Perfectly Obstinate People

What was your high school job? For Jack Kolbe it was being a self-taught music producer. Instead of flipping burgers he was getting paid to produce music. This week you will get a behind the scenes look at how Kathy's grandson, Jack, went from sitting in his room "messing around" making music to producing music with hundreds of thousands of worldwide listeners. You will discover the tricks Jack uses to overcome his perfectionism and what he is obstinate about.

Emily Melious and Kathy Kolbe discuss the difficulties her son is facing in today's school system and some great advice to help him succeed. Emily is the founder and CEO of Launch Consulting (www.launchconsulting.io). Emily is passionate about empowering people and companies to thrive. Drawing on her expertise in HR, People Analytics and the Kolbe Wisdom, she has a long track record of transforming small- to mid-sized companies into highly productive and engaged organizations. Emily is a Kolbe Certified Consultant and Youth Specialist which has aided her in her mission to help young people discover their natural talents, and has coached over 900 students to date.

Howard Kesselman is an accountant, attorney, and much more. As a natural innovator, he has collected an array of different careers and hobbies. Listen to the story of how a Quick Start survived the waters of law and finance.

Kathy Kolbe and Bret Loucks discuss one of the most common assumptions in Kolbe Theory. Does being an initiating Quick Start really make you an extrovert? Many seem to think so. Listen to Kathy and Bret debunk this myth.

Kathy Kolbe interviews Annapurna Chitnavis, an extremely bright biochemistry graduate. She not only got her bachelors degree in biochemistry, but she did it by the age of 17. How did knowing her M.O. help her succeed? Annapurna gives her side on the subject.

Kathy Kolbe interviews former MLB pitcher, Jim Bruske. He shares his experience of making it to the Major Leagues. He is an inspiring example of why you should always fight for the freedom to be you.

Kathy Kolbe discusses the biggest block to learning, arrogance. There's a big difference between being obstinate and being arrogant. One defines the successful, and the other ultimately leads to failure.

Kathy Kolbe and the Dynamynd, Inc. team share their experiences in school and family. They share the eye-opening effects of learning your MO for the first time. The Dynamynd, Inc. team is committed to giving everyone the knowledge of their strengths, in order to change the world.

Kathy Kolbe and the Dynamynd team come together and discuss procrastination. We all do it and we all do it differently. Today we talk about the many ways that people procrastinate based on their Modus Operandi.

Kathy Kolbe interviews Yael Balbuena Basto, a bright, student advocate, and DACA recipient. Yael was born in Mexico but moved to the U.S. at the age of 4. Although he calls it home, his journey has been filled with many obstacles in life and education. Aliento is an organization that is undocumented and youth-led. They offer education, internships, and healing to many who have been hurt by harsh immigration laws.

Kathy interviews her grandson, CJ Bruske, a true Facilitator. CJ explains what life is like as a Facilitator by bringing up examples from past experiences. They discuss the great impact facilitators have, even though most of their efforts go unnoticed. Show Notes: 0:00 Intro 00:41 Facilitator CJ Bruske 02:00 What is it like to be a Facilitator? 06:00 Quick Overview of Kolbe Modes 07:20 What makes a Facilitator move? 10:30 How to study as a Facilitator 12:18 Do you NEED to be a nice person? 15:30 A Facilitators sacrifice 20:30 The Conasium 24:50 "It's better when everyone's involved" 27:00 Be Selfish? 33:00 Facilitators keep the family together 35:15 End

Elizabeth McNamee is a consultant and Life Fellow of the American College of Healthcare Executives. Elizabeth is especially skilled in consensus building among diverse groups as well as in the development of solutions to complex health care issues. She truly understands the amazing potential of collaboration and how to get there.

Kathy Kolbe and Sterling Loucks, discuss some common misconceptions about Fact Finders. They get rid of the myth that knowing more facts means a higher IQ. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:30 A Sequel to the Quick Start Myths 01:05 Definition of Fact Finder 03:28 Fact Finders are all brilliant, right? 05:00 IQ is evenly distributed across all modes of action 06:05 How Fact Finders see the world 06:42 How can you see Fact Finder? 08:30 Fact Finders make great excuses 10:00 Affect always comes first 13:30 Fact Finders are experts 14:40 Fact Finder + Quick Start 17:40 IQ and Fact Finder have no correlation 18:25 We must differentiate interests and intelligence 21:23 End

Kathy Kolbe and, Dr. Ned Hallowell, a New York Times Bestseller and ADHD expert give their views on ADHD.

Kathy Kolbe and, Harvard alumna, Kay Corbin go behind the scenes of the Harvard interview process. What kinds of things do Harvard interviewers look for in an applicant? The answers may surprise you. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:28 My good friend, Kay Corbin 03:25 "The Post" in real life 08:21 The Harvard acceptance rate 10:44 Behind the scenes of the Harvard interview 13:09 What makes applicants stand out? 16:50 Interviewing kids in their own environment 18:30 Are bribes really that common? 19:55 Kay on the college admissions scandal 22:30 It matter how you fit into your school's culture 25:13 High school has been dumbed down 26:08 "This is the most fabulous generation" 28:28 Does Harvard accept DACA? 30:19 End

Kathy talks with David Kolbe, CEO of Kolbe Corp. David explains the new "Takes Two" program for intimate partner relationships. They also discuss their own conative conflicts, respect, business ethics and the future of the Kolbe Theory. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 01:00 Future of the Kolbe Theory 03:45 Takes Two for intimate partner Relationships 05:53 Our conative conflict 09:15 Can we separate business from personal? 10:00 Respect is the key 11:35 Obstinate about priorities with resistance in Follow Thru 13:40 Communication is key 15:00 Motivation 16:00 The prodigy example 16:20 Saving for my kid's education 17:30 Finances in Takes Two 18:10 Obstinately financially independent 20:21 Pulling the plug 21:25 Future of Kolbe in good hands 22:27 End

Kathy talks with Sterling Loucks, Vice President of Dynamynd, Inc. about being obstinate in learning your way. She offers tips to help you memorize and access memories for learning at school and in the workplace. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:50 I don't do memory 02:25 Memory for detail or essence? 03:50 I remember eyes 05:00 How a Theorist memorizes 06:30 I don't remember saying that 08:11 Is memory Cognitive? 10:07 How you memorize is based on your M.O. 13:24 Quick Start method 14:15 Fact Finder 14:46 Follow Thru 15:30 Implementor 16:07 Facilitators 17:24 Teach HOW to memorize 19:15 Long term memory 22:06 What academics tell you to do may not work for you 24:00 Be obstinate about how you learn! 25:25 Emotions affect learning 29:33 Habits 31:25 Engage your M.O. 32:46 End

In the last episode we talked about being obstinate in business. Now, join Brian Burkhart and Kathy Kolbe as they discuss the not-so business side of life. Is a flourishing personal life an indicator of a successful business life, or are the two truly separate? Show Notes: 00:00 Part 1 Recap 01:00 Intro 03:00 You are the business 05:50 How do you sustain your obstinacy? 08:00 Balancing life and business 11:45 Love is the foundation 14:23 End

Brian Burkhart, noted keynote speaker, Shark Tank coach, TED presentation advisor and communications guru talks with Kathy Kolbe about his obstinance, challenges and what makes him tick. Show Notes 00:00 Intro 01:45 Who are you? 02:45 Pain in the ass! 03:30 Hogwash 06:20 Go work at McDonald's 07:25 You suck...and here's why 08:30 Eccentric act 10:50 Arrogant SOB 14:00 Poor Meghan 15:30 Send her something 17:25 Felt misunderstood 19:00 Not in my face 20:20 I don't need to win 23:00 Don't back down 25:00 Painfully aware 27:45 Brian's Kolbe M.O. 29:00 The moral imperative 34:00 Stand firm? 35:45 Take the nickel 37:40 End

All Quick Starts are not made the same! In this episode, Kathy debunks false stereotypes about people who initiate in Quick Start. These individuals are often viewed as more creative, more energetic and prone to ADHD. Kathy provides clarity about this most misunderstood of the 4 modes of action and gives insight on how the other modes of action come into play. By gaining a deeper understanding, Quick Starts will be better able to play it big, with a better chance of success. Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:21 The reality of Quick Start 01:15 Continuing to develop theory 01:30 False stereotypes 02:52 Doctor advises Kathy to stop talking 03:55 Ad lib but stop and think 04:41 Endless Quick Start energy? 06:26 No Solopreneurs 08:04 Serial Entrepreneurs 09:03 Hell No! 11:00 Unfocused disability? 13:10 Never finish anything 15:09 Learning from failure 16:00 Managing that talent 18:00 The many forms of Quick Start 19:35 Use all your strengths, and all 3 parts of the mind 21:15 End

Listen in as Kathy talks with Nicole and Sterling Loucks, the two senior managers at Dynamynd, Inc, the company through which Kathy and her team create new products and programs. They discuss persistence and obstinance in the workplace and life. What does it look like, and when is it appropriate? Show Notes: 00:00 Intro 00:45 No one liked the name 01:45 Is obstinance negative? 03:30 Example of strength 05:00 Respect 06:00 Example of how to stay in your game 08:45 Where it doesn't work 09:45 Quietly obstinate? 10:45 Synergy 12:30 Star Mentality 14:00 What happens when family members are obstinate? 21:30 Persistence 24:30 Freddie Mercury and Queen 29:50 End

At 3 years old doctors believed Jake Scott would never speak again, by age 5 he was diagnosed with severe autism. Few believed Jake would finish high school on time, if ever. Thanks to support from his family and knowledge of his conative capabilities, Jake persevered. He not only spoke and graduated high school in four years, he delivered the commencement speech for his graduating class. Jake and his mother, Heidi, visit with Kathy to discuss how he succeeded, his goals for the future and the frustrations along the way. Show Notes 00:00 Intro 04:52 expectations 08:50 What did the family do? 15:28 Doing the work 20:30 Persistence, persistence, persistence 25:00 Sid the dog 28:31 Career planning 32:00 Bullying and dangerous situations 39:00 Perfectly capable 42:00 Jake's message for other students

The conclusion of Kathy's interview with Joe Polish. Includes more of Joe's marketing wisdom and Joe's dating ad! 00:00 Intro 00:40 First business mentor 03:09 Eating or starving 05:16 Immersion method for Quick Starts 06:30 Results focus 07:40 Joe's Dating Ad 21:21 More than I could handle 26:00 Don't forget your pain 31:13 End

In this episode Kathy Kolbe interviews Joe Polish, a carpet cleaning entrepreneur who went from rags to riches. Literally. 00:00 Intro 01:06 "The King of Networking" 04:01 The ad that started it all 06:55 The theory of reciprocity 11:00 What makes you different? 15:30 Get out of your comfort zone 17:45 You are either in communication or trying to escape 20:30 Joe's drug addiction 22:46 How did you learn to trust? 27:01 He who has his health has 1000 dreams 29:18 How would you define selling? 33:49 Going broke with intelligence 38:35 End

Kathy discusses the relationship between dieting, exercise, wellness, and your conative strengths. Some things just don't work for some people. We'll teach you how to be succeed with any M.O. in health and wellness! 00:00 Intro 00:20 The one thing to be obstinate about 02:55 Advice for insistent follow thru 03:35 Advice for the rest of us 07:26 Fact Finders 09:00 Implementors 10:46 Eating is fun! 12:53 Quick Starts: Binge Eating 14:47 Eating for Implementors 15:25 Dieting for Follow Thrus 16:34 Fact Finder: Research your food 17:58 Taking your pills - only easy for Follow Thrus 18:30 The struggle of non-Follow Thrus 19:03 Creating Habits 21:34 Why it's so hard to thrive in a hospital 23:22 Be Obstinate 24:34 End

What's wrong with just trusting your gut? Kathy offers a no-holds-barred analysis of President Trump's leadership style in a non-political assessment of leadership, collaboration and compassion. 00:00 Intro 00:40 Perfectly obstinance or not? 02:00 It's not about politics 03:10 Empathy and compassion 04:20 Teaching humble obstinance to children 05:40 The art of the compromise 06:30 Lesson for an early entrepreneur 10:00 Leadership 11:20 Will praise his talents 12:25 Trust your guts is not enough 14:10 Collaboration with a balanced team 15:35 Trust 16:34 End

Kathy has a wide-ranging conversation with podcasting guru Paul Colligan on a number of topics including "should you podcast," obstinance in presentations, instincts and what talents entrepreneurs need on their team. Includes a giveaway and resources at perfectlyobstinate.com/paul. 00:00 Intro 00:45 Entrepreurial zeal 06:55 Knowing when to quit 10:55 On humor and its place 16:02 Charisma 16:55 All of me 20:54 End of the Creative Process 26:38 How Technology frees me 30:00 Constraints 32:48 Surround yourself with the right talent 36:17 Things you are meant to do 44:55 This is not a book 49:00 Terrible name for a podcast 54:36 End

Kathy Kolbe interviews international thought leader in K-12 education, Diane DeBacker. Together they explore leadership, obstinancy and conative truths. 00:00 Intro 00:50 Sneaky obstinance 02:35 Freedom to be yourself 03:53 My M.O. 06:00 Making a major change 09:30 Dealing with obstinance 11:00 Toughest problem I faced – Students with disabilities 13:15 Thank goodness you've arrived 14:48 Leadership through building teams 15:22 Bertrayed... 16:00 Don't give up on it 17:15 That one moment.... 18:54 Hiring by the eyes 20:50 Being a better boss 23:50 Having a child with different conative strengths 26:33 End

Kathy interviews Bret and Sterling Loucks, a father and son with very different action oriented instincts. 00:00 Intro 00:33 The knack for hands on action 02:18 Not what I had imagined 03:20 Different approaches 05:04 Quality turn off 06:15 Working together – Sort of 08:05 Why bother? 10:30 Communicating through haptic talent 12:50 How resistance to haptic can help 14:00 Obstinate about quality 15:00 Three different talents in haptic 17:29 End

Kathy offers wisdom on the topic of New Year's Resolutions. 00:00 Intro 00:30 Resolutions are conative 01:28 Resolution vs. desire 02:00 Must stay true to who you are 03:16 What you need from a gym 04:25 Habits 06:25 Resolution trap 08:20 The problem with expert advice 10:00 No excuse, find a work around 11:50 Financial resolutions 15:25 Time and energy and Venn diagrams 17:21 Use the creative process 19:00 Is it even possible to keep our resolutions? 20:44 End

Kathy continues with her gift buying tips based on the recipient's natural creative process (M.O.), beginning with those who have no mode where they initiate action – the facilitators. She gives warnings about gifts to avoid for those with resistance in a mode and finishes by explaining how your method of shopping is a demonstration of your conative talents. 00:00 Intro 00:56 Gifts for Facilitators 02:43 Gifts to avoid for those with resistance in Fact Finder 03:35 Gifts to avoid for those with resistance in Follow Thru 04:30 Gifts to avoid for those with resistance in Quick Start 05:34 Gifts to avoid for those with resistance in Implementor 07:26 Shopping by M.O. 017:26 Safe Gifts 20:40 End

Kathy provides tips for finding the perfect gift to match the recipient's personal creative process. Finally some relevant advice for giving the perfect gift that will be appreciated and utilized. 00:00 intro 00:18 You shouldn't have... 01:12 Picking the perfect gift 01:34 Gifts for detail oriented Fact Finders 02:26 Cones of Dunshire example 04:16 Gifts for neat and organized Follow Thrus 05:20 Video Game Collector example 06:50 Gifts for Quick Starts that seek the unusual 09:20 Gifts for the DIY Implementor 10:55 Wood worker example 11:35 Avoid stereotyping 12:00 More from Kathy's gift list 13:00 Gift cards, money or time and talent 14:55 How to discover your conative talents 15:46 End

Kathy explores a unique talent for collaboration and offers her perceptions in a celebration of the life of President George H.W. Bush. Audio Clips of President Bush from: George H.W. Bush Library Center 00:01 Intro 00:18 Every organization needs a facilitator 02:00 George H.W. Bush 03:02 Reunification 03:55 Desert Storm 07:54 Not seeking the limelight 09:18 Leading without initiating actions 10:36 No second term 11:45 Joining hands with competitor 12:40 Greater peace 13:40 Honor 14:21 End

Kathy talks with Dr. Andrea Kayne, Director of the Doctoral Program in Educational Leadership at DePaul University College of Education. Dr. Kayne is also an award winning author and thought leader. She is a master at using her unique natural abilities to make an impact in a wide area of pursuits. It's a fascinating discussion about how to find your path to excellence. 00:00 Intro 01:35 All skills are necessary 03:36 Making law school work for me 05:00 Too far out of my game 06:55 Finding my niche 08:25 Being energized 10:20 My personal writing process 12:20 My take away for living an incredible life 13:38 End

Mordechai Friedman tells the story of how learning how to manage his instinctive creative process has impacted his ability to work without burn-out days. 0:00 intro 0:47 I had this dark secret 1:25 This is not a joke 2:16 The key to freedom 3:05 Blowing my brains away 3:52 Give me the freedom to be myself 7:13 The solution was right at home 7:40 It's a different story 9:10 Fight for your freedom to be yourself 9:52 End

Kathy talks with Jerry Lujan about how success and leadership is dependent on the levels of effort people are willing to contribute. How to identify where people are and how to increase their levels of effort. 0:00 Intro 0:37 How to look at the 3 parts of the mind to make teams 1:50 Level of Human effort is an important factor 2:30 Difference between being successful and being a leader 4:10 How to assess what level of effort to expect from people you hire 5:40 Example of questioning technique 6:50 How to assess the answer 8:45 Being purposeful and persuasive requires a different way of thinking 10:00 Social responsibility and compassion 11:15 The scary obligation 12:15 Burst of energy from being all in 13:00 Can't stay at highest level of effort all the time 14:00 Avoiding burn-out 14:45 Scare the hell out of people 16:00 How to bring people up the level of effort 19:11 End

Kathy Kolbe describes her new podcast and what to expect in future episodes 0:00 Intro 0:40 Kathy's mother was obstinate 1:00 Why obstinance can be positive 2:00 What does Kathy mean by the term conative? 2:40 Get busy! 3:30 Free to be yourself 4:50 Kick it down the road 5:00 Sneak peek 6:00 Who it's for 9:30 What's worth fighting for? 13:21 Your obstinance stories are important!

It's about time obstinate people get a little credit for being willing to take a risk and being fearless when it comes to making a difference. if we're going to get rid of the status quo, we better be obstinate. Meet Kathy Kolbe ...