Tell Me About Your Kids

Special Education consultant Lisa Stewart helps parents navigate the difficult waters of their children’s school careers when they don’t “fit the mold”. Ever had to communicate with your child’s school about lagging work, behavioral problems or decipher an I.E.P. or a 504 plan? Advocating for your child can feel like trying to tread water at best. It can be an intimidating, overwhelming job for which very few parents are qualified. Special ed. consultants can advocate for you advocating for your child. Lisa M. Stewart Stewart Special Ed. Consulting, LLCwww.stewartspecialedconsulting.com603-209-4821Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio BooksThe Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Jean’s son has recently declared new pronouns, a new name, and a pan-sexual identity. They are there; the thinking and deciding has been done. But Jean and her husband are finding the change a bit daunting and are slower to climb on board with the correct terminology. Thirteen years of having a son with your chosen name is difficult to let go of and does not come without grieving a loss. We discuss how to accommodate each other with respect and mutual understanding so Jean no longer feels “cancelled in her own home”.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio BooksThe Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Among Willa’s “lots of kids”, her thirteen-year-old son, Dennis, is her biggest challenge. With an ADD personality and a brain going in all directions, this dysregulated teen looking for independence appears only to attract trouble. Being the “odd-one out” in his family, Dennis feels alone. The result is that Willa, a normally calm, caring mom, has ended this covid academic year exhausted and exacerbated. Structure proved to be what Dennis needed to succeed in school but now the summer is here and already chaos has reigned.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio BooksThe Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Patricia is worried about her 7 1/2 yo son who she sees almost as a split personality. On one hand he has many strengths—he is extremely bright, perceptive and mature. On the other he is strong-headed and refuses to do what he doesn’t want. In most areas, she sees his strength, but in the food department, she sees his strong will as a weakness. Her fears are telling him not to trust himself when it comes to food choices—a message that could cause damage on down the line. Whatever the area of control, the lesson is to stand back from engaging in a fight and listen to your child. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio BooksThe Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Your kids need you to be in charge. They also don’t like to be told what to do. How do you find the right balance between the two? When do you push and when do you pull back? There-in lies the challenge of parenting. But when you understand what you can appropriately expect, finding that balance gets easier.These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio BooksThe Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Seven year old Maeve has big emotional upheavals that clash with her father’s Aspergers presentation of calm and collected. Edward longs to be the involved parent his wife is but his non-emotional way of presenting comes across harsh and uncaring. And Lee’s desire for all to be heard and get along makes it hard for her to say no. Maeve is caught in the middle. Sometimes conscientious parents can work too hard. Referred to episodes: (will you put links in here please)5/27/21 #44 Be the Coach not the Referee5/13/21 #42 Puzzle Pieces – Your Kids are Not Disrespecting YouOther sibling related episodes:4/29/21 #40 Controlling the Fight2/11/21 #29 Standing Outside Your Children’s Problems12/1/20 #20 When Sibling Fights Trigger Parent Anger8/4/20 #3 Drowning in HumansBonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio BooksThe Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

14-year-old Andrew, an only child has been cocooning with his single mother over the past pandemic year and is showing signs of stress in anticipation of moving out into the world. We have no guidelines for how we do this—to mask or not to mask…. An already anxious kid who learned early on that his introversion was not okay with his father struggles with how it’s all going to happen. Fortunately, he has a strong connection and relationship with his mom.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio BooksThe Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Deanna and Ed want their young sons to grow up to be strong, independent and best friends. We all want our kids to be friends—but how do you make that happen? The answer is you can’t. But you can work with them to learn how to solve their own problems so they don’t fight over you and spend a lot of time defending themselves and chalking up points against the other.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Shyness is a character trait; it’s not a choice. Ashley’s 10 and 14 year olds are both extremely shy, as is Ashley. Ashley sees traits in them that she abhorred about herself and worked to change and their dad, outgoing and social, just thinks they’re rude. “Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking,” by Susan Cain - https://www.amazon.com/Quiet-Power-Introverts-World-Talking/dp/0307352153/ref=sr_1_1?crid=VGGFF9LX88NW&dchild=1&keywords=quiet+susan+cain&qid=1621200592&s=books&sprefix=Quiet%2Cstripbooks%2C202&sr=1-1Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Email: [email protected]: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing.It does no good to approach kids from the point of view that they are being disrespectful. What’s really going on is that your child is probably doing something he wants and is frustrated at being talked at or told to do something he doesn’t want. Bonnie walks you through what is actually happening that has nothing to do with disrespect. Kids are just doing what they want and don’t want to stop. It’s your job to motivate them to cooperate. Calling them disrespectful doesn’t help.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: https://[email protected] Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Shannon’s twelve year old son has never been okay with his younger sister. It’s as if her birth took something from him that he hasn’t been able to get back. Something broke in him. Trying to get him to be happier and see things differently may only be making things worse. Send an email to [email protected] and let us know what you're doing when you listen to the podcast!Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: https://[email protected] Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Renee and Gary have different perspectives on their sons’ sibling fights. But both agree the oldest, their Harmony Child, is getting the worst of it from the younger Integrity Child. Their task is in how to allow their boys to fight the good fight while supporting and guiding them to work out those fights.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Worried your picky eater isn’t getting the right nutrition? Do you have a sugar junkie? Do you see the effects of food in your child’s behavior? Learn how food and nutrition shows up in your child’s behavior from an expert in functional medicine.Website: https://chriskresser.com – sign up for Chris’ newsletterPodcast: Revolution Health RadioStar Institute: https://sensoryhealth.org/basic/occupational-therapy-for-childrenTell Me About Your Kids 12/22/20 episode: Eat Your Peas or No Dessert – to learn how to end mealtime battlesBonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

From the consequences of consequences, to relationship and consideration, to inappropriate text messaging, to role playing, Victoria, mother of 7 and 10 year old girls, and I cover a broad range of issues she is managing with her tween. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Michael is a dad of seven and ten year old kids who push him to his limit. When pushed, he pushes back engaging in endless power struggles. The fight required becomes an ongoing loop of frustration and anger continually fueling the opponent. To step out of the power struggle, Michael knows, is to take responsibility for himself and his problems. Easier said than done.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books:The Buttons Audio Course Counseling/CoachingAll books and audiobooks can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

When 12 yr. old Avery complains to her mother about friends who are mean and criticize the way she looks, Heather gets overwhelmed by the magnitude. When Avery is feeling down her reactions get misinterpreted by her mother. When Heather’s button gets pushed, she sees her daughter turning into a brat. But she has learned that she can step back, reframe and find the truth—her daughter is not being a brat, she’s having a hard time. With this understanding, connection can happen. Now Heather needs to learn that she cannot take away her daughter’s struggles, she can only support her in her journey—but that’s all Avery needs. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finchwww.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing.Steps to take after a button-pushing incident. Do this work when you’re calm. 1. Recognize that your buttons are yours. Own them. 2. Write down your reactions. Did you yell, threaten? What did you do?3. Write your emotions. Did you feel hopeless, enraged, resentful, etc?4. What are the assumptions you made? Ask yourself, If I felt that way, what must I have been thinking?5. Identify your assumptions and know they are not the truth; they are your perceptions.6. Reframe your assumptions by stating facts of the situation or a different perception that leads to more compassion.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com All books, products, and services can be purchased here: https://bonnieharris.com/shop/Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (workbook available) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With Audio Books: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live WithThe Buttons Audio Course (includes workbook)Counseling/CoachingProduced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finchwww.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Ashley has 4 girls – the second to youngest is her Integrity Child who pushes her mother to the brink when she is trying so hard to understand why her daughter behaves so differently from the other three. Four girls plus Covid, and Ashley just wants things to change so her defiant one can be more manageable. Related podcast, episode #14 — Puzzle Pieces #1: “Why Would You Do That?” More about understanding the meaning of behavior and why addressing the behavior alone misses the mark.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Lauren is working out the fine-tuning of her parenting with her questions of what she has the right to want for herself vs her fear of not doing enough for her children. This episode grapples with the difficult daily decisions of, when do I sacrifice my needs for my child? and when do I put myself first with self-care? Where does my parental authority come in to play and where do I hand it over to my child? Strength comes for Lauren in knowing what she wants, what she has a right to—something important to model for her kids.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Covid-related fears and worries are depleting Anne and Kevin so that by bedtime they are fried. Their three girls scramble for their parents’ attention while the parents are left feeling impatient, frustrated and angry. When worries are covered up, integrity kids like Grace see right through it and grab for attention. Unfortunately, her attempts only provoke more impatience and yelling. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

A third grade teacher describes her experiences teaching both remotely and in person during these times of Covid. She shares her frustrations and delights, how she sees her children doing both online and in the classroom, and offers some advice for parents during these hectic times.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Gretchen wants her adolescent son to launch into his teen years with all the good work/study habits she thinks will get him far. Don’t we all. The problem is that’s her agenda. She has to trust her son to work out his own with more guidance and less advice.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Alan and Angela are exhausted by fear that their children are not getting their needs met during Covid isolation. Their boys fight more in close quarters. They must have friends and opportunities that are not possible to provide during these times. Alan and Angela feel like failures. What they need to know is that what their 3 children need most is parents who can see them through these tough times rather than parents exhausted from the mental anguish of trying to fix it all.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Karina is worn down by the willfulness of her 5 yr. old who not only resists her warnings but seems goaded by them. What she doesn’t want him to do is exactly what he does—and models for his 1 ½ yr. old sister. She reflexively throws out threats and punishments in her attempt to get him to listen. But ends up feeling horrible afterwards. “I’m going to do it anyway” has become his behavior of choice. We find a way to go with that to encourage behavior.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing.Bonnie and Adam hash over her 4 main steps to insuring connection with your kids right through the teen years—and the best chance of avoiding everything you fear coming with them. Simple but not easy as Adam, as always, hilariously points out. Trust is way more than a one-way street. Once you get the image of an IV into your children’s arms, you won’t forget it.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Rob and Claire’s eleven year old son is feeling the effects of both Covid and more screentime than usual. His emotions are easily triggered and distorted, angering his father and scaring his mother. Both Claire and Zach’s thinking lead to catastrophizing, while Rob wants to be listened to. This world, while quite “normal” these days, can send a tween or a teen into the bliss zone of cyberspace.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Christina is, rightly so, trying to get her 10 and 15 year olds to help out more at home. Her very busy life doesn’t have time to do it all. But she and her kids have been in a feedback loop of resentment, anger and guilt that triggers everyone into disconnect. Why should I? Why can’t you just…? You should know better…. are the questions spinning in Christina’s head that instantly and automatically create that disconnect.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Most parenting partners face conflict about how to handle the kids. Conflict quickly triggers anger, resentment and blame. Rarely does the necessary conversation happen after emotions are cooled. Anger and resentment get squashed—but not forgotten. In this first Community Pieces episode, Bonnie talks with mediator and conflict resolution coach, Adar Cohen, who leads big conversations in conflict zones and in family rooms. Bonnie and Adar discuss both the approach and the how-to of the big conversation so understanding results. Listening well is the quickest way to being heard.Find out more about Adar here:adarcohen.comTwitter: @DrAdarCohenHow to Have a Difficult Conversation (a step by step guide)https://psyche.co/guides/use-mediation-techniques-to-overcome-the-muck-of-blame-and-angerTED talkhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LZu16ZaLgJMBonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Thank you for listening to Tell Me About Your Kids in 2020! You've made this podcast a success in so many ways. Stay tuned for all the great episodes we have coming up in 2021. Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

2020 ends with a lesson on relationship. Tracy’s children are not too young to begin this important process. Most parents naturally get hung up on what is important to teach and get stuck in the minutia of daily life and chaos with young kids. We forget that the main thing we want our children to learn is to be respectful and considerate. Tracy gets a reminder of this important aspect of parenting and how her issue with getting toys picked up blocks her needed focus on developing a mutually respectful relationship.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Emily has gotten into a habit of using candy and sweets to get her three kids to eat a bite of everything on their plate. Her intention is good, but she learns that the lesson she is teaching may not be the lesson she wants them to learn. The goal gets lost when the immediate desire is front and center.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Six-year-old Luke is having trouble staying focused with remote learning. He “despises” reading and multiple times a day bemoans that he’s stupid and his mom hates him, much to Ariel’s bewilderment. She of course worries about his self-confidence and tries to convince him that he’s wrong. But her worry about Luke keeps Ariel from seeing what she unintentionally projects onto Luke that contributes to his lack of self-confidence.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

These once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing.Adam and Bonnie discuss the art (and pit-falls) of problem solving—the most important skill you can learn as a parent and teach your children. We also talk about your parent authority, when to use it and when not. And boundaries—understanding whose job or problem is whose so your child doesn’t have to take responsibility for you.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Julie returns to the podcast (see Sibling Rivalry eps. 8 and 9) with a deeper layer exposed. We now look at why she gets so mad when her boys fight. She knows the fights are over nothing, she knows they can probably work it out, but she can’t stand the fighting, which triggers her rage and feeling out of control. Hang in till the end.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Lauren’s two boys, 7 and 11 are good examples of Integrity and Harmony kids. Jack’s easy-going, cooperative nature makes Lauren and her husband all the more determined to try to control the younger Bobby, whose attention-grabbing, highly frustrating behaviors are getting him in trouble at school. His parents are beginning to see him as the problem.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Anne and her 10 year old son live alone while she and her husband have a trial separation. In her desire to protect her son from what she experienced at 10, Anne controls the environment of their home to unconsciously insure the peace and calm she thinks necessary to prevent the hurt and danger she fears from any amount of disruption.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

We may all be sharing the same pandemic but how we each deal with it is infinitely different. It comes down to relationship—relationship with yourself, with your partner, with each child. Being thrown together in this pandemic pushes relationships to the ultimate test. Can I live with myself, can I live with you, without exhausting struggles? Do you feel trapped and forced or do you see this as an opportunity? Do you drain out day after day or actively refuel?Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Two kids, two temperaments, two developmental stages experience the death of their father. Leah is managing as best she can to accommodate her children’s experience of that death. But the younger child was only 2.5 – hard to know what the emotional effect of that death had on him. Sometimes an adult perspective can skew what is not understood about a very undeveloped brain and therefore behavioral cues can be misinterpreted.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Jane’s teenage son is pulling away, getting secretive, dropping grades, and numbing out in his room on his computer. This common scenario typically provokes fear in parents leading to clutching, micromanaging, blame, and coming down harder with restrictions, and sending messages that love and acceptance is given when behavior and grades improve—exactly the opposite of what is needed. This is unintentional of course—but Ned’s behavior signals the intention he feels.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Puzzle PiecesThese once in a while episodes are concepts Bonnie has developed over the years that she discusses and ponders with her producer, Adam. They are critical pieces needed to fit together to form the big picture of a connected family. It’s when some of these pieces are missing that parents feel the most frustrated and drained in their attempts at controlling their children. Finding their places in the puzzle can be life changing.#1 “Why Would You Do That?” Understanding BehaviorOur culture doesn’t understand what behavior is, what it shows us, and what we need to do to have an effect on it. Listen in to learn how to have the most influence on your child’s unwanted behavior. Hint: It’s not punishment or consequences.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Amy and John have a 4.5 year old integrity child who has gotten into a rather rough physical fight with her best friend. Fiona also seems to be “refusing” to use the toilet. Where does keeping secrets fit in the picture of Fiona’s desires?Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

This is part 2 of Bonnie's conversation with Mackenzie.Bonnie’s descriptions of “Integrity and Harmony” kids come from the 30 years of research done on the “Orchid and Dandelion” children which she discusses in Pt. 2. And we hear how Mackenzie puts her learning into practice to help her son trust his mom and feel heard.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Mackenzie’s parenting turned a major corner when she understood that her very demanding, exhausting son is what Bonnie calls an “Integrity Child”. This revolutionary understanding about the child who “won’t take no for an answer” can flip your mindset so compassion and understanding replaces anger, criticism, and frustrated attempts to get this child to change. And when battles stop, the integrity child can remove his armor.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Whether anxiety or worry, childhood can be torture for a sensitive child and trying to fix it can be a parent’s full-time job. In this pre-covid recorded segment, Bonnie encourages Sarah to validate her daughter’s anxious concerns rather than giving reassurance or protection. Before Nora can move out of her stuckness, she needs to feel normal rather than a problem. We talk about the difference between sympathy and empathy—each parent tends toward a different one—and how one can exacerbate the problem and the other help diffuse it.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Julie learns the No-Blame skill that will help her children learn from the natural consequences of their actions when that wall of defense is no longer needed. Much of the burden of parenting comes from the judgments, perceptions and expectations swirling around in your head telling you you’re not doing it right or your children will grow up to hate each other. In this episode Bonnie helps Julie see the mindset shift that releases much of that burden Julie is not even aware she is carrying.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Julie wants her boys’ fights to “just stop” and tells them so. That’s as far as she's gotten. In this episode Bonnie helps her see how she unintentionally perpetuates the fighting with blame and finds herself pulled into “The Triangle Game” pitting her kids against each other to win her favor. When she fears the worst, it comes out in blame. When Julie is able to stop projecting her own experience onto her older son and see both her boys from a new perspective, dynamics in the family will change.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

More with Morgan, mother of 2 1/2 and 5 year old boys, as we listen to the difficulty she has dealing with her son’s unacceptable, aggressive behavior when the eyes of others are watching and take priority over the needs of her son. We worked thru how to handle parenting in public with strength.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Understanding her 5 year old son’s natural impulsivity and developmental lack of self-control is critical for Morgan to remain calm and thus effective in the face of her son’s aggressive behavior—especially when she feels as much anger as her son while trying desperately to hide it.Part Two coming next week!Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

In light of “The Decision” that is facing parents all over the world, Bonnie and Adam discuss the difficulty and the complexity of what families are dealing with approaching the weird new school year. Adam shares the convoluted layers that he and his family navigated in prioritizing their decision.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com

Today Bonnie talks to Katherine. A single mom trying to keep her parents and her teen daughter safe from Covid 19, yet missing the responsibility she is transferring onto her capable daughter whose anger is simmering just under the surface.Bonnie Harris, MS.Ed., director of Connective Parenting, 30+ years of coaching, teaching, and writing for parents. Website: bonnieharris.com - https://bonnieharris.comBooks: When Your Kids Push Your Buttons (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/when-your-kids-push-your-buttons/) Confident Parents, Remarkable Kids: 8 Principles for Raising Kids You’ll Love to Live With (https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/confident-parents-remarkable-kids/)Audio books: https://bonnieharris.com/books-etc/audio-book-downloads/ Produced, mixed, and scored by Echo Finch www.echofinch.com This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit connectiveparenting.substack.com