Dating Decoded: How to Find Love, and Succeed on Dating Apps with Julie Lokun
In this episode of Shot At Love, the roles reverse as Julie Lokun, host of the Get Obsessed podcast, interviews me for a candid conversation about dating in today’s world. We break down the realities of modern connection—why dating apps feel overwhelming, how to recognize red flags sooner, and the mindset shifts that help you stay hopeful without lowering your standards. We explore chemistry versus compatibility, first-date strategy, texting etiquette, and the subtle signals people reveal right away. I also share how my background as a celebrity photographer shapes the way I guide singles toward creating a genuine, compelling online presence. If you’re rebuilding, starting over, or simply looking for clarity in a confusing dating landscape, this episode offers insight, strategy, and encouragement you can use right now.
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Show Notes
Dating Decoded: How to Find Real Love, and Succeed on Dating Apps with Julie Lokun
What does modern dating really look like right now—and how do you actually find real love in a world dominated by dating apps, ghosting, and mixed signals?
In this powerful episode of Shot At Love, Kerry Brett steps into the guest seat as she’s interviewed by Julie Lokun, host of the Get Obsessed podcast, for a candid, unfiltered conversation about dating, finding love, and building real connection.
If you’ve ever questioned whether real love still exists, struggled with dating apps, or felt overwhelmed by modern dating challenges, this episode delivers the clarity, strategy, and mindset shifts you’ve been searching for.
Together, Kerry and Julie break down the truth about modern dating—what’s working, what’s not, and how to find love without losing yourself in the process.
This episode answers the questions every single person is asking:
Does real love exist in modern dating?
Do dating apps actually work, or are they keeping you stuck?
How do you identify red flags early before wasting time?
What creates a successful first date and real connection?
How do you stay open to finding love without lowering your standards?
You’ll learn how to navigate modern dating with confidence, clarity, and intention, including:
How to shift your mindset to actually attract real love
Why belief in finding love is essential at every stage of life
How to use dating apps strategically instead of emotionally
The difference between chemistry vs compatibility in modern dating
How to recognize red flags and green flags instantly
The truth about ghosting, texting, and first date dynamics
How your dating profile and photograps directly impact your success in finding love
Kerry also shares how her career as a celebrity photographer shaped her unique approach to dating—especially when it comes to creating an authentic presence that attracts the right partner, not just attention.
If you’re navigating dating after heartbreak, re-entering the world of dating apps, or simply want to finally find real love, this episode gives you practical tools and a new perspective on dating that actually works.
Because finding love isn’t about luck—it’s about clarity, strategy, and showing up as your most authentic self.
ABOUT TODAY’S GUEST
Julie Lokun is the host of the Get Obsessed podcast, focused on personal growth, transformation, and helping people elevate their lives and relationships. Through her work, she empowers listeners to take action, think bigger, and create meaningful connection—including in modern dating and finding love.
WHERE TO FIND KERRY
Website:
www.shotatlovebook.com
www.kerrybrett.com
Podcast:
Shot At Love on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and BLEAV
Instagram:
@kerry_brett
@shotatlovepodcast
Facebook:
Shot At Love Podcast
TikTok:
@shotatlove
LinkedIn:
Kerry Brett
Substack:
https://shotatlove.substack.com
YouTube:
Shot At Love with Kerry Brett
Book:
Shot@Love: A Celebrity Photographer’s Lens on Dating and Finding Love (Available on Amazon)
HASHTAGS (Search-Focused):
#FindingLove #ModernDating #DatingAdvice
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