#221: How to Let Go of Someone You Love (For Anxious Attachers)
On Attachment · Stephanie Rigg
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Show Notes
Letting go of someone you love can feel like the hardest thing you’ll ever do — especially if you have anxious attachment patterns. When your nervous system equates connection with safety, walking away can feel more intolerable than staying in pain.
In this episode, I explore why letting go is so difficult, and what actually helps when love, attachment, and fear are all tangled together.
I talk about:
- Why anxious attachment makes holding on feel safer than letting go
- How we often confuse feelings with instructions for action
- Why waiting to “feel ready” or to stop loving someone keeps us stuck
- The crucial distinction between love and compatibility
- Why letting go isn’t a feeling — it’s a choice you make again and again
- How grief, discomfort, and longing are part of the process, not signs you’ve made a mistake
This episode is both a pep talk and a reality check — an invitation to trust yourself enough to choose what’s right for you, even when it hurts, and even when you still love them.
If you’re navigating a breakup or struggling to let go, be sure to check out my free breakup training: https://www.stephanierigg.com/break-up-webinar