
ResponseABLE Parenting
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110. The sneaky primal emotion that could get you out of a power struggle
How many times do you hear a sassy response from your kid and it launches you into full reaction mode? After you think "why couldn't I have done that differently?" And the next thought is "But HOW do I do that differently?" This is the episode for you. I walk you through a new way of using a primal emotion to your benefit so that you can actually engage in better communication and find a smoother outcome! Also don't forget to watch the replay of the Rewire Your Reactions Free Workshop! It will give you an even more in depth breakdown of how to rewire these negative patterns to come out more grounded and connected! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting is HERE!!!🎉 You will never need to frantically reach for another script, tool, or strategy again! With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent. From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again. With REWIRE you will have access to my 30 day nervous system regulation program FAST WAY TO REGULATE. This 4 week program is a masterclass in neural reprogramming. Fancy words for saying - you'll change your brain to do what you want vs. what it always does that causes ruptures and guilt! Once you know how to regulate your body under stress - you'll move onto S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. Inside you'll learn how to adjust the gentle scripts you've heard to actually match the intensity of your child. This program unlocks the communication tools that have felt so out of reach for so long. Throughout the program you'll learn how to create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! And for those who crave personalized feedback and want to hyperspeed their results - join REWIRE Level Up. Here you'll get 6 months of weekly coaching calls and a private support page where you get my hands on support to speed up your results even more! I'll get to know your individual challenges and be able to dial in specific strategies that are tailored to meet your needs. Don't miss out: Check out the complete REWIRE program & Level Up today! Plus get an exclusive free training! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
109. What to do when your kid refuses to do what they said they would!
I don't need to tell you how aggravating this moment in parenting is. You've made the agreement, your kid got a win, all you're asking for is for them to follow through and now they're NOT🤬 We've all been there and usually that creates quite a power struggle. In this episode I'm breaking it ALLLLLL down. I'm giving you not only telling you how to set yourself up for success but I'm also giving you the exact steps to handle their pushback effectively. This is a MUST LISTEN! Also don't forget to watch the replay of the Rewire Your Reactions Free Workshop! It will give you an even more in depth breakdown of how to rewire these negative patterns to come out more grounded and connected! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting is HERE!!!🎉 You will never need to frantically reach for another script, tool, or strategy again! With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child in the heat of a triggering moment How to regulate your nervous system to regain control of the moment How to respond with connection and clarity These are the only steps you'll ever need as a parent. From a screaming toddler who can't seem to calm down – to your teenager who broke curfew…again. With REWIRE you will have access to my 30 day nervous system regulation program FAST WAY TO REGULATE. This 4 week program is a masterclass in neural reprogramming. Fancy words for saying - you'll change your brain to do what you want vs. what it always does that causes ruptures and guilt! Once you know how to regulate your body under stress - you'll move onto S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. Inside you'll learn how to adjust the gentle scripts you've heard to actually match the intensity of your child. This program unlocks the communication tools that have felt so out of reach for so long. Throughout the program you'll learn how to create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! And for those who crave personalized feedback and want to hyperspeed their results - join REWIRE Level Up. Here you'll get 6 months of weekly coaching calls and a private support page where you get my hands on support to speed up your results even more! I'll get to know your individual challenges and be able to dial in specific strategies that are tailored to meet your needs. Don't miss out: Check out the complete REWIRE program & Level Up today! Plus get an exclusive free training! https://www.responseableparenting.com/rewire BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 ALL YOUR FREE RESOURCES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
108. The Wild Robot wisdom we didn't expect but need to hear!
I know this movie is from last year but I will watch it over and over again. It's so good! If you haven't seen it, The Wild Robot will validate all of your parenting feelings! :) In this week's episode I break down a scene where the main robot shares how she's reprogrammed herself in order to show up for the child she needs to care for. It's an incredible validation that we are globally stepping into a new knowledge of how this relationship thrives. We are no longer doing things because "that's the way they've always been done." We are now consciously aware that this relationship takes work…but the work starts internally for us as the parent. Make sure you join my free workshop coming up on 8/26: Rewire Your Reactions!If you can't join live, sign up for the replay and learn how to do this exact process yourself! Sign up here! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/rewire GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES!Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
107. Shift Happens when we look for the "try"
It is so easy to correct our kids over and over. Especially when it's the same repetitive behavior that is beyond annoying. However this is RESULTS focused correction. And when we don't get the results we want, we get angry, we get annoyed, and OUR default pattern of reaction comes pouring out. *And lets be honest, probably with greater intensity than it deserves because of our emotional trigger. In this week's shift happens episode I talk about shifting away from the results and looking more towards the TRY. When we notice our kids trying we can see that they are in fact shifting in the direction of the results we're after. But we're giving it time and we're not loading on the shame. This is a quick mental reframe and I hope it serves you as much as it served me! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
106. Defend Young Minds - A very important conversation about pornography
This was an incredible conversation with Kristen Jenson - author of the best selling book GOOD PICTURES BAD PICTURES. Please check out more info on Kristen and her books below. I learned so much about our children's accessibility and vulnerability to images that can have a huge impact on their brain development. I also had no idea it could start so young. Even if your children are in Kindergarten or below, please take a listen to prepare for the reality that faces our kids at a very young age - especially when they have access to ipads or phones. Kristen Jenson Website/Books: www.defendyoungminds.com/books Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DefendYM/ Instagram: @defendyoungminds X: @defendYM LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/company/defend-young-minds GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
105. Why is it easier to be compassionate to others?
Have you noticed it's so much easier to be there for someone else than it is to show up for yourself? There's a reason for that! In this week's episode I give you a challenge. I want you to explore your own patterns and programming and see if you can track it to the unmet need that's screaming out to you! When you find it shoot me a DM on Instagram @responseableparenting and tell me what you uncovered!! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
104. Threats on a road trip
On a 5 hour road trip my boys started fighting over the most benign thing…a book. I share the annoying details, the default patterns we fell into when we hit our breaking point, and ultimately what I did to recover the moment. It highlighted for me just how important it is to have regulation practices built into the day. How they cannot be back burner, "if I can get to it today" actions. These moments in parenting show us our tolerance level. And we are only as effective as we are regulated. Knowing that everything is tied to the nervous system it's crucial we adopt nervous system regulation practices as parents. It's the way through the tough moments. If you haven't already joined, head over to Fast Way To Regulate (just below) and dive in. You'll get a masterclass in regulation practices and be able to read your patterns faster and faster as you begin to embody regulation practices into your life. GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdowYou absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
103. The reason it's not working
In this episode I share more about that really frustrating cycle of trying something to break a negative cycle, it not going well, and then how we can often compare our journey to others - which creates more shame, self judgement, and tends to further solidify the negative pattern we're trying to get rid of in the first place. But don't worry, I don't leave you in that :) I also share how to change that. I offer a lot of mindset shifts and tools to start using in order to creat real, meaningful, but most importantly AUTHENTIC change in your parenting. GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Get the cheat codes to "stack" regulation practices throughout your day! No time to meditate? No problem. Grab this simple system and add ZERO time to your day! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/zero Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
102. Hardest Part of Parenting
In this episode I share a negative parenting pattern I discovered about myself while going through Fast Way To Regulate. As I was tracking my triggers and getting clear about why things were upsetting me the way they were I realized this one pattern was happening all the time and I hadn't even noticed it. This is the power of this challenge. It takes the hard parts that are hiding in the shadows, brings them into the light, and allows us to heal, find support, and practice so that the negative pattern doesn't continue to have power over us. I cannot wait for you to connect some massive dots of your own inside Fast Way To Regulate. You can still join, it's not too late! Let's go! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
101. Why is it hard to hold a boundary?
In this episode I tackle 3 sneaky reasons why it might be hard for you to hold a boundary. On top of that, I share a boundary protocol routine. In this protocol I share how to set a value based boundary system, engage your children in the process, and have a clear protocol for when the boundary is crossed. Don't forget to join the Fast Way To Regulate challenge with the dozens of other amazing parents who are working towards the same goal! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
100. Celebrating the Milestone of 100 Episodes!!
This podcast has been a wonderful journey and I am just beyond touched that you've been with me through 100 freaking episodes!!! In this celebration episode I share things I've learned, how my parenting has shifted, the fundamentals I teach and practice and so much more. Thank you again for being here for 100 episodes! It truly means the world to me! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
99. Punishments vs. Consequences vs. Boundaries - WHICH ONE WORKS?!
There is SO much talk about what constitutes a punishment or a consequence - what works, when do boundaries come into play etc. I share a real time story of what we did, how I distinguish punishments from consequences and more! I hope this is a helpful episode! There were so many interruptions from dogs barking to visitors, deliveries and more. My hope is that the message is clear and helpful!! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
98. Is your child "over reacting" or just doing what you taught them?
I saw a dad at the baseball field tell their child to stop crying because they were overreacting that their push pop had fallen on the floor. It hit me like a gut punch. And that moment got me thinking hard about "over reacting." Was that little boy over reacting? I can't wait to hear what you think about this discussion! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
97. SHIFT HAPPENS when we change what we do when we're bored
Oh I am so excited to share this with you! SHIFT HAPPENS was a little baby of mine for a minute. I listen to so much personal growth content and I'm constantly writing down short bits of it that inspire me and shift my perspective. In SHIFT HAPPENS I took what I heard and put it through the lens of parenting. This is one of those episodes. Enjoy!! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will uncover the exact point (and reason why) you lose your cool, so that you can put a regulation tool in front of it and maintain your calm even in the toughest moments. You'll learn practical strategies and systems so communication flows, the temperature of the house lowers as a whole, and everyone is more regulated! We kick off LIVE as a group July 1-30th. Don't miss out! https://www.responseableparenting.com/regulate JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The ResponseAble Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
96. Shake up Sibling Rivalry
This episode I share a new strategy I've been using when the boys are stuck in fight mode. The past week our kids have been extra super spicy and with the extra spice, my go-to strategies just weren't cutting it. I share what I did instead and how that shifted everything for both kids!! JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their internal skills are solid. But we can't do that when OUR internal world is stuck, shaky, and under-skilled. I help you create internal safety and strength so the external chaos doesn't phase you. The support you NEED. The skills your child REQUIRES! https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong Get EVERYTHING when you join THE COMMUNITY! Inside The Responseable Parenting Community you have access to EVERYTHING! Plus you have a weekly opportunity to talk to me 1:1 and get personalized support! Join now to have access to every course, including my signature courses S.T.U.C.K. TO S.T.R.O.N.G. and FAST WAY TO REGULATE but also every workshop, guest appearance and more. Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5 FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
95. Can we REALLY enjoy Mother's Day?
I don't know about you, but Mother's Day can feel like a bust. I don't know if I've truly ever had a Mother's Day that WOWed me. *Sorry Charlie* But honestly, I've also never spoken up about what my expectations are and what specific needs I want met. In this episode I share my hot take on revamping Mother's Day for next year! FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play
94. Why can't we get UNSTUCK from these patterns?
I'm not sure why it took me so long to think of parenting like this 😂but when I was in my workout class today it struck me. We have such a positive association with the pain and growth of a workout, but we have such a negative association with the pain and growth in parenting. Why? Well a huge part of that is the neural programming around each area. And I talk all about that in this week's episode! JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong What you're getting: 20 video lessons giving you specific strategies, mindset shifts, neural reprogramming tools, communication prompts, family activities, and more! 5 ADHD lessons providing with context, understanding, systems, and ways to engage your child differently. Ask all your questions! Under each lesson you can comment, ask questions and we can dial in your skills even further. FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature courseS "S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G!" and my 30 Day Parent Regulation Challenge! Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
93. GUILT: Is it good for parents?
In this episode I share the $h!t storm that was my spring break. Not to excuse the behavior that resulted, but to share that you are absolutely not alone in the challenge that comes with parenting a strong-willed ADHD child. Today we talk about guilt and how guilt can keep us stuck in a never ending loop of self deprecation, loathing, disappointment, and reactivity. AND how we can move away from this pattern into a new and stronger way of parenting. JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. https://www.responseableparenting.com/strong What you're getting: 20 video lessons giving you specific strategies, mindset shifts, neural reprogramming tools, communication prompts, family activities, and more! 5 ADHD lessons providing with context, understanding, systems, and ways to engage your child differently. Ask all your questions! Under each lesson you can comment, ask questions and we can dial in your skills even further. FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature courseS "S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G!" and my 30 Day Parent Regulation Challenge! Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
92. This ONE thing will improve your 1:1 time with your SWK
In this episode I specifically address the challenges that PLAY can bring to parents of strong-willed kids (SWK) or our neurodivergent kids. I share the differences I experience with my children and a "hack" that is allowing me to dial in and be more strategic with my ADHD / strong-willed kid. This has been helping us so much and I really hope you use it too! Don't forget to grab my PLAY WEBINAR (in the "Free Guides" section) where you can get dozens of strategies to help you as well! APPLICATION FOR THE PARENTING BREAKTHROUGH CIRCLE This small group coaching opportunity will help you break through your negative patterns, beliefs and toxic cycles with yourself and your child. The work you put in here, will transform your relationship with your children forever. Here is a small portion of what you can expect: Focused integration that finally rewires your unwanted habits so that your default response is measured, confident and connected. An opportunity for you to truly master skills, gain unwavering clarity in emotional regulation and supportive strategies so you can remain calm and finally release the triggers. A deep education on your and your child's nervous system and processing so you can finally break the cycle of struggle and step into confident, connected leadership, so boundaries are simple and enforcement is no longer a challenge. A place where you can fully ditch the frustrations, power struggles, low self worth beliefs, deep conditioning and shift your parenting at it's core, for good! If all that sounds like what you're looking for, please fill out the application below. http://bit.ly/426EyzL FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
91. Are you setting yourself up for failure or success with your kid?
Unconsciously we are setting ourselves up for failure over and over again with our kids. We head into each and every interaction with stored emotions in our bodies telling us whether or not we should be guarded or open. In this episode I share the foundational step to shift this pattern in our bodies. How you can instantly increase your tolerance level and support yourself to a better outcome. APPLICATION FOR THE PARENTING BREAKTHROUGH CIRCLE This small group coaching opportunity will help you break through your negative patterns, beliefs and toxic cycles with yourself and your child. The work you put in here, will transform your relationship with your children forever. Here is a small portion of what you can expect: Focused integration that finally rewires your unwanted habits so that your default response is measured, confident and connected. An opportunity for you to truly master skills, gain unwavering clarity in emotional regulation and supportive strategies so you can remain calm and finally release the triggers. A deep education on your and your child's nervous system and processing so you can finally break the cycle of struggle and step into confident, connected leadership, so boundaries are simple and enforcement is no longer a challenge. A place where you can fully ditch the frustrations, power struggles, low self worth beliefs, deep conditioning and shift your parenting at it's core, for good! If all that sounds like what you're looking for, please fill out the application below. http://bit.ly/426EyzL FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
90. Is Empathy Weakness?
In this episode I address whether or not I believe empathy is a sign of weakness. Or "weak parenting." Elon Musk has been in the news saying "the fundamental weakness of western civilization is Empathy." However I think it's one of the biggest strengths for humanity. When we can SEE each other, when we can seek to understand each other we are in fact stronger. Both personally and as a nation. I invite you to listen and think about how you were shown empathy as a child and how that's impacted your ability to show empathy as a parent. And if you're ready to start shifting towards empathy. For support, email me: [email protected] and I will connect with you 💛 APPLICATION FOR THE PARENTING BREAKTHROUGH CIRCLEThis small group coaching opportunity will help you break through your negative patterns, beliefs and toxic cycles with yourself and your child. The work you put in here, will transform your relationship with your children forever. Here is a small portion of what you can expect: Focused integration that finally rewires your unwanted habits so that your default response is measured, confident and connected. An opportunity for you to truly master skills, gain unwavering clarity in emotional regulation and supportive strategies so you can remain calm and finally release the triggers. A deep education on your and your child's nervous system and processing so you can finally break the cycle of struggle and step into confident, connected leadership, so boundaries are simple and enforcement is no longer a challenge. A place where you can fully ditch the frustrations, power struggles, low self worth beliefs, deep conditioning and shift your parenting at it's core, for good! If all that sounds like what you're looking for, please fill out the application below. http://bit.ly/426EyzL FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
89. 5 Reasons Why Gentle Parenting ISN'T Working For You
In this episode I share the 5 reasons I see that gentle parenting isn't working for you. These are what I'm seeing across comments, questions I get asked weekly, my client's perspectives and community members. And I want to acknowledge that it's hard to transition from one parenting style to another. Especially one that forces us to look at our own stuff vs. focus on our children's behavior. I hope this brings some insights and of course please connect with me if you are called to work together. I would really love to connect with you and see how coaching or my programs could be a support for this recurring pattern. Please reach out and we can connect on a free call. [email protected] Podcast episodes referenced: Episode 39: 4 Buckets We Need to Fill in Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-39-4-buckets-to-fill-in-ourselves APPLICATION FOR THE PARENTING BREAKTHROUGH CIRCLE This small group coaching opportunity will help you break through your negative patterns, beliefs and toxic cycles with yourself and your child. The work you put in here, will transform your relationship with your children forever. Here is a small portion of what you can expect: Focused integration that finally rewires your unwanted habits so that your default response is measured, confident and connected. An opportunity for you to truly master skills, gain unwavering clarity in emotional regulation and supportive strategies so you can remain calm and finally release the triggers. A deep education on your and your child's nervous system and processing so you can finally break the cycle of struggle and step into confident, connected leadership, so boundaries are simple and enforcement is no longer a challenge. A place where you can fully ditch the frustrations, power struggles, low self worth beliefs, deep conditioning and shift your parenting at it's core, for good! If all that sounds like what you're looking for, please fill out the application below. http://bit.ly/426EyzL FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior and restore peace in your home in this free training! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/playvideo Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community BE A GUEST ON THE PODCAST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
88. Understanding your child's brain-based differences
This episode is a wonderful conversation discussing how we as parents can shift our focus, our reactivity and the lens in which we view our children with brain-based differences. You get to hear from expert Eileen Devine on how she approaches parenting frustrating behaviors from a skill deficiency lens vs an intentional defiant lens. I hope you enjoy this conversation and feel hopeful in how we can start to shift as parents with our children whose brains function differently. Bio: Eileen Devine is a licensed clinical social worker and founder of Brain First Parenting. She lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband and two teenage children, one of whom lives with a serious brain-based difference. She has over 20 years of clinical experience and for the last dozen of those years, has focused solely on supporting parents who have kids with neurobehavioral conditions. In addition to her clinical work with parents, she facilitates dozens of workshops and trainings each year for parents, teachers, and mental health professionals and is a trainer for the Center for Adoption Support and Education's (C.A.S.E.) accredited Training for Adoption Competency (TAC) Program, where she instructs other clinicians across the state of Oregon on what it means to be an adoption and foster competent therapist. https://www.eileendevine.com/ FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
87. IG Question - My Toddler is Using His Weight Against Me!
This episode answers a question I got over on Instagram. If you don't follow me there please connect at @ ResponseABLEparenting This parent was really struggling with their toddler falling on the ground and using their weight against them in the middle of a tantrum. We've all been there, when we say no to something and our toddler all the sudden goes completely dead weight and falls to the ground in a full meltdown. This can be very triggering, embarassing and frustrating. I share how we can soften in these moments by understanding our children's developmental abilities and the steps I would take to move through this moment and maintain connection as well as teach them the behavior I would like to see going forward. I hope this episode is supportive and gives you some insights into managing these really annoying tantrums we experience throughout our kid's development. I would really love to connect with you and see how coaching or my programs could be a support for this recurring pattern. Please reach out and we can connect on a free call. [email protected] FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
86. Listening the first time. Is that even possible?
In this episode I share the 3D's to ensure your best possible outcome for your child to listen to you! Listening (or lack there of) can be one of the most triggering scenarios for us as parents. This episode will help you see the big picture and give you some tools to help develop the skill of listening. Also don't miss out on my FREE Webinar where I teach you how to use PLAY to solve recurring battles with your children! Sign up here for the webinar. https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play-webinar The live webinar will take place Monday March 24 - Wednesday March 26. If you can't make it live you will have access to the recording! So make sure you enroll! FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
85. Parenting with Grief
This is a very special episode! I am taking part in the Podcasthon Non-Profit Initiative where over 1500 podcasters are bringing awareness to a charity and organization that means something to them. I am honoring the Madd Ox Foundation. It's a foundation to bring awareness to stillbirths as well as provide resources to families (especially mothers) who have recently experienced a stillbirth. https://www.maddox-foundation.org/ In this episode I share my story of losing my son Jackson in 2019. I share about how I moved through grief, what I've learned from this experience and the many ways I began to understand what happened and how to live with grief as opposed to fighting it at all costs. No matter if you've lost a child or a loved one or something very special to you, grief can impact our parenting in very negative ways. I share more on that and how to begin the process of recognizing and moving through that to support both you and your children. Podcasthon https://podcasthon.org/ FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
84. When things don't go according to plan
Ever been there when things are going pretty smoothly and then one thing derails you and all the sudden you find yourself reacting as if all hell broke loose? Do you beat yourself up over your reaction? Spend the rest of the day ruminating on how you failed and why you can't seem to just stay calm? I've been there. I really have. So so many times. In this episode I share some tools to really support you when things don't go according to plan. And I give you the next action step that you need to take to nip this reaction in the bud for good. I would really love to connect with you and see how coaching or my programs could be a support for this recurring pattern. Please reach out and we can connect on a free call. [email protected] Podcast episodes referenced: Episode 39: 4 Buckets We Need to Fill in Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-39-4-buckets-to-fill-in-ourselves FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
83. Realistically what this work looks like
It's easy to think that everyone else has it figured out as a parent. That you are the only one failing and have totally messed up your kid. That every time you yell or threaten you have to go back to the drawing board and start completely over. In this episode I share a rough moment with my son. I share how I fell back into old patterns and how I totally forgot to use every skill at my fingertips. But then I share how this work took this moment from what would have been hours down to under ½ an hour from start to finish. And how we ended up learning so much from this fight that we now know exactly what we both need to work on. I share exactly what I did to turn the sinking ship around and the outcome of that. How this work has truly changed the trajectory of our relationship.\ Podcast episodes referenced: Episode 74: The Stories We Tell Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-74-the-stories-we-tell-ourselves FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
82. Stop looking to your kids to validate your parenting
In this week's episode I share a subtle thing I've noticed across all the parents I work with. A little hiccup that keeps us stuck, that keeps us in a frustrated power loop and draws us back into conflict with our kids. It's this longing and almost expectation that our kids are going to validate our hard work as parents. We've done so much work, we're putting in a tremendous amount of effort and we still get yelled at, we still get pushback, we still get their aggression. It can feel so defeating and frustrating. It can make us question whether what we are doing as parents is the right thing for our kids. And it makes it 10x easier to revert back to the old patterns that we grew up with: yelling, shaming, threatening etc. I'm excited for you to listen and please reach out if you had an "ah ha" in this episode! FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
81. How curiosity builds respect
I get a lot of haters in my comments. And while that comes with the territory and seems to be the cultural norm these days, I have to believe we can speak to each other differently. And while I'm not a saint, and clap back at times, I do try to practice what I preach. And that is to get curious as to why the person is saying what they're saying. You'll see me write "I'm curious…" to start many of my responses. In this episode I share how curiosity is such an overlooked yet potent tool for fostering respect. I break down how this models respect, teaches conflict management, emotional intelligence, regulates the nervous system and creates a deep level of trust, safety and … you guessed it, respect. Also please relisten to episode 40 - Understanding Drives Respect https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-40-understanding-drives-respect FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. Does it feel impossible to access playful, connected strategies when you're not getting the cooperation you need in the moment? Grab this free guide where I share 70 play based starter phrases! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/play COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST!If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
80. Mama Trauma
First off, shout out to you mama for tackling cycle breaking and doing the work. This is NOT easy stuff and I am here to cheer you on. I think it's very easy to point the finger to our parents (especially our moms) and say "because of the way she modeled things I am 'x'" or "the way she did this messed me up." YES all of that is your experience and 100% valid. I am not taking that away from you. AND, we have choice. We have a choice in how we choose to move forward with what we've experienced in our past. I share in this episode my thoughts on "mama drama" and how we can move forward together and continue to break cycles. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
79. How do I "fix" this?!
You are right to notice that there are a million scary things flying at you at all times right now. And you are right to want to fix these immediately in order to not feel so uncomfortable and in order to keep you and your family safe. But we cannot be effective if we are reacting every minute to fear. In this episode I share how we can create a safe place internally so we can be effective externally. If you are called to work with me please reach out: [email protected] I would love to coach you through this and be a safe place during an unsafe time. And please, share this with a friend who is feeling the weight of the external chaos. Podcast episodes referenced: Episode 74: The Stories We Tell Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-74-the-stories-we-tell-ourselves Episode 39: 4 Buckets to Fill in Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-39-4-buckets-to-fill-in-ourselves FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
78. The OTHER "F" Word…Friends
This episode explores friendships. My son had a run in with his "best friend" and he was essentially told "you're not my friend." So wounded and so confused he felt blindsided by this. He admires this kid so much and truthfully this kid is awesome. I totally get why my son wants to be his bestie. But this kid already has a bestie who loves all the same things he loves, is lock step with this kid and it shows. My son shares a few similar interests but not a lot. When I was able to share the "Capital F" and "Lowercase f" framework with him it allowed him to see that his worth wasn't dependent on the approval of this one kid. And that true friendship doesn't require constantly proving yourself, fear that they're going to ditch you any second, or any type of coercion to be friends. Real "Capital F" friends like you for you. They accept you, they enjoy being with you and they are willing to work on the challenging things. I hope this supports you when you run into the inevitable friendship challenges. (note: this was not my concept. I cannot remember where I heard this so if you know, please send me a message and I'll source them for credit). FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
77. Parenting with External Stress
This is possibly the most important episode I've ever made. After experiencing the unrelenting stress of fires, arsonists, hurricane force winds + fire was almost too much for the human body to bear witness too. Most everyone in LA right now is walking around as a zombie. We are in "low power mode" and from what I've heard from almost everyone, "we're just putting one foot in front of the other." Many of us know at least 1 person who lost everything. Many of us know 20+ people who only have the clothes they evacuated in. It's devastating. However, the focus of this episode is not the fires. The focus of this episode is the incredible wisdom we hold in our bodies that has been biologically primed to keep us safe when our stress levels surpass our threshold. And unfortunately for every parent in America today, that threshold is maxing out regularly. So this episode focuses on understanding WHY our bodies do what they do. And how you can actively participate in what your body is doing so you can support yourself and your goals as a parent even further. Please feel free to reach out to me, share this with a friend and once again, thank you for being here. The episode I mentioned with the 5 senses exercise is this: Episode 74: The Stories We Tell Ourselves https://www.responseableparenting.com/podcast/ep-74-the-stories-we-tell-ourselves FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
76. My son's passing - and the lessons I continue to learn
Trigger Warning. This episode is about my son who was stillborn in 2019. I share a few moments that I experienced in the hospital. If you have lost a child, experienced a stillbirth or miscarriage, please be gentle in your listening. My hope is that you find comfort in my story, that you are not alone. And that we can continue to heal together. My son Jackson would have been 6 years old this year. And on his 6th birthday (1/5/2025) I connected the dots to a major lesson from that experience to where I struggle as a parent still today. I think this is a great way to reframe our goals as parents in 2025 and how to approach this whole thing in a new way. I invite you to listen, to cry, to be WITH the hard feelings. And to connect with me afterwards. Sending you so much love as we embark on a new year together. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
75. What I learned from my son knocking out his teeth
In this episode, I share a personal story about my four-year-old son's traumatic accident during a holiday recital rehearsal, where he severely injured several teeth. I reflect on his resilience, the lessons we've learned, and the importance of connection, asking for help, grounding tools, and letting go of control as a parent. Let's talk about navigating trauma, finding joy in adversity, and responding with intention. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! This is where the magic happens! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
74. The Stories We Tell Ourselves
In this week's episode I share why it's so easy for us to hop back into our "roles" inside our families when we see each other for the holidays. Even if we've done SO MUCH WORK we still find ourselves falling back into these roles. We do the same thing in our immediate families when we get stuck in the same loops and patterns. I hope to bring some insights, some new perspectives and some skills to work on over the holidays. Sending you lots of love, calm and joy over the next few weeks. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! This is where the magic happens! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/products/response-able-community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/products/monthly-virtual-meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
73. The Secret to Calming Down
This is a fun and juicy episode! I am going to share with you a huge self discovery. A way that I have managed to CALM down in really high pressure moments. And its a secret that's been hiding in plain sight this whole time. I cannot wait for you to take a listen and I hope that this serves you well during this holiday season and into the new year. FREE GUIDES!Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! This is where the magic happens! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
72. One of THE hardest cycles to break
I didn't think I'd share this personal story from my Thanksgiving break but I felt like it really hit home for me on my journey of parenting as well as self discovery. So I invite you to take a listen, and possibly see yourself in my story. We are so deeply intertwined with all of our "shoulds" that we've lost a large part of ourselves. My goal in everything I do as a coach is to help us figure out how to come back to ourselves so we can ultimately show up the way we truly want to show up. We've taken on more in this life than our nervous systems can handle. And I'm hoping that through this work we can soothe and comfort that out of wack nervous system. I know it's possible because I see the bread crumbs and the small wins all the time through this practice. I am excited to have you along on this journey and I hope to connect with you even more. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! This is where the magic happens! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
71. Were You Allowed to be Messy?
You're catching me days after the Thanksgiving break here in the states. And not even 24 hours after my youngest fell and busted out most if not all of his front teeth. I'm a little shell shocked but learning a big lesson. The lesson being, I was never allowed to be messy. And so that's why parenting feels so hard because IT'S ONLY MESS! This is a heart felt, loving, accepting message to all the parents out there who are in the thick of the MESS. I hope you feel less alone, seen and supported after listening to this episode. Sending you love from the depths of the mess. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
70. Go From Surviving the Holidays to THRIVING in the Holidays
I love the holidays, but let's be honest, they are filled with challenges. Tricky family dynamics, expectations not being met, routines being off, more sugar, alcohol, etc. It can leave us feeling drained, resentful and frustrated. In this episode you'll get a 4 step framework from Marshall Rosenberg, the father of Non-Violent Communication. It's THE MOST effective strategy for those tricky situations. Plus you'll know you've done everything you could! I can't wait to hear how your holidays are. If you find yourself knee deep in the overwhelm - shoot me a message on Instagram @ responseableparenting or email me: [email protected] and I'll be there for you! FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN!!! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
69. Making the holidays work with your strong-willed kid
Do you dread the holidays? Do you feel anxious about how you're going to handle so much time together? Does it feel like gentle strategies never work with your strong-willed kid? This is the episode for you. I share 3 important mindset shifts to hold onto during the holidays as well as 4 active strategies to put in place to set your holidays up for the best possible outcome! Also, my community is still open! Doors close again for the rest of the year on Dec 6th. Use promo code BLACKFRIDAY to get 40% off your first month! JOIN THE COMMUNITY! The community is now OPEN until December 6th! Inside the Community you'll have access to me DAILY through DM's and the Discussion board. Share your questions, ask me the tricky stuff and get the support YOU need. You'll have WEEKLY Q&A opportunities to get personalized support where I can help you connect the dots and have a clear path forward in your parenting. You also have access to my entire workshop library, dozens of bite sized lessons, OH! And you have immediate access to my signature course "The Strong-Willed Language Series!" Here you get my BEST and most effective tips on how to stay regulated when triggered, how to understand your child more and speak their language so you can gain more cooperation, drastically reduce power struggles, feel more connected and more! Don't forget to use code PODCAST for $10 off your first month! Join here: https://responseableparenting.kit.com/community FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
68. How can I manage my emotions during a time crunch?
In this episode I answer a question off Instagram: "How to manage my emotions when establishing time boundaries?" I talk about the difference between a boundary and an expectation. And how to clearly set both. I share 5 different steps to take in order to set both you and your child up for success. You'll hear mindset shifts and you'll get practical strategies on how to engage your child once the boundary has been crossed and the power struggle has begun (as the clock ticks away). If you would like further examples or want to be a guest on the podcast please submit your questions in the link below. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
67. Control is the Opposite of Trust
In this episode I talk about the difference between control and trust. And how we have been so conditioned to control the process, control the outcome, control our children's behavior. Because left to their own devices things haven't gone well in the past. But the more we control, the less time they have to practice, to fill up their own control bucket, to show us through their actions how capable they truly are. I offer a new way of thinking about control and some guidance on how to slowly release the reins and give your children the opportunity to show how much they care about this relationship as well. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST!If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
66. What You DON'T Know About Puberty with Kimberly Grustas
Hear from the Founder of Good For You Girls (a toxic-free skincare line that supports kids through puberty and beyond). Our discussion ranges from the challenging food and product options for our tweens/teens as well as how to have empowered conversations about the hormonal changes they are experiencing. Kimberly shares wonderful ways to stay connected, alert, curious, and how to move through this delicate time without shame and feeling empowered. Tune into this very important conversation! Kimberly has offered my listeners a promo code: RESPONSEABLE20 for 20% off her product line. Head to GoodForYouGirls.com to check out her products and scoop some deals before the holidays! FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
65. Control Issues
*Trigger warning at minute marker 7:30 I share a story of my stillbirth.* In this episode I share a very vulnerable and tender moment I had with my strong willed kid. He did something impulsively that pushed on all my buttons. And instead of having a corrective conversation we ended up having one of the most honest and connective moments. I was able to recognize that my desire to control his behavior is rooted in a deep fear that I will lose him just like I lost his brother. My control and perfectionism have morphed and are now showing up as protection. This was a beautiful moment between us and we were able to really see each other after this conversation. I hope you feel seen as well and I look forward to connecting further with you. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter VIRTUAL MEETUP! Is there a challenge in your family that has NOT gotten any better? Are you stuck in constant power struggles, experiencing defiant behavior every day, just feeling so defeated that nothing has worked and you fear you're losing the connection to your kids every day? Then this is for you. Join my monthly virtual meetup where you can share what's happening and get real, actionable and personalized solutions. This is the most affordable way to get 1:1 coaching so the plaguing problems go away and you can finally enjoy parenting again! Meetings are held the last Tuesday of every month (subject to holiday adjustments). Join here: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meetup BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
64. Feeling Your Feelings is a Radical Act
The phrase "feel your feelings" has become this negative trope used to make parents, who are really trying to do things differently, feel weak and shameful about their choices. I hear all the time "Oh you're one of THOSE parents who allow feelings…" As if thats a BAD THING!? In this week's episode I talk about how allowing both yourself and your child to feel your feelings (yes even the "bad" ones) is a radical act. And why it should be the focus of all interpersonal relationships, not just parenting! If you are ready to dive into this process and want the guidance and support I share in this podcast please either DM me on Instagram @ ResponseABLEParenting or email me at [email protected] FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
63. You Need to Change So I Can Feel Better
In this episode we explore a phrase my therapist told me back in 2020. "You need to change in order for ME to feel better." I feel like this phrase helped me see every situation differently. I began to understand my responsibility in each relationship. What I brought to the dynamic that was either healthy or not. And I was able to really start a journey of self-discovery and accountability to show up the way I wanted to in each interaction. If this resonates with you and you're looking to do this work alongside a coach I would be honored to talk with you. You can DM me on Instagram @ ResponseABLEParenting or email me at [email protected] This work matters so much, not just to benefit your children. But to heal parts of you that have kept these relationships from reaching their full potential. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
62. Yelling is an Effective Tool…
In this episode I share 3 major reasons why yelling is so effective. I share why it works so well with our kids and why it's likely a tool you've been using in your parenting. I also dive into the effects and why this habit of ours deserves to be reevaluated and overhauled. I share 3 effective strategies to implement INSTEAD of yelling and how you can take baby steps in the direction of getting rid of yelling. Just remember, you are a good parent EVEN IF YOU YELL! This is a well worn habit and we are simply in the process of replacing our behavior with a new one that feels better for both us and our children. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5
61. Connection over Correction…or not?
In this episode I share why I dislike the umbrella term "connection over correction" and why I think it's doing parents who are really trying a disservice. I share what it looks like to use connection as a tool and how to connect to yourself so that you can connect to your children. I hope you can breathe a sigh of relief knowing that you are trying and not failing after listening to this episode. FREE GUIDES! Make sure you grab my Free Guide to Managing Meltdowns: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/meltdown 4 steps to get you through your kid's meltdown without snapping! Do you find yourself yelling more often than you want? Does it feel like yelling is the ONLY way to get through to your kids? But it makes you feel awful? You absolutely need my Free Guide To Stop Yelling: https://responseableparenting.ck.page/yelling This guide will walk you through the process of staying regulated and give you tools to use during high stress moments. COMMUNITY! The community is CLOSED. Please join the waitlist and gain access to my weekly newsletter to be informed of when the community opens again. https://responseableparenting.ck.page/newsletter BE A GUEST! If you would like to be a guest on the podcast and troubleshoot what's going on for you in real time, please fill out the podcast submission form. I look forward to connecting with you! Submit here: https://bit.ly/4c57Tx5