Psychologists Off the Clock

In this bonus episode, Michael leads Jill, Debbie, and Emily in a hilarious round of Dungeons&Dragons. If you just tuned into our episode with Megan Connell on Dungeons&Dragons in Therapy, you’ll understand that tabletop role-playing games can only truly be understood by experiencing them in action, and who better to demonstrate it than the POTC cohosts? And, for those interested in trying it out themselves, we also provide some free resources. Welcome to Psychologists Off the Clock and Dungeons&Dragons!Resources: Begin your Dungeons&Dragons adventure at dndbeyond.com A Wild Sheep Chase by Winghorn Press Critical Core by Game to Grow Michael’s roll4confidence Website Related Episodes:330. Dungeons&Dragons in Therapy with Megan Connell Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Many clinical professionals all over the world are incorporating tabletop roleplaying games (RPGs) into therapy. They offer diverse benefits and can be a game-changing way to introduce enjoyment and creativity into therapy sessions. For this conversation, we are thrilled to be joined by Megan Connell, author of Tabletop Role-Playing Therapy: A Guide for the Clinician Game Master, to talk about the advantages and potential of RPGs in therapy. Using the wildly popular Dungeons&Dragons as the primary example, we look at how coming together to solve problems, face conflicts, and overcome obstacles through collective storytelling can provide a safe and creative environment for individuals to explore without real-world consequences, while also building on skills such as social and confidence development. Listen in and elevate your therapy game with a perfect blend of fun and learning!Listen and Learn: Megan gives an introduction to therapeutically applied tabletop role-playing games and how they're played The many benefits of tabletop role-playing games in teaching therapeutic skills The limitless possibilities of Dungeons&Dragons How Megan approaches character creation for her clients The overlap between the ACT Hexaflex Model and role-playing games Resources: Visit Megan's Website Order your copy of Megan’s book Tabletop Role-Playing Therapy: A Guide for the Clinician Game Master G33ks like us Geek Therapeutics Healthquest Innovative Therapeutics Clinical Roll Psychology at the Table Follow Megan on X About Dr. Megan ConnellDr. Connell is a Licensed Psychologist and a Therapeutic Dungeon Master. She graduated from Argosy University Hawai’i in 2010 and served as a psychologist in the US Army for seven years. While in the Army she received specialty training focused on trauma and PTSD. In 2016, she left active duty and started her work in private practice. There, she has focused her work primarily on challenges related to anxiety, panic, changes in life, depression, trauma, and helping women on the autism spectrum. Through her work with Leyline Geek Therapeutics, she has helped train other mental health professionals on what geek culture is and how we can use geek culture to lead to better, more fulfilling lives. Related Episodes: 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 288. The Fun Habit with Mike Rucker 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 239. Edit Your Story, Change Your Life with Lori Gottlieb 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Is curiosity one of your greatest superpowers when it comes to making meaningful connections, healing, and growing personally? This episode features Scott Shigeoka, an expert on curiosity and the author of Seek: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the World. Join us as Scott draws from personal experiences and extensive research to teach us about the power of deep curiosity and how it goes beyond mere knowledge-seeking to revolutionize your well-being, relationships, and even the world around you.Listen and Learn: The spectrum of curiosity Scott shares his encounters with deep curiosity and how it changed his experiences Can deep curiosity help cure the global loneliness epidemic? The three directions of curiosity - internal, external, and beyond The downside to curiosity What's stopping you from getting curious? How to cultivate deep curiosity using the DIVE model What sets a weak question apart from a powerful question? Resources: Visit Scott’s website Connect with Scott on Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and Instagram Scott’s book Seek: How Curiosity Can Transform Your Life and Change the World About Scott ShigeokaScott Shigeoka is an internationally recognized curiosity expert, speaker, and author. He is known for translating research into strategies that promote positive well-being and connected relationships around the globe, including at the UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center and through his groundbreaking courses at the University of Texas at Austin. Scott implements his curiosity practices in the public sector, Fortune 500 companies, Hollywood, media organizations, education institutions, and small businesses.Related Episodes: 325. Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued with Janina Scarlet 302. Say the Right Thing with David Glasgow 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We are all affected by change in some way or another. Whether it is an economic crisis, a career change, a global pandemic, or having children, change is unavoidable. In this episode, we welcome back best-selling author Brad Stulberg to talk about his new book, Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing - Including You. Brad shares a new model for defining change and draws upon principles for developing a renewed mindset around change that is supported by modern science, ancient wisdom, and daily practice. Brad's insight serves as a powerful reminder to embrace change with a fresh outlook and is a beacon of inspiration for every individual navigating life's constant changes. Tune in and discover how to reframe your perception of change and explore new avenues for growth and self-discovery.Listen and Learn: Brad summarizes our current relationship with change as a modern society Are we functioning with change differently now than in the past? The concept of rugged flexibility The risks of too much fusion between identity and pursuit Taking skillful action to have the change shape you as well as to try to shape the change The concept of rugged and flexible action The importance of understanding rage versus pathways Resources: Visit Brads website Brad’s book, Master of Change: How to Excel When Everything Is Changing - Including You Follow Brad on Instagram, Twitter, and LinkedIn About Brad StulbergBrad Stulberg researches, writes, and coaches on health, well-being, and sustainable excellence. He is the bestselling author of The Practice of Groundedness and co-author of Peak Performance. Stulberg regularly contributes to the New York Times, and his work has been featured in the Wall Street Journal and the Atlantic, among many other publications. He is on faculty at the University of Michigan’s graduate School of Public Health. In his coaching practice, he works with executives, entrepreneurs, physicians, and athletes. He lives in Asheville, North Carolina. https://www.bradstulberg.com/ Related Episodes: 232. Grounded to Soar Into 2022 with Brad Stulberg 291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman 25. Resilience: Bouncing Back After Difficulty with Debbie and Rae 37. Post-Traumatic Growth with Diana and Debbie Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It is astounding how much information we are exposed to on a daily basis. But how can we transform information overload into opportunity? For this episode, we invited internationally recognized leading futurist, entrepreneur, and author Ross Dawson to the conversation to share valuable insights from his new book, "Thriving on Overload: The 5 Powers for Success in a World of Exponential Information" Ross gives his take on the challenges of information overload in today's digital age and provides a detailed roadmap for navigating the noise and making better-informed decisions about the information you engage in by harnessing five essential powers - Purpose, Framing, Filtering, Attention, and Synthesis. Listen and Learn: What is at risk if we don't train our brains and gain the habits, approaches, and behaviors that serve us well in this age of information overload? The power of understanding your purpose How to get more clear on what your purpose might be when making choices around engaging with information The power of filtering to decipher which information is most useful to you The power of framing in connecting information into meaningful patterns that build knowledge and insight How to harness your attention to maximize productivity Tips for becoming a better ‘synthesizer’ Using the five powers to go about mining and attending to information Reframing your perception from one of overload to abundance Resources: Find Ross at rossdawson.com or amplifyingcognition.com Thriving on Overload: The 5 Powers for Success in a World of Exponential Information Follow Ross on Twitter, Facebook or LinkedIn About Ross Dawson Ross Dawson is globally recognized as a leading futurist, entrepreneur, keynote speaker and strategy advisor. Ross is Founding Chairman of the Advanced Human Technologies group of companies and Bondi Innovation Alliance. He travels the world helping business and government leaders think about the future, having delivered keynotes and strategy workshops in over 30 countries across six continents. He is the bestselling author of five books, including Thriving on Overload: The 5 Powers for Success in a World of Exponential Information. Ross frequently appears in the media, including on CNN, Bloomberg TV, SkyNews, ABC TV, USA Today, the Today and Sunrise shows, and many other programs.Related episodes 317. Growing Up in Public with Devorah Heitner 307. Navigating Social Media As a Parent with Cara Goodwin 294. Yes And: Improv in Psychology with Kelly Leonard 127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively with Debbie and Diana Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The topic of weight and body image is more prevalent in today's society than ever before. Every day we are bombarded with messages that convey the thin ideal and encourage us to strive for certain body types. Sadly, what is often overlooked is the harmful impact of these societal expectations, especially on people who don't fit the narrow definition of beauty. Our guest for this episode is Dr. Sarah Pegrum, a clinical psychologist, ACT peer-reviewed trainer, and author of the groundbreaking book "Break the Binds of Weight Stigma." Sarah provides an insightful perspective into the role of weight stigma and anti-fat bias in our culture, as well as how the wellness and health industries perpetuate these prejudices for their own gain. We discuss how this, in turn, leads to shame and consequent unhealthy behaviors and underline the importance of analyzing the "obesity epidemic" narrative more critically, as it is often more complex than it is often portrayed. Tune in for this empowering conversation on breaking free from body image struggles using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy and start embracing life to the fullest!Listen and Learn: Sarah’s experience putting this book out into the world and her fears of being a voice on the topic of weight stigma and body image How weight stigma manifests itself in the media and everyday conversation Weight stigma and the negative impact it has on mental and physical health How does the sense of belonging and fitting in pertain to weight stigma? How our personal learning history may contribute to issues surrounding body image How we get into patterns of avoidance and control and how that can be problematic The emotional impact of weight stigma How important is it to feel positive about your own body to have a healthier relationship with it? How to apply the acceptance part of acceptance and commitment therapy when we aren't feeling so positive about our bodies Sarah’s words of wisdom for people consumed by thoughts of body criticism What needs to change at the cultural level in terms of weight stigma and discrimination? Resources: Sarah’s website Order your copy of Sarah’s book, Break the Binds of Weight Stigma: Free Yourself from Body Image Struggles Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Related Episodes: 68. Body Image and Eating Disorders with Emily Sandoz 151. Intuitive Eating with Evelyn Tribole 129. Yoga for All and Body Kindness with Jennifer Webb 231. Eating Skills and Emotional Eating with Josh Hillis 264. Raising Intuitive Eaters with Sumner Brooks and Amee Severson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Unseen, unheard, undervalued - have you ever felt like that? As our guest this week, Dr. Janina Scarlet, a licensed clinical psychologist, points out, these feelings, while understandable, can be overcome. In Janina's mission to de-stigmatize loneliness and help people connect and support one another, she authored the book 'Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued: Managing Loneliness, Loss of Connection and Not Fitting in’ which serves as the backdrop for the conversation in this episode. You'll hear how to combat loneliness by understanding its dimensions, talking more about our experiences with loneliness, and seeking emotional support and self-compassion. Janina also offers many helpful tips, from finding and cultivating a ‘chosen family’ who truly sees, hears, and values you to transforming how you feel and react to shame. Don't miss this enriching conversation with Dr. Janina Scarlett!Listen and Learn: What inspired Janina to write a book that de-stigmatizes the experience of loneliness Why psychical loneliness and the feeling of loneliness are not the same thing The components of loneliness - to be unseen, unheard, and unvalued How to change the way you respond to shame How loneliness can be addressed differently The significance of forming relationships with people who see, hear, and value you How to speak about and address your own feelings of loneliness using Janina’s ‘journaling in two parts’ exercise Using ‘savoring’ as a practice to experience being fully present Finding your ‘chosen family’ Resources: Find out more about Dr. Janina Scarlet at her website Order your copy of Unseen, Unheard, Undervalued: Managing Loneliness, Loss of Connection and Not Fitting in Follow Janina on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok About Janina Scarlet Dr. Janina Scarlet is a licensed clinical psychologist, an award-winning author, and a full-time geek. A Ukrainian-born refugee, she survived Chernobyl radiation and persecution. She immigrated to the United States at the age of 12 with her family and later, inspired by the X-Men, developed Superhero Therapy to help patients with anxiety, depression, and PTSD. Dr. Scarlet is the recipient of the Eleanor Roosevelt Human Rights Award by the United Nations Association for her work on Superhero Therapy. Her work has been featured on Yahoo!, the BBC, NPR, Sunday Times, CNN, CW, ABC, The New York Times, Forbes and many other outlets. She regularly consults on books and television shows, including HBO’s The Young Justice. She was also portrayed as a comic book character in Gail Simone’s Seven Days graphic novel. Dr. Scarlet is the Lead Trauma Specialist at the Trauma and PTSD Healing Center and the Lead Creativity Coach at Creative Community in San Diego, California.Related Episodes: 147. Extending Compassion with Janina Scarlet and Sara Schairer 32. Social Connection: Exploring Loneliness and Building Intimacy with Debbie and Diana 269. Connection Through Vulnerability with Rikke Kjelgaard 199. Belonging From the Inside Out with Meg McKelvie 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Students in high-achieving schools across America are facing increased rates of anxiety, depression, and self-harm due to intense pressure to succeed. This leads educators, parents, and community leaders to grapple with a difficult question: how can we encourage excellence while avoiding overwhelming our children? In this episode, co-host Emily Edlynn interviews award-winning reporter Jennifer B. Wallace about her book, 'Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-And What We Can Do About It'. Jennifer draws importance to the framework of “mattering” as a healthy way to motivate success and shares key findings from her three-year investigation into the root of anxieties and fears parents have regarding their children's success in today's world. Additionally, she sheds light on the impact of economic scarcity and intensive parenting and offers practical strategies to combat a toxic achievement culture at home. This is a conversation not to be missed! Listen and Learn: Why The Varsity Blues scandal inspired Jennifer to write about toxic achievement culture What is toxic achievement culture? What Jennifer learned from spending three years with families struggling with achievement culture while researching for her book and how it affected her on a personal level The risks that toxic achievement cultures pose for children and teenagers How to buffer against achievement culture at home by using the Puppy Dog Principle to minimize criticism and prioritize affection The ways in which economic scarcity contributes to achievement pressures The impact and experience of achievement pressure on families of color versus white families How to lead with mattering in your parenting to give your kids healthy, sustaining motivation The consequences of sacrificing your own mattering for the sake of your children's needs How Jennifer sees intensive parenting contributing to toxic achievement culture and what we can do about it Understanding grind culture and how it intersects with what Jennifer calls an ‘increasingly narrow definition of success’ What you can do to prioritize rest and moderation over productivity and achievement Resources: Visit Jennifer's website Go check out The Mattering Movement Order your copy of Jennifer’s book 'Never Enough: When Achievement Culture Becomes Toxic-And What We Can Do About It' Follow Jennifer on Facebook and Instagram About Jennifer Wallace Jennifer Wallace is an award-winning journalist and author of the New York Times bestselling book Never Enough: When Achievement Pressure Becomes Toxic – and What We Can Do About It. She is a frequent contributor to The Wall Street Journal and The Washington Post and appears on national television to discuss her articles and relevant topics in the news. After graduating from Harvard College, Wallace began her journalism career at CBS “60 Minutes,” where she was part of a team that won The Robert F. Kennedy Awards for Excellence in Journalism. She is a Journalism Fellow at The Center for Parent and Teen Communication at the Children’s Hospital of Philadelphia.Jennifer serves on the board of the Coalition for the Homeless in New York City, where she lives with her husband and their three children.Related Episodes 319. Autonomy-Supportive Parenting with the AMAZING Emily Edlynn 306. Screaming on the Inside: The Challenges of American Motherhood with Jessica Grose 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 272. Middle School Matters with Phyllis Fagell 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The secret is finally out! We’re kicking off an amazing new chapter for POTC this week as we reveal our two latest additions to the cohost team - Emily Edlynn and Michael Herold! It’s going to be a blast having them aboard, and we can't wait for you to discover all the invaluable wisdom and ideas they have to offer in the realm of psychology. With Emily's insight into science-based parenting guidance and Michael’s background in confidence and social skills training, they bring such a refreshing and relatable perspective, and we feel privileged to have them join the team. Listen in to get to know them better and hear what our team is most looking forward to as we start this new journey together!Listen and Learn: Introducing our new cohosts! Getting to know Emily and Michael on a personal and professional level In a quick-fire round of questions, find out who worked on a Sean Connery movie, who got an email from author Bonnie Garmis, and who would like to be a hip-hop dancer in an alternate reality. What the team are most excited about as they start this next chapter of POTC Resources Visit Michael’s website Watch Michael’s TEDx talk, ‘What if I Had a Time Machine?’ Follow Michael on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter and LinkedIn Visit Emily’s website Follow Emily on on Facebook, Instagram, Twitter Order your copy of Emily’s book, ‘Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children’ About Michael HeroldMichael is a confidence trainer and social skills coach, based in Vienna, Austria. He's helping his clients overcome their social anxiety through Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and fun exposure exercises. (Though the jury is still out on whether they're mostly fun for him)He is also a certified therapeutic game master, utilizing the Dungeons&Dragons tabletop roleplaying game to train communication, assertiveness, and teamwork with young adults. Or actually, anyone ready to roll some dice and battle goblins in a supportive group where players want to level up (pun!) their social skills.Michael is the head coach of the L.A. based company The Art of Charm, running their confidence-building program “Unstoppable” as well as workshops on small talk, storytelling, vulnerability, and more. He is the scientific advisor and co-producer of their large podcast with more than 250 million downloads. As a member of the Association for Contextual Behavioral Science (ACBS), Michael is the current President of the ACT Coaching Special Interest Group with nearly 1,000 coaches worldwide, and the co-founder of the ACT in Austria Affiliate of ACBS, a nationwide meetup for ACT practitioners in Austria.He's a public speaker who has spoken at TEDx, in front of members of parliament, universities, and once in a cinema full of 500 kids high on sugary popcorn.About Emily Edlynn Emily (she/her) is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in pediatric health psychology who works in private practice with children, teens, and adults. She has a BA in English from Smith College, a PhD in clinical psychology from Loyola University Chicago, and completed postgraduate training at Stanford and Children’s Hospital Orange County. Emily spent almost ten years working in children’s hospitals before pivoting to private practice, which allowed her to start a writing career. Emily has written her blog, The Art and Science of Mom, since 2017 and a parenting advice column for Parents.com since 2019. Emily’s writing has also appeared in the Washington Post, Scary Mommy, Good Housekeeping, Motherly, and more. She recently added author to her bio with her book, Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent Confident Children and has a Substack newsletter. Emily lives with her husband, three children, and two rescue dogs in Oak Park, IL where she can see Chicago’s skyline from her attic window. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In a bittersweet episode of POTC, we say farewell to our dear friend, Yael Schonbrun, who, after six cherished years on Psychologists Off The Clock, is stepping down from her seat as cohost. We take this opportunity to express our deepest gratitude for Yael's brilliant contributions, chat about decision-making tips, reflect on some of Yael's most influential episodes, and discuss what Yael will miss most about her role as cohost. Plus, we give a sneak peek at some exciting new developments within the team! Yael, we are so honored to have had you on this podcasting adventure with us! We can’t wait to have you back on as a guest soon!Listen and Learn: Yael walks us through her tough decision to step down as cohost and also imparts tips for navigating your own decisions in life What new ventures lie ahead for Yael as she embarks on the next chapter of her career? The POTC guests and episodes that had the most influence on Yael Jill and Debbie express their gratitude for Yael and reflect on the beautiful relationship they have all developed over the years What’s next for POTC? Resources: Visit Yael’s website Sign up for Yael’s newsletter Relational: The Art and Science of Connections Grab your copy of Yael's book, Work Parent Thrive Follow Yael on Twitter and Instagram Mary Louise Kelly’s book, It. Goes. So. Fast. About Yael SchonbrunYael Schonbrun, Ph.D. is a practicing clinical psychologist, assistant professor at Brown University, relationship specialist, and a mom of three. She is the author of Work, Parent, Thrive, and her writing on work, parenting, and relationships has appeared in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Greater Good Science Center, Behavioral Scientist, and Tricycle, among others. Her newsletter, Relational, releases bi-monthly and shares science-backed ideas and practices to grow connections. She is also newly retired from her post as Psychologists Off the Clock Co-host.Related Episodes: 24. Choosing Both: Straddling Meaningful Career and Parenthood with Yael Schonbrun 73. Essentialism with Greg McKeown 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 232. Grounded to Soar Into 2022 with Brad Stulberg 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 293. Quit with Annie Duke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever experienced the unsettling feeling of not being good enough despite all of your achievements? Do you fear being exposed as a fraud in your professional life? Prepare to be enlightened as we discuss the uncomfortable reality of imposterism with our extraordinary cohost, seasoned psychologist, and eminent author, Dr. Jill Stoddard. Jill has dedicated her professional career to helping people reach their full potential, a quest she is celebrating with the release of her latest book, Imposter No More. With her profound understanding of imposterism and her own journey to overcome self-doubt, Jill joins us for a candid conversation about defeating your inner imposter.Diving deep into the phenomenon of imposterism, Jill shares her own stories of overcoming imposter thoughts, explores its evolutionary roots and its prevalence across genders, and underscores the importance of cultivating psychological flexibility. She also guides us through practical exercises to set ourselves free from the cycles of experiential avoidance. Tune in to learn how to conquer your own imposter thoughts and take courageous steps toward your fears and insecurities to lead a more fulfilling life! Listen and Learn: Jill's own story of imposterism in joining POTC The difference between Jill’s book, Impostor No More, and other professional success books How imposter thoughts might be trying to help or protect you Who is most at risk of imposter thoughts? How do imposter thoughts affect men and women differently? Why the term imposter syndrome is no longer used Imposterisms opposite - The Dunning-Kruger effect How to know when to listen to imposter thoughts versus when to shift your attention away What is experiential avoidance, and how does it contribute to problems caused by imposter thoughts? How to combat imposterism with the Four P’s How Jill overcame the fear of giving a TED Talk by asking herself, ‘what would Oprah do?’ Resources: Learn more about Jill via her website Find out your imposter subtype by taking Jill’s quiz Get your copy of Jill’s latest book,Imposter No More: Overcome Self-Doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career Join Jill for her workshop titled Use Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT) to Help Clients Overcome Imposter "Syndrome" at the Innovations in Psychotherapy conference on October 12th-15th in beautiful Anaheim, CA. About Jill StoddardJill Stoddard is passionate about sharing science-backed ideas from psychology to help people thrive. She is a psychologist, writer, TEDx speaker, award-winning teacher, peer-reviewed ACT trainer, and co-host of the popular Psychologists Off the Clock podcast. Dr. Stoddard is the author of three books: The Big Book of ACT Metaphors: A Practitioner’s Guide to Experiential Exercises and Metaphors in Acceptance and Commitment Therapy; Be Mighty: A Woman’s Guide to Liberation from Anxiety, Worry, and Stress Using Mindfulness and; and Imposter No More: Overcome Self-doubt and Imposterism to Cultivate a Successful Career. Her writing has also appeared in Psychology Today, Scary Mommy, Thrive Global, The Good Men Project, and Mindful Return. She regularly appears on podcasts and as an expert source for various media outlets. She lives in Newburyport, MA with her husband, two kids, and disobedient French Bulldog. Related Episodes: 189. Imposter Syndrome with Jill and Debbie 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 173. Confidence, Self-Doubt, and Overcoming Limitations with Michael Herold 107. Playing Big with Tara Mohr 1. Taking a Leap Into Something Meaningful Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s natural for us to have feelings of anger as we navigate the obstacles of life, but if left unaddressed, they can easily consume us and negatively impact our lives in more ways than one. Forgiveness, on the other hand, can help us let go of anger, improve our mental health, and maintain healthier relationships. To explore these closely connected topics, we are thrilled to welcome back therapist Robyn Walser, who co-authored The Act Workbook for Anger alongside Manuela O'Connell. Through Robyn’s pool of expertise and her own learning history with anger, we discuss the significance of identifying the root cause of anger, in addition to how social messages, context, and cultural influences can contribute to the way we perceive and manage it. Robyn also shows us how to react to and express anger in ways that are more effective and aligned with our core values, and how, through forgiveness, we can restore relationships and pave the way to deeper healing. Join us to glean wisdom for Robyn and embark on a journey of self-discovery and a more fulfilling life!Listen and Learn: Robyn’s learning history of anger as a child and the impact it had How social messages, culture, and context affect how we understand, express, and perceive anger Why do we experience anger, and why is the emotion itself not necessarily problematic? How to recognize anger through feelings, physiological sensations, thoughts, and actions The power of expressing anger effectively What does it mean to forgive others and yourself? Resources: Learn more about Robyn’s upcoming training on ACT for Suicidal Behavior Robyn’s Healing Trauma with A T Training The Act Workbook for Anger by Robyn Walser and Manuela O'Connell TLConstulation Services Follow Robyn on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook About Robyn WalserRobyn D. Walser, PhD, works as a consultant, workshop presenter, and therapist in her private business, TLConsultation Services. She received her doctorate in clinical psychology from the University of Nevada, Reno. During her graduate studies, she developed expertise in traumatic stress, substance abuse, and acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT). She has been doing ACT workshop trainings, both nationally and internationally, since 1998, training in multiple formats and for multiple client problems.She is the author of several books, including The ACT Workbook for Anger, Learning ACT, The Heart of ACT, and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy for the Treatment of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder and Trauma-Related Problems. Related Episodes: 309. The Language of Emotions with Karla McLaren 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 106. Therapy from “The Heart of ACT” with Robyn Walser 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 190. ACT for Suicide Prevention with Sean Barnes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We all want to raise our children to be self-sufficient and to explore their own identities, but it can be difficult to strike a balance between control and support. For this episode, we enlisted the guidance of Clinical Psychologist Emily Edlynn, who, through her book ‘Autonomy-Supportive Parenting’, provides parental strategies that encourage your kids to have autonomy while also establishing boundaries. We love how Emily’s compassionate, very non-judgmental approach alleviates some of the responsibilities that parents take on. You'll get so many helpful on-the-ground tools for instilling independence in your children and fostering motivation without imposing control. She also touches on questions about giving children allowances, navigating privacy, and how to reward your children in a positive way. Listen in to find out more about Emily's powerful parenting framework!Listen and Learn: How Emily's book stands out by translating evidence from parenting research into a digestible practical guide The internal and external factors that might contribute to controlling parenting Adopting autonomy-supportive parenting as a way to step away from controlling behavior without giving up the responsibility of engaging in parenting that helps shape your children in healthy ways? Strategies for encouraging active participation in chores Why academic achievement has become a real pitfall for controlling parenting Are there advantages to giving your child an allowance? Navigating privacy from an autonomy-supportive parenting perspective when you might be concerned about your child’s safety Resources: Emily’s website Emily’sbook Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children Emily’s substack The Art and Science of Mom Ask Your Mom Follow Emily on Instagram, Twitter, Facebook and LinkedIn About Emily EdlynnEmily Edlynn, PhD, is a licensed clinical psychologist in private practice with specialized training in pediatric health psychology. She's the author of parenting blog The Art and Science of Mom, as well as the upcoming book Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children.Dr. Edlynn has worked as a pediatric health psychologist in two large urban hospitals and was previously an assistant professor at University of Colorado Denver School of Medicine. She's currently the Director of Pediatric Behavioral Medicine at a private practice in Oak Park, Illinois. Dr. Edlynn writes a parenting blog, The Art and Science of Mom, and has penned the advice column, Ask Your Mom, for Parents since 2019. Dr. Edlynn has been featured as a parenting expert across national outlets and is the author of Autonomy-Supportive Parenting: Reduce Parental Burnout and Raise Competent, Confident Children.Related Episodes: 14. Mindful Parenting 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud 94. Parenthood in the Age of Fear with Kim Brooks 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak 137. The Complexities of Motherhood with Daphne de Marneffe 146. Parental Burnout with Lisa Coyne 149. How Not Lose It with Your Kids with Carla Naumburg 194. How to Be (and raise) an Adult with Julie Lythcott-Haims 253. Free Range Kids with Lenore Skenazy 258. How to Have a Kid and a Life with Erika Souter 267. You are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 143. Happier Parenting KJ Dell’Antonia Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you are struggling to make positive changes in your life, our interview with Dr. Michelle Drapkin is full of inspiration on prioritizing and being compassionate with yourself, even when facing setbacks. As we dig into research-proven strategies from Michelle’s new self-help book, The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change, you’ll learn how motivational interviewing works and helps you move in the direction of what's important to you and your values. If you feel stuck or unsure about where to start, Michelle's tips on identifying targets for change and how to get unstuck using change talk will help you gain clarity and momentum. Tune in to learn how to harness your intrinsic motivation so that you can understand the "Why" behind your journey and make changes that last! Listen and Learn: What is motivational interviewing? The stages of change and why they’re not linear Is Michelle’s book, The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change, suitable for everyone, no matter your stage of change? Is there a more skillful way to identify targets for change and goals? Change begins with the DARN CAT Sustained talk vs. change talk Michelle's top tips for creating behavioral change What to do if you encounter a setback Resources: Visit Dr. Michelle Drapkin’s website Get your copy of Michelle's book, The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You Want The CBT Center Follow Michelle on LinkedIn How to Change by Katy Milkman About Michelle DrapkinDr. Michelle Drapkin has been working in the area of behavior change for over 20 years. She is the Owner/Director of the CBT Center and previously held roles as a Senior Behavioral Scientist at BetterUp, where she worked to advance the science and practice of evidence-based coaching in the workplace, and at Johnson and Johnson where she led the development and deployment of behavior change interventions, including an intervention for wellbeing and mindfulness. She held a national position at the Department of Veterans Affairs and was on faculty at the University of Pennsylvania. She is a board-certified Clinical Psychologist who sees patients in her private practice, consults with healthcare tech startups, and delivers trainings and workshops on communication, motivation, health, and well-being at work and in life. She is the author of The Motivational Interviewing Path to Personal Change: The Essential Workbook for Creating the Life You Want.Related Episodes: 297. School of Hard Talks with Emily Kline 243. Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 167. Get Curious and Change Unhealthy Habits with Judson Brewer 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing with Nadine Mastroleo Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In this age of technology, our children are more exposed than ever before. As parents, it falls upon us to educate and mentor them in responsibly navigating boundaries, identity, privacy, and reputation. For this episode, we bring you Devorah Heitner, who, in her most recent book titled Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in the Digital World, touches on many important strategies for guiding our children to live in a digital world where privacy is nonexistent and judgment is unavoidable. Devorah's book could not have come at a better time and is a tremendously valuable resource for parents, kids, and community members to draw from because she offers so much advice on having meaningful conversations with your kids that foster trust and create connectedness. Listen and Learn: What motivated Devorah to explore the idea that our children's childhoods are much more public than ours? What impact do constant surveillance and digital exposure have on child development? Tips for guiding children to make thoughtful decisions in the digital age Why a fear-based approach to protecting your child's safety can breed increased secrecy and distrust How to move from monitoring to mentoring when teaching your kids how to wisely engage with technology Educating your children when it comes to exposure to sex and pornography online Why it’s important to talk with your kids about the risk of sexting and practicing safe-sexting Devorah shares her recommendations for kids' educational resources What is intrinsic motivation, and how does it relate to our modern world's omnipresent grade apps? Resources: Devorah Heitner’s website Devorah’s books, Growing Up in Public, Coming of Age in the Digital World and Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World Scarleteen and Girlology Devorah’s Substack - Mentoring Kids in a Connected World Follow Devorah on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter Books referenced in this episode: Out: A Parent's Guide to Supporting Your Lgbtqia+ Kid Through Coming Out and Beyond by John Sovec It’s Perfectly Normal by Robie H. Harris This Is So Awkward: Modern Puberty Explained by Cara Natterson and Vanessa Kroll Bennett About Devorah HeitnerDr. Devorah Heitner is an author who specializes in helping kids navigate tech using practical, research-informed approaches. She has a Ph.D. in Media/Technology & Society from Northwestern University and has taught at DePaul and Northwestern. Her work on mentoring kids in a connected world has appeared in the New York Times, The Washington Post, The Wall Street Journal, and CNN Opinion. She is a mother of a teenager of her own and the author of Screenwise: Helping Kids Thrive (and Survive) in Their Digital World and Growing Up in Public: Coming of Age in a Digital World which we are here to discuss today. Related Episodes: 78. The Self-Driven Child with Dr. William Stixrud 61. The Gift of Failure with Jessica Leahy 194. How to Be (and Raise) an Adult 297. School of Hard Talks with Emily Kline 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers 307. Navigating Social Media as a Parent with Cara Goodwin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Addiction is a frightening disorder with complex root causes, affecting a staggering one in every five people over the age of 14. To explore the intricate nature of addiction, we invited Dr. Judith Grisel, a renowned psychology professor at Bucknell University and the author of Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction, to the conversation. What makes this conversation so powerful is not only Dr. Grisels wealth of knowledge but also her ability to explain complicated ideas in such a relatable way. And what’s even more remarkable is her own history with substance abuse and how, with effective treatment and understanding, she embarked on her own thirty-plus-year road to recovery. Combining science-based understanding with learned experience, Judith explains how addiction affects the brain, the social, psychological, and genetic factors that play a part, as well as the value of de-stigmatization, support, and early treatment. Whether you or someone you love has been impacted by addiction, her insights, and transformational story are sure to provide guidance and hope.Listen and Learn: Judith details her own experience with substance abuse and explains what it did for her on a psychological level What is the link between genetic liability and substance use during adolescent years that makes individuals more susceptible to addiction? Why the use of drugs is not a moral weakness Can even moderate use of alcohol be detrimental to your health and well-being? The neurological process that happens when it comes to addiction The turning point that motivated Judith's road to recovery Why support, early treatment, and curiosity could be the keys to your recovery Are some drugs harder to quit than others? The opposite of addiction isn't sobriety; it's freedom What can society do to combat the underlying causes of addiction? Resources: Learn more about Judith Judith’s book Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction - TED Talk by Judith Grisel About Judith GriselDr. Judith Grisel is a behavioral neuroscientist with a particular interest in addiction. Her research attempts to identify psychological and genetic factors that lead some people to develop drug addictions while others in similar circumstances do not. Grisel’s work is inspired by her own personal experience with addiction, a struggle she chronicled in her book Never Enough: The Neuroscience and Experience of Addiction. The work, which appeared on the New York Times bestseller list for science books, established Grisel as a leading expert on the science of substance abuse. That reputation earned her an invitation to speak on addiction panels at the 2020 World Economic Forum.Related Episodes: 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher 286. Not Drinking Tonight with Amanda White Episode 101. The Complete Family Guide to Addiction with Thomas Harrison and Hillary Connery Episode 155. Mindfulness and Recovery with Rebecca Williams Episode 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey Episode 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It’s time to talk about menopause. Despite being such a pivotal stage in a woman's development, it does not always receive the acknowledgment it deserves. And with half of the population affected by menopause, it’s about time we started talking about it loud and proud!Helping us unpack the whirlwind of physical and emotional changes women experience as they go through this transition is Jancee Dunn, columnist, perimenopause warrior, and author of Hot and Bothered, who shares her insightful thoughts. As we laugh and learn about the ups and downs of menopause, you’ll hear about the 30+ symptoms (yep, you read that right!), and we've got you covered with intimacy tips, the best treatments to ease the discomfort, and even some surprising positives about this stage of life. No matter your gender identity, we welcome everyone to join us for this refreshingly hilarious and eye-opening journey!Listen and Learn: The experiences Jancee went through with menopause that inspired her to write Hot and Bothered Why Jancee advises confiding in loved ones—even your kids—when going through menopause Some well-known and lesser-known menopausal symptoms Understanding estrogen and progesterone through the lawnmower metaphor Why you should avoid blood tests to determine menopause The fascinating link between hot flashes, sleep, and weight gain How menopause can impact sex and intimacy, as well as tips for a more comfortable experience! Does menopausal hormone therapy treat all symptoms of menopause, and what are the risks and benefits? The upside of menopause Resources: Jancee Dunn’s website Hot and Bothered: What No One Tells You About Menopause and How to Feel Like Yourself Again Follow Jancee on Instagram and Facebook For trained menopause specialists, visit The North American Menopause Society (NAMS). About Jancee DunnJancee Dunn is the New York Times bestselling author of nine books, including a memoir and a biography of Cyndi Lauper. Her essay collection Why Is My Mother Getting a Tattoo? was a finalist for the Thurber Prize for American Humor. Her last book, How Not To Hate Your Husband After Kids, was published in twelve languages. She is a frequent contributor to The New York Times, Vogue, and Health. She was a sex columnist at GQ and had a column that addressed ethical dilemmas in O, The Oprah Magazine. She lives in New Jersey with her husband, the author Tom Vanderbilt, and their daughter.Related Episodes: 92. Marriage in Midlife: The Rough Patch with Daphne de Marneffe 121. Be Mighty: An Episode for Stressed Out, Worried Women with Jill Stoddard 132. The Joy Of Movement With Kelly McGonigal 175. How to Sleep Better with Rafael Pelayo 204. Ageless with Andrew Steele 248. Let’s Talk About Sex & Intimacy with Zoë Kors Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you enjoyed our most recent episode, Episode 314, Munchausen by proxy with Andrea Dunlop and Marc Feldman on Munchausen by Proxy syndrome, you won’t want to miss Andrea’s podcast, Nobody Should Believe Me. In this special bonus episode, we are bringing our listeners the very first episode of Nobody Should Believe Me. Andrea shares how she first became captivated by the story of Hope Ybarra–who spent ten years in prison for Munchausen by Proxy–and begins to unpack the many similarities between Hope’s case and Andrea’s own family story.About Andrea DunlopAndrea Dunlop is the host and creator of NOBODY SHOULD BELIEVE ME, an investigative true crime podcast that is consistently in the top 20 on the Apple True Crime charts. Andrea is the founder of Munchausen Support, an online resource and non-profit that supports survivors and families. She is a member of the American Professional Society on the Abuse of Children’s Munchausen by proxy committee where she serves alongside some of the country’s foremost experts. Andrea is the author of four novels: Losing the Light (Atria; 2016), She Regrets Nothing (Atria: 2018), We Came Here to Forget (Atria; 2019), and Women Are the Fiercest Creatures (Zibby Books; 2023) Her work has been featured in places like Vanity Fair, People, Entertainment Weekly, ABC News Live, and elsewhere. She is currently working on a non-fiction book based on the podcast, co-authored with Detective Mike Weber that is forthcoming from St. Martin’s Press in 2024. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Munchausen by Proxy Syndrome (MBPS) is a psychological disorder that you may have heard whispers about in the media in which a person, usually a parent, fakes or induces a medical condition in another person to gain attention. In most cases, it is the mother of a child who pretends or even causes medical symptoms the child does not actually have.To shed light on this highly complex topic, we brought in the expertise of Andrea Dunlop, founder of Munchausen Support, and Marc Feldman, a renowned specialist in factitious disorder, Munchausen syndrome, and Munchausen by proxy. Through personal experiences, real-life cases, and scientific research, they educate us on the underlying motivations behind this behavior, including the desire for attention and emotional gratification.The conversation also touches on the range of behaviors associated with Munchausen by Proxy, from subtle forms of overmedicalization to extreme cases involving active induction of illness. Andrea and Marc stress the need to acknowledge and address these behaviors, as well as provide support and resources for survivors and their families. Find out how we can support people affected by these complex disorders by tuning in.Listen and Learn: Andrea shares her personal experience with the topic after her sister was investigated for medical child abuse The distinctions between Munchausen syndrome and Munchausen by proxy Are Munchausen syndrome patients, or Munchausen by proxy perpetrators, deliberately deceitful? What kind of satisfaction does Munchausen syndrome cause to motivate such pathological behavior? Can factitious disorder behaviors occur in both real life and online? How do we recognize the signs of Munchausen syndrome, or Munchausen by proxy? Does Munchausen behavior always lead someone to be the perpetrator? Where to find resources and information about Munchausen What we can do to prevent abuse inflicted by Munchausen by proxy Are we bad at recognizing female violence? Is rehabilitation possible? Resources: Website for Dr. Marc Feldman Websites for Andrea Dunlop’s writing and Munchausen by Proxy advocacy work with resources Follow Andrea on Instagram Nobody Should Believe Me Podcast hosted and created by Andrea Dunlop The Spectrum of Factitious Disorders and Dying to Be Ill: True Stories of Medical Deception by Marc Feldman Munchausen syndrome by proxy. The Hinterland of Child Abuse an article by Roy Meadow APSAC: American Professional Society Abuse Children Munchausen By Proxy Warning Signs Psychological Treatment of Factitious Disorder Imposed on Another/Munchausen by Proxy Abuse by Mary J. Sanders and Brenda Bursch Related Episodes: 98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In the treatment of anxiety, panic disorder, and OCD, exposure therapy has long been recognized as the gold standard. But what if there was an even more powerful approach to confronting your fears or trauma?For this episode, we welcome two esteemed guests, Dr. Brian Thompson and Dr. Brian Pilecki to uncover the transformative impact of blending traditional exposure therapy with the principles of ACT.Through practical examples from their groundbreaking book, ACT-Informed Exposure for Anxiety, we learn about the significance of acceptance, values, and how clinicians can incorporate ACT concepts into exposure sessions, emphasizing the power of creativity and psychological flexibility in the therapeutic process. This is a must-listen for anyone seeking a deeper understanding of cutting-edge anxiety interventions. Tune in for an experience that could radically change your relationship with anxiety forever!Listen and Learn: What is traditional exposure therapy? Why choose ACT-informed exposure therapy over traditional exposure therapy? The impact of psychological flexibility How those who experience anxiety disorders may get caught up in rule-governed behavior How rule-governed behaviors are undermined by ACT-informed exposure What exactly is creative hopelessness, and how is it applied to ACT-informed exposure for anxiety? Is there a structure to ACT-informed exposure? Examples of how exposure therapy incorporates ACT principles The common obstacles that can show up for a client or therapist when doing ACT-informed exposure Resources: Brian Pilecki, Ph.D. Brian Thompson, Ph.D The Cruelest Cure - New York Times article by Lauren Slater Act-Informed Exposure for Anxiety: Creating Effective, Innovative, and Values-Based Exposures Using Acceptance and Commitment Therapy by Brian L. Thompson, Brian C. Pilecki and Joanne C. Chan Altered States of Context Podcast Related Episodes: 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 287. Think, Act, Be with Seth Gillihan 212. Stuff That’s Loud with Lisa Coyne & Ben Sedley 188. Unwinding Anxiety with Judson Brewer 181. Stop Avoiding Stuff with Matt Boone 121. Be Mighty with Jill Stoddard 309. Language of Emotions with Karla McClaren Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Have you ever considered that, while being super focused can be a positive quality, it may also have its drawbacks? Think about it: when you channel your attention so intensely on one thing, you could be neglecting a whole realm of valuable information and stimuli out there.Embark on a journey with us into the mysterious world of illusions! Piggy-backing off of the previous episode on the science of deception, we are taking you back in time to revisit an eleven-year-old conversation between Debbie and Christopher Chabris for the New Books Network about, "The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us ". Through this captivating book, you’ll discover how to view the world through the lens of illusions and how our perceptions can be deceived. From the illusion of attention, flashbulb memory, and The Mozart Effect to the illusions of confidence and knowledge, challenge your assumptions and gain insight into how our brains can be tricked and our decision-making influenced.Listen and Learn: How was The Gorilla Experiment conceived, and what were the key findings? What did the experiment reveal about attention in particular? How the illusion of attention can affect our daily lives Why do we not notice significant changes in our visual world when our attention is distracted? Do we actually pay attention to our memories? The illusion of knowledge and how it pertains to investing Why do we think we know cause and effect better than we actually do? The Mozart Effect: is it really beneficial to our cognitive abilities? The illusion of potential and why we have the tendency to believe that there are quick and easy ways to achieve dramatic results How to change your environment to make you less prone to falling victim to these illusions Resources: Christopher Chabris The Invisible Gorilla: And Other Ways Our Intuitions Deceive Us by Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons Follow Christopher on Twitter Original interview on New Books Network About Christopher ChabrisDr. Christopher Chabris is a cognitive scientist who has taught at Union College and Harvard University and is a Fellow of the Association for Psychological Science. His research focuses on decision-making, attention, intelligence, and behavior genetics. Chris received his Ph.D. in psychology and A.B. in computer science from Harvard University. He is a chess master, poker amateur, and games enthusiast; for three years he wrote the “Game On” column in The Wall Street.Related Episodes: 311. Nobody’s Fool with Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris 42. Strategies To Increase Focus And Work More Effectively with Debbie and Diana 127. Indistractable with Nir Eyal 20. Phones, Games, And Screens: Sustainable Technology Use 13. Healthy Aging and the Brain Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Deception is everywhere. Fake psychics, dodgy investment deals, cults, and pesky scam calls can be hard to detect, even for the smartest or most vigilant individuals. This poses the question of what makes us vulnerable and what precautions we can take? Joining us for this episode are two exceptional cognitive scientists, Christopher Chabris and Daniel Simons. Through studies and findings from their highly anticipated book, "Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It" they provide us with valuable insight into how to navigate the treacherous world of deception. In this fascinating conversation, Christopher and Daniel unveil the cognitive biases that plague us all while offering practical ways to safeguard ourselves from being duped. Drawing upon real-life situations, they come equipped with an arsenal of tactics that can be incorporated into your daily life and that won't breed paranoia or leave you in a perpetual state of vigilance—quite the opposite! Their goal is to provide you with the knowledge to navigate life confidently, cautiously, and securely.Listen and Learn: Is everyone susceptible to being duped? How have Daniel and Christopher become savvier at recognizing scams as a result of writing and researching their book, Nobody’s Fool? Daniel's clever suggestion for protecting your family from scam calls How ‘truth bias’ can make us more vulnerable in day-to-day life Why do we often fail to see something that's right in front of us? Even something so glaringly apparent? Principle of focus: what does it mean, and how is it used as a means to deceive? How our beliefs and expectations can deter us from seeing what is actually there and how to avoid falling victim to the trap Why it's crucial to consider all of the information that you're missing when interpreting information or data that is presented to you How can we protect ourselves from being fooled when the risk is high? The “illusory truth effect”: why do we have a tendency to treat familiarity as a sign of fact? How can we find that balance between accepting the truth bias and being cautious? Resources: Christopher Chabris Follow Christopher on Twitter Daniel Simons Follow Daniel on Twitter Nobody's Fool, Why We Get Taken In, and What We Can Do About It The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us Gorilla Experiment Influence: Science and Practice by Robert Cialdini About Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris:Daniel Simons and Christopher Chabris are the authors of the 2010 New York Times Bestseller, The Invisible Gorilla: How Our Intuitions Deceive Us, which has been translated into 20 languages. They have collaborated on research for more than 25 years, and they jointly received the 2004 Ig Nobel Prize (given for research that "first makes you laugh and then makes you think"). They have contributed to The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Times, Slate, and other national publications, and their work has appeared in science museums worldwide. They spent nearly a decade researching and writing Nobody’s Fool.Related Episodes: 295. Buyer Beware: Pseudoscience and the Wellness Industry, featuring Pooja Lakshmin 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman 305. The Power of Saying No with Vanessa Patrick 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab: 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Our expectations can shape how we navigate life in more ways than one. Expectations help us prepare, but not just through action; there are actual physiological changes that occur when we're anticipating certain things.David Robson, "an award-winning science writer who focuses on the extremes of the human brain, body, and behavior", joins us for this episode. Through practical takeaways founded on scientific theory from his book, The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World, David opens our minds to a fun and transformative look at the fantastical power that the mind has in making expectations a reality.Learn useful tools that you can use to your benefit, both in terms of increasing positive experiences and better managing the harder experiences that are unavoidable. Tune in for this game-changing episode that will shift your perspective and day-to-day experience in some fascinating and surprising ways. Listen and Learn: Why David describes the mind as a prediction machine Unpacking Alia J Crum’s "Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect" study and why it propelled David to write The Expectation Effect Finding the ideal level of optimism and pessimism with regard to expectations How can people's perceptions of the same events differ so widely from one another, and why might this be a strength rather than a point of conflict? The power of context in directing our expectations and impacting how we experience the world Is willpower depleting or self-perpetuating, and does mindset play a role? The placebo vs. the nocebo effect The three different mechanisms for The Expectation Effect What is the best way to set up The Expectation Effect when we are experiencing sadness or depression? How researching The Expectation Effect changed the trajectory of David's depression The parallels between The Expectation Effect and other disciplines like Buddhism and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Resources: Visit David's website Follow David on Twitter The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Change Your World Mind-set Matters: Exercise and the Placebo Effect Another White Christmas: fantasy proneness and reports of ‘hallucinatory experiences’ in undergraduate students About David Robson David Robson is an award-winning science writer specializing in the extremes of the human brain, body and behavior. He’s written for the Guardian, the Atlantic, New Scientist, Men’s Health and many more. His first book was The Intelligence Trap and his second, discussed in this episode, is The Expectation Effect: How Your Mindset Can Transform Your World. Related Episodes 209. The Art of Managing Pressure with Hank Weisinger 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirksy 259. Rethinking Delusions with Victoria Sheperd 266. Future Tense with Tracy Dennis-Tiwary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Get ready to tap into the power of your emotions, because they hold invaluable wisdom! From guilt to panic and everything in between, each emotion we feel has a story to tell. And who better to guide us through this emotional journey than Karla McLaren, an emotion and empathy expert?With more than a decade of research under her belt, Karla has mastered the intense power of language in identifying and regulating emotions. Described as an ‘emotional guidebook’ for navigating the highs and lows of your feelings while heightening your intuition, enhancing your relationships, and broadening your self-awareness, we’re here to dissect the latest edition of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You. As we break down anger, envy, forgiveness, anxiety, and even some lesser-known emotions that you might not even realize you're feeling, you'll discover how emotions can be instrumental in healing trauma and why having a negative approach to emotions can be problematic. If you’re looking to have your mind truly blown, join us as we explore the exhilarating world of emotions and learn how to decode them like a pro!Listen and Learn: Between the first and latest editions of Karla’s book, The Language of Emotions, what has changed in the world of our understanding of emotions? What's the harm in viewing emotions as something that's a problem? Toxic positivity bias: what is it, and why is it especially problematic in the workplace? How is Karla’s approach of using emotions to understand ourselves more intricately and channeling them effectively more beneficial? Why having a valence to emotions can be problematic How emotions can be useful in healing from trauma The relationship between the process of forgiveness and anger The function of shame and how it might actually be a helpful emotion to be aware of Why does Karla refer to envy as our “interactional radar” and how apathy is a mask for anger? The confusion between anxiety and panic Resources: Learn more about Karla and her work The Language of Emotions: What Your Feelings Are Trying to Tell You Follow Karla on Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube The Empathy Academy Lisa Feldman Barrett The End of Trauma by George A. Bonanno About Karla McLaren Karla McLaren, M.Ed. is an award-winning author, educator, workplace consultant, and social science researcher. Her work revalues even the most “negative” emotions and opens startling new pathways into self-awareness, effective communication, and healthy empathy. She is the founder and CEO of Emotion Dynamics Inc.She is also the author of many books, including The Language of Emotions, The Power of Emotions at Work, and Embracing Anxiety, and she is the developer of the online learning site EmpathyAcademy.org. She is online at KarlaMcLaren.com.Related Episodes: 183. Permission to Feel: Emotional Intelligence with Marc Brackett 85. Emotion Efficacy with Aprilia West 216. Managing Anger and Irritability, Featuring Russell Kolts 240. Talking to Kids and Teens with Big Feelings with Adele LaFrance (EFFT Part 1 of 2) 241. Emotion Coaching Skills for Families with Mindy Solomon (EFFT Part 2 of 2) 244. What You Feel Is Not All There Is with Aprilia West 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 282. Toxic Positivity with Whitney Goodman 304. The Emotional Lives of Teenagers with Lisa Damour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Are you familiar with the term "gaslighting"? It’s been a popular topic for discussion in recent days, but how many of us actually understand its true meaning and, perhaps more importantly, how to identify it? Join us for this thought-provoking interview with Psychoanalyst and co-founder of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence, Dr. Robin Stern, who gives us a fresh and detailed perspective on the subject. Shedding light on decades of research and heaps of knowledge as the author of The Gaslight Effect and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide, Dr. Stern offers guidance on how to recognize the different stages of the gaslight effect, indicating who is most susceptible and offering strategies to escape from it. Don't tole­rate emotional abuse in silence any longer; tune in to learn how to spot the signs of gaslighting while moving forward toward a brighter future filled with kindness and respect—which you deserve!Listen and Learn: The fascinating origin of the term gaslighting Robin’s definition of gaslighting from her book Can gaslighting happen in both romantic and interpersonal relationships? Is gaslighting socially learned? The correlation between gaslighting and narcissism The three stages of gaslighting and how to identify them Are there certain traits that make someone more vulnerable to becoming a victim of gaslighting? How do you determine whether you should leave a relationship with a gaslighter? The type of person who would benefit from Robin’s workbook, The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide Resources: Robin Stern’s website The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse: A Gaslighting Book The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life Follow Robin on Facebook (@drrobinstern), Twitter (@RobinSStern) and Instagram (@educatorhealer) The Gaslight Effect Podcast Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence (YCEI) Stop Caretaking the Borderline or Narcissist: How to End the Drama and Get on with Life Permission to Feel: The Power of Emotional Intelligence to Achieve Well-Being and Success About Robin Stern Dr. Robin Stern is the co-founder and senior advisor to the director of the Yale Center for Emotional Intelligence and has 30 years of experience as a licensed psychoanalyst. She is the author of The Gaslight Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life and The Gaslight Effect Recovery Guide: Your Personal Journey Toward Healing from Emotional Abuse. She hosts the Gaslight Effect podcast.Related Episodes: 98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 292. Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers with Stephanie Kriesberg 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

The journey of parenting requires a unique approach for every family. Don’t get discouraged by claims that there is one right way to raise a child; this is simply not true.Dr. Cara Goodwin, an experienced child psychologist, author, and mother, was amazed at the volume of misinformation shared online by self-proclaimed 'experts'. To combat this, she created the “Parenting Translator”- a source of trustworthy, science-based research and information on parenting and child development. As a well-known voice in the online parenting world, we are super fortunate to have Cara join us to help us learn how to recognize pseudoscience, interpret research accurately, and use social media more strategically. Her message is clear: No single approach to parenting fits everyone, and we should be mindful of research that does not take individual differences into account.Listen and Learn: Cara’s mission with her Instagram account, Parenting Translator? Is there an ideal age gap between your children? Why you should be wary of online research that references brain studies The importance of being mindful of how you feel when interacting with social media The types of unsettling research articles Cara is sent and why she uses them as inspiration for her posts Why Cara crafts a peer review process to validate and inform the research in her social media and newsletter How to create a social media feed that engagingly highlights research Should you make your child apologize? Cara’s approach to correcting misinformation sold as science on social media, while also maintaining diplomacy Resources: Visit Cara’s website: http://parentingtranslator.com What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers: https://parentingtranslator.org/book Follow Parenting Translator on Instagram (@parentingtranslator) Subscribe to Cara’s newsletter: https://parentingtranslator.substack.com/ Parenting Translator Podcast: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 Parenting Translator - Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/parenting-translator Messengers: Who We Listen To, Who We Don't, and Why: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781541724389 The Invisible Gorilla: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780307459664 About Cara Goodwin Cara Goodwin, Ph.D., is a licensed clinical psychologist and a mother to three children. She received a Ph.D. in child clinical psychology from the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, a Master’s in Developmental Psychiatry from Cambridge University, and a Master’s in Child Psychology from Vanderbilt University, and she completed a postdoctoral fellowship at Duke University. She specializes in child development and has spent years researching child psychology and neuroscience and providing therapy and clinical services for children of all ages. She has published 18 research articles in peer-reviewed academic journals, written two book chapters, and completed numerous conference presentations. She also recently wrote a children’s book titled What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting which gives children evidence-based strategies to use when they are dysregulated. Goodwin translates recent scientific research into information parents can access and implement in their everyday lives through her Instagram account @parentingtranslator and her website.Related Episodes: Episode 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster Episode 149. How Not to Lose It With Your Kids with Carla Naumburg Episode 214. How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Jerks with Melinda Wenner Moyer Episode 223. Mom Brain Returns with Ilyse Dobrow DiMarco Episode 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster Episode 267. You Are Not a Horrible Parent with Carla Naumburg Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let’s end the unrealistic expectations placed on mothers and give them the freedom to make choices that benefit themselves, their children, and their communities.Join Debbie and Jessica Grose, a writer for The New York Times, as they jump deep into the systemic and cultural challenges of modern motherhood. Through highlights from her book, “Screaming on the Inside”, Jessica offers insights backed by science on how to navigate the tough journey of parenting and answers the big question of whether there is hope for a better future for mothers.With engaging discussions about societal expectations, generational differences in motherhood, and the importance of validation and compassion in the process, Jessica brings a treasure trove of valuable information and guidance. Whether you are a new mom or an experienced parent, this is a thought-provoking conversation that will leave you feeling supported and empowered.Listen and Learn: Before motherhood, what were some of the ideal stories, norms, and expectations that Jessica internalized? What we're seeing at this current cultural moment in parenting and what it means to be a parent that might be different from a couple of generations ago. How the standards of motherhood are embedded in a history of racism and classism. How the COVID pandemic impacted women specifically. The challenges working mothers face and how the pressure to be the “ideal worker” is incompatible with caregiving responsibilities. Why are we not seeing the whole picture when it comes to the way that motherhood is portrayed on social media? Is it time to establish more rigorous limits on our social media usage? What if the bar for being a good mother was simply that your children felt safe and loved? Jessica's personal experience with mom guilt and her tactics for responding to this feeling. Is there hope for sustainable motherhood, and what are some of the positive changes we are already seeing? Resources: Jessica’s website: https://jessicagrose.com Follow Jessica on Twitter @JessGrose, Facebook @Jessica-Grose and Instagram @jessgrosewrites Subscribe to Jessica’s NY Times Newsletter Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063078352 About Jessica Grose Jessica Grose is an opinion writer at The New York Times. Her new book “Screaming on the Inside: The Unsustainability of American Motherhood” (Mariner Books) is out now! Jess was the founding editor of Lenny, the email newsletter and website. She also writes about women’s health, culture, and grizzly bears. She was named one of LinkedIn’s Next Wave top professionals 35 and under in 2016 and a Glamour “Game Changer” in 2020 for her coverage of the pandemic. Her second novel, SOULMATES, was published in 2016. It’s about a broken marriage, a spiritual awakening, and a murder at a yoga retreat. Soulmates is “delightfully sly” according to Elle, “a killer read” per Cosmopolitan, and “compelling, funny, painful and wry,” says the Globe and Mail. Her debut novel, SAD DESK SALAD, came out in 2012. It takes place at a women’s website and Jess refers to it as “the devil wears sweatpants.” Glamour called it “Dishy, zingy, hilarious.” She was formerly a senior editor at Slate, and an editor at Jezebel. Her work has appeared in The New York Times, New York, the Washington Post, Businessweek, Elle, Cosmopolitan, and many other publications. She lives in Brooklyn with her husband and daughters. Follow her on Twitter @JessGrose and Instagram @JessGroseWrites. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We’ve all been there: saying yes when we really wanted to say no. It happens all the time, from work requests and invitations, or favors for friends. Saying no can result in offense, awkwardness, and sometimes even trouble with relationships and reputations, so we often choose yes instead. However, in this episode, our guest encourages us to change our mindset. Saying no can actually empower us and should be seen as a valuable skill.Author Vanessa Patrick graces this episode to teach us the ins and outs of effective no-saying in her book, The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life. With experience, research, and sage advice to offer, Vanessa emphasizes why mastering the art of "no" is crucial and how to use our own values to make the right decisions.Listen and Learn What fueled Vanessa to research and write about the topic of saying no? When it comes to saying no, why do we find it so difficult? The main drivers of saying ‘yes’ when we want to say ‘no’. The Acquaintance Trap. Why saying yes can actually backfire sometimes. The Spotlight Effect and how you can better manage this when put on the spot. How to use The ART of Empowered Refusal to say no that does not invite pushback. How the two-by-two framework can be used to help categorize an ask and decide if it should be answered with a yes or a no. Tips to manage pushback when we say ‘no’. Do people in power receive fewer consequences for saying no than those from marginalized groups? Resources Vanessa’s website: https://www.vanessapatrick.net/ Follow Vanessa on LinkedIn (@vanessapatrick23), Twitter (@sourcebooks / @vpatrick23), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Instagram (@vanpat23) Follow Sourcebooks on Twitter (@sourcebooks), Tik Tok (@sourcebooksnonfiction) and Facebook (@sourcebooksnonfiction) The Power of Saying No: The New Science of How to Say No That Puts You in Charge of Your Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781728251523 Pinkcast 1.17: Why you should say “I don’t” instead of “I can’t.” How to Say No, Resist Temptation, and Stick to Your Health Goals How Saying “I Don’t” at Work Can Change Your Life A Policy of Saying ‘No’ Can Save You Time and Guilt “I Don't” Beats “I Can't” for Self-Control This Simple Trick Makes Breaking Bad Habits Up To 8 Times Easier About Vanessa PatrickVanessa Patrick, PhD, is the Associate Dean for Research, the Bauer Professor of Marketing, and lead faculty of the Executive Women in Leadership Program at the Bauer School of Business at the University of Houston. She has a PhD in business from the University of Southern California and an MBA in marketing and a BS degree in microbiology and biochemistry from Bombay University in India. Patrick is a regular speaker at both academic and practitioner conferences. She lives in Houston, Texas.Related Episodes 130. Working Less with Alex Pang 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 186. Set Boundaries Find Peace with Nedra Tawwab 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 276. Assertive Communication Skills with Randy Paterson 293. Quit with Annie Duke 298. Drama Free with Nedra Tawwab Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Teenagers naturally experience a rollercoaster of emotions, making everyday pressures and transitional changes overwhelming for parents and adolescents alike. Our guest Lisa Damour, a clinical psychologist, and best-selling author of ‘The Emotional Lives of Teenagers’ emphasizes the integrality of validating teenagers' emotions while also providing a framework on how to understand and support them. In this episode, Lisa reveals what to expect from teenage emotional development, and why we need to change the way we approach adolescent mental health. Learn effective ways to maintain open lines of communication, clearly articulate values, cope with common challenges such as too much gaming time and disengaging at school, and foster deeper bonds. With research-informed explanations and real-life examples, this episode gives parents the tools needed to support their teens through this difficult stage in life.Listen and Learn: From where does the reputation of teenagers derive, and is it justified? Why do teenagers experience such powerful emotions as they transition from childhood to adolescence? The distinction between hot and cold cognition, and how parents can use this knowledge to help their teenagers prepare for situations where they may become overwhelmed or not be able to think clearly. Is it a myth that difficult emotions are damaging or should be avoided? How to help teenagers with expressing their feelings. Why distraction can be an effective coping strategy for teens to regulate their emotions. How communication and a sense of safety can have a meaningful impact on adolescent behavior. Why do teenagers find their parents so ‘annoying’? Are there gender differences in emotion? Resources: For more on Lisa’s work, visit her website: https://drlisadamour.com/ Check out the Ask Lisa podcast: https://drlisadamour.com/resources/podcast/ Order your copy of Lisa’s books: The Emotional Lives of Teenagers: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593500019Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions Into Adulthood: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780553393071Under Pressure: Confronting the Epidemic of Stress and Anxiety in Girls: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780399180071Follow Lisa on Facebook (@lisadamourphd), Instagram (@lisa.damour) or Twitter (@LDamour)About Lisa Damour Dr. Lisa Damour is the author of three New York Times best sellers: Untangled, Under Pressure, and The Emotional Lives of Teenagers. She co-hosts the Ask Lisa podcast, works in collaboration with UNICEF, and is recognized as a thought leader by the American Psychological Association. Dr. Damour is also a regular contributor to The New York Times and CBS News.Dr. Damour serves as a Senior Advisor to the Schubert Center for Child Studies at Case Western Reserve University and has written numerous academic papers, chapters, and books related to education and child development. She maintains a clinical practice and also speaks to schools, professional organizations, and corporate groups around the world on the topics of child and adolescent development, family mental health, and adult well-being.Dr. Damour graduated with honors from Yale University and worked for the Yale Child Study Center before earning her doctorate in Clinical Psychology at the University of Michigan. She has been a fellow at Yale’s Edward Zigler Center in Child Development and Social Policy and the University of Michigan’s Power Foundation. She and her husband are the proud parents of two daughters. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Life is an incredible journey full of paradoxical demands that can sometimes feel overwhelming. But what if we could embrace both sides of the equation and turn these tensions into opportunities for growth? This is exactly what our guest Marianne Lewis teaches us in the groundbreaking book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems that she coauthored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.Delving into the risks of either-or thinking and the vicious cycles that can arise, Marianne and cohost, Yael discuss how binary thinking affects our lives. Packed with tools and lessons that will help you see the world with fresh eyes, you’ll learn tips on how to reframe questions, embrace paradoxes, as well as navigate complex tensions. If you're interested in exploring new ways of thinking and solving tough problems, this episode is for you! Listen and Learn: Why do we have difficulty escaping "either/or" thinking, and what impact does it have? Why is it important to understand and embrace paradoxes in order to move away from binary thinking? Question framing with the word 'how' Negotiating conflict in a constructive way The ways in which identifying a higher purpose can lessen friction between opposing factions A few tips for setting guardrails to help you do your job and all your roles more sustainably The impact of shifting from a scarcity mindset into an abundance mindset Tools for responding to tensions in a positive way Resources: Learn more about Marianne: https://business.uc.edu/faculty-and-research/departments/management/faculty/marianne-lewis.html Follow Marianne on Twitter @mariannewlewis Order Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems at our bookshop: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647821043 A piece written by Yael that includes a quote from evolutionary psychologist on conflict: https://tricycle.org/article/working-parenthood-conflict/ About Marianne LewisMarianne W. Lewis is dean and professor of management at the College of Business, University of Cincinnati. She previously served as dean of the Business School at City, University of London. A thought leader in organizational paradoxes, she explores tensions surrounding leadership and innovation. Lewis has been recognized among the world’s most-cited researchers in her field and her work has appeared in media outlets, such as Harvard Business Review, Fast Company, and Newsweek. Her latest book Both/And Thinking: Embracing Creative Tensions to Solve Your Toughest Problems is co-authored with her colleague, Wendy Smith.Related Episodes: Episode 51. The Psychology of Political Division with Yael and Debbie Episode 234. The Power of Us with Dominic Packer Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

In today's world, society is more polarized than ever before. With people taking positions on issues related to identity, diversity, and justice, engaging in these conversations can seem like a daunting task. Yet, this is precisely what we need to do if we want to build a more just and equitable society. In this regard, our latest episode where Jill Stoddard interviews author David Glasgow is a must-listen. Glasgow's book, "Say the Right Thing: How to Talk About Identity, Diversity, and Justice" provides valuable insights on how to approach these sensitive topics in a way that fosters understanding, empathy, and positive change.The discussion delves into the controversial "cancel culture" and the need to show compassion and understanding towards those who make mistakes. Additionally, he emphasizes the importance of embracing a growth mindset and illustrates strategies to overcome conversational traps and navigate disagreements respectively. Take advantage of this opportunity to learn how to engage in challenging and compassionate conversations. Listen to the episode now!Listen and Learn: How David’s background as a lawyer and personal struggle with belonging influenced his interest and career in social justice, equality, and inclusion. What makes conversations surrounding identity so difficult and why do we shy away from having them in today’s society? Why we should welcome the democratization of discomfort in social conversations. Cancel culture - why we should use this as an opportunity for growth, not villainization. How to respond to conversational traps. What privilege is and is not? Why misunderstandings arise in identity conversations. How to ‘right-size’ feedback in relation to privilege or bias. Tips for respectfully disagreeing. How to apologize effectively using the Four R’s. Is cultural sensitivity helping or hindering the conversation around diversity and identity? Resources: Learn more about David’s work as a diversity and inclusion specialist by visiting his website: https://www.david-glasgow.com/ Get your copy of Say the Right Thing: How to Talk about Identity, Diversity, and Justice at our bookshop: bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982181383 The Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging: law.nyu.edu/centers/belonging Follow David on Twitter (@dvglasgow) Find out more about Deconstructing Karen referenced in the intro of this episode: deconstructingkaren.com Thanks for the Feedback: The Science and Art of Receiving Feedback Well The Apology About David Glasgow David Glasgow is the executive director of the Meltzer Center for Diversity, Inclusion, and Belonging and an adjunct professor at NYU School of Law. He has written for a range of publications including the Harvard Business Review, HuffPost, and Slate, and served as an Associate Director of the Public Interest Law Center at NYU School of Law. Please visit him at david-glasgow.com. Related Episodes: 76. Gender and Sexual Minorities with Aisling Leonard-Curtin and Matthew Skinta 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 163. The Likeability Trap with Alicia Menendez 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh 290. Shared Sisterhood: Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work with Tina Opie and Beth Livingston Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Join host Debbie Sorensen and former co-host and guest Diana Hill as they discuss the power of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and introduce their new resource: The ACT Daily Card Deck. Through personal anecdotes and examples, they emphasize the importance of living in the present moment and taking committed action that aligns with personal values. They also touch on the concepts of self-doubt, impermanence, and the role of emotions in our lives. With their creative exercises, like visiting their younger selves and the watering seeds exercise, they help listeners break down complex therapeutic concepts into everyday language that is easy to understand. Discover practical tools for leading a more fulfilling life that bridge the gap between theory and action. Listen now and learn how you too can benefit from ACT and become the master of your mind.Listen and Learn: Diana and Debbie update us on what they’ve been up to and why they are joining forces for this special episode. The importance of making ACT more accessible in our daily lives. Debbie and Diana demonstrate the six processes of ACT through examples of skills from their new ACT Daily Card Deck - from choosing thoughts, controlling your emotions, and the power of impermanence, to taking committed, value-based action, compassion, perspective taking, and mastering the art of being present. Resources: Order your ACT Daily Card Deck: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648481239 Go to drdianahill.com or her channels on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, and YouTube (@drdianahill) to learn more Visit Debbie’s website http://www.drdebbiesorensen.com/ for more information and resources Follow Debbie on Twitter (@debbiesorensen) or Instagram (@drdebbiesorensen) About Diana and Debbie Diana Hill, PhD is a clinical psychologist, international trainer and sought-out speaker on Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and compassion. Host of the podcast Your Life in Process and co-author of ACT Daily Journal, Diana works with organizations and individuals to develop psychological flexibility so that they can take wise action toward fulfilling and impactful lives. Integrating her over 20 years of meditation experience with yoga and psychological training, Diana blogs for Psychology Today, and guest teaches at InsightLA, Blue Spirit Costa Rica, PESI, Praxis Continuing Education, Yoga Soup and Insight Timer Meditation. Diana practices what she preaches in her daily life as a mom of two boys and bee guardian. Dr. Debbie Sorensen is a clinical psychologist with a private therapy practice in Denver. She specializes in providing individual Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) for adults experiencing burnout, chronic stress, and anxiety. Debbie has a Ph.D. in Psychology from Harvard University, and a bachelor’s degree from the University of Colorado, Boulder. She is a co-author of the book ACT Daily Journal: Get Unstuck and Live Fully with Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, and a co-founder and co-host the popular psychology podcast Psychologists Off The Clock. She speaks and gives workshops nationally and internationally to mental health providers, schools, and organizations. She loves living in her home state of Colorado and enjoying the Rocky Mountains with her husband, two daughters, and dog. Related Episodes: 77. Acceptance and Commitment Therapy with Jill Stoddard 195. ACT Daily with Diana Hill and Debbie Sorensen 237. Farewell to Diana Hill: Appreciations, Regrets, and Hopes Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's raise a glass to Debbie, Jill, and Yael as they reach a milestone of 300 episodes on the fabulous Psychologists Off The Clock podcast! Can you believe it? Six-plus years of incredible conversations, phenomenal guests, mind-blowing ideas, and moments have uplifted us all.As they share their reflections on this journey, we get a glimpse of how POTC has transformed their understanding and application of psychology, impacted their lives, and connected them with listeners from all corners of the world. And can we stop to appreciate the wisdom, dedication, and passion they bring to this amazingly valuable show?We are so grateful to be part of this incredible community, and we know Debbie, Jill, and Yael share the same gratitude for all of us listeners who have supported them along the way.Listen and Learn: Yael, Debbie, and Jill marvel at the profound impact the podcast has had on their personal and professional lives The early beginnings of POTC From guests to co-hosts, Jill and Yael share their story Debbie, Jill, and Yael rave about their adoration for the POTC Book Club Stories of positive changes POTC has brought to both listeners and co-hosts A look back at some of the most memorable and meaningful episodes The time Debbie invited Michelle Obama to the podcast Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Welcome to this exciting bonus episode where POTC co-host Yael Schonbrun joins the incredible Child Psychologist, Cara Goodwin, for an empowering conversation exploring the artful science of working parenthood on Cara’s podcast, The Parenting Translator.Discover how to use parenting science to guide healthy choices and transform guilt into a powerful tool that aligns with your core values. You'll also gain insights into developing self-compassion and cultivating a growth mindset. Get ready to be inspired to take your parenting journey to the next level. Don't miss this incredible opportunity to learn and grow!Listen and Learn: The concept of work-family enrichment The different pathways in which your competing roles as a working parent can feed each other How an exotic dancer’s experience negotiating with her own children helped her deal with her clients at work Is it possible to achieve the perfect work-family balance? Yael's tips for managing guilt as a working parent Intentional activities that can improve your life as a working parent Does working parenthood get easier as your children grow older? Resources: To learn more about Yael, visit her website: http://yaelschonbrun.com/about/ Visit the Parenting Translator website: https://parentingtranslator.org Tune in to the Parenting Translator Podcast: https://parentingtranslator.org/podcast Follow Yael on Instagram @yaelschonbrun and Twitter @dryaelschonbrun Follow Cara on Instagram @parentingtranslator About Cara GoodwinCara Goodwin, is the founder of Parenting Translator, a mother to three young children, and a licensed psychologist with a PhD in child clinical psychology. Before she had her second child, she spent her days doing research in child psychology and neuroscience, assessing children for developmental problems, doing therapy with children of all ages, and training parents on how to use the most recent scientific findings to help their children.After taking some time off to be with my own children, she became desperate for an intellectual outlet so, on the brink of the COVID-19 pandemic and pregnant with a third child, she decided to start an Instagram account (@parentingtranslator) and website (www.parentingtranslator.com) with the purpose of taking recent scientific research and translating it into information that parents can use in their everyday lives. That IG account has taken off, with considerably over 100K followers, a newsletter, a podcast, and she’s also the author of a kids book titled, What to Do When You Feel Like Hitting: A No Hitting Book for Toddlers.Related Episodes: 87. Cribsheet with Emily Oster 245. Family Firm with Emily Oster 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Over the past few decades, the workplace has undergone tremendous changes. With the rise of technology and globalization, companies operate in a more complex and interconnected world. This has created new challenges for leaders, who must now navigate a wide range of cultural, technological, and economic factors to succeed.We are privileged to have Chris Shipley as our guest on this episode. As a Technology Analyst and Future of Work Strategist, she has honed her expertise in developing effective leadership strategies in today's rapidly evolving and unprecedented workplace. Her recent book, The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce, provides valuable guidance for leaders at all levels. From how to cultivate empathy and emotional intelligence, build trust, and lead a diverse, and multi-generational workforce. Whether you're an entry-level manager or a seasoned executive, her insights are invaluable for anyone looking to improve their leadership skills. We're delighted to have her share her wisdom with us, and we're confident that you'll be left feeling empowered, inspired, and resilient. Listen and Learn: Some of the significant shifts we're seeing in the workplace The relationship between psychology and leadership Why driving performance rather than productivity builds more economic value The psychological importance of autonomy and flexibility in the workplace How to keep employees engaged and sustain retention in our 'new normal’ The unique challenges younger generations face when entering the workforce What can be done to help different generations work together better The qualities of an empathic leader The changes needed to build a quality team Resources: Learn more about Chris by visiting her website: https://www.cshipley.com/ Order your copy of The Empathy Advantage: Leading the Empowered Workforce: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781394155514 Follow Chris on Twitter and Instagram About Chris ShipleyChris Shipley has documented, influenced, and predicted the impact of technology on business and society for more than 30 years. As a journalist, she covered the tech industry for leading publishing companies. As an analyst, she identified innovative startups and gave them a stage to launch their market-making products. As a catalyst, she has advised hundreds of early-stage companies on positioning, business modeling, and innovation practices.Today, Chris focuses her work on the human and organizational challenges in the face of technology-and economically-driven disruption. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Dysfunctional family relationships can be complicated and extremely challenging to navigate, but it's essential to remember that we have the power to change the narrative. Whether you’re dealing with overbearing or abusive parents, toxic siblings, or any other form of unhealthy behavior, it can be difficult to know how to break free from these patterns and create more positive connections.This is where our guest Nedra Tawwab, a renowned therapist, New York Times bestselling author, and relationship expert, comes in. We are thrilled to welcome Nedra back to Psychologist's Off the Clock to discuss her latest book, Drama Free. A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships.With her relatable and practical guide, Nedra provides valuable tips on identifying and managing unhealthy family relationships that may be causing distress and turmoil in your life.Her expertise will empower you to take control of your life, move away from toxic behavior, and build stronger, healthier connections. Remember that you have the strength and resilience to overcome any obstacles. Don't let your past define your future!Listen and Learn: Nedra introduces us to what unhealthy patterns of a dysfunctional family can look like How to identify dysfunctional patterns within your own family How childhood dysfunction can impact people and their adult relationships Why trust issues commonly result from dysfunctional family relationships The importance of boundary setting, especially for those who come from dysfunctional environments The line between enabling versus helping The most common obstacles to making changes within dysfunctional relationships Strategies for boundary setting Nedra’s advice for people handling the guilt and the grief that comes with change within a family system How to handle pushback when dealing with unhealthy patterns of behavior Resources: Visit Nedra’s website: https://www.nedratawwab.com Order your copy of Nedra’s book Drama Free: A Guide to Managing Unhealthy Family Relationships: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593539279 Learn more about Group Therapy practice Kaleidoscope Counseling: https://www.kaleidoscopecounselingpllc.com/ Follow Nedra on Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter - @nedratawwab About Nedra Glover Tawwab Nedra Glover Tawwab, MSW, LCSW, is a New York Times best-selling author, licensed therapist, and sought-after relationship expert. She has practiced relationship therapy for 15 years and is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Kaleidoscope Counseling. Every day she helps people create healthy relationships by teaching them how to implement boundaries. Her philosophy is that a lack of boundaries and assertiveness underlie most relationship issues, and her gift is helping people create healthy relationships with themselves and others. Nedra earned her undergraduate and graduate degrees from Wayne State University in Detroit, MI. She has additional certifications in working with families and couples and in perinatal mood and anxiety disorders, plus advanced training for counseling adults who've experienced childhood emotional neglect. Nedra has appeared as an expert on Red Table Talk, The Breakfast Club, Good Morning America, and CBS Morning Show to name a few. Her work has been highlighted in The New York Times, The Guardian, and Vice and has appeared on numerous podcasts, including Good Life Project, Sofia with an F, and Therapy For Black Girls. She runs a popular Instagram account where she shares practices, tools, and reflections for mental health and hosts weekly Q&As. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

If you find yourself struggling to connect with the adolescents in your life, don't worry, you're not alone! The truth is, building relationships with teens and young adults can be challenging, but with the right mindset and approach, anything is possible.Get ready to be inspired by our guest, Emily Kline, a Harvard-trained clinical psychologist who has written a practical and research-backed guide called "The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids". Whether you're a parent, teacher, mentor, or just someone who wants to connect better with the younger generation, this book is a must-read for improving communication and building stronger relationships with young people. So, let's dive in and explore some of the key insights and tips that Emily has to offer.Listen and Learn: The guiding principles of motivational interviewing for adolescents How is motivational interviewing helpful What we know about expressed emotion and how it can empower parents Why adolescents are often more willing to follow the advice and direction of supportive parents than those who demand obedience Emily breaks down the foundational skills needed for hard conversations with young adults using clinical scenarios Resources: Visit Emily’s Website: www.dremilykline.com Order your copy of The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with Your (Almost Grown) Kids: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781632174703 Follow Emily on Instagram and TikTok @learnaboutmilo Psychology Today Blog:https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-school-of-hard-talks A Minor Revolution: How Prioritizing Kids Benefits Us All by Adam Benforado: https://bookshop.org/p/books/a-minor-revolution-how-prioritizing-kids-benefits-us-all-adam-benforado/18501375?ean=9781984823045 Influence is Your Superpower by Zoe Chace: https://bookshop.org/p/books/influence-is-your-superpower-the-science-of-winning-hearts-sparking-change-and-making-good-things-happen-zoe-chance/16987804?ean=9781984854339 About Emily Kline:Emily Kline is a clinical psychologist and writer who has held faculty positions in psychiatry at Boston University and at Harvard Medical School. She created a simple motivational interviewing curriculum for family caregivers and The School of Hard Talks Online free e-course, and her book, The School of Hard Talks: How to Have Real Conversations with You Almost Grown Kids is now available. Emily lives with her husband and children who graciously beta-test her experiments in family communication and a dog who can’t be reasoned with at all.Related Episodes: Episode 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing with Nadine Mastroleo Episode 78. The Self-Driven Child with William Stixrud Episode 135. Power of Empathy and Motivational Interviewing with Stephen Rollnick Episode 205. Thrivers with Michele Borba Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When it comes to money and love, the two are inextricably linked. Whether it's choosing where to settle down, starting a family, or taking that new job opportunity, our financial situation and our relationships always come into play.Thankfully, with the expert guidance of our guest Abby Davisson who co-authored the brilliant resource, "Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions" we can navigate these tricky waters with grace, ease, and confidence. Using Abby’s 5Cs framework, she offers guidance on how to strike a harmonious balance between love and money. With research-based insights and real-life examples, we learn how to holistically make value-driven decisions that are both financially sound and emotionally fulfilling. So let's dive in and discover the easy and practical steps to make strategic decisions that yield better results, without having to compromise your professional or personal life. Listen and Learn: How money and love are so intimately intertwined and why this was the catalyst for the book Abby co-authored with Myra Strober The 5Cs framework for big making decisions that involve money and love What is mimetic desire and why you should be aware of this The importance of identifying your core values in helping you to align your decisions with those values Examples of when it is a good idea to get input on decisions you are making and when is it not How to fairly decide who does what in a relationship using the 5Cs as a guide Resources: Visit Abby’s website for more information: https://www.abbydavisson.com Purchase Abby’s book, "Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life's Biggest Decisions": https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780063117518 About Abby Davisson Abby Davisson is a social innovation leader and career development expert. Most recently, she spent nine years at global retailer Gap Inc., where she served as president of the Gap Foundation and co-founded the company’s employee resource group for parents. You can find more information on her book “Money and Love: An Intelligent Roadmap for Life’s Biggest Decisions” at https://www.moneylovebook.com. Press information is available at https://www.moneylovebook.com/press-kit.Related Episodes: 142. FOMO (Fear of Missing Out) with Patrick McGinnis 176. Fair Play with Eve Rodsky 206. Fair Play Part 2 with Eve Rodsky 217. Redefining Rich with Shannon Hayes 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz 291. Finding Freedom from Regret with Robert Leah Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

When it comes to self-help, it's important to be cautious of information that seems too good to be true. Especially, in today's world of digital wellness influencers where there is a lot of misinformation out there that could cause you more harm than good. Subsequently, it's essential to thoroughly research products and services before making any decisions or commitments. To raise awareness about this issue, we (Debbie, Jill, and Yael) got together to co-host an episode dedicated to this very important conversation. We also invited Pooja Lakshmin, a board-certified psychiatrist and author of the book ‘Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness’ to discuss the nuances of pseudoscience and what it means to practice real self-care. Expect evidence-based self-care methods, in addition to tips on how to do your due diligence as a consumer. Listen and Learn: What led Pooja to make some pretty drastic decisions in her own quest for self-care The differentiators between faux self-care and real self-care The idea of using ‘pauses’ when making decisions and boundary setting Pseudoscience and the challenges it poses to the field of psychology Examples of scientists behaving badly Red flags for identifying faux self-care Suggestibility: we can be easily influenced in ways that are problematic Resources: Guest Learn more about Pooja and her work as a psychiatrist, author, founder, and speaker: https://www.poojalakshmin.com Order your copy of Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths Not Included): https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593489727 ArticlesControversy Over Ego Depletion/Decision-FatigueBooks Quick Fix: Why Fad Psychology Can’t Cure Our Social Ills by Jesse Singal Gospel of Wellness: Gyms, Gurus, Goops, and the False Promise of Self-Care by Rina Raphael American Detox: The Myth of Wellness and How We Can Truly Heal by Kerri Kelly Think Again: The Power of Knowing What You Don’t Know by Adam Grant Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion by Paul Bloom Podcasts Maintenance Phase Conspirituality The Daily: Women Have Been Misled About Menopause About Pooja LakshminPooja Lakshmin is a psychiatrist, New York Times contributor, an assistant professor at George Washington University, and a leading voice at the intersection of mental health and gender with a focus on helping individuals escape the tyranny of self-care. In 2020, she founded Gemma, a physician-led women’s mental health platform centering on impact and equity. She also maintains a private practice where she treats women struggling with burnout and perfectionism, as well as clinical conditions like depression and anxiety. Her new book which we are here to discuss, Real Self-Care: A Transformative Program for Redefining Wellness (Crystals, Cleanses, and Bubble Baths not Included) is out now.Related Episodes: 65. Self-Care, Kindness, and Living Well with Kelly Wilson 105. The Self-Care Prescription with Robyn Gobin 113. Self-Compassion for Parents with Susan Pollak 201. Fierce Compassion with Kristin Neff 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Let's talk about the magic that is improvisation, or what us cool kids call "improv." It's an art form that's all about unleashing your creativity and performing without a script or plan. Sure, you may have heard of it as a side-splitting comedy act, but improv goes a lot deeper than that. From acting to business to mental health, improv skills can be applied in various areas of life. Enter Kelly Leonard, the VP of Creative Strategy, Innovation, and Business Development at the infamous Second City in Chicago. Kelly, who over the decades has produced hundreds of original revues with comedians such as Stephen Colbert, Tina Fey, and Seth Meyers (to name a few) has a unique understanding of behavioral science through the lens of improv. Regaling us with lessons and stories from his career and book, ‘Yes And’, we learn how to utilize improv to help us adapt, empathize, communicate, trust, and collaborate better. We are reminded that saying ‘yes’ to new ideas and experiences sparks creativity and can lead to beneficial outcomes. From deepening our relationships with others by practicing active listening and learning to accept and appreciate new ideas, regardless of their origin. It also teaches us to think on our feet and work together to create innovative solutions to problems.Listen and Learn: How Stephen Colbert came to write a blurb for Kelly’s book, Yes, and: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration Why so many successful comedy performers have an improv background How improv skills can help us to empathize, communicate and collaborate The idea of the ‘Yes And’ exercise Why Kelly prefers to use the word ensemble vs. team Improv's positive impact on caregiver burden and depression An introduction to the ‘I Am Somebody Who’ exercise Why adopting a Yes And mentality helps create a psychologically safe environment How improv can be applied in therapy If improv were an animal, what animal would it be? What’s next for Kelly’s work in science and the arts Resources: Learn more about Kelly: https://www.secondcity.com/people/kelly-leonard+ Get your copy of Yes, And: How Improvisation Reverses No, But Thinking and Improves Creativity and Collaboration: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780062248541 Check out The Second City website: https://www.secondcity.com/ Listen to Kelly’s podcast, Getting to Yes And: https://www.secondcityworks.com/podcast About Kelly Leonard Kelly Leonard is the Executive Director of Learning and Applied Improvisation at Second City Works. His book, “Yes, And: Lessons from The Second City” was released to critical acclaim in 2015 by HarperCollins and was praised by Michael Lewis in Vanity Fair who called it “...an excellent guide to the lessons that have bubbled up in Second City’s improv workshops.” Kelly is a popular speaker on the power of improvisation to transform people’s lives. He has presented at The Aspen Ideas Festival, The Code Conference,TEDx Broadway, Chicago Ideas Festival, The Stanford Graduate School of Business and for companies such as Coca Cola, Microsoft, Twitter, Memorial Sloan Kettering and DDB Worldwide. Kelly co-created an initiative with the Center for Decision Research at the Booth School at the University of Chicago, The Second Science Project, that looks at behavioral science through the lens of improvisation. He also hosts the podcast, “Getting to Yes, And,” for Second City Works and WGN radio that features interviews with academics, authors and leaders such as Brene Brown, Adam Grant, Michael Lewis, Lindy West, Ash Carter and Amy Edmondson.For over twenty years, Kelly oversaw Second City’s live theatrical divisions where he helped generate original productions with such talent as Tina Fey, Stephen Colbert, Amy Poehler, Seth Meyers, Steve Carell, Keegan Michael Key, Amy Sedaris, Adam McKay and others. In 2019, Arts Alliance Illinois awarded Kelly and his wife Anne Libera with their Creative Voice Award. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Quitting is often viewed as a sign of failure, but in some cases, it might be the best decision. Whether it's quitting a bad habit, a job, or an unhealthy relationship, it is always important to know when to call it quits.Annie Duke, an expert in decision-making and author of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away, inspires us to feel empowered and proud when we choose to quit. She encourages us to embrace the freedom and opportunity that comes with knowing when to let go and move on to something better. So, let us be bold and confident in our choices to quit, and relish the journey of growth and self-discovery that follows.Listen and Learn: Annie’s thoughts on Tom Brady's repeated retirements Why is there such a stigma around quitting Defining expected value decisions How to wisely use expected value decisions The sunk cost fallacy and some ways that we can manage this Asso Teller’s monkeys and pedestals tool for quitting Growth mindset and quitting goals Resources: Learn more about Annie’s work on her website: https://www.annieduke.com/ Get your copy of Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780593422991 Alliance for Decision Education: https://www.annieduke.com/the-alliance-for-decision-education/ Connect with Annie on Twitter or Instagram About Annie DukeAnnie is an author, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space, and a former professional poker player who is the only woman to have won the World Series of Poker Tournament of Champions and the NBC National Poker Heads-Up Championship. Annie’s previous book, Thinking in Bets, is a national bestseller, and her latest book Quit: The Power of Knowing When to Walk Away is, in our humble opinion, nothing short of transformative. We are here to discuss Quit today. Related Episodes: 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz200. Growing Grit with Angela Duckworth291. Finding Freedom From Regret with Robert Leahy Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Having a narcissistic parent while growing up can be incredibly difficult and painful. The emotional instability of the relationship can be detrimental to one's sense of self-worth, making it hard to trust others and form healthy relationships. Furthermore, the lack of consistent support and nurturing can lead to feelings of insecurity and the fear of being abandoned.Be inspired by our guest Dr. Stephanie Kriesberg, a clinical psychologist and author of ‘Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve’. Through her research on narcissistic parenting, Stephanie has dedicated her work to helping adults lead healthier and happier lives. If you experienced a childhood with a narcissistic parent, let Dr. Kriesberg guide you in managing the difficulties of this complex relationship so you can live life on your own terms. Listen and Learn: Stephanie’s experience working with women who are impacted by narcissistic parenting The significance of the relationship between daughters and mothers The core features of narcissism How narcissism impacts the parent-child dynamic What does gaslighting look like How does growing up in a home with a narcissistic mother impact other relationships within the family Examples of the patterns female adults who grew up with a narcissistic mother might exhibit The work involved in grieving the parent you had versus the parent you wanted Setting boundaries with a narcissistic mother Resources: Visit Stephanie’s website: https://www.drstephaniekriesberg.com/ Buy Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the Critical Voice in Your Head, Heal Self-Doubt, and Live the Life You Deserve at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781648480096 About Dr. Stephanie KriesbergDr. Stephanie Kriesberg brings over twenty-five years of experience to her practice. She has extensive training in the treatment of anxiety disorders and in the use of clinical hypnosis. Recently she was honored to be elected as President-Elect of the New England Society for Clinical Hypnosis. She is the author of the book Adult Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers: Quiet the critical voice in your head, heal self-doubt, and live the life you deserve.Related Episodes: 98. Narcissism with Avigail Lev and Robyn Walser 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp 250. Anxiety and Perfectionism with Clarissa Ong 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel 263. Relationships with Emotionally Immature People with Lindsay Gibson 274. Quarterlife: The Search for Self in Early Adulthood with Satya Doyle Byock Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We have all experienced a feeling of regret at some point in our lives. It can be a deep sadness and disappointment that results from realizing how we could have done things differently or a feeling of guilt or shame that we experience when we make a mistake. Regret is a powerful emotion, one that can send us spiraling. However, it is possible to move beyond it and not become stuck in the feeling of despair.Discussing his remarkable guide, If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret, we are honored to be joined by renowned psychologist and the Founder of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy, Dr. Robert Leahy. As we explore the impact of regret, we gain insight and actionable exercises from Robert on how it can be utilized as a valuable tool to create opportunities and inform our decisions in more productive ways. Listen in to understand and manage regret, so that it doesn't control your life!Listen and Learn: What is regret? Using the multiple selves concept to avoid regretful decisions How different styles of decision-making lead to more or less regret What distinguishes productive regret from unproductive regret How to identify when you are caught in an unproductive cycle versus using regret productively Existential perfectionism and regret Why is regret a more dominant experience in modern times The negation exercise The importance of risk assessment in managing regret Resources: Visit the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy website: https://www.cognitivetherapynyc.com/dr-robert-leahy/ Watch Barry Schwartz’s, The Paradox of Choice TEDx Talk mentioned in this episode: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VO6XEQIsCoM Grab your copy of If Only...: Finding Freedom from Regret: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781462547821 About Robert L. LeahyRobert L. Leahy is the Founder and Director of the American Institute for Cognitive Therapy in NYC, Clinical Professor of Psychology in Psychiatry at Weill Cornell Medical College, and Past-President of the Association of Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies, The Academy of Cognitive Therapy, and The International Association of Cognitive Therapy. He is the recipient of the Aaron T. Beck Award for outstanding contributions in CBT, is the author of 29 books and is a frequent keynote speaker and presenter of workshops worldwide. His new book is If Only...Finding Freedom from Regret. Related Episodes: Episode 48. Practical Wisdom with Barry Schwartz Episode 130. Working Less with Alex Pang Episode 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz Episode 226. ACT for Perfectionism with Jennifer Kemp Episode 232. Grounded to Soar with Brad Stulberg Episode 242. Four Thousand Weeks with Oliver Burkeman Episode 257. The Gift of Being Ordinary with Ron Siegel Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

To make our world a more harmonious and equitable place, we must take the time to build bridges across the divides of race and gender. This can be challenging, but it is an essential step to take in order to remove bias, reduce tensions, forge deeper connections, eliminate disparities, and create respect, trust, and greater understanding among all people. Dr. Tina Opie and Dr. Beth A. Livingston, co-authors of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work, join us for this episode to discuss how they are driving gender and racial equity in organizations. Their groundbreaking book provides leaders and individuals with effective guidance and tools on how to establish a safe, and equitable work environment.Learn why gender equity cannot be realized without also striving for racial equity, and how we can move beyond individual solutions toward collective action to effectively bridge the gap. Hear first-hand stories and get practical tips on how we can work together across challenging divides and develop collaborative approaches that can transform the workplace and our lives. Listen and Learn: What brought Beth and Tina together as friends, colleagues, and co-authors A history of the divide between black and white women Inauthenticity surrounding the conversation on racism The shortcomings of feminist movements that white feminists should be aware of The overarching goal of the shared sisterhood approach and what it has to offer The three-step process for individuals to build Shared Sisterhood Resources: Grab your copy of Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work at our Bookshop page: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781647822835 Learn more about Opie Consulting Group: https://www.opieconsultinggroup.com/about-tina-opie Check out Tina’s website: https://www.drtinaopie.com/ Visit Beth’s website: https://bethalivingston.com/ Connect with Tina on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook Connect with Beth on Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook About Tina Opie and Beth A. LivingstonDr. Tina R. Opie is an associate professor of management at Babson College, and an award-winning teacher, researcher, and consultant. She is a sought-after speaker and has advised large firms in the financial services, entertainment, media, beauty, educational, and healthcare industries. Her research has appeared in such outlets as O Magazine, the Washington Post, the Boston Globe, and Harvard Business Review, and has been published in multiple academic journals. Dr. Beth A. Livingston is an Associate Professor in Management and Entrepreneurship at the University of Iowa’s Tippie College of Business. She is a researcher, speaker, and consultant, working with large companies and nonprofits. Her research has been highlighted in the New York Times, Harvard Business Review, and on NPR and has been published in several top academic journals.Together, they have co-authored the book Shared Sisterhood, How to Take Collective Action for Racial and Gender Equity at Work.Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 96. Effective Conversations About Diversity with Anatasia Kim and Alicia del Prado 169. Microaggressions, Mental Health Disparities, and Racial Trauma with Monnica Williams 185. Good Guys: Allies in the Workplace with Brad Johnson and David Smith 256. Social Justice Parenting with Traci Baxley 262. Hope and Values in Dark Times with Us 265. The Power of Emotions at Work with Karla McLaren 279. ACT for Healing Black Racial Trauma with Jennifer Shepard Payne 273. A More Just Future with Dolly Chugh Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

It can be hard to find feelings of happiness in our lives. After all, life is unpredictable and we’re all facing our own unique challenges. Nonetheless, it is possible to find happiness, even during difficult times. Specializing in the science of well-being, Clinical Psychologist, Jonah Paquette is dedicated to helping us understand the significance of positive psychological principles in achieving happiness. Drawing from learnings in his book, Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak, Jonah offers us practical exercises to strengthen our 'emotional fitness', reduce suffering and build resilience even amid challenging times. Whether you’re facing a challenging situation in life, or simply want to know how to cultivate more happiness and peace, this episode will provide you with actionable steps on how to do just that.Listen and Learn: How can we expect to build happiness in the face of hardship, heartache, or heartbreak Why Jonah uses the term ‘emotional fitness’ and how this skill can help you in challenging times Distinguishing between happiness and toxic positivity Practices to help you cultivate emotional fitness What is awe and how it relates to happiness How can we access the experience of awe in times of hardship Creative ways to find connection when you feel the most isolated Resources: Get to know more about Jonah: https://www.jonahpaquette.com Subscribe to Jonah’s newsletter: https://www.jonahpaquette.com/site/contact Check out Jonah's books: Happily Even After: Daily Practices to Recover Joy After Hardship, Heartache, and Heartbreak and Awestruck: How Embracing Wonder Can Make You Happier, Healthier, and More Connected Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About JonahJonah Paquette, PsyD, is a psychologist, author, and speaker who specializes in the science of well-being and emotional fitness. He is the author of four books including Happily Even After, Awestruck, The Happiness Toolbox, and Real Happiness. Jonah’s writing aims to provide readers with practical, research-backed strategies to foster greater well-being and connection in our everyday lives. In addition to his clinical work and writing, Jonah offers training and consultation to organizations on the promotion of well-being and conducts professional workshops for clinicians around the country and abroad. He is a sought-after media contributor, having been featured regularly in print, online, radio, and podcast outlets. To learn more about Jonah and his work, visit www.jonahpaquette.com. Related Episodes: 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen 97. The New Happiness with Matthew McKay 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 227. The Science of Happy with Sonja Lyubomirsky 122. Taking in the Good with Rick Hanson 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman 211. Subtract with Leidy Klotz 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 251. Wonder with Frank Keil Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We all want to live a fun and fulfilling life, but the hustle and bustle of everyday life can leave us feeling overwhelmed and exhausted. That's why it's so important to make time for fun, even as an adult. From reducing stress to better relationships and improving mental and physical health, carving out time for fun activities can have a transformative impact on many aspects of our lives. Mike Rucker, an organizational psychologist, is here to share his best practices for incorporating fun habits into our day-to-day lives. Illustrating scientific evidence from his book, The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life, we discover why fun is beneficial and what fun habits you can create to make life more enjoyable. So, let's dive in and learn why fun isn't just for kids—it's an essential part of adult life too.Listen and Learn: Fun: what is it all about? What makes fun different from happiness Why is it beneficial for us to prioritize fun as busy adults? Finding time for fun The importance of reminiscing on fun experiences The question of friendship or parenting How to create and maintain fun habits The Rucker-PLAY model How to incorporate more fun into our friendships Resources: To learn more about creating fun habits, visit Mike’s website: https://michaelrucker.com/ Visit https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781982159054 to purchase The Fun Habit: How the Pursuit of Joy and Wonder Can Change Your Life. Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Mike Rucker Dr. Mike Rucker is an organizational psychologist and charter member of the International Positive Psychology Association whose work has been published in the International Journal of Workplace Health Management and Nutrition Research. His ideas about fun and health have been featured in The Wall Street Journal, The Washington Post, Fast Company, The Telegraph, Psychology Today, Forbes, Vox, Thrive Global, mindbodygreen, and more. Named one of ten digital changemakers by the Healthcare Information and Management Systems Society, he currently serves as a senior leader at Active Wellness.Related Episodes: 99. Make the Most of Your Time with Laura Vanderkam 130. Working Less with Alex Pang 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 251. Wonder with Frank Keil 271. Cultivating Friendships in Adulthood Featuring Adam Dorsay Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) is a powerful practice that has been proven to effectively reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety. But, while CBT can help bring us relief in the short term, it doesn't always create lasting change. That’s why many mental health professionals are now combining CBT with another technique - mindfulness. By combining the two practices, we can start to create long-term improvements in our behavior, thoughts, and attitudes.Here to discuss research-based practices from his recently published book, Mindful Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, A Simple Path to Healing, Hope and Peace, is best-selling author and psychologist, Seth Gillihan. Seth offers a model of fresh and practical strategies that build upon traditional techniques of CBT to transcend our capacity to control negative thinking and take the right steps to live in the present and enjoy life. Tune in to learn how these powerful practices can unlock a new path to healing. Listen and Learn: Seth's experience sharing so much of his personal mental health struggle in his book What mindfulness can do to help transcend the limitations of cognitive behavioral therapy Why mindfulness has lost its essence and how we can use mindfulness in a way that's beneficial An introduction to mindfulness for someone who might be resistant Acceptance vs. passivity Seth’s thoughts on psychiatric medication as a form of mental health treatment The relationship between cognitive behavioral therapy and acceptance and commitment therapy Resources: Learn more about Seth here: https://sethgillihan.com/ Check out Seth’s podcast: https://sethgillihan.com/podcasts/ Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Seth GillihanSeth Gillihan, PhD, is a licensed psychologist who specializes in mindful cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). He was a full-time faculty member at the University of Pennsylvania from 2008 to 2012, and taught in the Psychology Department at Haverford College from 2012-2015. He has been in private practice since 2012. Seth completed a doctorate in psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. He is the author of multiple books on mindfulness and CBT, Therapy Advisor with the self-therapy app Bloom, a medical reviewer for Everyday Health, and host of the Think Act Be podcast.Related Episodes: 80. Meditation for Fidgety Skeptics with Jeff Warren 257. The Gift of being ordinary with Ron Siegel 207. Burnout with Debbie and Jill 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Alcohol is a pervasive part of many of our lives, but have you ever questioned your relationship with alcohol? Taking an honest look at the way we use alcohol can be a powerful tool in identifying our motivations behind drinking, allowing us to make more conscious decisions and better manage our consumption. Therapist, Author, and Founder of Therapy for Women, Amanda E. White is determined to challenge the traditional “black-and-white” outlook on “alcoholism” by encouraging people to unlock a deeper understanding of their relationship with alcohol. Exploring practices from Amanda’s books Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol, we examine how to identify the purpose alcohol serves in your life and how to use this knowledge to recognize patterns of unhealthy behavior, develop boundaries and create a healthier lifestyle. Listen and Learn: Amanda’s own journey with alcohol Why people don't have the language to explore their relationship with alcohol Why Amanda’s books are geared toward people who don’t necessarily meet the criteria for an alcohol use disorder Why the black-and-white mentality of alcohol is problematic What makes us feel obligated to give the right reason for not drinking alcohol How therapists can examine the issue of alcohol use with their own patients Why do emotional relationships with alcohol make it increasingly harder to cut ties Why Amanda coined the term ‘disordered drinking’ How mindfulness practices can be helpful for people who want to change their drinking habits The importance of self-care in cutting down or quitting drinking What to do if we think a loved one’s relationship with alcohol is problematic, but they don't agree or they don't see it Resources: Learn more about Amanda and her work here: https://amandaewhite.com/ If you are looking for modern approaches to therapy, visit Therapy for Women: https://therapyforwomencenter.com/ You can buy both of Amanda’s books here: Not Drinking Tonight, A Guide to Creating A Sober Life: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780306925856 and Not Drinking Tonight: The Workbook: A Clinician's Guide to Helping Clients Examine Their Relationship with Alcohol: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9781683735519 Follow Amanda on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/therapyforwomen/ About Amanda E. White Amanda E. White is a licensed therapist and the creator of the popular Instagram account @therapyforwomen. She is the author of the book “Not Drinking Tonight: A Guide to Creating A Sober Life You Love,” and the corresponding workbook by the same title. She is the founder and owner of the group therapy practice, Therapy for Women Center, based in Philadelphia serving clients across the country. In her clinical work, she specializes in substance use disorders. People are drawn to Amanda’s unique expertise, accessible approach to healing and mental health. She has been featured in notable publications such as Forbes, Washington Post, Self, Shape, Women’s Health Magazine, and more. Related Episodes: 27. Alcohol and the Brain with Lara Ray 43. Willpower With Kelly McGonigal 66. Helping People Change Using Motivational Interviewing With Nadine Mastroleo 202. The Addiction Inoculation with Jess Lahey 215. How to Change with Katy Milkman 233. Dopamine Nation with Anna Lembke 235. The Urge: The Shaping of Addiction & Mental Health with Carl Erik Fisher 243. Motivation to Get it Done with Ayelet Fishbach Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

Taking the time to reflect on our values and goals is an essential practice for living a meaningful life. By considering what is most important to us, we can gain a greater understanding of our place and purpose in this world. It can help us to determine what direction to go in and how to prioritize our time and energy. Reflecting on our values and goals can also help us to stay motivated and inspired as we work towards achieving them.Valerie Tiberius, Professor of Philosophy, is here to provide us with a practical look at how to define and fulfill our values and goals. Through illustrative examples from her book, What Do You Want Out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters, Valerie guides us in finding our true purpose in life and how to get there. With her wise words and actionable advice, you’ll unlock the power to create the life you want and overcome obstacles to achieving it. Don't let this opportunity pass, take the chance to define your aspirations and make the most out of life!Listen and Learn: How psychology and philosophy intertwine to improve well-being An introduction to values fulfillment theory of well-being and what it has to offer Defining values and goals from a philosophical perspective Are some values better than other values? Managing conflict between competing goals Reinterpreting values When is it time to give up a goal that is important to you? Strategies for figuring out your values and what you want out of life How our moral values harmonize with our other values Real-world barriers that prevent us from realizing our goals Resources: Learn more about Valerie: https://www.valerietiberius.com/ Get Valerie’s book, What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters: https://bookshop.org/a/30734/9780691240688 Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Valerie TiberiusValerie Tiberius is the Paul W. Frenzel Chair in Liberal Arts and Professor of Philosophy at the University of Minnesota. Her work explores the ways in which philosophy and psychology can both contribute to the study of well-being and virtue. She is the author of The Reflective Life: Living Wisely With Our Limits (Oxford 2008), Moral Psychology: A Contemporary Introduction (Routledge 2015), Well-Being as Value Fulfillment: How We Can Help Others to Live Well (Oxford, 2018), and What Do You Want out of Life?: A Philosophical Guide to Figuring Out What Matters (Princeton University Press, 2023). She has published numerous articles on the topics of practical reasoning, prudential virtues, well-being, and moral psychology, and has received grants from the Templeton Foundation and the National Endowment for the Humanities. She served as President of the Central Division of the American Philosophical Association from 2016-17.Related Episodes: 116. Building a Meaningful, Values-based Life with Jenna LeJeune 118. Moral Injury and Shame with Lauren Borges and Jacob Farnsworth 138. Exploring Existence and Purpose: Existentialism with Robyn Walser 192. Happier With Tal Ben-Shahar 238. Values During Times of Transition (with Us) 247. Find Your Unicorn Space with Eve Rodsky 275. Work, Parent, Thrive with Yael Schonbrun 280. Choose Growth with Scott Barry Kaufman Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

We often form deep emotional relationships with things that are important to us, from cherished items to hobbies and more materialistic possessions. But why do we become so emotionally attached to the things that we love and how does this affect our lives?Here to delve deeper into the topic and talk about his book, The Things We Love: How Our Passions Connect Us and Make Us Who We Are, is author and expert on non-interpersonal love, Dr. Aaron Ahuvia. We explore the psychology of how passions shape our identity and connect us in meaningful ways, as well as offer advice for optimizing how we love and use our things to live more value-aligned lives.Listen and Learn: Is the word 'love' accurate in describing how we feel, or is it just hyperbole? The parallels that exist in relationships between people and the relationships between people and the objects that they love Why do we get more frustrated with objects we love than the people we love? The ability to love things isn't a flaw in human nature, but rather a useful trait Loving things can detract from loving people - how to find the balance What can materialistic people do to love things more deeply? Letting go of objects that you are emotionally attached to How attachment styles with people translate to our attachment style with objects Tips for using our things in more value-aligned ways Resources: Visit Dr. Aaron Ahuvia’s site for more on his work: https://thethingswelove.com/about-aaron/ Sign up for Aaron’s blog: https://thethingswelove.com/subscribe/ For even more insights on the things we love, check out Aaron’s article on Peace, Love, and Happiness (and Marketing): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/peace-love-and-happiness-and-marketing Grab your copy of all our favorite books at bookshop.org/shop/offtheclockpsych, including Yael’s new book, Work, Parent, Thrive! Check out Debbie, Yael, and Jill’s websites to access their offerings, sign up for their newsletters, buy their books, and more! About Dr. Aaron AhuviaDr. Aaron Ahuvia is the most widely published and cited academic expert on non-interpersonal love. A scientific study listed him as one of the top 20 most influential scientists studying consumer behavior, out of thousands US researchers working on related topics.Dr. Ahuvia has been at the forefront of this research since he published the first major scientific study on this topic entitled I Love It! Towards a Unifying Theory of Love Across Diverse Love Objects, over twenty years ago. Professor Ahuvia has over 100 academic papers and conference presentations. His research has been quoted in Time, The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, Glamour, and major publications in Europe and Japan. Dr. Ahuvia has also appeared on public radio talk shows as well as popular Television shows such as the Oprah Winfrey Show.Related Episodes: Episode 196. The Neuroscience of Marketing with Matt Johnson and Prince Ghuman Episode 249. How to Be Single & Happy with Jenny Taitz Episode 255. Influence is Your Superpower with Zoe Chance Episode 281. Belonging Uncertainty and Bridging Divides with Geoffrey Cohen Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoicesSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.