Radical Creative Sanctuary

So, you know this relationship isn’t what you want. You haven’t been happy in it for a long time. And if you’re honest, you know you really aren’t all that motivated to try and save it – even if you did believe saving it would work. So why are you still there? Are you waiting […] The post The Only Reason You Need to Breakup appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

In this 100th episode of The Soft Shoulder Podcast, Danette celebrates the importance of making self love YOURS. It is an art, after all – and sometimes that looks like strutting around your neighbourhood to the very sexy Alannah Myles. the art of self marriagethe soft shoulder podcast The post Love is What You Want it to Be appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Have you been sidetracked without realizing it? Got a little caught up in your fallback plan and forgot what the dream was in the first place? We all do it. This is your loving wakeup call to take a look around, remember why you are here, and re-focus on where your heart really wants to […] The post Get Off the Bridge appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Does the word “abundance” kinda make your eyes glaze over? You know it’s supposed to be inspiring, but it just falls flat somehow? In this episode Danette shares the affirmation that is rocking her world right now. Consider it a spell to break you free from scarcity thinking – or at the very least, help […] The post There’s More Where This Came From appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Sometimes you know the end is near for a while before it actually comes into being. This episode is for those who may be newly breaking up or almost breaking up – along with a personal story of how self love does not stop your heart from breaking. It just makes it less scary. the […] The post Truth Telling That Breaks Your Heart appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

How would you define “Self Love”? What about “Authenticity”? How might your definitions reveal opportunities for you to love and accept yourself even more?  This episode is a gentle reminder to notice your binary thinking about self love, and allow it to exist in you, as you are, always. the art of self marriagethe soft […] The post What Are Your Secret Self Love Rules? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

If you’re going through it, you are not alone. This episode is a friendly wave of solidarity from the wild times of grief and loss, reminding you that you are not alone, it’s okay to hate this, and maybe deep diving into your favourite absurd entertainment is the medicine you didn’t know you needed. the […] The post Lessons from Loss appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Some say it’s not realistic to expect any one person to fulfill all your needs in a marriage. We have much higher expectations these days – seeking life partners who are also running buddies, best friends, business collaborators, co-parents, and erotic playmates with compatable rising signs. Good news: when you are marrying yourself, you can […] The post Being Your Own Everything appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

This mini episode is an invitation to play pretend and allow your imagination to change the game. the art of self marriagethe soft shoulder podcast The post Pretend You’re a Carrot appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

A part of you knows you are amazing. Why is it so hard to remember sometimes? There must be something wrong with you, right? Nope! What if all this remembering and forgetting is by design – to build exactly the kind of strength you most need to be your most beautiful human self? theartofselfmarriage.com The post Forgetting as a Beautiful Thing appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

If you are seeking a pain free path in life, it may not be a path at all. This episode is a gentle illumination of how your choices to avoid pain might just be favouring pain of a different kind. What is the meaningful pain of following your heart’s desire? the art of self marriagethe […] The post Choosing Meaningful Pain appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Even if you are full of doubt and think you don’t have anything to be creative with – Danette guides you through a creative activity you can do right now to rip up your old thoughts and open your mind to possibilities you hadn’t considered. Colouring Club starts February 11th: https://danette-relic.mykajabi.com/offers/XGWhgy9w/checkout Art of Self Marriage: […] The post Creative Shake Up appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Ever have a crush on someone and notice that you find their flaws adorable? When you look at someone through love goggles, you’ll find charm in their most annoying features. Well, love goggles are not just for new crushes. In fact, this practice of seeing yourself as adorable, especially when you are a mess, can […] The post You Are Adorable appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Think you’re bad at boundaries? Beating yourself up over it? Feeling stuck and frustrated? You may be missing a crucial piece of the puzzle. This episode is the pep talk you need if you’re feeling weak and confused in a relationship where your boundaries seem to be for decoration only. Tarot for Self Love Rebels […] The post Boundaries and Power appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

This mini episode is an invitation to play pretend and allow your imagination to change the game. the art of self marriagethe soft shoulder podcast The post Pretend You are Demonstrating appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Isn’t it amazing how we can take things that are good for us and somehow turn them against us? In this episode, Danette revisits the Artist Mindset and the potential snags of perfectionism that could sneak in. The Tarot for Self Love Rebels workshop is coming up on January 28th. Read more + sign up […] The post More Sketchbook, Less Masterpiece appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

This mini episode is an invitation to play pretend and allow your imagination to change the game. the art of self marriage the soft shoulder podcast The post Pretend You’re a Volunteer appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

A gentle reminder that forgiveness is yours, every day, again and again. A playful way to recreate confession booths at home. And as always, permission to be exactly where you are on this self love path. We’re on it together. The post Forgive Yourself Every Day appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Who knew there were so many deep lessons to be learned from your favourite brunch spot? This episode is a loving call for you to get specific about what you want – and what you are offering. Danette invites you to imagine what might be possible…if you practice naming your wildest desires. Book Mentioned:Unbound: A […] The post Getting Clear About What You Want appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Personal growth enthusiasts love to tweak things and find the right path forward. But sometimes the path is…just not feeling good. Maybe it’s not about the path itself, but the pace at which you are travelling? In this episode, Danette gets a little breathy talking about massages and helps you explore the expansive options available […] The post Move at a Loving Pace appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Ever thought about hiring a coach? Do you think you need to “get ready” for it first? What if you don’t think you have any coach-worthy goals? Why would someone want to hire a coach if they could just talk to their friends for free? And do you really need some other person to give […] The post The Thrill of Hiring a Coach appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Even Self Marriages need to spice things up from time to time. How about a little role play? In this episode, Danette asks a lot of questions to spark your imagination for some safe, low-stakes experimentation.   the art of self marriagethe soft shoulder podcast The post Who Do You Want to Try On? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

A loving and honest pep talk if you are in a deep valley and need a reminder that there is beauty close by – even if you can’t see it from where you stand. The post If Hope is Hard to See appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

It’s inevitable that as you grow, parts of you will be let go of. Some by choice, some by change. In this episode, Danette explores the nuances of this experience and gives permission to welcome and release your many selves with the emotion that feels most true to heart. But not before she nerds out […] The post Letting Go of Past Selves appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Wait, what? Can’t remember what you were “supposed” to be doing? Deep into a project and then…you feel kinda lost? This is your pep talk about regrouping, redefining, realigning – and why it is not just something you do when you’ve gone “off track”. In fact, making reassessing part of your practice is its own […] The post Time to Realign appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

What if you think marriage is bullshit? Or a huge letdown? Or undeniably anti-feminist? What if you love the idea of loving yourself forever but the word marriage is just….ew? In this episode Danette makes a case for reclaiming the idea of marriage, including the role it has played in the success of her 20 […] The post Reclaim Your Marriage Baggage appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Sometimes the hardest thing to do is notice how easy it could be. And sometimes we do need some help to access our own strength. It’s not a willpower problem. Listen in to be reminded that you have everything you need right where you are. Want to take a workshop with Danette to help you […] The post You Have the Key appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Making space for a new feeling? Decluttering is one of Danette’s favourite self care practices. In this episode, she shares her 5 favourite questions to ask when deciding what items to keep or release. The post Favourite Decluttering Questions appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Sometimes the win doesn’t look the way you think it should. And those are the sneaky celebrations – so sneaky they almost go unnoticed. But you deserve the confidence that comes with noticing how you have changed. Sometimes the growth is in out-growing goals you set when you didn’t yet know how much more amazing […] The post Sneaky Celebrations appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

If you often rush from one project to the next without slowing down to feel your achievements, this is for you. This is a reminder to stop and allow yourself the fruit of your labour. In this episode, Danette shares some phrases you can use to practice receiving, and one little tweak that makes all […] The post Do You Rush Through Receiving? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

As things begin to “open up” after lockdowns, you may find yourself feeling pressured to move faster than you are comfortable. What if you took lessons from responsible kink to help you navigate your post lockdown transition? They have more in common than you might think. theartofselfmarriage.comradicalcreativesanctuary.comallisontarr.comtechcoven.com The post Be a Good Lover to Your Post-Lockdown Self appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

How quickly personal growth can turn against us! When you strive to be your best self, it can be easily to slip out of love and into fix-it mode. Being in a relationship where you’re never quite good enough is a special kind of pain…especially when that relationship is with yourself. This is for you […] The post You’re a Person, Not a Project appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Marrying yourself and dating other people? Maybe for the first time? Not sure how to talk about it or nervous about the response you’ll get? In this episode, Danette helps you imagine what a catch you’d be by listing the perks of dating someone who has already married themselves. theartofselfmarriage.com The post Why Date Someone Who Has Married Themselves? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Who wants pain? How can a strong self marriage save you – and others – unnecessary pain? It’s like travelling with or without a compass. You might still get a little lost along the way, but having the clarity of direction can make all the difference. Theartofselfmarriage.com The post How Self Marriage Saves You Unnecessary Pain appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

So often we think we’ve decided on something but we really haven’t. What happens to our energy when we do that? What do we miss out on, by not making the commitment of choice? Especially when it comes to growing and learning, making a conscious decision can make all the difference. In this episode Danette […] The post The Gift of Decision appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

If Soul Mates aren’t loot bags that get handed out to everyone. And relationships with others don’t solve all your problems, as you may already know. What are you waiting for? Are there experiences your heart wants but you are not allowing yourself…until? Until you meet “the one” or are gifted something from an external […] The post You Can Stop Waiting appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

How can you date yourself when in a lockdown? How do you know if you really are committed to something? Do you force yourself to finish every book you start? What does that have to do with self love? In this episode, Danette speaks from the heart (and from a playground!) offering many journal prompts […] The post Solo Dates and Commitment appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Why do we fantasize about dating musicians? Danette shares her theory that goes beyond “feeling cool” and explores what we might really be after when we want to be the subject of an artist’s admiration. What does it mean to “love like an artist” and how can we do that for ourselves? The Art of […] The post Love like an Artist appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Have your self-visualization tools lost their spark? Were you a perky little personal growth nerd once and now feel a little….stale? What does it mean to be a fully realized you? What is the difference between a dreamy future self and an unattainable desire of “perfection”? What does self marriage have to offer in this? […] The post Fully Realized You appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Of course you can love yourself without ever marrying yourself. Lots of people love their partners and sometimes spend decades in a committed relationship without ever saying “I do”. So how might self marriage serve you? In this episode Danette shares the 5 ways in which self marriage serves you as a container for your […] The post Self Marriage as a Container appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

It’s the life hack you swear by or swear at. This one is for those of us who want to know the support of a morning routine and are currently struggling with other more pressing self care that seems to be in opposition to us getting up at 5am for a power hour. Do you […] The post Morning Routine Misery appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.