Soul Fusion with Penny Chiasson

Hey, it's Penny here coming you with the another episode. I am recording this during recovery from C. You can probably hear it in my voice as the recording goes on, it comes through more and more. And on that topic of health, I decided I really wanted to break down something that I know you're familiar with, but to really do, a mini dive into Maslow's Hierarchy of needs, because as I mentioned in one of the earlier episodes fulfillment is important to people. Self-actualization is important to people, and I really wanted to talk about self-actualization in terms of, how it falls. It's the peak, it's the peak of Maslow's hierarchy of needs, and that is because there are so many other things in our life that need to be satisfied. Or fulfilled for us to reach that level of self-actualization, that ultimate level. If you're listening to this podcast, most likely you are not dealing with. first two levels of Maslow's hierarchy of needs. The foundational level is physiological needs. That is our basic "what we have to have to survive". Air, food, water, shelter, sleep clothing, to reproduce, to carry on the species. Those are the very basic things and depending on where you are in business. You know that when people are in need of these basic physiological needs, they're less likely to invest in the things that are in the higher tiers of Maslow's hierarchy. If you're in business, there's also a chance that you have at some point in your journey experienced a deficit in these basic physiological needs. The more business owners and entrepreneurs I meet, I hear their stories about how they ended up in business because they had to find a way that worked for them to create income and to create a level of financial security that they ensure that not only do they ever enter back into a place of such uncertainty in their lives, but that their children and their grandchildren also do not ever have to be concerned about having those basic needs met, taking that to the next level. These same people, also generally tend to quietly support organizations who help eradicate poverty food and security, those types of things. Safety needs is the second level, and our safety needs comes to our personal security, employment, resources, health and property. This one, it's only the second rung on the ladder, and most highly successful people would say, Oh, this is met. However, if you're looking at your financial security, whether you're looking at it as employment or your resources, if you have fears in your business around money. If you have worries of lack, if you have concerns that it's going to run out. If you sit back and say, Oh my God, like, why can't I keep money? I am spending money faster than it comes in. I don't understand why I do this. If you have these cycles of behavior and you have these underlying fears and self-talk and thoughts, then you haven't met your personal safety needs. So then it becomes difficult to address that next tier, which is your love and belonging, your friendship, your intimacy, your family, your sense of connection. You can have a relationship, you can have a family. But it may not be all that it can be because these other fears around your personal security, your financial security impact those relationships, they impact family. I've had situations where I've worked with a client who managed to cash out on huge e-commerce business that they had built, and they had kept their wealth quiet from their family. I mean, their family knew they had a business. They knew they were doing okay, but they kept it quiet because of all the judgment from family. And then once the business sold, they decided to, basically take a sabbatical, to sit back and regroup and think about what they really wanted for them and for their family. So now they've moved during the pandemic, they've moved into this nice home, they're remodeling, and neither one of them are working. And now the family is like, what are you doing? What's happening? So their relationships were actually being impacted by their financial security. So there were some issues there with the relationship. Obviously it was the family member's problem, it wasn't their problem, except on some level, one of the reasons they have never shared with family their level of wealth was because they knew their family couldn't handle that they were wealthy and they didn't want it to negatively impact their relationships. And unfortunately, The bottom line is when we're in relationships with people, everybody brings their own shit into the relationship, their own stories, their own problems, their own perceptions of what wealth is, what poverty is. what love should look like. what's greedy, what's not greedy, all of these things, right? It's why so many people don't share their wealth and when they become wealthy, they begin to close ranks on their circle, of who you let in. And it's totally understandable. So those money stories right, can impact. , that whole sense

Letting go of control is going to open up your future in ways that you cannot imagine. Are you someone who craves certainty? Do you feel that you are in your power when you know what's going to happen next? I want you to think about that. What is it about needing to know what's going to happen next, or that certainty that brings you so much comfort? And I use that word comfort intentionally, because it's surprising how many people actually pride themselves on getting outside of their comfort zone, yet they grip tightly to controlling certain aspects of their life or their business. That need to control impacts everything because when things need to be adjusted, when changes need to be made, then it throws off your expectations, and it's our attachment to our expectations that create unhappiness. This need for control, this desire for control, this desire for certainty, comes from needing to be in a place that's familiar because within that familiarity is a sense of safety. [00:02:47] If you're someone who is controlling or you know someone who is controlling, what has happened is that at some point in life there was a certain set of circumstances that your brain uses a model of reality for its way of responding. So let me give you a really extreme example that might help you, understand what I'm saying? Take a woman who has been battered in a marriage. She's been in an abusive relationship. She's been there for years. She finally manages to get out of that relationship and maybe she gets back on her feet. She feels comfortable dating a few people, and let's say she meets someone who is just adorable. Someone who will truly take care of her. Someone who truly loves her, and she just abruptly walks away from that relationship. And everyone around her is like, 'Oh my God, why would she ever walk away? This is someone who would never hurt her. They love her, they adore her. I don't understand what's going on.' And it's because the brain, not her consciously, but the brain sees that relationship as something extremely uncertain. It can't predict. So the instinct is to activate fight or flight and to run away. [00:04:32] I know it sounds very counterintuitive, but what the brain perceives as familiar is often considered the safer option because it's predictable. It doesn't mean it's the truly safe option. So then what happens? Oftentimes, unless this person does the healing that's necessary, through therapy or whatever means, they will end up in another abusive relationship. Another example that might be a little more familiar is one where you grow up in a home and you watch your parents, you watch how they interact, and perhaps the way that one of your parents behave is not, you don't like it. Like you love them, but you don't like the way they handle relationships. So you say to yourself, I'm never gonna be in a relationship with someone who acts like, let's just say mom, never gonna be in a relationship with someone who acts like mom. And then lo and behold, you go out into the world, you get outta high school, maybe you go to college, or maybe you're in business for yourself, and you meet someone and you fall in love. And next thing you know, you realize is that you've fallen in love with someone who's just like your mother. And how did this happen? How did it happen? Because you swore you would never be in a relationship who exhibited these specific, personality traits or characteristic? Well, the way that it happened is your subconscious picked up on those traits. It then recognized them as familiar. It didn't matter that you didn't like them. You grew up in that environment and it's familiar to you. So the subconscious mind does that so that the sooner that you recognize that those things happen, you can curb those behaviors. Sometimes it requires some subconscious work. Not always, but that's a couple of examples of how certainty can come from some very strange places. [00:06:51] When it comes down to needing to be in control, the greatest control that you can have is the choice to actually let go. Because control is an illusion. You can't control what's going to happen next year any more than you can control what's going to happen in the next 10 minutes. And you can say, 'Well, of course Penny, I can control what's gonna happen in the next 10 minutes on my calendar. I have this meeting and before I go to this meeting, I'm gonna finish listening to this podcast episode. I'm gonna go get a drink of water, come back, get out my notepad and pen and be ready for the meeting.' Well, yes, you have a plan, but you can't control that that meeting is actually gonna happen. You could lose internet. If it's an in-person meeting, they may not make it to the meeting. You could trip and fall and break your wrist and need to go to the emergency room. There is zero control in life. Control is an illusion. And when you can move into the place where you realize the freedom is letting go of control, then you opened up your

Are you measuring your success in a way that is creating fulfillment in your life? Fulfillment and self-actualization have become front and center in this new paradigm of business and success building, and I'm actually quite grateful that this shift has come to pass. There are still a lot of coaches, business mentors, leaders that work from the old paradigm, the overcommitment, overgiving, time and life sacrificing style of success. As with anything, it takes time for these things to pass. They do not happen overnight, but for some of you, you might be bringing those old beliefs, unknowingly into your business. If you're making career changes and pivots and have decided to create something for yourself, then even without your awareness, if this is something that you've chosen to abandon as a way of being in your business, in your life, it can show up in some surprising ways. To lead a life. to live a life where we feel fulfilled, that is what we are here to do. [00:02:37] Now, that doesn't look the same for everyone. For some people it's going to be very different. Some people, their purpose and their fulfillment in life comes from being a stay at home mom or a stay at home dad. It may come from being a physician, an attorney, a nurse, even a nursing assistant. In my years in healthcare, I worked with people who worked as nursing assistants and as hard, physically hard as that work is and physically demanding for such low compensation, that is what fulfills those people. It doesn't make the work any less valuable, any less meaningful, any less important. It's about finding that path that is uniquely yours. That fulfillment comes from the inside out. And it's interesting in some of the reading that I've been doing, how so much importance is placed upon achievement. And I can't help but wonder sometimes if this achievement and the feelings that we get associated with that success is not often confused with fulfillment. [00:04:12] When we are fulfilled in our lives, not only do we have everything that we need, we have the things that we desire, and we're living in this place of service. Whatever that uniquely looks like for you, where you are content. You're in a balance of giving and receiving. You're in a place where, yes, you live for you, you're living your life for you, but you're not living your life just for you. If I can draw that distinction. It's not a selfish, egotistical for you. It's following your passion, your emotions, your love, your dreams in creating the impact that you desire in the world. [00:05:07] When we get caught up in mistaking achievement and the feelings that go with it for fulfillment, we can inadvertently get caught in this loop of always having to chase the next goal. And hey, I get it. You can't measure if you're a good parent. You can't measure if you're a good partner in a relationship, whether that's a business relationship, an intimate relationship. You just can't measure those things. There is not a scale for happiness. What we can measure is the number of zeros in the bank account. We can measure the size of the house, the price tag on the car, the paintings, the antiques, whatever it is that you like to invest in and collect. The revenue goals in the business. Those are things that we can measure. We can see them and we can say, "Okay, yes, I did better this year than I did last year. Yes, I did better this quarter than I did last quarter. The market adjusted here. We had to make some adjustments and we're still on target to meet our goals." Those are things that have metrics and they're tangible. They can also give us dopamine hits. So when you're someone who's lived your entire life achieving setting goals, hitting those goals in using those as measures of success, our brain can put the importance in the wrong place and it can happen without us even recognizing it. And then we feel like we need those numbers to prove that we're still doing well. [00:07:12] Now, all that being said, we cannot stagnate in business. If we stagnate in business, our business will die. We have to always be looking at things, adjusting, maneuvering, looking at how we can grow, how can we serve differently. Maybe that involves scaling down, not scaling up. So it's important to take a step back if you feel that your fulfillment waxes and wanes, or that sometimes you're disconnected from that feeling, take a moment and reflect. Where are you drawing that sense of fulfillment from? Is it from metrics and goals met and achievements, or is that fulfillment coming from reflecting deep inside and knowing that you are making an impact, that you are doing your best, that you're showing up, you're serving in whatever way it is in the world that you serve others in, that you're having that positive impact that you desire. That's where fulfillment comes from. And if we are honest with ourselves, because this is one of the hardest things to do, is look inside yourself and be brutally honest with what you s

Hidden ways that you're subconscious can distract you from doing what's really important. Penny here. I'm back with another episode of Design Your Destiny. And a few weeks ago I mentioned that I would talk about distractions. Now, sometimes distractions are pretty obvious and other times they are not. But before I explain more about what these distractions can look like, I would like to share with you where they come from. Our brain is always processing information, whether we're consciously aware of it or not. Our mind is processing millions of bits of data per second. And there's a part of our brain called the limbic system in the amygdala is a part of this network, or it's connected to it. Your amygdala, as I've shared with you before, is a part of the brain. It's the size of an almond sliver that determines our state of wellbeing. We're safe and secure, or we are in danger. Something is pleasant or it's not pleasant. A situation may be fair or unfair. It is this part of our brain that plays a major role in activating or sending a signal that results in the activation of the fight or flight response, which most people now know is the fight, flight, freeze, or fawn response. [00:02:41] When that response gets activated it can be on a continuum. It can be very mild feelings or for someone who experiences severe anxiety and panic attacks, it could feel like a full blown panic attack or a rage attack, right? Or a severe freeze response. So it's on a continuum. It's not black and white. There are many, many, many shades of gray of what this looks like. When we are going through our day and we're not mindful of our body and what we're feeling and what we're thinking the amygdala can alert that there is something we are experiencing that is unpleasant. We could be anticipating a meeting with a boss, or we're gonna be connecting with a family member that the last time we spoke, maybe it wasn't an enjoyable experience. Maybe there's absolutely nothing happening that we're aware of, but the subconscious mind has picked up on something as simple as a change in the tone of conversation in a room and in the past that change, a tone and conversation preceded something that ended up being an unpleasant experience, or just maybe something that was unenjoyable. I think it's very important that I highlight that, that it doesn't have to be something awful or terrible to trigger this. It can just be something that's not enjoyable, not pleasant. [00:04:21] When our subconscious mind interprets something and puts meaning on it, and our conscious mind has not yet perceived it, the subconscious mind can generate this activation of fight or flight in our body. It then begins to perceive the changes in the body. Maybe our heart rate picks up a little bit, or we feel a little tense, whatever it is that may happen, and then the brain goes, oh, we don't like when our body feels this way. So then we distract ourselves away. The subconscious mind goes, Oh, we're really not gonna like this, so let's keep this off of, i'll just do this as if it was me, we will keep this off of Penny's attention. So what might happen, say for instance, I had a call that I had to get on and I was not sure what the call was about. I'm not talking a sales call, but just, something that wasn't planned, and I have to make this call and I'm curious what the person is wanting to connect with me about. In the part of my brain, maybe, Oh, we don't want to think about this. We don't like this. Let's send Penny down the rabbit hole. And maybe there was productive work that I needed to do that's focused, but now my brain is like, Oh, you know what? The other day I was thinking about this domain name. Let me look up this domain. and then I see that the domain name is available. It's like, Oh, geez, I wonder if anybody's ever written a book by this name. So I go down this rabbit hole of doing a bunch of stuff that is not productive. It is not helpful, but it is entertaining to me. Maybe it gives me a dopamine hit, but what it does is it takes my attention off of the unpleasant feelings building in my body because my subconscious mind is anticipating what this phone call might be about. I may not even be consciously thinking about it. [00:06:36] Okay. So maybe somebody messaged me says, Hey, we need to chat. Can you connect today? I say, Yes. They say, Good. Here's a zoom link. we're scheduled, and I forget about it, but my subconscious mind could be going, Oh my God, When you get called on and you don't know what it's about, this doesn't feel safe. So it generates these feelings in the body. Now, some people, when they distract, They may think they're hungry. They can feel the feelings in their stomach and they mistake it for hunger, so they may eat. Some people may absentmindedly reach for a drink. Some people may smoke. Some people may shop. Some people may sex. Some people may work out a tremendous amount. They just feel this drive to work out. Now, those are more

Are your values really your values or is it something else? Hey, this is Penny. I'm back with another episode of Design Your Destiny, and I do hope that you joined us last week for the Aligned Identity: Turn the Inner Critic into your Cheerleader workshop. If not, today I'm touching on a little bit of what we talked about in that workshop because it is so very important, and that is your values. Most of us believe that we know what our values are, but we really don't know what our values are. Now, that may sound a little crazy and a little strange. But think about it. You've heard me talk about how we take on other people's beliefs and other people's stories. We can also take on other people's values because we've been taught it's what we should value, and that really creates all kinds of disconnects subconsciously. It creates resistance. As a matter of fact, most of the time when I work one-on-one with clients and we are doing the subconscious work and there are desired outcomes that they want, and we are working that into the process, sometimes a client will not be embracing positive changes, and they're meeting resistance. So we will do a values exercise. Once we do the values exercise, a lot of times the thing it is that they think they want isn't aligned with their true subconscious values because they were taught that they should value something differently. Once we look at the values, then we kind of revisit , what is it that you really want, or if this is what you truly do want, how do we reframe what we're working on in a way that it aligns with your values? What are the actions that align with your values? How do you create this in a way that it aligns with your values? [00:03:17] When we take a look at our life, if we're not getting what we want our life, and we really take a look at our life, do your actions and your decisions, do those things match what it is that you say that you value? If you're not showing up in life, according to your values that you consciously think, then either your subconscious values or something else together, or you have beliefs around your values that you're attached, that it has to look a certain way. So let me give you an example, because I know this seems a little vague and nebulous. I want you to think of the value of freedom. People will become entrepreneurs. And actually I would be willing to bet that almost all highly successful people who are entrepreneurs, they value freedom. They value time freedom, they value financial freedom. It's something that's important. Now, we don't just wiggle our nose and have a life and a business that provides us an abundance of financial security and financial freedom. And at the same time, time freedom. We have to put in the time, work and effort to get there. There has to be some action taking, but some people want to become business owners so that they can have freedom. Which means they reject all structure. They reject consistency because in their mind, structure and consistency is not aligned with freedom. However, when you run a successful business, you know that consistency in structure allows you to create a healthy business. so that you are building up the foundations of something that gives you that time freedom. Now, that's not to mean that you have to put in 60, 70, 80 hour weeks every week. You can still put in reasonable hours each week, but through that consistency of action, through that structure, you're still able to build a business that allows for time and financial freedom. It may take longer, it may not take as long because there are a lot of other things that come into this recipe of creating a future , where you have this freedom. [00:06:02] But here's the other thing. It's not just people who were starting out building a business who experience this disconnect in values. It can happen at any and all stages of our life where we're having this disconnect and we're bumping up against this resistance and we're not taking the action that we know that we should take. Our values can change at any point in our life. Something can happen and we can realize, for example, you could have a life threatening illness, you could have a brush with death, and your priorities suddenly change. And on a subconscious level, your values change overnight. And all of a sudden things were going really smooth, and now it's something else. And you can't put your finger on what it is. There's a good chance there was a shift in your subconscious values and you didn't even realize that it happened. [00:07:08] So anytime things aren't going as smoothly as you would like, you're bumping up against resistance. Take a look at your values. Look at what you're doing. Do those things line up, Do your values line up with where it is that you want to go. What stories do you have around your values? What are other people's opinions of your values, and how do you really feel about those opinions around your values? You could really spend a lo

There's a fine line between the awareness that a situation is presenting uncertainty and being fearful. Hey, it's Penny. I'm back. Hope you're having a great week. Fall is here. I don't know about you. I'm loving the weather. But, as always, as seasons change, life changes, business changes, and depending on where you are in your life, where you are in your business, what market you're in, there may or may not be a lot of uncertainty in what you're facing right now. So this is pretty much a blanket episode. I'm gonna speak in generalities towards business, but this comes anywhere in your life. It applies to your relationships as well. People often ask me how to be fearless in their life. They want this fearlessness in a variety of aspects in their life. Sometimes people want to know that they can truly speak their heart, speak their opinion, and be successful in business. I largely attribute this to cancel culture, but it's not only cancel culture. A lot of times people are afraid to show up and share who they are and what they really do because they're friends and their family, some of our most important relationships. Their friends and their family may judge them. They worry about how it will be received. Now in the last episode, I was talking about self trust and how parents may tell us that certain things won't bring us success. They won't bring us abundance, and some people will set out on that path and don't want their family to know, even if they are successful, exactly what it is that they're doing because they don't wanna deal with that judgment. They don't wanna have to deal with the comments. [00:03:08] Sometimes when we become successful, especially if you have overcome a huge poverty mindset or if your family has always talked negatively about wealthy people, and rich people are awful. They're evil. All of these things. If you have worked to overcome stories from your family that rich people are evil, that it's wrong to be wealthy, that it's greedy. All of these things if , you've worked to overcome these stories. Some people don't even let their families know that they have wealth, and understandably so, because they don't wanna deal with that backlash. I've even worked with someone. Whose family once they found out how successful they were, even though over the course of several years, they had not changed one bit, they were the same person. The only thing was they did not share with their family their wealth, and then when the pandemic hit came the golden opportunity to exit their business, cash out in a very big way. And I mean, who wouldn't do that? So they were able to take a breather, take a little sabbatical if you will, bought a new home. Nothing extravagant, but the family was like, It's a middle of the pandemic. How did you buy a new home? And they're doing a little remodel and they're like, Well, you're not working. Where are you getting money? And it was like a switch was flipped. And So people wanna know, how can I be fearless? How can I be fearless about having more wealth? It doesn't matter if you're going from six figures to multi six, from high, multi six to seven, multi seven, multi eight. There always comes for most of us, this place where we feel like we've crossed a threshold that the way others view us is gonna be changing. So we hold back a little. And people wanna just be them. they don't want to have to put up a mask or pretend to be something they're not when they're with friends and family. [00:05:32] The other thing around fearlessness I already mentioned about speaking truth, how cancel culture can come into play, friends, families, opinions. Some people have just never made the really big decisions. They're coming into this place where they truly have to develop that millionaire mindset where you have to trust because you gotta make that investment in order to see things grow to the next level. And there comes a big shift in thinking about how you invest money. When you invest money. What that looks like. And people wanna be fearless around that. They don't want to be afraid to invest that money. And then that ties back in to the self trust, and the self trust simply at that point not that they have evidence that they can't do it, it's that they don't have evidence that they can, because this, decision is so different from any other decision that they've ever made before. And I'm sure you've been there where you come to this new place and you're having to make decisions that you never made before. It feels uncomfortable. Uncomfortable. There's a difference in knowing and having the awareness and the recognition that you can't control how it's gonna turn out, and being in fear and getting stuck. And this is one of the things that I will coach clients on. Like we can't eliminate your body's stress response. [00:07:23] So fear is on a continuum, at one end of the bell curve you've got completely safe, secure. Nothing in this world could rock me. I am solid. Then at t

Is self trust something that is on your wishlist? I know that really probably seems like a strange question, but most of my clients, most of the people who join my Facebook group or connect with me have done enough inner work that they've uncovered a lot of their habits and behaviors are driven by a lack of self trust. Hey, it's Penny here. I hope you've had a lovely week. And this is a topic that comes up a lot. Where does self trust come from? Self trust comes from us reinforcing all of our wins, small and big. It also comes from acknowledging when we need to adapt and change course on a previous decision. It includes acknowledging that we have the ability, the awareness, and the intelligence to choose a new path. To make a different decision. Even to walk away from something once we realize that it is no longer something that serves our greatest good, whether it's in our personal life, our relationships, our business, our career, It's about appreciating ourselves. Sometimes when I connect with people, even though they're very successful, they say that they don't trust themselves, and I'm like, Well, give me an example. And they will say something like, Well, I just never get things right. Of course that leaves me sitting here scratching my head well, "If you never got things right, how are you as successful as you are today?" And it will be, Oh, it was luck. Or I had a business partner, or my parents left me an inheritance. Things along those lines. But it's ultimately us. That chooses what to do with those things. [00:03:23] When we lack self trust, there has been some perception in the past, whether it's accurate or not, the mind doesn't care about accuracy, it's just gonna slap a meaning on things. Your subconscious mind puts meaning on things. And it may not always be accurate. It depends on everything that is going on in a situation. To give you an example of someone who there, was a certain career path that they wanted with their life. I don't wanna go into too much detail, but there was a certain career path that they wanted with their life, and the parents were like, No, no, you can't do that. You will never make money at that. You can't do that. You need to go into business. Or, This has been more than one client. One client. It was, you have to be a lawyer or a doctor. Another client. It was, you should be an engineer. So what did they do? They gave up what they wanted to do and they went and they spent all these years in education and then into a job that they absolutely hated. They did their best. They were actually good at it, but they didn't like it. So here they are. They've been told they can never succeed at what they want, and then when they did what they were told to do, after pushing through and committed to something they absolutely did not like or did not care for. It wasn't that they didn't succeed at it, but they just literally reached a point where they could not do it anymore. I'll do a podcast at some point in the future on the impact of choosing a path that's not aligned with our heart and what that means. But I digress. [00:05:18] So now they feel like, one, they weren't intelligent enough to make a decision because their parents told them that what they wanted to do was a poor choice. And so then they did what their parents wanted them to do and they didn't excel or succeed at it or feel fulfilled, heaven forbid we feel fulfilled, it's something we absolutely hate. We're not supposed to feel fulfilled. It's something we hate. But then when they choose to walk away, now they feel like a failure because they didn't excel at what they were told should make them happy. What they told should make them financially secure. And it blows my mind at how very good intentions parents have for children can just completely negatively alter the trajectory of their lives. But now here they are. They've walked away from this career that they told they should be happy, and then they're totally lost as to what to. And I'm like, well, what did you wanna do? They told me "Oh, well I wanted to be a writer". You wanted to be a writer? Oh yes. I always wanted to. Well, why not write? Well you know, they said, you can't make money at that. And I'm like, Well, says who? Who says you can't make money at it? One person that I had worked with had had a very specific family member that they were working on a book when they were in college and they adored this family member and says, Oh, well other people can make money writing books, but you'll never make money writing a book. And we unraveled that belief and things really shifted for her because she had air fingers quote writer's block up until that point. But what we do is, we're in this emotional state. We take on what other people are saying, and we hear it often enough that we can doubt our own choices. When we are dealing with someone that we look up to, whether it's a parent, a teacher, a professor, a mentor, a boss, a coach. When they are telling

Imposter syndrome and self-judgment are not good for your business, nor are they necessary for you to grow and evolve and scale your business, whatever that looks like for you. Penny here. I hope you are having a great start to your week. But I'm gonna be honest, I was reading something earlier this week and it really pissed me off. It pissed me off because it is misleading a lot of people. I was reading some information that was written by someone who's very influential and they were saying that not only is imposter syndrome good, but imposter syndrome and self judgment is necessary. That if you're going to be in business, that it's necessary. And this is just absolutely untrue when you understand truly what imposter syndrome is. [00:01:53] Now, right now, as I'm recording this podcast, you've probably already seen emails. I'm in the process of launching my masterclass: Aligned Identity, Turn Your Inner Voice Into Your Cheerleader. Imposter syndrome is our little inner critic. It's a little inner bitch sometimes, if you will. That is not healthy. For any highly successful person, any high level entrepreneur, business leader, in order to get to the place that we are, we know that self-reflection, self-evaluation is absolutely necessary. We have to look at our numbers. We have to be brutally honest with ourselves and see where we are. We do that so that we can adjust course and navigate what is happening in our mindset and in our strategy. But this is an objective process. When we're looking at our numbers and we're doing these things, if we start getting all in our feels and we're getting all in our emotions and we're making it feel it's something about us, that is not healthy. We can always sit there and say, well, geez, you know what, I wish I had done this differently. We always are going to have some situation, some conversation, some decision that we made where we were like, You know what, I really wish I had done that differently. We can arm chair Monday morning quarterback all day long. We all know that that's not going to change things. What's important is that we learn our lesson, we see what we didn't see before. We learn from that so that we can be more aware in the future and that we keep going. [00:03:51] But when we get into the self pity or we get into a place where we're irritated with ourselves: "Oh you went and did it again". When we're say something to ourselves like, Well, that was a real dumb ass move. Like I could say That was the sarcasm. Wow, Penny. Well, that was a dumb ass move. And say it in jest. Or I could be like, Well God, that was just such a dumb ass move. You were just like so fricking stupid. Like, what are you, What are you doing? What did you do? You can hear the difference in those two things in our inner voice plays into that emotion, even when we're not saying it out loud to ourselves. And even when you say it in jest, you're telling your subconscious mind, even when you say it ingest, you're telling your subconscious mind, Ooh, I better watch out. That wasn't a very smart decision. And the more we say something like that to ourselves, the more we reinforce it and then our mind starts to look for our mistakes. It looks for an opportunity to make a wrong decision, depending on how often we say those things to ourself. [00:05:09] When we're having imposter syndrome that is coming from a part of the mind. The amygdala plays a role in this part of the mind that is evaluating our state of wellbeing. That evaluation comes from past experiences. What we anticipate will happen, good or bad. So whether you see the world view as your cup is half full or half empty, this definitely influences this. Your emotional state impacts it when our amygdala is evaluating whether or not something feels safe and secure, or we are in a state of wellbeing where we do not need to be on alert or concerned about what may happen, it accesses memories that we forgot about a long time ago. It's not just looking at the big things on your radar that you remember,even though those big things most likely play a role in what's coming up, those big things aren't all that is coming up. When you're experiencing imposter syndrome, there can be subconscious uncertainty and fear around a lot of things that like you never even imagined things that just would not enter your mind as influencing what it is that you're saying to yourself. [00:06:40] If you're inner voice is being snarky with you, if it's being negative, if it is triggering all kinds of emotions and resentment towards yourself, judgment of yourself, putting yourself down, feeling guilty when you know you shouldn't feel guilty, there is something else underneath the surface. Your inner voice is never, ever going to go away because we have thoughts all day long, even when we're busy and we don't notice it. We're having these thoughts. When these thoughts come up and we're aware of them. If we can just be like, Ha, whatever, and go on and have zero ze

Hey, Hey, penny here wanted to have a chat with you about, Oh, I don't know. I guess my approach, my beliefs, around working with clients. Because over the last, I don't know, two and a half years, I have caught a little bit of blow back from people around the way I do things and it's not gonna be what you think. Okay. One of the first things that I caught blowback about was basically the fact that I niched down. The fact that starting two and a half years ago. Yeah, two and a half years ago, I exclusively began to work with people who were on a transformation journey and that could look like a lot of things. My clients, most of them are very self aware. They've done the work. They know what that inner voice means. They understand that imposter syndrome isn't about the imposter syndrome. It's something different. It's something deeper, but we're not gonna go into all of that. But I really caught a lot of flack because. I started calling up some of my fellow hypnotist and said, Hey, I have somebody who wants to quit smoking. Would you like a client? Hey, I have someone who wants to lose a hundred pounds. Do you want a client? And I started referring these people out and I was admonished and said, you shouldn't refer people out. You should take care of everyone. [00:02:37] Well, I kind of think of what I do in the same terms that I think of my career in healthcare. In healthcare I specialized in anesthesia, and when I came to Mississippi, I did a lot of trauma and critical care anesthesia. So that was kind of where I focused my attention. So I look at my hypnosis practice, the same way that I looked at medicine. I work in a very narrow area, but I go very deep as opposed to, shallow and wide. If you've done any marketing, you know exactly what I'm talking about, except I'm talking about it on a subconscious level. So, I'm happy to say that there is more tendency to niche now in hypnosis, but it's not really mainstream. I would, if I had to guess, I would probably say 95% of hypnotists are generalist and 5% niche down and specialize in a specific area. So that's the first thing that really of catches people unaware. [00:03:56] The other thing is that, I don't do my hypnosis by the session. I used to and people would always ask me, well, how many sessions, how many sessions? Well, the truth is, I don't know, until we start doing the work based on my experience now, because I've niche. I can ask the questions and I can come pretty close, I'm actually pretty damn accurate actually to know if it's gonna be four or less, or if we're looking at 5, 6, 7, 8, even 10 sessions. And I have two programs, if you will, that I put people into, depending on what they're dealing with and what I think it's gonna take to solve the problem. I never make any assumptions of how many, but I make sure that we have enough time that we can dig in and do the work that needs to be done. So I no longer charged by the session I charge for the transformation. So that's a little bit different and people don't quite understand it. So that's another shift that I've made. [00:05:06] The third thing is that last year, with clients that I knew who were going to be bumping up against life situations, stressors, and that they would really benefit from the support of handling these situations, when they occurred with someone who understood these subconscious underpinnings with select clients, I began to offer some coaching as well. I was taught that coaching doesn't belong in hypnosis. You're here to do hypnosis. You're not here to coach. And my thought about that is, well, what if someone doesn't understand how to deal with day to day life stressors? Like, you know, where else is something going to show up in their life and cause a problem? Or potentially trigger them to go back to the old way of doing things. Because let's face it; when you're 51 years old, like I am, I started my transformation journey when I was 48, no 47. I don't know my own age. Isn't that funny? I feel 26, so it doesn't matter. Age is all a matter of the mind anyway. So it would be ridiculous of me to think that at age 48, I could have hypnosis and it undo 48 years of habits. Now, yes, I had a client who was a 40 year pack a day smoker who never tried to quit in her life until she reached out to me. And after one session, she was a non-smoker. And I know she stayed a non-smoker because her doctor called me for two years after I left Connecticut asking me, would I please see her clients? And I had to keep reminding her. I was in Mississippi and not Connecticut. But that lady and I actually did two sessions together, because to do a single session and to have no follow up is meaningless. [00:07:10] So, in a situation where you're dealing with the patterns and beliefs and the habits of thinking and feeling and how you respond and how you react. In five or six sessions, you cannot undo a lifetime. Can we take a big boulder and push it off the cliff and get you major transformatio

Do things always seem to happen to you in life? Is that a perspective that you have, that as you go through life when unwanted events occur, that, these things are happening to you? I wanna share a different perspective with you. This got a great deal of discussion recently when it came up. Several years ago, I learned a very, powerful piece of wisdom. You could call it a nugget, but this isn't a nugget. It's more like a 10 ton boulder. My mentor, Jim Forton, was coaching me and he said you are in 100% influence of the circumstances of your life. And for most people who aren't in the personal development world, they jump right into the, oh my God, that's victim shaming. Nobody asked for cancer. Nobody asked to be mugged or, you know, whatever else. That's not the point of the statement. The point of the statement is that no one can make us think, feel, or believe anything about any situation in our life, unless we first choose to entertain that idea. People can make comments, but unless we choose to entertain that idea, then we're not going to adopt that idea. What this means is that we get to choose the meaning that we put on any situation. [00:02:46] Now, when we're going through life and we are dealing with other people, they have free will and choice just as much as we do. And some of those people may do things that we find unpleasant, disgusting, unfair, downright heinous even. But, the only meaning that's on that is what we do. The only meaning that is on that is the meaning that we choose to give it So take, for example, let's just say there is a business contract, a client contract, and something happens and the person can't fulfill the contract, or it was almost done. But then at the last minute, the contract doesn't get signed. The client pulls out and it's like, 'Oh my God. Why does this always happen to me?' Well, number one, I don't do that, but for some people they do now, it's one thing to sit back and take an honest assessment of situation. And say, okay, what happened here? Is there something systems sales call, communicating the offer, the expectations, like, is there something here that needs to be improved? That's totally appropriate, but it's something else to say that, oh my God, this always happens to me. I'm attracting clients who… do this. Like why do they always find me? Well, maybe somebody just had bad situation happen. Maybe their finances changed. Maybe their needs changed. . We can either choose to allow ourselves to be at the mercy of other people's choices, or we can choose to be in command of the next steps. Right. So you could look at that situation and be in a pity party, and 'why is this always happening? People are always cheating me' or, I don't know. I could think of a lot of different examples. I don't wanna go down that rabbit. I don't like that negative energy in here, but to step back and say, okay, well, let's assess what happened here. Let's email this person. Let's find out if there are any gaps that we need to address and get a deeper understanding, that is being in a place of empowerment rather than living by circumstance. [00:05:18] So whether it's something with my family, with my husband, with my business, with people that I do business with personally, when something comes up, I will ask myself: "Okay. What did I do to co-create this?" Maybe I didn't communicate clearly what my needs were. Maybe I didn't communicate clearly what my expectations were because if I communicated my expectations, clearly, maybe this person I chose to do business with would say, oh, we're not a fit. Maybe I didn't ask a question. I should have asked. That one has actually happened to me. I was in a situation where I did not know what I did not know. I was making an investment. I felt like it was the best investment for me. And in hindsight, I look back and I thought to myself, it would've really been nice if they had a process in place to do this gap assessment, because they thought I was at a place that I was not. I was not a fit for this investment I made, but once I made the investment, in integrity, I'm committed. I follow through on my investment and I made the most of what was provided to me that I could. But then I still had to seek out someone who could help me identify the gap. And when I found that person, I knew immediately, oh, this is what I needed. Like, this was the secret ingredient to the recipe, except it's no secret ingredient to anybody who's been in business for a very long time. But for me being a new entrepreneur and I say new, because I've only been in business four years, that's still relatively new. It was a gap that I had and I did not know. So I could have sat here and I could have blamed the people that I signed on to work with and said, oh my God, they should have done this. They should have done that. But you know what, it's also my responsibility to ask questions. It's my responsibility to educate myself the best that I can. To know what I don't

Hello, hello. It is Penny. And I'm here to talk today about mental and emotional health m. And mental and emotional health as a business leader, as an entrepreneur. But this very much applies to everyone. Whether it's your children, your partner, your employees, when it comes to our mental and emotional health, because we're all very good at doing, we're all very good at getting caught up in action taking, many times we don't recognize that our mind and our body is calling out to us until we really feel it. So for example, probably like many other entrepreneurs, there are times when I'm here in the office. I get head down, I get into flow, and hours and hours can go by and I don't recognize that all that time has gone by until I have a headache. And that headache is because I am so hungry because I haven't eaten in six or eight hours. That state, being hungry, which can quite easily become hangry, that impacts our ability to handle stress and things that are going on in our business, in our life mentally and emotionally, because we have taxed our brain to the point from a metabolic standpoint, that it is difficult for us to deal with a stressor or a situation. So now I am much more mindful and I do my best to pay better attention. [00:03:01] Now you may say, well, yeah, but you know, I fast. Well, if you're on a fasting schedule, that's fine. Your body becomes acclimated to that. But say for instance, you're someone who grabs a quick breakfast. Maybe you're having a breakfast of oatmeal and fruit, which even though it has fiber, there's a lot of, carbs in that. Your body, the way your metabolism works, your blood sugar crashes much more quickly, and it gives you peaks and valleys and it affects your energy, your mental focus. You can have brain fog, nevermind the irritability, and, not able to handle the stressors day to day, but when we are experiencing stress in our business, and I'm even talking about the normalized stress. Daily stress, stress day in and day out, high pressure over commitment, overwhelm, that is not normal. But we normalize it. That's the culture of business. That paradigm is shifting. It's changing, but we shouldn't be in that state every day. We don't have the opportunity to process our emotions. We don't have the opportunity to allow our bodies to rest. When our bodies don't rest, it shortens our mental and emotional bandwidth. I think you can see where I'm going here. [00:04:30] Now. one of the things that can create stress, worry, fear in the business is our inner voice. Because there's some part of us that's telling us that we have to push that hard. There's some part of us telling us that we have to go one more minute, one more hour, one more day, before we give ourselves some time off. It's our inner voice that says, oh, we have to go the extra mile for this client and I have to do it right now. Now that's not to say that customer service client care is not important. It's actually very important, but I've been there. I know. And I know what some of you are doing when it's not urgent. You're making it urgent in your mind. And you're causing yourself to have to do more and more. Your inner voice is talking you into believing that only you can do a certain task well enough. That if you don't do it, it'll take longer if someone else does it. And you're not able to let go of control in the business, it's your inner voice. That's telling you that you have to be super cautious and super afraid of what other people may think. [00:05:56] When we can step into this place, where one, we realize that control is an illusion and two, we can accept ourselves for doing our very best and accept that we're smart enough to know when we need to go out and gather more knowledge, then we can let go of all of that. Now I'm not talking about perfectionism. Perfectionism is, that is just like a total and complete waste of mental, emotional, and physical energy. I'm not talking about the, oh, well, once I, reach this next milestone, it'll be good enough. Or when I reach the next milestone, it'll be good enough. No, I'm talking about; you get into a situation. You're like, oh, you know what? I have a knowledge gap here. Let me fill the knowledge gap. And then I will, I will be ready. That voice in your head is telling you it's not good enough, people aren't gonna like it. What if they don't like the new direction that your company is taking, maybe you bring in a new partner in the company or you sell an equity share, whatever that looks like. It's important to be aware, and wise, about what you're doing. But when you are allowing your mind to run your emotions, then it becomes detrimental. And when I say, when you allow your mind to run your emotions, yes. All of our emotions come from our mind. But what I'm saying is when you let your thinking run your emotions, that's when we get into the weeds of mental and emotional health, because unnecessary fear and worry is caused by our thoughts. [00:07:50] I ha

Are you optimizing all of the resources that are available to you to move through an issue? There are some surprising ways that we can get answers to our questions, that we can release things that will allow us to move forward in our life. This one may seem odd to some of you, but I know to a lot of my audience they're gonna go, oh yeah, absolutely. I do this. Your mind when you are asleep, your conscious mind is offline, your body is resting, but your subconscious mind and your unconscious mind is still at work. Your unconscious mind being the part of you that operates your bodily functions, your immune system, your heart rate, your breathing. It's also where the reticular activating system is located. And it's the reticular activating system that will send a signal to wake you up if there's a bump in the night. It's… I've mentioned it before, it's like that guard dog with the ear cocked up, always listening. It's the thing that changes for a mother when she has a baby. When you think, oh my gosh, I'm such a deep sleeper. Will I hear the baby cry? Yes, you're gonna hear the baby. It's part instinct and it's part having that awareness that you now have an infant in the house, and you need to be aware of the cry. You're literally priming your mind to alert you when you hear a baby's cry. [00:02:53] But when we're sleeping, this is when short term memory can get converted to long term memory. It's when our body, through neurophysiological responses, can set in motion healing. This is why sleep is so important. You wanna be sure to get enough sleep, but not too much because too little or too much sleep are both detrimental. Maybe I'll do an episode at one point on sleep. There is no set number of hours that is blanket for everybody. Typically, if I make it through five sleep cycles in a night, I'm good. For most people, a sleep cycle is an hour and 15 minutes to an hour and 30 minutes. That full sleep cycle allows you to get into REM state, where we dream. So your subconscious mind is active when you're sleeping. It's converting short term memory to long term memory. If there are pathways that are no longer utilized, no longer needed, it can break those things down. [00:04:03] Now, I have to put this in context a little bit, because as hypnotist we often talk about with neuroplasticity, when someone is changing a habit that when you create a new habit, you're creating a new neural pathway, the old neural pathway doesn't go away. It's still there. So take, for example, someone who drank too much. I'm not gonna say alcoholic because that's at the far end of the spectrum, but say someone drank too much and they didn't like it. So they quit drinking or someone who smoked and they quit smoking because they didn't like it. That old neural pathway is still there. It's not uncommon to hear of someone who stopped a habit and then one day they're like, you know, I'll have just one cigarette or I'll have just one drink and then they're back to smoking or drinking or, whatever it is, the habit. They fall right back into it. It's because that neural pathway is still there. But when we do things like shift beliefs, and we literally knock out the structure of the old belief. then the subconscious mind is going to process that it's one of the things that forces our brain into a state of reorganization when we do hypnosis work. When we do subconscious work, that subconscious success coaching, with the conversational hypnosis, is that we are literally rendering those old beliefs to be faults, and once the mind recognizes their faults, those beliefs are no longer needed. [00:05:39] So what can you do to optimize sleep to get what you want? Before I go to sleep at night I actually do a self hypnosis. And as a part of that self hypnosis, I might give my subconscious mind a command such as, 'find any beliefs that are preventing me from achieving blank and delete them. Search and delete.' Or, 'tonight, reprogram my subconscious mind to feel safe earning X number of dollars.' So if you're someone who grew up, in a very modest household, maybe middle class, but you always heard your parents talk about people who had money were, you know, they were crooked, they couldn't be trusted, they were selfish. And while you know that there are a lot of great people with a lot of money who are doing wonderful things, they fly under the radar. They're making an impact in other people's lives more so than they are their own. You know this, you believe this, you believe that you're worthy of it on the surface level, but deep, deep, deep down, you always heard these stories. So you can tell your subconscious mind before you go to sleep, 'subconscious mind in my sleep tonight, I want you to rewrite this story, that wealthy people are good people, that good people with wealth do great things.' And you can just do that every night. [00:07:24] Now let's take this a step further. This is where I love to play. This is an absolute playground and that is dr

Hey everybody, we are going a different direction today. Welcome back. I'm excited that you are here. Today I wanna talk about the surprise benefits of doing the deep subconscious work, because there are surprises that people get. Unexpected things can happen, so I wanna share with you some of the wins that my clients have gotten in my group program, as well as one on one work. Because what I have found is that in my group program, people get so much added benefit out of that because things that they never considered are brought up by other participants, you know. Questions, insights, life experiences, and light bulbs just pop off all the time in the group program. It's a 10 week program. It's actually, as this episode is released, we're about three weeks into it. It will, be the first of the year when I run it again. So you want to be on my email list so that you know when that rolls out or you can just message me on social media and let me know that you want to be in the group program when that rolls out. But here let's just let's roll with this. [00:02:32] So one of the unexpected benefits that my clients get is they truly truly cannot grasp what it means to be neutral about their past until it happens, and what that literally means for their life. So take one client, for example, came to me for stress and tension in her neck. She always had tight muscles in her neck and she wanted to take care of that. She felt it was emotional in nature. Now, when she and I connected, she had not shared with me that from time to time, she would have what felt like a panic attack. Now she wasn't diagnosed with these, but she would just "get triggered" by something and hyperventilate and feel overwhelmed. So we do this work because, if you've ever read Dr. John Sarno's book, "Mind Body RX", then you will know that he says that chronic discomfort in the body is caused by repressed rage. We did this work together and once we went through a process of forgiveness, there was peace. This is the one thing that surprises all of my clients. They truly had never in their life experienced true peace. Now, what was the unexpected benefit of doing that work? Because there was a component of everything that involved this individual's father. As a full grown adult, there was fear and trepidation around even visiting her father because of everything that had happened and the expectations around the current behavior that was happening. After we did this work, she was able to spend time with him, accepting him for who he was with no expectations and to be at peace completely free of fear, free of any resentment, any frustration. And, shortly afterwards, there were some changes in his health and she was able to be present with him to be at peace with their relationship to reconcile that relationship. And when he transitioned, she had closure. She had closure. [00:05:18] Another unexpected benefit, if you've listened to the podcast, if I think it's episode 11, it might be 10, it's the interview with Justina, and she talks about how her son after we did the work for the first time, jumped up into her arms, hugged her and said, I love you. He was never, an affectionate; I shouldn't say never affectionate, but he, he was not a touch affectionate child. Her hugs were not how he connected with her. And when she let go of what she was dealing with, he, I mean, we did another interview back in February and he just, he loves on her all the time. Put a price on that for me. Because I know so many entrepreneurs and business owners and business leaders who do what they do, because they are determined to break the generational pattern of what they grew up in. Whether it was poverty, a stressed household, financial insecurity, whatever those things were, and then you get into this cycle of being so dedicated to your business the one thing that you, wanted to do was be able to be present with your children and now, you don't know how to do that because you feel guilty when you're not in the business. You feel guilty when you're with your kids, because you're thinking about the business, those kinds of things. So yeah. [00:06:50] I've had clients unexpectedly lose 10 to 15 pounds, no dieting, no suggestions for weight loss, but when they drop the weight of the emotion and the beliefs that they were carrying around, the weight fell off. So let me see, what's another unexpected one. I'm going off a memory here. So you have to bear with me just a little bit because a lot of these things overlap. Another person, I think I mentioned it in a recent episode, we we're dealing with people pleasing, right? People pleasing. Oh, my gosh. Talk about a complete pivot in change in life. This person is now traveling the world, running a business that they love. An independent location business, and is no longer in corporate. And when you. See the photos, like the social media post you can see the change in the face. That's another thing. Oh my gosh. I have worked with c

Hey, welcome back. People often ask me how to know if they're a right fit to work with me. And the answer is it depends. There are a lot of things that go into my personal client selection process. And that's because I want to know I can get the person, the result that they've asked for. Now you and I both know that there are no guarantees in life, however, when we are smart about our choices, we exponentially increase the likelihood of that outcome. Someone recently asked me, you know, penny, what is your success rate? And I'm like, 90 or 95% closer to 95 than it is to 90. And they're like, really? And I said, well, yeah, that's because I'm very selective in my client process. [00:02:03] Now, a lot of times people might not think they're ready when they really are. And that is because we have bias towards ourselves. We have self judgment. We see ourselves through a different lens than someone who is objective about our problem. When someone shows up and they wanna connect with me, to work one on one, the number one key component to maximizing the likelihood that you're going to get the outcome that you desire is complete honesty. I do not reveal what takes place on my interview calls. It's a sales call, but it's more of an interview because I'm not going to sell anything. I'm not going to propose that we work together unless we are a fit. And the most important aspect of this is honesty. I ask a lot of questions. Some of them are deeply personal because they allow me to assess one: The readiness to do the work. But two: What are the things that you have never considered that are contributing to your problem that might be contributing to your problem? [00:03:26] You know, we always talk about the layers of the onion and, sometimes people, they're looking at one aspect that they want to address. And they don't realize that this other thing is actually the more important issue to address. That the thing that they reach out to me for is a superficial layer of a much deeper problem. And if I am not aware of the much deeper problem, then what can happen is when we move into the work, we can begin to get a result. But then all of a sudden a wall goes up and. , we make progress, but we can't get the complete resolution. And what happens is we're not dealing with the real problem. Now, sometimes the way these things are linked together, if you simply know which the more prominent issue is, it's easy to unravel to get you the result that you want. So for example, someone can reach out to me and say, you know, I want a little more self-confidence. I get nervous every time I have to go on camera. I've been doing it for years. I just don't wanna be nervous anymore. And we do the work and we get great results. We're having great headway. And then all of a sudden another issue will pop up. And when we explore it deeper, it will turn out. Perhaps this is just an example. Perhaps this person didn't tell me that they had a binge eating disorder that has not been addressed. There's a whole other component of things under there that are impacting what we're working on. We're just working on a peripheral issue, not the core issue. [00:05:26] And before anyone reaches out to me and wants hypnosis for their binge eating disorder, I do not work with binge eating disorders. And here's why. The research, the established literature says that persons with diagnose binge eating disorders of any kind, be it anorexia bulimia or whatever that might look like for you. If you meet diagnostic criteria for any binge eating disorder, it requires a team approach. And that is outside of what I do. I'm not a healthcare professional in that realm. I'm not a therapist, but I mean, we made significant headway, but without addressing the other issue. It wasn't gonna happen. And it's not something that I address. Now. I have worked with many clients who had binge eating disorders in the past. They worked with therapists and they were able to move beyond that. They took care of it. Then the work that we do together is actually fairly simple. We're still just dealing with a peripheral belief, a peripheral issue, but we're not having to deal with that much deeper thing. [00:06:40] So honesty is huge, especially, if there are significant repeating patterns of something in your past. It changes the way that I look at the work we do together. So take, for example, you're needing to make a pivot in your business. We're in a recession, depending on who's definition you're going on these days. And, say all of a sudden, outta nowhere, you've never, ever, ever had an issue with your confidence or your clarity around your business. And now all of a sudden, outta nowhere with no rhyme or reason, you're like, oh my God, I'm in this place. And I, I have to move and I can't move. I feel like I'm in quick sand. I can't move if you and I connect and I'm asking you questions, and this has never showed up in your past before. There's one way to handle it. Then if you an

[00:00:00] Penny: We're gonna talk about something a little unsexy today, but it is something that is going to make a difference in your life. We're gonna talk about emotions because I'm seeing some things in the online coaching space, whether it's in groups. In short form content that I'm seeing of people that I follow, that I find detrimental [00:00:30] our emotions are good period. In the story. Our emotions are good. People often talk about their north star, their why in. Part of that is emotion driven. Your emotions are a compass to leading a fulfilling and satisfying life. If you want to have a [00:01:00] self actual lies life, if you want to live in authenticity, then you have to become a master of your emotions. [00:01:10] And when I say a master of your emotions, I'm not talking about controlling your outward appearance, as opposed to the way you feel on inside. I'm not talking about pushing things down and managing them. Though mastery of emotions is about managing, but it's not about managing in a way that you are exerting control so that you are not reacting. [00:01:38] If you find that you have to control yourself so that you are not reacting, then you are not responding to your emotions correctly, and it's not your fault. It's not like our parents were giving owners manuals to teach us how to help us to satisfy our emotions, [00:02:00] to help us through those moments of understanding what we're feeling, how our circumstances and our thoughts contribute to that, so that we can just satisfied in the moment and move on and leave that moment behind us feeling completely. [00:02:18] Neutral about it because when you have satisfied your emotions appropriately, when you look back to the past, you can be neutral about it. If it's something that was unpleasant, you maintain what you maintained the insight. You grow from it, but it's no longer eating at you inside now with happy emotions through desire. [00:02:49] When we look back on memories through desire, we can tap back into that joy, the happiness, the love, the excitement, whatever it was that we were feeling.[00:03:00] We typically don't tune into unpleasant emotions. By choice. Unless when we start thinking about something, we choose to allow ourselves to ruminate on it. [00:03:13] Then we can, bring things back again. But if some aspect of the past, a memory of thought about something unpleasant, if it just pops into your mind, it should not trigger anger. It should not trigger things that make you feel down depressed. Grief being an exception. And I'm gonna talk about grief. [00:03:36] This is actually going to be a long episode. It's going to be an episode that you are going to come back and listen to again and again, I should actually charge what I'm sharing with you in this episode, because if you take it and you implement it and you use it, it will change your [00:04:00] life. I'm going to use anger as an example, because anger is a very misunderstood emotion. [00:04:07] We think it's bad. [00:04:09] We have been conditioned in society that it's not an acceptable emotion motion that we shouldn't feel this. The first thing I'm gonna hit on here is gratitude. Bypassing it's. When we take a situation that was unfair, that angered us where we were wronged and we can see the silver lining, whether it was an opportunity for personal growth. [00:04:38] We. Changed direction in our life. And it resulted in us having a much better life. Maybe we learned to be a better parent because of what happened. Maybe we learned to be a better partner, a better business person. If you're feeling that anger and you say, you know what? I just need to [00:05:00] be grateful that. [00:05:02] And I don't care how you feel in the blank. If you are doing that, you are gratitude by passing. You are not dealing with the anger and that anger will come back and it will bite you in the ass. If it doesn't bite you in the ass, in your relationships, if it doesn't bite you in the ass, in your. decisions. [00:05:21] If it doesn't bite you in the ass, in your emotional and mental health, it will bite you in the ass. In your physical health anger. It has been shown in studies. Anger is more deadly than a type, a personality. [00:05:39] I might circle back later and throw in an example. I don't wanna get off track here, but gratitude bypassing. If you were using your silver lining to condition yourself that it's inappropriate for you to feel anger or to push that emotion down, please stop doing that. Instead, I want you to ask [00:06:00] yourself what about this was unfair and that's gonna tell you the next steps to take. [00:06:06] What about this was unfair when you understand what about it was unfair? Ask yourself two questions. Number one. Is can I make fair? Making fair means going to the other person who was involved perhaps and having a conversation in letting them know how this event in the past made you feel. even if your present day self. [00:06:31] This is a scenari

What is the secret to happiness and to joy in life? Is this a question that you've ever asked yourself? Maybe you tell yourself you don't know what happiness is and you've really wondered what life is all about. What's the point. When we come into this world, we forget everything that we knew before we got here. Yes. I'm talking about encarnation. Yes, I am talking about our soul. Yes, I am talking about spirituality. We've all been in this rodeo more than once. And we forget when we come into this life, what it was that we knew before, but we all come in with something that is unique to us and no one else. For those of you who don't know, I apprentice with an indigenous shaman. He was brought up by shamans in Mexico. And what he shared with me is that the one thing that we all have that no one can ever take from us is our authenticity. It's the uniqueness of who we are. And it's part of our lesson in this lifetime to remember who we are. One of the ways that we remember who we are is to get out of our normal every day, 3D thinking. In other words, we have to get out of our head. [00:02:55] I never knew that I was going to be on this path when I first learned about hypnosis. And when I reopened my hypnosis practice in 2018, I certainly never dreamed my journey would take me to where I am now. Part of the lesson in remembering our authenticity is to follow the bread crumbs that life is giving us. We follow the bread crumbs of what feels good. Sometimes we can have an experience where we just know something is right. We can't put our finger on it. That is a part of us that is remembering who we are, and it's bringing us that wisdom to know yes, go that way or no, don't go that way. People call it their intuition. They call it their gut. Has there ever been a time where your instincts, your intuition said go left and you're like, nah, you know, that sounds good, and that feels good. However, I've been told I should go right. And you went right. And you ended up in a place where you were either in a job that you hated or you chose to go to college for something, when all you ever wanted to do was to be a writer or to create art or to start your own business. And then someday you're looking back and you're like, Jesus. I like wasted this whole hunk of my life. It's because we didn't learn our lesson when we remembered. [00:04:42] So each and every choice that we make takes us on our path and it guides us in a direction. Now here's the thing. Do we need to beat ourselves up when we look back and go, damn, I didn't get it. Like I wasted all this time. No. Be in the present moment because when we start looking back and we have our shoulda, woulda, coulda, we're living in the past. When we're living in the past, we are unable to move towards our future. So how do we clear those things out? it's interesting that Don Javier, he is the shaman that I work with, t's interesting that he used an analogy that is identical to the analogy that I learned in hypnosis, except the application is slightly different, but the same, and that is of a hard drive. We all come in with our basic system and when we're born, like, I, use this with clients for a long time before he taught me this from a different perspective. From the time we are born, we are programmed. Our basic operating system is our needs that need to be met. We're seeking love. We're seeking safety, food, water, sex. Those are our basics, right? That's the operating system. We come with everything else that comes to us is programming that the world put into our head. It is programming that we were given by our parents, by our environment, and our perceptions and interpretations of it. [00:06:31] I'm gonna drop a serious truth on you in this. You might hear this and you might be like, you know what? I'm not listening to this anymore. And that's okay, because this is, this is a time where a lot of things are changing in our world and there's room only for the truth. The truth is that 100% of everything that we believe. And that includes me 100% of everything we believe is biased, and it's not truth. I want you to think about that. It's biased and it's not truth. So we have all this programming that comes in. It influences the way we think, it influences the way we believe, it influences what we choose for ourselves. We're choosing based upon what someone else put in our head. And there are things that we observe that we learn. There are things that sink in that we have no conscious awareness of. It happens all the time that later in life, it influences our decisions, our choices, it influences how we feel. So our job is to take our life experiences, and when we notice that we're being triggered, a trigger is a sign that there's something inside of us that we need to address because a trigger is based on a past experience. When we react, we're reacting because the subconscious mind is taking over because of past experience. When we respond we're in the present moment. So

Does it really have to be hard to overcome that anxiety that we bump up against from time to time in life and business. Is it really a long, hard journey to work through the issues that have created it and get past them. I'm not gonna be around the bush here. The answer's no, it absolutely does not. The prevalence of coaching, and I'm not knocking coaching let's just be 100% straight up, I have coaches I've had other coaches in the past, I have 100% benefited from coaching, but for people who have only given themselves the opportunity to work with coaches are only given themselves the opportunity to work with therapists, to work through normal average everyday things have this misperception that this is like some fucking cross you have to bear. And it's not. I mean, when we're engaging in therapy, when we're engaging in coaching, we are dealing with surface level strategies. [00:02:14] I was recently a part of a conversation with someone I know who had an experience where they went through a week of an intense period of anxiety. And it all started with a decision that they made to go along with something that someone else wanted. So this person has a tendency to people, please. They went along with what this other person wanted, even though they knew that going into this situation, it was 100% something they did not want to do. 100%. So if you watch my previous podcast episode, you know, I've talked about alignment and values and what brings us happiness and joy. When we make a decision that throws us totally out of alignment, it's going to activate our subconscious mind because our subconscious mind does not like situations that cause us to feel unpleasant feelings. The mind just does not like it. So, what does it do? The mind fires off one thought, then it fires off another thought. And then the next thing you know, those thoughts begin to make you feel bad and you're going, why did I do this? And then it's… it's like firecrackers going off of emotion and thoughts. And we can end up in a spiral that creates this anxiousness, this anxiety. And there's just this perception that it takes forever to work through it. And I want to tell you that it does not. I'm actually gonna walk you through a couple of very short case studies to make my point. [00:03:54] Now, as a former healthcare professional, I'm going to make this very clear. One: I'm not knocking therapy because with people who have diagnosed conditions, they have trauma and really complex issues around that therapy is totally appropriate. Is therapy appropriate for people dealing with normal everyday problems? Sure. You wanna see a therapist and if just talking about it makes you feel better. That's great. But I'm going to make clear that I'm not talking about clinically diagnosed anxiety, the anxiety that gets in the way of your living every single day, because here's the thing, I'm gonna go into this sidebar for 30 seconds and then I'm back to the topic at hand. The word anxiety is a word that people use to describe how they feel. It is also a clinical term. I'm not talking about the clinical term. We're just gonna make that clear. I don't diagnose people. I don't treat people. However, I do help people get control of their confidence, their self-esteem, let go of self judgment, let go of people pleasing so that they have dominion over their thoughts, so that you have control over where your mind is going to a much greater degree. Now you may say, well, Penny, you can't control your mind, and if you know me long enough, you know that I live by the mantra that control is in illusion. Absolutely. So, what do I mean by controlling your thoughts? When we get into that situation where our thoughts are popping off like firecrackers, and they're creating all these feelings, that is coming from the past, the mind is going, oh, here we go again, we're doing something we don't like. Oh, here we go. We're gonna have to get on an airplane. We hate airplanes. Oh, why did you say yes to something you didn't want? Again, all of those thoughts are rooted in the past. And they're rooted in the past because somewhere in the past, the mind put an importance upon those things that was emotional in nature, and there's still emotions stored up around those things. So the mind is like, I don't wanna feel that way again. [00:06:09] When you can go in, and if you think of the old experiences, the old perceptions, the old biases, if you think of those things as legs on a three-legged stool, and you go in and you're able to neutralize the emotion around those events so that you can go, yeah, this thing happened to me. I don't let it run my life anymore. Because I have the benefit of taking what I know now and letting that neutralize the past so that I can move forward so that in the future, I can choose to go into a venture with someone. Do it with my eyes open. And if it's someone coming to me with something that doesn't align with my values, it doesn't align with what I want

Are you numbing yourself out with your business? Hi, this is Penny. Welcome back to Design Your Destiny. And this is something that I see as I stand back and I observe a lot of very successful people who are entrepreneurs and they race from one big launch, project, or business deal to the next. Now don't get me wrong, I understand how business works. We can't just take our foot off the gas and stop and just let everything go. Not when we're talking very large businesses when we need to be evolving product lines, streamlining services, adapting to the market. I totally get all of that. But have you ever thought to yourself if I wasn't spearheading a big project, if I wasn't about to go into a launch. If I wasn't creating a new product, I don't know what I would do with myself. Like I really just don't know what I would do with myself. All I know is throwing myself into my business. Then you are really treading into dangerous territory from a mental, emotional, and physical health standpoint. because when we stay in that state of always on, of always having to be on our toes, to go, to anticipate, to be vigilant, even hyper vigilant to things that could crop up and cause issues in our business, we're staying in a constant state of stress activation. [00:02:50] One of the newest fads going around is for people to reveal, you know now that you've left your past job or profession, what's a big scam that no one knows about. And I'm going to tell you that disease is a scam. And here's what I mean by that. Over 90% of all doctors' visits are due to symptoms and conditions caused by stress. Everything from low back pain, to autoimmune disease, to high blood pressure, to heart disease, diabetes, asthma, the list goes on. These things are due to stress activation. And one thing that I know about most very high level entrepreneurs that I have connected with the one thing that they want is they want longevity. They want a happy life. You want longevity, you want a vibrant, vital life. And if you're burning the candle at both ends, and you're staying under this constant high pressure, it has probably crossed your mind that you know what, I'm probably not gonna live another 10 years. This is something that was just related to me recently. You know, I'm just going from one thing to the next. I probably won't live another 10 years. And this person is younger than I am. So that's a very stark realization as to what is going on in this process. A lot of people think of stress as having a lot of things happening in your life. That's not the only place that stress comes from. [00:04:42] Stress comes from mental pressure. It comes from emotional pressure. It comes from pressure in the past. So imagine. If you're going into this big launch and things are going really well, however, in the past you had one launch that really if you could just take that section of your life and you had a big, giant eraser, and you could just wipe it the fuck outta your mind, you would all of the emotion, the interpretations, the meaning and the beliefs that were created around that, they're going to be in your subconscious underneath the surface. Your mind is going to be constantly searching and comparing. Now that's not the same as learning. We can learn from an experience and not have any emotional issue with it, if we learn that lesson and we accepted it and we let it go. But if we're in a state of comparison or like, oh, we can't let this happen again, rather than starting fresh and starting anew, that is running underneath the surface. And your mind is looking for ways to avoid the pain that you experienced before. So there can be a lot of stress coming in, and that could be one of the reasons you find yourself running from one project to the next. [00:06:02] Is there a part of you that has to prove to yourself that you can repeat your success? Because maybe a part of you thinks you just happen to be in the right place at the right time before, or maybe you just got lucky. So that's one of the things that keep us from running one project to the next we have to prove to ourselves. We can also have these hidden stories. Believe it or not. We have uncovered these stories with people who make a ton of money. You would think someone would not have these stories, but this person's family actually was very comfortable. There was no poverty involved or anything like that. They were very comfortable. However, the father and the mother came from very little means, and they had built up a very comfortable lifestyle, but the mother and the father operated from the fear of, "we have to make sure we have money. We can't spend all the money. We have to be frugal with the money. We have to save for a rainy day". And this stuff was trickling over into someone's business. Who's making eight figures. It was trickling in like there was this hesitation, there was this mental hand break about investing to go to a next level. And out of the blue, we reveal this thin

Welcome back to Design Your Destiny, everyone. Today, I'm gonna be talking about something that is common, and that is: what do you do when you commit to something, but you don't follow through. Like, what do you do? I think it's a challenge that many people fall into. And oftentimes my clients have faced this challenge. To be committed to something means that you have decided to do something. There are many factors that can come into play in our commitment to do something. One of those things is how committed are we to the thing that we are pursuing– whether it's a business venture, a partnership, deciding to relaunch the podcast as I am here, changing directions, deciding to build out your business in a new and different way. How committed are you to that? Probably one of the most common mainstream, if you will, ways of looking at commitment is people who decide to go into fitness, or to weight loss, healthier eating those types of things. And people often associate their success, or lack of it, with their willpower. The first myth that I want to debunk is that willpower works.Willpower does not work. Willpower is a function of the conscious analytical mind. Our conscious analytical mind, even though we believe it runs the show, it does not run the show. So as you go through your day, say you're someone who has, committed and I'm gonna use health as an analogy, but you can apply this to anything in your business. You can apply it to anything in your life, say that you were committed to your health, and you decided that you're going to stop drinking caffeinated beverages, and you're going to drink warm water. That's a big thing right now, "the warm water challenge". Say you're gonna commit to that each and every time that you go to drink water, you are making a choice each and every time you think, oh, you know what? I would really like a cup of coffee, or I would love a soda or an energy drink. You are making a decision when you're using willpower. You were relying solely on individual decisions to get you where you want to go. [00:03:59] So what does that mean? If you're relying on individual decisions to get you where you want to go, when you end up with a lot on your plate, whether it's a lot of deadlines coming due, something unexpected happens in the business or with the client or a project, or even in your personal life, your relationships, especially if you have kids, life can be really unpredictable when these unpredictable things come up. If you're relying solely on your decision making and you get into a space where your stress response is activated, you have a lot of things going on in your conscious mind that you are sorting out, you're going to possibly, most likely, revert to your old habit. It's easier. It's easier than having to make the conscious choice. Now water versus energy, drinks and caffeine. That's kind of easy because you can set your day up by making sure that all you have available is water, but if you're stressed out and you're worn down and you're going to the kitchen and you have all kinds of options, your mind's just not even gonna think about it. Your subconscious goes, oh, well, we always go to the caffeine, let's go to the cafe. Your willpower is like a battery on your cell phone. The more tired we become, the more that we have on our mind, the more things that we are processing, the weaker that willpower becomes. [00:05:33] If you're committing to something new, the biggest, most important thing you can do is just decide, and in the words of one of my mentors, declare it, make a declaration. Actually, a couple of my mentors, when it comes to bringing something new into your life, you define it, you decide it, and you declare it. And that really just sets it in your mind as an unbreakable standard, which goes to identity. If you've listened to episodes 86 and 87, GREAT, if you have not, I want you to go back and listen to episodes 86 and 87. I talk about identity because this is another piece of commitment. When you are committing to something, your identity should be an identity that supports the actions that you are taking. Your identity should support the actions that you're taking from how you identify yourself, the beliefs that you have within that identity. How someone with that identity, like what actions they take. What do they delegate? What are their capabilities? If there's,Something that you don't have that you need, then you're gonna be the person who's going to go out and learn that you're going to acquire that skill, that knowledge, that reference point, if you will, so that you can deliver what it is that you want. And when those things fall into place, then your outcome will come about. But if you're committed to an outcome and you have no idea what the identity is that's going to get you there. You know I want to start this company. I want to hit a hundred million dollars. I'm at 40 million. I want to hit a hundred million. I don't know. Let's say in 18

We're at an inflection point as a society. We've been made promises, going back decades, that haven't been met. But nobody is coming to save us. Now's the time for us all to step fully into our authentic selves, not hide. In this episode, I talk about the need for awakening individuals to help lead the way away from the stresses of typical American society toward something better. 1:30 - You can't reach self-actualization with concerns about this 4:02 - What I saw in Seattle in 2004 that surprised (and dismayed) me 6:25 - Why the answer to changing things is US 7:32 - What's responsible for the "Great Resignation" 10:11 - How to start becoming the change you seek in the society surrounding you After you listen to The World is Waiting for YOU… Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, and they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

How do you show up fully in a relationship for the other person without getting out of integrity with yourself? At the end of the previous episode, I left you with a final thought about reciprocity being about showing up 100% in your relationship. In this episode, I continue diving into this topic, as well as discuss boundaries and how they're really meant to help you form and maintain healthy relationships. 0:58 - How my husband and I were reciprocal in showing up regarding our kids 2:28 - How to handle it when you and your partner struggle or are at an impasse 4:39 - The benefit of consistent reciprocity and what you can do if nothing changes 6:21 - What boundaries are really about 9:31 - Is there room for you to show up differently in your relationships? After you listen to Balance Between Reciprocity and Setting Boundaries In Your Relationships… You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

You have relationships everywhere: with yourself, your loved ones, friends, co-workers and acquaintances, and on and on. I've found a simple misperception at the root of a lot of issues in relationships that'll surprise you. In today's episode, I reveal what it is and how children are, in fact, a reflection of their parents. 1:54 - How kids can 100% be a reflection of their parents, even if they seem like complete opposites 5:07 - How your childhood can subconsciously affect your relationships with others 9:12 - A common misperception I often see in clients that goes back to World War II 15:23 - A game-changing recommendation if you have kids, especially younger ones 16:58 - Leaving you with this last thought about reciprocity and relationships Read The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That Lasts by Gary Chapman. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Are your repeated thoughts getting in the way of what you want out of your life? I've talked before about how the way you think and show up is based on your beliefs formed from the thinking patterns in your subconscious mind. In this rapid-fire episode, I walk you through a list of different things you can do to reprogram some of those patterns and beliefs, giving you the space to change unwanted habits. 1:38 - How to use affirmations to begin to reprogram your thinking 3:55 - What gives your affirmations a really profound effect 4:39 - How to use scripting for reprogramming your thinking 5:48 - Watching these can help you reprogram too 7:00 - How self-hypnosis can help you reprogram (without the deep trance) You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

People have anxiety on the mind. I've had a lot of questions asked about anxiety recently, so I want to break it down. In this episode, I give you my definition of anxiety and talk about where it comes from and the strategies I use when I feel anxious. 1:34 - How I define anxiety and why I leave it so broad 3:26 - How the way you think can cause anxiety 12:25 - Things I do if I start to feel anxious 16:47 - The question you can ask yourself every time you get that anxious feeling about something 18:29 - The one question you should NEVER ask yourself in this situation, above all Visit Uncommonly More. Watch "Stop It!" - Mad TV skit with Mo Collins and Bob Newhart on Youtube. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Even though I first heard of my special guest today only recently, I already feel like I've known him forever. Darren Monroe has worked with entertainment companies and musical artists like DreamWorks, MoTown, and Mary J. Blige, and he's helped market billion dollar films like Star Wars, Lord of the Rings, Shrek, and the Fast and Furious series. But he's also sold products, programs, and services in over 100 countries since launching his online business in 2005. Now, he assists small businesses to monetize, stand out, and market themselves in highly competitive marketplaces. So I wanted to do an interview with Darren where he discusses brand strategy, but with viewpoints, you might not have been exposed to often (if at all). 3:23 - How Darren got started in the entertainment industry and transitioned to online business 9:19 - One of the best things you can do for yourself as an entrepreneur 11:08 - Taking an unconventional path to successfully marketing yourself and your business 16:50 - Why you shouldn't fear judgment from being authentic (and what being authentic really means) 28:01 - The things that'll push you to continue and gain you success, no matter how others judge you 31:17 - A way to focus on calling out BS in your industry without victimizing or empowering anyone 37:55 - Darren's simple but powerful tips for entrepreneurs new to Tik Tok and online marketing Sell It Like Serhant: How to Sell More, Earn More, and Become the Ultimate Sales Machine by Ryan Serhant Mentioned apps: Motivation, Calm Visit Darren's website to contact or work with him. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

I can't wait for you to hear today's episode! I have a great conversation with my client Katie Soy, a writer and storytelling consultant who helps entrepreneurs and businesses to leverage the power of personal and brand storytelling with persuasive messaging. But her story goes beyond that... She went through a mental health journey that not only helped her with healing but is helping others as well. In this episode, she and I discuss her journey and her series of children's books that's created a community of parents and kids wishing to write stories in support of their own mental and emotional health. 3:36 - Katie talks about what propelled her onto her mental healing journey 7:27 - The one thing you can control in your life 10:09 - The story Katie found herself stuck in and the breakthroughs that began the healing process 13:48 - How I helped Katie discover the emotional blocks to continuing her healing 19:57 - Katie discusses what led her to create her book series for kids and how it reflects her journey 24:51 - Some of the most emotional work I've done with clients 26:51 - The fun to be found within Katie's small but mighty community What Language Is (And What It Isn't and What It Could Be) by John McWhorter Connect with Katie at her website where you can find her Firefly books and join the Firefly Society. You can also follow her on Instagram. You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

What happened at the Oscars between Chris Rock and Will Smith has had a lot of people talking about trauma response lately and how it can present itself. People pleasing and perfectionism can sometimes (but not always) be trauma responses, or they can be learned behaviors with an extremely frustrating effect on people's lives. In this episode, I want to talk about these two behaviors/responses and the variety of ways in which they impact people. 2:01 - An example of where people-pleasing tendencies can come from 7:22 - The first thing you've got to recognize regarding people-pleasing behavior 8:00 - Examples of where perfectionism can come from 10:02 - The effects of perfectionism I saw on others while living in New England 14:02 - The question to ask yourself if you're dealing with perfectionism You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

There was a time when I thought "New Age spirituality" was actually relatively new. I also thought the influences of spirituality were just for flowy skirt-wearing, crystal-loving people. My reality and way of thinking growing up didn't take a kind view towards those types of people, so it's kind of amazing I've gotten into it myself (without the flowing skirts part, though). In this episode, I discuss the woo woo because my spiritual practices impact everything I do. I've had big shifts recently that have positively impacted me too, and I can't wait to share some of those with you as I celebrate this special episode! 3:26 - My journey into "New Age spirituality" and the concept of energy 9:00 - One tool I use myself and sometimes share with clients 11:04 - The most important tool I've learned to use for my energy 17:13 - How Human Design is helping me do my best to follow this advice 20:26 - Ways I use crystals and how they help with my energy 22:48 - Some advice if you're empathic and entering a group setting Get my free guide "3 Ways Becoming a Hypnotist Can Change Your Life" and become the go-to professional in your niche. Masaru Emoto's books on water Episode 83 with Human Design expert Andrea Niño de Guzmán Numerology Nation: "Angel Number 88: Why It Appears to You" Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Have you ever heard the saying about becoming the average of the five people you spend the most time with? Conversations you hear and engage in with the people around you impact you subconsciously. In part two, I talk about how a short Tik Tok video recently sent me into a crisis of questioning my business approach. It serves as a reminder to be aware of what information you take in as you strive for a successful identity transformation. 2:21 - What you should consume when transforming your identity into one you desire 3:18 - My recent experience on Tik Tok that almost derailed me 7:31 - What social media (and media, in general) is designed to do 9:19 - An underlying belief I commonly see in clients 11:05 - Another common belief among those struggling with success You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Is there a part of you that knows you're meant for something different or bigger? Or that there's more possibility for you out there than you can imagine right now? While an identity transformation may not reveal what that is, you can use characteristics of identity to expand your success. In today's episode, I want to talk about the role of your identity in transforming areas of your life whether that's in life, business, or relationships (with others or yourself). 2:14 - How identity plays a role in your success 3:47 - One way in which your identity can change (but it doesn't always work) 5:14 - Why affirmations don't always work to change your identity either 8:23 - The level of thinking it takes to expand your success 10:45 - How my identity shifted from when I first started my business Get my free guide "3 Ways Becoming a Hypnotist Can Change Your Life" and become the go-to professional in your niche. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

When you think of stress, do you typically think of work, money, or relationship problems? Most people do, but it goes deeper than that. With so much stress out there right now, both within ourselves and in the world, I want to take the time to talk about it. In this episode, I discuss how stress affects you physically, how you can eliminate it in your life, and why doing so is about more than just checking things off a list. 1:34 - What stress is, good vs. bad stress, and how it affects the body 4:47 - The biggest contributor to stress on the body you probably don't know about 8:04 - Other environmental factors that contribute to stress 9:44 - The domino effect that can come when your stress response gets triggered 11:59 - A few ways to help eliminate stress in your life You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

It amazes me how many people believe self-doubt disappears with success. They see confident people and don't believe those types of thoughts creep in. So when you've achieved success and it does still come up, it causes frustration and feelings that you'll never get past it. In this episode, I want to share with you three strategies successful people use to overcome your self-doubt. 2:12 - The link between success, recognition, and self-worth 5:14 - The simple thing you can do once you're aware of going into self-doubt mode 6:23 - A strategy commonly talked about and practiced in business circles 8:03 - The most important method for silencing your inner self-doubting critic (and one way I put it into practice) 10:14 - RAC and the Olympian-turned-coach who struggled with self-doubt despite doing this Meditations by Marcus Aurelius Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

When most people reach out to me, they're doing so because they feel blocked around money. Something has happened in the past that's creating issues around their ability to manifest the money, job, or relationship. As part of the process of working with me, I have people list the benefits of the change they're looking for which tells me a lot about where we're starting. And in almost all cases, they'll list that they want to trust themselves. In this episode, I talk about how that's not really the problem and expose the deeper issue at play. 4:02 - What you're really saying if you tell yourself you're untrustworthy 7:31 - What to ask yourself when lacking self-trust and how to easily release judgment Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

I'm celebrating my birthday with a special guest! Andrea Niño de Guzmán is a transformation catalyst who's deeply studied everything about the Human Design System and the impact it can have on people's lives. I recently booked a call with Andrea, and what she told me about my Human Design was clearer to me than all the Youtube videos I've watched to learn about the system. In this episode, she discusses what Human Design is, reveals all five energy types, and talks about how the system encourages you to embrace the real you. 3:58 - Overview of what Human Design is and its origins and purpose 8:07 - The five archetypes in the Human Design system 15:45 - How Human Design exposes the conflict with traditional business rules that don't resonate 21:47 - How the definitions in the system serve as guiding mechanisms for how you relate to others 24:17 - How knowing your Human Design archetype can shed light on certain life situations and allows you to be yourself 30:52 - The two biggest takeaways from this conversation with Andrea Connect with Andrea at her website or on Instagram. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Hypnosis has really started gaining traction in the mainstream over the past couple of years. But most people still think of it as a last resort, or only first hear about it as a possibility when they're desperate for a solution. In this episode, I discuss the misperceptions about hypnosis and why it should be your first choice instead. 1:24 - A common reason why many people hesitate to use hypnosis 2:23 - Some misperceptions about undergoing hypnosis 3:19 - What happens when you put off hypnosis and try everything else first 6:35 - Why hypnosis is an effective way to get beyond your issue(s) 9:08 - How hypnosis gives you freedom to do what you want, the way you want, with healthy boundaries You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Many of us don't have big swings in emotions. But when we're happy, we know what it feels like. Happiness exists on a continuum. It doesn't have a scale, so you can feel various levels of it, from peace and contentment to outright joy. In this episode, I want to talk about happiness and unhappiness so that when you experience the latter, you understand the reason why. I also reveal some ways in which you can move from unhappiness into a more positive state. 2:12 - Why you might take for granted those times you're in a subtly positive state 2:56 - How our emotions resemble an orchestra 4:43 - What your states of unhappiness are trying to tell you 7:25 - One very common reason for unhappiness and how to avoid it on social media 10:40 - Another way you can end up feeling unhappy and how to start feeling better 12:52 - Three happiness boosters and how they work to brighten your mood National Suicide Prevention Hotline: 800-273-8255 Crisis Text Line: https://www.crisistextline.org/ Do you find yourself working with clients who only make it 80-90% of the way to success, no matter what you do? Get trained to remove subconscious blocks that prevent them from attaining 100% success. Reserve your spot to become a certified, world-class hypnosis coach! Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

While I love everything I talk about on this podcast, today I get to talk about something I love most: hypnosis! Recently, I sent an email out to my list based on questions I've received about hypnosis training. But some of the questions that came up surrounded hypnosis itself. So in this episode, I'm just going to run through and hit the high points on a handful of them and clear up some misconceptions along the way. 1:13 - Can you use hypnosis to treat OCD (obsessive compulsive disorder)? 5:28 - Can you use hypnosis to handle forgiveness? Self-Blame? Shame? Guilt? 11:03 - A question one of my graduates gets asked by other people regarding hypnosis 13:14 - What you want and don't want in any hypnotist you choose to work with 15:48 - What are the qualifications to be a hypnotist? (The answer will surprise you!) For more information on getting my hypnosis training, head here for all the details. Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

A lot has changed since my guest today was last on the show. It was 2020 and Justina Gonzalez was a mom of one, transitioning to work with a company focused on others' mental wellness, and still evolving to become a leader and coach to others in her industry. Now, as a mom of two, she's a subconscious sales transformation coach who helps online entrepreneurs craft powerful offers to scale with ease. She's back on the podcast to dive into where her life and her career has gone since then. In this episode we talk about attachment, limiting beliefs, and other common obstacles that prevent success for you and your business. We also discuss how our work together on uncovering and releasing those hurdles has helped Justina shift the way she approaches marketing and coaching clients. 1:42 - Justina's gift and how she used it to shift her mental wellness business in a new direction 7:32 - What happens when you place too high a level of attachment on things and forget to have fun 12:44 - What helped Justina take the focus off attachment to results in her coaching business 13:59 - How social media can affect your attachment to money and self-worth 17:04 - The result of Justina identifying and releasing a subconscious money pattern and being in her zone of genius 22:50 - Transparency in how Justina helped me with my retreat offer and expressing the woo-woo side of myself with no apologies 27:05 - Why you should apply your frequency (i.e., energy) to everything you do in business 30:50 - The deep-seated trauma Justina discovered when working with me and how it affected her relationships (both before and after) 36:53 - The most important thing you can do to get what you want Follow Justina on Facebook and listen to episode 11, "Your Internal State is Reflected in Your Business and Relationship -- with Justina Gonzalez". Book your 90-minute offer optimization call with Justina here and use the code TCPFAM20 to get 20% off. If you are passionate about selling your offer and want to learn how to use subconscious selling to increase your bank account join Justina's group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/3571236842917208. Curious about working with Justina? Check out her page here: https://justinagonzalez.mykajabi.com/soso-sales-page Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

How do you unplug and de-stress from the day to day stuff that aggravates you? Where do you go, and what do you do? Whether it's happening in your business, family, or personal life, it can wear you down. And if you let that stress linger for long enough, you begin to normalize and become numb to it... until it hits you in the face in the form of exhaustion, sickness, or something else that really grabs your attention. Self-care is important, but it also has two sides to it because while you need to unplug, you can go to extremes with it too. How's that possible? In this episode, I use myself as an example to talk about how extreme self-care can become an obstacle to what you want. 3:23 - Two things I became extremely aware of during my own personal COVID crisis 5:50 - The wonderfully surprising thing I learned about my business after being away from it for five weeks 8:52 - How I changed my approach to self-care and stopped using it as a default avoidance mechanism 11:33 - What my self-care morning routine looks like to support my reaching the next level this year 16:15 - Why I don't talk to my family about my business Aligned Planners from Chelsea Arns Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

How are you doing with your first quarter goals? Whatever your goals are, you start off with so much excitement, momentum, and motivation. But then around this time of year, challenges start showing up and little by little you start putting the brakes on. There's a lot of reasons why this happens, but in this episode I want to offer some tips to help you get back in control. 2:00 - Explaining some of the neuroscience behind habits 3:46 - What I recommend if you're running into issue from attempting a huge change 5:54 - How to address your dwindling motivation to keep working toward your goals 7:45 - Why refusal to take action on your goals can be fear-based even if you don't feel like you're afraid 12:18 - How I was actually conditioned to go for the struggle in an attempt to keep me safe and secure Episode 72: "The No-Bullsh*t Approach to Dealing With Your Emotions" with Lisa Carpenter Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

You've most likely experienced imposter syndrome at some point. It occurs in varying degrees. For some people, it comes as random thoughts. For others, they get caught up in it and have difficulty pushing past it to move forward. I even recently discovered that some people believe you have to live with it all the time. But is that true? In this episode, I talk about imposter syndrome and what it takes to get rid of it once and for all. 1:49 - The crescendo of hurdles that imposter syndrome can trigger 3:48 - Where imposter syndrome thoughts and feelings come from 5:54 - Why affirmations, journaling, etc. might not be enough for you to overcome imposter syndrome 10:03 - How to know if you need to unplant the seed where imposter syndrome took root 12:09 - Why having money and success still doesn't necessarily eliminate imposter syndrome Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

If you've done any personal development work, you know that success in any area of your life can look like anything. Whether it comes to your career, health, relationships and so on, it all begins with your relationship with yourself. So in today's episode, I want to take the opportunity to share some ways to look at things that'll help you be more successful in 2022. 1:40 - How the words you say to yourself have the greatest impact on your life 4:58 - Two of the most common ways internal conversations with yourself show up 7:31 - How to break the cycle of overdoing 12:48 - What you can do when negative self-talk repeats itself 17:16 - Where I always encourage people to start when working through their self-talk Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. You were born with all the talent, intellect, and strength you need. You just need to realize that on the subconscious level. Connect and uncover your Subconscious Blueprint by booking your call here. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

We make intentions with the arrival of every new year. Soon though, we get distracted or forget about it and lose sight of what it is we want. But sometimes there are things we have to let go of or release before we can move forward. Getting closure opens things up so quickly. A couple of weeks ago, I had a huge shift that helped me get closure. And it's not something I can really define, but I want to share that experience with you in this episode in hopes that it too gives you some insight or a new way of looking at things. 2:06 - What inspired the huge shift I underwent 4:06 - Asking these three questions gave me some guidance for making the shift 5:25 - Revealing the ultimate message that came through for me 8:40 - Why I'm feeling optimistic about the year ahead despite what others say 10:27 - How to make your own shift for the next phase of your life Ready to create a deeper spiritual connection, live your life with clarity and decisiveness, and create opportunities for expansion and success in relationships with others and yourself? Join me for the Ultimate Energetic Alignment Retreat, a 9-month transformation experience. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Today is a special day. It's Thanksgiving Day in the U.S. as I record this, but that's not why I'm sitting in my office right now. So why did I decide to push the record button today? Because something happened to me a year ago today, something that's causing me to feel immense gratitude. In this episode, I tell you about what I went through last Thanksgiving and why gratitude is a gift that never goes away. 1:07 - Where I was a year ago on the day of recording this podcast 3:36 - The day when things came to a head and I knew I needed help 5:18 - Why I'm in such a state of gratitude today 6:45 - How gratitude affects the body and is more than just a feeling 8:25 - The true healing power of gratitude 10:03 - How I give the gift of gratitude to myself every day Get on the waitlist for Jim Fortin's Transformational Coaching Program. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Hello joyful souls! Today, I speak with my dear friend and mentor Lisa Carpenter. She's a master coach and emotional resiliency expert with a no-bullshit approach to helping you take care of things in your life. And I know that about her personally because two years ago, she called me out on my bull and helped me make a huge change. In this episode, we discuss positivity culture, processing your emotions, and doing so in healthy ways. 2:28 - The cultural influence of toxic positivity 7:40 - What your emotions are really drying you to do 9:25 - The tendency to not allow people, especially women, to feel their emotions 13:42 - How people generally tend to deal with their emotions 18:21 - The difference between living in your past emotions versus excavating the past 21:17 - Misconceptions people have about the goal of attaining happiness 24:50 - Tools that help Lisa process her emotions Connect with Lisa at her website, on Instagram, and listen to her podcast. Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

What are you giving to the world this holiday season? What do you give to the world every day? You're giving something. You're giving through the things you teach others whether it's about yourself, the world, or what's possible with every conversation and interaction. In this episode, I discuss the effect that your words and actions can have on the world around you. 1:43 - How your words and actions can cause a negative ripple effect 3:57 - How your acts of kindness can cause a positive ripple effect 4:56 - The positive effect you still have even when acting kindly towards those who don't appreciate it 7:35 - My challenge to you this holiday season Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

Think about the biggest thing you want to have in your life. That can look different for every person. Some want to attain wealth and security. Others want a relationship while others are on a journey of self-discovery. You have free will and get to choose. In this episode, I share some of my thoughts around changing your baseline emotional state to get what you want out of life. 2:05 - What has the greatest impact on how you choose to feel about life 3:28 - How your limbic system works in response to your emotions 5:29 - How you can change the strongest neural pathways in your brain to support peace and calm in your life 8:56 - What to say to yourself every morning to begin to positively program your mind 10:44 - What to do when something happens that triggers an emotional response Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

In last week's episode, I talked about the role society plays in instigating the darkest moments where we question the point of our lives, our careers, etc. In it, I promised to discuss how to disengage and disassociate from that mindset in a healthy way. So today, I reveal the secret to having the happiness and joy you deserve. 0:39 - The secret to finding your happiness and joy within 2:25 - How I learned this valuable lesson a couple of years ago 3:53 - The choice you get to make every day 4:28 - Your challenge when you see other people's portrayals of success 6:24 - How to create the best standards for yourself Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

In an episode with Ella Mae a few weeks back, we talked about the dark night of the soul. It's the place our mind goes to when we question why we do what we do and if it even matters what we do. You could be a gazillionaire entrepreneur, a stay-at-home parent, a celebrity, or a college student still trying to find direction--it'll still hit you at certain points in your life like a ton of bricks. So in this short episode, I talk a little about what influences us to have these moments. 2:01 - Society's role in our "dark night of the soul" moments 3:33 - What you see isn't the full picture 5:46 - Why carefully curated images create impossible standards even for the people at the center of them 6:57 - Seeing the same pattern in some of clients as the late Zappos CEO 8:40 - What's coming up the next week and what I want you to do with this bite-sized episode Episode 64: "Moving From a Business That Doesn't Matter to Happiness Through Peace with Ella J Mae" Do you find yourself working with clients who only make it 80-90% of the way to success, no matter what you do? Get trained to remove subconscious blocks that prevent them from attaining 100% success. Reserve your spot to become a certified, world-class hypnosis coach! Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.

If you've listened to my show before, you're going to hear something different from what you're used to today. Usually, I avoid discussing politics and world events on the podcast because it's antithesis to my goal of creating expansion for you through a higher vibration that keeps you open to possibility. But today, I want to address the elephant in the room that's only grown larger over the last couple of years... not just in the U.S. but worldwide. Ultimately, though, this episode is about possibility and showing our fellow human beings love, kindness, and compassion to create the better world we all want to obtain. 3:21 - Where our attention, as a global society, needs to be 4:54 - What is not your (or anyone else's) business 7:55 - How your mind can be easily influenced (and yes, manipulated) 10:11 - The best thing you can do to reduce your chances of being influenced or manipulated 11:49 - Ways in which we're all more alike than different 13:40 - Elevate or destroy ourselves: which path will you choose? Do you find yourself working with clients who only make it 80-90% of the way to success, no matter what you do? Get trained to remove subconscious blocks that prevent them from attaining 100% success. Reserve your spot to become a certified, world-class hypnosis coach! Thanks for tuning in today! I'd love it if you could head over to Apple Podcasts and leave a positive review, so we can reach even more people, so they can change their lives. That positive energy of sharing comes back to you as we spread this message.