Pregnancy Loss and Motherhood

Vallen discusses the topic of denying oneself after experiencing the loss of a baby. She shares her personal experience and the realization that she stopped taking care of herself as a way of punishing herself. Vallen highlights the importance of confronting these self-denials to move forward. She also mentions the loss of identity and intimacy as other areas where she denied herself. Vallen encourages listeners to reflect on what they may be denying themselves and to prioritize self-care and self-love. TakeawaysAfter experiencing the loss of a baby, it is common for mothers to deny themselves self-care and self-love as a way of punishing themselves.Denying oneself can manifest in various ways, such as neglecting personal hygiene, avoiding intimacy, or feeling guilty about experiencing joy or happiness.It is important to confront these self-denials and work through them to move forward in the healing process.Loss of identity and strained relationships, such as with a partner, can also contribute to self-denial.Reflecting on what one may be denying themselves and prioritizing self-care and self-love is crucial in difficult timeLinks + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this episode, Vallen Webb discusses the importance of sharing the experience of pregnancy loss and seeking connection and community. She emphasizes that talking about the loss and sharing stories is a crucial step towards healing. Vallen challenges the narrative that talking about babies who have passed away will prevent healing, and instead asserts that sharing and connecting with others who have experienced similar losses is what truly helps in the healing process. She also addresses the shame and guilt that some mothers may feel and encourages them to share their stories without fear of judgment. Vallen highlights the role of time and connection in healing and emphasizes the need for advocacy and support for loss moms. She concludes by announcing a membership program for moms who are ready to find purpose and direction after their loss.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this episode, Vallen Webb and Damiana discuss the importance of supporting families through pregnancy loss and the role of doulas in advocating for patients. They highlight the challenges faced by medical providers in addressing perinatal loss and the need for improved communication and language. Vallen shares her personal experience and emphasizes the importance of compassionate care. They also discuss the need for open conversations and support for families who have experienced loss. The conversation explores the impact of family and cultural influences on the experience of perinatal loss. It highlights the need for education and support for family members who may not have the right language or understanding of perinatal loss. The conversation also delves into the societal shame and cultural norms surrounding perinatal loss, particularly for women. It emphasizes the importance of supporting fathers and family members who often face societal expectations to be strong and not openly grieve. The conversation concludes by discussing the need to acknowledge and assess the support needs of family members and the importance of standardizing support for all parents.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this episode, the Vallen Webb discusses her identity crisis after experiencing a stillbirth. She shares how the loss of her child caused her to question her sense of self and navigate the challenges of grief and parenting. The conversation explores the duality of grief and gratitude, the fear and stagnation that can follow loss, and the importance of finding purpose and growth in the healing process. The host also emphasizes the need for support and offers guidance for turning pain into purpose. Overall, the episode highlights the ongoing journey of bereaved mothers and the resilience they find in balancing grief and living in the present.TakeawaysPregnancy loss can lead to an identity crisis as the loss of a child can cause a person to question their sense of self and their role as a parent.Grief after pregnancy loss is a complex experience that involves a range of emotions, including confusion, fear, and sadness.Finding purpose and growth in the healing process can help bereaved parents navigate their grief and find meaning in their lives.Balancing grief and living in the present is a constant challenge for bereaved parents, but it is possible to find joy and fulfillment while still honoring the memory of their lost child.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this episode, Vallen Webb discusses the morbid truths and experiences of stillbirth and miscarriage. She emphasizes the importance of providing a voice and support for mothers who have lost babies and normalizing their experiences. The host shares her personal story of losing her daughter and the conflicting emotions and thoughts she had during that time. She explores five morbid truths related to pregnancy loss, including holding the baby, bathing the baby, capturing memories, watching the baby change, and saying goodbye forever.TakeawaysPregnancy loss is a tragic and messy experience, and it is important to provide support and understanding to mothers who have lost babies.Mothers who have experienced pregnancy loss may have conflicting emotions and thoughts, and it is normal to feel a sense of guilt, shame, and isolation.It is important to create a safe space for mothers to share their experiences without the need for trigger warnings, as trigger warnings can perpetuate feelings of shame and guilt.Mothers who have lost babies may have the opportunity to hold their babies for hours or even days, and it is a personal choice that varies depending on individual circumstances.Taking pictures and videos of the baby and creating memories can be a way for mothers to cherish and remember their babies in their physical form.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

In this conversation, Kate Carson and Vallen Webb discuss the importance of reconnecting with pleasure and the body after experiencing baby loss. They explore the concept of setting aside time for pleasure and listening to the instincts of the body. The conversation delves into the physical rehabilitation and alternative modalities available for healing. They also touch on navigating medical trauma and rebuilding trust in medical providers. The conversation concludes with a focus on embracing pleasure and thriving in all aspects of life.TakeawaysPregnancy loss can have a profound impact on relationships, and it is important to acknowledge and address the grief experienced by both partners.Sexuality and intimacy can be deeply affected by pregnancy loss, and it is essential to create a safe space for open communication and exploration.Reconnecting with the body is a crucial step in healing after pregnancy loss. This involves acknowledging and processing emotions, as well as rediscovering pleasure and sensuality.Seeking support from professionals, such as somatic love, , and relationship coaches, can be beneficial in navigating the complex emotions and challenges that arise after pregnancy loss. Take time to reconnect with pleasure and listen to the instincts of your body.Reverence for the genitals is important for healing and reclaiming a healthy relationship with them.Physical rehabilitation and alternative modalities can aid in the healing process.Navigating medical trauma requires taking things slow and listening to your body's needs.Embracing pleasure and thriving is possible at any stage of life.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Today I have the absolute honor and pleasure to talk with Barb Higgins. This woman is a culmination of so many things I don't know how to explain all she is and all she does. I hope you get so much out of this episode, I know I did. She has a way of making you feel comfortable and safe. Throughout her story, Barb emphasizes the importance of community and support for mothers who have experienced child loss. This conversation explores the themes of connection and support, grief and loneliness, the special bond between mothers and babies, the impact of baby loss on the holidays, creating new traditions, avoiding holidays and grief, and finding joy in the chaos of parenting.TakeawaysChild loss is an isolating experience, and mothers need to find a supportive community to connect with.Mothers who have experienced child loss have a unique bond and understanding of each other's grief.The journey of motherhood can be filled with both joy and tragedy, and it is important to celebrate and remember all of our children, regardless of how long they were with us.Health issues and complications can impact pregnancy and childbirth, and it is important to have a supportive medical team.Sharing our stories and experiences can help others going through similar situations feel less alone and provide them with hope and support. Grieving parents often find solace and support in connecting with others who have experienced similar losses.Guilt and self-blame are common reactions to the loss of a child, but it's important to remember that it's not the parent's fault.The bond between mothers and babies is special and continues even after the baby's death.Miscarriage and stillbirth are significant losses that deserve acknowledgment and support.Ultrasound memories can be cherished by parents and serve as a connection to their lost child.The reality of baby loss is unimaginable to those who haven't experienced it.The holidays can be particularly challenging for grieving parents, and it's important to find ways to navigate them.Creating new traditions can help grieving parents cope with the holidays and find meaning in their grief.Easing back into holiday celebrations after the loss of a child can be a gradual process.Laughter can be a powerful tool for coping with grief and finding moments of joy.Acknowledging grief instead of cheerleading can be more helpful and supportive to grieving parents.The grieving process is unique to each individual and may take longer than expected.Assimilating traumatic events takes time and involves processing and grieving.The five-year mark is often mentioned as a significant milestone in the grieving process.Finding joy in the chaos of parenting can be a way to honor and remember the lost child.Connect with Barb on Instagram, and make sure to grab a copy of her book!Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite...

In this episode, Vallen Webb discusses 10 things you'd never know about pregnancy loss. She emphasizes the lasting impact of pregnancy loss and the difficulty in trusting oneself after experiencing such a loss. Vallen highlights the importance of recognizing that a pregnancy loss involves the loss of a baby. She explores the impact of pregnancy loss on relationships and the sadness that can be associated with holidays. Vallen shares that many individuals who have experienced pregnancy loss desire to have another pregnancy. She also discusses how priorities shift and the comfort-seeking behavior that can arise after a loss. Finally, Vallen emphasizes the desire to talk about and share the stories of our babies as a way to find connection and community. TakeawaysPregnancy loss has a lasting impact and can be a difficult experience to navigate.Trusting oneself after a pregnancy loss can be challenging, but it is important to listen to our intuition.Pregnancy loss involves the loss of a baby, and it is important to recognize and acknowledge this.Pregnancy loss can have a significant impact on relationships, and communication and support are crucial.Holidays may be a sad time for individuals who have experienced pregnancy loss, as they envision the life they had imagined with their baby.Many individuals who have experienced pregnancy loss desire to have another pregnancy, not as a replacement, but as a way to experience the joy they were meant to have.Priorities often shift after a pregnancy loss, and individuals may focus more on experiencing moments rather than documenting them.After a pregnancy loss, many individuals become comfort-seeking homebodies, finding solace in being with loved ones at home.Talking about our babies and sharing their stories is important for finding connection and community.Finding joy and healing after a pregnancy loss is possible, although it may take time.

15 must-haves after pregnancy loss!Your favorite drink! IF anyone asks what you want- ask them to grab your favorite coffee or tea or a gift card to your favorite place. This gives you somewhere to go to get out of the house as well. Your memories. Photos, trinkets, anything tangible you can hold to grieve and mourn. EXCEDERIN EXTRA STRENGTH. The crying… all the crying it hurts so much. Make sure to follow instructions on how much to take and how often. A journal and your favorite pens or pencils. You will need a way to express yourself and writing is the easiest and most effective way to do it sitting down or laying down. OR use a voice recorder on your phone if you just want to talk into it. A nice candle to burn in honor of your baby. I found this to be healing when I was journaling or spending time in her corner where all her stuff was. It was comforting to hear the wick flicker ( i love the woodwick candles).1 or 2 comfort outfits that you can wear that are ok to go out in public in- I wore my maternity dress because it was the most comfortable. You will spend a lot of time going back and forth for the first couple days. Don’t overthink it or make extra decisions. Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.20 ways to celebrate and honor your baby after stillbirth or miscarriage.

Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.⁠⁠⁠20 Ways to celebrate and honor your angel baby.⁠⁠⁠ Printable.⁠⁠⁠Pregnancy Loss Journaling Prompts⁠⁠⁠. Printable.

This is one of my favorite conversations! I know you will love it too. We talk about honoring the human experience, listening to the spirit of the baby, journey of healing and grief, the magic of life and death and the journey of souls. If you understand energetics and that the world we live in is built upon vibrations and energy this conversation will give you chills.Lauren is a baby soul communicator and energy intuitive and helps women to connect with their baby’s soul—anywhere from preconception to early childhood. She has worked as a Registered Nurse for over 20 years caring for critically unwell babies requiring intensive care from birth and has witnessed the death of countless babies who have left the Earth during pregnancy, birth and in those early hours, weeks and months. Find Lauren here:Instagram: @born_energyWebsite: www.bornenergy.com.au Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

When you lose a baby. You lose parts of you that you didn’t realize existed. You lose the version of yourself that you are and will never be that person again. This loss is so profound and so painfully visceral, it feels like dying- only your not. Not physically dying anyways. Parts of yourself go up in flames and come back down as ash and it is up to you to rise up from those ashes like a phoenix and You lose a person to love, a future you imagined and planned, you lose the tangible and physical ways to love your baby. The ache and the longing one has for their dead baby is unimaginable. It doesn’t go away but it becomes less deniable that it will happen. The longing is ignored because we know the truth that they will never be returned to us in a physical form. We have to create a place for us to connect with out babies. We need a sacred place that is ours. That we can love our baby in safety. For some of us this is a burial plot at the cemetery, for others it is a place in our home where our babies ashes are with us. We create a “ofrenda” of sorts but it is all year long. Over time that place grows with mementos that support our love for our babies.Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.Grab your free PDF for 20 ways to celebrate and honor our babies. HERE.Grab your free journaling prompts HERE. Grab your free 30-day healing guide HERE.

This conversation goes into SO many aspects of parenting, motherhood and loss. We talk about the victim mentality that we have when things go terribly wrong in our life and how we have to make the choice or decide that we are going to find something good out of it. Even when our baby died/dies. We can choose to find something positive from it, even if it takes some times. Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

This episode is filled with ah-ha moments for me. Marie is filled with knowledge and experience. If you have been here for a while you know I have a strained and toxic relationship with my mother and our relationship has been filled with conditional love as long as I remember. We talk about conditional love, striving for connection and approval, healing mother wounds and overcoming guilt and shame and how all of these things affect our motherhood. Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

When I talk about normalizing pregnancy loss, a huge point in doing this work is so that women can find each other. When someone tells their story, others are more likely to share theirs as well. This creates connection and then it beautifully and subtly creates community. One by one women are sharing their stories. They are sharing their feelings, thoughts, and everything in between. Loss changes our entire worlds, it devastates our old selves and most of us turn into even better versions of ourselves. THis doesn’t mean we have stopped grieving or moved on, it simply means we have the courage to live beside it or with it. Losing Evelyn made me realize how much of a community we had in Lake Stevens, in our military community outside base. I had women and families bring us food and gifts and offer support, women who were not even considered friends, maybe acquaintances. They all took on this role of superwomen and I cannot tell you enough that they saved me. Knowing that so many are thinking of you, so many are quietly thinking of you and sending you love and prayers and hope. It is a powerful force that I think is lacking in our communities. Links + Resources:💌 Join our grief + growth newsletter: Here🎙️ Listen to more episodes: On Spotify or other favorite podcast platform!🧡 Visit the Evelyn James Shop: https://evelynjames.shopThanks to our partnership with IMBODHI, my Favorite Mom Outfit, Join the adult onesie club! I promise you won't go back! Imbodhi is the most amazing brand out their for unique, colorful, ethically sourced and comfy materials. Get $15.00 off using my code! The mom outfit you don't want to miss out on! https://www.imbodhi.co/VALLEN31986Connect with Me:Instagram → @evelynjamesandcoShop & Resource Hub → https://evelynjames.shopIf you find the podcast helpful, supportive, and uplifting and just love the message, please leave us a 5-star rating and leave a review! This helps our podcast tremendously, especially on Apple and Spotify! All the Others too! This helps our podcast go to the top of searches and allows other moms to find us.

My friends would visit and bring me coffee, just seeing their faces and being with me brought me so much hope and life. My bestie visiting for a week and making me laugh was hope. Sitting outside in the sunshine and letting in soak in was hope. Watching others from afar have babies that lived…was hope. Watching the world move on, even when it seemed to do so without me… was hope. Watching the seasons change brought me hope… nothing stayed still, it was always moving. So would I… one day. There were days a dragonfly would land on me and not just for a second or two. But I mean minutes passed where these dragonflies would just stay with me and I knew it was Evelyn visiting me and checking in on her family. Even when your at your worst and you feel that you could just die from the pain, you won’t. That pain is there because there is LOVE attached to it. If we didn’t love or care so much, would it hurt that much? Even if you don’t believe in god, having hope and faith in something out there will get you through. Evenif that is having faith in yourself in making it through your bad days. Hope in your family, your dogs, your job, your friends, your hobby, your dreams. You just have to hold on to the glimmers. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

What's next? You start doing it little by little with these little moments, it will happen without you even knowing at first before you start to become more aware of it. You'll have moments when you are grieving or crying and you will have these small clips or visions or glimmers if you will .These little moments of hope, joy, love, or dreams. You will see the light, the sun, you will see beyond that thick fog of grief. As the days go by you will see a little more and a little more and realize that you are still here. Life is still here. Living your life is okay and necessary and no matter what that baby is your baby and you are his/her mama. Living your life doesn't mean disrespecting him/her. You have to go on living. Living with intention, awareness and joy brings so much happiness to your baby, i will guarantee it. They are always with us. This is not just a sad and devastating end, but a beautiful, unimaginable beginning. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

The first week you think about all you have lost. The future you imagined, the dreams you had for your baby, yourself and your family, that included them. You think about how unfair it is. You question your faith or spirituality because who would make this a part of our “destiny” something we HAVE to go through to become who we are meant to be. You start thinking about having another baby, you need another baby, not to replace the baby we lost but to have a baby because we are suppose to have one, we wanted one, we were growing one, our bodies are postpartum bodies without a baby, this isn’t suppose to happen. Doensn’t our bodies know? What do I have to go through postpartum when I don’t have a baby? There are so many emotions and feelings we go through after we lose a baby. I was going through my journal that I kept after Evelyn died and I saw all of these conflicting feelings and thoughts and I remembered how confused I was. I want you to know how normal it is to feel these things. I also want you to know that it is a sign of tremendous strength to get help, just like I did. Here are some journaling topics if you want to start writing and processing the things in your head. It really helps to get them on the page. Journaling prompts here. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

If you want to know more about me... your host, Vallen, this episode has it all. I figured it was time to connect with you all in a different way. Sharing who I am, who I was and where I am going! Pregnancy Loss Education Course... Learn more HERE! www.vallenwebb.com for free resources, the blog and more! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Prioritize your self-care. When you are grieving and in a place of deep despair and sadness, it is physically hard to move to even do the most mundane of tasks. It is essential that you try your best to take care of yourself physically, emotionally, and mentally. Grief can be draining, so make sure you're getting enough rest, eating well, and finding ways to cope with your emotions in healthy ways. I will always say you need these 4 things. SLEEP, SUN, MOVEMENT, WATER. ( FOOD IS A GIVEN) There is so much evidence to support these modalities of healing. Seek Support. It can be so hard to ask for help when you don’t know what you need and there is no solution to what is wrong. But this is one of those situations where you need to lean on your support network, whether it's family, friends, or a support group. You don't have to go through this alone. Do you know anyone right now who has gone through loss? Is this a person you could talk to, and have a weekly check-in on? There are some wonderful support groups out there, I suggest asking in mom groups on FB in your area or surrounding cities. I highly recommend going off of a recommendation rather than a google search. Find a therapist who can support you through your grief and healing journey. This again, can take time to find the right support person. Ask friends and family to help with the kids, animals, grocery shopping, or cleaning. Professional Help. Not everyone feels comfortable going to therapy or trying to find mental health help. But if you find your grief is overwhelming and affecting your ability to parent, consider seeking support from a grief counselor or therapist. Communicate with Your Children. Effective communication during a grieving period can be so hard. What and how you talk to your children can depend on their age and understanding. I always encourage families to have open and honest conversations with your children about your grief. Make sure to use age-appropriate language and answer their questions to the best of your ability without lying or being vague. This one was always tricky for me. I always wanted to make sure there was a balance and I wasn’t throwing all of my emotions or feelings on my girls, especially without my husband home.( He was on a 7-month deployment when I had my full term 40 weeks 5 day stillbirth) The girls and I spent all of our time together and sometimes it was hard not to just sit there and cry when I was cuddling with them, being reminded that Evelyn should be there too. Maintain Routines. Adults and children find comfort in routines, so try to maintain a sense of normalcy as much as possible. Consistency can provide them with a sense of stability during a devastating time. A month after my daughter died, Jon headed back to his ship on deployment and the girls and I went back to our daily summer routine. There was relief in our simple steps. Be Patient with Yourself. Remember, grief is a process, and it's okay to have days when you're struggling more than others. The healing after losing a baby is anything but linear. You will have waves, more so in the beginning. Be patient with yourself and acknowledge your emotions. Create Special Moments Despite your grief, try to create positive moments with your children. Board games, puzzles or watch a silly family movie and just soak in all the love and cuddles. One day you will come to realize it is all about love. At the end of the day, love is what will make it all okay. Find free resources at www.vallenwebb.com If you are a doula or postpartum doula and you would like to support loss...

There are a few things that can get us through this devastating loss. Two of these things are goals and purpose. A lot of us try and find purpose after stillbirth or miscarriage. Some of us discover and create goals to keep us on an upward path. These two things help bring hope back in the picture. Something to look forward to and work towards. I also believe it helps speed up the healing process. Pregnancy loss takes a lot from as as women and mothers and humans in general. Stillbirth and miscarriage are still taboo and stigmatized in our society. Nobody wants to talk about it. I'm kinda blazing my own trail and trying to figure this all out as I go- normalizing pregnancy loss I mean. Join me on this journey as we navigate it together . Let's dive in to the episode. You can get free resources at www.vallenwebb.com/resources Click HERE for a list of pregnancy loss journaling prompts. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Helping children navigate grief is a sensitive and crucial task. Here are evidence-based strategies to support them during this challenging journey: 1. Open Communication: Encourage children to express their feelings and thoughts about the loss. Create a safe space for open discussions and validate their emotions. Be patient; sometimes they may not immediately understand or articulate their feelings. 2. Provide Honest Information: Use age-appropriate language to explain the situation and answer their questions truthfully. Avoid euphemisms or vague explanations. Tailor your approach to their age and comprehension level. 3. Maintain Routines: Stick to regular daily routines as much as possible. Consistency offers stability and predictability during a turbulent time, providing comfort to children. 4. Offer Physical Comfort: Physical touch, like hugs and cuddles, can provide reassurance to grieving children. Attend to their physical needs and offer comfort when they seek it. 5. Encourage Creative Expression: Allow children to express their feelings through art, writing, or other creative activities. This can serve as a therapeutic outlet for their emotions, facilitating communication. 6. Provide Reassurance: Children may experience guilt or fear after a loss. Reassure them that the loss wasn't their fault and that they are loved and supported. Address their concerns and emphasize their security. 7. Involve Them in Rituals: Include children in memorial rituals or activities that honor the memory of the deceased. This can help them feel connected and provide a sense of closure, reinforcing the idea that their loved one will always be remembered. 8. Seek Professional Support: If a child's grief becomes overwhelming or persistent, consider involving a mental health professional trained in grief counseling. They can offer specialized guidance and support tailored to the child's needs. 9. Encourage Social Support: Foster connections with friends, family members, or support groups where the child can share their feelings and connect with others who have experienced loss. Reducing the stigma around discussing loss is essential for children to feel comfortable expressing themselves. 10. Monitor Their Well-being: Keep a close eye on changes in the child's behavior, mood, or sleep patterns. If signs of prolonged distress emerge, do not hesitate to seek professional help. Early intervention can make a significant difference in their healing journey. These evidence-based strategies have proven effective in helping children cope with grief. Remember that each child is unique, and what works for one may not work for another. Be patient, adaptable, and open to seeking help when needed. Strength lies in asking for support, and by using these strategies, you can guide children through their grief journey in a healthy and supported manner. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Normalizing pregnancy loss involves making the conversation around stillbirth and miscarriage more common and accepted within society. The goal is to create an environment where individuals can openly discuss their experiences without fear of judgment or shame. It's interesting that we're trying to normalize something as profound as death, which society often tries to distance itself from due to its inherent discomfort and uncertainty. This avoidance is driven by the fear of the unknown and the discomfort that arises from facing the concept of mortality. However, avoiding conversations about pregnancy loss doesn't help the families affected by it. The process of normalization plays a vital role in healing by addressing several crucial aspects: 1. Reducing Stigma: The stigma associated with pregnancy loss often prevents individuals from seeking support or sharing their stories. By normalizing the conversation, it becomes easier for people to seek help and discuss their experiences without fear of being judged. 2. Increasing Awareness: Normalizing a topic brings it into the public domain, enhancing understanding and knowledge. As awareness grows, empathy and support for those affected also increase. 3. Creating Connection: The normalization of pregnancy loss reminds people that they are not alone in their experiences. This shared connection can foster a sense of belonging and validation. 4. Encouraging Communication: Open discussions about normalized topics encourage people to talk openly about their emotions, experiences, and challenges. This communication can lead to a deeper understanding, empathy, and sharing of coping strategies. 5. Promoting Healing Strategies: Normalization of healing strategies like seeking therapy or practicing self-care can encourage individuals to adopt these practices without feeling unusual or weak. To help normalize pregnancy loss, you can take several actionable steps: 1. Education and Awareness Campaigns: Utilize platforms like social media, podcasts, workshops, and community events to share information, stories, and resources. Educate people about the realities of pregnancy loss to counter misconceptions. 2. Promote Authentic Conversations: Create safe spaces for open and honest sharing. These spaces allow respectful, empathetic dialogue where people can express themselves without judgment. 3. Lead by Example: When influential figures or role models openly discuss and normalize these experiences, it sends a powerful message that these topics are important and should be discussed. 4. Media Representation: Showcase diverse and realistic portrayals of pregnancy loss in movies, TV shows, literature, and art. Accurate depictions contribute to the normalization process. 5. Collaborative Efforts: Partner with organizations, communities, and advocates sharing the goal of normalizing pregnancy loss. Collective efforts amplify impact and reach a broader audience. 6. Storytelling: Sharing personal stories humanizes the topic and helps others relate. It builds a sense of community and is integral to the healing process. 7. Consistency: Normalization is an ongoing process. Consistently discussing and advocating for the topic helps it become a natural part of conversations and reduces the novelty factor. Ultimately, the goal is to move forward, not "move on." Healing is a continuous journey, and by focusing on identity building, finding joy, and practicing self-love, individuals can move forward while honoring their experiences and maintaining a sense of empowerment. Normalizing pregnancy loss is about recognizing its place in the tapestry of life and...

This is such a good episode. I give you 10 actionable ways to love yourself after pregnancy loss. Using self-care, self-aware(ness) and self-love. Sometimes after a stillbirth or miscarriage, we neglect ourselves because we blame ourselves. But I want to remind you, you did nothing wrong and that loving yourself isn't hurting the memory of your baby or make you a bad mom. Sometimes we feel like we have to ALWAYS focus on the baby that died. If we aren't thinking about her/him, no one else is and they will be forgotten, I'm their mom, I need to think about them all the time. They deserve that. Sometimes we are worried about taking care of ourselves and someone saying something mean or being unkind. Well you know what? Our baby may be gone, but we have to go on living- especially if there are other babies to take care of. So Guess what?! We have to take care of ourselves, if we don't what use are we? How can we fill others cups if ours is empty? Just because our baby died doesn't mean we can't love ourselves, and I'll keep reminding you and me of this!!! You deserve to love you and nurture your soul. Let me give you some ideas on how! --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

to exploring the complexities of anxiety and how it can manifest in our lives after experiencing pregnancy loss. Anxiety is a common struggle for many of us, and while some may have coping mechanisms, the aftermath of a painful event can bring forth a whole new set of fears, worries, and intrusive thoughts that can be daunting to navigate.In this podcast, we talk about my personal journey after experiencing my daughters stillbirth. I faced an overwhelming amount of anxiety surrounding the birth options for my sons. I felt paralyzed by indecision and the fear of making the wrong choice.I hope you enjoy this episode and have a great week--- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Jon headed back to work after 5 weeks of paternity leave... Here is what happened! I had a really hard week and I wanted to share some of my thoughts with you!!! I tried to be so intentional with my week and lower my expectations because I knew it would be difficult. Boundaries were violated and I was upset and just realized how important it is that we really hold our boundaries and make sure we are taken care of. Just remember you are important, your boundaries and needs are important and you have to take care of yourself, especially when you are healing. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Every year there is a month we all may dread, be saddened about or is bittersweet. Maybe some are excited to celebrate their sweet babies and look forward to it. Where ever you are on that scale, there is no right or wrong. Sometimes I have ALLL the feelings- you know what I mean. One minute we are filled with love and feel blessed to know our babies are always with us and we can still celebrate them and the next minute we are finding a closet to ugly cry in. Well this month is my daughters birthday. I look forward to the traditions we have created over the last 3 years. This year would have been her 4th birthday. I can only imagine how much joy she would have brought our family. We would have 5 children- to me that sounds crazy to say outloud. I never wanted that many kids. But after losing her, I wanted nothing more than a big family to share this life with. I wanted to share how this month typically goes for me and share the rituals and birthday traditions we created to keep her memory alive. My sweet baby girl. Sometimes it still feels unreal. I hope you all are healing a little each day. If you have any of your own traditions that you would like to share with me, please leave me a comment! I read them all. You can also send an email to [email protected] or send me a message on FaceBook Join our group here- https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100094243272420 If you want more info on what I do head to the website and check it out! www.vallenwebb.squarespace.com Looking forward to connecting with you! xx Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

One thing that gets affected after pregnancy loss is our marriages or relationships with significant others. It's not something we think about until it happens to us and we are forced to deal with it. What I have learned is you can either grow apart or work hard on growing together. I find grief is a powerful force to make the greatest change. Sometimes we need things to be completely broken to decide whether to let it go or use those broken pieces to completely transform and positively influence our lives. Whatever you decide it is a process and having support and help makes all the difference in th world. I wanted to have a conversation of the realities of what grief can do after a pregnancy loss to us and the ones we love the most. I don't see many conversations about this but I find it to be absolutely crucial and important to acknowledge this aspect of pregnancy loss. Have a great week! xx Vallen You can email me at [email protected] Find me on tiktok: @vallenwebb2 --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Grief can be so heavy. It can also make you believe so many things that are not true by creating intrusive thoughts, that we can often put on loop in our brains. Grief can create these lies that we start to believe and I see this so often- especially in my own story. I share my story and the thoughts that my grief tried getting me to believe and how to change them. We have to be intentional in the thoughts we have and knowing when we need to shift and reverse them. You can find hope and joy again, even amidst grief, you can find pockets of joy or happiness. Grief and happiness can coexist. You can have more than 2 conflicting feelings at one time and that's OKAY. That makes you NORMAL lol. We can normalize that and realize that we are allowed to feel anyway we need too. Focusing on the now and being present is what saved me in my worst grief. Focusing on how I could love my girls more and help them heal as well. Spending time outside in nature and really feeling with my senses the sun, the wind, the rain, breathing the air, listening the world around me. Grief has a way of isolating us but we can fight that, we can change that and we normalize that and build a community around us. Hope and joy are coming my sweet friends. It just might take a little time! xx Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

I'm so excited to have Katie on the show today! You will see like I did, how much love and kindness just radiates from this woman. I'm beyond blessed to have such a beautiful conversation with this mama. Katie Joy Duke is an author, mindset coach for women, transformational speaker, and mom of 2 daughters...one living and one in spirit. She practiced social justice law for 9 years before her firstborn daughter Poppy was stillborn at full-term. Motivated to heal from her devastating loss, she left her legal career in 2016 and spent 6 years writing her bestselling memoir, Still Breathing: My Journey with Love, Loss, and Reinvention which she published May of 2022. Only days after submitting her final manuscript to her copy editor, Katie got her first ever mammogram. That scan led to many others, and at the tender age of 41, Katie was diagnosed with Stage 4 metastatic breast cancer. She completed 5 months of chemotherapy in August, had mastectomy and lymph node surgery in October, and 6 weeks of radiation this January and February. Authenticity is her #1 value and she looks forward to writing another memoir about her healing journey with cancer. Please Join us in this candid and soulful conversation between loss moms. I hope you enjoy it as much as I do! If you are interested in learning more about Katie or working with her as your coach or buying her book. I'll link below! If you want to inquire about her coaching services email her at [email protected] Insta: @katiejoyduke Website: www.katiejoyduke.com Buy her book on Amazon or Barnes & Noble: Still Breathing: My journey with love, loss, and reinvention By: Katie Joy Duke. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

I've recently learned that gender disappointment actually goes really deep. It is not a surface-level issue that comes up. There are so many things including your upbringing, your experiences, social interactions, and much more that go into feeling gender disappointment. I've gone through gender disappointment twice after my full-term loss because all I wanted was another girl since that is what was taken from me. Little did I know there was SO much more to that. In general, gender disappointment tends to land us in shame when others hear how we are feeling. And, judgment, and shame, are NOT what we need the most at this point! No thank you. Nor do you need validation for how you are feeling, but it is nice knowing others can sympathize and just be there for you. Hearing things like, you should just be happy with a living or healthy baby, or you should be grateful that you can get pregnant, and so on are just people who are uncomfortable with the conversation and want you to These things are not helpful and nor do you have to listen to them. I highly encourage anyone who is suffering with this and can't seem to move on from it to see a licensed therapist to help you work through the deeper stuff that it's attached too. *** I always like to note I'm not a medical doctor, I recommend things based on personal experience, education and evidence-based information. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Maternal Mental Health is actually considered a crisis these days. Which is disheartening and scary. But now we are ALL going through something even if things look close to perfect on the outside. The last few weeks have been SO challenging for me as I'm shifting internally and externally. Working on my mindset, limiting beliefs, and constant thoughts about missing my daughter and being pregnant have been almost unbearable. I felt hopeless. This is a feeling I have every now and again when I have neglected to take care of myself and my needs. As I mature, I have more self-awareness around and am able to take steps to mend the emotional damage. So here is a raw episode of my struggles and how I'm doing. I'm on the up and up since it's been a few weeks but I'm still dealing with the internal struggles from this feeling. Let me know how you are doing! You can email me at info.vallenwebb.com or comment on this episode! I get back to you personally and I love taking the time to get to know you all. Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Have you ever become aware of a limiting belief you didn't even know you had?! Well I did recently and I wanted to share my experience and what I did to start to change that messaging in my head! I hope you love this episode and I hope you'll leave a comment so we can chat more about this! Have a great week. xx Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Are you pregnant after a loss or trying to be? This episode is for you. I've had some pretty interesting experiences after loss with providers. I know how it feels to "suck" it up and just deal with however you get a referral or just don't know how to switch or don't know who else you can choose. You don't have to stay with an OB provider if they are not meeting your needs, allow you to feel safe and seen or just make you uncomfortable. Here are some ways to choose a provider that is right for you. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

I wanted to give an intro to who I am and the story behind what I do. My heart is centered on helping moms live after loss with intention, purpose, and joy. Here is my story about my daughter Evelyn who was born July 20th 2019, still. She died the day before at 40 weeks and 4 days. I share my story in hopes that you feel less alone and less scared about sharing your story. I've become the go-to girl in my community and friends when women lose babies and they want to know how to support them and take care of them. And it is an honor to lead these humans to help and support those who have lost their babies. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

As a mom do you ever feel like your confidence has somewhat slipped away from you? Like you don't know who you are or what you are doing and lack the intention it takes to build it back up? But also have no fricken idea where to start or how to build confidence? Then this episode is for you love! You will learn about confidence and how you get it. You will learn that in every new version of yourself and every new season that comes, you have to learn new confidence! I hope you enjoy this episode, it's been on my mind a lot lately and we will definitely break this down farther in other episodes. Love you, mama! Have a great week. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Holidays are iconically wonderful parts of the year that are full of family, traditions, food, and fun. But what if it's not? What if you don't have a family? What if you don't have the will or energy to create a spectacular holiday for your kids? Are you still a good mom? Will your kids be mad at you? Let me just say, I think it is MORE common for a lot of us to struggle during the holidays than any other. How could we not with expectations we put on ourselves because other people are doing it, or we are trying to compare ourselves to a mom we know that has hertogether and does everything for her kids? Family feuds and drama make us feel terrible. The family that is no longer with us, but we miss them most during the holidays. There is a lot that tags along with the holiday season and it is OKAY IF YOU WANT TO DO IT YOUR OWN WAY without all the extras. Let's have a chat about all the reasons we may have that can affect us during this time and what we can do to make it a little better. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Every get stressed about a new year coming up? You have goals, ideas, celebrations, dreams that you want to come alive, but don't know where to start? Come chat with me about easy, actionable ways to plan a joy filled year!!!!! I know especially after losing my baby girl, Evelyn, this time of year is just a bit harder. But there can be joy found for the new year! Let's talk about intentions, living in the now, gratitude, books and more! I don't want to give it all away. Come listen and feel more at ease about the new year and plan for joy and finding hope! xx --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Friendships are a huge part of our lives. One of the most important, especially for moms. We depend on our friendships to give us hope, save our sanity, love each other, and mostly to share our chaotic lives with. When we have friendships that don't light us up anymore but we are too scared to end them, that can really hurt us in the long run. We will talk about friendships, when it is time to end them, friends for seasons, friends for lessons, etc. Let's talk about it all! Leave a comment and let me know what you think about this episode! Have a good week loves. xx --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

THere are so many different reasons we can be stressed during the holidays, whether it's financial, relationship issues, family drama, health issues, etc. Listen to hear a few ways you can counteract the inevitability of Murphy's Law and stress during the holiday season!!!! SO happy your here, please leave a comment or review if you loved the show. If you have any ideas you'd like to share about what your going through send me an email, i read and respond to all messages and comments personally. [email protected] --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

No matter how long ago your loss was holidays can be a particular trigger or just a very sad time for moms and dads who have lost a baby. I wanted to share 3 things you can do to help support your physical and mental self. You deserve to take care of you. You matter, you are worthy. I hope you find the joy in even the littlest moments mama, xx Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

I think there are a lot of things that we are not taught growing up. Even as grown ups difficult things are often put to the side or not talked about. Being a mom is so hard, why are we not taught what motherhood actually is and what it means to be a mom? What are your thoughts? Share them in the comments, I read and respond to all comments personally! Enjoy mama, --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

Being a Mom is hard, especially when we are always trying to be selfless and meet everyone's needs and neglect our own. The last half of this year I dedicated to my health... little did I know I would be pregnant a month later! After loss, it is even harder trying to take care of ourselves, whether it's our subconcious telling us we aren't worthy or don't deserve it, or it stems from childhood or adult trauma, or just the beliefs we were engrained with from everyone we have ever encountered. It is MESSY, it feels like chaos, but if we aren't well our families aren't either. Take a step back mama, choose something you can do for you. Even if it feels hard. You deserve it. You are a human and everyone is born with the right to take care of themselves, however that may look. Hang in there! Love you all. Let me know what you think about this episode by leaving me a comment! I read them all and it also helps others find me. --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message

I wrote out a list of 5 things I believe everyone should know about pregnancy loss. And I mean everyone. The more conversations we open up about stillbirth & miscarriage, the more support we can start helping moms get who need it. My goal is to help all moms get on a path to healing and finding joy again, loving themselves again, because if you lost a baby, you know. You know the toll it takes on us personally, we don't trust ourselves, we have such enormous guilt and shame and sometimes there is alot of hatred and sadness that we don't know what to do with. SO I hope you find this episode valuable, i'm working on being vulnerable- that's one of my weaknesses. My hope is that my story and experiences can help at least one person. Please like, comment and share this episode with anyone you think needs to hear it. It helps me tremendously. I read and respond to all comments personally. I look forward to hearing from you. xx Vallen --- Send in a voice message: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/vallen89/message