I’m Not Who I Was — Grief, Motherhood, and Identity After Stillbirth

Todays episode

In this episode of the Pregnancy, Loss, and Motherhood podcast, host Vallen Webb explores the profound impact of stillbirth on a mother's identity. She discusses the emotional journey of reclaiming oneself after loss, the struggle to trust one's body again, and the unique experience of mothering a child who is no longer here. Vallen emphasizes the importance of building a new identity with intention and the pressure many feel to return to their pre-loss selves. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, she encourages listeners to honor their past selves while embracing the transformation that comes with grief and motherhood.

Takeaways

• Motherhood changes identity drastically, especially after loss.
• It's common to feel erased after becoming a mother.
• Trust in one's body can be shattered by stillbirth.
• Mothering a baby that is not here is a unique challenge.
• The pressure to bounce back after loss is overwhelming.
• The version of you before loss may not exist anymore.
• You can decide who you want to be after loss.
• Mindset work is crucial for rebuilding identity.
• Every choice contributes to building a new self.
• You are not broken; you are becoming.

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