Strawberry Letter

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 7 years and we have two young children. After having my second child, my desire to have sex decreased and it was a big problem in my marriage. My husband is a great dad and my best friend so I felt bad for him. I started back having sex with him, but I was never really into it like I had been in the past. I confided in my sister because she has a newborn too. Her child’s father broke up with her while she was pregnant, so she’s going through her own issues. I wanted to support my sister, so I told her to go out with her girls and I would babysit for her............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Dear Steve and Shirley, I am engaged to a 63 year old man that acts a lot older than he is. His thoughts on sex and life in general shock me and I need some advice. I’m only 59 years old and I still enjoy sex and have tried to be patient with my man. He thinks I’m a freak because I try to initiate sex daily. He likes to grind and do a lot of kissing, but we rarely go all the way. I like to take care of him in other ways, if you know what I mean, but when it comes to me, he says that his mouth is designed to eat food and nothing else.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been married a little over a year now and this is my second marriage. Since the wedding, my husband and I had been searching for a new church home that we mutually agreed on. We visited churches and settled at a church close to our home, with a good stern pastor. We loved his preaching style and felt really welcome there, until one Sunday when the pastor’s message was so crazy that it sent my husband into a frenzy................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I need your help. I am 27 years old and I have lived with my fiancé for two years. We bought our first house together and everything was great until recently, when my fiancé’s brother moved in with us temporarily. His brother is going through a divorce and he has lived with everyone in the family. He’s worn out his welcome everywhere, so I didn’t mind him staying with us for a couple of weeks till he got on his feet. The couple of weeks have turned into two months and I want him out of our house. He is the nastiest man I have ever seen............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve worked with a guy for over 6 years and over time, we became attracted to each other. We went out a few times and had several passionate kisses, but nothing more. He explained to me that he is in a dead-end marriage for 20 years and he lives in an apartment in the city and his wife lives in their house in the suburbs. I am divorced and my grown kids live with me. The married guy and I enjoy each other’s company but I told him we can’t have sex until he’s divorced. He says he loves and respects me, so it’s not a problem............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been dealing with an older man for a year. He’s 66 years old and I’m 30 years old, so I guess you can call him my sugar daddy. I also have a boyfriend that is my age. We’ve been dating for three years and he knows about the older guy and he doesn’t mind, because I told him that he is my uncle. The older guy takes me to and from work every day because my boyfriend works an overnight shift. The older man gives me tons of money and pays my cell phone bill and my boyfriend never has questioned it............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I recently met a wonderful man and we instantly had a connection. I am a widow and his wife died earlier this year. When we met, he looked familiar to me, but I thought that it was just a coincidence. After a few dates, we talked more about his wife that had died and he told me her name. I knew his wife and when I put two-and-two together, I realized why he was so familiar to me. His deceased wife was the sister of one of my good friends.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 36yr old female in a long-distance relationship with a man in his early 40s. Things are good between us, and honestly, I am ready to take things to the next level. I only have one problem and I’m hesitant to move to his hometown if he can’t fix the problem. We have been in a committed relationship for 2 years and when we are intimate, he is very gentle and loving in the bedroom. He has kept this same routine the entire time. He does not do anything freaky or exotic and he’s very passionate.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for 17 years to a man who I thought was trustworthy, honest and a good Christian man. We are both in our 40s and been together for 25 years total. For the last 4 years, he has been friends with a basic girl that he met at work. I call her basic because that’s what she is. I always have expressed how displeased I am with their friendship, but he insisted that I was worrying for no reason. We hung out with her and her basic husband often and my husband always made me feel like I was crazy for being suspicious of this friendship................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a problem that’s bugging me. My husband has always been attracted to big butts and a smile, and his girls before me were very ratchet. Recently, he’s been telling me that he is taking “odd jobs” across town for extra money. He’s a carpenter by trade and a handyman on the side. I haven’t seen any of the “extra” money, so I got suspicious. I know he likes the company of other women, but I thought that was in his past. Well one evening when I was lying in bed, I noticed a few black spots on his pillow and along the top of our bed........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 52 year old woman and I need for my best friend to have an open mind. I’ve known her for most of my life and she’s divorced with a grown son. Her son was raised by her ex-husband so I have not spent a lot of time with her son. I was having dinner with my best friend and joined us for dinner to say hello. He sat with us briefly and talked about his dance studio in town and since I love to dance, I was intrigued by him. He told us about his new Latin dance classes.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am in a crazy love triangle and I met my man through his wife. She was supposed to be my best friend but we always argued over stupid stuff and then finally had a big blow out and stopped talking. The entire time, our other friends tried to get us to be friends again, but nothing worked. I ran into my best friend’s husband one day and he told me that it’s best to end the friendship because his wife never really liked me to begin with.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I attend a prominent mega church and I’m very active in my church. The church threw a back-to-school bash for the children at the church and we had a pool party in our indoor pool. I volunteered to help around the pool and watch the smaller kids. Shirley, I have been losing weight for the last year and I wanted to show off my body in my swimsuit, but with a nice coverup on over my swimsuit. My husband told me I was going too far by wearing it to the church event, but I wasn’t showing any body parts.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I got a divorce four years ago and I gave myself time to heal so I would not go into a new relationship with baggage. A year ago, I met a great guy and we fell for each other quickly. He paid all of my bills and he was super attentive to my needs. We went on two lavish trips and he promised me that we would travel the world together. He attended my church often and we prayed together. This man was so good, he even did most of the cooking......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a friend that can be self-centered and a bit loose when it comes to men. We’ve been friends for 13 years but I’ve never had an issue with her until recently. She likes to flirt with other women’s men and boasts that she can take any man from his woman. I just never thought it would happen to me. I started seeing a new guy and he invited me to a house party so I invited my friend to meet us there......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a divorced 58 year old black woman dating a 61 year old white man that I met on a dating website for black people. I thought it was strange that he was on a site that is for blacks, but I guess he likes what he likes. This man fell head over heels for me on the first date. He got up and kissed me at least four times that night, while we were at dinner. Since then, he sends me texts throughout the day, at least 10 a day, to tell me he is thinking about me and he misses me............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met a man at church recently when he was visiting from out of town. He lives three hours away from me so in the beginning, we enjoyed video chatting and talking on the phone for hours. After only two months, we really like each other and want to spend all of our time together. He is ready to take our relationship to the next level and he is planning to move to the city I live in. We are an older couple so we don’t want to waste time by talking on the phone all the time...................... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 31 year old single woman and I met the man of my dreams two years ago on a dating website. He lives in Tampa and I live in Philadelphia. A few months after we met online, he came to visit me. I immediately noticed that he lied about his height. He's short. He is an inch or two shorter than me and I like tall men. I had hoped he looked a little bit better than his pictures online, but he looks exactly the same in person. He’s not handsome at all................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 29 year old single guy and I have been attracted to a 27 year old beautiful woman for 4 months and I finally got the nerve to ask for her number. When I met her, I did everything in my power to sweep her off of her feet. I am a police officer and I work the night shift, so I’m home during the day. She is my mail carrier and it was an instant attraction when I saw her. I wait each day for her to come by.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 36 year old single woman and my new next door neighbor has me concerned. She's a pretty girl in her late twenties and she was nice enough when I met her. Here’s my problem. Her bedroom window faces my bedroom window so I have to keep my blinds closed for privacy. She always keeps her window cracked and night after night, usually during the week, I can hear very loud moans and whimpers coming from next door............... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 50 year old with 3 children and I have been married for 14 years. All of the children are grown and are on their own, so my husband and I have the house to ourselves. I love my alone time with my husband, but his sister is causing big problems in our marriage. His sister gets on my last nerve. She is an unstable mother and she drops her kids off at my house with no warning............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, For the past five years I've been dating a man that is nine years older than me and I really love our relationship and how well he treats me. I recently started living with him and I have a problem that I need your help with. My boyfriend loves to get a big bowl of ice cream most evenings as a treat after dinner. I try not to be overbearing because he could be drinking alcohol or have another bad habit, but his ice cream addiction is killing me slowly. You see my boyfriend is lactose intolerant, therefore, I cannot sleep peacefully in the bed with him at night.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, for the past 8 years, I’ve been dating a 60 year old man and I am 14 years younger than he is. Everything in our relationship was good until 6 months ago, when he moved his 2nd ex-wife and their 20 year old child back into his home. He has been divorced 12 years, but he told me that his ex-wife is having financial problems, so he allowed her to move in. This changed our relationship a lot. We don’t spend time together daily like we use to and he only comes to my house twice a month............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley. I need your advice because I really want to kick my dad's wife’s behind. I am a 42 year old single mother of two kids. My children's dads don't help me financially so my father has helped me raise my kids for the past 15 years. Well, I recently lost my job and everything went downhill. I was unable to pay my rent so I had to move out of my apartment at the beginning of this month. I called my dad to ask if we could move back home and my dad had the nerve to tell me that I had to discuss it with his wife, my stepmother. He put her on the phone as she screamed, “Hell No!” and said this would be the ninth time that I've moved back in with them......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have a problem with how men see me. I was married for 25 years and I got divorced three years ago and decided to move to another state for a clean slate. I’m not looking for a serious relationship right now, I want to enjoy being single a while, but I would like male companionship occasionally. So here is my problem.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a married father of two girls and I have a problem at home. Last week, I popped my sixteen year old daughter in the mouth after she raised her voice at her little sister and then raised her voice at me when I told her to stop. When I hit her, she lunged at me and punched me in my face. I tried to hold her to keep her from hitting me again and we ended up scuffling in the floor like two dudes in a street fight. The whole time she was still yelling and I was trying to control my anger so I wouldn’t hurt this child............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley,I need some serious advice right now. I’m a 30-year-old and I’m dating a 29-year-old woman. She is a very sexy, sweet woman with a great figure, but she has one flaw that is hard to overlook. She has hairy feet, a hairy chest, and her back is hairy. When we first met, it was in the middle of the winter so she wore sweaters, she wore jeans and boots mostly and kept her socks on when we were chilling at home… Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm an older single man and I’m very nice looking, not your typical old cornball pops type. Dating is hard for me because most women my age have let themselves go and look matronly. I love online dating sites and I have a great time meeting and hooking up with various women. Recently, a 30-year old bombshell sent me a message to say that she was looking for a little financial help, in exchange for some confidential fun. So we have met up for “lip service” a few times and that’s it.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 54 year old black professional man who has been married for 25 years. I am 6’6” and 270 lbs and I am not to be played with. But my wife seems to think she could play with me and get away with it. We’re in the middle of a divorce now because I found out that she was taking and sending nude pictures to an ex-boyfriend. I also found out that she’d been having an affair with the guy for almost a year. When I confronted her, she told me that she’s been unhappy for a long time and she needs more................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a young man who is in love with my girlfriend and I feel a need to protect her. We have been dating for two years and I’ve met her family and I love them all, except for her father. I don’t know where to begin. Her father argues with everyone in the family and he has started a few fist fights with the other men in the family. He smokes weed constantly and he does it in front of the family............ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’ve been seeing a guy for 8 months now and our relationship is strictly sexual. When we first met, he told me that he has a girlfriend that lives in another state and he had no plans to break up with her, but she can’t fulfill his needs when she’s so far away. We first met at a club and I would run into him at local parties, so we were bound to hook up sooner or later. We have sex often and it’s really good sex. I am the one who satisfies his sexual needs and desires while his girlfriend is away............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a black young lady in my mid 20s and I have been in debt since I graduated from college in 2016. I assumed I would be stepping out into the real world and paying a few bills, but not as many as I have now. While I was in college, my mom opened multiple credit cards in my name and proceeded to max them all out on her bills and personal items. Fast forward to today, my credit card debt is well over $8,500 and I am trying to pay the minimum payments on the bills so I can maintain a good credit score............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 54 year old married man and I have been married for 36 years. My wife and I have 12 kids, so my wife has never worked a day in her life, besides raising our family. I’ve always done my best to keep us on track financially, working two or three jobs at times. I have always been the best dad I could be and I make sure my family is well taken care of. My only problem is that my wife does not do her part by making sure I’m well taken care of............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a single black woman with no kids and I’m writing in response to the letter “I Want to Live With All Four Women.” No, I’m not one of the women in the letter but I'm thinking that the letter writer may be on to something. After years of dating and being discouraged, I am willing to try anything. I’ve tried dating apps and I represented myself respectfully but I didn’t get any positive responses from men................ Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, this isn’t your typical letter, but just like everyone else, I need advice. I am a 37 year old female and I am professional wedding planner but I also have a corporate job that pays the bills. Six months ago, a co-worker asked me to help her put together her dream wedding. I was excited at first but then I realized that she had a very limited budget and very ghetto ideas. When it came time to choose her menu for the reception, she said that she had already picked out her food and set up the delivery................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a single man that’s just enjoying life and I need some advice. I have four women who all love me and want to be with me. I have a child by each one of the women and I love all of them, but I find it hard to pick one to settle down with because they are all so good to me. I rotate my time with them, by going on dates and having sex with them regularly, and they don’t seem to have a problem with it........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I have been married for almost 25 years. My husband and I have been through a lot but we’re still together. I have a situation that I need help with, and it doesn’t involve my husband. A year ago, a guy at the gym came on to me. It was fun at first because it was all hugs and kisses, but then it escalated to sex. We were intimate on several occasions and each time, I was so ashamed. It went on a couple of months before I tried to end it............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am a 29-year-old man and three months ago, I started seeing a gorgeous woman in her mid-20s. She has the best body, smooth and glowy chocolate skin, the sexiest voice. She is the best that I ever had if you know what I mean. She’s very affectionate and she treats me well. But she’s missing one important thing: a brain… Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I met and older guy and I was attracted to him, but played hard to get. He begged me for a first date and I eventually agreed to go out with him. He asked to pick him up and I didn’t think much about it since his house was on the way to the restaurant. When I got to the house, he came out and so did a much older lady. He got in my car and told me that was his mom and that he lived with her…... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley,I’ve been married for 10 years. We don’t have any children together, but my husband has two grown kids and another “play daughter.” Before we got married, he had an ex-girlfriend and started dating her when her daughter was only two-years-old, so he became really close to the little girl. The girl even calls him “daddy.” When she was younger, he taught her how to ride a bike, they went bowling often, school shopping and he’d help her mom out financially with things the child needed.... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, Two years ago I met a guy on an online site for dating and we became close. In the beginning, he told me that he was in an open relationship with a woman and he wanted me to meet her. I agreed, since I wasn’t looking for anything serious. I met the girl and she and I have become the best of friends. When I’m hanging out with her guy, she’s okay with it because she has another special friend that she kicks it with.... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I am 57 years old and have been married to an intelligent, extremely good looking 60 year old man for ten years. We’re admired by friends and family because we seem to have the perfect marriage. At home and in public, we act like two teenagers in love. We send each other silly texts all day and we play all kind of silly games at home.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 50 year old devoted wife with a big problem. I've been married to a great man for 23 years and we have two kids in college. He is a great provider and we both have solid careers, but he has always had a big dream… He wants to be a big Broadway actor. My husband wants badly to be an actor but he's never been able to make it work. He’s auditioned for a lot of commercials, he’s taken acting classes and he has wasted our money on hustling his way into some big auditions, but each time he was rejected........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I’m a 30-year old man and I love working out. I started a new, very intense workout routine last month and my trainer suggested I get a good deep tissue massage to get out the kinks. So, I scheduled a 90-minute deep tissue massage with a massage therapist. It’s an in-home massage service that came highly recommended by my trainer. A day later, a female therapist showed up at my house and I was surprised at how beautiful and in shape she was.............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 32 year old man and I just started a job teaching adults that are getting a GED. I'm loving it so far, but I need advice on how to handle a very aggressive female student in her early 60s. At the end of one of my lectures, she approached me and asked what gym I go to because I have a very nice body. I blushed and didn't know what to say! She winked at me and left................. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I love myself very much and I love most of my family but I developed this deep dark hatred for my sister. You see, my sister has the life I prayed for. I turned to God and asked God to bless me with a husband with all the qualities her husband has. God gave this wonderful man to my sister and my sister has never prayed for anything! She did not even want to be in a relationship when she met her husband............. Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 22 year old college student and I just started my senior year at a new school. I've joined a frat and met an awesome girl and it was all going great until last week. We threw a party to kick-off the semester and when my frat brothers saw my girlfriend they all got awkward and quiet. She didn’t stay long after that and when she left, I called them out for acting weird and ignoring my girl........... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, I'm a 40 year old man and my wife and I have a strong marriage and a great life together. We just have one little problem in our home. It’s my wife’s sister. My wife’s sister has been living with us for the past 7 years since she got a very nasty divorce. She said it would be temporary until she got on her feet, but she is still here. I do love my sister-in-law and she contributes to the household as much as possible, but she should have moved out years ago.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dear Steve and Shirley, my friend hooked me up with a great guy and before I met him, we had great conversation and he seemed to be a cool guy. He sent me a picture of himself and I sent him a picture too. He had a beautiful smile and I commented that he had perfect teeth. He told me that he had false teeth. I asked him why he chose false teeth over implants and he said that implants were too expensive. It was no biggie, so we continued to get to know each other.......... Learn more about your ad-choices at https://www.iheartpodcastnetwork.comSee omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.