strategies for building a space of love and connection through self-regulation. Plus, listen in as they share real apologies, acknowledging the impact their own dysregulation has had on each other. Ready to transform your relationships? This episode is packed with insights that can shift how you connect, love, and communicate. Don't miss it!

We've all been in situations where conflict slowly builds between us and someone else, only to find ourselves acting in ways we're not proud of. Suddenly, we're asking, "How did I get here, and how can I stop this from happening again?" Yet, we often repeat these cycles, unsure of how to break free. It's challenging for everyone involved—but there are solutions! In part one of this two-part episode, Justin and Abi explore how our nervous system can throw a massive monkey wrench into relational dynamics. They also share critical telltale signs of a dysregulated nervous system. Lastly, they open up about their own marriage and apologize to one another for how their dysregulation has impacted each other. This two part series is a game changer for any relationship. You won't want to miss out! Also, enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We're wired to seek love, approval, and affirmation—even when it pushes us to the breaking point. But what happens when life knocks you down so hard that performing is no longer an option? In this raw and eye-opening episode, Abi shares about her battle with PTSD and how it shattered her ability to keep up appearances. She dives into the toll of self-neglect, fueled by a 'can-do' attitude that led to burnout, and the pressure of maintaining a public image while struggling behind the scenes. From the expectations of always being "on" to how filming this very podcast triggered some of her darkest moments, Abi's story is a powerful reminder that we all have limits. If you've been pushing yourself to the edge, this episode is a must-listen. It's time to pause, check in, and show yourself some compassion. Don't miss it! Enrollment for Reclaiming You is happening now! Sign up at: www.justinandabi.com/reclaimingyou You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In Part 2 of this series, Justin and Abi are once again joined by Johnny and Pietze for an in-depth look at secure functioning and the power of collaboration in creating a balanced partnership. Johnny and Pietze introduce a powerful alternative to "lawyering" called "microscopic truth," a way to communicate authentically and honestly that deepens connection and trust. They wrap up the conversation by discussing the importance of meeting each other's needs through a win-win approach and how fully accepting one another creates a relationship grounded in honor and respect. If you're wanting tools and perspectives to help create a relationship with a solid foundation and mutual care, this series is just want you're looking for! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Creating a secure, lasting partnership with someone we love is A LOT of work! It can be especially difficult when we don't have a roadmap. But don't lose hope, we've got your back! In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by their close friends Johnny and Pietze for a deep dive into the phases of a relationship. From the thrill of infatuation to the delicate dance of negotiating needs, they discuss the shift from codependence to interdependence and the importance of creating a collaborative relationship where the focus is on protecting, caring for, and nurturing the relationship itself rather than just the individuals involved. Whether you're in a new relationship or have been together for years, this two-part series offers valuable insights to help you create a secure and thriving partnership! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

The battle between parents and their children is real! In many homes, parents either feel overrun by their kids, or they rule with an iron fist. But what if there was a way to create a balanced environment filled with mutual respect and love? In this episode, Habit Coach and friend Jenna Zint joins Abi and Justin for a deep dive into setting boundaries with your children and navigating the emotional challenges of parenthood. They discuss the common triggers parents face and how feelings of failure can prevent the creation of healthy boundaries. They also explore how to care for yourself while attending to your child's needs, how to communicate with your child about the impact of their behavior, and how to foster a regulated emotional environment through self-regulation. If you're looking for a parenting approach that embraces balance, nuance, and accountability, this episode offers practical insights on developing a healthier, more connected family dynamic. Don't miss out! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

It's common for people to ask, "What am I doing with my life?" There's a natural curiosity within us that seeks to understand our purpose on earth. The journey to discover what we're created for can often feel overwhelming, but maybe it doesn't have to be so complicated. In this 300th episode, Abi and Justin reflect on the humble beginnings of their marriage and the daunting challenge of trying to figure everything out. They share their faith journey and the fears they had to confront to become who they are today. They also discuss how simply doing the next right thing led them down unexpected paths and brought blessings they could never have orchestrated on their own. Finally, they reveal how trust paved the way for some of the greatest miracles they've ever experienced. If you're looking for hope and inspiration in your current season, this episode won't disappoint! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

You probably know or have met someone with ADD, ADHD, or autism—or maybe you're one of those people. These neurological differences, known as neurodivergence, make up an estimated 15-20% of the population. Whether or not you fall into this category, it's likely to impact your life, and we're here to help you navigate it. In this episode, Abi and Justin sit down with their close friend, a fellow neurodivergent. Together, they share their journeys with neurodivergence, the impact it's had on their lives and relationships, and how they've turned what could have been kryptonite into a superpower. They also dive into the pros and cons of labels and explore how understanding their struggles has been empowering and liberating. Lastly, Abi drops a bombshell and briefly opens up about her autism diagnosis and how learning she was on the spectrum changed her life forever. If you want to better understand yourself or those around you, this episode is filled with insight and compassion. Don't miss out! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

It's easy to fall in love with the idea of someone. The fantasy we create in our minds is often one of very few imperfections. Unfortunately, the perfect person only exists in our imagination. Building a relationship around a fantasy cannot only be disappointing, but it can be incredibly destructive. In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes to discuss the world of relational fantasy known as limerence. They explore how fantasizing about who someone is can cause you to bond to the idea of them, create unrealistic expectations, perpetuate a one-sided relationship, and cause you to overlook their nuances altogether. They also delve into the importance of humanizing people and recognizing the red, yellow, and green flags we all have. If you want to learn about a more holistic approach to relationships that will help you foster balance in the way you relate to others, this episode is right up your alley! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In part two of this dialogue, Abi and Justin are once again joined by Habit Coach Jenna Zint to discuss the vital role boundaries play in fostering healthy relationships with yourself and others. Together, they tackle creative solutions for navigating seemingly powerless situations, eliminating blame and accusation in boundary setting, becoming self-aware of our patterns and triggers, and removing punishment from the process. They also explore how to create a balanced life through boundaries, avoiding the extremes of either giving nothing of ourselves or giving every last ounce to those who ask. This episode is packed with strategies that will bring relief to all your relationships. You won't want to miss it!" AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Boundaries has been a buzz word for a while now. As with any popularized emotional health tool, there have been wild misuses and misunderstandings of this deeply valuable concept. However, when used properly, boundaries can help create a thriving, connected life filled with love and respect for ourselves and others. In part one of this dialogue Justin and Abi sit down with Habit Coach Jenna Zint to discuss her strategic use of boundaries in her life. She opens up about how she gained confidence through a challenging learning curve with her mom. Together, they explore how to stop resenting people for having needs, how to say 'No' while still communicating value for someone, how to create balanced relationships, and how to healthily communicate feedback as a way to love and care for everyone involved. If you're needing clarity and courage around boundaries and want insight into how others approach them, this series will knock your socks off! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Do you want to know a vital key to making your life better? It's probably not what you think it is. Most of us believe that judging ourselves and others is a catalyst for change, but it's quite the opposite. In fact, judgment can be the most damning opponent to experiencing a fulfilled life. But it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode Justin and Abi are joined once again by their good friend Gabby to discuss compassion and its role in healing, growth, and enjoying life. They talk about the impact of the judgment stick we use, the shame highs and shame lows that keep us from feeling loved, and the common humanity that we all share. Lastly, they examine the destructive belief that if people have compassion for themselves, they'll live stagnant and passively towards life. If you could use a fresh and hopeful perspective on how to approach life, this episode is just for you. Oh and it's funny…so you'll get a good laugh as well. ;) AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Nobody that's been married will deny that it's difficult. When we get together with another person, we're faced with communication breakdowns, different cultural backgrounds, opposing value systems, and worst of all, having a mirror that shows us the messiness of our own heart. Though it's tough, with a few keys, it can be a liberating experience for both parties. In this episode, long time friends Pietze and Johnny join Justin and Abi to discuss the ways taking personal ownership has been a game changer in their relationships. They talk about the hurdles they've had to overcome in order to be honest with themselves and each other and they open up vulnerably about the ways they've hurt one another. If you're needing some perspective on how to win at marriage or could use some hope on how to navigate the choppy waters of any relationship, this episode is perfect for you. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We all impact the world around us for better and for worse. It can feel difficult to take an honest look at ourselves and how we affect others, but what if self-reflection is the stepping stone to having the best experience of this life? In this episode, Justin and Abi discuss the reality of having to look at ourselves honestly. They explore the positive benefits this has on developing deeper connections, a heart of humility, and an abundant life experience. They also ponder how this might play out in eternity while discussing how our choices here might affect us there. If you want to get inspired about the life right in front of you, this episode does just that! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Conflict isn't fun for most of us. For many of us, we'd rather avoid it altogether. Since many of us haven't seen it modeled well, it can often lead to further disruptions in relationships and seemingly make things worse. But what if we had a better understanding of its benefits and how to do it well? In this episode Gabby, a good friend of Abi and Justin, joins the conversation. Gabby shares about her journey of avoiding conflict, the impact it had on her life, and the brave tweaks she made in her beliefs and actions that changed the game for her altogether. If you want insight on why you react to conflict the way you do, and could use some inspiration on how to navigate conflict moving forward, this episode is chock full of insight, and entertaining laughs that will help the medicine go down! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Whether or not we're aware of it, we all have emotions we don't want to feel. Some of those emotions are so intolerable that we'll do anything we can to avoid them. Unfortunately, avoiding these emotions won't resolve them. It simply perpetuates them. But don't fear, there's hope to face them! In this episode, Justin and Abi are joined by their friend Ruth Outram, who is currently finishing her doctorate in Clinical Psychology. Together, they discuss the intolerable emotions we all have, where they come from, and how we can learn to approach even the most difficult feelings. If you want a better understanding of the feelings and reactions you're having, this episode is filled with gold! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In today's culture, masculinity has two predominant expressions on opposite ends of the spectrum. One expression is the dominant protector that views emotional health as weak. On the other end is the nonthreatening connector that avoids challenges at all costs. But what if there was an expression of masculinity that was a healthy blend of protector and connector? In this episode, Justin sits down with special guest Jeremy Morris, founder of Wild Courage. Jeremy shares stories of fostering a tribe of men who have found the courage to face their fears of vulnerability while maintaining their capacity to face adversity head-on. If you've been looking for an example of a balanced model of masculinity that is connected to its heart and willing to face any fight on behalf of those it loves, this episode is a MUST! Don't miss out. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Emotions are an inescapable part of the human experience. As kids, these emotions are often judged, shut down, ignored, and stuffed until they can't be dismissed any longer. We can demonize them and perpetuate a life of feeling alone and unloved, or we can embrace them and come alive. In this episode Justin and Abi discuss the impact of being disconnected from our emotions, the power of identifying and naming them, and how we can nurture ourselves through becoming interested in and understanding them. They also examine how the energy behind every emotion is drives us from moment to moment dictating how we connect to the world around us. If you don't want your emotions to rule you, this episode will give you insight on how to manage them while creating connection with yourself. Don't miss out! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

As adults, most of us can reflect on our childhood and recognize that there are things we needed from our parents that they couldn't provide. Some choose to deny that reality and live feeling a sense of missing something. Others get lost in the pain of what they didn't get. But what if there was another option? In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the ways they missed out on crucial parenting experiences. They share simple yet profound steps they've taken to acknowledge their past and reparent themselves through practical actions that restore what seemed forever lost. If there is parenting that you needed and wanted, but didn't get, this episode is JUST FOR YOU. You still have time to redeem your childhood, even if your parents can't or won't participate. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In an ever growing culture of emotionally fragile people, it's vital that we have conversations about the human condition in a way that's educational and empowering. A better understanding of ourselves and others should develop a lifestyle of compassion and emotional resilience to life's most difficult circumstances. In Part 2 of this two-part series, Justin and Abi continue the conversation around the 4F trauma responses fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. In this episode, they highlight flight and fawn and the impacts of these responses in their own lives. They share how progressively finding healing for these responses has developed confidence and connection in their relationships. If you want to better understand yourself and others this series is a MUST for any relational connection! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We're often quick to believe that messy and destructive actions stem from poor character. Our judgments of ourselves and others usually lack curiosity and understanding. However, as we learn more about the human experience, we discover that many of our actions are trauma responses that, when properly addressed, can be healed. In Part 1 of this two-part series, Abi and Justin explore the four trauma responses: fight, flight, freeze, and fawn. These responses can unknowingly be at the core of some of our most difficult relational interactions. Educating ourselves about these responses not only fosters grace for ourselves and others but also provides a roadmap for healing. If you're struggling to overcome hurdles in your emotional health journey, this series may offer the clarity needed to start conquering them. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

An idea etched into the minds of many of us is that finding the right person will make us complete. From a young age, entertainment, religious traditions, and family cultures perpetuate this fantasy. Unfortunately, we often find ourselves years into a relationship feeling deceived. If another person can't fulfill us, what's the point of a relationship? In this episode, Justin and Abi discuss the fantasy of being fulfilled through marriage, which wreaked havoc on their relationship. They openly share their pain, and in an impromptu turn of events, they process a very complicated conflict in real-time. If you've ever wanted to experience what it's like to be a fly on the wall as a couple faces some of their most difficult marriage hurdles, this episode is a must! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Marriage is not for the faint of heart. As two become one, it can feel more like two worlds colliding in unforeseen, catastrophic ways. Without healthy models and a supportive community, marriage can feel like a place where we go to waste away. But what if it was designed to be a place where we learn to come alive and thrive? In this episode, Justin and Abi celebrate their 16-year wedding anniversary. Stepping into another year, they sit down to share about the pitfalls they've faced and what they wished they'd known when they first started. They share how facing themselves through the mirror of each other has led them to a fuller life. Lastly, they give tips on how to approach committed relationships that are vital to any thriving connection. If you want wise insight on relationships, from seasoned veterans who spent years learning how to clean up their messes, this episode is just what you're looking for! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We're all looking for acceptance, love, and connection. It's no surprise that for many of us, it's easy to suppress our opinions, beliefs, and desires, for the sake of fitting in. Having our autonomy, and sense of self, can create conflict and disconnection. But what if the price of blending in comes at the cost of living an authentic and fulfilled life? In this episode, Justin and Abi explore the impacts of an underdeveloped sense of self and how to healthily transition to a lifestyle of power and identity. They discuss ways we perpetuate victimhood while looking at ways to approach life in a balanced and powerful manner. They address the pendulum swings and pitfalls in developing autonomy, while also giving keys to help transition into a lifestyle of confidence and respect for others. If you want to learn how to foster more authentic relationships filled with mutual respect and healthy boundaries, this episode has some great tools for your belt! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

There is very little in life we can be totally certain of. The certainty we do have is often an illusion, much like control. When that illusion is shaken, many of us lose our sense of stability. We can quickly find ourselves feeling powerless to circumstances, but what if it's possible to become confident in the most uncertain times? In this episode Justin and Abi share vital keys to creating stability in the craziest situations. They explain how embracing the reality that life is seasonal and is always changing has established peace beyond understanding. They also explore how an eternal perspective and connecting to yourself is necessary to gaining power over unsettling times. Lastly, they take a look at how a pessimistic attitude blinds us to the unimaginable possibilities all around us. If you're needing to learn how to let go of the how and learn how to connect to the here and now, this episode is perfect to help you with ways to clear the clutter and settle in. AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

It's easy to bury the past, and the dead, in our hearts, but left unprocessed things can start rotting. The loss of those we loved, reviled, and were indifferent about can leave us with many unspoken and unresolved matters. But, what if it was possible to have much-needed hard conversations even when the person you're dealing with is dead? In this episode, Justin and Abi discuss unique ways of approaching loss. They explore powerful moments of reconciliation with the dead through healthy reflection and inner dialogues, while also tackling the necessity of forgiveness and the reality of the redeemed eternal self. Lastly, Justin shares wild stories of being visited from beyond the grave, but does he really see dead people? If you're looking to truly put to rest those that you've lost, this episode will give you plenty to think about! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In the messiness of humanity there is a world of pain and suffering all around us that we can't deny. For some of us, reconciling that there's a good God that could have created a world filled with tragedy and trauma, feels nearly impossible. For many others the greatest hurdle isn't the world around us, it's the pain that strikes our personal lives that leaves us confused and questioning our faith. In part 2 of this mini-series, Justin's best friend Marcus returns to discuss ways to stay anchored to the idea of a good God when circumstances seem to differ. Justin shares openly about Abi almost dying and its surprising impact on his view of God. Together they address spiritual bypassing, the destructive nature of accusation, and the powerful role being present plays in discovering a faithful Papa in trying times. If you've ever had difficulties that caused you to question your faith, this episode will help you be honest with yourself while making room for exploration and authentic conversations with people you trust. Don't miss out! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In part one of this deeply emotional and impactful two-part series, Justin and his best friend Marcus share stories of a radically loving God. Reflecting on their own experiences, they shine a light on how the intimate knowledge of a good and present God has far-reaching emotional and physical impacts. Through miraculous stories of God's faithfulness and intervention, they remind the world that we're not alone, left to figure it all out on our own. If you enjoy a dose of hope and a giant injection of goodness, this episode is just what you're looking for! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Creating connected relationships where we feel like we're authentic and thriving can seem difficult for many of us. Underlying issues that we don't understand within ourselves can get in the way of having the experiences we desire. At the center of these difficulties are often codependent behavior patterns that affect an estimated 90 percent of the American population. In this episode, Abi and her best friend Pietze explore codependency and its impact. They discuss two of its main forms, how it's an adaptive behavior we learn to survive, and ways it limits our authenticity. They also share powerful insights on breaking free from these unhelpful patterns that can redefine how you experience relationships altogether! If you want to be more authentic and get a better understanding of yourself, while getting some killer tips on how to create ideal connections, this is a MUST listen to episode! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

We've all lost relationships at some point in our lives. Whether we created the disconnection, they did, or we both played a role, those losses can be difficult and messy. Sadly, these losses can seemingly leave us worse off than if we never knew the person, but what if it doesn't have to be that way? In this episode Abi and Justin shine a light on powerful approaches to relational loss. They take a look at having gratitude for what was, how our grief matters, ways to have compassion for others, and surrendering what we think relationships need to be. Justin shares how you can make the most out of the love that existed in even the messiest relational endings. Abi discusses the ways some of us simply have incompatible triggers. Together they explore what relationships might look like through an eternal perspective. If you want to learn how to get better at dealing with loss, this episode is chock full of golden nuggets. Don't miss out! AND NOW WE'RE ON YOUTUBE! Come WATCH US at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

For many of us, our beliefs around spirituality and faith can lead us to heightened levels of anxiety and mental torment, without even realizing it. Our thoughts on God can induce looping mental gymnastics that keep us feeling unlovable and fearful of impending doom. Obsessive-compulsive thoughts of needing to be perfect, in order to please God, can rob us of peace and a life filled with goodness. But it doesn't have to be that way. In this episode friend and fellow Life Consultant Rachel Hughes joins Abi and Justin to address spiritual OCD and paranoia that comes from having a broken view of God. They look at ways trauma and attachment play a role in our approach to faith, the impact of ideas about God that oppose goodness, and the role looming punishment plays in robbing us of peace. Lastly, they discuss how an understanding of a God that has unrelenting love grounds us in peace, while restoring a sense of connection that is vital to having a sound mind. If you've ever battled with finding peace in your expression of faith, this episode might shine a light on some of the reasons that keep you from feeling settled and confident in your spiritual journey. Don't miss out! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Connection is tricky. For some, distance in a relationship seems terrifying, leaving us feeling abandoned and alone. For others, a consistent sense of being close can feel overwhelming, resulting in feeling pulled on and suffocated. Either way, it can lead to unnecessary relational breakdowns when we lack the proper education. Understanding secure attachments can be a game changer! In part two of this two-parter, Abi is joined again by her lifelong best friend Pietze as they continue to create clarity around attachments. They take a deep dive into secure attachments, how a balance of closeness and independence is extremely healthy, and steps to people can take to foster a feeling of safety in any relationship! This two-part episode has the potential to change your relationship dynamics forever. Don't miss out! AND REMEMBER TO CHECK US OUT ON YOUTUBE! You can WATCH us at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

Creating functional and healthy relationships can feel like a mystery. It's easy to believe we're broken and don't do connection well. But what if understanding our attachment system could redefine how we relate, create compassion for others, and improve our relationships? In part one of this two-part episode, Abi sits down with her lifelong best friend Pietze to discuss attachment styles. They explore attachment theory, how attachment styles develop, and how these styles can wreak havoc on relationships. Together they vulnerably share about the messes they've made through not understanding this in their own world. Lastly, they highlight the impact of attachment styles on our connection to God, how we can feel closer to Him, and how healthy attachments can repair the most broken parts of our stories. If you want more clarity on relationships and hope to develop healthy connections, this two-part series will rock your world! AND NOW WE'RE ON YOUTUBE! Come WATCH US at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!

In this story of life, death, and rebirth Abi sits down with Justin to discuss his week-long expedition with breath and cold plunge master Wim Hof. Justin candidly shares about his process of being pushed to the brink of his body's capacity, the fear of death he faced, and the healing from trauma he found in the arms of an unlikely person. In the afterglow of his journey, Justin fondly reflects on a community of strangers that fostered radical love that paved the way for a restorative healing experience. If you want to hear an inspiring story that reminds you how good humanity can really be, this is a MUST listen to episode! AND NOW WE'RE ON YOUTUBE! Come WATCH US at https://www.justinandabi.com/theconnectedlife Don't forget to RATE, REVIEW, SUBSCRIBE, AND SHARE!