Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective

<p>May 2020 Questions from our anonymous <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-058-anonymous-questions-from-may-2020/">show notes here</a> for more details and links.</p><p>In this episode, we're tackling the subjects:</p><ul><li>Husband is in jail</li><li>Husband masturbates all the time</li><li>Husband won't quit porn</li><li>Should Christians avoid Tantric Sex?</li><li>Premature Ejaculation</li><li>Bondage Resources</li><li>Jock Itch</li><li>Wife is not interested in sex</li><li>Husband not interested in sex with wife</li><li>Being "too loose" after children</li><li>When to disclose a masturbation & porn addiction when dating</li></ul><p>This month our most popular resource is Becoming More Sexually Engaged - A Course for Christian Wives. Interested in learning more? <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/becoming-sexually-engaged-christian-wives/">Check it out here.</a></p><p>Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:</p><ul><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2OZHMyI">Keep Your Love On - Danny Silk</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2WXi7e6">Boundaries In Marriage - Henry Cloud et al.</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/becoming-sexually-engaged-christian-wives/">Becoming more sexually engaged</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-039-anonymous-questions-from-january-2019-part-3/">SWM 039 - Anonymous Questions from January 2019 - Part 3</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-051-anonymous-questions-october-2019-types-of-orgasms-transgendered-friends-sleeping-during-sex-and-more/">SWM 051 - Anonymous Questions from October 2019</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/premature-ejaculation/">Premature Ejaculation</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/mutual-masturbation-for-married-christians/">Mutual Masturbation</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/our-sexploration-list/">Our Sexploration List</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/beginner-bondage-questions/">Beginner Bondage Questions</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2zVpWbS">Bondage Rope on Amazon</a></li><li><a href="https://www.twistedmonk.com/pages/how-to-videos">Twisted Monk</a></li><li><a href="https://www.theduchy.com/">The Dutchy</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/30MGnkl">Safety Scissors</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/3hJ9NqF">Intimacy Ignited</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/coaching/">Marriage Coaching with Jay Dee</a></li></ul><p>Follow us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/UncoveringIntimacy/">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/uncoveringintimacy/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/uncoveringlove">Twitter</a></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>Thank you to all our faithful champions!</p><p>If you'd like weekly podcasts, check out our <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">support page</a> for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.</p>

<p>How do you feel connected during sex? Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-056-how-to-feel-connected-during-sex/">show notes here</a> for more details and links.</p><p>In this episode, we're tackling the question of how you can feel more connected during sex.</p><p>Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:</p><ul><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-040-what-happens-to-our-souls-when-we-have-sex/">Why I, as a Christian, believe we don't have a soul</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/spice-jar-sexual-activities-game-printable/">Spice Jar</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/our-sexploration-list/">Our Sexploration List</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/coaching/">Marriage Coaching</a></li></ul><p>Follow us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/UncoveringIntimacy/">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/uncoveringintimacy/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/uncoveringlove">Twitter</a></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>We are 53% of the way to our next support goal! Thank you to all our faithful supporters.</p><p>If you'd like us to start hosting virtual workshops, check out our <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">support page</a> for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.</p><p>And don't forget to leave us a review and share with your friends!</p>

<p>July and August 2019 Questions from our anonymous <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-048-anonymous-questions-from-july-august-2019-squirting-anal-sex-tips-unreciprocated-oral-sex/">show notes here</a> for more details and links.</p><p>In this episode, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>How often do people's sex drives switch from low to high?</li><li>How to squirt</li><li>Wife is into whipping</li><li>Anal sex tips</li><li>Single and curious about erections</li><li>Low drive wife is secretly masturbating every night</li><li>Husband has a secret Facebook profile</li><li>Porn addiction ruining relationships</li><li>Wife said she could go months without sex</li><li>Low drive husband with Asperger's Syndrome</li><li>Sex is just another thing on my wife's checklist</li><li>Oral sex not being reciprocated</li><li>Husband engaging with women online</li></ul></p><p>Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:<ul><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/responsive-vs-spontaneous-desire/">Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire</a></li><li><a href="https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/">Women's Health Magazine - Make yourself squirt</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2VdRFv1">Boundaries In Marriage - Henry Cloud</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/covenanteyes"></a>Covenant Eyes Web Filtering</li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2VhST8y">The Complete Guide to Asperger's Syndrome</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2AU5GVn">22 Thing a Woman Must Know if She Loves a Man with Asperger's Syndrome</a></li></ul></p><p>Follow us on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/UncoveringIntimacy/">Facebook</a>, <a href="https://www.instagram.com/uncoveringintimacy/">Instagram</a> and <a href="https://twitter.com/uncoveringlove">Twitter</a></p><p>If you'd like to discuss the questions as they come in, <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">consider joining our private forum</a>.</p><p>We lost a few supporters over the slow summer and due to fincial setbacks from a couple of our supporters, but we're gaining traction again. We're 81% of the way to our next goal - weekly podcast episodes!</p><p>If you'd like weekly podcasts, check out our <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/donate">support page</a> for more info. Even $5/month makes a difference.</p>";s:7:"gp_desc";s:2450:"<p>July and August 2019 Questions from our anonymous <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question">Have A Question</a> page. Check out the <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm-048-anonymous-questions-from-july-august-2019-squirting-anal-sex-tips-unreciprocated-oral-sex/">show notes here</a> for more details and links.</p><p>In this episode, we're tackling the subjects:<ul><li>How often do people's sex drives switch from low to high?</li><li>How to squirt</li><li>Wife is into whipping</li><li>Anal sex tips</li><li>Single and curious about erections</li><li>Low drive wife is secretly masturbating every night</li><li>Husband has a secret Facebook profile</li><li>Porn addiction ruining relationships</li><li>Wife said she could go months without sex</li><li>Low drive husband with Asperger's Syndrome</li><li>Sex is just another thing on my wife's checklist</li><li>Oral sex not being reciprocated</li><li>Husband engaging with women online</li></ul></p><p>Here are the links I mentioned during the podcast:<ul><li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/responsive-vs-spontaneous-desire/">Responsive vs Spontaneous Desire</a></li><li><a href="https://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/a19971929/make-yourself-squirt/">Women's Health Magazine - Make yourself squirt</a></li><li><a href="https://amzn.to/2VdRFv1">Boundaries In Marriage - Henry Cloud</a></li><li><a href="https://www.uncover

<p>This is a sermon I wrote and preached in my home church on Matthew 19:1-11 - Jesus responding to the Pharisees asking about divorce.</p><p>Check out the video here: <a href="https://youtu.be/XZCdnDSKO4U">https://youtu.be/XZCdnDSKO4U</a></p><p>Get the show notes / text of the sermon here: <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/">https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/swm042-god-will-never-leave-you/</a></p>

<p>This podcast episode, I'm catching up on some listener's questions that I got back in 2018.</p><br /> <p>You can find the complete questions and answers at <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/">https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/</a></p><br /> <p>Topics include:<br /> <ol><br /> <li>ED due to medical problems</li><br /> <li>Husband in erotic chatrooms</li><br /> <li>Sex toys caused sexual awakening</li><br /> <li>List of books for continued learning</li><br /> <li>Double standard on the blog</li><br /> <li>Positions</li><br /> <li>Anal sex in Song of Solomon</li><br /> <li>Sexy underwear for men</li><br /> <li>Hypnosis</li><br /> <li>Is it wrong to masturbate if you don't have an orgasm during sex?</li><br /> <li>Why there is nothing new on the blog</li><br /> <li>How to ask a potential spouse if they like oral sex</li><br /> <li>Orgasming on command</li><br /> </ol><br /> </p><br /> <p><b>If you have a question you'd like to have answered, check out our <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question/">Have A Question</a> page at UncoveringIntimacy.com</b></p><br /> <p>Find us on<br /> <ul><br /> <li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">Patreon</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/UncoveringIntimacy/">Facebook</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/uncoveringintimacy/">Instagram</a></li><br /> <li><a href="http://twitter.com/uncoveringlove">Twitter</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.pinterest.ca/uncoveringlove/boards/">Pinterest</a></li><br /> </ul><br /> Or <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/podcastsubscribe/">subscribe to our newsletter</a> to get all the info.<br /> </p>";s:7:"gp_desc";s:1615:"<p>This podcast episode, I'm catching up on some listener's questions that I got back in 2018.</p><br /> <p>You can find the complete questions and answers at <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/">https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/anonymous-questions-from-december-2018/</a></p><br /> <p>Topics include:<br /> <ol><br /> <li>ED due to medical problems</li><br /> <li>Husband in erotic chatrooms</li><br /> <li>Sex toys caused sexual awakening</li><br /> <li>List of books for continued learning</li><br /> <li>Double standard on the blog</li><br /> <li>Positions</li><br /> <li>Anal sex in Song of Solomon</li><br /> <li>Sexy underwear for men</li><br /> <li>Hypnosis</li><br /> <li>Is it wrong to masturbate if you don't have an orgasm during sex?</li><br /> <li>Why there is nothing new on the blog</li><br /> <li>How to ask a potential spouse if they like oral sex</li><br /> <li>Orgasming on command</li><br /> </ol><br /> </p><br /> <p><b>If you have a question you'd like to have answered, check out our <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/have-a-question/">Have A Question</a> page at UncoveringIntimacy.com</b></p><br /> <p>Find us on<br /> <ul><br /> <li><a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/champion">Patreon</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.facebook.com/UncoveringIntimacy/">Facebook</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.instagram.com/uncoveringintimacy/">Instagram</a></li><br /> <li><a href="http://twitter.com/uncoveringlove">Twitter</a></li><br /> <li><a href="https://www.pinterest.ca/uncoveringlove/boards/">Pinterest</a></li><br /> </ul><br /> Or <a href="https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/podcastsubscribe/">subscribe to our newsletter</a> to get all the info.<br /> </p>

This is just a quick podcast episode to let my listeners know about our Intimacy Advent Calendar currently for sale in our shop.<br /> <br /> You remember having advent calendars as a kid? Every day you get a chocolate, or a toy or something. For nearly a whole month, every day there was something exciting to look forward to the next day.<br /> <br /> Holidays don’t exactly feel that way for us adults anymore do they? Well, I wanted to try and recapture that feeling.<br /> <br /> At the same time, I know many couples struggle to maintain intimacy during the holidays. Not just physical intimacy (but that too), but it’s also a high-point for arguments and blow-outs. So, I wanted to make something that encouraged us to draw together during this season.<br /> <br /> So, I put together an Advent Calendar for couples. It took me a while to figure out how to manage things like visitations, big dinners, people’s differing boundaries and comfort levels around certain sexual activities, travel, and even periods. But, I think I found a fairly elegant solution.<br /> <br /> Check out the product here for more info: https://www.uncoveringintimacy.com/shop/intimacy-advent-calendar/<br /> <br /> Only available until Dec 2.

This is the audio recording of the sermon I preached in my home church about sex. You can get the full transcript on the website.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community.

Today I'm talking about oral sex and whether or not it's sanitary.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community.

I have a lot of wives coming to me asking how to get their husband to be more assertive in bed. The problem is, our society and culture have taught men to be more submissive, and take a back seat with regard to sex. We're either explicitly or implicitly taught that we should let the woman lead in the physical relationship.<br /> <br /> The problem is that many married women don't want that. They want a husband who is assertive and confident, not waiting for his wife to make the first move and anxious.<br /> <br /> So, this podcast is about how to help your husband to be more assertive in the bedroom, because while I can tell men all day to be more confident, the truth is, a lot of it has to do with how his wife responds.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community.

Today I'm answering some more questions from our Have A Question page that have come in over the last month or so. This episode I talk about my credentials, dealing with sex drive and long-term illness, falling out of love, self-control and how to start leading when you haven't been.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community.

This episode, I'm answering anonymous questions we've received about fantasy affairs, anal sex, golden showers, work during sex and low drives.<br /> <br /> Want more podcast episodes? Support us on <a href="https://www.patreon.com/uncoveringintimacy">Patreon</a> and also get access to our supporter community.

I'm changing up the format of the podcast a bit this week and answering some reader questions.

Looking for the perfect Valentine's Day gift that will continue to around for years to come? Something that's sexy without being sexual? Check out Melt.

Often men see sex as a reward, even when it's not intended for one. Conversely, if they don't have sex, sometimes they feel punished, or that they failed at something. Why is this? I think there are three reasons:<br /> <br /> Hormones - specifically dopamine, the "reward" hormone.<br /> Society - We're taught that sex = winning<br /> Sex is a big part of being male

The Bible uses marriage as a metaphor for God's relationship with us many times. I think there's a good reason for it. In this podcast episode, I discuss my belief that all the do's and don'ts, both in marriage, and in the Bible, point to one thing: the relationship. Not that the rules are unimportant, or are not valuable, but that the underlying relationship is far more so. In fact, if we focus on the relationship, on our love for the other person, then all the rules, the guidelines, the do's and don'ts, will happen all on their own.

A couple of years ago I got a message from a reader who was beside herself with unfounded fears that her husband was no longer attracted to her. She hadn't asked him. She had no indication that he wasn't, but she had this deep seated fear that he wasn't.<br /> <br /> So, I ran a survey, asking spouses about their attraction to their husband or wife. And today I thought I'd share some of results with you, to help anyone else who has the same fears.

I didn't have much time this week to record, so this is a very short podcast episode to let you know about our marriage challenge this week to help you break out of a sexual rut, as well as our new product: The Spice Jar - A printable game to help you change things up in the bedroom tonight.

I once heard it said that the definition of conflict is two people in the same ZIP code. Well, in marriage the people are a lot closer than that, and this inevitably spawns conflict. Now, conflict isn't bad, in fact, it can be good and healthy. Conflict forces us to grow, to see another person's perspective, to seek unselfish solutions. But, if conflict is dealt with in an unhealthy manner, then it can be damaging. Today I'm going to share with you 7 damaging conflict behaviours that you might recognize in your marriage. If any of these ring a bell, you need to start working to rid yourself of them in your relationship.

Sexual awakenings are a point where a low-drive, gatekeeper or refusing spouse suddenly realizes that sex is important to the marriage, and that their behaviour needs to change. However, just because there is often a single instant where this realization becomes clear, it can take time, sometimes years or decades, to actually change their behaviour.

Let's face it, Christianity is not the perfect religion we like to make it out to be. At least, not the way we imperfect humans play it out in our lives. And one area of life that we've really made a mess of over the centuries is sexuality. In this facet of life, Judaism seems to have gotten it right, and I think we should have paid more attention to them.

A few years ago, I wrote a post called 16 Confessions of a Marriage Sex Blogger. In it I shared a bunch of things that I thought might be interesting to people, to sort of help my community get to know me a bit more. Today I'm going to take a slightly different direction and share with you 8 things that I don't want to admit as a Christian Marriage Podcaster. While these might help you get to know me more, I'm also wanting to show you how to be transparent, to show you that it's okay to share potentially embarrassing things. If I can share these with you, then surely you can share even deeper things with your spouse. So, here we go.

These days, standing up and saying that your the head of your household can be a bit dangerous for men. With gender equality so strong in our society, the idea of gender roles is often scoffed at, looked own upon. I've heard many people say that patriarchy is just an excuse for men to do what they want, when they want. I don't see it that way. Here's what being the head of the household means to me.

Valentine's day is just around the corner. Only a few days left in fact. If that started to make you sweat, well, I feel for you. Valentine's Day, I think, is potentially one of the most dangerous days of the year for married couples. I'll explain what I mean, and then give a couple tips for how to survive it.

Men are often accused of compartmentalized lives, and for the most part it's true. Most of us can have our work life and our home life and our church life and our sports/hobbies life, and keep them all fairly contained. Women, on the other hand, tend to have one life, and it all mixes together. However, there is one aspect of life that men often find very difficult to compartmentalize: their sex life.

This week, I'm talking about morning sex, that is sex when you first wake up. Why discuss morning sex? Because there's a lot going on that people don't realize I think. I often get asked "why does my husband want sex in the morning?" and so if you ever had that question, or if you're a husband and are curious why you want sex in the morning, here's your change to find out why.

I wrote a post on this topic a few years ago and thought I'd do a podcast version for those who don't read the blog, or are new and aren't aware of my older posts. I believe married men (or women) masturbate for three reasons: Ignorance, Selfishness and/or Addiction.

This week we're discussing how you train your spouse. In all human relationships, we teach other's how to interact with us. Sometimes it's positive, sometimes it's not. But, often we don't think about it and then we are surprised by the results of our training.<br /> <br /> My wife and I trained each other horribly in the years of our marriage and spent years undoing those bad teachings. But, you can't start unless you understand what's going on.

For the first half of our marriage, I heard from my wife many times "All you want is sex", because sex was probably the biggest are of conflict in our marriage. Since then, I've seen it many times in emails and comments from lower drive spouses, or from the high drive spouses complaining about the complaints of their low drive spouse.<br /> <br /> Some of them are accused of being obsessed with sex, some believe that it's their sinful nature that's causing the desire, some think it's a character deficit to be overcome, and, sadly, I've heard too often from high-drive spouses "I wish God would take this desire away from me".