The Beautiful Nightmare

Shanelle and Tamara share their 'Sh!t Mum' moments in the hope that you can feel a little better about your own. Why do we love them soooo much yet want to return them from whence they came, all at the same time? Yes it's confusing, and no amount of 'child rearing' non-fiction will give you a definitive answer. It's survival of the fittest, and no one is winning. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

If you have this one under control you're onto something mum, but for most of us we're multi-tasking like an octopus whilst suppressing our anxiety for the most part. Cornflakes or toast? Make up your bloody mind! If packing a lunch, finding a missing left shoe or avoiding death-by-school crossing gets your knickers in a twist (or did you forget to put those on??), then we're hearing you loud and clear.Let's get this one off our chest. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

That emergency biscuit or lolly in your bag is your secret bribery weapon to ensure your kids are on their best behaviour. Where would we all be without the helpful tool that is ‘bribery’. We constantly battle with the fine line between supporting your child to excel and the continual push for extra curricular activities because they asked for it (let's face it, you paid for the term and now they hate ballet/tennis/karate/gymnastics...)Strap yourselves in, this episode covers all of the above and more! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

So you've given birth, but it's all good, you've just put Xena the Warrior Princess to shame with your heroic efforts. We chat everything from hot doctors, drugs and nose beads, to baby blues and post-baby bloating. A Queen is giving birth, so give her anything she wants! No one story is the same. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We all face low points throughout our life journey, and just like Dorothy in ‘The Wizard of Oz’ lying in poppy fields, it’s your Judy’s that help you up and remind you of who you are and what you’re capable of. We all need those people. The best Judy’s we collect in this lifetime are the key to us winning at the game that is motherhood. It's the roller coaster of emotions which are pure bliss and joy, teamed with loneliness and exhaustion. It’s all there, tied up in one bag for us and our Judy’s to tackle head on. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

Making time for our partners can quite often have the least reserves for. It's not deliberate, but far out, the proverbial plates are spinning above us at a million miles an hour! Whether it be feeling misunderstood by your partner now that you’re a mum (the stay-at-home mum VS the go- to- work- significant other) or justifying what you do all day. Shan and Tam discuss love languages and how they play a role in our ever evolving relationships. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We throw everything we’ve got at the love job that is motherhood, but what we really need is a chance to let off some steam. The all important self-care gets put on the back burner whilst we power on through our ‘to do’ lists with one eye open in the hope of recharging from the sleep we lost the night before. Taking care of our mental health as mothers is one of the most important things we can do for ourselves AND our children. We know we need it. So, how do we do it? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We feel guilty when we have a moment of self-preservation that allows us to fill our mum cups. Whether it’s having a night out with friends, going to the gym, screaming at your child because they're driving you up the wall, only to glance at their sweet face on your screen saver to feel that major overflow of guilt. Don’t even get us started when the childcare worker has to peel your child off of your leg in a flood of tears. We get it and we feel you…put your ear buds in and let’s talk it through. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

We judge ourselves, we judge others, and you’ve gotta love the older generation judging us ‘new age’ mums. Enough of the people pleasing right!! From telling your kids off in public, to boys playing with dolls prams and the unnecessary desire to have that unrealistic level of perfection. Who hasn’t handed their child a piece of technology to keep them occupied? Only to feel those judgy eyes upon you, asking if your kid has had too much screen time.Learn how to ‘unsubscribe’ to those unhelpful thoughts and comments driving your daily narrative. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

The incidental things that we are genuinely thrilled about now, are far from what would have excited us before. The desperation for an uninterrupted hangover or your kids eating a healthy meal you prepared without a fuss. Did you nail your bucket list of things to do before kids came along? Staying up past midnight basically means you're a Rockstar and a solo car journey without Frozen, The Wiggles or a Disney soundtrack is a welcomed relief. Sound like you mama? Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.

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