The Aware Parenting Podcast

In this week's episode we talk all about Learning and Growing. We discuss how we might often ask our kids to take risks and try new things; and yet we might be reluctant as adults to step out of our comfort zone. We explore ways to move through our fears and how we can also assist our children in trying new things. [2.39] Our fears as adults and working with our own trauma [6:53] Our expectations about children [10.40] Creating space to listen to fears [14.00] Modelling to our children around fears and taking risks [21.00] Overcoming our fears with love and support [23.15] Choice and love rather than coercion and judgment [28.00] Our children can be our teachers around taking risks [30.45] Finding ways to work with willingness [33.40] Trusting children’s timing and individuality [37.00] Our own inner child's response to not having a choice when we were younger [41.00] Celebrating the process of learning This week’s invitation: 1. Is there something that you always loved to do and you have given it up? Would you like to play with it again? 2. What scares or excites you that you can take a risk on and model to your children? 3. What would you like to hold in mind whenever you notice your child is doing something new? Resources Marshall Rosenberg - https://www.cnvc.org/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk all about partners and ex-partners, and how we navigate parenting when we have different belief systems around parenting. We also explore helping our children if there has been a divorce or separation. [2.30] Our ideals around parenting [6:35] Empathy for our partners and how they respond [9.40] Shifting our paradigm of right and wrong [12.40] Leaning into our own reactions about our partners or family members [15.50] Practical ideas around showing a different perspective [23.35] Our comfort zones in parenting [27.00] Tools to help navigate separation [31.45] Resilience in children [35.50] Trusting children’s healing and timing [39.25] Holding a vision of what you want it to look like This week’s invitation: 1. Please give yourself a big hug and acknowledge the work you are doing. 2. See if you can feel compassion for others and knowing that everyone is doing the best job they know-how with the story they have journeyed. As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about feeling exhausted as a parent, and how connected it is with the current paradigm of parenting and our lack of community and support. We explore our belief systems around asking for help, receiving support and how to parent when we don’t seem to have any energy left. [2.05] It is not a flaw to feel exhausted [4:15] Our colonised society and its impact on parenting [7.20] Loss of identity as a woman [9.45] Support from family and friends and the tribe [15.40] Our stories around taking a break and receiving support [21.35] Resentment and not getting our needs met [24.00] Our needs are our responsibility [26.15] Our imprints on self-care and boundaries [29.00] Honouring our yes and no and being authentic [33.25] Compassion for ourselves and connecting with our values [35.20] Recognising what we need and giving it to ourselves [38.10] Creating a dynamic of exchange [41.00] Compassion for ourselves and our behaviours [45.40] Keeping it simple as self-care [52.20] Our ability to receive and staying open to support [57.00] Checking your willingness [60.00] Rite of passage into wisdom This week’s invitation: 1. If you are feeling exhausted, imagine your child as a parent and you as the grandparent; what would you say to support them and encourage them if they were expressing that they were exhausted? 2. What are your stories around exhaustion and asking for support and what does it mean to have self care. What was your imprint? 3. Can you take some time to do something fun for you to lift your energy? Resources: Love Being a Mother ebook and meditations: http://www.lovebeingamother.net/ebook/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about School and Rules and how to support our children, no matter what style of education they experience. We discuss helping them navigate schooling systems based on punishments and rewards and how we can support them to stay connected to who they really are. [2.10] Decolonisation and our education system [5:40] Navigating our current school system [9.00] A new vision for education [12.05] Supporting our children to not internalise the behaviour of others [13.30] Getting clear on our deep desire for schooling with our kids [19.00] Separations and rules in organisations [22.00] Prioritising children's emotional wellbeing [26.15] The bigger picture of schooling and socialisation [30.00] Helping children unpack their day and release feelings [34.10] Seeing the growth and learning in all choices we make [36.40] Different styles of learning [41.10] Slow shifts that are happening in our education system [45.00] Progressive education and what we need to learn [47.40] Practical tools to help children process kindergarten and school [54.30] Supporting ourselves and our children to follow their passions [57.00] Advocating for our children This week’s invitation: 1. Do you have a ‘Yes’ for reflecting on your own schooling experiences? What did you really enjoy? What did you not enjoy? How can you listen to those younger parts of you? Does it support you to do anything different with your children? 2. Trusting your child’s journey and trusting yourself and your ability to help them navigate it. Resources: www.woodlineprimary.com.au Alfie Kohn - https://www.alfiekohn.org/books/ The Compassionate Classroom - https://www.amazon.com/Compassionate-Classroom-Relationship-Teaching-Learning/dp/1892005069 Peter Gray - https://www.psychologytoday.com/au/experts/peter-gray-phd John Taylor Gatto - https://www.amazon.com/Dumbing-Down-Curriculum-Compulsory-Anniversary/dp/0865714487 Marshall Rosenberg - https://www.amazon.com.au/Non-Violent-Communication-Language-Marshall-Rosenberg/dp/1892005034 Marshall Rosenberg - Life-Enriching Education Marshall Rosenberg - Teaching Children Compassionately As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about Lying and Swearing and the reasons why children may exhibit these behaviours. We look at ways to respond to our children with awareness and compassion and explore our reactions to these behaviours. [2.11] Cultural conditioning around Lying and Swearing [5:18] The reasons for Lying or not telling the truth [7.50] Tweens and Teens and their need for autonomy [11.20] Checking our responses first around lying [13.03] Setting a foundation when our kids are young [19.00] How we respond sets up a dynamic around behaviour [20.30] Our own stories around lying and how we were responded to [23.22] How do you feel in response to swearing? [26.00] The needs that are being met with swearing [30.20] Games we can use when our child swears [35.40] The power of words This week’s invitation: 1. Would you like to play with swearing and see how it feels for you as an adult? 2. Would you like to tune into how you feel around lying, and your experiences as a child and as an adult with this? Resources: Lawrence Cohen - https://www.playfulparenting.com/ Aletha Solter - Attachment Play Book As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about Discipline and Consequences and how we can raise our children without resorting to bribes, rewards, and punishments. We explore how connection can create co-operation and offer many respectful ways to respond to and navigate unenjoyable behaviour. [3.00] Understanding behaviour [5:25] In balance and out of balance and looking behind the behaviour [8.26] Understanding where discipline originated from [11.15] 3 reasons for behaviour: Thinking, Needing, Feeling [13.03] The mirror within us [14.35] All behaviour has a reason [18.25] Changing the paradigm in our culture around behaviour [21.25] Teenagers, discipline and lying [23.35] The problems with rewards [24.50] Natural consequences and artificial consequences [28.13] How do we all get our needs met? [31.00] How we can elicit co-operation [33.15] How do we support teenagers to want to co-operate [37.45 ] How coercion and powerlessness leads to less willingness [40.11] What do we do if they are doing something we don’t want them to do? [44.45] The power of Loving Limits [48.00] Our fears about what our children may become [51.10] How connection with ourselves assists our child's behaviour [54.11] The impact of repressing our true selves This week’s invitation: 1. Being mindful of the messages we give our children with our responses. 2. Other ways to respond to your children when they are acting out Resources: Alfie Kohn - Punished by Rewards. Unconditional Parenting Aletha Solter - Co-operative and Connected - Marion's courses - https://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Lael’s one on one sessions - [email protected] As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about how to navigate disasters and traumas. With the bushfires currently happening in Australia, we discuss managing our emotional states as well as how to assist our children when tragedy and fear are present. [2.15] Our own personal experiences of living with bushfires [6:05] The benefits of stress hormones [10.00] Gratitude for healing [12.20] Seeing the contrast of what we don’t want [13.30] Using the balance of attention to express feelings [19.00] Disassociation and surviving trauma [23.00] Supporting children to process fear and traumatic events [26.10] Using play to process feelings and events [33.45] Unfavourable behaviour is a sign of accumulated feelings [35.00] Taking care of our nervous system as an adult [37.40] Repression mechanisms as a way to cope [40.30] Supporting children to take action [43.45] Being discerning in what we discuss with children This week’s invitation: 1. Connecting with your Inner loving crew to support you through this time. 2. Be curious about your children and if they need extra support and moving into kindness for yourself. Resources: Beyond Blue for emotional support - beyondblue.org.au/getsupport Tears and Tantrums Book - Aletha Solter Peter Levine and Gina Ross - http://www.ginaross.com/images/emotional_first_aid_brief_guide.pdf? As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about the upcoming holiday season and the feelings that can arise at this time of the year. We include the pressure we can feel as parents and how we can navigating different beliefs and values in families. [2.10] Our own personal imprints around Christmas [4:30] Expectations and disappointments [6.10] Boundaries and consent at Christmas [7.50] Good boys and naughty girls - punishments and rewards [10.30] Keeping magic and fantasy alive [15.00] What do you want to experience and what do you want your child to experience? [16.00] Navigating needs not being met - checking in with ourselves [19.40] Overwhelming feelings for children [23.00] Setting boundaries and limits for ourselves [24.00] Old and new traditions [28.40] Compassion for other family members [31.50] As a parent, how do we get our needs met at Christmas? [35.45] Build up of energy at this time of year [37.20] Brining in gratitude and reflection for the end of the year. This week’s invitation: 1. Deep compassion for ourselves for this festive season and checking in around what messages are we giving to our children. 2. Tuning into our values at this time of the year. Resources: Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Hand in Hand Parenting on navigating holidays - https://www.handinhandparenting.org/ Aha Parenting - https://www.ahaparenting.com/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Siblings In this week's episode we talk about siblings. We look at ways to prepare your older child before bringing a new baby home, and how to navigate fighting and meeting everyone's needs with older children. We also explore our own responses to siblings fighting. [1.20] Understanding the bigger picture around siblings [4:00] Preparing for a new baby in the family [6.50] Preparation beforehand can make the transition easier. [11.00] Signs of feelings in the older child [12.20] Games to play to help children process a new sibling [15.05] Grief around the change of the relationship [18.00] Age gaps in families [24.50] Fighting amongst older children [28.00] Strategies for helping older kids with sibling rivalry [33.38] Sharing us, sharing attention, sharing toys [35.00] Setting limits with fighting [37.10] Looking at our deeper hurts and reactions around fighting [40.45] Navigating fighting with calm and listening. [43.45] Apologies and repairing [45.00] How conflict can create growth [54.00] Our desire for harmony in our family [55.33] Enjoy the ways connection can happen This week’s invitation: 1. Be curious as to what your child is expressing when they are fighting with their sibling. 2. Put yourself in your child's shoes as to what you would like to receive if you are upset or fighting. Resources: Aletha Solter's Books - Tears and Tantrums, Co-operative and Connected Larry Cohen - Playful Parenting As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Food and Control In this week's episode we talk about food and control and how children can use food as a way to repress feelings as well as gain some control in their lives. [1.30] Why food issues can be about control [2:45] Why feelings around food can be confusing [5.30] Food as love [8.05] Trusting our bodies and what we want to eat [11.00] Confusing hunger and feelings [13.45] Compassion for our stories around food [19.00] Bringing awareness to food [21.35] Powerlessness in life and gaining control [23.00] Overeating, boundaries and survival [25.50] Listening to the quality of asking for food [29.35] Attachment Play with Food [33.40] How our digestive system is related to feelings and emotions [37.50] Trust and food and giving power to our children [40.51] Being present in our bodies [45.45] Enjoying food and family [49.00] Compassion for ourselves with our relationship with food. [53.30] Eating with pleasure and love This week’s invitation: 1. Be curious as to your relationship with food 2. Bringing joy, laughter, and love to eating and family time Resources: Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Aletha Solter's Books - Tears and Tantrums, The Aware Baby, Co-operative and Connected As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Trauma and Parenting In this week's episode we talk about parenting when we are carrying our own trauma and how we can navigate raising our children. [1.50] Trauma doesn’t have to be a big event, it can be many unmet feelings [4:25] The invitation to explore feelings and trauma [6.45] What trauma can look like in parenting [9.50] Sadness and trauma and thinking clearly [12.55] Mindfulness and present awareness to identify our own story [16.05] Owning our feelings to our children and ourselves [18.45] Compassion instead of judgment [22.00] Treating our own inner child harshly [23.50] Tools to help ourselves heal from trauma [28.00] Trauma manifesting as fear [32.00] Healing looks different for everyone [34.00] What we are thinking, needing and feeling [37.50] Repairing with our children when there is disconnection [39.00] Generational trauma and what we pass on [42.45] As we express, we allow growth [45.00] Noticing our words and what activates us [48.15] Looking forward to what is possible This week’s invitation: 1. Be curious as to where trauma turns up for you in parenting. What would it look like to lean into further? 2. What is happening for you and your child that reflects trauma and do you want to explore what it reminds you of? Resources: Alice Miller - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Alice_Miller_(psychologist) Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ Peter Levine - https://traumahealing.org/about-us/ Somatic Experiencing - http://www.seaustralia.com.au/what-is-somatic-experiencing/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

Trauma and Children In this week's episode we talk about helping our children navigate and heal from Trauma. [2.11] We all have degrees of trauma or hurt feelings being human. [3:25] Birth and Trauma and what we perceive. [5.56] The spectrum of feelings and our ability to heal. [8.00] Babies in Utero absorbing feelings and how they can heal. [13.00] Co-regulation and healing with children. [15.30] Being with our own feelings to hold others. [20.00] Our reactions when our own trauma or feelings arise [23.00] Monitoring our babies feelings [26.00] Bodywork and extra support for babies and children [28.30] Resources to work with trauma in the body [32.00] Traumas will often show up when a similar situation arises [37.50] Creating a space for our children to move trauma [41.00] Letting the body shake and do what it needs [43.00] Dental Trauma [47.00] Bringing attention to an incident in the moment [48.00] Trusting timing with trauma and safety [51.40] Feeling resourced to listen and healing is always possible [53.06] Our mechanisms to cope when we can’t release Trauma This week’s invitation: 1. Bring some compassion to yourself, hand on your head or heart and take a breathe and check in. 2. What happened for you when there was a trauma, what did you need that you didn’t get and has that repeated in your life. Resources: Aletha Solter - The Aware Baby Aletha Solter - Tears and Tantrums Marions courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ In Utero Film https://www.inuterofilm.com/ The body keeps the score - Bessel Van der Kolk https://www.audible.com.au/pd/The-Body-Keeps-the-Score-Audiobook/0141992646? Polyvagal theory - https://www.stephenporges.com/ Peter Levine - https://traumahealing.org/about-us/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

"Go Away" - what we can do when your child yells at you or tells you to leave. In this week's episode we talk about what we can do when our child yells at us or tells us to leave. How can we handle these situations with respect and connection? [1.20] Navigating boundaries and limits and helping with feelings [2:15] What did it feel like for you? [4.50] Why children yell, "go away" and resist feelings [8.25] The power of teaching our children to experience feelings and let them go [10.45] The crying dance [14.00] Loving limits when children are upset [17.00] Balance of Attention and how to create safety [21.00] Honouring space and quiet when your child asks [24.20] The development of feelings [29.30] "I hate you" and aggressive words [32.50] Boundaries and Consent without touching This week’s invitation: 1. What words and actions would you have loved from your parents when you were upset or told them to "go away"? 2. Observe what it feels like for you as the parent when they say, "Go away" and be curious as to what happens when you lean in closer. Resources: Aletha Solter - Cooperative and Connected and Tears and Tantrums Marion's courses - http://www.marionrose.net/which-course-is-for-you/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode, we talk about Behaviour and Feelings and the three different reasons that draw people to Aware Parenting. One of those three reasons is due to behaviour. Aware Parenting looks at what a child's behaviour is telling us. When we respond with compassion, listening and understanding, we can observe very clear differences in their behaviour. [1.45] What drew us to Aware Parenting [8:45] The third reason families are drawn to Aware Parenting [11.30] How helping our children allows healing with ourselves [16.50] How doing our own work can shift a child’s behaviour [19.30] Shifting your lineage and imprints on parenting [23.00] Fundamental shifts in culture and upbringings [25.00] Challenging our core beliefs through behaviour [26.20] The inner work and the outer work [28.50] There is no perfect parent or child [30.10] Conscious children processing adversity [34.45] Repairing relationships as adults and with our children [37.00] External behaviour is a reflection of the Internal state [40.30] How listening to feelings helps on all levels [43.20] Cooperation comes from connection [47.30] Moving from challenges to ease [51.10.] Meeting our own needs This week’s invitation: 1. Connect in with the 3 things we offered (long term emotional wellbeing, trauma or behaviour) - which has drawn you to Aware Parenting? 2. Be curious around behaviour and feelings. What do you think is going on? Resources: Aletha Solter's Books - Cooperative and Connected and Tears and Tantrums As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode, we talk about Fear and Trust. We discuss how we relate to the world and the impact of that on our children. We invite you to explore whether we choose trust and love or whether default to negativity and fear. [1.20] Why trust is the theme of parenting [5:15] How fear can drive parenting and its imprint on children [7.50] Our own imprints around the world and safety [9.00] Marion's experience of terror and fear [10.25] How we can heal from imprints of negativity or pain [13.00] Practical fears and how they can help us grow [17.00] Trusting trauma and healing [22.55] Healing and Aware Parenting. [24.30] Trusting the world and the lens we look through. [29.00] Everything is an Opportunity [31.40] 3 different mechanisms of healing [34.05] Listening to the body [37.00] What would trust look like? [38.10] External and Internal experiences [41.45] Doing the work for our children [43.00] How fear can become our greatest gifts [49.20 ] Best tips for having these conversations with your children. This week’s invitation: 1. What would you like to hear when Fear turns up for you? 2. Be curious around what messages you are giving to your child. What are the Imprints? Resources: Aletha Solter - Attachment Play Book Marions course - http://www.marionrose.net/online-courses/attachment-play-course/ Larry Cohen - The opposite of Worry (book) Eric Erikson - https://www.simplypsychology.org/Erik-Erikson.html As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode, we talk about Children and Sexuality. We share about how to create healthy imprints in our children and discuss age-appropriate conversations to have with our children to set up a positive relationship with sex and sexuality. [2.40] Why this topic is important to talk about. [5:15] Aware Parenting and respect for bodily autonomy and intimacy. [6.05] Our own imprints around sexuality. [8.27] Conscious touch . [10.25] What did your Sex Education consist of and the impact on you? [12.45] How do we change the paradigm around pleasure? [17.35] Children discovering their bodies. [19.55] Being mindful to not create shame around sexuality. [22.45] Loving limits, safety and boundaries around sexuality. [30.55] Respect in the Aware Parenting paradigm. [31.15] Teachable moments and how we can have conversations around sex with children. [35.15] Repression Mechanisms in Sexuality. [38.00] Opening up discussions around the variations in Sexuality. [39.20] Reading cues with your child around repression mechanisms and tools to assist them. [44.45] Educating our children to be discerning around sexual content and images. [47.00] Helping ourselves by laughing and diffusing our nervousness. [49.20 ] Helpful tips for having these conversations with your children. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into the imprints you had around sexuality. 2. Would you like to use humour or laughter to release any discomfort you have around this topic? Resources: Lael's Webinar on Talking to your Kids about Sex - https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/36173/register Lael's Webinar on Tweens and Teens and Sex ed - https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/87098/register Sex Ed Rescue - https://sexedrescue.com/ Hush Sex Education - https://husheducation.com.au/ Culture Reframed (info around navigating pornography with children) - https://www.culturereframed.org/ Amaze (great resource for kids and parents) - https://amaze.org/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about Raising Men; including the importance of raising boys with emotional awareness and sensitivity, and the difference that can make to families and the planet. [1.30] Why addressing this now is so important for our future. [3:00] Lloyd DeMause and Robin Grille and their perspectives on raising children. [5.15] What is aggression? [6.45] How do we channel strength and aggression in young men? [11.24] The difference between outrage and frustration and anger. [15.50] How do we model for young boys the qualities we want to see? [20.00] The fears parents can have around not using punishments. [23.15] Does harshness make us more loving? [25.15] The need for male role models within sex ed and relationships. [29.30] Supporting our children even when families look different with the masculine and feminine. [35.00] Modelling healthy relationships. [39.15] Helping our children heal when there is aggression. [43.05] Holding the space for teens and big feelings and our inner masculine. [47.08] Models of healthy expression of anger and feelings. [50.50] Rites of passage for boys and men. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into what was your imprint around the masculine? What is your inner loving father like? 2. How do you feel about male energy and aggression and when they cry? Can you be with all those feelings in a male? Resources: Dan Siegel - Book - Brainstorm Robin Grille - Book - Parenting for a peaceful world Aletha Solter - Book - Tears and Tantrums Aletha Solter - Book - Cooperative and Connected Marions Masterclass on Power As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. x Lael and Marion

In this week's episode we talk about Highly Sensitive People and Aware Parenting. What if your child is Highly Sensitive? How can you support them in their sensitivity? [2:30] Understanding and discovering the term Highly Sensitive Person [4:20] The messages around being Highly Sensitive and how it was viewed as being something wrong [6.50] The 4 general aspects of being Highly Sensitive [9.48] The gifts of being Highly Sensitive [14.10] Aware Parenting and being Highly Sensitive [17.20] Trusting our children [20.54] Meeting the needs of a sensitive child [23.00] Learning to say No when sensitive [26.00] Some phrases you can use when others are questioning your child [30.30] Supporting our children in social situations [34.00] Being a Highly Sensitive parent [37.00] Taking care of ourselves [39.49] Practical solutions for our children and ourselves [46.30] Resources and what we may need to hear This week’s invitation: 1. What stories go on for you about yourself or your child being Highly Sensitive? 2. What are the key phrases that you would love to hear? Resources: Highly Sensitive Movie - https://hsperson.com/film/ Elain Aron books - https://hsperson.com/books/ As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. Lael and Marion You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks.

In this week's episode we talk about what Aware Parenting can look like in the future years. If you raise your kids with Aware Parenting, what may they be like as teens? Show Notes : [1:50] The doubts around raising our kids with Aware Parenting [3:15] The difference with kids who may have been raised with punishments and rewards [6:08] What are your experiences of kids who do have punishments [7.55] Being able to express feelings and emotions with safety [10.15] Owning our place as a parent and what we bring to our children [12.18] Our children as mirrors and teachers [13.10] How sibling rivalry feels [16.42] Listening to teens voices [18.15] Looking for deeper connections [21.15] Internal dialogues [24.55] What Indi feels teenagers crave [28.29] Keeping it real - hard bits and good bits. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into your fears and doubts around raising your kids with Aware Parenting and where does Trust sit for you. 2. Remember what it was like as a teenage and what did you wish it looked like and how can you build that with your child. Resources: Lael’s Aware Parenting for Tweens and Teens Webinar : https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/87098/register As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks. Sending you much love, compassion and grace in your parenting journey. Lael and Marion

In this episode, we talk about Separation Anxiety and how you can assist your children through an Aware Parenting lens. [2.01] Global separation anxiety and development [2.57] Maps and Models around behaviour and Separation - 3 main reasons [4.45] Lack of information for children [9.15] Childrens needs with Separation [13.00] Trusting yourself on the right care for your child [15.40] Built up feelings that affect separation [21.03] Practical example of how separation issues from the past can surface [23.40] What is our energy saying around the separation [26.00] What if we hold on to tightly and compassion for ourselves [29.01] Natural timing and highly sensitive children [33.21] How could drop-offs look like at school or kinder or daycare [35.55} Tips for caregivers for a child who is upset [37.05] The beauty of listening to loss [39.20] Attachment play with Separation Games [45.00] Other ideas around helping your child with Separation [50.30] Invitations and Offerings to assist you with Separation This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into what happens for you when you separate from your child. How does your child respond? 2. Do you have old wounds from when you were left as a child? Resources: Marion’s course: Inner Loving Presence Process Course: http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in Lael’s sessions via Skype - [email protected] Emma Dumas Separation Resource - http://www.expandingminds.com.au/ Aletha Solter Books : The Aware Baby, Tears and Tantrums, Cooperative and Connected, Attachment Play As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at www.marionrose.net and Lael at www.laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks. Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey. Lael and Marion

In this episode, we talk about the importance of our own ReParenting whilst practicing Aware Parenting. [1:35] Why it is so important and how our kids show us what we need [6:25] Marion’s processes around healing our own painful stories and how they came about [9:10] How this process helps us bring a deeper quality to our parenting [11.15] How you can identify when your own story is present [13.48] How our children can present our own hurts to heal - mirror projection [16.20] Seeing our stories becomes so empowering [18.45] Why compassion matters so much [20.10] Steps to looking at the feelings and the cartography of the psyche [24.14] Quick hack to help you get to the core of the feelings [25.11] Flooding and how to help ourselves [28.22] Steps and questions to ask ourselves when we have painful feelings arising [33.30] What we want to hear and how we repair [34.30] Lael shares how she did this process with a situation with her daughter [42.00] Owning our calm, compassionate space [44.00] Accessing help to support you on this reparenting. This week’s invitation: 1. Tune into what happens for you when you feel like you are losing your power or needing to explore stuff. Ask yourself how old am I now? 2. If you are feeling flooded or overwhelmed, reach out to an empathy buddy, professional counsellor to support you. Resources: Marion’s course: Inner Loving Presence Process Course: www.innerlovingpresenceprocess.com Lael’s Aware Parenting Facebook events page: https://www.facebook.com/pg/laelstone/events/ or sessions via Skype - [email protected] As always, you can head over to the Aware Parenting Podcast Facebook group and join in the discussion, or you’ll find us on Instagram @theawareparentingpodcast You can find Marion at marionrose.net and Lael at laelstone.com.au And if you haven’t already, make sure you subscribe to the podcast so we can pop into your podcast feed every two weeks. Sending you much love, compassion, and grace in your parenting journey. Lael and Marion

Episode 16: Hitting and Biting by Marion Rose, PhD.

In this episode, we talk all about powerlessness, power-over and power-with in parenting, politics and partnering. We discuss the differences between authoritarian, permissive and democratic parenting, and how much we've been affected by the domination paradigm. We also share our own experiences around powerlessness and power-with in parenting and partnering. Resources: Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter. Lael's webinar on Aware Parenting for Teens and Tweens: https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/live-webinars/87098/register Marion's Power and Powerlessness offerings: Free intro to Power and Powerlessness in Parenting: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/ Powerlessness, Power-over and Power-with in Parenting Masterclass https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/powerlessness-power-over-and-power-with-in-parenting-masterclass/ Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation

In this episode, we talk about attachment play, which is a term coined by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. to describe the 9 types of play that can be used to help children cooperate, feel connected, heal from painful past experiences, release fear and powerlessness, and express feelings that otherwise lead to hitting, not sleeping and repressing feelings. We explain how attachment play works, why it’s the opposite of behaviourism, how we can use it to help children cooperate, and we give examples of how it can be used in really specific ways. Most of all, it brings more connection, joy and fun into family life! Further resources: Attachment Play by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. http://www.awareparenting.com/attachmentplay.html Attachment Play Course by Marion Rose, Ph.D. http://www.attachmentplaycourses.com/join-in Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen

In this episode, we talk about the importance of us having emotional support as parents in order to increase our capacity to parent in this way. We include: Presence; The power of listening; Empathy buddies; and Professional support. Listening Partnerships - Carolina Valenica Coleman https://www.facebook.com/groups/2562318203992646/

In this episode, we talk about repression mechanisms - what they are, how our children acquire them, how they're passed down in families, and how we can help our children have fewer of them! Books: Raising Drug-Free Kids by Aletha Solter

In this episode, we talk about relationships within the context of Aware Parenting, including: co-parenting, divorce, intimacy, and long term relationships. We talk about one parent practicing Aware Parenting when the other parent isn't on board and navigating Aware Parenting with a wider family who don't understand or don't resonate. We also talk about the importance of our inner relationships and doing our own Inner parenting work.

In this episode, we talk about our very different experiences of learning and education as parents. Lael's three children have all been to school, and she has been developing a new school in Victoria, Australia, which is based on Aware Parenting philosophies. Marion's two children have never been to school. What we both love about Aware Parenting is that we can apply it to whatever our choices are around eduction, to support our children in their unique learning journeys. Resources: Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter The Homework Myth by Alfie Kohn The Element by Ken Robinson Woodline Primary School - www.woodlineprimary.com.au

In this episode, we talk about how different life can be, practicing Aware Parenting with tweens and teens. Further resources: Lael’s webinars - Aware Parenting with tweens and teens & How to Talk to your Kids about Sex, both at: https://www.facebook.com/laelstone/ Brainstorm - Dan Seigel Sex ed rescue - https://sexedrescue.com/. Raising Drug-Free Kids by Aletha Solter

In this episode, we talk about: saying no, choice, cooperation, wilfulness and consent. We also share how this is relevant to tantrums and the expression of rage and powerlessness. We invite you to connect with your yeses and no’s and to support your children in expressing these too. More information: The Wonder of Willingness Course https://www.thewonderofwillingness.com Are you Willing? ebook: www.bit.ly/are-you-willing Lael’s webcast on How to talk to your kids about sex on Lael’s FB page: https://www.facebook.com/commerce/products/1680233788762249/

In this episode, we talk empathic and effective alternatives to punishments and rewards. We discuss the cultural background of punishments and rewards. We share about compliance and the impact on children of punishments and shaming, and the ‘good girl and good boy’ syndrome. We offer how we can help our children want to cooperate, contribute, apologise and repair because they feel those things from the inside. We also explore the long term effects of punishments, and how punishment in childhood leads to inner punishment in adulthood - the harsh thoughts, the shame, the guilt and the judgment. We ask, "How would you like your child’s inner dialogue to be?" Books: Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter Punished by Rewards by Alfie Kohn

In this episode, we talk about toddlers and tantrums, but what we share is also relevant to children of all ages. We discuss the importance of listening to a child's feelings, and what can be required from us as parents to be able to do that. Resources: Power and Powerlessness in Parenting Course: http://www.powerandpowerlessnessinparenting.com/invitation/ Intro to Aware Parenting Webinar with Lael https://laelstone.webinarninja.com/webinars/51777/register Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter Playful Parenting by Lawrence Cohen Listen by Patty Wipfler and Tosha Schore

In this episode, we talk about sleep from an Aware Parenting perspective. Aware Parenting offers a third way with sleep - a way for babies and children to be securely attached AND to sleep restfully. We explain what gets in the way of sleep, the three things needed for restful sleep, and how as parents we can often be fighting our children's natural relaxation mechanisms. Books: The Aware Baby, Tears and Tantrums and Attachment Play - all by Aletha Solter, Ph.D. Free intro: https://www.soundasleep.me/ Course: http://www.soundasleep.me/invitation/

In this episode, we talk all about guilt in motherhood. We look at why guilt is so common, the cultural cause of guilt, and what we can do to get free from guilt without spending all day on the sofa watching Netflix! https://www.cnvc.org/ https://marionrose.samcart.com/products/get-free-from-guilt-for-good/

In this episode, we talk about the short term and long term effects of listening to a baby’s feelings. Books: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter. Tears and Tantrums by Aletha Solter. Cooperative and Connected by Aletha Solter. Babies have real feelings ebook: http://www.awareparentingbabies.com/babies-have-real-feelings/

In this episode, we discuss why birth matters and its impact on our lives. We explore how birthing mothers birthing can feel as well as what babies may feel. We look at prenatal psychology and the awareness that babies are born with. We discuss why birth can often play out the way it needs for the baby for healing and learning from a bigger perspective. We also talk about honouring the mother's journey and feeling fear in pregnancy. We talk about birth trauma and healing for mother and baby as well as why babies may cry and how we can meet their needs. We also discuss how babies and children know what they need to do to heal. Book: The Aware Baby by Aletha Solter www.stanislavgrof.com www.aboutbirth.com.au www.calmbirth.com.au

In this episode, we introduce ourselves and our journey with Aware Parenting. You can find out more about Lael at: www.laelstone.com.au and Marion at: www.marionrose.net For more info on Aware Parenting and Aletha Solter take a look at : http://www.awareparenting.com/