Radical Creative Sanctuary

It might not seem like a big deal at first, but when we keep tight for too long it can be a certain kind of hell. Taking inspiration from Viola Davis and George Michael, this episode is a reminder of what your bloom is asking of you, now. The post George, Viola and You appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Not sure what path of personal growth is for you? So many spiritual practices, so many tools, so many teachers – it all starts to sound the same. Good news…it kind of is! Be reassured that your journey of self love can be resonant and effective without needing to be “correct”. Grow through your breakup: crashbloom.com Get Letters from […] The post Many Songs, One Dancefloor appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

A rambling voice note from your Soft Shoulder bestie – catching up on the Crash Bloom Book Party and reflecting on what is in the works for 2026 at Radical Creative Sanctuary. Grow through your breakup: crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: https://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact Enjoy colouring ASMR with Danette on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radical_creative_sanctuary The post Catching Up with Danette appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

From the heart of your truth, a powerful decision emerges. This is the third episode in a 5-part series introducing the framework of the Art of Self Marriage, told through Danette’s own self marriage story. Grow through your breakup: www.crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: https://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact/ Enjoy colouring ASMR with Danette on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radical_creative_sanctuary The post The Decision (part 3) The Art of Self Marriage Framework appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

From the spark of attraction, your truth is illuminated. This is the second episode in a 5-part series introducing the framework of the Art of Self Marriage, told through Danette’s own self marriage story. Grow through your breakup: www.crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: https://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact/ Enjoy colouring ASMR with Danette on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radical_creative_sanctuary The post The Truth (part 2) The Art of Self Marriage Framework appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

The Art of Self Marriage begins with The Spark. This is the first in a 5-part series introducing the framework of the Art of Self Marriage, told through Danette’s own self marriage story. Grow through your breakup: www,crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: https://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact Enjoy colouring ASMR with Danette on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@radical_creative_sanctuary The post The Spark (part 1) The Art of Self Marriage Framework appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

It can seem like everyone else is writing a novel or launching a business or even falling in love - everyone but you. And you've had an idea, a dream, for so long now that it's starting to feel embarrassing. Should you just give up? NO! The post Are Your Creative Dreams Taking Forever? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

When self love feels out of reach, you have a wonderful opportunity. These two words are like magical french doors opening just when you think you have nowhere left to grow. The post Love Yourself Any Amount appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Why you might be breaking up right now, and how you can use language to soften the blow. Also – how do you flirt with self love from across the room? Get your new favourite breakup book here: www,crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: https://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact/ The post January Breakups and the Spark of Self Love appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

If you’re looking for a phrase for 2025, this might be it. In this episode, Danette explores why people still seem to want to get married, what running from an imaginary bee can teach us about commitment, and invites you to consider what might be possible if you stopped casually dating yourself. Get the book: […] The post Being All In appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Ever wonder what this Birthday Letter Ritual is all about? In this episode, Danette opens her Birthday Letter in real time and reflects on the richness in this wonderful self-love ritual that YOU can begin, today. The post Birthday Letter Un-Enveloping appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

When you’re not a total mess, but also not quite okay, it can be unsettling to find ourselves swimming in uncertainty when our broken heart begins to heal. It doesn’t mean you’re not doing it right. There is no correct “speed” for moving forward. Listen if you’ve been healing from a loss and moving forward […] The post Your Heart in the In-Between appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Twinkle lights, gingerbread and…dread? The holiday season can be complicated for those of us who are approaching the first Christmas without a loved one – by death or by breakup. When we share our lives so closely with someone, it can be startling to imagine special days of the year without them. How do you […] The post First Withouts appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Do you ever have a personal epiphany more than once? It might be tempting to feel like you failed to hear it the first time. But what if it was by design? What if there are some “aha!” moments that require time to release, like a vitamin? Listen to this episode if you are judging […] The post Déjà-Ha Moments appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

After an unplanned pause, Danette returns to the Soft Shoulder with reflections on what it means to tend to your grief in a self loving way, the importance of language in this process and the tenderness of loss. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Get Letters from Danette: http://www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact The post Grief Tending appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

No music? No problem! Danette embraces imperfection by recording this personal message for you while cooking pasta in her kitchen. If you are in a fog and having a hard time finding your way out, listen in. May this episode be a tiny flashlight helping you move closer to your own light. Get the book: […] The post Getting Yourself Out of the Fog appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Hey Hey Paula! You’re an awesome human deserving of love, romance and respect no matter what. This podcast is to help you reflect on what you want from relationships, while kindly inquiring where you got that desire from in the first place. What changes when you make yourself your primary partner? Are you a rebel […] The post Your Relationship Status is Not Your Value appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

After over 20 years of self marriage, Danette can tell you how deciding to be in a conscious, committed relationship with herself helped her move through breakups and become more of herself in the process. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love […] The post 3 Ways Self Marriage Helped Me Heal from Breakups appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Whether you like it or not, you’re already in a lifelong relationship with yourself. Literally, till death do you part. If you look at your relationship with yourself as a marriage, how would you say it is going? This episode is a guided reflection on what your #couplegoals could be for yourself. Yours is a […] The post You are already married to yourself – how is it going? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

At least, not as complicated as we might be making it seem. At least, just as complicated as loving anyone at all. Get the book: www.crashbloom.com Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/contact The post Self Love is Not That Complicated appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

In celebration of Danette’s new book Crash Bloom: a creative guide for growing through your breakup (just in time for Valentine’s Day) this episode offers a reminder that sometimes we all need a little cocoon time in our lives. Not just when healing from a breakup. If you need a little hope that your wings […] The post Crash Bloom is Here – Are You? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Finally ready to face that decluttering project that has been looming in your subconscious? Feeling the new-year-new-energy feels and have the urge to make some changes in your living space? BUT – you aren’t sure where to start and you don’t have time to read the (maybe?) hundreds of books Danette has read on this […] The post Danette’s 10 Best Tips for Empowered Decluttering appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

It’s been a minute! Danette emerges from her unexpected and unannounced break to share where she’s at and let things get a little weird. This is the last episode of 2023 – may you remember how loved you are as you bring this year to a close. Thank you so much for listening and allowing […] The post Listening to Your Need to Pull Back and Trusting the In-between appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Feel like you don’t remember who you are? How long has it been since you’ve really touched base with that most loving and wise part of you? Just like a marriage that has gone stale, your relationship with yourself can sometimes seem to fade without you realizing it. Even if you’ve been married to yourself […] The post (Workshop Announcement!) – Writing to Your Future Self appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

All that wonderful advanced reading you’ve been doing about dating and relationships and compatibility…could it be working against you? Sometimes all that personal growth wisdom can suck us into scrutiny as we try to “not waste our time”. But do you even like this person? Listen in as Danette helps you zoom way out and […] The post Dating Dangers for Self Help Nerds appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

We all talk to ourselves. Mostly in the privacy of our own thoughts, and most of the time it’s not very nice. So often we don’t even know we are doing it! Inspired by the book Chatter, Danette offers a fun little experiment to help us get out of our heads and talk about ourselves […] The post Gossip About Yourself appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

We love the idea of an overnight success, but would you be able to accommodate it if it happened to you? This episode explores the role of capacity when it comes to personal growth, especially when we are in an era of expansion, pleasure and success. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not […] The post Are You Ready for Your Wildest Dreams? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

What are we really doing when we visualize our “future selves”? Is this one of those personal growth tools that doesn’t seem to work for you? Maybe it doesn’t have to be so precious and ceremonial. In this episode, Danette nerds out on her love for future selves, past selves and using our imaginations to […] The post Simplifying Your Future Self appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

It begins with a song lyric by Ani DiFranco and opens into some big landscape-shifting questions. What happens when we suddenly know the story we thought we were living has changed direction? Have you ever received news that made your regular day seem surreal? Often this experience is triggered by events that are out of […] The post Life as a Victory Lap appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

So is a messy desk. We often make a mess when we make art. But this is about the particular, underappreciated creative act of making S P A C E. For any of you who need a soothing voice to listen to while you clear off your counters, tidy your desktop and wipe the slate […] The post A Clear Desk is a Work of Art appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

When you’re dating, people often ask what you are looking for in a partner. Is this the best question to be asking? Have you ever met someone who “checks all the boxes” but…it doesn’t seem to be working? Or how about being surprised by a fulfilling connection with someone who somehow doesn’t check many (or […] The post Dream Partner or Dream Relationship? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

There is only so much preparation you can do without getting wet. Love is not something you can “get right” before diving in. And, most importantly, diving in is not the only way in. This episode is for you if you want to start dating and sharing intimacy with other people, but are afraid to […] The post Dipping Back into the Waters of Dating appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Let’s first put some giant air quotes around the word “failed”. Do you look at the trail of relationships in your past and feel a little shamey? Like this is evidence of you not getting love right? Listen in for a pep talk on how making a resume of your relationship past can help you […] The post Your Resume of Failed Relationships appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

If you’ve been asking yourself this question lately, you’re not alone. Can you hear the hidden beliefs behind this question? The truth is, there are many good reasons why you might be tired. Also, you are not a robot. Curl on up over here and let Danette ease your mind – self love doesn’t need […] The post Why Are You So Tired? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Sometimes it really is too late. And “saving” your best gifts might be the sure way to destroy them before they ever get a chance. In this episode, Danette asks you a strange question that could unwrap the bow on a gift you most want to give. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is […] The post Your Gifts are for Giving appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Danette’s train of thought takes you on the scenic route of why she loves playing the long game of self love – and why you might love it too. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: […] The post Musings on the Long Game of Self Love appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Spoiler alert – you are still worth loving. And maybe you need to hear some kind words from someone who has been there…and even wrote a book about it. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour Danette is not on social media – all the love + good news is in the emails. Sign up here: […] The post If You Just Got Dumped – Listen to This. appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

How does it feel when someone worries about you? We often think that worry is a sign we care about something – but is it? Or is it just a really terrible fantasy? In this episode Danette explores why NOT worrying about someone when they are going through a big life heartbreak is a powerful […] The post Worry is NOT a Love Language appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Ever had a dozen paint chips taped to your wall while you make that very important decision? Ever stand frozen in the cosmetics aisle choosing between Teal Me A Secret and Peacock Don’t Stop? Not everyone cares about these things but you do. What if you love the colour but hate the name? This episode […] The post The Joy of Re-naming Colours appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

New Year or not, sometimes there can be too much of a good thing. Do you find yourself trying to find the “right” way to reflect and set intentions for the year ahead? Or feeling like you don’t have enough energy to honour the New Year traditions you have enjoyed in the past? In this […] The post Too Many New Year Rituals? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Metaphors galore in this one! Are you currently dating, or reflecting upon your dating patterns? How present is your own self love, when it comes to the game of dating? In this episode, Danette playfully asks you some powerful questions to consider using inspiration from 3 classic board games. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour The post Dating Lessons from Board Games appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

To love yourself, you must know yourself. That means witnessing is often the first step towards self love. But so many of us don’t realize we are taking on the role of “judge” instead of “witness”. What would it be like to pay attention, without judging? Especially in those times where we are struggling to […] The post Witnessing Yourself with Love appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

It’s the Birthday Letter Ritual. You’ve heard about it before on the podcast. You may have even started your own letter writing practice. For the first time, Danette will be offering a live workshop to guide you in getting started on (or back into) your own collection of letters to celebrate a lifetime. It is […] The post Your Life is Worthy of This – a workshop announcement! appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

What if you found out you really weren’t a Virgo after all? Or if you got to choose your own adventure on the Enneagram? Have you ever found yourself seeking guidance from a system more often than from yourself? If you are into self-awareness, personality tests can be fun and illuminating. In this episode Danette […] The post Personality Types, Self Love and You appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Ask yourself this powerful question Danette heard in a movie. And don’t worry about whether or not the movie was any good – because the question is fantastic and could save you a lot of heartache. Join Self Love Colouring Club: www.radicalcreativesanctuary.com/colour the art of self marriagethe soft shoulder podcast The post Before You Blow Everything Up appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

How ARE You Gonna Love Anybody Else? If you don’t love yourself, that is. We are supposed to assume it’s a rhetorical question…but what if you tried to answer it? In this episode Danette illuminates how a distracting debate might be taking us further away from the love we seek. Let’s be self lovers, not […] The post How ARE You Gonna Love Anybody Else? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

The Self Love Colouring Club is back and more wonderful than ever. In this episode, Danette nerds out on the soothing delights of chilled-out colouring and makes herself laugh, as usual. Come for the invitation to colour, stay for the Karate Kid references and loving reframe of what it means to “go through the motions”. […] The post Colour with Me appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

A powerful self love exercise from reality tv? Of course. But it’s only powerful if you DO it. In this episode, a playful take on inner child work & practical tips to make it happen. the art of self marriagethe soft shoulder podcast The post Say it to Your Face appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

Do you actually have a problem? What if the only problem you have is the belief that there is a problem at all? In this episode, Danette talks about two popular ways we like to judge ourselves, how you can notice if you are doing it, and shares a powerful writing prompt to change the […] The post What if Judging is Optional? appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.

When it comes to creating the life you dream of, do you tend to focus on mindset, or action? Do you prefer to manifest by being your future self, or by doing the things your future self needs you to do? In this episode Danette uses dance as a metaphor for what’s really going on […] The post The Being-Doing Dance appeared first on Radical Creative Sanctuary.