Purple Psychology

Now that lockdown starts to lift I see many nervous unsafe and unhappy employees. We now have hard evidence of how the virus transmits and know how to create safety. But I fear many mangers are being driven by their personalities and the perception of customers over the reality of what needs to be done for everyone's happiness and safety. The reality is ceratin personalities make better decisions on safety and protocols that can be followed easily by others. Maybe we need to pick the people within companies to have these roles? Hint they are not the usual extrovert sensing personalities that often rise higher in these roles - they are the quieter workers who pause more before actions. shout out to Helen Barry Arts face shields for staff. (helenbarryarts on instagram)

We need to understand that there is a hidden energy need in all successful social media posts - unless you have lost all privacy for other reasons. And that comes with a responsibility too. We all need to look at our part we play - how we need to privately support people. How we need teens to understand this is not a measure of self and validation or how much impact they can make in the world. I use the Alice Walker quote from a Color Purple - “I try to teach my heart not to want nothing it can't have.”From a piece Soul Level, I wrote; So I must apply the wisdom of Alice Walker - I can't crave something that I can't have. I can't judge myself based on a world which doesn't operate at a soul level. Well, at least not publicly. I must hold all those private worlds dear. Know they mean so much more than any meaningless fan base. That the level of public engagement never can tell what they have meant privately to the soul of the reader.

I'm not afraid to show my own evolution over the last 5 years. That's true development. A new introduction to the Purple Psychology Podcast. No presenter just Dr Naoisé O'Reilly's understanding. What these podcasts are about and why. Essays in Awareness act as companion writing found at (drnaoiseoreilly dot org)

The challenges of dating regardless of if you're 15, 35 or 55! What is ghosting - why do we fall into the trap of it? Why people find dating so hard. What relationships do I admire and why? It's not what you might think. Dating for growth. The importance of parents dating and why. Essay in Awareness - Heart over mind (drnaoiseoreilly dot org)More on Lorraine Hansberry and Robert Nemiroff found in books - To Be Young, Gifted, and Black: An Informal Autobiography and Looking for Lorraine (Imani Perry)

Start by explaining the name. Facts. The Whys. Having an escape plan if things go wrong. How to feel safe. Community-based. A shout out to Helen Barry Artist for her child's face shield! Take a look at my Instagram (drnaoiseoreilly) for a short video with more information.

We get too focused on roles. What do girls need from their fathers? What did I see that successful women had from theirs? What have I seen that is missing from others I've worked with?

Nothing new that has ever been created has been embraced. I have to remind myself of this as I stay true to what I'm creating - knowing it has a soul of its own and a big lasting impact for us to finally see the world full of difference. To lose our biases once and for all. How I see those biases so proudly in relation to black people. How I have experienced them in a different way. I talk about James Baldwin's essay - A Fly In the Buttermilk (original title The Hard Kind Of Courage)My own short writing I speak about can be found at Essays in Awareness on drnaoiseoreilly dot org - Unfortunately, my books are only availbe to trusted readers right now... My passion for Black Writers public writing on my Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/posts/49099014

People often say to me that parenting has become harder in this generation. Has it? Why do we feel this way? What are we being asked to match and unravel in ourselves? What part do roles play?

What are we really talking about with twin flames and the ideas of divine masculine and feminine energy? Do you have an awareness of both within you? Do you form relationships for balance? For mutual growth. Do you get beyond the hurdles of the assumptions that intimacy has to be sexual? Why I struggle with pride season every year. The assumed roles. Inspirations: relationship of Lorraine Hansberry and Robert Nemiroff

Why I have begun to hate the idea of success and creating success - how I have adapted this to be about helping to create secure people instead. Everyone has biases, idea and opinions - if you say you don't you are either lying to yourself or not self-aware enough. It's impossible to create change and support others form this place. Once you are secure you can have a voice for other people.

Why others see personality theory as limiting. They are only trying to put you in a box not give you the tools to navigate through life. My own journey my work has taken to hopefully being obsolete. Personality has the potential to total change self-understanding and community understanding. It is the most palatable form of difference. I get annoyed when I read anyone who talks about personality theory in a limiting way - those are their limitations, not yours.

How do we rise above judgement and validation? Why do we listen to people with little blue dots beside their names? What I resonate within the biography Gwendolyn Brooks and the words of James Baldwin from 1960 Fifth Avenue, Uptown: a letter from Harlem. This is not last weeks news - I'm not moving on until we have created real change.

One real and one imaginary conversation thining about how we have switched off our feeling way of processing the world - the implications of this especially when it comes to justifying behaviours. Are we using justify to understand or to excuse? The differences in the reasons we look for root causes of behaviours. As always companion writing (expression is the real intelligence) can be found on drnaoiseoreilly dot org "Everything must come from the heart, must be lived." Pina Bausch

I've seen so many lists of what I'm supposed to read to educate myself on Black lives. Why Is Alice Walker on so few? If I made my own list she would be top with Zora Neale Hurston, Lorraine Hansberry, and James Baldwin. And those are just my starting blocks. Why are we so afraid of authentic? What happens when we lose roles in society? The parameters and boxes we so love. Why are teens struggling so much in liberal societies? This is my next body of work and I'm just starting to talk out the ideas and form the thinking. Essays in Awareness are the companion to my thinking found on drnaoiseoreilly dot org My passion for Black Writers public writing on my Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/posts/49099014

Expression the ability to end all abuse. The chasm left inside by not being able to read and write. How we victimise people's literacy which allows others to hide behind their insecurities. How we are breeding narcissism and insecurity in the world. What it means and effects to not be able to read, write and express your feelings constructively. If you only ever listen to one podcast by me - this is the one which tells you why I've devoted my lifes work to expression.

How to break controlling patterns in children. How to restore balance in the home. How to break the cycles that didn't break for their parents. What consistent behaviours do you need to have as a parent? What to expect fallout as a result. How is this relevant to what we are watching unfold across America currently? Why have we had generations of controlling people who are drawn to professions where they can abuse this need? why my books are starting to feel like manuals for a better humanity. Some parents are really struggling in their own homes to raise very controlling children and we are not talking about it. Society rewards their behaviours outside the home and they are struggling to find the balance within.

Why do Black writers speak to me on a level like no others? Why is there a correlation for me in illiteracy and race? Why have I spent years using examples from Black history and culture to show difference in every way? Why we have to want difference to finally have history. What Zora Neale Hurston's writing means to me. I've written various companion pieces in the last few weeks on Essays in Awareness on drnaoiseoreilly dot org

So the summer camps have been cancelled. Here is why I'm excited about this too. And here are some suggestions of what you can do instead!

Nailing open book exams. Why I am excited to get beyond regurgitating knowledge. Why this might be the change we need. Why are university exams so much better than school ones. The Experience Effect explained.

Why do we need friends - are they the same for everyone? What is social interaction for different personalities? Why is zoom sessions good for some? Does school provide the depth of connection we need? I do companion writing for the topics on my dot org lookup drnaoiseoreilly

Why do we read? We are not all the same - we have different motivations. Find yourself in the descriptions and what you might enjoy and why.

The gap for Teens to the world has never been so apparent. What is the purpose of education? Are we all just going to sit in our bedrooms waiting for online classes to start and life to begin?

Another podcast on the differences and similarities with just one letter. The two personalities hat most add voice to the under-represented in the world.

What personalities make passive aggressive types? Why is it such a damaging trait - how to change their cycle? Understanding the behaviour. The differences between INFJs and INFPs

This is the follow on to the last podcast on domestic violence - the loss of roles - the effects. Why this is so important generationally. Why I struggled to record practical tips to help right now? What I have tried to create in the last episode and why it's not perfect. It feels outdated to have to go back to such defined roles to help. But I know it's the starting place for better communication and respect. Then we can move forward to more balanced relationships.

Why now are the ingredients for an increase in domestic violence and child abuse? How do we change the patterns? What are practical solutions to help everyone feel they have a role at home? We need to get inside the mindset and change the dynamics and feelings for those involved. Not just judge from the sidelines. I believe that if you create more happy times that these will generate more going forward. Then the real conversations can start.

What is visual stress? Why do I wear red glasses? How do they help? What do younger children miss when we don't realise the page is dancing for them? Tips and tricks to cope without glasses and the benefits of doing this for a while growing up. How to make your online lessons more accessible for people with these challenges.

The benefits and the pitfalls. Finding your own child in the description.I'm a unique educator who uses personality theory to excel rather than focusing on labels. Personality is an inconvenience in school don't let it be the same at home!

How do influencers work? What questions do we have an opportunity more than ever to ask? Why I will never have a large social media account any time soon. How is social media algorithms actually limiting us? Can we really measure change in likes?

To avoid mental illness and hitting a real destructive wall here you need to process that we are not going back to normal. You need to mourn what you have lost. Only then will you be able to see the possibilities. Only when you have done this honestly for yourself can you lead your children through.For open writing of my journey see (drnaoiseoreilly org)

So we are all starting to lose the plot - what elements do students/children in your world need right now? What can help? Ideas for projects that build towards a future point. Why it is important to talk about grief and how to do this. Lookup (homeschooling ie ) for open resources and lesson ideas - I'll try find puppet photos!Look up Dr Naoise O'Reilly and contact me for other resources

All that is possible during this time. Why creativity matters so much. How it allows us to think of new ideas and process our emotions. The difference between reading, listening to talk/podcast or watching a drama or a theatre show. What theatre really evokes in us. Creating the next generation of creative souls.Please donate to the artists of whatever you watch! Open resources lookup (homeschooling dot ie)

The shortest podcast I have ever recorded but probably the one which has meant the most to me. What can you gain from this time in isolation? How can the world become a better place? How can you parent a better generation? What is the real cost of saving the planet? For all those people who are sick of hearing from motivators at this time - here's another clear message for you!

What are the different values in being a teacher or a parent? What is confusing right now in isolation world? Why is it so important to have outside external validation? Who needs mentors and why? How do you create this external space right now?

Why are children not working independently? Stop micromanaging Homeschooling - allow space for the magic to unfold. If we focus on perfectionism we lose personality and creativity. Personality has always been an inconvenience in school - don't allow it to feel the same at home!Open resources lookup (homeschooling dot ie)ps sorry, my chair needs maintenance as it's developed an annoying click! will sort out for next episode ...

Week 3 of the pandemic lockdown I’ve grown to really hate the term homeschooling - but then I don’t like unschooling either so let's go for un-homeschooling!How to take control during this time. What amazing benefits are there to this time in terms of personality development? look up homeschooling dot ie for open resources

The new great taboo - to do anything meaningful during this time! The is not about letting everything go. Productivity happens in the slowness. The balance. Not the rat race - what example are you setting your children? Pure escapism from your life? Great piece featured on Motherwell "The class of 2020" By Christina Nifong. Get inventive about how to create these milestones ...

This is not about cramming your whole course. This is not an extended study break! It's an end of the world type of experience. This is a time to completely re-evaluate all you want from life! Do all the things you don't normally do. Learn a self-care routine. Learning as an experience instead of knowledge. Stretch yourselves. Look me up (homeschooling dot ie) for link to open resources for all.

I have now poured all this experience into an online course - work your way through to enjoying homeschooling... the endless possibilities offered to families ... https://dr-naoise-oreilly.thinkific.com/courses/homeschoolingYou've become a home educator overnight - not something that was ever on your bucket list - How do you cope? what is available? How do you enjoy this? What are the benefits? Look up (homeschooling dot ie) for 'open resources for all' links

The Teen episode of how to cope with suddenly being stuck at home! How to navigate all the people in the house - what role you can play! How to not get sucked into a vortex of staying in bed too late and everyone being in a nark with you! I accidentally suggested burying your books under your bedroom instead of bed! But it's natural and real recording.

How to not only survive self-isolation but be productive, happy, balanced, have a family life - how to live for life and not just work. How to create different environments in your home to reflect the different elements of living in confinement.

Why is the framework of learning styles good? How do I use these? It's not simplistic. It's not about showing, it's about learning.

Why has the podcast been so quiet in the last year? What are the tips and tricks I've learnt for writing? What are the best tools for someone with dyslexia to use to write? What are the important factors to get right?

All you need to know about the different types of mediation and all the ways you can use mediation. Still a bit voiceless after the flu sorry!

Using all the phone and app statistics to help you stick to new routine, goals and new years resolutions so they don't all die by February!

Ambiverts, what are they? why the confusion? what are all the other factors as it is not as simple as introversion and extroversion? Are you really an INFJ?

How does believing in something bigger than you help you in a pressured world? Jung's 5 keys to happiness. The harbour within, The story of sister Consilio and the development of her addiction clinics in Ireland.

Vulnerability is your greatest strength. How? What is it so important to accept your own vulnerabilities and insecurities? Why do good teachers have a healthy amount of insecurity? Divergent - selfless sounds like selfish when I say it! A word I get stuck on pronouncing right!

How we don't develop experiences in education. We don't allow people to use their natural coping strategies. Why do people use their fingers to count? What can we learn about the perfect learning environment from Dumbledore, Harry Potter, and the Deathly Hallows?

A new format of the podcast. No presenter - just me! Ironic to record an episode on what does growth feel like? The 4 stages of growth according to Jung. Reading the Seat for the Soul by Gary Zukav. What do different personalities need to jump over the stages? Why do we need to incubate sometimes? and Maslow's hierarchy of needs.