#50: Navigating Perfectionism in Anxious-Avoidant Relationships
On Attachment · Stephanie Rigg
February 22, 202320m 58s
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Show Notes
In this episode, I'm talking all about perfectionism - but probably not in the way you've heard it spoken about before. Perfectionism is often thought of as a personality quirk - a commitment to high achieving and having things a certain way. But when it comes to relationships, perfectionism can be a powerful protective strategy that keeps us from being seen and known as our authentic selves.
We cover:
- how anxiously attached people hold themselves to standards of perfection as a way to gain and keep someone's interest
- how avoidantly attached people use perfectionism & criticism as a distancing strategy to avoid intimacy & vulnerability
- what happens when these strategies collide in an anxious-avoidant dynamic
Highlighted Links
- Free Break-Up Training: The 3 Shifts That Help Anxiously Attached People Heal After a Break-up
- Free Training: How to Heal Anxious Attachment and (Finally) Feel Secure in Life & Love
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