Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast

In this episode of The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki and Pete dive into the complexities of planning with ADHD, launching their series based on their new book, Unapologetically ADHD: A Step-By-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your Terms. They explore the unique challenges ADHD presents in organizing daily life, focusing on executive functions such as organization, prioritization, and time management. These cognitive skills are crucial for planning but often become hurdles for those with ADHD, leading to high expectations, disappointment, and shame spirals.Nikki and Pete discuss how traditional planning methods fall short for those with ADHD, emphasizing the importance of adapting strategies to fit individual needs. They highlight the need for trusted systems, like a reliable calendar or task manager, to keep tasks and projects organized. The hosts share insights into the ADHD mind's struggle with prioritization, where everything feels urgent, and time management, where perceptions of time are skewed. By understanding these challenges, listeners can begin to develop more realistic and supportive planning habits.The episode also touches on the concept of radical acceptance, encouraging listeners to embrace their ADHD and plan their days accordingly. Nikki and Pete advocate for self-compassion and flexibility, allowing planning to guide rather than constrain. Their mission is to help listeners understand and support their ADHD, creating a resilient approach to daily life that accommodates the unpredictable nature of the condition.Links & NotesGet the book at your store of choice right hereDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:28) - Unapologetically ADHD is Here! ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on the show we tackle the challenges of overwhelm and over-commitment!There are a bunch of factors that contribute to feeling overwhelmed that are exacerbated by our ADHD. We take on too many responsibilities. We have a difficulty saying no. We suffer the constant pressure to keep up with demands. We discuss the negative impact of over-commitment on mental health, relationships, and overall well-being, emphasizing the importance of setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care.Throughout the conversation, we’ve got some practical strategies for managing overwhelm and preventing over-commitment. We share tips on how to assess your current commitments, clarify your priorities, and learn to say no when necessary. We also explore the benefits of delegating tasks, breaking projects into smaller, manageable steps, and creating realistic schedules that allow for flexibility and downtime.It's okay to admit when you've taken on too much and that seeking support is a sign of strength. We encourage you to be kind to yourself, celebrate your accomplishments, and embrace the power of intentional decision-making.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:25) - Support the Show! Become a Patron at patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (03:13) - Overwhelm & Overcommitment (20:12) - Boundaries and the Spirit of Optimism ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on the show, Nikki and Pete dive into the unique challenges of navigating the emotional rollercoaster of ADHD with guest Brooke Schnittman. Brooke, an ADHD coach with a background in education, is expert in the concepts of overwhelm and underwhelm, two extremes that often go hand-in-hand for those with ADHD. She explains that underwhelm, or boredom, can result from burnout after periods of overwhelm or a lack of interest and connection to a task. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the "why" behind tasks and breaking them down into small, manageable steps to build momentum and motivation.Pete and Brooke also discuss the role of executive function deficits in preventing individuals with ADHD from recognizing and addressing their basic needs, such as hydration, sleep, and self-care. Brooke highlights Dr. Thomas Brown's six executive function clusters and how deficits in these areas can contribute to both overwhelm and underwhelm.Throughout the episode, Brooke offers insights and strategies for managing these emotional extremes, such as preparing for potential setbacks, attaching oneself to small actions to regain momentum, and practicing self-compassion. The hosts and guest explore the overlapping triggers for both overwhelm and underwhelm, emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and developing coping mechanisms to navigate the challenges of ADHD.Links & NotesDr. Thomas Brown's model of the six executive function clustersActivate Your ADHD Potential by Brooke SchnittmanDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (00:54) - Support the Show • Become a Member! (02:01) - Introducing Brooke Schnittman (04:54) - Underwhelm (16:46) - The Executive Function Deficit and Maslow (37:40) - Activate Your ADHD Potential ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright discuss changing your mind and the challenges it presents for those with ADHD. Nikki shares a personal experience from her recent declutter challenge, during which she felt the urge to switch gears and focus on a different project—organizing and hanging photo frames. This shift in focus prompted a discussion about the difficulties of changing course and the feelings of failure that often accompany such decisions for individuals with ADHD.Nikki and Pete explore the concept of black-and-white thinking, also known as all-or-nothing or absolute thinking, and how it can lead to self-judgment and self-loathing when faced with the opportunity to change one's mind. They discuss various cognitive distortions, such as overgeneralization, mental filters, and emotional reasoning, which can contribute to these negative thought patterns.They discuss the sunk cost fallacy, the tendency to continue doing something because of the time and effort invested, even if it's no longer beneficial. Nikki shares a relatable example involving an unfinished 2,000-piece puzzle and an upcoming furniture delivery, highlighting the importance of self-compassion and reframing the concept of "finishing" in a more ADHD-friendly way.Throughout the episode, Nikki and Pete emphasize the significance of self-awareness, flexibility, and healthy self-talk when navigating the challenges of changing one's mind. If you’re stuck, it might be time to redefine goals, be kind, and understand that it's okay to adjust course when necessary.Links & NotesOrder “Unapologetically ADHD” by Nikki Kinzer and Pete WrightDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:44) - Support the Show: Become a Patron! (02:59) - It's OK to Change Your Mind ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Grab your virtual feather duster and join us as we embark on a quest to vanquish digital disorder in the season premiere of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast. That’s right… we’re tackling the ever-growing challenge of managing the countless files, documents, and browser tabs that threaten to overwhelm our devices and our minds.Digital clutter can be a sneaky foe. Consider the statistic from Microsoft: 57% of US office workers struggle to quickly locate files and documents. And while we’re at it, let’s ponder the perplexing difference between how we organize physical papers versus digital files. But fear not, dear listener! We are here to save the day with a treasure trove of practical tips and strategies for taming digital disorder. We’ll guide you through the art of creating logical folder hierarchies, establishing consistent file naming conventions, and using browser features like pinned tabs and tab groups.The episode concludes with a tantalizing tease about a mystery tool we believe could be a digital game-changer for many listeners. Curious? You'll have to tune in to find out more!Links & NotesUse Pinned Tabs in ChromeOne TabDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:15) - Support the Show: Become a Member! (04:42) - Ari Tuckman's Productivity Mastery Course (05:48) - Digital Clutter (18:36) - Tabs (20:44) - Tab Management Built In to your Browser (23:20) - OneTab -> This is that one thing... (28:19) - Strategies for Clean-up (29:37) - DevonTHINK & Zoot (30:53) - Hazel & File Juggler ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

New season, new trailer! For you new listeners just checking us out, welcome! We're thrilled to have you!Join the Community: https://takecontroladhd.com/discordPinterest, Instagram, Facebook: @takecontroladhd ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We've reached the end of our 28th season of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, and the final part of our 3-part series on organizing and ADHD. In this episode, we discuss the important but often challenging topic of maintaining organization.As Nikki points out, staying perfectly organized is unrealistic if you actually live in and use your space. Things will inevitably get messier over time. However, she emphasizes that re-organizing a space gets easier each time you do it, because you've already made key decisions about what to keep and where things belong. The frustration of seeing a space get cluttered again is normal, but it's important to reframe negative self-talk that makes you want to just give up on organizing altogether.We discuss some red flags that indicate when it's time to dedicate a block of time to tidying up a space again - like when you can no longer find important items, have to re-purchase things you already own, or flat surfaces become covered in clutter. I reflect on the importance of evaluating and revising the "rules" and behaviors around your spaces when you organize. For the system to work long-term, everyone in the household needs a shared understanding of where things belong. We commiserate over the apparently-universal experience of using stairs as a dumping ground for items that need to go to other levels.Finally, we go over some general guidelines for keeping spaces maintained:Doing a quick 10-minute tidy-up whenever you canPurging unused items on a semi-regular basis, like every seasonHaving dedicated spots for items you frequently set down, like a bowl for your wallet and keysConsidering storage space before making new purchasesWhile we may not always follow our own great advice, reflecting on these principles can help you feel more in control of your space and your stuff. Here's to progress, not perfection, as we continue to navigate life with ADHD. (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:44) - The Road So Far... (04:31) - The Secret to Staying Organized ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on the show we dive into the key principles for getting and staying organized when you have ADHD, following up on our conversation last week about decluttering spaces.We really want to drive home that organization is more about function than perfection. The whole point is being able to find what you need when you need it. We advise against buying organizing products without a clear purpose, because let's face it, they can just become more clutter.Making things easy to access and see is super important. We recommend using shelves, racks, and step stools to make the most of your vertical space. Try not to overstuff your bins, so they stay easy to pull out. Creative solutions like hooks and open bins can work wonders for those of us with ADHD.Remember, organizing is an ongoing process. Start small, focus on function over form, and create systems that work with your natural habits and tendencies – that's how you make them stick. As we like to say, for everything, there is a place … and for every place, there is a purpose. (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:49) - Organizing Principles ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on the show, we tackle the daunting task of decluttering for those with ADHD. With our upcoming Declutter Challenge in July, we invite you to join a supportive community and gamify your decluttering process alongside us.As we dive into the episode, we share the importance of starting small and focusing on one space at a time to avoid feeling overwhelmed. We guide you through our four-step process of organizing any space: planning, sorting, organizing, and maintaining. We help you choose a space that would have the biggest impact on your daily life and offer practical tips on how to sort through your belongings efficiently.We also explore the emotional aspects of decluttering, recognizing when it's time to take a break and how to deal with feelings of guilt or obligation when letting go of items. We provide a list of questions for you to ask yourself during the sorting process to help you make those tough decisions.Remember: perfection is not the goal and that progress should be celebrated!If you're struggling with ADHD and the challenges of decluttering, this episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast offers valuable insights and practical strategies to make the process more manageable and rewarding. Join us as we explore the upcoming Declutter Challenge and learn how to take the first steps towards a more organized life together.Links & NotesThe 2024 ADHD De-Clutter Challenge! — Take Control ADHDConquering Chronic Disorganization by Judith KolbergThe Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up: The Japanese Art of Decluttering and Organizing by Marie KondoUnapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your Terms by Nikki Kinzer and Pete WrightDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:30) - Support This Podcast: Become a Patron at https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (04:14) - The 2024 Declutter Challenge (09:14) - The Steps of Organizing ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode of The ADHD Podcast, hosts Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer welcome a special guest - Dr. Russell Ramsay, co-founder and former co-director of the University of Pennsylvania's Adult ADHD Treatment and Research Program.Dr. Ramsay shares his insights into the complex interactions between ADHD and anxiety, two disorders that frequently coexist. He discusses how ADHD can be an "anxiety generator," with its intrinsic characteristics fueling feelings of uncertainty and perceived risk.From a cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) perspective, Dr. Ramsay explores how thoughts, feelings, and behaviors intertwine in ADHD and anxiety. He highlights the importance of pausing, reflecting, and developing self-awareness to navigate these challenges.Dr. Ramsay also addresses the concept of "procrastivity" - escaping high-priority tasks by doing other productive things. He offers strategies for breaking this cycle and turning intentions into actions.With his extensive experience and new book, "The Adult ADHD and Anxiety Workbook," Dr. Ramsay provides valuable insights for those dealing with the challenging combination of ADHD and anxiety. Links & NotesThe Adult ADHD and Anxiety Workbook: Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Skills to Manage Stress, Find Focus, and Reclaim Your LifeRussell RamsayDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:52) - ADHD & Anxiety ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Hey there, ADHD-ers! In the latest installment of The ADHD Podcast, Pete and Nikki are tackling the world of workflows. You know, those magical sequences of steps that take you from start to finish on any given task or project. And let's be real, who couldn't use a little more structure in their life?The dynamic duo is all about ditching the stuffy term "routine" in favor of the more flexible "workflow." Because let's face it, rigidity and ADHD don't exactly go hand in hand. Pete even shares his own tried-and-true workflow for podcasting, complete with a handy-dandy checklist that keeps him on track and error-free.But workflows aren't just for work, my friends. Nikki's quick to point out that they can be a game-changer for tackling everyday tasks like managing your email inbox. The key is to identify those areas of your life where a little extra organization could go a long way.Now, if the thought of creating a workflow has you breaking out in hives, fear not! Pete and Nikki have got you covered with tips on everything from flowcharts to mind maps. And the best part? Perfection is totally overrated. Just start simple and let iteration be your guide.So, whether you're looking to up your productivity game at work or just trying to keep your head above water in your personal life, this episode of The ADHD Podcast is not to be missed. Tune in and learn how to create workflows that work for you and your unique ADHD brain. Trust me, your future self will thank you.Links & NotesThe Checklist Manifesto: How to Get Things RightUnapologetically ADHD: A Step-by-Step Framework For Everyday Planning On Your TermsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:49) - Support the Show: Become a Patron at Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (06:04) - Workflows! ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week Pete and Nikki dive into their mailbag to answer pressing questions from listeners. From microphone recommendations to advice on job searching with ADHD, Pete and Nikki provide thoughtful insights drawing from their own experiences and knowledge.One major revelation in this episode - the dynamic duo have authored a book together called "Unapologetically ADHD" which is now available for pre-order before its September 4th release date. The book promises to translate the charm and wisdom of the podcast into the written word, with Nikki sharing practical tips and Pete weaving in personal essays.Pete, an avid film buff, also shares some recent movie picks and discusses his love of connecting with other cinephiles on the film-focused social network Letterboxd. Another listener is curious about the connection between gut health and ADHD symptoms, a complex topic that Nikki and Pete explore.Links & NotesAudio-Technica ATR2100x-USB Cardioid Dynamic Microphone (ATR Series)USB and XLR Outputs, SilverNeumann KMS 105 MT Condenser Microphone, Super-Cardiod,Matte BlackUSBPre 2 - Sound DevicesSleep Tight (2011)Turtles All the Way Down (2024)Turtles All the Way Down (Book)Pete Wright’s profile on LetterboxdPreorder Unapologetically ADHD and get it the day it releases!Wheat Belly (Revised and Expanded Edition): Lose the Wheat, Lose the Weight, and Find Your Path Back to HealthGo with Your Gut — Take Control ADHDRejection Sensitive Dysphoria and ADHD with Dr. William Dodson — Take Control ADHDDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (00:57) - Support the Show: Become a Patron at patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (02:15) - What mics do you use? (05:36) - Latest Movie Recs? (09:53) - Wait... Nikki and Pete wrote an ADHD Book?? (15:53) - How do I explain job-hopping? (23:26) - The Gut-Brain Axis (29:05) - How do you combat overwhelm? (35:59) - Anger and ADHD ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Struggling to fall asleep or stay asleep is a common challenge for those with ADHD. In this episode, Pete and Nikki dive deep into the complex relationship between ADHD and sleep with special guest Dr. Roberto Olivardia.As a clinical psychologist specializing in ADHD treatment, Dr. Olivardia shares his professional and personal insights on this critical topic. He explains how people with ADHD are at higher risk for an array of sleep disorders, from sleep apnea to restless leg syndrome. But beyond diagnosable conditions, those with ADHD often find it difficult to wind down at night due to the constant search for stimulation.Pete, Nikki and Dr. Olivardia discuss practical strategies for improving sleep, some of which may seem counterintuitive. For example, listening to an audiobook or familiar TV show can actually help an ADHD brain relax by providing just the right amount of stimulation. They also bust some common myths, like the idea that you can "catch up" on lost sleep over the weekend.Getting proper sleep is crucial for memory, brain function, and overall health. While it can feel like an uphill battle, this conversation provides both the "why" and the "how" of prioritizing sleep with an ADHD brain. (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:14) - Support the Show: Become a Patron at patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (02:59) - Introducing Dr. Roberto Olivardia (03:52) - Sleep Problems (07:10) - Disordered Sleep versus ADHD Symptoms (14:22) - Why Time Matters (32:46) - How do you know it's a disorder? (40:04) - ADHD Sleep Behavior ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on The ADHD Podcast, Pete and Nikki sit down with Dr. Celine Saulnier, a specialist in diagnostic assessment and research on autism spectrum disorders. The conversation delves into the complex relationship between ADHD and autism, shedding light on the often misunderstood overlap between these two neurodevelopmental conditions.Dr. Saulnier explains the evolving diagnostic criteria for autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and how changes in the DSM-5 have allowed for the co-occurring diagnosis of ADHD and autism. She explores the similarities and differences between the two conditions, including the shared challenges with executive functioning and the distinct underlying causes of apparently similar behaviors.The discussion also touches on the unique challenges faced by females with autism, who often fly under the diagnostic radar due to their ability to mask or camouflage their symptoms. Dr. Saulnier emphasizes the importance of comprehensive evaluations by clinicians with expertise in both ADHD and autism to ensure accurate diagnoses and appropriate treatment plans.They navigate the nuances of neurodiversity, the divide within the autism community, and the need for increased awareness and acceptance of neurodiverse individuals. This conversation offers insights for anyone seeking to better understand the complexities of ADHD, autism, and their intersection.Links & NotesMeghan Miller on Autism and ADHD risk in siblingsThe Gap Between Adaptive Behavior and Intelligence in Autism Persists into Young Adulthood and is Linked to Psychiatric Co-morbiditiesA review of executive function deficits in autism spectrum disorder and attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorderThe Reach and Accuracy of Information on Autism on TikTokDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:06) - Support the Show • Become a Patron at https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (02:02) - Introducing Dr. Celine Saulnier (04:28) - The Autism Primer (14:58) - The ADHD Connection (29:19) - Adaptive Skill-Building (35:40) - Learning about Autism as an Adult ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week, Nikki and Pete dive into the complex and often overlooked relationship between Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and eating disorders. Joined by special guest Dr. Jean Doak, a professor of psychiatry and clinical director at the Center for Excellence for Eating Disorders at the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, the trio explores how these two conditions can intertwine and exacerbate each other.Dr. Doak sheds light on the broad spectrum of eating disorders, extending far beyond the commonly known anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa. She emphasizes that eating disorders can manifest in various ways, affecting people of all genders and ages. The discussion delves into the biopsychosocial model, which considers biological, psychological, and social factors contributing to the development of both ADHD and eating disorders.Dr. Doak explores the similarities between ADHD and eating disorders, such as perfectionism, poor impulse control, and difficulties with delayed gratification. They stress the importance of comprehensive screening for co-occurring mental health disorders to provide early intervention and treatment.This episode sheds light on a topic that is often misunderstood. It serves as a reminder for clinicians, individuals with ADHD, and their loved ones to be aware of the potential comorbidity between ADHD and eating disorders. By fostering open discussions and increasing awareness, we can work towards better recognition, support, and treatment for those affected by these challenging conditions. (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:16) - Suppor the show • Become a Patron, Please? https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (02:40) - Introducing Dr. Jean Doak (03:34) - The Spectrum of Eating Disorders (17:34) - Comorbidity Complication (30:14) - Treatment (41:41) - Intervention (45:00) - Learn More ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week, we delve into the introspective realm of self-discovery, exploring the profound impact of understanding the reasons behind our behaviors and actions. The big question: does knowing the difference between ADHD-related struggles and those common to everyone truly matter?We also touch upon the intricate relationship between ADHD and identity, acknowledging the prevalence of the comparison game within the ADHD community. We know what it’s like to grapple with the fear of misdiagnosis and the paradoxical reluctance to hypothetically eradicate ADHD from our lives.Delving deeper into the human psyche, we explore the innate desire to find meaning and purpose behind our experiences. Knowing “ why” drives our actions and emotional reactions, from fostering moral development in children to cultivating mastery in students and nurturing personal relationships.It’s a challenging question and our hope is that we have offered a nuanced perspective on the significance of knowing the difference. While understanding the reasons behind our challenges may not provide an instant solution, it can offer a valuable framework for acceptance, perspective, and effective problem-solving.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:42) - Support the Show • Become a Patron https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (04:26) - Does Knowing the Difference Matter? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode of The ADHD Podcast, we delve into the complex and often misunderstood connection between Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (OCD). Joined by Dr. Roberto Olivardia, a renowned Clinical Psychologist and Lecturer at Harvard Medical School, the trio embarks on a journey to unravel the intricacies of these two conditions and shed light on the challenges faced by those who experience them simultaneously.With his extensive expertise in treating ADHD, OCD, and Body Dysmorphic Disorder, Dr. Olivardia provides invaluable insights into the signs, symptoms, and treatments associated with OCD. He explores the common misconceptions surrounding the disorder and discusses how the casual misuse of the term "OCD" in everyday conversation can hinder patients from receiving the proper recognition and support they need.As the conversation unfolds, we navigate the intricate relationship between ADHD and OCD, examining how the symptoms of one condition can influence and exacerbate the other. They explore the potential impact of ADHD's hyperfocus on OCD symptoms and delve into the effectiveness of treating both conditions simultaneously.Join us, and Dr. Olivardia as we embark on this exploration of the ADHD-OCD connection, offering a platform for understanding, empathy, and support for those navigating the complexities of these often intertwined conditions.Links & NotesCHADD Annual International Conference on ADHD 202429th Annual OCD Conference 2024Dig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (00:52) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (02:48) - Introducing Dr. Roberto Olivardia (03:26) - ADHD & OCD (10:48) - What is OCD? (15:28) - Exposure (27:17) - Anxiety & OCD (44:56) - Treatment (55:54) - Learn More ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on the show, we explore the topic of comorbidity with ADHD & Executive Functioning specialist, Dr. Michael Felt. As a lecturer at Yale University School of Medicine and a professor at Columbia University, Dr. Felt brings his knowledge to the discussion, focusing on the relationship between ADHD and comorbid conditions such as depression and anxiety. Dr. Felt's approach, known as Experiential Rehabilitation, has helped many individuals and organizations enhance their executive functioning, and now, listeners of The ADHD Podcast get a taste of the same.The conversation delves into the prevalence of comorbid diagnoses among individuals with ADHD. They discuss which condition is typically diagnosed first and whether the symptoms of depression and anxiety could be a result of untreated ADHD. The discussion also touches on the potential for misdiagnosis and the importance of healthcare providers considering comorbid conditions when assessing patients with ADHD.The episode also examines the impact of comorbid diagnoses on treatment protocols. They question whether the recommended treatments for depression and anxiety change when ADHD is also present and if these conditions are best treated by the same medical professional.Dr. Felt introduces listeners to his technique, Experiential Rehabilitation, and the "Cycle of Ambiguity” (ambiguity - anxiety - avoidance) and “Cycle of Clarity” (acceptance - acuity - agency - action). This science-based approach has helped numerous coaches, therapists, and individuals to reclaim control over their lives, offering hope for those struggling with ADHD and comorbid conditions.Links & NotesADHDdoctor.orgDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:21) - Introducing Dr. Michael Felt (04:54) - A Foundation in Executive Functioning (09:08) - Comorbidities (23:14) - The Cycle of Ambiguity (27:04) - The Cycle of Agency (45:40) - Learn More ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week, Dr. Dodge Rea rejoins us to explore the concept of Positive Affect Tolerance—the upper limit of how good we allow ourselves to feel before self-sabotage kicks in. Drawing from his integrative approach blending traditional psychology with ancient wisdom, Dr. Rea illuminates how this little-known phenomenon may be impacting those with ADHD far more than we realize.The conversation delves into the complex interplay between our psychological baggage and neurological wiring. Dr. Rea shares insights on how deep-seated shame often associated with ADHD can fuel a subconscious drive to undermine our own well-being, manifesting in behaviors like perpetual overcommitment and resistance to much-needed downtime.The episode sheds light on how gently expanding our capacity for positivity may be key to breaking cycles of burnout and reclaiming control over our schedules and lives. Dr. Rea reveals practical strategies, grounded in cutting-edge research and clinical expertise, to help listeners start strengthening this crucial "tolerance muscle."Such are the invisible forces shaping our daily experience and this week we look for a path to embracing the joy and ease we truly deserve. Links & NotesDr. Dodge ReaWilliam Martin and the Gentle Path of the Tao Te ChingJerry Campbell and the Dynamic Tension Between Love and FearThe Change Paradox ArchivesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:00) - Support the Show: Become a Patron (02:21) - Introducing Dr. Dodge Rea (03:20) - Positive and Negative Affect Tolerance ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Over the last few weeks, we have been exploring different topics related to our relationships and how we interact with others. Today, we welcome Dr. Ari Tuckman for a conversation about the relationship dynamic with one ADHD partner and one non-ADHD partner.From the ADHD partner who sees their non-ADHD counterpart as a savior to the frustrated couple struggling to bridge the communication gap, Tuckman explores the full spectrum of experiences that define these relationships. He delves into the emotional challenges that both partners face, offering a tantalizing glimpse into the world of resentment, shame, fear, and burnout that can threaten even the strongest of bonds.But Tuckman's exploration is not just a catalogue of challenges; it's a beacon of hope. He teases practical strategies and insights that promise to help couples navigate this complex terrain, hinting at the transformative power of communication, understanding, and compromise.Links & NotesMore Attention, Less Deficit - Success Strategies for Adults with ADHDDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (00:58) - Get to know the show (01:36) - Become a Patron (02:14) - Introducing Ari Tuckman and the Miami Vice Look (03:42) - Bringing your Whole Self to a relationship (10:16) - The Curse of the Invisible Paintjob (21:08) - Relationship Entitlement (31:56) - Red Flag Language (34:44) - When do you need to find a therapist? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this special 600th episode of The ADHD Podcast, Nikki and Pete reflect on the show's 14-year journey. What began as a podcast focused on organization has evolved into a what we hope is a valuable resource for the ADHD community. Throughout the years, the show has featured a lineup of incredible and generous guests, including renowned ADHD researchers and experts such as Ned Hallowell, Russell Barkley, and Dr. William Dodson.The podcast's success has also led to the growth of the Taking Control ADHD (TCA) team, with the addition of Melissa, Bryan, and Marian. As the show has grown, so too have Nikki and Pete, both personally and professionally. They've navigated the joys and challenges of raising families, building businesses, and adapting to a changing world.Through it all, the Taking Control Podcast has remained a constant source of support, information, and inspiration for its listeners. As they mark this momentous milestone, Nikki and Pete express their heartfelt gratitude to their listeners and the ADHD community for making the past 600 episodes possible.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:20) - What's next... a thousand? (05:08) - Origin Story (10:58) - We went through some changes (15:44) - How did we decide on the format? (32:12) - Patreon & Discord (41:28) - The Big Events ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

As we explore the intricate dance between parents, caregivers, and their children, the presence of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) can profoundly influence this delicate balance. Parents with ADHD may find solace in shared struggles with their ADHD children, while facing frustration when their symptoms lead to setbacks with neurotypical children. On the other hand, parents without ADHD may struggle to understand the challenges their ADHD child faces, leading to a cycle of punishment and emotional wounds that linger into adulthood.In families with both ADHD and neurotypical children, the specter of favoritism can breed resentment and anger. The neurotypical child may feel neglected, while the child with ADHD may feel unfairly targeted. At the heart of this discord lies a breakdown in communication.Effective communication requires active listening and the recognition of non-verbal cues. Those with ADHD may struggle to articulate their needs and emotions, while those without ADHD may find it challenging to grasp the complexities of the condition. Rebuilding these bridges is no small feat, but progress is possible when all family members are committed to fostering healthier, more open dialogue.The journey towards better communication begins with introspection and asking tough questions about one's own actions, behaviors, and communication style. In times of struggle, seeking the guidance of a trained professional can provide invaluable support.Ultimately, the path to stronger family relationships lies in focusing on personal growth, communication, and understanding. By embracing empathy and compassion, families can begin to mend the invisible tightrope that binds them together.Links & NotesThe Explosive Child by Ross GreenThe ADHD Podcast Ep 358: Mindful Listening for ADHD with Rebecca ShafirThe ADHD Podcast Episodes with Tamara RosierDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (06:37) - Parents & Kids with ADHD (15:06) - The Complicated Family Dynamic (29:35) - Emergent Behavior ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this week's episode of The ADHD Podcast, hosts Pete Wright and Nikki Kinzer explore the nuances of empathy for those with ADHD. Their guest, Dr. Tamara Rosier, recently presented on "The Unexpected Downside of Empathy" at the 2023 International ADHD Conference. Dr. Rosier, founder of the ADHD Center of West Michigan, explains that while empathy is often seen as a virtue, ADHDers may experience it in a more complicated way.Dr. Rosier outlines three main types of empathy: emotional, cognitive, and compassionate. Typically, employing all three types leads to well-regulated empathy. However, she notes that ADHDers frequently operate at extremes, either overly empathetic or non-empathetic. This imbalance leaves them vulnerable to several "downsides" of empathy.First, ADHDers may experience misplaced empathy, making excuses for other's inappropriate behavior. Second, getting stuck in emotional empathy can lead to empathetic distress and fatigue from taking on too many others' burdens. Dr. Rosier hypothesizes this stems from the ADHDer's desire to avoid rejection sensitivity.Third, ADHDers may underfunction by shutting down empathetically. Fourth, they may overfunction by overcompensating for other's lack of empathy. Finally, manipulative people can exploit the ADHDer's emotional empathy to gaslight without triggering their cognitive empathy.ADHD wiring leads to a complicated relationship with empathy. Our great thanks to Dr. Rosier for sharing her insights this week!Links & NotesDr. Tamara RosierThe ADHD Center of West MichiganDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:43) - Introducing Dr. Tamara Rosier (04:42) - What is Empathy? (24:06) - Empathetic Trust (30:34) - Grief (34:28) - Underfunctioning Empathy (37:52) - Overfunctioning Empathy (39:32) - Empathy & RSD (41:32) - Finding Balance (48:10) - The Genesis of the New Book ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The popular 1944 film Gaslight brought the insidious behavior known as "gaslighting" into the public consciousness. But what exactly is gaslighting, and what does it have to do with ADHD? We explore this in today's episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast.Dr. Deborah Vinall, author of the book Gaslighting: A Step-By-Step Recovery Guide, describes gaslighting as a pattern of behavior where one person systematically undermines another, typically as a means of gaining control. It goes beyond an occasional contradiction to a consistent effort to erode the other's confidence in their own perception of reality.So, what does this have to do with ADHD? As it turns out, quite a lot. People with ADHD are more vulnerable to gaslighting attempts for several reasons. Their symptoms of inattention, disorganization, and impulsivity are often used by gaslighters as ammunition to undermine their confidence. Being manipulated into questioning one's own memory and perception can then exacerbate ADHD symptoms like confusion, self-doubt, and struggles with focus and recall.At the same time, some behaviors driven by ADHD, like forgetfulness, tardiness, and fidgeting, can be misconstrued by others as deliberate gaslighting rather than unintentional neurological symptoms. It's important for others to understand ADHD is not an intentional or conscious effort to manipulate.Many with ADHD have experienced the painful effects of gaslighting. They describe feeling trivialized when their real daily struggles are dismissed as "dramatic" or something "everyone deals with." They feel overgeneralized and defeated when told they "never" follow through or "always" mess up, ignoring their successes. And they feel bewildered and betrayed when facts about their lives or promises made to them are denied outright by gaslighters insisting "that never happened."The good news is there are effective ways to maintain confidence and counter gaslighting with ADHD. Seeking external validation from professionals, friends, and family who understand the condition can provide reality checks when self-doubt creeps in. Setting boundaries and directly challenging false claims are also important strategies. Ultimately, it comes down to trusting your instincts, focusing on the future, and relying on facts over emotions when it comes to combating gaslighting with ADHD.Links & NotesGaslighting: A Step-by-Step Recovery Guide to Heal from Emotional Abuse and Build Healthy Relationships by Deborah VinallDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:02) - Support the ADHD Podcast by Become a Patron: patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (04:43) - Gaslight Cinematic History (08:52) - Psychological Manipulation (13:16) - Blame (20:50) - Show Your Work ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Do you remember when you were young and carefree, coasting through school assignments at the last minute? Or social engagements flowing effortlessly from one to the next? As an adult with ADHD, those days may feel like a distant memory. Suddenly, responsibilities pile up, work seems endless, and relationships require much more attention. What changed?In this episode, we explore why ADHD symptoms often worsen from childhood to adulthood. Turns out, the structured school environment and malleable young brain provided a protective cocoon. Youthful resilience and novelty-seeking behaviors also naturally complemented ADHD traits.But adult life removes those scaffolds. We're faced with open-ended choices, little external accountability, and increasingly rigid thinking patterns. Stress compounds the challenges. Without school forcing new learning, our minds stagnate. Mental elasticity gives way to knee-jerk reactions. Dopamine-seeking behaviors like substance abuse or gambling frequently emerge. It's no wonder ADHD feels debilitating.The good news? We can recreate youthful advantages through scheduling routines, mindfulness practices, brain training, and lifestyle changes. Structure liberates the ADHD mind from decision fatigue. Meditation and new hobbies boost dopamine. And cognitive exercises build mental agility. By bringing back elements of childhood, we can recapture some of its ease. The path requires diligence and self-compassion. But reclaiming our younger resilience is within reach.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:00) - Support the show: Become a patron! (05:18) - Were things better back in the day? (09:06) - Performative Busyness (15:14) - The ADHD Twist ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We're eager to please, but at what cost? For people with ADHD, saying yes to requests from others often means sabotaging our own priorities. Urgency provides a dopamine hit; the instructions are clear. Best of all, we aren't fully responsible for the outcome. But every time we dodge our obligations to take on extra, we chip away at our future. Before automatically agreeing to favors, pause and examine your motives. Are you truly available or just procrastinating? Will you have to sacrifice critical deadlines to accommodate? Respect your time. Invest in your goals, not just other's. Your needs matter too. Stop self-sabotage disguised as service. Prioritize a future fueled by purpose, not avoidance.We talk about some key principles this week including time shielding for protecting our time from distraction, the values calendar to help align time to our values, and margin for interruption in our schedules. Links & NotesShawn Blanc writing about MarginDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:43) - Connect with Us! (02:14) - Patreon! Join the club! patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (03:44) - Sabotage (18:52) - Time Shielding and the Values Calendar (29:32) - Margin ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

When everything is on fire, how do you escape the flames? For people with ADHD, overwhelm can consume our days in a blazing mess of forgotten tasks, ignored priorities, and competing demands. Like a wildfire swallowing the horizon, the urgent eclipses the important until catastrophe looms. Fortunately, firefighters don't panic in the face of infernos. They methodically suppress the flames by targeting fuels one at a time. We can borrow their approach. Tackle the smallest task first for a quick win. Preserve your critical relationships, health, and finances. Let go of time-wasters that won't devastate. Once the blaze subsides, sift through the ashes and rebuild. Learn from the near-disaster to prepare for the next. With level-headed focus, even the most raging overwhelm can be contained. Don't let the flames consume you. Become the firefighter, armed and ready.It’s possible we’re overdoing the fire metaphor. But that’s what we do on the ADHD podcast... we lean in, even when it’s too hot to handle. Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:06) - The Podcast! (04:08) - Become a Patron! Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (04:55) - The Five Alarm ADHD Productivity Blaze ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The ADHD Tax is real—and it's costly. A recent poll found over half of people with ADHD lose over $1000 a year to fees, fines, and forgetfulness. We call them ADHD Taxes: late bill payments, expired food, unpaid subscriptions. Benjamin Franklin said nothing is certain except death and taxes, but ADHD Taxes are optional. With planning and habits, we can eliminate these penalties that drain our time, money, and self-esteem. ADHD may be lifelong, but the taxes don't have to be. Learn to stop the cycle and keep that currency—money and time—in your pocket. The cost of a ADHD Tax? Your peace of mind. The gain from ending it? Priceless!Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:53) - Become a Patron! Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (02:49) - The ADHD Tax ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week on Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, Pete and Nikki explore what it means to be uncomfortable and why that's not always a bad thing. The inspiration for this topic came from Melissa reflecting on a step in the GPS process where members review past experiences with strategies and tools from the previous week. She wondered whether it was the tool/strategy that wasn't working or if it just felt uncomfortable because it was new. Melissa asked if we're giving up too quickly on new things by saying they don't work for us when maybe we haven't given them enough time.So, what does it mean to be uncomfortable or outside your comfort zone? Dictionary definitions describe it as feeling unease, awkwardness, distress or lack of confidence. Many ADHDers regularly feel this way, and these are feelings we try to eliminate with new strategies. So why stick with a new system if it brings up the same negative emotions? There’s a bit of a sidetrack around systems with acronyms that can distract from the real effort, all while increasing discomfort, which poses the question: is discomfort important? The bottom line? Don't let initial discomfort lead you to quit on a new strategy too soon. Stick with it, and you might find great benefits once you move past the unease of the unfamiliar. Discomfort doesn't have to last forever.Links & NotesLearning to Learn and the Navigation of Moods: The Meta-Skill for the Acquisition of SkillsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:59) - Getting Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable (20:34) - Discomfort Signaling ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In "The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can't Stand Positive Thinking," you're introduced to the unconventional notion that the pursuit of happiness might actually lie down a 'negative path.' Oliver Burkeman invites you to consider embracing life's uncertainties and insecurities, challenging the prevalent culture of positive thinking. Overly optimistic mindsets, he argues, can lead to a denial of reality and set you up for greater disappointment. The book delves into the idea of "negative capability," encouraging you to become comfortable with ambiguity and resist the urge to hastily resolve doubt.Burkeman guides you through the Stoic philosophy, which emphasizes controlling what you can and accepting what you cannot. He introduces you to the concept of negative visualization, a Stoic practice of contemplating the worst to temper anxiety and build resilience. This conversation also takes you through the paradox of control. Burkeman illustrates how accepting failure can be a conduit to success. He challenges the fixation on goals, advocating instead for a focus on routines, suggesting that happiness is better pursued indirectly as a byproduct of a life lived in alignment with personal values.Lastly, the book beckons you to confront the uncomfortable directly through practices like mindfulness and to appreciate life's fragility through memento mori. Burkeman introduces the concept of antifragility, where you gain strength from stressors. He proposes a balanced life approach, where accepting death, failure, and uncertainty can lead to a more authentic form of happiness. As you reflect on these ideas, you'll find "The Antidote" not just a critique of Western culture's happiness obsession but a practical guide advocating for a more realistic and accepting approach to the inevitable challenges of life.Links & NotesBuy The Antidote: Happiness for People who Can’t Stand Positive ThinkingDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:56) - Support the Podcast by Joining the ADHD Community! (03:17) - The Antidote (08:00) - Toxic Positivity (15:04) - Stoicism (20:34) - Mindset is Not Positive Thinking ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In his provocative book Four Thousand Weeks, author Oliver Burkeman confronts our culture's obsession with productivity and efficiency. He makes the case that with a limited lifespan of around 4,000 weeks, our pursuit of packed schedules and perfect work-life balance is ultimately futile.Burkeman urges us to embrace the unchangeable reality that our time is finite. Only by accepting our human limitations, he argues, can we focus on what matters most and live with intention. Rather than desperately trying to find more time, we should recognize that time management is impossible. Every moment we gain elsewhere means a sacrifice of something else.Confronting the brevity of life is daunting but also liberating. It allows us to pare down our priorities, say no to less meaningful activities, and zero in on how we truly want to spend the days we have. Presence becomes more important than productivity. With mortality as a guidepost, we can live each moment more purposefully.The book is an enlightening take on time, work, and what makes life meaningful. Burkeman blends philosophical insights with practical advice to fundamentally reframe how we approach our use of time. Four Thousand Weeks is a compelling invitation to examine our values and construct daily routines that align with what we cherish most. Though our weeks are limited, we have the power to fill them with intentionality.Links & NotesOliver BurkemanBuy Four Thousand Weeks: Time Management for MortalsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:23) - Support this podcast by becoming a Patron (03:10) - Four Thousand Weeks ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

It's season 28 and we're kicking it off with a look at how we make decisions. See, we all have models through which we see the choices before us. We decided to start this series with a look at some of the acknowledged mental models around decision-making to help us create a vernacular we can use to discuss how our brains are impacted by choices in our lives and our ADHD.Mental models are bite-sized, condensed views that help us understand ourselves and the world around us. We explore various mental models that can both aid and hinder our decision-making, such as the tendency to want to do something, confirmation bias, hindsight bias, overgeneralizing from small samples, social proof, and opportunity costs. We discuss the importance of using these models with caution and not relying on them entirely for decision-making. Join us as we explore these fascinating concepts and gain insights into how our biases and tendencies can influence our choices.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:24) - Support the show and Become a Patron today! (04:23) - Mental Models of Decision Making (08:14) - The Tendency to Want to Do Something (12:22) - Confirmation Bias (22:20) - Hindsight Bias (29:38) - Overgeneralizing from Small Samples vs. The Law of Large Numbers (34:46) - Social Proof (39:28) - Opportunity Costs ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We’re having so much fun talking about planning that we’re sticking with it another week! And this time, it’s all about what happens when we fall off the wagon. How do you stand up with courage and strength and admit you’ve strayed from your system? How do you face the flood of email when you get back from a well-earned vacation? We’re digging into the tools and practices that will help you get back in the saddle and shake the shame of the struggle along the way!Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (00:19) - The ADHD Conference Report! (06:42) - Sponsor: TextExpander (09:36) - Coming Back to Planning Systems ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We're talking about planning again and we're taking on your questions! Getting started, long-term planning, making transitions, and even AI tools are on deck for this week's show. The big topics:How do you get started planning when you haven't done it?How do you plan to plan?Struggling with personal deadlines?What if you’re struggling to make plans more than a few weeks ahead of time?How do you plan for things that don't have concrete goals?What do I do during transition time?AI and how do I use it?So... why TickTick?Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:58) - Support the show: Become a Patron at Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (04:59) - How do you get started planning when you haven't done it? (09:20) - How do you plan to plan? (13:58) - Struggling with personal deadlines (21:10) - Struggling to make plans more than a few weeks ahead of time (27:12) - How do you plan for things that don't have concrete goals? (31:54) - What do I do during transition time? (38:26) - AI and how do I use it? (51:38) - So... why TickTick? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Pete’s in the hot seat this week as Nikki walks through a listener question of the motivational variety. For reference, here it is: “When we have a plan of quadrant two tasks, important but not urgent, it is impossible to focus on those at all if there are ANY quadrant one tasks... urgent and important... unresolved. What’s interesting is that you might think, sure ... do those. They’re urgent and important. But the problem is that maybe you’ve done your part on them. You’re waiting for an email response... you are time-blocked from doing anything about it because a store isn’t open... something like that. It’s unresolved, AND you can’t do anything about it, AND you can’t focus on anything else that is on your list that would move other projects forward as a result.”There’s an emotional yo-yo at work here, and you can bet there is a healthy dose of limiting beliefs. But there is also a very real connection between this attachment and the ADHD brain. Nikki walks Pete through an exercise that aims to make this relationship a bit softer.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:39) - Support the Show: Become a Patron at Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (03:05) - Sponsor: TextExpander (06:51) - The Planning Motivation Game is Afoot ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

On this week’s show, Pete and Nikki break down how to create and implement planning systems that work with the ADHD brain.“There is not a perfect calendar, planner or task manager for ADHD,” notes Nikki. “What matters is that you build trust and consistency with your chosen tools.” They start by addressing common misconceptions about finding the “right” organizational system. As Nikki explains, no one tool determines success - only your willingness to use it consistently builds planning skills. She cautions against getting distracted searching for a flawless system. What matters is finding tools that fit your workflow and building habits around using them daily.What causes so many to abandon their carefully chosen systems? They share the psychological traps that sabotage trust in planning tools, from perfectionism to learned helplessness. They discuss how forgetting to use the system consistently or failing to personalize it to your needs also hinders success. Tune in to gain insight into why your tools may be failing you. The key to results is forming a habit of using your system, not the system itself. They offer tips like starting small, scheduling planning time and allowing flexibility as you build consistency. Nikki emphasizes that mistakes are part of the process - you must persist through frustration to cement reliability. Create order amidst the chaos of ADHD through insights on building planning systems you can trust. Pete and Nikki guide you through myths, pitfalls, and practical strategies for long-term consistency. Discover how small steps create big change.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:27) - Support the show! Get Member-Only D&D Special through Patreon! (04:05) - Planning Systems and Why They Fail (05:13) - What are we counting on our planning systems to do? (20:51) - Perfectionism (31:47) - Routines (34:53) - Beware the "Best Of" Recommendations ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this week's episode of Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast, hosts Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright interview Dr. Tamara Rosier about motivation and ADHD. Dr. Rosier, author of "Your Brain's Not Broken," shares insights from her experiences as an ADHD coach and professor to uncover motivation strategies for those with ADHD.As Dr. Rosier explains of those living with ADHD, "There is really no research explaining our success in the modern world." Her book aims to send a "love letter" to those struggling, affirming that "You're okay. And I know it feels hard for you, but you're still okay."The hosts dive into the complicated relationship between ADHD and motivation. Dr. Rosier notes that while ADHD can make people appear self-centered as they struggle to survive, most "are incredibly sensitive" and "heart forward." Pete adds that ADHD allows people to "forget the important things"—like basic needs—while seeking self-actualization. Dr. Rosier agrees this makes success especially difficult, as "easy things are very difficult" for those with ADHD, yet they still accomplish much.To build motivation, Dr. Rosier suggests first assessing your values—why something matters. She coaches Nikki to uncover beliefs like "I should enjoy cooking" that create pressure. Next, acknowledge the difficulty but willingness to do hard things. Tie actions to values, not beliefs that demotivate. Dr. Rosier advises imagining your future self; what actions would serve them well? For her, laying out morning clothes helps future Tamara. Finally, notice existing successes instead of dismissing them. Despite feeling inconsistent, for example, Pete already walks his dog each and every morning.While discussing motivation, Dr. Rosier exposes thought patterns that sabotage us. Beating yourself up rarely helps. Instead, start by naming emotions and difficulties without judgment. Accept dissonance between wants and responsibilities. Motivation takes self-awareness, values exploration, and celebrating every step forward.Here are a few key takeaways:How ADHD impacts motivation and successSteps to take to understand and build motivationHow to shift from self-judgment to self-acceptanceStrategies to uncover motivation blocks like beliefsThe importance of aligning actions with valuesWays to celebrate small consistency winsWith compassionate insight, Dr. Rosier exposes why motivation is so complex yet possible. This inspiring episode explores practical strategies to overcome motivation challenges. Anyone seeking to understand themselves and build motivation from within will find this a thoughtful listen.Links & NotesLearn more about Dr. Tamara RosierFollow Dr. Tamara Rosier on LinkedInGet the book: “Your Brain's Not Broken: Strategies for Navigating Your Emotions and Life with ADHD” by Dr. Tamara Rosier (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (02:49) - Support This Podcast: Become a Patron at Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (04:22) - Introducing Dr. Tamara Rosier (14:28) - Separating Feeling from Motivation (18:18) - Motivation and Self-Actualization (26:20) - Ego and Self-Centered Worldview (31:57) - Tying Motivation to a Value (33:36) - Coaching FOR Nikki! (57:00) - Learn More ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Nikki Kinzer and Pete Wright aim to explore the meaning of joy, the differences between joy and happiness, and practical ways to cultivate more joy in daily life living with ADHD.This episode dives into the essence of joy, including surprise moments as well as practices that help align us to experience joy more frequently. Nikki shares insights from a recent retreat focused on sound, music, and vibrations for generating joy and harmony in life.Key points covered:Defining joy as moments of transcendent happiness sparked by surprise, versus the overall state of happiness. "Joy involves changes in visual perception. Colors seem brighter, motor behavior, physical movements feel freer and easier, smiling happens involuntarily."Happiness as a constant state, while joy represents fleeting peaks within the state of contentment. An analogy: "Happiness is a 100-story building and joy is the elevator that takes you to higher floors briefly."The importance of letting difficult emotions move through you rather than ruminating endlessly. "Feel the storm, and then let it move through you."Questions we answer in this episode:What is the difference between joy and happiness?How can we cultivate more joy in daily life?What are tools for moving through grief or trauma to regain joy?Key Takeaways:If seeking joy, focus on aligning practices toward joy.Turn toward positive thoughts, music, sights that spark joy. What you focus on grows.Meditation, journaling, and talk therapy help stop rumination loops.This is an uplifting episode on aligning ourselves to notice and generate more joy in daily life. Quotes like "the past no longer counts, the future hasn't been written yet" inspire us to be present for fleeting moments of joy.Links & NotesLearning to Learn and the Navigation of Moods: The Meta-Skill for the Acquisition of SkillsThe 5 Second Rule: Transform Your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday CourageDr. Lisa Feldman Barrett: How to Understand Emotions - Huberman LabDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:49) - Support the Podcast and Become a Patron! (02:43) - Joy & ADHD (05:55) - What is Joy? (14:11) - Do you create joy? (21:35) - Moods (24:43) - 17 Seconds (32:55) - Huberman Labs Podcast Note ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The world can be a tough place. We know that our ADHD doesn't make that any easier. But our health and well-being depend heavily on the worldview we cultivate in spite of our challenges. This week, we're talking about optimism, how we find it, and how we make it a practice in the face of struggle. We’ll talk about the things that get in the way of our efforts to feel optimistic like emotional dysregulation, rejection sensitivity, an impulsivity. The thing is, in the face of all those challenges, we’re already wired with our other tools to regain control. We’re generally OK with therapy and strengths-based approaches to wellbeing, for example. So let’s explore mental models that impact us. These include Carol Dweck’s Growth Mindset, Cognitive-Behavioral models, and Martin Seligman’s Explanatory Style theory. That’s the one that has impacted Pete the most this month. For the sound of a mind being blown, listen in. This episode is brought to you by Stimara. Get your next favorite fidget and engage your brain with a fidget designed by neurodiverse adults for neurodiverse adults and save 15% along the way. Visit Stimara for yours today, and thank you to Stimara for Sponsoring The ADHD Podcast!Links & NotesSponsor: StimaraDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (04:44) - Sponsor: Get 15% off Stimags from Stimara at https://takecontroladhd.com/stimara (07:30) - On Optimism (11:48) - Mental Models of Optimism ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode, we welcome James Ochoa, a counselor, coach, mentor, and intuitionist who has been helping adults with ADHD for over thirty years. James shares his insights on the importance of community in our ADHD journey and updates us on his upcoming book, "When the Shiny Wears Off: Navigating the Lifetime Storms of Adult ADHD."We discuss the value of being part of a community and what it means to belong to a group of people who understand what you experience every day. We also explore the benefits of joining a community, such as personal growth, a sense of belonging, new friendships, learning new things, and practicing interpersonal skills.James emphasizes the importance of recognizing that our motives for joining a new group or community are not always altruistic and that we only have so much extra time to share. Most importantly, he walks us through the power of developing your internal support group, using creative visualization to create your community in times of need.In conclusion, James reminds us that being part of a community is crucial in our ADHD journey. It can provide us with a sense of belonging and help us grow personally. Thank you for joining us in this episode, and we hope you find it insightful and helpful in your own ADHD journey.Links & NotesJames Ochoa, LPCDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:14) - ADHD THANK YOU! (02:18) - SPONSOR: Save 20% on your first year of TextExpander Today! (04:56) - Welcome James Ochoa! (07:48) - Exploring Community (11:52) - Internal Community: The Mental Support Group (20:52) - "But, I have too many friends..." (27:58) - Post-COVID Resillience (36:24) - How do you become an unselfish member of a community? ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

The esteemed Hall of Fame ADHD Podcast Guest and dear friend Dr. Sharon Saline graces the show once again! This week: why is it hard for ADHDers to be authentic joiners? Sharon offers her wisdom on the value of community in managing ADHD, addressing the fears and hesitations that can often prevent individuals from seeking out communal ties.One of the main topics we discuss is avoidance behaviors towards community engagement. There are myriad reasons why a person might be reluctant to participate in group settings, such as social anxiety, previous negative experiences, Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria (RSD), fear of the unknown, and confusion about how to navigate new situations. Dr. Saline emphasizes the potential impacts of such isolating behaviors on a person's physical, mental, and social well-being. She also highlights the importance of fostering relationships, regardless of their novelty, and addresses the common misconception that having a few friends who may not fully understand an individual's experiences is sufficient.How do we approach overcoming the avoidance of community engagement? Dr. Saline provides practical advice for those who seek the connection a community offers but are held back by their fears. She discusses the potential benefits of therapy or professional healthcare consultations to better understand and manage these fears. She also provides strategies to combat the paralysis often brought on by the fear of RSD and the "what if" scenarios that can hinder one from entering new group situations. Her advice to those who've had negative group interactions in the past is particularly powerful, urging them not to let past experiences define their future opportunities.Links & NotesLearn more about Dr. Saline on her site, https://drsharonsaline.com, and make sure to pick up a copy of her fantastic book, "What Your ADHD Child Wishes You Knew: Working Together to Empower Kids for Success in School and Life”— it’s fantastic!Get Sharon's Free Handout Right Here! (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:46) - Introducing Dr. Sharon Saline (04:32) - Why is Community Important? (16:10) - Social Anxiety (22:26) - The Avoidance ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We come to you with a pivot today and a follow-up discussion to last week's conversation on ADHD stigma. What is normal? Why is it such a charged word? And what can we do to reprogram the world around normal to represent any point on the vast neurodiversity spectrum? (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (04:20) - The ADHD Stigma ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Kody Lukens has been an entrepreneur since the age of 15, when he filed his first LLC. Now, he is the creator behind Stimagz - a successful magnetic fidget toy that was funded on Kickstarter. When Kody was first diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, he was frustrated by the lack of resources tailored for adults dealing with ADHD. He started searching online for recommendations and communities that could provide support but found very little that resonated with his needs and experience as an adult with ADHD. This inspired Kody to start creating his own ADHD-focused content on platforms like TikTok and Instagram. The response was overwhelmingly positive, indicating a real need for content created by and for adults with ADHD. While creating content proved draining at times, Kody persevered because he knew first-hand how valuable resources and community can be for someone newly diagnosed with ADHD. He continues to fill his own need for community by engaging with the people who interact with his content. Through this experience, Kody has gained significant insight into the need for accessible education, support systems, and community for adults with ADHD.This passion led him to create Stimara, a company dedicated to building tools and products designed specifically for neurodivergent individuals. Stimagz, their magnetic fidget toy, has already sold over 10,000 units. Kody and the Stimara team are constantly working on new innovations to support the ADHD community. (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (03:57) - Introducing Kody Lukens (06:43) - INCUP Motivators (11:09) - Finding Community (16:11) - Fidget Stigma (22:11) - Design Philosophy (26:53) - Kickstarter... and running the business ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week, we delve into the complex issue of emotional dysregulation, a common but often misunderstood symptom of ADHD. Emotional dysregulation refers to an impairment or inability to regulate feelings, which can lead to an overreaction to minor setbacks or challenges. This issue is deeply rooted in the science of emotion regulation.And it's central to the sabotage we use on ourselves when we use "I don't wanna" as a strategy for productivity.To better understand this, we reference an article from ADDitude magazine which discusses the role of the amygdala, a part of the brain responsible for emotional reaction and decision-making. Typically, a surge of emotion such as anger or worry triggers the amygdala to send a signal to the cerebral cortex, which can then restrain the emotional response, allowing for a moment of pause and assessment before action. However, in those with ADHD, this amygdala-cortex signaling is significantly weakened, often leading to impulsive reactions to strong emotions.We also discuss "The Resistance," a concept from Steven Pressfield, one of Pete's favorite writers on creativity and motivation. Pressfield describes "The Resistance" as a negative force that aims to distract and prevent us from doing our work, a concept that can be frustratingly familiar to those grappling with ADHD.Emotional dysregulation can have profound impacts on our lives. When faced with a setback or perceived failure, the resultant flood of intense emotions can inhibit our willingness to try again, fueling limiting beliefs and often leading us to use our emotions as an excuse for inaction. However, it's crucial to remember that feelings are fluid and fleeting. They should not be allowed to dictate our actions.Links & NotesHow ADHD Amplifies EmotionsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:15) - Support the Show on Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (05:16) - Sponsor: TextExpander! (08:03) - I don't wanna (10:01) - The Amygdala Hijack (13:48) - The Resistance (17:07) - I Can't versus I Won't (25:19) - Backpocketing Success ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We had something of a scheduling snafu this week and our guests didn’t show! Don’t worry, they’ll be back. Bun in the mean time, Nikki and Pete carried on an impromptu AMA-QA show with members in the live chat and we decided to share a piece of it with you. The question that sparks the answer is, “how do you help others with transitions when you suck at them yourself?” Great question, and that gets us talking all about Bandura’s thoughts on self-efficacy, how pride can help you learn hard things, and more! If you want to hear the whole conversation, head over to https://patreon.com/theadhdpodcast and sign up to get your very own member-edition podcast feed! Thanks everyone!Links & NotesArchive.org • Bandura’s Original PublicationDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Buckle up for an episode packed with laughter, real talk, and maybe just a dash of existential dread. We've roped in our buddy and partner-in-podcasting-crime, Tommy Metz III, who you might recognize from that other awesome show, "What's That Smell Presents: All The Feelings". Kick back as Tommy spills some tea about himself, the mysteries of his life, and why on Earth he's hanging out with us today. He also drops the mic about the 8th season of "What's That Smell?" and its shiny new transformation into "All The Feelings". And, speaking of feelings and changes, our chat today is inspired by that very first episode of "All The Feelings" that talks about -- you guessed it -- Change. Tommy's got some wisdom nuggets about big transitions that he's itching to share with us.We then dive headfirst into the deep end of the pool labeled "Big Transitions". You know the ones we're talking about - like that cold shock of returning to work after a lazy vacation, or trying to remember what "normal" felt like after being sick for a while. Oh, and let's not forget the Herculean task of changing daily routines or dealing with the horror of a new commute route. We mull over why these transitions feel like climbing Mount Everest without oxygen, touching on fun concepts like the Hedonic Treadmill (spoiler: it's not a new fitness trend), our good old friends Fear of The Unknown and Fear of Failure, and that stubborn mule we call Resistance to Change.But hey, it's not all doom and gloom! Sure, change can seem as appealing as a root canal, but often, the reality isn't nearly as terrifying as our overactive imaginations make it out to be. If you're wrestling with big transitions, we've got some top-shelf advice: ask for help (it's not a crime, we promise), blab about your feelings to someone who'll listen, and try to channel your inner Sherlock Holmes to get curious about what's new.And if you're still feeling like a cat on a hot tin roof, let's play a game of "What if". What's the absolute worst thing that could happen? Once we break it down, you'll see that most of our "worst case scenarios" are about as likely as being struck by a meteor while winning the lottery. So come join us for this rollercoaster ride as we laugh, learn, and maybe cry a little about transitions, fears, and just all the feelings. Together, we'll navigate this crazy maze of change and come out the other side with a few more laugh lines and a whole lot more wisdom.Links & NotesWTS Presents: All The FeelingsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (05:00) - Support the Show: Become a Patron! (05:29) - Tommy... and All The Feelings (08:39) - Micro-transition Review (12:51) - Learning from Small Transitions, in service of the Big Ones! (17:43) - Fake Dopamine (19:37) - Aggressively Settling (24:44) - Hedonic Adaptation (34:37) - Finding Joy on the Other Side of Change (41:29) - Check out AllTheFeelings.fun. Seriously. ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

In this episode, we're shifting gears from our prior focus on games to delve into the world of transitions, particularly from the perspective of individuals with ADHD. The first area we explore is the concept of micro transitions. These are small changes that occur throughout our day, whether it's switching tasks, moving from one conversation topic to another, or even everyday activities like waking up or moving to a different location. Despite their seemingly minor nature, these transitions can pose substantial challenges for those with ADHD.One of the central discussions in this episode centers on why transitions are often so hard for people with ADHD. The difficulties stem from the fact that ADHD can negatively affect executive functions. This can manifest as time blindness, difficulty in starting and stopping tasks, hyperfocus, and poor working memory. On a practical level, this might mean an individual with ADHD struggles with moving from a fun, dopamine-producing task to a boring or avoided task, remembering the reason for moving from one room to another, or leaving for work on time due to difficulty transitioning from waking up to getting ready.Our conversation takes an intriguing turn as we propose a novel way to think about transitions: not as a change in contexts, but in rewards. This perspective encourages us to be aware of the hidden rewards of our current activity while also reminding ourselves of the potential rewards of the upcoming task. Poor transition management can lead to chronic lateness, which can impact jobs or relationships, and even a decline in health and wellness due to inadequate sleep.Links & NotesDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (01:54) - Support the show! Become a Patron! (03:44) - Transitions (08:36) - Changing Rewards (15:41) - Transition Treats ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

This week we're diving into the Paradox of Failure. It's something game designer Jesper Juul came up with, and it's all about how gamers are weirdly drawn to the very thing we're trying to avoid: failure. Even when a game is exasperating, we just keep going back for more. It's all part of this cycle Juul talks about, where we set a goal, totally flub it, and then scramble to find a solution. It's a crazy ride, but it helps us grow and keeps us from throwing in the towel.Dr. Carol Dweck taught us about the "growth mindset." It's all about loving a good challenge and not letting failure get you down. Instead, we use it as a springboard to get better and smarter. We'll also share some tips and tricks to help you embrace this kind of mindset, so you can tackle failures head-on, whether you're battling a boss in a game or facing challenges in the real world.Links & NotesFear of Failing? The Many Meanings of Difficulty in Video GamesVideo games and the paradox of failureThe Learning Game — Ana Lorena FabregaWhat Is A Growth Mindset? 8 Steps To Develop One.Carol Dweck: A Summary of The Two MindsetsDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (00:58) - Support the show! (01:28) - Discord Changes a-Plenty! (03:25) - Embracing Failure (08:26) - The Paradox of Failure (24:54) - Rebranding Failure ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

We’re continuing our series on gaming and ADHD this week. So far, we’ve explored how gaming ignites creativity and can expand perspectives and horizons. But what if we told you there was a game that is designed and build expressly to aid in treatment of attention disorders? That’s EndeavorOTC, the latest release from Akili Interactive. This is a company that cut its teeth on the FDA-Authorized pediatric game, EndeavorRx, the first and only prescription treatment delivered through a video game. With EndeavorOTC, they’re looking to help adults. Eddie Martucci is CEO of Akili and joins us today to talk about the game, how it works, and what it just might be able to do for you. Links & NotesLearn more about EndeavorOTCDig into the podcast Shownotes Database (00:00) - Welcome to The ADHD Podcast (01:31) - Support the Show: Become a Patron and Jump in Discord! (03:25) - Sponsor: TextExpander (05:46) - Introducing Eddit Martucci (10:22) - EndeavorRx (14:04) - Getting Docs on Board (18:54) - Playing the Game (24:32) - Meanwhile... in the real world... (32:48) - Non-prescription EndeavorOTC (37:20) - Pricing ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★

Colleen Macklin is a game designer and a Professor in the School of Art, Media and Technology at Parsons School of Design and author of Iterate: Ten Lessons in Design and Failure. She’s interested in how games model and reveal ideologies through systems. And, incidentally, she reports she was recently diagnosed with ADHD, which makes her doubly cool in our crowd. She joins us today to talk about games and gaming and neurodiversity.We explore a wide range of topics, from the impact of ADHD on Colleen's life and teaching to her love for games and game design. Colleen shares her thoughts on how games can engage attentional deficits and embrace a broad neurodiversity spectrum. She also shares her journey with the game design collective Local No. 12 and their creations, including the videogame "Dear Reader.”Playing games helps us to rediscover playfulness in our lives no matter your age. If there’s one thing we hope you’ll walk away from this episode thinking about it’s that you have the opportunity — the gift — that is creating more play in your own life everyday. You don’t have to be a tabletop gamer, or a programmer in the video game field. All you have to do is wake up and decide: today, we play.Links & NotesColleenMacklin.comDear ReaderBudgetBallIterate: Ten Lessons in Design and Failure (The MIT Press) by John Sharp and Colleen MacklinThe Monopolists by Mary Pilon (00:00) - Welcome to Taking Control: The ADHD Podcast (02:12) - Support the Show • Become a Patron! Patreon.com/theadhdpodcast (03:45) - Introducing Colleen Macklin (06:07) - Colleen's Road to Diagnosis (09:23) - Colleen's Road to Games (13:59) - Exciting Game Tech ... and Budgetball (21:19) - RSD and Becoming a "Better" Gamer (28:43) - Where Poker and RPGs collide (32:46) - Using Games to Learn About Ourselves (35:36) - "If you want to understand something, make a game about it." ★ Support this podcast on Patreon ★