Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 32 year old Hispanic man and I am dating the most amazing woman. I am ready to share the rest of my life with her. She is a beautiful loving honest strong black female and our chemistry is undeniable. So here's my problem. She is a Christian and I am an atheist/non-believer. We've made our relationship work so far. Here's the problem she's a Christian and I'm an atheist non-believer. We've made our relationship work so far and we respect each other's views but I can't help but wonder if and how this would affect our future......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been in a relationship with my fiancé for three years. In the beginning everything was great but things have taken a turn for the worse. She has hit me on two different occasions and it startled me because I have never raised my hand to her even been mad enough to hit her. Lately she has been pointing out my flaws and to add insult to injury. Sex is like a foreign concept to her. She has no desire to have sex with me now no matter how many different ways I try........ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been listening for years and decided it was time for me to get some advice. I'm a young brother in my early 40s. I have a great career and two sons that are grown. I'm a bit of a homebody so I don't hang out much and I've never liked hanging out in clubs. My issue is that I'm at a point in my life where I'm ready to settle down and be with one good woman but I can't seem to shake the women from my past. I have females that I have been intimate with and I consider them friends with benefits. I've been with some of them for over ten years..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 30 year old female and in a relationship with a 35 year old male. We've been dating about a year and we have a four month old daughter. I have been cheated on in the past relationships. But I felt like this new relationship was going in the right direction since I had my daughter. I have been very insecure about my weight but my boyfriend still says I am the woman he wants to marry. Well one day, curiosity got the best of me and I went through my boyfriends phone......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, You're not going to believe this. I'm a married man and my wife and I just purchased our first home in a new community. To celebrate home ownership, my boys took me out for drinks. We ended up going to a strip club and I got very drunk which are two things I had not done since I got married. The strippers were some of the sexiest women I had ever seen and we paid for our own private VIP area in the club. So we each had a dancer that catered to us all night. My dancer did all kinds of freaky stuff to me. We did everything except go all the way. Right afterwards when I sobered up, I was disappointed with myself and I swore to my boys that I would never go to another strip club....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 48 year old single mother with a 10 year old son. My boyfriend and I recently purchased a house together. He works out of town but he's home for half of the month. He has a 15 year old son and he has joint visitation with his son’s mom. Over the summer my boyfriend told me that his son will be living with us this school year because his mom is having problems disciplining him. Mind you my boyfriend lets his son run over him and his son has an attitude problem. I told my boyfriend that I don't think I should handle that responsibility by myself while he's working out of town........ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for 25 years and we've been married for 18 years. He's a great father and provider and we have a lot of fun together, but he says I'm a constant nagger. My husband has done a few crazy things since we've been together and I let him know when he's wrong but I don't nag him. For example one of his many female friends texted him good morning and I called him out on it. I called her his girlfriend and he said she's just a friend. My husband also will go out with a female friend whenever he chooses to. I like to say he's going out on dates with these women but he always says it's innocent..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm an older female with old school ways of doing things. After many years of marriage I'm now divorced and back on the dating scene. I never would have imagined how much things have changed when it comes to dating. I am learning about all of these online dating apps but they scare me so I've been dating the traditional way. I've met two nice men in my community but I have a problem with how they communicate with me. They both like to send text messages instead of calling me to get to know me. Please tell me that texting is not the new way of talking to people........ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 30 year old woman and I've been dating a 35 year old man for a little over a year and I need your advice about an issue. When we started dating, we were already following each other on Instagram and Facebook and I noticed that we had one mutual friend a female that I went to college with. My boyfriend is following her on Instagram and Facebook. I asked him how he knew her and he said that he was interested in her before we started dating. He said they never met and he has never sent her any messages on social media. I told him that I know her personally and although we don't talk often we are good friends. So then I noticed that he started liking her pictures on Instagram....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, This one is short and sweet. I actually want Tommy's opinion too if that’s ok. I've been married to a wonderful man for the past 12 years and we have a great marriage. I have done any and everything to make him happy. Most importantly we have a very exciting sex life. I often let him have threesomes and I've started to really enjoy them myself but there was a big problem. Our threesomes are always with females.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I met 14 years ago. We both were young adults when we met. Through the years we’ve had many ups and downs. Our biggest problem has been his cheating. I have forgiven him but it's hard to forget what he's done. I stay with him because I love him and he has been the best father to our children from day one and about three years ago one of his flings called me and gave me all the juicy details of their relationship. I was absolutely heartbroken. How could he have done all of this stuff with another woman? We took our vows before God our family and our friends.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, Two years ago I met the most amazing woman. I'm from the hood and she is from a small country town and we are very different in many ways but we also have a lot in common. We quickly became best friends and she is the only girl that I could see myself with in a long-term relationship, but here's the problem. After eight months of dating I was struggling with the fact that she is white and I was scared to take her home to my mother. So I decided to take a break, but I couldn't get her off my mind and quickly realized that I had made a mistake. So after we were apart for two months I called her and explained everything......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My former best friend won't speak to me. Here's what happened. My best friend and her boyfriend have been in an on and off relationship for 12 years. I never really cared for this man because I know that he has cheated on her multiple times with multiple women. She continually takes them back in hopes that he might change. I don't get in her business but it breaks my heart that she is constantly being disrespected by him. Just last week construct trusted source told me that my best friend's man is messing with a female he works with. I told my best friend and she pretended that it was no big deal....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your help. My fiance and I have been in a great relationship for four years and things were great until recently when I happened to scroll across a steamy video of us on his phone. We have our own YouTube channel with a lot of followers that love our Funny videos of the two of us doing silly things and I edit all of our videos for the channel. The other day I had this phone so I could edit a recent video of us on a shopping spree as I scroll through his videos. I saw one that was a total shocker. The video was only 20 seconds long but it was 20 seconds of one of our hottest intimate moments........ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 32 year old divorced mother of five. Recently I met the man that I am now in love with. The chemistry was bananas from the moment we met. He accepted my children with no problem. To top it all off he's tall dark handsome and the sex is so good. It brought a tear to my eye one night. When we met, he was unemployed and living with his grandma but he won me over with his persistence and great personality. I encouraged and helped him complete a training program and then start a career. Well here's the dilemma. He is extremely jealous. Any misstep on my behalf such as a missed call or a delayed text response he starts to act crazy....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, Let me start off by saying that I love my wife but I just can't be intimate with her. My wife and I dated for two years and we've been married for six months. Now that we are married and living together, I get to see all of her bad habits and nasty ways. When we were dating I knew that she smoked cigarettes and drank alcohol. After we got married, I realized that she has to have a drink every day and her smoking is really really bad. She constantly sprays the house to mask the cigarette smell but her breath always smells like an ashtray. Then her drinking is so bad some nights that she keeps me up all night with her drunken antics. When she wants to be intimate with me, it's a turn off....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 33 year old man and my girlfriend is 31. We have been together for over five years and when I met her she was a single mom working part time as a waitress and barely making ends meet. So we started dating and I stepped in and started doing everything for her, as a man should. She will admit that I was the best thing that ever happened to her. Now five years later she's finished college and she's got a great job. I've always supported her with anything she's wanted to do and after our two year anniversary of dating, I had planned to ask her to marry me but I had a big financial setback and I had to put that on hold........ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I are in our 50s and all of our grown kids are finally out of the house. We had a great normal married life until recently when my husband became one hundred thousand dollars richer. He ended up being the beneficiary of a late family members life insurance policy, so he recently got a 100 thousand dollar check. At first he tried to hide it from me but his behavior changed and I started calling him out on it....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been dating a guy for a year and he treats me really nice. We live in neighboring states but we're less than an hour apart so I wouldn't consider it a long distance relationship. We see each other a few times a week and either I'm at his house or he's at mine on the weekend. I assumed we were in an exclusive committed relationship until recently. The other day he was trying to show me a picture on his phone and he mistakenly pulled up a picture of another woman, he tried to quickly swipe passed the picture but he knew I had seen it. I didn't make a fuss about the picture. I asked him to delete it and he did, but seeing the woman’s picture on his phone made me wonder about the nature of our relationship....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 22 year old married woman. My husband and I have been together for over five years but we've only been married six months. I am the first woman that my husband has ever had sex with and we waited until we got married to have sex. Shortly after we got married he told me that he wondered what it would be like to have sex with another woman because we are both still young. I felt like I should allow him to have that experience. I love how open and honest he is with me because he didn't have to share this with me. He could have just cheated on me instead........ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been married for five years but my husband is missing a P. He provides for the family and he professes his love for me but he does not protect me like he should. Last month a neighbor yelled at our son for going into his yard to get a ball. My husband and I went outside to see what was going on. I politely asked the neighbor not to yell at our child and he began to yell and curse at me. I told my child to go inside so we could deal with the situation. My conversation with this man got heated and he was using every curse word that he could think of....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 34 year old married woman. I work hard and I feel very accomplished since I've worked my way out of the hood. I love my job and here's why, Dot dot dot. I have been sleeping with my boss for the past 3 years the affair was a big secret until recently when I came into work and found pictures on my desk of me and my boss doing the do, the news spread quickly throughout the office and now everyone at my job knows about us. Look I know we shouldn't have sex at the job but he is married too so we don't have anywhere else to do it...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a happily married man and I need your advice. Last summer I loaned a female friend three hundred and twenty dollars for an insurance class so she could start her own business. She was engaged to be married at the time to a preacher. After I loaned her the money we barely kept in touch. She got married and I was busy with my family and traveling for work. Recently I decided to check in on my friend and see how she was doing in her new career as an insurance agent...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a wife and a mother of two children. I've been married for 11 years to my wonderful husband, but I recently found out he had been cheating on me for a year. I found out when the woman started calling me she told me that she was taking good care of him when he is away from home with her. I confronted him about it and of course he denied it. I pray to the Lord to show me the truth. As time went on I never told him that I was still receiving calls from the woman. She even sent me pictures of my husband naked....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am an engaged 33 year old female. I don't have any children but my fiance has two children aged 17 and 14. When the children are with us. I'd do anything I can to make them happy. Sometimes they try to be nice to me but most of the time they are very disrespectful. When they don't get their way, they have gone so far as to call me an airhead and stupid to my face....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I are in our early 30s and he is the most amazing man I've ever been with. He is my best friend and we have the best relationship. There's just one big problem. Our sex drives don't match up. I'm not sure if my sex drive is too high or his is too low. Since we got married, the quality of our sex life has changed. It is now very inconsistent and most of the time I find myself finishing up the job on my own. I'm not getting enough and when I do get it, its just okay....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 35 year old hardworking single male. I'm tall dark and handsome and the ladies love me, but there is one lady in particular that I can't seem to get enough of. She's my best friend's girlfriend. I was attracted to her from the moment I saw her and I could tell she was feeling me too. One day she came on to me and one thing led to another, fast forward two years later and we're still having sex. We have to sneak around because I live with my child's mom........ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley I'm a 31 year old single mom fresh out of a nine year relationship with my child's father. After we broke up, I focused on school, work and my child. I chose not to entertain any men for a while and I deleted all of my social media pages. I pretty much fell off the grid. Right after my ex and I broke up, we would get together occasionally just for sex but he started wanting more from me so I had to cut that off...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley I am I am darn near 50 years old and my wife is 40. We've been married for almost ten years and have two children both under the age of five. I want to make sure you all have the details. First of all I love my wife, but here is the problem. If I want some cookie I have to initiate it Ninety five percent of the time. Some times she will but it is rare for me. I don't want to feel like I am forcing her to do something she doesn't want to do. However I think we're both young enough to have the time of our lives...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I want your honest opinions. I'm young and I have a great job, my own place and I'm happily single for now. Here's my issue. I don't think a strong independent woman should stand by a broke man or wait for him to reach his full potential. People always say I should not overlook a man that falls short financially but I prefer to remain strong because I am not afraid of being alone...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a question and I need your advice. When should I tell a new love interest that I have been to prison? I'm not the average parolee though. I am an older woman that served a lengthy prison term as a first offender for transporting drugs. Since my release from prison, I have earned a degree and I have had a great career for many years. I own a home and I'm an upstanding member of my community...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for five years but my husband moved out three years ago and moved in with my brother after he got into a big argument with my son. My son really didn't know my husband that well when we got married and he thought that my husband was using me so he didn't like him. My husband tried to come back home twice and my son disrespected him both times so he said he would never come back....... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley I am a 25 year old woman. I married my husband when I was 19 years old and I am starting to believe that it was a mistake. We both work. His days off are consistent but my days fluctuate. When I'm off. I clean and cook I take care of our two children and I make sure everyone has what they need, but lately I've been the one who needs to be checked on to make sure I'm good...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steven Shirley, I've been dating a beautiful woman for about five months. Everything is great. She's special and she does a lot for me. Here's the problem, we've run into a big issue whenever we discuss her sleeping over at my house, she asked me how many sexual partners have I had and undoubtedly there have been quite a few. Then she asked me how many women have been in my bed. That was a tough question to answer. Undoubtedly there have been quite a few..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old that is married and together my husband and I have three kids. About 2 years ago, my in-laws and their 21 year old son moved into our three bedroom house. I was on board with them moving in because they had a hardship and needed some help until they got on their feet. Well that was two years ago and I have not seen any signs of them trying to get on their feet. My father in law does not work and neither does the 21 year old. They are both able bodied and able to work any type of job. My mother in law works as a hairstylist and my husband and I take her to and from work because they don't have a car......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 27 year old divorced female with no children. I work full time and I am in school full time. I am finally able to pursue my dream of becoming a comedian. Since my divorce I've been very happy being single and carefree and dating. I don't want a serious relationship right now. See in the past I put all of my time and energy into helping my ex husband build his comedy career and like a dummy, I let my goals and dreams get lost in his shadow..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I've been dating a man for six months now. He is divorced and has two kids, a 12 year old daughter and a 10 year old son. I have never had kids and I really like his. My only problem is that he still lets his kids sleep in the bed with him. Whenever I'm at his house, the kids still sleep in his bed with us. They spend the weekend with him every other week and I feel weird about sleeping with a 10 year old boy...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 45 year old single black female. My best friend is a 55 year old married female. She and I are on the same dating website. Yes, she’s married. Recently she told me that she has fallen in love with one of the guys she met on the site. They have been seeing each other for 2 years. Her husband is clueless. He takes care of her. She does not have to work and he is a great provider. On the other hand, the guy that she is in love with is single and he has no idea that she is married...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I was married for 17 years and I've been divorced for six years. After my divorce, I was buckwild for a little bit dating many different women at one time. One of the girls I dated was a sweet church girl and we shared many intimate adult moments. She was a wonderful girl, but I didn't want to settle down so she stopped fooling with me. A year later I saw a picture of her younger sister on facebook and she was incredible. So I decided to reach out to the sister...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, My husband and I have been together for 13 years and we've been married for five years. Before we got married, we broke up for about a year and during that time we dated other people. We got back together in 2010 and we swore that we cut ties with anyone from our past. I moved in with him and we got married. Not long after our wedding, I found out that my husband was still communicating with an ex girlfriend. This woman had the nerve to call our house and ask for him. I had words with her and she ended up hanging up on me...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need the code cracker. I am a 31 year old man who's been dating this girl for over a year now and everything is going great. We have the same sense of humor. So we're always laughing and the sex is so good that Tommy could beat Junior in a race for it, but just recently we've been arguing over something so stupid. We were watching a movie the other night and Michael Ealy popped up on the TV and my girl shot it out Michael Ealy can get it.... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 37 year old man and I've been dating a 31 year old woman for three years. She is the love of my life and I want to ask her to marry me, but I recently found out some disturbing info about her. I got an anonymous message on social media and it got my full attention. The message said that my woman was very friendly in all caps very friendly with a lot of guys when she was in college, especially the athletes. I was shocked and angry. So I confronted her immediately...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 30 year old woman and I've been divorced for four years. I'm finally ready to start dating. So I agreed to let my sister set me up on a blind date with her husband's friend. I had never been on a blind date before and I was a little nervous. When I got to the restaurant and met my date. I was pleasantly surprised. This man is so perfect and we have a lot in common. We ate and talked and laughed for hours..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have coached baseball for ten years and in those ten years I have never had a child quit my team nor have any parents ever complained about my coaching style. Well last year a parent from the opposing team yelled at me and called me out of my name. It was all over whether or not his son was safe or out during a game. Things got heated and we had a shouting match in the parking lot...... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm 27 years old and my husband and I have been legally separated for three years. I recently filed for divorce and I cannot believe that he is not contesting it. I just knew it would make him come to his senses and come back home to me and the children. I will admit that I've done some things in my marriage that many people will say is evil but I was just doing me..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, In the spring of 1976 during my senior year of college, I met a girl….she was a sophomore. We hit it off immediately and we became inseparable. After my graduation, I accepted a job in New York and we would see each other twice a month. After she graduated, we eloped and on our wedding night, we had sex for the very first time. Lionel Richie was our favorite entertainer and like his song, we would be at it “All Night Long,” every night! Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your point of view on my situation. I'm a very successful black male in my late 30s. I have a career and I'm working on my doctorate degree. I own my own home and I live a great life. My only problem is that most of my friends that I hang out with are getting married engaged or are in a very serious relationship and I am the only one that is still happily single. My male friends are starting to put pressure on me to stress me out about finding one nice female and settling down..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a male best friend that I want to be more than friends with. I was taught that the man is supposed to pursue the woman so I've never attempted to tell him how I feel about him. We have been friends for ten years and although we have a strictly platonic relationship, our friends and family make jokes about us already being a couple..... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.