Made It Out

Musician/Actor/Dancer Kat Cunning joins us this week for a candid and poetic conversation around gender, pronouns and dispelling the binary. Kat interweaves their journey from dance to music and acting, and how these artforms empowered their queerness. Kat emphasizes the importance of existing beyond binary constructs and setting boundaries around asking people to respect your pronouns. Follow our guest @katcunning and check out their music on Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/artist/0THdxk7bYWo6wciF1gInBK?si=Tm77tMWiSaCfIE-8X8gk6g Single? Looking for love? Maybe just friends? Download Hinge and show off your full self using the new LGBTQIA+ Prompts today! https://hin.ge/MadeItOut Please don’t forget to rate us on Spotify, write a review on Apple, and share this episode with your Postmates driver! For all other inquiries, email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Lesbian celebrity hairstylist Rala joins Mal for a juicy episode!!!!!!! She shares the story of a toxic relationship with a USPS package thief... and a compulsive liar. The episode delves into the emotional turmoil experienced, the decision to leave, and the healing process. The discussion further explores the impact of betrayal on self-esteem, the journey of rebuilding self-esteem, and the lessons learned from past relationships. Follow our guest @hairbyrala and please don't forget to rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with someone who just got engaged! For all other inquiries, please email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Comedian/Creator Rachel Samples is on the pod this week and WHAT A TREAT IT IS! Rachel shares the story of her first lesbian relationship with... wait for it... her former college roommate (and sorority president!) The two kept their relationship hidden for a year before finally coming out. Spoiler Alert: They eventually break up, but Rachel spits some hard facts on why the first WLW breakup is the hardest. This episode will lovingly remind you that we shouldn't use distractions and stay busy to avoid our feelings. So let's spend time alone! And take mushrooms! Ps. Get ready for a top tier U-Haul U-Ghost!!!!!!!!!!!!! Follow our guest @heyfreesamples and if you're in LA, check out her monthly comedy show (we'll be there June 5th... and every future show as well): https://www.eventbrite.com/e/backseat-drivers-a-stand-up-comedy-show-tickets-882023795917?utm_experiment=test_share_listing&aff=ebdsshios Don't forget to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with Larry David! For all other inquiries, please email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

[Video available on Spotify and YouTube] Becca Tilley joins Mal this week to discuss her relationship with "Lesbian Jesus" Hayley Kiyoko - how it started, the conversations that led to keeping it private for years (but don't worry, Taylor Swift knew the whole time), and the challenges that came with being two public figures in a private relationship. Becca chronicles her journey from her southern, christian upbringing, going on The Bachelor (twice!) and finally falling in love for the first time... with a woman. If this episode inspired you to find a love like Becca and Hayley's, download Hinge and show off your full self using the new LGBTQIA+ Prompts today! https://hin.ge/MadeItOut Follow our guest @beccatilley and check out her podcast "Scrubbing In with Becca Tilley & Tanya Rad" https://open.spotify.com/show/60H5719gBtZCmZnlNVoc8w?si=a730a60907914b1c Don't forget to rate us on Spotify, leave a review on Apple, and share this episode with a magician! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In honor of Mental Health Awareness Month, we bring you a conversation centered around queer mental health and borderline personality disorder, with Associate Marriage and Family Therapist, Jordan Werner. Jordan discusses the complexities of queer mental health and the patterns she sees in her LGBT-identifying clients: anxiety, shame, and identity issues. Jordan discusses the employment of Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT) in her practice: a modality developed for the treatment of Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD). Jordan explains the symptoms of BPD, common traits to look out for, and the challenges of diagnosing personality disorders. The discussion also covers the intersectionality of mental health and marginalized communities, the perception of BPD as a patriarchal diagnosis, and the potential for recovery through therapy. Lastly, Jordan teaches us TIPP Skills for when we feel dysregulated and want to calm ourselves down. The resources mentioned in this episode are: "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me" by Jerold J. Kreisman, MD Open Path Collective: https://openpathcollective.org/ Follow our guest @instadub92 and check out her website (she's taking new clients!) at www.jordanwtherapy.com Don't forget to subscribe, rate on Spotify, write a review on Apple, and share this episode with your spouse! For all other inquiries, please email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Singer-Songwriter Zolita joins Mal this week for an honest conversation about food and disordered eating. Zolita opens up about her battle with anorexia throughout her young adulthood, the health implications it had, and how she finally overcame it. Mal shares details of her binge eating disorder, the yo-yo effects of extreme diets, and how she still struggles with finding balance today. This episode also explores a correlation between eating disorders and coming out, how being vegan is often used as a "crutch" during recovery, and how the girls both finally learned to love and appreciate their bodies through yoga. *Content Warning: This episode contains content that may be challenging to some listeners.* Follow our guest @zolita and watch her music video for "Small Town Scandal" that came out today! Buy tickets for her tour here: https://www.zolitamusic.com/ Don't forget to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your line dancing partner! For all other inquiries, please email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Get out your pen and paper - Professor Kej is here to whip your wardrobe into shape! This episode looks into how your style evolves and changes as you come out and become more in tune with your queerness. Kej shares her journey with clothes and how she struggled to express herself through outfits when she was unsure of who she was, and how realizing she was gay shaped her. This episode also answers questions such as: How do I build the perfect closet? How should I handle body insecurities? How do I know which style category is more "me"? I have so many clothes but nothing to wear, what can I do? How do I dress for a formal event if I don't enjoy wearing dresses? Note - this episode has a lot of fun visual elements, so we recommend you watch on Spotify or YouTube. Follow our guest for more styling tips @kejtheanimal and feel free to reach out for fashion advice! Don't forget to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your hot high school English teacher! For all other inquiries, please email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Mal and Cammie Scott talk mental health. Cammie opens up about her early struggles of being a very anxious child, dealing with PMDD as an adult, and facing a depressive episode during what should've been the easiest and healthiest time of her life. The two discuss facing sadness while in happy relationships, the pros and cons of psychiatric medicine, and the importance of finding the right therapist. *Content Warning: This episode contains content that may be challenging to some listeners.* Follow our guest @cammiescott and check out her podcast "Staying Up with Cammie and Taryn" @stayinguppod or https://stayingup.lnk.to/listen Don’t forget to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your Amazon driver! For all other inquiries, please email [email protected] Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Pippin' hot tea is about to be spilled! This week, reality TV royal Jasmine Goode shares all the juicy details of her time on ABC's "The Bachelor". Although Jasmine is openly bisexual, the Producers of the show chose not to share that part of her story and made her stick to a very specific storyline. Jasmine opens up about the challenges of being on the show, how the cast is treated during production, and her real thoughts on Nick Viall. Support the podcast, shop our merch: https://www.madeitoutpodcast.com/category/all-products Follow our guest @jasminegoode_ and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with a member of Bachelor Nation! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's episode is a conversation for the soul. Queer poet and artist Grey Centauro shares their journey with gender, balancing the masculine with the feminine and identifying as neither - genderless! This episode also includes conversations around dealing with conservative families, legal name and gender changes, and whether or not it's gross to share a toothbrush with your partner (it is.) Wish our guest a happy birthday @restlessbabygrey and order their book on Amazon, link below: https://www.amazon.com/gp/aw/d/B0CYXX76D3/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?ie=UTF8&dib_tag=AUTHOR&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.KQMZBZ3owJT1ExwWl-Y1IeqTlGeZEYfvIwFhI4BBj4w.SY9YpzYDsyami6XbIYNeMDQmLEj4Id3ecmF0PU5Cm8A&qid=&sr= Buy our merch: https://www.madeitoutpodcast.com/category/all-products To find Mal's "D*kes Only" tshirt featured in this episode, visit https://www.peaceandpowershop.com/ Please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your mailman! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Actor Jacqueline Toboni joins Mal for a lil chat about ignoring signs from the universe (and everyone around you...) that you might be gay. Jacqueline shares her journey with sexuality and gender expression - and the relationship between the two. Warning: this episode is A LOT OF GOOD, CLEAN FUN! Buy our merch, OUT NOW!!: https://www.madeitoutpodcast.com/category/all-products Donate to Campaign for Southern Equality: https://southernequality.org/ To find Mal's "Protect Trans Kids" tank top featured in today's episode, visit https://www.peaceandpowershop.com/ Follow our guest @jtoboni and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with a morning person! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If you’re looking for a sign to follow your dreams… this is it! This week, Mal is joined by Tiktok creator and lesbian icon Hina to discuss the hurdles they overcame on their road to success. The conversation highlights the importance of pursuing big dreams, overcoming doubts cast by ~haters~ and the concept of fate vs. free will. Hina is the philosophy professor you didn't know you needed! Follow our guest @k8sabz on instagram or @hina on TikTok, and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your favorite Gemini! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Mal is joined by her friend Kristi Gramlich who shares her story of being outed in her sorority while coping with the loss of a parent. Kristi discusses how the public outing experience shaped her and her relationship at the time, and where she's at with her sexuality today. Kristi also opens up about her lifelong struggle with OCD and how she copes with it as an adult. **Content Warning: This episode contains content that may be challenging to some listeners.** Follow our guest @kristigramlich and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your sorority sisters to remind them to be kind! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Comedian Ali Kolbert sits down with Mal to discuss her pattern of pursuing straight women. The two dive into Ali's high school obsession with her straight best friend and how the dynamics of that friendship affected her lesbian dating life. Ali opens up about why she found herself in these seemingly dead-end relationships and what steps she's taken to break the pattern. The two also discuss finding your queer identity, fitting into queer spaces and Anxious-Avoidant attachment styles. Listen to Ali's podcast, Breaking Down with Ali Kolbert: https://open.spotify.com/show/27KEFQNRq3kBf8uvH744bk Follow our guest @alikolbert and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your massage therapist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Liz Tracy joins Mal to discuss internalized homophobia and how it creeps up, even once you are out and proud. Liz grew up in a very progressive and open-minded family in Seattle but still found herself struggling to accept her sexuality, to the point where she would date women online using a fake male profile. This episode offers great discussions on aversions to sex toys for fear that they are 'too gay', consistently dating long distance in order to compartmentalize one's sexuality, and living a secret double life. Follow our guest @lizguine and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your one of your old Tumblr buddies! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

In honor of St. Valentine, we cooked up a U-Haul love story (with a hint of psychedelics, of course). Dope Kitchen's Nicole opens up about her coming out journey - from the early days of crushing on straight friends, to threesomes in Europe, and finally finding true gay love. In a tent in Alaska, of all places! Follow our guest @dopekitchen and please remember to subscribe, rate on Spotify, review on Apple, and share this episode with your valentine! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

You might recognize Jonica Booth from HBO's Rap Shit (if you don't, check it out!) but the Duke of Miami is here to tell us about her journey from a cube at CitiBank to the big screen. It wasn't easy though, as Jonica lost her brother 3 days before shooting for Rap Shit began and had to hide it from her new castmates and coworkers. Jonica discusses her grieving process, how sudden death changed her outlook on life and love, and how to heal after loss. So sit back, enjoy, and remember that life is short - so have that threesome! Follow our guest Jonica @jonicablubooth and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with a loved one! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

**Content Warning: This episode contains content that may be challenging to some listeners. Please check the show notes below for a detailed description. This week, Mal is joined by her friend Sierra to discuss toxic relationships: the signs, the patterns, and what to do if you think you might be in one. It was Sierra's first relationship with a woman that forced her to examine her past, and which brought up repressed memories of Childhood Sexual Assault (CSA). This revelation led to years of healing work and therapy, and Sierra found herself in various unhealthy romantic relationships throughout that challenging time. Sierra shares what she learnt during that time and reminds us that we all deserve a happy ending, no matter the circumstances we came from. Please see resources Sierra shared below: 98Society: https://98society.com/ Rainn: https://www.rainn.org/ Darkness to Light: https://www.d2l.org/ National Domestic Violence Hotline: 800-799-7233 The Trevor Project: https://www.thetrevorproject.org/ Los Angeles - LGBTQ Center: https://lalgbtcenter.org/programs/community-support-groups/ Follow our guest @sierradowd and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with someone you suspect might be in a toxic relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, singer-songwriter-producer Chelsea Cutler joins Mal to talk about her 5 year relationship and share some wisdom on love. She answers questions like: how do you know if you've found the one? What does falling in love feel like? Just how important is communication in a relationship? How does love change over time? Leave it to this lyrical genius to speak on such a complicated topic in the simplest and most beautiful way. Whether you're in a long term relationship or are looking for one - this episode has something for you! Chelsea's tour kicks off in February, find dates in your city on https://www.chelseacutler.com/tour/ Follow our guest Chelsea @chelseacutler and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your dogwalker! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Join Mal and model/author Chloe Mason in a conversation about taking a non-traditional path and doing everything in order to survive - especially as a young mom navigating sexuality later in life. For anyone who's had to overcome tough circumstances, this episode brings a message of hope - and will remind you that you're doing the best you can, and that is enough. Follow our guest @chloealexandraxo (stay tuned for her book launch announcement) and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with your next door neighbor! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

They say the best ships are friendships... But what about queers that can sail the sea? Wait, what? Anyway - Lexi Dussi joins Mal this week to talk about her journey to finding a queer community, starting from the dark days of lying to her straight friends about where she was, to becoming fully integrated in a queer friend group she couldn't have dreamt up. This episode answers some of our most frequently asked questions - how do I make queer friends? How do I navigate being in the same friend group as my ex? Where can I find community? Why do gay people only hang out with other gay people? Tune in to find out! Follow our guest Lexi @lexidussi and please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this episode with a straight friend to remind them that you still love them. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

If your New Year's resolution is to lose weight - maybe watch this episode first! Mal and singer-songwriter Maddie Zahm discuss a range of topics from purity culture in the church, to body image and weight loss fixation, and how all of these affected Maddie's journey to coming out and dating women. We hope this episode reminds you to be kind to yourself, to embrace your body, and that there will always be another donut. Follow our guest Maddie at @maddiezahm and check out her tour dates at https://maddiezahmmusic.com/home/ Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your choir director! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Mal is joined by her friend of 18 years, Rica Charleston, to discuss growing up in the South, being outed, navigating being gay in the black community, and the challenges of being in an interracial relationship. Rica brings an honest, unfiltered, and hilarious perspective to this conversation, and Mal shares a picture of her high school hairstyle - there is no holding back. You must've been nice this year, cause Santa brought you a great episode! Follow our guest Rica at @thericacharleston Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your best friend from middle school! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

We got your dating questions... and Jordan Harvey is here to answer them! Jordan and Mal sit down to chat about the intricacies of dating women for the first time and the questions that come up - how do I figure out what my type is? Who makes the first move? Who pays for the date? What are the best apps for queer women? And many more. So listen up, take notes, and best of luck out there! Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your crush! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Zoya Biglary joins Mal on the conversation couch to share her struggles with fitting in, coming out to her conservative Persian parents, and defying cultural expectations. Even though Zoya forgot to bring a piece of fruit, she peels back the layers of trauma and challenges that made her the out and proud Middle Eastern lesbian she is today. This episode is as aspirational as it is heartwarming, with subtle notes of sadness, and pairs nicely with a glass of chilled red wine. Salamati! Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your local librarian! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week's episode dives into the topic of sexuality and the spectrum, how accurate those online "Am I Gay" quizzes are, and the nuances of appreciation versus attraction. Mal and SJ share their experiences with dating men out of a desire to fit in and meet societal pressures, and discuss the importance of listening to your inner "tiny voice" when it tells you what is and isn't authentic to you. SJ, an LA-based visual artist, shares reading materials to discuss the importance of developing your own taste, trusting that you like what you like, and how art and literature can transform your perspective. That's right - class is in session! The quizzes referenced in this episode can be found: https://bi.org/en/klein-grid https://www.idrlabs.com/kinsey-scale/test.php The artists referenced in this episode are: Jenna Gribbon https://www.artsy.net/artist/jenna-gribbon Polly Nor https://www.pollynor.com/ Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your art history professor! Follow the show on all socials at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Jordin Shives joins Mal in the hot seat this week to dive into the early days of lesbian sex - the switch from sex with men to women, the expectations when first hooking up with a new partner, sex toys, the strap, lesbian porn, and words of advice to a baby gay. The episode climax comes with an incredible story of Jordin's first (and only) attempt at an open relationship. This episode is a treat, so sit back, grab some corn chips, and enjoy the ride! Follow our guest at @jjjordiin. Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your OBGYN! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Alix Traeger joins Mal this week to take us through her sexual exploration journey that was triggered by - what the LA girlies call - a spiritual awakening. Alix came out in her late 20’s after years of subconsciously seeking out toxic relationships with men, and dodging a nagging curiosity to be with women. The two best friends discuss how break ups lead to breakdowns which lead to breakthroughs, and how getting to know yourself is truly the most important thing. Coming to terms with your sexuality later in life has its own share of difficulties, but the friends you make and community you build are worth every painful moment. Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your shaman! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

This week, Mal is joined by fellow Texan Emily Frazelle to discuss the impact that a Christian upbringing has on one's coming out journey. Emily opens up about her past experiences with Young Life, researching conversion therapy, and how her religious views changed when she realized her gay thoughts were not going away. Resources Mentioned: Letter to Louise: https://christcornerstone.com/wp-content/uploads/2019/07/A-Letter-to-Louise.pdf.pdf Shannon Beveridge: https://www.youtube.com/@nowthisisliving Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your pastor! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A lesbian rite of passage - getting your heart broken by the first girl you love. Shannon Beveridge joins Mal to share her story of a "co-dependent friendship" turned to secret relationship, the emotional rollercoaster of being in love with someone who will never come out, and the impact of being outed to your family. Don't worry though - it all turns out okay. Listen to Shannon's podcast Exes & O's: https://open.spotify.com/show/57OgbieTkRG7e0NPQOZkLm Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your friend Kevin! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

Welcome to the first episode of Made It Out! We're going back to the beginning and looking at childhood and sexuality. Join Mal and Iris Walker as they dive into the heteronormative expectations put on us as children, the shame we are taught to feel about our sexuality growing up, and how it all impacts our ability to explore. Iris shares her struggles with defining her sexuality later in life, the stigmas put on the bisexual community, and how hard it is to date in your 30s when you're still unsure. Please remember to subscribe, rate, review and share this podcast with your dentist! Follow the show at @madeitoutpodcast and follow Mal at @malglowenke Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices

A video podcast series for girls who like girls. Every week we'll invite a different guest to dig into topics ranging from dating, sex, coming out, religion, and so much more. Join us every Tuesday on Spotify, Apple, or wherever you get your podcasts! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices