Psychologists Off the Clock

Many of us grew up with or are in a current relationship with someone who is emotionally immature. And if that’s the case, you may feel anger towards that person, and a lingering sense of loneliness and anxiety in intimate relationships. Lindsay Gibson, the author of the bestselling book, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, helps us understand why these relationships cause us such pain, how to heal, and even how to navigate relationships with an emotionally immature person in our adult life. Join us to learn how to find a new way to be in relationship with an emotionally immature person. Listen and Learn: Why Lindsay first began writing and treating adult children of emotionally immature parents The value of understanding what emotional immaturity is, but also the caution we should use in applying labels The hallmark qualities of emotional immaturity (and emotional maturity) The research that highlights why being raised by an emotionally immature parent can cause such long-term pain The surprising stance Lindsay has on cultivating compassion for an emotionally immature person Strategies for growing relationships in that don't resemble those which you were raised with Understand how you can help a relationship with an emotionally immature person grow Lindsey’s thoughts on estrangement from an emotionally immature parent or partner Resources Ed Tronick’s still face experiment Fault Lines: Fractured Families and How to Mend Them, by Karl Pillemer Atlantic Article: Why Parents and Kids Get Estranged About Lindsay GibsonLindsay C. Gibson, PsyD, is a clinical psychologist in private practice who specializes in individual psychotherapy with adult children of emotionally immature parents. She is author of Who You Were Meant to Be and writes a monthly column on well-being for Tidewater Women magazine and she’s here today to talk with me about her books, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents and Recovering From Emotionally Immature Parents. Welcome, Linsday!Related Episodes Episode 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West Episode 98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser Episode 183. Permission to Feel with Marc Brackett Episode 186. Set Boundaries, Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The world is chock full of bad news right now, and many are feeling the impacts. From war to revocation of rights, the world around us can easily (and not unreasonably) feel hopeless. On this week’s episode of POTC, Debbie, Yael, Jill, and Michael come together to discuss the psychological impact of the socio-political climate as well as practical advice for navigating these difficult times. Join us in this episode to learn expert-approved strategies for fostering hope and compassion in times of anger, using anger in values-oriented ways, distinguishing between healthy and unhealthy avoidance, and much more today. Listen and Learn: The psychological impact of the socio-political climate Practical advice for living consistently with your values during hard times The validity in feeling numb, detaching, and isolating Important distinctions in healthy and unhealthy avoidance Expert-approved strategies for using anger in healthy ways The cognitive load of uncertainty and practical advice for tolerating it Evidence-based methods for fostering hope and taking action Role-models who endured hopelessness with bravery and compassion The strategies the POTC team uses to foster hope in their personal lives How to balance feelings of guilt and shame Practical advice for deciding when it’s time for self-care and when it’s time for taking action Expert-approved strategies for staying informed without burning out or doom scrolling How to have difficult conversations about heavy socio-political topics with even the most difficult of people Clarifying your values by finding the grains of sugar in life Resources: Read Melinda Moyer’s article, The 'Psychic Numbing" of Mass Tragedies Read Jane Goodall and Douglas Abrams’ book, The Book of Hope: A Survival Guide for Trying Times Check out Michael in his cow hat and with Jane Goodall! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About our team:Debbie Sorensen, PhD, (she/her) is a psychologist in private practice in Denver, Colorado She is co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. You can learn more about Debbie, read her blog, and find out about upcoming presentations and training events at her webpage, drdebbiesorensen.com.Yael Schonbrun, PhD, (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist and assistant professor at Brown University. Yael’s book, Work, Parent, Thrive comes out in November and is available for pre-order now!Jill Stoddard, PhD, (she/her) is a clinical psychologist and author of The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance. Michael Herold (he/him) is the head coach at The Art of Charm and a public speaker and speaker coach. Clients he has coached for presentations have been featured on NBC, Fast Company, Forbes, and the Oprah Winfrey Network.Related Episodes: Episode 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Episode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Episode 260. Health Anxiety with Karen Lynn Cassiday Episode 230. The Laziness Lie with Devon Price Episode 259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Secrets are a double-edged sword. They can both inflict and remedy physical and psychological injury for us and our loved ones. But regardless of whether they offer benefit, keeping secrets is often burdensome for the keeper. Michael Slepian, author of The Secret Life of Secrets, has dedicated his career to the psychology of secrets and how keeping secrets affect variables that govern social and organizational life. In this episode of POTC, Michael and Yael discuss the personal and relational value in sharing as well as the impact of keeping secrets. Join us in this episode for surprising statistics and findings on secret-keeping, practical advice on assessing when and how to share your secrets, evidence-based strategies on building trust, and much much more, today!Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss the power of tightly held secrets Why secret-keeping is often overlooked in the realm of mental health Michael’s expert definition of secrecy Important distinctions between deception and private information The impact of secret-keeping on our well-being Some surprising findings from Michael’s research on secret-keeping The first steps in overcoming a tightly held or particularly burdensome secret The hazards and gifts associated with professional secret-keeping as a clinician Revealing statistics on secrets and secret-keeping An expert definition of ambitious secrets Practical advice on assessing when and how to share your secrets Guidelines for helping children understand the differences between the right to privacy and the dangers of keeping certain kinds of secrets Pros and cons of snooping Evidence-based strategies on building trust Michael’s coping compass and how it can help you decide whether or not to disclose a secret Michael’s personal experiences sharing and learning secrets The personal and relational value in sharing secrets Resources: Buy your copy of Michael’s book, The Secret Life of Secrets: How Our Inner Worlds Shape Well-Being, Relationships, and Who We Are! Michael’s study, Relieving the burdens of secrecy: Revealing secrets influences judgments of hill slant and distance Check out Danny Shapiro’s book Inheritance: A Memoir of Genealogy, Paternity, and Love Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Michael Slepian:Michael Slepian is the Sanford C. Bernstein & Co. Associate Professor of Leadership and Ethics at Columbia Business School. He previously was a visiting scholar at Stanford University, and received his Ph.D. from Tufts University. He is an elected fellow of the Society of Experimental Social Psychology, has received the Rising Star Award from the Association for Psychological Science, and received the National Science Foundation Graduate Research Fellowship.Michael studies the psychology of secrets and how keeping secrets affect variables that govern social and organizational life. For more information see his research and publications.Related Episodes: Episode 83. Courageous Conversations to Prevent Childhood Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower Episode 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth Episode 184. Getting Past Affairs and Other Relationship Betrayals with Kristina Coop Gordon We'd love your help creating a better podcast listening experience by hearing more about you. Consider taking a few minutes to fill out our brief listener survey here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s not uncommon to have some anxiety about your and others’ health. However, health anxiety, at its worst, can become an overwhelming, life-consuming experience that keeps you from thriving. Millions of people experience health anxiety, and the pandemic has certainly contributed to the recent rise in numbers of people who experience this. Dr. Karen Cassiday, author of Freedom from Health Anxiety, is nationally recognized as an expert clinical psychologist in the diagnosis and treatment of anxiety disorders in children, teens, and adults. In this episode of POTC, Karen and Debbie discuss the common experience of health anxiety, and Karen’s evidence-based methods for approaching it. Join us in this empowering episode for distinctions between normal and problematic health anxiety, practical advice for dealing with catastrophic thinking patterns, and much more, today!Listen and Learn: Debbie and Yael’s thoughts on the pervasive experience of health anxiety Dr. Cassiday’s expert opinion on the rise of health anxiety in the general public Practical distinctions for when health anxiety is normal vs. when it’s problematic Important differences between orthorexia and health anxiety Practical advice for dealing with catastrophic thinking patterns about your health An expert breakdown of the reassurance seeking cycle The importance of function in your health-related behaviors Evidence-based strategies for practitioners and patients dealing with health-anxiety How Dr. Cassiday uses Exposure and Response Prevention in her work The common experience of health anxiety, and new, evidence-based methods for approaching it Resources: Grab your copy of Karen’s book, Freedom from Health Anxiety: Understand and Overcome Obsessive Worry about Your Health or Someone Else's and Find Peace of Mind Check out Yael and Barry Schwartz’s article on Radical Uncertainty Read Barry Schwartz's Practical Wisdom: The Right Way to Do the Right Thing Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Dr. Karen Lynn Cassiday:Dr. Karen Cassiday is an author and nationally recognized as an expert clinical psychologist in the diagnosis and treatment of anxiety disorders in children, teens and adults. She empowers patients to overcome their struggles with anxiety, compulsions, phobias, social anxiety, worry, and depression. She approaches each patient with enthusiasm, persistence, and a keen sense of humor, crafting individualized, research-based treatment plans for each person. Her goal is to make each patient an expert at managing their own anxiety, so that they can face any future event with confidence and courage. A sought after national speaker on television, radio and at professional training seminars, Dr. Cassiday has appeared as a psychological consultant on Animal Hoarders on TNT and on NBC’s Today Show. Her expertise has been tapped through commentary in the Wall Street Journal, New York Times, Chicago Tribune, and numerous other publications. Make sure to check out Karen’s book, Freedom from Health Anxiety: Understand and Overcome Obsessive Worry about Your Health or Someone Else's and Find Peace of Mind.Related Episodes: Episode 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser Episode 164. Pandemic Stress: Strategies from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Debbie and Diana Episode 244. What You Feel Is Not All There Is with Aprilia West Episode 103. Healthy Habits with Dayna Lee-Baggley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Delusional beliefs have a long and varied history, with false beliefs ranging from those as minor as imposter syndrome to those as significant as thinking we are dead or decapitated. Victoria Shepherd, author of A History of Delusions, has dedicated her career to exploring the history of fixed false beliefs and the context in which false beliefs can develop. On this episode of POTC, she and Yael discuss the importance of understanding the function of delusions within social context. Join us in this episode for practical advice on caring for loved ones who experience delusions, evidence-based methods of being compassionate towards yourself and others when dealing with delusional beliefs, and much, much more, today!Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s take on delusional thinking and fixed false beliefs The importance of understanding the functionality of delusions within a context Practical advice for caring for loved ones who experience delusions Common delusions we all frequently experience Three ways delusions might be helpful for distressed individuals Expert-approved strategies for becoming more aware of your own delusional thinking and managing overwhelm and uncertainty How the human desire for agency over a situation plays into delusional thinking Some of the experiences of the intriguing characters in Victoria’s book! Perceptions of individuals in power that influence widely held beliefs How biological causes contribute to delusions Evidence-based methods of being compassionate towards yourself and others when dealing with delusional beliefs Resources: Grab your copy of Victoria’s book, A History of Delusions: The Glass King, a Substitute Husband, and a Walking Corpse! Learn more about Charles The Mad Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Victoria Shepherd:Victoria Shepherd, a born and bred south Londoner, has an M.A. from the University of East Anglia in creative writing. She’s an experienced audio producer for BBC Radio making documentaries and podcasts, and her short film documentary, 2 Princelet Street, was selected by the National Film School Docs program. Many of her documentaries can be found on BBC Sounds, and recent highlights include: ‘A History of Delusions’, presented by Professor Daniel Freeman (co-produced by Eve Streeter), ‘The Glass Delusion’, presented by Adam Phillips; ‘A History of the Future’, and ‘Experiments in Living’ presented by Juliet Gardiner; ‘This Old Heart of Mine’ presented by Giles Fraser, ‘A Natural History of the Banker’ presented by Andrew Ross Sorkin, ‘The Periodic Table’ presented by Chris Addison; ‘Headstrong and Proud’ presented by Michael Crick, ‘The Wizard of Oz’, presented by Salman Rushdie. Learn more about her work here, and buy her book A History of Delusions: The Glass King, a Substitute Husband, and a Walking Corpse now.Related Episodes: Episode 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher Episode 251. Wonder with Frank Keil Episode 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Women and gender-expansive individuals are often expected to take on the largest portion of emotional labor, home-making, and parenting work. This and a myriad of other unrealistic expectations contribute to #secretparenting and the “motherhood penalty,” leaving women and gender-expansive individuals to suffer and fall behind their white, cis-gender, male counterparts. Ericka Sóuter is a nationally recognized voice in parenting news and parenting advice. On this episode of POTC, she and Jill discuss the challenges mothers often face in their parenting journey and provide practical, realistic advice for facing those challenges. Join us in this episode to learn the research behind caring for yourself first, how to use mom-judgment for good and not evil, statistics behind #secretparenting, and much more today!Listen and Learn: Jill and Yael’s experiences with the challenging elements of parenting How Ericka came upon the title of her book The unmet or unrealistic expectations about parenthood The evidence-based place to start improving your experience with parenthood and overwhelm What the research says about caring for your own well-being before that of your child’s Practical advice for building a community of “the right mom friends” during even the busiest, most hectic of times Expert-approved advice for using mom-judgment for good and not evil The disturbing statistics behind #secretparenting and practical advice for how to engage with the “motherhood penalty” Why the frequency of sex may decrease during and after pregnancy and how to ensure it rebounds down the road Resources: Grab your copy of Ericka’s book, How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide! Check out Ericka’s articles! Learn more about #secretparenting The C-Suite: 70% of top male earners in the US have a spouse who stays home Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About: Ericka Sóuter is a nationally recognized voice in parenting news and parenting advice. She has over 20 years of journalism experience and is a frequent contributor on Good Morning America and other national broadcast outlets, where it’s her job to speak to parents across the country about the issues, controversies, and trends most affecting families today. Her new book is How to Have a Kid and a Life: A Survival Guide. Ericka’s work appears on the Bump, What to Expect, CafeMom, and Mom.com, all high-traffic parenting sites that reach millions of moms each month. Her writing has also been featured in People magazine, Us Weekly, Essence, Cosmopolitan, Self and WebMD. She received her bachelor’s degree from Georgetown University and master’s degree from the Columbia University Graduate School of Journalism.Related Episodes: Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster Episode 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky Episode 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith Episode 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Human beings are evolutionarily hard-wired to compete with one another, and this drive to compete encourages us to compare our standing to that of our fellows and despair when we don’t match up. This “compare and despair” mindset can lead to unworkable or harmful cycles of behavior that leave us feeling worse-than-ordinary. Ron Siegel, author of The Extraordinary Gift of being Ordinary, is faculty at Harvard Medical School and teaches internationally about mind-body medicine and the application of mindfulness and compassion practices in psychotherapy and other fields. On this episode of POTC, Ron talks with Yael about why being ordinary is actually an extraordinary gift! Join us to learn about addiction to self-esteem, what genetic analysis says about social comparison and organization, scientifically-backed practices for embracing and savoring your ordinariness, and more, today!Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on the connection between being ordinary and belonging The inescapable cycle of comparing and despairing The evolutionary roots of our desire to be extraordinary What genetic analysis has to tell us about social comparison and organization Evidence-based strategies for responding to natural urges and impulses when they’re not workable Practical advice for reorienting towards value-aligned actions after you’ve unhooked from addiction to self-esteem Ron’s favorite practices for embracing and savoring your ordinariness The importance of embracing impermanence (including your own mortality) Resources: Snag your DISCOUNTED copy of Ron’s book, The Extraordinary Gift of being Ordinary. Enter code DFSL2 when item is in shopping cart. Code will be valid through 9/30/22. Then, come chat with Ron at our book club meeting August 11th at 12pm EST (US)! To join the book club, email us at [email protected] with "book club" in the subject line Learn more about the differences between Bonobos and Chimpanzees!. Read the Cherokee Legend of the Two Wolves Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Ron Siegel:Dr. Ron Siegel is an Assistant Professor of Psychology at Harvard Medical School, where he’s taught for over 35 years. A long-time student of mindfulness meditation, he serves on the Board of Directors and faculty of the Institute for Meditation and Psychotherapy and the faculties of the Center for Mindfulness and Compassion at the Cambridge Health Alliance and the University of Massachusetts Medical School. He teaches internationally about mind-body medicine and the application of mindfulness and compassion practices in psychotherapy and other fields. He currently maintains a limited private clinical practice in Lincoln, Massachusetts. He has edited and written several books including the critically acclaimed professional text, Mindfulness and Psychotherapy, 2nd Edition, The Mindfulness Solution: Everyday Practices for Everyday Problems, Sitting Together: Essential Skills for Mindfulness-Based Psychotherapy, Wisdom and Compassion in Psychotherapy, Back Sense, and his most recent book, The Extraordinary Gift of Being Ordinary: Finding Happiness Right Where You Are! Related Episodes: Episode 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Episode 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie Episode 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Episode 254. Cultivating Compassion for a Lasting Connection with Michaela Thomas Episode 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Social justice involves action. In our society which has historically privileged whiteness, many racist and other prejudicial ideas are widely accepted as the standard and are pervasively practiced as the norm. Because of this, allies must engage in anti-racism and take action against racist behaviors. One form of action involves parenting practices. Traci Baxley, author of Social Justice Parenting, is an expert in child development, elementary education, curriculum and instruction, diversity and inclusion, anti-bias curriculum, and social justice education. On this episode of POTC, Debbie and Traci come together to discuss the importance of Social Justice Parenting Practices. Join us in this episode to learn expert-approved strategies for accepting your child for who they are, practical advice for moving from being a “good person” to being an advocate for historically excluded communities, the main qualities of a pro-justice home, and so much more!Listen and Learn: Jill and Debbie’s experiences implementing Social Justice Parenting practices The personal story behind Traci’s work Traci’s experience with “The Talk” that black families must have with their children in the U.S. Belonging as a universal, fundamental motivation Expert-approved strategies for accepting your children for who they are Traci’s expert definition of Social Justice Parenting Why parents struggle to implement Social Justice Parenting practices (and how to overcome those struggles!) The importance of Social Justice Parenting practices Practical advice for moving from being a “good person” to being an advocate for historically excluded communities The main qualities of a pro justice home How to start conversations about hard topics with your kids (no matter their age!) Expert-approved strategies for responding to difficult, scary questions from your kids and bringing others into the conversation of social justice Resources Check out Traci’s book, Social Justice Parenting: How to Raise Compassionate, Anti-Racist, Justice-Minded Kids Take Traci’s online courses for white mothers who want to be allies to the Black community and raise antiracist children (who will be change agents in the world) and for parents who want to implement Social Justice Parenting practices in their family’s daily lives Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych. Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! ​​About Dr. Traci Baxley:Dr. Traci Baxley is a Associate Professor of education at Florida Atlantic University, consultant, parenting coach, and speaker. An educator for over 30 years with degrees in child development, elementary education, and curriculum and instruction. She specializes in diversity and inclusion, anti-bias curriculum, and social justice education. She teaches two online courses for white mothers who want to be allies to the Black community and raise antiracist children (who will be change agents in the world) and for parents who want to implement Social Justice Parenting practices in their family’s daily lives. Make sure to grab your copy of her book, Social Justice Parenting: How to Raise Compassionate, Anti-Racist, Justice-Minded Kids.Related Episodes: Episode 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado Episode 91. Disability as a Form of Diversity with Erin Andrews Episode 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith Episode 162. APA Guidelines on Race and Ethnicity in Psychology with Karen Suyemoto Special Bonus Episode: Mending Racial Trauma with Carynne Williams and Jennifer Shepard Payne Episode 19. Keeping Children Safe from Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower Episode 83. Courageous Conversations to Prevent Childhood Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Influence is power, but it’s a power not reserved just for the few. In fact, each of us has the power to impact those around us. Because of this, it’s incredibly important that we meaningfully hold and use that power for good! Dr. Zoe Chance, author of INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER, is a writer, teacher, researcher, and climate philanthropist obsessed with the topic of interpersonal influence. On this episode of POTC, Zoe and Yael discuss how to use your personal values to change the world for the better. Join us in this episode to learn important differences between influence and manipulation, strategies for influencing your child, practical advice for navigating negotiations with difficult people, and more!Listen and Learn: How Yael and Jill use their values to change the world for the better Zoe’s expert definition of influence Important differences between influence and manipulation Expert-approved tips and tricks for those afraid to exert their influence What parents, CEOs, central bankers, and princess have in common The secrets to influencing your child Why compromising can be an optimal outcome Practical advice for negotiating with even the most difficult or powerful of people Evidence-based strategies for listening to someone you disagree with (even when the disagreement makes you want to turn inward) Zoe walks us through her Empathy Challenge Resources: Grab your copy of Zoe’s book, INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER! Read Adam Grant’s Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don't Know Learn about False Polarization Bias Learn more about Naomi Eisenber’s research on social rejection and pain Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Zoe Chance:Dr. Zoe Chance is a writer, teacher, researcher, and climate philanthropist obsessed with the topic of interpersonal influence. She earned her doctorate from Harvard and now teaches the most popular course at Yale School of Management, which is the basis for her international bestseller, INFLUENCE IS YOUR SUPERPOWER. Her framework for behavior change is the foundation for Google’s global food policy, and before academia, she managed a $200 million segment of the Barbie brand at Mattel. Today, Zoe teaches smart, kind people to raise money for charity, get elected to political office, fund startups, start movements, save lives, find love, negotiate great deals and job offers, and even get along better with their kids. In other words, she helps people to use their superpower of influence as a force for good.Related Episodes:Episode 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and DebbieEpisode 197. Influence and Adventure with Jon LevyEpisode 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince GhumanEpisode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji SchoendorffEpisode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic PackerEpisode 252. Getting the Help You Need, with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s incredibly easy (and completely normal) to become caught in the heat of the moment and lash out when arguing with our partners. However, it’s not always the most functional behavior, and it almost never aligns with our values. Michaela Thomas, author of The Lasting Connection, is a clinical psychologist who has centered her career around helping women develop love and compassion for themselves and their partners. On this episode of POTC, Jill and Michaela discuss the key elements to building lasting connections and provide evidence-based strategies for incorporating them into your relationships. Listen in to this episode to discover the top reasons modern couples disconnect, engage in a real-time compassion-flow practice, learn strategies for identifying your relationship values, and much more today!Listen and Learn: Jill and Yael’s thoughts on incorporating ACT, CFT, Behavioral Therapy for couples The three elements that help build lasting connections Expert-approved strategies for identifying when you’re too “hot” or “cold” in your relationship (and practical advice for turning that flame up or down!) Three critical directions your compassion should be flowing in order to build a lasting, loving connection Jill and Michaela engage in a real-time exercise for allowing compassion to flow in from others Evidence-based strategies for moving from high conflict into compassion Dr. Thomas provides the top reasons modern couples disconnect Tips and tricks for identifying your relationship values as a couple Resources: Grab your copy of Michaela’s book, The Lasting Connection! Listen to Michaela’s podcast, Pause Purpose Play. Take Michaela’s online course, The Compassionate Couple Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Michaela Thomas:Michaela Thomas is a Clinical Psychologist, couples therapist and founder of the private practice The Thomas Connection. Michaela specialises in perfectionism, helping high-striving women let go of the pressure of perfection, to find the balance to burn bright, not burn out. She has authored the book The Lasting Connection - develop love and compassion for yourself and your partner. Michaela can be found on her Pause Purpose Play podcast and on Instagram under @the_thomas_connection. Her online course The Compassionate Couple has been described as 'life changing'.Related episodes: Episode 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Episode 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky Episode 168. Everyday Conversations: How Conversational Style Impacts Relationships with Deborah Tannen Episode 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The pressure to be the perfect parent and create the perfect environment for your kids to grow feels pervasive for many modern parents. Because of this, many caregivers have had the thought that they are the world’s worst parent. However, that title belongs to Lenore Skenazy, president of Let Grow and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement (and book), who was once nationally dubbed "America's Worst Mom". On this episode of POTC, Yael and Lenore discuss the data behind how trusting your kids more and giving them more independence allows them to better grow into capable, confident, and happy adults. Join us in this advice-packed episode to learn about what’s actually risky for your kids, strategies for trusting your parenting skills more, methods for unhooking from perfect-parenting-pressure, and much more, today!Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s experiences with stigma and conforming to social norms when it comes to raising their kids Important social and personal changes for Lenore since the release of the first edition of Free-Range Kids Practical advice for the parents worried about their children’s safety in social contexts Lenore defines the “worst first thing” and provides expert advice on how to respond to that tendency Evidence-based and time-proven strategies for shifting your perspective around what’s actually risky for your kids How to begin trusting your parenting instincts and thriving in your role as a parent Expert-approved tips and tricks for incorporating more approach and less avoidance behavior in your parenting repertoire The data that supports the free-range kids movement and having faith in your own parenting skill sets Lenore’s expert advice on unhooking from pressure around being the perfect parent and relating to your kids as people Resources: Read Lenore’s book, Free-Range Kids and check out the Free-Range Kids movement as well! Get involved in Lenore’s non-profit, Let Grow, and check out the FREE resources at the Let Grow Play Club! Check out Jonathan Haidt’s work, The Coddling of the American Mind: How Good Intentions and Bad Ideas Are Setting Up a Generation for Failure and The Fragile Generation Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! For a hilarious view of free range partnering, check out this SNL clip About Lenore Skenazy:Lenore Skenazy, graduate of Yale University and Columbia University and formerly named "America's Worst Mom", is president of Let Grow, a non-profit promoting childhood independence and resilience, and founder of the Free-Range Kids movement (and book!). She is also a speaker, blogger, syndicated columnist, author, and reality show host. A former newspaper reporter, she lives in New York City with her husband. Their sons have flown the coop, which is good for “proof of concept” purposes, but she misses them. Check out her book, Free Range Kids and all the FREE resources available at letgrow.org. Related Episodes: Episode 94. Parenthood in the Age of Fear with Kim Brooks Episode 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’Antonia Episode 161. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Lahey Episode 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims Episode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba Episode 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Episode 213. Back To School! How To Talk With Kids To Build Motivation, Stress Tolerance and A Happy Home with Dr. William Stixrud and Ned Johnson Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Episode 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Asking for help can put us in a vulnerable space. For some, asking for help feels like an admission of failure or weakness. However, many (including the POTC crew) would argue that asking for help demonstrates incredible strength, intelligence, and bravery. On this episode of POTC, our co-hosts, Jill, Yael, and Debbie, gather to discuss the importance of asking for help. They provide clinician-approved methods for identifying appropriate help, asking for help, and overcoming common barriers to asking for help. Listen in to this help-filled episode, today!Listen and Learn: Why our co-hosts are drawn to the topic of asking for help Barriers to asking for help when you need it most Practical strategies to reframe shame and guilt related to asking for help Specific challenges related to seeking out professional help through therapy or coaching When to seek professional help vs. emotional support from your loved ones Important differences between therapy and friendship Clinician-approved methods for finding a therapist who’s a good fit for you and your needs Cultural challenges to finding a therapist and starting treatment Expert-approved ways to build out a reciprocal “helping network” with people you feel comfortable with Resources: Read Yael and Brad Stulberg’s Washington Post piece, Therapist or coach: Understanding the difference and how to pick one Read Debbie’s Psyche article, How to ask for help Check out Flynn and Lake’s research on asking for help Read Zoe Chance’s Influence Is Your Superpower: The Science of Winning Hearts, Sparking Change, and Making Good Things Happen Check out Dr. Jessi Gold’s article, Your Therapist Is Not Your Friend, Take It from a Psychiatrist Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Richard Dawkins has been quoted as saying, “The feeling of awed wonder that science can give us is one of the highest experiences of which the human psyche is capable.” Many agree with him and have referred to wonder as the beginning of wisdom, the seed of science, and the basis of men’s desire to understand. When we are little, most of us are filled with wonder and experience it often. However, we tend to lose our sense of wonder as we age into adults. On today’s episode of POTC, Dr. Frank Keil, author of Wonder, talks with Jill about why it’s so important to encourage a sense of wonder in younger generations and reconnect with our own sense of wonder as well. Join us in this episode to break cycles of over-imitation, learn about important research on wonder and well-being, engage in deeper, more interesting conversations, and so much more, today! Listen and Learn: Jill and Yael discuss the difference between wonder and curiosity Frank expertly defines wonder and provides some insight as to its history The research-backed reasons why we lose our natural sense of wonder over time Practical, evidence-based advice on fostering the continuance of wonder for your little ones Negative consequences of losing your sense of wonder The positive outcomes related to wondering with others Over-imitating - what it is, how it works, and why we continue to do it How wonder lends itself to compassion and understanding Frank’s favorite findings from his research on wonder Expert-approved strategies on reconnecting with your sense of wonder as an adult Resources: Read Frank’s books, Developmental Psychology: The Growth of Mind and Behavior and Wonder: Childhood and the Lifelong Love of Science! Check out Chris Ferrie’s book, Quantum Physics for Babies Read Richard Dawkins’ book, Unweaving the Rainbow: Science, Delusion and the Appetite for Wonder Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Frank C. Keil is the Dilley Professor of Psychology, Linguistics, and Cognitive Science at Yale University. Much of his research involves asking how intuitive explanations and understandings emerge in development and how they function in adults. These topics are linked to broader questions of what concepts and explanations are, how they change with increasing expertise, how people understand the limits to their own knowledge and how they navigate the division of cognitive labor. Dr. Keil received a Ph.D. in Psychology from the University of Pennsylvania , a M.A. in Psychology from Stanford University, and a B.S. in Biology from MIT. He is the author of hundreds of articles and several books including Developmental Psychology: The Growth of Mind and Behavior, and most recently, Wonder: Childhood and the Lifelong Love of Science.Related Episodes: Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Episode 204. Ageless with Andrew Steele Episode 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill Episode 125. Why We Age and the Science of Longevity with David Sinclair Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Many of us make use of control agendas and get caught up in managing our experiences to be exactly the way we want them. Sometimes this is a good, rewarding type of behavior, but more often than not, perfectionistic behavior can leave you feeling stuck in a cycle of failure. Dr. Clarissa Ong, author of The Anxious Perfectionist, is an expert in the intersection of anxiety and perfectionism. On this episode of POTC, she and Debbie discuss this intersection and explore practical strategies for overcoming problematic, perfectionistic tendencies. Join us in this episode for advice on moving from rigidity into flexibility, practical strategies for distinguishing between helpful and harmful perfectionism, and so much more!Listen and Learn: Debbie and Jill discuss the double-edged sword of perfectionism Dr. Ong’s personal experiences with perfectionism Practical strategies for distinguishing between helpful and harmful perfectionism The different forms of perfectionism and how they may present themselves The intersection between anxiety and perfectionism Contexts that can nurture or contribute to a person’s perfectionistic tendencies Evidence-based advice for parents who don’t want to water the seeds of perfectionism in their children How perfectionism can be like playing a game What you lose when you’re trapped by perfectionism Expert-approved advice on moving from rigidity into flexibility around perfectionism (and on helping your friends and loved ones do so as well!) Practical advice for incorporating a little self-kindness into behaviors governed by perfectionism Resources: Read Clarissa’s book, The Anxious Perfectionist! Follow her on Twitter, @ongclarissaw! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Clarissa Ong:Clarissa W. Ong, PhD, is a postdoctoral associate at the Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders at Boston University. She received her doctoral degree in clinical/counseling psychology from Utah State University, and completed her clinical internship at McLean Hospital/Harvard Medical School. Her research interests include acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), process-based therapy, obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), hoarding disorder, and perfectionism. She has contributed to more than sixty peer-reviewed publications and a book. She has also received funding from the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS). She and Dr. Michael Twohig recently published a self-help book on perfectionism, The Anxious Perfectionist. Related Episodes: Episode 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Episode 88. Perfectionism with Sharon Martin Episode 172. Performing Under Pressure with Sian Beilock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the past decade, online dating has become a multi-billion dollar industry with three in ten adults in the United States claiming to have ever used a dating app. But despite all this dating, experiences of loneliness are on the rise, and three out of five U.S. adults report lacking companionship or feeling left out or poorly understood. Dr. Jenny Taitz, author of How to be Single and Happy, is passionate about helping others live meaningful, value-based lives, regardless of their relationship status. On this episode of POTC, she and Yael discuss the central challenges faced by unhappily single people and evidence-based methods for overcoming them. Join us today for practical advice related to dealing with big emotions in dating, creating long-lasting relationships, dating throughout the life-span, and finding happiness no matter your relationship status! Listen and learn: Katy and Yael discuss living meaningfully even when dating and relationships feel imperfect Practical advice for those who are in an unhappy partnership or those who struggle with dating and finding a partner (regardless of your age, gender, or experiences!) Dr. Taitz’s personal experience of being unhappily single and her journey to write her book Taitz’s expert opinion on if you can be single (not by choice) and happy Expert-approved strategies the unhappily single can use to thrive Three central challenges faced by the unhappily single and evidence-based practices you can use to unhook yourself from themPractical strategies for helping those who feel shame and regret about dating experiences Dr. Taitz’s words of wisdom for staying hopeful when you’ve been on the dating scene for a long time Problematic emotions that can arise with dating struggles and how to respond to them Specific, expert-approved advice for dating when you want to have a child The problem of loneliness and how to manage it Dr. Taitz’s thoughts on dating apps, meeting people, and starting conversationsPractical advice on creating long lasting relationships How to live well, regardless of your relationship status Resources: Read Dr. Jenny’s books, End Emotional Eating and How to be Single and Happy!Check out Dr. Jenny’s website, and while you’re there, take advantage of her resources! Find Jenny's New York Times pieces here, here, and hereRead Daniel Pink’s book, The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward.Read Matt Haig’s book, The Midnight Library.Read Chris Wilson’s book, The Master Plan: My Journey from Life in Prison to a Life of Purpose. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Jenny Taitz: Dr. Jenny Taitz, is board certified in cognitive behavioral therapy by the American Board of Professional Psychology and a Diplomate in the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. Dr. Taitz is one of the first psychologists to merit Linehan Board Certification in DBT. She is the founder of LA CBT DBT, a discrete, boutique, private therapy practice prioritizing compassionate, effective, and time-sensitive therapy. Dr. Taitz is grateful to offer secure telehealth appointments to clients residing in New York and California. In her work, she aims to coach her clients to achieve their life goals. Dr. Taitz practices the acceptance and values-based living she teaches and recently ran the LA Marathon (postpartum!) for suicide prevention. Additionally, Dr. Taitz serves as an Assistant Clinical Professor in the Department of Psychiatry at U.C.L.A. and her writing appears in numerous prominent publications including the New York Times and Wall Street Journal. Jenny is the author of End Emotional Eating: Using Dialectical Behavior Therapy Skills to Cope with Difficult Emotions and Deve... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It's hard to talk about intimacy and sex. Cultural norms around intimacy work their way into our minds when we’re young, causing us to have rigid (and often completely incorrect, unworkable, or dysfunctional) views about how we should express ourselves sexually. Zoë Kors, author of Radical Intimacy, is a sex and intimacy coach who is passionate about opening up this conversation to help people develop healthier sexuality and intimacy. On this episode of POTC, Yael and Zoë discuss the stigma and awkwardness we often feel around discussions about sex, Zoë’s Radical Intimacy model of sexual wellbeing, strategies for getting un-hooked from ideas about how you should be when it comes to sex and intimacy, and so much more. Join them for a conversation about sex and intimacy that can help you build towards greater fulfillment in your relationships! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s thoughts on our first episode on sex (and the stigma that prevented us from doing it earlier!)Expert-advice on how to start conversations with your partner or ask for help from a therapist or intimacy coach about sexZoë’s Radical Intimacy model of sexual wellbeingPractical advice for couples with mis-matched levels of comfort in different areas of intimacyImportant differences between desire and arousalZoë busts some common myths and misconceptions about intimacyAnswers to age-old questions about the importance of sex and interest in a relationshipEvidence-based advice on rekindling your sparkStrategies for getting un-hooked from ideas about how you should be when it comes to sex and intimacyThe role of power in intimacyHow to support vulnerable partners in feeling safe during intimate momentsEnergetic intimacy - what it is and why it’s so importantWhat it’s like for Zoë’s husband to live with a sex guru! Resources: Buy your copy of Zoë’s book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve!Read Zoë’s viral article, 6 Ways to Have Radically Intimate Sex.Listen to Zoë’s podcast, The Radical Intimacy Podcast!Learn more about Sensate Focus Therapy.Read Gary Chapman’s The 5 Love Languages.Esther Perel’s advice for turning a spark into a flame. Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Zoë Kors: Zoë Kors holds a BA in Art History from University of Pennsylvania. Her post graduate work includes certification as a Co-Active Coach with the prestigious Co-Active Training Institute in San Rafael, CA, as well as dozens of programs and courses in sexuality and spirituality. She is the resident sex and intimacy coach and contributor at sexual wellness app Coral. Zoë is the former Senior Editor and Creative Director of LA Yoga Magazine and is a contributor to Elephant Journal, MindBodyGreen, Avocado Green Mattress and Fabletics blogs. In addition to a thriving private practice, Zoë offers her services through Center for Relational Healing, which specializes in the treatment of sex addiction and betrayal trauma. As a member of the CRH team, Zoë works with clients to reintroduce healthy sexuality and intimacy after the trauma of betrayal. Make sure to read her book, Radical Intimacy: Cultivate the Deeply Connected Relationships You Desire and Deserve! Related Episodes: Episode 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana Episode 61. Becoming Our Best Relationship Selves By Identifying Core Values And Schemas With Avigail LevEpisode 76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew SkintaEpisode 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 179. How to Be An Adult in Relationships with Dave ... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this psychology podcast, Jill interviews Eve Rodsky about carving out creative time separate from being in the roles of parent, partner, and professional Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Physician Tammie Chang talks to us about burnout prevention and setting boundaries. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Emily Oster, author of The Family Firm, Expecting Better and Cribsheet, has dedicated her career to discovering the hard, data-backed truths about parenting strategies. In this episode of POTC, she delivers some of those parenting truths to you. Emily then delights Yael by going beyond the world of data-driven parenting to discuss how to ask good questions in complicated parts of life (and how to answer them!). Emily also shares tools for gathering good information from the media—even if you aren't someone with a science background. Join the conversation as Yael and Emily discuss The Family Firm and making wise choices within very complicated life roles. Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill discuss strategies to approaching thorny parenting decisionsDifferences between parenting in early versus middle years of childhoodThe benefits to thinking about family, co-parenting, and marriage as a firmHow Emily’s family has applied this data to their personal lives (and her family’s mission statement!)Practical advice for staying engaged as a parent while maintaining a demanding careerThe importance of framing good questions and evidence-based strategies for doing soThe Family Firm approach to making decisions: The Four F’sWhat the data says about social pressure and extracurricularsConsideration of how scientists should be interacting with systems outside of science Emily’s personal experience with being outspoken about data with people who have strong feelings otherwiseHow those interested in evidence can interact with media in ways that are less biasedThe inside scoop on Emily’s data-driven newsletter Resources: Pick up your copy of Emily’s book, The Family Firm: A Data-Driven Guide to Better Decision Making in the Early School Years!Sign up for Emily’s newsletter, Parent Data.Check out this article on AlloparentingLearn about the Sunk Cost Fallacy. Read Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother by Amy Chua Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Emily Oster: Emily Oster, PhD, is a Professor of Economics at Brown University and the author of Expecting Better, Cribsheet, and The Family Firm. She holds a PhD in Economics from Harvard. Prior to being at Brown she was on the faculty at the University of Chicago Booth School of Business. Oster’s academic work focuses on health economics and statistical methods. She is interested in understanding why consumers do not always make “rational” health choices — why do people not eat a fully healthy diet, or pursue all recommended preventative health behaviors? Her work also concerns methods for learning causal effects from observational data. Sign up for her newsletter and check out her website for all the most recent updates on data related to pregnancy and parenting! Related Episodes: Episode 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael SchonbrunEpisode 86. Mom Brain with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoEpisode 87. Cribsheet with Emily OsterEpisode 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’AntoniaEpisode 149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla NaumburgEpisode 200. Growing Grit with Angela DuckworthEpisode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner MoyerEpisode 223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarcoEpisode 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Aprilia West shares how to respond to respond to emotions effectively and become boss-level choice maker! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Learn about the science of goal setting, building motivation, and how to get things done in this conversation with Dr. Ayelet Fishbach. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join this meaningful conversation with Oliver Burkeman about how to make the most of your time in the roughly 4,000 weeks you'll live! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We continue the conversation on Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) with Dr. Mindy Solomon on Emotion Coaching Skills. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Adele LaFrance shares skills from Emotion-Focused Family Therapy (EFFT) to help parents and caregivers handle big emotions effectively. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

An interview with best selling author, Lori Gottlieb, about how to edit our unhelpful narratives so we may grow in our relationships, lives, and well being. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Jill, Yael, and Debbie talk all about values! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen bring it back full circle to chatting over coffee about their time together as friends, co-authors and co-hosts. Listen in to learn how they continue to apply ACT strategies to their lives and where Diana Hill is headed on her new podcast Your Life in Process. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Margaret Chisolm, professor of psychiatry at Johns Hopkins, talks with us about mental illness, stigma, and pathways to flourishing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

According to the National Center for Drug Abuse Statistics, since 2000, the United States has experienced over 700,000 deaths due to drug overdose. Addiction and substance use disorders are at the root of this enormous loss, and about half of people who struggle with substance use disorder will experience some mental health disorder during their life. And vice versa—many individuals struggling with mental health disorders also struggle with various forms of addiction. Carl Erik Fisher, author of The Urge: Our History of Addiction, has expertise in law, ethics, and policy related to psychiatry and neuroscience. His personal struggle with addiction in combination with his professional expertise converges to help us understand the forces that have shaped addiction throughout our history. On this episode of POTC, Carl and Yael discuss the social contingencies and historical contexts that lead to addiction, substance use disorder, and co-morbid mental health issues. Join us in this episode to learn more about commonly held beliefs about addiction, prescribers’ blind spots to certain medications, and much much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie discuss the importance of contextualizing human behaviorHow society tends to neglect the historical context of addictive behaviors (and why it’s so important to overcome this neglect)The issues that come with treating addiction differently than other mental health disordersPractical advice for clinicians and patients working with co-morbid addiction and other mental health disordersCarl provides insights on how addiction has been weaponized to serve corporations and politiciansAn important, historical example of what happens when scientists and researchers rigidly adopt a particular view (read: biases) but find information that conflicts with that viewThe expert-approved definition of harm reductionCarl answers commonly held beliefs about addiction (e.g., is addiction a brain disease?)How Carl, a practicing psychiatrist with an in-depth knowledge of the history of addiction and mental health, approaches prescription by balancing values, change, and harm reduction Things consumers should know about prescribers’ blind spots to certain medicationsCarl’s personal story of addiction and recoveryWhat to consider when balancing evidence- and RCT-based treatments with clients’ individuality and choicesPractical advice for helping those who are in denial of their substance abuse problem Resources: Read Carl’s book, The Urge: Our History of Addiction! Check out Carl's recent New York Times piece, Why It's misleading to call addiction a diseaseListen to Carl’s podcast, Flourishing After Addiction! Read RAND reports on drug policy research, prescription drug abuse, and substance abuseGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Jill’s, Yael, and Diana, websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Carl Erik Fisher: Carl Erik Fisher (USA), psychiatrist and author of The Urge: A History of Addiction, New York, May 24, 2021. Photograph © Beowulf Sheehan Carl Erik Fisher, M.D., is an addiction psychiatrist, bioethics scholar, and author of The Urge: Our History of Addiction. He is an assistant professor of clinical psychiatry at Columbia University, where he studies and teaches law, ethics, and policy relating to psychiatry and neuroscience. He received his B.A. in Music (vocal performance) and Biology from the University of North Carolina, his M.D. from the Columbia University College of Physicians and Surgeons, and completed psychiatric residency at Columbia University. He then completed fellowship training in forensic psychiatry in the Columbia/Cornell Residency in ... Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dominic Packer talks with Jill about the power of shared identity to impact human thought, feeling, and behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this episode, Dr. Lembke and Diana redefine addiction, discuss its consequences, and provide practical advice on addressing it in all its forms. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

As we venture into the New Year, many of us are striving to reach new goals and maintain resolutions. It's easy to default to focusing solely on succeeding or attaining those goals, striving to feel the “high” that accompanies that success. But this kind of approach can unwittingly interfere with healthy and sustainable success. Brad Stulberg, author of The Practice of Groundedness, has dedicated his career to understanding and fostering a healthier, more sustainable model of success. An expert in organizational behavior and public health, Brad suggests that constantly striving for and focusing on reaching the peak is neither a healthy nor sustainable way to actually reach it. In this episode of POTC, Brad and Yael discuss healthier methods of feeling the “highs” that accompany success. Listen in to this episode where we redefine “peak performance”, get in touch with your “lows”, and discover tip that work to remain grounded as you journey towards success in 2022 and beyond! Listen and Learn: Yael and Diana discuss groundedness and striving The mental health journey Brad endured while writing his booksBrad’s expert definitions of groundedness and successThe core values guiding Brad’s workHow principles from Acceptance and Commitment Therapy can help you engage in more grounded behaviorPractical advice for developing a healthy association with your ego (even in harsh or toxic environments)The relationships between non-duality and groundednessImportant differences between vulnerability and performative vulnerability in social media and digital spacesExpert-approved tips for building nurturing communities that foster ongoing health and sustainability, accessing alone time, and balancing the twoBrad’s personal experience with groundedness and fatherhood Resources: Read Brad’s books, The Practice of Groundedness: A Transformative Path to Success That Feeds--Not Crushes--Your Soul and Peak Performance: Elevate Your Game, Avoid Burnout, and Thrive with the New Science of Success! Check out Brad’s coaching practice and online platform, The Growth Equation, dedicated to defining and attaining a more fulfilling and sustainable kind of successRead this New York Times article discussing social media following and book salesBrad's article from Outside Magazine that shares his personal story with how a stress expert manages mental illness Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Brad Stulberg: Brad Stulberg received his undergraduate (organizational behavior) and graduate (public health) degrees from the University of Michigan. He is an avid strength trainer, reader, and outdoor enthusiast and does almost all of his best thinking in the gym, while reading, or on the trail. Brad’s books are The Practice of Groundedness and Peak Performance. They have sold more than 250,000 copies and have been translated into more than 20 languages. His work has appeared in The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Wired, New Yorker, Forbes, GQ, Time, and more. He is also a contributing editor at Outside Magazine, where he writes a regular column on the science and art of sustainable success. In his coaching practice he works with executives, entrepreneurs, physicians, and athletes on their performance and overall well-being. He is also co-creator of The Growth Equation, an online platform dedicated to defining and attaining a more fulfilling and sustainable kind of success. Related Episodes: Episode 102. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Ring in the new year by learning about flexible eating skills with fitness expert Josh Hillis! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dr. Devon Price, author of Laziness Does Not Exist, talks about the "laziness lie," where it came from, and why it can be harmful to our wellbeing. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alice Kearney joins Jill for a discussion about teaching kids to build resilience in a challenging world. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Radhule Weininger and Diana discuss how and why we engage in painful patterns, how to transform them, and how to use mindfulness and psychology to find freedom today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Most people would agree that happiness is one of the most salient and significant dimensions of human experience. After all, wouldn't we all like to be happy? But what exactly is happiness? And how do we get more of it? Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., has dedicated her career to studying human happiness, and on this episode of POTC, she joins Yael to answer this question and more! Join us in this episode to learn the empowering practice of cultivating your own happiness through practical, evidence-based strategies today! Listen and Learn: The evidence-based strategies Yael and Diana use to foster happiness in their livesSonja expertly breaks down what different studies are telling us about predicting and maintaining happinessSonja’s goals for your happiness and how she can help you build those through evidence-based strategies and practicesThe empowering practice of cultivating your own happinessHedonic adaptation and how it fits into the scientific art of cultivating happinessPractical advice for taking charge of your own happiness right now!Fostering happiness in the presence of positive and negative memories and experiencesWhich happiness-building activities work better for specific dispositions and temperamentsThe erroneous beliefs and myths about what makes us happy or unhappy Resources: Read Sonja’s books, The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want and The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But DoesLearn more about Barbara Fredrickson Read Danny Kahneman’s study on parenting and happiness Paul Bloom's recent Atlantic piece on parenting and happinessGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Sonja Lyubomirsky: Sonja Lyubomirsky, Ph.D., is a Distinguished Professor and the Vice Chair of the Department of Psychology at the University of California where she currently runs the Positive Activities & Well-Being Lab. She earned both her A.B. in Psychology and her Ph.D. in Social Psychology from Stanford University. She has dedicated her career to studying human happiness, focusing on three main questions: 1) What makes people happy? 2) Is happiness a good thing, and 3) How and why can people learn to lead happier, more flourishing lives? Sonja has published numerous studies and made multiple media appearances exploring and discussing the answers to these questions. She has also published multiple books about happiness including The How of Happiness: A New Approach to Getting the Life You Want and her most recent work, The Myths of Happiness: What Should Make You Happy, But Doesn't, What Shouldn't Make You Happy, But Does. Learn more about Sonja at her website, sonjalyuobmirsky.com! Related Episodes: Episode 2. Hygge – Happiness and the Danish Art of Cozy Connection Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry SchwartzEpisode 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKayEpisode 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune Episode 180. Choosing to Live Your Values with Benji SchoendorffEpisode 192. Happier with Tal Ben-ShaharEpisode 224. The Sweet Spot with Paul Bloom Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Tired of the pressure to be perfect? Learn all about perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp, author of the ACT Workbook for Perfectionism! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

A psychology podcast about the use of psychedelic drugs in psychotherapy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Paul Bloom and Diana discuss the pleasures of suffering and the intersection of meaning and pain. Learn about why humans so frequently choose pain and how suffering and meaning are connected. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Moms are frequently expected to wear many hats. While juggling the numerous responsibilities, mothers must also deal with the cognitive overload many refer to as “Mom Brain”. Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., author of Mom Brain, is a clinical psychologist specializing in working with moms struggling with the overwhelm that comes with parenting young children. On this episode of POTC, Yael and Ilyse discuss evidence-based strategies mothers can use to overcome some of the innumerable challenges of parenthood. Listen in today for expert-approved strategies to managing feelings of overwhelm, clarifying your newfound values as a parent, and much, much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Debbie’s personal experiences using their values and evidence-based strategies to juggle the different stressors that come with parentingWhy Ilyse’s book focuses on exclusively on momsIlyse’s response to criticisms about focusing on the individual, working parent rather than society at largeAn evidence-based, expert approved definition of mom-brainTips and tricks (read: evidence-based behavioral strategies) for managing when you’re feeling tired and overwhelmedRecommendations for clarifying your values as they change throughout parenthood Expert-approved strategies for approaching difficult conversations with your partnerHow to distinguish between the “big stuff” and the “small stuff” when it comes to disagreements with your partner Resources: Buy Dr. DiMarco’s book, Mom Brain: Proven Strategies to Fight the Anxiety, Guilt, and Overwhelming Emotions of Motherhood--And Relax Into Your New Self Read Dr. DiMarco’s blog! Everything you need to know about The Gottman InstituteLearn about the DEAR MAN strategy The Bullseye worksheet for clarifying valuesGrab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco: Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco, Ph.D., is a Clinical Psychologist specializing in working with stressed moms. She received her B.A. from Yale University and her Ph.D. from Rutgers University. She has received extensive training in cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT) and is a Diplomate of the Academy of Cognitive Therapy. As Dr. DiMarco navigated her own personal parenting journey and worked with other moms in her practice, it occurred to her that she had the tools—cognitive-behavioral therapy strategies—to help herself and other moms face the everyday challenges of motherhood. She also came to understand that moms often won’t make time to see a therapist, but will make time to read their favorite mom blog on their phone. So she decided to create DrCBTMom.com, a site combining the expert advice of a CBT self-help book with the warmth and readability of a mommy blog. Since starting the blog, she has written a book, Mom Brain and other, shorter pieces for numerous publications (including The Washington Post, Parents.com, Today Parents, Motherwell, Scary Mommy, Psychology Today, The Week, and Motherly). Check out her work for strategies for managing all kinds of motherhood stresses, from how to cope when you feel like a hot mess to how to cope with your neighborhood “hot moms;” from dealing with pressure from overzealous PTA reps to dealing with pressure from meddling in-laws, and much more! Follow her on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. Related Episodes: Episode 33. Couples with Young Children: Relationship Challenges and Strategies with Yael SchonbrunEpisode 86. Mom Brain with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco ​​Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily OsterEpisode 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de MarneffeEpisode 149. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

On this psychology podcast, learn how to thrive living with food allergies or supporting a loved one with food allergy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Birth trauma and maternity care expert Dr. Jan Smith shares about the psychological impact of traumatic birth experiences. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Co-host Diana Hill shares her story of stillbirth and how she grappled with applying the processes of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy to her own loss. Alexis Bachik, a professor of positive psychology, shares how hard it was to stay positive in the face of years of exhausting and devastating infertility treatments. Anne Cushman reads from her powerful memoir about love and loss in motherhood. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Diana Hill talks with Sunita Osborn, a clinical psychologist and expert in reproductive trauma about strategies to navigate the loss and unpredictability of infertility, miscarriage and stillbirth. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you’re a frequent listener of the show, you may wonder what makes this team tick? Behind the scenes, we are a team that spans 5 time zones, two countries, 6 states, and lots of interests. Join us in a special episode celebrating our off-mic team members, 1.5 million downloads, and discussing what we are up to and what matters most to us. Listen and Learn: What the team is really like behind the scenesWhat the team looks for in a good podcast episodeWhat the team is readingThe different ways co-hosts prepare for interviewsHow each time member would spend their days if they knew they were the last! Resources & Recommendations: Yael’s recommendations: Tinker, Tailor, Soldier, Spy: A George Smiley Novel, I Feel Bad About My Neck: And Other Thoughts on Being a Woman, Winnie-The-Pooh, Part of Your World: A Twisted Tale, The Paradox of Choice: Why More Is Less, Paradox of Choice by Barry Schwartz TEDx TalkKaty’s book recommendations: We Were Never Here, Reese’s Book Club Picks, The Paper Palace, Be Mighty: A Women’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and Acceptance, Written Exposure Therapy for PTSD: A Brief Treatment Approach for Mental Health Professionals, The Boy, the Mole, the Fox, and the Horse Diana’s book recommendations: Harry Potter Illustrated, Home Body, Never Good Enough, episode with Stephen PorgesDebbie’s book recommendations: “heavy” fiction book (part of Hillary Mantel’s series about Thomas Cromwell), The Mirror and the Light Michael’s recommendations: ACT On Your Business, Stephen King books, Terry Pratchett Discworld novels, Unwinding Anxiety, Man’s Search for Meaning.Attend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit From Striving to Thriving (coming up October 15th and stream anytime after release date)Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Our Team Diana Hill, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist and co-author of ACT Daily Journal: Get unstuck and live fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She offers regular teachings in compassion and ACT through Insight LA , Mindful Heart Programs and her blog on Psychology Today Through her online teachings, executive coaching, clinical supervision, and private therapy practice Diana encourages clients to build psychological flexibility so that they can live more meaningful and fulfilling lives. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two, homesteader, and yoga teacher. Learn more about her latest offerings here and follow her on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter to get tools to build psychological flexibility into your daily life. Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University and a bachelor’s degree in Psychology and Anthropology from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She works with adults in her private practice in Denver, Colorado, and is a part-time clinical research psychologist at the Rocky Mountain Regional VA Medical Center. She is a co-host of the Psychologists Off the Clock podcast, and has co-authored the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. She loves living in her home state of Colorado with her husband, two daughters, and dog, and getting outdoors in the beautiful Rocky Mountains. Dr. Yael Schonbrun is a licensed clinical psychologist who wears a number of professional hats: she a small private practice specializing in evidence-based relationship therapy, she’s an assistant professor at Brown University, Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We haven't spent much energy discussing money on POTC, yet richness in all its forms is a dominant force in our modern well-being. Not surprisingly, richness serves many functions. At its best, wealth-growing can be incredibly rewarding and lend itself to an enriched quality of life. But there's another side to wealth. Striving for richness can hook you into an unsustainable cycle of overwork, unfulfilled desire, stagnation, and even persistent unhappiness. Shannon Hayes, Ph.D., author of Redefining Rich, is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She has spent her career researching (and growing her own) sustainable wealth. In this episode of POTC, Shannon and Yael discuss the importance of balancing your practical and psychological desires and relationship with wealth. Listen in today to learn how to redefine rich for yourself. Listen and Learn: Yael and Diana dig into the research behind dimensions of psychological wealth and predictors of happinessHow the work of Alex Pang impacted Shannon’s philosophical stanceFlexible ways to approach wealth in order to foster sustainability both personally and globallyShannon explains Money Paradox and why it’s integral in redefining richness for yourselfYael’s expert application of ACT to getting “unhooked” from unhelpful, traditional views of wealthThe strategic balance of meeting both your practical and psychological needs that leads to a deeply enriched lifeHow Shannon uses napping, rest, and boundaries to enrich her quality of life and grow sustainable wealthPractical advice for saying “no” (even when feelings of guilt show up!)The role of diversification in defining and redefining wealth and in supporting ongoing richness throughout your life Resources: Buy Shannon’s book, Redefining Rich: Achieving True Wealth with Small Business, Side Hustles, and Smart Living!Listen, rate, review, and subscribe to Shannon’s podcast, The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow.Check out Shannon’s weekly essays on her blog, and support her research by visiting her Patreon.Read the research behind becoming Psychologically Rich.Antifragile, by Nassim Nicholas Taleb Rest, by Alex PangThe Power of a Positive No, by William UryAttend Diana’s Values-Rich Living Retreat and her free online summit (coming up October 15th) where you’ll learn how to go from striving to thriving! Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Shannon Hayes: Shannon Hayes is a sustainable farmer, entrepreneur, cafe owner, and the Chef and CEO of Sap Bush Hollow Farm, LLC. She holds a Ph.D. in sustainable agriculture and community development from Cornell University and a bachelor’s in creative writing from Binghamton University. Shannon is the host of The Heart of Sap Bush Hollow podcast and the author of several books. Her work is frequently used in college classrooms and has been featured on national television as well as in the New York Times, New York Times Magazine, Brain, Child magazine, U.S. News and World Report, the Atlantic, National Public Radio, Grit magazine, YES! magazine, Elle magazine, JUNO magazine, and many national newspapers across the globe. Shannon also speaks nationally, teaching about sustainable business and inspiring rural and urban families alike to live creative lives in harmony with community and planet. Learn more about Shannon by visiting her website, http://theradicalhomemaker.net, and make sure to buy her latest book, Redefining Rich! Related Episodes: Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Anger and irritability are running high, and we're here to help! Learn strategies for managing anger, and listen to Dr. Russell Kolts talk about compassion and anger. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Behavioral Scientist Katy Milkman provides evidence backed strategies for initiating and maintaining behavioral change. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Worried your kid is an asshole? Or that he or she is well on the road to becoming an asshole? You're not alone. Bad behavior (read: assholery) is no fun to be around, let alone to parent around. In this episode of POTC, Yael and Melinda Wenner Moyer, author of How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes, discuss what kinds of behavior to be concerned about, the risk factors for assholery, and evidence-based practices for intervening with asshole behavior. Listen in to this episode for practical advice on identifying the function of asshole behavior, instilling theory of mind, setting the stage for empathy, responding to sibling rivalry, and much more! Listen and Learn: Yael and Jill’s personal experiences and struggles raising kids in a world of too much parenting adviceThe conflicting responses to Melinda’s book’s titleA science-based explanation of why kids act like assholes Melinda’s personal experience managing parenting and work (and practical advice on how you can too)Expert-approved recommendations for teaching kids to take responsibility for their behaviorPractical advice for teaching kids to consider others’ perspectives and how their own behavior impacts othersMelinda explains growth mindset, fixed mindset, how the two differ, and why they’re important for your child’s developmentPractical advice for utilizing rewards without fostering assholeryWhat the science says is an effective approach to curbing sibling fightsHow to approach kid screen time with younger kids and teensHow to know when assholery is code for needing additional support from a parent or an expert (like a psychologist)And much, much more! Resources: Melinda’s book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens!Check out Anders Ericcson’s and Robert Pool’s Peak: Secrets from the New Science of Expertise Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych.Check out Debbie, Diana, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Melinda Wenner Moyer: Melinda Wenner Moyer has a master’s in Science, Health & Environmental Reporting from NYU and a background in cell and molecular biology. She is a contributing editor at Scientific Americanmagazine and a regular contributor to The New York Times, Washington Post, and other national magazines and newspapers. She is a faculty member in the Science, Health & Environmental Reporting program at NYU’s Arthur L. Carter Journalism Institute. Melinda was the recipient of the 2019 Bricker Award for Science Writing in Medicine, and her work was featured in the 2020 Best American Science and Nature Writing anthology. Buy Melinda’s most recent book, How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting--From Tots to Teens! Keep up-to-date with Melinda’s work by subscribing to her newsletter, here! Related Episodes: Episode 58. Balancing the Big Stuff with Miriam Liss and Holly Schiffrin Episode 83. The Tao of Work and Family Balance with Tod Perry and Carl TottonEpisode 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan PollakEpisode 123. Tantrum Survival Guide with Rebecca Schrag HershbergEpisode 149. How Not to Lose it With Your Kids with Carla NaumbergEpisode 166. How to Manage Multiple Life Roles Skillfully with Sarah ArgenalEpisode 187. Raising a Child with ADHD, with Russell Barkley Episode 200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.